Working through Mikko's meltdowns
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ส.ค. 2024
- Meltdowns, shutdowns, and tantrums are very similar, yet different with how they are triggered. Mikko displays all three when she becomes frustrated and when she doesn't get her way, but lately it has been occurring more often. The most important thing we try and do is take our time with comforting her, working with her to understand more to avoid meltdowns, and also giving her time to express herself. In doing that, we hope to help her avoid shutting and melting down while allowing her to understand her emotions.
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As a 17 year old with autism.. I so wish there were more people like you and your partner around… you are doing so so well with Miko. I love to see how much she has grown! She said thank you and I still tear up 😂❤
same, i cant help but cry whenever the shorts come on my feed
same
If u have autism u can't type
Get that school Precious 💕💕💕
This was one of your more POWERFUL videos. I had no Idea you had autism. When you hugged Mikko, she literally just melted- but in a GOOD way, into your arms. The tension, anxiety, slowly, just ebbed away. I have the utmost respect for you.
You are teaching things that cannot be learned from a text book, and I applaud you.
i'm not crying from reasonable happiness, you are...
x'D
Mikko was so conscious of the camera. She also tried extremely hard to fight those meltdowns. I also noticed how great she did with numbers as opposed to the colour coordinating puzzle. She really tries hard in everything she does. It's just that she seems locked in inside herself (since she can't communicate like her mom said), on top of ALL THAT, she's still a toddler & have to navigate the world like any other typical toddler who's still learning how to express emotions.
You're doing great Mikko baby
Mikko is so adorable. It’s okay for her to have a meltdown. Your such amazing mom
Yup it’s completely okay. It’s okay to not be happy
@@cherry_bear_aestheticd6840 yes it’s okay to be unhappy because I have those days.
Why she having a melt down ? She don’t want to do it??
@@lethabrooks4882 Yea. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows. There’s some rainy days too, which make the most beautiful, bright rainbows after ❤️
@@DevineLoved it’s mostly whenever she doesn’t want to do something or when she struggles with something, a lot of autistic kids get really frustrated/upset easily when it comes to not being able to achieve the purpose of what they’re doing. Such as drawing, playing with puzzles, or different types of games with shapes and letters. She gets frustrated when she can’t do something
I cry every time I see you comfort Mikko. Such a gentle soul you are. I love Mikko, and when she says “Thank you” my heart bursts. You and your husband are so patient, loving and kind. I often think about how you’re both doing, mentally. This must be challenging but clearly God knows you’re up to the test. You are your family are in my heart. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers too. Thank you for sharing and for teaching. 🙏🏽
Each human is unique and special. There is no one method that fits all. I know we all want Mikko to accomplish every task given, and she is, will or try...but in her time. It's painful to see her go thru her meltdowns and/or shutdowns. But that is a part of her communicating. I love the way you and your family live.I too can shutdown when I feel I'm not being understood, it's not weakness it's a method of communication. But after time is taken or given I try again. Communication is a Gift, sometimes the gift is received as given. But when we learn to listen, hear and understand what is being said thru words or actions..life gets better. We can all do better,just continue to do your best. Good job to you all
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My heart beats with LOVINGKINDNESS for YOU & YOUR SON, & 2 DAUGHTERS, & that TALL GLASS OF ICE COLD LEMON-AIDE, HUBBY on a hot day. YOU ALL ARE GORGEOUS! ⚘️THANK YOU, I'm one of those people that YOU'VE touched with YOUR story. I'm looking forward to YOU taking that leap & become that shining ✨️star✨️ that YOU WERE BORN TO BE...🪻
Ii believe you said your other 2 children are on the spectrum, please show how you work with them.
Your videos are very helpful / educational.
16:08
And you’re RIGHT “there is NO one technique that helps everyone. It’s trial and error over time. Some things that work today may not work tomorrow.”
It’s one thing to read a book about Autism BUT it’s another to see / experience it FIRST HAND.
THANK YOU for sharing!
Exactly!
She is sooo beautiful ❤️
14:54 it’s so sweet that you recognized that she became overwhelmed and gave her a hug and a break🥺
No words can describe how good you are at learning from your daughter. You are remarkably exemplary in your way of teaching and nurturing her to do things. You are so understanding. You deserve a network series. I pray that one day, you get a tv show or or Netflix series showing viewers how to cope with an autistic child. God bless you and your husband. ❤❤❤
Its seriously hard to deal with so i give kudos to anyone that deals with this behavior on a regular bases and does so kindly.
I agree especially if you are doing it alone no village like me 😢
it's even HARDER to deal with if you're the one experiencing it :) Autistic meltdowns are when you've lost all control because you are completely overwhelmed and overstimulated, it's not chosen "behavior". they even happen as an adult.
@@rottedbug yes it is
Mama you are a super hero. ❤ I know it's hard to explain everything to us. I appreciate the education. Your family is beautiful and the way you are working with her is really such good work.
She's such a beautiful & adorable baby. Great job mama
You are doing an excellent job with Mikko. You are patient, loving and kind. You have a lot on your plate because you not only have Mikko and helping her navigate through autism but you also have the twins whom I believe you mentioned one of the twins also has autism. And you are still mourning the loss of your most recent pregnancy which is very difficult. And you are also a wife which brings it's own responsibilities. That is a lot. Please make sure you are taking care of yourself because caregiver burnout is a real thing.
Mikko is doing extremely well because of all the work you are doing with her. She is a very bright little girl. She seems to get frustrated though when multiple activities are placed upon her. Once she can grasp one activity I would leave it at that for at least a day or two. Because it seems like the goal should be confidence building not how much she can do. Confidence within herself will lead to less and less meltdowns which are caused by frustration in not believing in herself that she can accomplish a specific task or tasks. Maybe the goal should be learning one skill a day such as the puzzle pieces and once she learns that allow her to do the same task over and over for as long as it takes. And then move on to another activity.
She is doing really well and will be very prepared to go into a structured school setting at some point with supports in place.
I love how u take the time to educate us novices who are struggling with family members . I have learned so much
Can't stop crying when I see her trying so hard..Don't give up Miko, we love you. God bless your parents.
When she’s doing a task that could cause potential frustration, try having a stress ball or something she can use to export that frustration on to, rather than pulling on her clothes. The energy needs to be placed somewhere so she can get it out. But it needs to be an external neutral object not her clothes or her body. Stress balls or squishiest are a great place to transfer that negative energy. I think she was getting most upset that you wouldn’t let her pull her shirt, but she didn’t know what else to do to get her angries out. Just an idea, but try having something on hand for moments like that. You’re doing great! I love how you’re so calm and gentle modeling calmness for her! Love y’all!
Your love, patience, and persistence to see Mikko grow and learning is always astonishing! Your are an amazing mom! ❤
I’m autistic, and I would have loved all your toys with a lot of different colours when I was a child. When I was Mikko’s age I could get mesmerised by just finding small pieces of cotton yarn in different colours or by shiny pearls. To me, seeing a lot of different colours together gave joy, and I can still remember how calm and content it made me feel. If others just left me alone…
Today I am 55+ and have a university degree. And I still get mesmerised by colours. If I feel over stressed, or I am about to have a meltdown, I can calm myself down by sorting things by shape, form and/or colour. But I still need a lot of alone time.
To have someone sitting in front of me, telling me what to do over long periods of time would totally stress me out. I would prefer the other person to sit beside me and not look at me. If I was in Mikkos place I would probably have turned my back towards you, if you tried to play with me. Mikko is really interactive, compared to many other autistic children. And even without words she gives clear signs that she is distressed or sad by pulling her fingers down her cheeks, like tears falling. Once she starts talking, she is going to have a lot to say, I have no doubt! 😅
Mikko is very smart from a number of videos I have watched. To me she communicates very clearly about what she wants and doesn't want.
Navigating her autism is challenging, but Mikko is very clear.
Any thoughts about the speed of switching her activities? It seems as if she needs time to adjust to the switch. Maybe let her lead how she want to do the activity before guiding her.
You are doing an amazing job. Still praying for all of you.🙏🏾
Thank you for letting Mikko play with the toys the way she wanted to first and then setting the expectation of what you wanted her to accomplish. Non-preferred activities are an on-going battle. But you know that helping her work through the big emotions that come with it will help her in the long run ❤
It’s sometimes hard & frustrating for us as adults to communicate our feelings. I can’t imagine how overwhelming it is for Miko. You & your husband are doing an awesome job!!!!🤗
Make sure to take time for yourself. You cannot give from an empty cup. Fill your cup with some "me" time every day. Be Blessed.
The fact that she is so proud of herself. You are such an amazing mom to her, she will thrive one day because you guys never give up on her!
I give you praise. You never know how to handle something until you are in those shoes. Mikko is smart. Her eyes tell how she sees if your reactions are letting her know she can get away. I have autistic relatives that weren't treated differently, and I believe it makes a difference. But bless you for the education, you provide.
you are a wonderful mother. Mikko is adorable. I have an 18 year old son who has Asperger's autism. I understand the difficulty of everything that this entails. I also work with disabled children. I am a school assistant. For our children it is a long learning process because we have to be patient and get down to their level. God keeps and protects you
Seems like it’s a lot of pressure on her. It Has to be fun mom 😢and this was not fun for her. Most pre school teachers show alot more excitement when kids do things the correct way because it gives them the confidence and courage to want to learn. Next thing you know she’ll be trying to get your attention after she does it the right way because she knows your going to be so enthused and that’s what kids like to see. They want to make you proud but when there is a lot of pressure to do the work right way and there is no enthusiasm it makes them less confident and they have melted downs. Even kids that aren’t autistic are the same.
You doing a great Job mama! Our 7 yo has ASD. I totally get you. Not sure if you have her in therapies. They are very effective especially if you are also an involved parent. Tantrums, meltdowns, sensory issues are part of the journey. But it get better speech helps them express themselves, occupational therapies helps with sensory issues , behavioral therapy helps with behaviors, adaptation, expressive language and much more. Therapies are worth it. As child grows new challenges arise. There are so many resources out there! And school even part time with help with socialization. We are involved in all our son therapies and always request activities/ tips to help our son at home. We see our son bloom and progress and celebrate every single tiny milestone! God bless you and you family. Remember it takes a village. Use your resources. We live in miami florida. 💙
Mikko Meltdowns are a form of tantrums it's just acted out in a different form because she does your command that u gave her soon after u have pampered her, just because she's an Autistic child doesn't mean their comprehension level is non existing, she needs 2b prepared 4 life on all levels.
You all are doing amazing…we all gets tired at times and need a break…Mikko is no different and thank you for recognizing that
I'm 44 years old and just discovered that I have Asperger's about 4 years ago. I never understood why I had difficulty with some of the everyday tasks. I'm now learning ways to help me when I'm on the verge of a shutdown or meltdown. Watching you with Mikko makes me wish someone could have helped me like that growing up. Peace and blessings to you, Precious and the Family. Thank you for your videos.
I’m so glad you have this channel I’m learning new things for my daughter because she is the same 1000thumbs up for every video you do ❤
She's is so so cute 🥰
She keeps looking at camera. Maybe she feels self conscious?
i think shes lookng at her dad
@@cjocelyn3Makes sense that she'd be looking at her father.
You are amazing and patience with Mikko. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! Mikko is lucky to have a mom like you.
Thank you for sharing, she is adorable ❤.
It is beautiful how she looks at you for help when she is stuck.
She is absolutely beautiful with a beautiful mom!
I just love your channel. I’ve a better understanding of autism when u share your videos with us. Mikko is so adorable. Even though I don’t have a situation like yours I’m learning so much from u and your husband. God Bless your family and sweet Mikko❤️
You’re a Saint! It’s easy to see how she can blossom with a family like yours supporting her. How amazing!
God bless you all; this is a great & informative video! Your love, understanding, and patience is totally awesome! Sharing your family’s journey is a a blessing/lesson to many!
Mike is capable of learning. She has incredible attention span for a 2 year older. Good job, Mom.
Miko seems to get starled and stressed. Bless her. Your doing the best you can
What a beautiful mum you are, and as a nurse you are teaching us Mikko’s world, it is awesome. Thankyou for sharing Mikko with us xx
It's ok Mikko. You did great ❤️
She's not just a 'condition '. She's still a toddler
Exactly and she’s very smart too. I’m so proud of little mikko
Right. Most toddlers would have a hard time focusing on the same task repeatedly 😕
Watching this video I could feel her stress and frustration and anxiety. I was wondering if she would wear a weighted vest while you’re doing her activities? The weight and compression of the vest may help her. I love the way she looks at you for reassurance and approval 🥰.
You are a Great Mom! You understand what she needs and when she needs it. Stay Strong!!!
She knows now the cameras are on her lol she keeps looking at it lol
Mikko is so blessed. You are such a great mom. You are so patient and supportive. God bless you and the family🙏🙏
You are such a great mom, like all mothers patient and kind. I commend you on all you do . Mikko is doing great thanks to the love and support of her family.
Mom, you are absolutely Amazing! I love how loving and supportive to Mikko!
I can’t say it enough, thank you, thank you for sharing and helping to pass on this information and knowledge..you guys help me so much💓. You guys are such an amazing advocate for Mikko( who is just the sweetest ever🥰)! Much love and blessings to you family🙏🏾💕
Thanks for the time you take to teach us
You're doing an amazing job with Mikkio. I remember working with a little boy with autism. He was so special to me. His mother kept him for as long as she could. It was sad when she had too send him away. Please keep working with her. God bless you all 🙏🏾
Good job Mikko!!! Great job Mom and Dad. May all of you continue to thrive through each new journey. ❤
You are so patient. Bless you
Excellent advice all around!!!
Good job with Her mom. I admire how patient you are with her. May the Lord continue to give you the strength you need each day. She is a gem❤
I love how, in situations where she can‘t do it, you keep on encouraging and guiding her instead of doing it by yourself so she can get a chance of how the game is done. awesome 🤗
Precious, you are such a GREAT mom! You and your husband are such calm people and have natural knowledge of what it takes to understand, not only Miko, but your family as a whole. You are such an inspiration to other families going through similar circumstances. Thank you for sharing your life via Utube. My daughter's godson is possibly autistic and I am sharing your channel with his mother. He is only 2 years old, but the preschool he goes to is saying he might be autistic because he doesn't make eye contact, is non verbal and walks in his tippy toes. We'll see what happens, but in the meantime thank you for your channel. BTW, who is doing the filming while you are working with Miko? 😅
You are a very patient mother. You are doing an awesome job with Mikko. My heart breaks when she cries😢. It must be so hard for her.
Good girl she stacked them.
God sent that baby to the right parents ❤❤❤
Awwww the way you hugged her ❤ so cute
I can tell by how she looks up at you when she puts the object in its spot. She seems to get upset when she thinks she is disappointing you. She such a sweet baby.
I may not have Autism but I have a Learning Disability and I sometimes feel like Mikko and I try not to give up.
You are such a awesome mom keep encouraging her to do her best. Love this video.
Wow, where were you 14 years ago? I love love love this!! Thank you and your family for putting yourselfs out there for others to learn! I have 16 year old twins, boy and girl. My son is on the spectrum and my daughter has learning disabilities. My son, at 16, is starting to have more meltdowns or tantrums, im not sure which one. I'm in full grief mode and I'm feeling like I'm losing touch with my son, just alot going on with me. His last meltdown/tantrum was rough. He goes to a great school, gets his needed therapies there and they teach them life skills (he works in the school store 🤓).
I just want to end by saying you guys are awesome and i look forward to following you guys and picking up some tips or offering some if i have any to give! 🥰🥰🥰
Thank You for sharing this.
Just an observation - it seems Mikko is becoming increasingly aware that she is being recorded. Not sure if that is good, bad, or nothing at all.
I was thinking the same thing.
children are people. they have memories and thoughts. think about it, how would you feel if your parents posted your life on social media when you couldn't say no?
Mikko está mirando a su padre que seguramente estará grabando, creando un contacto visual con él. No tiene nada que ver con la cámara ni que la estén grabando creo.
I noticed the same thing. Perhaps it is intrusive and in my opinion she doesn’t feel comfortable. Will unsubscribe because I don’t want to be part in stressing her by watching.
exactly. It is not okay to film autistic meltdowns. It’s also not okay to film children until they’re older because they do not understand. Especially since this little girl is nonverbal, she CANNOT give consent.
I wish I had your level of patience.
You are doing a great job with Mikko, you know exactly what Mikko wants and what so needs.. I honestly think Mikko is going to talk eay more as she gets older.. bless you and your family ❤
yayyy!! so proud of her!!!
I think U all are doing great ❤ When a family has a loss, everyone DEALS in THEIR OWN way ❤ Unfortunately with autism regressions can happen as well, I'm so glad that U have the patience U do with that sweet angel ❤ It's just HER way of processing what she feels, and I think U DO a DANG GOOD JOB helping her, it's All U can do Mama ❤ I hope U are feeling better as well ❤
I love how she every now and then looks at the person recording but doesn’t stop her learning.
This baby is blessed beyond measure to have a wonderful mother like you. My grandson has autism and my daughter is also an amazing mother. It’s not easy especially when the meltdowns happen. He 12 now and because of all the work and effort meltdowns hardly happen anymore.
You are a ROCK⭐️STAR Mom!!! Mikko is so very blessed to have you and her ROCK⭐️STAR Dad in her life🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️ And her siblings as well!!!🤗🤗🤗
Good job Mikko!❤
You are doing SUCH a GREAT job with her!! I do not know you, but I see your videos. I thing you are a WONDERFUL Mom.
Please 🙏🏽 stay strong and nurture your love with your partner!!! Many many couples break up, due to the challenges of raising a child with special needs. Please 🙏🏽 make your relationship with your hunny a priority
My grandson is autistic. He is 22 now and has improved a lot in his behavior. It is very important that your daughter gets medication. My daughter went through a lot with my grandson but she never gave up and has the patience of a saint. She is the best mother ever. His meds have helped him to control his emotions. If they do not get meds it is impossible for them to control emotions and learn.
She's so beautiful ❤
I am so glad she has parents like you
Your patience is amazing Mommy
You are a rock star and so is Mikko love watching you 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
Mikko is adorable and God gave her the perfect Mom for her. Thank you for sharing 😊.
Mommy knew to give her a minute to express her emotions and brought her back to refocus.
Thank you for teaching me how to have patience with my autistic daughter. If you can show us some ways you keep calm and release the emotions when Miko is away or asleep.
I love you for doing this. As a mom with a level 2 non verbal son thank you for this.
And Mikko is blowing her nose awesome. Still working on this with my son. I see she just went on to blow her nose after ur suggesting of do you wantvto do it😊
I love you and your beautiful family I think you are amazing mother and you hubby an amazing dad ❤ I can’t say it enough you make my heart melt every time I wish I could hug Mikko love her so much
be careful when touching her when she's having a meltdown because that can make it worse touch could also help. I would find a way to get permission from her for you to touch her in those moments
Wouldn't that give to much authority to the child? I'm asking because I don't know. Can that make a child act disrespectful if you do that. I know she's autistic but she's a child like other children in most ways.🤔
@@Denise-se2rb i don't see the problem with it. I feel like that's a reasonable amount of autonomy for a child. all she would be doing is finding a way for her to ask nicely not to be held when she's overwhelmed
❤❤I love your patience
when mikko was doing the connect 4 thing with all the colors I came up with a theory on why she didn't like it. fast repetition creates a sensory input similar to pain. maybe she was doing too much repetition too fast
As a momma with a son who is autistic, this is such an amazing guideline to help bc sometimes it’s hard to interpret- and every kid is so different and unique in their own way- it’s nice to feel not so alone all the time
She is so adorable 🤗
Thank you so much
You are simply the best mama!!!!
I’m not trying to say you’re a bad mom, I think you’re an amazing mom. You do such an amazing job with your daughter!
With the cookie sorting activity, she knew what the instruction was. She deliberately did the wrong thing and looked at you to see if you’d allow her to continue, THAT was the right time to correct her not after you had already allowed her to do the wrong thing. The meltdown began because you had already allowed her to do the wrong thing in the activity and then after her meltdown you let her know that it didn’t matter. This is why she had the second meltdown, she might have expected you to budge.
I observed that too ,i had to rewind that part again
I can't agree more
Tanka, have you worked with children on the spectrum or have one of your own? I'm thinking not because if you correct every little thing an autistic child does, they become frustrated and overwhelmed.
It hurts me to see Mikko so frustrated and you sit there and handle this day in and night out along with two other children. Like damn Precious put on some bulletproof bracelets and become Wonder Woman already 💕💕💕
Please don’t listen to any negative comments. You are doing a fabulous job.
She is so sweet and beautiful ❤
Her dad does a great job controlling Mikko's meltdown, I think she feels your tightness and tension!!, but then again, lots of kids have meltdowns and bad days!
What an awful thing to say to a mother. You should be ashamed of yourself for being so ignorant and inconsiderate. Telling this mother that she's uptight and her husband does a better job than her is rude and insensitive. People like you make me so sick with your judgemental attitude, like stfu if you don't have anything nice to say. You're rude and condescending. Tightness and tension? Wtf are you talking about? This mom hugs, holds, reassures, and comforts her daughter any time she needs it. Both parents have shown signs of being overwhelmed and frustrated, which is to be expected in circumstances like these. Your comment was hurtful and disgusting, and you are way out of line.
😊😊Good job Mikko!!
❤❤she did great
Mikko is soo adorable and cute u are a great mom ❤