@@TxHoneyBeeDefinitely. The fact that she continued posting her children after knowing that they were being sexualized and their school address was leaked, but just “concealed” their identities says everything. She saw the dangers firsthand but continues posting her children in what she sees as a “safer” way. It’s not safe, everyone who has continued watching knows who her kids are and where they live, where they go to school. Why add fuel to that fire?
Yes but the argument is that kids/minors don’t have a grasp on long term effects of having their whole lives online and CANT give consent.. So whether a kid says they want to or don’t want to be online, they are not old enough to understand what they’re giving consent to, so we as parents need to protect them by waiting until they are old enough to have their own social media and are able to make that decision for themselves, There are legit child predators online who save videos & pics of young kids for nefarious purposes
I removed myself from all social media during the beginning of Covid in 2020 and i haven't looked back. I find myself happier. I no longer spend hours checking to see if someone liked my posts or reading negative comments or feeling like I have to post everything i am doing just to keep up with friends and family's posts. I spend more time in the real world and quality time with my wife and kids.
@lindseycorsi7741 TH-cam for me is less drama and invasive...and for the general public who aren't content creators..but it still has the terrible influence other apps have.
Me too! Ditched FB and never looked back. Never had most other socials. I do enjoy YT but that's it for me. My life is less cluttered without randomly reading nonsense posts. Sorry, not sorry that I don't need to see or read about everything people I semi-know are doing all the time!
This is why I don't follow any of these "family vloggers". It's all antics for likes and sponsors, Plenty of them have been busted for faking videos, forcing the kids to have certain reactions, it's disgusting.
The parents do this for themselves; to get attention. The kids are their way to say " look at what a super parent I am!" They dont think 10 years down the line these kids get embarrassed by these posts.
They enjoy objectifying and humiliating their children for all the worth see. They know what they are doing. They enjoy causing their children pain and suffering. Then they play dumb and act like they had no idea what the impact would be on their poor kids' mental and physical health. They know.
There’s a family vlogger here on TH-cam that posts her child with special needs and her daughter.. and overshares. In one video, she was telling everyone how constipated her daughter was (while daughter was crying in the background from the pain), and I found it incredibly disgusting of her to do something like that. I told her in the comments (nicely) how she is exploiting her children (and a couple of people even agreed with me) but she had her “defenders” who told me and others who brought up the issue to “leave her alone. She tries very hard for her kids.” I had to unsubscribe. Parents, keep your kids off social media
I'm sorry, but we don't need to be 'nice' when faced with evil. Call it what it is- demonic child exploitation by none other than the PARENTS. The child predators are in the home with the kids, usually.
@naruhianastarr I know which vlog you are referring to. There was a video of one of the children in the doctors office suffering because of a painful treatment. We contribute to the violation of these kids privacy when we continue to watch their content. I unsubscribed as well.
@@KC-rp5se You can educate others about what the challeges are without filming a child in a vulnerable state with no pants on and showing the world. My baby died as a result of a chromosome translocation, so you are right in that I did not get the opportunity to raise a special needs child.
If so then I guess the number of children filing for emancipation from their abusive guardians will see a rise too The adults responsible for parenting and supervising ought to know better. There's nothing preventing developers and bigtech from providing consistent privacy check-ins, safety education and preventative tools and quarterly screening to proactively keep their communities safe - well, they'd get less revenue based on their current business models so I guess that's a bit of a deterrent 😕
We need laws that limit how much kids photos are posted online. I often have wondered how kids feel once they reach adulthood and their childhood was posted online
Yeah but for most normal parents we don't want our children's lives plastered all over the Internet and if we are posting our children it's private to family... But then again there are those parents that feel like the more followers the better when it's not it should just be people you actually know and speak with or interact with
@@ac61900 I think so. I've seen grifters who will do weird things to their kid. Just for the attention online. One guy yelled at his kid until he cried. Another took his kid's food and shoved it in his face like a bully would. It's demoralizing. And it makes me think the system is just geared to rewarding bad people. And only them.
Same!!!! I regrets sharing so many photos and such when my kids were small. I deleted everything and eventually got rid of my accounts. They deserve more privacy.
I've personally seen gross behaviors from mothers and their social media addiction, using their children to get attention. One mother pulled up to the park in her car, got her and her child out, put him onto the swing for max 5 minutes, and took pictures the entire time before waddling back to the car when SHE was done. Another one, almost the same thing, but at a splash pad, almost begging the child to "smile x 100" while she snapped loads of pics and then flopped down to watch and not play at all. Outside of TH-cam, I no longer use social media, it's become so toxic, if people want to see what I'm up to I'm a call away.
Just had a trip to Monterey bay aquarium and what your talking about was about half the parents inside and the place looked like Woodstock for how crowded it was just a recipe for disaster
and social media while driving kills- my daughter was ran over by a driver using FB messenger- checking a posting about a boat for sale- No lie he made that choice - media crazy and inattentive to those around him - he had almost 3 football fields to notice her and avoid her
@@joannbengtson1959I truly am sorry…..Not to diminish your experience but I’ve heard so many stories of motor vehicle accidents due to surfing the web while driving. I would hope in the near future that phones will be disabled except for GPS and voice activated phone calls while driving. People texting/surfing while driving has become an epidemic.
I told my friends years ago to not post pictures of their kids online. Especially in compromising photos. Just because you “think” you know the people you have as friends doesn’t mean you “know” what they’re doing with your kids pictures. People need to use common sense.
Finally news and legislation is catching up with this. We need to address these TH-cam mommy vloggers who pay the bills by over exposing and exploiting their children.
True. But call them family vlogs. I actually learned about these blogs through a male content creator who filmed his family. The mom wasn’t as involved. Same with a few other vlogs I used to watch back in the day. There was this Christian family where the dad was the main creator, his wife was his side kick and they had a bunch of kids. So this extends to more than just mommy vloggers.
I totally think it’s invasive even for myself! I hate going to baby showers and parties to be put online. Even if I ask “no camera” I somehow see myself on someone’s profile. Horrible!
Same here and then I get laughed at for being a prude. But that's honestly not what it is. I don't have social media for a reason so if I'm not the one putting it out there, I feel as though its not anyone else's place to do it for me.
I’ve been saying this, I do not allow my children’s photos to be posted on social media, my mom even has to ask and the answer will be no every time. People aren’t thinking about protecting their kids, they’re thinking about attention and money, they all wanna be famous and force their kids into that world, it’s sick. I know 10 years from now everyone will be cringing at their social medias and the children will be resentful of their parents for exposing them so young.
The only hope I have is that maybe the next generation will see through social media and want nothing to do with it because of how much it negatively affected them. Maybe they will see it for what it is and opt out of using it. One can hope.
Let's just pause for a moment and think about the fact that our government is proposing a bill to protect children from their parents behavior with social media. Parenting in America is, by and large, just crappy. I'm an educator, and was giving talks to parents back in the 90's on how to keep their kids safe when allowing them to use the internet. So it's gone from protecting children from their own behavior online, to children having to be protected from their parents behavior online. Unbelievable!!
Yes to all of this! I remember my teaching giving us a lesson on Internet safety. Back then, it seemed like common sense. Now? The entire world is doing the dumb thing and over-exposing themselves to evil demons online.
@@TxHoneyBee Because now people can get paid for over-exposing themselves online. If people could make money that way in the 90s they'd absolutely do it.
I was in college when social media gained steam. It’s scary seeing how comfortable people are with sharing their children with the world. Yes, it can be fun but there are way too many crazies out there who should never have access to your babies. Parents, please be safe and protect your kids as much as you can.
Yes and some do it in the guise of business or advertising etc... Children deserve to have their privacy and to go in social media when they choose to as adults
@@mimi42428 this disgusts me too...parents using their children as their "brand." I cannot fathom how much of a negative impact that will have on the child once they realize what's going on. So upsetting. Social media has ruined people's brains.
There is money and attention to be made by sharing your kids and becoming a social media star so that's why. Unless it's regulated, all these social media stars will continue to do what they do
Very thoughtful piece. I will never post my kids again. I used to have Facebook but I quit all that personal social media, absolutely would never do it again. This drives it home. Kids deserve privacy and to not grow up having everything they do announced to the world, we will continue to see ramifications of this for years.
The need to protect your children’s privacy should be inherent in every parent and pre-dates the internet. Those of us who were around before the internet know that there have always been irresponsible parents who exploit their children for their own self indulgence (children’s beauty pageants). The internet simply provides a tool to enhance the thrill for those selfish parents. The mom who said she started dancing with her kids to keep them entertained still has no self awareness of her own need for attention, she only posted the videos for herself, not for her kids and she only removed the videos when she felt threatened by the responses. If the responses had all been positive or if she had not read the comments, she would still be posting her children to get “likes” and to feed her need for attention. These internet parents need therapy and parenting classes.
The amount of documentaries and Netflix specials coming our way in 5, 10, 20 years time from all the traumatised former Tik Tok/ Instagram shared children is going to be insane 🥴😣
I always thought if I didn't share my kids people would think I wasnt a good mother. Now I see its the other way around. I just don't feel like snapping pictures of everything my kids do. I love my kids so much but I don't want to snap pictures of them all day, every day. Gets exhausting. Let kids be kids.
This is why being a prude or conservative is the way, and these 'progressive' liberals got it all backwards. That want fast 'progress' alright... right into Satan's arms. These people are controlled by dark principalities, and people love to follow 'trends' instead of thinking for themselves.
I’m very thankful that I made the decision to stay off of platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, and Snapchat. I’ve never been on TikTok and Snapchat. I haven’t had Twitter since high school and I haven’t had Instagram since college. I graduated over five years ago. It will be five years in September since I’ve had Facebook. Im near 30 and it’s been so beneficial to my mental health. Don’t get me wrong: it’s great to reconnect with friends and it does have its perks. However, now that I have a child, I have to be very careful. It’s not me being mean but I’m being cautious because you don’t know about some people now a days. 🤷🏼♀️. I don’t post videos on TH-cam either. Only comment on videos. Keeping my life journey for me to enjoy! Be careful out there everyone.
Way to go on taking care of you & your little one! Making these choices about social media is a hard one…I still have Fb & Ig but rarely post & for Fb try to keep it “private” when it’s of my kids but I still wonder if it’s safe & we have a biz page that we post some pics of our kids publicly but now I wonder if I should go delete those. They are pics of my kids in a bike race & the event is set to public anyways by the host. It’s so hard to keep our kids off of everything. I have 6 kiddos ages 10-20 so I’ve gone back and forth over this topic for years. I used to not think anything of posting pics now it makes kinda sick to think of posting anything on Fb;(
I will always cringe when I see a full grown adult do a “Dance” for social media. I cant imagine tagging my kids along while I am at it. I guess, glad she learned her lesson. I guess all that social media world is not for me 🥱
Sadly, she did not learn her lesson. She still posts video with her children in them. She's a nasty person. She simply hides their faces now, but she leaves them in despite knowing who's watching her content. I believe that she is doing this on purpose.
I recognized my co-workers child at the grocery store and I hadn't even meet this child before. The only reason I knew who it was, was from being friends with them on facebook. It was an a-ha moment for me.
This is why I’ve always said “kids don’t belong online”. This isn’t a game, this is their life being commodified and exploited. And you never know who’s on the internet looking at your kids, or what people will do with the pictures you post of them online.
finally people are talking about this! ive been literally saying the same thing for like 7 years now! i deleted all my social media. i only have youtube. other apps i use are: soundcloud,lyft (emergencies), hulu, and maps.
@@heidiiiiiiii thats good! i forreal dont ever want to use facebook or instagram again. they really ruined how we perceive things. not to mention we can’t trust a lot of the people or things they share.
I'm very surprised that this is the topic of discussion now when I have concerns about this maybe 5 more years ago. And i always tell parents not to post too much about your family because it does invite unwanted stalking from other people
There are SO many sickos out there. No need to expose yourself and your kids to them any more than you already do just going about your day to day lives.
I decided to quit social media and my children are not online at all. I love it, I have no pressure to post pictures to “keep up” with. Don’t have the pressure of every holiday getting a perfect pic of my family. We are happier and I never have to worry about freaks online and my children have a private childhood just like I did when I was growing up! 🙌🏼❤️
Good parents make mistakes, imagine the harm that bad or thoughtless parents can do through having no respect for their children's boundaries. Sensitive, introverted children suffer the most when their parents discuss their lives without any regard for the children's privacy. It can be difficult for those kids to speak up because those types of parents don't listen or change their behavior anyway. I feel badly for those kids especially. They are trapped in a world of broken trust through daily disrespect for their feelings.
My mother got her first video camera the year I was born. I have known what it is like to be publicized and displayed for public scrutiny without consent. Doesn't feel good being videotaped while vulnerable and my 25th birthday video montage gives me nightmare flashbacks to this day. I am so glad my husband and I got on the same page keeping our kid off of social media right away. It is strange to me that this concern was not considered by other parents... Have parents of today not been paying attention to the negative impacts of publicity for child actors/actresses or the crime cases involving young kids even with people they know well? Doesn't it seem significant that many of the most beloved famous people keep their families out of the spotlight and blur the image of their baby/kids when possible? I definitely want to stay connected with people, so I do understand the appeal especially coming from a big family. However, the number one rule of boxing is "always protect yourself"... That should be said for our kids too, so don't take away their choice to stay private and protected.
Years ago when celebrities would ask paparazzi to not take pictures or post about their kids.. THIS is what they meant. The children are little and cannot make that decision for themselves. However, there are parents out there doing it purely for exploitation like Wren Eleanor.
@@CC-uq7cv oh idc what you do. They are your children. But they are not choosing to be shared. The consequences of sharing without privacy or oversharing can be detrimental to them in the future. Nobody would have liked a camera shoved in their face when they were little and had every nuance recorded for an audience.
Parents continue oversharing when their children are adults too. I've had multiple heated arguments with my mother about not posting private photos of me on her Facebook page, but she continues to do so. I'm 40 and I'm so over it.
It's saddening to hear the first woman's story because it seems like she genuinely had innocent intentions. People get lonely and I can see how attractive parasocial relationships can be - it must feel like having a few hundred friends/relatives following along with your life at first, and sharing with them probably feels just as harmless as sharing with great aunt Shirley. But as an adult, you need to be the more mature one who sees past that allure to protect your kids. Glad people like these lovely women are speaking out with their experiences.
I'm a mother of 5 boys we dont post or have social media at all. I have old random MySpace 😕 lol an old FB but I couldn't imagine one thing I would wver want to share with the world when it comes to my babies and the gift of memories and life we share. They will be adults one day and can make choices of who and what they will share. ❤ stick to our roots an always follow your gut.
@@diaryofamadblackfemcel2094 I made it on you tube, I understand that. But Your missing the point, the smartphone has replaced so many jobs and put so many companies out of business. And will continue to do so more and more with A.I. and the like. You can say replaced with tech jobs, but look how many have been let go in the last year in tech industry. Pretty soon all those people won’t be needed. Then what? Look and see the what will happen to banking industry in the next 10 years. I don’t trust fake digital #’s on the computer screen and our government shouldn’t either. Crypto’s a pyramid scheme.
This has been a long time coming. Parents go overboard with the stuff they share. Kids have zero say so about being online. Just never seen completely right to do.
It became stupid when gender reveals became a thing. I refused to date a girl who was into that. My wife and I are expecting now. We found out the sex the normal way, told our close family (siblings and folks) and left it at that. Everyone is now trying to be the Kardashians and then complain when they don’t get the public support they demand or when others criticize them (as public figures).
I have zero social media and have never looked back. My daughter and my photos were stolen online and that was it for me. It's actually refreshing. I didn't like that anyone could take any photos even if it was a simple selfie.
Yes it's because more parents are more concerned about who looks at what they're posting rather than just being parents. They care more about betraying a lifestyle they don't live they care more about pretending to be better parents than they are..
I heard about this yesterday on NPR. As a millennial who grew up with the Internet I found this VERY fascinating yet scary AF and sad. The NPR reporter said she was looking to get in touch with a famous mommy blogger and knew her FULL NAME from her mom's blog but was able to figure out what college she went to from a reddit forum. REDDIT! She just Googled her name with the school and found her to contact her. 😮
I used to do social media but after I was scammed in 2018 . And my folks were so mad at me for lying about it and I gave up social media and I’ve been so happy. And parents I say it’s time to give up social media it’s too dangerous
A mom on IG made a reel shamming her son, who was sitting in his carseat (prob around the age of five) because he wet the bed she is an Olympic athlete publicly shamming her son who was begging her to stop. All I could think was this poor kid and what he has to look forward to as a teen now that this public. The amount of attention some people need is staggering.
I've been noticing this trend and its awful to see. Parents really need to be careful and protect the privacy from their family. Kids need their space too.
The 2nd biggest concern, after exploiting their children, is a lot of the younger generation in their early 20’s having kids are not working. Their channels consist of we are going on a cruise (usually with other family channels) then a week later they are heading on an international holiday. They believe taking videos of themselves going on holidays is a “job”. What happens when all this goes away or circumstances change?! None of them look like they know how to hold down a normal 9-5 job. What does this teach their kids? The most annoying thing to hear from them when they are given reality in their comments is people are trolling them or people are just jealous. There is no accountability from them in any way. Will it be everyone else’s fault when they can’t keep doing things the way they want - absolutely! So they keep building fancy houses and take all these trips and when it all comes crashing down they will cry about how unfairly they have been treated or ask their “internet family” for money 🙄 I think it’s wonderful to see some genuine families out there having fun but the fake ones who get defensive about comments are usually the calculating, exploitative people looking for attention and fame using their children. It will be interesting to see in a years time how TH-cam and other platforms change the rules around these family channels…..
The parents doing this grew up with social media in their lives. I'm stunned that they still can claim not being aware of who can see things. Also, these dangers have been discussed by TH-camrs (such as Cruel World Happy Mind) over the last few years. Frankly, I'm appalled at the adults in this case. This malaise of current parenting culture is one of the many reasons I refuse to have children.
Yup there’s two kinds of moms. Kirstin Bell (google her family you can see how respectful she is of privacy) and Kim K types (how she doesn’t respect and will exploit for a living) #protectthechildren
It’s all public once it’s posted. Even if your page is private, someone who follows you can simply screenshot your photos and screen record your videos. Happens all the time. If you don’t want your life out there you shouldn’t have social media at all.
You incel males are delusional. The problem is moreso the MALE, degenerate child predators than anything. Also, you say there aren't male family bloggers? I guess you didn't hear of Bobby Moudy.....
Yup this is why my husband and I decided not to do that. I literally posted once when he was born. That’s it. It’s pretty messed up. Parents be better.
She posted 500 pics s day…… a suit of armor…… the fact these parents crave the attention from strangers on the internet by sharing everything, they deserve what they get.
“Content creator” is not a job!!!! It’s a need for attention, validation, and clout chasing. It’s addicting to these women. They wouldn’t survive without that need from men
Ladies say my body my choice. Children should be able to say their body their choice if they want to be on social media. Children will grow up, but what are the repercussions of being on social media when it all come back on them with negative comments and more. Are their parents going to help clean up all backlash. Mentally, their children could be damaged for life.
The problem is what about children like Abbie Maass? She's a non-verbal autistic child who has been exploited by her parents since she was twelve years old. They have become wealthy due to Abbie! She can never advocate for herself or ask her parents to take the videos down. So what can be done about people like that? The channel is fathering autism. He even has videos of her and how he takes her to the bathroom. It's horrible! Not to even mention the PPP loans he and other family vloggers got illegally during covid! 😡
I'm an elementary teacher who makes end of the year video with pictures of students throughout the year. The last couple of years I've noticed mostly all my students HATE having their pictures taken. They are so insecure and feel the need to be perfect. It's so sad. I stopped making the videos because I want them to have a choice about their pictures being taken of them.
Not just kids. It's anyone. Don't just post pictures of people. Always ask them. Also not EVERYTHING should be posted. Just enjoy the moment sometimes, even if you do take a picture
I rarely post about my kids online, but other family members seem to think it’s ok to post pictures of my kids without permission. I have to tell them every time to run it by us first. I want my kids to be in control of their own media presence on their own terms.
Its very simple. Don't make your accounts PUBLIC! Unless you are a social media influencer you shouldn't be public. Dont give yourself away for free, be choosy with who you allow into your life.
The whole " I just made some videos to have a fun time with my kids" excuse is BS. I have taken tons and tons of fun videos with my nephews and I've never posted them online. People who post online content are looking for others to see them whereas because they want to show of or want approval or fame or whatever.
About the law: Why waiting for their consent when they are adult? Let's put the age down to at least 13 years old, the age one can open their own social media account.
So glad they did a segment on this! I deleted my FB, twitter and instagram a few years ago. Before I deleted them, I stopped posting so much about my kids because I started seeing things through their eyes and didn't think it was respectful to share their lives like that. Then I got convicted about the fact that if I think that social media is so unhealthy (which I do), and I tell my kids they can't have it (which they don't...no phones or anything), then why do I have it? It seemed to be hypocritical. So I just deleted all of my social media pages. So glad that I did. I feel like I'm living in the real world now, and that I'm way more present than I used to be. Social media takes advantage that people like to share things about their lives. It became normalized so quickly that people didn't even think about what they were doing. They just accepted that now we post about our lives or our kids lives to everyone whenever we feel like it. But no. It's not normal. We need to think about what we're doing, and stop participating in all of it. Step away from your phones, people. Start living your lives. If you want to share things about your kid's lives or yours, text your family members. Social media needs to disappear.
This is exactly why I left Instagram years ago. One of my neighbor friends would buy a bunch of trendy clothes online, dress her kids up in them on Sunday, one outfit after the other, and take posed pictures. Then during the week she posted the pictures as if it was what they were wearing that day. But the kids went to daycare everyday. They weren’t home with the mom. Nothing wrong with that, but she was literally lying to her followers that they were home with them. Then she would take her kids to the most Instagramable of all places to get cute pictures of them getting on and off horses, petting animals, drinking fancy drinks, wearing cute hats and shoes. Once we went to a kids play place, kind a like indoor playground gym that my kids love. The whole time she was complaining about it, how gross and germy (to be fair it was grungy but I’m not afraid of it ;) it was and how the lighting was bad. I wanted to say, “well your kids are having a great time here, are you just mad cause you can’t post it on Instagram? That was the last time we took our kids somewhere together. I feel pretty certain that she had a third child just so she could post it on her Instagram feed and get more followers. I’m also very certain that she went to live in Bali with her family just to get pics for her feed. I am and think that every single tattoo that she got, which were plentiful, were just for boosts and her Instagram likes. She was independently wealthy and hired the cheapest immigrant nannies to help all the time (nothing at all wrong with that, but she would brag about how she could pay a 15 year old girl $8 for 3 kids under the table but a real nanny would be at least $25/hour), but she never posted about her help. She acted like she did it all herself. The sad thing is is that I knew she was completely and utterly struggling with parenting, in utter despair, crying, spanking her kids multiple times a day (not illegal in our state but she admitted it didn’t help the kids act better but didn’t know what to do otherwise, she’d even spank them in the middle of the night when they’d wake up with nightmares and cone to get for comfort) and at her wits end. which is normal and perfectly understandable, everybody struggles with parenting from time to time at the very least. But it was the absolute complete opposite of what she put on her Instagram feed. It’s like she was so invested in creating this perfect life online, never talking about reality. But again, you don’t have to trauma dump online either. In any case I just think it’s too messy and weird for the kids.
OMG… this is ridiculous. These damn parents have known these dangers for over a decade, to state that your just now figuring this out is absolute BS. These parents are looking to monetize their channels and use their kids as the sacrificial lambs to make them money. And then when a predator steps into the picture, they run straight to the media crying about it. Seriously, these parents have never seen Dateline and the terrifying amount of disgusting men (& women) who want children??? Unbelievable that adults with children can be so stupid.
Any parent with common sense in their head would not publicly post pictures of their kids . If I post any of my children their private.. the only people who have access to my private pages her family members and people I actually talked to like friends not just random people
You know, in my day, if a patent wanted to capture a moment, it was on a kodak camera or VHS tape, and you put the pictures in a book with laminated sheets, and shove it into your book case, and the home made VHS tapes get shoved in a drawer with all the classic Disney movies. And that was it. Then at holidays you would blow the dust off the photo album or tapes and show it to your kids and say, "Remember that? Your 7th birthday party at Kid's Castle? There's your friend from kindergarten Jeremy Welsh, and my long time friend from spin class, Carol's youngest daughter Bethany Watson, playing nicely with you in the ball pit. And here we all are 3 years later going camping at Lake Shasta, remember how we ran out of marshmallows on the second night so we just had melted chocolate Graham crackers? And you and your sister tried to catch fireflies all night. Those were fun times!" Then you shut through book, turn off the tape and rewind it, and you look at it again in another 15 years. That's it. THAT OPTION STILL EXISTS BTW!!!!
I once dated a guy that would post his every disagreement with the mother of his kids online... in vivid, clearly biased detail. He also wouldn't give direct feedback, had large shifts in sentiment "on a dime," and was always extremely quick to threaten legal action... while I am not a doctor it always led me to believing he could have the BPD... which, while I don't know anyone with BPD etc., really was a bit of a red flag with me. It felt... compulsive so I just had to let that one go, chalking it up as _experience_ because he was "on the games." 😒
I say this because, while yes, I did have to request parents delete certain postings... for me, it really was the 35-44 year old men that's where I really felt I saw the oversharing on social media. It led me to push to keep it conceptual and never personal in my online navigating.
I would assume narcissism, not bpd, based on the information you’ve shared here. I’ve been diagnosed with bpd and I can’t engage with most social media at all, and I don’t think any of my friends with bpd diagnoses do either. Social media presence typically has more to do with attention seeking behaviors (prevalent in narcissistic personalities) than it does with emotional dysregulation, which is the primary issue in BPD. Either way, engaging in very public conflicts with a co-parent is a huge red flag in a relationship, for sure.
Exactly! The kids don't have a say! I'm not posting anything online about my kid without their permission! I don't even have social media anymore & i cannot believe the difference i feel mentally! I also know who my "real" friends are now!
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The insecurity of people wanting attention is a hell of a drug
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It's very sad & pathetic as hell
ikr? just love yourself. Its that simple
And they're the ones with all the kids.
My destitute cousins all had their first kid before 18. And I'm 28 and never even dated anyone.
Goddamn right.
Narcissistic parents using their children for validation is disgusting
Narcissists make me sick. That Cody woman is clearly a narc.
And and as source of income
@@TxHoneyBee when you don’t even think of how your actions affect your kid, you’re a narcissist.
I think the adult child’s mother has a mental condition, MSBP.
@@TxHoneyBeeDefinitely. The fact that she continued posting her children after knowing that they were being sexualized and their school address was leaked, but just “concealed” their identities says everything. She saw the dangers firsthand but continues posting her children in what she sees as a “safer” way. It’s not safe, everyone who has continued watching knows who her kids are and where they live, where they go to school. Why add fuel to that fire?
My children asked me not to post them online and I respect it! After seeing this, I’m glad I did ❤
Sure
Your only glad because your afraid of the consequences
Yes but the argument is that kids/minors don’t have a grasp on long term effects of having their whole lives online and CANT give consent..
So whether a kid says they want to or don’t want to be online, they are not old enough to understand what they’re giving consent to,
so we as parents need to protect them by waiting until they are old enough to have their own social media and are able to make that decision for themselves,
There are legit child predators online who save videos & pics of young kids for nefarious purposes
@@BryerTheGreater1 lol OBVIOUSLY
So the "kids" had to tell you. Interesting.
I removed myself from all social media during the beginning of Covid in 2020 and i haven't looked back. I find myself happier. I no longer spend hours checking to see if someone liked my posts or reading negative comments or feeling like I have to post everything i am doing just to keep up with friends and family's posts. I spend more time in the real world and quality time with my wife and kids.
Right there with you. I have kept an old Facebook with no friends/don't post on it just for a running group I'm in. I have TH-cam and that's it.
TH-cam is social media though
@@ThePathOfLeastResistanc This is true. I try to use it for recipes and workout videos but sometimes get sucked into some of these other subjects.
@lindseycorsi7741 TH-cam for me is less drama and invasive...and for the general public who aren't content creators..but it still has the terrible influence other apps have.
Me too! Ditched FB and never looked back. Never had most other socials. I do enjoy YT but that's it for me. My life is less cluttered without randomly reading nonsense posts. Sorry, not sorry that I don't need to see or read about everything people I semi-know are doing all the time!
Protecting our children should be #1 at all times. So many internet predators lurking online 24/7 looking for pictures or content of children. 😢
Exactly. I am terrified of predators
and stop doing it while driving- this can and does kill - it killed my daughter
@@joannbengtson1959 I am sorry to hear this 😢
That’s just a QAnon conspiracy.
I am so glad this topic is being discussed! Child exploiting is all over youtube mommy vlogs.
Family vlogs
The creepy comments from men about children is horrible.
This is why I don't follow any of these "family vloggers". It's all antics for likes and sponsors, Plenty of them have been busted for faking videos, forcing the kids to have certain reactions, it's disgusting.
They need to make laws to make a stop to this
It's creepy. The kids look sad and tired too.
The parents do this for themselves; to get attention. The kids are their way to say " look at what a super parent I am!" They dont think 10 years down the line these kids get embarrassed by these posts.
yup especially the wives. women are addicted to attention
They enjoy objectifying and humiliating their children for all the worth see. They know what they are doing. They enjoy causing their children pain and suffering. Then they play dumb and act like they had no idea what the impact would be on their poor kids' mental and physical health.
They know.
Their show moms but online basically definitely need some laws in place
Exactly
Good job to the husband. They married a weird woman.
There’s a family vlogger here on TH-cam that posts her child with special needs and her daughter.. and overshares. In one video, she was telling everyone how constipated her daughter was (while daughter was crying in the background from the pain), and I found it incredibly disgusting of her to do something like that. I told her in the comments (nicely) how she is exploiting her children (and a couple of people even agreed with me) but she had her “defenders” who told me and others who brought up the issue to “leave her alone. She tries very hard for her kids.” I had to unsubscribe.
Parents, keep your kids off social media
I'm sorry, but we don't need to be 'nice' when faced with evil. Call it what it is- demonic child exploitation by none other than the PARENTS. The child predators are in the home with the kids, usually.
@naruhianastarr I know which vlog you are referring to. There was a video of one of the children in the doctors office suffering because of a painful treatment. We contribute to the violation of these kids privacy when we continue to watch their content. I unsubscribed as well.
U would never know any information about special needs kids until u have one
@@KC-rp5se Thank goodness I'm not a breeder with a special needs kid. It's a blessing and wise to be child-free for many women.
@@KC-rp5se You can educate others about what the challeges are without filming a child in a vulnerable state with no pants on and showing the world. My baby died as a result of a chromosome translocation, so you are right in that I did not get the opportunity to raise a special needs child.
I've been saying this for several years now but I think we'll eventually have a trend of children suing their parents for exploiting them online.
If so then I guess the number of children filing for emancipation from their abusive guardians will see a rise too
The adults responsible for parenting and supervising ought to know better. There's nothing preventing developers and bigtech from providing consistent privacy check-ins, safety education and preventative tools and quarterly screening to proactively keep their communities safe - well, they'd get less revenue based on their current business models so I guess that's a bit of a deterrent 😕
Like the Nirvana cover of the baby boy who was naked in a pool. He sued his parents and Nirvana for exploitation.
Not to mention the tell-all’s.
We need laws that limit how much kids photos are posted online. I often have wondered how kids feel once they reach adulthood and their childhood was posted online
Yeah but for most normal parents we don't want our children's lives plastered all over the Internet and if we are posting our children it's private to family... But then again there are those parents that feel like the more followers the better when it's not it should just be people you actually know and speak with or interact with
Clown, we dont need more control from govt
@@ac61900 I think so. I've seen grifters who will do weird things to their kid. Just for the attention online.
One guy yelled at his kid until he cried. Another took his kid's food and shoved it in his face like a bully would.
It's demoralizing. And it makes me think the system is just geared to rewarding bad people. And only them.
NONE, the answer is no photos should be posted online, kids can do that theirself when they are old enough to make a choice about it.
@jonithegoodlawyer well thank you for correcting me, english is not my first language.
This is why I deleted all social media that had my kids on it. There are too many child predators out there watching children on TikTok and Instagram
Same!!!! I regrets sharing so many photos and such when my kids were small. I deleted everything and eventually got rid of my accounts. They deserve more privacy.
I've personally seen gross behaviors from mothers and their social media addiction, using their children to get attention. One mother pulled up to the park in her car, got her and her child out, put him onto the swing for max 5 minutes, and took pictures the entire time before waddling back to the car when SHE was done. Another one, almost the same thing, but at a splash pad, almost begging the child to "smile x 100" while she snapped loads of pics and then flopped down to watch and not play at all. Outside of TH-cam, I no longer use social media, it's become so toxic, if people want to see what I'm up to I'm a call away.
It's really creepy that you're watching that closely
Smh that's beyond disgusting, these poor kids need real mothers who want to be stay at home moms.
Just had a trip to Monterey bay aquarium and what your talking about was about half the parents inside and the place looked like Woodstock for how crowded it was just a recipe for disaster
None of these kids that are posted are super cute, so Idky so many pix are being taken and forced on the world.
@@CC-si3cr that’s a creepy rude thing to say
The problem is these parents are so unhinged they don’t care or feel that you are attacking them or their parenting.
“Parenting”
And their followers will defend them and tell you you’re just so jealous and let them do them!
This isn't the “other side” of social media. This IS what social media is for for thousands of parents.
Spot on.
and social media while driving kills- my daughter was ran over by a driver using FB messenger- checking a posting about a boat for sale- No lie he made that choice - media crazy and inattentive to those around him - he had almost 3 football fields to notice her and avoid her
Exactly
@@joannbengtson1959 what!?!? That's crazy! I'm so sorry to hear this 😢
@@joannbengtson1959I truly am sorry…..Not to diminish your experience but I’ve heard so many stories of motor vehicle accidents due to surfing the web while driving. I would hope in the near future that phones will be disabled except for GPS and voice activated phone calls while driving. People texting/surfing while driving has become an epidemic.
I told my friends years ago to not post pictures of their kids online. Especially in compromising photos. Just because you “think” you know the people you have as friends doesn’t mean you “know” what they’re doing with your kids pictures.
People need to use common sense.
Finally news and legislation is catching up with this. We need to address these TH-cam mommy vloggers who pay the bills by over exposing and exploiting their children.
Exactly! Exploitation is what it is!! It’s very disgusting what these parents will do for money.
True. But call them family vlogs. I actually learned about these blogs through a male content creator who filmed his family. The mom wasn’t as involved. Same with a few other vlogs I used to watch back in the day. There was this Christian family where the dad was the main creator, his wife was his side kick and they had a bunch of kids. So this extends to more than just mommy vloggers.
I totally think it’s invasive even for myself! I hate going to baby showers and parties to be put online. Even if I ask “no camera” I somehow see myself on someone’s profile. Horrible!
As someone with no social media I agree. You can have a super power these days.. you can be invisible (be private)!
@@lovelifelaugh2727 I am private, I post very little and I can’t get tagged but I still get uploaded by others. Annoying…
@@Areli_Precioussame girl I hate my picture taken too if I know it’s going online 🥵
Same here and then I get laughed at for being a prude. But that's honestly not what it is. I don't have social media for a reason so if I'm not the one putting it out there, I feel as though its not anyone else's place to do it for me.
I’ve been saying this, I do not allow my children’s photos to be posted on social media, my mom even has to ask and the answer will be no every time. People aren’t thinking about protecting their kids, they’re thinking about attention and money, they all wanna be famous and force their kids into that world, it’s sick. I know 10 years from now everyone will be cringing at their social medias and the children will be resentful of their parents for exposing them so young.
100% this.
Ditto! We had to tell all the grandparents to not post the children online after they posted them as newborns.
The only hope I have is that maybe the next generation will see through social media and want nothing to do with it because of how much it negatively affected them. Maybe they will see it for what it is and opt out of using it. One can hope.
Let's just pause for a moment and think about the fact that our government is proposing a bill to protect children from their parents behavior with social media. Parenting in America is, by and large, just crappy. I'm an educator, and was giving talks to parents back in the 90's on how to keep their kids safe when allowing them to use the internet. So it's gone from protecting children from their own behavior online, to children having to be protected from their parents behavior online. Unbelievable!!
Yes to all of this! I remember my teaching giving us a lesson on Internet safety. Back then, it seemed like common sense. Now? The entire world is doing the dumb thing and over-exposing themselves to evil demons online.
@@TxHoneyBee Because now people can get paid for over-exposing themselves online. If people could make money that way in the 90s they'd absolutely do it.
and social media while driving kills- our daughter was ran over while someone was interacting on their phone- unbelievable
@@joannbengtson1959 Oh my goodness. I'm sorry to hear this. I hate distracted drivers or DUI drivers. Is your daughter okay? I'm so so sorry.
@@joannbengtson1959 I hope that driver received the maximum punishment we have by law. It is unbelievable!!
A lot of people have no business having children.
I was in college when social media gained steam. It’s scary seeing how comfortable people are with sharing their children with the world. Yes, it can be fun but there are way too many crazies out there who should never have access to your babies. Parents, please be safe and protect your kids as much as you can.
Yes and some do it in the guise of business or advertising etc... Children deserve to have their privacy and to go in social media when they choose to as adults
@@mimi42428 this disgusts me too...parents using their children as their "brand." I cannot fathom how much of a negative impact that will have on the child once they realize what's going on. So upsetting. Social media has ruined people's brains.
There is money and attention to be made by sharing your kids and becoming a social media star so that's why. Unless it's regulated, all these social media stars will continue to do what they do
This one friend of mine post her 2 year old daughter naked in pampers 🤦🏾♀️ - also it’s not the government to protect kids but the PARENTS
Please report her to CPS. This is not okay!!
Very thoughtful piece. I will never post my kids again. I used to have Facebook but I quit all that personal social media, absolutely would never do it again. This drives it home. Kids deserve privacy and to not grow up having everything they do announced to the world, we will continue to see ramifications of this for years.
The need to protect your children’s privacy should be inherent in every parent and pre-dates the internet. Those of us who were around before the internet know that there have always been irresponsible parents who exploit their children for their own self indulgence (children’s beauty pageants). The internet simply provides a tool to enhance the thrill for those selfish parents. The mom who said she started dancing with her kids to keep them entertained still has no self awareness of her own need for attention, she only posted the videos for herself, not for her kids and she only removed the videos when she felt threatened by the responses. If the responses had all been positive or if she had not read the comments, she would still be posting her children to get “likes” and to feed her need for attention. These internet parents need therapy and parenting classes.
Jackpot👏🏾
You are so spot on!
The amount of documentaries and Netflix specials coming our way in 5, 10, 20 years time from all the traumatised former Tik Tok/ Instagram shared children is going to be insane 🥴😣
Seriously 😢😮
So glad she actually learned from it and took her kids off the internet ❤
Her nasally voice reminded me so much Kim k
I always thought if I didn't share my kids people would think I wasnt a good mother. Now I see its the other way around. I just don't feel like snapping pictures of everything my kids do. I love my kids so much but I don't want to snap pictures of them all day, every day. Gets exhausting. Let kids be kids.
This is why being a prude or conservative is the way, and these 'progressive' liberals got it all backwards. That want fast 'progress' alright... right into Satan's arms. These people are controlled by dark principalities, and people love to follow 'trends' instead of thinking for themselves.
What does it matter what anybody thinks? You do what you want ❤
I’m very thankful that I made the decision to stay off of platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, and Snapchat. I’ve never been on TikTok and Snapchat. I haven’t had Twitter since high school and I haven’t had Instagram since college. I graduated over five years ago. It will be five years in September since I’ve had Facebook. Im near 30 and it’s been so beneficial to my mental health. Don’t get me wrong: it’s great to reconnect with friends and it does have its perks. However, now that I have a child, I have to be very careful. It’s not me being mean but I’m being cautious because you don’t know about some people now a days. 🤷🏼♀️. I don’t post videos on TH-cam either. Only comment on videos. Keeping my life journey for me to enjoy! Be careful out there everyone.
You go girl! 🙌🏼
@lilCindi1010 Thank you! It truly was one of the best decisions of my life.
Way to go on taking care of you & your little one! Making these choices about social media is a hard one…I still have Fb & Ig but rarely post & for Fb try to keep it “private” when it’s of my kids but I still wonder if it’s safe & we have a biz page that we post some pics of our kids publicly but now I wonder if I should go delete those. They are pics of my kids in a bike race & the event is set to public anyways by the host. It’s so hard to keep our kids off of everything. I have 6 kiddos ages 10-20 so I’ve gone back and forth over this topic for years. I used to not think anything of posting pics now it makes kinda sick to think of posting anything on Fb;(
@@LadiesofPurposeTV You know in your heart that you ought to delete those public photos of those children. They did not consent, PERIOD!
@@TxHoneyBee yeah my kids do consent bc I ask before I post anything of them😁. If they say no then I dont.
The question is why do you feel the need to upload 500+ photos of your toddlers daily on the internet for strangers to see ?
I will always cringe when I see a full grown adult do a “Dance” for social media. I cant imagine tagging my kids along while I am at it. I guess, glad she learned her lesson. I guess all that social media world is not for me 🥱
Yeah Codi certainly won't win mother of the year. How incredibly stupid.
Sadly, she did not learn her lesson. She still posts video with her children in them. She's a nasty person. She simply hides their faces now, but she leaves them in despite knowing who's watching her content. I believe that she is doing this on purpose.
I recognized my co-workers child at the grocery store and I hadn't even meet this child before. The only reason I knew who it was, was from being friends with them on facebook. It was an a-ha moment for me.
Similar situation happened to me. Pretty strange to think about it now that I read your comment.
But is her facebook public?
@@Tamara-id1pe Yes
This is why I’ve always said “kids don’t belong online”. This isn’t a game, this is their life being commodified and exploited.
And you never know who’s on the internet looking at your kids, or what people will do with the pictures you post of them online.
finally people are talking about this! ive been literally saying the same thing for like 7 years now! i deleted all my social media. i only have youtube. other apps i use are: soundcloud,lyft (emergencies), hulu, and maps.
Me too with having TH-cam. I have an old Facebook that doesn't have friends/I don't post on that I use to view a running group.
@@heidiiiiiiii thats good! i forreal dont ever want to use facebook or instagram again. they really ruined how we perceive things. not to mention we can’t trust a lot of the people or things they share.
Parents are failing their children big time.
I'm very surprised that this is the topic of discussion now when I have concerns about this maybe 5 more years ago. And i always tell parents not to post too much about your family because it does invite unwanted stalking from other people
I've always been surprised at how much people put online about their children. There are some really bad people out there.
There are SO many sickos out there. No need to expose yourself and your kids to them any more than you already do just going about your day to day lives.
I decided to quit social media and my children are not online at all. I love it, I have no pressure to post pictures to “keep up” with. Don’t have the pressure of every holiday getting a perfect pic of my family. We are happier and I never have to worry about freaks online and my children have a private childhood just like I did when I was growing up! 🙌🏼❤️
Children can't give true consent.
I have learned it's not a good share when it's a child at risk.
Good parents make mistakes, imagine the harm that bad or thoughtless parents can do through having no respect for their children's boundaries.
Sensitive, introverted children suffer the most when their parents discuss their lives without any regard for the children's privacy.
It can be difficult for those kids to speak up because those types of parents don't listen or change their behavior anyway.
I feel badly for those kids especially.
They are trapped in a world of broken trust through daily disrespect for their feelings.
What do you consider a "good parent?"
Having a narcissistic parent is so difficult
My mother got her first video camera the year I was born. I have known what it is like to be publicized and displayed for public scrutiny without consent. Doesn't feel good being videotaped while vulnerable and my 25th birthday video montage gives me nightmare flashbacks to this day. I am so glad my husband and I got on the same page keeping our kid off of social media right away. It is strange to me that this concern was not considered by other parents... Have parents of today not been paying attention to the negative impacts of publicity for child actors/actresses or the crime cases involving young kids even with people they know well? Doesn't it seem significant that many of the most beloved famous people keep their families out of the spotlight and blur the image of their baby/kids when possible? I definitely want to stay connected with people, so I do understand the appeal especially coming from a big family. However, the number one rule of boxing is "always protect yourself"... That should be said for our kids too, so don't take away their choice to stay private and protected.
Years ago when celebrities would ask paparazzi to not take pictures or post about their kids.. THIS is what they meant. The children are little and cannot make that decision for themselves. However, there are parents out there doing it purely for exploitation like Wren Eleanor.
So, we should wait before our children are adults before we record their recitals, games, and milestones?
@@CC-uq7cv oh idc what you do. They are your children. But they are not choosing to be shared. The consequences of sharing without privacy or oversharing can be detrimental to them in the future. Nobody would have liked a camera shoved in their face when they were little and had every nuance recorded for an audience.
@@CC-uq7cvAbsolutely Record away, for your own entertainment, just don’t post it for the creeps please.
Parents continue oversharing when their children are adults too. I've had multiple heated arguments with my mother about not posting private photos of me on her Facebook page, but she continues to do so. I'm 40 and I'm so over it.
It's saddening to hear the first woman's story because it seems like she genuinely had innocent intentions. People get lonely and I can see how attractive parasocial relationships can be - it must feel like having a few hundred friends/relatives following along with your life at first, and sharing with them probably feels just as harmless as sharing with great aunt Shirley. But as an adult, you need to be the more mature one who sees past that allure to protect your kids. Glad people like these lovely women are speaking out with their experiences.
Kodye is a wonderful mom. If you have tiktok she kinda explains some of her life in her videos.
I'm a mother of 5 boys we dont post or have social media at all. I have old random MySpace 😕 lol an old FB but I couldn't imagine one thing I would wver want to share with the world when it comes to my babies and the gift of memories and life we share. They will be adults one day and can make choices of who and what they will share. ❤ stick to our roots an always follow your gut.
Way to go mama!!!!!
The world would be better off with our social media. The smartphone has ruined society and I’m glad people are starting to wake up.
I agree
how did you make this comment?
@@diaryofamadblackfemcel2094
I made it on you tube, I understand that. But Your missing the point, the smartphone has replaced so many jobs and put so many companies out of business. And will continue to do so more and more with A.I. and the like. You can say replaced with tech jobs, but look how many have been let go in the last year in tech industry. Pretty soon all those people won’t be needed. Then what? Look and see the what will happen to banking industry in the next 10 years. I don’t trust fake digital #’s on the computer screen and our government shouldn’t either. Crypto’s a pyramid scheme.
This has been a long time coming. Parents go overboard with the stuff they share. Kids have zero say so about being online. Just never seen completely right to do.
I’m sick of parents putting kids on social media very scary
They don't want to protect they want to monetize their kids, stop pretending and get a real job
It became stupid when gender reveals became a thing. I refused to date a girl who was into that. My wife and I are expecting now. We found out the sex the normal way, told our close family (siblings and folks) and left it at that. Everyone is now trying to be the Kardashians and then complain when they don’t get the public support they demand or when others criticize them (as public figures).
I have zero social media and have never looked back. My daughter and my photos were stolen online and that was it for me. It's actually refreshing. I didn't like that anyone could take any photos even if it was a simple selfie.
What kind of mother shows off her small children to strangers? Hopefully, lesson learned!
Parents should be a child’s first line of defense
Yes it's because more parents are more concerned about who looks at what they're posting rather than just being parents. They care more about betraying a lifestyle they don't live they care more about pretending to be better parents than they are..
Portraying?
I heard about this yesterday on NPR. As a millennial who grew up with the Internet I found this VERY fascinating yet scary AF and sad.
The NPR reporter said she was looking to get in touch with a famous mommy blogger and knew her FULL NAME from her mom's blog but was able to figure out what college she went to from a reddit forum. REDDIT! She just Googled her name with the school and found her to contact her. 😮
I used to do social media but after I was scammed in 2018 . And my folks were so mad at me for lying about it and I gave up social media and I’ve been so happy. And parents I say it’s time to give up social media it’s too dangerous
💯 here for this!! Long overdue!
A mom on IG made a reel shamming her son, who was sitting in his carseat (prob around the age of five) because he wet the bed she is an Olympic athlete publicly shamming her son who was begging her to stop. All I could think was this poor kid and what he has to look forward to as a teen now that this public. The amount of attention some people need is staggering.
Please name and shame this person. Who did this?
Name the person.
I've been noticing this trend and its awful to see. Parents really need to be careful and protect the privacy from their family. Kids need their space too.
I deleted Facebook and Instagram and I’m so glad I did. I no longer post photos of my kids. For close friends and family I send directly to them.
500 pictures a day = over 20 pictures posted an hour, 24 hrs a day. Then she was taking videos and stuff.... phew. was there anything even private?
I dare everyone who sees this to drop social media for a week. You’ll feel so so much better.
and stop using their phone while driving! it can and does kill
The 2nd biggest concern, after exploiting their children, is a lot of the younger generation in their early 20’s having kids are not working. Their channels consist of we are going on a cruise (usually with other family channels) then a week later they are heading on an international holiday. They believe taking videos of themselves going on holidays is a “job”. What happens when all this goes away or circumstances change?! None of them look like they know how to hold down a normal 9-5 job. What does this teach their kids?
The most annoying thing to hear from them when they are given reality in their comments is people are trolling them or people are just jealous. There is no accountability from them in any way. Will it be everyone else’s fault when they can’t keep doing things the way they want - absolutely! So they keep building fancy houses and take all these trips and when it all comes crashing down they will cry about how unfairly they have been treated or ask their “internet family” for money 🙄
I think it’s wonderful to see some genuine families out there having fun but the fake ones who get defensive about comments are usually the calculating, exploitative people looking for attention and fame using their children. It will be interesting to see in a years time how TH-cam and other platforms change the rules around these family channels…..
The parents doing this grew up with social media in their lives. I'm stunned that they still can claim not being aware of who can see things. Also, these dangers have been discussed by TH-camrs (such as Cruel World Happy Mind) over the last few years. Frankly, I'm appalled at the adults in this case. This malaise of current parenting culture is one of the many reasons I refuse to have children.
Yup there’s two kinds of moms. Kirstin Bell (google her family you can see how respectful she is of privacy) and Kim K types (how she doesn’t respect and will exploit for a living) #protectthechildren
0:56 500 pictures a day!? That's beyond "oversharing" - I like how they made the volume quiet to hopefully let that slip by. She needs a hobby.
There's a difference between sharing publicly versus privately on social media. Parents who expose their minor kids publicly need to stop.
Social media is public no matter what…
It’s all public once it’s posted. Even if your page is private, someone who follows you can simply screenshot your photos and screen record your videos. Happens all the time. If you don’t want your life out there you shouldn’t have social media at all.
"parents oversharing?" I would estimate it is 100% moms who are the problem here desperately looking for attention and recognition.
As in fathers don’t post their children?
Actually a lot of fathers I know post pictures of their kids all the time to make it looks like they're good dads when irl they are barely involved
You incel males are delusional. The problem is moreso the MALE, degenerate child predators than anything. Also, you say there aren't male family bloggers? I guess you didn't hear of Bobby Moudy.....
Yup this is why my husband and I decided not to do that. I literally posted once when he was born. That’s it. It’s pretty messed up. Parents be better.
This should be a federal law.
I've never uploaded a single photo of my children online. I don't participate in social media outside of TH-cam.
Keep covering this!!!
She posted 500 pics s day…… a suit of armor…… the fact these parents crave the attention from strangers on the internet by sharing everything, they deserve what they get.
“Content creator” is not a job!!!! It’s a need for attention, validation, and clout chasing. It’s addicting to these women. They wouldn’t survive without that need from men
I don’t see dads posting these stories as much as moms.
Try commenting on it to warn them and they'll just call you a hater😅
Ladies say my body my choice. Children should be able to say their body their choice if they want to be on social media. Children will grow up, but what are the repercussions of being on social media when it all come back on them with negative comments and more. Are their parents going to help clean up all backlash. Mentally, their children could be damaged for life.
The problem is what about children like Abbie Maass? She's a non-verbal autistic child who has been exploited by her parents since she was twelve years old. They have become wealthy due to Abbie! She can never advocate for herself or ask her parents to take the videos down. So what can be done about people like that? The channel is fathering autism. He even has videos of her and how he takes her to the bathroom. It's horrible! Not to even mention the PPP loans he and other family vloggers got illegally during covid! 😡
I got called a creep for telling people to stop posting their kids schools, naked baby pics, etc. but hey what do I know
I'm an elementary teacher who makes end of the year video with pictures of students throughout the year. The last couple of years I've noticed mostly all my students HATE having their pictures taken. They are so insecure and feel the need to be perfect. It's so sad. I stopped making the videos because I want them to have a choice about their pictures being taken of them.
These parents are exposing and violating their children’s privacy and rights.
“I needed a hand to hold…” and instead her mom had a phone in her face. Tragic!!
Then they should stop paying these folks money. I always thought this was a problem
Not just kids. It's anyone. Don't just post pictures of people. Always ask them. Also not EVERYTHING should be posted. Just enjoy the moment sometimes, even if you do take a picture
I rarely post about my kids online, but other family members seem to think it’s ok to post pictures of my kids without permission. I have to tell them every time to run it by us first. I want my kids to be in control of their own media presence on their own terms.
You can "pass the day with your kids" without posting it on social media.
I firmly believe that nobody should place any pictures of their children on social media, at all, ever.
Its very simple. Don't make your accounts PUBLIC! Unless you are a social media influencer you shouldn't be public. Dont give yourself away for free, be choosy with who you allow into your life.
Also, don't allow just anyone to follow you. I've seen people who have their accounts private but have thousands of followers.
The whole " I just made some videos to have a fun time with my kids" excuse is BS.
I have taken tons and tons of fun videos with my nephews and I've never posted them online. People who post online content are looking for others to see them whereas because they want to show of or want approval or fame or whatever.
About the law: Why waiting for their consent when they are adult? Let's put the age down to at least 13 years old, the age one can open their own social media account.
Exactly because it’s like that in France
So glad they did a segment on this! I deleted my FB, twitter and instagram a few years ago. Before I deleted them, I stopped posting so much about my kids because I started seeing things through their eyes and didn't think it was respectful to share their lives like that. Then I got convicted about the fact that if I think that social media is so unhealthy (which I do), and I tell my kids they can't have it (which they don't...no phones or anything), then why do I have it? It seemed to be hypocritical. So I just deleted all of my social media pages. So glad that I did. I feel like I'm living in the real world now, and that I'm way more present than I used to be. Social media takes advantage that people like to share things about their lives. It became normalized so quickly that people didn't even think about what they were doing. They just accepted that now we post about our lives or our kids lives to everyone whenever we feel like it. But no. It's not normal. We need to think about what we're doing, and stop participating in all of it. Step away from your phones, people. Start living your lives. If you want to share things about your kid's lives or yours, text your family members. Social media needs to disappear.
This is exactly why I left Instagram years ago. One of my neighbor friends would buy a bunch of trendy clothes online, dress her kids up in them on Sunday, one outfit after the other, and take posed pictures. Then during the week she posted the pictures as if it was what they were wearing that day. But the kids went to daycare everyday. They weren’t home with the mom. Nothing wrong with that, but she was literally lying to her followers that they were home with them.
Then she would take her kids to the most Instagramable of all places to get cute pictures of them getting on and off horses, petting animals, drinking fancy drinks, wearing cute hats and shoes. Once we went to a kids play place, kind a like indoor playground gym that my kids love. The whole time she was complaining about it, how gross and germy (to be fair it was grungy but I’m not afraid of it ;) it was and how the lighting was bad. I wanted to say, “well your kids are having a great time here, are you just mad cause you can’t post it on Instagram? That was the last time we took our kids somewhere together.
I feel pretty certain that she had a third child just so she could post it on her Instagram feed and get more followers. I’m also very certain that she went to live in Bali with her family just to get pics for her feed. I am and think that every single tattoo that she got, which were plentiful, were just for boosts and her Instagram likes.
She was independently wealthy and hired the cheapest immigrant nannies to help all the time (nothing at all wrong with that, but she would brag about how she could pay a 15 year old girl $8 for 3 kids under the table but a real nanny would be at least $25/hour), but she never posted about her help. She acted like she did it all herself.
The sad thing is is that I knew she was completely and utterly struggling with parenting, in utter despair, crying, spanking her kids multiple times a day (not illegal in our state but she admitted it didn’t help the kids act better but didn’t know what to do otherwise, she’d even spank them in the middle of the night when they’d wake up with nightmares and cone to get for comfort) and at her wits end. which is normal and perfectly understandable, everybody struggles with parenting from time to time at the very least. But it was the absolute complete opposite of what she put on her Instagram feed. It’s like she was so invested in creating this perfect life online, never talking about reality. But again, you don’t have to trauma dump online either. In any case I just think it’s too messy and weird for the kids.
Some of us just want to live life without the attention of sharing it live in the moment. Believe me, i quit it all. it's amazing!
OMG… this is ridiculous. These damn parents have known these dangers for over a decade, to state that your just now figuring this out is absolute BS. These parents are looking to monetize their channels and use their kids as the sacrificial lambs to make them money. And then when a predator steps into the picture, they run straight to the media crying about it. Seriously, these parents have never seen Dateline and the terrifying amount of disgusting men (& women) who want children??? Unbelievable that adults with children can be so stupid.
You are spot on with your comment. Thank you. One correction: women can be predators, too. I'm thinking about school teachers and nuns in particular.
When I watch a video, I look for the comment that matches my exact thoughts. And this is the one lol.
More like 2 decades now, which only makes your point even more strong.
@@davemathews7890you are absolutely correct, Dave. I’ve updated my post! Thank you for bring to my attention. 😊
@@whyamiheredlb You're welcome.And thank you for taking a suggestion so well. That's rare on the internet nowadays.
Im tired of yall posting these kids all over social media. If i follow you, i wanna see you not your kids, pets etc.
That's exactly why all my public social media is just me..nothing else.... totally agree 👍
Any parent with common sense in their head would not publicly post pictures of their kids . If I post any of my children their private.. the only people who have access to my private pages her family members and people I actually talked to like friends not just random people
@@ac61900 same here, my friend
That’s what she gets. There are a lot of sick people out there. Social media is dangerous as hell. You don’t post your children, your home, nothing
You know, in my day, if a patent wanted to capture a moment, it was on a kodak camera or VHS tape, and you put the pictures in a book with laminated sheets, and shove it into your book case, and the home made VHS tapes get shoved in a drawer with all the classic Disney movies. And that was it. Then at holidays you would blow the dust off the photo album or tapes and show it to your kids and say, "Remember that? Your 7th birthday party at Kid's Castle? There's your friend from kindergarten Jeremy Welsh, and my long time friend from spin class, Carol's youngest daughter Bethany Watson, playing nicely with you in the ball pit. And here we all are 3 years later going camping at Lake Shasta, remember how we ran out of marshmallows on the second night so we just had melted chocolate Graham crackers? And you and your sister tried to catch fireflies all night. Those were fun times!"
Then you shut through book, turn off the tape and rewind it, and you look at it again in another 15 years.
That's it.
THAT OPTION STILL EXISTS BTW!!!!
I once dated a guy that would post his every disagreement with the mother of his kids online... in vivid, clearly biased detail. He also wouldn't give direct feedback, had large shifts in sentiment "on a dime," and was always extremely quick to threaten legal action... while I am not a doctor it always led me to believing he could have the BPD... which, while I don't know anyone with BPD etc., really was a bit of a red flag with me.
It felt... compulsive so I just had to let that one go, chalking it up as _experience_ because he was "on the games." 😒
I say this because, while yes, I did have to request parents delete certain postings... for me, it really was the 35-44 year old men that's where I really felt I saw the oversharing on social media. It led me to push to keep it conceptual and never personal in my online navigating.
And please note, I do get fired up sometimes so I do try to be gracious in those moments when reading... usually a divorced dad's post about etc. etc.
He’s sounds like a true narcissist, just avoid those kinds of people
I would assume narcissism, not bpd, based on the information you’ve shared here. I’ve been diagnosed with bpd and I can’t engage with most social media at all, and I don’t think any of my friends with bpd diagnoses do either. Social media presence typically has more to do with attention seeking behaviors (prevalent in narcissistic personalities) than it does with emotional dysregulation, which is the primary issue in BPD. Either way, engaging in very public conflicts with a co-parent is a huge red flag in a relationship, for sure.
Also, malicious use of litigation is definitely a favorite tool of narcissists.
This actually makes me sad. :( I love my babies to much, I try my besttttt to always consider their privacy.
Exactly! The kids don't have a say! I'm not posting anything online about my kid without their permission! I don't even have social media anymore & i cannot believe the difference i feel mentally! I also know who my "real" friends are now!