Facebook does not have accurate data on me. Remember when you put good friends as siblings/parents/kids/SO? Thanks to that, according to facebook I'm a divorced single mother with an absurd amount of siblings.
oh trust me, they do! there have been instances where friends of people on facebook get tag suggestions on group pictures, despite not having social media profiles themselves.
honestly, as a kid i wasn't thinking "ah yes, i dislike gay people and think they don't deserve rights, i shall post some homophobic jokes on my timeline" it was more of a "i see adults interact with and react to this specific thing this way, i guess that's just how you react to it, just like removing your hand from a flame" i didn't understand the meaning and implication behind all of those thoughts and actions so, now that i do, i'm happy to delete those posts
same. I had posts on my spam account of me in middle school saying slurs and making racial jokes thinking it was funny. now I look back and just cringe on it. I have since deleted those posts.
dude, in grade 8, my friends and i made fun of my friend because she “looked like a lesbian”. she wasn’t feminine, she always wore pants, etc, so we teased her saying that we were scared of her because she might like us. now at 20 years old i’m still friends with her after apologizing so many times, because it was so digusting :( i’m also bi so it’s not that i was homophobic, i just thought it was funny (which it isn’t). i just can’t imagine how people would see me if they found the things i said back then. i deleted all of my social media, so people can’t find my past even if they tried. i still regret it so much, along with many other things.
It seems Facebook is using the 'memories' feature to try and get users back on the platform. However the only person I know who actually enjoys them is my mum forwarding them to the family chat lol
Good idea, but hard to make happen if you started using social media for marketing your own business. I'm a freelancer these days, and can't just delete everything, because I have many contacts on my accounts.
I'm 21 and I am so glad I rejected social media until I graduated from high school. That's the only time I'm actually proud of my, "not like other girls/other people" phase.
Same. :) I`m 26 now, but I refused to be on any social media 2008-2012 (when I was 15-19 years old). Looking back, I`m really happy I did that. It saved me a lot of pain, drama and my precious time too. I got back to FB in 2013 or 2014, because I moved more than 2000km from home and I think that it`s nice to see sometimes how my old friends and classmates are doing; their dogs/cats, babies and stuff. :D You can`t message everyone you know or you once knew...
oh my GOD the liking pages thing... i remember having a literal competition with my friends to see how many we could like, i got to over 1000 before, i guess, we just stopped? and now they all just exist on my timeline. its awful.
I remember back in those days when a friend got onto my account (I left it open on her computer or something) and she went and liked a whole ton of pages that were not relevant to me at all, but would look hilarious when it came up saying "[my name] likes furries" or whatever on people's newsfeeds. That took ages to reverse.
The only thing those memories made do was erasing every post of one of my ex's and realized, that guy post on my feed every other day....for 2 years!!! And Facebook doesn't like you to erase things. "Erase" "would you like to erase?" "Are you SHUREEEE?"
I'm a year late to this conversation but just yesterday I got a fb memory of me and my friend posting pictures of each other CRYING to the other's wall... What was the context? No clue.
When I was 13 or 14 maybe I used to give crazy makeovers to a friend and we’d take pictures, do “photo shoots” (you know how it is) and then we’d post the pictures on facebook. One time I basically wanted to make my friend look like a mermaid and for some reason I thought that that entailed covering her face in shimmery dark purple eyeshadow and I did the same to my own face . Once again we snapped a photo and put it on facebook and no one back then paid much attention to it so life moved on and i forgot it existed. When I started university however my flat mates had this habit of going through each other’s old facebook posts and making fun of them as you do. One guy found the pictures of the “crazy makeovers” and I was horrified when I saw that the picture of my friend and I with purple all over our faces - with the bad webcam not helping us out with lighting- looked like blackface! I had to explain to everyone that I was never racist and it was literally purple eyeshadow and luckily they did believe me but for a while they used to bring it up a lot and refer to it as “the blackface photo”. Needless to say I deleted it as fast as I could.
I don't believe you needed go delete your photo tho💖 I think the original story is cute- and the rest is just a funny, embarrassing(for them, not you) story about how judgemental people can be nowadays 🙈
Pineapple i think it was right to delete the photo. especially in today's climate. it clearly wasn't a monumental part of the person's childhood if they forgot it even existed. and now that the photo can be taken out of context and be detrimental for the person's future (extreme case ofc) it was the right decision.
I have heard that some companies look you up and if they can’t find anything (particularly Facebook) oh well you’re probably dodgey no thanks.....I don’t know how true that is though
typically if someone is getting cancelled for something they did before 2014-16 I have to take a step back and realize that those were very different times. If someone said the same thing two months ago (Assuming its racist/ homophobic/ignorant) i wouldn't hesitate as much to "cancel" them. Many strides have been taken since 14-16 and i feel like thats when a lot of people started to understand what exactly could be misinterpreted as racist, homophobic, or ignorant. A lot of things politically were changing as well and that just adds to it all.
it’s also just like, that was 7+ years ago and people can change a lot in 7 years. i definitely don’t agree with all of the opinions that i had 7 years ago
what's really funny is that the other day i searched "taylor swift make up tutorial" and i saw one called "how to be taylor swift" from 6 years ago. that's when i saw the "tiffanyferg" under the title and was like HOLY SHIT!!!!
When I was 14 I was one of several admins on an LGBTQ+ support account with a few thousand followers on instagram. I once posted an angry rant in which I used an ableist insult against the people who disagreed with me. I was 14. English isn't my first language. I genuinely wasn't aware what the word actually meant, I'd just seen it be used as an insult and added i to my vocabulary without thinking about it. I was cancelled. The whole account was cancelled. There were screenshots floating around other websites encouraging people to cancel us, so it only got worse when I deleted the post and tried to pretend I hadn't said it. I am eternally grateful that I went by a nickname and didn't post any pictures of my face 'cause oh boy, I would not like to have that used against me today.
@@DeanithForeverYoung “nigger” or “nigga” they are names that are used for black people in America. “Nigga” is more friendly and something black people like myself say to other black people “nigger” is more hurtful and purposefully trying to hurt someone. Although in July’s case it was used in a hurtful way.
I hate stories like this. Nothing is accomplished by canceling someone over something so small, people are actual ego maniacs who get a high off of calling people out for perceived “problematic behavior” it’s literally just a power thing
I wish someone would set limits on me when it comes to internet use when i was a teenager. My parents did not know how to use social media so i began to understand the "do's and don'ts" of internet through trial and error. I regret a lot of things that i say and did and only now as an young adult i understand.
@The ASMR Queen I'm a young millenial, I was always taught: don't use your real name, don't give out your location or school, don't put your face online. Modern social media is a bit different, but I think those are still good rules if you can follow them. I strongly support 1. don't use your real name. 2. have a public-facing persona for IRL friends which is parent-friendly and 3. if you like fandom stuff, make a private persona which isn't connected to anything else (no phone #, no payment info, no personal email etc.) And if you DO do something dumb, don't take photos, don't post about it. Make sure your friends have common sense, too. Also, like it or not, most kids watch p*rn at some point. Don't make accounts. DO NOT ever stream or video call or record yourself. DO research about *real* sex and intimacy. Do inform yourself on the proper way to approach k*nk and f*tish content. Be careful. Finally, decide how much time you want to spend online and stick to it. Adult you will thank you.
Well, there's a lot of people that identify with this comment, so i wanna say that we all made (big and small) mistakes in life and that's OK. Everything that humans do is full of mistakes. That's the true human nature. I hope you can forgive yourself and move on knowing that you are a better person now.
You were a kid. you didn't know any better. :( and probably at that time, nobody knew how intrusive social media really is. don't be so hard on yourself.
I hate how I have to worry what I comment now so that MIT 4 years from now doesn’t look back at my comments and take some sarcasm that is slightly insensitive at face value and hit me with that rejected.
kaylahoperudd - It’s not about what I do wrong now. It’s what I do now that may be seen as wrong in the future. Memes are a good example. Some meme trends I have to avoid entirely even though I find them funny just like most everyone else at the time due to the fact that an admissions officer 4 years from now may not find them funny and may actually find them offensive. It’s like looking at dead memes. No one wants to see em but admissions officers have to.
@@kaylahoperudd-2809 I don't think that's the point. People (especially on twitter) like to take things out of context and overreact/be overly dramatic because of it. A joke with friends can literally become the end of the world lol
Keep your accounts private and don't use your real name until you're ready for a professional presence. IDK why they're not teaching basic internet safety to GenZ
I'm one of those old, boring people who was an adult when internet and social media became a real thing. This does not protect me or make me immune to oversharing, since I was a child/teen in the 80s, the decade that brought the birth of tv tabloid and confessional talk shows. I was, however, raised by parents and grandparents to never put my business out in the streets, and that naturally gravitated onto these social media streets. Kids, please listen to the old people, we really do know some smart stuff, even if it isn't digitally inclined. Limit your info as much as you can.
I’m the same way, I only got Facebook because I needed it for school. I actually plan on deleting my account in a few weeks because I don’t use it and I don’t see the point in sharing my life with strangers!
@ the people who forgot passwords/ cant delete their accounts, email support for the website and explain your situation! the website's support can most likely delete it for you!
When I was at high school, I wrote to my class Facebook page: "Does anyone have notes from the previous chemistry lesson?" I hope there will never be a time when this is considered inappropriate.
I wrote for Rookie Magazine for most of high school as a “Diarist”. I’d literally get paid to write diary-esque posts. It was so much fun and a great community but now me whining about everything that happened to me that week is online forever. I don’t regret it but I cringe so hard every time I reread them.
Wow! How did you get started? I only found Rookie like a year ago (when it was still active) and I loved it! I spent days looking through the archive and reading almost every article. I felt less alone somehow. Hugs 💕
I'm forever terrified of forgotten past mistakes resurfacing and cancelling everything I've achieved up until now. I used to remember the saying "a man of his time" referring to past beliefs and attitudes that were common place in that time of history, which now look terrible. I truly feel as though people who believe that "cancel culture" is a good thing should ask themselves this: how much of your beliefs and attitudes today are based from what surrounds you and what is the current norm, and how much of it is purely just from you as an individual. If there was ever a way to know, I'm willing to bet that the majority of our beliefs aren't even our own. My point being, I don't think our current thoughts should be brought up in 20 years time as an example of how we still think and now I'm gonna go delete everything. K bye.
I wouldn’t say I am pro-cancel culture. I don’t like that term because it’s not genuinely reflective. However, I want to say consequences have always been a thing. A lot of people keep saying by digging up past things it’s really toxic. While I don’t blame people for anything they said as a teenager, I do look at adults who said pretty crappy things and hope that they have genuine apologies. I think at the age of 20 you should understand what is right and wrong. What I think is missing in a lot of this conversation is a genuine apology to those you may have hurt. For example the SNL debacle would have been a different thing had he said I’m truly sorry and pointed out those comments were racist. All of these situations aren’t created equal and I definitely note that whenever it comes to information coming out about someone. I’ve said some pretty awful things but I know who I am as a person so whenever someone brings something up or I find something toxic I accept responsibility for being ignorant and genuinely apologize.
@@aiba6540 but it also depends on the era you said those things in. In the early 2000s it was extremely commonplace to use slurs that were homophobic, racist, ableist, etc. Only the people who didn’t live through that era could possibly think 20-something year olds of the time should be judged by todays standards for using the n-word, the f-slur, etc.
Some months ago I deleted my old facebook account I had since 2011. Now that I graduated from university and I changed a lot about my political and social views (I got out of my middle class bubble, thank godness), I started to think it won't do me any favors to leave my old racist, misogynistic and xenofobic comments for anyone to see on the internet. It also made me very embarassed how I could think such horrible things. Now I have a new account with everthing private with a few close friends. I used to have a lot of family members and one time, one of my relatives misinterpreted one of my posts and gurl, it caused me so much headache.
I remember being very, VERY homophobic in my young years bc my mom always taught me that she wouldn't like me to be gay, so I thought that she was trying to say ''Gays are bad'' so I grew with that mindset for a long time.
People in the past wrote diaries, and those can be found after they were dead. I think queen Victoria asked for her letters and diaries to be burned, or her daughter did it because she did't like what was there.
i think my twitter has caused me to turned down for a job before, but other than that i dont think cancel culture is as real as we make it seem? the "canceling" only lasts as long as it takes the general public to find someone else to talk about. people usually always make a full recovery. eta: i watched the rest of the video and yes cancel culture does exist for non-celebs and can ruin their lives, its unfortunate.
I have nothing under my real name on social media, and I've heard that even *that* looks bad to schools or job recruiters because they are suspicions of you deleting things... even if those things weren't ever there. It seems like either way you can't win.
Mandy People criticizing your bad behavior isn’t cancel culture, is it? If you do something bad in public should people pretend they didn’t see what you did? Should people not criticize the bad behavior of others? Kinda seems like if criticism over the wrong thing you did “causes” your poor mental health, that’s on you.
I would strongly recommend Ron Johnson's book "so you've been publicly shamed" where investigates cancel culture. It's few years old, but that makes it even more interesting. I hadn't remembered that this has been a problem for years.
Use memories feature on Facebook to daily delete posts from this day over 10 years. 365 days to delete excess at least. Better than the alternative of just leavingit
Honestly, all I have to think about is how we all used to say “that’s so gay” or some kind of variety to say something was stupid or bad. Looking back now I can’t believe I would ever say that.
Isn't it interesting to think that gay meant funny, happy, cheerful? something positive, and then the opposite, because we'd call people interested in the same sex as being funny, happy, cheerful, but also as something bad, and then we only used the word to mean bad stuff... ?
I love this video, Tiffany! I am so happy you're discussing Zwarte Piet. An outsider's perspective who is not blinded by tradition can really show how racist and hurtful this is! I am a Dutch social scientist and I am very interested in this discussion. For many, this pro-Zwarte Piet stance is combined with nationalist feelings. For them it is the prime example of outsiders "eradicating the Dutch/European culture," and that seems to be the main motivation behind the unwillingness to change. Thankfully, as of this year, the national parades of Sinterklaas will not include blackface. This is a huge step. This perspective that was seen as "extremist" are now more mainstream, which is awesome! As for my own shocking social media post when I was many years younger... I found a post where I complained about my train being delayed because someone who commited suicide on the train track. This is unfortunately not very uncommon where I live. I called this action "selfish," which is absolutely horrifying to me. Since then I have learnt a lot about mental health and now I know how ignorant and hurtful it is to say something like that. And that it perhaps, in their mind, is even the most selfless thing they can do... I still think about this post regularly and I just hope so much that no one who was struggling with their mental health has seen this and was hurt by it.
Tiffany: "Remember to delete your old posts!!" Me: * has a breakdown every few years in which I delete all my social media but then I regret it and make a new one* "Done."
i only had an instagram fanpage. i’m so thankful my mom didn’t allow me to have social media until i was a bit older. and even though i made my instagram at 13, i didn’t post many personal things.
I had the ..I guess privilege? Of not being able to be super active on social media until I was about 16 or 17. And even then I was super self conscious about what I posted online. So I never had a time in my life when I posted often. So a lot of my old posts still hold up. They’re a little bit cringey, but not incriminating. There is an exception with tumblr and maybe twitter, as I used to be addicted to tumblr when I was 15 and 16. I personally like keeping my old posts around because they sho who I used to be and how I’ve changed. I love when I meet people who have long digital histories.
I would get so mad at my parents when I was younger because I would make accounts behind their backs and every time they found out they made me delete them. They completely disabled the app store and internet on my phone over it and I wasn’t allowed to actually have social media until high school, even so I still had to ask their permission to make new accounts until I was 18. So I didn’t have Twitter until the week I turned 18. I’m turning 20 next week and now I’m SO thankful I didn’t have Twitter until I was an adult. I have both the experience of someone who has been active on the internet from a young age (started at 11), but also someone who couldn’t really do whatever I wanted on the internet until I was older. I found my ways around them but honestly... I wish I had never gotten into it so young. I feel like it’s so bad for our mental health, and personally it exposed me to a lot of things super young (I ran a pro-ana depression Instagram account at like 12!!). I’m so thankful they tried to protect me from the internet but so upset that I would be sneaky and do it anyways. I don’t think social media is all bad, I think it’s really powerful. But when used incorrectly and without practicing restraint every time you post or look at something, it can be really bad.
When I was 9 or 10, I dressed up in a "native american" generic costume my mom made. My mom is generally liberal but we just didn't know better at the time. Thank god that was before social media really took off and so the only evidence is physical pictures buried somewhere in my parents' basement.
I think deleting your social media is a very good idea. It’s a good detox that calms you down and helps you be a better person. I can’t count how many times i would wake up in the middle of the night because I remembered that old cringy post, conversation or photo on Facebook that I had 🤦♀️ In the recent years I also realized that all the information that I gave out on the internet is haunting me, I often feel so embarrassed, it’s just harder nowadays to not be judged for your past mistakes in the social media era...
Yes!! When people take random super unflattering pictures at an event or party or something where you are like mid-conversation with somebody, mouth open, eyes halfway blinking, and then they post it on facebook! Ugh whyyyyyy
I think it’s pretty safe to say that most employers don’t look for your tumblr simply because of how fricken weird it is. They don’t understand the humor or even the mechanics. They might not even know it exists. Also, most tumblr users reblog more than they make original posts, and small-time users barely get any notes on original posts anyways. If an employer were to look on your tumblr, they’d get lost in content posted by other people, and they’d only gain an understanding of your interests or sense of humor. Real names are rarely attached to tumblr accounts at least in my experience and others I’ve seen. I would have no way of knowing if my friend had a tumblr because I can’t search their name and I’d have to guess what kind of whacky url they’d use, which can change often. As long as your name isn’t attached to your tumblr, your years worth of cringey superwholock gifs and One Direction fan fictions shouldn’t keep you from a job. Me n my 19.6k posts containing in-depth analyses of cartoons and oddly formatted humor will all stay right up online in case something other than a bot wants to follow me.
i don’t use my real name on tumblr and i’ve never posted my face on it. i like the fact that nobody irl would find it unless i told them what my username was
One thing I’ll never forget is at a sports camp they held up a phone and went “this can ruin your life” and talked about how you should NEVER post picture of you partying underage and don’t post them on weekdays because employers (and in that case recruiters) can and will look at them to see what kind of person you are
my dad told me that if i was ever at a party never post any photo that has alcohol in it anywhere or even like a cup or can that’s not clearly soda or never post any photos smoking or that have people smoking because your employers might see
Cambridge Analytica also swayed Argentina's election in favor of our current administration (Mauricio Macri's) and since then we are going through one of the worst socio-economical crisis of the history of the country, the unemployment rate sky rocketed, we've taken debt in an unprecedented rate and poverty increased in every measurable way.
I kind of agree, but consider that Cristina Kirshner literally robbed and got away with it bc of very ignorant people. There's no good or bad here. There's no single candidate that I like. I would move away. I would consider this the laziest place in the world I had ever seen.
@@davidkonevky7372 are you serious? Of the 13 open cases against her 3 are already disproven. Alberto Fernández has 0 accusations and Macri has 150 cases of corruption. This narrative that kirchnerism was particularly corrupted was EXACTLY one of the things Cambridge Analyitica made people buy with fake news.
The thing is , the new generation of parents or parents that have had older children are now truly understanding the consequences of how much social media can affect their kids, i remember my older brother spending WAY too much time on Facebook growing up, and now my parents are limiting mine, it is tough seeing other kids with there socials but atleast I know i get a chance to live a childhood without toxic social media Also im getting insta next year and Im really excited ( im 13 )
Little Meow Meow good for you, seriously. It’s so hard to not give into the fomo since everyone’s on social media, most people ik spend their time doing n o t h i n g except scrolling & it sucks
I am pretty sure it isn't Boomers that are the sensitive ones, they would probably love to see "PC culture" die more than anyone. I'd love to hear her tackle the subject though.
It's really interesting that you posted this today. Earlier at work I was speaking to my coworkers about something similar, with how invasive and addicting it is. My boss and I spoke about how we don't have social media (him at all, myself connecting my name to my identity online) . It's a scary thing, seeing how invasive all of it is and how it connects the past us to the current and then future us.
I've had my Facebook account since I was 13. I definitely have old posts that I'm ashamed of. Some of them are harmless but embarrassing...for some reason, I felt the need to spell words as incorrectly as I could to make it look "kewl" 🙄 other posts are much heavier, such as me using the "r" word, something I haven't done in years. I've grown, I've listened, and I've learned.
But, other than that, up until a year ago, my parents have always monitored my online presence and they always scolded me and made me delete any harsh opinions immediately so there’s nothing to find on me, or at least I don’t think there is. Does that count as a pro to having helicopter parents? Idk
about the whole zwarte piet issue... as a dutch citizen myself, i never really saw a problem with it when i was young bc i was unaware that this was racist in the first place, which actually adds to the problem: little children are simply taught that they are part of our holiday tradition, and there's no one to tell them that this is very problematic. in the last couple of years, there has been more and more attention on this issue and i personally just can't understand why people make such a big deal out of changing the zwarte piet slightly so that it isn't racist anymore. i think the problem is just that people are so ignorant and can be so unempathetic sometimes... there have been experiments done with children to see if they care if zwarte piet's appearance changes and it's proven that they really do not care. this discussion really pisses me off and every year people get heated up about this; the same arguments are repeated over and over again and i'm getting really tired of this. sorry for this rant but i had to get it out (it'll be sinterklaas in december, so two months left before the discussion gets heated up again! yay!)
Tiffany! You're so on point, as usual. 7 years ago when I started undergrad I came across a glitch artist who had created an executable file to delete your Facebook posts, likes, photos etc. I didn't want to risk losing the connections I was making then so I put it off... and off... and a few years later even, that file was unusable with all the changes that had happened with Facebook. I regret not purging sooner! I like you, I go through my teen years of FB every once in a while to clean up. But boy, I will be the first to use any profile erasing tool for Facebook that comes out. Hopefully soon.
I feel you on this, but I lost all my Bebo and MySpace profiles from my teens and early twenties. So many memories that are lost. I’m in my thirties now and I would love to have a look through those old photos and posts. I mean they would be criiiiiiiinge AF, but they are my (hazy, mostly drunk) ramblings and pics and they are gone. The twitter auto delete chat I can get behind, but I think I’m gonna hold on to FB, the pit of DataMining it may be, but I know when I’m in my 50’s I’ll enjoy looking back on my timeline...and Zuckerberg will no doubt be our overload by then.
I would die if anyone found my bebo, my friends were very mean to me back then and posted alot of awful things about me from my account. I would love to just eradicate it from being online
Ngaire Pakai I’m so sorry that happened. People can be the worst. If this helps at all, the site got sold off and all the profiles got deleted. They gave people 6 months to get their pics, but the email address they had for me was my high school one that I haven’t signed into in over a decade so....I missed the deadline for that by, 3 years 🤷🏼♀️ anyway - bebo as we knew it doesn’t exist anymore ❤️
I actually paused this video to delete my Facebook account. I didn't even know you could do that. I thought Facebook would hold its users hostage and not let them delete the profiles, and only deactivate them, which means nothing really, on Facebook.
They make it really hard to delete it. I had to google how when I did it and they told me it would take 14 days until it would actually be deleted and if I logged in again during the 14 days, they would stop the deletion process. They want you to have doubts about it so badly. Same with Snapchat. Had to wait 14 days, got a reminder email about it right before the time was up. And then sometimes they'll write stuff like "Sad to see you go" or "We'll miss you" in their automated emails when you want to delete an account. I hate that. It's verging on guilt-tripping.
laverna One time I wrote out the entire lyrics for American Pie from memory (if you don't know it, its like an 8 minute song) and posted it on my Facebook. Why? I have no idea
Som Keshav it's not problematic, I just kinda remember doing that and laugh sometimes bc I'm like ??what did that achieve?? lol. My old social media posts aren't really cancel culture worthy, they're just pointless
So when I was 19 in college I tried to have a "photoshoot" and take cringey photos of myself in Vintage Glamour shots. The outfit looked really cheap. Just saw someone liked my post from 12 years ago and I quickly deleted the photo
what you bring up is so interesting! i always just think of how it's nice to look back on things and be nostalgic, but it's so scary to think about everything that I've posted that, even years from now, will still be floating around. i don't regard myself as a hoarder of any sort, and in real life, i'm always going through things i used to think would be important to me in the future, but i feel like when we turn to social media our mindsets change so much. thanks for making this amazing vid and getting me thinking!
Thank you for your take on cancelling! I've long wondered how that will affect Gen Z going forward because old posts can contain literally a childish mindset/understanding of the world whereas "cancelling" for old posts (not related to present behaviour) is just reactionary. It's a fine line to walk but I very much enjoyed hearing your nuanced take on it.
He just deactivated it. But I think they’ve made deleting it easier recently. It used to be, the delete link was hidden DEEP in some help article that no one could ever find unless they dedicated at least an hour to looking for it. And then the deactivate button would just be front and center pretending to be someone else.
when i got rid of mine i had to deactivate it, then send an email to FB notifying that i wanted it deleted, and then they left like a 60-day grace period in case you change your mind, and then after that it’s scheduled for deletion. that’s how it worked a few years ago anyway, not sure how it goes now because i avoid that dumpster fire of a website as much as possible
GIRL. I just found your channel and now I'm *BINGING*. I'm majoring in social science at uni and your videos are mad interesting. Love the social topics!
it is so refreshing to watch your videos, i think you bring up interesting topics and have a very good approach to them as well ! Regarding the "right to be forgotten" mentioned in the last minutes of your video, it reminded me of a friend of mine; last year, we were talking about social media in general and how we were thinking of trying to get away from them or deleting profiles altogether, and she told me she was waiting for a certain date and a certain law to be passed in Europe (we're europeans), before finally deleting her facebook account, and thus, have all of her data be deleted entirely... I am only now realizing that she was probably talking about that right to be forgotten law, because she clearly said that after the law, facebook will have to change their policies regarding data when you "delete your account". So yeah.... Even if you delete your social media accounts in order to get rid of all these data that you shared not only with the internet, but with companies that can use them, it isn't enough, your data will still be stored and can still be sold and used. So I guess the opening discussion about the right to be forgotten at the end of the video is interesting, and I don't know much about it actually as I'm just realising now what she was referring to, but I think, the law was mostly about the fact that companies, such as facebook and twitter, will still store and use all data that you shared prior to deleting your account. I might be wrong because i'm just making assumptions out of what she explained to me, but it's actually less about asking to have 'something specific' removed from a "website" (like an embarrassing video or as mentioned, a record of bancruptcy), it's more about protecting data in general... People, just like I did, assume that their data are gone once they delete an account, which is not the case at all, hence, the law made it mandatory (sadly, only in Europe? I don't even know how that works) for data to be automatically deleted or removed from let's say, facebook or google, when you delete your account. Not only because that's what people usually believe when they do so, but it's also a matter of protecting individuals' personal data from being marketed even after disengaging with said social media or websites. If you're ashamed of the hundreds of "pages" you liked on facebook, and you "unliked" them so that nobody can see it anymore, I'm only guessing here, but there's a high probability that these information are still recorded and stored and in someway linked to you, even only in a demographic manner, to be used for either marketing, or macro data analysis, data mining, anyway, the creepy stuff discussed in the documentary. So I know this is quite "abstract", but I just wanted to say, it is important to protect the informations we put on the internet, and there are ways to do so legally, it is just a matter of staying vigilent and pushing for such laws as "the right to be forgotten"... ANYWAY! I'm fairly new to your channel, have been following for a few months only, but i think you do such an amazing job on your videos and just wanna say, i'm a big fan honestly and I really hope you'll keep on tackling such interesting topics while still making it fun and light, it's really inspiring! PS: sorry for the english, not my first langage.
That reminds me... I’ve had my Facebook account for 11 years, I was 10 years old in 2008 and now I’m 21, meaning I’VE SPENT HALF MY LIFE ON FACEBOOK. How crazy does that sound??
On the topic of changing opinions, within the last 3 weeks I have seen at least 2 of my Facebook memories of posts that I shared/copy and pasted that were against abortion.....I had an unwanted pregnancy terminated on September 17th & I haven’t thought that way for years now.....things definitely change
Although currently I am an awkward teen, when I was a little kid I used to make innocent YT videos. There's no "cancel" material in any of them (it's just me playing with dolls) but it certainly makes me uncomfortable knowing that there's videos of me as a young child for anyone to see.
my sisters used to be obsessed with being youtubers and there are so many videos lost to time of "vlogs" of our absolutely filthy house with my mom passed out in a chair 😭😭😭 luckily now they just make gacha videos lmao
"Don't call people out - instead call people in". This is the best one-liner on 'cancel culture' that I've ever heard. It came from a high-school age person that's already more intelligent than I'll ever be. We shouldn't aim to wreck somebody's potential or reputation based on things they've said (online or out loud). Rather, we can build them up by showing them what's problematic about their actions--IN A WAY that demonstrates that we know they can and should do better. And, we should be receptive to when other people do that for us.
I know some bad takes I expressed on paper in high school, and some ways I hurt people close to me before I knew better, but thankfully that was largely offline. My social medias are not enormous, but could probably use a clear-out of irrelevant things and embarrassing takes i won’t remember the context for.
My sister said "Twitter is where you go to destroy your career." Which makes sense. If you said something when you were younger (ex: 12-18) and then someone decided to dig way too back to "cancel" you.
i am so SO happy that my mom never posts photos of me and my siblings on facebook and she only has facebook for messenger. i HATE pictures of myself and i’m glad that my mom respects our boundaries and doesn’t post her children online
but even if you delete things they can somehow still be found. a lot of old tweets that ppl bring up to cancel someone were deleted, so theres still a way for people to get them
a digital detox is a great idea. i quit fb back in 2014 (and tumblr not long after) but ive been meaning to go back and actually delete posts, unfriend people, etc. youre right sometimes it's just too much content to sift through and it's easier to delete things completely. when my myspace profile was deleted a few years back i was sad at the time but now im grateful bc it was soo embarrassing and cringey. tom was looking out for me
I've always tried to live by the rule of acting the same online as I would IRL (i.e. being polite, not being a bully), but sometimes I wonder if that's enough. I feel like I'm living on borrowed time until someone decides to go scorched earth on me over a minor disagreement. That may be my social anxiety talking though. I do wish I had downloaded or archived my old Livejournal before deleting it because it was an absolute masterpiece of mid '00s emo cringe.
I've been deleting things since I was fourteen from my beginnings in social media when I was eleven-I've known how cringey I can be for a long time. My friends STILL find embarrassing statuses about Farmville on my Facebook! I can't win
Thank you for this video. I am very careful about what I comment and post on social media now and only use 3-4 on a weekly basis, but it made me remember that I don’t like to delete anything, so I have old accounts on medias I just used once in 2015 like tumblr. So now I’m on a mission to delete all I don’t use and screenshot moments I want to keep. Thanks to this video I remembered my insta account from 2014 when I was suicidal (let’s just say I don’t need that account anymore). And even if I barely use my real name or share pictures of myself it just creeps me out that so many things that I have created are out there and I can’t stand for those things I’ve said or posted because I have grown so much since then.
My favorite thing is how involved you are with your viewers. All of the videos I've watched, you ask for our feedback and genuinely want to hear it. It's nice
I have enjoyed Facebook's memories feature where it shows what you posted on that day in all the past years you've had a profile for precisely that reason: I have deleted so many old posts that were brought back to my attention. Just so much useless nonsense that I thought was very important to share 10+ years ago.
On one hand I'm glad that my TH-cam comments are so scattered across the internet that they'd be impossible for any employer or college to find, but on the other hand it's frustrating because I can't find and delete them either
Facebook does not have accurate data on me. Remember when you put good friends as siblings/parents/kids/SO? Thanks to that, according to facebook I'm a divorced single mother with an absurd amount of siblings.
I haven't used my Facebook in 8 years. Facebook thinks I'm an 84 y/o married to an anime character.
@@Hipoptrofobia I think all of my friends are like cousins or aunts. And my friend was engaged to Vod Ka at one point haha
Definitely "married" my high school boyfriend and changed my last name on FB once XD
*Single mother of children 6 months younger than you
oh trust me, they do! there have been instances where friends of people on facebook get tag suggestions on group pictures, despite not having social media profiles themselves.
honestly, as a kid i wasn't thinking "ah yes, i dislike gay people and think they don't deserve rights, i shall post some homophobic jokes on my timeline" it was more of a "i see adults interact with and react to this specific thing this way, i guess that's just how you react to it, just like removing your hand from a flame"
i didn't understand the meaning and implication behind all of those thoughts and actions so, now that i do, i'm happy to delete those posts
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Well said!
same. I had posts on my spam account of me in middle school saying slurs and making racial jokes thinking it was funny. now I look back and just cringe on it. I have since deleted those posts.
Ikrrrr
dude, in grade 8, my friends and i made fun of my friend because she “looked like a lesbian”. she wasn’t feminine, she always wore pants, etc, so we teased her saying that we were scared of her because she might like us. now at 20 years old i’m still friends with her after apologizing so many times, because it was so digusting :( i’m also bi so it’s not that i was homophobic, i just thought it was funny (which it isn’t). i just can’t imagine how people would see me if they found the things i said back then. i deleted all of my social media, so people can’t find my past even if they tried. i still regret it so much, along with many other things.
“The right to be forgotten.” What a horrible sounding thing that I never realized I 100% need.
Soft Potato you could not have said it better
a great idea, but the guy who came up with it and his reason for it will, ironically, probably be remembered for that thing for longer this way.
Right to be forgiven, perhaps?
What would happen if employer decides not to hire you, citing that you might have deleted old stuff and you might be hiding something?
It seems Facebook is using the 'memories' feature to try and get users back on the platform. However the only person I know who actually enjoys them is my mum forwarding them to the family chat lol
not to be a fangirl but i love you
hi mike
Omg im in love with your channel🙊❤
Mike's Mic truee, and I love your content mate
why are you here? you should be dating pigeons, mate
#EraseYourSocial2020 let’s start fresh in society everyone!
Good idea, but hard to make happen if you started using social media for marketing your own business. I'm a freelancer these days, and can't just delete everything, because I have many contacts on my accounts.
or delete some social media which you don't use/don't think that they benefit you
no
No! It wasn't a phase dad. It was the real me all along.
I have to use Facebook to stay updated on important info for my college class lol
I'm 21 and I am so glad I rejected social media until I graduated from high school. That's the only time I'm actually proud of my, "not like other girls/other people" phase.
Im currently doing that! No social media till i get out of high school cause i dont want to cringe in the future haha
@Aliyah J. That's exactly what I did lol
samu baby no way you’re missing out
Same. :) I`m 26 now, but I refused to be on any social media 2008-2012 (when I was 15-19 years old). Looking back, I`m really happy I did that. It saved me a lot of pain, drama and my precious time too.
I got back to FB in 2013 or 2014, because I moved more than 2000km from home and I think that it`s nice to see sometimes how my old friends and classmates are doing; their dogs/cats, babies and stuff. :D You can`t message everyone you know or you once knew...
Girl me too I didn't make any social media until I was 18 and still don't even use it very much so I pretty much have 0 online baggage.
oh my GOD the liking pages thing... i remember having a literal competition with my friends to see how many we could like, i got to over 1000 before, i guess, we just stopped? and now they all just exist on my timeline. its awful.
Sarah S lmao I did the same thing with my best friend back in the day too lol
I'm glad when old pages post. It reminds me to UNLIKE them. They've all turned into ads.
@@julek2589 damn i remember that so vividly as well
Saaame, it's the worst!!
I remember back in those days when a friend got onto my account (I left it open on her computer or something) and she went and liked a whole ton of pages that were not relevant to me at all, but would look hilarious when it came up saying "[my name] likes furries" or whatever on people's newsfeeds. That took ages to reverse.
Facebook showing a pic of me and my manipulative ex: "We thought you might like to see this photo from 7 years ago!"
Me: "In fact I would not."
Facebook status memories trigger me so much oh lord the cringe
The only thing those memories made do was erasing every post of one of my ex's and realized, that guy post on my feed every other day....for 2 years!!! And Facebook doesn't like you to erase things. "Erase" "would you like to erase?" "Are you SHUREEEE?"
I'm a year late to this conversation but just yesterday I got a fb memory of me and my friend posting pictures of each other CRYING to the other's wall... What was the context? No clue.
When I was 13 or 14 maybe I used to give crazy makeovers to a friend and we’d take pictures, do “photo shoots” (you know how it is) and then we’d post the pictures on facebook. One time I basically wanted to make my friend look like a mermaid and for some reason I thought that that entailed covering her face in shimmery dark purple eyeshadow and I did the same to my own face . Once again we snapped a photo and put it on facebook and no one back then paid much attention to it so life moved on and i forgot it existed. When I started university however my flat mates had this habit of going through each other’s old facebook posts and making fun of them as you do. One guy found the pictures of the “crazy makeovers” and I was horrified when I saw that the picture of my friend and I with purple all over our faces - with the bad webcam not helping us out with lighting- looked like blackface! I had to explain to everyone that I was never racist and it was literally purple eyeshadow and luckily they did believe me but for a while they used to bring it up a lot and refer to it as “the blackface photo”. Needless to say I deleted it as fast as I could.
I'm sorry but LMFAO THATS FUNNY. but terrible hahahahhaa
@@user-wp5cf4uf3b They used plenty of periods.
I don't believe you needed go delete your photo tho💖
I think the original story is cute- and the rest is just a funny, embarrassing(for them, not you) story about how judgemental people can be nowadays 🙈
Pineapple i think it was right to delete the photo. especially in today's climate. it clearly wasn't a monumental part of the person's childhood if they forgot it even existed. and now that the photo can be taken out of context and be detrimental for the person's future (extreme case ofc) it was the right decision.
S no 😂
the only true solution: never, ever, under any circumstances, ever post anything at all ever under your own real name
うぉ〜でぃん still can be traced back by anyone who REALLY wants to (Eg. Stalkers, journalists, enemies, Nev from Catfish 😅)
I always roast everyone under an alt account.
I have heard that some companies look you up and if they can’t find anything (particularly Facebook) oh well you’re probably dodgey no thanks.....I don’t know how true that is though
@@rebeccah8637 use a vpn
Rebecca H lmaooo Nev will definitely find you 😂
"Degrassi tonight?!?! Pumped!" Lmao girl after my own heart
I remember watching that show when I was young, on Saturday mornings!
same honestly
You look so classy here like damn??? At least give me a warning Tiffany
Yeah!! Tiffany is wearing the new jewelry from Ashley (BestDressed on TH-cam :)
@@artsytype it looks really nice!
Ikr the colours match so well and I love the necklace length 😍
Right!
Why does she remind me of Regina George
typically if someone is getting cancelled for something they did before 2014-16 I have to take a step back and realize that those were very different times. If someone said the same thing two months ago (Assuming its racist/ homophobic/ignorant) i wouldn't hesitate as much to "cancel" them. Many strides have been taken since 14-16 and i feel like thats when a lot of people started to understand what exactly could be misinterpreted as racist, homophobic, or ignorant. A lot of things politically were changing as well and that just adds to it all.
it’s also just like, that was 7+ years ago and people can change a lot in 7 years. i definitely don’t agree with all of the opinions that i had 7 years ago
UR WEARING BESTDRESSEDS EARRINGS!
can my two favs pls collab
Katie Baek yes ashley and tiffany need to collab they are both intellectuals and need to share their thoughts
kristen leo should join then too ☺
And her necklace!!
Oh wow, i just noticed
that was the first thing i noticed (and her necklace)! i was literally about to comment it
I literally have woken up in the middle of the night horrified because I remembered something I posted on social media in 2011
are you me?
what's really funny is that the other day i searched "taylor swift make up tutorial" and i saw one called "how to be taylor swift" from 6 years ago. that's when i saw the "tiffanyferg" under the title and was like HOLY SHIT!!!!
Is that Ashley’s jewelry line I see!!!!! So cute!
I read that as jawline
I was about to comment this!!!
yess i noticed that too! :)
Warning: MySpace is not “gone”.
The Valonqar oh dear god
If you’re not a band it is
Sleepy Sartorialist I just looked right at my sisters profile to confirm it’s still there. It is.
*flashback to gangster spongebob*
It's #twentyninescene bitches. Lighten up.
When I was 14 I was one of several admins on an LGBTQ+ support account with a few thousand followers on instagram. I once posted an angry rant in which I used an ableist insult against the people who disagreed with me.
I was 14. English isn't my first language. I genuinely wasn't aware what the word actually meant, I'd just seen it be used as an insult and added i to my vocabulary without thinking about it.
I was cancelled. The whole account was cancelled. There were screenshots floating around other websites encouraging people to cancel us, so it only got worse when I deleted the post and tried to pretend I hadn't said it.
I am eternally grateful that I went by a nickname and didn't post any pictures of my face 'cause oh boy, I would not like to have that used against me today.
@@ju-lq9jp was it with an ‘er’ or ‘a’
@@DeanithForeverYoung “nigger” or “nigga” they are names that are used for black people in America. “Nigga” is more friendly and something black people like myself say to other black people “nigger” is more hurtful and purposefully trying to hurt someone. Although in July’s case it was used in a hurtful way.
@@ju-lq9jp you really don’t have to care about 1 word you said at 14 years old smh
I hate stories like this. Nothing is accomplished by canceling someone over something so small, people are actual ego maniacs who get a high off of calling people out for perceived “problematic behavior” it’s literally just a power thing
I wish someone would set limits on me when it comes to internet use when i was a teenager. My parents did not know how to use social media so i began to understand the "do's and don'ts" of internet through trial and error. I regret a lot of things that i say and did and only now as an young adult i understand.
Same here
@The ASMR Queen I'm a young millenial, I was always taught: don't use your real name, don't give out your location or school, don't put your face online.
Modern social media is a bit different, but I think those are still good rules if you can follow them. I strongly support 1. don't use your real name. 2. have a public-facing persona for IRL friends which is parent-friendly and 3. if you like fandom stuff, make a private persona which isn't connected to anything else (no phone #, no payment info, no personal email etc.) And if you DO do something dumb, don't take photos, don't post about it. Make sure your friends have common sense, too.
Also, like it or not, most kids watch p*rn at some point. Don't make accounts. DO NOT ever stream or video call or record yourself. DO research about *real* sex and intimacy. Do inform yourself on the proper way to approach k*nk and f*tish content. Be careful.
Finally, decide how much time you want to spend online and stick to it. Adult you will thank you.
we were guinea pigs. you are forgiven ♡.
Well, there's a lot of people that identify with this comment, so i wanna say that we all made (big and small) mistakes in life and that's OK. Everything that humans do is full of mistakes. That's the true human nature. I hope you can forgive yourself and move on knowing that you are a better person now.
You were a kid. you didn't know any better. :( and probably at that time, nobody knew how intrusive social media really is. don't be so hard on yourself.
Tiff why did you like “I was born in the 80’s in Poland?” 😂😂😂
Love ya Tiff- fan born in the 90’s in Poland literally
I was coming to the comments to see if anybody else wondered the same thing 😂😂
I hate how I have to worry what I comment now so that MIT 4 years from now doesn’t look back at my comments and take some sarcasm that is slightly insensitive at face value and hit me with that rejected.
Nicholas Nelson I also hate this. I always think about what colleges will think when ever I post and I feel not true to my feelings
If you don’t do anything wrong you won’t have anything to worry about
kaylahoperudd -
It’s not about what I do wrong now. It’s what I do now that may be seen as wrong in the future. Memes are a good example. Some meme trends I have to avoid entirely even though I find them funny just like most everyone else at the time due to the fact that an admissions officer 4 years from now may not find them funny and may actually find them offensive. It’s like looking at dead memes. No one wants to see em but admissions officers have to.
@@kaylahoperudd-2809 I don't think that's the point. People (especially on twitter) like to take things out of context and overreact/be overly dramatic because of it. A joke with friends can literally become the end of the world lol
Keep your accounts private and don't use your real name until you're ready for a professional presence. IDK why they're not teaching basic internet safety to GenZ
I'm one of those old, boring people who was an adult when internet and social media became a real thing. This does not protect me or make me immune to oversharing, since I was a child/teen in the 80s, the decade that brought the birth of tv tabloid and confessional talk shows. I was, however, raised by parents and grandparents to never put my business out in the streets, and that naturally gravitated onto these social media streets. Kids, please listen to the old people, we really do know some smart stuff, even if it isn't digitally inclined. Limit your info as much as you can.
I’m the same way, I only got Facebook because I needed it for school. I actually plan on deleting my account in a few weeks because I don’t use it and I don’t see the point in sharing my life with strangers!
@ the people who forgot passwords/ cant delete their accounts, email support for the website and explain your situation! the website's support can most likely delete it for you!
They can, but will they? I have asked a few forums etc. but have mixed results.
@@elainelouve Well, it's worth a try anyhow.
@@raveng8217 you are right about that.:) It just hasn't always worked out, but I'm glad I tried.
or if you still use the same email you can just put forget password and they will give it to you.
When I was at high school, I wrote to my class Facebook page: "Does anyone have notes from the previous chemistry lesson?" I hope there will never be a time when this is considered inappropriate.
I wrote for Rookie Magazine for most of high school as a “Diarist”. I’d literally get paid to write diary-esque posts. It was so much fun and a great community but now me whining about everything that happened to me that week is online forever. I don’t regret it but I cringe so hard every time I reread them.
Keianna Johnson I loved Rookie Mag so much
Rookie 😍lovedddddd
I used to love reading rookie! Def got me through some stuff. But yeah, reading your own whiny past can be so agsbajavsb
That sounds so cool!!! I've never heard of that! I'd love to do that :D
Wow! How did you get started?
I only found Rookie like a year ago (when it was still active) and I loved it! I spent days looking through the archive and reading almost every article. I felt less alone somehow.
Hugs 💕
I'm forever terrified of forgotten past mistakes resurfacing and cancelling everything I've achieved up until now. I used to remember the saying "a man of his time" referring to past beliefs and attitudes that were common place in that time of history, which now look terrible.
I truly feel as though people who believe that "cancel culture" is a good thing should ask themselves this: how much of your beliefs and attitudes today are based from what surrounds you and what is the current norm, and how much of it is purely just from you as an individual. If there was ever a way to know, I'm willing to bet that the majority of our beliefs aren't even our own.
My point being, I don't think our current thoughts should be brought up in 20 years time as an example of how we still think and now I'm gonna go delete everything. K bye.
Totally agree
I wouldn’t say I am pro-cancel culture. I don’t like that term because it’s not genuinely reflective. However, I want to say consequences have always been a thing. A lot of people keep saying by digging up past things it’s really toxic. While I don’t blame people for anything they said as a teenager, I do look at adults who said pretty crappy things and hope that they have genuine apologies.
I think at the age of 20 you should understand what is right and wrong. What I think is missing in a lot of this conversation is a genuine apology to those you may have hurt. For example the SNL debacle would have been a different thing had he said I’m truly sorry and pointed out those comments were racist.
All of these situations aren’t created equal and I definitely note that whenever it comes to information coming out about someone.
I’ve said some pretty awful things but I know who I am as a person so whenever someone brings something up or I find something toxic I accept responsibility for being ignorant and genuinely apologize.
@@aiba6540 but it also depends on the era you said those things in. In the early 2000s it was extremely commonplace to use slurs that were homophobic, racist, ableist, etc.
Only the people who didn’t live through that era could possibly think 20-something year olds of the time should be judged by todays standards for using the n-word, the f-slur, etc.
Some months ago I deleted my old facebook account I had since 2011. Now that I graduated from university and I changed a lot about my political and social views (I got out of my middle class bubble, thank godness), I started to think it won't do me any favors to leave my old racist, misogynistic and xenofobic comments for anyone to see on the internet. It also made me very embarassed how I could think such horrible things. Now I have a new account with everthing private with a few close friends. I used to have a lot of family members and one time, one of my relatives misinterpreted one of my posts and gurl, it caused me so much headache.
I deleted my first FB account on accountkiller two years ago and oh boy, it was one of the best decisions of my life lol
I remember being very, VERY homophobic in my young years bc my mom always taught me that she wouldn't like me to be gay, so I thought that she was trying to say ''Gays are bad'' so I grew with that mindset for a long time.
People in the past wrote diaries, and those can be found after they were dead. I think queen Victoria asked for her letters and diaries to be burned, or her daughter did it because she did't like what was there.
i think my twitter has caused me to turned down for a job before, but other than that i dont think cancel culture is as real as we make it seem? the "canceling" only lasts as long as it takes the general public to find someone else to talk about. people usually always make a full recovery.
eta: i watched the rest of the video and yes cancel culture does exist for non-celebs and can ruin their lives, its unfortunate.
Cody did a great dive into this on Some More News
I have nothing under my real name on social media, and I've heard that even *that* looks bad to schools or job recruiters because they are suspicions of you deleting things... even if those things weren't ever there. It seems like either way you can't win.
Mandy
People criticizing your bad behavior isn’t cancel culture, is it? If you do something bad in public should people pretend they didn’t see what you did? Should people not criticize the bad behavior of others? Kinda seems like if criticism over the wrong thing you did “causes” your poor mental health, that’s on you.
I would strongly recommend Ron Johnson's book "so you've been publicly shamed" where investigates cancel culture. It's few years old, but that makes it even more interesting. I hadn't remembered that this has been a problem for years.
Please note it's Jon Ronson! I got his name mixed up! Title is correct though.
Use memories feature on Facebook to daily delete posts from this day over 10 years. 365 days to delete excess at least. Better than the alternative of just leavingit
Honestly, all I have to think about is how we all used to say “that’s so gay” or some kind of variety to say something was stupid or bad. Looking back now I can’t believe I would ever say that.
And the calling everyone a bitch phase.
Tayla Maree people do stupid stuff all the time. Don’t be too hard on yourself lol.
Isn't it interesting to think that gay meant funny, happy, cheerful? something positive, and then the opposite, because we'd call people interested in the same sex as being funny, happy, cheerful, but also as something bad, and then we only used the word to mean bad stuff... ?
Lol my parents didn’t let me have social media until later in life. I was upset then, but now I’m thankful.
I love this video, Tiffany! I am so happy you're discussing Zwarte Piet. An outsider's perspective who is not blinded by tradition can really show how racist and hurtful this is! I am a Dutch social scientist and I am very interested in this discussion. For many, this pro-Zwarte Piet stance is combined with nationalist feelings. For them it is the prime example of outsiders "eradicating the Dutch/European culture," and that seems to be the main motivation behind the unwillingness to change. Thankfully, as of this year, the national parades of Sinterklaas will not include blackface. This is a huge step. This perspective that was seen as "extremist" are now more mainstream, which is awesome!
As for my own shocking social media post when I was many years younger... I found a post where I complained about my train being delayed because someone who commited suicide on the train track. This is unfortunately not very uncommon where I live. I called this action "selfish," which is absolutely horrifying to me. Since then I have learnt a lot about mental health and now I know how ignorant and hurtful it is to say something like that. And that it perhaps, in their mind, is even the most selfless thing they can do... I still think about this post regularly and I just hope so much that no one who was struggling with their mental health has seen this and was hurt by it.
being early is NOT fun cause i can’t scroll through comments and read other people’s opinions :(
ainara same
YES
Tiffany: "Remember to delete your old posts!!"
Me: * has a breakdown every few years in which I delete all my social media but then I regret it and make a new one*
"Done."
im glad i dont have social media back in the early 2010s
anamorphic I did 😭 I was so cringey
My mom let me have an account when I was like 9 and I regret it! 😂
I started using facebook back in 2009 and I swear my feed back then was full of pet society and farmville level updates :/
Good. A lot of PC culture stemmed from how awful the internet was back then.
i only had an instagram fanpage. i’m so thankful my mom didn’t allow me to have social media until i was a bit older. and even though i made my instagram at 13, i didn’t post many personal things.
I had the ..I guess privilege? Of not being able to be super active on social media until I was about 16 or 17. And even then I was super self conscious about what I posted online. So I never had a time in my life when I posted often. So a lot of my old posts still hold up. They’re a little bit cringey, but not incriminating. There is an exception with tumblr and maybe twitter, as I used to be addicted to tumblr when I was 15 and 16. I personally like keeping my old posts around because they sho who I used to be and how I’ve changed. I love when I meet people who have long digital histories.
Gabe Sautter I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way lol. It’s like a digital history of my growth.
I would get so mad at my parents when I was younger because I would make accounts behind their backs and every time they found out they made me delete them. They completely disabled the app store and internet on my phone over it and I wasn’t allowed to actually have social media until high school, even so I still had to ask their permission to make new accounts until I was 18. So I didn’t have Twitter until the week I turned 18. I’m turning 20 next week and now I’m SO thankful I didn’t have Twitter until I was an adult. I have both the experience of someone who has been active on the internet from a young age (started at 11), but also someone who couldn’t really do whatever I wanted on the internet until I was older. I found my ways around them but honestly... I wish I had never gotten into it so young. I feel like it’s so bad for our mental health, and personally it exposed me to a lot of things super young (I ran a pro-ana depression Instagram account at like 12!!). I’m so thankful they tried to protect me from the internet but so upset that I would be sneaky and do it anyways. I don’t think social media is all bad, I think it’s really powerful. But when used incorrectly and without practicing restraint every time you post or look at something, it can be really bad.
I'm very thankful for my mom for convincing me not to make accounts with my real name and personal info.
When I was 9 or 10, I dressed up in a "native american" generic costume my mom made. My mom is generally liberal but we just didn't know better at the time. Thank god that was before social media really took off and so the only evidence is physical pictures buried somewhere in my parents' basement.
I think deleting your social media is a very good idea. It’s a good detox that calms you down and helps you be a better person. I can’t count how many times i would wake up in the middle of the night because I remembered that old cringy post, conversation or photo on Facebook that I had 🤦♀️ In the recent years I also realized that all the information that I gave out on the internet is haunting me, I often feel so embarrassed, it’s just harder nowadays to not be judged for your past mistakes in the social media era...
Yes!! When people take random super unflattering pictures at an event or party or something where you are like mid-conversation with somebody, mouth open, eyes halfway blinking, and then they post it on facebook! Ugh whyyyyyy
I think it’s pretty safe to say that most employers don’t look for your tumblr simply because of how fricken weird it is. They don’t understand the humor or even the mechanics. They might not even know it exists. Also, most tumblr users reblog more than they make original posts, and small-time users barely get any notes on original posts anyways. If an employer were to look on your tumblr, they’d get lost in content posted by other people, and they’d only gain an understanding of your interests or sense of humor. Real names are rarely attached to tumblr accounts at least in my experience and others I’ve seen. I would have no way of knowing if my friend had a tumblr because I can’t search their name and I’d have to guess what kind of whacky url they’d use, which can change often. As long as your name isn’t attached to your tumblr, your years worth of cringey superwholock gifs and One Direction fan fictions shouldn’t keep you from a job. Me n my 19.6k posts containing in-depth analyses of cartoons and oddly formatted humor will all stay right up online in case something other than a bot wants to follow me.
i don’t use my real name on tumblr and i’ve never posted my face on it. i like the fact that nobody irl would find it unless i told them what my username was
One thing I’ll never forget is at a sports camp they held up a phone and went “this can ruin your life” and talked about how you should NEVER post picture of you partying underage and don’t post them on weekdays because employers (and in that case recruiters) can and will look at them to see what kind of person you are
my dad told me that if i was ever at a party never post any photo that has alcohol in it anywhere or even like a cup or can that’s not clearly soda or never post any photos smoking or that have people smoking because your employers might see
Cambridge Analytica also swayed Argentina's election in favor of our current administration (Mauricio Macri's) and since then we are going through one of the worst socio-economical crisis of the history of the country, the unemployment rate sky rocketed, we've taken debt in an unprecedented rate and poverty increased in every measurable way.
I kind of agree, but consider that Cristina Kirshner literally robbed and got away with it bc of very ignorant people. There's no good or bad here. There's no single candidate that I like. I would move away. I would consider this the laziest place in the world I had ever seen.
@@davidkonevky7372 are you serious? Of the 13 open cases against her 3 are already disproven. Alberto Fernández has 0 accusations and Macri has 150 cases of corruption. This narrative that kirchnerism was particularly corrupted was EXACTLY one of the things Cambridge Analyitica made people buy with fake news.
"I'm amazed at the amount of myself I've shared over the years" same, it's kind of terrifying
The degrassi post had me laughing because....same
The thing is , the new generation of parents or parents that have had older children are now truly understanding the consequences of how much social media can affect their kids, i remember my older brother spending WAY too much time on Facebook growing up, and now my parents are limiting mine, it is tough seeing other kids with there socials but atleast I know i get a chance to live a childhood without toxic social media
Also im getting insta next year and Im really excited ( im 13 )
I used to have facebook and instagram, but my anxiety got me so hard I ended up deleting both accs. 🤠
Little Meow Meow good for you, seriously. It’s so hard to not give into the fomo since everyone’s on social media, most people ik spend their time doing n o t h i n g except scrolling & it sucks
🤠 is the best emoji
Can you please do a video on “PC culture” and how boomers think that everything is sensitive these days
Heyieasha yesssssss, amazing suggestion!! So here for it.
yes! this is such an interesting topic! i've seen youtubers like Blaire White and Ready to Glare cover it and I think Tiffany could do well with it
I am pretty sure it isn't Boomers that are the sensitive ones, they would probably love to see "PC culture" die more than anyone. I'd love to hear her tackle the subject though.
It’s not boomers.
ok boomer
It's really interesting that you posted this today. Earlier at work I was speaking to my coworkers about something similar, with how invasive and addicting it is. My boss and I spoke about how we don't have social media (him at all, myself connecting my name to my identity online) . It's a scary thing, seeing how invasive all of it is and how it connects the past us to the current and then future us.
I've had my Facebook account since I was 13. I definitely have old posts that I'm ashamed of. Some of them are harmless but embarrassing...for some reason, I felt the need to spell words as incorrectly as I could to make it look "kewl" 🙄 other posts are much heavier, such as me using the "r" word, something I haven't done in years. I've grown, I've listened, and I've learned.
When I started TH-cam I realized the importance of deleting the posts of 13 year old me begging Calum Hood to marry me
But, other than that, up until a year ago, my parents have always monitored my online presence and they always scolded me and made me delete any harsh opinions immediately so there’s nothing to find on me, or at least I don’t think there is. Does that count as a pro to having helicopter parents? Idk
as someone in their early 30's... all my cringy posts no longer exist because the websites don't either. anyone remember xynga???
I'm 12 and I've never heard of that lol
@@fkhan2006 lol I would hope not since it was popular before you were born.
I'm 18 but I'll go ask my mom lol 😂
@@jaydeo7850 it would be a little odd if she kept an online journal in her late teens/twenties... but to each his own I guess lol
@@tillapia Nah she didnt know what it was either lol. She did use Myspace though, I remember wanting an account when I was like 8 but she told me no.
about the whole zwarte piet issue... as a dutch citizen myself, i never really saw a problem with it when i was young bc i was unaware that this was racist in the first place, which actually adds to the problem: little children are simply taught that they are part of our holiday tradition, and there's no one to tell them that this is very problematic. in the last couple of years, there has been more and more attention on this issue and i personally just can't understand why people make such a big deal out of changing the zwarte piet slightly so that it isn't racist anymore. i think the problem is just that people are so ignorant and can be so unempathetic sometimes... there have been experiments done with children to see if they care if zwarte piet's appearance changes and it's proven that they really do not care. this discussion really pisses me off and every year people get heated up about this; the same arguments are repeated over and over again and i'm getting really tired of this. sorry for this rant but i had to get it out (it'll be sinterklaas in december, so two months left before the discussion gets heated up again! yay!)
Tiffany! You're so on point, as usual. 7 years ago when I started undergrad I came across a glitch artist who had created an executable file to delete your Facebook posts, likes, photos etc. I didn't want to risk losing the connections I was making then so I put it off... and off... and a few years later even, that file was unusable with all the changes that had happened with Facebook. I regret not purging sooner! I like you, I go through my teen years of FB every once in a while to clean up. But boy, I will be the first to use any profile erasing tool for Facebook that comes out. Hopefully soon.
The 2012 version of myself that placed my Tumblr blog dedicated to the show Skins as the highest priority in my life is crying right now watching this
I feel you on this, but I lost all my Bebo and MySpace profiles from my teens and early twenties. So many memories that are lost. I’m in my thirties now and I would love to have a look through those old photos and posts. I mean they would be criiiiiiiinge AF, but they are my (hazy, mostly drunk) ramblings and pics and they are gone. The twitter auto delete chat I can get behind, but I think I’m gonna hold on to FB, the pit of DataMining it may be, but I know when I’m in my 50’s I’ll enjoy looking back on my timeline...and Zuckerberg will no doubt be our overload by then.
myspace is still there, look up your name
Same, I’m almost 30. I self deleted all my social media like 6 years ago and now I kind of regret it.
I would die if anyone found my bebo, my friends were very mean to me back then and posted alot of awful things about me from my account. I would love to just eradicate it from being online
Ngaire Pakai I’m so sorry that happened. People can be the worst. If this helps at all, the site got sold off and all the profiles got deleted. They gave people 6 months to get their pics, but the email address they had for me was my high school one that I haven’t signed into in over a decade so....I missed the deadline for that by, 3 years 🤷🏼♀️ anyway - bebo as we knew it doesn’t exist anymore ❤️
@@EmmaTheCowie thats actually so releaving for me, sad that others lose all their photos
I actually paused this video to delete my Facebook account. I didn't even know you could do that. I thought Facebook would hold its users hostage and not let them delete the profiles, and only deactivate them, which means nothing really, on Facebook.
They make it really hard to delete it. I had to google how when I did it and they told me it would take 14 days until it would actually be deleted and if I logged in again during the 14 days, they would stop the deletion process. They want you to have doubts about it so badly. Same with Snapchat. Had to wait 14 days, got a reminder email about it right before the time was up. And then sometimes they'll write stuff like "Sad to see you go" or "We'll miss you" in their automated emails when you want to delete an account. I hate that. It's verging on guilt-tripping.
ok i see u with ashley's jewelry
Don't feel too bad about your old embarrassing posts yall we all make mistakes
laverna One time I wrote out the entire lyrics for American Pie from memory (if you don't know it, its like an 8 minute song) and posted it on my Facebook. Why? I have no idea
Mighty Decent well that’s not that bad tbh
Som Keshav it's not problematic, I just kinda remember doing that and laugh sometimes bc I'm like ??what did that achieve?? lol. My old social media posts aren't really cancel culture worthy, they're just pointless
Myspace made me an html wiz!! The more glitter words on my profile the better!
**I was cringing the entire time I typed this** 😬😬😬😬😬
The only thing that is embarrassing about my old posts is how many stupid quizzes I took and posted my results on my timeline 🤣
I had to create a facebook account for my college marketing class and I was pissed. I am planning of deleting it once the class ends.
There is an “I’m in this and I don’t like it” report option.
Steven Ramsey when you click on that facebook suggests you send the person who posted it a message asking them to delete it -_-
So when I was 19 in college I tried to have a "photoshoot" and take cringey photos of myself in Vintage Glamour shots. The outfit looked really cheap. Just saw someone liked my post from 12 years ago and I quickly deleted the photo
Worst part? It's on Facebook and you could've easily found it under my maiden name. Fortunately my married named is more basic.
nothing is bad about being excited for degrassi, the show is GREAT
what you bring up is so interesting! i always just think of how it's nice to look back on things and be nostalgic, but it's so scary to think about everything that I've posted that, even years from now, will still be floating around. i don't regard myself as a hoarder of any sort, and in real life, i'm always going through things i used to think would be important to me in the future, but i feel like when we turn to social media our mindsets change so much. thanks for making this amazing vid and getting me thinking!
Thank you for your take on cancelling! I've long wondered how that will affect Gen Z going forward because old posts can contain literally a childish mindset/understanding of the world whereas "cancelling" for old posts (not related to present behaviour) is just reactionary. It's a fine line to walk but I very much enjoyed hearing your nuanced take on it.
Is that bestdressed jewelry I see?
It is!
My boyfriend deleted his facebook profile, and like, a YEAR later, he was able to just log back in again. It's whack.
Ive tried to delete mine at least 5 times and my mother can still see my page. Im not sure how to get rid of it now.
He just deactivated it. But I think they’ve made deleting it easier recently. It used to be, the delete link was hidden DEEP in some help article that no one could ever find unless they dedicated at least an hour to looking for it.
And then the deactivate button would just be front and center pretending to be someone else.
@@chaghetti He did attempt to delete it. I think it stores the data for a period of time before it becomes final
when i got rid of mine i had to deactivate it, then send an email to FB notifying that i wanted it deleted, and then they left like a 60-day grace period in case you change your mind, and then after that it’s scheduled for deletion. that’s how it worked a few years ago anyway, not sure how it goes now because i avoid that dumpster fire of a website as much as possible
Me: *not having anything to watch, super bored*
TH-cam: *sends notification*
Me: :)
GIRL. I just found your channel and now I'm *BINGING*. I'm majoring in social science at uni and your videos are mad interesting. Love the social topics!
Sophia Ke her videos are THE BEST!!!!!
Your channels is easily one of my favorite ones!! Your topics are always on point ❤️
it is so refreshing to watch your videos, i think you bring up interesting topics and have a very good approach to them as well ! Regarding the "right to be forgotten" mentioned in the last minutes of your video, it reminded me of a friend of mine; last year, we were talking about social media in general and how we were thinking of trying to get away from them or deleting profiles altogether, and she told me she was waiting for a certain date and a certain law to be passed in Europe (we're europeans), before finally deleting her facebook account, and thus, have all of her data be deleted entirely... I am only now realizing that she was probably talking about that right to be forgotten law, because she clearly said that after the law, facebook will have to change their policies regarding data when you "delete your account".
So yeah.... Even if you delete your social media accounts in order to get rid of all these data that you shared not only with the internet, but with companies that can use them, it isn't enough, your data will still be stored and can still be sold and used. So I guess the opening discussion about the right to be forgotten at the end of the video is interesting, and I don't know much about it actually as I'm just realising now what she was referring to, but I think, the law was mostly about the fact that companies, such as facebook and twitter, will still store and use all data that you shared prior to deleting your account.
I might be wrong because i'm just making assumptions out of what she explained to me, but it's actually less about asking to have 'something specific' removed from a "website" (like an embarrassing video or as mentioned, a record of bancruptcy), it's more about protecting data in general...
People, just like I did, assume that their data are gone once they delete an account, which is not the case at all, hence, the law made it mandatory (sadly, only in Europe? I don't even know how that works) for data to be automatically deleted or removed from let's say, facebook or google, when you delete your account. Not only because that's what people usually believe when they do so, but it's also a matter of protecting individuals' personal data from being marketed even after disengaging with said social media or websites. If you're ashamed of the hundreds of "pages" you liked on facebook, and you "unliked" them so that nobody can see it anymore, I'm only guessing here, but there's a high probability that these information are still recorded and stored and in someway linked to you, even only in a demographic manner, to be used for either marketing, or macro data analysis, data mining, anyway, the creepy stuff discussed in the documentary. So I know this is quite "abstract", but I just wanted to say, it is important to protect the informations we put on the internet, and there are ways to do so legally, it is just a matter of staying vigilent and pushing for such laws as "the right to be forgotten"...
ANYWAY! I'm fairly new to your channel, have been following for a few months only, but i think you do such an amazing job on your videos and just wanna say, i'm a big fan honestly and I really hope you'll keep on tackling such interesting topics while still making it fun and light, it's really inspiring!
PS: sorry for the english, not my first langage.
By 0:20 I was already heading to fb to erase history
“Analyze your own internet” is very meta and I am here for it
That reminds me... I’ve had my Facebook account for 11 years, I was 10 years old in 2008 and now I’m 21, meaning I’VE SPENT HALF MY LIFE ON FACEBOOK. How crazy does that sound??
On the topic of changing opinions, within the last 3 weeks I have seen at least 2 of my Facebook memories of posts that I shared/copy and pasted that were against abortion.....I had an unwanted pregnancy terminated on September 17th & I haven’t thought that way for years now.....things definitely change
Although currently I am an awkward teen, when I was a little kid I used to make innocent YT videos. There's no "cancel" material in any of them (it's just me playing with dolls) but it certainly makes me uncomfortable knowing that there's videos of me as a young child for anyone to see.
my sisters used to be obsessed with being youtubers and there are so many videos lost to time of "vlogs" of our absolutely filthy house with my mom passed out in a chair 😭😭😭
luckily now they just make gacha videos lmao
"Don't call people out - instead call people in".
This is the best one-liner on 'cancel culture' that I've ever heard. It came from a high-school age person that's already more intelligent than I'll ever be. We shouldn't aim to wreck somebody's potential or reputation based on things they've said (online or out loud). Rather, we can build them up by showing them what's problematic about their actions--IN A WAY that demonstrates that we know they can and should do better. And, we should be receptive to when other people do that for us.
I know some bad takes I expressed on paper in high school, and some ways I hurt people close to me before I knew better, but thankfully that was largely offline. My social medias are not enormous, but could probably use a clear-out of irrelevant things and embarrassing takes i won’t remember the context for.
Your eyebrows are perfect in this video!! I love your back and forth dialogue and "note to self's" ..reminiscent of Lizzy McGuire
My sister said "Twitter is where you go to destroy your career." Which makes sense. If you said something when you were younger (ex: 12-18) and then someone decided to dig way too back to "cancel" you.
i am so SO happy that my mom never posts photos of me and my siblings on facebook and she only has facebook for messenger. i HATE pictures of myself and i’m glad that my mom respects our boundaries and doesn’t post her children online
but even if you delete things they can somehow still be found. a lot of old tweets that ppl bring up to cancel someone were deleted, so theres still a way for people to get them
a digital detox is a great idea. i quit fb back in 2014 (and tumblr not long after) but ive been meaning to go back and actually delete posts, unfriend people, etc. youre right sometimes it's just too much content to sift through and it's easier to delete things completely. when my myspace profile was deleted a few years back i was sad at the time but now im grateful bc it was soo embarrassing and cringey. tom was looking out for me
Girl is that some bestdressed jewelry you're rocking their. You look so elegant by the way, totally boss
I've always tried to live by the rule of acting the same online as I would IRL (i.e. being polite, not being a bully), but sometimes I wonder if that's enough. I feel like I'm living on borrowed time until someone decides to go scorched earth on me over a minor disagreement. That may be my social anxiety talking though.
I do wish I had downloaded or archived my old Livejournal before deleting it because it was an absolute masterpiece of mid '00s emo cringe.
I barely have a social life so not much to worry about
crazychrisc Not necessary
notification came up, read the video title and immediately went, “oof. this ones for me.”
I've been deleting things since I was fourteen from my beginnings in social media when I was eleven-I've known how cringey I can be for a long time. My friends STILL find embarrassing statuses about Farmville on my Facebook! I can't win
Thank you for this video. I am very careful about what I comment and post on social media now and only use 3-4 on a weekly basis, but it made me remember that I don’t like to delete anything, so I have old accounts on medias I just used once in 2015 like tumblr. So now I’m on a mission to delete all I don’t use and screenshot moments I want to keep. Thanks to this video I remembered my insta account from 2014 when I was suicidal (let’s just say I don’t need that account anymore). And even if I barely use my real name or share pictures of myself it just creeps me out that so many things that I have created are out there and I can’t stand for those things I’ve said or posted because I have grown so much since then.
I literally saw your story on the topic and immediately went on Facebook to clean my profile
And yeah, I've been on it since I was nine, cause everyone had an account and my parents let me make one 😬
My favorite thing is how involved you are with your viewers. All of the videos I've watched, you ask for our feedback and genuinely want to hear it. It's nice
I have enjoyed Facebook's memories feature where it shows what you posted on that day in all the past years you've had a profile for precisely that reason: I have deleted so many old posts that were brought back to my attention. Just so much useless nonsense that I thought was very important to share 10+ years ago.
On one hand I'm glad that my TH-cam comments are so scattered across the internet that they'd be impossible for any employer or college to find, but on the other hand it's frustrating because I can't find and delete them either