I loved this discussion. My best friend and I made a collective decision that we wouldn’t gossip anymore. We are going on six years now. Unless there is something that directly impacts our personal lives, we only speak about people in a positive light. We discuss our goals, progress, and developments. We’ve grown a lot since making that decision. I love it for us.🎉❤
Did this with my sister about 2 to 3 years ago and it just feels so much better . We’re not 100% there but maybe 90% .once In a blue moon we slack though and gossip 😂😫💀
@@poleeysstudios9294 I think if it’s something that directly affects you, it’s impossible for you to not express yourself and speak about how something is affecting you (we’re human). However, if you’re gossiping on a day to day basis then you do need to introspect.
Would you believe me if I said, I paused the video half way ta call a friend to iron out some issues? This video made me realise I'm being a red flag 😭😭 I'm so glad I called my friend because I love her so much... Thanks guys❤
Based on my experience, I have learnt that friends always show you how they feel about you, Indirectly or directly. Youd be amazed that the friend that never shows up for you, does the most to others. They may mistreat you not because they do not know how to treat you, but because they do not value you enough. Even if you tell them how they should treat you, their behavioural change will be short lived because it's a value thing. I have learnt to just accept and pay attention to how someone shows up for me silently and move accordingly. Indaba yabangani has sent people to early graves, the betrayal, tjo! I have acquittances and mutually beneficial relations but friends! tjo! My friend is Jesus Christ
That's not a friend. They don't even deserve that title if they are directly and indirectly being shady in whatever shape or form. Friends do not do that. Friends are honest ,straightforward, and upfront.
This conversation was such an eye opener, I definitely was a red flag in some past friendships,now that I am aware I can only do better. Thank you so much for this segment ❤.
M so touched by this topic, my friend always run to me wen she has problems or need something from me, wen she is happy, she dissappear, I will see her happiness on social😢😢 media,
Hi Buli. Thank you so much for this conversation. It’s inspired me to pursue new friendships as I had closed that part of my life due to deep hurt in the aspect of friendships. My red flags are 1) Friends who downplay my achievements. It doesn’t matter how little they may seem to the friend but they are an achievement to me. 2) Friends who compare my life to their other friends’ lives. I’m me and I am enough. 3) Friends who constantly want to achieve things before me & then belittle me when I get things first. Be happy for me, your time is also coming. And lastly, friends who always want to project what they’d do if they were in the same position, a silly example I buy a Hisense tv and they say they would have bought a Samsung tv. Then buy your Samsung when you can, I like & afford a Hisense tv. I know it’s time to let go when a heart to heart has been done & nothing really changes. The exact offenses are not repeated but the behaviour is repeated in different scenarios. Then I understand that it might be a clash of personalities or we’ve lost each other in terms of serving in the friendships.
@@refiloenkuna I’m so sorry you’ve also experienced this. I guess it’s a thing. We live in a self-serving society & that can affect our friendships. 🫠💔
On the ghosting part… sometimes the person KNOWS exactly what they did, it was intentional & they’re looking for your reaction. Sometimes silence is best. Why feed them with your reaction.
I love the way Katlego reasons and carries herself (well, from the times you’ve had her on the couch and from the videos she’s posted on her channel.) she’s A1 😊❤.
When Lebo said 'if you allow your friend's behavior that you dont like ,dont blame your friend when it blows up in your face you could be taken the responsibility to tell her' I felt that 😢and when Katli said "You never envy someone's journey because someone's shoes are hot" if friendships could be jealous-free we would be in safe spaces 😪don't have the need to hide ourselves 💡I always enjoy these friendship segments because I'm one person who loves learning from the wise people who are about Godly friendships or intentional friendships ❤❤❤❤thank you Buli for bringing these lovely ladies like yourself 😍😍😍
A red flag for me aside from a friend ghosting you is a friend who acts funny and gives the silent treatment when they have wronged you then come back like they did nothing shady to you. Like you ladies said “a toxic person knows they are toxic”. When I say I was clapping for every red flag and was introspecting at the same time. Yho no I loved the discussion and agreed with everything. Friendships are so complex and the more content there is on it, the easy it is for those that want to work on themselves ❤️🥰🥹. Thank you ladies.🙏🏾❤️. Had to watch three times because wow you guys spoke nothing but the truth.
I love it so much here, I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation, thank you for being such an inspiration my friend and leading such valuable conversations 🌸
i fully believe God led me here. oh how i wish it was so easy to remove myself when i have served my purpose in someones life. i am such a lover of friendships that even the red flags look green to me 🤧
I loved that as we get older our pockets are not the same, until we learn accept that, we will be able to appreciate our friends success that wishing that was us and appreciate what we are blessed with
Im in varsity and my entire first year I lost so much trying to keep people by overcompensating, buying things, showing up, a lot ! and in the course I was neglecting myself. Listening to this conversation I feel very seen and validated.
Someone asked whats the big deal with TH-cam and I said either than enjoying seeing people live well and getting countless plugs 🔌 TH-cam is like watching a visual interview of people whose perspective you like, even though you don't know them personally Such actual interviews are a reminder of my answer❤
I was dreading to watch this particular episode because friendships can be such a sensitive experience & I have been hurt so many times in friendships but thank you ladies for bringing this conversation up, you held it with so much grace and maturity. Kudos to Buli & friends ❤️. Very insightful 🙏🏽.
I have ended a friendship because this lady would copy everything I want to do or even wear, if I say am planning to do this and that and would tell her because am thinking she's my friend she would go do it before I could do it I had to cut her off shem. Also another friendship I saw red flags was one who she wanted everything to be about her, when u raise an opinion on something she would quickly cut u off and want to emphasize her opinion gore e be the right one. so friendships dynamics are a lot hey
This was such a hard video for me to watch. I may only be 21, but I've been scarred from friendships all in the name of pursuing sisterhood. But seeing you beautiful ladies gives me hope
Mina guys ngyasaba ukuphoxeka, imagine addressing something umuntu avele athi "we are not friends like that." This days we are so quick to call people friends kanti we are not their friends🤭. I also struggle with correcting friends gracefully and forgiveness. Basically most of the time, ndim owrong kwi Acrimony 😂🤭
Oh wow this conversation took me back to a friendship I was once in. Shame the lady was an amazing friend, I must give her that but the lies! Not wanting to take accountability of her actions and constantly wanting to justify her actions because “my mom passed away and no one cares about me”. I still care about her, want what’s best for her but there’s so many reasons it didn’t work out.
This was very helpful❤❤I liked it when Lebo said her sister has got friends and some are not working and some are not degreed but they love each other so much❤and they dnt even rank each other❤ "Honour ur friends equally"❤ I liked the part where Lebo said our differences as friends makes it even more interesting ❤❤Everyone person's difference add value in the friendship ❤❤❤
I feel so guilty right now and empowered as well.. I'm one of those who'd just disappear🤭🙈without communicating how I really feel about a situation.. and that takes so much out of a person... Feelings that aren't communicated are a killer. Thank You ladies.. Will surely do better going forward.
What a necessary conversation. Navigating friendship as an adult isn’t easy hey but identifying red flags even those that you pose and being accountable really helps.
Regarding ghosting; what if it's a spiritual thing (discernment) and you know you can't explain what you feel because on a fleshly human level, their actions are justifiable but something in the spirit is just like no no, stay away from this person? You can discern people's hearts and the Spirit behind their actions. The bible advices that we take drastic measures (pluck your eye out, cut your hand off if it causes you to sin) and so sometimes the Holy Spirit is very direct (and it can come across as drastic) with instructions like cutting someone out of your life. How do I deal with this ? I would appreciate your response. Also, thank you so much for these videos on Friendship. I have just entered my 20s and I want to cultivate such friendships as well. These videos are helping me become more intentional in my friendships.
My mom always says that your gut feeling is God talking to you. You sometimes get very weird vibes from certain friends and you try to downplay it but in your gut, you know that something is wrong. I agree with ghosting people based on spiritual discernment. It’s hard to explain to someone else because they’d only understand on the surface flesh level but spiritually, you know what God is trying to relay to you about that friendship.
Hhay makhosikazi ngiyanithanda yaz. U all nailed it❤❤❤ I have my precious gems and they all mean a lot to me n todae Ive learnt a lot. I hope to be a much better friend going foward
I for one believe that friendships must be organic cuz once you tell someone how to love/ treat you... you're now changing that person to be something/ someone they're not & obviously its gonna make them behave out of character for your selfish reasons (you wanna feel needed, loved, cared for & etc). Your friends are not YOU, they don't see, feel things like you & there's no way that they'll behave like you or how you want them to cuz now that's where narcissism starts. Let people be & if they're not your cup of tea then free them 🤷🏿♀️
Selfishness : friendships and relationships are the same, I agree with Lebos point the same way you want to be loved in your love language in a relationship same thing goes in a relationship….
Friendships are a lot tjo. I have friends ne, and yes I also fear nje ukuthi when shit ilhit the fan I may not have a lot of people in my circle, but I'd rather that, than deal with people that will stress you hey. I've had my fair share of drama. I was toxic and they were toxic, we learned, we grew but I'm ohk tjo. God will make a way. I can't put my heart and mind at risk just because I need people during the good and the bad. God will make a way 😊, sorry tle, this seems so negative, but I'm ohk. God will use a stranger to rescue me when the need arises, but I've been through so much because of friends. Even when you try to navigate, communicate and balance things, kodwa baku hurde abantu. Yhooo ngi sharp
But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:14-16 NIV On the point of contentment its so true. I've seen it in relatives, who have everything but because one is content in God, it brews something of others not being hapy about what they have , all though they have it all in your eyes! Shuuuuu deep conversation but must be had. Thanks ladies.....
15:20 Unfortunately I don’t agree here… if someone is constantly treating you (and most likely others) badly, it’s a red flag and the cue is to leave because you can’t change anyone. If someone doesn’t value you, it’s just clear, you know they only like you when it suits them.
A great conversation ladies, definitely something I never thought I needed. Adult friendships are really difficult to keep up with but we learn hey. You guys are very wise, thank you❤
I enjoyed watching this installment/episode. So good to know that there are good-fearing females who know how to build authentic godly relationships. God bless you, ladies.
I just want to press like a 100 times for this episode. Makes one introspect and self reflect a lot. Thank you for this conversation ladies, because adult friendships are so tricky ♥️…
Buli thank you so much for opening up this platform to talk about adult friendships. We really thought it was automatic once we left varsity but yey!!!
Thank you so much ladies, I’ve experienced most red flags in friendships and ignored them. Learnt a lot from this and I know moving forward, it’s going to help…❤
This is such a painful conversation to me 😭. I have had friends that i loved dearly, would move the world for them without hesitation (because i love hard and will show up for you no matter what). But without any conversation or DM or anything, i was ghosted by EVERYONE and cut of from the group unanimously. And these friends were my close circle that even my family knew very well. I woke up one day and no one was talking to me, to the extent that they would plan events and not include me. But still turn around and make me feel like " why didnt you come?, I should have know about it". The pain i felt from this caused me to realized that I was the fool. I was so so deeply hurt that i got depressed. It took me years to recover and be okay with it. This shifted my approach to friends... I hesitate now, i check and try not to invest myself (i basically protect myself and my heart). So yah, this conversation is needed.... Choose your friends wisely.
I was so reluctant to watch this episode because I felt like it’s going to trigger parts I haven’t dealt with, also wawu kuningi ke khabo friendship. Healing is such a journey. Thank you so much🤞🏽
This episode was beautiful to watch my dearests. I loved the different inputs. What stood out the most from me is treating our friendships equally and calling each other out when we aren't happy with certain things. Loved it.
I tots agree evny can be evil and More than evil, I think it's really really sad because Insecurities are such evil cages ,we have keys to , but somehow convinced we can't / free ourselves from .
Teeeeeewwww good🥺 Challenged to the core! I love what Buli said about reciprocation being a heart thing and the last bit about not burning bridges. Well done ladies❤
Absolutely loved this discussion, I had given up on friendships but I am going to put in the work and not throw people away. Thank you thank you 🙏🏽. A friend of mine who just left me without a word wants us to meet & I haven’t been sure but after this I will meet them and tell them how I felt (I even went for therapy after the breakup) and find out what I did wrong and love them better if our friendship can be restored
I really enjoyed this conversation. I did much reflection and introspection while watching this. Very insightful ladies. Thank you for your wisdom and for encouragement honest conversations as adults ♥️
Lovely conversation ladies, absolutely agree with everything. I’ve experienced it all and in some instances I was the red flag (the ghosting and keeping quite). But the worst red flag for me is the last one, the Ranking and Classing each other 😭 That I can’t tolerate. That’s why I don’t believe in this best friend concept
A few of my red flags, 1. The friend who says I am not involved, 2. A friend who doesn’t know the truth, 3. When there is a quarrel in a group of friends, the friend who never gets involved. I feel that we are adults we know right from wrong and once a friend says I ain’t involved you are walking with snakes
Thank you for sharing definitely Loved watching this especially because I am currently gng through something with a friend and you guys gave me clarity and perspective on how we can look at it and fix out friendship going forward ❤❤❤
Totally agree with Buli ..you can have my husband/partners number on your phone but you still have to call me "FIRST" ...infact the only reason you should have it in the first place is for planning surprises(PARTY) or if you cant get hold of me AND ...........no communication on WhatsApp statuses etc HAHAHAHA 🤦♀🤦♀
Talk about timing of this conversation when I'm battling with myself and over compansating one of my friendship and giving more grace even when it's not suppose to but ke I have allowed it but ngi right manje
I think ausi Buli on the enabling part it’s not only u being the nice person. Sometimes u enable ppl by taking watevr there give u . A friendship Thts based on u tiptoeing on someone feelings or watevr is not friendship
I loved this discussion. My best friend and I made a collective decision that we wouldn’t gossip anymore. We are going on six years now. Unless there is something that directly impacts our personal lives, we only speak about people in a positive light. We discuss our goals, progress, and developments. We’ve grown a lot since making that decision. I love it for us.🎉❤
I wish I could have that with friends, but they say you can't live without gossip.
Did this with my sister about 2 to 3 years ago and it just feels so much better . We’re not 100% there but maybe 90% .once In a blue moon we slack though and gossip 😂😫💀
@@poleeysstudios9294 I think if it’s something that directly affects you, it’s impossible for you to not express yourself and speak about how something is affecting you (we’re human). However, if you’re gossiping on a day to day basis then you do need to introspect.
Would you believe me if I said, I paused the video half way ta call a friend to iron out some issues? This video made me realise I'm being a red flag 😭😭 I'm so glad I called my friend because I love her so much... Thanks guys❤
Proud of you sis ❤
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Based on my experience, I have learnt that friends always show you how they feel about you, Indirectly or directly. Youd be amazed that the friend that never shows up for you, does the most to others. They may mistreat you not because they do not know how to treat you, but because they do not value you enough. Even if you tell them how they should treat you, their behavioural change will be short lived because it's a value thing. I have learnt to just accept and pay attention to how someone shows up for me silently and move accordingly. Indaba yabangani has sent people to early graves, the betrayal, tjo! I have acquittances and mutually beneficial relations but friends! tjo! My friend is Jesus Christ
I am with you here.
That's not a friend. They don't even deserve that title if they are directly and indirectly being shady in whatever shape or form.
Friends do not do that. Friends are honest ,straightforward, and upfront.
I've been a friend that doesn't speak up, hold on to things and cut off people and I realise that I am the red flag. I need to work on that
This conversation was such an eye opener, I definitely was a red flag in some past friendships,now that I am aware I can only do better. Thank you so much for this segment ❤.
We can only do better
M so touched by this topic, my friend always run to me wen she has problems or need something from me, wen she is happy, she dissappear, I will see her happiness on social😢😢 media,
Hi Buli. Thank you so much for this conversation. It’s inspired me to pursue new friendships as I had closed that part of my life due to deep hurt in the aspect of friendships. My red flags are 1) Friends who downplay my achievements. It doesn’t matter how little they may seem to the friend but they are an achievement to me. 2) Friends who compare my life to their other friends’ lives. I’m me and I am enough. 3) Friends who constantly want to achieve things before me & then belittle me when I get things first. Be happy for me, your time is also coming. And lastly, friends who always want to project what they’d do if they were in the same position, a silly example I buy a Hisense tv and they say they would have bought a Samsung tv. Then buy your Samsung when you can, I like & afford a Hisense tv. I know it’s time to let go when a heart to heart has been done & nothing really changes. The exact offenses are not repeated but the behaviour is repeated in different scenarios. Then I understand that it might be a clash of personalities or we’ve lost each other in terms of serving in the friendships.
Wow. This comment is the one! 👏🏾I relate to it so much.
@@refiloenkuna I’m so sorry you’ve also experienced this. I guess it’s a thing. We live in a self-serving society & that can affect our friendships. 🫠💔
On the ghosting part… sometimes the person KNOWS exactly what they did, it was intentional & they’re looking for your reaction. Sometimes silence is best. Why feed them with your reaction.
I love the way Katlego reasons and carries herself (well, from the times you’ve had her on the couch and from the videos she’s posted on her channel.) she’s A1 😊❤.
When Lebo said 'if you allow your friend's behavior that you dont like ,dont blame your friend when it blows up in your face you could be taken the responsibility to tell her' I felt that 😢and when Katli said "You never envy someone's journey because someone's shoes are hot" if friendships could be jealous-free we would be in safe spaces 😪don't have the need to hide ourselves 💡I always enjoy these friendship segments because I'm one person who loves learning from the wise people who are about Godly friendships or intentional friendships ❤❤❤❤thank you Buli for bringing these lovely ladies like yourself 😍😍😍
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
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I love how Lebo explained what redflags means for her❤
A red flag for me aside from a friend ghosting you is a friend who acts funny and gives the silent treatment when they have wronged you then come back like they did nothing shady to you. Like you ladies said “a toxic person knows they are toxic”.
When I say I was clapping for every red flag and was introspecting at the same time. Yho no I loved the discussion and agreed with everything. Friendships are so complex and the more content there is on it, the easy it is for those that want to work on themselves ❤️🥰🥹. Thank you ladies.🙏🏾❤️.
Had to watch three times because wow you guys spoke nothing but the truth.
That red flag you mentioned is extremely true . Sho 🙌🏽.
No one warned us that adult friendships can be so complex hey. I appreciate such conversations 😊...relatable content. Thank you ladies.
Very complex ! But beautiful if we try to do our best. Thank you for watching
Right?Kunzima but friendships can be beautiful.Also love these conversations.We grow and learn.
I love it so much here, I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation, thank you for being such an inspiration my friend and leading such valuable conversations 🌸
One thing about you? You'll always watch and leave a comment ❤️
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i fully believe God led me here. oh how i wish it was so easy to remove myself when i have served my purpose in someones life. i am such a lover of friendships that even the red flags look green to me 🤧
I loved that as we get older our pockets are not the same, until we learn accept that, we will be able to appreciate our friends success that wishing that was us and appreciate what we are blessed with
Im in varsity and my entire first year I lost so much trying to keep people by overcompensating, buying things, showing up, a lot ! and in the course I was neglecting myself. Listening to this conversation I feel very seen and validated.
Someone asked whats the big deal with TH-cam and I said either than enjoying seeing people live well and getting countless plugs 🔌 TH-cam is like watching a visual interview of people whose perspective you like, even though you don't know them personally
Such actual interviews are a reminder of my answer❤
I was dreading to watch this particular episode because friendships can be such a sensitive experience & I have been hurt so many times in friendships but thank you ladies for bringing this conversation up, you held it with so much grace and maturity. Kudos to Buli & friends ❤️. Very insightful 🙏🏽.
These are the kind of conversations we should be having makes one reflect a lot.Thank you Buli💚💚💚
I have ended a friendship because this lady would copy everything I want to do or even wear, if I say am planning to do this and that and would tell her because am thinking she's my friend she would go do it before I could do it I had to cut her off shem. Also another friendship I saw red flags was one who she wanted everything to be about her, when u raise an opinion on something she would quickly cut u off and want to emphasize her opinion gore e be the right one. so friendships dynamics are a lot hey
This was such a hard video for me to watch. I may only be 21, but I've been scarred from friendships all in the name of pursuing sisterhood. But seeing you beautiful ladies gives me hope
Mina guys ngyasaba ukuphoxeka, imagine addressing something umuntu avele athi "we are not friends like that." This days we are so quick to call people friends kanti we are not their friends🤭. I also struggle with correcting friends gracefully and forgiveness. Basically most of the time, ndim owrong kwi Acrimony 😂🤭
I’m wth maMehlomakhulu acknowledge how someon feels u don’t have to agree Wth me but acknowledge how I feel .
My mom just teared up listening to you guys....she says you look and sound adorable...and grateful for such conversations...
Oh wow this conversation took me back to a friendship I was once in. Shame the lady was an amazing friend, I must give her that but the lies! Not wanting to take accountability of her actions and constantly wanting to justify her actions because “my mom passed away and no one cares about me”. I still care about her, want what’s best for her but there’s so many reasons it didn’t work out.
Katli is so lovable. Enjoyed this conversation ❤
This was very helpful❤❤I liked it when Lebo said her sister has got friends and some are not working and some are not degreed but they love each other so much❤and they dnt even rank each other❤
"Honour ur friends equally"❤
I liked the part where Lebo said our differences as friends makes it even more interesting ❤❤Everyone person's difference add value in the friendship ❤❤❤
I feel so guilty right now and empowered as well.. I'm one of those who'd just disappear🤭🙈without communicating how I really feel about a situation.. and that takes so much out of a person... Feelings that aren't communicated are a killer. Thank You ladies.. Will surely do better going forward.
Thank you for watching . Im so glad you got something from this video ❤️
What a necessary conversation. Navigating friendship as an adult isn’t easy hey but identifying red flags even those that you pose and being accountable really helps.
A year after 🎉. This chat was phenomenal
The point about envying - It really is people who shouldn't envy. It shocks me so much.
Regarding ghosting; what if it's a spiritual thing (discernment) and you know you can't explain what you feel because on a fleshly human level, their actions are justifiable but something in the spirit is just like no no, stay away from this person? You can discern people's hearts and the Spirit behind their actions. The bible advices that we take drastic measures (pluck your eye out, cut your hand off if it causes you to sin) and so sometimes the Holy Spirit is very direct (and it can come across as drastic) with instructions like cutting someone out of your life. How do I deal with this ? I would appreciate your response. Also, thank you so much for these videos on Friendship. I have just entered my 20s and I want to cultivate such friendships as well. These videos are helping me become more intentional in my friendships.
My mom always says that your gut feeling is God talking to you. You sometimes get very weird vibes from certain friends and you try to downplay it but in your gut, you know that something is wrong. I agree with ghosting people based on spiritual discernment. It’s hard to explain to someone else because they’d only understand on the surface flesh level but spiritually, you know what God is trying to relay to you about that friendship.
Hhay makhosikazi ngiyanithanda yaz. U all nailed it❤❤❤ I have my precious gems and they all mean a lot to me n todae Ive learnt a lot. I hope to be a much better friend going foward
I for one believe that friendships must be organic cuz once you tell someone how to love/ treat you... you're now changing that person to be something/ someone they're not & obviously its gonna make them behave out of character for your selfish reasons (you wanna feel needed, loved, cared for & etc).
Your friends are not YOU, they don't see, feel things like you & there's no way that they'll behave like you or how you want them to cuz now that's where narcissism starts. Let people be & if they're not your cup of tea then free them 🤷🏿♀️
This segment right here!!! It’s the one for the books🔥 powerful! Definitely what we all needed
Selfishness : friendships and relationships are the same, I agree with Lebos point the same way you want to be loved in your love language in a relationship same thing goes in a relationship….
Friendships are a lot tjo. I have friends ne, and yes I also fear nje ukuthi when shit ilhit the fan I may not have a lot of people in my circle, but I'd rather that, than deal with people that will stress you hey.
I've had my fair share of drama. I was toxic and they were toxic, we learned, we grew but I'm ohk tjo.
God will make a way. I can't put my heart and mind at risk just because I need people during the good and the bad.
God will make a way 😊, sorry tle, this seems so negative, but I'm ohk.
God will use a stranger to rescue me when the need arises, but I've been through so much because of friends. Even when you try to navigate, communicate and balance things, kodwa baku hurde abantu. Yhooo ngi sharp
Yoh ☹️ so sorry for the hurt you’ve experienced ❤️
Same Sis, same!!!
Gorgeous women sharing such amazing tips. Time I don’t even have a single friend😢🥴 zyakhala. Pray for me ❤️
But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
James 3:14-16 NIV
On the point of contentment its so true. I've seen it in relatives, who have everything but because one is content in God, it brews something of others not being hapy about what they have , all though they have it all in your eyes! Shuuuuu deep conversation but must be had. Thanks ladies.....
I thoroughly enjoyed this,thanks mommies💛💗love and light
😂😂😂Enjoyed this alot❤❤❤unspoken boundaries 🔥🔥🔥
15:20 Unfortunately I don’t agree here… if someone is constantly treating you (and most likely others) badly, it’s a red flag and the cue is to leave because you can’t change anyone. If someone doesn’t value you, it’s just clear, you know they only like you when it suits them.
I hear you ❤️
A great conversation ladies, definitely something I never thought I needed. Adult friendships are really difficult to keep up with but we learn hey. You guys are very wise, thank you❤
These talks are very eye opening.Thank you Buli💚💚
So much wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤❤
wow. i like this conversation because i dont have friends. and kumnandi kanjani, coz i dont have to be fake and a people pleaser.
I enjoyed watching this installment/episode. So good to know that there are good-fearing females who know how to build authentic godly relationships. God bless you, ladies.
I just want to press like a 100 times for this episode. Makes one introspect and self reflect a lot. Thank you for this conversation ladies, because adult friendships are so tricky ♥️…
AT 42:02 😍😍 Its so beautiful even because it was unplanned, that "how boring" , loved it .. 🤩🤩
It's the "ngiyakukhuza manje" from Buli! Love it! This video was great. Thank you ladies.
Buli thank you so much for opening up this platform to talk about adult friendships. We really thought it was automatic once we left varsity but yey!!!
It’s worse !!! Lol lol Adult friendships can be a lot 🫠
Thank you so much ladies, I’ve experienced most red flags in friendships and ignored them. Learnt a lot from this and I know moving forward, it’s going to help…❤
Yoooo guys the way I keep coming back to this convo, I am learning alot
This is such a painful conversation to me 😭. I have had friends that i loved dearly, would move the world for them without hesitation (because i love hard and will show up for you no matter what). But without any conversation or DM or anything, i was ghosted by EVERYONE and cut of from the group unanimously. And these friends were my close circle that even my family knew very well. I woke up one day and no one was talking to me, to the extent that they would plan events and not include me. But still turn around and make me feel like " why didnt you come?, I should have know about it". The pain i felt from this caused me to realized that I was the fool. I was so so deeply hurt that i got depressed. It took me years to recover and be okay with it. This shifted my approach to friends... I hesitate now, i check and try not to invest myself (i basically protect myself and my heart). So yah, this conversation is needed.... Choose your friends wisely.
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Jealousy you want the same thing or similar things but envy you want that very thing, hence the pple will do anything to take you put
I'm here for this ccontent ❤💃💃💃💃💃💃🥰🥰🥰🥰
"Honour your friends equally so" love it Buli❤❤❤.
Loved this! So much wisdom, ladies. Thank you ❤
The couch got bigger and conversation are heated❤
6:42 painful guys… really painful. It’s a wake up call to leave the relationship then. Buli is an amazing friend ❤
I was so reluctant to watch this episode because I felt like it’s going to trigger parts I haven’t dealt with, also wawu kuningi ke khabo friendship. Healing is such a journey. Thank you so much🤞🏽
Lol and this is why i have no friends. My mom, dad & siblings are my friends.
I don't have to deal with any type of drama.
Love it here ♥️
Love buli ❤
Yooo Buli keep it up, I love this kind of content for you. Well done!
I want to be friends with Katli 😂😂😂
Buli God bless your vision hey I learn so much from these wife talks 👌👌
Very informative, I’ll be sharing with my friends.
This episode was beautiful to watch my dearests. I loved the different inputs. What stood out the most from me is treating our friendships equally and calling each other out when we aren't happy with certain things. Loved it.
Different fabrics@lebo❤
I tots agree evny can be evil and More than evil, I think it's really really sad because Insecurities are such evil cages ,we have keys to , but somehow convinced we can't / free ourselves from .
I think I agree with you on that one! Then again it’s not about being immune to it, but it’s about stopping the jealously / envy in its tracks . ❤️
Such a beautiful and honest conversation. Really love and appreciate the maturity take on this topic, cause nkosi adult friendships are hard.
Teeeeeewwww good🥺 Challenged to the core! I love what Buli said about reciprocation being a heart thing and the last bit about not burning bridges. Well done ladies❤
Ei!!! This series is God sent i tell you. we are going through alot there by frienships
Absolutely loved this discussion, I had given up on friendships but I am going to put in the work and not throw people away. Thank you thank you 🙏🏽. A friend of mine who just left me without a word wants us to meet & I haven’t been sure but after this I will meet them and tell them how I felt (I even went for therapy after the breakup) and find out what I did wrong and love them better if our friendship can be restored
I really enjoyed this conversation. I did much reflection and introspection while watching this. Very insightful ladies. Thank you for your wisdom and for encouragement honest conversations as adults ♥️
Thank you for watching ❤️
Lovely conversation ladies, absolutely agree with everything. I’ve experienced it all and in some instances I was the red flag (the ghosting and keeping quite). But the worst red flag for me is the last one, the Ranking and Classing each other 😭 That I can’t tolerate. That’s why I don’t believe in this best friend concept
Love softens you, oh man that is so true. Love make you want to do be better, do better. Thank you Buli for sharing another awesome chat.
"Making excuses for bad behavior" yho.. This episode bafethu 😭
I love this series cc. Yoh the best 👌👌👌
I love Lebo soo much!!! Thank you for this Buli
I love it so much here
This was tremendously enlightening.
I love this conversation. ❤❤
Thank you for watching ❤️
I learnt so much thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
A few of my red flags, 1. The friend who says I am not involved, 2. A friend who doesn’t know the truth, 3. When there is a quarrel in a group of friends, the friend who never gets involved. I feel that we are adults we know right from wrong and once a friend says I ain’t involved you are walking with snakes
IMPORTANT ❤️
Such a wonderful conversation 👌🏼👌🏼 thank you ladies
I needed this conversation, ladies thank you.
Such conversations.. 😍👌Love this for us sis Buli siyabonga
Thank you for sharing definitely Loved watching this especially because I am currently gng through something with a friend and you guys gave me clarity and perspective on how we can look at it and fix out friendship going forward ❤❤❤
Oh wow Buli thank you for this
I love both ladies you brought we learning ❤️
I haven’t watched yet but you always have such great guests. Thanks constantly gifting us with these conversations 🥳🙌🏿♥️.
Totally agree with Buli ..you can have my husband/partners number on your phone but you still have to call me "FIRST" ...infact the only reason you should have it in the first place is for planning surprises(PARTY) or if you cant get hold of me AND ...........no communication on WhatsApp statuses etc HAHAHAHA 🤦♀🤦♀
Kuningi 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Please ! No communication on whatsapp 🙆🏾♀️🫠💀😂😂😂
Shuuuuuu Buli Hai shame usiphethe sisi😂😂😂
Talk about timing of this conversation when I'm battling with myself and over compansating one of my friendship and giving more grace even when it's not suppose to but ke I have allowed it but ngi right manje
The conversation was amazing, thank you 🙏🏾♥️
Loved it so much, any advice on how bounce back after being ghosted? yes its immature of them but how does one move on after that.
I think ausi Buli on the enabling part it’s not only u being the nice person. Sometimes u enable ppl by taking watevr there give u . A friendship Thts based on u tiptoeing on someone feelings or watevr is not friendship