You DID wear that outfit!! Even if you only had it on for a few hours, you still wore it! And feeling okay in an outfit for a few hours is a win! We put makeup on to wash it off, we curl our hair to have it fall flat. It is so hard for enjoyment to not be clouded by the threat of it fading away, but you did succeed in wearing an outfit that made you feel a bit better, if only for a little while!
Something that has helped me immensely in feeling better in my body and my clothing postpartum is to pack away out of season clothes/clothes that don't fit, and keeping a super pared down wardrobe. It reduces my decision fatigue and I know that every item of clothing in my closet is an option that I won't want to just take off as soon as I put it on.
Girl you need a confidence makeover! And do it with Rachel since that’s how you two met doing that series on your main channel! You can both find your style being postpartum again and find clothes you feel confident and amazing in. Love you girl and your vlogs 💕
“I feel okay in this,” is honestly a win when you’re postpartum. It’s such a vulnerable time. Your body is still changing, your emotions are tender, you’re constantly getting spit up on…the list goes on. I do know one thing: Your sweet little girls see you as the most beautiful woman in the world. 🩷 Thanks for being open about how you’re feeling. I think almost every mom can relate. 🥲
Hearing you talk about your struggles with image and finding clothes, makes me think that if you ever ventured into a maternity clothing line ( by yourself or even a collab) it would be spectacular! You've already made body positive clothing before, so I know this would be right up your alley!
For me personally, having struggled with body image/getting dressed (though not postpartum and I dont have kids, so might be totally different!) but it really helped to get fully dressed and kind of fancy for just an hour per day. You can time it, so you wouldn't have to worry too much that the fit is inconvenient, but you still can feel put together for a short time a day. Hope you feel better about it soon Sierra! Sending love from The Netherlands to you and your lovely family!
I found out last night (June 12th, 2024) that my husband and I are expecting a baby GIRL! I am so excited. It incredible to be able to watch Sierra and Stephen parent together, laughing at spaghetti sauce, and watching Grace grow and learn so much !!!
I sense a little postpartum slump, baby blues in this vlog. Just a little reminder that your harrumph feelings could be that. Enjoyed your vlog, as always.
Sierra, you have just had a baby 5 minutes ago and you are dressed! That’s a Victory on its own. Also your body had 2 amazing babies!!! That’s AMAZING but also changes everything in our body. Makes it all wobbly and weird. Give yourself some time to get to know your body as a couple of months won’t do it. As for outfits, wear all your pretty dresses and anything that will make you feel better and comfy and plan 3 outfits a day because between a baby and a toddler you may need more than that. You will look back one day and you will not remember the outfit, only that you and Grace made smoothies and went to fro yo after her graduation and Grace was so proud of herself.🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊🤗🤗🤗🤗
Seeing you interacting with your babies around 22:30 was my favorite part of this video. You absolutely light up talking to them. Here's to hoping your body struggles are short lived. Your haircut is ADORABLE btw
I love your honesty about body image. I’m going through a similar period. I stopped working out cold turkey to finish my last 6 months of nursing school. I finished thank goodness but my body looks less than desired to put it nicely. Working out really was my stress management and helped with my confidence with looking and feeling better. It also helps with regulating my appetite to fuel my runs. So I’m getting back into it and look forward to the benefits of working out again. But all that to say I literally hate getting dressed, I avoid looking in the mirror and thank goodness I can hide behind scrubs and not think about my image. I really admire you Sierra! I think you’re doing great, moving and raising two wonderful girls is busy work. It’s great you’re putting in effort, making time to eat and get dressed and showered when you get the chance. That’s so important. It helps me as well even though my situation is so different from yours.
Thanks for sharing such a vulnerable moment with us. You're struggling and that's totally okay. You don't need to have it all figured out in order to share it.
i was tearing up when you were talking about how much of a struggle it has been getting ready and feeling more comfortable in pajamas and comfy clothes. i've struggled with my weight for soooo long and lately it's been really getting to me seeing my body in outfits i want to wear but not liking how they look or feeling confident. then it's just a cycle of changing clothes for 20 minutes, getting frustrated and sweaty, and landing on a basic/unflattering outfit cause it's just easier 🥲 although it hurts my heart to see you having similar struggles, it's comforting to see someone express the same feelings, so thank you for sharing
Honestly, I don't want to give unsolicited tips but it does help me when I am feeling blah in my clothes but don't want anything high maintenance is just bold fun colours and patterns in comfy clothes. Something that even if it gets a stain it is hard to make out the stain. Beige and pastels look good but are harder to maintain. It might not be everyone's style but it is hard not to feel happy with a fun colorful pattern. Might help.
I can remember feeling that same way after having my daughter . I came home from the hospital thinking after a few weeks I would lose most of that 70 pounds I had gained. I was so wrong. When I did finally weigh myself, I had only lost about ten pounds and she weighed 7.1 of that. I just sat in the floor and had myself a good little cry. It wasn’t long though before I did get back to loving myself again. You look beautiful and you have 2 beautiful girls. Be good to yourself and give yourself some grace. When I was 34 I had breast cancer and I gained so much weight during the treatment but I lost that too. You can do it.
i saw a tiktok of a headband that is designed exactly to give you that look of having sunglasses pull back your hair!! i forget the creator but they do make headbands like that they are super cute!
Get some cute summer dresses. flowy and cute. it will change your attitude. you look beautiful Sierra. Trust me being a mom is a full-time job that never ends you are doing great!!
i completely agree about getting dresses! i’m in my third trimester and basically live in flowy summer dresses 😂 it’s such an easy way to feel feminine and pretty but also comfortable with your body and the way clothes fit
My kids love to watch your videos and they always make my day and lets me know I’m not alone. Been having a lot of problems with body image after having two kids a 1 year and a half apart, it has been really difficult but your videos have helped me try to actually get dressed and not look like Adam Sandler all the time. Thank you for being you.
Oh sierra!! I would love to give you the biggest hug. Being so vulnerable about how you feel getting dressed hit so many notes that I felt after 3 kids. So proud of you for putting the outfit on and just doing it❤ sometimes we have to push ourselves and thank you for giving us a glimpse into that vulnerability.
Linen sets were my go to postpartum!! Matching sets make you look put together with 0 effort, flowy button up shirts for easy breastfeeding, high waisted flowy pants are comfy and kind to the incision!
I’m an elementary music teacher (plus size- 16/18). I love JUMPSUITS! All kinds- dressed up, casual, pajama, etc. I don’t have kids, but I bet they can sometimes be breastfeeding friendly. Some of my favorite places for casual/comfy ones are Maurice’s, Target, Torrid, and Old Navy (I always buy online). I love you girl- you got this!❤
As long as I breastfed, i felt like my body wasn't mine. This a weird feeling I can't explain, but both time, after 10months-1year, when I stopped breastfeeding, i felt ''home'' again right after and reconnected with myself almost immediatly.
I’m 4 months postpartum with baby #2. I’m definitely the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life, and completely understand how you feel and totally feel the same way. Most important thing we can do is give ourselves Grace (which is both our daughters names by the way ❤). We will get back to a better place physically, it just takes time.
I just wanted to say how much I relate to your body image struggles. As someone who also loves clothes, I feel this so deeply. My style changed so that I can play with my toddler on the floor, and it changed with pregnancy and postpartum. And it’s hard when your closet doesn’t fit your needs. But you don’t want to buy all new stuff because you won’t breastfeed forever. I hope it gets better with time and as you find your style in this short term phase.
Idk if you’ll ever see this but after my second csection, I felt the same as you with my body for a long time (a good year+ pp). And it is hard but I will say it does get better- in time. You will feel at home in your body again one day! Be gentle on yourself in the meantime; it has carried life afterall. 💖😊
I work at a summer camp that also has a day camp for younger kids who don’t stay overnight, and we have an afternoon “recharge time” because the kids don’t want to “nap” or “rest” but they really need it since we’re running around in the heat all day. So I totally get “the kid needs a rest but don’t want to so imma come up with a creative name for a nap” lol 😂
What about designing post maternity clothing!! I think you would be so awesome at that!!!! Also you are amazing and beautiful and so many of us have been there/are there! You are not alone and it is going to be ok!! ❤❤❤
@@marijatrajkovic3320 here’s the thing. So much of the time after baby or a surgery etc your body is different than it was before. Nothing to do with weight. Feeling good in your clothing and choices especially when taking life with kids into consideration has nothing to do with what you weigh, and everything to do with how you feel. How many times do we look in the mirror and not like what we see vs the day before when we felt confident? Clothing is about self expression and having post maternity clothes in g that takes that self expression into account while accommodating life with a newborn could be cool. The number on the scale does not reflect anything other than the number on the scale.
I just want to say Sierra, you are so GOSH DARN pretty! I know looks don’t matter nearly as much as pretty much literally everything else in a person and looks is not even in the top 10 reasons of why I like and follow and watch you, but seriously, you are just SO pretty! I am also post partum (but already 9 months in…!) and I’m still in that feeling of discomfort in my body and it totally sucks! I hope the both of us can snap out of it soon. Just know that for me, you are one of the things I’m counting on to help me get there ❤
I love how intentional you are with how you talk to Grace. Were your parents the same way? As a mom to an almost 3 year old and about to have another my goal is to speak to them with the same compassion, intention, etc. but I find myself getting overwhelmed and at times explosive similar to my mom. Mom guilt is rough but I know it’s possible!!
The more I watch your vlogs the more I think I might be ready for baby 2 in the next year or two. Hearing you say this time around helped to heal your trauma from your first is the most encouraging thing I’ve heard.
Thank you for being vulnerable and showing yourself working through your body image struggles in real time. My daughter is 2.5 and I still feel like I don't know how to dress this new body.
Girl, I feel you. I just had twins shortly after you had Alice and I’m at the same place with my body. I’m still wearing maternity clothes. I’ll wear the same leggings all day that I wear to bed the night before. I haven’t wore makeup in a couple weeks. I rarely do anything with my hair. I’m just survival mode. not trying to be cute just comfy and functional.
Omg sierra 😢 i’m so sorry to hear about your body issues recently. Sending you love and strength to make it through this stage in postpartum and that you feel more confident soon. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and being so open and honest. You got this❤️
I too struggled with how to get dressed after having a baby. It was more having my clothes be practical than body image that made it so hard. I like accessories and mock neck tops and non of that felt conducive post partum. I found my new mom uniform that makes me feel good are wide legged linen pants with an elastic waist in a variety of colors or wide legged jumpers/ overalls with a simple tee underneath. Also, oversized button up shirts with a plain tank under for easy breastfeeding. These feel cute. Put together and very comfortable and all look great with my Birkenstocks or slides
felt emotional for you when you were talking about your body image struggles postpartum! Thank you for sharing your journey! You're helping so many people along the way
I felt the same in my postpartum period. Our bodies shift so much during pregnancy but after is almost harder to handle. I ended up getting a few new pieces that I loved and would build my outfits based off those, and eventually I moved through the challenging feeling, into my new self. You got this, you are in amazing mom and I love seeing you grow and change, thank you for sharing your life so openly.
They make headbands that do exactly what you’re looking for! They’re headbands that are designed specifically to mimic sunglasses, I think they’re called zazzy bandz!!
My eyes were starting to water when you showed graces graduation and froyo. Yall are just so precious, and especially during that scene it made me look forward to having a family of my own so much. My husband and I are trying for a baby soon, and this vlog just made my heart sing. Love you guys ❤
okay also I really hope this doesn’t get me cancelled but sometimes if you are feeling uncomfy in your body I think it is okay to want to change it! Not for looks but for feels if that makes any sense. Like to feel better in your skin, maybe that means doing plastic surgery, changing sex, wanting to gain/lose weight, or even getting your hair/nails done. sometimes mental health is guided by physical appearance and if it helps it helps, and who are we to judge what works for others to have a good mental
Totally agree. I have been working so hard on getting into shape and I lost some weight but also reversed my prediabetes, lowered my blood pressure, and feel soooo good not only health-wise but in my skin.
Hi Sierra as a mom of three I adopted a “momiform”. I found it to be the most practical way to meet the challenges you outlined you are having with getting dressed. It consists of button shirts like the one from your video, as well as solid colour tshirt dresses from H&M for the shirts paired with leggings. I find if you stick to solid colours it provides a neutral easy base that you can change the look of with shoes, hair and accessories. Its also really nice to just grab your standard base and add to it.
“Wow so pretty” that came from my 3 year old daughter when you had your striped button up shirt and leggings on. A child’s words are always so honest so even though you’re struggling postpartum my daughter and I think you’re pretty! ❤
I've never really liked my body, but being 11 months postpartum I just have no idea what to do with it. My boobs are MASSIVE and I'm just the biggest I've been in general. Plus, I have to wear clothes that are comfortable and pumping friendly. But then I also want to look cute! I totally understand the struggle and appreciate you being honest about it.
I am pregnant with my 3rd baby and have struggled with my style and feeling the exact way you described feeling and so this was so relatable and I feel so encouraged to try getting my style back or finding a new style that feels like it suits me. So thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and talking about your postpartum body and dressing it. I struggled so hard with this myself and it felt so isolating. Clothes don’t fit right, it’s confusing what to buy now that you’re not pregnant, what size are you now that you’re not pregnant? Throwing in breastfeeding is even harder! Finding tops that are accessible but cute seems impossible.
I remember last time postpartum feeling the same way. I have never been totally in tune with my style but postpartum I just felt that I lost myself and my body image took a really big hit after many years of being mostly at peace with my body. It took a while to start finding my style again, and getting my colors done (thanks to your video on it!) really helped me start finding clothes that I loved. But then I got pregnant again and now am very freshly postpartum again (8 days PP). I'm dreading having to start over but hoping that my last experience with this helps me put things into perspective and find a plan to move forward and find myself again with less time and frustration.
We’re here for you Sierra!! You’re beautiful!! But you already know that!! Also, try to remember that your children will only be little once, one day you won’t have to worry about the “mom outfit restrictions” and will be able to dress how you want without worrying about if you’re going to be able to get on the floor to play with your kids or if they will touch your white skirt with messy hands 🫶🏻🩷 I know it’s easier said than done, just try to be in the moment and remember that this is a temporary feeling. You are just as beautiful in sweatpants and a baggy T-shirt as you would be if you were all dressed up!💜💜
I totally understand how you feel about your body and wearing functional clothing that makes you look and feel your best while also low maintenance for a mom with little kids. It can be hard and daunting most days, don’t be hard on yourself and don’t worry if your not where you want to be mentally in terms of how you thought and looked at clothes before. It takes a while to feel comfortable and confident in your body after having kids, you go through so much, the postpartum stage can feel mentally, emotionally and physically draining while you have hormonal fluctuations and your body just trying to recover from having a baby 9 months ago. I know you know all this, you’re such a beautiful mom and wonderful human. You’re not alone and it takes 1 year for your body to fully heal after a c-section. As quietly as your baby changes daily you have to mentally stay on top of updating your parenting for this ever changing baby that is so happy and full of life, wanting to explore the world around them. At any stage of a babies like from birth on words, they all come with their own set of challenges, with all that being said, I know how mentally during the postpartum stage you want to feel back to your old new self again. Give yourself grace, time and don’t pressure yourself into anything that does not feel right for you at any given day or time. For me the times when I felt the most myself was 2 years after having all 3 of my kids. But keep up the good work, your doing amazing. ❤
Almost 2 months later and I’m finally catching up on Sierra & Carrie’s videos! I save both of your videos in a playlist to watch while I do cardio at the gym. I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of June and had to take a break from the gym. I’m in my second trimester now and I’m feeling a lot better. Today, was my first day back at the gym and I loved catching up with you ❤️
I absolutely love my carrier! It’s the Beco Baby Eight baby to toddler carrier. It is very similar to what you have but has a hood and allows you to zip down a layer on their back so it’s more breathable! Beco Baby Carrier 8 Hybrid Newborn to Toddler Carrier (7-45lbs) - All in 1 Mesh Backpack, Front and Hip Carrier with Adjustable Seat - Cooling Ergonomic Carrier (Boho Rainbow)
You are beautiful inside and out! I am a new 1st time grandma! I have been watching you since before you and Stephen got married. You are someone that I have never got bored with! I love your personality and your family! I feel like your family even though we have never met lol!!
Hi Sierra, long time follower here. I just wanted to say that I resonate so much with feeling uncomfortable in my body right now. I have no idea what my style is anymore with a changing body. Having PCOS and being on lexapro has really been difficult with significant weight gain. Anyways, thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing ❤
I'm in your exact same boat (PCOS and Lexapro, started after loss of my brother) and I'm the least confident in my outer and inner self than I have ever been. Man, it's so hard.
I’m in the same boat as you about body image. I’m 5 month pp +200 and have a toddler. What I find works for me are slightly cropped tops that are a flowy or boxy cut. They are low maintenance and easy to breastfeed but still in style. You can find graphic tees in that cut too. I’ll buy an assortment of colors and pair with leggings, bike shorts or flare leggings. When I go out I love cute flowy sundress that are easy to wear. Maybe try the baby doll style tierd dresses. They are cute and a flattering cut for pp bodies. I hope these tips help you like they helped me. You got this mama!
Awesome job Sierra on your first day of solo mom duty! Grace is adorable with Alice and it gets better seeing them play together. I hope you and your family have a great week!
Me and you are pp together and everything you go through is so relatable to me. My pp body has been so hard this time around, I feel the exact same as you. It’s so hard finding good outfits that are summer and toddler friendly and also are comfortable AND makes me feel feminine. It’s tough. Thankfully this is a short season and won’t last forever.
this is so random but if youre struggling w clothing then linen pants might be a good option. like wide leg linen pants with a drawstring on the top. they are so comfy and breathable it feels like wearing sweats or leggings but they’re just cuter and you can dress them up with different tops. they even make tshirts feel a lil cuter! and target always has tons of options
Feeling so similar to you when it comes to not loving your body at the moment and being in a weird place. I fully had a meltdown in my closet today and sobbed because I don’t feel good in anything I put on. Not because I’m a mom going through those kinds of changes, but because I’m getting older and my body is changing in ways I didn’t expect. It feels good to at least know I’m not the only one ❤ we will get through it together!
Body issues suck and I'm so sorry you're going through it. I'm going to give a few outfit ideas, if it's not your thing it's fine, but here's what is important; if the clothes don't work, it's the clothes issue, not yours, return or exchange and keep it moving. You don't have a bad body, just a changing one and you get to define your style and how you feel in it. Honestly, I would suggest a nice 90s/00s retro tracksuit bottoms for messy time, they can still be cute but they clean easily and just go for your tees or light tops go with it. Also dungarees are great to hang out in. Out and about any trousers/shorts/skirts that have elasticated waists or are stretchy, or a nice midi dress. There's lots of choices to get online now, if you have the financial ability then let yourself have nice and necessary things.
IDK how long postpartum that jeans aren't comfy especially with the c-section, but I think getting to wear jeans and jean shorts will help you feel cuter and also be a good option of getting dirty with kids!
Hearing you talk about your problems trying to find clothes that make you feel good while also meeting your needs as a mom…somebody get Cassie Ho on the case!
As mom who's beginning the empty nesting stage, I was a stay at home/work from home mom and breastfeed 2 kids...and now I've had a host of health issues. Building a practical wardrobe. Designate some leggings and shirts as strictly pj's and have some that are day clothes. Try a capsule wardrobe. When I was nursing and baby wearing, I found tank tops& vnecks and cardigans/button ups to be a go to. Easy to nurse in and added privacy for distracted baby. Try hair accessories and pretty stud earrings that won't get tangled with baby. Also pack away the things that aren't working right now. It'll make it easier to see what you have that does work. Good luck
This might seem like a weird suggestion. You're all covered up. Why not try something a little sexier? Try a V neck shirt, shorter skirts/pants. Less baggy. It's like you're hiding yourself in a comforter. Instinctually that might feel safer. But you know you'll feel better about yourself if you honor your body rather than hiding it. Good luck!
@@GildedButterfly I don't think it's a modesty thing. You've seen what she's worn in the past. I think she's hiding in giant "comfy" clothes because she's not used to her current body. As a tactic, emotionally, that will backfire. She says she doesn't like how she looks in her clothes. The cure for that is to change the clothes.
I will say I've bought nothing but oversized clothes since I had my son in 2020.i finally bought a shirt my regular size and more tailored and I love it! You can see that I actually do have a figure and my husband loved it and even my mom complimented me, which is rare 😅
This is such a valid point. I’ve had two little ones and even though I’m now back to my pre baby weight, my body looks so different in clothes. For me, accentuating the bits I really like makes me feel so much better about my appearance than trying to hide it all
you are always happy when wearing your tennis dresses - maybe try that? would it be stretchy enough to feed Alice? If not, you could look at grabbing a couple of clover dresses as they have a couple of buttons down the front for feeding access and might make you feel a better in your clothing?
Being able to express how you feel about your postpartum body and not sob on camera is empowering. It’s such a vulnerable to talk about I would burst into tears getting dressed
I am only about half way through the video, but I have so many thoughts! 😂 1. I have never been postpartum, but post miscarriage, I felt very similar about my body. I found that leggings and a cute shirt were very helpful. I love the a-line ish tanks from Old Navy were my favorite. 2. They have headbands that are made to do what sunglasses do! I saw them on TikTok of course. 3. Thank you for sharing your feelings. You have always made me feel so seen and you always are so open and honest and I really appreciate you! ❤
I'm not sure if it might help getting comfy clothes in different colors/prints that you don't mind getting dirty. Also patterns hide stains very well 💡 I'm not a mom but I'm struggling with health related body issues and the only thing I can wear are comfy simple items. So I try and wear summery colors and I have a bunch of tie-dye 😊
Maybe im weird but i feel like thrifted jeans are the best mom bottoms! Im ok with them getting ruined since they're thrifted. Im comfy in them because I never buy tight jeans. They also go with everything! Im also maybe a little weird cuz i could and have slept in jeans. I love them so much!
I am feeling the exact same way with my body due to PCOS. I was recently diagnosed after fighting for years to be listened to by my doctors. I have been working really hard to change my diet to reverse my symptoms and have been losing weight. I am still struggling so much when it comes to dressing my body and feeling comfortable. Your videos have helped me so much in the past when I was in the midst of an ED. I am wishing you all the best and sending positive vibes your way!
Postpartum is hard. I'm 9 months postpartum and I feel more in my body but I am still staying clear of certain jeans and dresses. It's so freaking hard. And then like you were talking about you can't just dress cutesy bc you have children and leggings are easy to play in. It's hard.
It makes me sad to know that you’re going through having so much anxiety and/or negativity with your body image right now… I understand it, however it does make me sad for you. I hope you know that it just takes time and the person you are now from what I see, is a wonderful, thoughtful, caring and patient mom who is raising two amazing little people that will be just as thoughtful and caring and patient as they grow. You bring light and sunshine to your beautiful families life and you bring so much positivity and joy to my life by watching you. You got this and thank you 🩷❤️🥰
“It’s 8:30. I’ve made it to 8:30” I’ve never related to anything more 🤣. Totally understand what you’re going through. I have two girls myself with similar age gaps and woweee it’s a time. I think I did pyjama chic for a very long time whilst waiting for myself to magically wake up one morning being effortlessly flawless fabulous in everything I wore. Anytime I had a moment like this I just reminded myself that I grew and nurtured life. Our bodies are so incredibly amazing. How lucky we are. It’s so hard when your body stops being yours. Eventually we will get back to being more ourselves and having ourselves fit in with the priorities. It can just take a while. And that’s ok. Plus, pyjama chic is a vibe. Let’s rally behind that. You’re beautiful inside out. And your girls will see that everyday. Regardless of what you wear. Loved this vlog, as well as everything you post. 😊
The last time I was recommended your videos you were either about to or just gave birth to your first kid, and now you have TWO?? It’s such a joy to see, my sister has been struggling for 2 years or so and we only just this weekend found out she’s finally pregnant.
I have always struggled but with each baby it’s resurfaced to accept this ever changing body . With my fifth and final now and my journey to feeling better not loosing weight I’ve finally come to peace with my body even though there’s days I still struggle . I seem to find myself loving clothes but never wearing them cause my kids are so messy they get dirty or ruined right away so they just sit in my closest 😭
Have you thought about maybe getting some of the sport skirts that have bike shorts in them? You are still basically wearing shorts and a t shirt but the skirt aspect adds some style to it. ❤️
I have a few clothing recs as a plus sized pediatric speech therapist who works with lots of toddlers. I need mobility, things that wash easily, and still look professional and feel comfortable- croft and barrow stretch pants at Kohl's are CLUTCH, lots of colors, plus sized availability and wash well (they do shrink up in the leg a bit though). For shirts, the Torris half sleeve half button up pullover shirt is great - they also go well with leggings. I hope you the style and body image starts to ease up ❤
You are a super mom! I have one 14 month old daughter, and it was motivating to see you navigate all the many steps throughout the day of motherhood. And the realness of the stop and go moments like when Alice needed an outfit change. I feel like as a mom sometimes I feel like I’m on the struggle bus and no one else has those moments haha
Also, you’re beautiful!! I stand in solidarity with you regarding not feeling my best postpartum, but I keep telling myself it’s a phase, it will get betyer
Sierra, I love the oversized button down! Body image is extra complicated postpartum. I saw this recommendation already in the comments, but I think packing away some of your clothes might help so all you have out right now is “kid”/“breastfeeding”-friendly items. That might make getting dressed a little bit less frustrating.
My oldest is Grace’s age, and my youngest is 9 months (both girls too!) I appreciate your honesty so much when it comes to dressing as a mom. When I go to wear something I feel like the list has 15 criteria it has to meet in order to be wearable. And then it gets destroyed in an hour. Just here to say, same!
I dont have kids but i feel you with the struggle. when i went in office for my corporate job i had fashion down i wanted to look good and feel good. Now i have worked at home full-time for 4 years now and if i put jeans on its a fancy day. I live in bike shorts sweatshirts and sweats. I have no desire to wear makeup do anything than wear a messy bun. I been struggling to find that feel good again but its hard, why get dressed im literally going to see probably 2 people on a daily basis. Loved hearing you talk about it and not feeling like im crazy for feeling this way.
I have the same coffeemaker as you, and just an FYI to prevent the foamy milk from sticking to the sides of the frother (since that’s the best part) - just swirl the frother for a sec until you see the foam release from the sides, then pour it in your coffee and you’ll maximize foam and it’s the best ever.
Bless you, working hard in mornings and dealing with the body image (you look cute btw) and managing 2 kids solo. Your hair and skin look incredible btw
Hey Sierra, you are so beautiful and I think it is amazing you want to dress for your kids. However, it is important to remember to do things for yourself too. Maybe taking some time to wear a cute athlesure fit (I remember a few years ago how you would always talk about feeling great in a Fabletics bra and leggings) and take yourself out on a date (no kids, husband, responsibilities) where you do something you like (maybe a walk or pedicure or smth) can help you find what it is that works for you again! Even if it’s just an hour once a week, it is important to fill your cup before you can fill anyone else’s. You got this beautiful, I believe in you!! Also no shame at all in increasing childcare now that you’ve increased kids!!!! Sending you love :)
Sierra everything your feeling is perfectly normal dressing everyday with 2 kids and breastfeeding so you have to have the easy access or 2 pieces is the only option Maybe buy something in a fun print or a bright color that you love that you can add to your wardrobe to add a pop with out accessories or jewelry Also you look so cute in the hair scarves why not get a couple in a favorite print or color to add a pop I’m think a sunflower scarf perhaps?
Postpartum life is so hard but amazing. You’re doing awesome and feeling strange in your own body is totally normal. I pretty much found so long as I was breastfeeding I was bleh in my body. Getting back into jeans helped but took a while. Finding a cute “uniform” you’re comfortable in enough to get dirty ( or at least a bit grubby) plus kind of knowing you will change your top 3x a day and having a versatile enough outfit for that might help. I know you’re a planner so maybe think of 3 top plus 1 bottom outfits daily? That way you plan for the worst and hope for the best 🤣 And yea might have to ditch the accessories for now but it will pass
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You DID wear that outfit!! Even if you only had it on for a few hours, you still wore it! And feeling okay in an outfit for a few hours is a win! We put makeup on to wash it off, we curl our hair to have it fall flat. It is so hard for enjoyment to not be clouded by the threat of it fading away, but you did succeed in wearing an outfit that made you feel a bit better, if only for a little while!
Something that has helped me immensely in feeling better in my body and my clothing postpartum is to pack away out of season clothes/clothes that don't fit, and keeping a super pared down wardrobe. It reduces my decision fatigue and I know that every item of clothing in my closet is an option that I won't want to just take off as soon as I put it on.
Girl you need a confidence makeover! And do it with Rachel since that’s how you two met doing that series on your main channel! You can both find your style being postpartum again and find clothes you feel confident and amazing in. Love you girl and your vlogs 💕
“I feel okay in this,” is honestly a win when you’re postpartum.
It’s such a vulnerable time. Your body is still changing, your emotions are tender, you’re constantly getting spit up on…the list goes on.
I do know one thing: Your sweet little girls see you as the most beautiful woman in the world. 🩷
Thanks for being open about how you’re feeling. I think almost every mom can relate. 🥲
Hearing you talk about your struggles with image and finding clothes, makes me think that if you ever ventured into a maternity clothing line ( by yourself or even a collab) it would be spectacular! You've already made body positive clothing before, so I know this would be right up your alley!
For me personally, having struggled with body image/getting dressed (though not postpartum and I dont have kids, so might be totally different!) but it really helped to get fully dressed and kind of fancy for just an hour per day. You can time it, so you wouldn't have to worry too much that the fit is inconvenient, but you still can feel put together for a short time a day. Hope you feel better about it soon Sierra! Sending love from The Netherlands to you and your lovely family!
I found out last night (June 12th, 2024) that my husband and I are expecting a baby GIRL! I am so excited. It incredible to be able to watch Sierra and Stephen parent together, laughing at spaghetti sauce, and watching Grace grow and learn so much !!!
i would love whatever you post, but selfishly, i’m loving these 30+ minute videos 😍
I sense a little postpartum slump, baby blues in this vlog. Just a little reminder that your harrumph feelings could be that. Enjoyed your vlog, as always.
Sierra, you have just had a baby 5 minutes ago and you are dressed! That’s a Victory on its own. Also your body had 2 amazing babies!!! That’s AMAZING but also changes everything in our body. Makes it all wobbly and weird. Give yourself some time to get to know your body as a couple of months won’t do it. As for outfits, wear all your pretty dresses and anything that will make you feel better and comfy and plan 3 outfits a day because between a baby and a toddler you may need more than that. You will look back one day and you will not remember the outfit, only that you and Grace made smoothies and went to fro yo after her graduation and Grace was so proud of herself.🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊🤗🤗🤗🤗
Seeing you interacting with your babies around 22:30 was my favorite part of this video. You absolutely light up talking to them. Here's to hoping your body struggles are short lived. Your haircut is ADORABLE btw
I love your honesty about body image. I’m going through a similar period. I stopped working out cold turkey to finish my last 6 months of nursing school. I finished thank goodness but my body looks less than desired to put it nicely.
Working out really was my stress management and helped with my confidence with looking and feeling better. It also helps with regulating my appetite to fuel my runs. So I’m getting back into it and look forward to the benefits of working out again. But all that to say I literally hate getting dressed, I avoid looking in the mirror and thank goodness I can hide behind scrubs and not think about my image.
I really admire you Sierra! I think you’re doing great, moving and raising two wonderful girls is busy work. It’s great you’re putting in effort, making time to eat and get dressed and showered when you get the chance. That’s so important. It helps me as well even though my situation is so different from yours.
Thanks for sharing such a vulnerable moment with us. You're struggling and that's totally okay. You don't need to have it all figured out in order to share it.
i was tearing up when you were talking about how much of a struggle it has been getting ready and feeling more comfortable in pajamas and comfy clothes. i've struggled with my weight for soooo long and lately it's been really getting to me seeing my body in outfits i want to wear but not liking how they look or feeling confident. then it's just a cycle of changing clothes for 20 minutes, getting frustrated and sweaty, and landing on a basic/unflattering outfit cause it's just easier 🥲 although it hurts my heart to see you having similar struggles, it's comforting to see someone express the same feelings, so thank you for sharing
I know exactly how you feel! Sending you positive energy ✌🏼
Your singing in the car with Grace was SO CUTE oh my gosh. 😭
Honestly, I don't want to give unsolicited tips but it does help me when I am feeling blah in my clothes but don't want anything high maintenance is just bold fun colours and patterns in comfy clothes. Something that even if it gets a stain it is hard to make out the stain. Beige and pastels look good but are harder to maintain. It might not be everyone's style but it is hard not to feel happy with a fun colorful pattern. Might help.
I can remember feeling that same way after having my daughter . I came home from the hospital thinking after a few weeks I would lose most of that 70 pounds I had gained. I was so wrong. When I did finally weigh myself, I had only lost about ten pounds and she weighed 7.1 of that. I just sat in the floor and had myself a good little cry. It wasn’t long though before I did get back to loving myself again. You look beautiful and you have 2 beautiful girls. Be good to yourself and give yourself some grace. When I was 34 I had breast cancer and I gained so much weight during the treatment but I lost that too. You can do it.
i saw a tiktok of a headband that is designed exactly to give you that look of having sunglasses pull back your hair!! i forget the creator but they do make headbands like that they are super cute!
Yes! Came here to say search "sunglasses headband" this product exists! 😎
I heard about them top, I think they are called Zazzy bands
I kept seeing the ads for this lol
I saw Kelly Strack review one ❤
Get some cute summer dresses. flowy and cute. it will change your attitude. you look beautiful Sierra. Trust me being a mom is a full-time job that never ends you are doing great!!
i completely agree about getting dresses! i’m in my third trimester and basically live in flowy summer dresses 😂 it’s such an easy way to feel feminine and pretty but also comfortable with your body and the way clothes fit
Dresses are cute but not ideal when breastfeeding.. coming from a mom currently breastfeeding😅
My kids love to watch your videos and they always make my day and lets me know I’m not alone. Been having a lot of problems with body image after having two kids a 1 year and a half apart, it has been really difficult but your videos have helped me try to actually get dressed and not look like Adam Sandler all the time. Thank you for being you.
Oh sierra!! I would love to give you the biggest hug. Being so vulnerable about how you feel getting dressed hit so many notes that I felt after 3 kids. So proud of you for putting the outfit on and just doing it❤ sometimes we have to push ourselves and thank you for giving us a glimpse into that vulnerability.
Linen sets were my go to postpartum!! Matching sets make you look put together with 0 effort, flowy button up shirts for easy breastfeeding, high waisted flowy pants are comfy and kind to the incision!
I’m an elementary music teacher (plus size- 16/18). I love JUMPSUITS! All kinds- dressed up, casual, pajama, etc. I don’t have kids, but I bet they can sometimes be breastfeeding friendly. Some of my favorite places for casual/comfy ones are Maurice’s, Target, Torrid, and Old Navy (I always buy online). I love you girl- you got this!❤
As long as I breastfed, i felt like my body wasn't mine. This a weird feeling I can't explain, but both time, after 10months-1year, when I stopped breastfeeding, i felt ''home'' again right after and reconnected with myself almost immediatly.
I’m 4 months postpartum with baby #2. I’m definitely the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life, and completely understand how you feel and totally feel the same way. Most important thing we can do is give ourselves Grace (which is both our daughters names by the way ❤). We will get back to a better place physically, it just takes time.
I just wanted to say how much I relate to your body image struggles. As someone who also loves clothes, I feel this so deeply. My style changed so that I can play with my toddler on the floor, and it changed with pregnancy and postpartum. And it’s hard when your closet doesn’t fit your needs. But you don’t want to buy all new stuff because you won’t breastfeed forever. I hope it gets better with time and as you find your style in this short term phase.
Idk if you’ll ever see this but after my second csection, I felt the same as you with my body for a long time (a good year+ pp). And it is hard but I will say it does get better- in time. You will feel at home in your body again one day! Be gentle on yourself in the meantime; it has carried life afterall. 💖😊
I work at a summer camp that also has a day camp for younger kids who don’t stay overnight, and we have an afternoon “recharge time” because the kids don’t want to “nap” or “rest” but they really need it since we’re running around in the heat all day. So I totally get “the kid needs a rest but don’t want to so imma come up with a creative name for a nap” lol 😂
What about designing post maternity clothing!! I think you would be so awesome at that!!!! Also you are amazing and beautiful and so many of us have been there/are there! You are not alone and it is going to be ok!! ❤❤❤
Isn't that normal clothes you just need to lose the extra weight ....
@@marijatrajkovic3320 here’s the thing. So much of the time after baby or a surgery etc your body is different than it was before. Nothing to do with weight. Feeling good in your clothing and choices especially when taking life with kids into consideration has nothing to do with what you weigh, and everything to do with how you feel. How many times do we look in the mirror and not like what we see vs the day before when we felt confident? Clothing is about self expression and having post maternity clothes in g that takes that self expression into account while accommodating life with a newborn could be cool. The number on the scale does not reflect anything other than the number on the scale.
I just want to say Sierra, you are so GOSH DARN pretty! I know looks don’t matter nearly as much as pretty much literally everything else in a person and looks is not even in the top 10 reasons of why I like and follow and watch you, but seriously, you are just SO pretty! I am also post partum (but already 9 months in…!) and I’m still in that feeling of discomfort in my body and it totally sucks! I hope the both of us can snap out of it soon. Just know that for me, you are one of the things I’m counting on to help me get there ❤
I love how intentional you are with how you talk to Grace. Were your parents the same way?
As a mom to an almost 3 year old and about to have another my goal is to speak to them with the same compassion, intention, etc. but I find myself getting overwhelmed and at times explosive similar to my mom. Mom guilt is rough but I know it’s possible!!
The more I watch your vlogs the more I think I might be ready for baby 2 in the next year or two. Hearing you say this time around helped to heal your trauma from your first is the most encouraging thing I’ve heard.
Thank you for being vulnerable and showing yourself working through your body image struggles in real time. My daughter is 2.5 and I still feel like I don't know how to dress this new body.
GRACE SINGING LOVE IS AN OPEN DOOR I AM CRYING
Omg it made me cry too 😂 and when grace said she is proud of herself for graduating 🥲
Girl, I feel you. I just had twins shortly after you had Alice and I’m at the same place with my body. I’m still wearing maternity clothes. I’ll wear the same leggings all day that I wear to bed the night before. I haven’t wore makeup in a couple weeks. I rarely do anything with my hair. I’m just survival mode. not trying to be cute just comfy and functional.
Omg sierra 😢 i’m so sorry to hear about your body issues recently. Sending you love and strength to make it through this stage in postpartum and that you feel more confident soon. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and being so open and honest. You got this❤️
I too struggled with how to get dressed after having a baby. It was more having my clothes be practical than body image that made it so hard. I like accessories and mock neck tops and non of that felt conducive post partum. I found my new mom uniform that makes me feel good are wide legged linen pants with an elastic waist in a variety of colors or wide legged jumpers/ overalls with a simple tee underneath. Also, oversized button up shirts with a plain tank under for easy breastfeeding. These feel cute. Put together and very comfortable and all look great with my Birkenstocks or slides
They do have headbands that mimic sunglasses in your hair! They’re called zazzy bands! Or Amazon may have their own version
oh my god, Alice's little smile and snuggle into you after you kissed her at 29:53, is quite possibly the cutest thing i've ever witnessed
felt emotional for you when you were talking about your body image struggles postpartum! Thank you for sharing your journey! You're helping so many people along the way
I would LOVE to see a video where you get a stylist for the postpartum life! Maybe even include Rachel. Could be a fun video! ❤
getting a personal trainer you see 3 times a week is life changingggg. a very good investment
Professionals who can teach you lifting correctly 🎉🎉🎉 key
@@DevHazy yesss! people hire professionals therapists for mental strength, people should do the same when it comes to their physical health
I started pt in December and did it 4 months and it was the only thing that kept me going to attend each time and now its just a habit!
I felt the same in my postpartum period. Our bodies shift so much during pregnancy but after is almost harder to handle. I ended up getting a few new pieces that I loved and would build my outfits based off those, and eventually I moved through the challenging feeling, into my new self. You got this, you are in amazing mom and I love seeing you grow and change, thank you for sharing your life so openly.
They make headbands that do exactly what you’re looking for! They’re headbands that are designed specifically to mimic sunglasses, I think they’re called zazzy bandz!!
My eyes were starting to water when you showed graces graduation and froyo. Yall are just so precious, and especially during that scene it made me look forward to having a family of my own so much. My husband and I are trying for a baby soon, and this vlog just made my heart sing. Love you guys ❤
okay also I really hope this doesn’t get me cancelled but sometimes if you are feeling uncomfy in your body I think it is okay to want to change it! Not for looks but for feels if that makes any sense. Like to feel better in your skin, maybe that means doing plastic surgery, changing sex, wanting to gain/lose weight, or even getting your hair/nails done. sometimes mental health is guided by physical appearance and if it helps it helps, and who are we to judge what works for others to have a good mental
Totally agree. I have been working so hard on getting into shape and I lost some weight but also reversed my prediabetes, lowered my blood pressure, and feel soooo good not only health-wise but in my skin.
Hi Sierra as a mom of three I adopted a “momiform”. I found it to be the most practical way to meet the challenges you outlined you are having with getting dressed. It consists of button shirts like the one from your video, as well as solid colour tshirt dresses from H&M for the shirts paired with leggings. I find if you stick to solid colours it provides a neutral easy base that you can change the look of with shoes, hair and accessories. Its also really nice to just grab your standard base and add to it.
“Wow so pretty” that came from my 3 year old daughter when you had your striped button up shirt and leggings on. A child’s words are always so honest so even though you’re struggling postpartum my daughter and I think you’re pretty! ❤
I feel like floral patterned skirts help cause they hide some of the gunk lol also dresses that are stretchy at the top!
I've never really liked my body, but being 11 months postpartum I just have no idea what to do with it. My boobs are MASSIVE and I'm just the biggest I've been in general. Plus, I have to wear clothes that are comfortable and pumping friendly. But then I also want to look cute! I totally understand the struggle and appreciate you being honest about it.
I am pregnant with my 3rd baby and have struggled with my style and feeling the exact way you described feeling and so this was so relatable and I feel so encouraged to try getting my style back or finding a new style that feels like it suits me. So thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and talking about your postpartum body and dressing it. I struggled so hard with this myself and it felt so isolating. Clothes don’t fit right, it’s confusing what to buy now that you’re not pregnant, what size are you now that you’re not pregnant? Throwing in breastfeeding is even harder! Finding tops that are accessible but cute seems impossible.
I remember last time postpartum feeling the same way. I have never been totally in tune with my style but postpartum I just felt that I lost myself and my body image took a really big hit after many years of being mostly at peace with my body. It took a while to start finding my style again, and getting my colors done (thanks to your video on it!) really helped me start finding clothes that I loved. But then I got pregnant again and now am very freshly postpartum again (8 days PP). I'm dreading having to start over but hoping that my last experience with this helps me put things into perspective and find a plan to move forward and find myself again with less time and frustration.
We’re here for you Sierra!! You’re beautiful!! But you already know that!! Also, try to remember that your children will only be little once, one day you won’t have to worry about the “mom outfit restrictions” and will be able to dress how you want without worrying about if you’re going to be able to get on the floor to play with your kids or if they will touch your white skirt with messy hands 🫶🏻🩷 I know it’s easier said than done, just try to be in the moment and remember that this is a temporary feeling. You are just as beautiful in sweatpants and a baggy T-shirt as you would be if you were all dressed up!💜💜
I totally understand how you feel about your body and wearing functional clothing that makes you look and feel your best while also low maintenance for a mom with little kids. It can be hard and daunting most days, don’t be hard on yourself and don’t worry if your not where you want to be mentally in terms of how you thought and looked at clothes before. It takes a while to feel comfortable and confident in your body after having kids, you go through so much, the postpartum stage can feel mentally, emotionally and physically draining while you have hormonal fluctuations and your body just trying to recover from having a baby 9 months ago. I know you know all this, you’re such a beautiful mom and wonderful human. You’re not alone and it takes 1 year for your body to fully heal after a c-section. As quietly as your baby changes daily you have to mentally stay on top of updating your parenting for this ever changing baby that is so happy and full of life, wanting to explore the world around them. At any stage of a babies like from birth on words, they all come with their own set of challenges, with all that being said, I know how mentally during the postpartum stage you want to feel back to your old new self again. Give yourself grace, time and don’t pressure yourself into anything that does not feel right for you at any given day or time. For me the times when I felt the most myself was 2 years after having all 3 of my kids. But keep up the good work, your doing amazing. ❤
Almost 2 months later and I’m finally catching up on Sierra & Carrie’s videos! I save both of your videos in a playlist to watch while I do cardio at the gym. I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of June and had to take a break from the gym. I’m in my second trimester now and I’m feeling a lot better. Today, was my first day back at the gym and I loved catching up with you ❤️
I absolutely love my carrier! It’s the Beco Baby Eight baby to toddler carrier. It is very similar to what you have but has a hood and allows you to zip down a layer on their back so it’s more breathable!
Beco Baby Carrier 8 Hybrid Newborn to Toddler Carrier (7-45lbs) - All in 1 Mesh Backpack, Front and Hip Carrier with Adjustable Seat - Cooling Ergonomic Carrier (Boho Rainbow)
You are beautiful inside and out! I am a new 1st time grandma! I have been watching you since before you and Stephen got married. You are someone that I have never got bored with! I love your personality and your family! I feel like your family even though we have never met lol!!
Same here
I love Sierra. I have been watching her for about 7 years. She is such a beautiful soul.
Hi Sierra, long time follower here. I just wanted to say that I resonate so much with feeling uncomfortable in my body right now. I have no idea what my style is anymore with a changing body. Having PCOS and being on lexapro has really been difficult with significant weight gain. Anyways, thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing ❤
I'm in your exact same boat (PCOS and Lexapro, started after loss of my brother) and I'm the least confident in my outer and inner self than I have ever been. Man, it's so hard.
I’m in the same boat as you about body image. I’m 5 month pp +200 and have a toddler.
What I find works for me are slightly cropped tops that are a flowy or boxy cut. They are low maintenance and easy to breastfeed but still in style. You can find graphic tees in that cut too. I’ll buy an assortment of colors and pair with leggings, bike shorts or flare leggings.
When I go out I love cute flowy sundress that are easy to wear. Maybe try the baby doll style tierd dresses. They are cute and a flattering cut for pp bodies.
I hope these tips help you like they helped me. You got this mama!
Awesome job Sierra on your first day of solo mom duty! Grace is adorable with Alice and it gets better seeing them play together. I hope you and your family have a great week!
Me and you are pp together and everything you go through is so relatable to me. My pp body has been so hard this time around, I feel the exact same as you. It’s so hard finding good outfits that are summer and toddler friendly and also are comfortable AND makes me feel feminine. It’s tough. Thankfully this is a short season and won’t last forever.
this is so random but if youre struggling w clothing then linen pants might be a good option. like wide leg linen pants with a drawstring on the top. they are so comfy and breathable it feels like wearing sweats or leggings but they’re just cuter and you can dress them up with different tops. they even make tshirts feel a lil cuter! and target always has tons of options
Feeling so similar to you when it comes to not loving your body at the moment and being in a weird place. I fully had a meltdown in my closet today and sobbed because I don’t feel good in anything I put on. Not because I’m a mom going through those kinds of changes, but because I’m getting older and my body is changing in ways I didn’t expect. It feels good to at least know I’m not the only one ❤ we will get through it together!
Body issues suck and I'm so sorry you're going through it. I'm going to give a few outfit ideas, if it's not your thing it's fine, but here's what is important; if the clothes don't work, it's the clothes issue, not yours, return or exchange and keep it moving. You don't have a bad body, just a changing one and you get to define your style and how you feel in it.
Honestly, I would suggest a nice 90s/00s retro tracksuit bottoms for messy time, they can still be cute but they clean easily and just go for your tees or light tops go with it. Also dungarees are great to hang out in.
Out and about any trousers/shorts/skirts that have elasticated waists or are stretchy, or a nice midi dress. There's lots of choices to get online now, if you have the financial ability then let yourself have nice and necessary things.
Size inclusive carries also make it easy for dads to share in the baby wearing responsibilities!!!
Girl, I commend you for raising TWO children and still being able to vlog along the way…like what?! How do you do it? You’re amazing Sierra 💖
IDK how long postpartum that jeans aren't comfy especially with the c-section, but I think getting to wear jeans and jean shorts will help you feel cuter and also be a good option of getting dirty with kids!
Hearing you talk about your problems trying to find clothes that make you feel good while also meeting your needs as a mom…somebody get Cassie Ho on the case!
As mom who's beginning the empty nesting stage, I was a stay at home/work from home mom and breastfeed 2 kids...and now I've had a host of health issues. Building a practical wardrobe. Designate some leggings and shirts as strictly pj's and have some that are day clothes. Try a capsule wardrobe. When I was nursing and baby wearing, I found tank tops& vnecks and cardigans/button ups to be a go to. Easy to nurse in and added privacy for distracted baby. Try hair accessories and pretty stud earrings that won't get tangled with baby. Also pack away the things that aren't working right now. It'll make it easier to see what you have that does work. Good luck
This might seem like a weird suggestion. You're all covered up. Why not try something a little sexier? Try a V neck shirt, shorter skirts/pants. Less baggy. It's like you're hiding yourself in a comforter. Instinctually that might feel safer. But you know you'll feel better about yourself if you honor your body rather than hiding it.
Good luck!
I don’t know of Sierra’s reasoning, but modesty/covering can be beautiful and confidence-building too!
@@GildedButterfly I don't think it's a modesty thing. You've seen what she's worn in the past. I think she's hiding in giant "comfy" clothes because she's not used to her current body. As a tactic, emotionally, that will backfire. She says she doesn't like how she looks in her clothes. The cure for that is to change the clothes.
I will say I've bought nothing but oversized clothes since I had my son in 2020.i finally bought a shirt my regular size and more tailored and I love it! You can see that I actually do have a figure and my husband loved it and even my mom complimented me, which is rare 😅
This is such a valid point. I’ve had two little ones and even though I’m now back to my pre baby weight, my body looks so different in clothes. For me, accentuating the bits I really like makes me feel so much better about my appearance than trying to hide it all
you are always happy when wearing your tennis dresses - maybe try that? would it be stretchy enough to feed Alice? If not, you could look at grabbing a couple of clover dresses as they have a couple of buttons down the front for feeding access and might make you feel a better in your clothing?
Being able to express how you feel about your postpartum body and not sob on camera is empowering. It’s such a vulnerable to talk about I would burst into tears getting dressed
I am only about half way through the video, but I have so many thoughts! 😂
1. I have never been postpartum, but post miscarriage, I felt very similar about my body. I found that leggings and a cute shirt were very helpful. I love the a-line ish tanks from Old Navy were my favorite.
2. They have headbands that are made to do what sunglasses do! I saw them on TikTok of course.
3. Thank you for sharing your feelings. You have always made me feel so seen and you always are so open and honest and I really appreciate you! ❤
I'm not sure if it might help getting comfy clothes in different colors/prints that you don't mind getting dirty.
Also patterns hide stains very well 💡
I'm not a mom but I'm struggling with health related body issues and the only thing I can wear are comfy simple items. So I try and wear summery colors and I have a bunch of tie-dye 😊
Maybe im weird but i feel like thrifted jeans are the best mom bottoms! Im ok with them getting ruined since they're thrifted. Im comfy in them because I never buy tight jeans. They also go with everything! Im also maybe a little weird cuz i could and have slept in jeans. I love them so much!
I am feeling the exact same way with my body due to PCOS. I was recently diagnosed after fighting for years to be listened to by my doctors. I have been working really hard to change my diet to reverse my symptoms and have been losing weight. I am still struggling so much when it comes to dressing my body and feeling comfortable. Your videos have helped me so much in the past when I was in the midst of an ED. I am wishing you all the best and sending positive vibes your way!
Postpartum is hard. I'm 9 months postpartum and I feel more in my body but I am still staying clear of certain jeans and dresses. It's so freaking hard. And then like you were talking about you can't just dress cutesy bc you have children and leggings are easy to play in. It's hard.
Thank you for talking to us on your self imagine and mental health things. It is so refreshing to see online. ❤
It makes me sad to know that you’re going through having so much anxiety and/or negativity with your body image right now… I understand it, however it does make me sad for you. I hope you know that it just takes time and the person you are now from what I see, is a wonderful, thoughtful, caring and patient mom who is raising two amazing little people that will be just as thoughtful and caring and patient as they grow. You bring light and sunshine to your beautiful families life and you bring so much positivity and joy to my life by watching you. You got this and thank you 🩷❤️🥰
“It’s 8:30. I’ve made it to 8:30”
I’ve never related to anything more 🤣.
Totally understand what you’re going through. I have two girls myself with similar age gaps and woweee it’s a time. I think I did pyjama chic for a very long time whilst waiting for myself to magically wake up one morning being effortlessly flawless fabulous in everything I wore. Anytime I had a moment like this I just reminded myself that I grew and nurtured life. Our bodies are so incredibly amazing. How lucky we are. It’s so hard when your body stops being yours. Eventually we will get back to being more ourselves and having ourselves fit in with the priorities. It can just take a while. And that’s ok. Plus, pyjama chic is a vibe. Let’s rally behind that. You’re beautiful inside out. And your girls will see that everyday. Regardless of what you wear.
Loved this vlog, as well as everything you post. 😊
The last time I was recommended your videos you were either about to or just gave birth to your first kid, and now you have TWO?? It’s such a joy to see, my sister has been struggling for 2 years or so and we only just this weekend found out she’s finally pregnant.
I have always struggled but with each baby it’s resurfaced to accept this ever changing body . With my fifth and final now and my journey to feeling better not loosing weight I’ve finally come to peace with my body even though there’s days I still struggle . I seem to find myself loving clothes but never wearing them cause my kids are so messy they get dirty or ruined right away so they just sit in my closest 😭
Have you thought about maybe getting some of the sport skirts that have bike shorts in them? You are still basically wearing shorts and a t shirt but the skirt aspect adds some style to it. ❤️
I have a few clothing recs as a plus sized pediatric speech therapist who works with lots of toddlers. I need mobility, things that wash easily, and still look professional and feel comfortable- croft and barrow stretch pants at Kohl's are CLUTCH, lots of colors, plus sized availability and wash well (they do shrink up in the leg a bit though). For shirts, the Torris half sleeve half button up pullover shirt is great - they also go well with leggings. I hope you the style and body image starts to ease up ❤
You are a super mom! I have one 14 month old daughter, and it was motivating to see you navigate all the many steps throughout the day of motherhood. And the realness of the stop and go moments like when Alice needed an outfit change. I feel like as a mom sometimes I feel like I’m on the struggle bus and no one else has those moments haha
Also, you’re beautiful!! I stand in solidarity with you regarding not feeling my best postpartum, but I keep telling myself it’s a phase, it will get betyer
Sierra, I love the oversized button down! Body image is extra complicated postpartum. I saw this recommendation already in the comments, but I think packing away some of your clothes might help so all you have out right now is “kid”/“breastfeeding”-friendly items. That might make getting dressed a little bit less frustrating.
Maybe you could make a video on capsule wardrobes! It may help with your personal style dilemma
My oldest is Grace’s age, and my youngest is 9 months (both girls too!) I appreciate your honesty so much when it comes to dressing as a mom. When I go to wear something I feel like the list has 15 criteria it has to meet in order to be wearable. And then it gets destroyed in an hour. Just here to say, same!
29:49 alice’s lil reaction and smile after you kissed her head. 🥹🥹🥹🥹
Seeing the smile Alice gave after you kissed her on the head melted my heart! You're such an amazing woman and momma!
I dont have kids but i feel you with the struggle. when i went in office for my corporate job i had fashion down i wanted to look good and feel good. Now i have worked at home full-time for 4 years now and if i put jeans on its a fancy day. I live in bike shorts sweatshirts and sweats. I have no desire to wear makeup do anything than wear a messy bun. I been struggling to find that feel good again but its hard, why get dressed im literally going to see probably 2 people on a daily basis. Loved hearing you talk about it and not feeling like im crazy for feeling this way.
I have the same coffeemaker as you, and just an FYI to prevent the foamy milk from sticking to the sides of the frother (since that’s the best part) - just swirl the frother for a sec until you see the foam release from the sides, then pour it in your coffee and you’ll maximize foam and it’s the best ever.
Bless you, working hard in mornings and dealing with the body image (you look cute btw) and managing 2 kids solo. Your hair and skin look incredible btw
Hey Sierra, you are so beautiful and I think it is amazing you want to dress for your kids. However, it is important to remember to do things for yourself too. Maybe taking some time to wear a cute athlesure fit (I remember a few years ago how you would always talk about feeling great in a Fabletics bra and leggings) and take yourself out on a date (no kids, husband, responsibilities) where you do something you like (maybe a walk or pedicure or smth) can help you find what it is that works for you again! Even if it’s just an hour once a week, it is important to fill your cup before you can fill anyone else’s. You got this beautiful, I believe in you!! Also no shame at all in increasing childcare now that you’ve increased kids!!!! Sending you love :)
Aww Alice is totally a little Stephen 😂 so cute!
I cannot get over Alice’s little snores during the garden tour!!!
Sierra everything your feeling is perfectly normal dressing everyday with 2 kids and breastfeeding so you have to have the easy access or 2 pieces is the only option
Maybe buy something in a fun print or a bright color that you love that you can add to your wardrobe to add a pop with out accessories or jewelry
Also you look so cute in the hair scarves why not get a couple in a favorite print or color to add a pop I’m think a sunflower scarf perhaps?
Whenever I feel really blah, I ask my friends to style me! It gets me out of my rut. Could be a fun main channel video :)
Postpartum life is so hard but amazing. You’re doing awesome and feeling strange in your own body is totally normal. I pretty much found so long as I was breastfeeding I was bleh in my body. Getting back into jeans helped but took a while. Finding a cute “uniform” you’re comfortable in enough to get dirty ( or at least a bit grubby) plus kind of knowing you will change your top 3x a day and having a versatile enough outfit for that might help. I know you’re a planner so maybe think of 3 top plus 1 bottom outfits daily? That way you plan for the worst and hope for the best 🤣 And yea might have to ditch the accessories for now but it will pass