I’m 68 and looking back on so many years of wishing I could keep my house clean and tidy easier. But I am part of the “accumulate more” generation. I’ve learned so much from you younger gals and have been decluttering lately and also just cutting back on shopping. I can already tell a big difference in the way my home looks!
I’m a part of that generation as well I’m 64 everything is falling out of closets now stuff is in the living room falling out of the family room I’m literally ashamed but I’m not gonna quit and I’m not gonna give up right after Christmas 2022 starts my new year of decluttering I can’t stand living like this anymore I’m right there with your sister we can do it
I think it is addictive. When my sister and I would have a garage sale it was so satisfying to have things gone and make $$. I would look for more things to pull out and offer for sale. Now I'm thinking money might not have been alI I was looking for. That feeling of wow it's gone and I'm glad because I really didn't need it anyway was part of the payoff.
Hahaha so I’m not he only one. Nothing like getting rid of stuff to “ lighten” my mood. Everyone says my place feels so peaceful and calm. It’s wonderful to know where everything is and have room to put things away easily.
I'm the absolute same and it drives my husband crazy. That's why he has the garage where he can make any kind of mess he wants, until he wants me to clean it with him and it's all hands on decks lol
My mom passed away in September 2020 and my stepdad in January 2021. I feel sooooo utterly overwhelmed with all the clutter I have to clear from their home. I am an essentialist and I vow not avoid the hell that I am going through for my children.
I would tell my past self that what I was left with after decluttering was all the BEST stuff, all my favorites. So when I open a cabinet or closet, I only see my very favorite clothes, tools, linens, etc. So refreshing and happy!
So true. I love this! When you start to really think about your possesions sometimes you look at something you think "why did I keep this so long. I don't even like it".
I had heard others talk about it, but when you actually begin to experience that feeling yourself of having only the things left that you love, it's so amazing! And you're addicted to making every other part of your home the same!
I wish when I was younger, that I didn’t need all the things!! I’m 52 & I want to start this process...I keep getting stuck!! I can’t seem to even start the “first layer of the onion”...
Carol Sailer - same here! I often don’t know where to start so I end up not doing it. I want to know what a clean simple life looks like - so far it’s challenging! For ex: I want to clean out my fridge at that moment but wait the counters not clear, there is stuff that keeps accumulating on the kitchen table (I have a very tiny kitchen and not much or any functioning cupboards - height issue - built in shelves aren’t good height) so then I wait till every thing is clean but other issues come up so...on and on....
“Tipping Point”!!! I am on the “downhill” side! How has it impacted our life? Wow! I’m playing the piano again after 40 years of not. I sent Valentine cards and have Easter cards ready already! I REST more - as real rest, not as escape from mess but as rest! My health is improved. I lost weight. I am not “finished” yet but I am so happy that I found you and the Take Your House Back group!
Jennifer Barney we will be selling our house soon. Getting rid of a BIG collection of Boyd’s Bears yesterday by trashing them. We’ve had a mold problem and the bears couldn’t be saved. They were love gifts from my husband. I cried hard the whole time I put them in a trash bag! I could do it again even writing. 😢 I told my husband after doing that....NOTHING is sacred anymore. I’ve already taken truck loads to places like Goodwill and have, in the past, put as much as 16 contractors trash bags to the garbage. Yet it’s such a small amount. Sigh. But when we move, I refuse to take all the stuff with us. Time in prayer and calling out to God for help has been key. Thank you for these videos! They encourage me....and the fight is still on.
Just started minimalist journey, I'm 62 year old, widowed, mother of three grown children, who works at my local hospital and have downsized to a 2 bedroom basement apartment. I've managed to keep/accumulate too much stuff. The purge is happening one cupboard at a time, one drawer at a time. Wish me luck...love you and god bless and stay safe.
Cathy Bunker: Hi, I am my 60’s as well and I am struggling to minimize our home. We had 2 large homes (up north and Fl) plus when my mom died, we invited my dad to come live with us so we inherited tons of his things. Well fast forward years later....my dad, brother and cat all passed this past year and the emotions are so overwhelming to get rid of everything. We have made numerous trips to donations centers, sold a lot online but we still have a mountain of things to get rid of. I cook/bake for others a lot plus make a lot of homemade things so getting of rid of those things is putting me into a panic. Why? Because what will I do once it’s all gone? This COVID thing has changed everyone’s lifestyle. I stopped buying things and focused on experiences but now we can’t travel much with everything shut down. I think our age group is a little challenged because our parents went through the depression era and taught us to save everything and not be wasteful. I know that isn’t always ideal so I continue to go through each box and donate items. Each day is different. Some days I can whiz though everything and just get rid of it. But some days, like today, I am overwhelmed to the point of closing the door and not dealing with it. I feel like I are running out of time to get it all done. (Health issues) I wish you the very best in your endeavor to declutter your living space. Thank you for your service in the hospitals.
I think my regret is letting the “world” tell me what I needed-your house should look like it belongs in “Southern Living” magazine & your meals must look Martha Stewart cooked them, etc. I have wasted so much money & time. But it is never too late to make major changes. I spent several weeks last year going a major decluttering. And Dawn you are absolutely right-once you get started you want to get rid of more! Blessings to you!
I became a minimalist by accident. I lost every thing I owned in hurricane Harvey but it turned out to be a blessing. I have four children as well and this more simplified life is sooo much better!
I was like you , I didn't feel that I was making any progress, but several times my husband friend would Stop by early in the morning to drop off some things, I got up one day because I heard the doorbell, and my husband was closing the door, and said oh my friend came buy to drop some of my tools off, I looked around and I thought the house looked messy, and I said to my husband OMG how embarrassing, and he said no actually he just told me today, wow no matter how early I come, or at what time I come, your house always looks clean.😊 Of course that definitely made my day.
@@sandrarichardson6931 I wonder why we still feel it is messy when other people don't think so. I guess we are just too hard on ourselves. I don't know.
This is a wonderful presentation. Well thought out, not condescending or arrogant, great spontaneous feeling delivery. I feel as if I learned something worthwhile here.
Lol people have asked me where is my stuff! I said "where it belongs". Peeling away the layers is so satisfying. I love the serenity minimalism brings. Thank you for the inspiration!
“Where it belongs”... that is genius!! ❤️ Going to use that with my mother in law!! Wish I would have embraced simple living when I first saw it- I was afraid I would miss things. Still so far to go..... have leftovers from 4kids and a large empty nest to manage ! Working to finish this “nest” so it can bless someone else!! 🤣🐥🐥🐥🐥💕
Well said! I feel the same way. I have found that I needed to declutter and simplify when I became a mom. My husband was very supportive. My in-laws were often very unkind, calling me anal, picky, and OCD. Now, years later, I realize their judgmental attitude toward me was from envy. The meanest ones were also the the ones with the most debt and the most clutter. We have recently retired at a very young age, middle 50's, and are happy that we set our priorities when we were in our early 20's. You are doing a great job! You are teaching your children how to live a good life without debt...true peace and joy.
“Can I live without it?” Wow!!!!!! That is the question I’ll be asking myself during my next layer of decluttering!!! Dawn, I just really LOVE that question. Thank you!! I think you just changed my life!!!
I felt like this, and then a friend came over and said, "wow! Your house is so nice and minimal!" and I was like... REALLY?! Lol keep going! You'll eventually look up and recognize how much of a difference all the simplifying has made. :)
Elisha, I got rid of more than that and you still couldn’t tell. Bit by bit, you can tell and feel the benefit. That helps you accelerate a bit. Good luck! 😊
@@ReadingwithMrsW I have ... but right now.. with the holidays.. I’ve kinda stopped.. but as I have decorated for Fall and now Christmas.. I have weeded out A LOT of stuff 👍
I’m 62 and starting the process myself! I inherited a whole lot of stuff when my mother and father in-law passed,she was taking care of an elderly friend, which she inherited all of his stuff and since then my husband has passed. So I have so much stuff to go through. I’ve been so overwhelmed. I love watching your videos dawn and I’ve actually been taking little bite-size sections this week. You’re just so real and encouraging and your sweet spirit. I love your laugh. Thank you for all the inspiration and encouragement. You’re my favorite on the decluttering videos.
Yes! Me too! I so wish we had open shelving in our kitchen. I would display my nesting mixing bowls that belonged to my dad. Very funny story, they were given to him before he met my mom and when he met her they had the same ones except hers didn’t have handles. I had always wondered why we had 2 sets of them. He passed away when I was little and now my brother has my moms, and I have my dads. They’re just so special to me and I wish I could leave them on display all the time! 💕.
💯!! This is me! There is no sense in having them if u aren’t going to enjoy them! My father in law gave me quite a few pieces of my mother in laws jewelry because he enjoys seeing them on me!!:)🤍 My sister in law has what he has given her in a lockbox at the bank. He has story for every single piece and I know when I where them, it makes him smile and that brings me joy!! My mother in law passed before I met my husband (we have been together 18 years, I’m 42 and she passed when my husband was 19. It’s nice to have a piece of her!:)
Peter from the show Clean Sweep always says to honor the things you have, not just shove them in a box somewhere. Use it or display it the way it is meant to be used.
Thank you Dawn. I feel so great seeing my house getting simplified. It is great to hear that having less stuff brings space in other parts of your life. 🎉
"I'm keeping everyone afloat, but it isn't pretty." Yes. Exactly this. 1,000 times this. Wow. This describes how I feel about my job over my household so well. 😕
I wish I had told myself I didn’t need so much stuff when I was in my 20’s. Now in my 50’s and I’m just tired of all the stuff. You are so inspiring! I’m slowly going through things. Luckily my grown children like to do yard sales and especially like it when they can keep the $ off of my stuff they sale.
I realized how far I had come last week when I went into Hobby Lobby and was able to walk by all the things/decorations that I used to just have to have! I still have a ways to go, but am so glad I started this journey.
Yes, me too! I had to go every chance I could, so that if they had anything new, or a sale, I wouldn’t be left out!!! Now, it is shocking that I do not even care to go! If I do, I never end up finding anything that I can’t live without. 😁 Jennifer
After raising three kids and being on my own for a long time I finally decided it's time to sort and toss. I have always kept a clean and organized home, but going minimal is making me feel so much better! I have been an emotional hoarder so thank you for your inspiration. It's very freeing!!
Omg! Dawn you said exactly as I feel, like the old saying “ you took the words out of my mouth” I love living simply, life just feels so peaceful, and I don’t regret or even think about anything I have donated. My husband and I and friends of ours have the same model home, when ever they come over, they will say my home looks double the size of theirs, I know it’s because their home is filled all over with nic nacs, framed photos,and a BIG china closet filled with possessions, artwork on every wall.When I’m there, I will admit I feel a bit overwhelmed by it all, when they visit us they say they feel ZEN.... and peaceful. Today was a big day for me, I had a very expensive collection, when I started to rid our home of things, we didn’t need or love, I put them in a rubber made container, thinking this winter I would start listing them on eBay, but instead I gave them to a charity to be auctioned off with the proceeds to help abused animals, I walked away feeling so good... I also have a declutter muscle now, nothing I give away bothers me. I love your channel, it’s wonderful to be in company of people who get it. This is where I find my TRIBE.... This was such a powerful video, it will help so many, God Bless you
Susan P like everything in life, the more you do it the easier it gets.... now for me, if I don’t use it I’ll Be afraid to lose it ( declutter muscle) I keep a donation box in the back seat of my car, I still find things that I can donate, Dawn said in her video today, you will want to declutter, and it’s so true
Just decluttered our house as we are moving across country and cant fit much in a truck/everything will be small storage for awhile=money. Initially i felt dread and a feeling of oh hell no when told i needed to part with stuff as i wasnt expecting this move and i originally hated words like minimalism as to me it felt hipsterish n like a dumb trend. However i realize decluttering is so necessary and im actually glad i did it. I plan on doing it now yearly like when u do ur spring cleaning. It really helps u see how much money/time u waste on stuff u dont need at least in my case and just in general. It also helps u utilize what u do use better. It also helps with cleaning n organizing ur life. It puts ur life, money n time in perspective.
Just starting our journey here. I've been binge-watching your videos and other minimalist and decluttering and cleaning videos for inspiration to continue on this journey. I have always been a collector of things, but became a hoarder of stuff over the last 5 years when I lost my best friend of 30 years and depression set in. I'm out of the depression fog and shocked at how bad stuff has gotten. I know this will take time, and I don't think I'll ever be fully a minimalist but I do know I don't want to hoard stuff. HUGS for being real and open about your family's journey.
I loved changing how you changed perspective from “could I use this?” to “can I live without this?” That’s what I needed to hear to keep going and really getting rid of things that I truly can live without. Always so helpful Dawn!!
We are in the uphill, actually at the beginning of uphill. We had a traumatic event happen in our family about 5 years ago, and my house got out of control FAST. It's been weighing on me heavily, so I started just a few months ago (although I've been following you for much longer). It is so difficult, but I want my home back! I want it to be a sanctuary for my family, not a burden. I have been taking "before" photos to keep me motivated and seeing my real progress as well. Thank you for all that you are doing for so many of us out here!!
Holly Had to Say We did too and I have been feeling the same way and beginning the steps to make our home the blessing it should be rather than the burden it often feels like these days. You are not alone and photos can be such good motivation. I will root and pray for you! ❤
Yesterday we filled 5 medium sized trash bags of clothes & bedding. Ive been doing this since Dec. I sill don't see much of a difference, and it's still painful letting it go. I hope it feels & looks better soon. I'm only working 2 days a week, and i hate those two days. Please Lord help me.
I’m 64yo and just at the start of the uphill section. In fact, I’m still at the point where I spend far more time watching decluttering videos than I do actual decluttering lol. There are several of you decluttering guru ladies that I love to watch, but Dawn you’re truly special. You always make me feel like we’re just having a cuppa together, and it just feels so comfortable, and comforting, and encouraging. Thank you so much for your videos!❤❤❤
Watching the videos is a great start! Her longer videos are great to work along side and feel like your doing it together 😊 I'm still on the uphill too, but I'm hopeful I'm reaching the top soon, have watched many many videos.
Yes! This! I am continually simplifying, peeling the onion layers away. As a young mother/wife, I thought more was better. More toys, more dishes, more clothes. Ugh. And now, I see the simplicity is best light. Fewer items, fewer choices, less arguments, easier chores, faster tidying and more money saved. You're still ahead of me but I'm inspired by your home. Simple living is a lifestyle that I hope to pass to all my children. (I was raised by a hoarder, so it means so much more to me) Bless you and your family!
I waa was raised by a hoarder too. I have been able to purge periodically but never have been able to gain control. Battling with depression and shame over never having a picked up house. This channel is very inspiring.
As I started getting rid of things, I was so surprised to learn that there is so much stress in having an abundance of material things! Once we discovered the joy of simplicity, we just kept giving things away and now we love our home! :)
Aimee Sacks Be gentle with yourself! 💗 We’re each unique and you are on your beautiful path... the “things” have served/are serving you in some way; step by step you can breathe deep, sense clarity and “all is well”, and allow individual items to move on to a new chapter of their existence and try out a new feel in your space. 😊✨ All the best!! 🌿💗😊✨
@@CopingwithGrattitude I identify with you very much. Its so frustrating! You feel stuck, more stressed and depressed. I just recently heard some wise words about how you cant make positive changes in a negative environment. I've had to get outside help because I cant do it myself. And it cant be just once you know, it has to be done often. Now, whether I like it or not the time is coming for me to declutter once again for I am finally moving out of my mothers! Sweet victory!!!
Yes, yes, yes. Everything you said is so true! Once you break in those decluttering muscles, it get so much easier. I actually used the word "ruthless" to describe my decluttering as of late. To anyone who is not over the top of the mountain yet, please keep going! It gets easier and is so good for your psyche. Love you all!
I remember when i first started decluttering my mom thought something was wrong with me as i was getting rid of so much. She would say i was depressed and tell my sisters i was going crazy. Plus she would say my house felt so cold 🤣😂. I would tell her why do I have to keep things if i dont use, need or like. She would get mad and till this day she sees me as the weird daughter 🤣😂. Little does she know one of my other sister started her decluttering journey a couple of months ago. Ive shared with that sister a few of your videos and she is doing great😁! Thanks for always great videos Dawn!
Lupita Valenzuela my mom always thought I was the weird one. Haha. She would tell my sisters too. Very funny to look back on it now' it wasn’t funny then, I’m smarter now.
I love your approach with the "onion method". So many minimalist make you feel that if you don't stay home from work for a week, lay out all your stuff on the front lawn you will fail. Your view of it as being "developing your skills/ decluttering muscles / confidence" is so encouraging. God bless you and your family - from Ottawa, Can
After finding so many of my nans beautiful things in cupboards, after she died, hardly used, kept for ‘best’, I felt very sad and vowed never to do this with my own things. Use beautiful things every day, get the pleasure out of them. Pointless to hide them away for a day that never comes, and for someone else to then end up sorting through them wondering why you never used them
Me too! My mum had a "crazy tea set" (cup/saucer/small plate) 6 settings, all beautiful, none alike. I never remember her using them. But now i make my visitors pick their favourite and we drink tea and eat cake like ladies!
Can I just say how awesome you are and I'm so blessed to have found your channel. Me and the husband have been working towards minimizing our home. A LOT OF WORKING. lol and yesterday was the first day I actually felt peace. No anxiety no stress. My 3yr and 1yr were playing peacefully and able to use more of their imagination. It was so wonderful. I mean we still have a lot of work to do, but it was a start. Everything you say on your channel is happening and it's so true. So thank you so much. You have been such an inspiration, a motivator, a mentor, just thank you. 😊
I remember laughing with my aunt as I told her how recieving 'mom's stuff' was gonna affect my minimalistic journey and what my kids were gonna say after years of tackling my sweet family of wanna be hoarders! I've been using the onion method for years! Every time it gets tighter and tighter! So here comes yesterday and I decide in cleaning my carpets. Since I have hardwood floors this means taking them up stairs! Years ago I would have put it off because it meant moving everything then putting it back! 29 minutes after deciding it (your videos motivate me so much) I rolled and hauled it upstairs where i had THREE items to move. The toy box gr'pa's brother made, my grands bed, and mom's antique sewing machine! As I looked around that room (and here's what today's video reinforced) it was so comforting. One futton couch in between 2 china cabinets displaying mom and gr'ma's items with the sewing machine sitting on a wall. No boxes, no clutter, and NO stress. It is so freeing and healing to be able to touch those memories and include them in my working daily life! Thanks for constantly reminding me to never give up!😎👋😜
I feel this so much in my own life, we started decluttering last year and are now planning on downsizing to a smaller home because we realized our true priorities once we got rid of all the extra stuff. I appreciate the work you do so much!
Fantastic advice! What I would like people to know is if they really think they want to declutter and lead a more minimal life, they need to be prepared to be BRUTALLY HONEST with themselves. Also, people need to understand that just because they think they want minimalism, some (most) family members who live with them don't want to toss or donate all of their stuff. Compromises will have to be made.
I am so EXCITED to begin the second round of 'whole house purge' action starting right after the holidays!! I have dreams of an incredibly streamlined home that is always 'tidy' and that every item is something that is useful or beautiful and meaningful!!
I’m still going uphill, but it’s feeling so good! I’ve taken two carloads to the thrift store already. I am sooo ready to do more. Your videos have been so encouraging, Dawn! Thanks so much for sharing this lifestyle with us.
"I'm keeping everyone afloat, but it isn't pretty." Oh my goodness this was exactly what I needed to hear today! Different season of life but exact feeling. Just beginning my minimalism journey, a couple weeks ago my daughter removed everything from my walls. These items weren't hard to keep neat but making me sad. Almost immediately I felt like I could breath. Inspired by the beauty of your home I plan to add back just a few pieces of decor. Fresh and new and cheerful. Thank you for all you do and the love you send out in your videos, and for lifting me up today!
What I would have told my past self instead of going shopping for more stuff to make me happy I should have spend quality time with my two boys. Now they are grown men and I hardly see them and realize if I could have rewritten my life story I would have lived a much more simpler life and realize going shopping for more stuff does not make us happy. happy was right there in front of my eyes, (my sons), but unfortunately shopping for more stupid stuff got in the way 😪. Moms, who have young kids take note of what Dawn said because in a blink of an eye your kids grow up. Don’t waste your time in accumulating stuff to impress people or shop to fill a void.
Ha. Have been through my closets 3 times now and each time I come out with another bag of stuff. Lol. Thanks for your inspiration and breaking down the thought process. So helpful! I CLEANED OUT my linen closet last night! AND I can see the racks ans wall behind the towels!!!
My minister, a very intelligent young man ('young' in my 67 year old mind) and his equally intelligent wife, have nine children, ages from 19 down to one year. They have a large house, of necessity, but they are the most organized, neatest, cleanest family I've ever known in my life. While they're not minimalists, it's very difficult to see where their "stuff" is because the parents have taught the children right from a few months old on up, to put everything away when play time is over, to vacuum the carpets, sweep and mop the floors, etc. He gets his children motivated by saying "The reward is in the effort, not at the end of the journey. Take the time to enjoy what you're doing to get to the end goal, because there's a lot to be learned along the way." He admonishes us adults with that, too, and I've found that he's right---there is great reward in the DOING, not just in the result. I just wish I'd known that when my own two children were still alive....
My mom had my brother and I do "chores" because it was being part of a family, not to gain an allowance or some sort of other reward. It taught us a lot of life skills without us even knowing.
My Mom died in 2006. I've had one of her coffee cups in a box forever... Now me and my husband use it everyday and it makes me feel so good. Thank you Dawn for making me realize, "Why not use it." 💓💓💓😭🤔
I love this, I only discovered your channel a few weeks ago, and I'm currently on 38 bags of stuff (not including rubbish) out of the house, but I've been putting myself under so much pressure to get it all decluttered IMMEDIATELY that I had to take a break as I was just overwhelmed. I realise I need to slow down and give my self a break.....but I want the neat house! THanks so much for your content, I'll be watching regularly to keep myself on track 😊
I started the process and then stalled. This video has me ready to re-start. I think I got afraid I would miss items I donate or throw away, or was afraid I wasn’t doing it “right.” I can do this. It will take time. One step at a time. Thank you for your encouragement!
It gets so much easier! I feel like there's something wrong if I have a day when nothing leaves the house or an area isn't decluttered and organized. God Bless You Dawn!
You are so right! Simplicity has a tendency to spill over - and I totally agree with you on displaying sentimental items. Always interesting to hear stories from other minimalists. 🥰
Working on decluttering and simplifying my daughters' room this morning and I was getting so overwhelmed and just DONE! Then I remembered my friend Dawn, and listening to your encouragements this morning while working on this has helped me so much! Thank you!!
I wish I could understand why I struggle to get rid of all this stuff! It seems like it should be easier, but I stall out every time I begin. I am so overwhelmed. I appreciate your videos and encouragement.
Can you try just a little section at a time? 15 min max. Everyday. Sometimes it causes you to want to do more. I've been going through about 100,000 pictures on our computer for 15 min a day for months. I'm almost done. Thank, God.
Maybe check out Clutterbug (Dawn did a collab with Cass a while back, which is how I found out about Cass). Butterflies and bees have a much harder time getting rid of things than ladybugs and crickets. It explained why my mom and I are always butting heads about organization.
I've tried getting rid of ONE thing a day out of my closet or drawers.. do you realize that in a year you've gotten rid of 365 things... if you don't have that many garments Just move to another area... junk drawer.. e.t.c...
Her Zzr I think this is great advice because otherwise it just feels so overwhelming and it’s also hard to keep up the momentum, but anyone can do 15 mins at a time, right? I’m gonna try this as I tend to be all or nothing and burn myself out
For me the first step was giving myself permission to struggle and to know that is ok. Start where you can. 5 min? Realize what a blessing resale /thrift shops are to people! Someone said donations places are like free storage units- except when you go back for something you can find a BETTER one! 💕🤗
This reminded me of the George Lopez show. Did you ever notice when watching that show that there isn't one space in any room, wall, flat surface etc that isn't covered with a decoration or just stuff? It's so overwhelming. It would make me insane to live like that. We are in the process of decluttering my home and I am loving the feeling of letting go. Thank you for sharing!
What you said, especially at the end. Dawn it truly moved me to tears. I understand what you mean or at least imagine it would be that way. We are in a season where my three young children are home but my youngest whom is 2 will be 3 end of September and I’m starting to see pockets of time open up to dedicating myself to decluttering. I lost weight this year through a health journey which caused me to purge my clothing. And your onion method is what is starting to happen naturally. I imagine what time and peace would be given to us as we get s a simplified home.!!!! The uphill deliberations are where I’m stuck, especially with baby cloths and toys. Evangeline will probably be our last daughter and it’s hard to close that door...
Please follow thru I am 67 have kept things out of SENTIMENTAL reasons of children's childhood They have no interest in them took a few things to appease me I could tell that was why One of the biggest things EVER I would have changed in my life would be to have done this when my children were young All people are so much happier I am do much happier with SPACE glorious space They need to learn this happy simplicity 💗
I just got married to a widower. His home came fully furnished!! it has been a bit of a challenge going through every drawer, every cupboard, every closet! I have been very open and talk to him often about how minimal would he like to go. That has been very helpful. I just don't want him to feel like I am removing everything of his wife of 48 years or things his kids and grandchildren know of their mom and grandma. I have been using the quarantine bins and they have worked very well. Thanks for your help with this.
I am so glad you talked about that moment when you were destabilized by having kids I often got in a kind of panic which defeated my purpose of being organised and and getting quality time I have totally decluttered and giving away stuff people give me me that I didn't ask for I treated myself to a panoramic wallpaper on one wall which is a view of the street in Havana which has a a pig orange American car in the forefront because I have decluttered so much there is room to see this from a distance it is magical especially as with the pandemic I could not travel to Sicily this year my absolute keeps are my piano drum kit harmonicas I am an amateur musician but it gives me a hell lot more satisfaction than anything I could buy in a shop
I went through my sock drawer while watching this. I've been decluttering like crazy lately. I didn't realize how many I owned! After listening to your videos though, I realized that I really don't like the dress socks I own much. I used to have an office job many years ago, but my current job only requires black socks. Now I've gotten rid of a whole bunch of pairs and I feel so much better!
I just have to say I am so glad I found your videos! I am no where near where I hope to be in a couple of years but I'm content where we have made it. We had to call maintenance yesterday to repair our stove and my husband said we needed to clean up the house. It took me maybe an hour for it to be completely clean. Before it would have taken me seriously at least 4hours.
I am definitely in the uphill climb right now, AND in that “tumble of motherhood”. It’s feeling a little impossible, but your videos really help me to get into alignment with a more simplified life. Thank you for taking your time to do these videos 💗
1:10 You'll crave even more simplicity 2:27 People won't think you're weird 6:00 There is a tipping point & it gets so much easier 7:56 The onion method works keep using it 9:03 This is just the beginning 🙏⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🙏 Just found this channel, I ♥️ it !
Dawn, you have been a huge inspiration and help to me. I started maybe back in January or so, and it has been a slow process. I have osteoarthritis in my knees, and it's very hard to work. But finally, I am seeing great results. I'm still working on it and will continue to peel the onion, but you are so right! I don't miss any of it! Early on, when thinking of the money spent on items, my mantra was, "Mistakes were made." And then I just kept plowing through. You're also right about wanting more simplicity. Thanks for helping me through this.
Wendy Swain not sure I understand what you’re asking, but it you want to know what I would spend it on instead: financial security, retirement, experiences. Just not stuff that I’ve ended up donating.
I do too, but I read a quote recently that has impacted my life a lot. "Decluttering is always about forgiveness." So I am really trying to forgive myself for all the money I've wasted on stuff I didn't need. All the best to you! It's still worth it to get rid of things.
I could cry right now. The story about motherhood and the wave- that is the feeling right now explained and painted the best picture. Knowing it’s not just me and I’m completely crazy for wanting to take this journey and the feelings fueling the motivation.
JUST FINISHED MY FIRST ONION LEVEL OF THE WHOLE HOUSE( EXCEPT THE BASEMENT!) IT IS SO MUCH MORE MANAGEABLE. I RETIRED A YEAR AGO AND THOUGHT I COULD GET ORGANIZED BUT IT DID NOT HAPPEN UNTIL I DISCOVERD YOU ! THANKS THANKS THANKS
Been watching your channel for a while. I’d love to minimize my house, but haven’t been able to accomplish much. But I’ve looked back on the past year or two. My house is much better! Thanks for the motivation! Love your channel!
Dawn, I've been enjoying your transformation and self-discovery, and now you're helping me with my own journey. My 2-yr-old mountain of paper is filed, tossed, or shredded. I can walk through my home in the dark and not step on, over, or around anything. I have space and peace of mind; I sleep like a log and the anxiety dreams are gone. The books I won't read again, the clothes I won't wear...gone! Your videos are bite-size tutorials, and so helpful. Thank you!
@@beccismith4454 So agree. We called it a genetic disorder passed down in several generations. No joke as Dad passed unexpectedly two years ago. Mom is just letting go of his clothes this year. Bless her heart! Now it's his boxes and boxes and boxes .......of papers. He saved his school work from a boy to college and every company he worked as an engineer. Yikes! The issue is both were horders and at almost 86 years she has a ton of work to do. Everything can't all be precious I tell her. It's hard for me and my stuff but I'm getting a better grip now. Let go of my school, kids, papers. It's a process for sure. I use the good stuff, if it breaks and things have at least it was used and loved and appreciated. It was hard at first but it takes being honest with oneself. It's only stuff, not relationship's, memories ect. I want to do those things I didn't have time for working most my life. Try new things but I have to let go of stuff to have that freedom. Doing something is more than nothing. Little bites.
@@maeb7723 I want to start slow, I don't want to freak my husband out lol. Keeping things tidy with less effort would be great to start with. I actually don't mind cleaning at al ( laundry, dishes; floors) Its the constant redo of the pick up that wears on me.
I think that minimalism is different for each family. I have pared down significantly over the last year, but in comparison to Dawn, I have much more stuff. But there is much more peace and calm in our home now.
@@kimleein09 thank you so much for sharing your experience. I honestly really wanted to hear this from someone who is actually living it and seeing an improvement in their life and home. This is very much what I am hoping to achieve for us.
Don't think about "fully minimal" because that's not real. Like kimleein09 said, it's different for each family and it will be different for you and your husband. I don't know if you know The Minimalists, but they've been a huge inspiration for me and I really think you'd like Joshua Fields Millburn's Home Tour. It's a 5 minute video and you can see his house looks exactly like a normal house, minus the clutter. When people say "minimalism" they immediately think about "nothing on white". It will only be that if that's what YOU like. There's no rule book, no recipe. Your minimalism will never be the same as mine, or anyone else's. So don't worry about it. ;)
Ahhh Dawn you have honestly helped me so much! I did not know how to get back to decluttering and having a simplified house. My sister passed away and it went backwards as I thought why even do these things if we all will die one day. But you videos is helping a TON and I feel I have that hope/spark back that was lost. This is definitely a God calling on your life. Thank you so so much 🙏🥰❤
"People won't think you're weird." After doing some major decluttering for months, my MIL recently came by for the first time and I was a little worried that she'd ask about where all our stuff was. She walked into the living room, looked around and said, "Oh, things look pretty much the same here..." She definitely didn't mean it as an insult, more as a comfort to herself given that we had all been missing each other during covid. But it made me realize how much people just don't see our houses or our stuff, and that it was OK for me to do what I needed to do and I could let go of other people's expectations. No need to worry about being perceived as weird.
When we first bought our home everything we owned fit into our living room, including our washer and dryer. We were married for three years before we had our first child. He was about one when a Kirby vacuum salesman showed up at our door. And I remember him asking if we had just moved in 😂 11 years later and it's a different story. 😳🙈 But we've had a lot of changes in the last seven and I'm working on it. The neighbor kid did comment about how much more room there was recently and it made me feel like I was finally getting somewhere!
I’m actually here when it’s posted! Woohoo! “I’m keep everyone afloat but it isn’t pretty.” Yes! That’s how I feel every time we have another baby. Simplicity is sanity around here. I’m so glad I found you when I did; I don’t know how I would have done trying to manage all of our stuff, moving, and having another baby at once had we not simplified. We’re not done yet, but we’re so much better off.
Hey Ashley! Happy Tuesday! I’m curious to know how many babies you have!!!🤪 And I agree with everything you said, even though I just have one! “Keeping Afloat” is a real mood! 🤍☀️💋 Sending Love and Positive Vibes from South Florida!:)🤍
Michie Butterfly77 We have three little ones; oldest is 4, second just turned 3, and youngest is 8 months. We’re just now getting back to better than just afloat. I find that once I get past that tipping point I can see how much my skills have improved in order to just keep things afloat with one more. My 20 year old self would be amazed at how much I can handle nowadays!
Yes!! We just had a baby two and a half weeks ago and we are trying to sell our house and find a new one- and my mom asked me how hard it was keeping the house show ready and then I realized- so much easier than I thought because the house has so much less in it! It’s amazing that simplifying makes such a huge difference!
Ashley McDonald I am at the “we have been in this house for 12 years and I’m sick of looking at this stuff” phase! This is the longest I have ever loved in one space (I’m 43) and it seems to like up easier when u don’t move!! I would say that my 20 year old self was probably more organized now but that’s about to change!! You certainly are busy with all of those little ones!! What an amazing season you are in!! Enjoy every minute of it!!🤍☀️💋
This has been a rewarding journey. Both my daughter and I follow you and have both worked really hard at this. You are right when you say it is freeing. Thank you for the encouragement to continue.
Dawn~ I just found your channel 3 days ago and I'm 65 years old. I have spent the last two days craving simplicity! I hauled off an entire carload to the thrift store today. I started with kitchen pots and pans , dishes... then to closets ... then clothes. I went to bed at 1AM the first night and woke up and started over again on some shelves I saw I didn't do enough!! Yes, I wanted LESS stuff... got all bookshelves done (and I love books)! My counters are cleared off and I love it... I'm so pumped! I feel so free! It also helped me to reorganize each space that I tackled... thanks for spurring me on! I just need more trash bags!!
I'm pretty new to this & really only started decluttering a couple months ago during lockdown but I'm loving it😍 My hubby is on board with it too so that makes it easier lol but now we can see family again my sister came to visit & she said"dont go too minimalist will you" I thought that was so funny as it's not her home 😊 thanks for these videos they really help & I love your home btw ❤
Man the simplification-tipping-point... I feel like we were drowning in stuff, and all it took was to get rid of a few things I didn't like anyway and it was inmediatly so much easyer to have a clean livingroom where in 10mins it's tidy enough to have guests over and not feeling ashamed anymore like I did before.... One of the best decisions of my life (decluttering only, I'm faaaar away from being a minimalist and don't think this would fit me)
I had saved about 6 large totes of sentimental items and baby clothes for my son. Just went through all of them, and condensed them down to one tote. I was saving them for him, and now that he's 24, had him look at everything. He basically told me to throw everything away except a few things. Realized all those years of moving, it was all for nothing basically since he is very minimal. Less is definitely more!
But what will his future wife say when they have kids? It will probably be fine, but that's what I say to myself when I try to decanter that kind of stuff....I have 4 sons. I'm still learning to build decanter muscles.
Sandy Aidukas Yes, this was the same with me! My adult kids didn’t want all of what I had saved! I hauled it all over the country as I moved, and they only wanted a couple small stuffed animals they had when they were babies. Photos of the other items would have been enough.
It applies on the other end too. No need to keep things for 50 years thinking your adult children will want them or appreciate them like you do. The only thing I have from my beloved grandmother who has passed is a faux fur coat she made, earrings she made for me, and memories. I don't need a bunch of things to remember what a great woman she was.
Yes to all of these! I’ve been working on our home for five years. At first I just wanted things simplified. Now we’re working toward minimal. I’ve never been more content with my home and what I have. 🤍
I love this video! Actually can't wait to watch it again cuz it gets me so jazzed to keep simplifying!! The craving for more simplicity is REAL and it's the best craving I've ever had! Over the last couple years I've been watching your channel, my family's mood and how we communicate has skyrocketed because of simplifying!! Who knew that hidden clutter affected us so much?! My family used to get so stressed trying to put all that stuff we had "in the right place" where I wanted it. They'd get frustrated, confused, defeated. Now it's become so clearly defined where everything goes! Our realtor came by the other day and I randomly asked a question about our bedroom closet. And I was able to take her RIGHT back there... because everything was clean! No secret piles of junk frantically stashed anywhere when company's coming! Hurray!! Our previous home was BIGGER than this one and we spent 10 years longing for it to be bigger. No! We didn't need it. Less stuff = more room! It's the cheapest "remodel" ever!! 😄 I'll never go back-- this is the good life! Thank you every day, Dawn!!!
I am still in the process of decluttering and organizing. I find it really hard at times so it was good to hear that there comes a point where it does get easier. I guess that I use the onion method although I didn't know it was called that until you said it on this video! Now I have a term for it I feel better about it. I feel like it is taking forever and I am also aware that my husband has a problem with me getting rid of stuff. But I am determined to keep going. I find that when I watch these TH-cam videos it inspires me to do more. Thanks for this video.
Great advice, Dawn! LOVE it! I'm close to the end of my big decluttering, and you are right... I crave more space and simplicity! My only regret is that I didn't do this right from the beginning!! Oh, well...this empty nest is feeling so peaceful and serene, and I feel good knowing that my kids are not going to have to deal with all of our "stuff" later! :)
Sometimes I feel like people think we are weird! They seem worried I will be upset if the kids make a mess. I tell them not to worry about it! But it kinda makes me feel self conscious what people will think. I have shared what I have learned with my mom. Over the weekend I helped her clean her closet she has been avoiding. She kept thanking me and it would make her smile when she looked at it. She was happy to finally be able to hang all of her clothes up because she got rid of ones that didn't fit or she didn't like. I love helping organize and seeing the look on someone's face when it's finished. Thank you for doing what you do Dawn! You'll never know how much it's helped me and my family.
I have had sooo many more negative comments about my minimalist house than I ever got when it was full of junk and messy - although I often find those same people suddenly having clear outs after a visit lol!
I have been "goggling" your channel for a little while now, every once in a while for about two months. I came across this posting on my "recommended" list today, and I am so glad I did. My story: I am 50, I have moved at least two dozen times in my lifetime (former husband was military), and now I am engaged to a quadriplegic (for the past 13 years). We have been in the same home, always renting, for the past 5 years, and suddenly the landlord needs to sell. We have become so accustomed to this house. It is just the two of us in a 3 bed, 2 bath, full basement BIG house. So much storage for all his medical supplies and anything else we could ever want or need. We don't know yet if we are going to need to move (we were told about 3 weeks ago). And I have been just so anxious about tackling this place. Watching your videos has given me the inspiration to just do it. Even if we aren't going to have to move, I have to just do it. I have a back injury and have been letting things collect everywhere: the spare room (!!!), the dining room (which is also my craft room) and the basement is what they call organized chaos - meaning, I know exactly where something is, but could never explain to someone how to get to it. It really all needs to be dealt with, not so much in that I need to do it in order to move possibly into a smaller place, but also, if something happens to me then my fiance will be able to be taken care of easier. Thank you so much. I hope you know that your videos, advice, experience, and positivity are exactly what a lot of need. God bless you and your family.
You are seriously a genius! I love your channel. My mom suggested it to me today. You are giving me so much hope that life can get better. I have 4 young kids and so overwhelmed at the moment.
I was just talking to my little sister about sentimental items. She mentioned that she’d been handed-down a really large painting from our grandfather. He told her our recently deceased grandmother had loved it. My sister is about to move into her first apartment and wondering if she should bring this painting. She feels attached to it for sentimental reasons, but she’s not crazy about it, and neither one of us even remembers our grandmother ever discussing this painting, or even seeing it hanging in her home! I told her to take a picture and then donate it and leave free space for the things she loves.
I’m 68 and looking back on so many years of wishing I could keep my house clean and tidy easier. But I am part of the “accumulate more” generation. I’ve learned so much from you younger gals and have been decluttering lately and also just cutting back on shopping. I can already tell a big difference in the way my home looks!
Hey Dell! How's it going now ???
My mom is 77 this year (2022) and I'm trying to declutter the house now, and it's not going well...
I’m a part of that generation as well I’m 64 everything is falling out of closets now stuff is in the living room falling out of the family room I’m literally ashamed but I’m not gonna quit and I’m not gonna give up right after Christmas 2022 starts my new year of decluttering I can’t stand living like this anymore I’m right there with your sister we can do it
That’s so neat!
@@shadowm2k7 I just saw this question from some time ago. We moved permanently to 700 sq feet at the beach and I’m thrilled that I decluttered !
I find it addictive to declutter. Whenever I'm feeling lousy and emotional, my first thought is what can I throw out.
I do that, too!! One time my husband got home and said.....is all that garbage outside ours? 🤣🤣 I was like, don't ask. You won't miss it. Lol
I think it is addictive. When my sister and I would have a garage sale it was so satisfying to have things gone and make $$. I would look for more things to pull out and offer for sale. Now I'm thinking money might not have been alI I was looking for. That feeling of wow it's gone and I'm glad because I really didn't need it anyway was part of the payoff.
Hahaha so I’m not he only one. Nothing like getting rid of stuff to “ lighten” my mood.
Everyone says my place feels so peaceful and calm.
It’s wonderful to know where everything is and have room to put things away easily.
I'm the absolute same and it drives my husband crazy. That's why he has the garage where he can make any kind of mess he wants, until he wants me to clean it with him and it's all hands on decks lol
My mom passed away in September 2020 and my stepdad in January 2021. I feel sooooo utterly overwhelmed with all the clutter I have to clear from their home. I am an essentialist and I vow not avoid the hell that I am going through for my children.
I would tell my past self that what I was left with after decluttering was all the BEST stuff, all my favorites. So when I open a cabinet or closet, I only see my very favorite clothes, tools, linens, etc. So refreshing and happy!
Infopubs, I love your post! It's what I'm aiming for as well.
Oh that’s a great perspective!!
So true. I love this! When you start to really think about your possesions sometimes you look at something you think "why did I keep this so long. I don't even like it".
That's where I want to get too.
I had heard others talk about it, but when you actually begin to experience that feeling yourself of having only the things left that you love, it's so amazing! And you're addicted to making every other part of your home the same!
Sometimes I wish I could “love” a TH-cam video, not just “like” it. Your channel is so helpful, educational and inspiring. Thank you!
Yep. Love it too x
Yes!!! This mama is saving my sanity one video at a time
Enjoy your insights & I am 81. I have downsized & wish I had done it sooner. Stuff does not equal happiness♥️🙏
We need to be listening to your wisdom!
What does? (Equal happiness)
Being present in the moment.
I wish when I was younger, that I didn’t need all the things!! I’m 52 & I want to start this process...I keep getting stuck!! I can’t seem to even start the “first layer of the onion”...
Carol Sailer - same here! I often don’t know where to start so I end up not doing it. I want to know what a clean simple life looks like - so far it’s challenging! For ex: I want to clean out my fridge at that moment but wait the counters not clear, there is stuff that keeps accumulating on the kitchen table (I have a very tiny kitchen and not much or any functioning cupboards - height issue - built in shelves aren’t good height) so then I wait till every thing is clean but other issues come up so...on and on....
“Tipping Point”!!! I am on the “downhill” side! How has it impacted our life? Wow! I’m playing the piano again after 40 years of not. I sent Valentine cards and have Easter cards ready already! I REST more - as real rest, not as escape from mess but as rest! My health is improved. I lost weight. I am not “finished” yet but I am so happy that I found you and the Take Your House Back group!
When you were tearing up, it was clear how passionate you are about the benefits of minimizing. Thank you for being so real about the process.
Jennifer Barney we will be selling our house soon. Getting rid of a BIG collection of Boyd’s Bears yesterday by trashing them. We’ve had a mold problem and the bears couldn’t be saved. They were love gifts from my husband. I cried hard the whole time I put them in a trash bag! I could do it again even writing. 😢 I told my husband after doing that....NOTHING is sacred anymore. I’ve already taken truck loads to places like Goodwill and have, in the past, put as much as 16 contractors trash bags to the garbage. Yet it’s such a small amount. Sigh. But when we move, I refuse to take all the stuff with us. Time in prayer and calling out to God for help has been key.
Thank you for these videos! They encourage me....and the fight is still on.
Just started minimalist journey, I'm 62 year old, widowed, mother of three grown children, who works at my local hospital and have downsized to a 2 bedroom basement apartment. I've managed to keep/accumulate too much stuff. The purge is happening one cupboard at a time, one drawer at a time. Wish me luck...love you and god bless and stay safe.
Best wishes in ur amazing journey👍🏻🙏👏👏👏
Cathy Bunker: Hi, I am my 60’s as well and I am struggling to minimize our home. We had 2 large homes (up north and Fl) plus when my mom died, we invited my dad to come live with us so we inherited tons of his things. Well fast forward years later....my dad, brother and cat all passed this past year and the emotions are so overwhelming to get rid of everything. We have made numerous trips to donations centers, sold a lot online but we still have a mountain of things to get rid of. I cook/bake for others a lot plus make a lot of homemade things so getting of rid of those things is putting me into a panic. Why? Because what will I do once it’s all gone? This COVID thing has changed everyone’s lifestyle. I stopped buying things and focused on experiences but now we can’t travel much with everything shut down. I think our age group is a little challenged because our parents went through the depression era and taught us to save everything and not be wasteful. I know that isn’t always ideal so I continue to go through each box and donate items. Each day is different. Some days I can whiz though everything and just get rid of it. But some days, like today, I am overwhelmed to the point of closing the door and not dealing with it. I feel like I are running out of time to get it all done. (Health issues) I wish you the very best in your endeavor to declutter your living space. Thank you for your service in the hospitals.
@@g-bgcg Wishing you well.
Linda L : thank you. Wishing you the best as well.
You’re not alone! 65 and still decluttering but have reached tipping point where it’s easier to let it go.
I think my regret is letting the “world” tell me what I needed-your house should look like it belongs in “Southern Living” magazine & your meals must look Martha Stewart cooked them, etc. I have wasted so much money & time. But it is never too late to make major changes. I spent several weeks last year going a major decluttering. And Dawn you are absolutely right-once you get started you want to get rid of more! Blessings to you!
I became a minimalist by accident. I lost every thing I owned in hurricane Harvey but it turned out to be a blessing. I have four children as well and this more simplified life is sooo much better!
“Keeping everyone afloat, but it isn’t pretty”. LOL!
Love it, it’s so apt!
I was like you , I didn't feel that I was making any progress, but several times my husband friend would Stop by early in the morning to drop off some things, I got up one day because I heard the doorbell, and my husband was closing the door, and said oh my friend came buy to drop some of my tools off, I looked around and I thought the house looked messy, and I said to my husband OMG how embarrassing, and he said no actually he just told me today, wow no matter how early I come, or at what time I come, your house always looks clean.😊 Of course that definitely made my day.
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@@sandrarichardson6931 I wonder why we still feel it is messy when other people don't think so. I guess we are just too hard on ourselves. I don't know.
@@petmomful2260 your standards tottally change
@@BananazCheerleader Let's just hope they getter better! lol
This is a wonderful presentation. Well thought out, not condescending or arrogant, great spontaneous feeling delivery. I feel as if I learned something worthwhile here.
That isn’t her style
Lol people have asked me where is my stuff! I said "where it belongs". Peeling away the layers is so satisfying. I love the serenity minimalism brings. Thank you for the inspiration!
"... where it belongs!" That answer is perfection!!!
“Where it belongs”... that is genius!! ❤️
Going to use that with my mother in law!! Wish I would have embraced simple living when I first saw it- I was afraid I would miss things. Still so far to go..... have leftovers from 4kids and a large empty nest to manage ! Working to finish this “nest” so it can bless someone else!! 🤣🐥🐥🐥🐥💕
@@suejones92 Yes. My expectation too. More time left to invest in others!!! I'm 76 now . . and it's time to give of myself to others!!! 😘
Haha perfect answer! I LOVE that! Totally going to steal it if anyone ever asks!
@@kelseyd4196, Fabulous! That's the BEST ANSWER EVER!!! Love it! :-D
Well said! I feel the same way. I have found that I needed to declutter and simplify when I became a mom. My husband was very supportive. My in-laws were often very unkind, calling me anal, picky, and OCD. Now, years later, I realize their judgmental attitude toward me was from envy. The meanest ones were also the the ones with the most debt and the most clutter. We have recently retired at a very young age, middle 50's, and are happy that we set our priorities when we were in our early 20's. You are doing a great job! You are teaching your children how to live a good life without debt...true peace and joy.
“Can I live without it?” Wow!!!!!! That is the question I’ll be asking myself during my next layer of decluttering!!! Dawn, I just really LOVE that question. Thank you!! I think you just changed my life!!!
"I'm keeping everyone a float but it ain't pretty" BEST motherhood description ever!!!
Are you looking at things differently now?
That is so true when you're a mother you really don't have a life... but you sure keep everyone else's going
I have literally gotten rid of about 20 bags/boxes of stuff😳
And it does feel like I haven’t made a dent👍
But I’m NOT giving up!!!
Taking photos helps your memory
I felt like this, and then a friend came over and said, "wow! Your house is so nice and minimal!" and I was like... REALLY?! Lol keep going! You'll eventually look up and recognize how much of a difference all the simplifying has made. :)
Elisha, I got rid of more than that and you still couldn’t tell. Bit by bit, you can tell and feel the benefit. That helps you accelerate a bit. Good luck! 😊
Wonderful! Have you kept going?
@@ReadingwithMrsW I have ... but right now.. with the holidays.. I’ve kinda stopped.. but as I have decorated for Fall and now Christmas.. I have weeded out A LOT of stuff 👍
I’m 62 and starting the process myself! I inherited a whole lot of stuff when my mother and father in-law passed,she was taking care of an elderly friend, which she inherited all of his stuff and since then my husband has passed. So I have so much stuff to go through. I’ve been so overwhelmed. I love watching your videos dawn and I’ve actually been taking little bite-size sections this week. You’re just so real and encouraging and your sweet spirit. I love your laugh. Thank you for all the inspiration and encouragement. You’re my favorite on the decluttering videos.
Best of luck. I'm doing it too... 15 minutes at a time.
Love the idea of displaying sentimental things vs storing them ❤️
My Nana always said nobody will remember it if you don’t use it ...very true...use or display ❤️
Agree with this 100%! I have SO MANY things from lost loved ones. I like having them out and sharing the stories with my kids. 🥰
Yes! Me too! I so wish we had open shelving in our kitchen. I would display my nesting mixing bowls that belonged to my dad. Very funny story, they were given to him before he met my mom and when he met her they had the same ones except hers didn’t have handles. I had always wondered why we had 2 sets of them. He passed away when I was little and now my brother has my moms, and I have my dads. They’re just so special to me and I wish I could leave them on display all the time! 💕.
💯!! This is me! There is no sense in having them if u aren’t going to enjoy them! My father in law gave me quite a few pieces of my mother in laws jewelry because he enjoys seeing them on me!!:)🤍 My sister in law has what he has given her in a lockbox at the bank. He has story for every single piece and I know when I where them, it makes him smile and that brings me joy!! My mother in law passed before I met my husband (we have been together 18 years, I’m 42 and she passed when my husband was 19. It’s nice to have a piece of her!:)
Peter from the show Clean Sweep always says to honor the things you have, not just shove them in a box somewhere. Use it or display it the way it is meant to be used.
Thank you Dawn. I feel so great seeing my house getting simplified. It is great to hear that having less stuff brings space in other parts of your life. 🎉
"I'm keeping everyone afloat, but it isn't pretty." Yes. Exactly this. 1,000 times this. Wow. This describes how I feel about my job over my household so well. 😕
I wish I had told myself I didn’t need so much stuff when I was in my 20’s. Now in my 50’s and I’m just tired of all the stuff. You are so inspiring! I’m slowly going through things. Luckily my grown children like to do yard sales and especially like it when they can keep the $ off of my stuff they sale.
I realized how far I had come last week when I went into Hobby Lobby and was able to walk by all the things/decorations that I used to just have to have! I still have a ways to go, but am so glad I started this journey.
When I see the cool things in stores I say,"Someone else will enjoy you very much!" 🤣
Now that’s the TRUE test of a determination to live with less! Ha! Good for you! Same here.
Yes, me too! I had to go every chance I could, so that if they had anything new, or a sale, I wouldn’t be left out!!! Now, it is shocking that I do not even care to go! If I do, I never end up finding anything that I can’t live without. 😁 Jennifer
That's my experience with Home Goods. Very, very rarely visit there anymore.
@V. Lemon and very cheap, not unique at all
After raising three kids and being on my own for a long time I finally decided it's time to sort and toss. I have always kept a clean and organized home, but going minimal is making me feel so much better! I have been an emotional hoarder so thank you for your inspiration. It's very freeing!!
I keep "emotional" items also. My grands are teenagers, but I kept some of their favorite toys. I am VERY sentimental.
Omg! Dawn you said exactly as I feel, like the old saying “ you took the words out of my mouth”
I love living simply, life just feels so peaceful, and I don’t regret or even think about anything I have donated.
My husband and I and friends of ours have the same model home, when ever they come over, they will say my home looks double the size of theirs, I know it’s because their home is filled all over with nic nacs, framed photos,and a BIG china closet filled with possessions, artwork on every wall.When I’m there, I will admit I feel a bit overwhelmed by it all, when they visit us they say they feel ZEN.... and peaceful.
Today was a big day for me, I had a very expensive collection, when I started to rid our home of things, we didn’t need or love, I put them in a rubber made container, thinking this winter I would start listing them on eBay, but instead I gave them to a charity to be auctioned off with the proceeds to help abused animals, I walked away feeling so good... I also have a declutter muscle now, nothing I give away bothers me.
I love your channel, it’s wonderful to be in company of people who get it. This is where I find my TRIBE....
This was such a powerful video, it will help so many, God Bless you
This is SO cool Christine!!! Way to go!!!!!
I hope I can build a declutter muscle!! What a great term!! 🏋️♀️
Susan P like everything in life, the more you do it the easier it gets....
now for me, if I don’t use it I’ll Be afraid to lose it ( declutter muscle) I keep a donation box in the back seat of my car, I still find things that I can donate, Dawn said in her video today, you will want to declutter, and it’s so true
The Minimal Mom ❤️
What an encouraging and inspiring comment, Christine D! 😊
Just decluttered our house as we are moving across country and cant fit much in a truck/everything will be small storage for awhile=money. Initially i felt dread and a feeling of oh hell no when told i needed to part with stuff as i wasnt expecting this move and i originally hated words like minimalism as to me it felt hipsterish n like a dumb trend. However i realize decluttering is so necessary and im actually glad i did it. I plan on doing it now yearly like when u do ur spring cleaning. It really helps u see how much money/time u waste on stuff u dont need at least in my case and just in general. It also helps u utilize what u do use better. It also helps with cleaning n organizing ur life. It puts ur life, money n time in perspective.
Just starting our journey here. I've been binge-watching your videos and other minimalist and decluttering and cleaning videos for inspiration to continue on this journey. I have always been a collector of things, but became a hoarder of stuff over the last 5 years when I lost my best friend of 30 years and depression set in. I'm out of the depression fog and shocked at how bad stuff has gotten. I know this will take time, and I don't think I'll ever be fully a minimalist but I do know I don't want to hoard stuff. HUGS for being real and open about your family's journey.
Just found her and yes I am binge watching. Hope I run across something on Keeping photos and videos.
I loved changing how you changed perspective from “could I use this?” to “can I live without this?” That’s what I needed to hear to keep going and really getting rid of things that I truly can live without. Always so helpful Dawn!!
We are in the uphill, actually at the beginning of uphill. We had a traumatic event happen in our family about 5 years ago, and my house got out of control FAST. It's been weighing on me heavily, so I started just a few months ago (although I've been following you for much longer). It is so difficult, but I want my home back! I want it to be a sanctuary for my family, not a burden. I have been taking "before" photos to keep me motivated and seeing my real progress as well.
Thank you for all that you are doing for so many of us out here!!
Holly Has To Say
I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you! Praying for you as you continue. 🙏🏻 You can do it.
Holly Had to Say
We did too and I have been feeling the same way and beginning the steps to make our home the blessing it should be rather than the burden it often feels like these days. You are not alone and photos can be such good motivation.
I will root and pray for you! ❤
Holly, I hope you find the Peace our Savior Jesus Christ gives. He is the only way. ❤❤❤
The mental weight of clutter is so real!!
Yesterday we filled 5 medium sized trash bags of clothes & bedding. Ive been doing this since Dec. I sill don't see much of a difference, and it's still painful letting it go. I hope it feels & looks better soon. I'm only working 2 days a week, and i hate those two days. Please Lord help me.
I’m 64yo and just at the start of the uphill section. In fact, I’m still at the point where I spend far more time watching decluttering videos than I do actual decluttering lol. There are several of you decluttering guru ladies that I love to watch, but Dawn you’re truly special. You always make me feel like we’re just having a cuppa together, and it just feels so comfortable, and comforting, and encouraging. Thank you so much for your videos!❤❤❤
I am 65 - starting the process also. Good to know I am not alone! Whew!
Watching the videos is a great start! Her longer videos are great to work along side and feel like your doing it together 😊 I'm still on the uphill too, but I'm hopeful I'm reaching the top soon, have watched many many videos.
Yes! This!
I am continually simplifying, peeling the onion layers away. As a young mother/wife, I thought more was better. More toys, more dishes, more clothes. Ugh.
And now, I see the simplicity is best light. Fewer items, fewer choices, less arguments, easier chores, faster tidying and more money saved.
You're still ahead of me but I'm inspired by your home. Simple living is a lifestyle that I hope to pass to all my children. (I was raised by a hoarder, so it means so much more to me)
Bless you and your family!
I am totally am with you. Life tells us more and my mind says less. I want to have less so I can have more time with my kids. More peace of mind.
I waa was raised by a hoarder too. I have been able to purge periodically but never have been able to gain control. Battling with depression and shame over never having a picked up house. This channel is very inspiring.
As I started getting rid of things, I was so surprised to learn that there is so much stress in having an abundance of material things! Once we discovered the joy of simplicity, we just kept giving things away and now we love our home! :)
Aimee Sacks Be gentle with yourself! 💗 We’re each unique and you are on your beautiful path... the “things” have served/are serving you in some way; step by step you can breathe deep, sense clarity and “all is well”, and allow individual items to move on to a new chapter of their existence and try out a new feel in your space. 😊✨ All the best!! 🌿💗😊✨
@@CopingwithGrattitude I identify with you very much. Its so frustrating! You feel stuck, more stressed and depressed. I just recently heard some wise words about how you cant make positive changes in a negative environment. I've had to get outside help because I cant do it myself. And it cant be just once you know, it has to be done often. Now, whether I like it or not the time is coming for me to declutter once again for I am finally moving out of my mothers! Sweet victory!!!
The comments on this video helped me almost as much as you, Dawn.🥰. You have some wonderful subscribers/friends.😘🙏
Right!?! They're the BEST!!!!! 💕😊
😆 that’s what I keep asking myself, “what else can I get rid of?”
Their house is like a hotel.
Yes, yes, yes. Everything you said is so true! Once you break in those decluttering muscles, it get so much easier. I actually used the word "ruthless" to describe my decluttering as of late. To anyone who is not over the top of the mountain yet, please keep going! It gets easier and is so good for your psyche. Love you all!
I remember when i first started decluttering my mom thought something was wrong with me as i was getting rid of so much. She would say i was depressed and tell my sisters i was going crazy. Plus she would say my house felt so cold 🤣😂. I would tell her why do I have to keep things if i dont use, need or like. She would get mad and till this day she sees me as the weird daughter 🤣😂. Little does she know one of my other sister started her decluttering journey a couple of months ago. Ive shared with that sister a few of your videos and she is doing great😁! Thanks for always great videos Dawn!
Lupita Valenzuela my mom always thought I was the weird one. Haha. She would tell my sisters too. Very funny to look back on it now' it wasn’t funny then, I’m smarter now.
What! My mom is the one who started me on this.
Awww sad. You’re not weird at all. On some level she may feel you’re rejecting her and the way she parented you?
My mom's hobby is shopping. She doesn't understand why I'm not interested in accruing more stuff anymore.
I love your approach with the "onion method". So many minimalist make you feel that if you don't stay home from work for a week, lay out all your stuff on the front lawn you will fail. Your view of it as being "developing your skills/ decluttering muscles / confidence" is so encouraging. God bless you and your family - from Ottawa, Can
Last week I started using my grandma’s tea cups - they are lovely and have always been hidden in a cabinet.
After finding so many of my nans beautiful things in cupboards, after she died, hardly used, kept for ‘best’, I felt very sad and vowed never to do this with my own things. Use beautiful things every day, get the pleasure out of them. Pointless to hide them away for a day that never comes, and for someone else to then end up sorting through them wondering why you never used them
Me too! My mum had a "crazy tea set" (cup/saucer/small plate) 6 settings, all beautiful, none alike. I never remember her using them. But now i make my visitors pick their favourite and we drink tea and eat cake like ladies!
Dawn Wood
I love this!
Yes!! So profound!
Having tea with grandma now!!
Note: not having to follow a path to your bed in your bedroom is a beautiful thing. :D
Ha! Truth!
So true. For me was pushing things to one side of my bed so I could sleep 🤦♀️
Or, then, putting stuff to1side to sleep or putting stuff in floor to then go to sleep.
Can I just say how awesome you are and I'm so blessed to have found your channel. Me and the husband have been working towards minimizing our home. A LOT OF WORKING. lol and yesterday was the first day I actually felt peace. No anxiety no stress. My 3yr and 1yr were playing peacefully and able to use more of their imagination. It was so wonderful. I mean we still have a lot of work to do, but it was a start. Everything you say on your channel is happening and it's so true. So thank you so much. You have been such an inspiration, a motivator, a mentor, just thank you. 😊
I remember laughing with my aunt as I told her how recieving 'mom's stuff' was gonna affect my minimalistic journey and what my kids were gonna say after years of tackling my sweet family of wanna be hoarders! I've been using the onion method for years! Every time it gets tighter and tighter! So here comes yesterday and I decide in cleaning my carpets. Since I have hardwood floors this means taking them up stairs! Years ago I would have put it off because it meant moving everything then putting it back! 29 minutes after deciding it (your videos motivate me so much) I rolled and hauled it upstairs where i had THREE items to move. The toy box gr'pa's brother made, my grands bed, and mom's antique sewing machine! As I looked around that room (and here's what today's video reinforced) it was so comforting. One futton couch in between 2 china cabinets displaying mom and gr'ma's items with the sewing machine sitting on a wall. No boxes, no clutter, and NO stress. It is so freeing and healing to be able to touch those memories and include them in my working daily life!
Thanks for constantly reminding me to never give up!😎👋😜
I feel this so much in my own life, we started decluttering last year and are now planning on downsizing to a smaller home because we realized our true priorities once we got rid of all the extra stuff. I appreciate the work you do so much!
Fantastic advice! What I would like people to know is if they really think they want to declutter and lead a more minimal life, they need to be prepared to be BRUTALLY HONEST with themselves. Also, people need to understand that just because they think they want minimalism, some (most) family members who live with them don't want to toss or donate all of their stuff. Compromises will have to be made.
I am so EXCITED to begin the second round of 'whole house purge' action starting right after the holidays!! I have dreams of an incredibly streamlined home that is always 'tidy' and that every item is something that is useful or beautiful and meaningful!!
I love that "can I live with out it" definitely going to use this in my mind set !!!
I’m still going uphill, but it’s feeling so good! I’ve taken two carloads to the thrift store already. I am sooo ready to do more. Your videos have been so encouraging, Dawn! Thanks so much for sharing this lifestyle with us.
"I'm keeping everyone afloat, but it isn't pretty." Oh my goodness this was exactly what I needed to hear today! Different season of life but exact feeling. Just beginning my minimalism journey, a couple weeks ago my daughter removed everything from my walls. These items weren't hard to keep neat but making me sad. Almost immediately I felt like I could breath. Inspired by the beauty of your home I plan to add back just a few pieces of decor. Fresh and new and cheerful. Thank you for all you do and the love you send out in your videos, and for lifting me up today!
What I would have told my past self instead of going shopping for more stuff to make me happy I should have spend quality time with my two boys. Now they are grown men and I hardly see them and realize if I could have rewritten my life story I would have lived a much more simpler life and realize going shopping for more stuff does not make us happy. happy was right there in front of my eyes, (my sons), but unfortunately shopping for more stupid stuff got in the way 😪. Moms, who have young kids take note of what Dawn said because in a blink of an eye your kids grow up. Don’t waste your time in accumulating stuff to impress people or shop to fill a void.
That says so much. Thank you.
Omg. THISSSS
Thank you for being honest and giving this advice... I am a young mom and will certainly listen to this!
Ha. Have been through my closets 3 times now and each time I come out with another bag of stuff. Lol.
Thanks for your inspiration and breaking down the thought process. So helpful!
I CLEANED OUT my linen closet last night! AND I can see the racks ans wall behind the towels!!!
My minister, a very intelligent young man ('young' in my 67 year old mind) and his equally intelligent wife, have nine children, ages from 19 down to one year. They have a large house, of necessity, but they are the most organized, neatest, cleanest family I've ever known in my life. While they're not minimalists, it's very difficult to see where their "stuff" is because the parents have taught the children right from a few months old on up, to put everything away when play time is over, to vacuum the carpets, sweep and mop the floors, etc. He gets his children motivated by saying "The reward is in the effort, not at the end of the journey. Take the time to enjoy what you're doing to get to the end goal, because there's a lot to be learned along the way." He admonishes us adults with that, too, and I've found that he's right---there is great reward in the DOING, not just in the result. I just wish I'd known that when my own two children were still alive....
You lost both your children? I’m so sorry.
Thanks for this message as I procrastinate housework. I am grateful to have the need to do these tasks. I’m sorry about your children ❤️
I’m so sorry for the loss of your children. My prayers are with you.
My mom had my brother and I do "chores" because it was being part of a family, not to gain an allowance or some sort of other reward. It taught us a lot of life skills without us even knowing.
Sending hugs Joyce
My Mom died in 2006. I've had one of her coffee cups in a box forever... Now me and my husband use it everyday and it makes me feel so good. Thank you Dawn for making me realize, "Why not use it." 💓💓💓😭🤔
I love this, I only discovered your channel a few weeks ago, and I'm currently on 38 bags of stuff (not including rubbish) out of the house, but I've been putting myself under so much pressure to get it all decluttered IMMEDIATELY that I had to take a break as I was just overwhelmed. I realise I need to slow down and give my self a break.....but I want the neat house! THanks so much for your content, I'll be watching regularly to keep myself on track 😊
That's amazing!! So exciting! Definitely okay to slow down though!
I started the process and then stalled. This video has me ready to re-start. I think I got afraid I would miss items I donate or throw away, or was afraid I wasn’t doing it “right.” I can do this. It will take time. One step at a time. Thank you for your encouragement!
It gets so much easier! I feel like there's something wrong if I have a day when nothing leaves the house or an area isn't decluttered and organized. God Bless You Dawn!
You are so right! Simplicity has a tendency to spill over - and I totally agree with you on displaying sentimental items. Always interesting to hear stories from other minimalists. 🥰
Working on decluttering and simplifying my daughters' room this morning and I was getting so overwhelmed and just DONE! Then I remembered my friend Dawn, and listening to your encouragements this morning while working on this has helped me so much! Thank you!!
I wish I could understand why I struggle to get rid of all this stuff! It seems like it should be easier, but I stall out every time I begin. I am so overwhelmed. I appreciate your videos and encouragement.
Can you try just a little section at a time? 15 min max. Everyday. Sometimes it causes you to want to do more. I've been going through about 100,000 pictures on our computer for 15 min a day for months. I'm almost done. Thank, God.
Maybe check out Clutterbug (Dawn did a collab with Cass a while back, which is how I found out about Cass). Butterflies and bees have a much harder time getting rid of things than ladybugs and crickets. It explained why my mom and I are always butting heads about organization.
I've tried getting rid of ONE thing a day out of my closet or drawers.. do you realize that in a year you've gotten rid of 365 things... if you don't have that many garments Just move to another area... junk drawer.. e.t.c...
Her Zzr I think this is great advice because otherwise it just feels so overwhelming and it’s also hard to keep up the momentum, but anyone can do 15 mins at a time, right? I’m gonna try this as I tend to be all or nothing and burn myself out
For me the first step was giving myself permission to struggle and to know that is ok. Start where you can. 5 min? Realize what a blessing resale /thrift shops are to people! Someone said donations places are like free storage units- except when you go back for something you can find a BETTER one! 💕🤗
This reminded me of the George Lopez show. Did you ever notice when watching that show that there isn't one space in any room, wall, flat surface etc that isn't covered with a decoration or just stuff? It's so overwhelming. It would make me insane to live like that. We are in the process of decluttering my home and I am loving the feeling of letting go. Thank you for sharing!
What you said, especially at the end. Dawn it truly moved me to tears. I understand what you mean or at least imagine it would be that way.
We are in a season where my three young children are home but my youngest whom is 2 will be 3 end of September and I’m starting to see pockets of time open up to dedicating myself to decluttering. I lost weight this year through a health journey which caused me to purge my clothing. And your onion method is what is starting to happen naturally. I imagine what time and peace would be given to us as we get s a simplified home.!!!!
The uphill deliberations are where I’m stuck, especially with baby cloths and toys. Evangeline will probably be our last daughter and it’s hard to close that door...
Please follow thru I am 67 have kept things out of SENTIMENTAL reasons of children's childhood
They have no interest in them took a few things to appease me I could tell that was why
One of the biggest things EVER I
would have changed in my life would be to have done this when
my children were young All people are so much happier I am do much happier with SPACE glorious space They need to learn this happy simplicity 💗
Enjoy the MOMENT. The kids NOW. 😊😊😊😊😊✨
Sandra L. Moralez Thank you for sharing your perspective!!
I just got married to a widower. His home came fully furnished!! it has been a bit of a challenge going through every drawer, every cupboard, every closet! I have been very open and talk to him often about how minimal would he like to go. That has been very helpful. I just don't want him to feel like I am removing everything of his wife of 48 years or things his kids and grandchildren know of their mom and grandma. I have been using the quarantine bins and they have worked very well. Thanks for your help with this.
I am so glad you talked about that moment when you were destabilized by having kids I often got in a kind of panic which defeated my purpose of being organised and and getting quality time I have totally decluttered and giving away stuff people give me me that I didn't ask for I treated myself to a panoramic wallpaper on one wall which is a view of the street in Havana which has a a pig orange American car in the forefront because I have decluttered so much there is room to see this from a distance it is magical especially as with the pandemic I could not travel to Sicily this year my absolute keeps are my piano drum kit harmonicas I am an amateur musician but it gives me a hell lot more satisfaction than anything I could buy in a shop
I went through my sock drawer while watching this. I've been decluttering like crazy lately. I didn't realize how many I owned! After listening to your videos though, I realized that I really don't like the dress socks I own much. I used to have an office job many years ago, but my current job only requires black socks. Now I've gotten rid of a whole bunch of pairs and I feel so much better!
I just have to say I am so glad I found your videos! I am no where near where I hope to be in a couple of years but I'm content where we have made it. We had to call maintenance yesterday to repair our stove and my husband said we needed to clean up the house. It took me maybe an hour for it to be completely clean. Before it would have taken me seriously at least 4hours.
I am definitely in the uphill climb right now, AND in that “tumble of motherhood”. It’s feeling a little impossible, but your videos really help me to get into alignment with a more simplified life. Thank you for taking your time to do these videos 💗
1:10 You'll crave even more simplicity
2:27 People won't think you're weird
6:00 There is a tipping point & it gets so much easier
7:56 The onion method works keep using it
9:03 This is just the beginning
🙏⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🙏 Just found this channel, I ♥️ it !
Dawn, you have been a huge inspiration and help to me. I started maybe back in January or so, and it has been a slow process. I have osteoarthritis in my knees, and it's very hard to work. But finally, I am seeing great results. I'm still working on it and will continue to peel the onion, but you are so right! I don't miss any of it! Early on, when thinking of the money spent on items, my mantra was, "Mistakes were made." And then I just kept plowing through. You're also right about wanting more simplicity. Thanks for helping me through this.
I wish I had all the MONEY I’ve spent on STUFF!
For what?
Wendy Swain not sure I understand what you’re asking, but it you want to know what I would spend it on instead: financial security, retirement, experiences. Just not stuff that I’ve ended up donating.
@@obragg1 oh. You'd make different choices. Gotcha
I do too, but I read a quote recently that has impacted my life a lot. "Decluttering is always about forgiveness." So I am really trying to forgive myself for all the money I've wasted on stuff I didn't need. All the best to you! It's still worth it to get rid of things.
Obragg1 i have often said the same thing to my self!! Wasted money perhaps?
I could cry right now. The story about motherhood and the wave- that is the feeling right now explained and painted the best picture. Knowing it’s not just me and I’m completely crazy for wanting to take this journey and the feelings fueling the motivation.
I very much needed this pep talk on this very day! My wheels were spinning🙃🙂❤ Thank you!!
JUST FINISHED MY FIRST ONION LEVEL OF THE WHOLE HOUSE( EXCEPT THE BASEMENT!) IT IS SO MUCH MORE MANAGEABLE. I RETIRED A YEAR AGO AND THOUGHT I COULD GET ORGANIZED BUT IT DID NOT HAPPEN UNTIL I DISCOVERD YOU ! THANKS THANKS THANKS
Been watching your channel for a while. I’d love to minimize my house, but haven’t been able to accomplish much. But I’ve looked back on the past year or two. My house is much better! Thanks for the motivation! Love your channel!
Dawn, I've been enjoying your transformation and self-discovery, and now you're helping me with my own journey. My 2-yr-old mountain of paper is filed, tossed, or shredded. I can walk through my home in the dark and not step on, over, or around anything. I have space and peace of mind; I sleep like a log and the anxiety dreams are gone. The books I won't read again, the clothes I won't wear...gone! Your videos are bite-size tutorials, and so helpful. Thank you!
Beautiful! Thanks for the encouragement about paper.
@@beccismith4454 So agree. We called it a genetic disorder passed down in several generations. No joke as Dad passed unexpectedly two years ago. Mom is just letting go of his clothes this year. Bless her heart!
Now it's his boxes and boxes and boxes .......of papers. He saved his school work from a boy to college and every company he worked as an engineer. Yikes! The issue is both were horders and at almost 86 years she has a ton of work to do. Everything can't all be precious I tell her. It's hard for me and my stuff but I'm getting a better grip now. Let go of my school, kids, papers. It's a process for sure. I use the good stuff, if it breaks and things have at least it was used and loved and appreciated. It was hard at first but it takes being honest with oneself.
It's only stuff, not relationship's, memories ect.
I want to do those things I didn't have time for working most my life. Try new things but I have to let go of stuff to have that freedom.
Doing something is more than nothing. Little bites.
I can't say I'm looking to go fully minimal. But definitely wanting to simplify things. This helped a bunch, thank you!!
That's what I said too... Until I realized how amazing it feels to really simplify life. Simplifying is great regardless. 😊
@@maeb7723 I want to start slow, I don't want to freak my husband out lol. Keeping things tidy with less effort would be great to start with. I actually don't mind cleaning at al ( laundry, dishes; floors) Its the constant redo of the pick up that wears on me.
I think that minimalism is different for each family. I have pared down significantly over the last year, but in comparison to Dawn, I have much more stuff. But there is much more peace and calm in our home now.
@@kimleein09 thank you so much for sharing your experience. I honestly really wanted to hear this from someone who is actually living it and seeing an improvement in their life and home. This is very much what I am hoping to achieve for us.
Don't think about "fully minimal" because that's not real. Like kimleein09 said, it's different for each family and it will be different for you and your husband. I don't know if you know The Minimalists, but they've been a huge inspiration for me and I really think you'd like Joshua Fields Millburn's Home Tour. It's a 5 minute video and you can see his house looks exactly like a normal house, minus the clutter. When people say "minimalism" they immediately think about "nothing on white". It will only be that if that's what YOU like. There's no rule book, no recipe. Your minimalism will never be the same as mine, or anyone else's. So don't worry about it. ;)
feeling like i'm on the incline part, feeling like what I've done hasn't made much difference. This video definitely resonated with me. Thank you!
We think, "we must be odd." Random other person thinks' "it's so big and bright in here..." interesting how we are so hard on our selves
Ahhh Dawn you have honestly helped me so much! I did not know how to get back to decluttering and having a simplified house. My sister passed away and it went backwards as I thought why even do these things if we all will die one day. But you videos is helping a TON and I feel I have that hope/spark back that was lost. This is definitely a God calling on your life. Thank you so so much 🙏🥰❤
Love seeing pictures of your younger family. What would I tell my younger self? Do I really need that? Put that money to the side.
"People won't think you're weird." After doing some major decluttering for months, my MIL recently came by for the first time and I was a little worried that she'd ask about where all our stuff was. She walked into the living room, looked around and said, "Oh, things look pretty much the same here..." She definitely didn't mean it as an insult, more as a comfort to herself given that we had all been missing each other during covid. But it made me realize how much people just don't see our houses or our stuff, and that it was OK for me to do what I needed to do and I could let go of other people's expectations. No need to worry about being perceived as weird.
When we first bought our home everything we owned fit into our living room, including our washer and dryer. We were married for three years before we had our first child. He was about one when a Kirby vacuum salesman showed up at our door. And I remember him asking if we had just moved in 😂 11 years later and it's a different story. 😳🙈 But we've had a lot of changes in the last seven and I'm working on it. The neighbor kid did comment about how much more room there was recently and it made me feel like I was finally getting somewhere!
We had someone ask us if we just moved in too 😂
I love this! I can relate to this video so much as a wife, full time nurse and mother of 3.💕
I’m actually here when it’s posted! Woohoo!
“I’m keep everyone afloat but it isn’t pretty.” Yes! That’s how I feel every time we have another baby. Simplicity is sanity around here. I’m so glad I found you when I did; I don’t know how I would have done trying to manage all of our stuff, moving, and having another baby at once had we not simplified. We’re not done yet, but we’re so much better off.
Hey Ashley! Happy Tuesday! I’m curious to know how many babies you have!!!🤪 And I agree with everything you said, even though I just have one! “Keeping Afloat” is a real mood! 🤍☀️💋 Sending Love and Positive Vibes from South Florida!:)🤍
Michie Butterfly77 We have three little ones; oldest is 4, second just turned 3, and youngest is 8 months. We’re just now getting back to better than just afloat. I find that once I get past that tipping point I can see how much my skills have improved in order to just keep things afloat with one more. My 20 year old self would be amazed at how much I can handle nowadays!
Yes!! We just had a baby two and a half weeks ago and we are trying to sell our house and find a new one- and my mom asked me how hard it was keeping the house show ready and then I realized- so much easier than I thought because the house has so much less in it! It’s amazing that simplifying makes such a huge difference!
I’m also in the “keeping everyone afloat, but it’s not always pretty” season.
Ashley McDonald I am at the “we have been in this house for 12 years and I’m sick of looking at this stuff” phase! This is the longest I have ever loved in one space (I’m 43) and it seems to like up easier when u don’t move!! I would say that my 20 year old self was probably more organized now but that’s about to change!! You certainly are busy with all of those little ones!! What an amazing season you are in!! Enjoy every minute of it!!🤍☀️💋
I like that you used the word, “simply”. Does not seem so drastic as I start to get rid of over 50 years of stuff.
This has been a rewarding journey. Both my daughter and I follow you and have both worked really hard at this. You are right when you say it is freeing. Thank you for the encouragement to continue.
Dawn~ I just found your channel 3 days ago and I'm 65 years old. I have spent the last two days craving simplicity! I hauled off an entire carload to the thrift store today. I started with kitchen pots and pans , dishes... then to closets ... then clothes. I went to bed at 1AM the first night and woke up and started over again on some shelves I saw I didn't do enough!! Yes, I wanted LESS stuff... got all bookshelves done (and I love books)! My counters are cleared off and I love it... I'm so pumped! I feel so free! It also helped me to reorganize each space that I tackled... thanks for spurring me on! I just need more trash bags!!
I'm pretty new to this & really only started decluttering a couple months ago during lockdown but I'm loving it😍 My hubby is on board with it too so that makes it easier lol but now we can see family again my sister came to visit & she said"dont go too minimalist will you" I thought that was so funny as it's not her home 😊 thanks for these videos they really help & I love your home btw ❤
Man the simplification-tipping-point...
I feel like we were drowning in stuff, and all it took was to get rid of a few things I didn't like anyway and it was inmediatly so much easyer to have a clean livingroom where in 10mins it's tidy enough to have guests over and not feeling ashamed anymore like I did before.... One of the best decisions of my life (decluttering only, I'm faaaar away from being a minimalist and don't think this would fit me)
I had saved about 6 large totes of sentimental items and baby clothes for my son. Just went through all of them, and condensed them down to one tote. I was saving them for him, and now that he's 24, had him look at everything. He basically told me to throw everything away except a few things. Realized all those years of moving, it was all for nothing basically since he is very minimal. Less is definitely more!
But what will his future wife say when they have kids? It will probably be fine, but that's what I say to myself when I try to decanter that kind of stuff....I have 4 sons. I'm still learning to build decanter muscles.
*declutter
Sandy Aidukas Yes, this was the same with me! My adult kids didn’t want all of what I had saved! I hauled it all over the country as I moved, and they only wanted a couple small stuffed animals they had when they were babies. Photos of the other items would have been enough.
It applies on the other end too. No need to keep things for 50 years thinking your adult children will want them or appreciate them like you do. The only thing I have from my beloved grandmother who has passed is a faux fur coat she made, earrings she made for me, and memories. I don't need a bunch of things to remember what a great woman she was.
Yes to all of these! I’ve been working on our home for five years. At first I just wanted things simplified. Now we’re working toward minimal. I’ve never been more content with my home and what I have. 🤍
I love this video! Actually can't wait to watch it again cuz it gets me so jazzed to keep simplifying!! The craving for more simplicity is REAL and it's the best craving I've ever had! Over the last couple years I've been watching your channel, my family's mood and how we communicate has skyrocketed because of simplifying!! Who knew that hidden clutter affected us so much?! My family used to get so stressed trying to put all that stuff we had "in the right place" where I wanted it. They'd get frustrated, confused, defeated. Now it's become so clearly defined where everything goes! Our realtor came by the other day and I randomly asked a question about our bedroom closet. And I was able to take her RIGHT back there... because everything was clean! No secret piles of junk frantically stashed anywhere when company's coming! Hurray!! Our previous home was BIGGER than this one and we spent 10 years longing for it to be bigger. No! We didn't need it. Less stuff = more room! It's the cheapest "remodel" ever!! 😄 I'll never go back-- this is the good life! Thank you every day, Dawn!!!
I moved from a 5 bedroom, 4,000 sf house to a 1,750 3br townhouse about 10 years ago. I did not regret, or hardly remember, anything I got rid of.
Getting ready to sell our home, so learning to get rid of stuff as we pack for downsizing :)
I am still in the process of decluttering and organizing. I find it really hard at times so it was good to hear that there comes a point where it does get easier. I guess that I use the onion method although I didn't know it was called that until you said it on this video! Now I have a term for it I feel better about it. I feel like it is taking forever and I am also aware that my husband has a problem with me getting rid of stuff. But I am determined to keep going. I find that when I watch these TH-cam videos it inspires me to do more. Thanks for this video.
Great advice, Dawn! LOVE it! I'm close to the end of my big decluttering, and you are right... I crave more space and simplicity! My only regret is that I didn't do this right from the beginning!! Oh, well...this empty nest is feeling so peaceful and serene, and I feel good knowing that my kids are not going to have to deal with all of our "stuff" later! :)
Sometimes I feel like people think we are weird! They seem worried I will be upset if the kids make a mess. I tell them not to worry about it! But it kinda makes me feel self conscious what people will think.
I have shared what I have learned with my mom. Over the weekend I helped her clean her closet she has been avoiding. She kept thanking me and it would make her smile when she looked at it. She was happy to finally be able to hang all of her clothes up because she got rid of ones that didn't fit or she didn't like. I love helping organize and seeing the look on someone's face when it's finished. Thank you for doing what you do Dawn! You'll never know how much it's helped me and my family.
I have had sooo many more negative comments about my minimalist house than I ever got when it was full of junk and messy - although I often find those same people suddenly having clear outs after a visit lol!
It was probably to make themselves feel better when they were actually inspired by you
I have been "goggling" your channel for a little while now, every once in a while for about two months. I came across this posting on my "recommended" list today, and I am so glad I did. My story: I am 50, I have moved at least two dozen times in my lifetime (former husband was military), and now I am engaged to a quadriplegic (for the past 13 years). We have been in the same home, always renting, for the past 5 years, and suddenly the landlord needs to sell. We have become so accustomed to this house. It is just the two of us in a 3 bed, 2 bath, full basement BIG house. So much storage for all his medical supplies and anything else we could ever want or need. We don't know yet if we are going to need to move (we were told about 3 weeks ago). And I have been just so anxious about tackling this place. Watching your videos has given me the inspiration to just do it. Even if we aren't going to have to move, I have to just do it. I have a back injury and have been letting things collect everywhere: the spare room (!!!), the dining room (which is also my craft room) and the basement is what they call organized chaos - meaning, I know exactly where something is, but could never explain to someone how to get to it. It really all needs to be dealt with, not so much in that I need to do it in order to move possibly into a smaller place, but also, if something happens to me then my fiance will be able to be taken care of easier. Thank you so much. I hope you know that your videos, advice, experience, and positivity are exactly what a lot of need. God bless you and your family.
You are seriously a genius! I love your channel. My mom suggested it to me today. You are giving me so much hope that life can get better. I have 4 young kids and so overwhelmed at the moment.
'keeping everyone afloat, but it isn't pretty' lol I love that! That's a perfect description of my life.
good thoughts-totally agree-especially about not missing things-because deep down we know what we really need.
I was just talking to my little sister about sentimental items. She mentioned that she’d been handed-down a really large painting from our grandfather. He told her our recently deceased grandmother had loved it. My sister is about to move into her first apartment and wondering if she should bring this painting. She feels attached to it for sentimental reasons, but she’s not crazy about it, and neither one of us even remembers our grandmother ever discussing this painting, or even seeing it hanging in her home! I told her to take a picture and then donate it and leave free space for the things she loves.