The Workload of College is Overwhelming
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- Internet Analysis: COLLEGE IS OVERWHELMING. Is it even possible to balance class, socializing, sleep, and work?? Shout out to today's sponsor, Ana Luisa Jewelry: Check their designs here: www.analuisa.com/tiffanyferg10. Use code tiffanyferg10 for 10% off!
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Unpaid internships should be ILLEGAL. If you are working you should be paid for it. End. Of. Story.
“fun“ fact from Germany: unpaid internships are illegal here. Unfortunately that means that companies will not hire interns anymore unless those internships are absolutely mandatory for something like university degrees (with very very few exceptions). And most degrees don't require more than one three week internship, so you can imagine the kind of real life experience that uni graduates here have. However companies still require a certain amount of work experience for you to even be invited to a job interview. (Exceptions to this conundrum are jobs that require two university degrees and an additional practical education in fields like law, teaching, psychology, pharmacy and medicine- in those cases the government will pay for the practical degree)
its not illegal?????
@@kristbjorgh.th.4875 Sadly... no. In fact it's common.
@@DimaRakesah ohmy, it's illegal where I live.
@@kristbjorgh.th.4875 I wish it were illegal in the entire USA :-/
University: Behold, I have made A Graduate
Therapist: You've ruined a perfectly good young adult, that's what you've done. Look at it. It's got anxiety.
Lyndsey Olsen Why am I laughing so hard 🤣
this comment = perfection
Ahahhahah my therapist
The irony is going to uni to study psychology and then ignoring all the things we are taught to be mentally healthy in order to graduate
👏👏👏👏👏
i love how people associate people who sleep right or a lot as lazy, can you imagine if we thought people who shower regularly as vain people
louie farias exactly it’s so stupid
The difference is, showering is also beneficial to other people (because then you don’t stink and bother people) When you take time off to take a nap, its for you and people tend to associate this with selfishness (even if they don’t outright admit it)
TheLadyDiii I would argue that when you are sleep deprived you are more irritable and irrational and it does in fact affect those around you. When someone else is in a bad mood, it usually puts you in one too.
My therapist had to DRILL this out of my head. I was addicted to studying until 1-2am and was exhausted from not sleeping. Along with insomnia from anxiety, I couldn’t sleep because I was always thinking of assignments due, test dates, deadlines, etc. I drove myself crazy. I told her that I always fear that I could be using my sleep time to do “productive” things. Finally, my therapist told me that sleep isn’t optional, and most of all: sleep is the most productive thing to do for your brain. I now HAVE to get at least 8 hours of sleep to function. I’ve actually been doing a lot better grade-wise because I don’t feel like I’m going to have a mental breakdown any moment.
Oh you have never been to my side of the tracks! It's literally a point of pride not leaving the computer building for 3 days straight. People literally being sleeping bags and food containers. You can smell these people from across the room. If you've ever heard of gamer's stink its literally that. The whiff of some of these guys can make your hair curl its so bad. I've heard boasting about only leaving to go to another class for two weeks straight. It's ridiculous and disgusting,
former gifted kid that never learned how to curate a work ethic and fully had mental breakdown for my entire first year of college. I in no way was prepared for the amount of work I was suddenly supposed to do all on my own. I felt like such a failure and had a really hard time asking for help, thank you for taking the time to acknowledge the hardships of college and how unprepared kids like me were for it.
The same thing happened to me, it took me five years to get out of the mental health nightmare I was trapped in. Thankfully I didn't commit suicide, but I was on the verge of doing it plenty of times. I got the help I needed and at 23 I'm on my second semester of college, loving it so far! I hope everything turns out well for you too.
@@eurekamreum5458 Really related to this. I hope everything goes well for you (and me, cause I'm going through the same thing)
I'm meant to be going to uni in September and I feel like I'm going to experience something like this. Luckily in the last couple years of high school I became more responsible in terms of work and I genuinely do want to do well at uni, but I'm definitely still scared about drowning in work and not being disciplined enough to get through it.
dude literally me right now. i just finished my second semester with two Fs, a D, and a C, because as the semester came to a close all the work we had to do for finals was so fucking stressful that I didn't do any of them.
since i wanna work in an art field and luckily art related jobs care more about portfolio pieces and skill than if you have a degree or not, i could drop out, freelance for a bit, work on my portfolio, find small time jobs, and be fine, but even if i wanted to i can't because my mom would never allow me to stop being in school even for a second and thinks wanting nothing to do with school makes me lazy. she's already pissy that i took a gap year before my first semester because my senior high school experience was brutal and i wanted a break before college.
Same, just in my 2nd year of college. I still haven't graduated after 9 yrs. I am working full time now, but I still feel like a failure in life for not getting my degree "on time". There should be classes about how to learn in elementary school or at least middle school.
american dorms blow my mind. like yall are ADULTS but share a literal room with another person???? with no privacy???? what
being poor in America is devastating
I spent part of my childhood sharing a bed with 1-3 people, and the setup of American dorms still blows my mind. I-
I know right, they should just make the rooms smaller
Resident Advisors usually get rooms of their own. It's a lot of work but I mean I get a free meal plan and free rooming with no roommate.
This is probably a weird question, but how do people masturbate? You almost need to do that at least weekly to stay sane with that work load 😂
legit no one talks about how hard it is to maintain friends in college! its tough when youre not all on the same schedule like high school and u cant see each other for a week
I find it's a case of grabbing a 20 min coffee here or even a 5 minute chat there and messaging each other a lot. I'm about to go into my final year and I have zero classes with any of my friends the entire academic year, luckily I'll be living with three of them which will help but it's definitely tough. It's the same when you're working though, unless you both work the same days and hours it can be pretty hard to find the time meet up. I feel like we really take it for granted how easy it is to see your friends when you're in school.
@@woodnymph01 just wait -- it gets worse as you graduate and you all spread out and no one lives in the same town anymore. even when you go back to your hometown all your childhood/high school friends either move out of town or never come back...then everyone starts working... getting engaged...married....kids...
You really have to work to even keep updated on each others lives let alone see each other
Welcome to adulthood lol
I agree college is hard but drifting away from friends is naturally what happens as you get older, college or not. I dropped out 4 years ago, and see my best friends (pretty much my only friends lol) maybe once a month if I’m lucky, usually once every couple months. Your true friends will be the ones you can go months or even years without seeing and pick up right where you left off. It’s nice to see your friends all the time, but with true friends you don’t need to see them everyday to stay friends.
You're not supposed to have friends! Study and work. Sacrifice.
“We are not only valuable when we’re being productive” this resonated with my soul I’m shaking
Seriously it’s so hard not to feel this way
Same. And it breaks my heart to see this kind of mindset with my friends, too. People constantly overcommitting and being all work work work - that's not something I VALUE in a friend. It just worries me!
Yes! Capitalism really sucks.
Yesss, I hate myself so much if I dont have a productive day, to the point where it is like, I feel like I can't wear a nice outfit because I will have a bad day.
I think I've misunderstood the meaning of “C's get degrees“ until now. To me, it never meant an excuse to not put in effort so much as a reminder to not overexert yourself if all you need to do is pass the class.
I have been _forced_ to adopt this mindset because giving my all in uni is not sustainable for me. I burn out. Again and again. A lot of the time I have to settle for just passing a class when I know I am capable of reaching a much higher grade if only I had more time and energy.
As much as I hate it, a lot of my self-worth is derived from my academic performance, which is why I work so very hard. Sprinkle heavily with ADHD to complicate things further. Getting over that and into the mindset of “C's get degrees“ is literally _LIFE SAVING_ for me.
I feel the same, but haven't gotten around to actually forcing myself to get those C's even though i put so much effort, i do not know how to work smarter. i just work harder. As a result, my depression and anxiety are killing me
@bogwitch
The C's get degrees mindset is the standard in high schools and universities in the Netherlands, the very high scoring students get extra's such as research internships because they can handle the extra workload, but these high scores are no requirement for getting in to regular masters or finding an job after you finish your degree.
So just as a reminder for you, there are rich first world countries where taking care of yourself first is normal. Most of Europe functions like this as far as I know.
@intoellesmind I don't know if you've heard of the book how to become a grade a student by Cal Newport, but if you haven't, this book is full of tips on how to get high grades with minimal work. It made my student life easier, perhaps it van help you
@@lenaduif111 thank you so much!!!❤
I just started college and I'm going to try to use that mindset. I always put such high standards, it's just not worth it nor sustainable. My anxiety levels are toooo high and I'll still have the degree anyways, I'll start aiming for a C instead of an A sometimes
I’ve studied in Brazil, Canada, UK and France (between undergrad and grad): no one sleeps, ever. I don’t know how our generation will reach retirement age alive.
Given how the retirement age is constantly rising I don’t think the gov even wants us to live past then lol
Agreed! I went to college in France, Canada and the US, it’s exhausting everywhere (or I don’t know how to organise myself 🤷♀️).
sleep deprivation is linked to alzheimer. just sayin'...
That's the kicker... We won't
I’m Canadian and I’ve studied a little in Italy. It might be the same work load but you don’t have to worry about finance as much as in the US... So there’s that! And for sure you need to be organized! Change your whole world when you start to organize your work and stop procrastinate!
This video reminded me of the time an older colleague of mine said to their school supervisor that they were really struggling by the overwhelming workload of the intership (required to graduate) and that the lack of sleep was becoming very debilitating. The supervisor LAUGHED and said "honey, you can sleep all you want when you graduate!". What a fucked up thing to say when someone is already low
Eh....I would find that motivating in a way - like, put up with it just a little longer and it will all be over with.
@@LuvThyMind29 yeah, but from a health standpoint and for most other people it's bs advice.
@@Rayowag The person in the original comment could easily have been misunderstood - it doesn't come across as though she was looking for advice; it could easily have been interpreted as a joke about lack of sleep...and it's common for graduate students to joke and make casual comments about lack of sleep.
Regardless, I have found the prospect of a nearing finish line to be the most motivating thing in my own academic career and I know that many others feel the same.
What else is a person to say in response to that comment about no sleep? You either choose to get more sleep or you don't.
It's incredible how 90% of people involved in high education are always a little bit sociopathic, isn't it?
yeah I've heard so many similar things, our profs tell us that we can't have "college life" bc that's stupid and we have to study day and night, but I know there aren't enough hours in a day to cope with that workload. Such boomers.
My 74-year-old teacher read the class an article about this last year. She then said the students should "buck up, it's not that hard."
It was very clear that she originally showed us the article because I was crying in class. I now know that I cried all the time because of under-medicated aspergers.
That's-not-ok boomer.
Lol i'm in highschool, i know its easier than college but, i really study a lot to have good grades. And there was this one day i came to my english class and i was very tired because i didn't sleep that night at all because i was doing homework as usual. But that day i felt extra tired. And my english teacher saw me doing the "i'm about to fall asleep closing my eyes and opening them every 2 seconds", but i wasn't doing it on purpose to get her mad, i loved her a lot she was my favourite teacher and i really didn't have the control to keep myself awake. Then she called me out in front of my whole class and i started bawlling my eyes out. Like crying so hard while my clasmates were trying to talk about their presentation. And the teacher then told me to hold my tears and to stop making so much noice and i really tried. I was embarrasing myself in front of everyone, it wasn't on purpose. And she amde it worse telling me to be silent. Literally since that class and in my way to home i cried all day. I was feeling very tired and i cried mostly ebcause anyone understood how much i worked for my grades.
And by the way, i speak spanish. I learnt english by my own listening to this type of youtube videos. That teacher did nothing for me literally, she didn't even know how to explain a class but i still before what happened i loved her aalot. Not now tho.
Shimmer Lucky I’m sorry that happened! School is tough :c we’ll get through thiiis c:
@@Sara-hj8en your english is great, you should be proud of yourself 💕
@@bebetter6403 thank you so much ❤ :)
@@lucy-vo2lr thats good to hear. In the future i plan to do a TOEFL test, so i expect my english to be on point. Thank you so much ❤😊
Making friends is even harder when you’re a freshman in your 20s surrounded by teens.
this!
Yes and not living on Campus
Works the other way around as well. When everyone is in their twenties and you are a teen, you definitely aren't taken seriously and/or considered for activities.
Its harder when youre in your 20s and working too. Youve got time to virtually nothing
This is me right now which is why I feel like Im forced to choose to nurture my social life to stay sane, because unlike everyone else on my course I can't just meet people there, because I'm in my late 20s and literally everyone else is 18 or 19
I feel like stress and tiredness has become like a mark of honor in America. Americans despise laziness and anything associated with it, and honestly that’s why I think we have such a weird, bad attitude towards obesity, because we see obesity and think “laziness” and we can’t stand laziness. For us, being stressed=success. Stress free life? You must be a lazy free loader and you’re probably taking advantage of MY hard work somehow. At least that’s a mindset I kinda see.
I mean think of all those self help books about how to get more done, how to make more money, how to be more efficient, etc. etc.
Edit: also want to clarify that I think this is an American thing, not a millennial or boomer thing. Maybe it manifests in different ways for different generations, but I think it’s a cross generational thing.
obesity is unhealthy and can be life threatening lol that’s why ppl have a weird attitude towards it
I feel like toxic productivity culture is also a large part of the stigma behind mental illness, especially depression. Mentally ill people, especially those struggling with depression, are all too often disregarded as simply being lazy.
Capitalism
Not only America though
One of the most iconic moments of my university experience was becoming instant bffs with someone I met at 3 am while we were both pulling an all nighter. Another was when I broke down in tears while walking to the nearest Starbucks at 3 PM on a Saturday because I couldn't work on projects while walking to Starbucks and I was too tired to run and walking was making me lose precious minutes.
Everyone has their moment where they become the woman in the subway scene from Possession (1981); but instead of being possessed by the devil, you're raving because you can't take the stress anymore.
It took my semi-retired prof pulling me aside and asking me if I'm okay for me to finally chill out. I was trying to do my master's program in 2 years instead of the average 3, and she was like, "Look I've had breast cancer twice, and every time I've gotten it was when I was really stressed out and spread myself too thin." When I told her I had cancer as an undergrad she was like, "DEFINITELY slow down" lol She really helped me out
Sheesh hope you’re doing okay now
can really relate because I am getting my masters in a year by taking grad classes with my undergrad for a year and a half so. like I started taking grad classes the second half of my junior year and I just graduated with my BA and i have taken half of my grad classes. I am... tired.
My prof asked if I was okay when I fell asleep during class. In high school you just got screamed at...
This video is so accurate. In college my anxiety was seriously at an all time HIGH. I was overwhelmed every single day. I cried everyday. I felt trapped. The work was killing me seriously I started to get sick, i even got walking Pneumonia. The happiest day of my life was graduation because i felt like i had control of my damn life. I would NEVER EVER EVER go back
That's how I feel and I'm only in the first year. I thought I would love college.
Same. I remember in my freshman year, almost every time I sat down at my desk to study, my heart was pounding faster, like I had just gone on a run (especially if I was writing a paper or studying for an exam that made up a large portion of a class grade).
This should NOT be the reality for most college student. Like this system is INSANE.
strawberry I just started college last week annnnd IT’S ALREADY INTENSE! I just got done turning in my first batch of college homework and I decided to view my class’ syllabus.........Please tell me why it mentions *ANOTHER* assignment due by 11:59 9/23/20?!?! The site provided by my school, which is where my teachers posts homework/tests, *DOES NOT INCLUDE* this additional assignment. Did my teacher forget to update something? Did I not check enough? Is the date wrong?Damn, it’s like, no matter how hard I try to improve my life, the universe wants me to fail. I try to be proactive with my education and be ahead and THIS is what I get in return.🤦🏾♀️😭
I got so much shit for picking an easy major but I got so much sleep and I’m fluent in four languages so I feel like I won 🤷🏼♀️
What did you major in?
Sounds amazing! What was your major and what languages do you speak?
I majored in Spanish and minored in French and sign language :) and I learned German after college
@@oooohokay you can major in spanish??? Omg hello why didnt i know that? That sounds great
just curious as someone who is currently learning a language, how do you make sure that you're competent in that language once you've reached fluency?? (especially since you know four!)
The American education system is like... so ridiculous. I'm glad to live in Finland where the system makes much more sense and the government actually wants to help students get their education.
Wow, it sounds amazing. I wish I could also study there. The education system here in the Philippines is literally so fucked up in every aspect that u just wanna quit school and never come back.
How does it feel paying 50% in taxes?
@@bingomaster2227 I'd rather be taxed 13% more than having to pay thousands of dollars for education and health insurance while having no social security in a worst case scenario.
@@bingomaster2227 I’m sure it feels the same as being taxed both state and federal taxes and getting absolutely nothing for it. I gladly now live in a state with no state taxes because those were a bitch. My mom pays pretty high taxes and they definitely didn’t include her cost of education, healthcare or retirement...
@@bingomaster2227 well it sure feels good to pay only 8% in taxes. I make so little money as a student that I don't have to pay as much as my parents do. My dad pays around 35% in taxes. And yeah, I've cost Finland more money than they've taxed me or my parents.
You know what I notice about this type of discussion? No one ever talks about how colleges need to ease the fuck up on the workload that they give students. Colleges will try to give tips and ideas on how to keep up with everything and highlight the importance of self-care when there's literally no fucking time for it. It's my understanding that the workload has increased, while outside responsibilities or obligations of students have also increased which leads to burnout. This is even spreading to elementary schools, where young kids have anxiety because they feel like they need to live up to this high level of academic standard put upon them. I understand that the job market is more competitive than how it was years ago, but people's mental and physical health are being compromised to a larger degree, and that's an issue. People are just like " oh, well it's expected of us that we are to be burned out, so be it" without maybe being like " hey colleges, CALM DOWN, WE CAN'T BREATHE". idk. Also, in regard to unpaid internships, in Canada, from my experience at my college anyways ( and what I've noticed in other colleges and uni's), our practicums are not paid for, and we are not ALLOWED to make money from these practicums. It's part of the contract. It's ridiculous.
exactly!! and with the cost of college tuition, do they really think that we are only students? that we don’t have jobs, kids, other responsibilities?! it’s so hard to handle it all.
exactly
@@mangotango2399 "Only Professor Syndrome" has seriously become an epidemic. Professors will b*tch about their salary to workload ratio, then turn around and give students an equal amount of pointless busywork. If I can show my mastery of the course content through our final projects and exams, I find absolutely no reason to be assigned 5 million obnoxious little worksheets between now and then.
Fun fact: sleep deprivation often has the same symptoms of ADHD and ADD. Wanna guess which country by far has the most ADHD diagnoses? The US which also happens to be the most sleep deprived country in the world. EDIT: But this does not suggest that sleep deprivation is the cause of ADHD. Elijah Stroud pointed this out for me just now.: )
Be careful with the implied causation. ADHD often causes irregular sleep cycles so it's not necessarily the case that the US has the highest rated of ADHD because it is so sleep deprived
Elijah Stroud I will keep that in mind next time I write something like this:)
Thank you for pointing this out!
@@ElijahStroud Yep, ADHD person here, unable to sleep at 5 am.
I hope you realize a whole bunch of people, a great number of people go undiagnosed on mental illness. Especially 3rd world countries.
Watching this after waking up and not remember falling asleep, I was up late doing uni work that I needed to get done and my body literally shut down cause it couldn’t go on so this video hits different 😳
Come to Tasmania for a break lol
The crossover I wasn’t ready for
Love ur channel
I’ll pray for you, buddy 😩
Love ur videos 😘
College is way worse than a 40-hr work week job in my experience.
Studying in college is an unpaid job.
@@raven3moon worse- you're paying to be there.
@@gustavoflores8408 You're right...it really is masochistic.
That's funny, within 2 years of graduating college and working my full time job, I was wishing I was back in school.
@@MS-mp9om really depends on your major and your hours at work.
As a danish university student, I could not imagine studying full-time while also keeping a job, to support myself. We are truly blessed, and I reeeeeaally feel for you guys. It seems inhumane.
it's systematic slavery at this point
It's like medivial times brutal
Yeah apparently in N America people work while studying full time??
Everything about America is about enslaving and incarcerating the population. And our water is also fluoridated and our food is poison. It's actually better to be dead than live or be born in America.
@@laurenlatta495 "slave labor has never ended, capitalism has only restructured it" - Cedric j. Robinson
You know college is sometimes overwhelming when we see a meme about college student killing thems in order to not take an exam, all we do is laugh along
I thought about doing that a few times then the weirdest thing happened and i felt really happy still failed the class but didn't care
it's either you laugh at it or you crack
@@greyarea805 Um I dont know if you are still in college but I would like to remind you that life isn't hopeless and if you are having those thoughts to remember that you are a beautiful person just like everyone else. And know that you are loved and your hard work is appreciated!
During midterms and finals in my college town there are actual shortages of Adderrall at the pharmacies because so many people use it as a study drug. People I know with ADD and ADHD have to either get their prescriptions early before that time or suffer going through midterms and finals without their legitimate medication, which is pretty shitty
Which, i can tell from first hand experience, sucks to deal with ADHD as a student in general
dude I legit hope that doesn't/won't happen wherever I end up going to college (if I do.) I literally can't get things done that I don't enjoy, and sometimes even things I really enjoy, when I'm not on my meds.
Also, Adderall hasn't actually been shown to improve the cognitive ability for people without ADHD beyond very marginal improvements to things like reaction time and rote memorization. Other than keeping you up later and raising your heartrate, it's mostly a placebo for non-ADHD students.
Around year two, I decided to stop putting my all into university. Somehow, my grades didn't suffer at all. My GPA remained around 3.4, without studying more than two days for each final, taking zero notes, and never pulling a single all-nighter. Was I top of my class? Nope. But I was in the healthy upper levels. Not to mention most employers aren't going to care about whether you topped your classes in uni.
What helped me most was figuring out what the bare minimum I had to do to achieve the best outcome possible. And now I'm done! It might make me seem lazy, but my gosh it was so good for my mental health.
FairlyWildChild I developed the same strategy after I totally burnt out in eighth grade (I went to a weird school that was half homeschool and so there was a LOT of homework and the eighth grade teacher was known for being the worst about assigning homework)
That’s exactly what I did in my second year 😅
In classes that I can do well in without a lot of effort, I strive for As. If it's a more challenging course in my major, I just strive for getting at least a C (the lowest grade needed to pass and not have to retake the course). If it's a course that's not in my major, I just do what I reasonably can but I don't worry about getting a specific grade. I usually end up getting higher grades in those classes than I expect anyway so I'd say my strategy is working well so far. I'm sure it helps that I got most of the general course requirements done at community college before I entered university.
Wound up doing similar eventually, but because I got a D- in a java class, my GPA was always below 3, so I was in a constant state of anxiety/worry and eventually started getting burnt out due to trying to get the damn GPA above 3. Ended college with my bachelors and a GPA of 2.99 which still annoys the shit out of me to this day.
FairlyWildChild can‘t relate lool
When I was on study abroad in America my roommate took adderall and had an all nighter. Her heart started beating so fast she thought she was dying. Because I am Australian (universal health care) I freaked out and called an ambulance and then my roommate calmed down, jumped out of the ambulance and got mad at me because I gave them her name and now she would have to pay for the ambulance ;____; sums up so many problems in America. Also I had an exam that morning and was so panicked but my lecturer still made me sit it.
I'd yell too; a 20 min ambulance ride in my city is $5,000. I learned the hard way lmao
@@lauram7929 here I am naively trying to prevent my roommate from dying lmao
@@gemandblueskies I think some people just call an Uber. It sucks.
@@exoticcats6119 this was 8 years ago, not sure if Uber even existed. Good to know for next time though... :\
@@gemandblueskies You did what should have been the right thing
The idea that after college there's work kills me. This is already too stressful for me. I feel like I can't, I just can't.
I heard college is worse than working afterwards but don't quote me on that. Just started university and I'm in the same boat, I just can't with the workload and pressure.
@@Casxa same
It gets better! University is 24/7 - a job is 40-70 hours a week at most
Completely agree about the burnout! I've always called it competitive suffering. Before I changed my major, for some reason, everyone in my previous degree path loved (and I mean *LOVED*) to put other people down and make them feel bad about anything and everything. One example right before a microbio exam:
Person 1: I slept so late last night. I think I went to bed at midnight
Person 2: Pft midnight. I wish I fucking slept then. I studied all night and I haven't slept yet
Sidenote: The average for that exam was a 60% it was a shit class
Yikes. I'm really sorry to hear that.
Oh dude I get this. People in engineering school too love to brag about how little they sleep, its wild
would you mind sharing what your previous major was? i'm a gap year student who wants to do pre-med and that kinda sounds like pre-med students 😅
@@amiacumbee5123 I was pre-pharm!
Yeah I never got into the whole “let’s see how little sleep we can get.”
“Good grades, enough sleep, social life: choose two.” Jokes on you, triangle! In my sophomore year, I got none of those! 😭
You're meant to have one? Funny, I've never had any at all.
I'm not interested in making friends at university. I'm mostly concerned about passing my subjects, getting enough sleep, exercising, and having enough leisure time.
Yup friendless, lonely, good grades, work, and extracurriculars, while cooking healthy food on a budget
That was my attitude too. I started college as a mature student (at age 39, married, and with a mortgage). I was like "I have enough friends, I don't have time for more". I did end up making friends, sitting with other mature students during lectures, but it all happened quite naturally with no pressure to "make friends ".
Make some connections buddy..you'll need it no matter what your ego says
yup same. I don’t even have time for (extra) friends while doing school full time and work full time lol. but I have a couple good friends outside of college that understand how busy I am
The thing I find most baffling about American colleges is that you have a massive hookup culture but share dorm rooms... like what?
HOW do you get privacy?
The other person is either in the library/at the club/at their hookup's place/at work I'm assuming, that or you'd text your roommate "hey I'm bringing home a dude, can u crash at X's dorm tonight?"
You don't
I love that, "low-engery person" I feel like that fits me well. Even when I'm not feeling "lazy", when I'm energized I can only do one or two things and I'm like okay, that's my fun for the day. (I am able-bodied I don't have any chronic illnesses, I'm just a tired depressed bean)
Gabrielle I feel you on this >.< me showering and getting ready for a date night with my bf is already exhausting to me. Probably why I dropped out of college. It was way too much for me to handle.
The alien in your backyard I feel you I was real depressed my first year of university. I’m 21 and I finally decided to go back to school and I start tomorrow. Instead of going back to college I registered for a medical assistant program at my adult school here. Honestly I needed time to figure out what I wanted to do and going to university straight from high school felt overwhelming and rushed.
Just take your time and do your research about your school and don’t be afraid to talk to teachers about what you’re dealing with when it comes to mental health. If it’s something you want to do I say go for it. I didn’t have a plan and that’s where I messed up.
I think in terms of sleeplessness we should talk about how this specifically impacts disabled and mentally ill students. I have bipolar and I cannot under any circumstances sacrifice sleep otherwise I risk an episode. College actively disenfranchises disabled students and often professors are very difficult to work with without a constant flow of doctors notes.
@Anne-Lou I feel you. If I go without sleep I can easily hit a depressive episode that leaves me with no motivation, or mania which causes me to be unable to focus on anything! SO frustrating looking at friends who are able to pull a few lates nights and be fine.
i have a chronic disability and if i get less than 7h of sleep i am in completely disabling pain. on normal days, i have like 5 active hours max for school, homework, appointments etc.
Jamie Hobbs-Mallyon Oh my gosh, I have bipolar too (rapid cycling Bipolar I with psychosis) and it often makes University life a complete nightmare! I used to pull so many all nighters or not get enough sleep because of the nature of the illness. It was awful. I’ve now prioritised sleep and am on antipsychotics, major improvement all round.
@Anne-Lou You should try cold showers, they are my go to to be always with energy for the school. I think these showers are like tree cups of coffee
I already feel that way about high school my dude how am I supposed to survive college
IKR 😩 I normally get 6 hours of hw to 19 hours like 😣 I’m only a freshman to I’m never sleepy but Now i always want it.
i used adderall the beginning of this year to take a test for my AP class and to study for the AP Exam just to take a 2-FRQ exam on topics i barely studied for when i was on my high. i’m only a freshman
Jostan Vallis did you take AP human? I just finished my freshman year and I took that exam.
how to survive... you don’t :)
dont consider college the mandatory next step, trade schools and apprenticeships let you work while learning, there are plenty of jobs full of old practitioner looking to retire. Jewelers, HVAC and piano tuners make great money.
you know whats the problem.. university is expected so it's a necessity yet it's not easily accessible so it's a privilege.
On the topic of certain majors having a bigger workload than others, I HAVE to mention that music majors often get the short end of the stick because people are like "oh it's not that hard, I'm PREMED" but music majors often have HUGE workloads (daily music theory amirite) on top of ensembles, 0 credit classes (like performance attendance), and lowkey taking more classes/ensembles than technically allowed (or at least that's how it was at my school). And all of that is apart from independent practice time, which is probably multiple hours a day if you actually listen to lesson teachers. So shoutout to the overworked music majors stuck doing the MOST & getting eyerolled by the premed students, y'all deserve more respect and way fewer extra requirements.
I think creative majors are kind of expected to love/live/breathe their chosen course. Doing ensembles and practicing outside of uni is just normal, because that's your passion, isn't it? So the time and effort spent on learning a part for orchestra or a play or creating art pieces can be devalued by thinking: well, that's your hobby, isn't it?
It's the same reason, that people always try to get free art from artists. "Because they love art"
I mean, even work that you love is still work.
Anyways, that's my perspective from the outside. Would be interested if you have seen that kind of reaction from people/profs/fellow students.
@T F-- Yeah that's another way people don't really respect it because yes, it's an art form, and yes, musicians wouldn't do it if they didn't enjoy it, but at the end of the day, it's still work just like everyone else's job. People try to get musicians to play for free for "experience" just like with visual artists. But people on the outside are often the only people who see it that way as "doing it because you love your art". Like sure, a musician sees that they're creating art and loves it, but when they're in a practice room for 5 hours a day, running the same thing over and over again to get it perfect, are they doing it because "wow I love my art"? nah. It's work and they're trying to be the best at their job as possible.
And tbh the musicians who are the ones creating & running the classes should know better than to give their students huge workloads when they also know the ensemble & performance requirements the students have. The real tea is that music departments need to find a better way to balance the requirements for "academic" music majors (music history, theory, etc) and performance majors because often they're both required to do both equally which isn't good for either.
Okay out of genuine curiosity...why would one go to college for music or any art?
this!!! the education system is all different in sweden so we have majors in high school in a similar way to college, and the art program is looked down on by everyone in high school all over sweden as being "the lazy program" because we get to have "fun" courses. and yeah, i breathe art, and wouldn't be able to stand high school without it - doesn't mean i don't work my ass off and rubbing my fingers raw by completing paintings by the deadlines and writing art analyses far into the night when i would rather do anything else. and the music/theater ones (we're all in the same class) have it way harder than us arters. they have to spend so much of their free time putting up shows, practicing, making up for classes they had to skip because of recitals, etc. they have extra private lessons in places that don't even match up with the rest of their schedule, even more class they have to catch up to!
this is my third and last year of high school, a notoriously tough year for art programmers because of the huge musical my school puts up every year that the arters need to make all the scenography for - and that's on top of other huge projects related to our major. the last couple of months third years are expected to pour all their free time and energy into this production and it's just so weird to me how we get so much slack for it. like i said, i can't imagine working without art (i can actually, i was a technology major and hated it) but that doesn't mean it's not hard. all work is hard.
@@antereaw6178 out of genuine curiosity... why wouldn't you? granted i'm in high school still (different school system, i'm 19 soon) but majoring in art was the best choice i ever made. i was in a different major for a while and it was, no exaggeration, the lowest point of my life. whether i study graphic design or 3d modeling or whatever, i'd never do anything non art related in college. just how some people are i guess
I burned out.. And then I dropped out.. My mental health and desire to not be ridiculously in debt were my reason. I opted to teach myself skills in digital marketing, web design and get certifications and licenses instead. I have a job I love and get paid the same as some of my fellow graduates. Do what works for you.
*Edit:* Woo! liked by the queen herself! But seriously thanks for all the likes I hope all you college students just remember to enjoy life don't let the degree (or lack of) define you. Going to college can be great, if you decide not to you are not destined or limited to "flipping burgers".
K D Can I ask you for advice if you don’t mind 🥺? Fellow college student interested in marketing.
What kinds of things did you do to persue digital marketing? I'm a marketing major and interested in that field
@@marissa2075 honestly a lot of research and videos and some courses. Then I started by making some websites and learning how to create, run and analyze Facebook ads. I got lucky and a friend who was a lawyer was looking for someone to market on fb. He even paid me! I started with that and it was enough to get me started. So. traditional marketing/business practices apply. Swot, create a consumer profile, test, etc. However somethings you just have to learn by doing them.
@@Sam-fe3pr haha sure! I'm no expert but can try and help!
@@KD-dr3gy ah okay I see. if you don't mind answering what's the average salary and how much can it range? I looked it up but the information varies a lot
As an architecture student I was definitely in the mindset of “the less I sleep the harder I’m working”, that’s until I started randomly fainting in public from all the stress and lack of sleep (I actually hit my head pretty badly a few times). It’s specially hard in an environment in which professors shame you for “insufficient” or “mediocre” work, but you have to remember the degree means nothing if you’re not actually there to enjoy it.
SPECIALLY since you're doing creative work constantly. You need to be healthy to produce good things, it's just logic. It's scary how many of my classmates in arch have either severe anxiety or depression. Teachers actually expect you to not sleep because they know the workload is ridiculous, it's not just a matter of "manage yourself better"
i hate how in architecture teachers EXPECT you to not sleep, ive been told "you have time, what do you do between 12 and 6AM?" and have been praised for going over 48h without sleeping.
@@mariaelenamattone5221 true! Everybody brags about their record, and I fucking hate that it’s so deeply ingrained in me that I still feel proud when I remember I once went 72h with only 1 hour long nap
I’m after my first semester of architecture studies, a former so called “social butterfly”, straight A’s student with perfect sleep schedule, now I have no time (or energy) for friends, can’t focus on my classes and a serious case of insomnia, because the classes are too stressful for me
@@xmxzng1617 "manage yourself better" is hard in itself
I love this video but when you say "not trying is pretty lame lmao" can I just add that sometimes it's worth not putting in that extra 5% effort to change a B from an A if it means you will be happier, healthier and better rested as a result?
As a former chronic overworker, my current uni mindset is to try my best but keep it in perspective. There are times when I think "I could get an A* here, but I'd be sacrificing *insert sleep/food/exercise/happiness* so I am going to stop now." I could overwork and get an A* in one module, but it's honestly better to be a more well-rounded person. I'd rather get all Cs and graduate as a healthy, happy, well-adjusted person. That will benefit my career far more in the longrun than falling into the trap of hustle culture and enter work as an exhausted ex-student burdened with added mental health issues lol. Just my two cents!
That's an extremely interesting perspective to me. I'm basically the opposite: I used to study less to be a more well-rounded person and ended up with an equivalent of a B when I knew I could have pulled an all-nighter and get an A instead. My reasoning was exactly the same as yours: I want to overall enjoy life and not kill myself working. However, the further I went to my academic career, the more I felt like this was (considered) a bad attitude. Nobody told it to me directly, but I could see that I was struggling in some classes _because_ I didn't study enough in the previous ones. Of course, the struggle is not significant, but I did feel stupid and somehow guilty when a teacher, and now my supervisor, says something that we are supposed to know, and I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't know it. I'm just scolding my old self by thinking "if I had studied more at that point, I would not struggle today".
Caitlin Montgomery I think she’s just referring to the people who just maybe show up to class and that’s it. I make straight Bs for the same reason you stated, it’s a good grade and I’m not sacrificing my well being. But there are so many of my classmates who just show up on the day of a test and are like “ha I never even opened the book once, I’m just gonna get an F, it’s fine haha” and I’m like “YOU PAID $100s of dollars just for this one class and you aren’t gonna even study for 15 mins?” If you don’t have time for a class then don’t take it, IMO. Part time school is okay too but going full time and then just completely neglecting classes isn’t okay. It wastes so much money and really hurts people in the long run and I think that’s what she meant by people not trying. There’s a difference between barely or not even doing the minimum and choosing to not overwork yourself.
this sounds like a great plan! I wish you good luck, it´s hard to get out of the mindset of "a little more can´t hurt"
sharing a room with another person at college sounds unbelievable to me, I would hate that more than anything
Some colleges offer single dorms which are basically like having a (very small) apartment
Katharine W same. I couldn’t handle there being somebody else in my room and and them just being away and have lights on when I try to sleep or me not being able to blast music in my headphones because they’d hear it
i payed for the higher housing option just so i can have my own room. i can’t stand sleeping in the same room as people, much less doing EVERYTHING in the same room as people. it’s nice to be able to just lock myself in my room if i need to and not talk to anyone
I lived in a three person dorm. It wasn’t so bad because I genuinely liked them both , but I missed having my own room soooo much
I have been sharing a room with 3 other girls since I started uni in 2017. they are all lovely but I always wonder what if next year I get someone I cannot get along, because there are plenty of girls in my doorm who I could survive living with... 😩😫😓
I definitely see the problem of glorifying being overworked. I always feel like I'm not studying enough bc I don't stay up till midnight to get shit done, like some of my friends. And that's just ridicolous since I get mostly A's and B's.
I also relate so much to you when you say that you prioritize sleep bc same. I also always was the first to fall asleep on sleepovers lmao
Work smarter, not harder. I came up with numerous techniques to help me study and maximize what time I did spend studying. I probably spent a lot less time studying than some of my peers, but I still aced my tests.
Plus, sleep helps you remember what you studied.
Susi H yeah it's legit like a crime to live a life that resembles a balanced lifestyle... It manifests to the hustle culture once you're out of college so it never ends. I don't think people consider that they won't drop dead if the neglect their health, but the neglect will compound to cause short term and long term negative effects. I know so many people who have a "nothing bad has happened yet, so it must be fine" mentality.
The phrase "get a foot in the door" physically repulses me bc of how often it's used in conjunction with the anxiety-inducing hell of being pressured to find internships
I'm taking 5 classes and working part-time this semester, pray for me lmaooo
EDIT: I PASSED W/A's & B's. @ college you can't kill me bitch. lmao. also I hope everyone else who responded passed to or if you're doing the same thing currently you got this and try not to procrastinate, ily
same. i'm so scared i won't be able to do it
good luck!!
@@isabelcaldeira we both got this!
Yizelz i did that my entire college career, god bless you because it was extremely difficult for me. Get sleep, take breaks, remember that C’s get degrees😭
Ashli Tatum ily 🤗 I’m pleasantly surprised that I’m passing lol
how are yall?
the most relatable phrase is "it's 10 o' clock, I'm over it"
as a physical therapy student, studying full time, working 20 hours a week, while doing unpaid clinical internships, this video is my life in a nutshell.
Omg my roomate did this. Family marriage counseling path. Grad school. Job and clinical hours basically another job you don't get paid. You can do it!! She finally finished and got a job.
@@KD-dr3gy thank you!! xx
evangelista megant haha lol me to kms
I went to a very affluent high school, and now an "affluent" public university. I worked nearly full time during the last two years of high school to support myself. I still work now in college but I can't work full time because my major is more difficult (STEM) and requires a lot of time for studying. It's very hard and demotivating to be surrounded by people who don't have to pay for their gas, their housing, their food-everything. It's difficult not to be bitter or envious. My friends choose to stay up because they CAN procrastinate, and they hang out all the time because they have the privilege of free time. It sucks
you sound like a well-rounded person. don't compare yourself to them.
i feel you... i work between 20-40 hours a week now, which majes me scared for the internships as i barely got time for studying now... i don't have parents who'd pay for my living and studies
that being said, i don't think i find myself being jealous of those who's got parents that financially aid them. i'm glad not everyone's had to struggle ti stay afloat
Part of my shame about my ADHD is needing my medication, because people misuse it SO MUCH. I need this medication to be able to live my life, to be able to be happy and have relationships. Yet, people are misusing it and making actual ADHD people look bad.
I thank God every day that I made it to graduation. Everyone looked at me funny when I was dancing in my seat. I was just so happy I was done. Stick in there students!!!
You had every right to moonwalk across stage.
I just wanna cry rn lol. I'm taking extra classes rn to graduate with my AA next spring. Then I'll be taking summer classes.....THEN I'll be going to uni next fall for my BFA....Hopefully I'll be class of 2022!
Addy Rovirosa keep your head up! You’re awesome! You’re doing a great thing right now that will help your future! Take time for yourself as well. Remember to always be kind to yourself. You got enough on your plate. Take it one day at a time. Good luck and God bless you n ur education ✨💕
One hundred Percent that b - honestly just knowing that it was better to do this now and get it out of the way than to take a break and come back later. Antidepressants also helped for that boost of positivity, but to be honest they kind of blocked some of the deeper feelings so be careful about that. They did give me a boost but kind of stopped me from getting to into my bad thoughts so I didn’t really work through some things until after graduation.
Also sometimes I just had to see things from a good perspective, like appreciating that I had the opportunity to learn and be around interesting smart people every day. I do love learning and though it’s overwhelming just look at it like everything you learn might help you one day and isn’t humanity just so cool? It’s hard to be like that when you’re depressed but changing the way you’re thinking about it can help a lot.
Of course crying to my friends and family every once in a while was therapeutic :)
I would also give the advice to take full advantage of the resources at your school. The career center, study abroad, mental health, groups etc. There are so many offices and people to help you and to let you find internships and opportunities. I wish I had just gone into those offices and gotten to know people and had them help me with whatever. I did do a study abroad and it was such a valuable life experience. But I should’ve been going to my professors and the career center and really trying to make connections for jobs after graduation. I was thinking I can just figure it out after I graduate but I wish I had worked on it before I left more.
Another thing is I wish I had worked more on my physical health and what I was eating and exercising. I felt I didn’t have time for that but I think it helps a lot for your mental health to work on your physical health. I’m making up for years of bad eating now.
Good luck!!! You got this!! Always remember that you’re not alone and there are millions of other people struggling the same way you are. You are not alone! And you’re doing a great thing for yourself so just get it done and don’t give up
One hundred Percent that b - you’re so welcome, good luck to you. Remember to stay grateful that you have this opportunity that lots of people around the world would love to have. Be grateful to wake up healthy and young with all these possibilities ahead of you. Be grateful for the ability to learn and grow. Mindset mindset mindset. Don’t let your self be dragged down by depression. It’s hard I know, I was there, and now I keep myself afloat by sheer power of will and my faith. It gets hard but sometimes if you flip it around for a different perspective it can give you the energy just to make it through the day. Instead of ugh I have to go to class be like yes I get to go to class! It’s cheesy.. I know. Seek help if it gets too hard. Remember that you deserve to be there. You’re smart. You’re capable. You’re worthy. You do your life at your own pace. You’re probably beautiful too. It comes from the inside out. I’m tired ranting now, good night.
while breaking up with a guy who wasn't going to school he said "there's something lonely about you" haahaha ok sir maybe because ive been hanging out in the library for the past 3 years bye
Alexie Kim your a moron lol
@@Extorting no u
@@Extorting you didn't even use the right your.
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RELATABLE!!!
The cost of college in the us is a shame, in most other countries it’s almost free.
I know, It's insane! Apparently a lot of colleges in the UK cost 1000ish pounds per year or roughly 1200 USD. I can't even imagine not stressing over college tuition all my life before college. I'm not looking forward to paying for college in a few years, hopefully I can get some sort of help from the State because I have so many other siblings in a medium-ish income household.
@@blossomnessstudios4446 The tuition in the UK is closer to 10,000 not 1000
@@queenperson6833 which is still cheaper than us
in us, it's like 50 to 30 thousand
crazy
@@allenk6373 agreed :/
@@allenk6373 also our debt is wiped after 30 years, and you only pay back small amounts relative to your income. So if you earn very little you’ll only ever pay a small amount back before it’s forgiven
The only “Greek life” I’ve experienced is in Greece lmao
i live in greece and life is shite 😂
Mood tbh
The real Greek life is going to a greek public university that you don't have to pay with your organs 😎
I'm a junior in college and my saving grace has been the disability office, and just being open with my professors! I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety and it's something I usually share with my professors before the semester starts, and I have been blessed with professors who understand my needs. If I feel overwhelmed to the point where I can't manage my workload, I let the disability office and my professors know, and they are usually inclined to make a plan with me. It's about making good relationships with your school and communicating! Please don't be afraid to break the stigma of mental illness because there are so many people who are willing to help!
I ended up registering with the disabilites services at my university towrds the end of my freshman year. Earlier that semester, I lost my grandmother and it took such a toll on my mental health that I ended up dropping two classes which made me go below 12 credit hours. That's when I decided to get registerd with disabilities. My instructors were accommodating and it was great to be able to register for my classes earlier than everyone else. It's not always easy to talk to people about these kind of things, but it's so important!
@@christinanguyen4715 i'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's always so worth it to get accomodations, so you don't have to go through these terrible things alone!
I wish I had known this years ago, I struggled so much through college
@@casedria I feel like not many people are aware about registering for disability services for mental health reasons because there's such a stigma around it, which there shouldn't be!
i developed a chronic disability towards the end of highschool plus an ongoing anxiety disorder and disability services was sO heLpFuL ! extensions, exam provisions, flexible attendance, time out passes- i wouldve dropped out w/ out the help schools are *legally required* to offer disabled students !!
My favorite TH-camrs talking about how college work is gonna wreck me. Going to college next year will be aMazIng.
Don't worry about it too much. Unless you have a job on the side that takes most of your time, if you study ahead of time instead of cramming (I know some people just don't have the time though), you will be fine. It mostly takes organization!
I wish you the best of luck. I only started high school last year so I genuinely hope the college system will improve (especially in the US) within the next few years.
One of the best things you can learn is how to do research quickly/effectively. It saves a lot of time and is well worth the practice
You'll be fine. If you don't have a crazy hard major it doesn't have to look like this. Time management is key.
Use RateMyProfessors.com. Trust me on this it is invaluable.
In Greece, University is completely free, and it is considered more prestigious to go to a public university here rather than a private. You can also apply to be funded by the government if you need extra money to leave your city, if you meet the grade requirements. This video made me appreciate my country so much more!
Same in Italy!
I find it rather ironic that a country as rich as the USA would not help their students at all, while European countries who are not the wealthiest have the basic decency to give free education to all their citizens.
@@meameam They spend it on the military instead smh
How do you think we’re safe rn? They use that funding to keep people out and from taking over the country!
That’s super cool!! Also the USA does that to keep the poor people poor and they rich just keep getting richer.
my college isn’t even giving us a spring break, we get two “mental health days” and a “no assignment week” but we still have class. No rest :(((
She's so well spoken and articulate but I can't even get my order right after rehearsing it for 10 minutes.
All nighters are super common all over the world in artistic degrees (design, architecture, illustration, etc). I had a professor who said that you can't have more than a C if you slept the night before a deadline. It took me 4 years to develop a regular sleep schedule.
Omg this. I’m majoring in media (focusing in film) and am literally amazed when I hear students say they went to sleep before 10. I feel like my creativity peaks around midnight 😐
teresamesa agreed, my entire photography class was regularly in the darkroom till 2-3 am
darkrooms are hellish twilight zones yall at 3am no thank you i’m out
I agree with your professor lol totally relate
I think it's common for any major. I majored in photography and now I'm doing computer science. I had to work hard and stay up for both
Student from Russia here. I'm kind of "student forever" if that makes sense. My first major was astrophysics and it was hell. People who study physics and astrophysics don't know what sleeping is. One time professor even told one of the students to sleep less if they don't have enough time for homework. No wonder that half of the people there droped out or changed their major during first year. Also it's weird thing in our university but they lowkey hate physicists. If you have questions outside of your class you will never find anyone to talk to or if you do they just don't care. I switched to chemisty after my second year 'couse I wasn't in a state to survive four more. I had to start studying chemistry from first year again but I don't regret it. It's way less overwhelming and people at the uni actually care about chemists. But sleepless nights never went anywhere.
Im a first year astrophysics major and I am dying.
Where in Russia are you from?😊
50,000 STUDENTS are HOMELESS???????? WTH! How is USA "#1"???
It's a lie.
They are really not😅 I think no country is truly #1, that would be ridiculous and unrealistic.
@@Clarabella-cl6gb it’s all about who’s the least sucky, not the best imo
number 1 in military and propaganda
@@sch4891 propaganda would have to go with North Korea
The boomers live in a delusional bubble, “well when I was in college (50 years ago) I worked two jobs (50 years ago) and when I graduated I was able to buy my own home with the high paying job (50 years ago) that I got right away without five years experience in XYG. Why can’t you?” Well....🙄
As for college pressure, I can relate. I just finished my bachelors and decided to take a year off before my masters due to the exhaustion. Everyone has to do what is right for them to keep themselves sane.
The community colleges in my area are already in talks of opening up the parking lots with security overnight for homeless students living in their car
Wow.
I feel like a lot of people actually fall into the Spoon Theory field since so many develop mental health issues at that stage of their life, i.e. anxiety is very chronic for most people developing it. I mean the whole mental illness is just your body regularly having a fight or flight response and using up energy. Having financial struggles on top of that AND living in a system without good health care (I don't know how you Americans do that) sounds devastating to me.
Yes, health insurance in college is a problem for some who go all out at parties and end up almost losing a toe (my school is party-crazy)
Hearing anxiety described that way is so validating...even with medication, I've been experiencing major burnout and it doesn't help that my parents have burned the importance of grades into me. I'm at the point where the thought of even looking at my grades makes me feel sick.
As a French student I have never felt so grateful to study in Europe. Tuition here is free (in most places), we have many aids and have never even thought about some of your struggles. What is wrong with the US honestly it’s like they dont want you to succeed :(
"If you need to hear it you're doing amazing sweetie"
Oh man I didn't know I needed to hear it till I heard it and cried. Being a single Mum and full time student is HARD.
Debra Bros you got this !!
In Australia, all of our student fees are covered by the government. You only have start paying the fees back (no interest is added) when you earn a certain salary per year. Pretty great 🤠
Until you actually have to start paying it back lol
@@SammyPebbles I'm Australian so I agree with LiamHavoc, it's actually a pretty good system. You only have to start paying it back when you make over $50,000AUD per year. And even then it's only like 5% of the debt each year. And in Australia, our university degrees are subsidised by the government, so my four year course will only cost like $25,000. It honestly baffles me that it's so normalised to have incredibly high student debt in America. How do people ever pay it off???
It’s pretty much the same system in the uk - don’t pay anything until u earn above £25000 and then upwards of that it is relative to your income. if u haven’t payed it off after a certain amount of time then the debt is written off
not the government, the taxpayer
when she said "...cause im introverted and lazy" it hit SO HARD i liked immediately
The C’s get degrees thing is actually something that keeps me going. I was a straight A student until I graduated high school and I chose a college program that is not only hard but also doesn’t play to my strengths as a student. So sometimes , for me anyway, a C is as good as an A now bc it’s most often a product of really hard work. I’m still struggling with not equating self worth with grades but I think I’ve taken a big step as a person understanding that as long as I’ve been trying my hardest, those grades are more than good enough, even if my hardest doesn’t lead to the best grade
(Also, I am in Greek life and pretty much my sorority is my friend groups and where I get the most support as a student bc there’s so many different levels of experience. But I’m in a sorority that focuses on academics and everyone is in the same types of majors so I’m sure it’s a lot easier for me to make grades a priority than others)
College is so much harder than people expect, and your point on how people always compete over struggling to complete work is so true!
phoebe t yeah, I’m a freshman in college and it’s only been about a month and I’m already struggling. I’m still trying to buy books and I always come home exhausted. What also sucks is that I see my old friends who are seemingly enjoying college and hanging out with their new friends. It’s giving me hardcore FOMO. I had to literally delete my Instagram and Snapchat apps because it was affecting me negatively.
Do a video on Highly Sensitive People (HSP's) which make up 15/20% of humans. We are more susceptible to anxiety, depression and burnout.
Yessss !
Yes please! I'd love to see this!
Yes, pleasee
Yes please !!
Ooh I would love to see that
My physics TA the other day felt so bad about us having had midterms that she showed us memes for the first 10 min of lab class. That was unforgettable
i have 8 classes til graduation. I don't know if I'm gonna finish. college is the only thing in my life that's ever made me want to die
@Isabelle Gomez lol still haven't returned
@Isabelle Gomez nope. I still have 8 classes to finish up a bachelor's degree in Finance
@Isabelle Gomez =) thx for morale boost
and you take it easy! A summer semester should be one class in my opinion. A normal semester max 4 classes.
I'm in high-school and I'm already struggling bad
I had a love hate relationship with college. I loved the friends I made, and how close in proximity we all were to each other, so it was easy to hang out. The environment was great, and my campus was beautiful. But holy shit, the stress. I majored in engineering and my workload was insane. I finally graduated in may, and I have a pretty good job now that I enjoy. While I miss many aspects of college, I definitely do not miss the workload at all.
@@tiffanyferg I was lucky enough that my parents paid for a lot of my expenses, so I only had to work like 10-15 hours a week. If it wasn't for that, I have no idea how I would've done it. I have all the respect in the world for my engineering friends that paid for their own college.
Please tell me how you did to stay sane! I'm doing engineering and I'm so stressed! I have a scholarship so I have to take good grades but it's so difficult here! I really need an advice :/
@@taise653 The thing that saved my life the most was making friends in my major. Everything is so much easier when you have a group of people to go to when you need help with homework or to study with. Also, go to your professors for help. Make use of their office hours. They want to help you.
@@lasagna312 thank you a lot!! I'll follow your tips and hopefully I'll get better! Thanks again :)
Engineering school is slowly killing me, I really hope I can fine a good job afterwards cause all this suffering would be kinda worth it
I actually couldn't stop staring at your earrings before you mentioned the sponsor! They look so pretty!
I was a public health major, and a part of my class’ undergrad project was creating a conversation about food insecurity on our campus. Throughout this project a big realization was that college students are largely untraditional. Meaning they aren’t necessarily coming straight from high school, they aren’t supported by their parents, and they have may have cultural diversities that can prevent success or ease of getting through college in 4 years. Looking at food insecurity really focused on how over worked students are to the point where they have to choose between getting good grades, paying rent, and eating. And this conversation is different when also considering if a student is supporting their family or are considered a large part of their homes income. It’s sad stuff. Even sadder when you present this info to your school’s administrators and they basically shrug and look the other way 👀
When you were talking about Jaden’s video and about people making a competition out of not taking care of themselves for school, I think this happens because we are trained to value hard work and sacrifice. So when we compare our own struggles, we get to tell others about what we did in order to succeed. Basically we are saying “Feel pity and admiration for me. I did so much so I would succeed and fight against my obstacles”.
Sis you dropped this at the right time 😭👏
PLEASE talk about kids youtube. It's so weird and my little brother loves it and i worry about how it can influence him. Look up Mario puppet show. And i haven't heard of anyone talking about kids youtube since spiderman elsa shit, i get more weirded out by this though. Also hi i love you, you've become one of my favorite people on yt i just love your vibe
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I going to look it up right know
My lil bro watches it too. None of the characters make any sense and it seems pretty creepy to me but tbh I was watching weird stuff on TH-cam just a few years older than him but still
so basically what I'm hearing is that capitalism sucks
so what's the solution?
@@kittykittybangbang9367 A mixed government
As someone who is medicated for ADHD I literally have not told any of my university friends I’m medicated because I have no interest in selling my prescribed medication that I actually need, like yes I want my doctor to cut me off because I’m dealing
Feeling overwhelmed as a generation is so prevalent that I SWEAR this is why people are trying to make it all make sense via astrology and spiritualism. The two have honestly skyrocketed in popularity and I'd love you to see a video on this!!
This is wild. I'm currently working on a documentary to talk about the mental health behind college students because I believe a lot of students have or will develop deep rooted issues such as depression, substance abuse, etc. that is typically glossed over as just a "college experience" so it's cool to find this in my recommended. I personally left and got my associates this year because I felt that my mental headspace was at a dangerous place and that I honestly would find a way to be independent without a degree. Absolutely loved this video definitely gave me a lot more insight!
nickagrinzone wow please come back to this comment and share your documentary when you are finished!! this topic hits close to home and i would love to watch it
Im ready to watch the documentary
I would love to collaborate in any way, I went to Sac state and graduated this spring of 2020, and that stress and burnout was real after I studied. If anything I’d be happy to watch the documentary!
so i'm currently on both ends of college (I'm getting my second masters degree and teaching freshmen classes at my university). Part of me really feels for these kids--the money they're spending on school, the stress they're under, all of it. But... I have to say, some students have vastly different work ethics than others. I cut corners where i can (as in, where i won't get caught if the class promises to be fuckin cool about it). i scan the textbook and tell them not to buy it. I'm as easy of a grader as i can be (basically, i look at the rough draft and compare it to the final draft to see how much work was put into revision, or if they were listening to me). my main goal is making sure they come out of the class better writers and thinkers.
But. I'm on my third year teaching now. My first year, students were really on it: they knew to show up to class on time (i usually excuse a tardy if they have a good excuse or it doesn't happen frequently), they knew not to use their phones in class, they turned their papers in on time every time, and more importantly they listened. last year, I noticed a slight change in that behavior (for both of the sections I taught) and this year, I have students straight up playing games on their phone in my class, showing up 20 minutes late with starbucks and being shocked when that counts as an absence, and getting upset with me because i take off points if an essay is late (they're allowed to ask for an extension if they contact me 48 hours before the deadline--and even on that i'm often lenient).
It's not really a pride or respect thing that bothers me (I'm not a real professor, after all. i only have my MA and am still working on my MFA), it's more just the disregard for the class and then the surprise that they can't eek by and get an A. And I'm not sure it's because i'm a young woman and look younger (24 but I get told I look 18) or just that the recent generation has serious issues with their attention span. I lose them within minutes. i had a student ask me two weeks into class how he was supposed to know what readings to do for the class and i wanted to explode (like that syllabus we spent 50 minutes going over on the first day?? maybe that?)
Idk. i don't wanna sound like an old asshole and really want to be patient with them, but from my perspective... i think high school kinda failed them in explaining why it actually is important for them to put effort into caring and teaching them how to be self-sufficient in organizing their course load.
Anyway, PSA: It is a million times easier to hand out As than actually take the time to grade papers carefully and insightfully, so if you think your professor is grading you harshly because they hate you, I promise they're not--because that is way more work for them. go to office hours if you're struggling. don't take 8am classes if you're bad at waking up early. start the essay when the assignment is handed to you. pay attention in class. college is fucking rough, i'm there now. but my main piece of advice is plan ahead and be attentive when your instructor is talking.
also, if you're not doing great in a class... maybe don't tell your professor you got trashed at a party the night before the friday morning class??
you have my sympathies
How small do you think a generation is? You're younger only 24 years old and 3 years into your teaching at the time of writing and are already pulling the "this generation" card. All the students you have taught thus are the same generation, including the first year students you praised. It's all down to the the individuals. Please don't generalize everything to an entire generation. A generation is a huge and diverse group of people that come from a wide array of backgrounds. I'm sorry if I'm coming off bluntly but I feel like the concept of generations is abused so much nowadays. Let's move away from the generalizations acknowledge some things are just down to the individual and can't extended to describe some group they happen to be part of.
I’m a graduate student in mechanical engineering. My undergrad took me 3.5 years, which required me taking between 18 and 21 credits a semester. I graduated with honors. During that time I was a structures lead for a satellite which I am now publishing a conference paper for (and is going to be launched on virgin orbit’s maiden launch!), interned for one of the top aerospace/defense companies in the world, helped build and race an off-road vehicle, worked on the development of a robotic fish, and had a completely unrelated 20 hour a week job. I didn’t go to parties but I always made time to exercise an hour to an hour and a half an evening. There were some weeks where I was exhausted but people always asked why I never looked stressed. Here’s how I did it.
1) utilize your off time-class schedules are weird and perhaps conducive to being unproductive but USE THEM. If you can finish a problem for an assignment (or assignment) in the half hour you have between classes, then you will have so much more time later. Having an evening is way more rewarding than small little breaks. Little half hours, or even fifteen minutes, add up.
2) I’m not a fan of those agenda type lifestyles where you block out your homework and everything but it’s important to know when you’re free and when you’re not. Get some sort of schedule- homework for this class on this day, and so on. Once you’re done with the tasks you’d planned for the day, stop. Don’t do anything else. I would tell myself “thermo on this day, fluids the next, engr analysis the next.” Stephen King does this with his writing. He’ll make a word count goal, and then he’ll stop working for the day once he’s reached it.
3) don’t study with others. I know this seems counterintuitive if you feel like you need help but I’ve done the best and spent the least amount of time on work when I’ve done it all by myself.
4) physical activity. It’s pretty easy to ignore your physical and mental health, but sports activities (I play all sorts of intramurals) allow you to be social and to get some needed exercise. I think everyone who exercises feels better.
5) hard =\= bad. Degrees aren’t easy. They take discipline and they take determination. Getting tired is okay. Giving up when things get tough isn’t. If you find yourself asking why you’re still working, remind yourself it’s because you’re getting a degree that will help get you the job you want, and that once the degree is done, you’ll have gotten so much from just one extra hour of staying up, or studying extra when you don’t feel prepared even if you don’t know if you can.
6) if you’re tired, take a break. Take a half hour to clear your mind. Do something you enjoy like a hobby. If it’s late and you’re tired, then stop. My most productive hours were 5 AM- 8 AM. At 11 or midnight when I started getting tired, I’d put my stuff down and sleep. If I could get five hours in a row, then I would call that good. The morning I found especially productive because I was calm and refreshed. I’d get up, make some tea and oatmeal, and do my work. I found getting up early helped me focus better in class as well because by the time my 8:30 classes started, I was mentally awake.
7) avoid distractions. I know it’s really hard to sit down and just work for three hours straight. I would put my phone in another room, grab my airpods, and then press play on an instrumental Spotify playlist so I could have some background noise. The first five or ten minutes you have the urge to stop and fidget. To get one thing on paper or one paragraph typed and then do something else. Resist. Keep going. Before you know it, two hours will have gone by and you’ll have made significant progress in your work.
Agree completely! And I have 10 years of post-secondary education, a masters, professional certification, and am six weeks from having a Ph.D in a difficult field, so I know the grind rather well.
At conferences, us Ph.D students would get together and play the "who works the most" game. I won every time, because I had a ridiculously high teaching load for someone in my field at an academically rigorous institution. But what I didn't tell other Ph,D students is that I probably slept the most too, and had the most "me time". I spent time reading books on productivity and learned from those how to schedule "deep work" and not waste time on useless busy work. And I listened to fun fiction audiobooks while cleaning my house or any other spare moment when I was using my hands but not my brain. It gave me a break from the real world that I desperately needed, while still being productive. The weekend before my dissertation proposal defense (aka the presentation that determines your entire future) I actually took a vacation with friends, because there was nothing else I could do but work myself into a tizzy... I live with the fear that my Ph.D student friends will someday figure out how "lazy" I actually am. But it isn't lazy. It is self care and knowing my limits. Research indicates that after about 45 hours, people experience exponential diminishing returns on productivity compared to the effort they put in. So rather than banging my head against the wall when I reach that point, I take a break. The hard part is deciding what to do in those 45 hours, and guarding that time like a momma bear guards her cubs...
And its turned out very well for me. I just accepted a tenure track job at a prestigious institution. So my "laziness" did not kill my career.
there must be a difference in the american credit system, here an undergrad is 30 each semester lol
anyway 5 hours of sleep is not enough for everyone but im glad things worked out for you
o o full time is 12+ hours aka 3 classes per semester. Most people take 4 classes, and it costs extra money (that must come out of pocket, so most can’t) to take more than a certain number of credits like no more than 18 at my private university. So on average, people take 15/16 hours (4 classes) a semester at base price.
Just graduated this month with my bachelor's!
Congrats! 🌟
CONGRATULATIONS!
Congratulations!
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Congratulations
I've noticed when it comes to school related hustle culture that if a highschooler has too much on their plate, people assume they're spending all their free time texting and having a social life or anything beyond doing school and chores and sleep is looked down upon. Once it comes to college, people seem to assume that the ones who are having a hard time are wasting all their time and money partying. You mentioned the homeless college students and immediately I thought "so many people would say they're only homeless because they're partying." It's awful.
Also, between watching these videos and taking a class, I got an add for a college in the middle of this video talking a out how important it is to get a degree. 🤦♀️
I think I may be in the "Cs get degrees" category so I've never killed myself studying for a test or burning myself out over an essay. The day my thesis was due I was still writing it, so that should show the kind of laid-back student I am. I'd rather just get by and have my sleep and mental health in tact rather than strive endlessly to get a slightly better grade. So long as I pass, I'm happy. Bragging about lack of sleep is weird to me. I think I pulled two all-nighters during my English degree and had one sleepless night due to stress but otherwise I valued my sleep.
That being said, I don't have the easiest time in college. I got a BA in English and Media Studies and it was a complete waste of time. I think everyone should take a mandatory gap year after secondary school because I hadn't a clue what I wanted to do at 18, and I'd say that's true for a lot of people. You can't get those early-20s years back and I wish I'd realised that. Now I'm in my final year of a whole other degree and it's a much better fit for me and I'm happy most of the time, but there are still struggles.
I feel like we're fed this narrative that college is the best time of your life and you'll have so much fun, make so many friends, be so inspired, meet so many people (i.e have a lot of sex), and when that doesn't happen, as it didn't/isn't happening for me, you feel like you're wasting time or missing opportunities. The ideal I had about college definitely didn't live up to the reality.
From an argentinian student, yes, sleepless culture is very much a thing, and for me it started in high school, around 14 years old, people started pulling all nighters for some periods. It is also worth noticing that a lot of people here start working at an early age because of the crisis and stuff, so they have to juggle that from young. This is a personal thing, but my high school is considered one of "the best" and yeah I have pulled all nighters a lot, there's also a certain degree of glorifying not eating enough (influenced by the crisis and lack of money for some families), and yeah, I have had to go to the doctor's office bc of low blood sugar and some of my friends too because of that and lack of sleep. It doesn't help that we're in a crisis (I know I repeat this a lot, but it can really affect a lot of aspects of your daily life) so there's constant anxiety and we're more prone to mental issues (Argentina was rated the most unhappy country).
One the other hand, college is free and with good education, so we don't have to worry about that, but the work load is a lot too, and the same problems in high school get worse. I'm only 16 so I'm basing this in stuff friends that are in college tell me. Getting a job is kind of really hard, and believe me the minimum wage is definitely not enough to survive.
this was literally me in high school with straight AP's and dual enrollment and extracurriculars lmao. i felt so burnt out by the third year
I did theatre, tech theatre, APs, concurrent enrollment, and a full time job as a shift manager. I still got a 3.9 GPA!
My first year of college was a breeze in comparison. Plus, I didn't have to work that year (I had worked through Junior and Senior year of highschool)
college literally destroyed my mental health and almost killed me. I'm happier nannying. Worst 5 years of my life lol
becc lubb oh god you were a super senior. I am so sorry
@@sabias3932 tf are u trying to say?
@@sabias3932 tf are you trying to say?
2 suicide attempts in my junior year, trust me, take the five years and then duck off that sad train
tiffany: I can't even stay up until midnight
me: watching this at 1:58 am
3:15am
This honestly strikes home for me. Any of the STEM degrees require you to do a crap ton of difficult math and science classes that usually have a LOT of homework associated with them . Most of us STEM grads all look back and shudder at undergrad memories because there was nothing pleasant about these classes. You are stressed, tired, and scared you’re going to fail everyday. Worse, you don’t even get to do anything fun because you’re always in class, labs, or you’re studying. Pretty much you only interact with people in your classes and most of them are there only for classes and don’t give a crap about you
"Most of us STEM grads all look back and shudder at undergrad memories because there was nothing pleasant about these classes." Damn, I honestly thought I was the only one. Mind you, depending on who you are and where you study, STEM isn't automatically challenging, but you best hope that you have no other problems during that time, or you're in for one _hell_ of a ride...
@@fetchstixRHD you are 100% not wrong there… it’s a crazy ride in college
The spoon theory is for people with chronic illnesses but it was also how I felt when I was battling depression. I would go to school and be so tired and everyone would keep repeating to just do the work and I was screaming inside how I had already done so much! I had stood up from my bed, and showered, and ate, and organized my backpack. And all those things sound so little and trivialized and stupid to be tired from. But I just felt like that. And no one understood.
Ok so talking about your adderall section, I was prescribed adderall in 6th grade by a pediatrician who never once tested me for ADD. After a few years I couldn't function without it.
Fast forward to college and I start abusing it more heavily. We're talking taking 60 to 90 mg a day plus some instant release tablets. I was pulling an all nighter twice a week so I could make it to my 8am class cause I wouldn't wake up otherwise.
I quit cold turkey my second semester and had to drop out, suffered from severe anxiety the next couple years and have finally gotten to the point were I feel somewhat normal about 2 years ago. I still suffer from anxiety every so often unfortunately.
@@tiffanyferg Thankfully I'm doing much much better. My job field is stressful, but I'm hoping to save some money for my transition and hopefully getting at least an associate's degree later on.
Chloe R I’m sorry you went through that. My mind is blown by how little information was provided to you while using such a dangerous medication. You should NEVER EVER quit adderall cold turkey, it is extremely dangerous, most of your current health problems are probably caused by that.
I was a good student in middle and high school, without much stress, so i always thought of myself as smart, and i`ve heard it a lot as well from teachers and other students.
But uni destroyed my self-esteem completely. The first year I was really trying so hard, but was barely in the upper-middle of my class. It was frustrating and i sort of 'burned out' and started doing bare minimum required to stay on scholarship.
I was focused on school and failed social life - here comes anxiety, social phobia, depression.
It`s so frustrating when you do your best, then talk to teachers and feel like the most stupid piece of shit. Hate this 5 years of my life.
Yeah, and i`m from Ukraine, liberal arts major, community uni, but i`ve managed to fail even this. Oh, yeah and dorm with 4 people in a room.
I'm watching this video a good decade after I graduated college and it's giving me so much anxiety. I swear to God living like that was traumatizing. I remember nearly crying every morning when my alarm clock went off. I still feel guilty for ever allowing myself time to slow down. This really is an issue and I have so much compassion for all you college students out there.
I never pulled an all-nighter and I'm going to my 4th year of uni. That's because i had no social life 👍🏿
hard relate
Same though 🤷🏼♀️
Saaammme lol
I'm starting university next week. Burnout is SO REAL. I just came up from a really dark and existential period of my life after graduating high school. I did some research and it turns out that dark/existential feelings come from chronic burnout, a.k.a attempting to achieve high standards for an elongated period of time... Needless to say, that's been me for the last two years. It all makes sense now.
Anyway, I'm slowly learning what I need to be able to function as a human and be productive at the same time.
Since late 2018 I've been working full-time while going to college. In 2019, I entered my second year and my workload more than quadrupled, I've been taking 5 classes while working full time, trying (and failing) to maintain my own apartment, and all that. For years I've struggled with caffeine addiction (of a very serious nature), and I went 8 months clean. Then the stress of 4 classes and full time work caused me to relapse and I got back into drinking so much caffeine that I started seeing a resurgence of some heart problems that nearly killed me three years earlier. COLLEGE NEEDS TO CHANGE!