I contemplated ending my life today but after watching your videos it gave me hope and inspiration to being a better parent. My daughter was diagnosed with autism two years ago and as things get harder I feel more and more heart broken and just can’t cope anymore. If anyone feels like they have no desire to live anymore because they feel they're not enough remember I also feel this way and you’re not alone but everything you’re feeling is false. You are ENOUGH! There is no better parent for your child than you. There is a light at the end of the tunnel even though you’re tired of waiting and it doesn’t feel that way. You will see the light just keep swimming.
Thank you for your honesty and sharing your feelings. You are helping others by being open about your own struggles. You are right about so many things you’ve shared, especially: You are not alone! Wishing you and your child the very best life. ❤
You are absolutely incredible, as someone who is just starting the process I can’t tell you how much your videos are helping ease my anxiety! You are an inspiration and a fantastic role model, thank you so much for taking the time to help others..... all you ever hear is the “bad stuff” you have no idea how much you’re helping us worried mums ❤️ thank you
Thank you for your videos. I’ve been watching them for the past year since my son was diagnosed at 2. My heart shattered when he was diagnosed even though I knew he had autism - it was like I was holding on to this tiny shred of hope that flew away. I experience a lot of grief, namely because I don’t know what to expect for the future. Will my child be potty trained? Will he graduate high school? Just like you my concern is about his ability to be independent when he gets older and I’m no longer around. I don’t care if he prefers his own company or doesn’t participate in family events (though I’d love it if he would) my biggest concern is his independence and that he is able to be content and make his needs and wants known. I’m so emotionally and mentally drained because I always need to be “on” in order to teach him and I worry about time running out - that the window for the best result is closing and he still hasn’t reached certain milestones.
My daughter is in a special school and gets speech there but we are getting her a formal assessment next month for a full diagnosis for more services!!!
Our son also walk on tiptoe before he was diagnosed and it fade eventually. We go to occupational therapy here in the Philippines once a week for 1hr only and he never had speech therapy becuase of availability. So what we did is we do a follow thru at home.. He also loves swimming 😊
This is very helpful. Our daughter was diagnosed at the age of 10. It would be helpful to know if any of your friends have daughters that have autism and diagnosed later in age. We have started horse riding and she lives it we also bought a dog and the meltdowns she had has halved. Swimming is also a great help to her we go to a autism Swimming session weekly. I've found these have helped her so much 💖
Thank you so much for such helpful information and being so straight talking about everything. Honestly, you deserve an OBE or some sort of Award, as your advice is priceless and from hands on experience. We are still waiting after 6 months to see pediatrician for diagnosis of our little one, as you say it is hell in this waiting period. He also has weakness in his legs and no one else has mentioned about the Achilles heel, etc. and to massage, as you said. Thanks so much.
When they acess your child though in person they sometimes only see the good side in experience because parent put in a lot to maintain their child or prevent triggers ect - so it can appear that the child is not in need of such great support because the challenges are not always glaring because your always trying to avoid those worst moments ect But then you put them in a school and then the child can ‘act out’ and then the school will wonder why And my personal experience was that they don’t listen to what you want in the ehcp unless they see it for themselves - and this process can put your child through unnecessary stress unless you have a very good LA
In the US there is a lot of controversy over ABA therapy. It is said to cause PTSD and can be harmful in the long run. I don’t know if this is true or not but just the fact that there is controversy and there has been some autistic adults come out to say how bad this therapy was for them i will not put my son thru it. Parents do your research first. If it works for you great but it’s not for me.
This is the same thing I was thinking after I heard that story about the girl who went to the computer and typed the words help during her ABA session. I think her name is Carly.
ABA's principals are just basically dog training for kids to make them act neurotypical. In later years therapists have brought in more elements from good therapies such as occupational therapy and speech therapy, and just saying that it's part of ABA when it isn't. It was made by the same guy who made conversion therapy for homosexuals, which again is absolutely awful. And yeah, a lot of people who have been through the supposed "good ABA" have come out saying that they've been traumatized and that it did lasting or permanent damage to them. It hurts me a lot as an autistic that I see so many people (typically in the states, where it's covered by insurance) talking about how their children are going through ABA and them not doing enough research, or not having any other option, and just taking places like Autism Speaks' word for it that it's helpful. The basics are to make the child not do the "undesired things that autistic kids do" while not realising that there is a reason for everything. Every therapist is different, of course, but the good parts of ABA are just other therapies that have later been applied by ABA as well, so it's better to just do things like occupational, and creating a safe and supportive environment the autistic at home and at school or work etc. Therapy isn't gonna replace being treated inhuman other places.
This is the ultimate therapy that works on everything, but it is done by faith in Jesus as the Son of God. Go to your Bible book store and purchase a small bottle of anointing oil. Take it home, hold it up and ask God to anoint it in Jesus' name. Then every morning and night before your son goes to be and then wakes up in the morning, pour oil in your hands, lay both of your hands on his head and say exactly these words, " in the name of Jesus Christ, I command you to have a 'new brain' !" This therapy is not limited to autism, but covers alzheimers, brain injuries, and anything in between. Gradually, you will see a difference. Don't stop and don't give up. I have heard of many healings that occur when people invoke the name of Jesus. He's still healing today because His name is above every other name.
thank you so much for all the helpful information, im new to your channel but i am also Autistic from the UK i really appreciate a parents perspective as you are the ones who know us best. Im excited for more of your content.
@@fungamesandstories No. Most states have mandated coverage for ABA and major insurance covers it now. My son has had ABA for 3 years now and has been covered. There are out of pocket costs but the majority is covered. They also cover unlimited OT and Speech if its autism related.
Great video and thanks for all the information. It would be amazing to see a video just on Rosie at some point-how you decided on the breed, the training she will need, etc. Maybe once you are a bit further along with her. Thanks 😀
Thank you for updating all your past journeys u helping us allot of parents , I would like to know when delen stop tip toe walking and what help him to stop. Thank you
Great video. So you know there are a number of local authorities funding ABA therapy here in the UK . Our ABA therapist works with a number of children that are been funded by the LA. The parents requested it however were declined but after an appeal was made they managed to get it through. I have an appeal going through currently and using a specialist solicitor for this process. Will let you know how it all goes
My son’s ABA is funded by West Sussex. We started it straight after diagnosis at 3 privately. We gathered data to support our application for it to be included in his Ehcp. We of course had to engage a lawyer to help us through this process and we’re Successful. It’s helps if you can prove ABA results ours were supported by both the nursery and Speech therapist who teamed up With ABA tutor for support to manage my son’s avoidance behaviour. Good luck.
@@shamilaadam-march6098 Hi Shamila, i have currently applied for the ECHP. Can you give me some info on how to start the ABA process? Do I need to start with privat ABA and then put it through for funding? I’m at a very confusing state right now, any help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you
@@zohrahammad3247 unfortunately you need evidence that ABA is working and making a difference. Even with the evidence be prepared to go to tribunal. So get yourself a good lawyer. We did ABA privately for almost 2 years plus we had private speech therapy. We managed to produce evidence on how we used Aba tutor and techniques help our son access learning by supporting both the nursery and Salt. We provided a tutor to assist these professionals to help manage is escapism behaviour which was making it impossible for them to do any sessions especially Salt. The other challenge is finding a school that is open to aba. The special needs school around our area do not aba they have other therapies. So it also depends on where you would like to send your son will depend on the route you should take. Aba works differently for different kids. Try it privately to see if it’s the right fit for your son before embarking on this battle.
Thank you fir you helpful videos and all th informations you gave us ,I wish I could watch ur vlogs long time ago I would be taking less tentions and stress nd getting depressed 😭,because only mothers like u and me who knows what means to deal and handle autistic kid,,you r heroine 👍😊
Thank you for your help. I'm the grandmother of an autistic 4 yr old boy. I was the one that took him to the doctor to be diagnosed his parents, his mom particularly were ignoring the signs. Now that he has parents have been given the tools to help him they do not do any of it and his mother ignore the teachers giving her instructions. How can I help him when we all live together and she interferes with his trying to be helped from me?
We have ABA in USA but depends ón where you live at how much therapy you can get. Florida has the best I think. Look up fathering Autism. Never heard of play therapy here though. Love your videos ♥️
In New Hampshire USA we've been doing aba about a year. My son will be 3 in a few weeks. Hes in an early supports program. They provide a speech and occupational therapy and contract out a behavioral therapist. Everything is covered. Since covid happened everything moved to zoom and has been a nightmare. He was getting at home services 5 days a week and now he's only getting 2 days a week for only 30 mins on zoom. Now he's gonna be going to a special ed preschool but because of covid can only get a day. But we will be continuing the behavioral services 5 days a week now hopefully at our house. We r gonna try to see if we can get private services ontop of what we r getting cause we know he needs at least something everyday.
Yes this has been a complete nightmare for us since March. This week has been the worst for us. Since Monday my son all of a sudden has become hyperactive and is chewing everything in sight and constantly just wants nutrigain bars. He was never like this before. Only time he would have energy would be him running back and forth and the chewing everything in sight stopped when all his teeth came in. Hes a picky eater but wouldn't refuse any of his foods that he likes in front of him. Hes also sleeps better than me. Today he was up at 4am and wouldn't nap. We reached out to his therapists and pediatrician so hopefully they have suggestions. Im hoping its just a phase and can't wait until he can finally get in person help.
I wish more parents would actually listen to #actuallyautistic people about their experiences with ABA. The Great Big ABA Opposition List Resource is extensive and speaks to the har that ABA usually does to autistic children (who are a more vulnerable population in general). It doesn't make sense to default to your own parental lens instead of listening to the community and trying to learn more about autism from autistic people.
Ha, I'm 38, still tip toe walk.. but it's mostly barefoot.. stimming feels good, and is needed and, ABA therapy ir forced framework play is basically narcissistic grooming, actually it is narcissistic grooming.. compare them, please prove me wrong... forced eye contact feels nasty! Maybe pda as a co-morbidity ... I'm autistic and my son is autistic. I was in ABA, and my son too yet unbeknownst to me, once learning about conditioning tactics , and control of framework, I have cptsd and Npd.. and tbh my kid can't trick or treat without getting overloaded because of the compliment therapy..." the meltdowns are shorter because it conditioning tactics.. Please check out " Trigger warning ABA is child abuse, and look up and get versed in cptsd research..oh, also.. my son was nonverbal in kindergarten, reading at 6th grade level, and guess what, 4 teeth pulled from treats at school for reward of abilities shown.. you lost me but hopefully this can help..
I watched all of your videos, they are very informative. My son is going to be 3 in December, his receiving 25 hours a week of in-home ABA here in the US. I’m planning to take him to pre-school ( special education classroom with different disabilities) starting on January. So his hours of ABA will go down but at the same time he will have the opportunity to see other kids at school which he never does. I’m worry that i’m making a mistake to take him there, since he is still non- verbal. Just babbling and some words. I’m just looking for someones opinion on this, since honestly i don’t know anybody who is on the same page as me. Thank you for sharing your life as an autistic mom, it has being very helpful and your son is a very amazing kid. :)
SO MANY THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO. So important especially that MANY moms don't get access to these therapies. I have just one request please : could do you make a video here or on instagram about the feet massage you're doing to Dylan that would help a lot , my son has also the same problem when walking. Thank you again ❤️❤️❤️
In the United States, none of those therapies are free. PT, OT and ST are private practices and they only take cash paying patients or people on private insurances. Diagnosis takes up to two years. Resources scarce unless you have the financial means. You guys are lucky .
My child has been diagnosed HFA at age 6, since he is smart and does things as instructed, his diagnosis at an early age was a miss! I have been redirected to Autism intervention team who might suggest ABA therapy, speech to come later though. I want to know how long the therapy needs to be done and will be continued lifelong!?
Hi very informative thank you just a quick one I'm in South Africa and medical aid doesn't really cover much still finding my feet would like to understand when you started sending Dylan to speech therapy my son Mason just turned four and is currently in play therapy what readiness should I look for?
speech therapy can start very early on its not just about speech its self but communication. even babies communicate through crying so i think start as soon as you can xox
hello im sheilou from Philippines..i have a son and he just turn 2 yrs old..im worried because i saw signs of autism..we dont have much money for a therapy..can we do that therapies at home? without a doctor? because we cant afford to see a doctor for his therapy...😔
The app we used is now not working you can use nursery rhymes and also phonics apps. There is another app which we are using at the moment do you follow me on Instagram? I’ll be putting on there as well as posting on my community wall later this week thanks x
Hello was there at any point you considered taking Dylan out of school and joining specialist groups sensory groups private tutoring ? something we are considering for our son , he had about 3 years left in primary school should we manage to get through it we will consider taking him out sooner . The school desk isn’t always the best for every child .I do believe in a little routine and our son enjoys computers games and loves world maps travelling will be fun !he loves geography Is Dylan really into anything that he loves and does really well at like most kids I suppose but like much more obsessed with his world maps and flags and places of interest around the world . Thankyou .Do you think it’s worth getting in touch with my local Autism society see what they suggest or can tell me about groups to join especially if decide taking our son out of school for home educating ?.
Thank you. Wishing you all the move into new house 🏠 it will be worth it 👌 what app do I download load on ipad to hear my boy 👦 Jack with his speech 💬 because as you he is non verbal only uses words, comprehension and reading and spelling very good 👍 numbers never got them.
To help my boy Jack 👦 💙 this predicted text can be a bit of pain sometimes. What's the name of app to download 👀 🤔 for speech because he pinched me yesterday because he could not communicate! Thanks again Tara. I'm in awe of you 💓 and your family 👪
Good video! Have you heard about Nemechek protocol before? It’s a hit here in the US for autism. We’re currently doing it with my 3 year old son and we’re seeing wonders!!
@@elsakarakatsani6709 Oh my! Where should I start, tremendous change! My son is 9 months on the protocol went from completely nonverbal to saying so much, he is more awake and aware of the surroundings, 90% potty trained more gestures, more functional play and pretend play. Less rigid and so much easier in transitions. We’re only doing floortime and Nemechek.
We have found that ABA is amazing (19 hours), supplemented with OT (1) and Speech (2). In reality our ABA provider does a ton on speech. In the US, most (but not all) company insurance plans in most states are required by law to provide "meaningful therapy". The things you have to be careful of are 1) if your employer is self insured for health care (that is most big companies), they are usually not in the law so may or may not be covered and 2) make sure your RBT is on the same level of thinking as your BCBA as not all are. Common criticism here (now that "most" insurance plans must cover) is that some of RBTs are "babysitters covered insurance".
Hi Tom Pakistan 087. What exactly have you done?? What age have you started?? What were the differences you have noticed before and after...Could you please answer??
They have the leaky gut because of the vaccine injury and also the MTHFR gene most likely but what biomedical treatment are you talking about time Pakistan 087?
Love your channel..Just was hoping to get your opinion..My baby is 12 weeks old and I am noticing a few things which don't feel normal..her eye contact is poor and she has a fascination for lights..She will turn her head towards any source of light she sees in the room and stares at it even when I am sitting next to her...Could this be a sign of Autism
Thank you . 12 weeks is so early lovely please don’t drive your self mad with worry. At 12 weeks most babies love lights and can’t see much at all. I know as mother’s it’s only natural to worry about everything but if I can give you one bit of advice is to enjoy this baby stage as it goes very quickly and soon they will be three years old refusing to put clothes on 🤣 ... sending you lots of love and a big hug. Your doing a great job xox
I personally don't agree with sending special needs children to mainstream schools. It seems better for them to be surrounded by teachers and peers who understand their struggles on a deeper level, so they don't feel so singled out. Their needs can be attended to properly and there's more focus on helping them be independent and confident rather than successful. I'd rather my child be able to look after themselves and be happy rather than successful in a job.
Excuse my ignorance but I don't have enough info 🙃 to follow you. I hope you don't mind giving it to me! I feel so good 👍 I have someone to turn to, I'm not alone, means so much ❤
@@ComingHometoAutism 👋 Hi Tara, hope you're well. Just wondering how do I follow you on Instagram? Because I love to see what app you are using for helping with speech. Kind regards, Teresa.
You are an amazing loving mom, thank you for sharing this video, learned a lot🥰👍 my son is in aba therapy here in USA , 1hr 30 min 5 days a week , he is 23 months old, hopefully it'll help him to do better as well
We live in America and my daughter is 12 HF but still very autistic (which I feel like I shouldn’t have to say but here we are). We do ABA and just like she said the first few sessions were hell and meltdowns were hard. BUT she is starting to have many successes (we’ve been doing it for about 9 months now) and her flexibility has grown by leaps and bounds. The social aspect has been harder because of stupid Covid and we can’t have group therapy for her to practice in social sessions but we are hoping to have some of that soon. If your child suffered with any milestones, or needs more flexibility this will be great for them!
My son is is 2.9 years old n we are also starting him speech therapy from next week. Am waiting for him to call me mamma... Am so hurt n broken. The stress pain... I can't say in words....
Just last week I diagonised my 2.9 year old son they didn't yet confirmed he is autistic. Bcoz due to lockdown we didn't go outside much n didn't interact with children also therapist told us that this might be bcoz of less parent child interaction. He is not started talking n does repetitive action more sensuous to sound also not potty trained. From next week we are giving him speech therapy first. I hope my son becomes normal n talk like other children. Am so hurt n broken now.
Hoya Tara I used to use specialist cutlery also I love swimming as well when I went away with the fam a few weeks ago I booked myself into swimming everyday it really Calms me very interesting Dylan finds it the same way. You are very right you can’t put children and young people with SEND in a bubble as it’s not real and that bubble will break when they grow up into teens and adults. We had a Play therapist when I was having my ops even at the age of 12 it helped as it was someone to talk to also children in need fund these I had help from children in need.
We are in the USA and through my husband job insurance it covers all types of therapies for our four year old boy we get 40hrs a week of no cost to us of aba therapy, ofcouse we don't use all the hours because it is way to much for our child and our selfs, currently we give him about 20hrs a week and he also does speech and occupational therapy. I think my husband pays like $60 every two weeks for a health insurance for a family of 4. In the USA if you do not have a job or are low income you qualify for free medical which I believe pays for all the special needs therapies they may need.
I wish I could get some free services. Since my husband makes over 90k a year we have to pay 100% for speech, in home services or any service for that matter. We are starting 30 minute sessions once a week on January 4th. They only offer once a week where I live for in home therapy. I'm so confused and feel so overwhelmed with everything. I feel like I can't find or get the proper help. My daughter is 2 1/2. I started to seek help when she was 18 months and I've only accomplished having someone come once a week and being charged. I see so many 2 year olds on here getting so many services. I think it is absolutely ridiculous that parents with a special needs child have to pay out of pocket at 100% for any services to help their child. It should be free regardless of how much you make.
I contemplated ending my life today but after watching your videos it gave me hope and inspiration to being a better parent. My daughter was diagnosed with autism two years ago and as things get harder I feel more and more heart broken and just can’t cope anymore. If anyone feels like they have no desire to live anymore because they feel they're not enough remember I also feel this way and you’re not alone but everything you’re feeling is false. You are ENOUGH! There is no better parent for your child than you. There is a light at the end of the tunnel even though you’re tired of waiting and it doesn’t feel that way. You will see the light just keep swimming.
Thank you for your honesty and sharing your feelings. You are helping others by being open about your own struggles.
You are right about so many things you’ve shared, especially: You are not alone!
Wishing you and your child the very best life. ❤
Amen! God loves you and knows your enough for your child! Stay strong! ❤❤❤❤❤
I cried because this is what I feel most of the time thank you this touched me so deeply
I understand you, you are not alone.
Caring about needs, loving, and wanting the best for your child is beyond enough...it is amazing!
You are absolutely incredible, as someone who is just starting the process I can’t tell you how much your videos are helping ease my anxiety! You are an inspiration and a fantastic role model, thank you so much for taking the time to help others..... all you ever hear is the “bad stuff” you have no idea how much you’re helping us worried mums ❤️ thank you
I’m so happy they help x
I totally agree. Her voice is therapeutic and she is really giving us the meet and potatoes to this process that is so difficult. Thanks Tara
Thank you for being so down to earth. At this point we need help. Your transparency is much appreciated!
I appreciate that!
Thank you for your videos. I’ve been watching them for the past year since my son was diagnosed at 2. My heart shattered when he was diagnosed even though I knew he had autism - it was like I was holding on to this tiny shred of hope that flew away. I experience a lot of grief, namely because I don’t know what to expect for the future. Will my child be potty trained? Will he graduate high school? Just like you my concern is about his ability to be independent when he gets older and I’m no longer around. I don’t care if he prefers his own company or doesn’t participate in family events (though I’d love it if he would) my biggest concern is his independence and that he is able to be content and make his needs and wants known. I’m so emotionally and mentally drained because I always need to be “on” in order to teach him and I worry about time running out - that the window for the best result is closing and he still hasn’t reached certain milestones.
My daughter is in a special school and gets speech there but we are getting her a formal assessment next month for a full diagnosis for more services!!!
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Your videos are amazing. Good advice for filling out the forms about their worst day. VIDEO REQUEST: Massage technique for stretching their feet.
Our son also walk on tiptoe before he was diagnosed and it fade eventually. We go to occupational therapy here in the Philippines once a week for 1hr only and he never had speech therapy becuase of availability. So what we did is we do a follow thru at home.. He also loves swimming 😊
This is very helpful. Our daughter was diagnosed at the age of 10. It would be helpful to know if any of your friends have daughters that have autism and diagnosed later in age. We have started horse riding and she lives it we also bought a dog and the meltdowns she had has halved. Swimming is also a great help to her we go to a autism Swimming session weekly. I've found these have helped her so much 💖
Thank you for doing this. It is a huge help not just for parents but also for carers. :)
Thank you so much for sharing this! Very helpful . Your son is lucky to have you :)
Thank you so much for such helpful information and being so straight talking about everything. Honestly, you deserve an OBE or some sort of Award, as your advice is priceless and from hands on experience. We are still waiting after 6 months to see pediatrician for diagnosis of our little one, as you say it is hell in this waiting period. He also has weakness in his legs and no one else has mentioned about the Achilles heel, etc. and to massage, as you said. Thanks so much.
Oh bless you thank you so much your just so lovely x
Please do a video on whether screen time has anything to do with autism
Thank you for sharing your story! God bless you and your family.
You are an amazing mum. I watched the full video & got so many helpful information.
Thank you that your helping that it's not me just being a terrible mummy. I have been told that for so long by social.
Your a great mum don’t let anyone make you doubt that . Your trying your best x
All this therapies are very interesting, what about diet supplements and biomedicine? Did you do anything like that?
Yesss..I 've been waiting for this video for so long..thank you for the information..we love you so much..
Ah thank you so so much xox
Thank you so much for this lovely video and I know what is like to be your son because I have ASD and I hope you keep making more video.
When they acess your child though in person they sometimes only see the good side in experience because parent put in a lot to maintain their child or prevent triggers ect - so it can appear that the child is not in need of such great support because the challenges are not always glaring because your always trying to avoid those worst moments ect
But then you put them in a school and then the child can ‘act out’ and then the school will wonder why
And my personal experience was that they don’t listen to what you want in the ehcp unless they see it for themselves - and this process can put your child through unnecessary stress unless you have a very good LA
In the US there is a lot of controversy over ABA therapy. It is said to cause PTSD and can be harmful in the long run. I don’t know if this is true or not but just the fact that there is controversy and there has been some autistic adults come out to say how bad this therapy was for them i will not put my son thru it. Parents do your research first. If it works for you great but it’s not for me.
Absolutely it’s actually down to the therapist as well I think. For us it was really gentle and Great for helping him put shoes on in a fun way x
This is the same thing I was thinking after I heard that story about the girl who went to the computer and typed the words help during her ABA session. I think her name is Carly.
ABA's principals are just basically dog training for kids to make them act neurotypical. In later years therapists have brought in more elements from good therapies such as occupational therapy and speech therapy, and just saying that it's part of ABA when it isn't. It was made by the same guy who made conversion therapy for homosexuals, which again is absolutely awful.
And yeah, a lot of people who have been through the supposed "good ABA" have come out saying that they've been traumatized and that it did lasting or permanent damage to them. It hurts me a lot as an autistic that I see so many people (typically in the states, where it's covered by insurance) talking about how their children are going through ABA and them not doing enough research, or not having any other option, and just taking places like Autism Speaks' word for it that it's helpful. The basics are to make the child not do the "undesired things that autistic kids do" while not realising that there is a reason for everything.
Every therapist is different, of course, but the good parts of ABA are just other therapies that have later been applied by ABA as well, so it's better to just do things like occupational, and creating a safe and supportive environment the autistic at home and at school or work etc. Therapy isn't gonna replace being treated inhuman other places.
This is the ultimate therapy that works on everything, but it is done by faith in Jesus as the Son of God. Go to your Bible book store and purchase a small bottle of anointing oil. Take it home, hold it up and ask God to anoint it in Jesus' name. Then every morning and night before your son goes to be and then wakes up in the morning, pour oil in your hands, lay both of your hands on his head and say exactly these words, " in the name of Jesus Christ, I command you to have a 'new brain' !"
This therapy is not limited to autism, but covers alzheimers, brain injuries, and anything in between. Gradually, you will see a difference. Don't stop and don't give up. I have heard of many healings that occur when people invoke the name of Jesus. He's still healing today because His name is above every other name.
thanks a million for all your videos👍 thanks for sharing your experiences and being so open! ❤️ you’re a lifesaver 👏👏👏
thank you so much for all the helpful information, im new to your channel but i am also Autistic from the UK i really appreciate a parents perspective as you are the ones who know us best. Im excited for more of your content.
Thanks so much x
Please check Mark Hemans TH-cam channel / autism healed
Here in the USA insurance covers ABA. Luckily my son's OT, Speech and ABA are all covered. Thank you for all your advice.
You mean YOUR insurance covers those therapies. Not all insurances in usa. I don't want people to be confused about the american healthcare system
@@fungamesandstories YES MY INSURANCE COVERS
Dina what insurance do you have im trying to find on here in 🇺🇸 that will cover all this for my daughter?
@@fungamesandstories No. Most states have mandated coverage for ABA and major insurance covers it now. My son has had ABA for 3 years now and has been covered. There are out of pocket costs but the majority is covered. They also cover unlimited OT and Speech if its autism related.
Great video and thanks for all the information. It would be amazing to see a video just on Rosie at some point-how you decided on the breed, the training she will need, etc. Maybe once you are a bit further along with her. Thanks 😀
Absolutely x
Thank you very much. I’m in London and waiting for formal diagnosis for my son.
Thank you for updating all your past journeys u helping us allot of parents , I would like to know when delen stop tip toe walking and what help him to stop. Thank you
Great video. So you know there are a number of local authorities funding ABA therapy here in the UK . Our ABA therapist works with a number of children that are been funded by the LA. The parents requested it however were declined but after an appeal was made they managed to get it through. I have an appeal going through currently and using a specialist solicitor for this process. Will let you know how it all goes
That’s really great advise and Information thank you for sharing x
My son’s ABA is funded by West Sussex. We started it straight after diagnosis at 3 privately. We gathered data to support our application for it to be included in his Ehcp. We of course had to engage a lawyer to help us through this process and we’re Successful. It’s helps if you can prove ABA results ours were supported by both the nursery and Speech therapist who teamed up
With ABA tutor for support to manage my son’s avoidance behaviour. Good luck.
@@shamilaadam-march6098 Hi Shamila, i have currently applied for the ECHP. Can you give me some info on how to start the ABA process? Do I need to start with privat ABA and then put it through for funding? I’m at a very confusing state right now, any help will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
@@zohrahammad3247 unfortunately you need evidence that ABA is working and making a difference. Even with the evidence be prepared to go to tribunal. So get yourself a good lawyer. We did ABA privately for almost 2 years plus we had private speech therapy. We managed to produce evidence on how we used Aba tutor and techniques help our son access learning by supporting both the nursery and Salt. We provided a tutor to assist these professionals to help manage is escapism behaviour which was making it impossible for them to do any sessions especially Salt. The other challenge is finding a school that is open to aba. The special needs school around our area do not aba they have other therapies. So it also depends on where you would like to send your son will depend on the route you should take. Aba works differently for different kids. Try it privately to see if it’s the right fit for your son before embarking on this battle.
Yeah waiting period is jus like🙄🙄....Thank you ❤️❤️
Sending hugs
Thank you so much, your help is worth watching 💜
That’s so lovely of you to say thank you x
Thank you so much for sharing the really helpful information.
You are a great mother !!!! 💓💓💓
Thank you!!
Thank you fir you helpful videos and all th informations you gave us ,I wish I could watch ur vlogs long time ago I would be taking less tentions and stress nd getting depressed 😭,because only mothers like u and me who knows what means to deal and handle autistic kid,,you r heroine 👍😊
I live in the US and my kids did receive ABA therapy for free through partnership Healthcare
came across your video,love this explanation n as im so new to this,my toddler just got diagnos and im trying to learn more about it,thank you,
Rene went to little Hillbrook last academic year! This year I opted for Paddock! Ps. I had pause so I can write
That is awesome!
Thank you for your help. I'm the grandmother of an autistic 4 yr old boy. I was the one that took him to the doctor to be diagnosed his parents, his mom particularly were ignoring the signs. Now that he has parents have been given the tools to help him they do not do any of it and his mother ignore the teachers giving her instructions. How can I help him when we all live together and she interferes with his trying to be helped from me?
Great video ur my inspiration dear luv you alot m Indian but I watched ur video m so happy to see uh everyday .luv you
We have ABA in USA but depends ón where you live at how much therapy you can get. Florida has the best I think. Look up fathering Autism. Never heard of play therapy here though. Love your videos ♥️
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ABA is covered in all private insurances and state funded insurance in the USA
Thank you for making these videos. Thank you Thank you
My pleasure!
In New Hampshire USA we've been doing aba about a year. My son will be 3 in a few weeks. Hes in an early supports program. They provide a speech and occupational therapy and contract out a behavioral therapist. Everything is covered. Since covid happened everything moved to zoom and has been a nightmare. He was getting at home services 5 days a week and now he's only getting 2 days a week for only 30 mins on zoom. Now he's gonna be going to a special ed preschool but because of covid can only get a day. But we will be continuing the behavioral services 5 days a week now hopefully at our house. We r gonna try to see if we can get private services ontop of what we r getting cause we know he needs at least something everyday.
Thank you so much for sharing . It’s been so hard over this whole covid thing hasn’t it x
Yes this has been a complete nightmare for us since March. This week has been the worst for us. Since Monday my son all of a sudden has become hyperactive and is chewing everything in sight and constantly just wants nutrigain bars. He was never like this before. Only time he would have energy would be him running back and forth and the chewing everything in sight stopped when all his teeth came in. Hes a picky eater but wouldn't refuse any of his foods that he likes in front of him. Hes also sleeps better than me. Today he was up at 4am and wouldn't nap. We reached out to his therapists and pediatrician so hopefully they have suggestions. Im hoping its just a phase and can't wait until he can finally get in person help.
What books did the play therapist recommend to you?
I wish more parents would actually listen to #actuallyautistic people about their experiences with ABA. The Great Big ABA Opposition List Resource is extensive and speaks to the har that ABA usually does to autistic children (who are a more vulnerable population in general). It doesn't make sense to default to your own parental lens instead of listening to the community and trying to learn more about autism from autistic people.
Ha, I'm 38, still tip toe walk.. but it's mostly barefoot.. stimming feels good, and is needed and, ABA therapy ir forced framework play is basically narcissistic grooming, actually it is narcissistic grooming.. compare them, please prove me wrong... forced eye contact feels nasty! Maybe pda as a co-morbidity ... I'm autistic and my son is autistic. I was in ABA, and my son too yet unbeknownst to me, once learning about conditioning tactics , and control of framework, I have cptsd and Npd.. and tbh my kid can't trick or treat without getting overloaded because of the compliment therapy..." the meltdowns are shorter because it conditioning tactics.. Please check out " Trigger warning ABA is child abuse, and look up and get versed in cptsd research..oh, also.. my son was nonverbal in kindergarten, reading at 6th grade level, and guess what, 4 teeth pulled from treats at school for reward of abilities shown.. you lost me but hopefully this can help..
Thank you learnt a lot again . Always learning 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂
Thane has a theopy cat. He calms him down. Free from system here in Ontario Canada.
Thanks so much for your help I rely on you for help with my son
Happy to help
Excellent. Thanks 🙏🏽
Brilliant help at this time the twins are not talking at 28 months one of the twins Stims so just waiting to be assessed
Same here
This one is really helpful
I watched all of your videos, they are very informative. My son is going to be 3 in December, his receiving 25 hours a week of in-home ABA here in the US. I’m planning to take him to pre-school ( special education classroom with different disabilities) starting on January. So his hours of ABA will go down but at the same time he will have the opportunity to see other kids at school which he never does. I’m worry that i’m making a mistake to take him there, since he is still non- verbal. Just babbling and some words. I’m just looking for someones opinion on this, since honestly i don’t know anybody who is on the same page as me. Thank you for sharing your life as an autistic mom, it has being very helpful and your son is a very amazing kid. :)
I live in Sussex can you please recommend a specialist swimming instructor. Thanks
If you google swimming teacher for special needs some will come up. The lady we saw has now stopped x
Tara, which part of city
are you living in UK? In Birmingham not much help
SO MANY THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO. So important especially that MANY moms don't get access to these therapies. I have just one request please : could do you make a video here or on instagram about the feet massage you're doing to Dylan that would help a lot , my son has also the same problem when walking. Thank you again ❤️❤️❤️
Of course I’ll try do that soon for you x
Thank you for your video, it is so helpful. Can you please suggest me any Aba therapy centre in UK? I’m interested for my 3years son.
In the United States, none of those therapies are free. PT, OT and ST are private practices and they only take cash paying patients or people on private insurances. Diagnosis takes up to two years. Resources scarce unless you have the financial means. You guys are lucky .
Hi how do you try food with an autistic child that only want to drink formula out of a bottle?
Of course
My child has been diagnosed HFA at age 6, since he is smart and does things as instructed, his diagnosis at an early age was a miss! I have been redirected to Autism intervention team who might suggest ABA therapy, speech to come later though. I want to know how long the therapy needs to be done and will be continued lifelong!?
So, dylan ever had eye contact issue too? I watched ur videos n it seems that he always has good eye contact
We are here in the philippines..and its hard for us toget a good support from the governement
Thank you so much for sharing this video. Here in the uk how can I get ABA therapist or play therapist please?
Hi very informative thank you just a quick one I'm in South Africa and medical aid doesn't really cover much still finding my feet would like to understand when you started sending Dylan to speech therapy my son Mason just turned four and is currently in play therapy what readiness should I look for?
speech therapy can start very early on its not just about speech its self but communication. even babies communicate through crying so i think start as soon as you can xox
hello im sheilou from Philippines..i have a son and he just turn 2 yrs old..im worried because i saw signs of autism..we dont have much money for a therapy..can we do that therapies at home? without a doctor? because we cant afford to see a doctor for his therapy...😔
Tara you're amazing
What I do for toe walking plz make a video
Can you tell me any good aba therapist please
Tnx 🙏🏻
Are all these therapies not expensive?
Really Helpful. Can you recommend the Consultant used for ABA and the therapist?
Video on potty training and eating different foods
We have those videos already up on our channel. Hope this helps x
What about son-rise?
Oh my Gosh. I'm so glad I'm through the poo smearing and peepee grabbing 😭
What is your take on giving zeolite to autistic children?
Does that help?
We have not used this I’m afraid so can’t comment on this x
I'm still waiting Tara for the name of app to download, to help jack with his communication via his ipad. Thank you in anticipation. Teresa
The app we used is now not working you can use nursery rhymes and also phonics apps. There is another app which we are using at the moment do you follow me on Instagram? I’ll be putting on there as well as posting on my community wall later this week thanks x
My son is about to take ABA
Hello was there at any point you considered taking Dylan out of school and joining specialist groups sensory groups private tutoring ? something we are considering for our son , he had about 3 years left in primary school should we manage to get through it we will consider taking him out sooner . The school desk isn’t always the best for every child .I do believe in a little routine and our son enjoys computers games and loves world maps travelling will be fun !he loves geography Is Dylan really into anything that he loves and does really well at like most kids I suppose but like much more obsessed with his world maps and flags and places of interest around the world . Thankyou .Do you think it’s worth getting in touch with my local
Autism society see what they suggest or can tell me about groups to join especially if decide taking our son out of school for home educating ?.
Thank you. Wishing you all the move into new house 🏠 it will be worth it 👌 what app do I download load on ipad to hear my boy 👦 Jack with his speech 💬 because as you he is non verbal only uses words, comprehension and reading and spelling very good 👍 numbers never got them.
All the best 👍 sorry 😞
To help my boy Jack 👦 💙 this predicted text can be a bit of pain sometimes. What's the name of app to download 👀 🤔 for speech because he pinched me yesterday because he could not communicate! Thanks again Tara. I'm in awe of you 💓 and your family 👪
Good video! Have you heard about Nemechek protocol before? It’s a hit here in the US for autism. We’re currently doing it with my 3 year old son and we’re seeing wonders!!
I have it does sound good we have no tried it our selves x
Dear Razaz. What differences have you noticed compared with the period before??
@@elsakarakatsani6709 Oh my! Where should I start, tremendous change! My son is 9 months on the protocol went from completely nonverbal to saying so much, he is more awake and aware of the surroundings, 90% potty trained more gestures, more functional play and pretend play. Less rigid and so much easier in transitions. We’re only doing floortime and Nemechek.
Olive oil, inulin, and the enzyme capsule right? How do you get your child to eat back last thing?
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Can you please explain me what is nemechek I have 2kids with autism I can’t find anything to help them.
Thanks 🙏 for the response.
We have found that ABA is amazing (19 hours), supplemented with OT (1) and Speech (2). In reality our ABA provider does a ton on speech. In the US, most (but not all) company insurance plans in most states are required by law to provide "meaningful therapy". The things you have to be careful of are 1) if your employer is self insured for health care (that is most big companies), they are usually not in the law so may or may not be covered and 2) make sure your RBT is on the same level of thinking as your BCBA as not all are. Common criticism here (now that "most" insurance plans must cover) is that some of RBTs are "babysitters covered insurance".
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Biomedcal treatment for healing gut as these kids have leaky gut and homeopathic both works wonders for our 4 n half year old daughter
Yes we did this was good x
Hi Tom Pakistan 087. What exactly have you done?? What age have you started?? What were the differences you have noticed before and after...Could you please answer??
@@ComingHometoAutism Hi Tara could you help me with what sort of homeopathic medicine helped Dylan?
Many thanks for your help
They have the leaky gut because of the vaccine injury and also the MTHFR gene most likely but what biomedical treatment are you talking about time Pakistan 087?
Love your channel..Just was hoping to get your opinion..My baby is 12 weeks old and I am noticing a few things which don't feel normal..her eye contact is poor and she has a fascination for lights..She will turn her head towards any source of light she sees in the room and stares at it even when I am sitting next to her...Could this be a sign of Autism
Thank you . 12 weeks is so early lovely please don’t drive your self mad with worry. At 12 weeks most babies love lights and can’t see much at all. I know as mother’s it’s only natural to worry about everything but if I can give you one bit of advice is to enjoy this baby stage as it goes very quickly and soon they will be three years old refusing to put clothes on 🤣 ... sending you lots of love and a big hug. Your doing a great job xox
@@ComingHometoAutism Thank you..Keep up your good work of educating people through your videos
Whatever therapies you do, just please be careful not to encourage masking.
I personally don't agree with sending special needs children to mainstream schools. It seems better for them to be surrounded by teachers and peers who understand their struggles on a deeper level, so they don't feel so singled out. Their needs can be attended to properly and there's more focus on helping them be independent and confident rather than successful. I'd rather my child be able to look after themselves and be happy rather than successful in a job.
Excuse my ignorance but I don't have enough info 🙃 to follow you. I hope you don't mind giving it to me! I feel so good 👍 I have someone to turn to, I'm not alone, means so much ❤
How can I help you?
@@ComingHometoAutism 👋 Hi Tara, hope you're well. Just wondering how do I follow you on Instagram? Because I love to see what app you are using for helping with speech. Kind regards, Teresa.
Hey there if you have Instagram is @taraleniston link is in the description box x
What type of repetitive behavior he had?
Most of the.therapist here.dont teach parents
A.B.A. was the first light ✨ I could see 👀 for my boy Jack 👦
We loved it x
Thank you so much for being a great mom first of all. But also for helping other moms through this journey.
please check Mark Hemans TH-cam channel / autism healed
You are an amazing loving mom, thank you for sharing this video, learned a lot🥰👍 my son is in aba therapy here in USA , 1hr 30 min 5 days a week , he is 23 months old, hopefully it'll help him to do better as well
Did you need a diagnosis before you could send him?
@Dr Yuching Lee lol what is normal?
Hi Joy, my son is about to start ABA therapy here in USA. He is 3 1/2. Did you see much difference since your son started?
Thank you, amazing and so helpful as always. I couldn't stop staring at the GORGEOUS view outside your window. Love love Autumn ♡
Me too 🍂🍂🍂🍂
We live in America and my daughter is 12 HF but still very autistic (which I feel like I shouldn’t have to say but here we are). We do ABA and just like she said the first few sessions were hell and meltdowns were hard. BUT she is starting to have many successes (we’ve been doing it for about 9 months now) and her flexibility has grown by leaps and bounds. The social aspect has been harder because of stupid Covid and we can’t have group therapy for her to practice in social sessions but we are hoping to have some of that soon. If your child suffered with any milestones, or needs more flexibility this will be great for them!
My son is is 2.9 years old n we are also starting him speech therapy from next week. Am waiting for him to call me mamma... Am so hurt n broken. The stress pain... I can't say in words....
I love the way you are helping so many families Tara. So amazing xx
Thank mama
Thank you so much for this video! God bless you and your family loads! Going to order your book now!!
@Dr Yuching Lee Who is Doc Oyalo?
Just last week I diagonised my 2.9 year old son they didn't yet confirmed he is autistic. Bcoz due to lockdown we didn't go outside much n didn't interact with children also therapist told us that this might be bcoz of less parent child interaction. He is not started talking n does repetitive action more sensuous to sound also not potty trained. From next week we are giving him speech therapy first. I hope my son becomes normal n talk like other children. Am so hurt n broken now.
Hoya Tara I used to use specialist cutlery also I love swimming as well when I went away with the fam a few weeks ago I booked myself into swimming everyday it really Calms me very interesting Dylan finds it the same way. You are very right you can’t put children and young people with SEND in a bubble as it’s not real and that bubble will break when they grow up into teens and adults. We had a Play therapist when I was having my ops even at the age of 12 it helped as it was someone to talk to also children in need fund these I had help from children in need.
Dear Olivia. At what age have you started swimming???
We are in the USA and through my husband job insurance it covers all types of therapies for our four year old boy we get 40hrs a week of no cost to us of aba therapy, ofcouse we don't use all the hours because it is way to much for our child and our selfs, currently we give him about 20hrs a week and he also does speech and occupational therapy. I think my husband pays like $60 every two weeks for a health insurance for a family of 4.
In the USA if you do not have a job or are low income you qualify for free medical which I believe pays for all the special needs therapies they may need.
hi am new what age Dylon begin to talk
I wish I could get some free services. Since my husband makes over 90k a year we have to pay 100% for speech, in home services or any service for that matter. We are starting 30 minute sessions once a week on January 4th. They only offer once a week where I live for in home therapy.
I'm so confused and feel so overwhelmed with everything. I feel like I can't find or get the proper help. My daughter is 2 1/2. I started to seek help when she was 18 months and I've only accomplished having someone come once a week and being charged. I see so many 2 year olds on here getting so many services. I think it is absolutely ridiculous that parents with a special needs child have to pay out of pocket at 100% for any services to help their child. It should be free regardless of how much you make.
Love your videos! You help me so much reassurance that my child will be ok
Thank you beautiful x