DEALING with DEPRESSION in THAILAND

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 ธ.ค. 2024

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  • @keepitreal1547
    @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Depression is very very real & only those who suffer from it's dibilatating & at times desperate ways, will & can understand.
    In most (but not all) cases in comes on through no fault of the sufferer.
    For those who have never suffered with it or any form of it, you're extremely fortunate not to have...it's very very real & a killer for some who arent strong enough.
    Please support anyone you think could be suffering.
    Take care Dave & all.

  • @MisterKN
    @MisterKN หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thanks for being upfront and honest. Alcohol is a major issue I feel for you. You have everything to live for not the least your young son. You mean the world to him. Keep your chin up mate, You are allowed to feel down from time to time.

  • @theprolorenzo
    @theprolorenzo หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Someone once told me that if you suffer from depression in your home country, moving abroad won’t cure it, you’ll still carry it with you. At the time, I didn’t believe them, but after relocating to Thailand, I realised they were right. and although the lifestyle here allows me to distract myself and take my mind off it. I'm still dealing with it.
    That being said, whether relocating helps or worsens things all depends on how well you adapt and how things unfold for you. If you’re unlucky and things don’t go as planned, it can often make things worse. There’s nothing quite as disheartening as traveling thousands of miles to a beautiful country, only to feel like you’re still failing at life, especially in a place like Thailand, where so many people seem to be living the dream. the only thing that I find helps, is not being so hard on myself and counting my Blessings.

  • @smoozerish
    @smoozerish หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I stopped drinking alcohol. That fixed my depression....its simple. It's not rocket science. Alcohol is a depressant. And a bad one at that. No matter how deeply depressed or suicidal a heavy drink or alcoholic is, they will never quit drinking unless they hit absolute rock bottom. Or die. Or see the light.

    • @kthetoo
      @kthetoo หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can drink non-alcoholic beer. Cheers! 😀😀😀

    • @matthewdyer4752
      @matthewdyer4752 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Look around you in Thailand and you'll realise how bad alcahol is.

    • @ChrisBird1
      @ChrisBird1 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Theres lots of Depressants out there ,Alcohol been one of em .. Plenty of proactive ,positive and successful social drinkers.

  • @mtsutphin3468
    @mtsutphin3468 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I enjoy your videos because I appreciate your honesty, and can relate to some of the frustration you express from living here. The only thing I dislike are some of these commenters - really toxic folks.

  • @iTsCrazyFish
    @iTsCrazyFish หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great video-honest and straight to the point. You tell it like it is, and that's exactly why I enjoy your channel! Cant wait to meet up with you and John Paul in mid December

    • @johnpaul8293
      @johnpaul8293 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Count me in lads..we need to set up a few drinks in the market in Dec. Any plans for a meet up D ?

  • @HairyPixels
    @HairyPixels หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Sorry another comment about the weather but it's really important I think. Europeans evolved to live in cold climates which have seasons that come full circle every year. We thrive through the adversity of the winter and then rebirth in the spring where we can release our pent up energy and prepare for the coming winter. If you live in a place like Bangkok with no seasons you're taking us out our natural habitat and this alone can have all sorts of negative impacts on your health. Never mind the fact we're living along side people who have none of us this in them and can never understand us on a fundamental level.

  • @malcolmmay2655
    @malcolmmay2655 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I find the best thing about Thailand, compares to England, is the human connection. As a single man, being in Hua Hin, for a few weeks, I've got to know people virtually everywhere here. Some ex pats but mainly Thai people. Plus I have a few interests and don't drink anymore. Compared to the UK where I shut the door and don't see a soul. Funny enough part of the reason I stopped drinking was I wanted to enjoy life and know what's going on, more so in another country.

  • @jonhobson3592
    @jonhobson3592 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Well done for being so open on this topic. I’m ‘happier’ here than I’ve ever been .. yes I have the odd low days for sure , & you certainly cannot choose where to have your moods or when the ‘man sits on your shoulder’ 🙏👊.. the weather , and ‘nice views’ here in bkk certainly helps 😊 keep going ! Eat well , rest well , exercise 🏃‍♂️ & water & drink less.. 🍺

    • @karlenzmann
      @karlenzmann หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well said 👍

  • @TribalFusion
    @TribalFusion หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Winter is crap, spring and autumn are not much better, summer is good. That's why I like hot countries, no winter.

  • @janmode6304
    @janmode6304 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing your experiences on how to deal with depression. Keeping busy, doesn't matter what, just doing things, having a routine makes you feel better. And once a month when the pension comes into the account gives a little kick of happiness. Also reducing alcohol intake is important, I now only drink beer in moderate amounts, stopped with whiskey and drinks in the bars. One beer a day you feel good on and avoid hangovers.

  • @roysayers5966
    @roysayers5966 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes when I go back to the uk in the winter months I get very depressed . But now I live in spain lots of sunshine . So thailand to spain is the best of 2 countrys

  • @KenBoon13
    @KenBoon13 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your candid talk/criticism. You think Ireland is cold? Try Canada. 6-8 months of cold every year..winter blues.

  • @milescreative4293
    @milescreative4293 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please stay honest, my Mate! Because I am just really like you! Thank you for your thoughtful 🙏kindness in your videos!

  • @seamusdoherty
    @seamusdoherty หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I disagree about the weather in Thailand. I prefer variation, a few cool months of the year would be nice.

  • @milansikela8383
    @milansikela8383 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great video, as all of your videos are. I've been to Thailand and several other countries in Asia and absolutely loved it. The Philippines was awesome also.
    In Thailand, I reached a zen state. Each time I went to Thailand, I would get into more and more of what I would call a zen state. First time I was there, I traveled around and saw all the sights, went to Cambodia and Laos, and enjoyed the nightlife. And then each subsequent time I was there, while still seeing the sights and enjoying the nightlife, I got into this zen-like groove. I had this zen wherever I went (Phuket, Chiang Mai, etc), but with each subsequent visit, I spent more and more time in Bangkok.
    Each person is different, so I'm not trying to oversell my groove as the end all/be all zen that I found it to be. Everyone has different tastes and they can find out what works best for them. But, for me, I had my routine which involved eating the awesome food they have there, working out in the gym, doing my writing (which I would love write my "Great American Novel" if I lived there), and seeing up to three different women per day. I know what it sounds like...but I'm not that kind of man. If anything, I'm shy and one of the so-called nice guys. But I felt like, in Thailand, nice guys don't finish last (and that relies on a nice guy having money to spend of course). I get it: it all costs money. Nothing comes for free. Everything is a business transaction. As long as you don't fool yourself and think you're falling in love, then I found that I was totally in my natural environment, totally in my comfort zone. Working out, eating delicious food, being intimate with beautiful women, and flexing my creativity through writing... the sheer zen of it all. Epic. It was a simple groove, but through that simplicity, I achieved a zen state. I could see the physical improvements in my body. I felt better about myself. I became more confident, more at ease, more at peace. That is what I mean by my "zen" state. I can only imagine what I could achieve if I lived there or even just had a six-month stay there. I would become a new man.
    Sorry for the long post. Meant to keep this comment short. But Thailand was absolutely amazing. Doing my groove and dialing in the zen state against the backdrop of beautiful weather every day (like you, I hate cold weather) and the excitement that Bangkok offers with its gleaming skyscrapers and massive malls and vitality of busy streets...just absolutely the best. I still went to see some sights...Muy Thai kickboxing of which I got to see the "Super Bowl" of Muy Thai in the form of the championship at Rajadamnern Stadium...or going to Wang Saen Suk Hell Garden (check that out sometime...it will spin your lid back).
    The only drawback for me was that I missed everyone back home in America. You can't have it all but, in Thailand, you can come close.

  • @Deadfoot-Dan
    @Deadfoot-Dan หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So I have had depression my whole life, a really dysfunctional childhood I often thought was the cause of it, tried Prozac once and it made things worse, so I have just tried to live right, and then I had my DNA tested, and boom!, I got my answer. I had two gentic abnormalities, one is a gene (MTHFR) that had abnormal copies from both parents. That means my neurotransmitters function at about 30% of the normal rate they should. I can't do much about it but it is nice to have a (partial) root cause

  • @paulmjprinz
    @paulmjprinz หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    -28°c in Saskatchewan Canada. I'll take that 7°c any day

  • @ChrisBird1
    @ChrisBird1 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good video ..Well done

  • @nathanphillips1504
    @nathanphillips1504 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I'm in Thailand now, I do think it's overrated personally. The weather is good, but it gets so hot you just want to be in air con.

  • @danielleeson3100
    @danielleeson3100 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Stay strong 💪 brother 🙏

  • @LeicesterPaul
    @LeicesterPaul หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Problem Shared is a Problem Halved 🙏🏼👍🇹🇭🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

  • @ChrisBird1
    @ChrisBird1 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I usually spend an hour learning Thai and have done for years( now Fluent) ,an hour at the gym or walking the beach , an hour with the opposite sex , an hour watching something kind of educational , an hour online planning my life /researching things/finances , usually an hour out on my Motorbike for a coffee , a fews hours relaxing with a few beers somewhere in town and an hour cooking . 15 years here now and still trying to get better at LIFE. But it sure beats working .

  • @HairyPixels
    @HairyPixels หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Thailand isn't a paradise compared to Europe it's just different. You're missing all sorts of essential ingredients of life which you take for granted and this can easily make you depressed. Btw, the weather in Bangkok is maybe the worst in the entire country. It's not cold but it's bad for other reasons and that affects your health too. Living your life in malls and AC controlled buildings has unintended consequences that compile over time and make you depressed too in my opinion.

    • @NEILBAGELSTEIN123
      @NEILBAGELSTEIN123 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree 100%

    • @ma3stro681
      @ma3stro681 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Exactly. Girly bar$ lose their luster after a very short time. Don’t know why my one would choose to live in Banger$ or Pattaya. 3 months a year in the Kingdom is enough for me …

    • @Black-Circle
      @Black-Circle หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      yawn. says the guy rotting away in the west jealous

    • @tommoran236
      @tommoran236 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s a paradise.

    • @GeorgeMcphillips-v6n
      @GeorgeMcphillips-v6n หลายเดือนก่อน

      Totally agree I go to Thailand for a couple of months a year and it’s so good to get back to home I live in Australia Sunshine Coast as you know it’s different not utopia

  • @amosquito1265
    @amosquito1265 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i suffer and am suffering from depresion i live in uk and this time of year gets to me really bad i hate it ther has been many times i have thought about endindg it all but luckily i never have

  • @DavidMcCann-pz2sm
    @DavidMcCann-pz2sm หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In Australia we have a label for depression..." the black dog " .

    • @athitaya6898
      @athitaya6898 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He mentioned Darwin but he didn’t mention monsoon madness.

  • @DavidMcCann-pz2sm
    @DavidMcCann-pz2sm หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Remember the old saying " an idle mind is the devils playground " so keeping busy is the trick to it. Maybe more work on your health and fitness might help, it worked for me.

    • @tombkk1322
      @tombkk1322 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If you’re going through some health issues as I am, it’s very easy to go down that depressive road. I agree staying busy does help but it doesn’t fix everything.

  • @davidbonas8262
    @davidbonas8262 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am 55 year's old, joined the arny when i was 16, served 26 years left the army moved to Thailand i don't even no how to spell depression let alone ever suffered from it

    • @adamclaffey-wc5fk
      @adamclaffey-wc5fk หลายเดือนก่อน

      You probably have dyslexia then

  • @jimsinthailand
    @jimsinthailand หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I had a student with Down Sydrom. He was never depressed. Happy as a clam in sand! 😂

    • @HairyPixels
      @HairyPixels หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Dogs too. I envy them.

    • @trickolas78
      @trickolas78 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      He didn’t have the brain power to think beyond basic needs

    • @ChopPlop-m5l
      @ChopPlop-m5l หลายเดือนก่อน

      He has no stress I guess

  • @robertenglish8744
    @robertenglish8744 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Do be"☠️☠️☠️😂😂...love the videos buddy

  • @snoba6392
    @snoba6392 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Its our life too

  • @franciscofredericci4081
    @franciscofredericci4081 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    26th November was in Belfast :) Great place

  • @gaudente1900
    @gaudente1900 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    depression is that sickness that comes when you have no money

  • @Wonderwall36
    @Wonderwall36 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Do you take medication for it?

  • @DeliciousTrips
    @DeliciousTrips หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi there, in which Area are you living in? The Condo looks quite nice! Im living near Rama 2 and want to move to another Place...maybe you have a Tip.

  • @danb5944
    @danb5944 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The only winter i like is japan all that snow makes you feel good even when its minus 5..but where i live in Melbourne thevwinter sucks really gets you down..btw no point escaping too darwin its 4 hours away might as well keep going too bali or Thailand

  • @franciscofredericci4081
    @franciscofredericci4081 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes :) luckily just a random bit of luck :) never depressed

  • @fazbell
    @fazbell หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For me, Thailand was the CURE for depression, not the cause. If you can't be happy here, you may be hopeless.

  • @johnpaul8293
    @johnpaul8293 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well done on the Vlog, another creaker of a vlog. Any chance of a meet up happening in December...We might be even able to get chewy to show up 5555. Is he still around?

  • @frederickmarch4503
    @frederickmarch4503 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Me about a few years ago lost 3 stones, started vaping took a few months to recover it was Xmas time.

  • @garystaff3617
    @garystaff3617 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good speaking it do interfere with life

  • @ranctil3
    @ranctil3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    An important topic for expats to deal with when moving to another country and leaving everything they are familiar with.

    • @athitaya6898
      @athitaya6898 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s called culture shock.

  • @H-tp8uo
    @H-tp8uo หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is a difficult topic and getting a consultation with a professional would be of benefit. There is an English doctor in Bangkok that you can talk to about your symptoms and may be she can point you in the right direction. Quite a few people have made videos with her and she seems quite thoughtful.

    • @consulthai
      @consulthai หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@H-tp8uo her name is Donna Robinson , google it. She can help with mental health. He should go and see her.

    • @tombkk1322
      @tombkk1322 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Would you mind mentioning her name?

    • @consulthai
      @consulthai หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @tombkk1322 Dr. Donna Robinson

  • @consulthai
    @consulthai หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Well , Dave,I think some of us ,subscribers ,already noted that you are depressed and use the channel as therapy and a confessional.
    We know that your best friend,the Leo cans , are the ones you use to dull your pain.
    I think, even though you're married ,you lack intimacy.
    Your saving grace is Harry but he is too young and not a mentor. He is your dependent as well as his Mum's .
    I'm not a qualified pcychologist but I think you need one and you could do with marriage counselling .
    Unless you get professional help your prognosis is not promising.
    You got to be proactive, your channel/s are not a cure .
    I think face to face teaching english in a classroom is better than online. You need human interactions, good luck and all the best.🙏

  • @Kevin-zz9nc
    @Kevin-zz9nc หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    If you can identify the source of your depression I believe they call it Reactive depression. For a lot of expats i think post thai depression is very much a thing after going back home. Long term life in Thailand could be depressing once the honey moon period is over.....

    • @Snortflakes
      @Snortflakes หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If you know why you moved to S. E. Asia you won't have any concerns about depression.
      Regrets, PONDEROUS, sadness etc. isn't depression but people use a blanket term incorporating these things.

    • @Steven-t9s
      @Steven-t9s หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I get depressed when UTUBE won't let me make comments unless I reply to a another comment.

    • @Black-Circle
      @Black-Circle หลายเดือนก่อน

      life is only depressing if you make the wrong choices and live a bad life.

    • @Deadfoot-Dan
      @Deadfoot-Dan หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Black-Circle Not true at all.

  • @jonhobson3592
    @jonhobson3592 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Shame you not turn the camera for us @ 1.25m 😅

  • @lostinbkk555
    @lostinbkk555 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Glad you are off the Vapes
    I arrive in BKK Friday for 6 weeks if you want a Leo 🦁 or three let me know 🍺

  • @Palm3s-to-palm3s
    @Palm3s-to-palm3s หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have on and off days of repenting from drinking 🍻 as well 😊 one day it will make sense

  • @Snortflakes
    @Snortflakes หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never had depression.
    Just not wired that way.

  • @Black-Circle
    @Black-Circle หลายเดือนก่อน

    not just 7oc but the sky is cast over every day here in the UK

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      300days per year perhaps, but not everyday.

    • @Black-Circle
      @Black-Circle หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@keepitreal1547 oh great mate. I will be sure to enjoy those 65 days of sun a year. thanks so much bro

    • @Black-Circle
      @Black-Circle หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@keepitreal1547 where I live has 50 days of sunshine in the north west. and then the clouds are being geo engineered. proven fact

  • @bobwelo
    @bobwelo หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @AdamSmith-xw1ez
    @AdamSmith-xw1ez หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I spent 13 years in Bangkok and come the end I’d really had enough of malls and air con. Took my child back to the UK and haven’t looked back. Thailand’s a great place to visit, but an endless chasing of skirt with only Leo as a friend is a pretty soulless way of life. That’s me btw, not you

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You missed the point of what Thailand is about, Bkk is a huge city in a vast Country, so vast & different to satisfy anyone.
      Chasing skirt & drinking Leo is not what Thailands about & it's a shame you thought it was...& more so took your child away from it, especially to England, a country that has huge problems & it's the youngsters that will be paying for it the most.
      In time to come, i'm absolutely sure you'll regret your decision, especially were your child is concerned.

    • @tombkk1322
      @tombkk1322 หลายเดือนก่อน

      7 1/2 years in Bangkok and I agree. Malls and air con seem to be the life

    • @AdamSmith-xw1ez
      @AdamSmith-xw1ez หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@keepitreal1547My comment was more tongue in cheek, but the host’s life in Thailand- wandering around air con buildings, school runs, being on the outside at Thai gatherings, alcohol, girl watching, massage parlours etc is not far off an Everymans’s life in Thailand, beautiful country though it is. I came back for my daughter’s education and now studying law at a Russell Group university is something she’d never have got staying in some rice paddy in Nakhon Nowhere.

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@AdamSmith-xw1ez
      Possibly better studying is the only positive about the UK, over Thailand.
      That said, could I take my child away from her own culture, her own familiar surroundings, friends etc. No.
      If I was to have a child with a Thai, in Thailand, then that's where the child would be brought up, atleast until old enough to decide themselves.
      As I've aged, I've realised there's much more to life than what career I or others may have, the financial draw etc...& that's because I chased it for many many years...when what really matters, is contentment & no one can decide that for another.
      But then again, we're all different & so all the best 👍

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tombkk1322
      & yet there's a huge country away from Bkk to be discovered.
      I've done it & believe me, those that haven't are missing out beyond words.
      It always baffles me how so many farangs stay in one place, without really getting to know the real Thailand...by getting out there & seeing it.

  • @eddie8pints804
    @eddie8pints804 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm sure it's your wife's behaviour that's causing the depression; she's taken away your peace.

  • @Snortflakes
    @Snortflakes หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You're wrong yet again but merely confirm my initial impression of you as frustrated/depressed.
    Thankfully I've never suffered from depression (or my other fear, i. e. migraine)
    Again you're projecting your issues to issue in the hope of connecting with others to 'normalise' yourself.
    Good luck with your depression, I'd hate to suffer from that.

  • @basvanlaarhoven3636
    @basvanlaarhoven3636 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Always a ladyto find for take depresions away❤❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂

  • @DoorCam-l7y
    @DoorCam-l7y หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stopping at 1:49....
    Depression from what....?
    Thai girl.... no... get another one Thai girl....!
    (Always regard them as shlt from beginning, and you never get disappointed).😢

  • @josephbrophy8113
    @josephbrophy8113 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Your depressed because you've no friends no money no life and your living in a box

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What rubbish & by the way, learn proper English Grammar & spelling.

    • @trickolas78
      @trickolas78 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Wrong on all accounts

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Shockingly wrong comment & by someone who can't write proper basic English grammar.

    • @singas2854
      @singas2854 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂

  • @NEILBAGELSTEIN123
    @NEILBAGELSTEIN123 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Paradise compared to Europe??? Have you been drinking all night ? 😂😂😂I love drinking beer in 7 celcius it tastes much better and you are never dehydrated.

  • @thailandreaction
    @thailandreaction หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm 44, I honestly don't believe depression is real. When i hear people say they are depressed I don't know how they feel but from where i'm sitting it looks more like boredom or monotonous routine.

    • @pulsar9354
      @pulsar9354 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🤦‍♂️

    • @Snortflakes
      @Snortflakes หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Possibly. However Depression is different.Unfortunately It's a real mental illness.

    • @GregDeman
      @GregDeman หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I suffered with it for years from my late teens to early forties and it was very real

    • @somkit9102
      @somkit9102 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Your disbelief only proves that you lack understanding.

    • @keepitreal1547
      @keepitreal1547 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      You're extremely fortunate to not have suffered with 'real' depression...though to say you think it's boredom in others, only says you're a misunderstanding individual.
      It's REAL, very very real & in most cases through no fault of the sufferer.