How Talk Therapy Works
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ต.ค. 2017
- We all deal with stress in our lives. And sometimes, we can benefit from some extra help to work through that stress. So Jackie Bender is learning about how talk therapy works, and why you shouldn't be intimidated about going to an appointment.
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Hey, you who's about to go to therapy for the first time, it'll be fine. Try to calm down and stop stressing about it. Therapists know what they're doing. You'll be fine.
Thank you i needed this🙂
Thanks luv
Thank you so much 😭
@Cat Lady Lover then make sure you have a female therapist
@Cat Lady Lover you can tell whichever place you are going to that you need to strictly work with a female and they can put you on a waiting list. The whole point of therapy is to feel comfortable, you won't be able to do that if you are with a Male therapist and are scared of him
I would never want to go to therapy in an office, I'd want to go to something that looks more comfortable
I like being in a private space, especially because I cry. A session in the park sounds nice until snot and tears are dripping down my face and strangers stare lol
It looks more like a small living room without a tv, but with books (mostly highly educational ones on mental health).
Psychiatrists typically have the desk, but they’re medical doctors who prescribe meds but don’t do therapy.
I thought exactly the same when I started watching!
indeed i have a scared feeling when i see people face to face
yeah my sisters old therapist has a small cozy room that has a couch for clients and a chair for her, there’s a table in front of the couch and there are bookshelves with games and books and it’s really comfortable place. i’m starting therapy and she will be my therapist and that place feels really safe to me
I wish it was more like on tv with the sofa and everything looking more homey instead of a office. I have apnt next Monday I’m really nervous about it.
How'd it go?
Hey I always think my therapists set up is homely. Hope your session went well, therapy is hard at first but than you start to see the light. 😁
Have your life changed since you been to therapy?
Hope it went well :D
I have one tomorrow with a doctor rhink im gonna cancel it
Hey you! Yeah you! I hope your therapy appointment goes well!
I'd rather have the laying down on a couch view not a office
Femke Vandecauter actually my sisters old therapist had a very. nice room not like an office
Or maybe sitting in a park with only few people are around
I'm always sad, stressed, I feel tired and I dont want to ever leave my room. But I'm not that close with my parents so I'm too scared to say anything, and I dont know how to tell them. I dont have any friends to talk to at all
bonk wow
I can relate to this exempt for the friends part. I have three close friends and sometimes when things get really bottled up we give each other therapy. I hope you find something similar :3
Well do u have anyone else you could talk to that’s a close family member that could bring it up in a conversation
I am always feeling like this and I feel like speaking to a therapist will be the only person who can help.
When you realize almost everyone else is struggling for the same reasons it doesn't seem so bad. You are not alone in feeling inadequate or different.....EVERYONE does from time to time. Embrace is, Examine it and control it...if not it will control you. Wishing you the best.....
I swear, the Doctor looks like Pam from the Office plus thirty years.
SHE DOES THO
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I WAS GOING TO SAY THAT
@@mc-cw3xs Like, it's uncanny!
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I tried to bring up my anxiety many times to my mom because I really felt like I needed help cuz it was so horrible to the point of physical pain and having to throw up sometimes. But whenever I tried to tell her, it never worked because I was too scared of being called sensitive and dragging my family down. Now I'm doing much better 🙌 after 3 years of being by myself I learned to control my feelings a bit better. Although i still get anxious sometimes
Some can heal with time and growth, and some actually needs a person to rely on. I hope to whoever's dealing with stuffs will get better and I wish you all the best of luck! 😊
Smoky Tau sameee
Execrable i dont think we can afford therapy
I feel like I could never go to therapy....sadly
I felt the same a while ago. I was basically forced into it by my family but I have to say I will never regret it because it has really helped me become a happier person. I’m not perfectly happy now but it has gotten so much better than it used to be and I defo recommend it.
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all my therapists just point out the obvious. the one who actually added to what I was saying breached the confidentiality and told my parents everything. 😐
uncool and possibly unethical.....
I hate when I sit down and they all of a sudden want to know everything about me, Like goddamn let me get to know you.
That’s what I said too like wtf
i wanna try it but i’m so scared they will put me in a hospital against my will
If your case isn't too severe then you won't be put into a hospital, but if there is something extreme then maybe you might need to. Trust me if your situation is that bad to require hospital assistance, then maybe that's the best. The only usual time you are directed to a hospital is if you have tried to commit suicide during your therapy sessions
talk to strangers you'll never see again.
therapists betray. strangers just move on and don't screw you over.
I dont want to go to therapist, I want to be one. I have always looked and been interested about human’s mind and how they work since I was 5, I had problems and a lot of fears, I still do but I am learning to control it. Living and also learning people’s psychology really helped me in life in every way. You dont play with it but for example you know what happens after each step you make which is pretty helpful. I’m planning to become a therapist to help other people and learn more. I do have anger issues and I get nervous easily but realizing its not my fault, its humans in general and I have been told that before you become 20-21 your mind is still working on everything so its normal to find and dig problems every time. If you need any help with any fears you can reply to this comment I will try to help and reply.
You have to heal before you can heal others
When I’m older I really wanna be a therapist a talk therapist would be my dream job I wanna help people of all ages and races I wanna help as many people as I can I wanna be the best therapist I can be I’m very excited for my future 😆😍❤️
Same but is a talk therapist just called “talk therapist”. What exactly do you do and how do you prepare for the job?
1. She was saying tearing and crying for no reason while I just started crying for no reason, ok interesting.
2. I've never really went to therapy b4, I fear of telling my parents because maybe they would judge me or doesnt believe me and also because I'm too scared
3. Sometimes I just want to eat non-stop, I want to eat to stop those empty feelings inside of me, but it just doesnt stop..
4. Sometimes I just get angry and sad for reason
5. I want to die but I'm too scared, I've had ideas of ending it all or cutting but I'm just too scared
I know that I need someone to talk to, I have trust issues and social-anxiety which makes it even harder to share it to ANYONE. I bury my emotions inside, I consume them because I don't want others to think I'm "pathetic" or "weak", I have many negative thoughts, I sometimes just cry out of nowhere, while I'm writing this.. I am myself. I don't know who to trust or even know anymore, it's like everything is slowly moving far away from me, and I don't like that. I try to and please others but thats just making myself more depressed, I know that I don't have to try, but I want to be useful and not be such a burden. I hide all of my thoughts and feelings with my "smile" and my "laugh" even knowing its not even true at most times. I stay awake not knowing how many hours have even passed, I couldn't sleep at times, my lack of confidence is also a big problem. I get flustered infront of big crouds and I'm not good at communicating with others. I'm still in my teens. Some people think depression is a "joke" and a "trend", but real people actually suffer from it, they don't know what it feels like to be empty, sad and angry for no reason, hiding ur emotions to not make others worry, rethinking our life choices,... I KNOW that I've been suffering from depression for a long time now, and I haven't gotten the courage to tell my parents about it, it's hard and it's scary. I can't really talk to someone because I have trust issues, I overthink a lot, it's tiring and it doesn't stop. I've tried to talk to someone about it, but they just dont understand the pain I'm feeling, the pain WE'RE feeling. But I do appreciate their support it's been 3-4 years since i've had depression now, I don't even plan on telling my parents.. People judge others by their outlooks, they make others feel insecured about themselves. I have many thoughts in my head, and I just want all of them to go away really..
Supportive and collaborative! Those are amazing words to describe this process. Thanks for the video!
I want to go but I the pressure is too much
Edit: I just watched this video and it made me uncomfortable and scared
I write for a room and they don't even respond. Alex Cohen 10520. His dad gets cocaine, the crims get women, the teens teased.
I’m in talk therapy and it’s helped me so much !
I'm wanting to be a therapist when I grow up and so I'm lookin up all theses ways I can help people
I’m starting this I’ve been through a lot since a young age up until now and I was seeing somebody else at first but it was not working but making me worse all she was saying is go do excercise go cinima do things with your life and that approach was just not working she recommended me to go to this so this is my next step in life for my depression and anxity well that is what I think I’m suffering sometimes I don’t feel like anybody understands me
I think one of my therapist thought my ex boyfriend was made up because I was fat or he just didn’t like me because he wrote down I had ADHD, Autism, an eating disorder and Erotomania, after one hour and I definitely didn’t come back to that one. He thought I couldn’t have possibly had a boyfriend because I was so ugly. I try to explain my paranoid thoughts about my uncle and my father to a psychiatrist he didn’t care, he just loathed me when I mentioned that I sometimes get paranoid thoughts about being child molest because of my spotty memory. Also, the rape dreams I had in middle school after watching sin city. I was first raped by the yellow dude but I didn’t care because I knew it was a dream and I didn’t feel anything, then my dreams became nothing but the feeling but I couldn’t see who was doing it. One dream I was flying then I got sucked up in a big pink cloud and couldn’t move and I could feel it happening to me. One night I had a dream someone stopped it from happening though. I think rape is a normal fear to have though and it doesn’t mean it actually happened to me. When I was 15 when I first tried to explain to my mom I had schizophrenia and she made me go to doctor who specializes in depression and was on Oprah he was absolutely terrified of me.
My teacher dropped me when I told her I had schizophrenia, because I had to write my life story as an assignment. When I was on the Nami forum a 60 year old man try to sext with me. My boyfriend didn’t believe me, then he hated me for talking about it, and then when he realized I was telling the truth after living with me, he quickly left me. Then that’s when I started to really not being able to function like a normal human and forgetting the most basic stuff and I wanted to kill myself because I was becoming a burden to everyone. My dad became even more disappointed in me for wanting to hurt myself that he started to purposely put me in danger and then I stopped living with him and miraculously I was able to function again. I had people question me if I making it up because my sister is schizophrenic maybe even though I’ve had symptoms since middle school. I’ve had people think I was trying to just get social security money, so I honestly don’t care anymore.
My schizophrenia was visual hallucination and external voices in middle school, then it became a god delusion in college. The visual delusion did happen around a boy I had a crush on and then after that I was pretty much over having any crushes but my paranoia was through the roof because magic is happening in front of my eyes and that not suppose to be real.
Do you take kids I mean like can kids do this from you as a therapist
Sue Smith you can get an adolescent therapist❤️
My mom gave me a paper if I’m thinking about therapy for depression. I kinda declined it because I would be scared for therapy because I’d feel uncomfortable about talking about my problems. But over time I’m thinking about doing it.
Such a helpful video, thanks for sharing.
I’m planning on becoming a therapist when I’m older. I’m very good at understanding people and finding and helping their struggles.
It's a dying profession. Ketamine infusions work far better than any psychotherpy will.
Doing therapy online, I feel a little dejected vs challenged after many of the sessions. The theme I get is that everyone goes through what I’m going through, but that does nothing to help me. I’m not looking to cope, I’m seeking support to garner a foundation of a stronger mental mindset to better utilize the tools and resources available so that I can direct my life in the direction it needs to be for better self respect and well-being..
Omg, just looking at her cured me.
My fears of therapy:
1. They don’t care 2. They just want money 3. They focus on their problems and forget about ours. 4. I might run out of things to say. 5. Difficulty explaining my feelings. 6. Too much money..... 😔 I feel like I need therapy but I’m scared
1 and 2 are correct. Then you are at the mercy of the therapist you get.
I need therapy so bad but i think i'm too young and my mom would say "therapy is only for older people with depression"
Hey, 😒 kids. Can definitely see therapists, you should ask your mom or maybe your school has counsellors?
if you need help than now is right time to ask for it.
Toby assistance dog in training gemma I'm just scared
Everyone gets scared, its what makes us human so your not alone in that feeling.
There is no shame in asking for help and wanting to get 'better' have you spoke to anyone about how you are feeling. School? Friends? Family?
There is a thing called adolescent therapists which is a very very different thing from therapy towards adults. No usual therapist does both, they are trained differently to deal with different scenarios- which is why, there is no such thing as too young to go to therapy
I want to go to a therapist but I don’t know if I’ll be able to afford it ☹️
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Some insurance will cover did u end up finding someone
I had an appointment with a therapist at the church he calls himself a priest for some reason xD
Keen Joaquin be cautious of religious “therapists” sometimes they’ll push their views on you and or try more dangerous or unproven techniques
I think I am depressed. (I took online medical quiz,, it said I had severe depression) and I want it to get better but I am to scared to help...
@Felixs&HwallsEyebrows • Okay, thanks, I feel the worst part is asking my mom, I will deffinitly try, thank you 💓
@Felixs&HwallsEyebrows •Thank you, people need to understand that depression isn't hopeless. I am fine right now butvthe scale can tip and it can get unblalanced. You are amazing on what you are doing, god bless you 😊
Hlo..is it right to take therapy session from men pshychologist from video confrencing..plz rply me
Navdeep bajwa its best not to self-diagnose yourself as you don’t know what you actually have, so seeking professional help is a better way of getting an actual diagnosis :)
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So I just wanted to say something, I want to get therapy but my mom is a therapist and every time I try to get a therapist she trys to make me talk to her, but for some reason it's less hard for me to talk to someone else then a family member. Any advice?
Silver Star you should explain to her that the same way people come to her because they cannot talk about their issues with their families and loved one, you want to see someone who isn’t the circle of your family and friend group. that’s like the core of therapy. you’re telling a stranger what the issues are so you can work on them, all of this without any shame or biais or secrets because you don’t know them personally and they don’t know you.
How therapy works. It doesn’t, thanks for coming to my TED talk 😂
Something that happened in school in my ss class was the teacher wanted everyone to get over being shy and he said we had a presentation type thing not even ab ss a tear rolled down my face and onto my chrome book then another on on my cheek..?
I am not ok. With this whole pandemic that’s going on it’s really affected me. It has made me feel like anxious & get nauseous I don’t want to eat. I don’t know if it’s actually a health issue or because All I can think about is what is happening to society. I am afraid to ask my parents if I can go to therapy because I feel like I really need to talk to someone and let my emotions out. I don’t know what to do anymore.
going to therapy for depression soon. i hope it goes well.
its been a month how are you doing :)
@@onetraitdanger they cancelled it because of the virus. my dad is trying but nothing is getting any better.
i experience huge anxiety in the day i'm going to the therapist
I would like to be able to do some self analysis. Going to a therapist is not possible for me because finances are tight. Could you please recommend a book or any other source that can help me with that?
My last client of the day lay on the couch, as that position discourages the general adult defensive linear-thinking persona and encourages natural feeling and often regressive feeling expression. People are dysfunctional because they’ve been hurt, so a feeling-centered approach will give access to pain (and injury) that can then be expressed and relieved. “Talk therapy” that focuses on here-and-now thoughts is superficial and will change nothing inside the person. Most therapy today is palliative fluff.
I really want to be a therapist I just want people to know that I am going to be there even if they have nobody to talk to
I know I'm late to this video, but I've been having some problems with my self esteem and feeling proud of myself, and especially tonight I really feel like it's been impossible to improve myself as a person over this past year or so. I have Asperger's syndrome so I've always been paranoid of being seen as less or diffrent then others.
But I can get up in the morning and get good grades in school, and I don't think I have a mental disorder like depression or anxiety. Would it still be okay to going to therapy to try to talk about this even if I'm not failing classes, and is it a waste of my parents money and time?? I can't really tell if I'm being overdramatic or too worried about this :,))
This is from a while ago but I kinda felt the same way. Not really feeling like i was deserving to go, like I didn’t have it as bad as other people who might need it more, so I thought of it as a waste. But I think you can grow no matter where you’re coming from and it can be helpful for a lot of people
I'm so ready to feel better..❤
Thank you this really helped me. I start therapy in 2 days and I don't want to go. 😩
Hope it's not because you've been pushed into it. Therapists work in an accepting and non judgemental way. Good luck.
I wanna ask if someone having suicidal thoughts what should he/she do ?
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I think I wouldn’t like having her as a therapist because she seems like she would tell me to exercise and figure out how to cope even though I constantly do things to stop my depression that are healthy.
I have problems with my parents. I saw that they had evil attitude towards their children. But I was dumb, I wasn't paying attention to the small environment in which they live. It's so hard to approach them, I can't ask if they have good or bad intentions in the things they do, if they are just burned out, because they are 70 years old. I was scared, that maybe they have crime thinking intensions, because I'm a religious oriented child in the family.
How to talk to the therapist about me and mywife fussing causing me to be stressout more and that i pay all the bills by myself it stress me out i got congestion heart failure
Most people need less mental analysis, not more. Also the inherent premise that you are handing over money is problematic because the therapist will say whatever they need to say to keep you coming back, you are a customer at the end of the day. That’s why you only take advice from somebody who has nothing to gain from you.
I’ve always had suicidal thoughts and excessive crying, but how do i tell my mom ._.
In my case talk therapy doesn't work at all. After three sessions I'd not been able to feel comfortable enough to open up and answer a single question. Hence why I decided not to have a 4th session.
My dad wants to take me to teraphy but we dont have much money, how can i reject that idea he has in a nice way?
What about someone who's closed down ?
I want to be able to hear my significant other out & do my best to be there for her and talk to her. Bc I personally don’t know how to deal with it .. it’s new to me. I’ve never been a relationship with somebody who has depression but I am very supportive but sometimes she wants me to answer/talk to her but idk what to saaaaaay al I do is nodd yes or no say mhmm and making eye contact and hold her hand tight
Contact Susana williams000 on IG she can help you out she is an online therapist
I know you are in Chicago. Where is the do re mi??
So for those who have had therapy, how does your therapist help you? Like mine made me look up a lot of information and I felt like I was diagnosing myself because she made me do all the work.. which is not what I expected coming into therapy
Therapy is designed to get you to come back next week and to get you trying medication. Period. It is a for profit industry. If everyone who needed help got help a lot of therapists would be out of a job.
She made me speak about the obvious and would just ask , like i think I’m going through chemical imbalance and what I need is not to figure out something, i need treatmentt and it’s so fustrating, cause she just makes me speakk and i feel like a fool, I’m ditching her C.B.T is better
mine was a integrationist who reported everything to my parents. i'll NEVER TRUST ANOTHER ONE OF YOU EVER AGAIN.
Actually i haven't trusted anyone with my thoughts in 20 years.
i barely ever speak.
i actually don't know how to have a conversation. i'm 30+ now
i feel like i need therapy, but if i tell my mom i think she’ll tell me that i don’t have problems. i feel like crying a lot. i look happy on the outside but not on the inside. i really just want somewhere to escape to, someone to talk to. a room that i can cry in and say all my feelings in and won’t be judged for it. is it bad to want that even if people have it worse than you?
Edit: i asked my mom, i’m starting therapy!!
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She helped me out when I had mental issues....
Me trying to wrote a book but have never been to therapy
This is fun
Can someone help tho next week on Tuesday im going to a therapist for da first time because of what I did and now I'm being forced which hate
ii JaneZ how did it go?
i really need a therapist because i have a bunch of mental issues but my parents have never cared about my mental health and only invalidate my struggles so i can only dream of having a therapist
I came in here looking for Frasier.
Fad also used in intro paragraph. Why not "Jackie Bender is learning..." . What does So avail you?
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I think I might need therapy , but I don’t know - I want it but I don’t. And I don’t want my family to know. Whenever I’m about to go to the school councilor, I stop my self seconds before I do. I keep stopping myself. I told my friend about it and stuff but that’s it, and I instantly regretted it. Any advice?
Steller Human being I need it because I think I have anxiety and I’m also struggling with self harm but my mom got mad when I asked, and I dunno about my dad. The problem is it’s to expensive
Steller Human being go to online help
I'm here because I feel like I want to be a therapist to help people after Covid 19
I want to get a therapy but i got my trust issue
This wouldn’t work for me. I either talk for England or I’m so silent that no one even knows I’m there.
I'm here cause I expect that bs to be pseudo treatment that just makes you feel better about the problem cause you feel like you're doing smth
Edit: neither reinforced nor denied it
I want to go to therapy but i cant cuz the main reason why im stressed is my parents
They dont even care if i have a mental breakdown let alone get me to a therapist
I feel like my therapist doesnt help my situation. I started watching videos to explore why i felt the way i did and talked to her about it and she was like, "oh yeah you have MDD". Why didn't she tell me that? Like tf?
Idk why im here tbh just looking up what a therapy would look like xd
I have to go to a therapist because I wasn't being cooportive so the doctor thought I had mental issues.
I’m crazy and idk I don’t feel the same so...I’m going to therapy...
Anyone have online therapy session going on? How is it like?
I used to have therapy when I was a kid it didnt do anything at all I liked my therapist as a person but I didnt feel any different I guess it's because the problems I was having never went away they just changed.... as life goes on you need to look at what makes you upset and why how can you change it and if you cant change it what can you do to help it if you cant help it maybe someone needs to help you change it remember it's always okay to ask for help but if no one can help you it is always difficult trying to fix things yourself but with time and life experience you should beable to figure out some way some how sometimes a outside perspective can help find someone to talk to a friend or family member someone that can see your problems from your shoes
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I have to live at the parks. WTF. No breaks . Former Gov
can kids have therapy
Maybe Germany has secret texts from Magdalene or Lydia??
I'd love therapy but when I go to pay for it I hit the wall.
Counts of 30yrs not 1 hinted the pain and both agony I forsought
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Hey guys I now this may not be the right place but can someone please help me?
I have only had a room for 2 years and my sister has had one her whole life but she always takes mine not a big problem right no you’re wrong i ask her to leave and she either
A: shoots me with a nerf gun in my face
Or
B: says she is spending time with me when really she just looks at her phone and ignores me
It really makes me mad and sad then I go into her room to actually talk to her and she just ignores me and says I’m annoying I’m not yelling I’m just talking to her another example is when I built this humongous pillow fort that I worked on all day then she took it over and we could share if she actually fucking helped and here’s another thing is that she will cry over getting hit with a soft toy and I try to apologize and she gets MORE mad at me I’m not saying shit like “suck it up!” I’m genuinely trying to apologize but she shoots me in the face with nerf gun and SHES the victim and she snitched EVERYTHING to my parents I can’t trust her at all and onetime I got in trouble when she snitched and she tried to play the victim and it makes me feel mad and sad and annoyed and every time this happens I feel like all of the life has been sucked out of me sometimes I hate myself because I genuinely feel like I’m at fault when she’s trying to play the victim after getting me in trouble can someone please help me? :(
What a difference in their delivery. The therapist uses real English language and intonation.
The interviewer a highly affected faddish croaking.
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well this is amusing. thareapy dosent help or change anything. I have direct experience with it
foo noodle perhaps for you but for others it may help :) dont make a direct claim of your experience with something when others have had different experiences
If you want to manage stress meditate and do physical activity. That’s it. Talking and staying in your mind is damaging
i cant go to therapy because i cant afford it
Please need consutlt..plz help..
need contact nmbr of councellor or psychiatrist
Point of break off with you and all connected persons.
My experience I- therapy is grossly overrated and mostly an opportunity to sit across from someone who thinks there’re smarter than you, but does pretend to listen to what you’re saying. The standard response from most people who’ve tried it is disappointment. Maybe there ARE good therapists out there - but it would probably take a great deal of time and money to find them. - the public should be warned that a great many therapists actually do more harm than good: they’re frequently disrespectful, condescending and in many cases completely wrong! When it comes to therapy - buyer beware!!!
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It was a time, I need more $.
Here's a cool thing about therapy for me: I wanted to go, I actually started, did two sessions, but I'm broke and can't afford more sessions! Hahah! That's funny isn't it? I do not expect people to hear my shit for free... But I can't pay for it.
Nothing about HOW IT WORKS.
You remember specific childhood traumas. Then do a visualization technique to connect with your inner child.
This is also called "Memory Recovery" Therapy.
I'm not sure if Talk Therapy is the same as Memory Recovery though.
Hey
He is 6', 195 pounds. He will not give his mother's name.
Therapist
The Rapist
hmmmmmmm!?
Host is beautiful.
Will not watch this.. sowwy BOO. But advice for ya'll, make sure you are NOT ILLIGELLY BEING cammed or heard by " everyone"
It WAS done to me, but I had no clue- I trusted the " therapist" - aweful
I am there's om there's new
It's not what they say it's terrible don't tell them anything