Great Leaders Do What Drug Addicts Do | Michael Brody-Waite | TEDxNashville
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- This is my story from drug addiction and homelessness to founding and leading a company on the Inc 500 list. There are 3 principles that saved me from death and set me apart as a leader. They are small enough to fit in your pocket, yet big enough to change your life. The best part is that anyone can take these principles and immediately implement them after watching this talk. Connect with Michael at ww.michaelbrodywaite.com
In 2010, Michael left a Fortune 50 company at the height of the recession to co-found and lead InQuicker, a healthcare SaaS company that allows patients to self-schedule appointments. His leadership grew the organization from 2 employees to 50 employees and 20,000% revenue growth in less than 6 years. This exceptional growth landed InQuicker a spot on the Inc. 500 list of Fastest Growing Private Companies. Additionally, InQuicker was named “Best Place To Work” by the Nashville Business Journal 4 times and recognized by the Nashville Chamber of Commerce as Healthcare company of the year. Brody-Waite’s accomplishments include being named Most Admired CEO, Top 40 under 40 by the Nashville Business Journal and recognized by the Nashville Chamber of Commerce as Healthcare Entrepreneur of the Year. Today, Michael is CEO of the Nashville Entrepreneur Center (EC) and Founder of Leader Confidential (LC). This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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1. Be authentic
2. Surrender the outcome
3. Do uncomfortable work no matter what
Sounds like dating advice 😄
@@colinogorman8279 life advice 😊
One day at a time. ♥️
@@DrSlideit Sometimes its thought to thought at a time.
Another very big principle of a 12-step recovery program is come to believe in a greater higher power who could return me to sanity (step 2) and then I make a decision to turn my life & will over to the care of God as I understood Him (step 3). Your decision, not someone else's.
Too often God's importance to sobriety & recovery is omitted or ignored.
My dad always told me, when I was in the midst of my addiction: "All that effort you're putting in to getting your drugs, that attitude of resilience, put that toward doing the right thing. You'll move mountains."
Love it!
I wish this message could get out to more people. I found the same thing.
Then you will never stop being an addict. I get what you mean tho just messing around.
It's so true!! The resilience and stubbornness to get what we want as former addicts allow us to fight through the walls of jello that most business owners get stuck in. The hard part for my own businesses is just that, the s that makes it plural. It's hard to say no to new ideas because I feel like I can take them all on! It's taken me 4 years to finally narrow down to one company that has made all the difference in the world! You really can move mountains Bekah! Hope you're going after a dream:)
Thanks that’s awesome
260 days ago, I cried when watching this, I found hope, I live just for today, I needed to see this again. Thankyou for saving my life.
Wow. I'm so honored to make that impact. Please send me a message over my website letting me know more about how this helped. I would really appreciate it!
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Wow I would like to know who your real sponsor was becuz must have been old school everything that u are saying I can almost give u my same story is like yours Wow I’m now 47 iv been addict since13 in and out of programs rehabs AA halfway houses NA I stayed clean durring my two pregnancy and went bk to wrk as a dancer and thought I could just sell drugs but no I tried every way 2013 I got clean and stayed clean I wasn’t selfish knew that I could afford to take care of my boys but if WASNT the life I wanted for them so I was grateful for my mom and her husband they went to live and go to school an hour away. Today I have a relationship with my boys but I still carry guilt like why couldn’t I do it myself ? But I also have bipolar disorder ptsd and couple other my boys love me iv been in there life and I don’t lie about my life or what I did I am ashamed but same time they love me fir doing what I had to do to leave a abusive relationship with there real father what he put them through I keep on trying to forgive myself I know they do and I am loved and live myself today. Thank u
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@Jay C 337 days today... 1 day at a time.
Tomorrow I'm going in a detox program for 11 days after that i'll go to rehabilitation. I'm gonna live by those three principles. Wish me luck guys!
Update: im out from the program, still clean. but rehabilitation wasn't taking more people because of the second wave of pandemic here in india. Its lockdown again. So, im here in my home taking Gabapentin and trying to stay away from stuff. Thats the hardest part. But i will overcome it. Sleep comes hard but i can atleast eat and function normally in the day.
I Really thank you guys for the love and support. Hope you're all doing okay. 😊
you can do this! I applaud you for taking that path.
I battle addiction. You got this!!! Much Love and Respect.
You can do it!!!
Excited for you brother. Thank you for watching.
Wishing you well fam you got it
Nothing more powerful than an addict in recovery. When you lose everything, you fear nothing, and have everything to gain.
Thanks Justin!
Usually on things like youtube comments there's always so many people that comment things about how addicts are worthless or weak and destroy everything, but this comment section is really inspiring me to get myself clean for once and for all. I know I am capable of so much more, I just always end up giving in to the need to escape my own mind
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel And the talk itself, it really hit home and touched my soul, thank you so much for sharing
@@horsepuncher95 I won't lie and say it's easy, but nothing worth it usually is, and you already have the tools to do the job. I highly reccomend it. Learning who you really are is one of the best experiences someone can have. If you really want it, you'll get it. 100% support.
@@horsepuncher95 you can totally do this! Seriously. Just take that first step.
1) Be Authentic 2) Surrender the Outcome 3) & Do Uncomfortable Work
1) lie 2) reframe 3) manipulate. Thats effectively the kind of behavior addicted people tend to do that makes SOME rich people succesfull. Not sure if it is good for society thought; we've had those leaders for quite a while now and the results are quite spectacular. We have a cultur civil war going on and the most effective industrial oligopol ever to take over society. Starting to miss the old conservative, greedy and self-centered leaders that used to be so irritating yet effective.
@rumpleforeskin73 as in going through withdrawals and dealing with the cravings when you're recovering.
Vince Evans Droping a comments so others can see this important sentences!
rumpleforeskin73 All hail Mall Rats
@rumpleforeskin73 schnooogins
“This story isn’t about how I can overcame addiction… This story is about why addiction is the reason for my success.”
“The worst thing about you, can become the best thing about you.”
The worst thing about you is why you become an addict in the first place, it all depends on what you understand as success, is it money? having things? sure there are people with a lot of money but still addict, sure everyone can stop taking drugs if they want to but to really be successful is to overcome or truly face what makes you addicted in the first place,
@@MrManny075 fax all comes down to unobtainable expectations that drives us insane
That's a empty platitude.
There should be alot more neurology and connection to diet in this.
@@Vscustomprinting I’m not sure wat ur meaning, but if u ur self r not an addict u then wouldn’t understand how any task or activities period beside be consumed in the ritual of ur drug is the only freedom n pleasure we can obtain anymore cuz we blasted ourselves w so much artificial deposits of dopamine on the daily that’s also part y our brain ends up changin chemically
Nobody's more loving & compassionate than an addict in recovery.
This is absolutely spot on!
That is absolutely true
I can tell that this man is authentic,
He's doing the talk in Sandals.
They look too big too.
@@jonanderson4474 Foot-sandal mismatch at Ted... same old same old
Alessandro mele with socks at that
Thanks Alessandro! I took a lot of flack for wearing the flip flops (which yes are slightly too big for my feet) but it wouldn't have been authentic if I didn't :) Thanks for watching the talk!
Lol, I immediately thought of him being authentic
I started crying when he addressed the addict struggling watching this.... been clean 105 days. I needed this.
Amazing. Congrats on your time. It’s incredible the steps you are taking to get you life back.
Congrats! I just got 9 months but most importantly we have today. 💜
Stay strong , try not to give in , you may feel alone .... you are not alone
16 days
it made me cry too
I’m an 18 year old Senior in High school. Been doing all type of drugs since I was 13. This Ted-Talk actually made me cry because I honestly don’t think I will make it to 21. I’m definitely gonna head on the right track now. You just saved my life
you can do it jamal, go for it
Hear you brother, keep it up we can all change
Hey dude. Make sure you don't try to to it alone. We recovery together die alone.
Of course your gonna do it. In 2002 I lost my best friend partner and kid of 2 years old. He would have been 21 this week, 3 weeks before the car crash that took my partner and kid I stopped drinking - everyone thought I would start drinking again and die, that was when I was 23 I am 44 now and I am still off Alcohol If I can do it so can you, remember your life is of value to more than just you!!! Jamal you have only started life make it a miracle because thats what you are.
Any updates man
I was told if I “invested 10% of the energy spent on finding my drugs into quitting my drugs, I’d be successful”. They were right. 2.5 years and LOVING the sober life 💙
Congratulations, and good work! I love hearing how much sobriety does for those who seek it!
Only after we've lost everything we're free to do anything
Beautiful. Thank you for watching.
Kanye quote?
This is the chemical burn?
Good ole Tyler Durden
Lost everything ✔
A lie is sweet in the beginning, and bitter in the end.
The Truth is bitter in the beginning and sweet in the end.
good stuff, I'm stealing this :)
The short term effects and the long term effects of anything is always at odds. Opposite
@@matthewreise120 I have the same thought.
Hard truths are bitter in the beginning and sweet at the end after work.
Great quote!!! Yours?? May I cite you?
Today I had an appointment with a job recruiter after months of job searching with no luck. I was asked what my values were, and I told them exactly what this video taught me: I live my professional and personal life with authenticity and vulnerability. They were so impressed that I was hired BY the job recruiters to work in their office! Endlessly thankful for what Michael has taught here, it's meaningful stuff :)
Today I am 171 days clean from a 19 year methamphetamine addiction. The sad thing is was someone who I loved with all my heart had to die of a hemorrhage stroke and methamphetamine intoxication for me to wake up and say enough is enough. My girlfriend of 15 years passed away 3 years ago. I miss her so very much. She watches over me in my sobriety, I am sure of that. Wish she was here to do the clean thing with me but that is not going to happen. I live this life for me in her honor. I love you Jonell Latham with all my ❤ and soul.
I lost my girlfriend of 11 years because of addiction. I regret every thing I made because of substance abuse.
You are amazing my friend. Keep going ❤ we are on the same path. Respect
I think a lot of addicts are caring, sensitive, and feel the desire to be authentic in an inauthentic world...perhaps one reason they become addicts- to hide their true self from the harsh world.
They are! Great people have great problems. Someday we will understand.
Real talk
adopt a bunch of them
Rightly said.....
Powerful perspective! So true.
- Be authentic,
- Surrender the outcome
- Do uncomfortable work
@Jacob Alanheimer for myself it comes to my faith. Trusting that no matter what the outcome of the decision/situation that I am facing, God will get me through. Even if I don't get the outcome that I want (IE, the job I want, the girl or that raise) that there is a reason and it was better for me this way.
Another way that you could look at it is, to take yourself away from the current situation and separating yourself from the outcome. The outcome doesn't define you and make you who you are.
Situation: If you think you could get fired because you tell the truth about a work accident,
YOUR actions of surrender: take what you think the outcome will be "hoping that you don't get fired", put that in a mental gift box. When you tell your boss the truth you are also mentally giving your hope (IE the mental box) of not getting fired and then waiting to see if you get the box back or not and saying that in either situation, box back or not getting the box and getting fired, that you will be okay. This does not define who you are as a person.
Does that help? My analogy may be a little off but that's how I can can conceptualize it.
Does that sort of make sense?
@Jacob Alanheimer maybe it means surrender the outcome by being an authentic🙊
Jacob Alanheimer essentially no matter what you do you don’t have any real control over what’s going to happen in the future so you might as well be authentic, and do hard work
Accept what you cannot change and don’t let it impact your work in the present
Would someone explain the third point?
When he addressed us the addicts and his voice cracked I felt it to the core of my soul .
Did you hear his voice crack when he addressed the Addicts? This man is living the 3 principles for sure!!
Thank you for noticing Evan!
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel Thank you Michael you truly inspire. I've been sober for 7 years now living my truth and still get goosebumps during your talk. Congrats on all the success man stay safe out there.
I cracked when he said that !
I think this could be it. It has to be. Thanks. I will remember.
Yes idea that was true raw emotion this is one of the best top-five Tetons I have ever found it wasn’t by accident God led me to this
I teared up when I heard his voice crack. This is deep. I listen to this all the time. I live by these 3 principles. Thank you Michael
Anybody noticed he's wearing sandals? thats another level of confidence for a ted talk, man
Thanks man. They definitely have been a hot topic 🤣🤣
Haha thanks for pointing that out!
Authentic!
I saw that mid video..... Like... IS HE WEARI G SANDLAS?
I feel like this is validation to always wear sandals. To every event.
dropping a comment to bump this video in the algorithm
It's working. Thank you so much Don!
Fabulous! Thanks, mate!
Thanks. It worked.
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel No thank you man! In all seriousness I'm happy to have seen this video and I wanted to help spread it but didn't know what to say. Thank you!
It's circulating alright. Saw it in my recommended and just finished watching it 🤙
I know millions of addicts who see this were crying alligator tears, I know this because I'm authentic enough to admit I was too. Whoever is reading this, know there is always hope and good people you can turn to.
Same here bud.
I learned so many life lessons from surviving addiction, the most significant were:
1. if it is bad put it off for just one day, imagine getting it tomorrow, then do the same thing the next day and the next until it doesn't matter anymore, you've remained faithful and didn't give up anything just delayed it indefinitely - I have delayed indefinitely getting another hit for over 20 years now and going strong.
2. You can accomplish anything you want if you put your mind and passion to it, like walking 30km to score with no money and no chance of success, yet I got it right every time, or like like facing that impossible situation or not taking a hit today, and tomorrow and the day after.
3. Focus on now, live 100% for now.
4. Nothing is ever as bad as we imagine it will be, we can survive and get through it.
5. Life is incredibly precious, if you think you understand that you don't, being near death even flatlining twice has taught me something about just how precious, unlikely, and miraculous life is, all life, any life, it is all precious and anything that precious is worth fighting for with every fiber of your being.
This ted talk may have just saved my life...
Dj Tripp wow man. That gives me chills. Thinking about you brother.
That's church, brother.
How are you doing? I'm recovering from oxy.
I just went on suboxone to help deal with this isolation n drug abuse
Yeah man me too, I just cried like a child. Life is good!
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”
Advaith padi 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I got this tattooed on my left ribs at 19 after getting off K2 after Being on probation for truency for Being sick with doctor excuses
AMEN BROTHER! I am so thankful with God that there IS is solution and we have found it. Cheers!
Your comment brought me to tears. I've been raised very atheisticly, and couldn't apply the prayer because of it, your comment let me be finally be open to it.
Amen you
RIP Juice 🌎🙏
can't tell ya'll how many times I was fired for "telling to truth" to corporate managers, as scientist or salesman...then you learn why people are so miserable...they live a 2nd life and play the person the boss wants them to be
As an addict with 10 years clean, this was beautiful and so well spoken
This is the most incredible video in such a low point. 95 days, and I have more strength because of this speaker. Thank you so much.
Good job keep it up make the 95 to 400 days.
keep at it buddy.
much love and courage to you on your quest to recovery and happiness
Rusty - You are my people.Stick with it. It's not easy but it will change your life. And just so you know your comment gave me just as much encouragement as my talk may have given you!
Rusty Shackleford You can do it!
I watched this 370 days ago as I was going through the worst physical withdrawals and mental hurt that I’ve ever been in. This pulled me out of a massive hole and let me see light at the end of the tunnel. I have been clean for the last 370 days! 😃
I wrote those 3 principles down on my white board and put them up in my bathroom and kitchen. They’re still up there today.
Thank you for sharing!
I'm proud of you ❤️ Keep going ❤️
Ben G, Congratulations! Keep going. 🌿🌻🌿
Well done, you should feel strong and proud of your achievement, God bless you
Congratulations my brother stay motivated and the good days will keep coming🤙🏼🙏🏼
💪💪❤️❤️❤️
This is one of the best Ted Talks that I've ever watched. Great job.
I take it you haven't watched a whole bunch. There's alot of really really good ones out there.
Every time I watch one I think that.
@@MaevelikeschampagneLol
Truly touched my heart. I’ve been sober for 6 months, after years of sobriety and relapsing. You inspire us all. Thank you.
I'm proud of you dude! Send me a note over my website to let me know more about how it impacted you please!
“God grant me the serenity to change the things I cannot accept"
💯💯 thanks for watching.
To accept the things I cannot change.
seriously
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel Whoa I'm the first person to notice this in 3 months. Good on ya for repping in Ted talk comments!
@@VangoghC5C and the courage to know the difference
This is someone who could've been caught up in the legal system for drug use, we need better legislation and court systems because everybody has a chance to turn their life around.
Gary Visionary we also need better border security, and prescription drug laws to help keep narcotics out of our hands. I definitely agree with your comment as well.
@@illegalinfluence yeah I agree. Americans are crossing the border to Mexico and bringing their drugs back into America and we need to make sure those drugs don't make it here and these American junkies need to pay for their crimes in prison and maybe that way they will think twice on smuggling drugs into my country..🇺🇸🇲🇽🇺🇸🇲🇽
@@milkweeddumbo prison doesn't help change the decision and the lack of job makes it far more likely to do it again because they have no choice. Calling then junkies is making them seem like others and not us and we go far away from them, but if you really want tk help them you need to provide them with a sense of support, but keep boundaries for your safety.
@@illegalinfluence How well did alcohol prohibition work?
Drug addicts need help through rehab not jail time..most addicts that end up in jail come out worse than they was
Phenomenal Ted Talk!!! I myself am an addict in recovery 10/06/19 and I’m still practicing these principles today.
It’s been a year, hope you’re doing well! Congratulations on your amazing journey!
Meeting someone else's expectations by lying equals stress which is a mental disease that evolves into physical disorders!
This guy calls the truth, authenticity, which is so sorely needed in this world!
Michael, you may have just saved my life. Thank you for talkinig directly to me. I am desperate to be authentic and still unable. Thank you for this incredible, ... just thank you.
Some people just need a pep talk.
Hey man something I have learned as well is being authentic and genuine is better received in every aspect. People like you more when your just being true to yourself rather than trying to be something you think other people will like. Others can sense even sub consciously the energy of fakeness or inauthenticity and so no matter how much to try to say things or do things you think others will like even with a friendly smile they can sense you aren't being real. Be true to yourself and people will appreciate and admire your genuineness
Kirt, you just were authentic! You are well on your way.
Hey Kirt, it seems like you are going through a difficult time. Please, be yourself. Happy, sad, mad, whatever, be your beautiful, raw self. The world needs you!
Good luck buddy.
This should be played on national TV
That is an incredible honor!
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I’m here and I’m an addict. I’m so thankful I found this. It’s a bittersweet thinking About being so authentic and vulnerable.
Remember this video?
I'm four years clean and this really spoke to me I cried watching this 😭💯 thank you for speaking about this out loud it really means so much to me!
More humans practicing these principles increases humanities ability to thrive.
Agreed!
so why all the relapse, humans are not the answer, they are the problem
Thrive? More like survive.
@@richhilman indeed
@@eyeswideshut2800 good point. Just know, it could always be worse. People are people, druggies or not. Judging can be c
Good, until you compare yourself to the other person. Don't let your ego judge. Let your soul judge people.
“The worst thing about you can become the best thing about you,” wow this message came to me just in time. Thank you!
Maria Sinai me to honey
I saw this comment as the dude said it and I think the universe is trying to tell me something.
@@chalkskeleton3653 global internet
Me tpp
hi
I needed this video today. This year I celebrate 15 years clean. I’ve been clean since I was 22 yrs old. The ppl closest to me, including family, have no idea I’ve been in recovery most of my life. The first several years of my sobriety I did a lot of public speaking, sharing my testimony at recovery centers, prisons, and schools. I was once so proud of my recovery, but now I live everyday with a mask on bc of the stigma attached to addiction. I am proof that if you do not practice those 3 important principles, you will forever be ashamed of who you were, regardless of who you’ve become. Not consistently practicing these principles has kept me from living my life to it’s fullest potential.
The Ted Talk I didn’t know I needed. Thank you for being authentic, surrendering the outcome and doing the uncomfortable work.
Thanks! Please send me a note through my website with how it impacted you specifically. Those stories keep me going :)
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel what a testimony & what inspiration. Active addiction 20 Yrs. How am i still alive? I don't know. I do know im exhausted. I do know im destined for greater things. I just dont know what it is or how to find out. But i keep searching. Love and blessings to you Micheal. Xx
I'm in treatment right now. Been sober for 6 and a half months. I am trying to apply for a small business loan at the moment. This is what I needed to hear.
Great Job. Good luck
Did You get it!?
What's been up with you these past 9 months?
Wishing you well!!!
Me too im literally looking at those words on the wall....
Dude, am addict and you help to live another day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Dude - YOU are the reason you are living another day. Keeping working it. You have absolutely no idea what is possible!
Michael Brody-Waite I'll drink to that :)
@@inosence8838 ok bud I think you missed the point of this
Edit: even if that's sarcastic it then just counts as trolling.
inosence come on dude you wouldn’t be here most likely if you didn’t hear something for you. The dudes actually commenting and your doing that. You’re here for the same reason as me I’m sure. Don’t be that way listen to what he says it really can change everything for you
Jon Siniard yep yep. you(s) both on point. My bad ;)
Brutal honesty is essential for life
Not quite brutal honesty, but virtuous honesty. Aristotle explains it in his idea of the golden mean.
You can be earnestly honest but kind/caring over brutal. But yes honest, cunstructive criticism is good and I welcome that.
What a power when someone talks through his heart. Love when he corrected a date that he was off by 3 months, it wouldn’t matter to anyone but it mattered to Mike!
I love how you acknowledged that! Thank you!
Amazing talk. Small enough for your pocket. Big enough to change your life.
Sounds like someone needs to do their own little Ted talk. Whata ya say B?
Elizabeth McClanahan this comment as well
If taking could change anything i would be like Buddha now, yet it seem to me that i didnt change that much, im still same old me. Wich is good. Isn't it?
Well said 👌
So, hey Michael! I work for the transcription company you sent your "classified" files to. I cannot really say what they are because of confidentiality and stuff. At the beginning of one file, you said, "Hi, transcript decoder!" That cheered me up. Truly. I laughed every time I heard it while revising your file. Then, I come here and I watch this incredibly authentic talk and it makes me cry! I'm actually quite honored that you addressed me and said, "Hi." I thought I'd come here and say hi back. Wish you all the luck in the world with your future endeavors, and hope to transcribe more of your files!
P.S: Say hi to Allen for me!
OMG Mohammad. I think it's amazing that we connected this way. Thank you for your incredible work and for letting me know that made an impact!
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel Just why doesn't TH-cam allow heart reacts! ❤️
Beautiful Brother.
Gold story
Mohammad the book you played a part in is coming out in May. :)
I'm not even an addict and this hit me hard and had me crying. The world could learn from this.
feel sharing this Ted talk with the whole world
Cried multiple times through this, sobriety is the greatest gift I've ever given myself, along with the gratitude that comes with it
Thank you! Please send me a note through my website with how it impacted you specifically. Those stories keep me going :)
Probably the best ted talk that I have watched/listened to to date.
Thank you SO MUCH. Please hit me up on social.
Michael Brody-Waite Amazing outlook and very inspiring! Thank you for simplifying!
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel it was a really inspiring talk, and I will definetly try to use these 3 rules of yours
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel 16:18 ... Thank you for this! I'm recovering from being bullied. Yes, even in my adulthood. I needed to hear this part because, as I sit here editing, I was tempted to just give up bc my childhood bully recently told me to stop producing films. I'm digging deep to find that determination to keep going and get better at it.
Simply Myla K. I appreciate you watching. :) the world needs your unique perspective. Keep living your dream.
This is legitimately one of the best and most motivational TED talks I’ve watched.
That is a huge compliment dude. Thank you for watching. :)
Michael Brody-Waite agreed, as a person in recovery who has transitioned into the corporate world, this has fortified my commitment to the principles and doing the work in any setting.
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel Thank you Michael. I see the incredible value in this. I will use your principles in teaching couples to rebuild the love. If even a small percentage did this, that would be a profound change in this world. Again, thank you for being real.
Stumbled on this just the same day I stepped out of Rehab,am telling myself it shall be well with my soul.
I believe we’re all “using” something. We’re all addicts in some way. We’re all just one choice away from feeling that shame. This message is so powerful. I needed it. Thanks 🙏
Yes I totally agree
thank you so much for letting me know it's impact!
Literally most of population with technology
When you addressed the addicts tears filled my eyes for a second . Thank you for speaking to me !
Samantha Walker you are welcome. Thank YOU for watching. There is something great inside of you. Time to share it with the world. :)
Me too
Indeed☮️
Since seeing this TED talk in person, my husband and I live by these three principals in our work, our relationship and our parenting skills for our children. It IS LIFE CHANGING and very much keeps you transparent and REAL.
What even are the three principles?
Sarah - Seeing a comment like this gave me chills. I was scared to carry this message but knew I had to. Making an impact on one person can be worth it. I would love it if you followed me on social or checked out my website. I'm trying to keep the conversation going with people just like you!
@@tesseract5025 did you watch the talk? He must have said it at least 20 times
Who's gonna keep you real when your mind is telling you to lie? You'll need more than your husband to see you through it. You'll need a power greater than yourself.
Broken down to it's bare bones... It's
1) HONESTY
2) OPEN-MINDEDNESS
3) WILLINGNESS....
Start with a Dictionary and write out the meanings of all 3, carry it around with you.. Study the meanings and realize how you were or weren't practicing these 3 principals in your life...
As well as what were the consequences that came from your choices or adhering to or not adhering to... You'll be AMAZED at how much you learn about yourself..
God Bless You and Your's Stay 🙏 Safe Strong and Vigalint 👍......
i was there for a friend when he got out of prison into the halfway houses. been the for him for over a year. he was doing good. back at parents house. he was jacked like joe rogan, had a great job in sanitary for water treatment. and he took his life the morning after i was on the phone with him. if any one watching please stay strong, please reach out if your not feeling the day is going well for you. your family would rather hear your story than attend your funeral. love you keep your head up and heart strong!
I am so sorry to hear about your friend :(
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel we cant save them all ;) but that wont keep me from trying. thank you for sharing hope your well and things are looking up for all of us here soon
Watching this on 18 Jan 2022 at probably my lowest point of all time.
Unemployed for the past year, running out of money, living life on a destructive loop.
I've been trying to motivate myself for the past year, but I couldn't make myself to take action.
I was in tears by the end of this video.
Here's hoping that I'll come back to this comment in the future with a better update =)
Update [1]: 31 March 2022 - The past months have been really hard mentally, but I got a job! And it's in the industry that I wanted.
I actually think the 3 principles helped me in achieving that. I was 100% honest during interviews, knowing well that certain things I say might "cost" me not getting the job. I think it's a good first step towards getting my life in order.
Hopefully the next update will be about me still having this job, and being moved out on a place of my own. We'll see! =)
Good for you bro. You got this
Practice rigorous authenticity
Surrender the outcome
Do uncomfortable work.
I'll try it, I'm not an addict but there's lots of opportunities for these in my life.
Sometimes, I think addicts and others who have struggled with trauma, are the lucky ones. Most in our culture wear ego masks, attempt to be an ideal they have been told will be wanted (the 30 billion dollar cosmetic industry proves this), and chase external validation in some form or another their entire lives. However, those who have hit rock bottom, have no choice but to reconnect with their true selves.
@@rochellebroglen4155 so true
Rochelle Broglen - I think living with an addict has in some ways forced me to chase after my own authenticity, despite the addict in my life ironically running away from it.
@@rochellebroglen4155 I'm an addict, and have never looked at it like that.
That was beautiful 🌷
Hey it’s basically a minimalist version of Stoicism so yeah it’s good for everyone.
I choked up when I heard “I might not make it to 30”
I’ve always heard that expression/even joked about the idea long ago in the beginning of my spiral. But this time was different. It’s overwhelmingly close to home and it’s not a joke. I’m 25 and the path I’m on might not lead to 30. I’m not going to act like this talk just saved my life. But it could have. We’ll see. It definitely punched me in the face with some tough reality. And it was needed.
Watch it again everytime you get a reply or like? What isn't seen isn't remembered
Hey bro one thing I learned cuz Im a perfectionist. Is to focus on progression over perfection, its the condemnation thats killing us or fueling the addiction atleast in my life. And we talk past tense often I couldve, shouldve, wouldve. But you still can, you should, and u will. Get a little better everyday, progression. I dont know I cant type it all out. But Jake your needed, your important, loved, and if noone else I believe in you brother.
How you doing? Keep your chin up and own your life. Forgive yourself first. Accept that you may fail the climb many times. Say it repeatedly, out loud till you accept that truth. Then say, one thing I can and will do when I fall is - I will forgive myself, dust myself and restart the climb. Something magical then happens over the many falls, the rungs of the ladder begin to hold and not fall away. This is the only way out of the hole. We have to earn our spot by trying again and again. Last thing to remember during the dark days “only force which holds the world together is love. any defect or problem arises when we drift away from this force” It can be the love for another or for self. Stay centered on love in all transactions. You will succeed.
I know you will because you made this comment. Been there. 22 now and still feel that way some days. But that fact that you made that comment shows your strength and commitment to living a better life. The same way me replying to your comment shows I want to do the same for myself. Yet I’m drunk while typing this. You’ll make it through. Just like the rest of us. Hang in there bro
Just checking in on ya brother🙏🏻. Hope your well.❤️
Thank you Brody. I am an addict and I am in recovery. Your words touched my heart and inspire faith in my transformation. I am grateful for your authentic sharing.
thank you!
I was on opioids from 2010 to 2018. I lived in a minivan, on peoples couches, etc... for the majority of that time. In 2017, my lack of authenticity almost killed me and I was bed ridden for an entre year. In 2018, I realized that all of my problems stem from a lack of authenticity. I am now a maintenance supervisor for Vesta Realty LLC, have a wife, 2 yr old daughter, and for the first time in my life feel proud of myself. The stress, depression, anxiety, and guilt disappeared.
I love how he wasn't holding back when he almost cried at the end 15:53
thank you. in other worlds that makes me weak. not our world though :) please check me out on social so we can connect!
This is one of the most important Ted videos I’ve ever watched. I really hope more people are able to view it. My heart broke watching this and thinking of my partner who abandoned these principles recently because I know it’s only a matter of time before he joins the list of “the people I loved who died”
Wonderful, inspiring talk
Alex Kennedy make sure to check out his website it’s micheal Brody waite
Thanks Penguin! Alex- I am so sorry. Being the loved one of an addict is one of the hardest experiences on this earth. My heart is with you.
Alex Kennedy big hugs
Sending you a big hug xxoo
Your amazing and you have inspired me to change my life even more
15 years I’ve been an addict, I still am. I can’t even count how many day 1s of sobriety I’ve had. Sometimes I’ve got to 7, a few times I’ve gotten more than 60 days.I just wrote these principles on my mirror. I hope they help my next day 1 be my last day 1. I want nothing more than to live again.
You can do this. I’m 3 days sober. This is my first and I hope and pray last 1st. Do you have a support system? I’ve been detoxing almost alone at home. If you need to reach out, reach out. I promise someone will be there. Idk how much help I can be but I’m here for you.
Never been a proponent of NA or the steps...but that dude is for real. Being authentic sounds easy but it does take work! Got me a lil choked up about half way through
Thanks man.
When I started watching I could barely focus on anything else rather than those flip flops. Somewhere by the middle I could only listen, as I couldn't see through the tears. I'd been using drugs for over 7 escalating years and been clean for only 7 of the longest days of my life.
As the talk continued my appreciation for it grew bigger but so did my wonder about the necessity of those flip flops.
When it reached the end and I was emotional AF, I looked down and reality smacked me in my addict face.
I'm wearing flip flops.
Thank you.
Mica Pingaro thanks for watching. :) rooting for you and congrats on the time. Would love to connect on social.
Congratulations on your sobriety. Keep going, one day at a time. ☺️
I sincerely wish the best for you... addiction is hard , and getting out is even harder.. glad you are striving for a better you!
@@morpheousilango375 thank you! it is hard but it does get better and it's so worth it, I recommend ;)
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel thank you!! I looked you up but couldn't find you unfortunately. I think I'm in one of your FB groups, my Instagram is micaping.
thank you for your inspiration, cheers!!
"Its really simple. Tell them the truth."
Wow. That's challenging. That's rattling.
January 19th 2022 i celebrated 6 years clean. Thank God, never thought it possible, and hear I am. Thank God for me, Thank God for my 5 kids. Especially because my husband died to a drug OD 3.5 years ago. It hurt , bad, I could of died myself , but I’m a fighter, so are my kids.
Best Ted Talk ever! I watched this several times in the past year and get something out of it every time. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR EXPERIENCE STRENGTH AND HOPE --FROM 1 ADDICT TO ANOTHER 🙏♥️🙏
I'm in tears…
This message is so powerful and beautiful. Don't spend your gift of a life scamming and weaseling everybody.
Be authentic, loyal and compassionate, those will eventually render you valuable to society and you will feel like a positive part of it.
This talk deserve a recognition for giving out such a tremendous positive energy and of course inspiring people, like myself... if we surrender the outcome, we are basically FREE to do what is right, what we think we should do...
Thank you July 4 this year I had 28 years clean and Yes I started my own little co. at 60 something [ I'm 75 today ] and am doing well. Thank you 12 steps! Trust in truth except the outcome and be honest!
The God of my understanding knows exactly how to reach me! Especially when I'm not paying him any attention!!
I am broken, and I have no idea how to go a day without using...that's my greatest weakness. For 15 years I've been searching for this. Thank you.
Joshua Fuentes I know that pain. These principles can help you and you can learn how to use them if you attend a 12 step meeting. Encourage you to google and find one close to you (nice thing is several are virtual right now).
Are you doing okay?
Better days are coming brother, stay motivated and remember you aren’t alone🤙🏼🙏🏼
How are you doing now
Same here .I'm trying to get out I just don't know how
Hard to believe, isn't it? I'll tell you guys a little story. When I had worked for a chemical company, we had had a location that was having trouble producing the product at the quality that we needed. At this location a worker admitted to his boss that he had made a mistake, he was fired and the whole batch was scrapped and restarted. When they heard about it, the headquarters ordered that the man be taken back. He was rehired with a raise. You see, if someone does make a mistake, and they will, and they know that they will get fired for it, they won't tell anyone. The only time you will find out that something went wrong is at the end and you probably won't know why. So if people are honest, you can restart and correct. That is the way they do it.
Doesn't look like ex addict
Sanjay Bableshwar . Thats the gift of time in 12 step fellowship - we leave our old selves behind and become changed on the inside as well as the outside 🙏
Sanjay Bableshwar what do ex addicts look like?
Completely agree. And when you catch someone doing wrong, don’t give them a warning. Its only the first time you caught them, not the first time it happened.
@@SamvadSoul what does an ex addict look like ?
5:30 hugs. This principle applies to any emotional trauma. It’s so freeing when you open up and become yourself
I pray daily my son soaks this in. Thank you for sharing so I could send it to him. I didn’t understand before this and I pray he will. I love you son, and I always will.
Take away everything
take away more
look at yourself
you will never judge
anyone again,
love yourself
you will never be
more at peace.
source please
Beautiful, thank you
Love yourself, self forgiveness
I'm not an addict, but authenticity is my main guiding principle. Being unattached to outcomes is vital in order to be authentic, especially when the authentic thing that is bubbling up within me to express is something I'm afraid to admit. But I say it anyway, and it always opens up more possibilities in my relationships and my life.
I love it!
Speaker: "Imagine our world if..."
Me: Imagining our world as it is today 3/22/2021. So much deceit, anger, fear, & hatred. Cognitive dissonance.
Imaging our world being guided by these principles - Be authentic, surrender the outcome & do the uncomfortable work no matter what. Oh what a wonderful world it could be
Great talk.❤
Thank you. Yeah I had no idea what was coming. 🙏🏻
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel Apparently only a select few did. But the acquiescence of the masses is most alarming to me. Which is why I felt helpful connection in your talk. It helped evolve my "Accept or Adapt, Change, or leave" approach. I love open-minded learning. You're a pretty great inspirational teacher & joy to listen to. So, thank you. 🌿🌻🌿
@@lora97006 thank you! come check out one of the meetings I host!
@@MichaelBrodyWaitechannel Thank you for the invitation, I would love to come. When/where are your meetings hosted? Ever in Arizona? Or is a roadtrip in my near future?
Please forgive my easily excited imagination, I'm kind of a sappy nerd. That & the last year stole a bit of my extrovert that is longing to make her comeback, lol. Imagining being in a room of like-minded spirits - is already palpable energetic goodness that gives my goosebumps, goosebumps. This is how "Imagine our world if..." becomes "Imagine our world when...".
Wow, you're gooood. Or am I? 😄
Im.a drug addict, I've never ever been to a na meeting or reached for help but, miraculously I've found out that being authentic, surrendering and doing uncomfortable jobs is helping me bit by bit, little by little wean off of my drug addiction. It's been very difficult and challenging to say the least but, MIRACLEs do happen and it started out by being authentic and telling the truth. I want no more of my past and untruths.
Integrity my friend it's the key to having a fulfilled life. I have spent many years learning how my biggest strengths are the ability to listen to people with true compassion and give advice that's honest. I feel the pain of everyone around me and want to help all because a fulfilled life is not only being happy but helping others find happiness
Serving others in a positive light is what it's all about. I had to fall victim to addiction to really comprehend that. I found out who I really am. No more or no less then anyone else. I feel the pain of others around me just like you said. We all relate through pain and helping other people ease that pain or make a positive change helps me ease mine and changes me in a positive way.
I was a addict and believe I will always be one in some way that’s the way I am able to reel it in from whatever it be going to the lake to much, riding my bike or just being lazy I know don’t make sense but we all surrendered to something.
I have 16 years sober, it’s my greatest accomplishment period. It is my most priceless possession. Each day, one day at a time. I’ve worked hard to get where that guy is, but have failed over and over with my family, my friends, the people that worked with me. I stayed sober through breakups, jail, deaths, loss, homelessness, no excuses, no loopholes. The network of answers are at meetings. Just go and listen.
That is an utterly monumental achievement. It requires an enormous amount of iron will to go through all of that sober.
Which is created and sustained by an iron-clad support group.
Best Ted talk I have seen in a hot minute. It made me cry because I felt every word he said.
Im not even an addict, but seeing him addressing addicts, tears rolled down.
Must be his authenticity
I don't know why all these characters feel the need to share their story though. It's really not that uncommon any more-- anybody can change their life around for better or worse! When we think we're set in stone, yeah we're going to be by definition!. But nothing is ever set in stone, for better or worse... and it's when life shows us this, we get major shake up's sometimes/ it feels impossible to go on... but we overcome when we Realize we Can Wake up and just live life regardless... or because of something positive in the past no matter if it's still here or not... (And in a way I think it is over glorifying drugs or living lavishly, teaching kids you can always turn it around... When yeah sure, I'm full of bitterness and disappointment because I never majorly slacked off, got a degree straight out of highschool and still got unjustly fired from my first full-time job.... And I'll probably write a book at least for myself but... I don't know man, we don't have to share a story there's nothing inherently in the rules, no matter how rare or uncommon or movie-esque our life may feel. Who's to say if it's actually worth sharing or just inner ego anyways? xD
God help me - I wanna stop. I'm 36 and im seen like I am a boy. Living a life carefree. But I am in such turmoil. I have nothing. No bills. But no happiness. But I can't stop. God help me.
He moved me. And his MO, his three rules to live by, I hope, were a gift from God. Thank you for sharing his word, Mike.
Patrick from El Paso
You are not alone Patrick Lozano. Your future is bright and You will stop whatever it is. You’re gonna be so proud of yourself one day. And you’ll have yourself to thank for it!!
A double threat (alcoholic/addict sitting in tears of conviction. Thank you.
Lmao
M D me too.
Dalton Baker wait, Donton? My son? Are you in Ohio?
I second that
He was talking to me. I’m the addict. Relapsed and withdrawing now. I needed that.
I'm I. Treatment right now got 6 month free from active addiction
You're not alone and you can be free!
I admire him and truth be told I use to be like him with 30 years sobriety. And... One day I forgot. It's been 5 years since I picked up. This just motivated me to get help
do it dude. no shame in coming back only shame in NOT coming back
Your words may have just saved my life.Thank you Michael from the bottom of my heart.
Josh Quick wow thank you for watching. I’m speechless.
I needed the reminder to not obsess over outcomes. Thank you for sharing this.
Absolutely! Connect with me on social or my website so I can attempt to keep this message going!
I've been loosely practicing these principles ever since I saw this video. I'm not an addict, I'm a perfectionist and perfectionism is held me back for much of my life, but these principles have helped.
Listening to this at my gym and I had to fight back the tears. I'm a recovering addict with PTSD. I've abstained from using but I haven't always been fearlessly authentic. This inspired me to start going to meetings. Thank you for answering the call and leading the lost that need hope and encouragement.
dude I am so glad this impacted you in this way. being in recovery alone didn't give me the courage to be authentic. it was the hard work I put into work working the program. and ANYONE can do that. thank you for sharing!
I wish I had been interviewed by this someone like this 8 years ago when I was out of work. every job I interviewed for I was always myself, I was authentic, I have always believed in being honest I always told the what I felt, what I believed and no one would hire me. I realized people don't want honesty they want good answers. now I'm a full time Dad. I love taking care of my employees and I have the best co-worker in the world. best job I've ever had.
Heck yes!
I hope one day everyone reading will find that light back in their heart and conquer your childhood dream. It is never too late to start living again, gotta break down before you build back stronger
Will Langhart me too. :)
“be comfortable
surrender your authenticity
Work towards the outcome”
-Everyone else
🤯
lmao i hate it here
This is what true success looks like..maintain ethics, dont compromise your integrity, be fearless and risk losing it all for the bigger picture..who you are