Story of my life...and various colors involved. I acknowledged my mid life crisis which lasted from being 40 to turning 60 was adventurous. 4 children later, I give them grounded presence with all the love and logistics it involves
We can play the blame game all day. "Men don't do enough." "Women get bored too easy and cheat". In the end, it takes 2 to tango. Carry your own weight and be selective. This ensures you do your OWN part toward a relationship and being selective ensures you aren't getting with someone who does any less. ^ But this right here is also a problem. Because now people develop unrealistic expectations. "My man needs to make at least $500k a year" or "My woman better do wtf I say or else". So.... You go ahead and find happiness as you see fit. Good luck.
I am not a Dad but why would the rings that babies do make him run away when h has no intention of living with them anyway? I have a generic disease that causes a lot of pain and as I don't want to pass that on, I made a decision when I was a teen (47 now) not to have kids. I and my partners have always used contraception so I just do not understand why tis guy is utterly so vague. What kind of job does he have, I wonder and what on earth did a woman see in this guy who is clearly no intellectual giant?
Exactly. He probably likes the IDEA of being a father. But it's in the theoretical stage now since the child is not here yet. But I also don't think he's really broken up with his ex. I think he still wants her as an occasional girlfriend/sex partner, but not to live with her. Because of course, dating is easy, but marriage or even living together is much harder.
I liked how you emphasized “he created a single mom with a baby”. Most single moms live in poverty and never get out of it. You held him accountable. It sounds like he wants to support his baby, which is wonderful, but mom needs to be remembered and y’all did that.
She could also give the baby up for adoption. She has options. Raising a child in poverty is not a good idea. It might be fine for the first year or two, but as the kids gets older, the bad statistic odds just keep growing and growing.
@@raidersplayer11 sure but hedging your bets is always the goal. No decision is fool proof other than not carrying before you marry....but even then that doesn't guarantee the husband won't leave.
@@soulanstreets222and you think it’s so easy to give that baby up for adoption after you carried and felt that life inside of you for 9 months. Your entire body and psyche is getting ready for motherhood. Her breast will be filled for god sake. This is equivalent to baby death. This women is not responsible for actions of men who I am sure promised her word and acted like a Prince Charming until he decided to switch. This is criminal
@@xsophia22x Unalive the child in utero = not easy Raise the child = not easy Put the child up for adoption = not easy Please show us what easy option there is for her?
And he makes so much sense about it too. I’ve always seen myself as a high value woman and only way I’m moving in with a man is when both of our names are on the deed and we’re legally married. There’s no reason to play house with a person that you love.
Broke up with her……only to pack up your things and follow her down to move lmao may as well make the damn family work. This is so ridiculous. I hate “baby mom/baby dad” culture. GROSS.
It's been the "norm" for so long now, but I want no part of it. My cousin who has 3 "baby daddies", asked me when I'm having a baby. I said "how about asking me when I'm getting married?! Then maybe ask if I even want children after that." I then went into a long rant about that's what is wrong with society now. 😅 I'm sure she will never ask me that question again 🤐
Sometimes it's inevitable. Staying together just because you have a child is only going to end up hurting the child. Children should not have to grow up watching their parents fight and hate each other just to find out they are the reason and feel guilt over that. That being said people should make every effort to NOT have children before they are in a committed relationship. But sometimes it just doesn't work out. My daughter's father and I were together in high school and got back together later and had her when I was 22 and he was 23. We ended up splitting when she was 6 months old. She is 13 now and we get along great but she has never known us together. We just weren't meant for each other. But we have made it work. He is married now, I was engaged but my fiancé passed away. We will always love and support each other. Had we stayed together we would of ended up miserable and divorced and she would of been stuck in the middle. It's better to walk away BEFORE the child has something to miss.
YOu can blame MOST of this on the Dems and Libs....they support this INCORRECT culture. What they don't understand is that ULTIMATELY, the child is hurt the most. But you know who Dems and Libs are....they don't CARE ABOUT children's feelings.....much less THEIR lives (Do I need to go there?).
@yota8325 I’d say about 85% of the world population really shouldn’t have kids. That includes the majority who have them already and the majority of those who don’t
That's right! Sometimes you have to do the hard thing and not what makes you happy. Unpleasant but true. But if you do the right thing - and I would say not ripping apart a family unless there's abuse or something along these lines is - your future self will thank you for it (let alone your children and spouse).
@user-wh6ir8rk4b I'm not sure if you meant the guy who called was the deadbeat. He doesn't seem like a deadbeat dad. He sad he's excited about the baby and called in to get advice. He seems like a kid who about to do some growing up hopefully and needs advice to do it well.
@@abbasjoy4785stick it to him? I get if he broke up with her *because* of the baby and didn't want to help with the baby at all. Then yea, stick it to him as far as child support. But it was a mutual breakup. And he said he's excited for the baby. Even calling to get financial advice so he can navigate this situation better. I'm sure he'll have to pay child support but "sticking it to him" sounds petty and vengeful
@@lay-dee Many say they're excited....before they bail. I'm in a pregnancy support group, and it's sad how common that is. The girl keeps the pregnancy thinking the guy's in. Then it gets too real or too difficult or boring and he's out and on to the next girl he'll impregnate. It's really depressing.
@@stevengtv Nope. Pregnancy starts with male orgasm and those little swimmers going after the egg. The guy has control over when and where he ejaculates and she didn't force him to make a deposit. It's high time we held men accountable for spreading their sperm around. After all, they can procreate at a far greater rate than women can.
It's not even out of wedlock. It's that this guy got her pregnant and THEN broke up with her because "we were fighting". He needed to man up and get counseling at the minimum and try to salvage this. Instead he went "well we were fighting so we are breaking up" like a child who thinks this is just no big deal.
I wouldn't want to be that embryo for anything. If she goes full term and gives birth, there will be a child who's gonna have a helluva chaotic life, at best.
I read someone make the claim that "every broken home is like the death of a small civilization." That's it in nutshell. Take it from someone who at nearly 63 is still trying to recover from the effects of multiple broken homes (which by the way was achieved by parents who were married, who had me within marriage, and who didn't have any substantial financial hardships, or even an issue of adultery, or one partner who was away a lot, etc...)
She chose to become pregnant. He only consented to sex. Her body, her choice. Her choice, her responsibility! The responsibility goes with the choices.
Even if she sucks and is not wife material and she just let him bang her? Women don't think they should be punished with a baby for just wanting to have sex, so why should a man be punished with a baby AND be stuck with a woman they don't like for just wanting to have sex? Let me guess, only men should face consequences for their actions and women shouldn't. Yeah, we know.
What gives you the idea that he isn't committed? He's planning to move to a different state so he can be near the mother of his child - that sounds pretty committed to me. You don't have to have a romantic relationship with the mother of your child to be a committed father. If being in a romantic relationship isn't right for them, staying in one anyway is not going to help that child.
Years ago my then boyfriend dumped me when "we" got pregnant... and he left the state and never was in our son's life. It was tough but I raised him and got him through college, with the help of my supportive parents. i am so glad I kept my boy, he is doing great!
Long story short. He knocked up his girlfriend but doesn't want to be a family. That's why you do things in order. Date, get married, get a house, have a family. Not guaranteed it will be a success. But that should give you the best chance. Don't knock up a girlfriend you are just dating. She will want the family. You won't.
I’m glad they put this guy in his place. Once you bring a human into the world, it is YOUR responsibility. It is about the child now. It is no longer about you and impulse decisions!!
Crazy how women have rights either to have the kid or abort but a man has none. The women in question is a single mom due to her bad decisions and my taxes have to pay for her. Great 🙄
I'm confused. Didn't the caller say that he wanted to be a part of the child's life and was moving to the close to his ex to be involved in raising the baby? Isn't that taking responsibility?
1) don’t pregnate someone you aren’t married to. (Edit: yes pregnate is a word) 2) pregnant women have a variety of emotions, expect some disagreements 3) “you are still talking daily,” this will change when she gets her next boyfriend. 4) seek stability. Stop all of this moving from state to state, having babies out of wedlock, break up/get back together, etc. debt free is great, it goes well with drama free, try it
Gonna just correct your first statement to “don’t have sex before marriage,” because babies aren’t usually planned. This is why it’s just not a wise decision. You want to be sure you’re having children with someone you want to raise those children with. Hot take these days, I know. But as someone who had sex before marriage, got pregnant, and got married, I’m incredibly grateful that happened with someone who I wanted to marry and who wanted to marry me. I wouldn’t change anything now, but we made a lot of sacrifices and grieved a lot of missed experiences because of how we did things. And it’s scary to think that it could’ve gone very differently if it happened with anyone else.
Honestly I don’t know. I had to be married to my guy for five good years before I felt safe enough to have a kid with him (my moms string of boyfriends and my own dad made me not want kids for a long time). I can’t even wrap my head around how 99% of people operate where they’ll get naked with people they don’t even like, much less trust. It seems totally insane to me. 😅
Yeah....good luck with THAT pal. My son is 27...he's going through the SAME thing. My ONLY suggestion to him and YOU is this....IF and WHEN you find one that is loving, and not narccisistic, crazy, or insane, or in debt up to her ears...or even worse...WOKE, then here is what you do: VET, VET, VET, VET, VET and did I say, VET...her ASS. If you have assets, like my son has a house and some funds, you MUST VET this person. After the VETTING process is complete, I would recommend dating 4 years before getting married. I told my son, "Nick - I am going to VET whatever you bring home SO BAD, I will KNOW when it's her time of the month and what brand of tampon she uses!". I WILL be hiring a private detective and beyond. I've worked TOO hard raising and protecting my son for him to go marrying some piece of garbage. It's too bad....because I think he'd be a good husband. This problem is common with ALL of my son's friends too...and no, NONE of them are gay either.
@@DEE-o4vIf my father-in-law would’ve done that to me, it would make me think his son is a big dumb baby who needs his daddy to do everything for him. Let your son do the hard work of discerning his future wife. He’s gotta be the man and the leader of his future family, not you.
@@DEE-o4v you sound like the over-involved in-laws that are constantly causing issues for otherwise happy couples. Delony gets calls about in-laws like you all the time. If you raised your children right, they should be able to find partners for themselves without your interference.
@@Becanwal Love can be BLIND. Sober up and realize that. I see SO many women marrying men and dumping them just to get half of what they've achieved. People CHEAT too...and that ends up in divorce. I would LOVE my son to find someone decent...but it's difficult. All women do nowadays is jUST look at their phones. My son has assets (a house and a decent sum of money....) . Sorry....I"m NOT going to let someone take advantage of him. And no..I'm NOT hunting for partners for him...that's for him to do.. All I"m going to do IS VET them. Why do you think its WRONG to verify that they are honest, normal, debt-free, never been in jail, etc.?
My hubby was 17 and I was 18 when we married and at 17 he got 3 jobs to take care of his baby and me. He was so much more mature at 17 then this man sounds ! Just wow. Our son is now 50 and we all grew up together!
Super easy to be a man and get 3 jobs cause you’re always away from your family and never see them. Try balancing making enough money to support and still having enough time to spend with your kids so they know who tf you are
sounds like my husband's friend. The guy broke up with his baby mama because "they just weren't in love anymore". He thought he could kick her out of the house and they'd still be able to get along and co-parent peacefully. She went on an absolute warpath. Hell hath no fury kind of stuff. First, when she moved out, she took **everything** she could get her hands on. Even took out as many of the appliances as she could. (She did pay for a lot of them when they were finishing the house). She took every condiment from the fridge and left him without a single tupperware 😢 Then she took him to court for maximum child support. She tried to get full custody. Every single decision she fights him on and turns into a battle that they have to pay a mediator to handle. Even down to if the kid can play T-ball. Nightmare scenario. My husband tried to convince him to try counseling before breaking up, but the guy didn't want to. Now she will do everything she can to make his life hell for the next 18 years. Men, it's simple: please do not have sex with any woman you aren't prepared to raise a child with.
haha. You act like it is the man's fault in the caller's case. She had sex with him too and was obviously not using birth control and agreed to break up. Stop blaming the men. It takes 2
@@hollystiener16 not that it's his fault, but that his way of speaking reminds me of the guy. Just wandering through life, not really thinking out long-term consequences.
@@hollystiener16 She thought but not enough. They had been living together. She had been buying appliances for their house. There had been no reason to break up before the pregnancy. The pregnancy for this "man" became the reason.
She made his life hell for 18 years? Sounds like HE made her life hell for 18 years. Getting a woman pregnant and abandoning her while pregnant is probably one of the most vile things you could do to a human. I have zero empathy for The lowest of the low. He should of thought about all that before getting her pregnant and deciding to abandon her
"You guys make decisions about every 30 seconds" Then while on the radio he changes from I might move to I am moving. That's how much thought he puts into things.
A good way for him to circumvent the day to day care of his own child. Of course he's excited....he doesn't have to deal with the lack of sleep he'll get or the general fussiness baby will be experiencing cause his baby mamma will deal with it. He can be fun dad lol
We don't know the other side of the story. There are some toxic women out there, and men as well. It is not healthy bringing a child into an unhealthy relationship. Some children grow up and see their parents arguing and fussing/fighting every day and you they think it's normal. There is a thing called domestic abuse. Kids live what they see and learn....
no, the real reason is because the government does nothing to stop the rampant inflation while not ensuring people are paid enough to keep up with that inflation. my grandfather worked ONE job and never earned more than $60k per year. he was still able to afford a modest, three-bedroom home, have a stay-at-home wife and raise two kids, and live a middle class lifestyle, all on *one salary.* this is NO LONGER THE CASE in 2024.
@@thispersonrighthere9024 we all know how the system works. Yes things may be harder that just means ppl need to be smarter with their decisions. Having kids outside of marriage is financial suicide unless you are already financially stable. If you want to get ahead you’ve got to make better life decisions
With each passing generation, there is less and less critical thinking. Combined with American consumer culture that is designed to make sure you are as impulsive and emotional as possible to spend as much as possible, being frugal will become a rare art form.
He sounds like he works as a cell phone salesman and she super sizes fries, hooked up on Tinder and is in 100% denial of how much his life is about to change. He wanted to remain friends with benefits with zero thought towards the child he is about to have.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Letting go of someone you love is always challenging, but in my situation, I had the guidance of a spiritual counselor who prevented my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters..
My marriage is 7 years old (been together 12 years) and it’s still fantastic. My parents were together 44 years before my father passed away and they had a great marriage. My grandparents just had their 73 year anniversary and had a great marriage. Not all marriages are bad and if you do it right, they can be great.
@auemmjee it's because you most likely aren't ready to be a mature adult to communicate properly with another person. Most marriages fail because people can't communicate. That bleeds into money, wants, needs and everything.
Well it's no surprise that she wants to move back with family since he has dumped her and moved out of state. She has to figure out a way to survive and needs family support. Guys don't seem to understand that it's about impossible to take time off at end of pregnancy and early infancy when you don't make a good salary. And that's assuming nothing goes sideways like your job or your or the baby's health. Not to mention affording child care when she goes back to work.
I was in a similar situation. I got my girlfriend(Now fiance) after she moved to be with me in my home state. later she wanted to move back home with her family, so I ended up packing everything I owned, threw away about half of my junk, and sold my house to move up to be with her. Honestly I can say it was the best decision I ever made.
@@dcg590 There was a few circumstances out of my control that forced me to move. An agreement that ended up not going as planned. It's a whole thing but we are good now. I ended up better off with a better paying job, nicer house, etc.
@@jv6miata AIEEEE I KNEW U WAS SLAPSLAP BALLS DEEP ON THAT BRO! Oh, and until u house me and feed me for 16 years, ur not getting parental-level respect… 🤪
Nah man how can a guy do this. Really though. I had a cousin who made a mistake and had a kid too early in his life. However he committed to it and raised the kid himself. I despise guys like this who avoid responsibility
I got my girl pregnant and within a month, got married. We were shacking up. We’re been married for a couple years and are still in love. We argue at least once a week. Like what. If you’re old enough to procreate, you should be invested in working through your issues
1) Graduate from high school 2) Get a job 3) Get married 4) (preferably own a house) 5) then have kids if you both want them and are prepared and responsible
Don't make 4 a precondition of 5. The biological clock doesn't stop just because you have kids. My wife and I made that mistake - it took us a long time to get to where we could afford to buy a house. That put off kids too long, and now we're scrambling before the clock runs out. The only precondition for kids should be that you're married and you aren't homeless. Also, maintaining a house is harder when you have little ones running around. Much easier to rent while they're little, so someone else is responsible for the maintenance.
People wonder why I don't want kids. I've never met a man that I said, "This man is the one. I can depend on him for his love, protection, previsions, and leadership, and I will risk my life getting pregnant for him." These guys today are flakey. They like you one day and are indifferent about you the next.
The amount of people in this country that aren't willing to own up to the consequence and subsequent responsibility of two supposed grown-ups doing the "deed" is absolutely baffling. If boys out there think they are man enough to use what God gave them for pleasure, then be man enough to accept the consequence. If you're as "excited" as you say you are, but are questioning whether you should make necessary changes in your life to be closer to the baby and involved in the baby's life, then you aren't ACTUALLY as excited as you seem to claim. This one has red flags all over it. And for the love of God, keep your pants on if you can't be man enough to step up.
What are you talking about? Did you not listen to the call? He's already decided to move to another state to ensure he can be an active father. He was looking to get some advice on the practicalities of moving, but they were only interested in giving him self-righteous judgement and didn't even try to answer his question.
You mean like how woman refuse to take accountability for having unprotected s3x, choosing who gets born and who the father is? She picked him. She chose to be a single mother. Woman control ,access to s3x and who gets born. Period. And if she chose a loser, thats also HER FAULT. Place the blame where it belongs.
He's so immature. What a shame. He thinks he's working it out and all he did was escape. He's all over the place. Too many babies without married parents.
Horrible people do horrible things and then convince themselves it's no big deal. Then they want everyone else to play along with that fantasy. Bad people don't like being told they're bad, but someone has to do it or they will make their behavior the norm.
My sister has been with her partner for 30 years and have two kids. Most stable relationship of anyone I know. You can’t put everyone in the same bucket.
@@rodneyperry7940 Wow what an incredible counterpoint. Are you kidding man? Good for your sister and her weird-ass fear of commitment, but the caller here isn't in it for a 30 year girlfriend-boyfriend relationship with kids. Good lord this fucking country.
So people like my sister who has been married 4 times is so much better ? My niece and nephew always had different step- dads no stability for a role model father .
Arguing with your significant other is automatically included and not purchased separately 😂 if you guys are not arguing then someone doesn’t have a strong opinion
Honestly, if you aren't arguing, then you're never talking about anything important. A relationship with zero arguments is sus. My wife and I argue all the time. Most of the time, those arguments get resolved one way or another. That's what allows us to function and move forward together.
The sad thing is that it **IS** so normalized. Mainstream society now is where the minorities were on this 20 years ago. I'm a nanny, babysitter and daycare worker. So I constantly see them whining that total strangers won't watch their kids for 5 bucks an hour.
Well, you can't "normalize" something that's already common and normal. As a matter of fact, it's been happening since the beginning of human civilization. Is it right or moral? It depends on the culture and each person's beliefs.
Glad you say that when parents don't normalize having "the talk " with their kids. Hell some states don't want to teach proper sex education because they think it LEADS the child into premarital sex. But let's also be real, marriage never kept a man or woman who didn't want to be kept. Marriage doesn't equate to healthy relationships or healthy parenting! The only thing it does is make it harder to leave the relationship.
You fight all the time? Did you try to get to the bottom of it? Did you try to learn skills to communicate? If not, you need to. Everyone fights. There's almost no one we could live long term and not fight with.
DEEEEEEEEP PROOOOFOOOOOUND "The more important the decision, the more information you need about the decision and the longer time you should take making the decision." -Dave Ramsey
Yup!!! Great advice. Also do NOT make decisions when you are feeling stressed or emotional!!! I regret the decisions I made during those types of circumstances!!! 😢
this is exactly why our society is declining so rapidly. The world of instant gratification, no loyalty, greener grass on the other side, etc. Be happy and thank God for the blessings that you do have. Don't go chasing waterfalls.
@@BitterComments That's immature what you just said. Better a kid is raised by two loving parents than a toxic household. Easy to know your privilege shows.
He really just wanted to avoid responsibility. I have a cousin who did bring a child into the world too soon in his life, but he manned up and took responsibility. He is now raising the kid with a different woman but the kid is having a good life.
@@KangwithoutaKangdom The dad left him with a drug addict mom, and has only taken him 'now' shacking up with a 'a different woman', some girlfriend who very likely is transient. Very smart of you to think that the child's had a stable upbringing thus far.
@@jb-ze1yh wow, did you think of that creative response all by yourself?!? 🤣🤣🤣 Seems like you're showing that your baby daddy hurt you. I'm just giving BOTH of them equal treatment. Raggedy Ann & Raggedy Andy.
you can't abandon your kid, i dont care how bad the break up is. my mom and dad broke up when i was a kid and i got to see my dad on the weekend, over time i grew closer to my father, it was great, i persnally know how important it was to have my dad in my life. you need to be there. you have to.
So much anger from some on here, lol. I am a man!! I knew how to prevent pregnancy. My daughter who was planned was born after I had served in the military, I was married and I was in my senior year of college. This caller is 50% of this child and he better darn well step up be a blanking man and put his child first!! He had his play time which led to this unplanned pregnancy. His playtime is over. You'll be a father, step up!
What a bunch of garbage. SHE CHOSE THIS. She chose to have s3x, she chose to be a single mother. And if he is a jerk, she is also at fault. She picked him
@@dcg590Whether you are male or female, you are WEAK!! See weak people blame others for situations they are responsible for. What's the view like from your Mom and Dad's basement, lol. Doesn't matter, you are a child!
So nice to see men jolding orher men accountable like "having kids" is just some "whatever thing" the girl has to deal with and he decides whene if hell pop in and visit.
I'm so glad they talked to that caller that way. The poor kid, what will happen is at first, the parents will have the best intentions, but then eventually, they'll each meet someone else and have more kids, maybe several someones and several kids, and the first kid will be lost along the way. I really hate this current attitude of "I have to do what's best for myself." No, you did something profound, like create a human life; now your life for yourself is over and your life for that child has begun.
My son found out his girlfriend was pregnant after they split up. My grandson is now two years old, and his mom and dad have been co-parenting his whole life. He's a happy, well-adjusted toddler with a host of family in his life who love him. Sometimes not trying to remain a couple is the wisest choice for everyone.
With his current level of maturity, he’s on the road to having multiple baby mamas.
Story of my life...and various colors involved. I acknowledged my mid life crisis which lasted from being 40 to turning 60 was adventurous. 4 children later, I give them grounded presence with all the love and logistics it involves
@@benascg-ll7sqdada?
Ask Dave what's cheaper a new corvette or a child
@@benascg-ll7sq yeah sure ya do.
@@benascg-ll7sqwhat a loser
"Too many baby mammas and baby daddies, and not enough families."
Low skillset required
Too many baby showers not enough weddings
Husbands walk out too.
@@VictoriaReadsRedditnot as often as a boyfriend/ hook up
We can play the blame game all day. "Men don't do enough." "Women get bored too easy and cheat". In the end, it takes 2 to tango. Carry your own weight and be selective. This ensures you do your OWN part toward a relationship and being selective ensures you aren't getting with someone who does any less.
^ But this right here is also a problem. Because now people develop unrealistic expectations. "My man needs to make at least $500k a year" or "My woman better do wtf I say or else". So.... You go ahead and find happiness as you see fit. Good luck.
Wait until this baby is born, cries, poops, and wakes him up multiple times a night. He will be gone again.
I am not a Dad but why would the rings that babies do make him run away when h has no intention of living with them anyway? I have a generic disease that causes a lot of pain and as I don't want to pass that on, I made a decision when I was a teen (47 now) not to have kids. I and my partners have always used contraception so I just do not understand why tis guy is utterly so vague. What kind of job does he have, I wonder and what on earth did a woman see in this guy who is clearly no intellectual giant?
Yup
Exactly. He probably likes the IDEA of being a father. But it's in the theoretical stage now since the child is not here yet. But I also don't think he's really broken up with his ex. I think he still wants her as an occasional girlfriend/sex partner, but not to live with her. Because of course, dating is easy, but marriage or even living together is much harder.
Don't blame him. That mess describes misery.
@@mmmd3429lmao boo hoo
I liked how you emphasized “he created a single mom with a baby”. Most single moms live in poverty and never get out of it. You held him accountable. It sounds like he wants to support his baby, which is wonderful, but mom needs to be remembered and y’all did that.
She could also give the baby up for adoption. She has options. Raising a child in poverty is not a good idea. It might be fine for the first year or two, but as the kids gets older, the bad statistic odds just keep growing and growing.
@@soulanstreets222your solutions isn’t always greener grass
@@raidersplayer11 sure but hedging your bets is always the goal. No decision is fool proof other than not carrying before you marry....but even then that doesn't guarantee the husband won't leave.
@@soulanstreets222and you think it’s so easy to give that baby up for adoption after you carried and felt that life inside of you for 9 months. Your entire body and psyche is getting ready for motherhood. Her breast will be filled for god sake. This is equivalent to baby death. This women is not responsible for actions of men who I am sure promised her word and acted like a Prince Charming until he decided to switch. This is criminal
@@xsophia22x
Unalive the child in utero = not easy
Raise the child = not easy
Put the child up for adoption = not easy
Please show us what easy option there is for her?
Ngl man’s better than me. Calling Dave Ramsey after I dumped my pregnant girlfriend is an experience I’d never willingly put myself through 😂
Deadasss 😂😂😂
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😂😂 this comment😂
Right? This guy just used her to sire offspring.
You could play it real smart and not go balls deep on a ho u aint married to…
Clicked so fast to hear Dave scream 🤣
😂😂😂 nobody gave us a good look😂😂😂
Yep
and we weren't disappointed 😂
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Bruh Dave AND Dr. Delony 😂😭
Dave is one of the few that still calls people out for “shacking up”.
My Pop is the saaaaame 😂
@@caseyhill636it’s wrong!
And he makes so much sense about it too. I’ve always seen myself as a high value woman and only way I’m moving in with a man is when both of our names are on the deed and we’re legally married. There’s no reason to play house with a person that you love.
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@@Sylvia-rp1xqthis or having babies with.
Broke up with her……only to pack up your things and follow her down to move lmao may as well make the damn family work. This is so ridiculous. I hate “baby mom/baby dad” culture. GROSS.
It's been the "norm" for so long now, but I want no part of it.
My cousin who has 3 "baby daddies", asked me when I'm having a baby. I said "how about asking me when I'm getting married?! Then maybe ask if I even want children after that." I then went into a long rant about that's what is wrong with society now. 😅 I'm sure she will never ask me that question again 🤐
Sometimes it's inevitable. Staying together just because you have a child is only going to end up hurting the child. Children should not have to grow up watching their parents fight and hate each other just to find out they are the reason and feel guilt over that.
That being said people should make every effort to NOT have children before they are in a committed relationship. But sometimes it just doesn't work out.
My daughter's father and I were together in high school and got back together later and had her when I was 22 and he was 23. We ended up splitting when she was 6 months old. She is 13 now and we get along great but she has never known us together. We just weren't meant for each other. But we have made it work. He is married now, I was engaged but my fiancé passed away. We will always love and support each other. Had we stayed together we would of ended up miserable and divorced and she would of been stuck in the middle. It's better to walk away BEFORE the child has something to miss.
YOu can blame MOST of this on the Dems and Libs....they support this INCORRECT culture. What they don't understand is that ULTIMATELY, the child is hurt the most. But you know who Dems and Libs are....they don't CARE ABOUT children's feelings.....much less THEIR lives (Do I need to go there?).
@@sensimania 3 baby daddies is wild. Why does it seem like the people who have children shouldn't and the people who don't have kids should
@yota8325 I’d say about 85% of the world population really shouldn’t have kids. That includes the majority who have them already and the majority of those who don’t
Selfishness and sadness....babies get short changed because "adults" want to do what feels good at the moment.
Happens when the religion is "sef love". People are all about "finding happiness" and "self love" 😢.
He’s still a whole child ….
That's right! Sometimes you have to do the hard thing and not what makes you happy. Unpleasant but true. But if you do the right thing - and I would say not ripping apart a family unless there's abuse or something along these lines is - your future self will thank you for it (let alone your children and spouse).
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Are you calling him an adult??
This man will soon realize there is no such thing as “breaking up” when you have a child together.
He's going to know about child support, and she should stick it to him..😂😂😂
Its called deadbeat dad and its common
@user-wh6ir8rk4b I'm not sure if you meant the guy who called was the deadbeat. He doesn't seem like a deadbeat dad. He sad he's excited about the baby and called in to get advice. He seems like a kid who about to do some growing up hopefully and needs advice to do it well.
@@abbasjoy4785stick it to him? I get if he broke up with her *because* of the baby and didn't want to help with the baby at all. Then yea, stick it to him as far as child support. But it was a mutual breakup. And he said he's excited for the baby. Even calling to get financial advice so he can navigate this situation better. I'm sure he'll have to pay child support but "sticking it to him" sounds petty and vengeful
@@lay-dee Many say they're excited....before they bail. I'm in a pregnancy support group, and it's sad how common that is. The girl keeps the pregnancy thinking the guy's in. Then it gets too real or too difficult or boring and he's out and on to the next girl he'll impregnate. It's really depressing.
That young man needs to grow up and take responsibility. He sounded like an idiot.
She’s probably just as bad. She opened her legs for him. Both make bad choices.
How is he not taking responsibility? He's planning to move to another state to ensure he can be an active father.
@@stevengtv Nope. Pregnancy starts with male orgasm and those little swimmers going after the egg. The guy has control over when and where he ejaculates and she didn't force him to make a deposit. It's high time we held men accountable for spreading their sperm around. After all, they can procreate at a far greater rate than women can.
@@stevengtvshe was in a relationship with him? Should gfs stop sleeping with their bfs?
In Dave's parlance, a WUSS
Dave's expression after finding out this baby is out of wedlock is priceless. He looks so pissed 🤣🤣
Not surprising with his christian values. If he worked for the company he would have been fired 😅
It's not even out of wedlock. It's that this guy got her pregnant and THEN broke up with her because "we were fighting". He needed to man up and get counseling at the minimum and try to salvage this. Instead he went "well we were fighting so we are breaking up" like a child who thinks this is just no big deal.
Literally, I’ve been studying a lot about Dave Ramsey because he has my last name but we are so completely different
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@@MariahRamsey-ts3uzthat’s a shame
I love how they are calling him out. Truth needs to be told. A little human is involved.
Boy needed a mom and a dad that could have told him to not be a fuckhead
they were very soft on him. I'm guessing this guy came from a broken family because his father isn't beating his ass for being stupid.
@@austinduke8876hahahahahha so true
His first few lines said it all. He was already suger-coating leaving a pregnant woman as being just a travel decision, haha..
I wouldn't want to be that embryo for anything. If she goes full term and gives birth, there will be a child who's gonna have a helluva chaotic life, at best.
The poor child. Parents started out by deciding the child would come from a broken home.
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Better than being raised in a shitty home
I read someone make the claim that "every broken home is like the death of a small civilization." That's it in nutshell. Take it from someone who at nearly 63 is still trying to recover from the effects of multiple broken homes (which by the way was achieved by parents who were married, who had me within marriage, and who didn't have any substantial financial hardships, or even an issue of adultery, or one partner who was away a lot, etc...)
No, it's not better.
She chose to become pregnant.
He only consented to sex.
Her body, her choice.
Her choice, her responsibility!
The responsibility goes with the choices.
"Because of some arguments you decided I want my child to have a single mom" DEEP
When you find out your girlfriend is pregnant with your child, it’s time to man up and commit to that family.
Key word man up… he’s still a boy.
Have you met modern females? This is not a Disney movie 😅
@@stud6414 "mOdErN fEmAlEs". He was talking about being a father. Also, Disney movies regularly have broken up families.
Even if she sucks and is not wife material and she just let him bang her? Women don't think they should be punished with a baby for just wanting to have sex, so why should a man be punished with a baby AND be stuck with a woman they don't like for just wanting to have sex? Let me guess, only men should face consequences for their actions and women shouldn't. Yeah, we know.
What gives you the idea that he isn't committed? He's planning to move to a different state so he can be near the mother of his child - that sounds pretty committed to me. You don't have to have a romantic relationship with the mother of your child to be a committed father. If being in a romantic relationship isn't right for them, staying in one anyway is not going to help that child.
This reminds me of that joke:
When my girlfriend got pregnant, everything changed ...my name, my address, my phone number...
Some guys go out for milk and never return.
How were you able to keep track of this whole thing? The dude totally lost me.
Lol
sounds like black america
@Shiznit304 Yes, cause the caller sure sounds like a black person.😅
Years ago my then boyfriend dumped me when "we" got pregnant... and he left the state and never was in our son's life. It was tough but I raised him and got him through college, with the help of my supportive parents. i am so glad I kept my boy, he is doing great!
I love that for you! ❤
He got you pregnant and stuck with a baby. He was never pregnant.
I’m surprised he hasn’t come back into the picture bragging about ( my son), him after graduating college and becoming successful.
@@wonderfullymade42599% of people do lol, especially the ones in church every Sunday whose parents tell them to wait.
@@wonderfullymade425people get divorced and leave all the time. Marriage doesn’t secure anything.
This type of situation is what separates the boys from the Men.
And the women from the girls.
He's a boy. Fertilizing a transient girlfriend unfortunately won't make him a man.
And he’s a boy
Stop simping. Men typically don't mature until 30. Woman in their teens
Long story short. He knocked up his girlfriend but doesn't want to be a family. That's why you do things in order. Date, get married, get a house, have a family. Not guaranteed it will be a success. But that should give you the best chance. Don't knock up a girlfriend you are just dating. She will want the family. You won't.
Why is everyone acting like it was his choice alone to break up
@@Detsubkrod exactly
If she is constantly starting fights, does she really want things to work? Most men just put up with it, but some can't.
This ❤
😮@@michaelweyenberg6238 that's his side of the story
I’m glad they put this guy in his place. Once you bring a human into the world, it is YOUR responsibility. It is about the child now. It is no longer about you and impulse decisions!!
Crazy how women have rights either to have the kid or abort but a man has none. The women in question is a single mom due to her bad decisions and my taxes have to pay for her. Great 🙄
I'm confused. Didn't the caller say that he wanted to be a part of the child's life and was moving to the close to his ex to be involved in raising the baby? Isn't that taking responsibility?
If only they could have the same chat with the baby's mother. If what the caller said is correct, she wasn't upholding her responsibility either.
Seems like he didn't make those impulse decisions on his own. She has responsibilities as well.
I dont see how he was put in his place over the phone.
1) don’t pregnate someone you aren’t married to. (Edit: yes pregnate is a word)
2) pregnant women have a variety of emotions, expect some disagreements
3) “you are still talking daily,” this will change when she gets her next boyfriend.
4) seek stability. Stop all of this moving from state to state, having babies out of wedlock, break up/get back together, etc. debt free is great, it goes well with drama free, try it
Number 3 especially. He is thinking as long as 3 doesn't happen, there is always a chance, but once it does, this situation is going to get nasty!
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Exactly. Self inflicted drama and instability
Gonna just correct your first statement to “don’t have sex before marriage,” because babies aren’t usually planned. This is why it’s just not a wise decision. You want to be sure you’re having children with someone you want to raise those children with.
Hot take these days, I know. But as someone who had sex before marriage, got pregnant, and got married, I’m incredibly grateful that happened with someone who I wanted to marry and who wanted to marry me. I wouldn’t change anything now, but we made a lot of sacrifices and grieved a lot of missed experiences because of how we did things. And it’s scary to think that it could’ve gone very differently if it happened with anyone else.
Amen
As a 28 y/o single male who wants to find a loving woman to start a family with (which is hard as hell to find), calls like this just piss me off.
Honestly I don’t know. I had to be married to my guy for five good years before I felt safe enough to have a kid with him (my moms string of boyfriends and my own dad made me not want kids for a long time). I can’t even wrap my head around how 99% of people operate where they’ll get naked with people they don’t even like, much less trust. It seems totally insane to me. 😅
Yeah....good luck with THAT pal. My son is 27...he's going through the SAME thing. My ONLY suggestion to him and YOU is this....IF and WHEN you find one that is loving, and not narccisistic, crazy, or insane, or in debt up to her ears...or even worse...WOKE, then here is what you do: VET, VET, VET, VET, VET and did I say, VET...her ASS. If you have assets, like my son has a house and some funds, you MUST VET this person. After the VETTING process is complete, I would recommend dating 4 years before getting married.
I told my son, "Nick - I am going to VET whatever you bring home SO BAD, I will KNOW when it's her time of the month and what brand of tampon she uses!". I WILL be hiring a private detective and beyond. I've worked TOO hard raising and protecting my son for him to go marrying some piece of garbage. It's too bad....because I think he'd be a good husband.
This problem is common with ALL of my son's friends too...and no, NONE of them are gay either.
@@DEE-o4vIf my father-in-law would’ve done that to me, it would make me think his son is a big dumb baby who needs his daddy to do everything for him. Let your son do the hard work of discerning his future wife. He’s gotta be the man and the leader of his future family, not you.
@@DEE-o4v you sound like the over-involved in-laws that are constantly causing issues for otherwise happy couples. Delony gets calls about in-laws like you all the time. If you raised your children right, they should be able to find partners for themselves without your interference.
@@Becanwal Love can be BLIND. Sober up and realize that. I see SO many women marrying men and dumping them just to get half of what they've achieved. People CHEAT too...and that ends up in divorce. I would LOVE my son to find someone decent...but it's difficult. All women do nowadays is jUST look at their phones. My son has assets (a house and a decent sum of money....) . Sorry....I"m NOT going to let someone take advantage of him. And no..I'm NOT hunting for partners for him...that's for him to do.. All I"m going to do IS VET them. Why do you think its WRONG to verify that they are honest, normal, debt-free, never been in jail, etc.?
My hubby was 17 and I was 18 when we married and at 17 he got 3 jobs to take care of his baby and me. He was so much more mature at 17 then this man sounds ! Just wow. Our son is now 50 and we all grew up together!
Wow you did the very hard thing because you made the hard decision to marry young and raise a child together.
That's wonderful
So glad it worked out for you all x
Super easy to be a man and get 3 jobs cause you’re always away from your family and never see them. Try balancing making enough money to support and still having enough time to spend with your kids so they know who tf you are
the world was a very different place back then. Today everything is treated as if it's replaceable. Jobs, People, animals, etc.
sounds like my husband's friend. The guy broke up with his baby mama because "they just weren't in love anymore". He thought he could kick her out of the house and they'd still be able to get along and co-parent peacefully. She went on an absolute warpath. Hell hath no fury kind of stuff. First, when she moved out, she took **everything** she could get her hands on. Even took out as many of the appliances as she could. (She did pay for a lot of them when they were finishing the house). She took every condiment from the fridge and left him without a single tupperware 😢 Then she took him to court for maximum child support. She tried to get full custody. Every single decision she fights him on and turns into a battle that they have to pay a mediator to handle. Even down to if the kid can play T-ball. Nightmare scenario. My husband tried to convince him to try counseling before breaking up, but the guy didn't want to. Now she will do everything she can to make his life hell for the next 18 years.
Men, it's simple: please do not have sex with any woman you aren't prepared to raise a child with.
haha. You act like it is the man's fault in the caller's case. She had sex with him too and was obviously not using birth control and agreed to break up. Stop blaming the men. It takes 2
@@hollystiener16 not that it's his fault, but that his way of speaking reminds me of the guy. Just wandering through life, not really thinking out long-term consequences.
@@CG-MP But she didn't think about it either, is my point.
@@hollystiener16 She thought but not enough. They had been living together. She had been buying appliances for their house. There had been no reason to break up before the pregnancy. The pregnancy for this "man" became the reason.
She made his life hell for 18 years? Sounds like HE made her life hell for 18 years. Getting a woman pregnant and abandoning her while pregnant is probably one of the most vile things you could do to a human. I have zero empathy for The lowest of the low. He should of thought about all that before getting her pregnant and deciding to abandon her
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Perfect example of what is wrong with this country!
The caller sounds like the whitest black guy ever. Because white people don't go around having children out of wedlock. 🤣
This kids gonna be the lyrics to the next Colin Raye song....
Chase that girl in that little red rodeo...
Baby seat, candy apple red rodeeeeo!
LOL didn't know this situation is exclusive to USA
With this country?? What a weird thing to say. It's what wrong with some PEOPLE.
The entire world is f’d up dude. This is just a fraction of everything wrong.
"You guys make decisions about every 30 seconds" Then while on the radio he changes from I might move to I am moving. That's how much thought he puts into things.
Only after he was starting to look like a deadbeat on the air too
Sigh, She's still pregnant and you're already separated? What the heck is wrong with people today.
Every generation thinks it has figured out a work around to long-term commitment and marriage. ...And then kids arrive and a lot of learning occurs.
A good way for him to circumvent the day to day care of his own child. Of course he's excited....he doesn't have to deal with the lack of sleep he'll get or the general fussiness baby will be experiencing cause his baby mamma will deal with it. He can be fun dad lol
@@bjkarana Or doesn't.
@@emmasharrod3808 Haha, fair point!
Men need to stop knocking up women they aren’t married to, & woman need to stop getting pregnant by men they aren’t married to
How is he a "good man" if he broke up with her in a vulnerable time physically? I would hardly call that a 'good man'!
He didn’t break up with her. Yall do not listen at all.
We don't know the other side of the story. There are some toxic women out there, and men as well. It is not healthy bringing a child into an unhealthy relationship. Some children grow up and see their parents arguing and fussing/fighting every day and you they think it's normal. There is a thing called domestic abuse. Kids live what they see and learn....
@@texasindy2193 Hey, maybe don't impregnate toxic people. There, problem solved.
This is the real reason most of Americans are struggling financially. We aren’t thinking things through
no, the real reason is because the government does nothing to stop the rampant inflation while not ensuring people are paid enough to keep up with that inflation.
my grandfather worked ONE job and never earned more than $60k per year. he was still able to afford a modest, three-bedroom home, have a stay-at-home wife and raise two kids, and live a middle class lifestyle, all on *one salary.*
this is NO LONGER THE CASE in 2024.
@@thispersonrighthere9024 we all know how the system works. Yes things may be harder that just means ppl need to be smarter with their decisions. Having kids outside of marriage is financial suicide unless you are already financially stable. If you want to get ahead you’ve got to make better life decisions
@@sidehustlevikki1066 nothing you just said detracted from my point about the cost of living being too high.
With each passing generation, there is less and less critical thinking. Combined with American consumer culture that is designed to make sure you are as impulsive and emotional as possible to spend as much as possible, being frugal will become a rare art form.
No, it's because wages have stagnated over the last four decades.
He sounds like he works as a cell phone salesman and she super sizes fries, hooked up on Tinder and is in 100% denial of how much his life is about to change. He wanted to remain friends with benefits with zero thought towards the child he is about to have.
homes about to get a dose of reality
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A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Letting go of someone you love is always challenging, but in my situation, I had the guidance of a spiritual counselor who prevented my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now..
You definitely should. You wont regret it
@@Newtonwilson-yw4kgdon’t be silly. Stop spamming.
Whew...When Dave slapped his hand on the table...I bet he wanted to punch the "baby daddy."
This poor baby will have some struggle with a dad like this!😢
Sad and true. I wouldn't want to be that embryo. Who would? :(
at least he isn't black so didn't disappear
Dave’s face is priceless, this guy is trying to bail from the pregnancy 😅
I see my tax money on the way to a couple of smooth brains.
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I bet you’re anti choice too.
His life is a mess…
I wouldn’t want it for nothing in the world
Most marriages are a mess... wouldn't want one for nothing in the world.
Being a real father would actually stabilize his mess.,
My marriage is 7 years old (been together 12 years) and it’s still fantastic. My parents were together 44 years before my father passed away and they had a great marriage. My grandparents just had their 73 year anniversary and had a great marriage. Not all marriages are bad and if you do it right, they can be great.
@auemmjee it's because you most likely aren't ready to be a mature adult to communicate properly with another person. Most marriages fail because people can't communicate.
That bleeds into money, wants, needs and everything.
@@crashtestdummy1972it’s probably because their is no god in the courtroom.
People, please use protection if you're not ready to have kids.
no, don't have married relations if you are not married. The only protection that works is abstinence.
Hos all be pokin holes in the rubbers while the dude’s not lookin’! It’s a rigged game homie just wanna blow a load
@@alephnaught8343do you really think this man is going to be abstinent? That’s not realistic,
Don’t have sex if you are not ready for the consequences
That poor child. If they end up hating their Dad I can understand why.
Standard 21st century Tinder bio
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"But I'm almost debt free, so that's good!"
Dave Ramsey about to go off on this dude…
he's a moralizing putz
this kid*
OH GOOOD
He almost went full redneck... You never go full redneck.
Adult enough to make a baby
Dave be like “Don’t come to my state!”🤣
Well it's no surprise that she wants to move back with family since he has dumped her and moved out of state. She has to figure out a way to survive and needs family support. Guys don't seem to understand that it's about impossible to take time off at end of pregnancy and early infancy when you don't make a good salary. And that's assuming nothing goes sideways like your job or your or the baby's health. Not to mention affording child care when she goes back to work.
And all the check-ups...
LOL at this kid calling for financial advice and getting this life lecture. I’m here for it.
yeah, these scumbags looking for advice are the worst and deserve to be ridiculed . They just need to man up!
You know this won't end well when they didn't congratulate the caller for having a baby
Nothing to celebrate here
Bastard offspring are not something to celebrate.
@@patty109109 I know that
The look on Dave’s face when he said that 😂😂😂
It's almost as if they knew beforehand.
I was in a similar situation. I got my girlfriend(Now fiance) after she moved to be with me in my home state. later she wanted to move back home with her family, so I ended up packing everything I owned, threw away about half of my junk, and sold my house to move up to be with her. Honestly I can say it was the best decision I ever made.
Y’all still raw-doggin’?
@@Kaktus965 Aye bro come on, you should ask your parents that and see how that ends up lmao
Come see us in ten years. She should’ve stayed with YOU. Not the other way around
@@dcg590 There was a few circumstances out of my control that forced me to move. An agreement that ended up not going as planned. It's a whole thing but we are good now. I ended up better off with a better paying job, nicer house, etc.
@@jv6miata AIEEEE I KNEW U WAS SLAPSLAP BALLS DEEP ON THAT BRO! Oh, and until u house me and feed me for 16 years, ur not getting parental-level respect… 🤪
This caller comes across as very vague and immature. He is in no fit state to be a father.
Neither is she. She chose to get impregnated by this guy.
I’m sure the mother of his child is a gem as well…
@@stevengtvyou relpied to: Melania XD 🎉😂❤
She’s pregnant so he’s already a father
@@kay22100 I AGREE! Get rid of abortions
So nice as a woman to see men hold men accountable 😭
Agree. It's rather rare. Thanks guys.
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Now we just need to hold women more accountable nd the world will be perfect 😂
@@fernandogarcia6668 I would say raising the child you created is pretty accountable
@@fernandogarcia6668 Give an example of how 'we don't hold women accountable'.
I love how Dave and his team thinking about their child more than they are!!
Wow. I never seen Dave this mad for a long time
I’m a new listener this is the first
@@MariahRamsey-ts3uzhe gets fired up literally every day
He does this daily lol what
@@OopThereItIs77777Dave slam his hand on the table, that I never seen
Couldn’t imagine not living with my kid
Nah man how can a guy do this. Really though. I had a cousin who made a mistake and had a kid too early in his life. However he committed to it and raised the kid himself. I despise guys like this who avoid responsibility
I know a guy who has a three year old a few states away, and he has never met her. He 'wants' to meet her.... That's what he says.
@@Jmc989 I “want” to believe him. But I don’t.
@@flyguyqui1089 You and me both.
Arguing isn't even that bad if you aren't taking pot shots at each other, and you actually come to a resolution. Jesus, fix it.
Abandoning your family never goes out of style
I got my girl pregnant and within a month, got married. We were shacking up. We’re been married for a couple years and are still in love. We argue at least once a week. Like what. If you’re old enough to procreate, you should be invested in working through your issues
Once a week? Bro, those are rookie numbers. Y'all aren't talking about important things often enough if you aren't arguing at least once a day. Lol
Dude calls up for budgeting tips and gets a phone-full of men holding men accountable
Dave Ramsey and John Delony telling it like it is. Giving tough advice that is much needed these days.
I am SO GLAD the man was given help by way of free therapy for that relationship. I hope it works out for that family!!
This stuff is so normalized that telling him to man up was probably shocking for him 😂😂😂😂
But it won't help. Unfortunately. He sounds incredibly immature; bet she is too. What a train wreck.
1) Graduate from high school
2) Get a job
3) Get married
4) (preferably own a house)
5) then have kids if you both want them and are prepared and responsible
Don't make 4 a precondition of 5. The biological clock doesn't stop just because you have kids. My wife and I made that mistake - it took us a long time to get to where we could afford to buy a house. That put off kids too long, and now we're scrambling before the clock runs out.
The only precondition for kids should be that you're married and you aren't homeless.
Also, maintaining a house is harder when you have little ones running around. Much easier to rent while they're little, so someone else is responsible for the maintenance.
He tried so hard to get around the fact he dumped his pregnant girlfriend
I almost bent my thumb backwards clicking on this video as fast as possible. I knew Dave was gonna blow a gasket 😂🤣🤣🤣
He didn't have a father to tell him that. Thank you for your fatherly advice.
People wonder why I don't want kids. I've never met a man that I said, "This man is the one. I can depend on him for his love, protection, previsions, and leadership, and I will risk my life getting pregnant for him." These guys today are flakey. They like you one day and are indifferent about you the next.
Maybe they just never found the right woman?
One of the reason to listen to Dave and his team, real advice to chew and to action. Real talk on this one.
With guys like this, I am forever grateful to my husband for marrying me as soon as we found out I was pregnant. 😢
The amount of people in this country that aren't willing to own up to the consequence and subsequent responsibility of two supposed grown-ups doing the "deed" is absolutely baffling. If boys out there think they are man enough to use what God gave them for pleasure, then be man enough to accept the consequence. If you're as "excited" as you say you are, but are questioning whether you should make necessary changes in your life to be closer to the baby and involved in the baby's life, then you aren't ACTUALLY as excited as you seem to claim. This one has red flags all over it. And for the love of God, keep your pants on if you can't be man enough to step up.
What are you talking about? Did you not listen to the call? He's already decided to move to another state to ensure he can be an active father. He was looking to get some advice on the practicalities of moving, but they were only interested in giving him self-righteous judgement and didn't even try to answer his question.
@@thomasdalton1508he is not going to be living with the child is he? That needs to be addressed first.
You mean like how woman refuse to take accountability for having unprotected s3x, choosing who gets born and who the father is? She picked him. She chose to be a single mother. Woman control ,access to s3x and who gets born. Period. And if she chose a loser, thats also HER FAULT. Place the blame where it belongs.
If they really loved God, neither one of them would have been part of fornication much less an illegitimate offspring.
@@manifest2203 How do you know where the child will live? The presumption should be that the child will live with them each in equal measure.
He's so immature. What a shame. He thinks he's working it out and all he did was escape. He's all over the place. Too many babies without married parents.
Horrible people do horrible things and then convince themselves it's no big deal. Then they want everyone else to play along with that fantasy.
Bad people don't like being told they're bad, but someone has to do it or they will make their behavior the norm.
That guy has a child now. Time to man up, take responsibility, and fix the relationship. What an idiot.
I hear this a lot. Super excited dad to be, kicks his pregnant girlfriend/ wife to the curb. Couldn't be happier to start a broken family.
I HATE when people have kids out of wedlock. Nothing tackier than that! Poor kid didnt even have a chance of a family.
Yup...the kid is screwed from the minute they are born. Sad....
My sister has been with her partner for 30 years and have two kids. Most stable relationship of anyone I know. You can’t put everyone in the same bucket.
@@rodneyperry7940 Wow what an incredible counterpoint. Are you kidding man? Good for your sister and her weird-ass fear of commitment, but the caller here isn't in it for a 30 year girlfriend-boyfriend relationship with kids. Good lord this fucking country.
Wedlock doesn’t just magically keep people together.
So people like my sister who has been married 4 times is so much better ? My niece and nephew always had different step- dads no stability for
a role model father .
Arguing with your significant other is automatically included and not purchased separately 😂 if you guys are not arguing then someone doesn’t have a strong opinion
My wife and I have been together for 15 years and never argued 😢
Honestly, if you aren't arguing, then you're never talking about anything important.
A relationship with zero arguments is sus.
My wife and I argue all the time. Most of the time, those arguments get resolved one way or another. That's what allows us to function and move forward together.
When you have a kid with someone, you aren’t “playing” family anymore…you become family even if you are not married.
Eh, a marriage does matter & has power. A girlfriend/boyfriend Is with a child Is just playing house.
I think she should abort or give the child away.
@@MedusssssaChristo "I think she should abort"
Opinion discarded.
Normalizing having children out of wedlock isn't right. It's NOT mean to shame the people that do it, it's a hurtful and irresponsible act!
The sad thing is that it **IS** so normalized. Mainstream society now is where the minorities were on this 20 years ago. I'm a nanny, babysitter and daycare worker. So I constantly see them whining that total strangers won't watch their kids for 5 bucks an hour.
I've stopped congratulations unmarried people when they announce a pregnancy. It's not a blessing. You're irresponsible.
Well, you can't "normalize" something that's already common and normal. As a matter of fact, it's been happening since the beginning of human civilization. Is it right or moral? It depends on the culture and each person's beliefs.
Glad you say that when parents don't normalize having "the talk " with their kids. Hell some states don't want to teach proper sex education because they think it LEADS the child into premarital sex. But let's also be real, marriage never kept a man or woman who didn't want to be kept. Marriage doesn't equate to healthy relationships or healthy parenting! The only thing it does is make it harder to leave the relationship.
@@Aki_Lesbrinco Babies out of wedlock was definitely not the norm when I was growing up in the 80s.
You fight all the time? Did you try to get to the bottom of it? Did you try to learn skills to communicate? If not, you need to. Everyone fights. There's almost no one we could live long term and not fight with.
That, and pregnancy brings floods of hormone changes and tears. Don't give up on the relationship before both of you settle down emotionally.
Exactly.
If I lived with a clone of myself, I'd have fights with myself.
DEEEEEEEEP PROOOOFOOOOOUND
"The more important the decision, the more information you need about the decision and the longer time you should take making the decision."
-Dave Ramsey
Yup!!! Great advice. Also do NOT make decisions when you are feeling stressed or emotional!!! I regret the decisions I made during those types of circumstances!!! 😢
@@galaxyglitterlatte4664 AMEEEEEEEN
I'm really glad Dave and John laser focused on taking care of the child 🥰
this is exactly why our society is declining so rapidly. The world of instant gratification, no loyalty, greener grass on the other side, etc. Be happy and thank God for the blessings that you do have. Don't go chasing waterfalls.
They didn’t even try to make it work for their kid’s sake. Beyond narcissistic.
Why would you put a child in a relationship with parents who don't get on? That's toxic and damaging for the kid growing up in negativity.
@@IrishFrank22 You _learn_ to get along. It’s called maturity. You don’t cut it off before the kid is even born.
@@BitterComments That's immature what you just said. Better a kid is raised by two loving parents than a toxic household. Easy to know your privilege shows.
"He" not "they"
@@agatanakonieczny2213”he” is not the only one in the relationship, it takes 2 ppl, plural, “they”
He really just wanted to avoid responsibility. I have a cousin who did bring a child into the world too soon in his life, but he manned up and took responsibility. He is now raising the kid with a different woman but the kid is having a good life.
Mehhhhhh.... Where's the kid's mom? Being raised 'now' by the dad and some girlfriend. Yeah, that sounds stable.
@emmasharrod3808 yeah, two people who care for the child and are in his life consistently does sound stable, are you slow
@@emmasharrod3808 the kids mom is a drug addict and went to jail.
@@KangwithoutaKangdom The dad left him with a drug addict mom, and has only taken him 'now' shacking up with a 'a different woman', some girlfriend who very likely is transient. Very smart of you to think that the child's had a stable upbringing thus far.
The guy is a kid getting ready to be responsible for a child.... It's gonna be rough and hopefully they can all find a way to be humble
Dave is gonna lose it😂😂😂
Girl is the only reason I clicked this morning
I have never seen Dave more angry than I have during this call.
@@costco_pizzahe’s really not that upset lol
Dave and Delony are the perfect combo for this video 😂
They're right
Unfortunately there are tons of Raggedy men who do this… yes breakups happen but some men are just cowards.. period. Get em Dave! 😂
For every Raggedy man there is a Raggedy woman who wasn't responsible with her body & her birth control.
@@neededtobesaid4275 should’ve used a condom
@@neededtobesaid4275who hurt you? 😂
@@jb-ze1yhhe said it was a mutual breakup
@@jb-ze1yh wow, did you think of that creative response all by yourself?!? 🤣🤣🤣 Seems like you're showing that your baby daddy hurt you. I'm just giving BOTH of them equal treatment. Raggedy Ann & Raggedy Andy.
When Dave slaps the desk, you know it’s going to be good
you can't abandon your kid, i dont care how bad the break up is. my mom and dad broke up when i was a kid and i got to see my dad on the weekend, over time i grew closer to my father, it was great, i persnally know how important it was to have my dad in my life. you need to be there. you have to.
Sees title
Grabs popcorn
Standard 21st century relationship
Clicked as soon as I could expecting Dave to blister someone. Left satisfied.
Dave and John are BASED. This caller is cringe, God have mercy on him
I gave up years for my siblings and people can't do it for their babies😢
I can never understand this
Quit having sex with people who are not good partners.
So simple !
But YOLO…
Children change everything.
So much anger from some on here, lol.
I am a man!! I knew how to prevent pregnancy. My daughter who was planned was born after I had served in the military, I was married and I was in my senior year of college.
This caller is 50% of this child and he better darn well step up be a blanking man and put his child first!! He had his play time which led to this unplanned pregnancy. His playtime is over. You'll be a father, step up!
What a bunch of garbage. SHE CHOSE THIS. She chose to have s3x, she chose to be a single mother. And if he is a jerk, she is also at fault. She picked him
@dcg590 Well, you are definitely NOT a man!
@@dcg590Whether you are male or female, you are WEAK!! See weak people blame others for situations they are responsible for.
What's the view like from your Mom and Dad's basement, lol. Doesn't matter, you are a child!
The mother had her play time too but will get taxpayers money.
@@IrishFrank22 So much bitterness!!
Thanks for calling it like it is Dave...it's become so commonplace to shack up that no one wants to call it that anymore.
So nice to see men jolding orher men accountable like "having kids" is just some "whatever thing" the girl has to deal with and he decides whene if hell pop in and visit.
The Baby wasn't it his budget.
no,exactly or life style... he got l@8D and dumped her
“We broke up because we were arguing” 👀
They arent married many men do this on the regular
Arguing about his cheating. He just didn’t want to say it on the air.
Plot twist he isn’t the father and she’s been cheating on him 😂
Excuses
" we been arguing " geez this guy thinks that relationships are roses and rainbows
"the shacking up, the breaking up" 😂😂 love Dave 😂
I'm so glad they talked to that caller that way. The poor kid, what will happen is at first, the parents will have the best intentions, but then eventually, they'll each meet someone else and have more kids, maybe several someones and several kids, and the first kid will be lost along the way. I really hate this current attitude of "I have to do what's best for myself." No, you did something profound, like create a human life; now your life for yourself is over and your life for that child has begun.
My son found out his girlfriend was pregnant after they split up. My grandson is now two years old, and his mom and dad have been co-parenting his whole life. He's a happy, well-adjusted toddler with a host of family in his life who love him. Sometimes not trying to remain a couple is the wisest choice for everyone.