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My girlfriend acutually is the most creative person I know of. And the whole trauma subject is such an issue for us. I am so gratefull to have discovered Dr. Matés work, it gave me Insights that are of unimaginable value.
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so true..i am talented, educated, obtained my BS in engineering..hoping i could get out of this chain...but didnt work..i lost everything, including the love of my life. but how to fix it? i dont know...im happy i saw this video of Dr Gabor Mate'
Brilliant! 95% of consciousness is believed to be unconscious. So if i am behaving in a fearful avoident manner in my romantic relationships, i am not so much responding to my partner so much as reacting to my past. The difficulty then, comes in trying to change the subconscious fearful avoident reactions. Difficult because only 5% of my behaviour is under conscious control. Any suggestions?
@@globalvagabond5376 reactions have time afterward for adjustments. As you adjust your sails to reset your course, you will improve your re-reaction time until you've created a new reaction. Grab hold of what you can when you can. And make you're number one romantic relationship be between you and your breath.
Most excellent interview. The more Gabor I watch, the more I realize he is the real deal, and his egoless communication gets to the core in plain and intelligent language.
He enlightened me to my fathers pain I did not know till he passed away... everyone of us are a child within ourselves and healing comes from learning from our parents and learning from the pain they went through and maybe evolve from there traumas
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.
I read his book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts in rehab and it was exactly the kind narrative i needed to understand my own behaviors. It also helped me become more accepting of the idea of recovery in general. He was literally the first person i felt as though 'got it' and wasnt speaking down to addicts or mh patients etc. To a large degree i owe whatever success ive had to this guy.
3rd generation ADDICT, clean from Heroin and Meth, abuse in all forms I experienced, went to prison for violence and Drugs , this is what needs to be a major part of Pre entry into society for inmates, I had no clue WTF was making me tick, at 41 I'm scratching the surface of my issues, how do I confront myself with no awareness of the Root issues? MAN No wonder recidivism is near 80 percent within the first year of release!! Thank you, my look inside continues.
Wishing you all the best on your journey 🙏🏼 the resources are out there and inside of you at the same time. RE-COVER-Y :) like he said... 🍀 re discover yourself
@Mike Martinez - I think you know what your problem is, you are just scared to confront it. Cos when you open the box once....all of the pain comes in flooding your entire being. But once you have started "feeling" again, you can manage the pain too, it just takes time. And if your parents were addicts, your problems are: child neglect, abandonment, emotional unavailability of the parents (hense your aggression - it's actually towards them), repressed anger, a massive emotional "hole" due to the lack of security and parental love. And you need to change your environment + find a job if you want to change something. The same environment / "friends" will push you back to the same
Can't thank you enough, Tim and Gabor that was brilliant. I'm 64 and at last I am hearing what I have needed to hear since the age of 6 and thought I never would.
But he also says we create our world according to how we perceive it. I don't remember the exact point, but it's in the first half-hour, because that's as far as I've got just now.
Dr. Gabor Mate awakens our mind to the reality of trauma and how our childhood shaped us. I have learned the importance in facing and being in touch with this trauma and suppressed anger. Journaling, and talking about them are keys to freedom. Learn how, WayofSpinoza.com
I don't know if you are familiar with Stephen Borges Polyvagal Theory as well as Peter Levines Somatic Experiencing, but if not I am sure you will like those as well. Bless you!
This comment alone is what is making me stay and give this a chance! (That and the time of the video, a talk this long must have some nice heft of good info :)
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
I guess I just want somewhere to share my story. When I was 19 I took shrooms, and it was like I was turned inside out. As a child, I was very extroverted and loved being around people. And after the shrooms, I felt disconnected from everyone and everything around me. I just wanted to alone. I am learning to feel happiness from within myself, not running from myself. It's been a LONG and PAINFUL process but once it's healed, it's healed and beautiful
Its like that...people just stress me tf out. one time i did shrooms (my first n only time but i had done acid before) and i started to notice how badly my friends treated me and i saw how we interracted with each other more clearly, and it really opened my eyes.
@@kathleenmcclenahan5701 I can relate to that. It definitely was the beginning of the end for me too. But the ending of something less real, so I'm ok with it. Just took a lot of adjusting and I can't bring others with me like I tried to at first.
This says everything right here, because he didn’t used to be. He said so himself. So that says any of us can reconcile and realign with ourselves in this way.
"When the student is ready, the teacher appears". Humble thanks for your personal vulnerability and insight which enhanced the interview in multiple ways... I have listened to several of your interviews without comment. Blessings for your healing light!😇💘 11/2/22
This has been a frustrating and painful truth for me...this human experience has been so difficult and it would be nice to be handed the knowledge at the outset to avoid the suffering damn it...but i realize that's not the point
I’ve had the pleasure of attending a two day workshop with Gabor. As a child and adult trauma therapist he is my hero and there’s not enough of us spreading this work...
This single video led me to a journey with Gabor Mate's teachings that has transformed me and my life. Thank you, Tim! Your work does matter! Best of luck to you :)
A voice over of him speaking over a Facebook video led me to his work... I'm in shock at how accurately he described ME in "Scattered" .... I'm on my journey now.
Gabor is incredible. His talks have made a massive impact on me! And he is from quite close to where I live as well 💖 been listening to him for years now
A minor adjustment, if you will: *kids don't feel loved. Just wanted to broaden the scope and give credit to parents who try to love their kids but accidently miss the mark.
Yeah like regular people don't shame kids for being frustrated actually care about WHY they are frustrated especially if they are not usually. Little kids get treated like adults too expected to sit still and behave and be quiet or else they have ADHD? They have more energy need exercise etc.
Dr. Gabor Mate awakens our mind to the reality of trauma and how our childhood shaped us. I have learned the importance in facing and being in touch with this trauma and suppressed anger. Journaling, and talking about them are keys to freedom. Learn how, WayofSpinoza.com
Psilocybin saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. Imagine carrying heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years the be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.
Can't trust anyone with psychedelics because it's still a schedual 1 drug. Governments are the natural enemy of freedom and peace. When the federal government can put me in a cage for trying to heal myself without the use of the currupt pharmaceutical and medical industrial complex, it's clear why our society is so sick.
A memory or a nightmare depending on whether you integrate healthy lessons in life into your daily practice or unhealthy ones, which so many traumatised people struggle with understanding the difference between what is healthy or unhealthy for them due to the cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding that has taken root in their psyche through years of being gaslit, verbally and physically abused and other toxic experiences from Narcissistic parent/parents and other significant childhood figures.
The difference between a true seeker and a feed-me. Like, some people have one psychedelic experience in their life that is vague and unspectacular and they derive lifechanging insight from it. Someone else visits an ayahuasca circle every week and they can cruise on for decades without learning anything transformative. (Although an unlikely extreme, since then aya likes to hit you hard when you least expect it. I heard of cases where someone with a self-image of a spiritual guru took the brew and later told the shaman he realized what BS it all was. But at first he very much stuck to it. It took some time to process.)
This is the best explanation of adhd I have ever heard. I use to believe ADHD is used for psychiatric incentives, but his explanation really explains adhd as a coping mechanism, not an illness.
Really? It is the Nazi's fault that he can't pull his act together? Maybe.... JUST MAYBE, at some point in life, its time to grow up, own their own act and stop blaming abusive mothers, alcoholic fathers, Nazis, teachers, in general OTHERS. Maybe.
OMG! Finally my life makes sense! Thank you so much for your insights into the drama of the gifted child and the sensitive child but especially for your explanation of how ADD develops as a coping mechanism if the infant who is sensitive to the stressed and abused mother. In that moment, you injected clarity into decades of confusion, self doubt and, yes, addiction. If only I could have heard those words 50 years ago. I like to think I would have never done time in prison and laid waste to my own young family in the process…
Nobody wakes up one day and says oh boy I'd like to do time in prison. I am sure that was not your goal. Your comment just moved me emotionally. I love Gabor. ❤️ I wish he could have reached all of us sooner. He makes so much sense.
I think you slightly misunderstand, the scenario you described is only one example of how ADD may develop. There are other scenarios that could cause you to shut down your brain for survival purposes, other than your relationship to a specific kind of person.
Search for "EQI - invalidation" for a document related to the complex of good and bad parenting and the core psychology. One of those documents that every person had read it would already make a significant positive difference.
He most likely has trauma induced Disassociation functioning for all intents and purposes as adhd. I am in the same boat. My mother had untreated Paranoid Schizophrenia when I was a small child. You are correct adhd can be genetic and just happen, other reasons. My adoptive daughter let me know even though mine is trauma induced hers in genetic. One thing I would warn people about is be careful tying trauma responses to bad parenting. I've struggled with this a long time. My parents were both severely abused. I think in the big picture it's time to accept or forgive and move on.
It's so nice to hear a person use the word shame accurately. We live in an often toxic & ignorant culture, and words like narcissist, shame, and even more frequent "toxic" itself are often weaponized and used incorrectly. I mean it's pretty odd how everyone's ex is a narcissist considering how few NPD's actually exist. Toxic is likely the most frequently used, and used by people who want to get their way. All of these words are important, but often used to manipulate. I mean of course Gabor uses them right, as they are a core part of his work. We can thank the socials for taking any good thing and using it reckless AF.
I totally agree. I need to watch this again. I thought it was amazing. I wish that the host would repeat certain things (titles of books) and key points because they touch on so many topics (and references to books and people and experts) and it's hard to catch it all. I should look at the show notes, I guess.
amazing! I'm almost 64 years old, "The House at Pooh Corner" is my all time favourite book. My Dad read it to me and I read it to my kids, often with tears running down my checks out of joy, humour and loss. Until now, Ive never heard another say the same. Thank you Gabor Maté
Psychedelic are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough.it's fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety..it saved my life
Psilocybin containing mushrooms save my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
What a beautiful heart-opening experience. Gabor has more depth than all the worlds oceans and he’s all heart. It gives me hope and inspiration. And seriously making the guy hold a microphone for 2 hours?!?
FINALLY-somebody is out there talking about the long term effects of stress on more than just aging adults (where it’s acknowledged as a serious problem). My entire family has problems with depression and anxiety, and it all goes back to an emotionally, verbally, and sometimes physically abusive household that was the result of my father’s having been under an extraordinary amount of stress. Our parents loved us and one another, but they had some serious problems that took them decades to work out. And I was seriously, horribly, dangerously ill for two years in early childhood. I know that’s why some of my coping mechanisms have not been very healthy; they work in the short term, but they have bad consequences. It’s nice to hear someone lay all this out in such a cogent discussion. It’s helping me figure out what to do next to try and get back some emotional health, because I’ve been operating at probably one-quarter capacity for years and years now. Thanks for this-
Your story looks like very much to mine . I'm always reminding me that what's happening - when I'm worried about something - has to do with something related to my childhood , so I can get calm . Have you tried psylocibin microdosing ? I have for two weeks already . Up to now Ive experienced unusual ways on dealing some small things , doing it better . I hope I will overcome many years of depression in next month .
Tim, you're a fantastic interviewer and i'm so glad i found this video. Gabor, no words to say but thank you truly for sharing your deep honest insights
Every time Dr Mate answers a question he gives a clear answer and never seems to struggle to verbalise what he is thinking which shows a strong and unshakeable understanding of his subject..To me he explains things that i have struggled to understand in such a clear way. Thankyou Doctor.
The moment I hear him tell us to not sexually assault and mutilate our male children I'm sure I will have that same experience as you. What I'm seeing is a man with all the information he needs yet an overwhelming cultural brainwashing that prevents him from exposing the most obvious, blatant and disgusting mutilation of the genitals of our male children. I just see hypocrite.
1:38:40 my heart dropped at this realization 😢 I’ve learned so much today and I’m writing down everything in my notebook but I’m still gonna watch this over and over again to absorb all the knowledge I can. Thank you for making this 🙏
1:38:40 my heart dropped at this realization 😢 I’ve learned so much today and I’m writing down everything in my notebook but I’m still gonna watch this over and over again to absorb all the knowledge I can. Thank you for making this 🙏
Study this: Anatomy Structure and Function of the Human Male Penis The Hidden Simple Facts of Male Genital Anatomy by world renowned Nurse and why the world doesn’t know it. th-cam.com/video/BgoTRMKrJo4/w-d-xo.html Study of penile sensitivity th-cam.com/video/PDh63jVkNVg/w-d-xo.html Sorrells fine touch sensitivity www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/17378847/ TH-cam Anatomy Structure and Function Playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLIZ9tgpNSydo3RjOOv4RU4-ZwLCZ3SVWv.html Video on the functions of the Foreskin th-cam.com/video/D_dzeDvx2QA/w-d-xo.html&app=desktop bit.ly/2r5mw1n Foreskin During Sex Vs Mutilated th-cam.com/video/cOZQ-2rV2zQ/w-d-xo.html The intromission function of the foreskin doi.org/10.1016/S0306-9877(02)00250-5 www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306987702002505?via%3Dihub The mechanism is simple. The interposed foreskin decreases the friction between the introitus and the glans. The unretracted foreskin consists of a thin dermis that is folded on itself with very little friction between the layers. As the penis advances, the foreskin unrolls so that the portion that makes initial contact with the introitus is 6 cm. Up the shaft before any friction occurs between the device and the skin. Visual of Functioning Whole Male Penis How a Natural Male (Unmutilated) Penis Works th-cam.com/video/cOZQ-2rV2zQ/w-d-xo.html Anatomy of the Penis: Penile and Foreskin Neurology th-cam.com/video/DD2yW7AaZFw/w-d-xo.html The prepuce: Specialized mucosa of the penis and its loss to circumcision by J.R. Taylor, A.P. Lockwood and A.J. Taylor Department of Pathology, Health Sciences Centre, University of Manitoba, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada BRITISH JOURNAL OF UROLOGY, Volume 77, Pages 291-295, February 1996. www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/taylor/ The prepuce C.J. COLD and J.R. TAYLOR* Departments of Pathology, Marshfield Clinic, Wisconsin, USA, and *Health Sciences Centre, University of Manitoba, Canada British Journal of Uroloygy, Volume 83, Suppl. 1: Pages 34-44, January 1999. cirp.org/library/anatomy//cold-taylor/ or bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1046/j.1464-410x.1999.0830s1034.x Circumcision removes the most important sensory component of the foreskin - thousands of coiled fine-touch receptors called Meissner's corpuscles. Also lost are branches of the dorsal nerve, and 10,000-20,000+ specialized erotogenic nerve endings of several types. Together these detect subtle changes in motion and temperature, as well as fine gradations in texture. Meissner's Corpuscles are found in our lips and fingertips. They're there for us to detect the lightest of touches. So take your hands and rub them together. Feel that friction? This is the sensation that is not supposed to be felt during intercourse. Size of the Foreskin - Its NOT just a 'flap' of skin! "First, a dissection feasibility study was performed in eight male cadavers. Dissection proved feasible, and the mean surface area of the prepuce, when folded out, was 46.7 cm2. (7.2 square inches)" www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9734426?dopt=Abstract Post-Circumcision Sexual Sensitivity Self-Test www.fathermag.com/health/circ/sensitivity-test/ How Much of Your Sexual Sensitivity Has Been Cut Away? A circumcised (anyone can use this - for us circumcised, this is our only way) man can assess how important his missing skin is by testing his remaining sexually sensitive tissue as follows: In an aroused state, caress the skin downwards, starting from the end of the penis. When your stroke crosses the scar line, note the stark difference in sensitivity. The amount of sensitive area you have remaining between the scar line and the glans is just a sample of what you had before your circumcision. This sensitive region is normally much larger and folded inside the foreskin in the intact male, where it is moist and protected from constant stimulation. After circumcision, what remains of this region is exposed, dried out, and greatly desensitized. Child circumcision was designed in an attempt to reduce the sexual appetite by reducing the amount of pleasure sexual stimulation can provide you.
Dr Gabor Mate's wisdom, honesty, perceptiveness and story-telling skills make me want to find everything he ever did and read everything he ever wrote. Tim Ferriss makes a wonderful foil to him.
Tim, this interview was SO IMPACTFUL to me! I had never heard of either you or Dr. Mate until tonight and I am so grateful for you BOTH!!!! I'll be your newest groupie! Thanks for all you do!
This dude is so great! Here are three amazingly profound quotes from just the space between 15:20-16:35: “I have also studied myself very deeply. I have had to because my life just was not working.” “I work with people to bring out the truth of their experience, so that they are no longer prisoners of their childhood, but that they can make a conscious choice about how to live in the present moment, not based on how they were programmed in childhood.” “The intent is always to bring insight and liberation to people.”
I have been binge watching interviews of Gabor Maté these times and I have to say that this one is maybe the best I’ve come across till now. To see Gabor so relaxed and getting into the interview making jokes and letting the conversation flow naturally, the pauses during questions and answers, the respect when listening to each other speak without interrupting is a beautiful, calming experience, while allowing me as a listener to absorb what is being said. Thank you for this!
Trauma: “we don’t respond to what happens, we respond to our perception of what happens”. “That’s what Trauma is: We don’t respond to the present moment, we respond to the past”.
Yep, going to do ayauska with shaman . It allows you to revisit traumatic moments and since you're tripping your face off you get to go back through these moments and reframe the way you think about them which heals the trauma so it no longer affects you
After listening to Tim's recent podcast where he disclosed his childhood trauma of being sexually abused between ages 2-4 it must have felt for him that Dr. Mate was speaking directly to his soul in relation to The Prisoner of Childhood. So powerful, shows that even the people you admire the most are fighting their own inner battles. Thank you Tim.
I like how honest and open Gabor is and he is absolutely spot on in his interpretations of addiction and childhood trauma and that addicts are trying to kill the pain they feel from childhood. I like everything this guy says.
This Doctor's deep insightfulness, self-awareness and modesty and his unique way of dealing with his life-experiences makes his character totally enthralling. Thank you so much for sharing your life experience Gabor. I have learned so much from it.
Gabor Mate...I have been following his work for years. This man's heart and work has changed many lives and continues to do so. One of the few men who has a comprehensive view of what a human is beyond mere gender, race, addiction or any other label or 'condition'. Beautiful man.
Just a straight up awesome doctor who is willing to listen to his patients an a doctor who has actually experienced some if not all of his patients problems. If you haven't gone through stuff, you just don't understand (most doctors). Thanks for having this interview Tim!
I sooo concur, Sheep Dog! I've been living with the outcomes of severe trauma with onset right after I was born for all of my life (I've turned 56 recently, trauma symptoms have rendered my disabled and incapacitated/unable to work). Most of the times that I sought help with therapy, you'd have to sit down in front of someone who has never felt what trauma REALLY is and how it takes your nervous system hostage in debilitating ways! That said, they'd hardly ever meet me at eye's level, but always in a sort of condescending way even power trippin' many times. Needless to say that this kind of 'treatment' didn't do much good (or sometimes had adverse, counterproductive outcomes). The world needs MANY more Dr. Matés!
Absolutely Beautiful!!! :-) Maaaaan, I have no words to express how AWESOME it actually feels to watch a NORMAL conversation between two sane human beings who calmly take the time to have a REAL conversation, and to approach the totality of a topic!
Gabor Mate is such a brilliant and interesting person. Ive read all his books. He has such a great voice for narrating too. I'm so glad I found this channel 😁
Thanks for giving me more insight into the pain that many experience. As a mother I knew that our children's problems derived from traumatic experiences even before they were born. My thoughts were confirmed...thanks again
@@dorothybothman1550 offspring of male mice have generational trauma.. I hate what humans do to find out. but eyes its cell memory.. im gonna talk to mea cells and tell them its ok to release the trauma. wmeanwhile its summer here..im out bathing in a kiddy pool with chamomile coffee, magnesium flakes boron. and herbs today I put fuller's earth or DE on my face neck and are and legs. gives me a mask and will kill fleas in the garden when the water gets spilt on it. x
Tim, you're one of a kind in your kind and patient hosting of your guests. And this interview, the Stuff of Life, much healing in there for those who can get beyond their own impulse to malicious response to a cruel life. I was a loveless child, and a hate filled youth. I wanted to become a professional assasin in my young days. But one grows up and learn. A good friend once told me....Gustav, once you leave the hate behind, life starts. Respect to people like you and Dr Mate, in a world filled with fear, hatred, and sheer malice. Heroes do not wear capes. They wear dignity and insight.
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
@@gustavagenbacht6600 nice one, hollywood needs more authors like you with actual substance. I feel like you could write a story using your life experience about how a potential villain chabged course, lol
@@SamuelAlder thank you..! Funny you mention scripts. I'm writing a novel (in the background) called Rekka, based loosely on my life as a young man, but mostly fictional....making that point of an assassin experiencing meaningful transition. I'm involved fulltime now, however, in an initiative I started to fix the Apartheid damage to society here in South Africa on scale.
@@rouissiachraf Adult humans think it is okay to take healthy normal babies and strap them down and take pliers and knives to their genitals for fantastically asinine medical excuses. What part of this don't you understand?
I'm a traumatized and highly sensitive person. Sometimes (quite often) it's unbearable to be like this. 😢 I feel like I'm a magnet for traumas. I keep recollecting new traumas. As if my childhood was not enough.
It IS unbearable. Just when I feel like I'm healing from one trama, something else happens! I can just hear someone saying, 'well you like playing the victim'. That makes me angry. If it's true, tell me what can I do about it, not just attack me.
Obviously, it realates to past trauma that needs to be healed, integrated..and stop making affirmatiomns..like Im a Magnet for traumas coz you ll just end up manifesting that.
52.00 mins - Thank God someone is finally saying this and not just blaming the addict for their weakness. But so many former addicts talk as if you have to follow 12 Steps and somehow change your thinking and behaviour, before you can even begin to tackle the underlying problems. I just don't see how anyone manages to achieve that, as the reason they start the addiction is still going to be there, and there seems to be no help with 'curing' those reasons. You are just told to pull yourself together and take responsibility for yourself. There's no kindness and self-worth boosting.
Wonderful, amazing interview between two phenomenal, intelligent, deep intellectuals. You mentioned so many things, and topics about mental health and depression are so helpful. We all know that Gabor Mate is one of the deepest thinkers and of our time, but Tim Ferris is amazing. I have never seen/heard such a knowledgeable, patient, curious interviewer who is truly interested in his guests opinion, not is his own ego. Bravo, bravo , bravo!!! Thank you.
@@marynoonan1160 are you aware that knife raping babies creates life long psychological damage? Maybe we shouldn't be sexually assaulting children and pretending its medicine
Thank you. The only thing I have to say after watching this video is thank you. I feel much better after watching this conversation and I definitely know now that I'm not alone in this world, that there is people that think the same way I do. Thank you, this has been a wonderful piece of time of my life. Thank you
I've watched mostly every recent interview/podcast of Gabor and this is so far the most profound conversation. Thank you for holding the space and walking the talk!
Show Notes Gabor shares his family history and how it motivated him to understand people as a medical doctor. [09:58] On influential books and gaining, rather than losing, something in translation. [14:06] The link between sensitivity, pain, and creativity. [21:33] How does Gabor start helping someone who’s outwardly successful but inwardly tortured? [24:31] When did Gabor’s interest in medicine begin? [29:58] How did Gabor end up working in palliative care? [33:49] How did Gabor start focusing on his work with addiction? [36:29] What nontraditional methods did Gabor use that raised eyebrows and got him fired, which opened opportunities he couldn’t have foreseen? [37:10] How does Gabor define addiction, and how is it at odds with other definitions? [39:16] What prompted my high school drug addiction? [41:32] How a coping mechanism becomes the root of addiction. [47:39] Looking at the causes of addiction instead of the consequences. [52:10] To what extent do genetics play a role in addiction? [1:01:56] What do the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) studies tell us about the nature of addiction? [1:04:50] How I’ve used loving kindness meditation to shed certain behaviors. [1:07:17] Once Gabor identifies why an addiction exists, what’s the next step? [1:11:37] Recommendations for someone looking to reconnect with themselves. [1:14:34] After a lifetime of believing himself unaffected by the benefits of yoga, what kind of yoga has Gabor recently started practicing with great success? [1:18:42] How did Gabor begin researching the therapeutic value of psychedelics? What was revealed by his first experience with ayahuasca? [1:20:56] The right way and the wrong way to experience ayahuasca. [1:26:46] Where can people learn more about current scientific studies into the therapeutic benefits of psychedelics? [1:30:40] An important caveat about powerful tools and exploitative gurus. [1:35:05] How I’ve been trying to reconnect with myself and my own gut feelings. [1:38:29] Why we shut down our gut feelings. [1:41:14] Elvis Presley’s lack of love song. [1:45:55] Some powerful modalities aren’t for everyone. [1:47:26] How did humans discover ayahuasca? How might it differ from place to place? [1:49:17] Gabor’s pre- and post-ayahuasca practices. [1:53:14] The importance of integrating by sharing our powerful experiences with others. [1:59:41] The clear intention you set is not the same as an expectation. “The task which hinders your task is your task.” [2:01:20] How can we view such a task as a gift? [2:05:07] An exercise for understanding how we respond not to what happens but to our perception of what happens. [2:07:18] Why blaming others for our problems turns us into victims, while identifying ourselves as the source of those problems is empowering. [2:14:01] What Gabor’s books are about and where he and his work can be found. [2:19:25] The problem with the way the United States deals with trauma. [2:24:47] Parting thoughts. [2:27:05]
Dr. Mate is on the forefront of how we're evolving in our understanding of the psycho-emotional roots of addiction and dysfunction. I'm happy to refer patients and seekers to this video.
Thank you for not just doing this interview, but also showing up in a meaningful and courageous way. We don't have many examples of cultural heroes demonstrating precisely how to "go deep". You gave a lot of people permission to emulate your actions here.
I was separated from my mother after 4 weeks ,and sent to a babies home run by the church of England. I was then adopted age 9 months .I have always felt outside of life and isolated , finding intimate relationships almost impossible ,as though I have such an absence of normal loving feelings or connection. I would love to know where to start healing process . There's so much excellent research now that highlight the consequences of the many ways trauma impacts us all . Thankyou Gabor Mate .
If I hadn't been stuck in a shielding household for a year with 2 parents with Aspergers, in the middle of a pandemic, I would probably have never heard this. I can so, so relate to a lot of this...my environment, the numbing, I don't take drink or drugs, I was widowed in 2000, but never had emotional support from family, from age 12 I never wanted to go home...now at 52, I've run out of internal resources...thank you so much Tim and Gabor xxx
I feel this.. I grew up with a narcissictic sister (undiagnosed, of course) but so much screaming, manipulation, belittling amd everything revolved around her. My mother gave no emotional love and dad worked away a lot but never responded. Ive always been on my own but if i need to much im punished. Im gaslit by my mom too yet im the only rational person. Its very painful as ive tried to make a relationship as an adult and has recently backfired. Doing the same thing wont get different results.. Hugs
@@dana102083 hello there, thank you for sharing your situation. That sounds really tricky. As humans, most of us, I know not all, need healthy connection with others. I hope you can find some peace amongst the chaos...
I know the feeling. I’m 38 but i feel like my life is ruined. I have time left, but not my health. At least he taught me to have compassion for myself and I actually have self love now. All the best to you.
Dr. Mate is calm experienced, connecting authority. It's such a relief just watching him actively listening to Ferriss. He practices his philosophy of compassionate inquiry. Such a relief to find this video. I could list on and on the points i found helpful. The distinction between traumatic vrs trauma inside disconnecting a person from her emotions and forming defensiveness in others is such a helpful concept rather than blame and guilt over addictions.
Probably the third or fourth time I've listened to this interview. Love it. I find so much meaning every time! So much kindness and wisdom in this man born of his own suffering.
We need more Dr. Gabor Mates. He is not only a genius but he truly loves people and cares so much about mankind. He so much wants to help up s all that are struggling with various issues not just addictions but he has such a wide variety of knowledge in all areas of depression. He has truly changed my life for the better.
This was such a fantastic talk. Thank you💞. Living with Tourette’s syndrome I have had many struggles. Since learning Vipassana, yoga and exploring my roots I have re-discovered the lost child who now no longer feels lonely and appreciates the meaning of being alone. This new field of energy means less fear and more trust in the self. Thankyou both to for your work, and effort.
This was a great talk. I've watched a lot of Gabor Mate's presentations and interviews, but this was by far the most enjoyable. It's nice when the host / guest dynamic is authentic and fluid. Thanks for this.
Kelley Diane - you are right. I think we should thank Tim Ferris, interviewer for asking profound, truthful questions and listening to his guest with great attention and understanding.
It occurs to me that the wounded child is transformed in a positive sense to help heal others , however they can turn away from themselves in doing this, I should know as its taken me 45 years to look harder at myself and stop trying to rescue others. What a wonderful conversation .. open and full of learning.
Yes~not wanting others to feel the way I did. I'm 50 & realize I can't pour my energy into saving others. I've learned to let others work out their own issues. It's difficult to mind my own business. I want to help. It breaks my heart the way people treat each other. I'm very sensitive & working on controlling my emotions.
wow..yes...i see that in myself.. i want to help everyone.. but want im doing ..is hoping that people would see MY PAIN and return the favor..i thought God would help... very rarely did anyone every try to help or look for the red flags..
Probably the most profound and instructive thing I have ever watched on the internet. Gabor Maté is a great, wise man. If only there were more like him. Thank you!
after cancer at 31yrs just 2 yrs after my sisters sudden death i immediately connected with emotioal pain causing this near fatal illness........but im still here, nature is my healer and has all the answers we need
Beautiful interview. As a trauma coach / EMDR therapist , I love Gabor Mates approach. So authentic and I love the connection here between Tim and Gabor. Thank you so much to both
Thank you Tim for this video. It’s taken me a few weeks to get through it. Have 10 mins to go. Tears came at this point because I felt hope. Gabor has been life changing for me although I’m just starting out. Thank you for sharing some of your personal story Tim. I feel so much compassion & growth from you. I wish you so much love & healing on your own continued journey. Much love to you xx
Gabor came to CIIS while I was in grad school and gave a talk on addiction, practices of compassion toward the addict - all the themes his work has highlighted. I was able to ask him some questions and it was really special. Little did I know that a few years down the road I would be facing the truth of my own addiction and entering recovery. Really grateful for the interview and renewed sense of connection with his work.
Do you guys notice that the comment sections of intellectual videos such as this or philosophers etc has much less to no fighting or people insulting each other? This says a lot.
We are new parents and my daughter just turned one. As I'm listening to this, i just say "Holy sh*t, I never looked my parenting that way." Thanks Tim and Doctor Gabor.
I am the mother of a teen girl. By the time your child is her age, you will have made a million *mistakes*. You will both be alright if you continue to love her and listen to her, not just her words, but however you communicate. Remember that they will interpret things not necessarily as you meant or as they are, but choose the worst possible explanation.(1:50:20) . As long as you love her, show her how to love and love her unconditional;ly, it will all be okay. Everyone has issues, just teach her how to handle them rather than she develop unhealthy coping skills. I am trying to undo pain I didn't mean to cause my girl when I was not available to her when we lost my partner and her step dad(when in second grade, she called him her faux pas...that is how clever she is) I am always so grateful for being so devoted to her in her first five years especially because it makes our healing more accessible because of our strong foundation. Don't choose a job that pays more so you can provide more material stuff, pay attention to her, the reward is so much greater.
I think it's important to note that though Ferriss says he's "not overreacting sensitive," "overreacting sensitive" is as valid as whatever specific "good" sensitivity Ferriss is making sure to align with here. I think we can see that as an unconscious protection. And as Maté continues he includes other incarnations of sensitive people. I think in all cases, we become defensive and feel so much more onslaught from the world than (nonsensitive?) (other?) people. It ends in chronic anxiety, tension, anger, health issues and negative traits. We can all agree that living in a perpetual defense mechanism is exhausting and painful. I think there are mostly sensitive people in the world. Really enjoying the interview.
Great interview! Dr. Mate eloquently states what many of us have been learning for years. Our society doesn't tend to look at root causes for anything. It's always about the symptoms. Understanding cause is the only way to truly heal.
What an eloquent conversation, I cried a few times, as Gabor expressed so many of my feelings & thoughts, realising I’m thinking & feeling on a level like Gabor is truly a relief, thank you for this insightful video 🙏🏻
I love Gabor Mate! My therapist gave me that book, “the drama of the gifted child” when I was in my 20’s. The title gave me the false feeling of smartness until I started reading it. That instantly brought me back down to earth. She was onto something. Gabor described it perfectly, it was the same beginning of a very long journey through the dark knight of the soul. When he Gabor summarizes his decades of research. I think back to all the times when I was a kid getting yelled at for something I did wrong I would just zone out and daydream projecting myself anyway over there. when I will get lectured you can’t hurt me I’m in my own little room in my head did you yell as much as you want as long as you want my ass is hurting. One time I was sending it so long I passed out Ha ha It’s so good at the end when he is hitting a wall with him he is just very nice softly finessing the drilling a hole into the brick is easy Peezy for Dr. neighbor you know Tim looks like he’s going to cry for talking about it although he’s been licking his room the whole time. That’s not mean this or disrespect I think it’s a great learning tool for all of us that the intense emotions turn always be broken down from a thought to a quarter basic needs that was not meant usually one of her parents didn’t. Oh Tim I wanna give you a big hug both of you. We are all just hurt little kids inside. I knew the moment he sat down that you need to come there for a reason leave the news or not and I can tell right away when he was asking you directly questions for you to answer that he was going to help you get there. I’ve seen many therapists, I’m a therapist now. G got it!?! Dr Maté nails it again. An empathetic sliver of Love acceptance and understanding for the self and others.
Dear Tim, thank you so much for this interview. The people who find this video will be treated to a Doctor who while sharing his knowledge also shares his own life experience to help the world. I feel motivated to learn more. Thank you, again!
This was brilliant. The sooner we acknowledge neurological diversity as neuroadaptive mechanisms, the better we will be able to journey with each person away from their suffering and more toward expressing their positive potential in the world. Dr. Mate’s journey gave me much insight into my own as a physician, albeit 30 years trailing. Thank you for helping me unlock a part of myself, Mr. Ferriss and Dr. Maté! As an OBGYN, I have focused much on women’s stress levels. But ultimately, addressing this problem requires a cultural shift and marked advancement in the consciousness of people individually and collectively.
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Wonderful interview. Explains a lot of my life. I had an epiphanie!
@@judysmith1964 did ya have one where you knew how to spell epiphany? Or did you have multiple epiphanies? 🧠💥 experience eh? Right oh!
@@hoosierbaddy3052 You have revealed more than you intended.
@@hoosierbaddy3052 because spelling matters when you know the intended meaning🫡 it’s not a book but it must feel great to be a self appointed editor🙄🤣
@@judysmith1964my bad 😮😮
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“sensitivity magnifies the pain we have...it also leads to more creativity. often the most creative people are in the most pain.” - Dr. Gabor Mate
Profound quote - it makes so much sense !
My girlfriend acutually is the most creative person I know of. And the whole trauma subject is such an issue for us. I am so gratefull to have discovered Dr. Matés work, it gave me Insights that are of unimaginable value.
True so far anyway in Human History due to Massé insensitivity of Higher Self Awareness y Soul Y Spirit Maturity... As well as part of LIFE Experiences that The real overcomings of by individuals y Human Soul Groups lead to more Maturíng y Awakening of This Potential HumanKINdship y Earth Life lives Healthy InterdepenDance as a Whole
so true..i am talented, educated, obtained my BS in engineering..hoping i could get out of this chain...but didnt work..i lost everything, including the love of my life.
but how to fix it? i dont know...im happy i saw this video of Dr Gabor Mate'
12:50 for those looking where Gabor Maté says it.
"We don't respond to the present moment. We respond to the past."
-Gabor Maté 🤯🥰
Brilliant!
95% of consciousness is believed to be unconscious.
So if i am behaving in a fearful avoident manner in my romantic relationships, i am not so much responding to my partner so much as reacting to my past.
The difficulty then, comes in trying to change the subconscious fearful avoident reactions. Difficult because only 5% of my behaviour is under conscious control.
Any suggestions?
@@globalvagabond5376 reactions have time afterward for adjustments. As you adjust your sails to reset your course, you will improve your re-reaction time until you've created a new reaction. Grab hold of what you can when you can. And make you're number one romantic relationship be between you and your breath.
React
@@eyesofthetruth You said that 🥰💞sooo perfectly. Beautiful advice for living. Thank you.
@@k-turner Hi
Dr. Gabor Mate is a treasure to humanity ❤️🙏🌎
FFS. HE IS CLEARLY A WASHED UP, SELF CONFESSED DRUG ADDICT. YOU ARE ALL TAKING ADVICE FROM A DRUG ADDICT???
@@barbaraives5751 If drug addicts are so terrible, why do you type like one?
@@robynhope219about what?
Absolutely
The part where he says about ayahuasca ..show me my pain , show me what love is really hits home for me.
Yeah you shouldn't need drugs to find out what love is
Most excellent interview. The more Gabor I watch, the more I realize he is the real deal, and his egoless communication gets to the core in plain and intelligent language.
He is wise but absolutely not egoless, he seems to have a tendecy to grandiosity
Same !
He enlightened me to my fathers pain I did not know till he passed away... everyone of us are a child within ourselves and healing comes from learning from our parents and learning from the pain they went through and maybe evolve from there traumas
@@lotta6096 nobody is egoless
more people need to be egoless
I am stunned. Every time I listen to Gabor- he makes me see myself a little clearer. A true hero of mine. So glad to have seen this podcast.
I got my stuff's from online store they got Lsd, Mushroom, Xanax, extascy, chocolate bars and psychedelic products which they also deliver...?...?
They're on Instagram or Telegram as¿‽¿**
Phamrafi5~~~~~~~~
You can tell Gabor is a very unhappy person. Look at his eyes!
That compassion inquiry did it for me
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.
Yes, dr.sporesss
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
Dr.sporesss is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.
I read his book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts in rehab and it was exactly the kind narrative i needed to understand my own behaviors. It also helped me become more accepting of the idea of recovery in general. He was literally the first person i felt as though 'got it' and wasnt speaking down to addicts or mh patients etc. To a large degree i owe whatever success ive had to this guy.
In the Realm of the Huñgry Ghosts
👌🏻👌🏻
HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN IN REHAB WITH YOU. HE IS A WASHED UP JUNKIE WHO IS CLEARLY STONED DURING THIS INTERVIEW.
I would say he gave you the tools, but you did the work. Congrats!
😊 💯 Congratulations to You!
"We don't respond to what happens, we respond to our perception of what happens." Mind shifted. Thank you, Gabor for reminding us !
This is a brilliant thing for people with borderline to remember.
@@TheMothernerd very true.
@@TheMothernerd Was thinking the same thing myself.
after watching 2 2020 presidential debates, I am thinking the same thing.
Aldous Huxley in "Doors of Perception"-1894-1963
3rd generation ADDICT, clean from Heroin and Meth, abuse in all forms I experienced, went to prison for violence and Drugs , this is what needs to be a major part of Pre entry into society for inmates, I had no clue WTF was making me tick, at 41 I'm scratching the surface of my issues, how do I confront myself with no awareness of the Root issues? MAN No wonder recidivism is near 80 percent within the first year of release!! Thank you, my look inside continues.
Wishing you all the best on your journey 🙏🏼 the resources are out there and inside of you at the same time. RE-COVER-Y :) like he said... 🍀 re discover yourself
Take care mate. Every day we observe ourselves and struggle with ourselves. It is so, so easy to get distracted.
@@Jukeboksi YES DAY TO DAY STRUGGLE
@Mike Martinez - I think you know what your problem is, you are just scared to confront it.
Cos when you open the box once....all of the pain comes in flooding your entire being. But once you have started "feeling" again, you can manage the pain too, it just takes time.
And if your parents were addicts, your problems are: child neglect, abandonment, emotional unavailability of the parents (hense your aggression - it's actually towards them), repressed anger, a massive emotional "hole" due to the lack of security and parental love.
And you need to change your environment + find a job if you want to change something. The same environment / "friends" will push you back to the same
@@MT-sw8rf Or, they could just listen to one of the best in the field share their expertise instead.
Can't thank you enough, Tim and Gabor that was brilliant. I'm 64 and at last I am hearing what I have needed to hear since the age of 6 and thought I never would.
never too late
So happy for you. He truly is amazing isn’t he??!!
@Patricia Crowell As my lovely mother said when she was alive: “Learning about self is never ending.”
Yes
Clarity polished At 85yrs🪶🐫
This man is amazing I saw him speak once many years ago . Will make you think can't say enough about him .. Haven't had a drink in 4 years now.
Congrats brother Stay Strong 💪
Congrats.
Blessings 🙏🕊️🌟
Fantastic interview. What a pleasure to hear humans talk about how to be more human. Dr. Mate is a sane voice in an insane world.
He's barking mad!!!!
sanity in him and insanity in others?....though there is only me
But he also says we create our world according to how we perceive it. I don't remember the exact point, but it's in the first half-hour, because that's as far as I've got just now.
“sensitivity magnifies the pain we have...it also leads to more creativity. often the most creative people are in the most pain.” - Dr. Gabor Mate
Dr. Gabor Mate awakens our mind to the reality of trauma and how our childhood shaped us. I have learned the importance in facing and being in touch with this trauma and suppressed anger. Journaling, and talking about them are keys to freedom. Learn how, WayofSpinoza.com
*I consider Dr Gabor Maté a Genius in honesty and humanity. A man who suffered a lot. He's one of us.*
This is hands down the single most important Tim Ferriss Show episode ever.
This should be mandatory learning for everybody.
100%
Big Pharma : Why would you want that? We have billions of pills to cover up all the problems in modern society. Talk to your psychiatrist lately???
I don't know if you are familiar with Stephen Borges Polyvagal Theory as well as Peter Levines Somatic Experiencing, but if not I am sure you will like those as well. Bless you!
This comment alone is what is making me stay and give this a chance! (That and the time of the video, a talk this long must have some nice heft of good info :)
Dr. Gabor is the speaker I favour most. I am indeed Thankful for learning from him.
One of the best interviews I have ever seen. I feel like I was healed up a little bit as well from the experience
We're all here together
@angirgie729How is she doing? I hope well.
I realize this is an understatement, but Gabor Mate is truly a Wounded Healer. Thank you for this interview. So well done!
I could have used this as far back as 10. I've discovered it at 49. Still in time to be very useful. Thank you, Gabor.
I feel the same and I'm 35.
We got this!
Meetoo 38 here. The things he say vibe with me so much
62 and learning
@@NerisaFinau 😍
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
“I used to think I could help heal everybody but I couldn’t heal myself.”
Finally! Yes! Self loving
This is coping mechanism instead of helping yourself you help others
@@simbayauk its codependency
@@simbayauk knnkkbnlnnnlnlnnlnllnlllñkk
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YES YES YES!!!! I AM CURRENTLY FEELING THIS WAY.
I guess I just want somewhere to share my story.
When I was 19 I took shrooms, and it was like I was turned inside out. As a child, I was very extroverted and loved being around people. And after the shrooms, I felt disconnected from everyone and everything around me. I just wanted to alone. I am learning to feel happiness from within myself, not running from myself. It's been a LONG and PAINFUL process but once it's healed, it's healed and beautiful
Its like that...people just stress me tf out.
one time i did shrooms (my first n only time but i had done acid before)
and i started to notice how badly my friends treated me and i saw how we interracted with each other more clearly, and it really opened my eyes.
@@kathleenmcclenahan5701 I can relate to that. It definitely was the beginning of the end for me too. But the ending of something less real, so I'm ok with it. Just took a lot of adjusting and I can't bring others with me like I tried to at first.
@@kiramatt6152I've been looking to get my hands on shrooms since growing isn't an option for me . Any one knows where I can source?
@@peterestrada8542Yes he's Dr.jeffshroom
@@PepperLinksWoo I'm not surprised you moment dr.jeffshroom name... They man is good and people always talk nice about him.
Dr. Gabor Mate is such a genuine, unique and beautiful human being.
So are you😇
Weso Weso no you are
This says everything right here, because he didn’t used to be. He said so himself. So that says any of us can reconcile and realign with ourselves in this way.
We’re all amazing as we are drawn to this healing work and info Xoxox
My childhood doctor. He is a genuinely good man.
"When the student is ready, the teacher appears". Humble thanks for your personal vulnerability and insight which enhanced the interview in multiple ways... I have listened to several of your interviews without comment. Blessings for your healing light!😇💘 11/2/22
This has been a frustrating and painful truth for me...this human experience has been so difficult and it would be nice to be handed the knowledge at the outset to avoid the suffering damn it...but i realize that's not the point
Jesus is our eternal teacher 🙏🏾❤️
I’ve had the pleasure of attending a two day workshop with Gabor. As a child and adult trauma therapist he is my hero and there’s not enough of us spreading this work...
I wish I could spend an hour in dialogue with Dr. Mate!
Cyber Synapse I just found him for the first time and he’s already helped me immensely! But you’re right the world needs more people like him.
What modalities do you use?
@@AhmetKaan I need to find your channel.
we're alive and well. the work is getting done. at its own pace & on its own time.
I would like to thank Dr. Maté. You're doing amazing work ❤ Greetings from Germany and Poland
This single video led me to a journey with Gabor Mate's teachings that has transformed me and my life. Thank you, Tim! Your work does matter! Best of luck to you :)
A voice over of him speaking over a Facebook video led me to his work... I'm in shock at how accurately he described ME in "Scattered" .... I'm on my journey now.
Gabor is incredible. His talks have made a massive impact on me! And he is from quite close to where I live as well 💖 been listening to him for years now
this kind of conversation can indeed change lives
Thank you beyond words.
That's beautiful! What measures exactly did you take to change?
"The message you get isn’t that good little kids don’t get angry: it’s that angry little kids don’t get loved.” 💗🙏🏻💗
A minor adjustment, if you will: *kids don't feel loved.
Just wanted to broaden the scope and give credit to parents who try to love their kids but accidently miss the mark.
Yeah like regular people don't shame kids for being frustrated actually care about WHY they are frustrated especially if they are not usually. Little kids get treated like adults too expected to sit still and behave and be quiet or else they have ADHD? They have more energy need exercise etc.
Dr. Gabor Mate awakens our mind to the reality of trauma and how our childhood shaped us. I have learned the importance in facing and being in touch with this trauma and suppressed anger. Journaling, and talking about them are keys to freedom. Learn how, WayofSpinoza.com
But that's not a fact
There is some truth in that probably.
Psilocybin saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. Imagine carrying heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years the be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.
#❤Yes , dr.johnsonshroom
@Ryan Blacksmith Yes he's. dr.johnsonshroom
☆♡Can dr.johnsonshroom send to me in AZ?
@@JuanMadeline❤Sure. He delivers anywhere and also it's discreet. That's if you're worried about.
Can't trust anyone with psychedelics because it's still a schedual 1 drug. Governments are the natural enemy of freedom and peace. When the federal government can put me in a cage for trying to heal myself without the use of the currupt pharmaceutical and medical industrial complex, it's clear why our society is so sick.
“If you don’t integrate what you learned into your life AND build up a practice around it, it just becomes a memory”- Gabor Mate Phew 🔥🔥🔥
Can you please point where he says this ? The time.
A memory or a nightmare depending on whether you integrate healthy lessons in life into your daily practice or unhealthy ones, which so many traumatised people struggle with understanding the difference between what is healthy or unhealthy for them due to the cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding that has taken root in their psyche through years of being gaslit, verbally and physically abused and other toxic experiences from Narcissistic parent/parents and other significant childhood figures.
The difference between a true seeker and a feed-me.
Like, some people have one psychedelic experience in their life that is vague and unspectacular and they derive lifechanging insight from it. Someone else visits an ayahuasca circle every week and they can cruise on for decades without learning anything transformative. (Although an unlikely extreme, since then aya likes to hit you hard when you least expect it. I heard of cases where someone with a self-image of a spiritual guru took the brew and later told the shaman he realized what BS it all was. But at first he very much stuck to it. It took some time to process.)
Time Stamp:- 1hr 50 mins.
@@inv8890 @1:50:00
This is the best explanation of adhd I have ever heard. I use to believe ADHD is used for psychiatric incentives, but his explanation really explains adhd as a coping mechanism, not an illness.
Really? It is the Nazi's fault that he can't pull his act together? Maybe.... JUST MAYBE, at some point in life, its time to grow up, own their own act and stop blaming abusive mothers, alcoholic fathers, Nazis, teachers, in general OTHERS. Maybe.
@@joelafrite7850 Clearly you need enlightenment yourself. He has taken responsibility and is aiding many people and is a productive human being.
time stamp?
@@joelafrite7850 doesn't sound like either is supporting the idea of blaming anything.
Timestamp??
OMG! Finally my life makes sense! Thank you so much for your insights into the drama of the gifted child and the sensitive child but especially for your explanation of how ADD develops as a coping mechanism if the infant who is sensitive to the stressed and abused mother. In that moment, you injected clarity into decades of confusion, self doubt and, yes, addiction. If only I could have heard those words 50 years ago. I like to think I would have never done time in prison and laid waste to my own young family in the process…
Nobody wakes up one day and says oh boy I'd like to do time in prison. I am sure that was not your goal. Your comment just moved me emotionally. I love Gabor. ❤️ I wish he could have reached all of us sooner. He makes so much sense.
So true
I think you slightly misunderstand, the scenario you described is only one example of how ADD may develop. There are other scenarios that could cause you to shut down your brain for survival purposes, other than your relationship to a specific kind of person.
Search for "EQI - invalidation" for a document related to the complex of good and bad parenting and the core psychology. One of those documents that every person had read it would already make a significant positive difference.
He most likely has trauma induced Disassociation functioning for all intents and purposes as adhd. I am in the same boat. My mother had untreated Paranoid Schizophrenia when I was a small child. You are correct adhd can be genetic and just happen, other reasons. My adoptive daughter let me know even though mine is trauma induced hers in genetic. One thing I would warn people about is be careful tying trauma responses to bad parenting. I've struggled with this a long time. My parents were both severely abused. I think in the big picture it's time to accept or forgive and move on.
"Don't blame yourself: Why am I acting this way! Instead be curious and just ask yourself the same thing without the anger and hostility"
Thanks
I think owning behavior is the first step to questioning and healing.
@@jennyadee913 Excellent point,Otherwise it's never ( my ) problem it's theirs!
It's so nice to hear a person use the word shame accurately. We live in an often toxic & ignorant culture, and words like narcissist, shame, and even more frequent "toxic" itself are often weaponized and used incorrectly. I mean it's pretty odd how everyone's ex is a narcissist considering how few NPD's actually exist. Toxic is likely the most frequently used, and used by people who want to get their way. All of these words are important, but often used to manipulate.
I mean of course Gabor uses them right, as they are a core part of his work.
We can thank the socials for taking any good thing and using it reckless AF.
I will be watching this again. So many life lessons for those who are tired of suffering
Yes!
can relate 100%. Awesome wisdom.
I’m tired of it
I totally agree. I need to watch this again. I thought it was amazing. I wish that the host would repeat certain things (titles of books) and key points because they touch on so many topics (and references to books and people and experts) and it's hard to catch it all. I should look at the show notes, I guess.
@@harlenevan just rewatch with a pen. You can pause and rewind. Xx
amazing! I'm almost 64 years old, "The House at Pooh Corner" is my all time favourite book. My Dad read it to me and I read it to my kids, often with tears running down my checks out of joy, humour and loss. Until now, Ive never heard another say the same. Thank you Gabor Maté
Same here ... different books but emotional memories.
I'm 78, and still discovering the depths that resonate with me
I can't get enough of hearing Gabor speak. I learn more every time about myself, about my family, friends and the world. Big thanks!
Psychedelic are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough.it's fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety..it saved my life
Psilocybin containing mushrooms save my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
@@leecharlotte5212 yes.... he's Myco.spore
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
@@williamspiper is he on insta
What a beautiful heart-opening experience. Gabor has more depth than all the worlds oceans and he’s all heart. It gives me hope and inspiration.
And seriously making the guy hold a microphone for 2 hours?!?
Oh no he had to hold a microphone. Is that really the comment you're going to post after such a great podcast? Focus on shit like that?
@@MasculineIdeal relax. you're not victim here
@@chkker I feel like a victim when people have to complain about a guy holding a microphone Rick
@@MasculineIdeal lucky you
@@chkker thanks rick
FINALLY-somebody is out there talking about the long term effects of stress on more than just aging adults (where it’s acknowledged as a serious problem). My entire family has problems with depression and anxiety, and it all goes back to an emotionally, verbally, and sometimes physically abusive household that was the result of my father’s having been under an extraordinary amount of stress. Our parents loved us and one another, but they had some serious problems that took them decades to work out. And I was seriously, horribly, dangerously ill for two years in early childhood. I know that’s why some of my coping mechanisms have not been very healthy; they work in the short term, but they have bad consequences. It’s nice to hear someone lay all this out in such a cogent discussion. It’s helping me figure out what to do next to try and get back some emotional health, because I’ve been operating at probably one-quarter capacity for years and years now. Thanks for this-
Sadly our pharmaceutical industry makes us take medications instead of helping with therapy.
Your story looks like very much to mine . I'm always reminding me that what's happening - when I'm worried about something - has to do with something related to my childhood , so I can get calm .
Have you tried psylocibin microdosing ?
I have for two weeks already .
Up to now Ive experienced unusual ways on dealing some small things , doing it better .
I hope I will overcome many years of depression in next month .
Check out
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Bruce Lipton
Gregg Braden
: )
Good luck.
Take it slow and take it easy. You will get there.
this is more of a beautiful and respectful conversation between two knowledgeable men than an interview.
Tim, you're a fantastic interviewer and i'm so glad i found this video. Gabor, no words to say but thank you truly for sharing your deep honest insights
Every time Dr Mate answers a question he gives a clear answer and never seems to struggle to verbalise what he is thinking which shows a strong and unshakeable understanding of his subject..To me he explains things that i have struggled to understand in such a clear way. Thankyou Doctor.
The moment I hear him tell us to not sexually assault and mutilate our male children I'm sure I will have that same experience as you. What I'm seeing is a man with all the information he needs yet an overwhelming cultural brainwashing that prevents him from exposing the most obvious, blatant and disgusting mutilation of the genitals of our male children.
I just see hypocrite.
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 Is he promoting sex change operation?
1:38:40 my heart dropped at this realization 😢 I’ve learned so much today and I’m writing down everything in my notebook but I’m still gonna watch this over and over again to absorb all the knowledge I can. Thank you for making this 🙏
1:38:40 my heart dropped at this realization 😢 I’ve learned so much today and I’m writing down everything in my notebook but I’m still gonna watch this over and over again to absorb all the knowledge I can. Thank you for making this 🙏
Wtf just happened?
Wtf just happened?
Glitch in the matrix
Study this:
Anatomy Structure and Function of the Human Male Penis
The Hidden Simple Facts of Male Genital Anatomy by world renowned Nurse and why the world doesn’t know it.
th-cam.com/video/BgoTRMKrJo4/w-d-xo.html
Study of penile sensitivity
th-cam.com/video/PDh63jVkNVg/w-d-xo.html
Sorrells fine touch sensitivity
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/17378847/
TH-cam Anatomy Structure and Function Playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLIZ9tgpNSydo3RjOOv4RU4-ZwLCZ3SVWv.html
Video on the functions of the Foreskin
th-cam.com/video/D_dzeDvx2QA/w-d-xo.html&app=desktop
bit.ly/2r5mw1n
Foreskin During Sex Vs Mutilated
th-cam.com/video/cOZQ-2rV2zQ/w-d-xo.html
The intromission function of the foreskin
doi.org/10.1016/S0306-9877(02)00250-5
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306987702002505?via%3Dihub
The mechanism is simple. The interposed foreskin decreases the friction between the introitus and the glans. The unretracted foreskin consists of a thin dermis that is folded on itself with very little friction between the layers. As the penis advances, the foreskin unrolls so that the portion that makes initial contact with the introitus is 6 cm. Up the shaft before any friction occurs between the device and the skin.
Visual of Functioning Whole Male Penis
How a Natural Male (Unmutilated) Penis Works
th-cam.com/video/cOZQ-2rV2zQ/w-d-xo.html
Anatomy of the Penis: Penile and Foreskin Neurology
th-cam.com/video/DD2yW7AaZFw/w-d-xo.html
The prepuce: Specialized mucosa of the penis and its loss to circumcision
by J.R. Taylor, A.P. Lockwood and A.J. Taylor
Department of Pathology, Health Sciences Centre, University of Manitoba, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada
BRITISH JOURNAL OF UROLOGY, Volume 77, Pages 291-295,
February 1996.
www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/taylor/
The prepuce
C.J. COLD and J.R. TAYLOR*
Departments of Pathology, Marshfield Clinic, Wisconsin, USA, and *Health Sciences Centre, University of Manitoba, Canada
British Journal of Uroloygy, Volume 83, Suppl. 1: Pages 34-44,
January 1999.
cirp.org/library/anatomy//cold-taylor/
or
bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1046/j.1464-410x.1999.0830s1034.x
Circumcision removes the most important sensory component of the foreskin - thousands of coiled fine-touch receptors called Meissner's corpuscles. Also lost are branches of the dorsal nerve, and 10,000-20,000+ specialized erotogenic nerve endings of several types. Together these detect subtle changes in motion and temperature, as well as fine gradations in texture.
Meissner's Corpuscles are found in our lips and fingertips. They're there for us to detect the lightest of touches. So take your hands and rub them together. Feel that friction? This is the sensation that is not supposed to be felt during intercourse.
Size of the Foreskin - Its NOT just a 'flap' of skin!
"First, a dissection feasibility study was performed in eight male cadavers. Dissection proved feasible, and the mean surface area of the prepuce, when folded out, was 46.7 cm2. (7.2 square inches)"
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9734426?dopt=Abstract
Post-Circumcision Sexual Sensitivity Self-Test
www.fathermag.com/health/circ/sensitivity-test/
How Much of Your Sexual Sensitivity Has Been Cut Away?
A circumcised (anyone can use this - for us circumcised, this is our only way) man can assess how important his missing skin is by testing his remaining sexually sensitive tissue as follows:
In an aroused state, caress the skin downwards, starting from the end of the penis.
When your stroke crosses the scar line, note the stark difference in sensitivity. The amount of sensitive area you have remaining between the scar line and the glans is just a sample of what you had before your circumcision.
This sensitive region is normally much larger and folded inside the foreskin in the intact male, where it is moist and protected from constant stimulation. After circumcision, what remains of this region is exposed, dried out, and greatly desensitized.
Child circumcision was designed in an attempt to reduce the sexual appetite by reducing the amount of pleasure sexual stimulation can provide you.
Dr Gabor Mate's wisdom, honesty, perceptiveness and story-telling skills make me want to find everything he ever did and read everything he ever wrote. Tim Ferriss makes a wonderful foil to him.
Yes! I know the feeling. Like his profound wisdom has given my brain an element I didn't realize was needed to be fully aware. Now I seek more.
Tim, this interview was SO IMPACTFUL to me! I had never heard of either you or Dr. Mate until tonight and I am so grateful for you BOTH!!!! I'll be your newest groupie! Thanks for all you do!
I keep coming back to this interview.... Gabor Mate is a gift and a treasure 🙌🏻❤️ Thank you!
This dude is so great!
Here are three amazingly profound quotes from just the space between 15:20-16:35:
“I have also studied myself very deeply. I have had to because my life just was not working.”
“I work with people to bring out the truth of their experience, so that they are no longer prisoners of their childhood, but that they can make a conscious choice about how to live in the present moment, not based on how they were programmed in childhood.”
“The intent is always to bring insight and liberation to people.”
🙏💕
💖💖💖
I have been binge watching interviews of Gabor Maté these times and I have to say that this one is maybe the best I’ve come across till now. To see Gabor so relaxed and getting into the interview making jokes and letting the conversation flow naturally, the pauses during questions and answers, the respect when listening to each other speak without interrupting is a beautiful, calming experience, while allowing me as a listener to absorb what is being said. Thank you for this!
My thoughts exactly!
Trauma: “we don’t respond to what happens, we respond to our perception of what happens”. “That’s what Trauma is: We don’t respond to the present moment, we respond to the past”.
Yep, going to do ayauska with shaman . It allows you to revisit traumatic moments and since you're tripping your face off you get to go back through these moments and reframe the way you think about them which heals the trauma so it no longer affects you
@@lisahandley7959 past moments? I dont know if I want to go through my myriad of traumatic moments! Scary.
Thank you so much for helping me to understand why it is so difficult to be me
@@frederikaguggolz3337 you and me both.
Repatition compulsion- freud.
In your adulthood you will repeat what you learned(the template you were given) in childhood.
After listening to Tim's recent podcast where he disclosed his childhood trauma of being sexually abused between ages 2-4 it must have felt for him that Dr. Mate was speaking directly to his soul in relation to The Prisoner of Childhood. So powerful, shows that even the people you admire the most are fighting their own inner battles. Thank you Tim.
Yes fascinating you can sense Gabor sensing Tim hiding and deflecting and Tim knowing he’s deflecting and fearing going deeper.
I like how honest and open Gabor is and he is absolutely spot on in his interpretations of addiction and childhood trauma and that addicts are trying to kill the pain they feel from childhood. I like everything this guy says.
Shows you how cruel and inhuman the system is the way it punishes addicts like criminals.
Truly.
This Doctor's deep insightfulness, self-awareness and modesty and his unique way of dealing with his life-experiences makes his character totally enthralling. Thank you so much for sharing your life experience Gabor. I have learned so much from it.
Gabor Mate...I have been following his work for years. This man's heart and work has changed many lives and continues to do so. One of the few men who has a comprehensive view of what a human is beyond mere gender, race, addiction or any other label or 'condition'. Beautiful man.
Just a straight up awesome doctor who is willing to listen to his patients an a doctor who has actually experienced some if not all of his patients problems. If you haven't gone through stuff, you just don't understand (most doctors). Thanks for having this interview Tim!
I sooo concur, Sheep Dog! I've been living with the outcomes of severe trauma with onset right after I was born for all of my life (I've turned 56 recently, trauma symptoms have rendered my disabled and incapacitated/unable to work). Most of the times that I sought help with therapy, you'd have to sit down in front of someone who has never felt what trauma REALLY is and how it takes your nervous system hostage in debilitating ways! That said, they'd hardly ever meet me at eye's level, but always in a sort of condescending way even power trippin' many times. Needless to say that this kind of 'treatment' didn't do much good (or sometimes had adverse, counterproductive outcomes).
The world needs MANY more Dr. Matés!
@@wesboundmusic 0
Maybe the other doctors have (most probably), but didn’t do the inner work (yet). They just shut down and ignore as a defense mechanism :/
Actually "most doctors" are probably good at hiding their own traumas. (Playing the role)
Absolutely Beautiful!!! :-) Maaaaan, I have no words to express how AWESOME it actually feels to watch a NORMAL conversation between two sane human beings who calmly take the time to have a REAL conversation, and to approach the totality of a topic!
absolutely!
Agree!
Well put!!
Amen
Exactly Arcadian wings >< , it's almost like you have to blink to see if it's real in 2019
Gabor Mate is such a brilliant and interesting person. Ive read all his books. He has such a great voice for narrating too. I'm so glad I found this channel 😁
yeah he's easy listening. x
Thanks for giving me more insight into the pain that many experience. As a mother I knew that our children's problems derived from traumatic experiences even before they were born. My thoughts were confirmed...thanks again
@@dorothybothman1550 offspring of male mice have generational trauma.. I hate what humans do to find out. but eyes its cell memory.. im gonna talk to mea cells and tell them its ok to release the trauma. wmeanwhile its summer here..im out bathing in a kiddy pool with chamomile coffee, magnesium flakes boron. and herbs today I put fuller's earth or DE on my face neck and are and legs. gives me a mask and will kill fleas in the garden when the water gets spilt on it. x
but his wife was editing his books thank her mainly....
Me too!
Tim, you're one of a kind in your kind and patient hosting of your guests. And this interview, the Stuff of Life, much healing in there for those who can get beyond their own impulse to malicious response to a cruel life. I was a loveless child, and a hate filled youth. I wanted to become a professional assasin in my young days. But one grows up and learn. A good friend once told me....Gustav, once you leave the hate behind, life starts. Respect to people like you and Dr Mate, in a world filled with fear, hatred, and sheer malice. Heroes do not wear capes. They wear dignity and insight.
Where did you get the saying”heroes do not wear capes.They wear dignity and insight! “ love it
@@darcyadams4865.....one tries to grow insight yourself. Thank you.
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
@@gustavagenbacht6600 nice one, hollywood needs more authors like you with actual substance.
I feel like you could write a story using your life experience about how a potential villain chabged course, lol
@@SamuelAlder thank you..! Funny you mention scripts. I'm writing a novel (in the background) called Rekka, based loosely on my life as a young man, but mostly fictional....making that point of an assassin experiencing meaningful transition. I'm involved fulltime now, however, in an initiative I started to fix the Apartheid damage to society here in South Africa on scale.
I listened to "experts" talking about addiction many times before, bur Dr. Maté is way ahead in his game
I concur, its about the self improvement journey
yes, he is truly an amazing man❤️ so knowledgeable WOW it’s rare people like him ❤️🙏
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 go and harass people somewhere else man, I have no idea what u're talking abt
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 poor you 🥺 may God heal your soul.
@@rouissiachraf Adult humans think it is okay to take healthy normal babies and strap them down and take pliers and knives to their genitals for fantastically asinine medical excuses. What part of this don't you understand?
I'm a traumatized and highly sensitive person. Sometimes (quite often) it's unbearable to be like this. 😢 I feel like I'm a magnet for traumas. I keep recollecting new traumas. As if my childhood was not enough.
It IS unbearable. Just when I feel like I'm healing from one trama, something else happens! I can just hear someone saying, 'well you like playing the victim'. That makes me angry. If it's true, tell me what can I do about it, not just attack me.
Obviously, it realates to past trauma that needs to be healed, integrated..and stop making affirmatiomns..like Im a Magnet for traumas coz you ll just end up manifesting that.
52.00 mins - Thank God someone is finally saying this and not just blaming the addict for their weakness. But so many former addicts talk as if you have to follow 12 Steps and somehow change your thinking and behaviour, before you can even begin to tackle the underlying problems. I just don't see how anyone manages to achieve that, as the reason they start the addiction is still going to be there, and there seems to be no help with 'curing' those reasons. You are just told to pull yourself together and take responsibility for yourself. There's no kindness and self-worth boosting.
Dr.Gabor Mate is so brilliant and insightful and Tim really does an incredible job interviewing. Super informative.
Wonderful, amazing interview between two phenomenal, intelligent, deep intellectuals. You mentioned so many things, and topics about mental health and depression are so helpful. We all know that Gabor Mate is one of the deepest thinkers and of our time, but Tim Ferris is amazing. I have never seen/heard such a knowledgeable, patient, curious interviewer who is truly interested in his guests opinion, not is his own ego. Bravo, bravo , bravo!!! Thank you.
Its time we questioned cutting children's genitals.
We are creating damaged men for no reason besides doctors profit.
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 ;
@@marynoonan1160 are you aware that knife raping babies creates life long psychological damage? Maybe we shouldn't be sexually assaulting children and pretending its medicine
Thank you. The only thing I have to say after watching this video is thank you. I feel much better after watching this conversation and I definitely know now that I'm not alone in this world, that there is people that think the same way I do. Thank you, this has been a wonderful piece of time of my life. Thank you
i willoo
Much love, friend! I am on the same boat. May we all find healing.
I've watched mostly every recent interview/podcast of Gabor and this is so far the most profound conversation. Thank you for holding the space and walking the talk!
Show Notes
Gabor shares his family history and how it motivated him to understand people as a medical doctor. [09:58]
On influential books and gaining, rather than losing, something in translation. [14:06]
The link between sensitivity, pain, and creativity. [21:33]
How does Gabor start helping someone who’s outwardly successful but inwardly tortured? [24:31]
When did Gabor’s interest in medicine begin? [29:58]
How did Gabor end up working in palliative care? [33:49]
How did Gabor start focusing on his work with addiction? [36:29]
What nontraditional methods did Gabor use that raised eyebrows and got him fired, which opened opportunities he couldn’t have foreseen? [37:10]
How does Gabor define addiction, and how is it at odds with other definitions? [39:16]
What prompted my high school drug addiction? [41:32]
How a coping mechanism becomes the root of addiction. [47:39]
Looking at the causes of addiction instead of the consequences. [52:10]
To what extent do genetics play a role in addiction? [1:01:56]
What do the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) studies tell us about the nature of addiction? [1:04:50]
How I’ve used loving kindness meditation to shed certain behaviors. [1:07:17]
Once Gabor identifies why an addiction exists, what’s the next step? [1:11:37]
Recommendations for someone looking to reconnect with themselves. [1:14:34]
After a lifetime of believing himself unaffected by the benefits of yoga, what kind of yoga has Gabor recently started practicing with great success? [1:18:42]
How did Gabor begin researching the therapeutic value of psychedelics? What was revealed by his first experience with ayahuasca? [1:20:56]
The right way and the wrong way to experience ayahuasca. [1:26:46]
Where can people learn more about current scientific studies into the therapeutic benefits of psychedelics? [1:30:40]
An important caveat about powerful tools and exploitative gurus. [1:35:05]
How I’ve been trying to reconnect with myself and my own gut feelings. [1:38:29]
Why we shut down our gut feelings. [1:41:14]
Elvis Presley’s lack of love song. [1:45:55]
Some powerful modalities aren’t for everyone. [1:47:26]
How did humans discover ayahuasca? How might it differ from place to place? [1:49:17]
Gabor’s pre- and post-ayahuasca practices. [1:53:14]
The importance of integrating by sharing our powerful experiences with others. [1:59:41]
The clear intention you set is not the same as an expectation. “The task which hinders your task is your task.” [2:01:20]
How can we view such a task as a gift? [2:05:07]
An exercise for understanding how we respond not to what happens but to our perception of what happens. [2:07:18]
Why blaming others for our problems turns us into victims, while identifying ourselves as the source of those problems is empowering. [2:14:01]
What Gabor’s books are about and where he and his work can be found. [2:19:25]
The problem with the way the United States deals with trauma. [2:24:47]
Parting thoughts. [2:27:05]
Thx so much
Thank you
Great! Thank you so much. Now we need a summary of all the books, names, movies, other references in the interview. Perhaps I will do that :).
2:04:00 is the key moment when he realizes that his recent reaction of anger and sadness goes way back into his childhood. And he goes: “Pause.“
thank you.
Dr. Mate is on the forefront of how we're evolving in our understanding of the psycho-emotional roots of addiction and dysfunction. I'm happy to refer patients and seekers to this video.
Thank you for not just doing this interview, but also showing up in a meaningful and courageous way. We don't have many examples of cultural heroes demonstrating precisely how to "go deep". You gave a lot of people permission to emulate your actions here.
Wow, Great observation. Gan he be our cultural hero? I wish more of us could listen to this wisdom. He is my hero anyway.
I was separated from my mother after 4 weeks ,and sent to a babies home run by the church of England. I was then adopted age 9 months .I have always felt outside of life and isolated , finding intimate relationships almost impossible ,as though I have such an absence of normal loving feelings or connection. I would love to know where to start healing process . There's so much excellent research now that highlight the consequences of the many ways trauma impacts us all . Thankyou Gabor Mate .
I get my psychedelic stuff from an online store where I got my own, his on Instagram and his handle below is
Leonmycology
What a wound for yourself and your poor mother. A lifetime of sorrow from birth. Pure sad.
If I hadn't been stuck in a shielding household for a year with 2 parents with Aspergers, in the middle of a pandemic, I would probably have never heard this. I can so, so relate to a lot of this...my environment, the numbing, I don't take drink or drugs, I was widowed in 2000, but never had emotional support from family, from age 12 I never wanted to go home...now at 52, I've run out of internal resources...thank you so much Tim and Gabor xxx
I feel this.. I grew up with a narcissictic sister (undiagnosed, of course) but so much screaming, manipulation, belittling amd everything revolved around her. My mother gave no emotional love and dad worked away a lot but never responded. Ive always been on my own but if i need to much im punished. Im gaslit by my mom too yet im the only rational person. Its very painful as ive tried to make a relationship as an adult and has recently backfired. Doing the same thing wont get different results.. Hugs
🌹🙏
Asperger’s is not a dx because of its roots. Look it up.
@@Guantanamo_Bae dx? Because of its roots? Sorry I'm not understanding.
@@dana102083 hello there, thank you for sharing your situation. That sounds really tricky. As humans, most of us, I know not all, need healthy connection with others. I hope you can find some peace amongst the chaos...
God I wish I had heard this when I was 16 and trying to make sense of it all. Pleased at least, I heard it at 60
I know the feeling. I’m 38 but i feel like my life is ruined. I have time left, but not my health. At least he taught me to have compassion for myself and I actually have self love now.
All the best to you.
@@taotaotoad And to you too x
I’m having the exact same experience here and now at 52. I feel lighter.
It took me till I was 63. I agree his work is very enlightening.
my friend..you can still help yourself..
there are lots of people who do care about your mental or emotional health...
This video is almost ASMR - while remaining so intellectually engaging. Many thanks to Mr. Ferris and Mr. Maté.
Dr. Mate
Dr. Mate is calm experienced, connecting authority. It's such a relief just watching him actively listening to Ferriss. He practices his philosophy of compassionate inquiry. Such a relief to find this video. I could list on and on the points i found helpful. The distinction between traumatic vrs trauma inside disconnecting a person from her emotions and forming defensiveness in others is such a helpful concept rather than blame and guilt over addictions.
What a wonderful, beautiful, insightful and inspiring conversation. ✨ I’m so grateful I’ve arrived here. Love to everyone 🙏🏼
Probably the third or fourth time I've listened to this interview. Love it. I find so much meaning every time! So much kindness and wisdom in this man born of his own suffering.
We need more Dr. Gabor Mates. He is not only a genius but he truly loves people and cares so much about mankind. He so much wants to help up s all that are struggling with various issues not just addictions but he has such a wide variety of knowledge in all areas of depression. He has truly changed my life for the better.
This was such a fantastic talk. Thank you💞. Living with Tourette’s syndrome I have had many struggles.
Since learning Vipassana, yoga and exploring my roots I have re-discovered the lost child who now no longer feels lonely and appreciates the meaning of being alone.
This new field of energy means less fear and more trust in the self.
Thankyou both to for your work, and effort.
Welcome, dear friend ❤
This was a great talk. I've watched a lot of Gabor Mate's presentations and interviews, but this was by far the most enjoyable. It's nice when the host / guest dynamic is authentic and fluid. Thanks for this.
Kelley Diane - you are right. I think we should thank Tim Ferris, interviewer for asking profound, truthful questions and listening to his guest with great attention and understanding.
I loved the authentic sharing of host and interviewee as well. This has real potential to educate and heal!
❤️❤️Yes so true
Oh yeah. Definitely!
have you seen russel brand's podcast with gabor mate?
I love how there are so many public Canadian educated psychological legends out there. Wish I found Gabor earlier in my life
Connor Sandberg !
Connor Sandberg : when the student is ready the teacher appears. Not my quote but, your comment, this came to mind..
It occurs to me that the wounded child is transformed in a positive sense to help heal others , however they can turn away from themselves in doing this, I should know as its taken me 45 years to look harder at myself and stop trying to rescue others. What a wonderful conversation .. open and full of learning.
Yes~not wanting others to feel the way I did. I'm 50 & realize I can't pour my energy into saving others. I've learned to let others work out their own issues. It's difficult to mind my own business. I want to help. It breaks my heart the way people treat each other. I'm very sensitive & working on controlling my emotions.
wow..yes...i see that in myself..
i want to help everyone..
but want im doing ..is hoping that people would see MY PAIN and return the favor..i thought God would help...
very rarely did anyone every try to help or look for the red flags..
You can't heal others while hurt. We can guide others once he walked the healing path
I have spent at least 50 years trying to rescue people. At the age of 60 I have learned healthier boundaries.
@@homesgui_chrome9186 Good point. Parallel reality.....
His explanation starting at 39:39 really hit home.
Grateful for folks like him doing their thing to help so many.
Probably the most profound and instructive thing I have ever watched on the internet. Gabor Maté is a great, wise man. If only there were more like him. Thank you!
Richard Glass, yes, wholeheartedly agree!
See Zeitgest series
after cancer at 31yrs just 2 yrs after my sisters sudden death i immediately connected with emotioal pain causing this near fatal illness........but im still here, nature is my healer and has all the answers we need
I hope your healing journey is finding you feeling and doing better.
💜💜
Beautiful interview. As a trauma coach / EMDR therapist , I love Gabor Mates approach. So authentic and I love the connection here between Tim and Gabor. Thank you so much to both
Thank you Tim for this video. It’s taken me a few weeks to get through it. Have 10 mins to go. Tears came at this point because I felt hope. Gabor has been life changing for me although I’m just starting out. Thank you for sharing some of your personal story Tim. I feel so much compassion & growth from you. I wish you so much love & healing on your own continued journey. Much love to you xx
Gabor came to CIIS while I was in grad school and gave a talk on addiction, practices of compassion toward the addict - all the themes his work has highlighted. I was able to ask him some questions and it was really special. Little did I know that a few years down the road I would be facing the truth of my own addiction and entering recovery. Really grateful for the interview and renewed sense of connection with his work.
Adam Hudson My close friend and my daughter graduated from CIIS. 😌.
As a person (kinda) in recovery, Dr. Mate always touches me deeply & spiritually..I envy you your meeting, & keep up the good work.
Adam Hudson You and the work you are doing is awesome! You two keep coming back together. Gifts from the universe 🙏😂
Dr Gabor is a gift to the world 💕
But Dear, all worlds are mental projections, .. Dr. Gabor is therefor a Blessing to Humanity.. (::)
AMEN
I'm so glad I discovered Dr. Maté at the age of 18.
wannabe intellectual Watch Zeitgeist Addendum.
You are a beautiful soul. Peace and well-being.
wannabe intellectual You’re so lucky, you are ahead of the curve.
Vidalsky Ociosen Zeitgeist is just a pseudoscience conspiracy 😒
You are very lucky I have discovered him at 44
I love Gabor Maté he is such an insightful human being.
Do you guys notice that the comment sections of intellectual videos such as this or philosophers etc has much less to no fighting or people insulting each other? This says a lot.
People looking to self improve and self actualise are much more well adjusted than people who think they are great just the way they are.
Have you noticed how many dislikes 👎🏻 there are though? So odd. Who could dislike this interview?
@@elainewoodcroft9070 People who can't change which probably mostly includes narcissists and psychopaths.
Something that makes it rather a gem.
There is something elitist in this comment and all the responses to it
We are new parents and my daughter just turned one. As I'm listening to this, i just say "Holy sh*t, I never looked my parenting that way." Thanks Tim and Doctor Gabor.
I am the mother of a teen girl. By the time your child is her age, you will have made a million *mistakes*. You will both be alright if you continue to love her and listen to her, not just her words, but however you communicate. Remember that they will interpret things not necessarily as you meant or as they are, but choose the worst possible explanation.(1:50:20) . As long as you love her, show her how to love and love her unconditional;ly, it will all be okay. Everyone has issues, just teach her how to handle them rather than she develop unhealthy coping skills.
I am trying to undo pain I didn't mean to cause my girl when I was not available to her when we lost my partner and her step dad(when in second grade, she called him her faux pas...that is how clever she is)
I am always so grateful for being so devoted to her in her first five years especially because it makes our healing more accessible because of our strong foundation. Don't choose a job that pays more so you can provide more material stuff, pay attention to her, the reward is so much greater.
My goodness!!! I can't have enough of Dr. Gabor since I discovered him. So enriching and enlightening ♡
The last 10 or 15 minutes were most uplifting regarding healing ourselves. We all have that pain inside. Thanks Tim and Dr.Mate for your insights.
Tim’s (interviewing) presence and honoring attentiveness is phenomenal.
He is such an incredible human being.
Truly inspirational.
did you ever ask how much money is making he selling hope to the ignorant world
@@riokriok2863 do you complain about amazing movies too since they make a lot of money?
and a self proclaimed Marxist.
@@sebastianbratu1502 is this true!!!???
If so, I appreciate knowing this… this is a BIG DEAL to me!
I think it's important to note that though Ferriss says he's "not overreacting sensitive," "overreacting sensitive" is as valid as whatever specific "good" sensitivity Ferriss is making sure to align with here. I think we can see that as an unconscious protection. And as Maté continues he includes other incarnations of sensitive people. I think in all cases, we become defensive and feel so much more onslaught from the world than (nonsensitive?) (other?) people. It ends in chronic anxiety, tension, anger, health issues and negative traits. We can all agree that living in a perpetual defense mechanism is exhausting and painful. I think there are mostly sensitive people in the world. Really enjoying the interview.
Great interview! Dr. Mate eloquently states what many of us have been learning for years. Our society doesn't tend to look at root causes for anything. It's always about the symptoms. Understanding cause is the only way to truly heal.
What an eloquent conversation, I cried a few times, as Gabor expressed so many of my feelings & thoughts, realising I’m thinking & feeling on a level like Gabor is truly a relief, thank you for this insightful video 🙏🏻
lol really?
@@jarto10 explain
I love Gabor Mate! My therapist gave me that book, “the drama of the gifted child” when I was in my 20’s. The title gave me the false feeling of smartness until I started reading it. That instantly brought me back down to earth. She was onto something. Gabor described it perfectly, it was the same beginning of a very long journey through the dark knight of the soul.
When he Gabor summarizes his decades of research. I think back to all the times when I was a kid getting yelled at for something I did wrong I would just zone out and daydream projecting myself anyway over there. when I will get lectured you can’t hurt me I’m in my own little room in my head did you yell as much as you want as long as you want my ass is hurting. One time I was sending it so long I passed out Ha ha
It’s so good at the end when he is hitting a wall with him he is just very nice softly finessing the drilling a hole into the brick is easy Peezy for Dr. neighbor you know Tim looks like he’s going to cry for talking about it although he’s been licking his room the whole time. That’s not mean this or disrespect I think it’s a great learning tool for all of us that the intense emotions turn always be broken down from a thought to a quarter basic needs that was not meant usually one of her parents didn’t.
Oh Tim I wanna give you a big hug both of you. We are all just hurt little kids inside. I knew the moment he sat down that you need to come there for a reason leave the news or not and I can tell right away when he was asking you directly questions for you to answer that he was going to help you get there. I’ve seen many therapists, I’m a therapist now. G got it!?!
Dr Maté nails it again. An empathetic sliver of Love acceptance and understanding for the self and others.
Dear Tim, thank you so much for this interview. The people who find this video will be treated to a Doctor who while sharing his knowledge also shares his own life experience to help the world. I feel motivated to learn more. Thank you, again!
This was brilliant. The sooner we acknowledge neurological diversity as neuroadaptive mechanisms, the better we will be able to journey with each person away from their suffering and more toward expressing their positive potential in the world. Dr. Mate’s journey gave me much insight into my own as a physician, albeit 30 years trailing. Thank you for helping me unlock a part of myself, Mr. Ferriss and Dr. Maté! As an OBGYN, I have focused much on women’s stress levels. But ultimately, addressing this problem requires a cultural shift and marked advancement in the consciousness of people individually and collectively.
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