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Thank YOU for reminding me! I’ve been coming back to your videos for the past year just now realizing that I had not yet subscribed to you sis since you reminded me of your numbers 😫 forgive me, subscribed now x AMEN to every point you made on this one. Lol @ 7:00 - me 👏🏽👏🏽
Flex-N- Fly yep! So true😔 and it sucks heaps coz u know yourself ur not that stupid.. but u stay caught up in ur own bubble just putting up a front🥺😩 so exhausting man😞
If a guy comes on to strong and acts like your savior. If he is wanting to be with you 24/7. Love bombs you. THATS NOT NORMAL!!!! They will claim they are different N special. Run!!!!!!
Sassy Lady yup I agree with this my ex was love bombing me in the beginning taking pics so early on and everything was hearts etc etc. He ended up cheating and dumping me over text and I bet a million dollars he is doing the same thing to the new girl. We deserve better!
Buff Hotchkiss Mine wanted to place to live he was losing his house he had a wonderful job and makes over six figures a month but blew all his money left and right and lost it all but you had a good life for the whole problem and I fell for it… Now he’s landed another girl who just got a huge settlement in a divorce and a big huge 4000 square-foot house that he could fill up his hoarding with all my God I feel so sorry for this girl she’s the nicest thing and now she’s going to be a victim it’s just horrible but you can’t tell him because they’ll believe them and he’s good oh my god this guy is good you could sell a pile of dog shit to somebody he’s so good
If a guy keeps pushing your boundaries with “jokes,” or tells you that you’re being too sensitive or undermines how you feel even when you’ve talked about those issues, leave him alone. If he’s ok with going to his friends about issues he has with you, but not talking to you about it, leave him alone.
That’s literally why I stopped interracial dating, cause white guys were always pushing my boundaries with “jokes” & saying I was being sensitive or overreacting. Nope! We don’t need that kind of energy!
I had a guy who constantly made jokes about cheating on me or me cheating on me. Once we were at the club and I went to the washroom and when I came out he jokingly said "eh labda ulienda kupea mtu huko kwa loo" this is swahili for "maybe you went to fuck someone in the bathroom, like a quickie" I laughed it off but deep down I was in shock and just like nope not doing this thing no more.
1. They keep talking about their ex. 2. He’s stingy (cheap). 3. He’s unorganized. Doesn’t plan the date. 4. He keeps cancelling the date. 5. He’s self-cantered (talks about himself too much and doesn’t ask questions) 6. He does not talk about the future or future plans. 8. He wants to change you. 9.He is shady (withholding information). 10. Disrespectful to people around you.
When they comment things like, go with the flow, things take time, let's see what happens, see how it goes, don't take yourself too seriously. Run....away......fast! He's not serious about you or having an intentional dating period with you. Lol
Elle-Chi24 I feel like if he says this at the very beginning of y’all dating, no this isn’t a red flag. However, if 2-3 months go by and he still says this, then it becomes a red flag
Basically they are saying is if i find someone who is better looking or has more money or even we will see if im still considering leaving my wife. These creeps sleep with everyone.
Not nessesarily true. I want my relationship to be private and I told myself to never post any pictures with any type of chicks. Social media sucks and everyone in my opinion should stay away from it.
@@Lukasz.Kaa09 yea I don't like the idea of showing off a man I'm dating or in a relationship with on social media. There is a difference between being secretive and being private.
@@Mona-su6bj true, but these hoes will say everything to look better than guy. All the red flags you see in others are prob the same you have in yourself. I've been watching tons this type of videos and all they say is the same SH!T to do. If a woman ignores you ignore her too and vice versa. Everyone has to play fkn mind games these days if you tell someone flat out you intrested they LOSE ATTRACTION... fk this Im out.
Omg.. it’s getting real w me, I feel guilty for being this crazy but it’s my intuition like.. and he said all his ex were crazy and went to his phone to see him talking to other girls that we’re his “friends”.. what should I do? What to do you mean by denominator?
When he tells you that you’re way out of his league. He’s literally telling you to get out. When he talks about how horrible he used to be to other females he’s dated but doesn’t want to explain.
Dated a guy once who told me he loved me within the first week of knowing him. I didn’t feel the same. When I broke it off he kept using different numbers to get in contact with me and I’d block each and every one of them. Basically stalking me. Run away from guys who tell you they love you far too quick. Such a red flag!
So true I was talking to a guy who said he loved me within 3 DAYS of knowing me not even dating!!! He wouldn’t leave me alone for months, he kept coming back
@@joanna6570 Oh my whoever he is really needs to chill out. I did not have to change my number though he left me alone, sorry you have to go through that😕. Try getting a whole new phone or something because it seems that he just won’t stop
There was a man who asked where I want to go, I asked him where he wants to go, he asked me if I would love t o see his place, I said I knew where he lived, then I said I would love to go to play pool, he declined and picked a restaurant 5 steps from his house. Avoid guys like this.
If he’s very cheap and stingy with money on the first date, it’s habitual and unlikely to change. Also selfish behavior. I dated someone who was extremely selfish with food. He might order himself a meal, and I’d order mine. When the food arrived he’d cluck and admire my meal and ask “if we could share.” To him, “sharing” translated to he got ALL of his meal and the heftiest portion of mine. There was a weird psychological component to it. It seemed like he “needed” to have the biggest portion and most of the food. Even if I was left hungry. He also expected me to give him all of any foods he particularly liked, such as French fries “because I already had a salad and he didn’t eat salads.” He was unwilling to order and buy additional food and got very offended when I addressed the issue. Pretty much ANY behaviors that show consistent disrespect or inconsideration are a bad sign. Even if they seem like small things.
Oh yes. I had something similar happen to me with a first meeting. I was hungry so we went through Wendy's drive thru. I got a medium fry, he said he didn't want anything but then when we get to the window (he was driving), he told the cashier "make that two large fries" then when we got the bag he ate his and was eating my fucking fries too !!! That pissed me off. He's just so disrespectful because when we first met pointed out my scars before anything by saying it like this "wtf happened to your arm". Hahaha and this dude thinks women should be with him cause he's a 'prize'. He's so pissed I don't date him haha. Hell no. He is so egotistical, selfish, inconsiderate and disrespectful.
Sally May : I think guys “poach” food because they think it makes them look “macho” and “alpha.” (Think of the scene in “50 Shades of Gray” where Christian bit Anna’s breakfast toast.). The difference is Anna could easily order MORE toast with no attitude from Christian. Like I said, it’s not the actual “poaching” but any weird follow up that should cause concern. (Refusals to order additional food, excessive anger or resentment if the woman prefers to eat the desired side dishes, etc.) Another red flag that comes to mind is if a man is overly critical of your home (decor, furniture, appliances) and/or your wardrobe. An aspiring boyfriend briefly visited my home a few times. Each time he said something critical or even contemptuous of about the furniture (good quality items, real wood, and near-antique), the dated decor (which I could not afford to update, but it was still nicely maintained), the lack of certain kitchen appliances...It just went on and on ad nauseum. When a man acts like that it’s a bad sign. He’s intimidated by your property because it’s likely better quality and more expensive than what he owns. Your home might be larger or better located, more luxurious, etc. He compensates for his feelings of inadequacy with criticism or pointing out what you don’t have. Again, they think this makes them look high value but it doesn’t. A high value man won’t ridicule your lack of a coffee maker. Instead he’ll gift you one. If your furniture is actual crap, a high value man will treat you to a shopping spree. No strings attached. I don’t expect any man interested in me to offer to replace my furniture. I do expect him to be a gracious guest if he’s visiting my home.
@@amasion2882 So true. Men really have nerve today. Any harsh criticism when first meeting them is definitely a red flag for sure. These men have inner issues they need to deal with before trying to get into any relationship or mess with any woman. Smh..
You lucky anyone was willing to spend a penny on you wtf cheap and stingy what do you have to offer?? Besides that used up box with double miles on it gtfo
A passive man is a chore. I feel like shaking him. Guys that say things like "it's up to you" ummmm no it's up to us!! You plan if you're asking me. If I ask you then I will have something in mind. Not everyday what should we do? My answer will just be I'm staying home babe. Lol
I literally just got done crying about how long I’ve been single and how the last guy I started talking to just kind of ghosted me. This video made me laugh and pinpointed the warning signs he showed. Rejection is God’s protection. I just hope I really come across someone great soon.
You and me both. I feel men are less sensitive to what us women need which is just true and genuine love and affection. I divorce my husband of 14 years because he kept cheating and have he have abandonment issues. I took a whole year to heal and started to love myself again. Just to meet a guy who was dying to get my attention but once I let my guard down he started back talking to his ex. It hurt a little because it opened up old wounds. But like she’s saying don’t ignore the red flags and he had red flags, I just decided to ignore them. Never again I said anytime those red flags are visible it’s time to go because I love myself more then he cares about me
So good!! I love the comments, here are some I experienced: 1. Inconsistency between actions and what they say 2. They downplay your achievements 3. Insensitive, even after you try to explain to him 4. Critical, of others and of how you are 5. Doesn't respect your boundaries, and tries to make you seem unreasonable. e.g. On the second date I wanted us to meet at the restaurant but he was mad that I didn't want him to pick me up. He wouldn't let it go until I said yes. Then I realized why at the date. Another time I had said I'm saving my first kiss for marriage (we're both Christians) and he kept trying to make me change my mind even though I'd expressed it was something important to me 6. He tries to make you feel responsible for his feelings. It felt like he wanted me to nurture him all the time. Bruh... 7. 'No' is not an acceptable answer
I’m settling onto a new relationship after 3 years because my previous relationship was really bad and I took time to better myself, I’m now talking to someone and I think he has some red flags of your first point. Could you give me some examples you experienced?
Jack of all trades master of none. He’s an immature boy, looking at females like he’s never seen any in his lifetime or like they’re there for his taking. These little boys can’t even please one woman but they act like they’re ready to sex up every woman they see
dior2001 omg my boyfriend. I used to be so upset about that bc he has those follows to those girls way before we start dating, now I just feel like watever Im confident about him, he is not doing anything.... so🤷🏽♀️
Red flags Mentioning their ex Constantly trying to sexualise things Halves on things Follows so many girls that he doesn’t even know let’s be real here If you are in the talking stage and he doesn’t ask you about you RUN BABY GIRL RUNNN make sure he makes more effort than you
I’m actually planning on my proposal to my future wife and I’m excited my future is with her.... and as a Man I couldn’t agree more with you ladies a lot of dudes mess it up for the good men 🤷🏾♂️nature of the beast
These read flags are spot on. I feel like it’s definitely ok to remain single and not settle until someone who is fully compatible comes along. I have been on a few dates this year that we’re just ok and decided not to proceed for the sake of it. It’s true that maybe now isn’t the time as I do have quite a few other priorities.. Deep down I know now isn’t the time and that ok 😊
Dealing with a breakup now after dating for a year and a half and finally making it official my bf went back to his ex that he used to talk about in the beginning of our relationship It sucks honestly 😢
Renee Getzfit my heart breaks for you. It is his lose girl, take time to heal your heart. Subscribe to Tony Gaskins, he helped me through my break up. Wishing you the very best darling. Happy holidays ❤️
HE WANTS TO CHANGE YOU!! Omg omg omg. My ex tried so hard to tell me “God showed me who you are in the future” and kept saying things like this to me. Girl.
@@beatricesenesie yeah but 99.9% of you would still see this as red flag. One of my ex literally dumped me because I didnt want her to put me in her insta stories ... Im not judging ppl if they want to post shit Okay but respect my decision aswell
LMFAO.. Soooooo you want to compare yourself to his EX? What is it with today 'feminist empowerment independent strong women' and social media? So so petty.. BTW, if your guy posts his life on social media, he's operating on your same energy, feminine AF! Disgusting!
Read or audiobook why men don’t love women like you by G.L. Lambert. It will change your thinking forever!! It will help you see the game for what it is, and he doesn’t hold back on anything!!
Well, blame feminism.. Blame the people who have taught you, you are strong if not stronger then MEN! Blame social media for creating a platform for women to sell their lady lumps and 6 layers of make-up in exchange for free meals and casual sex. I.e Tinder and PoF! Men are not trying anymore bcos we can see women are acting like they don't need us... That is, until she wants a tyre changed! her gas boiler fixed! The leak under her sink sorted! Her new build apartment finished! The Uber to her date! To be flown to Magaluf! Her food shopping delivered and countless other labours men provide to her cushioned life. Once y'all denounce feminism, everything will be back to order! And stop putting women in men's roles in films please, nobody is watching and that's why they're a big flop! Star Wars, Oceans, Ghostbusters just to name a few!
@@robpeters4284 Not just that, they are only female and feminine when money has to be spent on something that doesn't directly benefit her 'looks'.. Just like millenial women say dumb things like, "my money is mine, his money is ours".. She will spend 1000's on her appearance but also demand some of his to reinvest back into her appearance! MGTOW-2020
You described pretty much a narcissist haha at this point, there are few things i can't stand too.. Being overly passive and apathetic, definitely being self-centered to extreme. Selfishness is such a turn off... And finding ridiculous excuses to why he can't do something (in my case - why he is lazy, why he don't know what to say ever, why he can't find job and come visit me and the list goes on and on)... If i am not priority, then why would I need someone? I better be single :(
If a guy says, "We're just going with the flow." That's a red flag.🚩 We all understand going with flow..but even the flow has a destination. It's going somewhere. 💯
@@nicksmith-cx1fx so true! Want a video about the possitive aspects of relationships such as green flags hahha it's so true that what you focus on and fear of, you'll attract. It happened to me
I was and an still trying to divorce a sociopath and it’s a scary nightmare. He’s gorgeous great job.charismatic and everyone thinks he’s the best thing ever ..behind closed doors MONSTER!! He love bombed me and slowly manipulated me ..I can’t believe I fell for it. Ladies ..protect your precious souls.
Anne Ponce you seem like you are someone who is sensible and intelligent. The problem with focusing too much on red flags is you are priming your Reticular Activating System to scan for sociopaths and guys with red flags. You need to prime your RAS to scan for high quality dudes. If I met a girl in real life and she told me she wants to learn about sociopaths that would scare me. I would stay well clear of her, she might be crazy.
1. My last bf he always talked about his exes not 1 in particular but all of them and I never heard him say anything good about a woman 2. Our first sit down at a restaurant date he asked was I gonna pay I gave him that look then he paid and gave a good tip said I dont want you spending your money I haven't ever paid for anything with him I dont know if he was serious or not 3. He didn't plan the date 4. He didn't make his future known other than that we are in an exclusive relationship 5. He was very disrespectful to women but didn't see it he just said I was being to emotional
Here’s a few more (and this can be revealed even on a first date, but don’t be surprised if it happens down the line): 1. If he isn’t close to his family or doesn’t make an effort to be 2. If he talks about how he is not happy in his life (p.s. your love is NOT enough to fix that) 3. Bringing up sore subjects on a first date like daddy or mommy issues 4. Complains about health issues but doesn’t do anything to fix them
Be careful about that first one. We don't choose our families and some of us have toxic families. For someone's peace of mind and mental health, separating from your family is necessary. Other people have been rejected by their families because they got an education or they decided not to waste their lives with alcohol and/or drugs. It's not always that person's fault.
Thanks for posting this! I am JUST now re-entering the HEALTHY dating scene after a million years off due to depression and being a caregiver for my mom. I didn't realize that I was SO emotionally unavailable until I began working through the grieving process of losing my mom this year. I understand way more now why I wasn't able to form long-term relationships.
I'm currently 10 years in the game of taking care of my mother but also in the process of placing her in assisted living. I can only imagine what you're going through & you have my deepest condolences but hunny it's your time to live life for yourself. Your mother would want that. I'm finally choosing myself this year. Things will get better with time and I'll be trying to date soon myself.
Hey sis you went from #6 to #8. 9 RED FLAGS IN DATING was fire!!! I love it. I'll make up number 10 - he's a pathological liar. He makes up things all the time.
The actual no 7 was skipped,and we have 9 Red flags. Not judging but making an observation. But I enjoyed the conversation. Thank you so much. Wonderful!
I just got broken up with 3 days ago after a 2.5 year relationship. Your videos are really helping and showing me that I should be thankful. He had almost all of these red flags. Never had any money, I paid for everything, he was always late or cancelled. Flaky. He said the last text I sent him is what pushed him over the edge. I had texted him saying that it bothered me that whenever we were talking on the phone lately, if anyone else called, he would immediately jump off the phone. Like in the middle of my sentence! He would be like, so and so is calling, I’ve gotta call you back, bye! I was upset all the time and crying or angry because I felt so unimportant.
Currently going thru a break up was dating a man for about 8 months and he told me that he had to get an abortion for his ex . The baby was conceive WHILE we were dating . I’m hurt😔
You’re right on #3 Breeny! Him planning the date shows his initiative and interests in you! Shows he’s actually serious about getting know you and getting you to like him
Wooo sis! Break up 5 months ago because of some the reasons you listed. Top ones being no talk of future after 1.5 years of being bf/gf and probably initiated paying fully for dinner once.. He has a new struggle faced girlfriend. God bless him. My man is coming ♥️
Once i had a date with a guy and he was talking absolutely all the time abput himself. He literally didn't ask ANYTHING about me, my day, my work, how am i... ANYTHING. So almost from the begging of the date i knew it's not gonna go any further. Besides that we had a good time, or at least he seemd to have a good time and after he left i didn't call him anymore and neither did him 🤣. Not even said hello again anymore. I was just surprised about how players can be sone guys i was wondering why did he come on the date if he wasn't interested in the first place. Really sometimes i really don't understand guys AT ALL!
I have been there.. the thing is he was interested in himself not in u..rather in spending time with a beautiful smart girl who I am sure u r.. but anything more is not on his mind at all
Here is your answer, since you don't understand... He is a fckboy, but he mainly just wanted to smash. You said you had a 'good time', I always read that as, 'he got what he came for', Lol. Anyway, he wasn't that into you, he has an abundance mindset so there's no way of locking down a guy like that, especially if you're not exceptionally 'interesting'.
@@libertypltd4198 "he has an abundance mindset" like you know him or something 🤣 No he didn't got what he wanted. I said we had fun cause we watched a movie and the movie was quiet funny, but i didn't got him in bed. You should not make conclusions so fast my dear girl.
I’m a guy and just came across this and watched it out of my curiosity lol. I believe it’s ok to not accept or like certain behaviours about the person that you are dating or in relationship with. You don’t have to like everything about them, there will always be things that you don’t like and would want that person to improve. It could be lack of time management, cleanliness, style, hygiene, eating habits, lack of ambition, or lack of drive or any other bad habits. It doesn’t means just because some one have some bad habits that you always have to run or leave. The reality of relationships and theoretical expectations are totally different. Certain behaviour needs improvement and it’s good to have a chat with the person that you are dating and help each other in how you can change those behaviour. That way you can come up together and grow. One person in a relationship could have more style than the other, and it’s his or her job to bring the other to speed. Or one person might be more mature than the other or have better time management or is more hygienic. Whatever it might be, if u like that person, don’t just lie to them and sugar coat it just to make them feel good. Talk it out and come up with real solutions and be patience with them as they are learning on the things they are lacking in. When a guy say “I like everything about you even your annoying stuffs etc” chances are, he is lying to you to make you feel loved or make you feel good. There will always be something people don’t like about you that they wish you could change. It’s about communication, understanding and patience
A man who ask you to go half is a man who will ask you to go half on paying the rent. What happened if you guys are really living life together and it happened you lost your job do you think you will be eating he's food on a good term think before jumping. Don't let good looks and nice sex confused you
Do u ladies ever actually talk to men to understand why they do certain things? It's 2019, women are so 'empowered' they can practically take over the world? Why don't they? Lol Men are seeing what is going on, and we have forums and movements growing to understand that, in 2019 the juice isn't worth the squeeze, if I ask you to go half, it's not bcos I'm broke, I wanna know 1stly that ure Not out for a free meal, 2ndly, that you are capable of compromise and sharing! 3rdly, are you prepared? If I had accidentally forgotten my wallet, are you going to have my back? Same way women do subtle tests on a man.. Same way we should be allowed to run it right back! Is that fair? Or are women just faking this feminist empowerment malarkey?
@@libertypltd4198 Ngl. I kinda agree. Why should one get a free ride and be stopped from paying on a first date because of TRADITION or 'that's how its supposed to be?' And just because something is typical doesn't make it right.
So happy I'm in a relationship that is like yours and your boyfriend's! Been watching your videos since May after a hard break up with my abusive ex. Coupled with therapy and self love your videos have helped me so much, and in opening up to my current partner I always kept your advice in mind. God has brought me a great man and I'm so grateful 💕
Loved this!!!! Just stopped dating a self cantered man who only spoke about himself and other girls.. like I want to hear that 🙈. Then he wondered why I ghosted him 🙄 x
Shakur Nguyen because he emotionally manipulates the situation it’s not easy as get up and leave if it was I’d be gone months ago lol it sure is a stickyy one and gotta be clever about it and tick for tac would just make it worst unfortunately
ngl i’ve been avoiding watching this video because i didn’t want to confirm my doubts, but now that i’ve cut this guy off and i’m watching this, i’m feeling strong in my decision. thank you again for the clarification that this was not the boy for me and that i’ve always been destined for something greater ❤️
I'm gonna be honest there's this guy I was talking to and The Lord keep talking to me like "Step back and observe... Put him in the friend zone. This guy isn't for you". And I'm watching this video and I'm like "this is whyyyyyy!!"
@@victoriadorgu3207 oh waw that's so messed up. And the fact that this is someone you walked down the aisle and said I do to. Hope things work out for you. I'm sure you didn't deserve that. At least you got to see and know everything for yourself.
@@buffhotchkiss7400 LMFAO! Is that coming from a woman? In this 2019 gynecentric society driven by Femininist propaganda? Where they are pushing women into men movie rolls? (by the way, those films are flopping HARD!)... MEN are not spoilt! Women are spoilt! 85% of TV adverts are for women! A woman will own 100 pieces of clothing and the cost will be the equivalent of 20 pieces for a man! Point is, don't make statements based on your own experiences, you made bad choices, and that's that.
@@monichardwell TMI and a turn off! This guy tried to get at me as he was pumping gas while holding a wad off cash. First off, I'm not a gold digger. Secondly this is Miami. Put that up before your scrawny self gets robbed 😂😂
One of the guys I was in the talking stage with literally said to me, “we will go the library for a first date” I couldn’t help but laugh! 🤣 the library?? For a first date??? Can we even call that a date?? Stingy men 🤢
Im going through a breakup currently, and it is absolutely heart wrenching. I stumbled across Breeny's how to get through a breakup video and her videos are pretty much the only thing that have been successful in putting my mind at ease - this channel has been so important in helping me get through this. Thank you Breeny
Breeny you made me laugh at the part of you not being expensive but wanting him to have some money. I remembered my case with a German boy who asked to date me and the moment the waitress came to get the money,he paid his half and asked me,do u have a credit card? I was like No,why? Oh he said,to pay your half 😂 Swear he never saw me again. Glad i saw the sign
A red flag for me was when this individual was not doing much with their day....Edit: Here for thr podcast! Now i can listen whilst on the underground 🌹🌹🌹
AJ Ismail yes!!!! I was hoping she’d do a podcast, I listen while driving to work (30 min drive) and TH-cam drains my battery 😫😫 but she’s worth the battery loss 😂😂 she gets me straight!
6 months into my last relationship my boyfriend at the time said he had something to tell me. I thought he was finally going to tell me he loved me point blank. 🙄😑.... Turns out he took the opportunity to tell me he has an ex-wife and a daughter. 6 months in, that’s when he tells me this, when feelings have been caught by yours truly, not 6 dates in, but 6 months in. The irony of it all is that a month and half later he breaks up with me using the excuse “I don’t open up to him enough. It feels like we’re more like friend’s than anything else.”.... 😂😂😂.... THE HYPOCRISY!!!.... Mind you, I was butt hurt about the situation in the moment. But the Lord makes no mistakes!
I’m guessing this is my “single season” cause no one is checking for me or shooting their shot and I’m trying sooooooo hard to come to terms with that and accept it but my self esteem is legit in the bottom of the dumpster because everyone around me, even the ones that you would least expect to have a partner, is in a relationship and it’s legit killing my confidence. Especially when people ask me where my plus one is and I tell them I don’t have one and their like “oh but you’re soooo pretty!” Like thanks I know I’m decent looking but obviously there’s something wrong with me cause no one is checking for me 😭🤦🏾♀️ like there’s women that just walk out there house and they can pick up 10 numbers in 5 minutes and then there’s me.... how do I get past this besides going to therapy 😂😭
Learn to love yourself, stop worrying about what other people will think, stop trying to keep up with what "everybody else" is doing and go find your self esteem.
I felt like this too before I met my ex and I feel like I'll receive this same dilemma after we've broken up when I return back to school in January. My friends will get attention from guys but they wouldn't notice it, and I barely notice if any guy is checking for me so I'll feel unwanted. Yet, that's not true. Just think, someone is looking at you but they know they can't approach you because you require a commitment. If they aren't ready for that investment then they know not to come to you. However, if you're too desperate like I was, one of those guys who doesn't' meet your standards but decided to shoot his shot by swooning you in the beginning. Giving you the attention you wanted, and you fall for it. You'll regret it. I should have rangled in this feeling of not feeling like anyone was checking for me because this caused me to ignore several red flags (most of all of them were discussed in Breeny's video here) and making a mistake that went against my values. So all I can say is, sis definitely take Sheedle Deedledee's advice and find your self esteem. God will test you by giving you some guy that seems perfect to you but he will probably be everything you don't want to have in a relationship. The benefit is you will find out through experience what you don't want in partner/relationship and 2). you may find the actual love of your life (who will love you back and see you as the prize that you are) soon after the wrong one comes along. But save yourself by working on self-love and self-commitment. Keep yourself busy by trying to achieve goals you have always wanted like travelling. Hangout with more of your single friends then the ones who are in a relationship so you can feel solidarity. Also, enjoy your own company because you will want alone time sometimes.
I’m sorry you feel that way. Like what everyone is saying, start by being nice to yourself. You are worthy not because someone wants you but because you are regardless. Once you have that confidence, it’ll reflect in the guys you choose to date. Love yourself x
I have seen all of these red flags and more. There were so many red flags in all my past relationships and my marriage. I didn't want to see them because I didn't know better. I kept lying to myself that the guys loved me. The last guy was an eye opener for me because I saw every red flag and I stayed with him and worked through my issues and by the time I ended the relationship I wasn't as broken as when I entered into it. On some level I knew the relationship wasn't going to work. I know it sounds weird but I started working on myself. During this relationship I realized I kept falling for narcissists because of issues from my childhood. Now I am learning to focus on me. It is absolutely the hardest thing ever because I have always went from one guy to another because I have never valued myself. Ladies, never let ANYONE make you feel inferior!
I absolutely agree... I 'closed my eyes' about the fact that we split the bill at our first lunch and got into a relationship with him... Well, time proved me I shouldn't!! He was so cheap during our relationship for such a small things, it was insulting! He was making money, but still cheap... For me a man who leaves the woman to pay her bill.. is not a real man!
this guy i met at work we started talking & first of all he got me at “i’m different” HUGE red flag so i got turned tf off so i stopped talking to him, buuutttt not only that, after two days of just talking he started getting too possessive over me i’m like nah get tf away from me BYE. love your videos #subscribed
Ohmy confirmed ✔️we good he asked me the date I would be comfortable to meet, no excuses or nothing he just said it's a done deal ... He is sorting out the date and his coming to my city so fingers crossed 🤞🏾🤞🏾💯💫thanks for the video.. Another red flag he takes ages to respond to your texts he clearly isn't interested sis... Stop making excuses, 🚫
I love the "called me OUT of my house." Right, like you got me out of my headtie and my glasses to come sit here for this nonsense. LOL I can't - this is funny.
Red flags in the "we're seeing each other/dating" stage - he can only see you when it's convenient for him. Secondly he is not self aware - he is not able to understand how he affects the world by his words and actions. Finally an emotionally unavailable man!! RUN SIS !!
Wish I saw this earlier😪 My boyfriend (ex now) dumped me yesterday and told me he never broke up with his ex when he was with me,I was simply a side chick and he only decided to tell me because he felt guilty 🙄...he always spoke about his ex and told me they broke up because of the distance.What a lie... Now I’m left to pick up the pieces of my heart while they are together 💔😪
I had a date stand me up once because he couldn't catch a ride there and didn't have a car. I was like bOY, not even a bicycle? A freaking $1 bus ticket?! Gross, bye.
Breeny!! I love your energy in this video! You seem really happy and I can feel that you are in a peaceful and joyful time in your life. We love to see it sis ❤️
I was asking a guy about himself (nothing too personal, just general questions to get to know him) and he told me I was asking too many questions (I think the exact question was “Where are you from originally?”) 😒😂. I asked another guy, “So what do you do for a living?” after telling him what I did and he told me it was none of my business and only gold diggers ask that question. March 15th is my 7 year anniversary of being single and I’m taking myself somewhere nice to celebrate. I’ve BEEN DONE with this crazy scene.
WOWWWWW! Thank you! thank you! Thank you! I am so grateful to have come across your videos. I felt like I was struggling because I was making two mistakes of trying to people please and that to a certain individual with so many of these red flags. It was getting so deep so fast and i was left feeling so confused and so fucked up in my head that it was affecting my health and making me physically sick. The second i started setting boundaries things got really bad really quick which escalated to him picking fights to escalate to finding reasons to find fault in me to justify his behavior. Now that I'm free from the abuse I am able to realize how much i was allowing him to keep me from my full potential of being myself and being happy. This new found respect I have for myself has had people in my life dropping like flies out of it but ironically I'm attracting even better ones into it. Even my child's father who has been at odds with me for years has suddenly had a change of heart and is treating me better and that is a miracle ✨ in itself in our lives.
Red flag for me was my ex who cheated on me talked about his ex in the beginning and cheated with her. He never talked about his feelings towards me noting. I felt like he used me completely basically. I was dating an narcissistic man. He is now currently move on into another relationship but my items are still there. He posted a photo wearing my yoga pants, very disrespectful and doesn’t care. Heartbreaking. Your videos help me to me strong ♥️
Oh my God Breeny I just watched this video , everything about this video is about my husband and am so tired with inconsistency, disrespectful to me and my family, am emotionally drained at this point and we just got family this but at this point the married is over. I can’t go on like this. Thank you so much sis
i will never place myself near a career or family when we aren’t even together. to me it’s about organisation but if he’s got family matters, his parents have issues, maybe he has younger siblings to take care of, i understand. i too, have those issues i have to go through, just don’t keep in quitting dates. it’s just disorganised.
I love what you pointed out about 'there's a season to date and not to date'. Being aware of ourselves and respecting this we'd save ourselves a lot of unnecessary foolishness🙄
I’ve just started to speak to a guy, I’m always asking him questions to keep the conversation going, he has intentions to go out with me as he always hints it and take me out, he checks in on how we are doing etc - I’ve never dated before so no idea what I’m doing 🤦🏽♀️
I would love if you did a video about falling for a guy's "potential", instead of what he has to offer in the now. I actually just got out of a relationship after a year and a half that I literally was falling for all potential, all the "we will do this and have that", until I finally realized that he was just lazy. and more often than it should be, I hear of women getting into relationships with guys who have no car or live with their mother and they say "I'm moving soon" or "I'm getting a car in a couple weeks" and months, sometimes years later, still nothing has changed. I love allllll of your videos and advice and they really have helped me, especially coming from a toxic relationship!
Guyss, can you help mee? So, the deal is, I am dating a guy for quite a while and he doesn t even want to get a driving pass, he obviously doesn t have a car and HE WANT ME TO GET MY DRIVING PASS AND A CAAAR, so we could drive around, I mean, am I crazy that this shit just turn me off so fucking much?? HE IS A MAN, HE SHOULD BE THE ONE THAT PICKS ME UP AND ALL THAT STUFF, RIGHT???
Why should you do what he doesn't want to do? So he can use you? Reciprocation is key! Don't sacrifice yourself for him. Get your driving pass and drive YOURSELF without him!!! Don't buy a car if you aren't ready for a car. Is he paying for it? It is a lot of responsibility. Good luck!!! You are not crazy! You are doing great!!!! @Adelina
Buzz Yah he’s actually very sweet and caring, I just think he couldn t provide in the long run, we stayed these days OUTSIDE, IN THE FUCKING COLD because we don t have a car and he doesn t man up to get his driving pass...he s also leaving abroad in a few weeks and we will have to do long distance, I JUST DON T WANT TO DO IT NO MORE
I don t want to sound like a gold digger, but I would like someone who can provide, who has a car and also is interested in his career, just like me, I feel like I date low...but I don t want to hurt his feelings, He loves me sm
LOVE YOU ALL! Mama is taking a break until January!! Hope you enjoyed this video and catch up on previous videos. I wish you guys all SO much love and happiness for the New Year, so excited for what’s coming! My next videos will be focussed solely on YOU and your growth please SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss the heat I will be bringing in 2020! Make sure to follow me on IG and engage with my content there @breenylee PEACE AND LOVE always ♥️
Take your time Queen. You've poured so much into us. Thank you so much.
Become a high quality person and you will attract high quality people into your life. We attract what we project.
Love you Breeny! ❤️
Whoever said dark skin women don't look good with blond hair never saw you. You are killing that blond. 😊😊
Thank YOU for reminding me! I’ve been coming back to your videos for the past year just now realizing that I had not yet subscribed to you sis since you reminded me of your numbers 😫 forgive me, subscribed now x
AMEN to every point you made on this one. Lol @ 7:00 - me 👏🏽👏🏽
When you ignore the signs you ignore your spirit. Careful!
Period 💯
@@aliciajanaechannel2024 girl I've been there too many times. The worst is when you dishonor your spirit.
🥺☹️ so true😞
@@tee4303 I know boo. Then you get so mad at yourself for not trusting yourself...
Flex-N- Fly yep! So true😔 and it sucks heaps coz u know yourself ur not that stupid.. but u stay caught up in ur own bubble just putting up a front🥺😩 so exhausting man😞
If a guy comes on to strong and acts like your savior. If he is wanting to be with you 24/7. Love bombs you. THATS NOT NORMAL!!!! They will claim they are different N special. Run!!!!!!
Sassy Lady yup I agree with this my ex was love bombing me in the beginning taking pics so early on and everything was hearts etc etc. He ended up cheating and dumping me over text and I bet a million dollars he is doing the same thing to the new girl. We deserve better!
Truth! 💖🙌🏽
Truee
Not normal. They either want sex or a place to live. You DONT sleep with them. Dont fall for flattery. They lie straight faced.
Buff Hotchkiss Mine wanted to place to live he was losing his house he had a wonderful job and makes over six figures a month but blew all his money left and right and lost it all but you had a good life for the whole problem and I fell for it… Now he’s landed another girl who just got a huge settlement in a divorce and a big huge 4000 square-foot house that he could fill up his hoarding with all my God I feel so sorry for this girl she’s the nicest thing and now she’s going to be a victim it’s just horrible but you can’t tell him because they’ll believe them and he’s good oh my god this guy is good you could sell a pile of dog shit to somebody he’s so good
If a guy keeps pushing your boundaries with “jokes,” or tells you that you’re being too sensitive or undermines how you feel even when you’ve talked about those issues, leave him alone.
If he’s ok with going to his friends about issues he has with you, but not talking to you about it, leave him alone.
I'm so glad you wrote this - I was about to write the exact same thing re the "joke" situation.
Abigail Agyemang My pleasure. This toxic behavior just needs to be brought to the surface.
So so so important!!!! So glad you mentioned this.
That’s literally why I stopped interracial dating, cause white guys were always pushing my boundaries with “jokes” & saying I was being sensitive or overreacting.
Nope! We don’t need that kind of energy!
I had a guy who constantly made jokes about cheating on me or me cheating on me. Once we were at the club and I went to the washroom and when I came out he jokingly said "eh labda ulienda kupea mtu huko kwa loo" this is swahili for "maybe you went to fuck someone in the bathroom, like a quickie" I laughed it off but deep down I was in shock and just like nope not doing this thing no more.
1. They keep talking about their ex.
2. He’s stingy (cheap).
3. He’s unorganized. Doesn’t plan the date.
4. He keeps cancelling the date.
5. He’s self-cantered (talks about himself too much and doesn’t ask questions)
6. He does not talk about the future or future plans.
8. He wants to change you.
9.He is shady (withholding information).
10. Disrespectful to people around you.
When they comment things like, go with the flow, things take time, let's see what happens, see how it goes, don't take yourself too seriously. Run....away......fast! He's not serious about you or having an intentional dating period with you. Lol
Elle-Chi24 I feel like if he says this at the very beginning of y’all dating, no this isn’t a red flag. However, if 2-3 months go by and he still says this, then it becomes a red flag
This is so true
@@nanalightbright for me and from my experience, if these are in his bank of sentences it's red from day dot. Lol
Basically they are saying is if i find someone who is better looking or has more money or even we will see if im still considering leaving my wife. These creeps sleep with everyone.
Ugh this happened to me 😭 Sometimes the red flag is clear as day but you end up ignoring the signs because you love him too much.
Big red flag if he is secretive in social media, doesn’t show you off, or follows a bunch of random women on there.
Nooshi ‼️‼️‼️
Nooshi That Part
Not nessesarily true. I want my relationship to be private and I told myself to never post any pictures with any type of chicks. Social media sucks and everyone in my opinion should stay away from it.
@@Lukasz.Kaa09 yea I don't like the idea of showing off a man I'm dating or in a relationship with on social media. There is a difference between being secretive and being private.
@@Mona-su6bj true, but these hoes will say everything to look better than guy. All the red flags you see in others are prob the same you have in yourself. I've been watching tons this type of videos and all they say is the same SH!T to do. If a woman ignores you ignore her too and vice versa. Everyone has to play fkn mind games these days if you tell someone flat out you intrested they LOSE ATTRACTION... fk this Im out.
If he says “all my ex girlfriends have been crazy”- he’s the common denominator and it shows an inability to relate to women.
Omg.. it’s getting real w me, I feel guilty for being this crazy but it’s my intuition like.. and he said all his ex were crazy and went to his phone to see him talking to other girls that we’re his “friends”.. what should I do? What to do you mean by denominator?
My current situation looool
Or maybe they were crazy.
@@pdrey100
Exactly
It's obviously always the man right 😂
That dude is a fucking narcissist
When he tells you that you’re way out of his league. He’s literally telling you to get out.
When he talks about how horrible he used to be to other females he’s dated but doesn’t want to explain.
Jenna Sais Quois 😠punch him out.
lol they often subconsciously sabotage the relationship after thinking that first bit.. 😕
Oh so so true ladies run away ,he knows you're too good for him and he'll drag you through dirt
YES! I remember two men who ended up playing me said outright “you deserve better.” If a man says this, Believe him!
"Even the flow has a destination. It's going somewhere."
So true! All rivers go somewhere. State your intention.
Loved that line too!
Dated a guy once who told me he loved me within the first week of knowing him. I didn’t feel the same. When I broke it off he kept using different numbers to get in contact with me and I’d block each and every one of them. Basically stalking me. Run away from guys who tell you they love you far too quick. Such a red flag!
Ok that’s creepy af
So true I was talking to a guy who said he loved me within 3 DAYS of knowing me not even dating!!! He wouldn’t leave me alone for months, he kept coming back
@@xoxo_melanne did you have to change your number? This same situation is happening again to me.. history is repeating itself 😣
@@joanna6570 Oh my whoever he is really needs to chill out. I did not have to change my number though he left me alone, sorry you have to go through that😕. Try getting a whole new phone or something because it seems that he just won’t stop
@@xoxo_melanne I’m glad he left you alone, it’s horrible getting harassed. Which is an understatement. Thanks for advice
There was a man who asked where I want to go, I asked him where he wants to go, he asked me if I would love t o see his place, I said I knew where he lived, then I said I would love to go to play pool, he declined and picked a restaurant 5 steps from his house. Avoid guys like this.
Did he want to date his radiator? Lol
He was trying to get laid. lol
Damn 😭
Allow it, man just wanted to slap cheeks
I M A QYN yooooooo this recently happened to me I blocked him😂
A guy I was dating said “I will mould you” 🥴 I ran for my life .. as if my parents didn’t raise me well. Smh ... 😂😂😂😂
SEIKELLA'S WORLD lmao are you clay? 😂🤣 sounds like a naija guy
@@yeyeadegbite8475 😂😂😂😂😂
Yeye Adegbite
LMAOOO
SEIKELLA'S WORLD does he do pottery for a living? 😂😂😂😂😂🤣
WTH was that supposed to me?! Good on you for running - I would’ve too!
Red flag...he can text all day but won’t call or answer when u call 👎
@@victoriadorgu3207 stop spamming. You weren't the ONE, get over it.
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Kristen Hartsfield omg a man who always texting 🤦🏻♀️
@@libertypltd4198 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 savage.. lol sometimes we just don't like calls tbh..
Bam!
If he’s very cheap and stingy with money on the first date, it’s habitual and unlikely to change.
Also selfish behavior. I dated someone who was extremely selfish with food. He might order himself a meal, and I’d order mine. When the food arrived he’d cluck and admire my meal and ask “if we could share.” To him, “sharing” translated to he got ALL of his meal and the heftiest portion of mine. There was a weird psychological component to it. It seemed like he “needed” to have the biggest portion and most of the food. Even if I was left hungry.
He also expected me to give him all of any foods he particularly liked, such as French fries “because I already had a salad and he didn’t eat salads.” He was unwilling to order and buy additional food and got very offended when I addressed the issue.
Pretty much ANY behaviors that show consistent disrespect or inconsideration are a bad sign. Even if they seem like small things.
Oh yes. I had something similar happen to me with a first meeting. I was hungry so we went through Wendy's drive thru. I got a medium fry, he said he didn't want anything but then when we get to the window (he was driving), he told the cashier "make that two large fries" then when we got the bag he ate his and was eating my fucking fries too !!! That pissed me off. He's just so disrespectful because when we first met pointed out my scars before anything by saying it like this "wtf happened to your arm". Hahaha and this dude thinks women should be with him cause he's a 'prize'. He's so pissed I don't date him haha. Hell no. He is so egotistical, selfish, inconsiderate and disrespectful.
Sally May : I think guys “poach” food because they think it makes them look “macho” and “alpha.” (Think of the scene in “50 Shades of Gray” where Christian bit Anna’s breakfast toast.). The difference is Anna could easily order MORE toast with no attitude from Christian. Like I said, it’s not the actual “poaching” but any weird follow up that should cause concern. (Refusals to order additional food, excessive anger or resentment if the woman prefers to eat the desired side dishes, etc.)
Another red flag that comes to mind is if a man is overly critical of your home (decor, furniture, appliances) and/or your wardrobe. An aspiring boyfriend briefly visited my home a few times. Each time he said something critical or even contemptuous of about the furniture (good quality items, real wood, and near-antique), the dated decor (which I could not afford to update, but it was still nicely maintained), the lack of certain kitchen appliances...It just went on and on ad nauseum.
When a man acts like that it’s a bad sign. He’s intimidated by your property because it’s likely better quality and more expensive than what he owns. Your home might be larger or better located, more luxurious, etc. He compensates for his feelings of inadequacy with criticism or pointing out what you don’t have.
Again, they think this makes them look high value but it doesn’t. A high value man won’t ridicule your lack of a coffee maker. Instead he’ll gift you one. If your furniture is actual crap, a high value man will treat you to a shopping spree. No strings attached.
I don’t expect any man interested in me to offer to replace my furniture. I do expect him to be a gracious guest if he’s visiting my home.
@@amasion2882 So true. Men really have nerve today. Any harsh criticism when first meeting them is definitely a red flag for sure. These men have inner issues they need to deal with before trying to get into any relationship or mess with any woman. Smh..
Sally May 😂😂😂😂should have chunk their the French fries 🍟 in his face.
You lucky anyone was willing to spend a penny on you wtf cheap and stingy what do you have to offer?? Besides that used up box with double miles on it gtfo
I dated this.
All of this.
Never again!
Ameenn don't go back there
Same! 😔... algud, 2020’s our year yasss🙌😁
Girl saaaame ugh!😩
Saaaame
A passive man is a chore. I feel like shaking him. Guys that say things like "it's up to you" ummmm no it's up to us!! You plan if you're asking me. If I ask you then I will have something in mind. Not everyday what should we do? My answer will just be I'm staying home babe. Lol
Elle-Chi24 i hate women like u cos if I decided u will still slag him off
A man must be a leader. It's frustrating being in a relationship with a passive man.
@@kwameopoku3576 lol ok hun. Mystic Meg. PS: I hope you're subscribed.
@@ceemac304 right! X
We are leaving Mr Passive behind in 2019 🙅🏾♀️🤣🤣
I literally just got done crying about how long I’ve been single and how the last guy I started talking to just kind of ghosted me. This video made me laugh and pinpointed the warning signs he showed. Rejection is God’s protection. I just hope I really come across someone great soon.
You and me both. I feel men are less sensitive to what us women need which is just true and genuine love and affection. I divorce my husband of 14 years because he kept cheating and have he have abandonment issues. I took a whole year to heal and started to love myself again. Just to meet a guy who was dying to get my attention but once I let my guard down he started back talking to his ex. It hurt a little because it opened up old wounds. But like she’s saying don’t ignore the red flags and he had red flags, I just decided to ignore them. Never again I said anytime those red flags are visible it’s time to go because I love myself more then he cares about me
You will. And we all will. 🙏🏻 Manisfesting good shit. And swerving all the assholes.
So good!!
I love the comments, here are some I experienced:
1. Inconsistency between actions and what they say
2. They downplay your achievements
3. Insensitive, even after you try to explain to him
4. Critical, of others and of how you are
5. Doesn't respect your boundaries, and tries to make you seem unreasonable. e.g. On the second date I wanted us to meet at the restaurant but he was mad that I didn't want him to pick me up. He wouldn't let it go until I said yes. Then I realized why at the date. Another time I had said I'm saving my first kiss for marriage (we're both Christians) and he kept trying to make me change my mind even though I'd expressed it was something important to me
6. He tries to make you feel responsible for his feelings. It felt like he wanted me to nurture him all the time. Bruh...
7. 'No' is not an acceptable answer
I’m settling onto a new relationship after 3 years because my previous relationship was really bad and I took time to better myself, I’m now talking to someone and I think he has some red flags of your first point. Could you give me some examples you experienced?
They downplay your achievements 💯💯💯👏🏾
I can’t stand guys that think it’s a competition with a girl they like 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
That's narccissm ladies
huge redflag: if a guy follows over 500+ random chicks ... instant turnoff
dior2001 This is so true😂
Jack of all trades master of none. He’s an immature boy, looking at females like he’s never seen any in his lifetime or like they’re there for his taking. These little boys can’t even please one woman but they act like they’re ready to sex up every woman they see
💯💯💯💯
dior2001 omg my boyfriend. I used to be so upset about that bc he has those follows to those girls way before we start dating, now I just feel like watever Im confident about him, he is not doing anything.... so🤷🏽♀️
@@TheGirlnice95 i mean it does seem weird & thirsty no disrespect
Red flags
Mentioning their ex
Constantly trying to sexualise things
Halves on things
Follows so many girls that he doesn’t even know let’s be real here
If you are in the talking stage and he doesn’t ask you about you RUN BABY GIRL RUNNN
make sure he makes more effort than you
I’m actually planning on my proposal to my future wife and I’m excited my future is with her.... and as a Man I couldn’t agree more with you ladies a lot of dudes mess it up for the good men 🤷🏾♂️nature of the beast
Paul Smith congrats you finally meet mrs.right. Hope y’all flourish & enjoy life together
Simp
StadiaStop thanks
Congrats! 👏👏💘
WHEN A MAN FINDS THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE THE GAMMA MEN WILL TROLL HIM AND CALL HIM SIMP?
NO WONDER THIS GENERATION OF MEN IS IN CRUMBLE.
These read flags are spot on. I feel like it’s definitely ok to remain single and not settle until someone who is fully compatible comes along. I have been on a few dates this year that we’re just ok and decided not to proceed for the sake of it. It’s true that maybe now isn’t the time as I do have quite a few other priorities.. Deep down I know now isn’t the time and that ok 😊
RONICA just a few dates?? girl you need to go on more dates
gjoexoxo we shall see what the new year holds
me to
I feel you all the way girl. The right soulmate will come when it the right time. 🌺
haha maybe after the pandemic stuff will look up date wise
I hate the "it's whatever" or the "it's up to you" guys. It's annoying. 😂
Frrr such a red flag!!
I just had it today
😲
That’s every guy I meet. Lmfao 😂 Why do I have to plan everything just for you to be disrespectful later on?
I had a date with that guy who said that and we never went on a second date. Never again!
Dealing with a breakup now after dating for a year and a half and finally making it official my bf went back to his ex that he used to talk about in the beginning of our relationship
It sucks honestly 😢
♥️ sorry to hear that , pray that 2020 is a year of blessings and a right relationship for you x
you're worth way more that this, i bet he'll regret it.
KaoshiBeyonce Doll thank you ❤️
95 leo thank you ❤️
Renee Getzfit my heart breaks for you. It is his lose girl, take time to heal your heart. Subscribe to Tony Gaskins, he helped me through my break up. Wishing you the very best darling. Happy holidays ❤️
Wow he really asked u to give him back the money boy bye😀
Fantacial’s World I really can’t believe this. Wow
Was shocked too like reallyy
I couldn't deal lol 😮
A guy did this to me last night
Hahaha exactly! Nothing wrong with being frugal, you just don't have your priorities in check lol.
Another red flag is when a guy wants to get in a relationship within a few short weeks of knowing you/ meeting you.
Yeass hunni
Very true
Trueeeee!
Most of the time they are looking to leave their partner and want to move in with you. Non no no no no dont do it.
Never thought of this!
HE WANTS TO CHANGE YOU!! Omg omg omg. My ex tried so hard to tell me “God showed me who you are in the future” and kept saying things like this to me. Girl.
Spiritual manipulation is really a thing💯
Run run run
if he doesn't post you on social media but he posted his exes before i think its a red flag
Truee
Not true. I never post anything with chicks on mu Social media and its not because I want to hide it. Its just the way I am.
SplitCity did you read her comment?? She said if he posted his ex before! You never post anyone so that’s different
@@beatricesenesie yeah but 99.9% of you would still see this as red flag. One of my ex literally dumped me because I didnt want her to put me in her insta stories ... Im not judging ppl if they want to post shit Okay but respect my decision aswell
LMFAO.. Soooooo you want to compare yourself to his EX? What is it with today 'feminist empowerment independent strong women' and social media? So so petty.. BTW, if your guy posts his life on social media, he's operating on your same energy, feminine AF! Disgusting!
can you do a video on how to be strong enough to let someone go? especially when u lowkey know it might not work out
For real
Read or audiobook why men don’t love women like you by G.L. Lambert. It will change your thinking forever!! It will help you see the game for what it is, and he doesn’t hold back on anything!!
Please do it now, don’t waste any more time
True
Truth...guys doesn't want to be gentleman anymore.
@Day Night Where did she say anything about looks in her comment? Stop reaching!
Well, blame feminism.. Blame the people who have taught you, you are strong if not stronger then MEN! Blame social media for creating a platform for women to sell their lady lumps and 6 layers of make-up in exchange for free meals and casual sex. I.e Tinder and PoF! Men are not trying anymore bcos we can see women are acting like they don't need us...
That is, until she wants a tyre changed! her gas boiler fixed! The leak under her sink sorted! Her new build apartment finished! The Uber to her date! To be flown to Magaluf! Her food shopping delivered and countless other labours men provide to her cushioned life.
Once y'all denounce feminism, everything will be back to order!
And stop putting women in men's roles in films please, nobody is watching and that's why they're a big flop! Star Wars, Oceans, Ghostbusters just to name a few!
Luisana Alvarado these guys have a point. Men are not gentlemen anymore because women are not ladies anymore.
@@robpeters4284 also very truth.
@@robpeters4284 Not just that, they are only female and feminine when money has to be spent on something that doesn't directly benefit her 'looks'.. Just like millenial women say dumb things like, "my money is mine, his money is ours".. She will spend 1000's on her appearance but also demand some of his to reinvest back into her appearance!
MGTOW-2020
You described pretty much a narcissist haha at this point, there are few things i can't stand too.. Being overly passive and apathetic, definitely being self-centered to extreme. Selfishness is such a turn off... And finding ridiculous excuses to why he can't do something (in my case - why he is lazy, why he don't know what to say ever, why he can't find job and come visit me and the list goes on and on)... If i am not priority, then why would I need someone? I better be single :(
“I’m NOT going to look like I’m going to pay. Because I’m NOT paying.” 😂😂 Fr. If you can’t pay you’re not ready Boo. Simple.
If a guy says, "We're just going with the flow." That's a red flag.🚩
We all understand going with flow..but even the flow has a destination. It's going somewhere. 💯
Sociopath video pleaseeeeeeeee
Why this obsession with sociopaths, let them be. Focus on high quality dudes and you will find one. What we focus on expands and magnifies
I see you guys 👀
@@nicksmith-cx1fx so true! Want a video about the possitive aspects of relationships such as green flags hahha it's so true that what you focus on and fear of, you'll attract. It happened to me
I was and an still trying to divorce a sociopath and it’s a scary nightmare. He’s gorgeous great job.charismatic and everyone thinks he’s the best thing ever ..behind closed doors MONSTER!! He love bombed me and slowly manipulated me ..I can’t believe I fell for it. Ladies ..protect your precious souls.
Anne Ponce you seem like you are someone who is sensible and intelligent. The problem with focusing too much on red flags is you are priming your Reticular Activating System to scan for sociopaths and guys with red flags. You need to prime your RAS to scan for high quality dudes. If I met a girl in real life and she told me she wants to learn about sociopaths that would scare me. I would stay well clear of her, she might be crazy.
1. My last bf he always talked about his exes not 1 in particular but all of them and I never heard him say anything good about a woman
2. Our first sit down at a restaurant date he asked was I gonna pay I gave him that look then he paid and gave a good tip said I dont want you spending your money I haven't ever paid for anything with him I dont know if he was serious or not
3. He didn't plan the date
4. He didn't make his future known other than that we are in an exclusive relationship
5. He was very disrespectful to women but didn't see it he just said I was being to emotional
Beautifulsoul thank God he’s now your ex sis, God definitely rescue u from him 🙏🏾
Loool soo mny great writers
I thought I was overreacting. So, I “was” right: men ARE supposed to plan the dates. I was tripping on him about it.
Here’s a few more (and this can be revealed even on a first date, but don’t be surprised if it happens down the line):
1. If he isn’t close to his family or doesn’t make an effort to be
2. If he talks about how he is not happy in his life (p.s. your love is NOT enough to fix that)
3. Bringing up sore subjects on a first date like daddy or mommy issues
4. Complains about health issues but doesn’t do anything to fix them
Thank you so much! God bless.
Be careful about that first one. We don't choose our families and some of us have toxic families. For someone's peace of mind and mental health, separating from your family is necessary. Other people have been rejected by their families because they got an education or they decided not to waste their lives with alcohol and/or drugs. It's not always that person's fault.
QUEENS ASSEMBLE!!
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@Precision We Queens are looking for our Kings.
But you're just a servant. Bye!
Everything he says to you when he's angry or drunk keep track of it! He'll say sorry after the fact but no girl-- he means it!!
That's even if he says sorry 🙄
Yesssssss what a fantastic comment
But mines tell me he loves me a lot even when he's drunk...
Exactly because drunk sayings are sober thoughts
Thanks for posting this! I am JUST now re-entering the HEALTHY dating scene after a million years off due to depression and being a caregiver for my mom. I didn't realize that I was SO emotionally unavailable until I began working through the grieving process of losing my mom this year. I understand way more now why I wasn't able to form long-term relationships.
I'm currently 10 years in the game of taking care of my mother but also in the process of placing her in assisted living. I can only imagine what you're going through & you have my deepest condolences but hunny it's your time to live life for yourself. Your mother would want that. I'm finally choosing myself this year. Things will get better with time and I'll be trying to date soon myself.
Alyse Grant ❤️
Hey sis you went from #6 to #8. 9 RED FLAGS IN DATING was fire!!! I love it. I'll make up number 10 - he's a pathological liar. He makes up things all the time.
rae_muk you are spot on I dated somebody like this lol
Woahhhh. Yea lying is the biggest red flag of them all.
The actual no 7 was skipped,and we have 9 Red flags. Not judging but making an observation.
But I enjoyed the conversation. Thank you so much.
Wonderful!
Yes please make a 'how to spot a sociopath' video
Yess
Exactly
Do you want actual pictures? I have some 😆
Yes, please do.
@@ElleChi24 😂😂😂
you’re literally SOO gorgeous 🥺😍
Dang I just noticed I’ve been through TOO MANY red flags that I didn’t even know were red flags 🤣🤦♀️
😂😂
Same here
I just got broken up with 3 days ago after a 2.5 year relationship. Your videos are really helping and showing me that I should be thankful. He had almost all of these red flags. Never had any money, I paid for everything, he was always late or cancelled. Flaky. He said the last text I sent him is what pushed him over the edge. I had texted him saying that it bothered me that whenever we were talking on the phone lately, if anyone else called, he would immediately jump off the phone. Like in the middle of my sentence! He would be like, so and so is calling, I’ve gotta call you back, bye! I was upset all the time and crying or angry because I felt so unimportant.
Currently going thru a break up was dating a man for about 8 months and he told me that he had to get an abortion for his ex . The baby was conceive WHILE we were dating . I’m hurt😔
May God be with you. That liar was not good for your soul. You deserve someone pure, mature in Christ, and beautiful as you. God bless. 🤗
OMG. What a scam..
You’re right on #3 Breeny! Him planning the date shows his initiative and interests in you! Shows he’s actually serious about getting know you and getting you to like him
Wooo sis! Break up 5 months ago because of some the reasons you listed. Top ones being no talk of future after 1.5 years of being bf/gf and probably initiated paying fully for dinner once.. He has a new struggle faced girlfriend. God bless him. My man is coming ♥️
Struggle face girlfriend..OMG I laughed so hard out loud now that was funny.
Once i had a date with a guy and he was talking absolutely all the time abput himself. He literally didn't ask ANYTHING about me, my day, my work, how am i... ANYTHING. So almost from the begging of the date i knew it's not gonna go any further. Besides that we had a good time, or at least he seemd to have a good time and after he left i didn't call him anymore and neither did him 🤣. Not even said hello again anymore. I was just surprised about how players can be sone guys i was wondering why did he come on the date if he wasn't interested in the first place. Really sometimes i really don't understand guys AT ALL!
I have been there.. the thing is he was interested in himself not in u..rather in spending time with a beautiful smart girl who I am sure u r.. but anything more is not on his mind at all
That can be sooo frustrating. This one guy kept on talking about his music ..our convos always felt like a marketing campaign 🤣🤣
Exactly why did he come if he knew he'd do that I don't get them either at times
Here is your answer, since you don't understand...
He is a fckboy, but he mainly just wanted to smash. You said you had a 'good time', I always read that as, 'he got what he came for', Lol.
Anyway, he wasn't that into you, he has an abundance mindset so there's no way of locking down a guy like that, especially if you're not exceptionally 'interesting'.
@@libertypltd4198 "he has an abundance mindset" like you know him or something 🤣 No he didn't got what he wanted. I said we had fun cause we watched a movie and the movie was quiet funny, but i didn't got him in bed. You should not make conclusions so fast my dear girl.
I’m a guy and just came across this and watched it out of my curiosity lol. I believe it’s ok to not accept or like certain behaviours about the person that you are dating or in relationship with. You don’t have to like everything about them, there will always be things that you don’t like and would want that person to improve. It could be lack of time management, cleanliness, style, hygiene, eating habits, lack of ambition, or lack of drive or any other bad habits. It doesn’t means just because some one have some bad habits that you always have to run or leave. The reality of relationships and theoretical expectations are totally different. Certain behaviour needs improvement and it’s good to have a chat with the person that you are dating and help each other in how you can change those behaviour. That way you can come up together and grow. One person in a relationship could have more style than the other, and it’s his or her job to bring the other to speed. Or one person might be more mature than the other or have better time management or is more hygienic. Whatever it might be, if u like that person, don’t just lie to them and sugar coat it just to make them feel good. Talk it out and come up with real solutions and be patience with them as they are learning on the things they are lacking in. When a guy say “I like everything about you even your annoying stuffs etc” chances are, he is lying to you to make you feel loved or make you feel good. There will always be something people don’t like about you that they wish you could change. It’s about communication, understanding and patience
Agree
Agree...
I agree with the above....well said!!!
@Marjan exactly
A guy I was dating (for a short time) asked me out on a date to the movies and told me to bring $20, like wtf for 😒😕 boy byeeeeee
😂😂😂😂😂this is just too funny.
This actually happened to me as well 😂😂
Smh can't believe that happened, what's wrong with men??
😂😂😂😂
red flag: when someone doesn’t know how to say thank you ! big turn off for me it’s literally not hard to do
A man who ask you to go half is a man who will ask you to go half on paying the rent. What happened if you guys are really living life together and it happened you lost your job do you think you will be eating he's food on a good term think before jumping. Don't let good looks and nice sex confused you
Do u ladies ever actually talk to men to understand why they do certain things?
It's 2019, women are so 'empowered' they can practically take over the world? Why don't they? Lol
Men are seeing what is going on, and we have forums and movements growing to understand that, in 2019 the juice isn't worth the squeeze, if I ask you to go half, it's not bcos I'm broke, I wanna know 1stly that ure Not out for a free meal, 2ndly, that you are capable of compromise and sharing! 3rdly, are you prepared? If I had accidentally forgotten my wallet, are you going to have my back?
Same way women do subtle tests on a man.. Same way we should be allowed to run it right back!
Is that fair? Or are women just faking this feminist empowerment malarkey?
@@libertypltd4198 Ngl. I kinda agree. Why should one get a free ride and be stopped from paying on a first date because of TRADITION or 'that's how its supposed to be?'
And just because something is typical doesn't make it right.
I always have a saying good sex don't pay bills.
@@victoriadorgu3207 ah ah, did u copy & paste this everywhere..?
This is why younger women are dating up and older. I don’t give most men under 35 the time of day. Before you judge, I’m 26 and make six figures.
So happy I'm in a relationship that is like yours and your boyfriend's! Been watching your videos since May after a hard break up with my abusive ex. Coupled with therapy and self love your videos have helped me so much, and in opening up to my current partner I always kept your advice in mind. God has brought me a great man and I'm so grateful 💕
Loved this!!!! Just stopped dating a self cantered man who only spoke about himself and other girls.. like I want to hear that 🙈. Then he wondered why I ghosted him 🙄 x
Currently in a relationship like that and he manipulate the situation when I try leave 😩
Precision penaltyshot Sorry What has money got to do with it? 😬 people can be more than one thing hun..
@Precision penaltyshot hold on hun you are the only one here mentioning money .. don't project your crap onto me, weirdo!
@@CS-mn2yd why you in a relationship when he talking about other girls...Talk about guys see if he reacts lol give him a taste of his meds
Shakur Nguyen because he emotionally manipulates the situation it’s not easy as get up and leave if it was I’d be gone months ago lol it sure is a stickyy one and gotta be clever about it and tick for tac would just make it worst unfortunately
ngl i’ve been avoiding watching this video because i didn’t want to confirm my doubts, but now that i’ve cut this guy off and i’m watching this, i’m feeling strong in my decision.
thank you again for the clarification that this was not the boy for me and that i’ve always been destined for something greater ❤️
I'm gonna be honest there's this guy I was talking to and The Lord keep talking to me like "Step back and observe... Put him in the friend zone. This guy isn't for you".
And I'm watching this video and I'm like "this is whyyyyyy!!"
@@victoriadorgu3207 oh waw that's so messed up. And the fact that this is someone you walked down the aisle and said I do to. Hope things work out for you. I'm sure you didn't deserve that. At least you got to see and know everything for yourself.
@nyeduoth p. Exactly I have a business to run. Can't be wasting my time on a guy that doesn't even care about me.
Dont even be friends with these kind of guys
Really want to ask do u hear a voice from the lord. How does that work. Really curious how God tells u stuff
These red flags are just such a turn off🙄
Guys don't try to understand nada about dating girls.
They sometimes just try too hard
Bottom line they are spoiled rotten selfish brats.
@@buffhotchkiss7400 LMFAO! Is that coming from a woman? In this 2019 gynecentric society driven by Femininist propaganda? Where they are pushing women into men movie rolls? (by the way, those films are flopping HARD!)... MEN are not spoilt! Women are spoilt! 85% of TV adverts are for women! A woman will own 100 pieces of clothing and the cost will be the equivalent of 20 pieces for a man!
Point is, don't make statements based on your own experiences, you made bad choices, and that's that.
Guys don't understand Nada? They try too hard? GTFOH! what do you want?
@@buffhotchkiss7400 And not worth the effort.
I was talking with a guy that always talked about his money! I'm was like ok???? Too much information!
😂😂😂
My ex was like that but he would never buy me stuff just food
sara tesfay 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣He doesn’t got shit.
Les Lavy he was broke 😂😂💀
@@monichardwell TMI and a turn off! This guy tried to get at me as he was pumping gas while holding a wad off cash. First off, I'm not a gold digger. Secondly this is Miami. Put that up before your scrawny self gets robbed 😂😂
One of the guys I was in the talking stage with literally said to me, “we will go the library for a first date” I couldn’t help but laugh! 🤣 the library?? For a first date??? Can we even call that a date?? Stingy men 🤢
Library... the audacity!!!!!!
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2020 can you pleaaaasssseee turn these into podcasts 😭😭❤️ thank you
They talk about their ex because they still on there minds I agree with you on this 👌🏼
Passive man. Sweet, kind, eMoTiOnAl, iNsEcUrE, pAsSiVe, goes with the flow, too patient/will take anything .
I got to go boo 🚩
Im going through a breakup currently, and it is absolutely heart wrenching. I stumbled across Breeny's how to get through a breakup video and her videos are pretty much the only thing that have been successful in putting my mind at ease - this channel has been so important in helping me get through this.
Thank you Breeny
someone just likes you. catch dem just watching you and smiling. he just likes you. loveeee being around you.
Breeny you made me laugh at the part of you not being expensive but wanting him to have some money. I remembered my case with a German boy who asked to date me and the moment the waitress came to get the money,he paid his half and asked me,do u have a credit card? I was like No,why? Oh he said,to pay your half 😂 Swear he never saw me again. Glad i saw the sign
A red flag for me was when this individual was not doing much with their day....Edit: Here for thr podcast! Now i can listen whilst on the underground 🌹🌹🌹
AJ Ismail yes!!!! I was hoping she’d do a podcast, I listen while driving to work (30 min drive) and TH-cam drains my battery 😫😫 but she’s worth the battery loss 😂😂 she gets me straight!
I don’t have any sisters, but it feels like Breeny is my older sister who cares about me. I love you so much Breeny ❤️
6 months into my last relationship my boyfriend at the time said he had something to tell me. I thought he was finally going to tell me he loved me point blank. 🙄😑.... Turns out he took the opportunity to tell me he has an ex-wife and a daughter. 6 months in, that’s when he tells me this, when feelings have been caught by yours truly, not 6 dates in, but 6 months in. The irony of it all is that a month and half later he breaks up with me using the excuse “I don’t open up to him enough. It feels like we’re more like friend’s than anything else.”.... 😂😂😂.... THE HYPOCRISY!!!.... Mind you, I was butt hurt about the situation in the moment. But the Lord makes no mistakes!
i really love this lady. she honest when she talks.gpd bless you sister.
I’m guessing this is my “single season” cause no one is checking for me or shooting their shot and I’m trying sooooooo hard to come to terms with that and accept it but my self esteem is legit in the bottom of the dumpster because everyone around me, even the ones that you would least expect to have a partner, is in a relationship and it’s legit killing my confidence. Especially when people ask me where my plus one is and I tell them I don’t have one and their like “oh but you’re soooo pretty!” Like thanks I know I’m decent looking but obviously there’s something wrong with me cause no one is checking for me 😭🤦🏾♀️ like there’s women that just walk out there house and they can pick up 10 numbers in 5 minutes and then there’s me.... how do I get past this besides going to therapy 😂😭
Learn to love yourself, stop worrying about what other people will think, stop trying to keep up with what "everybody else" is doing and go find your self esteem.
Sheedle Deedledee I agree with this. Self love is key sis ❤️
I felt like this too before I met my ex and I feel like I'll receive this same dilemma after we've broken up when I return back to school in January. My friends will get attention from guys but they wouldn't notice it, and I barely notice if any guy is checking for me so I'll feel unwanted. Yet, that's not true. Just think, someone is looking at you but they know they can't approach you because you require a commitment. If they aren't ready for that investment then they know not to come to you. However, if you're too desperate like I was, one of those guys who doesn't' meet your standards but decided to shoot his shot by swooning you in the beginning. Giving you the attention you wanted, and you fall for it. You'll regret it. I should have rangled in this feeling of not feeling like anyone was checking for me because this caused me to ignore several red flags (most of all of them were discussed in Breeny's video here) and making a mistake that went against my values. So all I can say is, sis definitely take Sheedle Deedledee's advice and find your self esteem. God will test you by giving you some guy that seems perfect to you but he will probably be everything you don't want to have in a relationship. The benefit is you will find out through experience what you don't want in partner/relationship and 2). you may find the actual love of your life (who will love you back and see you as the prize that you are) soon after the wrong one comes along. But save yourself by working on self-love and self-commitment. Keep yourself busy by trying to achieve goals you have always wanted like travelling. Hangout with more of your single friends then the ones who are in a relationship so you can feel solidarity. Also, enjoy your own company because you will want alone time sometimes.
don't date with a low self esteem. men can sense it. wait until you heal, and then date as your TRUE, FUN, LOVING, AMAZING, AUTHENTIC self.
I’m sorry you feel that way. Like what everyone is saying, start by being nice to yourself. You are worthy not because someone wants you but because you are regardless. Once you have that confidence, it’ll reflect in the guys you choose to date. Love yourself x
I have seen all of these red flags and more. There were so many red flags in all my past relationships and my marriage. I didn't want to see them because I didn't know better. I kept lying to myself that the guys loved me. The last guy was an eye opener for me because I saw every red flag and I stayed with him and worked through my issues and by the time I ended the relationship I wasn't as broken as when I entered into it. On some level I knew the relationship wasn't going to work. I know it sounds weird but I started working on myself. During this relationship I realized I kept falling for narcissists because of issues from my childhood. Now I am learning to focus on me. It is absolutely the hardest thing ever because I have always went from one guy to another because I have never valued myself. Ladies, never let ANYONE make you feel inferior!
I absolutely agree... I 'closed my eyes' about the fact that we split the bill at our first lunch and got into a relationship with him... Well, time proved me I shouldn't!! He was so cheap during our relationship for such a small things, it was insulting! He was making money, but still cheap... For me a man who leaves the woman to pay her bill.. is not a real man!
this guy i met at work we started talking & first of all he got me at “i’m different” HUGE red flag so i got turned tf off so i stopped talking to him, buuutttt not only that, after two days of just talking he started getting too possessive over me i’m like nah get tf away from me BYE. love your videos #subscribed
Number 3 is a BIG red for me. Plan ahead...PERIOD 😎
Exactlyy
I want the sociopath video!!!
Ohmy confirmed ✔️we good he asked me the date I would be comfortable to meet, no excuses or nothing he just said it's a done deal ... He is sorting out the date and his coming to my city so fingers crossed 🤞🏾🤞🏾💯💫thanks for the video.. Another red flag he takes ages to respond to your texts he clearly isn't interested sis... Stop making excuses, 🚫
I love the "called me OUT of my house." Right, like you got me out of my headtie and my glasses to come sit here for this nonsense. LOL I can't - this is funny.
Red flags in the "we're seeing each other/dating" stage - he can only see you when it's convenient for him. Secondly he is not self aware - he is not able to understand how he affects the world by his words and actions. Finally an emotionally unavailable man!! RUN SIS !!
Wish I saw this earlier😪
My boyfriend (ex now) dumped me yesterday and told me he never broke up with his ex when he was with me,I was simply a side chick and he only decided to tell me because he felt guilty 🙄...he always spoke about his ex and told me they broke up because of the distance.What a lie...
Now I’m left to pick up the pieces of my heart while they are together 💔😪
I had a date stand me up once because he couldn't catch a ride there and didn't have a car.
I was like bOY, not even a bicycle?
A freaking $1 bus ticket?!
Gross, bye.
I ❤️ you Breeny. You’re like a big sis to me please don’t ever stop making these videos ❤️
Breeny!! I love your energy in this video! You seem really happy and I can feel that you are in a peaceful and joyful time in your life. We love to see it sis ❤️
I was asking a guy about himself (nothing too personal, just general questions to get to know him) and he told me I was asking too many questions (I think the exact question was “Where are you from originally?”) 😒😂. I asked another guy, “So what do you do for a living?” after telling him what I did and he told me it was none of my business and only gold diggers ask that question. March 15th is my 7 year anniversary of being single and I’m taking myself somewhere nice to celebrate. I’ve BEEN DONE with this crazy scene.
It's so scary 😨😨. Im sorry that u met insecure guys. You need to tell yourself that you were blessed that you saw their true colors...
I love your insights, love from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪♥️
WOWWWWW! Thank you! thank you! Thank you! I am so grateful to have come across your videos. I felt like I was struggling because I was making two mistakes of trying to people please and that to a certain individual with so many of these red flags. It was getting so deep so fast and i was left feeling so confused and so fucked up in my head that it was affecting my health and making me physically sick. The second i started setting boundaries things got really bad really quick which escalated to him picking fights to escalate to finding reasons to find fault in me to justify his behavior.
Now that I'm free from the abuse I am able to realize how much i was allowing him to keep me from my full potential of being myself and being happy. This new found respect I have for myself has had people in my life dropping like flies out of it but ironically I'm attracting even better ones into it. Even my child's father who has been at odds with me for years has suddenly had a change of heart and is treating me better and that is a miracle ✨ in itself in our lives.
Another red flag is when the guy barley even does the talking 🚩
Nope... He might be reserved or kinda . introvert... .but if his actions speaks louder than words... He's a catch...💞
Not everything is a red flag lol
Red flag for me was my ex who cheated on me talked about his ex in the beginning and cheated with her. He never talked about his feelings towards me noting. I felt like he used me completely basically. I was dating an narcissistic man. He is now currently move on into another relationship but my items are still there. He posted a photo wearing my yoga pants, very disrespectful and doesn’t care. Heartbreaking. Your videos help me to me strong ♥️
I'm thankful you are free of that human. Now you can focus on unconditional love of yourself.
He sounds hideous. Poor woman who meets him next. Thank God you are faaaaar away from that.
Elle-Chi24 thank you so much! Yes I was used and it’s bad I thank god i am out. just need to focus on getting better ☺️
Happy Christmas xxxx I love your videos x
Oh my God Breeny I just watched this video , everything about this video is about my husband and am so tired with inconsistency, disrespectful to me and my family, am emotionally drained at this point and we just got family this but at this point the married is over. I can’t go on like this. Thank you so much sis
I love u. Thanks for caring about your sisters ❤️💋
i will never place myself near a career or family when we aren’t even together. to me it’s about organisation but if he’s got family matters, his parents have issues, maybe he has younger siblings to take care of, i understand. i too, have those issues i have to go through, just don’t keep in quitting dates. it’s just disorganised.
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I met someone with all ten red flags
Run🏃🏽♀️
I love what you pointed out about 'there's a season to date and not to date'. Being aware of ourselves and respecting this we'd save ourselves a lot of unnecessary foolishness🙄
Girl I didn’t even realize I wasn’t subscribed because you’re always in my recommended
I’ve just started to speak to a guy, I’m always asking him questions to keep the conversation going, he has intentions to go out with me as he always hints it and take me out, he checks in on how we are doing etc - I’ve never dated before so no idea what I’m doing 🤦🏽♀️
”Heee What”😂😂 I can’t biliv it he had nerves to ask the money back🙂🙂. This data collection was not worth it
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I would love if you did a video about falling for a guy's "potential", instead of what he has to offer in the now. I actually just got out of a relationship after a year and a half that I literally was falling for all potential, all the "we will do this and have that", until I finally realized that he was just lazy. and more often than it should be, I hear of women getting into relationships with guys who have no car or live with their mother and they say "I'm moving soon" or "I'm getting a car in a couple weeks" and months, sometimes years later, still nothing has changed.
I love allllll of your videos and advice and they really have helped me, especially coming from a toxic relationship!
Guyss, can you help mee? So, the deal is, I am dating a guy for quite a while and he doesn t even want to get a driving pass, he obviously doesn t have a car and HE WANT ME TO GET MY DRIVING PASS AND A CAAAR, so we could drive around, I mean, am I crazy that this shit just turn me off so fucking much?? HE IS A MAN, HE SHOULD BE THE ONE THAT PICKS ME UP AND ALL THAT STUFF, RIGHT???
Adelina Cristina yep u right gurl! RUNNNN! He sounds like a dick already😞😕😒
Why should you do what he doesn't want to do? So he can use you? Reciprocation is key! Don't sacrifice yourself for him. Get your driving pass and drive YOURSELF without him!!! Don't buy a car if you aren't ready for a car. Is he paying for it? It is a lot of responsibility. Good luck!!! You are not crazy! You are doing great!!!! @Adelina
Hell yessss he is a man absolutely not! Run and run fast!
Buzz Yah he’s actually very sweet and caring, I just think he couldn t provide in the long run, we stayed these days OUTSIDE, IN THE FUCKING COLD because we don t have a car and he doesn t man up to get his driving pass...he s also leaving abroad in a few weeks and we will have to do long distance, I JUST DON T WANT TO DO IT NO MORE
I don t want to sound like a gold digger, but I would like someone who can provide, who has a car and also is interested in his career, just like me, I feel like I date low...but I don t want to hurt his feelings, He loves me sm