A great segment Phil I know exactly what you are talking about. Music and the immersion into that music really helps. I am 66 and Ill health has caused me to retire. I find myself returning to the age of my youth to my discovery of progressive music. I thought Yes & ELP were from another world and I embraced their music. I find myself returning to the way of thinking now. I have choice. I can allow myself to be overwhelmed by negativity or I can dive into the box sets of my youthful heroes. Go for a walk , clean the house and settle back with Close to the Edge. It never , ever gets boring. I also meditate on my thoughts as well. Looks at these thoughts. Where did they come from ? Step back from them and see them for what they are. Mental health is such an important issue. Thank you for your podcast.
@@NowSpinningMagazine Phil, thank you for another great video. Music has accompanied me throughout my life, in good and bad times. Currently, I am clinically depressed, my mood is volatile, but I do not give up listening. The albums "Melusine" and "Ghost Song" by Cécile McLorin Salvant are for me like a beautiful and melancholic plaster on a bleeding heart - I relax with them. Recently, the joint album by John Coltrane and Johnny Hartman has also been working well for me. I still listen to "The Spell" by Cellar Darling and "Exul" by Ne Obliviscars. I also relieve stress with the albums "Fauna" by Haken and "Pain Remains" by Lorna Shore. I also enjoy the CD "Take my Back to Eden" by Sleep Token. Not so long ago I also discovered the Canadian prog-rock duo Crown Lands, which looks like a new incarnation of RUSH with a bit of Greta Van Fleet. Their album "Fearless" is really good. I really enjoy listening to guitar soul by Black Pumas. The albums "Black Pumas" and "Chronicles of a Diamond" are worthy of attention. I also like the new Hozier and the new Mistki album. After the premiere of "I/O", I intersperse P. Gabriel's new album with "So" and "Us". "Hysteria" by Def Leppard always works well for me. I also enjoy watching and listening to Ayeron's CD and DVD "Electric Castle Live and Other Tales". I really enjoy listening to the metal Bjork in the form of the fantastic Myrkur. Her latest album "Spine", but also the previous ones "Folkesange" and "Mareridt" are excellent, although not devoid of darkness. I always enjoy listening to A. Keys' debut "Songs". in a Minor". I am also listening to the first two albums of the American Skid Row with Sebastian Bach on vocals. The new album of The Rolling Stones also makes me happy. I can't wait for the new album Bring Me The Horizon. "Purple Rain" by Prince also accompanies me in recent days, and Crown Lands made me go back to Rush's compilation "The Spirit of The Radio. Greatest 1974-87". Two Twin Temple albums also turn me on. There is nothing more unpredictable than satanic do-woop with a touch of rock'n'roll with a singer singing almost like Amy Winehouse. As a gift, I will also give my parents music this year . Dad will get "72 Seasons" by Metallica (he hasn't listened to this album yet) and the latest concert DVD of our local heavy metal band TSA. Mom will get a box-set of 2 CDs with BLU RAY (with concert) Best Of - Living The Dream" by Tarja Turunen and new release by Traja "Dark Christmas".
Here I go again, but - I always look forward to these episodes. Sorry you couldn’t do it outside, that’s a smart way of practising what you preach, making a distinction between mental health, and the core Now Spinning topics. It’s a shame that trolls hit on these types of broadcasts when it is just the sort of thing they need to start thinking about their own problems. Faulty thinking it’s a new expression to me and one that I certainly can identify with. I’m trying to help a friend through a very difficult patch at the moment and I really fail watching this could be beneficial to him. So next time he’s over, I shall play this episode to him. Thanks Phil and keep up the great work.
Phil, in the last episode 5 of the 50best box sets of 2023 I heard you make a reference at the end of that video to Music and Mental Health. Like many creative lovers of music I too struggle with my mental well being. I just wanted to thank you for making the effort to acknowledge the issue and relate your real life experiences. I bet at the end of the day we're ALL very similar in so many ways!
Thank you, Phil, for another great installment of this series. There's always going to be haters out there but your subscribers know, you're here giving positive messages and vibes! That's all that needs saying on that. I found myself, a bit ago now, spiraling down into the darkness and found music from my younger days (including Girlschool - who I adored and saw many times, and Rory Gallagher - pretty random stuff) made me stop dwelling on the negative and turn things around in my personal life. Look forward to your videos! Cheers from Central California!!
Thank you, Phil, for taking the time to make this video and speaking to the trap of faulty thinking. It came at a good time for me personally, as my mother was admitted to the hospital today (Sunday) and I have been jumping to all sorts of conclusions about her condition, having to say goodbye, etc. without even fully knowing the extent of her problems and the potential for treatment. I lost my father seven years ago when he was only 65 and I'm already convincing myself that I'm going to lose her as well now. But something made me go online to YT after this long stressful day and I'm so glad to have found this video to help to pull me back from the precipice and take a step back. You've inspired me to reach for my copy of Rick Wakeman's Piano Portraits and let that take my mind elsewhere and, hopefully, eventually to sleep. Thank you again, Phil, for your generosity of spirit.
With you totally. Lost mum and dad and brother. I do take solace in music. No words can describe how you feel. I struggle tremendously. Love to you.❤🙏🫂🏴
I have Autism and Music 🎶 has been my way of keeping me relatively sane. I only listen in my Music room for a four hour session 3 times a week, it's the best medication you can have. I never use Music it's far too important, i appreciate Music so much and am thankful that i discovered it's wonderful healing properties. Take care and thanks for your channel 😊
Thank you very much for this video! Faulty or catastrophic thinking is real and it affects all of us. We are genetically programmed to think our way out of problems but this programming can go haywire. Mental health concepts like this should be taught in schools, our world would be a better place as a result.
Very helpful Phil. I struggle with this sort of thing as well. There are things that have me constantly imagining worse case scenarios. For me any physical discomfort and my mind goes to, I have cancer and I've wasted my life. Any major world tragedy, and my mind goes to, welp this is the end of humanity, and I've wasted my life... so on and so on. Medication helps, and music does, too. It's nice to know others can feel this way, too. Thanks again for everything you do
Thanks for this video, Phil. I'm going through a rough patch now, but this message is exactly what I needed to hear. I appreciate these particular episodes so much. These are very helpful. 😊
Phil, thank you for another great video. Music has accompanied me throughout my life, in good and bad times. Currently, I am clinically depressed, my mood is volatile, but I do not give up listening. The albums "Melusine" and "Ghost Song" by Cécile McLorin Salvant are for me like a beautiful and melancholic plaster on a bleeding heart - I relax with them. Recently, the joint album by John Coltrane and Johnny Hartman has also been working well for me. I still listen to "The Spell" by Cellar Darling and "Exul" by Ne Obliviscars. I also relieve stress with the albums "Fauna" by Haken and "Pain Remains" by Lorna Shore. I also enjoy the CD "Take my Back to Eden" by Sleep Token. Not so long ago I also discovered the Canadian prog-rock duo Crown Lands, which looks like a new incarnation of RUSH with a bit of Greta Van Fleet. Their album "Fearless" is really good. I really enjoy listening to guitar soul by Black Pumas. The albums "Black Pumas" and "Chronicles of a Diamond" are worthy of attention. I also like the new Hozier and the new Mistki album. After the premiere of "I/O", I intersperse P. Gabriel's new album with "So" and "Us". "Hysteria" by Def Leppard always works well for me. I also enjoy watching and listening to Ayeron's CD and DVD "Electric Castle Live and Other Tales". I really enjoy listening to the metal Bjork in the form of the fantastic Myrkur. Her latest album "Spine", but also the previous ones "Folkesange" and "Mareridt" are excellent, although not devoid of darkness. I always enjoy listening to A. Keys' debut "Songs". in a Minor". I am also listening to the first two albums of the American Skid Row with Sebastian Bach on vocals. The new album of The Rolling Stones also makes me happy. I can't wait for the new album Bring Me The Horizon. "Purple Rain" by Prince also accompanies me in recent days, and Crown Lands made me go back to Rush's compilation "The Spirit of The Radio. Greatest 1974-87". Two Twin Temple albums also turn me on. There is nothing more unpredictable than satanic do-woop with a touch of rock'n'roll with a singer singing almost like Amy Winehouse. As a gift, I will also give my parents music this year . Dad will get "72 Seasons" by Metallica (he hasn't listened to this album yet) and the latest concert DVD of our local heavy metal band TSA. Mom will get a box-set of 2 CDs with BLU RAY (with concert) Best Of - Living The Dream" by Tarja Turunen and new release by Traja "Dark Christmas".
Hallo Phil, great that you also cover this topic, I wrote some on Patron website, because there we are understood and safe ! music has supported and accompanied me since my childhood, continue with your great rubrics👍
Excellent video Phil. This series is great and this episode was the best yet - it really hit home with me. I catastrophize with things in my life quite often, but I find music to be the best antidote (or medicine as you put it) against those thoughts. When I’m stressed or feeling down, gentle and calm music does a lot to soothe and makes me reflect far better than I would otherwise. There’s a time and a place for heavy music, possibly when you’re angry - but I find that to be too much in some situations, so it’s best to pause as you indeed point out. It’s really important to talk about these topics. I’m sure it’s not just you and me, and the other viewers, but a lot of people no doubt feel the same. It feels comforting that you’re not on your own! Keep it up Phil.
Hi Toby, thank you for watching and your positive feedback. When you get feelings like this you do think that no one else has them or will understand. Everybody gets them and they are normal. But if we bottle them up or try and resist them they can cause a lot of trouble. We are not alone and sharing our thoughts and stories will as you say help others. Phil
Great advice Phil 👍 this time of year always terrible for me family deaths Only me left family wise! But thank goodness for Great friends and people like yourself Phil!
If we really listen to music (or sounds of nature or anything we like), we live in the moment. The brain is not focusing on things in the past we might regret or things in the future we might be afraid of. It’s just a constantly flowing NOW. If we can do this, I mean really listen, that’s incredibly relaxing. Of course there are other ways of listening such as background music, which can also help influencing our thoughts and feelings, but I find the most effective for achieving an inner balance when really focusing, mostly with headphones.
Thank you Phil, your channel is indispensable to my well being. It promotes and makes me feel not guilty about my passion... music and collecting physical media mainly box sets. Thank you for this incredible service to my soul. God bless and happy holidays to you and yours.
A book well worth reading on the subject of music and mental health. ‘Musicophilia’ by Oliver Sacks, which not only deals with the healing aspects of music but also our deeper and profound relationship with it. I find it fascinating and quite remarkable how people with Alzheimer's disease and other dementias can respond to music when nothing else reaches them. A quite illuminating video Phil.
One of the huge problems over the last 30 years or so has been the emphasis on perfectionism. Obviously, there is a case to be made for perfectionism in certain spheres. We all like our cars and computers to work, but that level of perfectionism comes from an organized, repetitive system. We humans just cannot be perfect in addressing the myriad of stimuli we deal with every day. If humans were perfect, you wouldn't need angels. But people throw in cheap shots - you do this wrong, you do that wrong. And if you try to explain, you are being defensive. The correct approach, apparently, is to consider the matter deeply ... and then agree with your accuser. You see this a lot on social media, and the people who handle this sort of thing best are people like Ricky Gervais or Dave Chappelle, who just turn around and say, "I really don't care." This takes courage, but courage is the solution. If your central approach to anything is fear, then fear is what you are going to feel, and fear is not only a killer but it doesn't make you look good or behave well either. If someone comes after you, you have to have the attitude of, "I didn't ask your opinion. You have no right to impose your unsolicited opinion on me. I reserve the right to ignore you, or to listen to you, if what you say makes sense. You may be giving constructive criticism that will benefit me or you may just be a complete asshole." Remember, courage is the virtue on which all other virtues rest.
My Dad's about reached the end and my usual stuff isn't helping me. I put on Bruce Hornsby and the Range and it has made me feel better somehow. I don't even listen to Bruce? It's reminding me somehow that this will all pass. I'm tired of my Dad suffering.
Hi Daniel, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I lost my Mum a couple of years ago and towards the end I just wanted here to be free of the suffering. Keep playing the music and try and you are to pick things that lift you up. Take care - Phil
I think both age and wisdom acquired because of being alive for many years does help curtail "faulty thinking", which I used to do a lot when I was younger (although I never realised that was what it was at the time). As you get older, you're more like to go through traumatic events in your life - in my case, I lost both my parents fairly early in life and I went through a life-changing health issue about 8 years ago. Things like that change your life forever but you find a new "equilibrium" by "picking yourself up and dusting yourself down", and just getting on with life. The positive thing of traumatic life experiences is that you get to the other side of them and realise that was a pretty hard thing for any person to get through, but you did it. So if you then start worrying about a trip to the dentist or having to tell a friend or family member something unpleasant, you just remind yourself that you got through some REAL trauma in life and, by comparison, these other things are therefore trivial and easy to get to the other side of. At that point, I then focus on what my life is going to be at the other side of that bad thing I have to face, rather than on the bad thing itself - I then end up just switching to "automatic mode" during the bad thing and then "back into manual" when it's done. All the while I am listening to music just to focus my thinking on "my life after the thing" and what good things will be happening to me then. Nobody taught me this "philosophy" on life's challenges, it just happened as older age and wisdom set in, I think. But it works for me. Oh, and social media is a complete cess-pit too and something everyone should avoid. Future historians will document social media as a major contribution to mental health issues - with everyone trying to "out-pretend" how great their own life is compared to everyone else.
Hi Terry, thank you for sharing such an insightful comment. I agree about social media but without it nobody would find me. It is important to me that I try and shine a postive light into the darkness. Phil
@@NowSpinningMagazine Don't get me wrong, Phil, I am in a full-time job with my employer while my missus runs her own business - and social media is very important "free" publicity for her and for everyone who runs their own business. So I can't argue that point with you, I simply don't need it in my life as much as a small business owner.
@@NowSpinningMagazine PS. And your light shines very brightly in the darkness. Thanks for all you do and I wish you and your family the most Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Looking forward to those three re-issued Jethro Tull box sets dropping through my letterbox any day now - and the 10cc box set in late January!
Very gracious of you to share these healthy thoughts with others, quite glad I happened to view this! Do you like the band Writing on the Wall? They were active from 68-73, I've heard their music online, seems like the kind of sound Now Spinning might enjoy, I remember SoT has praised them before. Hope that 2023 featured a lot of stellar new music releases for you also!!
Alright Mate , Faulty thinking is one word for it but its Anxiety and if this is not checked it leads to severe depression. A lot of these problems are down to chemical deficiencies in the brain , nothing to be ashamed of , it's just the way some of us are wired. Get help , talk to people and keep your interests going , trust me its crucial. It's great your doing this Phil and as for negative comments you have got nothing to worry about Matey , it's a great Channel and yes some of the Artists you cover are not my cup of tea but an awful lot are. Stay Safe and Stay Well.
Hi Alfie, I know what I am doing here is a little odd for a music channel but as you say this is important and for men especially we just don't talk about it. If just one of these videos helps just one person it has been worth it. Phil
Yes, so many truths. We need to ask ourselves - what evidence do I have that this is true? What would my friends say? What would I say to a friend if they shared this?
A great segment Phil
I know exactly what you are talking about.
Music and the immersion into that music really helps.
I am 66 and Ill health has caused me to retire.
I find myself returning to the age of my youth to my discovery of progressive music. I thought Yes & ELP were from another world and I embraced their music.
I find myself returning to the way of thinking now.
I have choice.
I can allow myself to be overwhelmed by negativity or I can dive into the box sets of my youthful heroes.
Go for a walk , clean the house and settle back with Close to the Edge. It never , ever gets boring.
I also meditate on my thoughts as well. Looks at these thoughts.
Where did they come from ? Step back from them and see them for what they are.
Mental health is such an important issue.
Thank you for your podcast.
Hi Norman, thank you so much for your comment I am sure it will help others as well. Take care - Phil
@@NowSpinningMagazine Phil, thank you for another great video. Music has accompanied me throughout my life, in good and bad times. Currently, I am clinically depressed, my mood is volatile, but I do not give up listening. The albums "Melusine" and "Ghost Song" by Cécile McLorin Salvant are for me like a beautiful and melancholic plaster on a bleeding heart - I relax with them. Recently, the joint album by John Coltrane and Johnny Hartman has also been working well for me. I still listen to "The Spell" by Cellar Darling and "Exul" by Ne Obliviscars. I also relieve stress with the albums "Fauna" by Haken and "Pain Remains" by Lorna Shore. I also enjoy the CD "Take my Back to Eden" by Sleep Token. Not so long ago I also discovered the Canadian prog-rock duo Crown Lands, which looks like a new incarnation of RUSH with a bit of Greta Van Fleet. Their album "Fearless" is really good. I really enjoy listening to guitar soul by Black Pumas. The albums "Black Pumas" and "Chronicles of a Diamond" are worthy of attention. I also like the new Hozier and the new Mistki album. After the premiere of "I/O", I intersperse P. Gabriel's new album with "So" and "Us". "Hysteria" by Def Leppard always works well for me. I also enjoy watching and listening to Ayeron's CD and DVD "Electric Castle Live and Other Tales". I really enjoy listening to the metal Bjork in the form of the fantastic Myrkur. Her latest album "Spine", but also the previous ones "Folkesange" and "Mareridt" are excellent, although not devoid of darkness. I always enjoy listening to A. Keys' debut "Songs". in a Minor". I am also listening to the first two albums of the American Skid Row with Sebastian Bach on vocals. The new album of The Rolling Stones also makes me happy. I can't wait for the new album Bring Me The Horizon. "Purple Rain" by Prince also accompanies me in recent days, and Crown Lands made me go back to Rush's compilation "The Spirit of The Radio. Greatest 1974-87". Two Twin Temple albums also turn me on. There is nothing more unpredictable than satanic do-woop with a touch of rock'n'roll with a singer singing almost like Amy Winehouse. As a gift, I will also give my parents music this year . Dad will get "72 Seasons" by Metallica (he hasn't listened to this album yet) and the latest concert DVD of our local heavy metal band TSA. Mom will get a box-set of 2 CDs with BLU RAY (with concert) Best Of - Living The Dream" by Tarja Turunen and new release by Traja "Dark Christmas".
Now Spinning is a complete benefit to our metal health. Thanks, Phil!
Thank you 🙏
This channel is even better than I first thought it was. I’m guilty of faulty thinking this vid was really relatable.
Omg mate honestly. I don't usually tear up but this is very similar to my situation. Hang in there bud.😊
Thank you, I will
This means everything to me Phil. Thank you very much, you are a legend.
I am so pleased this video series is proving to be so helpful to people - thank you 🙏
Well put, Phil. When you said, "Life moves, it's all about movement," I thought, "And so is music," - so it's the perfect companion.
Here I go again, but - I always look forward to these episodes. Sorry you couldn’t do it outside, that’s a smart way of practising what you preach, making a distinction between mental health, and the core Now Spinning topics. It’s a shame that trolls hit on these types of broadcasts when it is just the sort of thing they need to start thinking about their own problems. Faulty thinking it’s a new expression to me and one that I certainly can identify with. I’m trying to help a friend through a very difficult patch at the moment and I really fail watching this could be beneficial to him. So next time he’s over, I shall play this episode to him. Thanks Phil and keep up the great work.
Phil, in the last episode 5 of the 50best box sets of 2023 I heard you make a reference at the end of that video to Music and Mental Health. Like many creative lovers of music I too struggle with my mental well being. I just wanted to thank you for making the effort to acknowledge the issue and relate your real life experiences. I bet at the end of the day we're ALL very similar in so many ways!
I have a video series dedicated to music and mental health - Music and Mental Health
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Phil, Well said ! Good afternoon from the U.S.A.
Nice words Phil... I will keep them in mind ;-) Happy holidays.
When you are feeling bad you need music that makes you happy
Great insights Phil. Music definitely helps.
Thank you, Phil, for another great installment of this series. There's always going to be haters out there but your subscribers know, you're here giving positive messages and vibes! That's all that needs saying on that. I found myself, a bit ago now, spiraling down into the darkness and found music from my younger days (including Girlschool - who I adored and saw many times, and Rory Gallagher - pretty random stuff) made me stop dwelling on the negative and turn things around in my personal life. Look forward to your videos! Cheers from Central California!!
Thank you 🙏
Thank you, Phil, for taking the time to make this video and speaking to the trap of faulty thinking. It came at a good time for me personally, as my mother was admitted to the hospital today (Sunday) and I have been jumping to all sorts of conclusions about her condition, having to say goodbye, etc. without even fully knowing the extent of her problems and the potential for treatment. I lost my father seven years ago when he was only 65 and I'm already convincing myself that I'm going to lose her as well now. But something made me go online to YT after this long stressful day and I'm so glad to have found this video to help to pull me back from the precipice and take a step back. You've inspired me to reach for my copy of Rick Wakeman's Piano Portraits and let that take my mind elsewhere and, hopefully, eventually to sleep. Thank you again, Phil, for your generosity of spirit.
With you totally. Lost mum and dad and brother. I do take solace in music. No words can describe how you feel. I struggle tremendously. Love to you.❤🙏🫂🏴
a hell of a lot of sense spoken there Phil. Well done!!
Thank you for another inspiring video!
Just BRILlANT advice phil,thank you ❤
You are so welcome
I have Autism and Music 🎶 has been my way of keeping me relatively sane. I only listen in my Music room for a four hour session 3 times a week, it's the best medication you can have. I never use Music it's far too important, i appreciate Music so much and am thankful that i discovered it's wonderful healing properties. Take care and thanks for your channel 😊
Thanks for everything you have reviewed, recommended, and shared your passion for music . Happy Christmas Phil !
Thank you very much for this video! Faulty or catastrophic thinking is real and it affects all of us. We are genetically programmed to think our way out of problems but this programming can go haywire. Mental health concepts like this should be taught in schools, our world would be a better place as a result.
Thank you - so pleased you found it useful- Phil :)
Very helpful Phil. I struggle with this sort of thing as well. There are things that have me constantly imagining worse case scenarios. For me any physical discomfort and my mind goes to, I have cancer and I've wasted my life. Any major world tragedy, and my mind goes to, welp this is the end of humanity, and I've wasted my life... so on and so on. Medication helps, and music does, too. It's nice to know others can feel this way, too. Thanks again for everything you do
Thanks for this video, Phil. I'm going through a rough patch now, but this message is exactly what I needed to hear. I appreciate these particular episodes so much. These are very helpful. 😊
Thank you for this video i really needed this 👍🙏🙏
So helpful Phil. much needed to talk about.
Thank you - Phil
Thank you👍👊
Thanks Phil
Phil, thank you for another great video. Music has accompanied me throughout my life, in good and bad times. Currently, I am clinically depressed, my mood is volatile, but I do not give up listening. The albums "Melusine" and "Ghost Song" by Cécile McLorin Salvant are for me like a beautiful and melancholic plaster on a bleeding heart - I relax with them. Recently, the joint album by John Coltrane and Johnny Hartman has also been working well for me. I still listen to "The Spell" by Cellar Darling and "Exul" by Ne Obliviscars. I also relieve stress with the albums "Fauna" by Haken and "Pain Remains" by Lorna Shore. I also enjoy the CD "Take my Back to Eden" by Sleep Token. Not so long ago I also discovered the Canadian prog-rock duo Crown Lands, which looks like a new incarnation of RUSH with a bit of Greta Van Fleet. Their album "Fearless" is really good. I really enjoy listening to guitar soul by Black Pumas. The albums "Black Pumas" and "Chronicles of a Diamond" are worthy of attention. I also like the new Hozier and the new Mistki album. After the premiere of "I/O", I intersperse P. Gabriel's new album with "So" and "Us". "Hysteria" by Def Leppard always works well for me. I also enjoy watching and listening to Ayeron's CD and DVD "Electric Castle Live and Other Tales". I really enjoy listening to the metal Bjork in the form of the fantastic Myrkur. Her latest album "Spine", but also the previous ones "Folkesange" and "Mareridt" are excellent, although not devoid of darkness. I always enjoy listening to A. Keys' debut "Songs". in a Minor". I am also listening to the first two albums of the American Skid Row with Sebastian Bach on vocals. The new album of The Rolling Stones also makes me happy. I can't wait for the new album Bring Me The Horizon. "Purple Rain" by Prince also accompanies me in recent days, and Crown Lands made me go back to Rush's compilation "The Spirit of The Radio. Greatest 1974-87". Two Twin Temple albums also turn me on. There is nothing more unpredictable than satanic do-woop with a touch of rock'n'roll with a singer singing almost like Amy Winehouse. As a gift, I will also give my parents music this year . Dad will get "72 Seasons" by Metallica (he hasn't listened to this album yet) and the latest concert DVD of our local heavy metal band TSA. Mom will get a box-set of 2 CDs with BLU RAY (with concert) Best Of - Living The Dream" by Tarja Turunen and new release by Traja "Dark Christmas".
Hallo Phil, great that you also cover this topic, I wrote some on Patron website, because there we are understood and safe ! music has supported and accompanied me since my childhood, continue with your great rubrics👍
Hi Jogi, thank you - Your comment on Patreon was most welcome and it is good to talk about these things. Phil
Excellent video Phil. This series is great and this episode was the best yet - it really hit home with me. I catastrophize with things in my life quite often, but I find music to be the best antidote (or medicine as you put it) against those thoughts.
When I’m stressed or feeling down, gentle and calm music does a lot to soothe and makes me reflect far better than I would otherwise.
There’s a time and a place for heavy music, possibly when you’re angry - but I find that to be too much in some situations, so it’s best to pause as you indeed point out.
It’s really important to talk about these topics. I’m sure it’s not just you and me, and the other viewers, but a lot of people no doubt feel the same. It feels comforting that you’re not on your own!
Keep it up Phil.
Hi Toby, thank you for watching and your positive feedback. When you get feelings like this you do think that no one else has them or will understand. Everybody gets them and they are normal. But if we bottle them up or try and resist them they can cause a lot of trouble. We are not alone and sharing our thoughts and stories will as you say help others. Phil
At least you can play an Instrument, Phil. That's a big advantage. Anyway, thanks a lot for doing this series!
Thank you - Phil
Great advice Phil 👍 this time of year always terrible for me family deaths Only me left family wise! But thank goodness for Great friends and people like yourself Phil!
Hi Ian , thank you. This time of year is difficult for many of us. Take care - Phil
If we really listen to music (or sounds of nature or anything we like), we live in the moment. The brain is not focusing on things in the past we might regret or things in the future we might be afraid of. It’s just a constantly flowing NOW. If we can do this, I mean really listen, that’s incredibly relaxing. Of course there are other ways of listening such as background music, which can also help influencing our thoughts and feelings, but I find the most effective for achieving an inner balance when really focusing, mostly with headphones.
Thank you for sharing
Thank you Phil, your channel is indispensable to my well being. It promotes and makes me feel not guilty about my passion... music and collecting physical media mainly box sets. Thank you for this incredible service to my soul. God bless and happy holidays to you and yours.
A book well worth reading on the subject of music and mental health. ‘Musicophilia’ by Oliver Sacks, which not only deals with the healing aspects of music but also our deeper and profound relationship with it. I find it fascinating and quite remarkable how people with Alzheimer's disease and other dementias can respond to music when nothing else reaches them.
A quite illuminating video Phil.
Thank you for the book recommendation, I’ll have to get a copy of that. Phil :)
Phil is a legend
Just want to say I’m grateful for what you do and who you are. Wonderful channel. God Bless you and Merry Christmas. ✊🏼 💚❤️
thx, phil.
One of the huge problems over the last 30 years or so has been the emphasis on perfectionism. Obviously, there is a case to be made for perfectionism in certain spheres. We all like our cars and computers to work, but that level of perfectionism comes from an organized, repetitive system. We humans just cannot be perfect in addressing the myriad of stimuli we deal with every day. If humans were perfect, you wouldn't need angels.
But people throw in cheap shots - you do this wrong, you do that wrong. And if you try to explain, you are being defensive. The correct approach, apparently, is to consider the matter deeply ... and then agree with your accuser.
You see this a lot on social media, and the people who handle this sort of thing best are people like Ricky Gervais or Dave Chappelle, who just turn around and say, "I really don't care." This takes courage, but courage is the solution. If your central approach to anything is fear, then fear is what you are going to feel, and fear is not only a killer but it doesn't make you look good or behave well either.
If someone comes after you, you have to have the attitude of, "I didn't ask your opinion. You have no right to impose your unsolicited opinion on me. I reserve the right to ignore you, or to listen to you, if what you say makes sense. You may be giving constructive criticism that will benefit me or you may just be a complete asshole."
Remember, courage is the virtue on which all other virtues rest.
My Dad's about reached the end and my usual stuff isn't helping me. I put on Bruce Hornsby and the Range and it has made me feel better somehow. I don't even listen to Bruce? It's reminding me somehow that this will all pass. I'm tired of my Dad suffering.
Hi Daniel, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I lost my Mum a couple of years ago and towards the end I just wanted here to be free of the suffering. Keep playing the music and try and you are to pick things that lift you up. Take care - Phil
@@NowSpinningMagazine thank you
Sorry about your dad. I lost mum and dad Christmas 2021 in the same week. Music can be a great solace. How are you at the moment?🫂💜
I think both age and wisdom acquired because of being alive for many years does help curtail "faulty thinking", which I used to do a lot when I was younger (although I never realised that was what it was at the time).
As you get older, you're more like to go through traumatic events in your life - in my case, I lost both my parents fairly early in life and I went through a life-changing health issue about 8 years ago. Things like that change your life forever but you find a new "equilibrium" by "picking yourself up and dusting yourself down", and just getting on with life.
The positive thing of traumatic life experiences is that you get to the other side of them and realise that was a pretty hard thing for any person to get through, but you did it. So if you then start worrying about a trip to the dentist or having to tell a friend or family member something unpleasant, you just remind yourself that you got through some REAL trauma in life and, by comparison, these other things are therefore trivial and easy to get to the other side of.
At that point, I then focus on what my life is going to be at the other side of that bad thing I have to face, rather than on the bad thing itself - I then end up just switching to "automatic mode" during the bad thing and then "back into manual" when it's done.
All the while I am listening to music just to focus my thinking on "my life after the thing" and what good things will be happening to me then. Nobody taught me this "philosophy" on life's challenges, it just happened as older age and wisdom set in, I think. But it works for me.
Oh, and social media is a complete cess-pit too and something everyone should avoid. Future historians will document social media as a major contribution to mental health issues - with everyone trying to "out-pretend" how great their own life is compared to everyone else.
Hi Terry, thank you for sharing such an insightful comment. I agree about social media but without it nobody would find me. It is important to me that I try and shine a postive light into the darkness. Phil
@@NowSpinningMagazine Don't get me wrong, Phil, I am in a full-time job with my employer while my missus runs her own business - and social media is very important "free" publicity for her and for everyone who runs their own business. So I can't argue that point with you, I simply don't need it in my life as much as a small business owner.
@@NowSpinningMagazine PS. And your light shines very brightly in the darkness. Thanks for all you do and I wish you and your family the most Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Looking forward to those three re-issued Jethro Tull box sets dropping through my letterbox any day now - and the 10cc box set in late January!
Very gracious of you to share these healthy thoughts with others, quite glad I happened to view this!
Do you like the band Writing on the Wall? They were active from 68-73, I've heard their music online, seems like the kind of sound Now Spinning might enjoy, I remember SoT has praised them before.
Hope that 2023 featured a lot of stellar new music releases for you also!!
Thank you 🙏
Alright Mate , Faulty thinking is one word for it but its Anxiety and if this is not checked it leads to severe depression. A lot of these problems are down to chemical deficiencies in the brain , nothing to be ashamed of , it's just the way some of us are wired.
Get help , talk to people and keep your interests going , trust me its crucial.
It's great your doing this Phil and as for negative comments you have got nothing to worry about Matey , it's a great Channel and yes some of the Artists you cover are not my cup of tea but an awful lot are.
Stay Safe and Stay Well.
Hi Alfie, I know what I am doing here is a little odd for a music channel but as you say this is important and for men especially we just don't talk about it. If just one of these videos helps just one person it has been worth it. Phil
Yes, so many truths. We need to ask ourselves - what evidence do I have that this is true? What would my friends say? What would I say to a friend if they shared this?
Thank you 🙏
Hi Phil! For me you’re doing important work, I’m hoping it helps you as well as me. Your 100% investment means loads.