Generally good advice, sure. But only if you live in a society that doesn’t have no fault divorce, doesn’t give default primary custody to only 1 parent, and doesn’t award child support or alimony.
@@AdamCKlausner I get your point. But what I’m saying is that they’re all good when you marry them. No guy marries a gal who he thinks doesn’t make a good wife. But once the wife realizes she has the legal backing of the courts, and that society will take her side no matter what (even if she abuses you), that’s what CHANGES them.
There are a lot of good women. Once, everyone (women and men) were as if standing in the light of day and therefore you could distinguish between the good and the bad, between the beautiful fruits and the damaged ones. Today there is a kind of spotlight that shines only on a small group of people, not necessarily good ones, and this leaves everyone else in the dark. There are plenty of good people out of the spotlight, once you turn your back on the spotlight, it will take a few days, but once your eyes get used to it, you will start to see the good women and men.
I was married more than 5 times longer than you have been. My ex figured out she deserved somebody more worthy and righteous. Save this video, with a little luck you'll be able to look back at where you were and laugh at how much you thought you knew it all.
@@AdamCKlausner There are millions of us, literally. Figure a way to not kill yourself (for men, 9 times more likely after divorce). Stay single long enough to learn every life has it's pros and cons. There are very smart people, doctors, that have built their career studying happiness, Dr Robert Holden, Dr Laurie Santos, the Happiness Institute. It won't cost you a penny to learn happiness. It's counter-intuitive.
Around the age of 45-50 people begin to feel a kind of awakening accompanied by the feeling that they are bound. A minority of people understand that the source is internal/mental and start to take care of it. Most people think (or choose to think) that the source is external/physical (relationship, work, etc.) and treated as such. If we imagine the situation as sailing on a yacht in the ocean. The first type takes a difficult path in the beginning, but in the end they reach a feeling of freedom and calmness. they seems to understand that the yacht they took for granted is a safe place from the storms and dangers of the ocean. That's why they suddenly begins to reevaluate and says to himself: "Maybe this is not the biggest and most luxurious yacht, but this is MY yacht!". They try to teach others, but almost no one listens. The second type decides that the yacht they are sailing on binds them while the open ocean is freedom. They decide to set fire to the yacht and jump into the ocean. Well maybe in the first moments the ocean seems endless with the possibilities, but after not much time they realize that there are storms in the ocean and also sharks. Instead of admitting they were wrong and warning others, they marvel at telling everyone how good they feel. Look around you and see the vast amount of burnt skeletons of yachts there are, and how people are luring others (like the sirens at sea) to jump from the boats to a miserable life.
@@user-jn6jm4bb6f Interesting you chose sailboats to make a point. Something that does happen, people get caught in a storm and with all of the dishevel that is going on in the boat, they get into the liferaft. The people die, usually never found but, the boat is found or washes ashore somewhere. Advice is frequently given to not leave your boat for the liferaft too soon but, people still do.
Let me save you 16 minutes. You can't find a good wife. Technically it is possible, but the probabilities are stacked against you. If you definitely want to procreate, get a surrogate, but with the way the legal system is currently arranged don't marry, and don't procreate unless there is a contract in place giving you full custody of the kids from the start, in case she "changes her mind".
I appreciate your comment and the many others saying basically the same thing. I’ll make a follow up video soon explaining why I think it’s a wrong way of thinking, a bad philosophy on the subject.
@@AdamCKlausner And I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I look forward to your video. In the mean time allow me to elaborate. The divorce courts in the US have been shaped into being a defender of the woman at the expense of the man. This has resulted in a power imbalance that effectively incentivises women to destroy their marriages at the first sign of discomfort, AND the consequences of this reality has made men turn into groveling beta males who say things like, "its cheaper to keep her" or calling her "my better half". This in and of itself is extremely off putting to the female hind brain, leading her to believe (wrongly) that she's not getting the best man she can - which leads to dissatisfaction and causes strife, and ultimately a trip to the divorce meat grinder. Women have been lied to, in order to become this way. Men have been mostly beaten into submission by the legal system. And this has lead us to the state of affairs where men will lie to get sex, but will never commit. And women will accept a marriage proposal, continue to look for a better deal to monkey branch to, always thinking they can do better. Birth control, feminism, and social media have only made this worse. So whether this is being done to our society on purpose, or our society has organically devolved into this. No amount of comforting lies will turn things around. Until men can be assured that they won't be destroyed by a woman if they get married, they won't marry. One way to do this is to change the laws so that neither men nor women stand to make a fortune from a divorce. 1. No matter who initiates the divorce, all you're owed is your assets and that is. If you own nothing you gain nothing other than your freedom to pursue other people. 2. Child custody is mediated, and if neither wants to give up partial custody then custody is shared per mediation agreement. Child support, and alimony are strictly voluntary. This is what you need to do, to defeat the perverse incentives making women want to break up their families.
I wouldn’t say they’re worthless. We all have value. The problem today isn’t even with vv0m3n, themselves. The problem is that our laws and societal norms actively encourage bad behavior and lack of loyalty in vv0m3n. To extend an olive branch, I would say the same thing about us m3n if we were incentivized to behave badly like vv0m3n are. Nobody is above evil. But again, we should at least discourage it in everyone. Today there is one half of the population that gets a free pass, and cash and prizes when they break up families.
I need to disagree. They aren’t worthless. All humans have worth. The only thing I will say, however, is that our society and its LAWS are the main problem. If you take away incentive for bad behavior (or divorce) you will see a lot less of it.
@@whirlwindmgtow5534 Not all humans. How much worth does Joseph Stalin have to the 20 million people he killed? But yeah the modern woman is damaged goods.
Really great video. I’m a woman but actually got a lot from this video too as same principles apply
Generally good advice, sure. But only if you live in a society that doesn’t have no fault divorce, doesn’t give default primary custody to only 1 parent, and doesn’t award child support or alimony.
Marry a good women and you won’t have to worry about that
@@AdamCKlausner I get your point. But what I’m saying is that they’re all good when you marry them. No guy marries a gal who he thinks doesn’t make a good wife. But once the wife realizes she has the legal backing of the courts, and that society will take her side no matter what (even if she abuses you), that’s what CHANGES them.
A worthy sacrifice.
Leave the western world to find good women, that's it.
How to find a good wife:
Step 1: You won’t. They do not exist.
There are a lot of good women.
Once, everyone (women and men) were as if standing in the light of day and therefore you could distinguish between the good and the bad, between the beautiful fruits and the damaged ones.
Today there is a kind of spotlight that shines only on a small group of people, not necessarily good ones, and this leaves everyone else in the dark.
There are plenty of good people out of the spotlight, once you turn your back on the spotlight, it will take a few days, but once your eyes get used to it, you will start to see the good women and men.
I was married more than 5 times longer than you have been. My ex figured out she deserved somebody more worthy and righteous. Save this video, with a little luck you'll be able to look back at where you were and laugh at how much you thought you knew it all.
Sorry it didn’t work out for you Jerry
@@AdamCKlausner There are millions of us, literally. Figure a way to not kill yourself (for men, 9 times more likely after divorce). Stay single long enough to learn every life has it's pros and cons. There are very smart people, doctors, that have built their career studying happiness, Dr Robert Holden, Dr Laurie Santos, the Happiness Institute. It won't cost you a penny to learn happiness. It's counter-intuitive.
The OP never said he knew it all.
I’ve been married 28 years & going strong - it’s not an impossibility, Jerry.
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Around the age of 45-50 people begin to feel a kind of awakening accompanied by the feeling that they are bound.
A minority of people understand that the source is internal/mental and start to take care of it.
Most people think (or choose to think) that the source is external/physical (relationship, work, etc.) and treated as such.
If we imagine the situation as sailing on a yacht in the ocean.
The first type takes a difficult path in the beginning, but in the end they reach a feeling of freedom and calmness. they seems to understand that the yacht they took for granted is a safe place from the storms and dangers of the ocean. That's why they suddenly begins to reevaluate and says to himself: "Maybe this is not the biggest and most luxurious yacht, but this is MY yacht!".
They try to teach others, but almost no one listens.
The second type decides that the yacht they are sailing on binds them while the open ocean is freedom. They decide to set fire to the yacht and jump into the ocean.
Well maybe in the first moments the ocean seems endless with the possibilities, but after not much time they realize that there are storms in the ocean and also sharks.
Instead of admitting they were wrong and warning others, they marvel at telling everyone how good they feel.
Look around you and see the vast amount of burnt skeletons of yachts there are, and how people are luring others (like the sirens at sea) to jump from the boats to a miserable life.
@@user-jn6jm4bb6f Interesting you chose sailboats to make a point. Something that does happen, people get caught in a storm and with all of the dishevel that is going on in the boat, they get into the liferaft. The people die, usually never found but, the boat is found or washes ashore somewhere. Advice is frequently given to not leave your boat for the liferaft too soon but, people still do.
Let me save you 16 minutes. You can't find a good wife. Technically it is possible, but the probabilities are stacked against you.
If you definitely want to procreate, get a surrogate, but with the way the legal system is currently arranged don't marry, and don't procreate unless there is a contract in place giving you full custody of the kids from the start, in case she "changes her mind".
I appreciate your comment and the many others saying basically the same thing. I’ll make a follow up video soon explaining why I think it’s a wrong way of thinking, a bad philosophy on the subject.
@@AdamCKlausner
And I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I look forward to your video.
In the mean time allow me to elaborate.
The divorce courts in the US have been shaped into being a defender of the woman at the expense of the man. This has resulted in a power imbalance that effectively incentivises women to destroy their marriages at the first sign of discomfort, AND the consequences of this reality has made men turn into groveling beta males who say things like, "its cheaper to keep her" or calling her "my better half". This in and of itself is extremely off putting to the female hind brain, leading her to believe (wrongly) that she's not getting the best man she can - which leads to dissatisfaction and causes strife, and ultimately a trip to the divorce meat grinder.
Women have been lied to, in order to become this way. Men have been mostly beaten into submission by the legal system. And this has lead us to the state of affairs where men will lie to get sex, but will never commit. And women will accept a marriage proposal, continue to look for a better deal to monkey branch to, always thinking they can do better.
Birth control, feminism, and social media have only made this worse.
So whether this is being done to our society on purpose, or our society has organically devolved into this. No amount of comforting lies will turn things around. Until men can be assured that they won't be destroyed by a woman if they get married, they won't marry. One way to do this is to change the laws so that neither men nor women stand to make a fortune from a divorce.
1. No matter who initiates the divorce, all you're owed is your assets and that is. If you own nothing you gain nothing other than your freedom to pursue other people.
2. Child custody is mediated, and if neither wants to give up partial custody then custody is shared per mediation agreement. Child support, and alimony are strictly voluntary.
This is what you need to do, to defeat the perverse incentives making women want to break up their families.
@@AdamCKlausner👏👏👏
Spoiler alert - They're all worthless. Get a dog instead.
I wouldn’t say they’re worthless. We all have value. The problem today isn’t even with vv0m3n, themselves. The problem is that our laws and societal norms actively encourage bad behavior and lack of loyalty in vv0m3n. To extend an olive branch, I would say the same thing about us m3n if we were incentivized to behave badly like vv0m3n are. Nobody is above evil. But again, we should at least discourage it in everyone. Today there is one half of the population that gets a free pass, and cash and prizes when they break up families.
I need to disagree. They aren’t worthless. All humans have worth. The only thing I will say, however, is that our society and its LAWS are the main problem. If you take away incentive for bad behavior (or divorce) you will see a lot less of it.
@@whirlwindmgtow5534
Not all humans. How much worth does Joseph Stalin have to the 20 million people he killed?
But yeah the modern woman is damaged goods.
That's what I did! Happy as hell.