The Best Way to Face Difficult Times
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- Life is - it goes without saying - for the most part a tragic affair. But being clear-eyed about the horror shouldn't prevent us from taking great pleasure in the things that go right; we can laugh on our way to the gallows.
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“The arguments for approaching life in a grave, serious and unsmiling mood are overwhelming: we are clearly a profoundly wicked species, we continually perpetrate monstrous suffering on one another, our greed and viciousness know no bounds, our minds are fickle and largely out of control, no one gets through existence unscathed and everyday is bad until - eventually - the worst of all happens. The only people one could imagine smiling through this kind of horror show would be the still-too innocent or the actively deluded…”
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The White Russian from The Big Lebowski
I thought my life couldn't get any worse, but then I realised I was writing in the comment section after hitting the like and subscribe buttons, truly a new low.
I try to find the funny point in every bad situation. I think that life is already too suffering for us, we shouldn't put more in it.
For me, stoicism was the answer I was looking for. It is there with you at your best and most importantly at your worst. There's too much to say about it, so if anyone is curious, you can look it up on the internet or read a book like "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius.
Great video, but ay ay ay - the U is silent in Velázquez, por favor:
/bel ATH keth/ in Spain
/bel AHS kez/ anywhere else
The u is always silent in the "que" combo in Spanish: queso, qué pasa, etc.
Edit: Yes, I realize the irony of correcting someone's pronunciation on a video about being more lighthearted, but given Mr de Botton's love of knowledge and self-awareness, it seemed an ok thing to point out. No harm intended. Queep up the good work!
Best advice I ever got on living lightheartedly: "Once a problem stops being a problem, that's when it becomes a funny story."
This is so good!
i like that
Couldnt agree more
And that's the beginning of a long, deep depression
Because the realisation that that same "funny" story might've killed you is just depressing
@@appleslover Doesn't have to. That's up to the observer. Been there myself. I'm still here, and I'll be damned if it'll depress me. I overcame it, so might as well smile.
So, in a nutshell: if nothing really matters in the end, might as well concentrate on the good along the journey.
Yes, exactly.
Might as well just kill myself
@@isaacyip1998 While we could list a hundred thousand "might as wells", not all of them will be relevant to the premise of the video "How to Live in a More Lighthearted Way".
@@zaphodbbrox Death is lighthearted.
It's up to you how you choose to look at the world if everything you do matters or not. In any case, you are forced to do something, but you can always choose your own path - given that you succeed with that path. Otherwise, someone will choose it for you, and in that case - you can be sure to be miserable. And although I agree with the message, being lighthearted all the time will simply not work. Everyone has their ups and downs in life. That's only natural.
I’m honestly using this line the next time someone tells me to cheer up for superficial reasons: “Bless such efforts, and those for whom they work”
Nice one
Hey cheer up!
TTYL NRN she lied
@@emitrex I agree. She did lie.
😂😂😂
5:02 "Are you sure this is safe" you know that guy was a legend 😂
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
"It’s just the monstrous illusions of our ego, which give us the
impression that we count, and then torture us that we don't count enough..."
Yes this hit me too
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
This also reminds me of a scene on The Simpsons where Homer has to giv a kidney to his father. He keeps going towards the hospital with determination, and then running away screaming, and then he settles on running into the hospital while screaming. Good compromise.
Good compromise, and funny. A great way to learn to laugh at ones self.
lmao
It's funny cuz it's true.
Genius
hahahhahaa. that made me laugh
"Just because we are all doomed doesn't mean we can't have a good time"
-Optimistic nihilism community
Kurzgesgt enters the chat
Thus spoke Zarathustra.
Absurdist quasi emotion
I like this, so very true!
Call me
*Memento Mori* - when you know that everyone is going towards the same fate, suddenly, our mundane problems become minuscule.
Was it necessary to use such heavy words ,bro?
But telling yourself that your problems are unimportant, is bad too. Especially for people who already feel worse than others. It's like forcing oneself to eat something that disgusts us, just because poor children in Africa don't have anything to eat, so our problem is insignificant, and we should just be happy with what we have. I don't think that's the way.
The Pope i had the same thought back when i was 15 and i still deal with it. What am I supposed to do then?
@@claukarmatica It is not about to let oneself die, it is an attitude before the injustice of life, it is to mock at the world and, if we are going to die we are going to do it our way, this is cope mechanism, not a solution, if you think about it, you are more likely to find a solution with a challenging attitude than with a defeatist one.
Great Hussain
To be lighthearted is to go with the flow of life. Ego wants to control. Instead learn to let go!
Go with the flow, laugh a little more, and keep things in perspective. 👍
Amen
Funny that this is an ego criticising the ego
i hate it when somebody says 'let go' as an advice. it has become a common catchphrase that everybody is using nowadays, regardless of the problem. i also find this approach dangerous because when somebody is complaining about something that is important to them and in return get the response 'let go', they are puzzled and angry. 'let go' is 'i don't care about you or your problem' while the other is only looking for an 'i feel you bro' reassurance. the easiest thing to do is to say 'let go' but where's the limit? when is it appropriate to say let go and when is it not? and i hope you agree that there's more to life than just going with the flow, some things don't just happen by chance.
susrev88 Agree with that. These same people telling that you have to let go, have already reached their main goals, or have satisfied their own needs or are in better situations than you and I bet they are incapable of giving up what they have to live a "healthier" life. This is funny.
I use to think living lightheartedly meant having a level of naivety but now I realise you are correct, it’s not because you don’t see the distress around but you just choose to live amongst all the chaos in a better way. Being unhappy is very exhausting so why not choose happiness where possible. I know that it is not always possible to have such attitude especially when things are hard but we mustn’t be so hard on ourselves with the frivolous things always. Thank you, as usual.🙏. The wisdom & wit of this channel never ceases to amaze me.🤣
You can never know how many lives you’ve saved with your videos! Thank you.
So true
“Miserable is predictable,” I love that
me too 😅
Took being homeless to learn this. Happier than I've been in years :)
"you take yourself too seriously" I was told as a kid. Now, at 60, I realise my problem has been that I took THEM too seriously...
As someone who is profoundly nihilistic, I still smile when a child looks at me.
Pharmakon ❤️
Same, babies are cute.
Pharmakon what a pretentious sentence. Honestly, you are so disgustingly pretentious.
@@KaneK1234 have you ever taken the test yourself, Deckard? Maybe you are pretentious to some extent too
@@KaneK1234 How else are we to cope with all the info and rules in the cosmos?
If we understand somewhat and that version matches ourselves inside then that's not pretending, even though we might be wrong.
Ig I should just call you god. Pls help, tis your world.
This animation deserves its own separate tribute. It is mordant yet lovely, complementing Alain de Botton's wise, funny words so perfectly. It's a small masterpiece, and that, of course, is the best kind. Brava and bravo you brilliant creators of art and love!
I believe it is a tribute in itself. Part of it feels rather Pythonesque.
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
That guy sitting in an armchair floating through space was spot on 😅
Mr. Alain. You are accused of interfering with other people's privacy. You can truly read my mind, my trouble. I was tortured for overthinking and your video pop-up. I can't describe how much grateful I feel towards you. Thank The school of life for offering 'mental shoulder' for me to cry on, to stand up and try to live with a new positive attitude . Bless you.
If I could find and maintain the inner strength to follow this advise I could release myself from this prison that is breaking my spirit. I have to try.
You have my sincerest wishes.
@@Rosenthal00 thank you. Nice of you to offer support to a stranger.
@@Me-np8fb well, we are all kindred in our brokenness...aren't we?
@@Rosenthal00 I have watched this short video 5 times already . I need to watch it 5 times a day so it sinks in . Where ever you are ( India I'm guessing by the name) I hope your day is a good one and remember the band that played on as the Titanic sunk , that's the attitude that inspires. Surrender and acceptance with Grace and detachment.
Chin up “Me” nothing is under control. I wish all the best, I wish for you blessings!
"I am nothing. Life is everything. I am life."
"Wisdom is knowing I am nothing,
Love is knowing I am everything,
and between the two my life moves"
💚
Noice😢
Beautiful ❣️
@@everythingisamindgame9666 Have you ever seen the Key and Peele "Noice" skit? TH-cam it if not. Ye shan't regret it!
@@camez2345 thanks I watch its cool
Sri nisargadatta maharaj. Love that quote.
That is the key and the truning point...When you're alone and you decide to start to love yourself and keep going because you and no one else. This is the path to maturity.
I’m so emotionally invested in this channel! ❤️🌟
Thank you so much: we deeply appreciate you coming here.
"How to Live in a More Lighthearted Way"
*Joker:* Think of your life as a Comedy instead of a Tragedy
Spot on
What Camus was eluding to with Sisyphus
👏👏👏
All I have are lighthearted thoughts.
@akshay Viswambharan And that is, 'his' funny. xD
Which is relative ofc.
You want to truly be happy all the time. Focus on yourself, always try to improve, leave toxic people alone, and appreciate what you have. That’s pretty much it. Happiness is a choice
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
"True light-heartedness begins with an appreciation of one's utter cosmic unimportance and nullity." This is profound!
I now see "the fool on the hill" in a different way. The world will think you are a fool for laughing at life's tragedy, but they are in fact the fools crying over the inevitable.
Day after day
Alone on a hill
The man with the foolish grin is keeping perfectly still
But nobody wants to know him
They can see that he's just a fool
And he never gives an answer
But the fool on the hill
Sees the sun going down
And the eyes in his head
See the world spinning 'round
Well on the way
Head in a cloud
The man of a thousand voices
Talking perfectly loud
But nobody ever hears him
Or the sound he appears to make
And he never seems to notice
But the fool on the hill
Sees the sun going down
And the eyes in his head
See the world spinning 'round
And nobody seems to like him
They can tell what he wants to do
And he never shows his feelings
But the fool on the hill
Sees the sun going down
And the eyes in his head
See the world spinning 'round
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh
'Round and 'round and 'round and 'round and round
And he never listens to them
He knows that they're the fools
They don't like him
The fool on the hill
Ahhh good catch. nice connection
It ads up😶
Thanks!
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
This is probably one of my favourite videos of all time. I keep rewatching it. Really hit home for me.
The only tactical response to the horror of life is to defiantly laugh at it.
Laughter is the best defense, medicine, and mood lifting activity.
Bukouski much? 🍻
Amen Brother!
Nunnha B Maybe the laugh is fake. What isn’t?
That is true, I agree with you. The laugh is the medicine of our sorrow.
I like the slippery bits of truisms that come out of this channel. Now at 60 years of age i am 6 months divorced. Tears come so easily, regrets for things unchanged over the marriage are painful. But as of lately there is still out bursts of sorrow with unprovoked laugher spilling through, often one on top of the other. The situation is no different but internally i know that bathing in the pain doesn't have a good result. There is still work to be done and tears to shed but knowing that life carries on careless of the situation makes me get dressed in the morning.
I usually watch these videos to learn but this one seemed to say everything I do and believe! It’s a refreshing reassurance that I’m on a good path!
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
The visual effects of this is just spectacular
You say scariest things in most soothing voice!
This video is such a synchronicity to me. I NEEDED THIS
5:27 That one hit hard enough.
The Student fuckin right?
How wise is SOL ! Salutes to Botton and his team !
Thank you I really needed this
wish my therapist was this upfront and blunt i learned more here about myself than in 10 sessions
I needed this especially after reading through the inequalities and injustices of the current country I love and live in.
This is so noteworthy, human beings need many engineers like you Alain for salvation. Thank you for these films.
Your words at the end gave me delightful goosebumps
I slept in my bathtub last night due to not enough rooms, brought my night light and watched old tv show, one of the best mistakes I’ve made for now. Thank god for life and you reading this it’s gonna get better and we must keep going. This too shall pass old sport ❤️💐✨
This video made me cry. It is so true, all of this.
Yesterday I watched the movie "Amelie" again, and was reminded of what makes life unusual, happy, and bright. Like a Maxfield Parrish painting. Look at the magical side of life, it can be found practically anywhere.
It's 5 00 am and this put my life into words. Like lyrics to a song. Thank you from my heart dear Alain.
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. When I started my channel I didn't get much support from those around me. I knew my vision though and went ahead anyway. Don't allow yourself to be discouraged by the negative attitudes of others.
Well of course your channel will grow with a million videos having your comment with some kind of platitudes. Keep going though.
@@supersaiyanzero386 At least he's not as bad as that other guy with a channel who comes in and re-words the main idea of the video every time, like we all just didn't watch it. And people upvote him like crazy! Ugh.
@@camez2345 that guy.. is everywhere. even on videos that don't really connect with their content
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
I love this voice, if I feel sad or not good I listen to this voice and instantly feel better! ❤
I find a combination of mindfulness meditation, Stoicism and Buddhist philosophy to be the pillars that help me through difficult times.
Very good I must say after suffering depression for years that you're posts do give me a lift thanks
... :-)... Absolutely beautifully said!... the sky is always falling, and my head is always in the sand.... Deepak Chopra said the way to be mentally and physically healthy is to be carefree.
I've been thinking like this for about a month or so now after a particularly bad series of romantic blunders and honestly? Really glad that this is apparently a valid avenue to life I'm taking and not just the result of profound mental and emotional scarring. Thanks, School of Life for letting me know I'm not insane :)
The interesting fact about us is that as much as we realize we are insignificant in the world, we also realize we are all there is to the world.
"Let's surprise ourselves with some irresponsible laughter, the kind that takes a lifetime of sorrow to perfect."
1. There is a wonderful interview with Esther Perel on the " On Being with Krista Tippet" podcast. She is one of the best couple therapists in the world, whose parents were both Holocaust survivors. She grew up among other families who escaped from the concentration camps and she saw that you could divide them into two groups:
- Those who didn't die
- Those who came back to life
She says that there was a huge difference between these people. Those from the first group lived in morbid places, with their curtains lowered, always with a constant sense of dread and fear. ( Of course she doesn't judge them. Nobody can. )
But those who "came back to life" opted for joy, for play, they thought that if they survived they had to make the best our of this life. They would even make jokes about their days on the camps. Perel says that humour was a way of gaining control over what had been done to them.
There was even a comedy show on CBS in the 60's called " Hogan's Heroes". All the actors were Jewish and they were playing Nazi officers! Making fun of them of course. But imagine...They made more than 150 episodes of that.
2. Trevor Noah is a wonderful example too! He had a very hard childhood during Apartheid in South Africa. He went through a lot of poverty and other personal tragedies too: His mother was shot in the head by his abusive step father. It is a miracle that she didn't die! Trevor says that what he had learnt as a survival strategy is this:
"Turning tragedy into comedy".
You can hear a perfect example of this if you search on youtube his video: " My mom got shot in the head".
3. There is so much we can learn from children too. And also from the child that we once were. There are many ways to go back and remember and to re-connect with that child still. I love reading short stories and certain stories about childhood really help you a lot for this purpose. Tolstoy's story " Little girls were wiser than men" is a wonderful example!
You can find it online too.
4. What I loved the most about this lesson was the expression " registering every kind of heaviness and transcending it".
So it is all about being very brave and attentive, very sensitive and wise.
It reminded me of this wonderful quote by the Russian philosopher Michael Bakthin:
"Laughter has the remarkable power of making an object come up close, of drawing it into a zone of crude contact where one can finger it familiarly on all sides, turn it upside down, inside out, peer at it from above and below, break open its external shell, look into its center, doubt it, take it apart, dismember it, lay it bare and expose it, examine it freely and experiment with it. Laughter demolishes fear and piety before an object, before a world, making of it an object of familiar contact and thus clearing the ground for an absolutely free investigation of it. Laughter is a vital factor in laying down that prerequisite for fearlessness without which it would be impossible to approach the world realistically. "
Thank you for this wonderful lesson! I loved the animation too!
@@assasinatorczar Hello there!! Nice to meet you! Thank you so much for your time looking for this comment and for sending me such a lovely message. You made my day! Oh I am not a native speaker either and I am sure I make many mistakes that I don't even notice. But we still understand each other and that's what matters! Once again, thank you so much. I send you many greetings and lots of love!
Very appropriate given our circumstances right now.
Negativity breeds and grows in idle rumination. We all fall on the same trap, repeatedly, despite efforts. We should not stop our attempts to escape that fate, else we'll be imprisoned by it, forever.
Why is it these videos show up exactly when I need them?! ✨❤️✨
I'm very guilty when it comes to this. I live life extremely seriously and feel as though I'm doing something wrong when I have fun like I don't deserve it. It's a very vicious cycle.
Given that suffering is a certainty... for everyone... it's kind of our duty to use whatever means we have at our disposal to create as much joy as we can manage... at every opportunity... for ourselves and for each other.
Seeing it as a responsibility ought to make it seem much less frivolous! ;)
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
the school of life offers so much quality content bringing relief and peace to viewers, with every video. I must point out that this particular video is one of best you have ever published and I am so content I have seen it in my young age and now I can live the message - to surprise myself with a laughter in rough times and to accept that lightheartedness does not mean being naive or uneducated, more the contrary. thank you to all creators of the school of life
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
This comes exactly when I need it! Thank you, School of Life :)
I try to live like my dog. He’s always happy!
They teach us so many simple joys of life...🐾
@audiosamples : That's not it. It's because dogs live in the MOMENT. They're not dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. The more a person concentrates on the PRESENT, the better for them.
@audiosamples Dogs aren't dumb and neither was diogenes. Why be miserable it doesn't help with anything.
Beautiful, I wish this was taught to us all when we were 5 onwards.
I’ve really needed these videos over the last few days
This popped up on my FB feed and I knew I had to share it with my uni students. Midterms are on, the rush toward the end of term is bearing down, and it's still winter in Ottawa (think dreary and then amplify that). The entire class enjoyed it immensely, and we all felt a bit lighter. Just what we all needed. So, thank you.
That sounds like a great moment to bring it up and put things into perspective!
Literally needed this video right now
Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the light side of life
If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle, that's the thing
And always look on the bright side of life
Come on!
Always look on the right side of life
🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶
That should win a minimum of five TH-cam awards. I think I've seen the all-time greatest clip. That was exactly what I needed to hear and the images are hilarious when they're not haunting. Superb.
My mantra: just keep going, be the observer, there is plenty to look at.
That's what I tell myself everyday lol nice to see other see it this way too.
yes
A lot of these things can appear as a problem because you perceive them this way, perception is everything. Example someone close to you could die and you could see it as a bad depressing thing which is what the devil wants or you could bring out ur higher self and think they’re in a much better place now that’ll you’ll see each other again. I just made a vid on this and went in deep stay blessed ❤️🙏
This is the best video ever made. Thank you.
Thank you for this video! It sums up my stoic views on life.
Thank you for this. It came as a sunbeam in a dark despair filled moment.
My moment of irresponsible laughter, came at a most peculiar moment, in an equally peculiar setting. I was almost done with my mandatory military service, and was stationed in Yemen, at an actual war zone, for seven weeks, in a land where everyone looked like they were from the 80s for some reason. Anyway, we get ambushed during a routine guarding shift, and all of a sudden, I become utterly submerged in a state of silly awareness. An awareness of how silly it all is, how hopelessly mundane, and how peasants continue to fight other peasants for the sake of the upper crust of society, as no one does their bidding better than the riff raff. The moment that struck me, and lead me to irresponsible laughter in the midst of it all, was when both parties involved in this most ancient of dilemmas or situations to be more realistic, started screaming “God is Great” in Arabic to one another, and I just exploded hahaha. It added another piece of mundane silliness to the initial phase of silly awareness. Ironically, no one understood that clear epiphany of silliness, as everyone was dreadfully serious about that sentence, which made it more funny.
The human race will end, as everything reaps what it sows. Hence, chill, and take things easy. Oh, and fuck beautiful interesting people as much as you can, it’s fun. Listen to good music, read great books, travel, watch wonderful films, and eat sublime food. STOP succumbing to the temptations of idleness, and do stuff.
“ Nobody exists on purpose, nobody belongs anywhere, everybody's gonna die. Come watch TV.”
Morty to his older sister, whatever her name is.
Thank you for the excellent advice.
Thanks man!
Khalid, I love your comment! And yes, the human race will end, so why not just enjoy the ride while we can. Go hiking, listen to the birds, go to a festival, share a meal, be of service to someone, enjoy what you can. Cheers!
Thanks for writing this. It was a good advice.
You, and I mean this literally, should either go on speaking tours or do TH-cam videos because you did what few do: experience the most extreme of absurdities and came out a better person. Too many people get PTSD because they focus on the wrong things. I think you really could help people. That service could far outweigh your peasant military service because this new cause would be for the benefit of all mankind. The world really needs a voice like yours right now.
Hey! This is what im going through! Good to see that the light at the end of the tunnel exists.
"When you've hit rock bottom there's nowhere to go but up."
@audiosamples Then you haven't hit true rock bottom.
This made me shed a tear. How tragically beautiful.
Sometimes I need to be reminded that acceptance is key, and that I should just chill
“No one will ever particularly understand us or love us properly, and that is'tn a personal curse, but an iron-clad fact of nature we would do well to stop kicking against and to be constantly disappointed by.”
I laugh more than anyone else I know. At school, I have to restrain myself from giggling for fear someone may think I’m annoying or that I’m mocking them when really they’ve just made me happy. From the ages of about 12-17, I had one of the hardest adolesce I think I could have had. I had to force myself away from an abusive father, lose my remaining family, lose friends to suicide, and survive my own suicide attempt. I was very isolated through that time, and I barely found enough humor laughed at all for about six years. In 2019 though, I started waking up and realising that I no longer felt crushed under the weight of my mind, and I strongly believe that I laugh so much now, because I’ve already thought of all the reasons not to, and now I’m free to think of all the reasons why I should.
Well said... I like... All reasons to do it now because we've had all reasons not to...
5:22 This thing is one of the realest things I have ever heard. I can never thankyou enough School of life💜🌹
I was just walking back from the shop, musing on the unexpected and unfair implosion of my marriage, which happened a few months ago, when I was struck by the thought that everyone and everything, including the planet I stand on and the star that makes it habitable, will eventually die, regardless of what happens, what we do or don't do, or what we want, need, or think about the whole affair. On a long enough time line, nothing really matters, so why take it seriously? I was cheered by this thought. Then I got back to work and this popped up in my recommendations. Synchronicity? I'm taking this as the universe's way of agreeing with me.
Thank you so much! You bring me relief from my sorrow and self-hatred, over and over.
The more i grow old the more cynical and michavillian i become , but i still have a soft spot in my heart for animals and little kids .
kittenoholic ! Same
I would suggest learning to laugh at yourself.
Nothing wrong with that, but try to have some balance in your life and do other fun stuff now and then.
Wow ! I really needed this.
Thanks School of Life. 🌸😃
You're one of my favorite TH-cam channels.
The gallows humor thing really explained a lot to me. I put in my two weeks recently and honestly it occurred to me why I hit my limit so hard
The old crew at my job used to glare hell in the face and sit there mocking and ridiculing it. Every. Stressful. Situation. We'd just stand there pointing and laughing like "YOU THINK I CARE? I'VE BEEN DEAD FOR YEARS!!!!!! GAME ON BOYS! LET THEM COME!"
The new crew that I work with isn't like that. They whine. They cry. They say the job is cruel, the world is cruel, and everything sucks, we're treated wrong, we're being hurt
The energy change is too much to handle
One day me and my buddy were at work. We were chatting with the supervisor until it slowly reached shift start time, then ten minutes late... We all were gradually looking at the clock and at each other, realizing two people still hadn't shown up. And that it was going to be hell. Utter hell.
Me and my buddy both just looked at each other for a few beats solemnly, before he cracked a smirk and was like "I think we can get out *early*."
And I smiled slowly and was like "Oh. I'll race you."
And without anything else being said we both fucking ran for it like mad men and started hooving through the tasks
When someone finally showed up I was disappointed cuz I really believed we'd be out early
If that happened now it would have just sucked cuz anyone with me would have been fuming and crying and screeching the world is out to get them
It isn't about how wrong the world is to you
It's about how fun it is racing each other while the rabid wolves are on your heels about to tear you in half and how fucking amazing you feel when you both just barely escape, throw yourself across the bridge, burn it down, and collapse on the other side laughing hysterically like "WE DID IT! WE DID IT DUDE! WE SURVIVED ANOTHER DAY! HELL YEAH!"
We all are running for our lives
Some of us are running away screaming from the monster
Others are racing and whooping and hollering like "DUDE I ALMOST JUST TRIPPED HAHAHAHAHAHAH THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN WILD LET'S GO GO GO"
Why stare death in the face sobbing when you can flip it off giggling like "Motherfucker I've been sending you love letters for years and YOU DIDNT ANSWER MEEEEE so no I won't be going with you to dinner"
It sounds insane and that's the point. It's outrageous and hilarious
This is awesome!!! what a good attitude! LOL
Omg you’re my best friend in a nutshell xD he’s always like this and I’m like the complete opposite but I’m starting to see it this way. The work thing hit home, at my first job at a pizza place we heard some restaurant down the street just got robbed at gunpoint and one of the delivery drivers went, “Tell em to come rob us here! Go ahead, bring a gun - we got nothing to lose! LETS GO!” I didn’t get it at 15, but now ten years and 40+ jobs later I’m just about on the same plate lol
It can be really challenging to work in an environment where there's only ever negative reactions from other people. I worked for 6 years with people that I just had nothing in common with in terms of outlook... It was tempting to change in order to fit in and be accepted but it would have been too much to bear. In the end I just accepted that I was the odd one out and stood my ground, contradicting everyone around me. Over time they got used to me but I never did manage to convert anyone to my way of thinking. They were too set in their ways and I was always the new guy, even after 6 years.
Eventually I left, but I imagine that they are all still there, carrying on the same as they always have....
Oh God I wasn't expecting so many replies hahahahaha
But yeah it's all about attitude
And hell yeah hearing there's other people out there with this attitude 😂 with each passing day my cult grows
OK, the last paragraph is a thing of beauty XD Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it was a delight to read them!
This is the best thing ive heard in the past several years.
This is my favorite school of life episode ever!!
"are you sure this is safe"..... line of the day !!!!
Regardless where and what we come from, we move towards the same destiny.
For it's notion of "six feet under", that makes our worries minuscule. Nobody survives and that's beautiful.
No one survives, no one goes out with their inbox empty, and worrying never solved any issues.
We should stop, smell the roses, spend time with loved ones, and remember life is fun and it is ok to laugh (especially at ourselves).
So death is beautiful? bruh wtf have u been smoking?lol
These films are my weekly prayers
this helped me a lot
As both a clown and a gestalt psychotherapist, I cannot love or share this film enough. This sums up so much of what my entire life's work has been about. Thank you for creating this. One additional note: Gravity is rational, predictable and measurable. Levity is not. Levity is the prime mover. The big bang was the first joke. Knock knock... The universe keeps expanding
"Joy as an act of resistance" Idles
Brilliant, thank you for this.
"are you sure this is safe" lmao
Excellent video. I have lived nearly my entire adult life in this mode and I can tell you, it makes EVERYONE around you very ANGRY! But, for me, that made it all the more fun.
Genius and thank you for this lovely video
I love this video! I tend to take things not too seriously but some people tell me I should be a little more "realistic" or "pessimistic". I know very well life is living hell but why live in sadness when you can just have fun while you can
Lovely video! Much needed at these times when everything seems grim and too difficult.
Haven't seen the video yet... but I already know that it is exactly what I need in this moment.
"I believe in everything; nothing is sacred. I believe in nothing; everything is sacred. Ha Ha Ho Ho Hee Hee."
_"I am one with the Force. The Force is with me."_
Waat?..
Even Cowgirls Get the Blues
When you reach this point, through pure introspection and understanding and not fully from external sources. You can laugh maximally ig, if the feelings consistent. :3
I really needed this, thank you Alain 😊 and the SOL
I was thinking of being more cynical, but then I thought "what's the point?"
Not getting fooled, cheated and lied to by others - that is the point of being cynical. Sure, you're in a happier state of mind being naive, but that can get you into a lot of trouble.
@@True38 What you wrote was being realistic, not being cynical. Being cynical = believing everybody has bad motives = you are the first one who bring misery and stress to yourself.
@Ross TheNinja 😂 Good one
I used to be apathetic, now I just don't care