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  • @amandaburnett5551
    @amandaburnett5551 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    I did the same thing 1 year ago, was facing 10 years and I have 2 kids. Got 5 years probation and changed my life I will never almost loose my family again

    • @bootziecuppie487
      @bootziecuppie487 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Congratulations!!
      It’s really great to hear when people have made mistakes and then decide “Okay, I F’ed around and found out, I’m not doing it again!”
      I wish you all the best and a great life with your family! 😊

    • @jenc925
      @jenc925 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@bootziecuppie487 yes! Sometimes when your facing life changing situations it makes you think and it's up to the person if their going to change their ways.

  • @sunandmoonz
    @sunandmoonz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Preach brother. I was in Polk County on isolation for 2 months with 26 felony charges and 1.6 million bail. Not knowing is the worst. I ended up beating it but that 2 months was hell

    • @moblinmajorgeneral
      @moblinmajorgeneral 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Did you ever get around to watching the press conference Sheriff Judd put out about you, or was this before he started putting people on blast?

    • @jamesortiz7443
      @jamesortiz7443 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Only 2 months. Wow will never hear that again

    • @rustthelion8270
      @rustthelion8270 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Judd be cooking everyone down there

    • @sunandmoonz
      @sunandmoonz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Polk County Oregon.....

    • @velkycungus
      @velkycungus 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Im sorry but how the fuck can someone get 1,6 mili and then still beat it 💀💀💀

  • @daviddoesit2341
    @daviddoesit2341 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Man my moms was fighting attempted murder charges and that year and a half was the most stress I ever felt. Yes WE beat the case but maaaaaaan
    Love ya moms ❤😂😂😂😂

  • @tabbyhart8988
    @tabbyhart8988 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm waiting but I've given my stress and fear to Jesus because it was making me sick to worry so much. Jesus took my stress and worry, God is good. I know everything will work in my favor in Jesus name. 😊

    • @Smokeyon3thr33
      @Smokeyon3thr33 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Frfr, ima come out on top whichever way the verdict go

  • @matThaHatter
    @matThaHatter 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Couldn't agree more! Win or lose, you know what's coming.

  • @RoadRunner0517
    @RoadRunner0517 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Amen,Brother

  • @michelleparker6202
    @michelleparker6202 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Prayers for your friend 🙏❤️

  • @charlenemock333
    @charlenemock333 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you ain't lying!!!!! that is the worst part of all is waiting and not knowing it will drive you freaking insane!!! my first gray hair appeared when I was 18 years old. never was scared of anything because I grew up with all brothers and all uncles but the worst emotional roller coasters I have ever been on is when I was waiting to see how long I was going to have to serve and if I was going to serve any time at all on some charges. thank God I'm older and I do not do dumb shit anymore. I went to jail for terroristic threat and it was a $50,000 cash bond to get my ass out until my court date!!! thank God I got through those charges and I finally got out of all that trouble but I was on probation and I had a hefty fine to pay every single month when I went to check in with my probation. just stay straight everybody and youll live a longer life because worrying and stress will damn sure put you in your grave real quick! ✌️

  • @daniellenard2872
    @daniellenard2872 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Yes sitting and waiting is hell. But when they keep throwing u off and off and off it is a good thing . God sit our asses down from time to time .

  • @Zyryne1
    @Zyryne1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Facts, fam! I hope your boi gets the W. Good energy on the way. 😊❤

  • @Rev.RatsRides
    @Rev.RatsRides 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Sending prayers for your homie 🙏 ❤️

  • @johnpetty2261
    @johnpetty2261 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The not knowing is absolutely the worst part. Not knowing where you will end up or for how long. I still say one of the worst times was after I found out I made parole. In Texas, they just tell you you’ve made it but they never tell you when you will leave. They just come in the middle of the night and tell you to pack your stuff. But once I made parole I felt like I had something to lose, or something that could be taken away. Those days until they come and get you after I found out I was gonna make parole were some of my most stressful.

  • @jasonbrown9490
    @jasonbrown9490 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When I was trying to fight mine, I sat in county for 7 months. I filed a motion to sever my cases, but the DA wasn't budging. I was going to take it to the box, my lawyer straight up told me there was no way he could beat it because my charge partner started switching on half the county. I was looking at 30 years, but I pled to my class B, and the DA dropped my 3 Cs to keep it from going to trial. I ended up with 8, but at least it was over, and I finally could officially start my time.
    Edit* I was doing life on an installment plan. They ain't getting no more outta me. I'm done with the dumb shit.

    • @RealJasmineLove
      @RealJasmineLove 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's what my husband used to say. ❤

  • @bogustoast22none25
    @bogustoast22none25 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I get it, during my time in the Army, specially lower enlisted ranks, the stress of my job was so much that when I got out, I could not relax. I got a job in the civilian sector and they thought I was a hard worker and a master of my craft, I was, but not because I loved it, I was so stressed of failing that anything less than perfection kept me up at night

    • @margodphd
      @margodphd 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Shit, I can relate. Nothing healthy about perfectionism but it's incredibly difficult to break out of that mental trap

  • @christopherqueen3194
    @christopherqueen3194 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yes. Absolutely true.

    • @four20producerz77
      @four20producerz77 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      WHY IS THIS RECOVERY LIFE COACH STILL BEING INVOLED WITH PEOPLE THAT ?? BAD EXAMPLE TO SET.

  • @carolyn5835
    @carolyn5835 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I have a teenage daughter and parents in their late 80’s… between them I have lost years of my life too! 😂😂😂

  • @thefucrew9865
    @thefucrew9865 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never been there.
    I'll take your word for it.
    I HAVE been to combat...several times.
    Shot and blown up....several times.
    Almost lost my leg, and life.....several times.
    A different type of stress.
    Over months.
    Lasting years, due to survivor's guilt.
    Gotta move forward.
    Life doesn't stop, if you're alive.
    If you aren't, it comes to a sudden and complete stop.

  • @jennifurzoe1302
    @jennifurzoe1302 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy Saint Patrick's Day ya Mick🍀☘️

  • @ThumperT51
    @ThumperT51 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    AWESOME story! I looked over my shoulder for 15 months, knowing big charges were coming. They got me. Then took 19 months, not knowing if I was doing 16 years or life.... or maybe time-served with probation??? Part of a military,federal case, mistaken identity.
    I went from a roided, 6'3", 267lbs to 212lbs... Fortunately I only got 7 years probation and all that BS. Life, 16 years or probation was a huge array of options...my hair is silver!!!

  • @jenc925
    @jenc925 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The not knowing is the toughest part and definitely stress does harm to your body! Best of luck to your friend!

  • @donhonky4086
    @donhonky4086 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I knew this guy was Brandon's pal 😮

  • @Dareal85Rez
    @Dareal85Rez 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    To u and him keep yall head up high yall got dis

  • @TonyCasula
    @TonyCasula 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    God bless your friend jd

  • @carloscavazos114
    @carloscavazos114 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This one just met matches the it's not the destination that matters it's the journey

  • @shawnb9580
    @shawnb9580 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    💯 facts

  • @Hahah878
    @Hahah878 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    At the end of the day if you come to peace with god and you clear your soul u will not fear what the judge says because the only judge u will fear is god.

  • @CatWhisperer244
    @CatWhisperer244 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely correct, and I've never been to prison, even after 20 times in county. But I came oh so close once, avoided 5-20 for ADW by the skin of my teeth (BS charge btw). Those months awaiting trial, worst stress and anxiety I've ever lived with, and that's saying a lot. Not like I'm Big Billy Badass but I'd get by ok in the pen, and I know it'd be better than all that time not knowing

  • @miketexas4549
    @miketexas4549 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Adrenal fatigue syndrome. It does tremendous damage to the body.

  • @bgraham155
    @bgraham155 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Having a bad case doesn't stop the state especially if you have a court appointed attorney. Even if you have a great lawyer they will still try to push their luck.

  • @TEAMSTERLOCAL282NYC
    @TEAMSTERLOCAL282NYC 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was looking at up to 3 years of in state for allegations that can’t be substantiated. The DA was willing to drop the felony charge along with a shit load of misdemeanors in place of 3 years probation and 1 misdemeanor. Last time in court, they wanted me to take a plea of 1 misdemeanor. I told my attorney to take it to trial. If they’re willing to drop a felony charge and 10-12 misdemeanors to 1 misdemeanor they don’t have a case. That along with my bail only be $2,500(I’m in NY. That’s not a lot) for a state charge tells me they lack evidence.

  • @WtfCharlesMiccheck12
    @WtfCharlesMiccheck12 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙏I will be praying for Your Friend God Bless Your Friend❤🙏Praise Be To God
    GOD BLESS YOU ALL❤🙏❣️

  • @stephaniemiya9757
    @stephaniemiya9757 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The risk of being convicted EVEN IF YOU DID NOT DO WHAT THEY ACCUSED YOU OF is so high that going to trial is such a hard thing. But if you do not take it to trial you have no chance of acquittal. There is no reason not to go to trial. If you get convicted it is exactly the same end result as if you plead out.

  • @anthonyhopcroft8577
    @anthonyhopcroft8577 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I went to jail for crimes I never committed, the police department arrested me for putting my hands on my mother when in fact I only yelled at her for not signing some dumb form to go to NY when I was in my senior year in high school, they arrested me at 18 just for yelling at my mother saying I put hands on her when that was never the case, and I'm going to sue my local police department for it and I'm getting a judge that knows me personally, which means my local pd is in trouble legally, remember folks, if you live in a corrupt town with a massively corrupt legal system and you have connections, use those connections to really piss off the bad corrupt law enforcement officers you don't like, it's sad, but where I live means that what I said is unfortunately true, and a lot of local police departments are corrupt, including individual officers

  • @raystauffer1926
    @raystauffer1926 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Waiting on my state n fed cases at the moment, hate this ankle monitor but the bed bugs n nasty food sucks so bad in OKC county that I'm stressed but glad to be on house arrest

  • @charlenemock333
    @charlenemock333 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I forgot to add in my comment JD that I will continue to pray for your friend that he straightens up and everything goes all right for him and that he does not spend a lot of time in prison. God bless him and you and your family 🙏🙏🙏

  • @msbee5183
    @msbee5183 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Peace❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @cjmccoy3342
    @cjmccoy3342 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Facts homie

  • @SJL30
    @SJL30 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yea that shit sucks. I hated that waiting. Plus having a warrant and looking over your back.

  • @JollyRed0045
    @JollyRed0045 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I spent a couple of weeks in solitary when I got locked up for a dwi in El Paso.
    It felt like a month or two.

  • @G-S-D
    @G-S-D 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I did 90 days on an expired previous sentence. Judge said have a nice day. No they didn't give me back the 90 days. County time is by far worse time

  • @bradpaton3927
    @bradpaton3927 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don't do crimes, kids!

  • @snoopmook8843
    @snoopmook8843 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I spent three years on house arrest for pretrial monitoring, and everything ended up being dismissed but I’ll never get those three years back or rid of this gray hair

  • @MooseEdwards
    @MooseEdwards 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Got a divorce during a Program Launch for a new car in Detroit. I’m from KY. Wife was back home doing God knows what… I made quite a bit of money and on payday I went to Subway for lunch and my card declined. I was like that can’t be right, I just made $1400. Look at my mobile banking app and I’m negative $6000. I go into a panic, stressed to all hell. How do I get home, how do I eat!? My GM paid for me so I would stay, but turns out my now EX Wife, was writing cold checks. I ended up with almost 16k in fraudulent checks because both our names were on the account. I went to Detroit with brown hair and left with Gray. FR. 😢😅

  • @jeremy-psychonautlsdmtdr-k5140
    @jeremy-psychonautlsdmtdr-k5140 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Facts!!!

  • @misssherrie-may1041
    @misssherrie-may1041 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, the hardest time is on remand waiting for trial. I did almost 3 years on remand waiting for trial on armed robbery charges. I beat them. I was looking at a maximum of 60 years. My co accused got 12 years. Which was devastating. Prison time has been too easy ever since. But I've never done anything that hectic again. It's terrible how much drugs will mess you up!! We are both drug free & living good lives now.

  • @ChadAF_YT
    @ChadAF_YT 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They always throw some crazy number at you to scare you for the first deal. Just say nope taking it to the box, but take the deal they give you a week or so before sentencing. You’re welcome

  • @ricknelson947
    @ricknelson947 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So another words, manage your anger and don’t commit criminal offenses, so you won’t be arrested and put in that situation in the first place. I’m sure glad you have turned your life around and are able to be a mentor to the savable.

  • @JT-un7dc
    @JT-un7dc 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm hard thinking about this!

  • @AuroraPaintBrush4444
    @AuroraPaintBrush4444 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Heck, even if you win, the rumor mill is brutal

  • @darthuchiha1779
    @darthuchiha1779 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m 33 and everyone that sees me now who hasn’t seen me in like 10 yrs bc I was wheeling n dealing running the streets like a damn fool they go whoa kid that’s alotta grey hair wtf that come from and I just say a 45 yr suspended sentence 😞

  • @kurthauenstein7149
    @kurthauenstein7149 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So true.

  • @Asphalt80085
    @Asphalt80085 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Keep up the good work

  • @PJ_Perry
    @PJ_Perry 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just had my trial last week ..weak case ..no witnesses..it was stressful up till the day ..let me put this in perspective. I have no priors ..no record...the prosecutor wanted a suspended year sentence and one year probation...for OBSTRUCTION 😂😂 I never been to trial i was nervous..judge laughed at the prosecutor and said she cant even considered a suspended year for a 35yr old with no priors on such a petty charge...they claimed i lied to the cop during a traffic stop ,6 months later he arrested me for it smh but never being in trouble it was. Stressful

  • @NateDawgFortNiteReels
    @NateDawgFortNiteReels 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's the worst when you're actually innocent.. I've waited 6montys now and trial pushed back 3 times by the prosecution because they're not prepared and have no case because I'm innocent and the person that tried setting me up has falsely accused people before so they won't put her on the stand and keep offering bs plea deals that I won't ever take. I can't wait to sue tf out of everyone involved including the state, county and the actual criminal. Waiting that long while being with held from my children... I've been victimized in more ways then I can count

  • @Lupine.
    @Lupine. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You sound like Macho Man Savage trying to whisper.

  • @georgecastanza6952
    @georgecastanza6952 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not to mention the state will have you spend $100,000 even if they think you really are innocent.

  • @tylerkinley268
    @tylerkinley268 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No matter how sure you are that it's getting tossed, you sweat it till you hear that ruling.

  • @cindyd.554
    @cindyd.554 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so sorry for your friend, but I will pray for him. 🙏✌️🇨🇦

  • @tamsolo1584
    @tamsolo1584 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We never truly get off Scott free

  • @dereksardone3413
    @dereksardone3413 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ya, you don't shit solid until it's over.

  • @nawtygi
    @nawtygi 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Talk about stress, it raises the blood pressure for sure and I know being locked up in prison it had to be through the roof for most inmates. Is it something you suffer with today or have you never had high blood pressure? I didn’t know I had high blood pressure until I died from a heart attack and stroke. 😮 yep, died for three minutes. Damn, I didn’t want to come back! 😂

  • @MasonDaniels-ef6mf
    @MasonDaniels-ef6mf 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yep thats why ive had 7 heart attack probably all from stress

  • @goldenpaladin
    @goldenpaladin 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think the waiting room also stresses you out when i was like 17 i went to court for truincy or however you spell it for missing close to 1000 days of school ((all together))the waiting room was the worst part because i knew i was probably gonna get something the judge ended up telling me because the school year was almost done just to drop out at 18 and gave me about 56 hours of comunity service im happy i got my ged currently going to a community college i know my story isnt to serious but its good to share

  • @kick1574
    @kick1574 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just saw one of my old buddies the other day needed me to work on his truck I had to work at 4 AM and he hit me up at 2:45 AM blew it off got home from work and he was parked in my driveway. Just found out from him that he’s on the run after I had already worked on his truck. They’re trying to hit him with six years. He didn’t tell me why I went to take his truck on a test drive and saw a bunch of needles on the floor and told him I’m not taking your truck test drive it’s unregistered and not my problem should be fixed but I’m a single father of two in the middle of a custody battle and I’m taking no chances my kids live with me but if you’re on that shit I can’t help you

  • @candacehandyside903
    @candacehandyside903 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Maybe he needs to stop breaking the f*cking law man?! I really have no love lost for criminals. Why tf ya’ll wanna be in a life of crime and jail/prison is beyond me. Freedom is best.

  • @rickfurey74
    @rickfurey74 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That's real JD

  • @DonovanKing-wt1hs
    @DonovanKing-wt1hs 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ong stress is a killer

  • @EducatingDims247
    @EducatingDims247 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sounds like a J6th defendant.

  • @killeanmcchesney5138
    @killeanmcchesney5138 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You ain’t lying

  • @greghines8212
    @greghines8212 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I remember when I beat juvenile life for a attempted murder and burglary I was stresses every day

  • @bradcamillo1966
    @bradcamillo1966 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hold on a minute , you have criminal friends ? Said no one ever

  • @3.7hr
    @3.7hr 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yea time in the pin fs aint for me, glad i’ve never experienced any time then i did. If i’ve stressed so much over a ticket.. imagine how much i’d stress over any other charges, after my first 4 days in juvenile 😂.

  • @godropkicks3219
    @godropkicks3219 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just learned why I have never had hemorrhoids 😅

  • @Just_a.Fightfan
    @Just_a.Fightfan 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My uncle doing life for something he didn’t do

  • @michaelgandy4684
    @michaelgandy4684 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Facts

  • @jonathantaylor6926
    @jonathantaylor6926 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don't they usually make you a better deal (like 2 years) of you plead guilty but threaten you with 10 if you take it to trial and lose?

  • @undeadnerd7102
    @undeadnerd7102 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Good luck to him

  • @krispinwahsghost5999
    @krispinwahsghost5999 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Run off into the wild and don't look back

  • @johndezarn4303
    @johndezarn4303 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolute truth.

  • @bullithedjames937
    @bullithedjames937 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have 285 days in and county. You're just doing life unsentenced

  • @silasreynolds9286
    @silasreynolds9286 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Have a friend had life in prison after 20 plus years he was Innocent and got out

  • @TownGirl04
    @TownGirl04 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wouod be very stressed.

  • @norrock1
    @norrock1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Stress can cause hemorrhoids? If that's actually true that explains the one I got that keeps flaring up.....

  • @20truck
    @20truck 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You don't mind me asking why did you have to do 76 days before it went to trial, were you not eligible for bail?

  • @staceyjohnson4436
    @staceyjohnson4436 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s true

  • @jeremiahbates7569
    @jeremiahbates7569 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    @JdDelay5150 I would like to ask you to help 2 people, myself, as someone who ended up in the orbit of and taken advantage of by a narcotics addict, and the person who got me in this orbit. How do I get a hold of you?

  • @charlienoah5583
    @charlienoah5583 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What does your banner say? I hope your friend is ok

  • @danfriel9608
    @danfriel9608 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    And county is way more expensive for everything

  • @redgreen3187
    @redgreen3187 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don’t break the law? At least not the laws that’ll change your life

  • @anthonywinebarger1529
    @anthonywinebarger1529 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂💯😮😢

  • @sheriff2550
    @sheriff2550 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I mean not being an asshole, but don’t give me crimes. I don’t know what to tell you I work addresses for years I’ve been a CEO I’ve seen some juveniles get out of the life and do good for themselves being productive members society working for living does suck, but at the end of the day you don’t go Warrants not looking over your shoulder every second of every day.

  • @cocoaboucher8886
    @cocoaboucher8886 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeah, because thats the kind of friend i want! NOT

  • @growermo940
    @growermo940 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s the worst feeling ever 😢

  • @Raymond-rr5iv
    @Raymond-rr5iv 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hemorrhoids ?? What from the lithium ??

  • @ericzepeda8541
    @ericzepeda8541 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    100%

  • @Ultra.Legnds
    @Ultra.Legnds 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That’s a skill issue honestly

  • @FernandoChaves
    @FernandoChaves 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You were guilty, and you beat it? That's a good thing? Did your friend try to kill someone? It's stressful? LOL! Yeah, especially when you know you are guilty. Why do you act like beating a charge when you know you are guilty is a good thing? I think that only shows you don't get it and have lost your head in the fact you can make money on social networking with all of this. You should not be helping addicts. You should not be coaching people. My opinion. Why? Because you smile when you talk about getting away with crimes. Serious crimes. This isn't little petty stuff and you know it. You sold drugs on the street, which means 100% for certain you know you were hurting kids. No doubt.

  • @jimmylee7382
    @jimmylee7382 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pick better friends

  • @EdPulls
    @EdPulls 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    U talking to felons

  • @ryanpatrick8472
    @ryanpatrick8472 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Find better friends brah