You could see the nervousness in every parent as they were preparing to say I love you. I know in Asian culture, emotions are not easily expressed, but this was very touching.
It's kind of sad to think something is wrong when parents say I love you to their children. You tell the sincerity in the last lady's voice, others also realize the importance. I tell my mom and siblings regularly that I love them, but actions say a whole lot as well.
in Asian culture, we know our parents love us when they show us how hard they work to keep us afloat. They remind us of why they work hard and of their struggles and why we need to work hard ourselves. We are shown love in a different asian way but we never doubt the love is not there. Edit: good to know I stirred a can of worms. Now I rememeber why I shouldn't post comments online, because we all become keyboard justice warriors lol. Just love your child whichever way you see fit. A children loved is one children saved. How you believe that to be right for you, I hope you practice it to the best of your abilities. ✌️ ☮️
@@yeloautosports This is not true, some may doubt the love if they don't hear it. Words are still important. I'm sure a lot of Asian people WANT to hear it, but it's just so normalized not to say it. This needs to change.
@@yeloautosports I have to agree with the other commenter, love can easily be doubted if it's never expressed directly. "I love you" is an unmistakable show of love, but working hard for your children can mean many things that have nothing to do with love. Asian parents are often fixated on public image, for example, so it's entirely possible that some parents make sacrifices for their children because it's what they have to do to maintain their status among their peers.
@@yeloautosports it's common, but that doesn't make it the best thing to do. it is very common for children from cultures like this (i am not Asian so i am not and will not make assumptions about that, but my culture is the same about this one thing) to feel like they are failures or burdens to their parents, or that their successes are not appreciated while their failures are always seen and commented upon. not every child struggles with this. but many do, so it would be good if more parents felt like they could be open about their feelings with their kids, both happy and sad. i think it is good for the parents too. they are not bad people for raising their kids the way they know how, and they DO express love just in different ways (another comment somewhere mentioned "have you eaten?" which is an expression of love i heard all the time growing up!) but they deserve to feel like they can be open too. it feels good to express your love openly! when i learned how to do it i could see how happy it made the people i love and that's a good feeling. everyone deserves that.
These parents were also children who probably grew up without receiving an 'I love you' and you see how liberating and emotional it is for them to finally say it ❤️
Hey man, I seen your pfp.. how are you doing? Is everything okay? I hope your life is good and wish nothing but happiness for you. If you’re going through something, know that everything happens for a reason and it’ll pass.. even though it doesn’t seem like it. Stay strong and patient! Sending you love ❤️
I've told my son I love him nearly every day since he was an infant. We've never ended a phone conversation without his saying he loves me -- even if his friends are there with him.
My grandpa was like this. He never had a childhood, he didn’t know what “love” was. Even when he had his kids he didn’t know how to say the words, but once he started having grandchildren things started to change. He loved his family and always showed it through his actions, it wasn’t till later he was able to show it through words.
@gökotta words and actions should go hand in hand. actions are what prove our feelings to be true, but language is what clarifies to our loved ones what those feelings are
@@TawnyPicard no they don't. They expect allot from there kids because they never had the opportunity themselves maybe you should look up how much millions of people died because of the great leap forward then get back to me
I think some of those kids were probably shocked and didn’t know what to say but I hope in the long run this brought families closer together or at least some peace.
I know I would have been shocked. One time I got mad at my dad, which never happens, but he kept doing something I really hated and I exploded, then he told me he loved me, I couldn't say it back that was way too awkward. My parents never tell me they love me. I wish I was used to it though and they did say it.
This must be so nice to hear coming from your parents. I only really heard my dad say “i love you” to me, but never from my mom. I literally hate this about Asian culture, being so emotionally reserved and not being expressive about their feelings. I don’t want kids but I do have a nephew now and I literally tell him I love you all the time! I don’t care if its awkward for my brother to hear me say it to his kid, but I want him to grow up getting used to hearing those words- even if my brother and his wife won’t. I want my nephew to get used to hearing “i love you” and not cringe. And be able to say “i love you” back without feeling like running away in a corner feeling embarrass about saying it.
It's not just Asian culture. My mother is American of British and Scottish descent, and she never said she loved me until I was thirty years old and had produced a grandson for her.
Just out of curiosity - do you feel like the way your parents are (your mom in particular) played a big role in you not wanting kids? As for myself, my mother has always been very controlling and it was always her way or the highway - basically your usual tiger mom. I've personally seen how my sister's kids are a source of multiple issues between my sister and my mom. She has even caused a rift in the past between her and her husband due to her personality although that has since been resolved. For these reasons, I've also had no interest in having kids.
Im german. My grandma hardly ever told anybody that she loved them. She grew up during the second world war and I think she was still traumatized. My granddad is a hopeless romantic 🙂I always knew that my grandma loved me dearly. She made my favourite meals when I stayed with my grandparents, she watched movies with me and we often ate icecream. she always scolded my in her own way.... "be nice to your mother- you should be glad, that you even have one!", "wear some propper clothing- it is cold"..... even some tips on parenting I used for my own child. I miss you granny. Your potatosoup was a thousand "I love you"s worth!
There are generally two types of Chinese parents, the tiger parents who never really showed their affection to you but cares about you behind your back, or the Chinese parents who are caring and kind and give you the support you need. Chinese parents normally show their love through actions instead of actually saying I love you.
Lack of affection is such huge a issue with Asian upbringings. It really creates generations of broken people who struggle for the rest of their lives to feel affection.
I wouldn’t say it’s lack of affection, it’s just Asians have a different way of expressing it compared to what Americans are used to. An example is statistically a lot of Asian parents support their kids all the way through college without exception. It’s quite common for parents to go up to HS and say “you’re on your own” once their kids hit college. From what I see though, Asians are quite willing to support them through it and even beyond if they can. Basically my point is is that Asians tend to prefer actions over words. I’d say that is one of the biggest reasons why our families are close with each other even if we never verbally express it. But I do agree that parents should remove the cold face and verbally communicate with their kids more often. It goes a long way to tell your kids you’re truly appreciative of their company
its not that we dont love eachother, its just that we usually do it through actions (e.i cooking favorite meals, support in hobbies, even small help in homework)
@@emaiden Very true! I think Asians brought up in the West will tend to compare their Asian parents to other parents. This creates a sense of lack and deficit - why don't I get hugs and kisses, or words of love. But as you said it's simply expressed in caring actions rather than specific actions of affection.
I feel like loving your family no matter what is also super big in america and we're taught to say we love someone without really knowing what the word means. Its more of a greeting or salutation then it is something meaningful
Instead of Asian parents directly saying “I love you” to their kids, instead they say things like.. “Did you eat? Go eat” “Wear warm clothes” “Drive safe and take care of yourself” and being strict to them, that’s their way of showing love 😂❤️
Ellen well idk.. my parents also say I love you occasionally too but majority of asian parents don’t say it cause it’s too awkward and would rather say other things to express i love you
@@dvorah346 yeah I agree. My parents would never say that. We just didn't grow up like that. People might think that we are just overreacting and should say I love you but trust me it's one of the hardest things to do for most asians.
@@penguins647 They need to express it back in words, it is not good to hide emotions, so I feel something is wrong there and you can see how painful it is for the parents, they say they always wanted to say I love you, but the tradition in the East prevents them from doing so. Hopefully over time this will change because look how much happier they are once they say this and it builds up the Kids confidence also and makes everybody feel good to hear this from parent or son.
Yeah the dad looked a little sad when the son only said okay. He did tell his dad to take care of himself and his health so the speculation of the son being a bit flustered and not knowing how to respond (although it’s common sense for us to just say it back) isn’t a stretch. I guess that’s how he puts his love into words if he’s not used to actually saying “I love you.”
I loved all these parents. The man at 2:42 made me smile especially. The son immediately thanking him and saying that he loved him back makes me think he says it more often than other dads. Bless all these kind people 🙏
That is kinda sus actually. In my Asian family, we never really say, "I love you" to each other. Actually, we don't even hug each other. If my family said that our of the blue, I'd be pretty suspicious of them.
For someone that grew up in an Asian household: being told ‘ I love you’ or ‘ I’m proud of you’ is something that never happens. Idk I just find it so nice when I hear ‘ I love you’ from my friend’s parents. It kinda hurts, maybe they’re busy is what I think.
growing up in america with my chinese mom she always told me how much she loved me and the words spoken by the lady in the video near the end were words my own mother always told me. my mom passed away last year and this video really reminded me of her
Me: calls my mom and tells her I love her after this video. Mom: what did you break? Me: nothing mom, just wanted to say I love you Mom: you broke something didn't you? Me: no- Mom: stop lying I'm coming home now Me: 👁️👄👁️
Once my mom called me and suddenly said "I love you" and I was just speechless.. I really got scared and left way early from school and ran all the way to home to check if she's alright or not! As I reached the home and went inside I saw her laughing and smiling while watching TV.. I immediately sat on the floor and started crying. My mom was so surprised that she came hugged me right away! And I never heard my parents say I love you more often so that was really precious.. now whenever they praise me or say good about me I record it my phone cuz it's really rare and that's my true treasure.....
@@dennisengelen2517 Sometimes, parents have a hard time expressing their gratitude and love for their children. Especially if they never felt it or their parents never said "I love you" to them. They show their affection in other ways, like taking care of the child, feeding the child, doing activities together, traveling, etc.
I truly thought every parent said "i love you" to their kids. I'm finding this out just now, lol. I'm Brazilian and we are really "warm" here, meaning we are all into hugs, kisses and we always say I love you to the people we love. My parents say it to me all the time and i say it back.
Yeah I'm not Brazilian but my family is super affectionate. It's nice. I just think letting people know ya love them is important. It's like my chest will swell with love if I don't express it to people
My family gives each other hugs and says I love you (USA), but I’ve met families both in and out of my culture who do it so much that it shocks ME. It would be funny to see a super outwardly affectionate family (like yours) to hang out with a loving but not outwardly affectionate family (like the ones in this video). I feel like everyone’s minds would be blown haha
Nós temos o costume inclusive de conversar com o bebê ainda na barriga kskkk falar que já amam, que quando nascer vai ser feliz, saudável, é algo tão fofo, descobri agora que não é comum no resto do mundo
I am Asian. My parents never say “I love you”. I think even if someone asks them to say that, they would feel so weird and not able to say it. Why? That’s how they are brought up. they were born in tough time, their main goals were survival and their all got tough love growing up. They are not used to hugs and kisses or sweet words. If you surrounded by loving words growing up, then expressing it would be normal and easy so you might find it’s hard to believe that’s it’s difficult for some other people just to say I love you. But if you see it from their shoes, growing up never hearing such words, then expressing is is not easy. my parents never express their love with words, they just not used to it. But do they love us? Of course, they love us to death. They work day and night and sacrifice everything to bring us up. They never have a day off. My father is the kind of dad who would stop what’s he doing no matter how busy he is and spend the rest of the day making us some handmade toy even when he knows we might just get bored of it the next hour. My mom is the mom who would put herself last in line for anything. Love doesn’t have to be expressed with words.
Agree, they clearly love you deeply. But it's sad to feel unable to say it. They grew up in tough times...but so did my mother, and my great grandparents, and they were showered with "I love you" and physical affection by their family members. Those things make even brutal times easier to bear. I grew up poor enough that we were cold in winter and had to stand in lines to get food handouts. But I always was told how loved I was, was hugged and kissed. I was given time, and knew the people who loved me worked so hard for my welfare...I just also heard the words directly. I wish your parents had families able to give them that gift. They clearly deserved it ❤️
@@melissasaint3283 thank you. My country went through hundreds of years in wars with various countries. My parents were born in wars time, not just wars But also the living conditions and horrible culture at the times makes it hard. There’s starvation, slavery, foreign domination etc. During my grandparents life time, poor people being treated less than animals, especially woman, it’s part of the stupid domination strategy, when people were so poor, so illiterate, they’re easier to be exploited. I don’t know the proper words to explain it. Both my parents lost their fathers at very young age. My grandmas had to toughen up to protect their kids, and to survive. They worked day and night non stop and lucky enough to get by. The children would be taking care of themselves. Even in my childhood times when the wars were over, we still had hard time with food, we had to eat insects like grasshoppers, so I can’t imagine what the previous generations had to go through. I don’t think they had time to even sit together, let alone showing affection.
My parents don't say "I love you" to me and my brother on a regular basis, but we both feel how much they love us. I just feel people framing it as "sad" that parents don't tell their kids they love them are just not able to get past their own way of thinking and what they consider to be normal.
Maria ღ in Asian culture(or at least Chinese), the parents don’t often say “I love you.” So when your parents say it, it’s a rare occurrence and the response “ok” or “I know” is common. Or at least it’s common in my Chinese household. I can’t talk for everyone ._.
i mean he never only said that, he said other loving comments such as "take care of your health, dad". plus (as @twig said) "okay" means "me too" or "i know" in asian culture especially chinese and korean.
A lot of people say actions speak louder than words, but don’t underestimate the power of words. Being told by your parents that they love you and are proud of you is actually very important.
yes completely agree. even when you're really close with each other it's really necessary to keep reminding each other these things. this simple three words can literally mean a lot to someone
As an Asian I m jealous of ppl who hug and exchange I love yous everyday I m gonna try saying it to my mom tomorrow if she reacts positively imma continue or nah I did he dead
I think it's just what they're used, anyone's free to correct me but I've heard they don't express feelings easily, making this video more powerful. Even if, the kid did say "take care of yourself", and that's something
yes that's true, Asian parents don't express affection as much as other cultures. my mom is Japanese, and while she did say she loves me from time to time, I don't feel comfortable expressing my love or admiration openly toward anyone except my partner. It really makes me sad that I don't feel like I can truly express my love for my family members, it feels like they'll never know how much I truly care for them. I plan to change that when I have kids so they'll always know and feel secure.
It breaks my heart to heart to hear a parent say " I love you " to their child for the first time, and their own child is so unaccustomed to it they don't know how to respond, and just wish them good health. They must have been hoping deep in their hearts that their child would say " I love you" in return. Every child needs to know their parents love them. And every parent needs to hear it back. It's just part of the human experience. We are meant to love, and be loved. Love is not just romance. It's honor, and dedication, and sacrifice, and charity, and selflessness, and humility, and kindness, and empathy, and compassion, and loyalty... it's getting up at 3 am to get a babies fever down, and calling your mom on a random day just to say hi, and that you're thinking of her. While showing love is wonderful, HEARING it is truly healing to wounds we didn't even know we had.
Yeah this is what gets me. I have three kids 12,11,3 and maybe one on the way. Every day I tell them I love them and give them positive reinforcement we need to build kids up not tear them down for small things.
its asian culture. we show love in different ways. But i agree it would be nice to hear. It doesnt mean we dont feel like our parents love us, its just that we know they love us because of the actions they do and the things they remind us of on the daily. just a cultural thing i guess
You've got to wonder how they reacted when they ended the call with their parent. I'd imagine at least some of them found it very powerful to hear. And I love that they wish them good health and tell them to take care of themselves as well. It's precious to see them smile afterwards too
I know most say “that’s how Asian parents are, it’s part of their culture, we have to understand them” but not showing affection to your child in any way really messes up with them. Like, I appreciate I got a home, food and clothes, but damn an “I love you, I’ve always been proud of you” could’ve changed so many things in my life.
Their way of showing affection is different. Being strict is a way they show affection. In Chinese, there is a saying " yelling is caring, hitting is loving " ( or something like that). It does sound a bit mess up but they grow up with this idea.
@@killerqueen8373 Agree but if I was to say it first to my parents , they would reply back, but I just can't say it. Pretty weird that I can say I love you to my friends but not my family. My sister on the other hand say it often to our parent and they reply back with I love u too .
It's sad that most of the kids didn't say it back because they're not used to it. Incredibly brave of these parents to do this and I hope it becomes more of a cultural norm to exchange like this :)
I tell my kids I love them constantly. They are autistic and my daughter doesn’t always say it back. It’s fine with me. She shows me in her way. My son couldn’t speak until he was 8 and now tells me he loves me all day long. I’m so glad these people were able to express their love out loud to their children. Hugs💕✨
My grandma cried when one of my uncle says before ending a call that he loves her, and ever since then my grandma has the habit to always say "i love you" whenever a call ends. Its such a cute thing and warms me everytime i hear them exchange it.
Brings me back to my time living in China 😅 glad I managed to understand some of it without the substitutes still. In my experience chinese show their affection typically more with gestures than words. Met a lot of great people there and the country itself has some incredibly beautiful landscapes, covid didn’t make it easy being there at the time but always look back on my time there as a great experience.
If my mom tells me “I love you” I will probably break down. It’s not that she doesn’t love me or I don’t love her... it’s just, we never clearly said these 3 words..
@Aon E It’s apart of culture because well idk damn, no Asians teach a kid about why they do that. It’s more of a cycle, being raised in a strict family with less affection, the child raised strictly having another family and raising them the same way their family taught them. It’s 90% the environment and generation teachings, some can be genetic. If it’s really bad to the point of mental issues, it can be linked to your newborn as well, as long as you give them love even when it’s so hard to because saying “I love you” is very new to your culture/family. All depends on how you were raised.
@Aon E I actually dont really think it is about culture. Some people just have trouble expressing their feelings. For example, I grew up in Mexico with really lovely parents and an expressive family. However, I find it really hard to say "I love you" to my parents while they find easy saying those words to me. Why do I find it hard? Idk, I am just not used to say that, and that is the main reason of why I dont use those words. If I say I love you to them, it would be too emotionless :b
@@diegozarate4328 thats true as well. but as an asian, i would definitely say that its also apart of culture. none of my asian friends and I ever heard our parents say those words except for 1 because her parents want their child to know that she is loved since both her parents always doubted if their parents even liked them. and its honestly rlly uncomfortable for me to say it to my parents (not that i ever did, but videos like this makes me think). i say it to my friends all the time but i would nvr say it to anybody in my family. thats why i agree with u and Aoe E. then again, it might be because im not close to any of them. coming from a person that cried when her father apologised for the first time. maybe my family aint right
It's so foreign to me, that in some cultures they just don't say I love you to their family often or at all. Where as me, myself, I say it whenever I say see my parents, and then say goodbye. This was really touching to see
In our arab culture we dont hear this world and fear an exession of our feelings so l envy you that you can say this world l csn not because they didnot say to me before💔
i hope the son feels the same way. i'm hispanic but my dad has never said it, so i don't imagine the day he says it (if he ever does lol) I'll be able to respond easily. i love my dad but they're hard words to get out when your family has never been that way.
jupiter I say it but they never say it back and rarely say i love you. I can’t even remember the last time my dad or mum has said that to me. they call me bad name more than they show affection
Man, as a Chinese kid who never really had any emotions expressed in my family, it really made me cry after I heard them say I love you because ik I’d be so confused if my mom was okay or not after saying that It’s kind of sad how we feel this way when it should be normalized, but all I’m trying to say that I can understand the emotions they feel right now
Chinese parents rarely say “I love you”, they do whatever it takes to protect their families. A great culture, great people, say less, do more, proud of Chinese.
My parents didn't start directly saying that to me until I was in my 20s. Every single time, I thought they were about to tell me someone was dying. We were all first generation Americans, though I was only 1 when we got here, so I'm not exactly FOB, but they were/are.
I still remember being Asian my parents don't show any emotions . But one morning my mom very lovingly said she loves me and is going and I thought she is going to work like normal and I teased her like I love u tooo maa , and she never returned . She with an accident on the day. It's been two years , I miss u ma. Love u❤️
I didn't let a day go by without telling my kids I loved them, and even then, I worry that I didn't show it enough. I can't imagine a kid growing up and never hearing that from a parent.
It is more important to show it and support. I've had pretty shit parents and I'll feel like I've missed the normal things in life which makes me a bad partner as well. I am focusing on improving myself though, my parents did not improve themselves and I don't want to continue that tradition.
@Flower7 Same here. I see so many people say that they feel like they're not doing well as a parent but I know damn well they are doing way better than my parents ever did☠️
ツMyrthe Well THATS becuase the children never hear that often. It makes them uncomfortable or confused. But also happy, like their parents, they hide their emotion.
I get that there is a cultural difference, but me not telling my parents i love them on a regular basis makes me feel bad. Open love with your parents is important and this was kinda heart melting to see. I love these people with all my heart.
They do. My mom says I love you whenever she makes sure I have food, or whenever she goes out of her way for me. My dad says I love you when he comes home from work and makes sure I understand my homework, and always tells me well done when I've scored a hundred, and when he takes the time to explain computer science to me because I said it was interesting.
It’s not saying they don’t love their kids It’s that they should also be telling them Never underestimate the power of words Just because they never used them doesn’t make them unimportant Knew a girl who broke down crying because her parents never told her they loved her or were proud of her like all her friends’ parents did, thought she was an obligation not seen as a person with her own thoughts She came out as lgbt and asked if they loved her They disowned her
@@samuraix558 I understand your point but, those 3 words are sooo powerful. I've not heard them from my parents but my boyfriend and it helped me a lot with my self esteem
It's jarring when you aren't used to hearing. My African mother started telling me she loves me when I was an adult and it was hard to say it back in my Native language. It felt weird because culturally speaking, parents and children don't declare their love for each other like that, so we started saying it in English. It was a happy medium.
you know sometime Chinese parents just be timid to say some emotional words to us，it makes them kind of embarrassed。but they love us so much，give us all of what they have
I feel u I’m sobbing in an ocean like I’m cosplaying the ocean I can’t take it I can’t help but cry when someone else does and those words I don’t know if I’m gonna exsperience them but let’s keep on with life
陈明 I’m Chinese and My mom says it to me and my siblings but I guess it’s cause we’re still kids my dad used to say it to me but him and my mom got a Divorce and I live with my mom and my mom hates my dad so she doesn’t let me see him but I have a step dad and when he says “I love you” to me I never know what to say back cause I don’t love him so I just walk away
Westerners can't understand how very RARE it is for an asian parents to say just that. I mean look at my parents im 19 2nd year college and it's been two years since i heard them saying "I love you son" "Im very proud of you" the emotion just suddenly burst out like a dynamite or something
decades go by, its extremely rare to hear these 3 incredible words. i mean yeah, i agree with most of the comments, i'd be questioning my asian parents what's wrong and why so sudden, but can you imagine what could've changed throughout your own childhood if you heard this. it's heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time.
Not just asians, its common in many cultures. It really sucks, I dont even know my dad anymore. I can go weeks not talking to him, simply because there is nothing there for us to talk about. He never liked to check up on us when we were young and never really got involved, yeah he worked and provided which I am grateful for, but in terms of communication, its not there. Hes just another stranger to me, it really hurts.
It breaks me to tears to see old Asian men telling their kids they love them. These men are stoic and probably come from parents even less affectionate.
The good part is that they are saying “I love you” and the sad part is it’s very true that Asian parents have a very hard time saying they love their children, I’m also Asian myself and I have never heard my parents say “I love you” till my 16 birthday
It only takes one time. I’ve never heard these words from my mom, may she rest in peace, but I know in my heart that she loved me. When you have demons to battle, I’m sure it can be very hard to speak freely. 😔 Tell your kids you love them, validation can be a life saver.
This hit home so much. As a Filipino grandchild, growing up I'd always feel a sort of way when i'd say "I love you" to my grandma and she'd be like "mhm" and "okay" and now I've realized its a generational thing. I'm glad my mom is as loving as she is, and has inspired me to say "I love you" to all of my loved ones and friends before departing simply because that may be the last time you ever see them.
Yes! 😂 or when there are babies and they would playfully hit them (not hard don’t worry) and they say, “that’s how we show at love to you” now when I beat the shit out of siblings I’ll say “it’s my love towards them” but it ain’t really lol.
Clorox Bleach when my mom comes home from work and brings home my favorite snacks I can see that she loves me. When she tells me to drive slower and carefully because of the rain, I can feel that she loves me.
I am literally sobbing. This was so difficult for them. I'm so proud of them. And I'm sure their children needed to hear those words at least once in their lives❤️
My guess is that these parents were initially offered some $$ to phone their kids to say "I love you", and after the call maybe some felt emotional and declined the $$ offer.
My brother is 13 years younger than me, if my mom called him to say I love you he wouldn't think much of it but if she called me I would freak out 😆 Can you guess which one of us is more used to hearing it from her?
My mother also does the same thing, and if I forget to say that I love her, I rush to call her and say that I love her. I still tell my dad that I love him when I'm leaving for work.
"The first time it is the hardest" -- That is true! When I was a teenager a friend of mine was having problems with his dad. He was not living the life his father wanted for him so they always fought. I remember one day him saying that his father was arguing with him and he responded to his dad something like "Why is this so important to you? You are not the person that I most love...", And he told me with the most sincere regret, because he knew how hurtful it was. He also said that he realized he never said "I love you" to his dad. And then it hit me: I also never had said it to my father. My father also never said it to me. That got into my head. It took me several years, but I finally did it. After my 20s, maybe when I was 25 or something. I threw "i love you" in a conversation. It was a text message and the tone was incredibly casual. But internally it was so important to me that I cried after I sent it. And after that, I've said several times again. And he started saying it to me. And now we exchange that we love each other whenever we text message. It is simple, but honest. The first time was the hardest, and then it became natural because it is true.
It’s touching how emotional they get when they express their love with words for the first time. Blessings to them all and I hope they can continue to connect with their loved ones on a more deep level.
Having Asian parents, I can confirm that they rarely say "I love you" (mine at least) Instead they worry about how I need to get above 98 for every test (very precise I know)
My parents say ‘I love you’ once everyday, they hug me everyday. I think it’s because their parents never showed any affection to them. I love them so much ❤
Asian parents: I love you
Their child: **audible confusion**
lmao that's clever
😂😂😂
I'd totally as well, as its not common to say those 3 words. It'd probably be told only when the parents are about to die / kill themselves.
@@birdieculture I’m Asian. It’s a joke
I made the no.of likes from 999 to 1000
It's so exciting to do this stuff
I'm happy🥰
If my mother called and said I love you I'd probably think that she is dying or about to commit a crime.
Can relatr
omg so my dad
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same
Same.
You could see the nervousness in every parent as they were preparing to say I love you. I know in Asian culture, emotions are not easily expressed, but this was very touching.
some asian cultures. South East Asians dont have a problem telling their kids they love them XDXD
their kids probably think they're going to off themselves or something.
Hey I’m Asian
@@Waltyworld hey man✋🏾
They express is through their actions. Much more powerful than saying I love you.
It's kind of sad to think something is wrong when parents say I love you to their children. You tell the sincerity in the last lady's voice, others also realize the importance. I tell my mom and siblings regularly that I love them, but actions say a whole lot as well.
in Asian culture, we know our parents love us when they show us how hard they work to keep us afloat. They remind us of why they work hard and of their struggles and why we need to work hard ourselves. We are shown love in a different asian way but we never doubt the love is not there.
Edit: good to know I stirred a can of worms. Now I rememeber why I shouldn't post comments online, because we all become keyboard justice warriors lol. Just love your child whichever way you see fit. A children loved is one children saved. How you believe that to be right for you, I hope you practice it to the best of your abilities.
✌️ ☮️
@@yeloautosports This is not true, some may doubt the love if they don't hear it. Words are still important. I'm sure a lot of Asian people WANT to hear it, but it's just so normalized not to say it. This needs to change.
@@yeloautosports I have to agree with the other commenter, love can easily be doubted if it's never expressed directly. "I love you" is an unmistakable show of love, but working hard for your children can mean many things that have nothing to do with love. Asian parents are often fixated on public image, for example, so it's entirely possible that some parents make sacrifices for their children because it's what they have to do to maintain their status among their peers.
@@yeloautosports it's common, but that doesn't make it the best thing to do. it is very common for children from cultures like this (i am not Asian so i am not and will not make assumptions about that, but my culture is the same about this one thing) to feel like they are failures or burdens to their parents, or that their successes are not appreciated while their failures are always seen and commented upon. not every child struggles with this. but many do, so it would be good if more parents felt like they could be open about their feelings with their kids, both happy and sad.
i think it is good for the parents too. they are not bad people for raising their kids the way they know how, and they DO express love just in different ways (another comment somewhere mentioned "have you eaten?" which is an expression of love i heard all the time growing up!) but they deserve to feel like they can be open too. it feels good to express your love openly! when i learned how to do it i could see how happy it made the people i love and that's a good feeling. everyone deserves that.
@@yeloautosports my parents whooped me and tied me to a tree full of ants. They provide my food though, im legit so confused now
"50 to 60 points on your exam is ok"
Those must have been the hardest words to say for that mom. 😂
Yeah in Front of the camera. The son had the best time
I hate to laugh but I did 😭😭💀
grades dont matter
Would rather say 'I love you" lol😂
The mom stopped being a tiger mom because she was in front of the camera.
Also titled: "ASIAN CHILDREN FREAK OUT THINKING SOMETHING BAD HAPPENED TO THEIR PARENT"
😂😂😂
We won’t get use to that if our Asian parent said they love us
I mean Id freak out too.
I’ll drag all my siblings to return home the weekend 😂
😂
I'm bawling my eyes out while eating chips. Now they're extra salty.
Extra flavor 🤤
Omg I feel seen!!! 😆 🤣
i'm screaming in laughter
This comment made me laugh while I was also crying and now I’m sad I don’t have chips to cry on
I should do the same thing
These parents were also children who probably grew up without receiving an 'I love you' and you see how liberating and emotional it is for them to finally say it ❤️
my mom still struggles to tell me she loves me. i still sneak it in at the end of every phone call and she just says "uh huh" lol.
She loves you 🙂!
Also hopefully will help break that cycle for their kids too, even if most of the kids seemed to be in adulthood already. Still nice to see.
They are hopefully breaking that cycle.
Dad : "I love you"
Son : "ok"
Dad's smile : gone
😔😢
Damn
ya that made me sad lowkey man
He must have been in front of a senior hence must’ve been uncomfortable.. I am
Sure he must’ve had called back again ☺️✨
Now I feel bad because I do this
Plot twist: after this video they started to “I love you” more often
i really hope so :3
awwwwww :D
Hey man, I seen your pfp.. how are you doing? Is everything okay? I hope your life is good and wish nothing but happiness for you. If you’re going through something, know that everything happens for a reason and it’ll pass.. even though it doesn’t seem like it. Stay strong and patient! Sending you love ❤️
@@mays8620 oh wow 😳
@@Internallyded Are you okay? Genuine question.
As a dad to three young children, (14,12 and 8, as I write this), I tell them I love them almost every day. I never want them to question that.
You are a perfect dad💪♥️
Good man 💪
its so great you do that, sometimes children forget it
Actions speaks louder than words even children know that.
I've told my son I love him nearly every day since he was an infant. We've never ended a phone conversation without his saying he loves me -- even if his friends are there with him.
My grandpa was like this. He never had a childhood, he didn’t know what “love” was.
Even when he had his kids he didn’t know how to say the words, but once he started having grandchildren things started to change.
He loved his family and always showed it through his actions, it wasn’t till later he was able to show it through words.
Words are secondary though. The actions prove the thought more than any words can.
@@RunninUpThatHillh but also words that you never thought someone would say to you, will mean a lot. Especially coming from your own parents
@gökotta words and actions should go hand in hand. actions are what prove our feelings to be true, but language is what clarifies to our loved ones what those feelings are
@@RunninUpThatHillh Children really need to hear those words from their parents, though. It damages the psyche when they are never told “I love you.”
@@TawnyPicard no they don't. They expect allot from there kids because they never had the opportunity themselves maybe you should look up how much millions of people died because of the great leap forward then get back to me
Dad: "I love you"
Me: "Okay so what's the diagnosis?"
lmao
E b o l a
@@xyl. That disease is so 2015
@@imhere1303 *c o v i d*
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If my mom called and say i love you... I'll fly to her worrying that she's in trouble or something 😶
🤣🤣🤣
Hahaha lol same 😂
I’d think that she is dying
i'd get a freaking panic attack.
Same
I think some of those kids were probably shocked and didn’t know what to say but I hope in the long run this brought families closer together or at least some peace.
Yeah l hope 💔
I know I would have been shocked. One time I got mad at my dad, which never happens, but he kept doing something I really hated and I exploded, then he told me he loved me, I couldn't say it back that was way too awkward. My parents never tell me they love me. I wish I was used to it though and they did say it.
This must be so nice to hear coming from your parents. I only really heard my dad say “i love you” to me, but never from my mom. I literally hate this about Asian culture, being so emotionally reserved and not being expressive about their feelings. I don’t want kids but I do have a nephew now and I literally tell him I love you all the time! I don’t care if its awkward for my brother to hear me say it to his kid, but I want him to grow up getting used to hearing those words- even if my brother and his wife won’t. I want my nephew to get used to hearing “i love you” and not cringe. And be able to say “i love you” back without feeling like running away in a corner feeling embarrass about saying it.
It's not just Asian culture. My mother is American of British and Scottish descent, and she never said she loved me until I was thirty years old and had produced a grandson for her.
Your nephew is really lucky to have you in his life ❤
@@stoverboo yeah but that’s not a direct result of American/British/Scottish culture, that’s likely because of the way your mum was raised.
@@lilballerina Thank you. Currently speaking, I have 2 now! Lol! I love them both to pieces! 💕
Just out of curiosity - do you feel like the way your parents are (your mom in particular) played a big role in you not wanting kids? As for myself, my mother has always been very controlling and it was always her way or the highway - basically your usual tiger mom. I've personally seen how my sister's kids are a source of multiple issues between my sister and my mom. She has even caused a rift in the past between her and her husband due to her personality although that has since been resolved. For these reasons, I've also had no interest in having kids.
if my mother called and told me she loves me i'd probably think she's dying
:'(
Same tbh
@That one person that will never be funny thanks :D yours is awesome too
@That one person that will never be funny you're very funny
Same 😢😢😢
I have Asian parents. And I always ask my mom "do you love me?"(like all the time) And she says "if I didn't you would be left in the streets by now".
LMAO-
BWUHAHAAAHA my mom has said retorts like this too...eventually I started saying i love you to her and she got more and more comfortable with it.
Always detouring words and never saying actual i love you lol. I wonder why it is so painfully hard for them
Same here.. and i actually felt bad because of it as i felt she materialized love.. 🥺
omg my mom says that all the time! xD
It's crazy how different we all are in culture, but feel the same way.
Yeah it is crazy. I never thought of it that way
Feelings are universal, it’s just culture and language differences.
It is just different but never wrong.
Well, of course. We're all made by God, who is love, therefore we feel it too. 🥰✝️💜
Im german. My grandma hardly ever told anybody that she loved them. She grew up during the second world war and I think she was still traumatized. My granddad is a hopeless romantic 🙂I always knew that my grandma loved me dearly. She made my favourite meals when I stayed with my grandparents, she watched movies with me and we often ate icecream. she always scolded my in her own way.... "be nice to your mother- you should be glad, that you even have one!", "wear some propper clothing- it is cold"..... even some tips on parenting I used for my own child.
I miss you granny. Your potatosoup was a thousand "I love you"s worth!
She knows.
'be glad that you have a mum', your granny saw some shit
Not me crying at this H E L P
@@thecov3n SAME😭
"I love you"
"ok"
Sometimes we can't express our feeling either.
Sometimes we express our feelings through tear.
We cry inside 30 min after the phone call
i mean you never hear those words so you become emotionally akward towards parents when they suddenly are very affectionate
It runs in the blood :-)
That was really sad when they couldn’t say the same
mom: i love you.
the kid: "WHAT'S WRONG?"
literally me.
eastana
Same. I'd be so worried.
@Angelica Suti W
From Indonesia?
Same 😂
Aweee I was the 2k like🥺
There are generally two types of Chinese parents, the tiger parents who never really showed their affection to you but cares about you behind your back, or the Chinese parents who are caring and kind and give you the support you need. Chinese parents normally show their love through actions instead of actually saying I love you.
Lack of affection is such huge a issue with Asian upbringings. It really creates generations of broken people who struggle for the rest of their lives to feel affection.
I wouldn’t say it’s lack of affection, it’s just Asians have a different way of expressing it compared to what Americans are used to.
An example is statistically a lot of Asian parents support their kids all the way through college without exception. It’s quite common for parents to go up to HS and say “you’re on your own” once their kids hit college. From what I see though, Asians are quite willing to support them through it and even beyond if they can.
Basically my point is is that Asians tend to prefer actions over words. I’d say that is one of the biggest reasons why our families are close with each other even if we never verbally express it.
But I do agree that parents should remove the cold face and verbally communicate with their kids more often. It goes a long way to tell your kids you’re truly appreciative of their company
@@kaz7690 I agree. My ex husband is Asian. Wed likely still be together if he was more affectionate and less rigid as a person.
its not that we dont love eachother, its just that we usually do it through actions (e.i cooking favorite meals, support in hobbies, even small help in homework)
@@emaiden Very true! I think Asians brought up in the West will tend to compare their Asian parents to other parents. This creates a sense of lack and deficit - why don't I get hugs and kisses, or words of love. But as you said it's simply expressed in caring actions rather than specific actions of affection.
As an American it’s so wild to see this. I can’t imagine never hearing my parents say I love u to me or my siblings. Wow
As an American as well my dad never told me he loved me even when on his deathbed 😢
Omg. I’m sorry for that luv. Hopefully u have broken that cycle. I tell my children and grand child. I love them everyday and Rby Rby we love u 2. ♥️
I feel like loving your family no matter what is also super big in america and we're taught to say we love someone without really knowing what the word means. Its more of a greeting or salutation then it is something meaningful
@@viepng love ya, goodbye
16 years of age and I've never heard my parents say I love you
Instead of Asian parents directly saying “I love you” to their kids, instead they say things like..
“Did you eat? Go eat” “Wear warm clothes” “Drive safe and take care of yourself” and being strict to them, that’s their way of showing love 😂❤️
Hannah S ? No.. my parents are Asians and they say “I love you” with no hesitation idk why people are saying Asian parents not saying I love u
Ellen well idk.. my parents also say I love you occasionally too but majority of asian parents don’t say it cause it’s too awkward and would rather say other things to express i love you
@@dvorah346 yeah I agree. My parents would never say that. We just didn't grow up like that. People might think that we are just overreacting and should say I love you but trust me it's one of the hardest things to do for most asians.
Yea same with mine
Hannah S I’ve never seen that before from other Asian families friends I visited so idk
did you see when the said said “i love you” with a big smile hen the son was like “ok, dad” that made me cry
Maybe he just can't find any words to say only simple word "ok" but i think he was so glad too.
Some son feels very shy to reply I love u but inside they are too happy I can understand so nothing wrong about it 😋😋😋😋😋
I hope that didn’t make the dad sad
@@penguins647 They need to express it back in words, it is not good to hide emotions, so I feel something is wrong there and you can see how painful it is for the parents, they say they always wanted to say I love you, but the tradition in the East prevents them from doing so. Hopefully over time this will change because look how much happier they are once they say this and it builds up the Kids confidence also and makes everybody feel good to hear this from parent or son.
Yeah the dad looked a little sad when the son only said okay. He did tell his dad to take care of himself and his health so the speculation of the son being a bit flustered and not knowing how to respond (although it’s common sense for us to just say it back) isn’t a stretch. I guess that’s how he puts his love into words if he’s not used to actually saying “I love you.”
If my parents calls me out of the blue like this and tell they love me
I'll reach there at the earliest to make sure they're alive n well.
I'd think my parents are gonna die or something
it would scare the shit out of me hahaha
I loved all these parents. The man at 2:42 made me smile especially. The son immediately thanking him and saying that he loved him back makes me think he says it more often than other dads. Bless all these kind people 🙏
Asian parents: "I love you"
Child: yo that's kinda sus
Relatable
That is kinda sus actually. In my Asian family, we never really say, "I love you" to each other. Actually, we don't even hug each other. If my family said that our of the blue, I'd be pretty suspicious of them.
@@wheresdarice3988 Instinctive first thought: "ok, what's the diagnosis?"
I’d probably think my parents r about to put me up to adoption
@@potatoranger9707 ngl, this would be a possible outcome
It's so sad that kids cannot think of their parents casually saying 'i love you' to them without thinking something is wrong. Hope this can change!
i think it's mostly because they never say ' i love you' to us....
so when they suddenly say that we just think somethings up...
@@michellerose7753 yes and that should change lol
it's just a part of chinese culture... most chinese parents don't express love to us through words but rather through actions
For someone that grew up in an Asian household: being told ‘ I love you’ or ‘ I’m proud of you’ is something that never happens. Idk I just find it so nice when I hear ‘ I love you’ from my friend’s parents. It kinda hurts, maybe they’re busy is what I think.
It’ll never change if Asians are continued in this cycle where you’re raised strictly. Impossible zz
growing up in america with my chinese mom she always told me how much she loved me and the words spoken by the lady in the video near the end were words my own mother always told me. my mom passed away last year and this video really reminded me of her
Rip, god bless you and your family
Deepest condolences for your loss, Kim 🙏
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
im sorry for your loss
我妈有时候突然说爱我我真的会吓到XD
Me: calls my mom and tells her I love her after this video.
Mom: what did you break?
Me: nothing mom, just wanted to say I love you
Mom: you broke something didn't you?
Me: no-
Mom: stop lying I'm coming home now
Me: 👁️👄👁️
Tell us how she reacted when she found out you haven't broken anything and just wanted to say I love you ^^
did this actually happen
THIS IS FRAEKIN TRUE
@Lalalisa
ooooooof.
lol
Once my mom called me and suddenly said "I love you" and I was just speechless.. I really got scared and left way early from school and ran all the way to home to check if she's alright or not! As I reached the home and went inside I saw her laughing and smiling while watching TV.. I immediately sat on the floor and started crying. My mom was so surprised that she came hugged me right away! And I never heard my parents say I love you more often so that was really precious.. now whenever they praise me or say good about me I record it my phone cuz it's really rare and that's my true treasure.....
THIS IS SOO Precious 😭😭😭
This made me tear up! 😭😭😭💞
Which cruel country do you live in if parents don't even say they love you?
@@dennisengelen2517 Sometimes, parents have a hard time expressing their gratitude and love for their children. Especially if they never felt it or their parents never said "I love you" to them. They show their affection in other ways, like taking care of the child, feeding the child, doing activities together, traveling, etc.
@@the_ffca_me I agree☺️
I truly thought every parent said "i love you" to their kids. I'm finding this out just now, lol.
I'm Brazilian and we are really "warm" here, meaning we are all into hugs, kisses and we always say I love you to the people we love. My parents say it to me all the time and i say it back.
You are lucky mate
Yeah I'm not Brazilian but my family is super affectionate. It's nice. I just think letting people know ya love them is important. It's like my chest will swell with love if I don't express it to people
Yeah that's blk people lol
My family gives each other hugs and says I love you (USA), but I’ve met families both in and out of my culture who do it so much that it shocks ME. It would be funny to see a super outwardly affectionate family (like yours) to hang out with a loving but not outwardly affectionate family (like the ones in this video). I feel like everyone’s minds would be blown haha
Nós temos o costume inclusive de conversar com o bebê ainda na barriga kskkk falar que já amam, que quando nascer vai ser feliz, saudável, é algo tão fofo, descobri agora que não é comum no resto do mundo
I am Asian. My parents never say “I love you”. I think even if someone asks them to say that, they would feel so weird and not able to say it. Why? That’s how they are brought up. they were born in tough time, their main goals were survival and their all got tough love growing up. They are not used to hugs and kisses or sweet words.
If you surrounded by loving words growing up, then expressing it would be normal and easy so you might find it’s hard to believe that’s it’s difficult for some other people just to say I love you. But if you see it from their shoes, growing up never hearing such words, then expressing is is not easy.
my parents never express their love with words, they just not used to it. But do they love us? Of course, they love us to death. They work day and night and sacrifice everything to bring us up. They never have a day off. My father is the kind of dad who would stop what’s he doing no matter how busy he is and spend the rest of the day making us some handmade toy even when he knows we might just get bored of it the next hour. My mom is the mom who would put herself last in line for anything. Love doesn’t have to be expressed with words.
Agree, they clearly love you deeply.
But it's sad to feel unable to say it.
They grew up in tough times...but so did my mother, and my great grandparents, and they were showered with "I love you" and physical affection by their family members. Those things make even brutal times easier to bear.
I grew up poor enough that we were cold in winter and had to stand in lines to get food handouts. But I always was told how loved I was, was hugged and kissed.
I was given time, and knew the people who loved me worked so hard for my welfare...I just also heard the words directly.
I wish your parents had families able to give them that gift. They clearly deserved it ❤️
@@melissasaint3283 thank you. My country went through hundreds of years in wars with various countries. My parents were born in wars time, not just wars But also the living conditions and horrible culture at the times makes it hard. There’s starvation, slavery, foreign domination etc. During my grandparents life time, poor people being treated less than animals, especially woman, it’s part of the stupid domination strategy, when people were so poor, so illiterate, they’re easier to be exploited. I don’t know the proper words to explain it. Both my parents lost their fathers at very young age. My grandmas had to toughen up to protect their kids, and to survive. They worked day and night non stop and lucky enough to get by. The children would be taking care of themselves. Even in my childhood times when the wars were over, we still had hard time with food, we had to eat insects like grasshoppers, so I can’t imagine what the previous generations had to go through. I don’t think they had time to even sit together, let alone showing affection.
Thankful you can see their love. So, do you not hear them say 'I love you" to each other, either?
@@miss_bhello7925 they would be embarrassed saying that in front of the kids. It’s silly i know, but they are happily married for 49 years.
My parents don't say "I love you" to me and my brother on a regular basis, but we both feel how much they love us. I just feel people framing it as "sad" that parents don't tell their kids they love them are just not able to get past their own way of thinking and what they consider to be normal.
Most asian parents dont really say i love you to their children. Thats why they get suprised 😅. We feel the love tho. Actions over words ❤️
Lmao same with Arabs parents when my mom said I love you out of nowhere I felt so uncomfortable because I am not used to sweet words by my parents
So true!
So very true😉
Very true!
Hahaha true 😂
Seeing the dad saying “I love you” and then he’s son just said “ok”.. it made me so sad, you could see how the dads smile just dropped
Maria ღ in Asian culture(or at least Chinese), the parents don’t often say “I love you.” So when your parents say it, it’s a rare occurrence and the response “ok” or “I know” is common. Or at least it’s common in my Chinese household. I can’t talk for everyone ._.
Actually, I think the son was in shock
i mean he never only said that, he said other loving comments such as "take care of your health, dad". plus (as @twig said) "okay" means "me too" or "i know" in asian culture especially chinese and korean.
@@twig7497 yeah it's rare in Indian culture too
It is different culture, Chinese won’t say I love you often they show love via action
I miss my dad in heaven so much. Show your love with your parents while they still here.
Sorry for your loss 😢
You will see him again, God Bless you.
I’m so sorry for your life, I’m sure your father is having a fabulous time on the afterlife
Sorry for your loss, mate. Unfortunately my parents don't deserve it so
@@qqwertykei hugs
when he said that the first time is the hardest... it was so sad but also so sweet, it implies he plans to say it more in the future !!
A lot of people say actions speak louder than words, but don’t underestimate the power of words. Being told by your parents that they love you and are proud of you is actually very important.
yes completely agree. even when you're really close with each other it's really necessary to keep reminding each other these things. this simple three words can literally mean a lot to someone
Totally. Why do we have to choose one. Everyone deserves to see, feel, and hear love.
ikr these kids are lucky to be told by that....
@@0_o806 as an Asian, i agree too🥺
As an Asian I m jealous of ppl who hug and exchange I love yous everyday I m gonna try saying it to my mom tomorrow if she reacts positively imma continue or nah I did he dead
He looked so sad after his son said “ok dad.” I want to cry, he’s too precious 🥺🥺
@Marie G yea
Well a relationship has to be built and nurtured
I think it's just what they're used, anyone's free to correct me but I've heard they don't express feelings easily, making this video more powerful. Even if, the kid did say "take care of yourself", and that's something
yes that's true, Asian parents don't express affection as much as other cultures. my mom is Japanese, and while she did say she loves me from time to time, I don't feel comfortable expressing my love or admiration openly toward anyone except my partner. It really makes me sad that I don't feel like I can truly express my love for my family members, it feels like they'll never know how much I truly care for them. I plan to change that when I have kids so they'll always know and feel secure.
@@NocciolaGelato00 you got that right
It breaks my heart to heart to hear a parent say " I love you " to their child for the first time, and their own child is so unaccustomed to it they don't know how to respond, and just wish them good health. They must have been hoping deep in their hearts that their child would say " I love you" in return. Every child needs to know their parents love them. And every parent needs to hear it back. It's just part of the human experience.
We are meant to love, and be loved.
Love is not just romance. It's honor, and dedication, and sacrifice, and charity, and selflessness, and humility, and kindness, and empathy, and compassion, and loyalty... it's getting up at 3 am to get a babies fever down, and calling your mom on a random day just to say hi, and that you're thinking of her. While showing love is wonderful, HEARING it is truly healing to wounds we didn't even know we had.
Yeah this is what gets me. I have three kids 12,11,3 and maybe one on the way. Every day I tell them I love them and give them positive reinforcement we need to build kids up not tear them down for small things.
its asian culture. we show love in different ways. But i agree it would be nice to hear. It doesnt mean we dont feel like our parents love us, its just that we know they love us because of the actions they do and the things they remind us of on the daily. just a cultural thing i guess
You've got to wonder how they reacted when they ended the call with their parent. I'd imagine at least some of them found it very powerful to hear. And I love that they wish them good health and tell them to take care of themselves as well. It's precious to see them smile afterwards too
I know most say “that’s how Asian parents are, it’s part of their culture, we have to understand them” but not showing affection to your child in any way really messes up with them. Like, I appreciate I got a home, food and clothes, but damn an “I love you, I’ve always been proud of you” could’ve changed so many things in my life.
Agree
Their way of showing affection is different. Being strict is a way they show affection. In Chinese, there is a saying " yelling is caring, hitting is loving " ( or something like that). It does sound a bit mess up but they grow up with this idea.
@G. O I'm Chinese. It is different than the “ I love you”. For example , telling you to eat more, wear more clothes, and etc.
@@Ruby-mj4kq I know but it still hurts not being told they love you... even more when they say they wish you were different...
@@killerqueen8373 Agree but if I was to say it first to my parents , they would reply back, but I just can't say it. Pretty weird that I can say I love you to my friends but not my family. My sister on the other hand say it often to our parent and they reply back with I love u too .
Parents All Over the World: “I love you.”
Asian Parents: “Have you eaten?”
THISSS
As asian uh nope my mom never asked me that?
My mother🤣🤣
Yesssss.
TRUEEEE
It's sad that most of the kids didn't say it back because they're not used to it. Incredibly brave of these parents to do this and I hope it becomes more of a cultural norm to exchange like this :)
I tell my kids I love them constantly. They are autistic and my daughter doesn’t always say it back. It’s fine with me. She shows me in her way. My son couldn’t speak until he was 8 and now tells me he loves me all day long. I’m so glad these people were able to express their love out loud to their children. Hugs💕✨
Strange how Asian culture is considered to be more family oriented, yet this happens.
@@nadyacthianty8230 you are 100% right!
I guess we kind of expect the love to come through actions instead of words? But me as an Asian myself do think we need to be open with our family.
You mean water chicken?
Not saying "I love you" to someone doesn't mean you don't love them, actions speak louder than words
@@sunhopii8534 yes actions speak louder than words but yesterday my dad told me he was proud of me and it felt better than any action
I tell my mom I love her
mom : What did you do?
me : nothing!
mom : what do you want?
Lol same
🤣🤣🤣
Haha
Mom :How much do u want 😂
Not for me . I tell my mom I love her mostly every and kiss her cheek.
Dude I'm Hispanic and if my dad said I love you with no context I assume he's going to jail or he's going to die soon 💀
glad I'm not the only one lmao
bruh fr my stepdad was born in mexico and he always had that tough guy exterior
My grandma cried when one of my uncle says before ending a call that he loves her, and ever since then my grandma has the habit to always say "i love you" whenever a call ends. Its such a cute thing and warms me everytime i hear them exchange it.
"I'm thinking that is my grade too bad"
Boy I feel you
Mom: *I love you*
Son: -what was the grade on my last math test?-
AAHAH IM DYING
@@childe.mp3846 Lmao me too😂
@@parkjimin-standkb-62 Armyyy
@@childe.mp3846 & Stayyyy
Armyyyyyy
mom: Hi
Kid: "I'm thinking my grades are bad"
This kid had the best timing 😂
same
you just know that mum made a second call after the camera was off ... hahahaa
👉🥺👈
Lol
Actually, I never heard my dad saying "I Love You" to me. But I know his love for me is always limitless...🙂🥺💜❤️
I am from India ,it's just Same
@@minamaarecipe9263Same 😭 My mom has no problem saying "I love you" to me often, but I don't think I've ever heard my dad say that...
Same here....❤
Brings me back to my time living in China 😅 glad I managed to understand some of it without the substitutes still. In my experience chinese show their affection typically more with gestures than words. Met a lot of great people there and the country itself has some incredibly beautiful landscapes, covid didn’t make it easy being there at the time but always look back on my time there as a great experience.
My friend was teaching there during covid and I was in Italy. Hard but beautiful
@@Sezfluffy exactly
Asian culture expresses its affection mainly through an 'acts of service' kind of mentality from what I've come to understand as well
If my mom tells me “I love you” I will probably break down. It’s not that she doesn’t love me or I don’t love her... it’s just, we never clearly said these 3 words..
@Aon E It’s apart of culture because well idk damn, no Asians teach a kid about why they do that. It’s more of a cycle, being raised in a strict family with less affection, the child raised strictly having another family and raising them the same way their family taught them. It’s 90% the environment and generation teachings, some can be genetic. If it’s really bad to the point of mental issues, it can be linked to your newborn as well, as long as you give them love even when it’s so hard to because saying “I love you” is very new to your culture/family. All depends on how you were raised.
@Aon E I actually dont really think it is about culture. Some people just have trouble expressing their feelings. For example, I grew up in Mexico with really lovely parents and an expressive family. However, I find it really hard to say "I love you" to my parents while they find easy saying those words to me. Why do I find it hard? Idk, I am just not used to say that, and that is the main reason of why I dont use those words. If I say I love you to them, it would be too emotionless :b
Yes, one time I broke down because my mom said I love you
@@diegozarate4328 thats true as well. but as an asian, i would definitely say that its also apart of culture. none of my asian friends and I ever heard our parents say those words except for 1 because her parents want their child to know that she is loved since both her parents always doubted if their parents even liked them. and its honestly rlly uncomfortable for me to say it to my parents (not that i ever did, but videos like this makes me think). i say it to my friends all the time but i would nvr say it to anybody in my family. thats why i agree with u and Aoe E. then again, it might be because im not close to any of them. coming from a person that cried when her father apologised for the first time. maybe my family aint right
@@user-qx2kb9jl4y Yeah, that is true too.
This is how many people cried
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No begging for likes please
@@Skribbly1 Agreed
No begging
Literally as I read your comment I started crying...
I cried because I do not have parents. They died because of the Corona virus
Edit : thanks for the likes guys 😭💝💗
The last one where the mom was saying all those sweet things to her child made me so, so emotional.
It's so foreign to me, that in some cultures they just don't say I love you to their family often or at all. Where as me, myself, I say it whenever I say see my parents, and then say goodbye. This was really touching to see
In our arab culture we dont hear this world and fear an exession of our feelings so l envy you that you can say this world l csn not because they didnot say to me before💔
@@user-fq1zg7gn1x it is weird that arabs don't say that in their culture. The word love is all over the Koran.
most asian cultures are like this. I hear eastern europe is also like this
The first dad was smiling when he told his son “i love you” , but when the son didnt say it back his smile started to fade, so sad
i hope the son feels the same way. i'm hispanic but my dad has never said it, so i don't imagine the day he says it (if he ever does lol) I'll be able to respond easily. i love my dad but they're hard words to get out when your family has never been that way.
Not the child's fault. His father never said those words to him until a person with camera wanted to shoot for a video.
It's the start of them getting comfortable with it. This is what I hope and pray for, for them.
@@respecthumankind333 just imagine how messed up it is when you have to get comfortable with your own parents...that too after yearss...
@@mindyourownbusinessmaam8415 this is a little bit too much of assumption for a 15 seconds clip just saying
I never say “I love you” to my parents it’s so uncomfortable and I have a weird feeling inside me.
Because they didn't get you used to it
maybe you should, even if it doesn’t seem like much it can mean a lot to your parents 😊
jupiter I say it but they never say it back and rarely say i love you. I can’t even remember the last time my dad or mum has said that to me. they call me bad name more than they show affection
sooyoung I hope they stop calling you bad names and one day just sit down and say they love you
yea same my parents like to show their love with actions
Man, as a Chinese kid who never really had any emotions expressed in my family, it really made me cry after I heard them say I love you because ik I’d be so confused if my mom was okay or not after saying that
It’s kind of sad how we feel this way when it should be normalized, but all I’m trying to say that I can understand the emotions they feel right now
saying ''I love you'' and ''I'm sorry'' are the hardest phrases to say but gives life and meaning to another
Chinese parents rarely say “I love you”, they do whatever it takes to protect their families. A great culture, great people, say less, do more, proud of Chinese.
That's literally Asian parents in general, loL- xD
RaiKi Pau in this video shows Chinese parents, they’re talking in Chinese
I dont knooow, I think a "i'm proud of you" or a "i love you" can change a lot of things in a kid life
@@chiahow I know that they're Chinese? I'm just saying it refers to all Asians?
@@Flo-xx4ez It'd be weird, and hard to get used to, though- 😂
3:22 “mom loves you, you are my good son forever” brought me to tears this is so wholesome🥺
Same 😭
i cried ☹️
"...unlike your bother: My shitty son forever."
RIP.
Same 😭
i started breaking down.
Well this immediately brought me to tears :’/
My parents didn't start directly saying that to me until I was in my 20s. Every single time, I thought they were about to tell me someone was dying. We were all first generation Americans, though I was only 1 when we got here, so I'm not exactly FOB, but they were/are.
I still remember being Asian my parents don't show any emotions . But one morning my mom very lovingly said she loves me and is going and I thought she is going to work like normal and I teased her like I love u tooo maa , and she never returned . She with an accident on the day. It's been two years , I miss u ma. Love u❤️
Ohhh,broke my heart.😢
Sorry to what happen ..may she rest in peace...hope u have blessing days...
So Sorry~Take Care x
komal Kiran vaid bless you xx
In very sorry for your loss..
May your mother rest in peace..
😔😔
dont say that，dude😭
Parents: I love you, Child
Asian Kids: *Proceeds to call an Ambulance*
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
PLLEASEEEE😭😭😂😂😂🤚🏻
🤣🤣😂😂
😭
I didn't let a day go by without telling my kids I loved them, and even then, I worry that I didn't show it enough. I can't imagine a kid growing up and never hearing that from a parent.
You are a perfect mother because this word maks the child feel loved. I hope to hear it one day
It is more important to show it and support. I've had pretty shit parents and I'll feel like I've missed the normal things in life which makes me a bad partner as well. I am focusing on improving myself though, my parents did not improve themselves and I don't want to continue that tradition.
@Flower7 same because it's the opposite of how she treats me.
@Flower7 Same here. I see so many people say that they feel like they're not doing well as a parent but I know damn well they are doing way better than my parents ever did☠️
父母親對孩子的愛真是無限大～
我想對身邊所有照顧我的人說一聲「我愛你」
My parents way of telling me they love me:
“You want some food Son?”
Sameee
"Wear a jacket, if not don't blame me when you get a fever tomorrow."
*sneezes once*
"SEE? I told you you're gonna get sick >:((("
Plkachuzzz yes-
@@plkachuzzz yes this is how they tell us they love us
@Imxginxtive_ Issxc daamnnn
Interaction between the father and son at 2:43 is the cutest. The son's laugh after his dad says I love you is adorable.
yes, the best response.
ツMyrthe Well THATS becuase the children never hear that often. It makes them uncomfortable or confused. But also happy, like their parents, they hide their emotion.
I get that there is a cultural difference, but me not telling my parents i love them on a regular basis makes me feel bad. Open love with your parents is important and this was kinda heart melting to see. I love these people with all my heart.
0:31 he wanted him to say I love you back 🥺🥺
Me: *calls to my dad* "DAD , I LOVE YOU "
my African dad : *since when?*
I'm crying your comment made me 😂
Maaaannnn they really be gangsta when we say those words 😅🤣🤷🏾♀️
😂😂as a nigerian my dad would think I did something wrong or im about to die
@@Soul.413 glad I made u laugh :)
@@sanc_livia ikrr
Its not that all of the parents don’t love their children... it’s the matter of telling it to them
They do. My mom says I love you whenever she makes sure I have food, or whenever she goes out of her way for me. My dad says I love you when he comes home from work and makes sure I understand my homework, and always tells me well done when I've scored a hundred, and when he takes the time to explain computer science to me because I said it was interesting.
Yeah those people love their children too. They just don’t say it
It’s not saying they don’t love their kids
It’s that they should also be telling them
Never underestimate the power of words
Just because they never used them doesn’t make them unimportant
Knew a girl who broke down crying because her parents never told her they loved her or were proud of her like all her friends’ parents did, thought she was an obligation not seen as a person with her own thoughts
She came out as lgbt and asked if they loved her
They disowned her
Absolutely. There's are a million ways to say "I love you" and verbally saying it is just one of them. :)
@@samuraix558 I understand your point but, those 3 words are sooo powerful.
I've not heard them from my parents but my boyfriend and it helped me a lot with my self esteem
ดูไปยิ้มไป ร้องไห้ไป ซึ้ง!!
It's jarring when you aren't used to hearing. My African mother started telling me she loves me when I was an adult and it was hard to say it back in my Native language. It felt weird because culturally speaking, parents and children don't declare their love for each other like that, so we started saying it in English. It was a happy medium.
It might sound awkward but just can't help being emotional after hearing those three words especially from elderly parents!
you know sometime Chinese parents just be timid to say some emotional words to us，it makes them kind of embarrassed。but they love us so much，give us all of what they have
I feel u I’m sobbing in an ocean like I’m cosplaying the ocean I can’t take it I can’t help but cry when someone else does and those words I don’t know if I’m gonna exsperience them but let’s keep on with life
Got you to 1k
陈明 I’m Chinese and My mom says it to me and my siblings but I guess it’s cause we’re still kids my dad used to say it to me but him and my mom got a Divorce and I live with my mom and my mom hates my dad so she doesn’t let me see him but I have a step dad and when he says “I love you” to me I never know what to say back cause I don’t love him so I just walk away
Westerners can't understand how very RARE it is for an asian parents to say just that. I mean look at my parents im 19 2nd year college and it's been two years since i heard them saying "I love you son" "Im very proud of you" the emotion just suddenly burst out like a dynamite or something
decades go by, its extremely rare to hear these 3 incredible words. i mean yeah, i agree with most of the comments, i'd be questioning my asian parents what's wrong and why so sudden, but can you imagine what could've changed throughout your own childhood if you heard this. it's heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time.
Same, for me it feel awkward to hear those words even hugs from my parents are weird
Not just asians, its common in many cultures. It really sucks, I dont even know my dad anymore. I can go weeks not talking to him, simply because there is nothing there for us to talk about. He never liked to check up on us when we were young and never really got involved, yeah he worked and provided which I am grateful for, but in terms of communication, its not there. Hes just another stranger to me, it really hurts.
@@shakos4105 hey man, it's never to late to start a relationship with him if that's what you want. Good luck ;)
If I hear my parents say I love you to me, I'd be speechless and idk what to do lol.
It breaks me to tears to see old Asian men telling their kids they love them.
These men are stoic and probably come from parents even less affectionate.
"The first time is the hardest"
VERY TRUE!!!
Who else is lowkey tearing up--
me too--
Highkey*
I'm shedding tears ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
Here- a tissue -
I need one for myself lol
Me too
The good part is that they are saying “I love you” and the sad part is it’s very true that Asian parents have a very hard time saying they love their children, I’m also Asian myself and I have never heard my parents say “I love you” till my 16 birthday
I’m Haitian and the first time my parents said it was on MY 16 birthday too!!
I'm Asian too,my dad saids that all the time but not my mom lmao.
european. 26 years. Not even once, too
I never heard my parents saying i love you to me. Not even my dad passed away, he never tell it to me.
@@nhatthanh4070 No wayyyy, for me it's my mum and not my dad haha.
It only takes one time. I’ve never heard these words from my mom, may she rest in peace, but I know in my heart that she loved me. When you have demons to battle, I’m sure it can be very hard to speak freely. 😔 Tell your kids you love them, validation can be a life saver.
This hit home so much. As a Filipino grandchild, growing up I'd always feel a sort of way when i'd say "I love you" to my grandma and she'd be like "mhm" and "okay" and now I've realized its a generational thing. I'm glad my mom is as loving as she is, and has inspired me to say "I love you" to all of my loved ones and friends before departing simply because that may be the last time you ever see them.
Asian parents show love through actions, and fuss.
Exactly 😂😂😂😂
@Clorox Bleach I think actions have more value than words
@Clorox Bleach it's different for sure but it doesn't make it any less legit or meaningful.
Yes! 😂 or when there are babies and they would playfully hit them (not hard don’t worry) and they say, “that’s how we show at love to you” now when I beat the shit out of siblings I’ll say “it’s my love towards them” but it ain’t really lol.
Clorox Bleach when my mom comes home from work and brings home my favorite snacks I can see that she loves me. When she tells me to drive slower and carefully because of the rain, I can feel that she loves me.
I am literally sobbing. This was so difficult for them. I'm so proud of them. And I'm sure their children needed to hear those words at least once in their lives❤️
My guess is that these parents were initially offered some $$ to phone their kids to say "I love you", and after the call maybe some felt emotional and declined the $$ offer.
It’s a tad easier on phone I guess 😂 Real challenge would be to ask an Asian dad to say it in person! 😅 Jokes apart, this was very heart-touching!
My brother is 13 years younger than me, if my mom called him to say I love you he wouldn't think much of it but if she called me I would freak out 😆 Can you guess which one of us is more used to hearing it from her?
When you have Asian parents but they say “I love you” 24/7
*THESE POOR CHILDREN I FEEL SO BAD-*
GASP! I HAVE FOUND A RARE CREATURE ( omg I'm happy to know that not all Asian children have the same fate and live happy lives)
wow im alr cringing thinking abt my parents saying it
Mine are like that
MxchaSwirl you shouldn’t say that because they don’t need their parents to say I love you for them to know. Please don’t say that
Shah md mohtadinur Rahman uhmmmm ok but you know just because they don’t say I love you every day doesn’t mean that their lives are miserable
My mom say to me "Je t'aime" every hour in the day, it's like a routine... And I never get tired of it. *Je t'aime Maman*
I'd respond similarly with *«à la folie»* ❤
@Just Someone Yes it means I love you Mom, and it's French
Mine never said it
@@0remy0 Say it to her, wouldn't hurt ✨
My mother also does the same thing, and if I forget to say that I love her, I rush to call her and say that I love her. I still tell my dad that I love him when I'm leaving for work.
"The first time it is the hardest" -- That is true! When I was a teenager a friend of mine was having problems with his dad. He was not living the life his father wanted for him so they always fought. I remember one day him saying that his father was arguing with him and he responded to his dad something like "Why is this so important to you? You are not the person that I most love...", And he told me with the most sincere regret, because he knew how hurtful it was. He also said that he realized he never said "I love you" to his dad. And then it hit me: I also never had said it to my father. My father also never said it to me. That got into my head. It took me several years, but I finally did it. After my 20s, maybe when I was 25 or something. I threw "i love you" in a conversation. It was a text message and the tone was incredibly casual. But internally it was so important to me that I cried after I sent it. And after that, I've said several times again. And he started saying it to me. And now we exchange that we love each other whenever we text message. It is simple, but honest. The first time was the hardest, and then it became natural because it is true.
It’s touching how emotional they get when they express their love with words for the first time. Blessings to them all and I hope they can continue to connect with their loved ones on a more deep level.
Having Asian parents, I can confirm that they rarely say "I love you" (mine at least) Instead they worry about how I need to get above 98 for every test (very precise I know)
@@Omna420 Yeah ikr they sit you down for like half an hour to make sure you understand the one or two questions you get wrong
That's just kinda sad tbh
@@Omna420 OMG LOL SAME BROOOOO
they dont say i love you as much as other cultures, but no one shows it as much as they do... you just have look deep.
@@everous_ Yeah very true
"After the beginning everything is easy. The first time is the hardest"
My parents say ‘I love you’ once everyday, they hug me everyday. I think it’s because their parents never showed any affection to them. I love them so much ❤
My parents rarely said I love you. But they showed affection by giving gifts, and hugs and kisses.😊