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“After all she’s done for you.” Like what exactly? The sister needs to sue Jodie for the cost of replacing the damaged items. Her fertility issues are no excuse for this behaviour.
“I’m starting a new saucing trend” was the perfect response. OP can do much better than a 30 year old who thinks using a slur is excusable because it’s a trend.
I don’t know how the sister’s defense is even supposed to hold up anyhow. Like Kyutie said, the sister blamed the kids for all of the destruction, but the entire reason the sister was there was because she was supposed to be watching over the kids…
If you’ve ever had a baby you’ll know how hormonal mom can get. She had a 2 day old baby and came home to her baby stuff destroyed. I’m on her side.
exactly. it was harsh but she wasn't a jerk about it at all. the real jerk is the sister, who was trusted to take care of the kids and instead endangered them essentially and the newborn. op is a mother, and a hormonal one atm. the sister deserved it. if you can allow for someone's else's child to be in a dangerous environment, you certainly don't deserve having any kids.
EXACTLY
Baby stuff is pretty expensive
And the fact that the parents are on the sister's side makes me sick! It's so obvious who the "perfect golden child" is. I HATE that! 🤬
In the last story: I found it so disrespectful that the husband was not allowing OP to go to her sister's wedding. Like, just because she is a stay -at-home mom, doesn't mean she is not allowed to have her own personal freedom all because "She should watch the kids". She even made arrangements with the friend and there's absolutely nothing wrong with asking trusted people to do favours for you if you aren't available. Her husband should have let OP have time for herself with her loved ones, instead of being possessive and behaving like a 5 year old over one day of not having his wife watch the kids. 🙄🙄🙄😡😡😡😡
Saima Wasti - I feel like it is a blessing he is giving her the "silent treatment." Then she doesn't have to listen to his BS/crap! 😆
The second one: as someone who can take a joke and make some jokes, it is pretty disrespectful regardless if it's a "trend" or not
Regardless of age if someone is not comfortable with it, then they're not and its not a joke it's being disrespectful. The least he could do was an apology
I think her reaction was a bit much... sounds like he never really had the chance to say sorry.
@@Kadeda I don't think it was too much. Imagine if she said he was 1 pump chump, to see if he got mad, which he most likely would and react quick, just for a "trend". I think she reacted fine! You don't disrespect you partner with name calling. That means they never respected them to begin with
@@chantelleuzumaki Getting mad isn't the issue imo. Throwing food on the floor is. Her getting upset is justified... Throwing food on the floor is not. I think this would have been resolved immediately especially since he mentioned it was jokes. For example, she said something like "Don't call me bitch!" Most likely he would have immediately apologized. That's usually how these situations end. They happen all the time with couples.
@@Kadeda it’s a reasonable response, she’s tired and she cooks for him and he treats her like that
I’m really concerned for the amount of people who are in toxic or even abusive relationships on this subreddit
Dude 😨
Me too this whole subreddit makes me never want a relationship
First story: I get being jealous, but the sister took it way too far and frankly, the OP didn't do anything wrong. Honestly, I can get what the OP said: if the sister is gonna act like that, I'm not sure how safe a child would be or if it would be a good environment for a kid. That's just me though and I don't hope that the sister can never have kids, I just hope she gets her act together before she does have them
Second story: I don't think the gf was wrong at all. It's not a joke (especially if you're a full adult) if it hurts someone. Jokes are only funny if people around are okay with it.
Third story: the husband is horrible! So controlling, what??? It's for her sister's wedding and she found a trusted supervisor for the kids. He's not affected at all, what's his issue?
@I am me • 25y ago exactly ✨✨✨
For the third story, the husband is showing so many red flags. He's super controlling and trying to break his wife down and her self esteem. She needs to take her kids and get somewhere safe.
@@PyroWolfofEarth I agree with you there, OP should get divorced from her controlling, toxic-ass husband immediately
First story had me feeling bad for OP, the fact that she OFFERED to carry her sisters child to let her have her family despite the sister acting like a crazy banshee woman and being jealous and selfish is beyond me, like damn OP has so much patience for her sister
@@PyroWolfofEarth Absolutely, but it won’t be easy to find a decent job since she is a sahm for at least 7 years. Wonder if hubby made her be the sahm? Still, I’m mostly wondering how recent this post was, and if there are any updates.
Last story: Here we go again, another douche bag trying to control his wife cause he thinks it's his right. How about grandma look after the kids from now on. Try stopping your husband to visit his bros after work and let's see how that works out. I was pretty pissed at that part when he cancelled the ticket without OP's knowledge. IDK but I think it's financial abuse on the dependant spouse.
I 100% agree, not only is he telling her he didn't give her permission to go he is trying to make her distance herself from her family and is turning his family against her. A normal person would just allow someone to take care of the children. Even if you feel weary of a babysitter you can do like OP did and ask a friend or family member. This husband disregarded all of OP's ideas because he did not want her to go and was unhappy she wasn't following his orders like his little mind thought she should.
The guy in the third story ..... words can't even describe how shocked and disgusted i am from his ways of manipulating and taking over the joy of her sister's wedding,i'm sure he KNEW that even if she attended he already ruined it for her, if it was his brother's wedding im sure he would've done anything to attend and ofc leave the kids with the wife..and the mother in law: if her daughter did the exact same thing she wouldn't be bothered at all but it's just because it's her son's wife ...DISGUSTING
Honestly, man deserved it for calling a well meaning woman a bitch. And if things end because of that, maybe it's a good thing for her
i feel like a wedding of a close family member is something i’d take off work for, and even if i didn’t want to go, i’d work from home so my wife could be there for her sister at such an important event
The husband insisted the wife not going to her own sisters wedding sounds like a red flag bro-
That husband is a abusive!
There was an update from OP for the last story:
So she Basically got in contact with the previous babysitter and asked her what happened during the “robbery”(it had been 7/8 months from that) and the babysitter basically told OP that her husband was making her feel uncomfortable and was being inappropriate, although she wasn’t sure if it was intentional or not. OP husband also left messaged to the babysitter that made her uncomfortable.
Then apparently on the night of the robbery the husband asked the babysitter to do sth for him( I’m not 100% sure about that one) and she didn’t want to so he just called her and fired her but told his wife that she was stealing hence the firing.
Oh damn!
What happened afterwards?
Do you know her reddit perhaps??
Oh daum!
Did they divorce. Is she living with her parental family and kids
Jodie played herself, wtf, she had the offer of her sister being her surrogate, and she ruined it completely.
The words she said she has just gone through one of the most painfull experiences you can go through and her child’s stuff is destroyed hundreds of dollars worth of stuff
Fr and like the crib too? Sucks bc after she gave birth obviously she wants to put the baby down and all
I agree!! I feel like calling someone degrading names like "bitch" should always be discussed first to see whether both parties are okay with terms like these. I get that they can be used in joking ways among friends and lovers but still... we shouldn't forget that words like these are demeaning. However, I am also grieving the whole pot of pasta + sauce that was lost in this. Food waste makes me so sad, there could've been other ways to deal with this :(
Yeah, I'm the sort to call my friends bitch but also things like babe and darling, they know I mean it in an endearing way and are fine with it because I TALKED TO THEM ABOUT IT, sometimes I even periodically ask if they're ok with the things I say and the jokes I make. If you really care about someone you talk to them and establish boundaries and you stick to them, if they tell you not to do something then don't do it. Also I agree, I wish she just took home the pasta and gave it away or something or to a homeless man so it wouldn't have been wasted.
@@dio6586 I'm so glad to hear that you talked to your friends about it and continously make sure they're okay with terms like this being used! I've also used bitch with certain friends before but we also made sure that we're both okay with it. Setting these boundaries is so important!!
And yes right... this isn't the first story in which food was being unnecessarily wasted, it makes me really sad. I've once seen a statistic that said all the wasted food in the world is even more than what's needed to feed everyone who's starving and that's just heartbreaking in my opinion.
I call my friends bitch, but not EVER like that. EVER. EVER. and they are girls. It's completely different when a man does it. it is NEVER ok.
Exactly
I agree. You should discuss this before using these degrading words, especially in this situation where the OP had bad associations with it. And if they are a real couple and love each other, the BF should know about it. At the same time though, this could have been handled differently by the OP part. No need to waste food and unnecessarily clean the rug that's probably going to the trash.
Some people just love throwing words like “neglectful” around like it’s nothing
first story: definitely right to get angry and even cut off ties if you ask me. it's not just the property that was damaged, but the children could have gotten hurt. yes, what she said was harsh, but i'm assuming this was after delivering a baby and she was probably extremely exhausted and emotional at this time. what the sister did was absolutely horrible and what was said was hurtful too. but honestly, i wouldn't blame her for saying it or call her a jerk. she had offered to be a surrogate for her sister and understood her jealousy yet trusted to keep her kids safe. after all of this and still the destruction? nah, that sister has no right to be a mother until she matures. i probably can't understand the pain of a miscarriage but to be this violent is disgusting, especially because kids were involved.
second story: i don't think the bf was entirely wrong to make a joke like that UNLESS if op made those boundaries clear beforehand. from this, it sounds like she never did. i don't like being called that word by anyone either but i have had friends who call e/o that for fun. i think trends are stupid at any age, but this is clearly a communication error and still after all of this, op won't tell her bf how she felt. he was dumb but her reaction is worse imo. instead of wasting the food and ruining his rug, if she just set it down and told him she doesn't appreciate such jokes and why, maybe he would have apologized and they could have had a nice dinner together. obviously dump him if he repeats but you need to set your boundaries first before setting expectations.
third story: clearly an example of a power trip. the husband is controlling and seems borderline abusive. it's not about him having to stay one day without his wife, but it's about controlling where she can and cannot go. he's calling her neglectful and doing whatever he can in order to guilt-trip her into not going and enjoying her life for a day. i feel bad that she couldn't enjoy her sister's wedding but she needs to make sure that she can reach out to anyone and get a job to stand up on her own feet. i have nothing against sahm, in fact my mom is one as well. but sahm have to be really careful about their partners treatment towards them otherwise they might become overly dependent and end up in abusive situations like these. i hope she gets help soon.
First story: Understandable anger, maybe too savage response.
Second story: Honestly I think both of them acted childish. I would not wanna react like the guy or the girl.
Third Story: The guy is terrible. That’s controlling, manipulative and honestly abusive.
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The anger is understandable but their actions were still not justified.
The main character is also a bit wrong, her anger was understandable but what she said was not justified. She shouldn’t have said that however sometimes when people are mad or angry they choose emotions first and don’t think straight.
For the first two stories I feel like the people chose emotions first and wasn’t thinking straight and when you are mad at that moment you just blow off and don’t care about the aftermath or the consequences of your actions that much. However in the second story the boy should learn about what jokes are alright or not. The girl does have the right to be mad for that but she probably should have just clean the rug . In my opinion the boy should probably clean the rug however he probably wouldn’t so if I was there I would have cleaned it but break up since obviously he isn’t the right one for her.
Look its funny when both r awar eof the joke trend. She had a hard day at work. Thus dude probably dont have a job is at hoke all day didn't bother to cook one meal for his girl. She same to cook for him even after how bad her day was. And he did this. She didn't act childish She acted liked someone who was tired and didn't need vullsgit from one perso She loves.
@@kanikagaral7637 It was nice of her to come over to cook. Doesn’t sound like they live together. You don’t know if he has cooked or done anything for her before this. He was busy with his exam. She came over in a bad mood. He didn’t ask or demand her to. She chose it. And it really doesn’t sound like she informed him, that she was tired, in a bad mood or had a bad association with the word bitch. She wasted food and acted like a brat. He tried to talk about it and explain himself, she just joked and was snarky. Do you really think that mature people act like that? He should apologize for hurting her feelings, but she should also be mature about telling him why it affected her that much. She told more in this story to strangers than him. He did act like a child, but so did she. The word bitch has been used in many funny situations. I’ve heard guys use it to each other. I’ve heard women use it to each other. If I said something like he did and someone got hurt. I would talk to them, try to understand why it did bother them and then apologize. But instead of talking, you make a mess and then give a snarky comment before you leave. That’s no way to resolve it. Childish honestly.
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I agree, people went with emotion first instead of thinking and gathering themselves. The third story I absolutely believe the guy was in the wrong. The first the OP went too far. Second one, I honestly believe both were at fault, more the guy, but still. They should talk. Know each other’s limits and respect them. I see that exact situation with a lot of people. Jokes that go too far, especially when they don’t know if it hits too close. I don’t blame the guy for not knowing, but when he first got informed that she didn’t like it, he should’ve accepted it and apologized.
If he really meant it to be a joke, he would have apologised when she was offended but he clearly didn't wanted to apologise and wanted her to be like "okay keep calling me bitch, i love it". That's not how jokes work.
Yeah that was my issue with it. He didn't apologise even once. Cant believe people r even excusing his behaviour.
@@kanikagaral7637 true, people saying he didn't have a chance to apologize when he obviously could've while explaining the tiktok excuse
@@lucidfangirl1030 exactly. There is one person here who said she was acting like a childish brat. Nobody asked her to cook anyways. Can u imagine the entitlement of these people
@@kanikagaral7637 , incels most likely. Icky, icky, incels.
The AUDACITY of these people
The sister even offered to be a surrogate for her sister so her sister could be a mom and the sister goes and destroys everything
I can’t imagine how traumatic it was for the three year olds to see/hear a full grown woman thrashing and stomping about, destroying everything in their new sibling’s room, probably screaming or laughing hysterically. Even if it was premeditated, you don’t cause that level of destruction calmly.
@@gaxalee7392 I agree it was definitely planned from the sister as to how eager she was to get them out of the house. She just proved that she was in no way ready to be a parent if she could not watch her nephews in a safe environment. Then to blame the nephews shows something more than petty insecurities. I bet the sister didn’t get in trouble for the level of destruction and the fact that the op just had a child and was in trouble for how she spoke about the level of destruction speaks volumes to who the favorite child is.
"After all she's done for us"
Like getting jealous at the first pregnancy for example.
"Jodie" has not done anything except watching the twins while OP was in the hospital.
And she used this time to not watch the kids but to wreck the house and *blame* it on the twins she was supposed to watch and control the don't misbehave and are safe.
I get that OP is feeling guilty for some things she said when she was still recovering from giving birth *and* finding her home wrecked.
But honestly she should sue her sister into oblivion and cut contact with her afterwards.
The parents obviously were lulled by "Jodie" and given lies to what she supposedly did for OP in the past. Golden Child Syndrome.
If they really believe what they said OP should cut them out as well. At the very least until the baby is 2.
To the last story:
The husband was not "able to live one day without his wife" he was "not able to do things his slave does ordinarily".
That is more or less what he obviously seen OP as.
The dumb woman he holds for s*x, cooking, cleaning, raising the kids, ..., and obviously not a partner.
I guess the old and demeaning tradition of the woman having to do anything her husband says or wants is not dead yet. Like it deserves to be.
My mom's favorite thing to say when my siblings and I said, "Well, so-and-so does it." was "If they jumped off the Empire State building would you jump too." It really made me think. And of course when my girls were young I used a similar argument. lol
1. NTA. Jealousy is a nasty thing to have. The sister should've at least be supportive, not being destructive.
2. NTA. Just because it's a trend or joke, doesn't mean it's funny. OP has been stressful. This should've been avoided.
3. NTA. The husband is so controlling and overbearing. She wasn't abandoning her kids, she was just going on her sister's child-free wedding!
#1 The sister endangered the twins, endangered a fresh baby, caused a ton of property damage, and then blamed it on small children....I think what was said was justified and I would have called the police.
#2 I hate how being cruel to people is a "funny" tend. Then they get all upset when people react normally to them being cruel. What even.
#3 OMG abusive relationship red alert. Get out girl. You should be able to leave the house ONCE every few YEARS and attend normal family events!
The last one ticked me right off the bat!!! It's like the husband can't understand or warp around his head that his only sister-in-law is getting married. The dude has issues!
1st story I understand her saying that because look what she did! She can’t even act like an adult! 2nd story he’s an asshole trend or not. 3rd story that husband is way too controlling! Huge 🚩 he canceled her plane ticket?!? She didn’t abandon her kids he just wanted to control her I say get out now!
With the sister who destroyed the baby items, I think that the sister probably has psychological issues and did not remember causing the destruction.
Love your videoes!! For the first story, i don't know why she ruined the chance to have kids for herself, she had everything situated perfectly fine and now theres tension again and her sister who was glad to help her most likely won't anymore
I had a 'friend' that started greeting me with a 'Hiya b*tch' and a hit in the arm when I was in middle school. (We were friends for seven years at this point) This was in front of a lot of people and she did it in such a way that it was embarrassing for me. The first time I thought it was just a random tasteless/unfunny joke on her part (which she was known for) so I shrugged it off at the time and didn't make a big deal of it. She ended up doing it a couple more times. I told her to stop... she didn't... and I stopped hanging out with her all together because of it. Looking back at my whole friendship with her I'm pretty sure that she wasn't really my friend. She didn't like that I stood up to her and told her no. I think I was just a stand in because others couldn't tolerate her.
that friendship was bound to fail (and i'm glad it did) because you made your boundaries clear which she chose to still ignore. in the story, it doesn't seem like the bf knows. what he did was unnecessary and i would personally hate it too. but op never clarifies how or why she felt the way she did. she had a rough day and maybe the bf thought she would laugh at the "joke." she doesn't but she ruins his rug and leaves only to send him snarky messages without actually addressing the problem. to her, he disrespected her. to him, she's being mean. it's bound to fail until they talk like mature adults.
He's a control freak; she can certainly use a kid-free day. Moms need that now and again.
My toxic friend from high school casually used the B word as his form of slang throughout junior year. Not once did he ever realize that it was really annoying and hurtful because it gave off the impression that he only "liked" certain people who were "worthy" of his friendship. I was not willing to see if he would grow out of it, so I stayed away from him and the majority of the friend's group throughout our senior year. I was so angry that I snapped at him by reversing his own negative behavior back to him. Because it took place shortly after we graduated, I thankfully never dealt with him again. I can't say for sure if he ever looked back at that moment and "clicked."
First story: Alright, maybe what she said was rude. But her sister deserved it. Jodie went to her house and destroyed all her stuff. Honestly, Jodie is lucky that her sister didn’t make her pay for all the stuff she broke. But Jodie does confuse me. I understand if you’re sad because you can’t have kids, but shouldn’t you be glad other people can? Especially your sister? You should be supporting you sister not destroying all of her things. If that were me I would’ve been like “Well, you’re paying for all the stuff you broke.” I can’t believe she tried to blame it on three year olds. Like, yeah, three year olds are definitely strong enough to tear a mattress.
Second story: Ummmmmm............ Okay, this makes me mad. Someone came over to cook for you after they finished work and you’re going to be like “Hey! Let’s use this TikTok trend and insult her, what a great idea!” Like, what? Wether it’s a joke or not, you can’t just call someone a b!tch and then expect them not to get angry. No matter the gender. I also love her comebacks. If that were me I would’ve slapped him in the face and been like “Yeah, well I’m creating a new trend, it’s called leaving, bye b!tch.” (Okay, I might not slap him in the face but you get the point.)
Third story: She’s a full time stay at home mom and you’re not even going to let her take one day to enjoy herself. ITS ONE DAY! And the fact that he cancelled her plan ticket just because he wanted her to stay is ridiculous. Like, stop being controlling. And the fact that he was like “let me make my living” like she doesn’t have a life to pisses me off. You’re in this together, it’s not only her job to take care of the kids. And the fact that he was like “No, your friend can’t watch the kids.” Like, shut up. What makes me laugh was he got his mom to scold her. Like, he needs his mom to scold her. He can’t talk to his own wife about it? What also makes me laugh was that the mom was like “You’re abandoning your own kids!” Like, abandoning would be if she left them out on the street. But she gave them to a friend. And then he’s like “You’re such a neglectful mom. You take care of the kids almost 24/7 and take one day to enjoy yourself. Neglectful, selfish, horrible.” Like, shut up. You’re being a neglectful husband by trying to control her into staying and making it seem like the only thing she can do is watch the kids. BUT NOOOOOOOOO! WE DON’T TALK ABOUT THAT.
There are people defending the guy in the second comment saying 'she shouldn't of acted that way.' or 'how was he supposed to know?' To me though It was pretty obvious why she acted the way she did. Even without her past specifically the word 'bitch' has been used by men to insult/belittle women for a long time.
The 'what's for dinner tonight' could also have negative association to it as well since men have also been telling and expecting women to 'stay in the kitchen', cook and clean for them for a long time to.
To say that to a women that has just made you a dinner after they have had a bad day at work really doesn't sit well with me.
Her reaction told him it wasn't a joke to her yet he never apologized, just tried to explain why him calling her a bitch was 'ok' (it gave me the 'it was just a trend so I'm allowed to call you that' sort of response). The fact he called her a bitch again afterwards just shows he doesn't care about how that word makes her feel at all.
And the fact he went straight on to demand she clean his rug (again men have expecting women to clean for them for centuries) isn't a good sign either.
I hope she breaks up with him because she deserves better.
I'm in a similar fight with a friend who's 50 years old. I didn't throw stuff, instead I told him to cut it out and later sent him a text explaining why I don't find that funny. You know what that got me? He still thinks it's hilarious and says he's going to keep acting that way forever. Our mutual friends basically say that 'boys will be boys'.
@@riel4553 "Boys will be boys" only applies to roughhousing, not bullying -- which is exactly what continuing something someone is uncomfortable with _is._ They should either cease their harassment, or learn they may lose a friend.
Is it petty playground logic? Maybe. But nobody should force themself to be friends with someone who makes them feel bad. It's their choice to disrespect you, or apologize.
The second story is another good reason to stay away from TikTok
Last story: I've been married 40 years and I have never asked permission to do anything. You can be sure it will remain that way. We are both adults and can do whatever we please.This would go over like a lead balloon at our house. My husband will get a great laugh when I tell him this story.
oh my gosh, i hadn't watched your channel in almost six years and this came up in my recommended just now. definitely a highlight of my day 💙💙
ohhh, i saw the second story on Reddit a couple days ago, it fed me up too. i find some of the stories you cover through reddit. seriously, that 'trend' the boyfriend took part in (2nd story still) was very disrespectful and shouldn't even be a trend. good on the girlfriend for standing up for herself. she was literally cooking for him, and to disrepsct the person who does basic stuff for you, that's messed up. it's messed up in any other way ofc ofc, but that 'trend' is just plain disrespectful and shouldn't be a trend.
3rd story is the reason im terrified at the idea of getting married and having kids involved.. All men are like this. My ex, my friends' exes, their current bfs, my male friends, even my dad to some degree. Theres always a level of controlling behavior and emotional manipulation.
Idk honestly what its with men and their obsession/need with controlling their woman's freedom and movement, but its a real thing. I love men (cuz im a heterosexual woman) but i think im going to have to stay single my whole life, because freedom and respect are the most important things in my life, apart from money ofc.
Whenever i look back on stuffs like this it just sends chills through my body, the bad type of chills. Woman in 3rd story is basically stuck for life with a bad man. Divorce isnt easy when kids are involved. Its.. idk that story gave me the hibijibis
The audacity of some people
right...?!
First story make a police report! She needs to pay for the damage. Her sister should never have kids with that level of accountability, loss of temper, etc.
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I have a girlfriend, and honestly we do call each other "bitch" as a joke
I usually go "you bitch", but literally not two seconds later I'm hugging her arm and telling her I don't mean that, that if that makes her uncomfortable she can tell me, and that I'm just joking. (Her response is to laugh and say it's ok, I love her lmao-)
Really, it has to be discussed first. We did discuss words that make us uncomfortable and words that makes us comfortable. Literally I asked her if she'd be comfortable with me calling her "sweetheart". For cute nicknames, you need their consent to be called that. For degrading names, even more. It's a joke between me and her, sure, but between some other couple, it could be extremely hurtful.
Lol i remember the days i used to say to my bf i was ok with being called a Bitch as a joke. We were very good friends so it was applicable to us
Thing is, deep down i wasnt 100% ok with it. I just didnt have much of a backbone (still don't) and didnt want him to feel bad about himself for calling me that, since he genuinely didnt have bad intentions about it. I even convienced myself back then that it was ok, it wasnt a big deal like that
No lady likes being called derogatory terms even as a joke. Thats all. I'd choose being called your highness as a joke rather than being called a bitch/slut as a joke anyday haha. I'm not saying with confidence that your girlfriend is like me, but im just giving u my perspective to consider as well : )
People like this make me sick🙄
I'm sorry but if I had made dinner and you call me a bitch, 🤣 Madea told me to make you breakfast and toss it. I will toss all that food on you, put it in a bowl and call 911 saying you are incapable of feeding yourself. 😐 My friends joke around and we use bitch. It's something funny but that was beyond disrespectful. I take myself at a certain level.
Always love watching your videos Kyutie😍
Also, I always find it ironic that most people always expect others to laugh at their so called "jokes” like they were supposed to know that the guilty party was joking
All of these stories do make a lot of people(me included) feel happy that we're single.
Btw Hello Kyutie😊😊
Boyfriend was an ass, get away, find someone much better. Won’t be hard.
wow that last guy is absolutely trying to isolate and control his wife, I hope she gets away from him.
The third story... That is one toxic husband .
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The second story, he could have said “whats for dinner tonight, babe?”
people are unsurprising at times.
Agreed
The idea that you think something is a prank or a joke does not mean you don't have to live with the consequences. He chose playing a juvenile insulting tik tok trend over considering his girlfriend's feelings, he can clean it up. Did he even ask her about her day when she showed up? And he is 30 - lose this guy now.
Oh my goodness!
The sister wrecking everything and pretending it was the toddlers.
There is something sick going on there.
She's unstable, she wouldn't be safe as a mother.
The first story that pos sister definetly doesn't need a kid!! I'm sure she would be a vile vile "mother"
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1st Story: OP isn't in the wrong. The sister shouldn't have destroyed all (or most) of the baby items. The sister should never again be allowed to watch the kids (including the 3rd kid/baby).
2nd Story: The guy shouldn't have called OP a bitch. OP shouldn't have dropped the food on the floor. That is a waste of food. She should've taken it with her when she went to the friend's house or given it to a homeless person. The guy should've apologized to OP.
3rd Story: OP isn't in the wrong. The husband is really controlling and got angry when there was nothing to be angry about. OP wasn't being a neglectful parent. She had a friend watching the kids. There was nothing wrong with OP going to her sister's wedding.
In my opinion
You cant just take food to homeless people. The amount of times my aunt has had food thrown at her by homeless people is astounding. Imagine a pot of sauce getting chucked at you. Also that pot was his, it would have been stealing if she took it with her.
Second story:
God I HATEEEEE those trends 🙄 One of my nonnegotiable boundaries for relationships is TikTok couple pranks, ESPECIALLY ones that are heavily disrespectful or outright abusive. I always make it VERY CLEAR that if I get pranked like that then the relationship is immediately over no questions asked. There are no excuses
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Going through infertility treatments is horrible. Seeing someone have children when you can't is painful. It's like 2 kids together, one gets everything but does nothing, and the other does everything but gets nothing.
I agree, Ellen. Sometimes it's better being single
I think people need to get cameras immediately if they know someone from their family or friend if they suffered on infertility and obviously seeing their jealousy in plain view. because this happens alots and always the kids stuffs are destroyed and sometimes the kids will get hurt in their destruction way. and look what happened to op and her sons' stuffs.
op should've call the police because they can do fingerprints on destroyed items.
Hot take about the second story, both of them effed up. The boyfriend knew his girlfriend had a long day, hopefully knew about her past with the word, and should’ve recognized that it wasn’t appropriate for the time. However, from his POV, it was harmless. It really IS some stupid TikTok joke, so he didn’t expect for it to backfire so intensely, also he was EXPLAINING his reasoning, not EXCUSING it. Although not cleaning it up and expecting the girlfriend to do it was some nonsense. The girlfriend has every right to be mad, same reasons as before, the long day, her background with the word, and the inappropriate timing, but the snarky texts and dropping the pot was just really unnecessary. She should’ve just had a conversation with him on why she didn’t like it. She never actually said if she told her boyfriend that she disliked, she only wrote in the post that she didn’t. (Btw yes, she told him “I better not hear you use that word again” but there was no reasoning there.) Also, I HIGHLY respect that she stepped down and went to her friend’s house and muted her phone, as well as the boyfriend hanging up because he was mad. Cutting it short before any fight happens is a good idea, but also, the lack of communication between the 2 is wack. These are 2 fully grown adults and they can’t just talk about it? Like COMMUNICATE, I don’t care if it’s in person, texts, calls, neon signs, skywriting, fireworks, or carrier pigeons, just SOMETHING. And not to sound like an ass, but if a TikTok trend can cause so much damage, maybe they either need a break from each other (OP did say they were studying so the stress from that absolutely cannot be helping) or just aren’t meant for each other.
Or in short, two wrongs don’t make a right
Kinda my thinking as well
@@musicalhearts2879 thank you! Its weird to see how people are seeing this in black and white. Someone does something to insult you and you do something to insult them back? Tf? What is this? Middle school? Real “but they started it” energy
She explain that she had relationships where this word was used as a abuse, so what reasoning did she needed to do...?? ( background of the word) And what TikTok joke is harmless ..kids die because of those jokes or trends ...
what he did was very cruel and uncalled for. Just because some people in an app say it's a joke, it doesn't mean it's ok to do it. From my experience, when someone does something cruel like that to you, they know it's humilliating and mean, it's never innocent. It's also unlikely to be an isolated incident - abusive behaviour has probably happened before and will probably happen again. Honestly, it's pretty obvious that the guy is a selfish person who doesn't deserve her, not only because of the "joke", but because of his childish response and cero accountability for his action
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If someone called me a bitch, I would no longer have anything to do with that person.
Wow. The TikTok one. That's the only logical response to that issue unless you're both in on the joke. The wedding one. My dad did that same thing to my mom and she did the same thing to him. I mean, he went an extra mile to add a lot of awfulness to the situation, but no man should do this to his wife and vice versa. No one should stop anyone from an important family function like that.
Waiiiittt when people say offensive stuff peopleeee g-g-ggettt OFFENDED NO I never would’ve guessed that one. it’s not like they’re almost the same word
Last story : I think I read this post before and I'm not sure if this is the same story (sorry if it's not) but I recall there was an update where op contacted the babysitter who was fired by her husband. Op explained that her husband told the babysitter had tried to rob them so he fired her.
Turns out the babysitter did nothing wrong and had a completely different story to tell. I'm not sure but I think it was because the husband was sexually harassing her and she refused all of it
(Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong !
30 years old??! 💀 I thought he was gonna at least be pretty young like 20s still to old tho this sounds like some 15 yr old stuff
feelin kinda yucky today but ahh ur videos always make me feel better
The stuffy though 😭😭🤣
The fact that the husband told his wife that he would take off that day to watch the kids and she should stay home irritates me! So he wouldn't take off to spend time with his wife and kids any other day, but the day she wants to do something for herself he all of sudden has time for them! That's her only sisters wedding! I'd explain the situation to my family and have the kids stay with me and have them stay with the other kids while the wedding happening! And the fact that he cancelled her ticket and didn't even tell her! It's lucky she got a ticket days before the wedding cause she would've missed it otherwise!!
The last one needs to get the divorce and the custody… this seems like some kinda abuse
6:44 I'm 30 too, and I respect women to the point that I'm basically subservient to them.
Op even offered to her sisters surrogate
Some men need to learn that 'sahm' doesn't mean, 'bonded slave'. He believes he OWNS you because HE makes the money. Find a daycare, get a job, and consider a divorce. You shouldn't be BURDENED for the rest of your life with a control freak.
Don't be a lemming, people, please don't be doing the tide pod trend. Why? Because putting that stuff in your mouth is bad, mmmmkay? 😘
The girl's anger is totally justifiable but honestly, she could have simply taken the pot or food home instead. At least that's what i would have done anyways. No waste of food nor giving my bf any chance to turn the blame on me or anything lol
How did he think calling his gf a bitch would work out. Like I called my ex gf a bitch and she called me one but thats because thats how we always have been and still r
Story 1: NTA. I hope evidence was collected and if any receipts remain add that to the evidence and sue. Then cut contact.
Story 2: NTA. Yes, I do think it was a waste of food, should have taken it and eaten it yourself then returned the pot later. But after the fact I think a heartfelt talk should have been had with the Boyfriend about how it made her feel and she should have made sure to add in that she had had a rough day and was stressed so having that on top was just, shall we say, The icing on the cake.
Story 3: NTA. I recommend divorce. I can only see the abuse getting worse. I am concerned that after she is alienated from her family and friends that the next step will be physical abuse and she will feel as if she has no place to go.
Doesn't matter if it's a joke or not. Calling anyone a btch is not ok. It's not funny, it's not cool and it's certainly not attractive
Wow, the sister should be sued, banned from the house and never let near the kids again. OP was saying that children would be safe or growing up in a healthy environment. Never let people who are suffering from infertility into your house. Obviously, the parents are upset because their favorite child can't have children.
Second story, the boyfriend was being immature.
Third story, Red abuse flags!!!!! She needs to get a job! ASAP! This is why women shouldn't rush to be stay at home moms.
No matter what you don't call someone a bitch period. I can't believe it.
... no, I think she was right to say she hopes she never has kids. If she's going to be that kind of a person that destroys an innocent newborn's things out of jealousy of the mother, then how would that woman treat her own child should she have one? Some might argue, "Well she's doing this BECAUSE she doesn't have a child! If she had one...!" Stop. Stop right there. If this woman is going to be this petty and vengeful to one child, then the first time her own child does something out of line or makes a mistake that impacts her 'personally', abuse is going to set in REAL quick.
Ellen is right. Just because it's trending doesn't make it right. If you haven't called your girl a b*tch or other endearment or just a joke, and it's the first time she's hearing it, of course she's going to be offended. Not unless she's some person who doesn't take jokes seriously.
Would love for my gf to make me supper she do and I always say it’s the best no matter what she cooks been 15 years love my angel 😇 so much stay safe everyone 🤗
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THE SAUCE ONE OMG I SAW THATVTREND
Kyutie is awesome not only because her intros are short
It's that time of the month again...I'm feeling weak and nauseous...and I'm in pain...so I'm watching some videos...
It like fruit sometimes, first it sweet and slowly turn sour when you keep it in fridge for too long
yes, he shouldn't have called her a bitch, but she overreacted by dropping a pot full of food on the floor. like, *perfectly good food* that some people dont have the opportunity to eat. all she had to say was: "dont fucking call me that", and then to make a point, PACK IT UP in a container and take it home. yes he should have apologised, but she also cant get mad at him for him wanting her to clean a mess that SHE made in HIS house.
Guess we know why in the first story, the sister can't bring a pregnancy to term. Maybe she's purposefully fretting all the time and her body is stressed out all the time, thus couldn't bring a pregnancy to term. She needs to chill, and start learning how to be less selfish so that she won't be tempted to take it out on her future children for any kind of disappointment in her own life.
2nd story - guy expects any
Partner he's with is supposed to be his toy. Don't bother with relationship with people like this.
3rd story - taking care of children isn't reserved for just 1 partner. The guy is a control freak.
I'm very glad I'm single
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I'm on the mom side! So rude destroying stuff, that even for a new baby..
Comments on the second story: I find it weird that so many people misheard what happened with the sauce. She did not throw it around. She reacted in shock at the traumatic word and dropped it. You know, accidentally? It was only later, when he accused her of doing it on purpose, that she decided to 'agree' with him that it was on purpose. But if you listen/ read, she dropped it by accident. Stop blaming her for the sauce and open your ears.
It was a trend to regard women as property, once, treating them as just one rung of the ladder higher than a slave. Is the boyfriend going to follow those trends, too? Seriously. He needs to grow up and treat women with some respect. And, frankly, it wouldn't hurt him if he also ditched tiktok at the same time.