Yes indeed I am an "empath" and yes I went through a time when I had a hard time differentiating my own emotions from others..and avoided tension with others because I'm "so sensitive" so it became easier to say "yes" and diminish my own self-value.. but understand fellow empaths...it is a SUPERPOWER...I'm in my power now. What was once a detriment (I didn't even know it) is a now a gift. Learning how to ground was a big part of turning oversensitivity into superpower..learning how to do heart-brain coherence, cultivate and direct chi, or life-force energy, and reprogramming the false beliefs of society I adopted into my belief systems were all part of my empowerment process. I'm in an amazing place now......You can do it to, it's not weakness....it's a great strength but it needs to be cultivated and the shadow work is absolutely essential in this process. Namaste
The Lori Show! Thank you. I am aligned with Spirit and we all draw on the same power. I actually subscribed to your channel a while back from one of your Joe Dispenza videos. Great Stuff!
Thank you for sharing. I'm use to rebuke my gifts from God. Knowing what people are thinking without even saying it and actually not feeling though I have to try to help fix there chaos... Wow it REALLY is ok to say NO!!!! 🙏🏽
im often friendly too so have to be cautious I used to let people use me to help them with their problems but now i have to be selfish and work on my own problems and challenges
It can be lonely being an empath because no one seems to understand. Sometimes you don’t even understand how you can know or feel other people’s emotions. So I’m glad I actually found this channel.
Someone told me once thinking everything is my fault is narcissistic. I said where do you think I got that from? A narc. Yesterday I decided to stop letting people play with my emotions. Me thinking I'm being "too cold" is actually healthy/normal. It only feels wrong cause it's new way of living.
Oh my gosh, yes. I’ve been practicing “being cold” or what others might say “standoffish”. It feels good 😆 I feel like I’m my own boss. I have tried this today for the first time and I came back home feeling like I don’t care what others thought about me. I felt free. I will keep this going. Love to you all
I am I kind because I choose to be ! I am empath for sure Whenever I moved from my hometown I noticed I was a lot more authentic Whenever I moved back I noticed I was always trying to figure out what other family members thought of me I somehow lost myself when my mother and sister died I basically became more disconnected from myself Doing the frame exercise has helped me a lot At the end of the day I have to remind myself it’s okay to feel separate from others It’s okay and I’m safe not always know what other people are feeling and thinking I’m tired of saving the day and feeling other peoples problems…When my mother died no one was there for me emotionally I realized they never had been I just assumed we would be more supportive of each other what happened was I couldn’t be there for myself because I was so used to feeling other peoples feelings I felt so much grief They didn’t even notice how it affected me they basically ignored me They were most likely so use to me ignoring my own feelings they ignored them as well …Being am empath can be exhausting and unappreciated I do feel it’s a super power but one must learn how to turn it on and off in order to be authentic I’m amazed how much feeling Separate from others is so freeing It’s my life now I can care about others but have the freedom I’ve been looking for It definitely comes from within 🙏🦋
This was an eye-opening video for me, my dude. That people-pleaser aspect of your personality never goes away, though. You just suppress it. Stress will bring it right back to the surface. In my experience.
Everything you say here explains so much of my life. My dad was negligent and my mom was the controller, she's bipolar depression and a hypochondriac. So my childhood was bad, I had no safe place away from them, and I was being bullied at school. I stood up to bullies, and my friends bullies too. I was ashamed of my childhood home. We moved alot.
i cried to this video because i feel like this, for over ten years, I've been doing things that would make peoole happy instead of myself to find comfort. learn things to keep people see me as a good person. this broke me to my unconscious level.
I’m an empath who has dealt with wanting to be a nice person for a long time. I’ve had a lot of issues with men who mansplain and brag and just want to take up all of the conversation. I realize now that to be in my frame it means that I am going to expect and ask for balanced conversations and not care what people think. As an authentic person, I will no longer deal with oppressive situations like that. Thank you for sharing.
Yup. Deep abandonment issues stemming from my father leaving the family when I was a child. Caused me to be a people pleaser for years. But, all that contrast brought strength and clarity.
Thank you for this video. I have alwayssss strived to be known as the nicest person ever. All my life. If anyone thought I wasn’t nice, it would crush me. I’ve had so many conversations with people where I don’t agree with what they’re saying, but I go along with it because confrontation and disagreement have always scared me, even if it’s about something insignificant. I’m often censoring how I really feel in conversations in order to avoid any type of disagreement. But it’s not authentic. I feel more powerful now after watching this video, knowing that I can be a kind person, yet not having to be “nice” all the time.
Omg I'm an empath and I can totally relate to the Stepmom thing. My stepmum was much the same. I felt like a Cinderella slave growing up , but it made me ready to deal with the world alone after I ran away from home at 17, I got tired of doing everything in the house for everyone and not having time to spend with my friends. I made my peace with her years later and in the end I was the one she turned to as I was the only one who understood her. She apologized for her parenting style , she was young, I know that now . I felt the pain inside her. All is forgiven, god rest her soul. Also I'm no longer a people pleaser. It took me 43 years before I learned to say no without feeling guilty. I feel like I'm an empowered empath now
But if Aaron was to meet us for a beach session in Santa Monica or Venice Beach, or even the dog park, with like-minded folks then maybe we would come out of our shells for a bit?? HINT HINT AARON... some of us are locals....
We become more magnetic by not being afraid to be polarizing. It’s that simple, a magnet has poles, and you cannot please everybody, do not be afraid to be a positive or a negative on different points of views, because in the end, that is what is going to influence people the most. Thank you Aaron, -Much love from a growing youtuber
I over explained myself today to get validation …… I just wanted a “thank you” from a principal at a school for preventing a lockdown. I’m in my 60’s - I want to be less needy for this validation thing! Not receiving a thank you is ridiculous! Thank you for your stories that are relatable. Signed, Ms. Nice Lad😮y
Sadly a lot of people abuse animals. I'm happy that the woman spoke out about animals. Not that YOU were going to but I love people who speak up for animals.
This resonated with me so much. There have been so many times in my life where I’m in a situation where I want to just say what’s on my mind, my authentic response, but instead I hold back and give the response I that I think people want to hear because I think it’s the “nice” thing to do.
I use to be this way I had to learn the hard way though. For many years, the root cause or reason for this past mentality/behavior was because I sought out approval from my family, I was taught family is everything, family is this family is that.. And I was messed up for years. While I wanted so badly my family's approval I had also felt that I wasn't happy I wasn't being myself. It was crazy! And today, I am so glad I did the work, self work. Today, I care more about how I feel and what I put out there. Just wanted to share that. Thank you so much for sharing this awesome video! Much love
Aaron, I would like to take a moment to say that for the past 3 almost 4 years now you're videos have helped me through some of my darkest moments. I absolutely appreciate the gifts that God has given you and even more so that you have chosen to share your gifts with the world. 🙏
I used to think I was an empath, and that it was a curse- but I realize I’ve been a hyper-vigilant fearful avoidant constantly processing my environment to assess my safety. This created my “codependency” and “people pleasing” responses. Love your videos Aaron 🙏🏼 dropping so much knowledge
I am an empath and I have similar childhood experiences. I can feel people even from a long distance and...time. It is overwhelming till you learn how to menage the giving and the receiving. So I am give up me being "the nicest girl" and "the saviour" and replacing it with "me being me".
I feel ya Laxmi Love! I got tired of the shit, one day I had enough and cried out. Not specifically challenging God or anyone or anything, just cried out. I was tired of being someone who I was not meant to be, after I cried out for help I got answers, literal voice came to me that night. woke me up out of bed, scared the hell right out of me. when you start livin in your own light and not give a shit about what anyone else thinks about you, wowza, that is the sweet spot right there.
I’ve gotten so much better ever since you said we’re our own containers I use to be a ppl pleaser because I didn’t receive that much validation from my parents And I would try so hard to satisfy them but nothing And I mean at school I didn’t try with ppl But it’s your mind would play tricks But honestly no one effing cares Be kind be yourself and vibe The right people are always gonna attract I started a new job every one is nice ans helpful While there’s a just a handful who just look at me I’m like I honestly don’t care because your people your container I can’t assume things
My childhood was beautiful surrounded by a loving & supportive family. I knew I was an empath early on because I could sense others pain, usually their unexpressed physical pain, but I knew even if it was someone familiar like an elderly relative or an unknown waitress in a restaurant. My arm was in such pain. Anytime someone suggested we go there, I felt that same pain. As an adult, I've been able to set healthy boundaries with those with serious inner wounds to avoid taking on that suction energy. And my radar has also helped me with those trying to manipulate with niceness. Genuine niceness or goodwill towards others is an expression of inner joy and peace. It's good to accept that different people bring out different sides of us and take pleasure in the way we uniquely express that without overthinking it. You are a genuinely nice person Aaron. There's no escaping it. 😄
This is so so important to learn. I understand and need to learn this so bad . I am a empathetic and can feel others energy and it makes my life harder. Thank you so very much for teaching me this . I am 68 and I definitely a fixer and was a people pleaser. I stop pleasing people about 20 years ago when I quit my job.🇺🇸❤️ 😕
I have a lot of the same shadows that you have had. I let go of being an empath awhile ago. Letting go of caring if people think I am a nice person.. that is what I am working on right meow! Releasing shame has been powerful for me. Thanks for the video.
Just be your true self and if that is to be nice and good then just be that. Its when you are doing it for a reason rather it being your authentic self. Unconditional Love is a humans natural state stolen from us by systems ways.
Yes, I agree with everything that you were stating about “empath” and “people pleaser”. I have always been someone to feel like I need to be the good one, even when I was young my sister would have boundaries with herself and not take out the trash because she had a fear of going in the basement where the trash cans were. (she was young at this time). And then I felt as if no one was going to do, I had to do it to keep the peace. I never realized that cycle became so viscous into other friendships/relationships. Wow, really opened my eyes. Thank you 🙏🏻
OMG! I’ve just had a huge realisation that I’ve spent most of my life craving male attention to not feel ugly like I did as a child. I’m so glad I came across this!! Thank you from my being 🙏🏽😊 xx
I love how Aaron explains things. Such a deep understanding of emotional boundaries. I really struggled in understanding what emotional boundaries are. Thank you for making it so clear. Sometimes I think, once an empath knows they are acting nice out of fear of abandonment, as a reaction to that awareness, they go into avoidant mode. They flip from anxiously attached to avoiding attachment all together. Over valuing separation of the self and undermining attachment. Sometimes because we didn’t trust our care giver, we develop this idea that it is not safe to seek validation. It is not safe to want approval of others. But what if that other really loved us and wanted what’s best for us? Simply put, just be good to people who treat you good. Be a jerk to people who are treating you badly, that’s authentic. I love, love, love listening to you Aaron! You have so much wisdom to share. Much love to you💕💕💕
We must not let the darkness in our hearts kill the innocence within us for our innocence is the key to our spiritual inheritance… Face everything and raise… As we overcome..We become whats been hiding in plain sight behind the lies… Our time is now… So stand strong and become for God is always with us so who can stand against us?….
Empath! Thank u for reminding me how to get to the root. I have been so confident in my isolation. I have bright colors in my hair, I’m communicating some online and when faced with the outside world I crumbled. This video gave me all I needed to move through this quickly. This happened two days ago and I’ve been freaking out in my mind telling myself there’s something wrong with me. Nope childhood shit. I don’t have to be perfect, I don’t have to look like a picture perfect good girl and I don’t have to give a fuck what anyone thinks of me. At times I think the empath takes over and I think I know what everyone is thinking because I feel I have to. When I do this I become separate from my body 🤯 makes so much since. I’m not a bad person because I’m different. Thank u Aaron
I am a really strong empath. I am a people pleaser because if they feel good I feel good. And yeah exactly if someone is feeling really negative it's like I mirror that. And it puts me in a spiral. I'm incapable of relaxing because I feel like if I don't do it, it won't get done. And then if I don't succeed, it's like I'm a complete loser. It's really difficult sometimes and it's only getting stronger.
aaron I NEEDED to hear this!!! I always find myself feeling like I need to explain myself to people and I will now choose to be more authentic. thank you, as always ❤️
This is so on point with my childhood with my mom and childhood sexual abuse from a demonic man in our family. I've known that I could read people, yet care so much about them, that I would abandon my own true core beliefs. Wow to actually hear it spoken out load is so breathtaking! Thank you Arron🙏🏽
My problem is pushing people away. I had Anxious attachment style in my last two relationships. And also trying to be what they needed me to be in order to fit in. I tried too hard,and pushed my last ex away and his family followed suit. Because I repelled him by too needy etc. I downloaded your free meditations and on my way to being the ME I could have been two years ago.
I can relate with this, when I was a kid, I had to convince my mother I liked the super Nintendo more than my starboard. That way when she got mad and destroyed my super Nintendo I still had my skateboard that was my only outlet to escape the gnarly energy, I instead put all my love into skateboarding. And eventually was able to escape.
It's almost impossible not to feel the emotions of another. So people-pleasing becomes natural because I don't want to feel their negative emotions so I'll try to make them happier so that I can be happier. It's totally selfish.
Aaron you taught me things I lacked I never knew I had, I thought I’m just an empath and needed to suffer in a cruel world but now I got it’s not that others were not nice to me, I wasn’t nice to me in the first place. If you love urself, no one can make you feel UN-loved/worthy. 💗
Game changer bro. Wow. We have similar stories and I guess this is what I needed to hear today because I'm literally crying on the jobsite surrounded by a bunch of "macho guys" and hiding tears under my head hat. Thanks Aaron. Thank you.
This is so true. I am a Libra and I struggle with this a lot. I have come a long way but I find moments where I fall back into this pattern and then I have to remind myself again. This video is another reminder. I also don’t keep expectations. That gets me, especially as an empath. I just want to be loved and adored always. It’s true but I pour that into myself instead of others!
Yes we think if we do anything similar to the people who hurt us we will turn to them. It's about meeting somewhere in the middle. Balanced on the spectrum
Oh my God I have huge abandonment and betrayal issues from when I was a small child and removed from my dad... only, to carry on with stepparents that never lasted either. So, Aaron, thank you for this❤❤❤🎯
Love this so much! I have over explained and doubted my worth but it’s been years of growth. Now I realize why I pull away from some people like recently I was very attractive to this guy and then now I don’t want to talk to him - he became too needy emotionally and I am not wanting him anymore. It’s good to see that I want his authentic self - I do not want to fill his validation. It is a different energy when someone is wounded in healing. I pray for his hEaling and trust the divine path. Much love & light thanks for such a grounded message!
Tips To Heal Your Energy & Raise Your Vibration! - Let go of your ego - Expand your consciousness & awareness - Keep your environment clean - Go outside & connect with nature everyday - Listen to music that heals your soul - Think before you react with emotions - Isolate yourself from people holding you back - Eat more healthy greens - Meditate daily - Love yourself more - Charitable donations/give money to the poor - Eliminate clutter from your life - Practice gratitude Hope you found this helpful!
i am an empath. I was always the one who solved the problems. until I got tired of it and started to get honest about it and give my opinion. now I have no friends and hardly see any family. but feel better with less pressure.
Thank you for the insight.Can you please do a video on the concept of *being in ones own frame* and *having a strong frame*.This is especially difficult if ones values regarding something are contrary to the norm.
Hey Aaron came across your channel this month by chance I really love your sense of humour and the insights you gave in your videos. I think I can totally relate to what you have shared in the video growing up as empath in my family due to my parents and I realise that all along I have been a people pleaser and I think your video came timely for me to change. I’m sick of being the nice person and the fixer in my family. I think you’re right it’s time for me to let go of all these labels so as to let in. I will also learn to set boundaries of my kindness. Thank you so much for bringing this awareness in me! 😊
You are spot on with everything. I am guilty of over explaining myself. I have always struggled with self worth. I have thankfully realized that other people's shit is their shit & Not for me to carry, claim or fix. Thank You for the free medations too.
Aaron you have helped me through so much and I've never even met you! 😀Thank you for starting a TH-cam channel and not giving a shit about what other people think and for sharing videos about seeing our shit and seperating it from other people's shit so we can stop trying to be good. It's been an eye opener for me that you wouldn't believe.
I have done that in relationships. Give, give, and get nothing back then they discarded me and then I am devastated by it all. I have since changed thank u for the helpful info!
This is so true. I like how you help people work out life and not just relationships. A lot of us fall into nice to replay those old tapes! Thank you for pointing this out🌸
I'm not really concerned with being, "Magnetic" but being overly nice opens you up to being taken for granted and put into crap situations. There are people out there looking for others to be their supply and if you lack or don't know how to put up boundaries they will take what they can get. You can be nice but have boundaries. Boundaries and having a strong sense of self is key
One of the ways to feel positiv*e energy is to take your attention away from the negative and focus on everything that transmits positivity to you. Have a beautiful day! 💜💜💜
Literally - I realized this year that I am pretty blunt, but in my own authentic way 😌 and since the realization, I've rid myself of people who do not serve the path of universal love!
Aaron I have been having these revelations this past week and this was great confirmation of the path that I am on. Especially with explaining yourself. Every time you explain yourself you leave your frame. A really practical example of how we give up our energy sometimes.
*Things That Will Change The World“ Manifest plainness, Embrace simplicity, Reduce selfishness, Have few desires.” ― Lao Tzu ~ Much Love from a Growing TH-camr💜
Everything your saying is 100 me I pick up on everyone’s energy and emotions and yes I’m always the one keeping everyone together 😱 thank you namaste 🙏🏽 life and light ❤️
Definitely an empath here and need to stop feeling the emotions of my ex ,these videos are helping me a great deal in moving past the old story I was telling myself about this person .
I love this video, this is what Im going through right now . Having somebody talk about this and giving such a good delivery of facts makes me feel Im not the only one and it helps.
Everything good men ,but please don't stop to start the video : Hello ,my name is A. Doughty ,I help people expand their contusions.. it's so inspiring..thanks Love ❤️
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Hope my other comment makes sense Sir.
Appreciate all your videos
ty for changing my life
Thank u for the information, kindly talk about people pleaser more and how to set boundaries
Thank you 💖
Ty A! U have explained so much! Keep up these amazing videos
I've survived this before, I'll survive now.
100% you got this boo!
Absolutely we got this
And then you will thrive!
Royalty Rule: Never Complain never Explain 👏🏼👍🏻. It lowers us out of our own Devine center
Yes indeed I am an "empath" and yes I went through a time when I had a hard time differentiating my own emotions from others..and avoided tension with others because I'm "so sensitive" so it became easier to say "yes" and diminish my own self-value..
but understand fellow empaths...it is a SUPERPOWER...I'm in my power now. What was once a detriment (I didn't even know it) is a now a gift. Learning how to ground was a big part of turning oversensitivity into superpower..learning how to do heart-brain coherence, cultivate and direct chi, or life-force energy, and reprogramming the false beliefs of society I adopted into my belief systems were all part of my empowerment process. I'm in an amazing place now......You can do it to, it's not weakness....it's a great strength but it needs to be cultivated and the shadow work is absolutely essential in this process. Namaste
Protect your energy my friend. I can feel how powerful you are! Own it.
The Lori Show! Thank you. I am aligned with Spirit and we all draw on the same power. I actually subscribed to your channel a while back from one of your Joe Dispenza videos. Great Stuff!
Thank you for sharing. I'm use to rebuke my gifts from God. Knowing what people are thinking without even saying it and actually not feeling though I have to try to help fix there chaos... Wow it REALLY is ok to say NO!!!! 🙏🏽
How do you make it your superpower?
Constance Fowler It feels good doesn’t it? 😉
I’m an empath who just recently learned to create boundaries for myself.
when i create boundaries i forget about them
Me too, getting used to being uncomfortable more now
Boundaries essential for some peace
im often friendly too so have to be cautious I used to let people use me to help them with their problems but now i have to be selfish and work on my own problems and challenges
Me too and was attracting users both men n women. I’m not longer rescuing ppl any longer!
It can be lonely being an empath because no one seems to understand. Sometimes you don’t even understand how you can know or feel other people’s emotions. So I’m glad I actually found this channel.
Someone told me once thinking everything is my fault is narcissistic. I said where do you think I got that from? A narc.
Yesterday I decided to stop letting people play with my emotions. Me thinking I'm being "too cold" is actually healthy/normal.
It only feels wrong cause it's new way of living.
Oh my gosh, yes. I’ve been practicing “being cold” or what others might say “standoffish”. It feels good 😆 I feel like I’m my own boss. I have tried this today for the first time and I came back home feeling like I don’t care what others thought about me. I felt free. I will keep this going.
Love to you all
I am I kind because I choose to be ! I am empath for sure Whenever I moved from my hometown I noticed I was a lot more authentic Whenever I moved back I noticed I was always trying to figure out what other family members thought of me I somehow lost myself when my mother and sister died I basically became more disconnected from myself Doing the frame exercise has helped me a lot At the end of the day I have to remind myself it’s okay to feel separate from others It’s okay and I’m safe not always know what other people are feeling and thinking I’m tired of saving the day and feeling other peoples problems…When my mother died no one was there for me emotionally I realized they never had been I just assumed we would be more supportive of each other what happened was I couldn’t be there for myself because I was so used to feeling other peoples feelings I felt so much grief They didn’t even notice how it affected me they basically ignored me They were most likely so use to me ignoring my own feelings they ignored them as well …Being am empath can be exhausting and unappreciated I do feel it’s a super power but one must learn how to turn it on and off in order to be authentic I’m amazed how much feeling Separate from others is so freeing It’s my life now I can care about others but have the freedom I’ve been looking for It definitely comes from within 🙏🦋
Keeping a distance is crucial. People are in our circle but are we in theirs? It's a good question.
This was an eye-opening video for me, my dude. That people-pleaser aspect of your personality never goes away, though. You just suppress it. Stress will bring it right back to the surface. In my experience.
I survived before & I will survive again . 😇🙏🏻
Everything you say here explains so much of my life. My dad was negligent and my mom was the controller, she's bipolar depression and a hypochondriac. So my childhood was bad, I had no safe place away from them, and I was being bullied at school. I stood up to bullies, and my friends bullies too. I was ashamed of my childhood home. We moved alot.
i cried to this video because i feel like this, for over ten years, I've been doing things that would make peoole happy instead of myself to find comfort. learn things to keep people see me as a good person. this broke me to my unconscious level.
I’m an empath who has dealt with wanting to be a nice person for a long time. I’ve had a lot of issues with men who mansplain and brag and just want to take up all of the conversation. I realize now that to be in my frame it means that I am going to expect and ask for balanced conversations and not care what people think. As an authentic person, I will no longer deal with oppressive situations like that. Thank you for sharing.
Yup. Deep abandonment issues stemming from my father leaving the family when I was a child. Caused me to be a people pleaser for years. But, all that contrast brought strength and clarity.
Thank you for this video. I have alwayssss strived to be known as the nicest person ever. All my life. If anyone thought I wasn’t nice, it would crush me. I’ve had so many conversations with people where I don’t agree with what they’re saying, but I go along with it because confrontation and disagreement have always scared me, even if it’s about something insignificant. I’m often censoring how I really feel in conversations in order to avoid any type of disagreement. But it’s not authentic. I feel more powerful now after watching this video, knowing that I can be a kind person, yet not having to be “nice” all the time.
Same here! Nice person syndrome 😊
Omg I'm an empath and I can totally relate to the Stepmom thing. My stepmum was much the same. I felt like a Cinderella slave growing up , but it made me ready to deal with the world alone after I ran away from home at 17, I got tired of doing everything in the house for everyone and not having time to spend with my friends. I made my peace with her years later and in the end I was the one she turned to as I was the only one who understood her. She apologized for her parenting style , she was young, I know that now . I felt the pain inside her. All is forgiven, god rest her soul.
Also I'm no longer a people pleaser. It took me 43 years before I learned to say no without feeling guilty. I feel like I'm an empowered empath now
Empath indeed. I can feel peoples energy so much it is over powering and makes me uncomfortable. Then I choose to run.. :)
Thats the reason why most of us prefer to spend time alone....
I am in fact a empath I stay away from people. Definitely always start trying to fix things. I've always read people like a book as well.
But if Aaron was to meet us for a beach session in Santa Monica or Venice Beach, or even the dog park, with like-minded folks then maybe we would come out of our shells for a bit?? HINT HINT AARON... some of us are locals....
We become more magnetic by not being afraid to be polarizing. It’s that simple, a magnet has poles, and you cannot please everybody, do not be afraid to be a positive or a negative on different points of views, because in the end, that is what is going to influence people the most.
Thank you Aaron,
-Much love from a growing youtuber
I over explained myself today to get validation …… I just wanted a “thank you” from a principal at a school for preventing a lockdown. I’m in my 60’s - I want to be less needy for this validation thing! Not receiving a thank you is ridiculous! Thank you for your stories that are relatable. Signed, Ms. Nice Lad😮y
Sadly a lot of people abuse animals. I'm happy that the woman spoke out about animals. Not that YOU were going to but I love people who speak up for animals.
Honestly, I never cared for others validation, but momma trained me to care🤯
No More Mr Nice Guy! Is a great book to stop seeking approve.
Much love for a law of attraction youtuber.
Empath here, you got me crying here. Great video thanks.
This resonated with me so much. There have been so many times in my life where I’m in a situation where I want to just say what’s on my mind, my authentic response, but instead I hold back and give the response I that I think people want to hear because I think it’s the “nice” thing to do.
I use to be this way I had to learn the hard way though. For many years, the root cause or reason for this past mentality/behavior was because I sought out approval from my family, I was taught family is everything, family is this family is that.. And I was messed up for years. While I wanted so badly my family's approval I had also felt that I wasn't happy I wasn't being myself. It was crazy! And today, I am so glad I did the work, self work. Today, I care more about how I feel and what I put out there. Just wanted to share that. Thank you so much for sharing this awesome video! Much love
Aaron, I would like to take a moment to say that for the past 3 almost 4 years now you're videos have helped me through some of my darkest moments. I absolutely appreciate the gifts that God has given you and even more so that you have chosen to share your gifts with the world. 🙏
Me too…
Bro plz make a video on low self esteem and low self worth
I used to think I was an empath, and that it was a curse- but I realize I’ve been a hyper-vigilant fearful avoidant constantly processing my environment to assess my safety. This created my “codependency” and “people pleasing” responses.
Love your videos Aaron 🙏🏼 dropping so much knowledge
Me too
This is too complicated hha
I am an empath and I have similar childhood experiences. I can feel people even from a long distance and...time. It is overwhelming till you learn how to menage the giving and the receiving. So I am give up me being "the nicest girl" and "the saviour" and replacing it with "me being me".
I feel ya Laxmi Love! I got tired of the shit, one day I had enough and cried out. Not specifically challenging God or anyone or anything, just cried out. I was tired of being someone who I was not meant to be, after I cried out for help I got answers, literal voice came to me that night. woke me up out of bed, scared the hell right out of me. when you start livin in your own light and not give a shit about what anyone else thinks about you, wowza, that is the sweet spot right there.
I’ve gotten so much better ever since you said we’re our own containers
I use to be a ppl pleaser because I didn’t receive that much validation from my parents
And I would try so hard to satisfy them but nothing
And I mean at school I didn’t try with ppl
But it’s your mind would play tricks
But honestly no one effing cares
Be kind be yourself and vibe
The right people are always gonna attract
I started a new job every one is nice ans helpful
While there’s a just a handful who just look at me
I’m like I honestly don’t care because your people your container
I can’t assume things
My childhood was beautiful surrounded by a loving & supportive family. I knew I was an empath early on because I could sense others pain, usually their unexpressed physical pain, but I knew even if it was someone familiar like an elderly relative or an unknown waitress in a restaurant. My arm was in such pain. Anytime someone suggested we go there, I felt that same pain. As an adult, I've been able to set healthy boundaries with those with serious inner wounds to avoid taking on that suction energy. And my radar has also helped me with those trying to manipulate with niceness. Genuine niceness or goodwill towards others is an expression of inner joy and peace. It's good to accept that different people bring out different sides of us and take pleasure in the way we uniquely express that without overthinking it. You are a genuinely nice person Aaron. There's no escaping it. 😄
This is so so important to learn. I understand and need to learn this so bad . I am a empathetic and can feel others energy and it makes my life harder. Thank you so very much for teaching me this . I am 68 and I definitely a fixer and was a people pleaser. I stop pleasing people about 20 years ago when I quit my job.🇺🇸❤️ 😕
I have a lot of the same shadows that you have had. I let go of being an empath awhile ago. Letting go of caring if people think I am a nice person.. that is what I am working on right meow! Releasing shame has been powerful for me. Thanks for the video.
The “right meow” always gets me 😂😂
Just be your true self and if that is to be nice and good then just be that. Its when you are doing it for a reason rather it being your authentic self. Unconditional Love is a humans natural state stolen from us by systems ways.
Yes, I agree with everything that you were stating about “empath” and “people pleaser”. I have always been someone to feel like I need to be the good one, even when I was young my sister would have boundaries with herself and not take out the trash because she had a fear of going in the basement where the trash cans were. (she was young at this time). And then I felt as if no one was going to do, I had to do it to keep the peace. I never realized that cycle became so viscous into other friendships/relationships. Wow, really opened my eyes. Thank you 🙏🏻
Omg yes. That’s me and volunteering taking out the trash at work to “keep the peace”. I felt like it was my duty … 🥲
I am currently working on my empath ways. Definitely a "fixer" as well. This video "popped" up right on time .
OMG! I’ve just had a huge realisation that I’ve spent most of my life craving male attention to not feel ugly like I did as a child. I’m so glad I came across this!! Thank you from my being 🙏🏽😊 xx
I love how Aaron explains things.
Such a deep understanding of emotional boundaries. I really struggled in understanding what emotional boundaries are. Thank you for making it so clear.
Sometimes I think, once an empath knows they are acting nice out of fear of abandonment, as a reaction to that awareness, they go into avoidant mode.
They flip from anxiously attached to avoiding attachment all together.
Over valuing separation of the self and undermining attachment.
Sometimes because we didn’t trust our care giver, we develop this idea that it is not safe to seek validation.
It is not safe to want approval of others.
But what if that other really loved us and wanted what’s best for us?
Simply put, just be good to people who treat you good. Be a jerk to people who are treating you badly, that’s authentic.
I love, love, love listening to you Aaron!
You have so much wisdom to share.
Much love to you💕💕💕
Very much so
Wish ,the teacher's in my country be so clear and can touch the heart like him, bless, love for everyone that is here and now !Love !
"Right Meow". I Love when you do that.
We must not let the darkness in our hearts kill the innocence within us for our innocence is the key to our spiritual inheritance… Face everything and raise… As we overcome..We become whats been hiding in plain sight behind the lies… Our time is now… So stand strong and become for God is always with us so who can stand against us?….
AAAROOOOON you always hit every single video
We are the same person 😂💕 much love brother
Empath! Thank u for reminding me how to get to the root. I have been so confident in my isolation. I have bright colors in my hair, I’m communicating some online and when faced with the outside world I crumbled. This video gave me all I needed to move through this quickly. This happened two days ago and I’ve been freaking out in my mind telling myself there’s something wrong with me.
Nope childhood shit.
I don’t have to be perfect, I don’t have to look like a picture perfect good girl and I don’t have to give a fuck what anyone thinks of me.
At times I think the empath takes over and I think I know what everyone is thinking because I feel I have to. When I do this I become separate from my body 🤯 makes so much since.
I’m not a bad person because I’m different.
Thank u Aaron
I am a really strong empath. I am a people pleaser because if they feel good I feel good. And yeah exactly if someone is feeling really negative it's like I mirror that. And it puts me in a spiral. I'm incapable of relaxing because I feel like if I don't do it, it won't get done. And then if I don't succeed, it's like I'm a complete loser. It's really difficult sometimes and it's only getting stronger.
aaron I NEEDED to hear this!!! I always find myself feeling like I need to explain myself to people and I will now choose to be more authentic. thank you, as always ❤️
This is so on point with my childhood with my mom and childhood sexual abuse from a demonic man in our family. I've known that I could read people, yet care so much about them, that I would abandon my own true core beliefs. Wow to actually hear it spoken out load is so breathtaking! Thank you Arron🙏🏽
My problem is pushing people away. I had Anxious attachment style in my last two relationships. And also trying to be what they needed me to be in order to fit in. I tried too hard,and pushed my last ex away and his family followed suit. Because I repelled him by too needy etc. I downloaded your free meditations and on my way to being the ME I could have been two years ago.
I can relate with this, when I was a kid, I had to convince my mother I liked the super Nintendo more than my starboard. That way when she got mad and destroyed my super Nintendo I still had my skateboard that was my only outlet to escape the gnarly energy, I instead put all my love into skateboarding. And eventually was able to escape.
Sending you love
It's almost impossible not to feel the emotions of another. So people-pleasing becomes natural because I don't want to feel their negative emotions so I'll try to make them happier so that I can be happier. It's totally selfish.
Man, I am such a people pleaser. You are correct. I get anxious when I have a thought that doesn't correlate with the path of least resistance.
Aaron you taught me things I lacked I never knew I had, I thought I’m just an empath and needed to suffer in a cruel world but now I got it’s not that others were not nice to me, I wasn’t nice to me in the first place. If you love urself, no one can make you feel UN-loved/worthy. 💗
Game changer bro. Wow. We have similar stories and I guess this is what I needed to hear today because I'm literally crying on the jobsite surrounded by a bunch of "macho guys" and hiding tears under my head hat. Thanks Aaron. Thank you.
I’m an empath and I’ve always been the glue for my family
Yesss I'm so an empath..I work around hundreds of people and I think that's why I stay so tired...and I'm also changing my family pattern...
Perfect timing Aaron
This is so true. I am a Libra and I struggle with this a lot. I have come a long way but I find moments where I fall back into this pattern and then I have to remind myself again. This video is another reminder. I also don’t keep expectations. That gets me, especially as an empath. I just want to be loved and adored always. It’s true but I pour that into myself instead of others!
I can feel other peoples energies and I can actually put myself in their situation
Better to be you than to be nice.
Yes we think if we do anything similar to the people who hurt us we will turn to them. It's about meeting somewhere in the middle. Balanced on the spectrum
Oh my God I have huge abandonment and betrayal issues from when I was a small child and removed from my dad... only, to carry on with stepparents that never lasted either. So, Aaron, thank you for this❤❤❤🎯
your identity is a flexible noodle....priceless. Thank YOU FOR THIS AARON
Love this so much! I have over explained and doubted my worth but it’s been years of growth. Now I realize why I pull away from some people like recently I was very attractive to this guy and then now I don’t want to talk to him - he became too needy emotionally and I am not wanting him anymore. It’s good to see that I want his authentic self - I do not want to fill his validation. It is a different energy when someone is wounded in healing. I pray for his hEaling and trust the divine path. Much love & light thanks for such a grounded message!
Tips To Heal Your Energy & Raise Your Vibration!
- Let go of your ego
- Expand your consciousness & awareness
- Keep your environment clean
- Go outside & connect with nature everyday
- Listen to music that heals your soul
- Think before you react with emotions
- Isolate yourself from people holding you back
- Eat more healthy greens
- Meditate daily
- Love yourself more
- Charitable donations/give money to the poor
- Eliminate clutter from your life
- Practice gratitude
Hope you found this helpful!
RIGHT ON TIME!!! I’m ALL EARS 👂🏽👂🏽
i am an empath. I was always the one who solved the problems. until I got tired of it and started to get honest about it and give my opinion. now I have no friends and hardly see any family. but feel better with less pressure.
Empath 💯 makes for awkward situations
Thank you for the insight.Can you please do a video on the concept of *being in ones own frame* and *having a strong frame*.This is especially difficult if ones values regarding something are contrary to the norm.
Dear Aaron, I love you. Thank you for your contribution to the world.
Hey Aaron came across your channel this month by chance I really love your sense of humour and the insights you gave in your videos.
I think I can totally relate to what you have shared in the video growing up as empath in my family due to my parents and I realise that all along I have been a people pleaser and I think your video came timely for me to change. I’m sick of being the nice person and the fixer in my family. I think you’re right it’s time for me to let go of all these labels so as to let in. I will also learn to set boundaries of my kindness. Thank you so much for bringing this awareness in me! 😊
You are spot on with everything. I am guilty of over explaining myself. I have always struggled with self worth. I have thankfully realized that other people's shit is their shit & Not for me to carry, claim or fix. Thank You for the free medations too.
Aaron you have helped me through so much and I've never even met you! 😀Thank you for starting a TH-cam channel and not giving a shit about what other people think and for sharing videos about seeing our shit and seperating it from other people's shit so we can stop trying to be good. It's been an eye opener for me that you wouldn't believe.
It works out for me I got my ex lover back within 48hours. He can help you too
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I can't believe am with my love again
I have done that in relationships. Give, give, and get nothing back then they discarded me and then I am devastated by it all. I have since changed thank u for the helpful info!
Yeah I hate feeling all the negative energy. Yes you must be one too. 🤔
This is so true. I like how you help people work out life and not just relationships. A lot of us fall into nice to replay those old tapes! Thank you for pointing this out🌸
I'm not really concerned with being, "Magnetic" but being overly nice opens you up to being taken for granted and put into crap situations. There are people out there looking for others to be their supply and if you lack or don't know how to put up boundaries they will take what they can get. You can be nice but have boundaries. Boundaries and having a strong sense of self is key
Perfect timing. Yes, I am empath and this is exactly what I needed.
Just by following this guy's videos people can change their lives.....I guarantee!!
One of the ways to feel positiv*e energy is to take your attention away from the negative and focus on everything that transmits positivity to you. Have a beautiful day! 💜💜💜
I owe u my life man…u have helped me to overcome things that I thought I could never overcome 😭❤️
I have always been making people happy, right now i dont even know how my body feels
Thank You for opening my mind up
Literally - I realized this year that I am pretty blunt, but in my own authentic way 😌 and since the realization, I've rid myself of people who do not serve the path of universal love!
It's absolutely NONE OF MY BUSINESS WHAT OTHER'S THINK OF ME... Byron Katie
Yes yess strong sense of self. Frame. Boundaries. I lost myself to the wants n needs of control freaks sooo many times. No more
Aaron I have been having these revelations this past week and this was great confirmation of the path that I am on. Especially with explaining yourself. Every time you explain yourself you leave your frame. A really practical example of how we give up our energy sometimes.
*Things That Will Change The World“
Manifest plainness,
Embrace simplicity,
Reduce selfishness,
Have few desires.”
― Lao Tzu
~ Much Love from a Growing TH-camr💜
True as heck. You can be a new version of you right now, right now, right now.
Yes I’m an empath and learning not to be a people pleaser. Sometimes I unknowingly get right back into it. Always want people to be happy
If i watch another video of yours, I’m just going to disappear from letting go so much :) Huge fan.
Everything your saying is 100 me I pick up on everyone’s energy and emotions and yes I’m always the one keeping everyone together 😱 thank you namaste 🙏🏽 life and light ❤️
Watching you get rich over deep resentment towards your ex-step-mom has been incredibly inspiring .
Definitely an empath here and need to stop feeling the emotions of my ex ,these videos are helping me a great deal in moving past the old story I was telling myself about this person .
Spot on Aaron🙌🏼 Trying to be bold and not care what people think. I Definitely must keep this in mind as a youtuber 💙
Being calmer is wiser than being darker..."When you are more quiet, you can hear better." Rumi.
I'm definitely an empath and a people pleaser.
I did have to check on everything being OK when I was growing up.and I carried that into my adult life
totally with you. be who you are. regardless of what anyone else thinks.
True! But knowing yourself may take work. Work takes commitment.
I love this video, this is what Im going through right now . Having somebody talk about this and giving such a good delivery of facts makes me feel Im not the only one and it helps.
Everything good men ,but please don't stop to start the video : Hello ,my name is A. Doughty ,I help people expand their contusions.. it's so inspiring..thanks Love ❤️