8 Secrets of a Healthy Mind
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- Sadly, in most cases, mental illness is a chronic condition: not a one-off, but something that’s likely to recur in the future. Coping requires us to accept this - and put in place a strategy for managing our symptoms over the long-term.
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"We would - of course - like any encounter with mental illness to be as brief as possible and, most importantly, to be isolated and singular. But the reality is that for many of us, the illness will threaten to return for visits throughout our lives, it will be a condition to which we will be permanently susceptible. So the challenge isn’t to learn to survive only a one-off crisis; it’s to set in place a framework that can help us to manage our fragility over the long-term. Some of the following moves, practical and psychological, suggest themselves:.."
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" what looks like a normal life on the outside is a singular achievement given what we all are battling on the inside"
ThIs is the line that resonated with me the most. Thanks for capturing it
I too, really loved they put that line in there.
@MatthewPassia i am totally agree with you. This is the line that i quote to my diary.:))
Thanks
Yes indeed! Bravo us!!
The timing is impeccable. We never really know what people are going through behind their smile. This is why I try to encourage everyone I encounter🌻.
People are icebergs , we only see 10%
That's a very kind and optimistic approach to life. Good work! 😇
I don't smile
@Lola S. You are an angel. I try my best doing the same.
@@mrloop1530 Thank you. I appreciate you🌻
0:42 acknowledgement
1:18 mental management
2:02 a support network
3:13 vulnerability
3:48 love
4:28 pills
4:58 a quiet life
5:26 humor
Thank you.
Learn something new or a language. I don't know but it helps me a lot.
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This is possibly the most understanding and unstigmatized content on the subject of long term mental health that I’ve ever come across... most videos, articles and blogs on the subject aren’t made for the people who HAVE the illness- but rather for people who know someone with a severe mental illness, to help your friends and family survive your mental illness. Content like this which is directly created for the person dealing with the illness is exactly what mental health requires.
Edit: Thank you for this.
Very well said
so true.
"We should take pride in our early nights and undramatic routine, that its not a weakness" thank you, i have been wondering if i should push my sleeping schedule in order to do more work but i know it wouldnt make me happy and healthy.
yes! it's finding that fine line between healthy amounts of work and satisfaction with that is difficulty, but should be encouraged more.
Sleep is everything
Keep working. Sleeping eight hours a day is a healty routine and you will see by it, you will achieve more than you sleep less and work more.
Whenever I think there isn't a topic you haven't covered, you upload a new gem! Thank you! Thank you so much
Indeed !
It’s almost surreal.
I wish to visit the School of Life London
Self development is a priority for me.
That hair!
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 ❤❤❤❤
Beautiful hair
to everybody, a big warm virtual hug to you. things will get better, rest but don’t quit. take care🌻💛
thanks dude, really..
Same back to you✨
Don't quit*
Thank you! You too... 😊
I really needed your hug thank you 🤗
This couldn't have come more timely for me as I'm going to get professional help for my OCD, depression and anxiety. Thankyou so much.
Good for you. You deserve to be happier.
Me too! You're not alone ❤️
I am on the same page anxiety and depression.
You got this mate
I am recently diagnosed with Adjustment Disorder 😐
"and most of all accept that our illness from the outset was rooted in a deficit of love" wow that hit hard and is pretty spot on!
I was wondering does the "wrong kind of love" counts for "deficit of love"
cause I must certainly had plenty of the former
I’ve been feeling sluggish, irritable, and blue lately. During these frequent low points-which occur more so than not-basic tasks like getting out of bed or showering feel like monumental tasks let alone other more mentally and physically difficult tasks. I’m not sure how much longer I can tolerate the exhausting nature of existing.
Please make a video for caregivers/close supportive friends. They are desperate in need of knowledge, skills and fuel to help their love ones.
Give them love
agreed, we mostly pay attention to those who are "hurting more", while thinking they're the only one that needs love and support. more often than not, they leech off of people who support them, thinking it's justifiable because they have it bad. i struggle with cutting off people like that because i don't want to be a terrible person.
but i think school of life would think it's unwise to cut off relationships with a constantly self pitying person because everyone else around an immature person has to be strong and wise lol.
@@marcie557 everybody knows van Gogh
almost no one remembers Theo
This video is so important. It needs to dubbed in other languages as well. There are so many people out there who need to watch this, but they don't understand English.
How can I contribute to the translation of videos? I'm from Brazil and I love the videos of School of Life. It is valuable material for psychotherapists and people who are trying to improve their personal development. I am available to do the translation into Brazilian Portuguese.
Thanks for the video and congratulations on your work!
Also, remember that there are licensed mental health professionals who spent years honing their craft to help with these issues. Don't feel like you have to tackle this alone. There's no shame in seeking outside help.
Ha! And that's the kind of thinking that gets patience into trouble, these people have no personal interest in you at all. They're only in it for a paycheck, just like your plumber. Try and heal yourself for make it through the best you can, but for God's sake stay away from these people!
@@jackwarner2444 that’s what people don’t realize it doesn’t matter how many hours they have studied these illnesses they will never have as much hours as you in your own body and thought process
@@jackwarner2444 I think that's quite a cynical way to look at the world. I have many friends who are in the field and care deeply about the work. They study for years and stay current on new methods, take extensive notes for reflection, design tailored exercises to meet someone's needs, and so forth. Of course it's a job like any other, but it doesn't mean they all see it as a purely financial transaction.
That said, I also agree that it's equally important to work on yourself. Those things aren't mutually exclusive. No one can solve all your problems for you. They can provide you guidance and insight, but only we can make the final lasting changes ourselves.
@@NickNotas I'm speaking from experiences of tens of thousands, possibly hundreds of thousands of people around the world who have been poisoned by people like your friends, had their lives stolen from them, decades gone, shortened life spans perhaps up to even 20 years off your life, mental acuity problems, disassociation, depersonalization, why literally the list goes on and on! But you're going to sit here and defend those pills to the last minute! Well, what you're really protecting is their income, right?
And one comes out on the other side of treatment a complete chemical mess and in more trouble than they ever thought they could be possible. Before you come on here and defend your friends who are doling out drugs that are harder to get off of than heroin (did you know it's actually easier to get off heroin?), Maybe you ought to do a little research other than listening to those friends who are being paid to say those things???
And these pharmaceutical companies are lying to doctors so they have no idea what they're doing, and neither do these very well-meaning friends of yours who you're describing. At least that's what they're going to say once the patient starts assigning responsibility for what happened to the doctors who prescribed medications. Now you're threatening their practice! Even though they're completely responsible because you never had the prescription pad in your hand one minute!
How do doctors know what's what when they're being fed lies by the pharmaceutical companies?
And if you think that when the crap hits the fan in the middle of the night, or week, that you're going to get one of these yahoos on the phone! You're going to be shipped off to a drug treatment center and treated like a drug addict!!!!
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT.
But kudos for trying to defend your friends. I hope I never meet any of them.
If you think another individual or organization such as a company/doctor (ha!) has your best interest at heart... Well then why don't you swallow those pills with a big glass of water.
Pills will do nothing for you but give you further complications and keep you from recovery.
Now that's a fact.
@@NickNotas Please describe to me how pills provide you with guidance and insight?
6:04 I dared to tell someone about my problem and they just ignored it and used me. I loved them deeply... but I got through it all on my own and I'm getting better day by day! Love this channel!!!
Can we just appreciate the time and effort that goes into the animations in every video. They are awesome! I would love to create an animation video for the School of Life someday.
I needed this right now.
I have had depression for a decade now. I have just started taking medication for this the last 2 months. I've been isolating more and have just started being able to look in the mirror and say i have a mental illness. It feels crazy to say it. I feel crazy for saying it and it's scary.
Stay away from westernized medicine.#issatrap
Same here. Just over a decade. I don't even know how being normal feels anymore. My "normal" is the depressed anhedonic personality now. I don't know how much longer I can take this life.
💪💪💪 reduce what you can reduce 😁
Talking to the mirror helps me just to externalise my thoughts, like just check in with myself see how it's going. it's a bit weird at first but you will never feel worse for doing it!
Stay away from non medical professionals who talk shit about medication. Yes, the side effects of SSRIs can be difficult to manage, but they saved my life at some point. I wish you the best in the process of healing.
Some of us have so much traumic history that it's impossible to work through it all.
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@MrSea11281 Yes, I wholeheartedly agree with you. The toxic shame deteriates your mind, spirit and life. Acknowledging the bad, giving it another place to go and be heard, can really release a lot of your suffering.
Take care 💙
Such a beautiful and empowering message!
What a sweet voice delivering comforting words. Thanks 🙋🏼♀️💕
I needed this today
This channel is better than many therapists. The videos just say what people are exactly feeling. The writers of this channel are mind readers.
Love and courage to us all who battle or guard against our mental illnesses. May we all find the courage and comfort we need to both survive and thrive x
you have taught me more about myself, even more than what I think I already know.
Really appreciate this channel. Its like the friend that I always silently and unknowingly craved. Gratitude.
Silence IS the primordial enemy indeed. Thanks for promoting openness School of Life, it's what we need the most.
I literally watched that again and wrote it all down. Thank you.
You’re videos are the best, you don’t stroke my ego. You make me realise how I am hurting myself, and showing how I can help myself.
And this is why peer support groups / communities are POWERFUL 💜 great stuff School of Life
There are people who are too self forgiving, who feel their worth is paramount. That too is mental illness.
exactly so! life is all about balance and finding that balance is what is difficult, at least for me
to its extreme, it leads to weakness by only activating the soft internal voices. when this happens, one drowns in self pity (exaggeration of compassion). I thought for a time I was 'healing' when in truth, it was just a memory lane I always enlivened when I thought I 'wanted' self love.. of course there would be crying. It had become a pattern for me. Sure there was empathy but I felt really weakened. I no longer voiced my opinions because I gave others perspectives air in my head as well.
What I concluded from the experience? everything is possible to achieve. everything can be learned and experienced....
If this isn't the most beautiful video you guys have posted then I don't know which one is. Amazing! Love the one's dear to you with passion and without hesitation. You can't be there for everyone, but for those whom you can be there like a PILLAR. Happy Healing Guys!
It has been almost 20 years since I had depression. The first few years were the worst. Feeling miserable, suicidal, lack of self worth, etc. Because lack of education about mental illness in my place, I didn't even know at first that what I have is called depression.
But it does goes better. It's not the depression itself that it's cured. It's just you're getting stronger being able to withstand it. Nowadays most feeling that I got is just feeling numb. I don't feel miserable or anxiety anymore. Suicidal thought only comes up on my worst days. I don't know if I have to live like this for the rest of my life, but I'm ready. It's constant battle and struggle yes, but I'm willing to adapt and overcome this day by day.
after 9 year of fighting depression and suicidal thoughts i see no hope hopefully i die soon
Thankyou. I cried aftr seeing this. For weeks i was numb. This video finally entered my soul. Its alright. I have reached so far. I wont give up.
Good for you! Be your own BBF. 🌞
I’m fully aware of the absurdity of certain thoughts and perceptions during episodes of depression, but my mind still stubbornly fixate on those negative thoughts and the accompanying physiological responses make me feel like crap. I can engage in mental Jiu jitsu an come up with numerous reasons I should feel differently, but I still feel like crap.
I find that I’m much more emotionally resilient whenever my diet, sleep, and physical activity are on point. Should one of those things fall by the wayside, the others come tumbling down as well and get back up become more difficult the longer I neglect myself. Nearly everything then irritates me, I become prone to attributing malice intent, and more things getting under my skin.
Diet, sleep and activity are a great help, i agree! I think when you feel terrible, and you come up with reasons for why you should feel differently, it actually might come across like you are putting yourself down for feeling a certain way. It's negative in and of itself. What helped me a lot is making the idea that "there are no wrong feelings" my own. Resentment for example is a feeling just like hunger or cold. The intensity and type of feeling you have is exactly appropriate and understandable, you just might not know why.
When things are really rough, maybe it's best to just stop trying to fight thoughts, and do it when you feel better. Fighting is stressful. Relaxation should be the first goalpost. Living beings can't reason well when they are hurting.
Just know that in reading your comment I relate so much and I want to let you know that you are not alone by any means. It feels like such an isolating lonely place because everyone around us seems like their fine and we’re not - which simply isn’t true, we’re all just good at pretending.
It doesn’t matter how many times you fall down the important thing is that you keep getting back up. I know how exhausting it is and it’s so important to treat yourself with enough respect and grace as possible, as you would a suffering friend.
And you’re right, trying to keep the balance of sleep and rest and exercise etc is enough, without thinking you’re not good enough. You are enough as you are, just keep going and be gentle with yourself
watching sol as tears stream down my fave has become my favorite passtime
This is something I'm battling in therapy.. I've been ill for so many years that the recovery has been insane. Nurturing self love seems impossible, when you learned to dismiss every feeling except anger.
It's possible, though. It's not easy, but eventually you will also get better.
My depression is under control (aka not having many months destroying myself up) for almost 2 years and only now I perceived some motivation to do what I can like.
Sometimes my mind wants to wander aber I don't allow it. The people who had these diseases for a long time find that place comforting.. It's easy to get there, but really hard to leave.
Don't give up, guys. It will be better.
(I've been struggling with depression for 14 years, so it's been a real ride to know what is me and what was the depression, but I'm managing it)
Wonderful advice. The biggest breakthrough I had in dealing with my mental illness was realizing that my depression was something that would not be cured completely, but managed.
Thank you for this. I just got diagnosed with depression about a month ago, and learning how to deal with that new information about myself and how to relate with my illness long term was something on my mind constantly. Thanks for the impeccable timing, as always.
Believe me Clara. Take depression as any other disease. An headache, cough or a flu. If you are give pills, take them as prescribed but gradually supplement them with good diet, exercise and mediation. Depression is like any other disease but some treatments are available only in your internal cabinet.
You have no clue how beautiful video you've made ❤️❤️❤️
This channel is a gift to humanity. Thanks for this video.
I'm Borderline and I have anxiety and depression. I've been doing this stuff and feeling much more mentally stable for now. I've been happier, less anxious, and I haven't had a suicidal thought in months.
Haha yeah me too! I have 4 personality disorders and that's my most severe. It's very nice to see someone else with borderline on here 😁
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I love these videos so much - they resonate so strongly with what many of us must be going through. We are conditioned to always carry on which is important, but we need to also realise that healing takes time and wounds run deep
I'm glad you guys understand your audience and bring on more wonderful videos about mental health! Thanks!
You are enriching & saving lives the School of Life team, I’m beyond grateful for you!
Thanks, I have been very worried for my bestfriend since she told me she has diagnosed severe depression. Now I know I have to be very patient. I'm trying my best even if it's a little. :')) This make me cry.
You are a wonderful friend 💖
Wasn't feeling good, kept telling myself, "sometimes it's ok to feel down. And then this video popped up. School of Life does it again!
Excellent....and it all begins with acceptance. Not a passive acceptance but an acceptance which begins where we are and calls us to action with a love for ourselves.
I've been down this road, and I've turned to the solutions that you present here. These solutions are the right ones - at least I think so. And I AM proud that I have been conquering this terrible spectre in me in all its debilitating forms that have haunted me for so long. I considered myself a mentally strong person, but my mental and physical problems really took me to task. My heart goes out to those who feel they are very weak and are only at the beginning of their recovery. I hope you'll find a way. I guess all i can say is have patience with the healing of your body and mind, learn to listen to your body as well as possible, and if you find the right healing method, there WILL be a day when life is better, then another day when it's even better, and so on. Eventually you will enjoy again the things you enjoyed before like a good book, children playing in the warm sun or being with someone you care about alot and knowing that your commitment to beating this illness is making their life and your relationship to them better - maybe even wonderful - as well. I know this well as I used to do physically therapy for months without any noticeable change. Yet, I have continued to do this therapy 5 to 6 times a day. It's been 11 years now, it isn't over but it's a lot, lot, LOT better. Hope this helps someone.
Cutting out negative thoughts is so important! When we wallow upon our negative thoughts, that reinforces the habits of negative thinking. It encourages catastrophising and worrying which leads you nowhere! I have made a video myself on this topic ✌️
This channel is the best thing that happened to TH-cam. And to us, through TH-cam. Your videos keep me going.
I need to agree with other comments about how timely this video is.
I just had a major professional setback amidst a personal, anxiety-and-depression laced crisis. I was wondering on the how was I going to pull off or rather fend off this sickness enough to not die to causes related to them.
Once again, School of Life to the rescue! Thanks for being a beacon of light in the middle of this chaotic world. Thank you, thank you thank you!
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You just need a social network that is both vast, helpful and free from toxic individuals. Wow thanks I'm cured.
this came out in the right time.
Trying to deal with my internal conflicts
i can see animations are getting better and better. very nice keep it up!
things like those improvement keep me wanting more videos
You have no idea how much I needed it today. Thank you
Will watch this every morning.
Opening our eyes and ears and all senses to an attitude of gratitude, and forgiveness, helps much in overcoming much.
The more we push something away; the less we want it to happen, the more power it has over us. A good chunk of the suffering lies in the tendency of our minds to wish the illness away
Well said; what we resist persists. Better to focus on the solutions presented, bit by bit increasing the good things leaves less time for the things that do not serve us 👍🏻
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Well said. 😇
Man, I haven’t watched School of Life in so long... I missed these little videos.
wow im in the process of recovery from sexual trauma and this vid really helped me cuz the process has been so long and ive been so impatient thank you
I too am a survivor of sexual assault. It was NEVER your fault!
Hang in there! Recovery can be a rocky road. Altough, with adequate support, unconditional love and kindness, it gets easier with each passing night. ❤
Take care. 💜 May you find solace.
I teared up at the last few lines. Thanks for this.
it seems like you made this video specially for me word to word,im thankful for this
The validation in this video is making me cry... what a great video
Is there a way to apply Alain's voice for my virtual assistant
Your videos always make me feel better when my mind slips toward darkness.
Thanks for making these wholesome videos consistently.
Maybe this is the best video I have ever watched on the school of life
Thank you !
Such an important video! We all need to learn this!
This video made me cry. Poetically written, thank you.
Beautifully stated. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much school of Life ,a very good video .
Thank you very much. Muito obrigado. From Brazil.
Crucial timing, thanks a lot.
Thanks so so much again for these videos, which keep me always going. So i know that there are other people thinking like me when it comes to these terms of sadly still taboo topics in our societies nowadays. Hopefully it'll be a whole lot easier in near future to be more open to talk earlier about ones psychosomatic issues
Thank you!
I'm in dire need of a friend I can actually confide in
I've been confronting my mental struggles all by myself and I don't think it's working
We can chat sometime.
Hey you're not alone. you can get in touch any time you like
GameRider. 🙋🏽🤙🏽
hit me up i’d love to talk!
I don't play games, but Good with everything else haha.
Thankyou for keep live a life until now, you are stronger than you think ❤️✨
this is really good. thank you.
You touched a nerve with this message … thanks so much
This helped me so much thank you
You have many great videos, SoL. This one was superb.
*Sometimes we have to stop being scared and go for it!!*
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Thank you for this
Thank you ❤
Yeah hasnt been a good or bad week. and that scares me. Thank you for this
We are good enough as we are, I will tell it to myself every day from now on, 😊 thank you
Congratullations, the videos are constanlly improving and giving a better representations of emotional states, or patters of behavior. This is very usefull. I'm very greatful for the incredible content, that you provide us. May you ask, for the members in Brazil get subtitles, please?! For more people be able to acess this wonderfull video. Thanks for everything!!
Love your channel. The animation accompanying in this video is fantastic in supporting the narrative. Brilliant work on all fronts. Please intergrate this blue headed character in upcoming videos.
I just found The School of Life today! More people need to see these videos.
Thanks School of life! Very helpful! I would also add physical exercise.
Great message. Thank you
Very well done. Thank you. 😊
Thank you.
Thank youuu ❤️
i appreciate these videos so much
I've come back to this video countless times
This made me cry. Thankyou
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What a gorgeous video... I love how you combine deep, dark truths with funny images. I also love the speaker's voice; soothing, sympathetic, calm and slightly vague-sounding? Kinda like listening to Luna Lovegood XD
Most mental illness is an acute reaction to a toxic environment regarding a particular individual (psyche). If you leave, the mental illness does also. If you stay, it becomes chronic; and if you take medication for the symptoms, it becomes debilitating.
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I laughed out loud (lol) so much
thank you for the troll face haha