3 Effective Ways to Manage High-Conflict Personalities
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ก.ย. 2024
- High-conflict people (HCPs) have high-conflict personalities. This means they have an ongoing pattern of all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, extreme behavior or threats, and a preoccupation with blaming others.
They have a Target of Blame, whom they regularly bully, harass, blame, humiliate, annoy, spread rumors about, and subject to many other adversarial behaviors.
This pattern increases and maintains interpersonal conflicts, rather than reducing or resolving them-which is what most people try to do.
How can you spot HCPs early on, instead of being caught by surprise?
Special guest Bill Eddy, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute, joins Mindset Monday with Ashley Virtue to share three ways to effectively manage high-conflict personalities.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:
➡️Communication Challenges With High-Conflict Personalities
➡️How to Quickly Spot a High-Conflict Personality
➡️3 Tips to Effectively Manage Conflict
Ask somebody in one of those relationships, When she asks is there things that people can do to avoid or not trigger or somebody with high conflict personality.... Oh honey I can answer that.... There is nothing you can do to stop a trigger.You can live your Yes, a normal human being and still get yelled at or accused of something. You never did because they need a reason to act. They need a reason to be angry. They need a reason to be aggressive. So no matter what you do how well you do it. How kind you are somebody with high conflict? Personality disorder will literally make up lies about you just to have an argument. If there is nothing else to have an argument over.
They love to create situations where they provoke conflict in order to maintain their blame game so you need to maintain composure when they start hurdling accusations
It truly is a constant battle.Say I come home and I took ten minutes too long and i'm out sneaking the list doing that..... Always needs to make up a lie in order to argue about something if there is nothing to argue about
@@laurad3423it may take some struggle, but the faster you can get out of that situation, the better. That type of person can literally ruin your life.
They also get you confused with other people. Like all people who have upset them get lumped into one person lol!
Great to see my colleagues Ashley and Bill. I always learn something important when Bill speaks or writes. Thanks, Ashley, for doing this interview and providing it in the archives.
This is informative & helpful
Thank You !
Very helpful video. 👍 Months ago, I bought and read and go back to periodically for reference -- the book by Mr. Eddy, "BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns
Bill Eddy"
What I have learned from the book has been incredibly useful in recent times when being sucked into "dramatic conversations and situations" with a couple of high conflict people I come into contact with.
We're so glad that you've found a great aid in your journey of conflict resolution!
It help me to understand better myself and the other.Thank you🌸🌺🙏
So glad I found you! Will share with others. Thank you!
We're glad you found us! Thank you for sharing this information with your circle of influence.
We all know at least one, if you don't, guess what, you're the one.
So interesting. (From Wichita, KS)
Some of these friendly ways to respond indeed end conflict quicker, and they also feel a lot like enabling the other person's bad behavior.
It's insane no boundaries like really mind your business and your life simple
What about trying to "co-parent" with this type? Hard to figure out how to bring up child related issues, situations where they going against the rules of co-parenting
Im so sorry if you're experiencing this. I did. It was much better to split with my child's father, and educate my child that her father's ways and mine would be different under different roofs. Kids are adaptable the studies show, and adopt different rules in different parental homes. I hope you are OK. The split didn't halt all parenting differences. I'd often get threatened if her father disagreed with something I'd adopted. Even threatened to take me to court as disagreed with me trimming my daughter's hair.
It's been an awful life...
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