Stop asking permission. Stop seeking validation. Stop comparing yourself to others. Instead, start trusting your thoughts and your own judgements of yourself. Start embracing your uniqueness. Somebody else's opinion doesn't have to be your reality. What others think of me is none of my business, so carry on! 💪💪💪 Don't compete just dominate 😊 Were not supposed to be competing with anybody else other than ourselves. No one is you and that is your power!!! The more your faith will grow, the more your confidence will grow. Don't worry about fitting in when your custom-made! Whatever you focus on magnifies. More power girl!!!
If you wrote "1 million dollars" on a piece of paper, it wouldn't start being worth 1 million dollars no matter how much you want it to. It would only be worth that much if others judged it to be so. Self-value does not exist. Self-power does not exist. We are worth nothing except what value we bring to others. It is that simple. Believing otherwise is lying to yourself.
Yes my mother always instals self doubt in me. Like when we’re at the shops she’ll say “but what you want” and proceed to criticise every thing I pick out. Same with her friend. She’ll say such hateful things like “you’re getting dark like your mother” (not a bad thing but if you heard the tone she uses you’d understand). She never stands up for me either and when I complain about how insecure it makes me feel she’ll tell me to ‘take a joke’ or ‘stop being too serious’
@@randomblackgirl6007 I can be really confident around my friends or new people, but when it comes it family i go from 100 to 0. Being in a family that criticises you on everything you do and has an issue with how you look, how you do things, why you do things can really bring a big toll on you. Whereas if it was someone outside of family, i don’t mind because they dont know ME to a T. And that’s why with family it hurts or you feel no support coming through also when they’ve been with you your whole life. My advice to you is to just get yourself together mentally, and then keep on doing what you do because the biggest lesson I learnt is that they’re going to judge regardless. No matter what you do they will keep picking at you and say things that might hurt even if you don’t do what you want to do. Just keep being you. ❤️❤️❤️
When someone says something that offends you, it means they've just brought up something that YOU believe is ultimately true but you don't want to accept it. People can't hurt you if you don't have weak spots. Take note of things that offend or hurt you and see where you need to confront those beliefs and work on challenging them.
Even at 50 I'm still having issues on how I feel about myself. I have been a big girl all my life and it has always been a problem in dating. I just can't find my confidence but thank you for all the advice.
It’s mad how quickly I learned this. I was 16, I came in the first day of year 11 and everything had changed. I went from invisible to everyone saying ‘she thinks she’s bad’, ‘she thinks she’s a model’. At first it was weird but after a month I genuinely stopped hearing the comments. It got to a point where my friends had to come and tell me someone was talking about me for me to even notice. And the second time they came reporting to me, I told them to never let me know again. I was not and am not concerned with opinions about myself that aren’t from me.
Whoever is reading this, let me tell you how freaking amazing you are today. And omg let's not forget about how beautiful you are on the inside and outside. Keep being the magnificent person that you came here to be.❤
Reprogramming my mind helped me so much to go from self doubt to finally trusting myself and realizing that I am enough. I just started posting affirmation video’s on TH-cam to help people that are feeling insecure to accept themselves and radiate confidence.
You've changed so much. Like a completely different person. I think its infectious. Be authentic. You're not looking for acceptance it counts alot. Its very attractive. You're beautiful now.
I love how The Lord knows i'm struggling with personality issues and growth in my young transitional years, and just sends a TH-cam blessing like Breeny Lee. A shift is coming. Also this video is exactly one year old, ironic. Love it, love you xx
Breeny, I don’t think you realize how helpful your videos are.. God is actually using you to help young women to embrace themselves and believe in themselves. This video was the exact pic me up i needed today.. keep it up.. rooting for you girl! 💃🏽
_sis, i needed to hear this so bad. the thing with me is i'm confident then something bad happens then I'm unhappy for the rest of the day. i need to focus on God and not what other people think. It's a growing process but I know I'll get there._
"now i can relax, now i can breathe".... i always thought how i was feeling was rare...and maybe a little bit crazy...you teached me that it's not. if you are not yourself, its like acting 24/7. That shit is hard
@@Peanut_taco_muffin but being selfish causes problems too .. arguments, disappointment, pain .. so whats worse.. being lonely and authentic or have people around you and be „on“… i don‘t know so i act again 😔
I feel everything she is saying I have allowed my parents, church people, coworkers etc...to impose their opinions on me. It leaves me feeling confused, drained and disappointed in myself for not being who they want me to be. Yeah, your family and friends matter but God matters the most he said you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Now if I could really get that in my spirit throughout the day is my prayer for me and others. Thanks Breeny I REALLY needed to hear this
Luv Joy I feel you,even at church you can’t avoid some words from them only tried to bring you down. You know yourself better than anyone. & most important is you know better than anyone is your relationship to God.
*nodding furiously in agreement*, church, family, yas, like I need to step up when it comes to strangers and colleagues, but level two is step up to my family too, strange thing is my family will help me step up to the strangers running my life and waging war against me, but my family also has their own way in which they hold me back, I guess God is really needed in that area.
I’m an introvert., but I learnt with years to just accept it. You cant be appreciated by every one. I’m grateful for everything I have. Thank you God. 🙏
@@nabifwo I do not have social anxiety but I am very quiet and shy, I was also asked several times "why are you so quiet, you never talk" so I can definitely relate. I have noticed that it has never bother me unless other people pointed it! Last year I started to accept it and god it feels waay better! The first step is accepting yourself and not blaming. I know one day I'll be the person I want to be and wish that to everybody
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10
she said " no one is you and that is your power" damn that hit me harrrrddddd ngl that video really did help i used to compare myself and not speak up and as part of my self love journey ive learn that no one cares so now i do what i want
Girl I’m so proud you make videos talking about this kind of stuff, there’s so many people that don’t realize that self love is more important than anything else and are literally controlled by social media. I myself can relate to everything you’re mentioning and it’s sad.
Edi Beth I know you should not please others but what if it’s your mom? Should you please her?what if the only reason you’re pleasing her is to saver her life because you don’t want her to get a heart attack and die? For example, I was raped and never told my mom because if I tell her she will surely die from a heart attack. So I’m literally saving her life by not telling her. Also she had the opportunity to abort me when she was pregnant and she told the doctor no. She kept me so I’m Pleasing her by becoming a doctor for her. she always wanted to see one of her kids become a doctor before she does and since my sister is not doing it im gonna do it. I hate medical school but I feel that if it will make my mom happy I don’t mind goin to 8 years of school. And plus she’s paying for it. Is that bad?
@@daphneepaul3737 if your mom was given the opportunity to abort you and she didn't, then she loved you no matter what. If you were violated and abused and got through it for her and were strong for her, if you finally told her your secret, she will continue to love you more no matter what. If you discontinue medical school and pursue another career, she will love you and support you no matter what because what a mother wants while on this earth is happiness for her children no matter what decisions you make and no matter if they work out or not. AS A MOTHER myself, I promise you, she will love you and support you no matter what❤
@@daphneepaul3737 there is something special about a woman who surpasses everything that was meant to destroy her. Best of luck on your future endeavors.
The 2019 Philosophy for Success... Confidence has no competition, find satisfaction within yourself, work toward being significant and express gratitude in every facet of life.
I am very independent and introverted and all of my friends are very sociable. I try to do sociable for them but it’s hard because being outgoing is draining for me and if I just need a day of alone time they feel like I’m ignoring them. It makes me have a guilty feeling when I just need to put my phone down and stay to myself for a day.
How are you ignoring when you are just doing your own thang.. maybe they not doing what they need to do for themselves it's so sad . They probably ain't got nothing going on with their life simple
I have to learn how to stop apologizing. 😩tired of apologizing for every lil thing. I’m gonna make this an affirmation. And start teaching myself not to say I’m sorry so much
I realized that I will NEVER be able to make everyone happy. I have to do what I have to do for MYSELF and my mental 🤷🏾♂️ Period. If it makes me happy then I’m doing it lol. Idc who thinks I’m wrong or that I’m not doing what I’m “supposed” to do. I learned that if I am not going to be myself, then I could loose myself along the way in the future. So glad I’m getting my life 😩 Like seriously Breeny you changed my life. 🙏🏾
"You don't worry about fitting in when your custom made" loved that Start trusting your opinions your thoughts and judgements I am learning that. You can't be on 10 daily as Breeny said. I will continue having the confidence I used to and learn to get over my beauty/not enough thing by not seeking validation and let go of my insecurities. This video was helpful. "Sometimes you can't look like Naomi Campbell sometimes you'll look like Meek Mill in prison" I laughed at that
Thank you 😊 I needed this so much! I’m never myself, I’m naturally a very talkative fun and cheerful person, but I’ve always cared about what others think about me and am always shy and quiet because I feel that if I show my true self everyone will judge me. 😫💕✨
@Elizabeth Mary This channel is one of the best things that has happened to my life. I’m 37 and finally doing the work to be become a better version of me in every aspect of my life❤️
MS TAVONDA I just turned 25 last week & for the last year or so I've been trying to find myself & who God wants me to be. Its been pretty difficult though because I'm wanting to be me but still have that mindset of not wanting to disappoint people or doing things wrong even if it's not. 🙍 But between Breeny, Lavendaire, Asha C. & Kayln Nicholson I think I'll get myself together eventually. I'm not trying to waste anymore time living for other people & comparing myself.
@Elizabeth Mary Recognizing what you want and who you want to be is the first step! You have a solid foundation of women or a tribe that you follow and inspires u to be better! Girl u got this do you! 💖
I watched this video so many times 1 yr ago when I couldn’t even eat in front of others, go out without makeup & constantly ASK for permission & validation, all due to being insecure. Now I’ve made a lot of progress, still not fully there, deleted social media, love myself 1000x more now💞Thanks to Breeny & ofc myself! Thanks SO much Breeny. I can’t describe my gratitude 🙏 You are so extremely wise at 27 yo. Absolutely amazing
i truly love your content, no jokes. its not only for girls, but boys too. what makes you different from the others is the fact that u r a beautiful woman, and God fearing too. that's awesome . keep doing what u r doing, and the LORD will grant all ur heart desires in His riches in Glory. may God bless you and your work..... AMEN!!
It’s funny how she commented about disliking her nose cuz I actually LOVE her nose! I actually was focused on my nose too. I wanted to get it done but randomly I stopped thinking about it and now I’m fine with it
Sweatpants, hair tied with no makeup has been me for the past few weeks recently. Took a break from writing my uni dissertation to watch you Breeny ! Always love your advice videos xx
Just saying ur video about leveling up really impacted me, I was everything u described in that video and I’m so glad I’m taking the steps to change for the better
that’s so me. i’m realizing that i’m not myself around anyone. it’s not thag i change but that i will up my energy bc i feel like i need to be the happiest most energetic person otherwise people will feel unhappy around me. when i get home from hanging out i literally cry and feel depressed from having to act so HIHIHIHIHII all day. i’m introverted and i’m calm and i also deal with anxiety and depression so having to act happy all the time is beyond draining. but i fear being my normal self and calm self will be boring or make people go away
This came at the RIGHT time. I’m 17, 18 in 2 months and one of my most toxic traits is that I am so reliant on other people. I really don’t know myself, I thought I did but I realized I try to find myself in others (whether it be relationships or friendships). Then when they leave me, I don’t know what to do without them, I’d say borderline depressed. I hate to say it but I loveeee validation..but when the one that gave it to me doesn’t “want” me anymore I just plummet. I wish I could be self dependent but it’s so hard for me 😭 one minute I think I’m so secure but if ONE person looks at me side ways my feelings are hurt. Hopefully I’m able to work on myself, know my worth, and just be happy on my own
2019 is the year we're all thriving sis, and you just KNOW you're gonna work on this!! It's never easy and takes so much time, but you can work through this--hell, the mere acknowledgement that this is a probably is a good start, and you can build on this❤ don't give up.
shahahazadiii 1812 don’t worry. Write everything u like about yourself in your notebook and create a vision board. You can buy a poster board at Walmart and start putting down your vision on it.
Oh my! Loving all your quotes and comments! Loving this lil community we got going on! Thank you all for watching!! Looking forward to seeing all my UK Women at my VISION BOARD PARTY this weekend! Only a few tickets left if you want to be there! Let's change the way we do life this year! Get your tickets here: goo.gl/WmkumY ❤️
Wow...your videos have really opened up my eyes about the misconceptions I had about myself. I've loved so many people in my life but at some point they would hurt me and leave me broken. At some point in my life I realized that when push comes to shove, I was the only person I could depend on. Now those whom I love dearly critise and insult me but now I just glance at them, keep quiet and walk away, I prefer to steer away from negativity and things that will make me feel less of a person who deserves the love I give to others.
Omg this is why I love you. I started to love myself and be by myself a lot and I found that it made me very confident. The people who overlooked me are now blowing my phone up and I'm like nah I'm good luv enjoy!
Honestly I felt like you were speaking to my soul. There is so much that I have been holding onto and by the end of this video I felt free. Thank you so much love!
I cant believe i ever hated myself.woi so many things about me to love. I am a very beautiful intelligent woman. Dont worry about fitting in when you custom made. Whew. So much relief there. I have decided to get to know myself ,accepté me for who i am then love me. Its a three step process. This IS thé best vidéo i have ever watched on self esteem
I LOVE it when you’re like “Oh my God I just felt the Holy Ghost” because SAME girl!!!! Do you pray before you speak on TH-cam? I feel like you do because you have so much wisdom! God Bless, keep being your wonderful self 👑❤️
I just want to say thank you Brenny i have been struggling with finding myself and caring about what people think of me all my life and it has destroyed me now trying to find myself and self confidence has been so hard thank You for the words of confidence you are AMAZING!!!!!!
Yes i agree ! comparison is the worst. I also can relate to people pleasing . I have a bad habit of trying to make others feel good , like its my job smh…so i find myself people pleasing a lot must stop !!!
Lol I so relate to this. My self esteem used to be so high but not in an egotistical way. It's now not that great, I genuinely have no idea what I'm doing or what version of myself I actually am. 😂
I am so confident in myself all the time everyday in my life. I don't care what other peoples thinks of me for no reasoning at odd. I am going through lots of things like this in my life trying deal with it for a long time. Thanks to you girl now I know how to deal with this kind bad negative peoples and energy around me.
Stop asking permission. Stop seeking validation. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Instead, start trusting your thoughts and your own judgements of yourself. Start embracing your uniqueness.
Somebody else's opinion doesn't have to be your reality.
What others think of me is none of my business, so carry on! 💪💪💪
Don't compete just dominate 😊
Were not supposed to be competing with anybody else other than ourselves.
No one is you and that is your power!!!
The more your faith will grow, the more your confidence will grow.
Don't worry about fitting in when your custom-made!
Whatever you focus on magnifies.
More power girl!!!
Mylen Mondigo AMEN!!!😄❤️
Mylen Mondigo I really love this! So well said 💜💜💜💜
As Apostle Paul said...run your own race nut to win it
I'm not seeking anything, it just I don't want people to judge me .
If you wrote "1 million dollars" on a piece of paper, it wouldn't start being worth 1 million dollars no matter how much you want it to. It would only be worth that much if others judged it to be so.
Self-value does not exist. Self-power does not exist. We are worth nothing except what value we bring to others. It is that simple.
Believing otherwise is lying to yourself.
"you can be the juiciest and ripest peach and there will still be someone who doesnt like peaches" Dita Von Teese
Jeeez! I love this!
And i love Dita. Thanks, girl!
Great comment i love this quote
A mf fact!
Facts 💯
@@joreybrown733 SORRY WHAT
When she wears that fur coat she means business
😂😂😂😂😂
Facts. N more facts.
Joy Kabue B.B.
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I hope it‘s fake fur ...
@@annasophieschulte6011 Why??
Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force
HOW PLSS I NEED IT
@@soscript3121 fake it til u make it
@@ella-wz5xi faking it is still very freaking hard
@@wandasslut4358 no one said it’s easy, keep going and you’ll make it!
@@wandasslut4358 but you CAN do it believe in yourself and persist, you are capable!
I feel like family has a huge impact on your confidence. Especially when they're never satisfied of your achievements.
Very true
this is my household
Yes my mother always instals self doubt in me. Like when we’re at the shops she’ll say “but what you want” and proceed to criticise every thing I pick out. Same with her friend. She’ll say such hateful things like “you’re getting dark like your mother” (not a bad thing but if you heard the tone she uses you’d understand). She never stands up for me either and when I complain about how insecure it makes me feel she’ll tell me to ‘take a joke’ or ‘stop being too serious’
@@randomblackgirl6007 I can be really confident around my friends or new people, but when it comes it family i go from 100 to 0. Being in a family that criticises you on everything you do and has an issue with how you look, how you do things, why you do things can really bring a big toll on you. Whereas if it was someone outside of family, i don’t mind because they dont know ME to a T. And that’s why with family it hurts or you feel no support coming through also when they’ve been with you your whole life. My advice to you is to just get yourself together mentally, and then keep on doing what you do because the biggest lesson I learnt is that they’re going to judge regardless. No matter what you do they will keep picking at you and say things that might hurt even if you don’t do what you want to do. Just keep being you. ❤️❤️❤️
@@shayyy9098 thank you I’ll try sending lots of love
"Somebody's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." Damn.
Facts 💯
She said, “you can’t look like Naomi Campbell all the time, sometimes you look like MEEK MILL IN PRISON” 💀😂
Jackie Mitchell lmfao
Right😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣she's totally right
yeah, that one got me!! lol
😂😂😂😂😂
"You don't worry about fitting in, when you're custom made"❤❤❤❤❤
This should be my quote
I changed my hair and my coworkers said oh, We liked the previous hair. I smiled and keep enjoying my new hairstyle 😊
Zender 2016 C Those people are so annoying. Rock your new do.
Yassss! Work it ✌
Zender 2016 C enjoy your hair
This is really inspirational
Yesss I stan 🤪
When someone says something that offends you, it means they've just brought up something that YOU believe is ultimately true but you don't want to accept it. People can't hurt you if you don't have weak spots. Take note of things that offend or hurt you and see where you need to confront those beliefs and work on challenging them.
When som1 says something bad abt you they're actually projecting their insecurities on you i found myself doing that unconsciously
This is such a good quote !!
“You don’t worry about fitting in when you’re custom made!” Say that! 👏🏼👏🏼
I love to see women love themselves
@Dem 1 You had to ruin it. Lmao.
2019 is for self love and authenticity
💯💯
"No one is you and that is your power."
Even at 50 I'm still having issues on how I feel about myself. I have been a big girl all my life and it has always been a problem in dating. I just can't find my confidence but thank you for all the advice.
You look beautiful on your profile picture
Girl in your profile picture you look 30! Even if you're insecure about your weight you're still doing something right to look so young! 😭
don't take it wrong but you look so pretty!!
“You don’t need to worry about where you fit in when you’re custom made.” - why have I never heard this before? Thanks Breeny!
They need to put that on a tshirt and sell that ish! 🤑🤑🤑
👏"Somebody's opinion of you does not have to become YOUR REALITY" #FACTS👌🙌🙋
It’s mad how quickly I learned this. I was 16, I came in the first day of year 11 and everything had changed. I went from invisible to everyone saying ‘she thinks she’s bad’, ‘she thinks she’s a model’. At first it was weird but after a month I genuinely stopped hearing the comments. It got to a point where my friends had to come and tell me someone was talking about me for me to even notice. And the second time they came reporting to me, I told them to never let me know again. I was not and am not concerned with opinions about myself that aren’t from me.
Fuck yes
So do you like being invisible or like being talked about?
Yes powerful queen!!!
Ok Queen teach me!
Whoever is reading this, let me tell you how freaking amazing you are today. And omg let's not forget about how beautiful you are on the inside and outside. Keep being the magnificent person that you came here to be.❤
so much love 💖💖
Reprogramming my mind helped me so much to go from self doubt to finally trusting myself and realizing that I am enough. I just started posting affirmation video’s on TH-cam to help people that are feeling insecure to accept themselves and radiate confidence.
When she’s in the car you know it’s getting serious lol love these car talks💓
Lol... all her videos are literally in the car
You should write a book!! I love how you are honest
I feel personally attacked. 😂 She’s like the big sister keeping me in check. ❤️❤️💗💗
Dulce De Lyssa lol that’s exactly how I feel. She always comes through right when you need her 💞
Literally same ♥️♥️
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@Alyssa Gant, Right...me too😊
“You don’t worry about if you fit in, when you are custom-made” - omg I love you so much, I felt like a really wise loving aunt was speaking to me. 🥰
"you not finding me attractive does not stop me from being attractive" PERIODT
*BREENY I LOVE YOU, YOU HAVE HELPED BOOST MY CONFIDENCE SO MUCH. I LOVE YOU QUEEN YOU DESERVE THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD*
Yesss
Please subscribe o my channel & lets grow together. My 1st video will be at the end of February, dont miss it!!!
I love how you get straight to the point. TH-camrs be talking wayyyy to much😑
Sha Xx exactly. They spend the first 10 minutes talking about subscribing to their page it makes me sick.
daphnee paul so annoying! Sometimes i’ll just watch something else because of how annoyed it just got me😭
You've changed so much.
Like a completely different person.
I think its infectious.
Be authentic.
You're not looking for acceptance it counts alot.
Its very attractive.
You're beautiful now.
I love how The Lord knows i'm struggling with personality issues and growth in my young transitional years, and just sends a TH-cam blessing like Breeny Lee. A shift is coming. Also this video is exactly one year old, ironic. Love it, love you xx
Your gorgeous!!!
I would love for you to start a podcast, your so motivating and funny at the same time!
I've also grown to realize the beauty of silence n being by myself
I'm still young and I still gotta learn👍🏽
What does that mean ? "beauty of silence"
I embrace this😍
I'm realising the ugliness in silence instead. I need to find the beauty of moderation. When to speak and when to say nothing.
Breeny, I don’t think you realize how helpful your videos are.. God is actually using you to help young women to embrace themselves and believe in themselves. This video was the exact pic me up i needed today.. keep it up.. rooting for you girl! 💃🏽
You’re honestly going to change lives! Imprinting this mindset into young girls as myself is such a game changer loveeeee ur videos so much!
Aisha Hassan 💯
Aisha Hassan completely agree 💯
Such a lit comment 👍🏾🙌🏾
Very true
_sis, i needed to hear this so bad. the thing with me is i'm confident then something bad happens then I'm unhappy for the rest of the day. i need to focus on God and not what other people think. It's a growing process but I know I'll get there._
"now i can relax, now i can breathe".... i always thought how i was feeling was rare...and maybe a little bit crazy...you teached me that it's not. if you are not yourself, its like acting 24/7. That shit is hard
Taught
Exactly. So exhausting constantly being “on” in front of others that I actually feel too drained to want to be around people at all
@@Peanut_taco_muffin but being selfish causes problems too .. arguments, disappointment, pain .. so whats worse.. being lonely and authentic or have people around you and be „on“… i don‘t know so i act again 😔
“ Don’t worry about fitting in when your custom made”🥀
I feel everything she is saying I have allowed my parents, church people, coworkers etc...to impose their opinions on me. It leaves me feeling confused, drained and disappointed in myself for not being who they want me to be.
Yeah, your family and friends matter but God matters the most he said you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Now if I could really get that in my spirit throughout the day is my prayer for me and others. Thanks Breeny I REALLY needed to hear this
Luv Joy I feel you,even at church you can’t avoid some words from them only tried to bring you down. You know yourself better than anyone. & most important is you know better than anyone is your relationship to God.
Luv Joy same here
*nodding furiously in agreement*, church, family, yas, like I need to step up when it comes to strangers and colleagues, but level two is step up to my family too, strange thing is my family will help me step up to the strangers running my life and waging war against me, but my family also has their own way in which they hold me back, I guess God is really needed in that area.
❤️
“Every colour looks good on me” *flips hair* YASSSS BREENY 👌🏾😫 l can’t get over your vibe 👑
I embrace my energetic, unique and quirky personality ♥️
You are amazing, I’m 17 trying to find more acceptance within myself, finding your videos is one blessing to me, thank you so much💖
When you grow up ,Literally things shift naturally...You just gotta do You...People come and go
but he is always there❤️for us
Amen
I’m an introvert., but I learnt with years to just accept it. You cant be appreciated by every one. I’m grateful for everything I have. Thank you God. 🙏
Yes .... i can totally relate people will say why are you so quite it looks like you dont want to bothered.
I totally relate. And besides that, i have social anxiety so when i'm around people and i'm not talking, they say that i'm rude or something.
@@nabifwo I do not have social anxiety but I am very quiet and shy, I was also asked several times "why are you so quiet, you never talk" so I can definitely relate. I have noticed that it has never bother me unless other people pointed it! Last year I started to accept it and god it feels waay better! The first step is accepting yourself and not blaming. I know one day I'll be the person I want to be and wish that to everybody
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10
redviolet t Amen
Amen
Amen
she said " no one is you and that is your power" damn that hit me harrrrddddd
ngl that video really did help i used to compare myself and not speak up and as part of my self love journey ive learn that no one cares so now i do what i want
Girl I’m so proud you make videos talking about this kind of stuff, there’s so many people that don’t realize that self love is more important than anything else and are literally controlled by social media.
I myself can relate to everything you’re mentioning and it’s sad.
I’m so ready for this pep talk you couldn’t have come at a better time Queen 🖤🤗
Yes when I was younger I wasted my time pleasing others and now I'm myself whether anyone likes it or not and focus on pleasing myself❤
Edi Beth absolutely!
Edi Beth I know you should not please others but what if it’s your mom? Should you please her?what if the only reason you’re pleasing her is to saver her life because you don’t want her to get a heart attack and die? For example, I was raped and never told my mom because if I tell her she will surely die from a heart attack. So I’m literally saving her life by not telling her.
Also she had the opportunity to abort me when she was pregnant and she told the doctor no. She kept me so I’m Pleasing her by becoming a doctor for her. she always wanted to see one of her kids become a doctor before she does and since my sister is not doing it im gonna do it. I hate medical school but I feel that if it will make my mom happy I don’t mind goin to 8 years of school. And plus she’s paying for it. Is that bad?
@@daphneepaul3737 if your mom was given the opportunity to abort you and she didn't, then she loved you no matter what. If you were violated and abused and got through it for her and were strong for her, if you finally told her your secret, she will continue to love you more no matter what. If you discontinue medical school and pursue another career, she will love you and support you no matter what because what a mother wants while on this earth is happiness for her children no matter what decisions you make and no matter if they work out or not. AS A MOTHER myself, I promise you, she will love you and support you no matter what❤
Edi Beth ok thanks. I’m quitting cause I hate it. But I’m not gonna tell her about the rape though.
@@daphneepaul3737 there is something special about a woman who surpasses everything that was meant to destroy her. Best of luck on your future endeavors.
The 2019 Philosophy for Success...
Confidence has no competition, find satisfaction within yourself, work toward being significant and express gratitude in every facet of life.
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Damn I just went through a breakup and my self esteem is at the lowest. This video definitely is helping me
"It's human fallen nature to compare" I love it. Thank you Aunty Breeny.
You just breathed life into a business idea that I have! I was scared!
Deja Vu happy for you!!
Here's more 🔥🔥🔥 for the business idea. I too have been inspired to start a creative project.
Same here..I'm baffled at how inspiring and meaningful Breeny's videos have been for me. Thank you
Happy for you... I can relate
I am very independent and introverted and all of my friends are very sociable. I try to do sociable for them but it’s hard because being outgoing is draining for me and if I just need a day of alone time they feel like I’m ignoring them. It makes me have a guilty feeling when I just need to put my phone down and stay to myself for a day.
How are you ignoring when you are just doing your own thang.. maybe they not doing what they need to do for themselves it's so sad . They probably ain't got nothing going on with their life simple
You would never have guilty feelings with good friends only toxic friends gives you that guilty feeling 💔
My life!
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Yes !!!!
“every color looks good on me babes”❗️ yasss ma’am!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I’ve gone to counseling for years and your advice hits the nail on the head. The minute we no longer NEED that validation from others, we are free!
sis your advice is literally gold. "you don't worry about fitting in when you're custom made" 🤩🤩🤩💛💛💛💛💛
I clicked SO fast!!🔥🔥😍
Strive to be better today than you were yesterday! Compete with yourself 👌
TRUST IN GOD NOT OTHERS TO VALIDATE YOU 🤗🤗🤗
Hallelujah!!
Rachel Nicole That’s the key to it all🕊
People on social media represent who they want to be than than who they are !!!! Point
I have to learn how to stop apologizing. 😩tired of apologizing for every lil thing. I’m gonna make this an affirmation. And start teaching myself not to say I’m sorry so much
This video felt like a warm hug! Thanks for posting it!
I realized that I will NEVER be able to make everyone happy. I have to do what I have to do for MYSELF and my mental 🤷🏾♂️ Period. If it makes me happy then I’m doing it lol. Idc who thinks I’m wrong or that I’m not doing what I’m “supposed” to do. I learned that if I am not going to be myself, then I could loose myself along the way in the future. So glad I’m getting my life 😩 Like seriously Breeny you changed my life. 🙏🏾
It is WILD that you wanted a nose job, you've actually got the cutest nose I've ever seen. Like literally it's perfect for your face.
Yasssssss
"You don't worry about fitting in when your custom made" loved that
Start trusting your opinions your thoughts and judgements I am learning that. You can't be on 10 daily as Breeny said. I will continue having the confidence I used to and learn to get over my beauty/not enough thing by not seeking validation and let go of my insecurities. This video was helpful.
"Sometimes you can't look like Naomi Campbell sometimes you'll look like Meek Mill in prison" I laughed at that
Thank you 😊 I needed this so much! I’m never myself, I’m naturally a very talkative fun and cheerful person, but I’ve always cared about what others think about me and am always shy and quiet because I feel that if I show my true self everyone will judge me. 😫💕✨
I relate sooooo much to this! I’m a free spirit but I’ve always have cared what people thought so I am quiet and shy. Have u overcame this yet ?
And how if u have ?
I AM ENOUGH! ❤️
How do you deal with negativity? Don't!!!😎
Yesss!...Don't deal with it
Genius
I’m so glad I stumbled upon this channel. I’ve binged watched your videos today! Keep doing what you’re doing 💖
She has her own attitude- I love it. You may enjoy Matthew Hussey as well.
MS TAVONDA I'm binge watching right now. She is A-MAZING! 💜💜💯💯💯💯💪💪💪
@Elizabeth Mary This channel is one of the best things that has happened to my life. I’m 37 and finally doing the work to be become a better version of me in every aspect of my life❤️
MS TAVONDA I just turned 25 last week & for the last year or so I've been trying to find myself & who God wants me to be. Its been pretty difficult though because I'm wanting to be me but still have that mindset of not wanting to disappoint people or doing things wrong even if it's not. 🙍 But between Breeny, Lavendaire, Asha C. & Kayln Nicholson I think I'll get myself together eventually. I'm not trying to waste anymore time living for other people & comparing myself.
@Elizabeth Mary Recognizing what you want and who you want to be is the first step! You have a solid foundation of women or a tribe that you follow and inspires u to be better! Girl u got this do you! 💖
I watched this video so many times 1 yr ago when I couldn’t even eat in front of others, go out without makeup & constantly ASK for permission & validation, all due to being insecure. Now I’ve made a lot of progress, still not fully there, deleted social media, love myself 1000x more now💞Thanks to Breeny & ofc myself! Thanks SO much Breeny. I can’t describe my gratitude 🙏 You are so extremely wise at 27 yo. Absolutely amazing
you don't worry about fitting in when you're custom made, yes queen 💕
i truly love your content, no jokes. its not only for girls, but boys too. what makes you different from the others is the fact that u r a beautiful woman, and God fearing too. that's awesome . keep doing what u r doing, and the LORD will grant all ur heart desires in His riches in Glory. may God bless you and your work..... AMEN!!
mbeing forgwei I agree with this beautiful comment, and I’m an atheist! 😂
You don’t worry about fitting in when you’re custom made... def my new fav quote 💜
I’m really liking these pep talks!!!! Keep em coming 🙌🏽
It’s funny how she commented about disliking her nose cuz I actually LOVE her nose!
I actually was focused on my nose too. I wanted to get it done but randomly I stopped thinking about it and now I’m fine with it
YOU DONT WORRY ABOUT FITTING IN WHEN YOURE CUSTOM MADE - THISSSS 🖤
Sweatpants, hair tied with no makeup has been me for the past few weeks recently. Took a break from writing my uni dissertation to watch you Breeny ! Always love your advice videos xx
AuNaturelle99 congrats on uni dissertation
Just saying ur video about leveling up really impacted me, I was everything u described in that video and I’m so glad I’m taking the steps to change for the better
“Opinions are like arse holes, everybody has them” enough said, point blank period! 👏🏽👌🏽
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that’s so me. i’m realizing that i’m not myself around anyone. it’s not thag i change but that i will up my energy bc i feel like i need to be the happiest most energetic person otherwise people will feel unhappy around me. when i get home from hanging out i literally cry and feel depressed from having to act so HIHIHIHIHII all day. i’m introverted and i’m calm and i also deal with anxiety and depression so having to act happy all the time is beyond draining. but i fear being my normal self and calm self will be boring or make people go away
be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
I really need to stop comparing myself to others. It's deadly.
This came at the RIGHT time. I’m 17, 18 in 2 months and one of my most toxic traits is that I am so reliant on other people. I really don’t know myself, I thought I did but I realized I try to find myself in others (whether it be relationships or friendships). Then when they leave me, I don’t know what to do without them, I’d say borderline depressed. I hate to say it but I loveeee validation..but when the one that gave it to me doesn’t “want” me anymore I just plummet. I wish I could be self dependent but it’s so hard for me 😭 one minute I think I’m so secure but if ONE person looks at me side ways my feelings are hurt. Hopefully I’m able to work on myself, know my worth, and just be happy on my own
Girl I really believe that you can do it ! Believe in yourself ❤
2019 is the year we're all thriving sis, and you just KNOW you're gonna work on this!! It's never easy and takes so much time, but you can work through this--hell, the mere acknowledgement that this is a probably is a good start, and you can build on this❤ don't give up.
I'm the same way damn never had someone else phrase it that exact way. It's so true
Lauryn H. same,,,
shahahazadiii 1812 don’t worry. Write everything u like about yourself in your notebook and create a vision board. You can buy a poster board at Walmart and start putting down your vision on it.
Oh my! Loving all your quotes and comments! Loving this lil community we got going on! Thank you all for watching!! Looking forward to seeing all my UK Women at my VISION BOARD PARTY this weekend! Only a few tickets left if you want to be there! Let's change the way we do life this year! Get your tickets here: goo.gl/WmkumY ❤️
Love your confidence and realness hun! Thank you for these videos.. You're just saying what we allllll thinking but too scared to say lol xxx
Love this and your other video's, oh and your hair is amazing girl :)
Yeesss! Spit that truth sista!
I love your level of ‘woke’ girl.i need friends like you 🔥💅🏾
I love you, girl. #CustomMade 🙌😙
This video has just made me feel 1000 times better this is just what I needed x
Wow...your videos have really opened up my eyes about the misconceptions I had about myself. I've loved so many people in my life but at some point they would hurt me and leave me broken. At some point in my life I realized that when push comes to shove, I was the only person I could depend on. Now those whom I love dearly critise and insult me but now I just glance at them, keep quiet and walk away, I prefer to steer away from negativity and things that will make me feel less of a person who deserves the love I give to others.
Omg this is why I love you. I started to love myself and be by myself a lot and I found that it made me very confident. The people who overlooked me are now blowing my phone up and I'm like nah I'm good luv enjoy!
I like that...I'm not gonna let your compliment control me!
Tryphena Eady Me too
please don't stop your positivity ! i really love your videos thanks for the cheers up
Honestly I felt like you were speaking to my soul. There is so much that I have been holding onto and by the end of this video I felt free. Thank you so much love!
I cant believe i ever hated myself.woi so many things about me to love. I am a very beautiful intelligent woman. Dont worry about fitting in when you custom made. Whew. So much relief there. I have decided to get to know myself ,accepté me for who i am then love me. Its a three step process. This IS thé best vidéo i have ever watched on self esteem
You're so bloody gorgeous oh my god.
I LOVE it when you’re like “Oh my God I just felt the Holy Ghost” because SAME girl!!!! Do you pray before you speak on TH-cam? I feel like you do because you have so much wisdom! God Bless, keep being your wonderful self 👑❤️
Eloise McDermott God has blessed her
That quote literally liberated me
I just want to say thank you Brenny i have been struggling with finding myself and caring about what people think of me all my life and it has destroyed me now trying to find myself and self confidence has been so hard thank You for the words of confidence you are AMAZING!!!!!!
I Love your ATTITUDE an How Unbothered you are your personality is everything 💯❤
Yes i agree ! comparison is the worst. I also can relate to people pleasing . I have a bad habit of trying to make others feel good , like its my job smh…so i find myself people pleasing a lot
must stop !!!
Lol I so relate to this. My self esteem used to be so high but not in an egotistical way. It's now not that great, I genuinely have no idea what I'm doing or what version of myself I actually am. 😂
Same
Too relatable 😞
how to be confident: Know who you are in jesus christ, nothing more, case solved
Sounds good to me 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Preaaaaaach
Hallelujah, Amen!
Amen sister!!!!
Jesus Christ***
You're awesome Breeny. Do more on self-esteem. I shared your video with a friend whose going through some challenge of lacking confidence in herself.
I am so confident in myself all the time everyday in my life. I don't care what other peoples thinks of me for no reasoning at odd. I am going through lots of things like this in my life trying deal with it for a long time. Thanks to you girl now I know how to deal with this kind bad negative peoples and energy around me.