I think this is the most honest and profound talk about marijuana addiction that I have seen. I really identify with the part about, "marijuana is a problem because it's helpful, because it makes me feel normal..." and it has been a huge long-term problem. Thank you.
I used to weed to blind myself to the world around me because it sucks out there and now that ive stopped i know why i was smoking weed because my internal world sucks and so does the outside world.
I gotta ask, when you were in emotional pain did you use the weed to blind yourself to it? I smoke weed daily basically, but I find that if I'm in the throes of depression I actually don't want to smoke weed or even drink, sometimes I do still smoke weed anyway. I'm asking because for me I swear weed makes me think about things in a more positive way and it doesn't blind me to any of my feelings, it's more like it allows me to look at how I feel in higher resolution. Was it like that for you?
@@paulgavian90exactly weed stopped me from doing things I actually wanted to, clearing up let me take back control, allowing me to make positive choices
Dr K has made such an impact on my life. You should definitely try to get him back on if hes willing! The wisdom of that man is literally changing the world
I know someone who uses weed everyday and he's 73. He's used it for DECADES. He has done NOTHING productive with his life. NOTHING. And he thinks this is the 1980's. He's also a hoarder and makes very bad choices for his life.
This doctor's assessment is very accurate. I've watched many doctors' broadcasts on TH-cam. I found the majority have some biases, maybe because the people at the top of this business are putting some pressure on them, or perhaps they are getting some monetary benefit.
Porn is hardly harmless. It causes marital problems, abuse, sexual dysfunction, sexual promiscuity, extra marital affairs, youth going out of control…it’s straight from hell. I’m glad you did speak about some negative aspects of porn. Just talk to ex porn stars.
Hey Doug thanks for the podcast Id love to see more of you edited into the shots that are just Dr K talking it helps create the energy and vibe that im in a room with you and dr k and yall are chopping it up otherwise it feels like dr k talking to a wall
Sometimes it’s easy to blame things outside of ourselves. And we definitely have a lot ways of numbing ourselves with the many drugs, activities, foods, etc so it’s easy to vilify the external and not the internal. Did you ever ask maybe why your confident husband turned to weed? Why did he feel the need to numb his pain? Did you ever notice he was in pain with that kind exterior you seem to want to impose on him? Was he actually confident or was he putting up a front for his loving wife because that’s what men have to do when we marry? What if that kind and confident man you married was never *just* kind or confident? Why is is so hard to accept the duality of the human condition? It’s never just about the substance but about why that patient feels the need to numb their pain. Where is the pain coming from. Cannabis use is just a symptom of something much bigger. If you really cared about your husband I would stop focusing on his cannabis use and focus more on where his pain is originating and the rest will take care of itself. Psychotherapy and couples counseling hopefully can help too. Wish you both well on your journey! 🙏🏼
its not the weed that brought it. why did he take it to begin with? there must have been something underlying, that he was deeply unhappy about in life. the weed was a bad attempt at self medicating for that issue, like it is with any other addiction.
@raze956 He started at 13. I'm sure there were many reasons. He is in his mid-50's now. I met him in our 40's. I have lived with him as a daily cannibas user and not. I prefer not. He is a gentler, kinder, more confident & patient partner without weed. I'm not into psych-analyzing my husband...that's on him now...to figure out the why....I am just commenting on the state of the relationship.
I like to listen to these long podcasts on my phone so I don't have access to adblock, and this podcast has an abusive number of ads every 5 minutes which really takes away from the experience of listening to this. Love Dr K though, on his channel there are usually less ads
26:40 and 27:20 Very well explained. "I am not passionate the same way so I am just mimicking the passionate people." 29:30 I agree with him that at this moment everybody is competing to get attention. But I would say some good channels actually compete in healthy way to also provide some real connection, like finding connection, creativity, and values. 34:00 "Get your psychological stuff met in real life." He probably means like 30-day detox from internet etc...It helps, but then you have to set another boundaries and write some plan. As other therapsist said 30-day detox will restart your dopamine "reward system" in the brain, which makes you more focused and happy, because of healthy amount of dopamine, and it seems exercising some sport and sleep, creates also serotonin and happy hormones. It seems like in real life we have all the solutions in front of us, we just shouldn´t listen wrong people who say nonsense, and make you depressed or discouraged but follow your own intuition and if you realize sport and meditation make you feel good, you should continue doing it.
Half of men that end their own lives do so after a divorce. They not only lose their wife, but they lose their kids, home, friends, and entire way of doing life. I'm a Relationship Coach and specialize in Pre-Marital Guidance to try and keep this from happening. Great video, super informative! Thank you!
3:35 seems ppl are very good at seeing short term consequences........ thats the way the brain works....but we are very poor at seeing long term consequences.
I don't do weed, alcohol, porn, or social media (unless you count YT) and I can't "escape mediocrity" anyway. I've done nothing but bust my ass for high honor in school, honor society, worked 2 jobs while going to college, graduated college, 2 degrees, literally never drank or smoked a day in my life EXCEPT a glass of wine at my wedding. I scrape by in a fucking trailer park. School, gubmint, and society at large are full of shit, fuck everything.
What’s holding you back then brother? Are there any behaviors that are holding you back? Or anything you do that’s sabotaging your growth and progress? Or are you truly trying your hardest and not getting the results that you want? Where would you like to be that you can’t seem to achieve?
Some therapist said good point why do men feel depressed from watching porn, because the body releases the hormone of love oxytocin and the bonding hormone, but he is alone in the room, so it makes him depressed. Plus also the part of the brain that contains objects is activated not the part of the brain that contains humans. His brain feels like he is looking at objects, not at humans. I guess maybe doing some sport or camping with family, would make men happy on many levels and bonding with people.
43:00 I think having success in jobs is healthy at some point, but then you are supposed to enjoy the fruits from it, finding the time also for your other needs like sport, conversation with colleague or friend, maybe they need your advice, or support, or the friend wants to promote your work, and you promote his work, which is voluntary but it´s enjoying, it´s bonding, it creates beautiful long-term memory. or for traveling, meditation, proper sleep, enjoying the process of bonding with family, going camping, the seemingly ordinary stuff, but they are actually extraordinary... they will give you feedback and they smile, they will say we enjoyed the trip in nature, we should do it often etc. Their nonverbal communication and smilling, actually give you also the feedback, that they feel happy, in the present moment. The job success will wait for you....but the brain and subcosncious mind is not trained to believe that the success will wait for you after comming from the trip with family, but you train your brain to learn it.
@@krisbailey8537 How is it a lie if I am proof that it's not a gateway drug? I've smoked weed on and off for 15+ years, and I've never moved to a harder drug. How can a substance be a "gateway drug" if it doesn't lead to a harder drug?
@@krisbailey8537 Looks like my reply was deleted. I am living proof that marijuana is not a gateway drug. I have enjoyed it in various ways for the last 15+ years and have not moved on to "harder" drugs. How can something be a "gateway" if it doesn't lead to anything?
@@krisbailey8537 Ya, i've been a pot head and worse: a chronic alcoholic. There's no comparison; in fact weed is one of the least harmful things you can do. Whereas alcohol is as devastating as any hard drug, if you get addicted.
Awesome interview. I would like society to not be afraid to be skeptical of mj benefits. Legal does not mean healthy. How is potency altered? Is it not similar to food modification? I wonder about some stoners i know who are picky about non-GMO foods, so it seems counter that they don't mind smoking synthetic oils and inorganic bud.
I'm sure "failure to launch" has absolutely nothing to do with the hell scape of an economy we live in. Right!? We all live in a vacuum. Right? The fact of the matter is upturns and downturns in the economy track very closely with rates of suicide, drug addiction, child abuse, etc. So talking about these issues from an individualistic perspective is important, but it's about fifty percent of the picture, maybe less. To not mention the societal factors that we all deal with that are demonstrably unnatural undemocratic, unethical, immoral, heinous, repugnant, is to really gasligh people's suffering. If we really want to solve problems, we have to talk about the larger order relationships, we're all a part of you cannot solve individual problems in a vacuum, but that's exactly what psychology and self-help. And that whole manosphere angle tries to preach.
Exactly. This guy is a doctor whose life was streamlined. I appreciate his contributions to psychiatric health, but he himself is in a bubble. All the self help in the world isn't going to stop your neighbor from toking at night to sleep.
After pulling a 30 day sobriety run for 4/20, I think I’ll be smoking weed just twice a week, only at night. Numbing yourself all the time will leave you blind to a lot. It’s not good for you in the long run.
@@kjaran7164 I understand, but not everyone will have the same experience as you when trying that way. Everyone has a different way of quitting, because everyone is different. I’m glad you pulled it off. I’m certain that I will too someday. I just gotta keep doing better than I did than yesterday. It’s not about the destination, but the journey it takes to get there. Godspeed to ya, and keep going up from there! 👍❤️
5 to 15 minutes of meditation (even just “trying” to meditate, if you’ve never tried it before) can already help you a lot…. you sure you don’t have 15… 10… 5 minutes?
In my experience, weed will screw your life up worse than alcohol. I hate to say it, but for me, it is true. Alcohol is more acute in its effects, but weed is subtle, and more impactful in the long run, especially for mental health. That is, if you are a hardcore smoker, which seems to be easier than to binge drink, for me personally.
But if you stop and do sport instead, you may bond with people who have healthy lifestyle and maybe also the partner, because partners usually care about wellbeing of the partner. The healthy habits will distract you from unhealthy habits.
Why would anybody listen to this show? I've heard 2 completely different Thanks from 2 completely different people. One says marijuana helps your sleep.The other ones says it doesn't help your sleep Your podcast sucks.
What David said. Alcohol, opiates, other drugs or disassociatives do not act in the same way marijuana does. One can smoke for 30 years and only feel sleepy, others can smoke 5 years and feel that way, then get paranoia everytime they smoke afterward. It is not studied as well as all the other substances due to strict controls on who is allowed to cultivate and research it's effects. One can have ALL the schedule drug licenses, 1-4, and still not be able to test the pot in your local dispensary. I find a lot of Dr. K's and this guy's takes on Marijuana very uneducated in the space. I think this may be my last video on the subject from him, certainly my last fro mthis interviewer, and I'll stick to his others on various topics.
Awesome podcast 💚 Appreciate you for inviting us on!
Thank you and you’re welcome! Loved our convo 🙏🏼
Thanks ❤ just tuned in yesterday was just journaling about the same things😂.
One of the best approach to feelings for men.
Thank you for knowledge and insight on these topics. My life is changed for the better listening to what the both of you have to say 🙏
I think this is the most honest and profound talk about marijuana addiction that I have seen. I really identify with the part about, "marijuana is a problem because it's helpful, because it makes me feel normal..." and it has been a huge long-term problem. Thank you.
Just because cannabis makes me feel good, doesn't mean I felt bad before ingesting it.
Some people just can't handle a little bit of pot.
I used to weed to blind myself to the world around me because it sucks out there and now that ive stopped i know why i was smoking weed because my internal world sucks and so does the outside world.
When you eliminate weed, you can start to work on the internal problems. You will do better to understand both worlds, and it will get better.
You should read some stoicism brother, I think it will help with the perspective you have right now
I gotta ask, when you were in emotional pain did you use the weed to blind yourself to it? I smoke weed daily basically, but I find that if I'm in the throes of depression I actually don't want to smoke weed or even drink, sometimes I do still smoke weed anyway.
I'm asking because for me I swear weed makes me think about things in a more positive way and it doesn't blind me to any of my feelings, it's more like it allows me to look at how I feel in higher resolution. Was it like that for you?
The reality is.... Only you can create a positive or negative
@@paulgavian90exactly weed stopped me from doing things I actually wanted to, clearing up let me take back control, allowing me to make positive choices
Dr K has made such an impact on my life. You should definitely try to get him back on if hes willing! The wisdom of that man is literally changing the world
Hey Doug! Chapters would be really helpful!
I know someone who uses weed everyday and he's 73. He's used it for DECADES. He has done NOTHING productive with his life. NOTHING. And he thinks this is the 1980's. He's also a hoarder and makes very bad choices for his life.
Based as always. Alok really inspires me to move on and not allow my setbacks to become failures.
Alok showed me how to unlock the tony hawk pro skater map editor of my mind.
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This doctor's assessment is very accurate. I've watched many doctors' broadcasts on TH-cam. I found the majority have some biases, maybe because the people at the top of this business are putting some pressure on them, or perhaps they are getting some monetary benefit.
Dr. K is the best! Thank you Doug.
Valuable insights to important questions. I needed this, thanks.
Great conversation with such important topics
Porn is hardly harmless. It causes marital problems, abuse, sexual dysfunction, sexual promiscuity, extra marital affairs, youth going out of control…it’s straight from hell. I’m glad you did speak about some negative aspects of porn. Just talk to ex porn stars.
Brilliant, I really needed this
This is just phenomenal, no 🧢. If it’s your last data point, it’s a failure. If you keep going, it’s just a set back. Sheeshhhh
👉 Please provide the time stamps in every podcast ❤.
Hey Doug thanks for the podcast
Id love to see more of you edited into the shots that are just Dr K talking
it helps create the energy and vibe that im in a room with you and dr k and yall are chopping it up otherwise it feels like dr k talking to a wall
I actually listened to a podcast with Dr.K, thanks for the interview!
Weed has destroyed my marriage. My kind, considerate, gentle man has become an unhappy, hateful, insecure human being. 💔
Sometimes it’s easy to blame things outside of ourselves. And we definitely have a lot ways of numbing ourselves with the many drugs, activities, foods, etc so it’s easy to vilify the external and not the internal. Did you ever ask maybe why your confident husband turned to weed? Why did he feel the need to numb his pain? Did you ever notice he was in pain with that kind exterior you seem to want to impose on him? Was he actually confident or was he putting up a front for his loving wife because that’s what men have to do when we marry? What if that kind and confident man you married was never *just* kind or confident? Why is is so hard to accept the duality of the human condition? It’s never just about the substance but about why that patient feels the need to numb their pain. Where is the pain coming from. Cannabis use is just a symptom of something much bigger. If you really cared about your husband I would stop focusing on his cannabis use and focus more on where his pain is originating and the rest will take care of itself. Psychotherapy and couples counseling hopefully can help too. Wish you both well on your journey! 🙏🏼
its not the weed that brought it. why did he take it to begin with? there must have been something underlying, that he was deeply unhappy about in life. the weed was a bad attempt at self medicating for that issue, like it is with any other addiction.
@raze956 He started at 13. I'm sure there were many reasons. He is in his mid-50's now. I met him in our 40's. I have lived with him as a daily cannibas user and not. I prefer not. He is a gentler, kinder, more confident & patient partner without weed. I'm not into psych-analyzing my husband...that's on him now...to figure out the why....I am just commenting on the state of the relationship.
bruh that's just you or a brain problem
I definitely hold off on weed if I'm trying to get work done
And life is full of work so…..
I like to listen to these long podcasts on my phone so I don't have access to adblock, and this podcast has an abusive number of ads every 5 minutes which really takes away from the experience of listening to this. Love Dr K though, on his channel there are usually less ads
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26:40 and 27:20 Very well explained.
"I am not passionate the same way so I am just mimicking the passionate people."
29:30 I agree with him that at this moment everybody is competing to get attention.
But I would say some good channels actually compete in healthy way
to also provide some real connection, like finding connection, creativity, and values.
34:00 "Get your psychological stuff met in real life."
He probably means like 30-day detox from internet etc...It helps, but then you have to set another boundaries and write some plan.
As other therapsist said 30-day detox will restart your dopamine "reward system" in the brain, which makes you more focused and happy, because of healthy amount of dopamine,
and it seems exercising some sport and sleep, creates also serotonin and happy hormones.
It seems like in real life we have all the solutions in front of us, we just shouldn´t listen wrong people who say nonsense, and make you depressed or discouraged
but follow your own intuition and if you realize sport and meditation make you feel good, you should continue doing it.
I’m trying edibles for the first time and TH-cam recommended this to me lol 😭
Half of men that end their own lives do so after a divorce. They not only lose their wife, but they lose their kids, home, friends, and entire way of doing life. I'm a Relationship Coach and specialize in Pre-Marital Guidance to try and keep this from happening.
Great video, super informative! Thank you!
3:35 seems ppl are very good at seeing short term consequences........ thats the way the brain works....but we are very poor at seeing long term consequences.
No timestamps? Ugh
How does this dude get these guests with so little views/subs?
I don't do weed, alcohol, porn, or social media (unless you count YT) and I can't "escape mediocrity" anyway. I've done nothing but bust my ass for high honor in school, honor society, worked 2 jobs while going to college, graduated college, 2 degrees, literally never drank or smoked a day in my life EXCEPT a glass of wine at my wedding.
I scrape by in a fucking trailer park. School, gubmint, and society at large are full of shit, fuck everything.
What’s holding you back then brother? Are there any behaviors that are holding you back? Or anything you do that’s sabotaging your growth and progress? Or are you truly trying your hardest and not getting the results that you want?
Where would you like to be that you can’t seem to achieve?
What were the degrees in and are you struggling to get them to work for you?
Something is not adding up
why is doug's mic not connected?
Good content
"Nobody goes through seizures when they're withdrawing from pornography" I can think of one or two lmao
Some therapist said good point
why do men feel depressed from watching porn,
because the body releases the hormone of love oxytocin and the bonding hormone,
but he is alone in the room, so it makes him depressed.
Plus also the part of the brain that contains objects is activated
not the part of the brain that contains humans.
His brain feels like he is looking at objects, not at humans.
I guess maybe doing some sport or camping with family, would make men happy on many levels and bonding with people.
43:00 I think having success in jobs is healthy at some point, but then you are supposed to enjoy the fruits from it,
finding the time also for your other needs like sport, conversation with colleague or friend, maybe they need your advice, or support,
or the friend wants to promote your work, and you promote his work, which is voluntary but it´s enjoying, it´s bonding, it creates beautiful long-term memory.
or for traveling, meditation, proper sleep, enjoying the process of bonding with family, going camping,
the seemingly ordinary stuff, but they are actually extraordinary...
they will give you feedback and they smile, they will say we enjoyed the trip in nature, we should do it often etc.
Their nonverbal communication and smilling, actually give you also the feedback, that they feel happy, in the present moment.
The job success will wait for you....but the brain and subcosncious mind is not trained to believe that the success will wait for you after
comming from the trip with family, but you train your brain to learn it.
This video is pure gold. But sadly, the people who need to watch is the most, won't watch it. Nature long term weed users ;)
Stop with the jump cuts. People like longform content
15:16 how porn affects brain
Marijuana is only a gateway drug if you choose to use a harder drug.
Lmao that’s such a lie
@@krisbailey8537 How is it a lie if I am proof that it's not a gateway drug? I've smoked weed on and off for 15+ years, and I've never moved to a harder drug. How can a substance be a "gateway drug" if it doesn't lead to a harder drug?
@@bmac2792 it desensitizes your brain chemistry
@@AraOG-o7w That doesn't have anything to do with it being a "gateway drug" to another drug.
@@krisbailey8537 Looks like my reply was deleted. I am living proof that marijuana is not a gateway drug. I have enjoyed it in various ways for the last 15+ years and have not moved on to "harder" drugs. How can something be a "gateway" if it doesn't lead to anything?
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All problems with marijuana can't be 100% mitigated. Bye, not using it more than once in a twenty four hour period
*Can be
If anyone thinks that weed is more harmful than alcohol, you have ZERO credibility..
When he said "alcohol is almost more damaging"... than pot..
Alright, ive heard enough cya
Yeah this dude just spreading random stuff to the self help TH-cam crowd. The p*rn I understand. But weed? Really 😂😂
@@krisbailey8537 Ya, i've been a pot head and worse: a chronic alcoholic. There's no comparison; in fact weed is one of the least harmful things you can do. Whereas alcohol is as devastating as any hard drug, if you get addicted.
Awesome interview. I would like society to not be afraid to be skeptical of mj benefits. Legal does not mean healthy. How is potency altered? Is it not similar to food modification? I wonder about some stoners i know who are picky about non-GMO foods, so it seems counter that they don't mind smoking synthetic oils and inorganic bud.
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I'm sure "failure to launch" has absolutely nothing to do with the hell scape of an economy we live in. Right!? We all live in a vacuum. Right? The fact of the matter is upturns and downturns in the economy track very closely with rates of suicide, drug addiction, child abuse, etc. So talking about these issues from an individualistic perspective is important, but it's about fifty percent of the picture, maybe less. To not mention the societal factors that we all deal with that are demonstrably unnatural undemocratic, unethical, immoral, heinous, repugnant, is to really gasligh people's suffering. If we really want to solve problems, we have to talk about the larger order relationships, we're all a part of you cannot solve individual problems in a vacuum, but that's exactly what psychology and self-help. And that whole manosphere angle tries to preach.
You are right, but what is it we can actually control?
Or I guess what I mean is, with all these forces acting against us can we afford to add ourselves to that list?
Exactly. This guy is a doctor whose life was streamlined. I appreciate his contributions to psychiatric health, but he himself is in a bubble. All the self help in the world isn't going to stop your neighbor from toking at night to sleep.
If someone cant bring themselves to look for a job, not get or succeed at but look, what does the economy have to do with that?
You're right ! Now, suck it up and deal with it. You can't control what happens to you or around you but how you respond.
❤ Dr K. He seems t be a great guy.
After pulling a 30 day sobriety run for 4/20, I think I’ll be smoking weed just twice a week, only at night. Numbing yourself all the time will leave you blind to a lot. It’s not good for you in the long run.
Yeah, twice a week will change to twice a day in no time. Either you quit, or you don't.
@@kjaran7164 I’ll quit in due time. Things like this take time to do. But if you take baby steps towards that goal, you’ll get there eventually.
@@theLoveRocketjr Baby steps didn't work for me. I had to brutally remove weed from my life. Every day you smoke, is a day lost.
@@kjaran7164 I understand, but not everyone will have the same experience as you when trying that way. Everyone has a different way of quitting, because everyone is different. I’m glad you pulled it off. I’m certain that I will too someday. I just gotta keep doing better than I did than yesterday. It’s not about the destination, but the journey it takes to get there. Godspeed to ya, and keep going up from there! 👍❤️
@@theLoveRocketjr Yeah, good luck man! I only wish you good, been through this struggle myself so I know how rough it can be. Stay strong 💪
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I don’t have time for negative emotion or acknowledging my feelings.
5 to 15 minutes of meditation (even just “trying” to meditate, if you’ve never tried it before) can already help you a lot…. you sure you don’t have 15… 10… 5 minutes?
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In my experience, weed will screw your life up worse than alcohol. I hate to say it, but for me, it is true. Alcohol is more acute in its effects, but weed is subtle, and more impactful in the long run, especially for mental health. That is, if you are a hardcore smoker, which seems to be easier than to binge drink, for me personally.
But if you stop and do sport instead, you may bond with people who have healthy lifestyle and maybe also the partner, because partners usually care about wellbeing of the partner. The healthy habits will distract you from unhealthy habits.
I dont like your weed stuff i think its white poeple stuff . But i like the dopamine stuff this is a golden topic
Huh????
As a white dude who has smoked bud every day for the past 3 years I think you've got some assumptions you should change
Found the weed smoker 😂
@@jax3636 I smoke too but you sound regarded as hell dude
@@jax36363 years lol, try 12. Definitely negative side effects eventually.
Why would anybody listen to this show? I've heard 2 completely different Thanks from 2 completely different people. One says marijuana helps your sleep.The other ones says it doesn't help your sleep Your podcast sucks.
Weed affects people in different ways. I know people who can't sleep without smoking.
What David said. Alcohol, opiates, other drugs or disassociatives do not act in the same way marijuana does. One can smoke for 30 years and only feel sleepy, others can smoke 5 years and feel that way, then get paranoia everytime they smoke afterward. It is not studied as well as all the other substances due to strict controls on who is allowed to cultivate and research it's effects. One can have ALL the schedule drug licenses, 1-4, and still not be able to test the pot in your local dispensary. I find a lot of Dr. K's and this guy's takes on Marijuana very uneducated in the space. I think this may be my last video on the subject from him, certainly my last fro mthis interviewer, and I'll stick to his others on various topics.