I used to be stuck in victim mindset but with work I realized it was because as a kid my parents could always save the day. As humans we miss the feeling as a kid of being saved or coddled by someone. When a parent would hold you and tell you everything will be ok and all you had to do was sit there and everything did become ok. Now we have to empower ourselves to be the parent to our inner child. Tell them it is ok but also take steps to make it that way
I’ve been saying some version of this to people for a while now, which usually went “well you can’t really do much about what happened, but you can control how you respond to it”. I can honestly tell you that timing this message and softening it as much as you can is key to it being heard. When someone is spinning out that usually is t the time to challenge them. I’ve made this mistake so so many times.
I take this perspective with a grain of salt. I think it takes discernment of your circumstances to determine how much you can take on to alter your mindset to ultimately change your circumstances for yourself. It places a lot of responsibility on the individual to change, when there can be plenty that is outside your locus of control. I hear a lot of contrast of “victim mindset” vs “empowered mindset” not allowing for the gray area in between. I think it’s a privilege to have power and mental capacity to simply change your mindset for positive results. And the pressure to change your mindset when contrasted with things like depression, trauma and societal disenfranchisement can place blame on individuals.
THIS!!! It's hard enough to just "change your mindset" when you're a first world citizen living with debilitating health issues.....now imagine saying this message to a survivor of war or someone living in a third world country....it would come off as extremely tone deaf. You are absolutely right that it is a privilege to hold this perspective.
Also, I hate the term "victim-mindset" - it has such a negative connotation...why can't we admit that sometimes people are victims, whether it's of someone else, a culture, society, etc?? Just because someone is a victim doesn't make them a horrible, helpless person. It's simply acknowledging the way that that person was/is treated unfairly.
@@xcristinattotally agree. Our modern, hyper-individualistic society has way too much focus on ‘winners vs losers’ and the idea that happiness and succes is a feasible concept. Sure, partly this is true, but it totally ignores important aspects such as genetic predisposition, societal and cultural influences and one’s cognitive ability to see things in a different perspective. Therefore if you are not successful or happy it’s probably ‘your own fault’.
Thank you for this content. I feel like it hit on something I have been struggling with for the past few months and gave me a starting point for what I hope can be a meaningful change. I had been feeling like a lot of bad things had been just "happening to me" without considering my agency in those things or how I can CHOOSE to respond rather than just responding emotionally with my first instinct.
Oh my gosh GIRL! Yes. This is how I have chosen to see my life for what feels like a decade now. It's the only way to do it. I've learned so much. And honestly like after the summer I just had (breakup with partner of 7 years, ending friendship of 9 yrs), I cannot tell you have beneficial it has been for me to take time to focus on myself and learn how I can grow from these experiences. I am now a few months past that stuff and things are already looking incredibly better. I, like anyone else, have my hard days but in the grand scheme of things I am doing so much better and a huge part of that is the committed mindset I have cultivated.
Can't control your reaction, but you do control your Response. Practice your Response. Practice makes Progress. Eventually, your Response will Progress into something that feels like Reaction YOU CAN DO THE THING!!!
This is so true, I wrote down what I wanted to believe every morning and evening for a month now even when I'm crying my brain replays the positive thoughts instead of digging me deeper into the hole
❤ Our MINDSET is everything. It’s the filter we put over everything we see, think and experience. It’s the key to taking difficult experiences in life and turning them into opportunities to grow and increase our self-love and confidence. As a Mindset Coach, I regularly talk about strategies for how we can learn how to LOVE OUR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs we’re experiencing on my YT channel.
“Unlearning previous behaviours, beliefs and mindsets will take a lot of conscious and intentional reprogramming. But that work makes the difference between making the most out of your life and living your highest and truest potential.. OR .. allowing things that happen to you to dictate who you are and how far you’ll go and how fulfilled you’ll be.” Great stuff, keep it up!
Charles R. Swindoll is a great preacher and theologian who was based in Fullerton for many years. Thanks for quoting him. I've been a fan of his for a long time.
I needed to hear this today. I failed a lot this morning, and it felt a lot like i was useless, and that my study group didn't think i was enough to include me. I journalled. And now I am going to appreciate all my efforts and that I gave good answers in my lecture today and that I am smart. Onwards.
A problem I have is blaming myself for circumstances outside of my control and also blaming myself for my own choices. Being both the victim and the villain is hard and not sure how to get out of that…
Recently I had a bad experience and I’m kinda flashed by myself how positive I go trough it. Yeah sometimes I’m sad but then I think of it as a good event. Like now i know that I want more love, and I will give it to myself. It’s motivating time to pull myself to the good side of life. :)
When the bad events happens to me I always think okey dude its temporary it will over just be patience about it and as always it finish like happiness and other good feelings..
I’ve found the best key is to not beat yourself up for negative emotions, it’s all part of the experience of being here, and not every event will have a silver lining. But there truly is something to be said for how, without the bad, we couldn’t truly appreciate the good. All experiences are temporary and it’s best to be kind to yourself throughout all of them. Happiness won’t stay, but neither will misery.
Yup! This is basically a happiness science 101: Things are never good or bad. Because it all depends on what you compare them to. Is breaking a leg bad? Not necessarily, because you could've broken your spine. The quickest way to feel better is to think how it could've been worst (negative visualization technique) and the biggest mistake we make (to feel down) is we think how things could have been better..
Just watched ant-man for the first time today and i saw you! didn't realize you had made it that high. good for you! i wish you luck in your future endeavors
Needed this. I opened up to my friends about a guy who was bullying me and instead of being there for me they ghosted and stayed friends with the guy instead. Feels pretty hard to reframe this in a positive way :(
I think the message isn’t necessarily to make it all positive, but just to find the silver lining. In your case, your garbage friends took themselves out to the dumpster. A similar thing happened to me when I was 18. but from that lowest point, I wound up getting a job with some amazing people that I have remained friends with to this day. I didn’t see a way out, but I found it by complete accident and my garbage hand turned out to be a life-changing boon. I’m sure that you will find your way towards people who will be good friends that are worth having in your life.
"Victim of circumstance" That's not always applicative. Whether or not we see ourselves as victims doesn't always change our circumstances. Denial of events and actions outside of our control may help our internal state, but can also create a whole new problem of our own making. This is a slippery slope. No matter how well you play a bad hand, you still got dealt a bad hand.
The first step to changing anything is acceptance of the things that you cannot change. Well... it might take a number of steps to get to that acceptance. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression... I mean acceptance of the past is basically the first productive step. You always need to be in reality to change the future. You know, a lot of modern activists like to object to optimism, seeming to feel that if folks feel too empowered, then they're not likely to fight for political change. And that may be true in some cases. But defeatists are not going to fight, either.
I think it completely depends, sometimes negative cards come in blessings in disguise depending upon how you play them in the future, my situation is really hard to tell which way it could go, possibly two situations I'm in or three and in a story I wrote the main character thinks what's happened to her is the worst thing that could happen at first....
It's a good message, maybe only applies to how to react to some things tho. If something truely awful happens to you, I'm not sure just changing your mindset will allow you to get over it
it only took me 40 years to be empowered ... but I've never actively trained to get rid of the victim mentality, I've simply hit wall after wall and then I found the door. but the realization was painful as f... when I looked back and saw how much of me I've wasted because of not feeling in charge, blaming everything else instead.
I like the idea “Who you are; is the sum of your reactions to what’s happened around you” or “you are the sum of your reactions”. Also is there any community like a discord server for Anna’s viewers? I’ve been watching for years and think it’d be awesome to be able to jump on a server and talk with other people interested in the same topics, seems like it’d be a positive and helpful community to engage with.
@AnnaAkana - Sent you msg on Patreon before I watched this and this is, in fact, based in science. Quantum Physics has a couple of theories that support this way of thinking. 1. If it's not observed and recorded in some way, it isn't reality. 2. Your thoughts can change things at the quantum lvl. Meaning, you can think things into happening. "The power of positive thinking" is basically a real thing.
That's pretty much equivalent to the Law of Attraction. If you don't like your current self, you've gotta start acting like the person you want to be, and that comes with everything Anna said here.
I'm just now grasping the depth of this concept... It's not just "change your mindset, change your life", it's "Your life IS your mindset". For anyone interested, the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and even Self-hypnosis are good accellerators to this process.
I’ve been having a lot of bad situations thot has happened to me and failures and I have to truly work on myself because your dealing with people they will hate and judge you for no reason 🤦🏽♀️🙏🏾
Always, right on time. I am wondering how Ana knows what I needed to hear. Thank you for making me feel so much better with the situatuon I am right now.
Hi Claire. I hope you’re doing ok. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃
i love your videos anna, and find myself sharing them often. i think i needed to hear this, and i think i know a couple other who could stand to hear it too. thank you. also, i've been watching your videos for years and you've found a way to make sponsor portions funny or interesting lol. thanks for that too
I was recently stuck in a victim mentality after I left a job I loved for an opportunity that lead nowhere. I had to go from working at a photo studio, to working as a cashiere again. I was sad and scared and wondered how’d I find another job related to my field (I live in a state with little opportunities in my chosen career). I also have little skills since I went to a university that did not have the best program. I felt sorry for myself for a bit. Then, I decided to fix my situation. I got a better paying job. And now I’m going to community college and taking on a mentorship with someone in the field to improve my skills and get a portfolio. Even though I’m lost and a little embarrassed that I’m not where I want to be, I’m going to take action. Let’s hope all goes well.
Hi Breh. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃
If you're broke and you look at a pile of money as an opportunity to do something fun, it don't change the fact that if you don't pay your bills you'll be living on the street. It is not a victim mentality to recognize that there are things that are not under your control. Nor is it a victim mentality to recognize that others have a vested interest in that state of affairs. Take control of what you can, but don't delude yourself about what you can't or why you can't.
Okay but ✨ mindset ✨ is not a substitute for therapy, and psychological issues like depression can't just be magicked away with some positive thinking...
My problem is that past experiences impact my reaction...and it's usually negative. My biggest problem is fear. It often dictates my actions and how I react to stuff and thus my life and it's crippling.
When I broke up w an ex . He said this is the way he is because of his childhood. I told him I also grew up that way and will always choose to be more loving. And I left
So would I be right in thinking it's less about the material conditions but where you go from there? I mean, I'm glad you raised how the things you say to yourself can seem like a lie at first. One thing I found helpful for that was thinking in practical terms, "what can I do to get where I want to be?" so in 2019 (effectively 2020) I set up my TH-cam Channel and in 2021 I started my shopify shop and joined Discord servers to meet new people and expand on what I have to get closer to where I want to be. Anyhow, hope you are all having a nice day.
I already know why these things always happen to me, though I didn't for 95% of my life. I was just gaslit about it. Having an autistic/ADHD brain in a world that is screaming in sound, far too blinding, constantly ignoring and shaming humans need for rest, shaming of anything that slightly deviates from a tiny sliver of "this is how humans are supposed to behave and anyone that doesn't should die". In a world of religion that actively targets difference with fury and hatred. For most my life I went in with the most positive and upbeat mindset but what do you do when it's never good enough for people? When you're constantly bullied and shamed? When it doesn't matter because someone else is always picked. I'm so burnt out I don't have any energy or money or time to give to anything. People complain now about how hard getting a job is but that has always been the case for me. Now I actually know why I cannot find a job that doesn't destroy my health. Life wants me to exist but the other people here with me don't. I see no way out of this and my option is limited to death or slow torture if I can even manage to find a job.
"It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see" apart from the really nice and appreciating message i guess some of us also saw something else 😂😂😂
It really depends. If you are striving to be a master of physical reality, like, for example an engineer should, it matters very much what you look at and it matters very much that what you see is a close approximation to what you look at. More abstract, the same is true, for example, for a risk manager. Sure, for regular people it is just as the quote says, but that is a central reason why most people are bad at engineering and bad at risk management. Because there is a large, sometimes huge gap between what is and what they see.
📝 I am poor not as a consequence of capitalism and the accumulation of wealth among the wealthy, I am poor because I don't think I have enough money. Wow thanks a lot Anna! Without changing my mindset I would have never been able to afford a house. Thinking about the amount of money I have in a different way magically changed my circumstances and I am no longer poor!
Welcome to a cornerstone of ancient Greek Stoic philosophy. The important thing isn't what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you. Check out Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus if you want some old school thoughts in that vein.
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“We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.”
True, I have really loved this comment 🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️
If we start seeing things as they are then we will be really depressed 💀
Going to tell this to tradcons, feminists and femceIs
"It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see" wow.
Can someone explain to me what does she mean with affirmations ?
@@theodora3141 saying things to yourself over and over again until it becomes your default mindset.
Hope that helps :)
@@Weaponator18 it does , thank you ❤️
True 😊😊😊
Inshallah
I used to be stuck in victim mindset but with work I realized it was because as a kid my parents could always save the day. As humans we miss the feeling as a kid of being saved or coddled by someone. When a parent would hold you and tell you everything will be ok and all you had to do was sit there and everything did become ok. Now we have to empower ourselves to be the parent to our inner child. Tell them it is ok but also take steps to make it that way
'Victim mindset' May I ask what is your gender?
Well said…
Really love today’s message, and such a great one to wake up to on my birthday, really glad I’ve stuck by for all this time.
Happy Birthday, glad that Anna was able to inspire and uplift you today! 🥰
Happy birthday 🎊 make it a beautiful one for your world!
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday beautiful soul!
🎂🎉
I’ve been saying some version of this to people for a while now, which usually went “well you can’t really do much about what happened, but you can control how you respond to it”. I can honestly tell you that timing this message and softening it as much as you can is key to it being heard. When someone is spinning out that usually is t the time to challenge them. I’ve made this mistake so so many times.
Thanks Anna for reminding us the importance of the choices we make and how they define us!
When I watch her videos, I feel myself so happy and confident
I take this perspective with a grain of salt. I think it takes discernment of your circumstances to determine how much you can take on to alter your mindset to ultimately change your circumstances for yourself. It places a lot of responsibility on the individual to change, when there can be plenty that is outside your locus of control. I hear a lot of contrast of “victim mindset” vs “empowered mindset” not allowing for the gray area in between. I think it’s a privilege to have power and mental capacity to simply change your mindset for positive results. And the pressure to change your mindset when contrasted with things like depression, trauma and societal disenfranchisement can place blame on individuals.
THIS!!! It's hard enough to just "change your mindset" when you're a first world citizen living with debilitating health issues.....now imagine saying this message to a survivor of war or someone living in a third world country....it would come off as extremely tone deaf. You are absolutely right that it is a privilege to hold this perspective.
Also, I hate the term "victim-mindset" - it has such a negative connotation...why can't we admit that sometimes people are victims, whether it's of someone else, a culture, society, etc?? Just because someone is a victim doesn't make them a horrible, helpless person. It's simply acknowledging the way that that person was/is treated unfairly.
@@xcristinattrue true
@@xcristinattotally agree. Our modern, hyper-individualistic society has way too much focus on ‘winners vs losers’ and the idea that happiness and succes is a feasible concept. Sure, partly this is true, but it totally ignores important aspects such as genetic predisposition, societal and cultural influences and one’s cognitive ability to see things in a different perspective. Therefore if you are not successful or happy it’s probably ‘your own fault’.
Thank you for this content. I feel like it hit on something I have been struggling with for the past few months and gave me a starting point for what I hope can be a meaningful change. I had been feeling like a lot of bad things had been just "happening to me" without considering my agency in those things or how I can CHOOSE to respond rather than just responding emotionally with my first instinct.
Oh my gosh GIRL! Yes. This is how I have chosen to see my life for what feels like a decade now. It's the only way to do it. I've learned so much. And honestly like after the summer I just had (breakup with partner of 7 years, ending friendship of 9 yrs), I cannot tell you have beneficial it has been for me to take time to focus on myself and learn how I can grow from these experiences. I am now a few months past that stuff and things are already looking incredibly better. I, like anyone else, have my hard days but in the grand scheme of things I am doing so much better and a huge part of that is the committed mindset I have cultivated.
You're amazing 👏
Anna has been practicing and teaching key aspects of Stoicism. She's the GOAT
Our reaction holds more power than our tragedies
Some things in life never stay the same, it changes everything
It changes everything...which is also changing
Can't control your reaction, but you do control your Response.
Practice your Response.
Practice makes Progress.
Eventually, your Response will Progress into something that feels like Reaction
YOU CAN DO THE THING!!!
This is so true, I wrote down what I wanted to believe every morning and evening for a month now even when I'm crying my brain replays the positive thoughts instead of digging me deeper into the hole
❤ Our MINDSET is everything. It’s the filter we put over everything we see, think and experience. It’s the key to taking difficult experiences in life and turning them into opportunities to grow and increase our self-love and confidence. As a Mindset Coach, I regularly talk about strategies for how we can learn how to LOVE OUR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs we’re experiencing on my YT channel.
“Unlearning previous behaviours, beliefs and mindsets will take a lot of conscious and intentional reprogramming.
But that work makes the difference between making the most out of your life and living your highest and truest potential..
OR
.. allowing things that happen to you to dictate who you are and how far you’ll go and how fulfilled you’ll be.”
Great stuff, keep it up!
Charles R. Swindoll is a great preacher and theologian who was based in Fullerton for many years. Thanks for quoting him. I've been a fan of his for a long time.
Thank you for all your help over the last few years.
I needed to hear this today. I failed a lot this morning, and it felt a lot like i was useless, and that my study group didn't think i was enough to include me. I journalled. And now I am going to appreciate all my efforts and that I gave good answers in my lecture today and that I am smart. Onwards.
Never been this early in a vlog! Anna serving us another empowering message!
YES YES YES and I feel SO FREE ever since I changed my mindset
A problem I have is blaming myself for circumstances outside of my control and also blaming myself for my own choices. Being both the victim and the villain is hard and not sure how to get out of that…
I was just thinking of this. What if you’re a prisoner and the prison guard?
Thanks Anna's Production Team 🤩👍🇦🇺🖤💛❤️
We are looking at you Anna and we love what we see. Inside and outside too. Thanks for showing up for us. It means a lot!
Recently I had a bad experience and I’m kinda flashed by myself how positive I go trough it. Yeah sometimes I’m sad but then I think of it as a good event. Like now i know that I want more love, and I will give it to myself. It’s motivating time to pull myself to the good side of life. :)
When the bad events happens to me I always think okey dude its temporary it will over just be patience about it and as always it finish like happiness and other good feelings..
Can someone explain to me what does she mean with affirmations ?
I’ve found the best key is to not beat yourself up for negative emotions, it’s all part of the experience of being here, and not every event will have a silver lining. But there truly is something to be said for how, without the bad, we couldn’t truly appreciate the good. All experiences are temporary and it’s best to be kind to yourself throughout all of them. Happiness won’t stay, but neither will misery.
Yup! This is basically a happiness science 101: Things are never good or bad. Because it all depends on what you compare them to. Is breaking a leg bad? Not necessarily, because you could've broken your spine. The quickest way to feel better is to think how it could've been worst (negative visualization technique) and the biggest mistake we make (to feel down) is we think how things could have been better..
We love you Anna!❤️
i've started to think that no matter how fucked your circumstances are, you can always do something to make things 1% better
Just watched ant-man for the first time today and i saw you! didn't realize you had made it that high. good for you! i wish you luck in your future endeavors
Love the mention of stoic principles. The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts.
Thanks Anna love your positive self help videos 👏 you always look gorgeous too!
Every moment of one's life is a performance that someday will be seen by your future self.
Anna Akana is not only lovely but she is also right: what happens to you is not as important as how you respond to it. You tell 'em sister.
Thank you Anna for your time and effort
thanks for being a big sister for me (virtually) and reminding me to take a good care of my mental health..
its sad that i just discovered this channel now and not sooner. subscribed
exactly - we are going to react by creating a system that producing freedom for all - no more exploitation - no more victims
Needed this. I opened up to my friends about a guy who was bullying me and instead of being there for me they ghosted and stayed friends with the guy instead. Feels pretty hard to reframe this in a positive way :(
I think the message isn’t necessarily to make it all positive, but just to find the silver lining.
In your case, your garbage friends took themselves out to the dumpster. A similar thing happened to me when I was 18. but from that lowest point, I wound up getting a job with some amazing people that I have remained friends with to this day.
I didn’t see a way out, but I found it by complete accident and my garbage hand turned out to be a life-changing boon. I’m sure that you will find your way towards people who will be good friends that are worth having in your life.
@@briant7134 Thank you
Garrain Jones said it best! Much love to everyone trying to create that change in their lives, blessings to everyone 💙
"Victim of circumstance"
That's not always applicative. Whether or not we see ourselves as victims doesn't always change our circumstances. Denial of events and actions outside of our control may help our internal state, but can also create a whole new problem of our own making. This is a slippery slope.
No matter how well you play a bad hand, you still got dealt a bad hand.
The first step to changing anything is acceptance of the things that you cannot change.
Well... it might take a number of steps to get to that acceptance. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression...
I mean acceptance of the past is basically the first productive step. You always need to be in reality to change the future.
You know, a lot of modern activists like to object to optimism, seeming to feel that if folks feel too empowered, then they're not likely to fight for political change. And that may be true in some cases. But defeatists are not going to fight, either.
I think it completely depends, sometimes negative cards come in blessings in disguise depending upon how you play them in the future, my situation is really hard to tell which way it could go, possibly two situations I'm in or three and in a story I wrote the main character thinks what's happened to her is the worst thing that could happen at first....
It's a good message, maybe only applies to how to react to some things tho. If something truely awful happens to you, I'm not sure just changing your mindset will allow you to get over it
yeah. I'm know a girl who is a syrian refugee. the stories she tells man......
You're honestly one of the best people I follow on TH-cam. Thanks for your inspiring videos and positive attitude !
For anyone on this path. Eckhart Tolle has some amazing books.
This is one of the basic tenets of stoicism and it helped me A LOT in my life (everybody should read "The Practicing Stoic" if they haven't, btw).
it only took me 40 years to be empowered ... but I've never actively trained to get rid of the victim mentality, I've simply hit wall after wall and then I found the door. but the realization was painful as f... when I looked back and saw how much of me I've wasted because of not feeling in charge, blaming everything else instead.
That's The Core Of Stoic Philosophy.
Thanks I really needed that today
I like the idea “Who you are; is the sum of your reactions to what’s happened around you” or “you are the sum of your reactions”.
Also is there any community like a discord server for Anna’s viewers?
I’ve been watching for years and think it’d be awesome to be able to jump on a server and talk with other people interested in the same topics, seems like it’d be a positive and helpful community to engage with.
The fourth noble truth of Buddhism is to be mindful of our thoughts and how they influence ours and others actions.
I didn’t know that I’ve needed this mindset until this very minute. Thank you Anna!
@AnnaAkana - Sent you msg on Patreon before I watched this and this is, in fact, based in science. Quantum Physics has a couple of theories that support this way of thinking. 1. If it's not observed and recorded in some way, it isn't reality. 2. Your thoughts can change things at the quantum lvl. Meaning, you can think things into happening. "The power of positive thinking" is basically a real thing.
That's pretty much equivalent to the Law of Attraction.
If you don't like your current self, you've gotta start acting like the person you want to be, and that comes with everything Anna said here.
@jshowa o Sure.
But is what Anna said also pseudo-science?
Thanks for the advice, Anna! Powerful stuff. People really can change their lives through re-framing how they react to things, good and bad.
I'm just now grasping the depth of this concept... It's not just "change your mindset, change your life", it's "Your life IS your mindset".
For anyone interested, the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and even Self-hypnosis are good accellerators to this process.
I’ve been having a lot of bad situations thot has happened to me and failures and I have to truly work on myself because your dealing with people they will hate and judge you for no reason 🤦🏽♀️🙏🏾
Always, right on time. I am wondering how Ana knows what I needed to hear. Thank you for making me feel so much better with the situatuon I am right now.
Hi Claire. I hope you’re doing ok. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃
Thank you so much for this. I'm going to restart my mirror affirmations. I can do this!
I used to do mirror work when I was the only child. I felt I had to coach myself. It feels weird now but will try it!
OMG never have I ever been so early! Love you, your knowledge and awesomeness
Yassss Anna!!! ❤️💯✨️
That was beautiful , thank you
You are such a wonderful person, love this message Anna ❤
I needed to hear this today. Thanks as always Anna
i love your videos anna, and find myself sharing them often. i think i needed to hear this, and i think i know a couple other who could stand to hear it too. thank you. also, i've been watching your videos for years and you've found a way to make sponsor portions funny or interesting lol. thanks for that too
The key word is "more." What happens to us is important too.
Glad to see the estoics are still alive!
Your videos are more than enough empowerment 😌
That's why my psychology professor says perspectives matter!
Oh this episode was great!!!!
So timely.
My favorite thing to do is fall asleep to affirmations
Thanks Anna, your voice is soothing helped me to understand!
I was recently stuck in a victim mentality after I left a job I loved for an opportunity that lead nowhere. I had to go from working at a photo studio, to working as a cashiere again. I was sad and scared and wondered how’d I find another job related to my field (I live in a state with little opportunities in my chosen career). I also have little skills since I went to a university that did not have the best program. I felt sorry for myself for a bit. Then, I decided to fix my situation. I got a better paying job. And now I’m going to community college and taking on a mentorship with someone in the field to improve my skills and get a portfolio. Even though I’m lost and a little embarrassed that I’m not where I want to be, I’m going to take action. Let’s hope all goes well.
I adore that top on you. Please wear it in more videos 💗
Factors of the length of one's road to empowerment also include generational culture.
Great message. I'm glad I'm seeing more youtubers talk about the importance of mindset
Hi Breh. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃
Because I want the people who did it and got away to be held accountable not me.
I really need to hear this today, Anna! Thank you!
If you're broke and you look at a pile of money as an opportunity to do something fun, it don't change the fact that if you don't pay your bills you'll be living on the street. It is not a victim mentality to recognize that there are things that are not under your control. Nor is it a victim mentality to recognize that others have a vested interest in that state of affairs. Take control of what you can, but don't delude yourself about what you can't or why you can't.
Literally why I don’t say anything is “expensive” and instead say whether it was “worth it” or “affordable” instead.
Okay but ✨ mindset ✨ is not a substitute for therapy, and psychological issues like depression can't just be magicked away with some positive thinking...
My problem is that past experiences impact my reaction...and it's usually negative. My biggest problem is fear. It often dictates my actions and how I react to stuff and thus my life and it's crippling.
When I broke up w an ex . He said this is the way he is because of his childhood. I told him I also grew up that way and will always choose to be more loving. And I left
Change your ACTIONS, change your life. Changing your mindset only goes so far. Your mindset can affect your actions though.
those little videos each week are one of my few moments of my "me time" , so thanks anna for them 😻
I really liked that $100 different POV example 👍
So would I be right in thinking it's less about the material conditions but where you go from there?
I mean, I'm glad you raised how the things you say to yourself can seem like a lie at first.
One thing I found helpful for that was thinking in practical terms, "what can I do to get where I want to be?" so in 2019 (effectively 2020) I set up my TH-cam Channel and in 2021 I started my shopify shop and joined Discord servers to meet new people and expand on what I have to get closer to where I want to be.
Anyhow, hope you are all having a nice day.
Thank you so much anna... You are my therapist... ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I already know why these things always happen to me, though I didn't for 95% of my life. I was just gaslit about it.
Having an autistic/ADHD brain in a world that is screaming in sound, far too blinding, constantly ignoring and shaming humans need for rest, shaming of anything that slightly deviates from a tiny sliver of "this is how humans are supposed to behave and anyone that doesn't should die". In a world of religion that actively targets difference with fury and hatred.
For most my life I went in with the most positive and upbeat mindset but what do you do when it's never good enough for people? When you're constantly bullied and shamed? When it doesn't matter because someone else is always picked.
I'm so burnt out I don't have any energy or money or time to give to anything. People complain now about how hard getting a job is but that has always been the case for me. Now I actually know why I cannot find a job that doesn't destroy my health.
Life wants me to exist but the other people here with me don't. I see no way out of this and my option is limited to death or slow torture if I can even manage to find a job.
"It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see" apart from the really nice and appreciating message i guess some of us also saw something else 😂😂😂
From my perspective it was nice
Is this like a movement...?
It really depends. If you are striving to be a master of physical reality, like, for example an engineer should, it matters very much what you look at and it matters very much that what you see is a close approximation to what you look at. More abstract, the same is true, for example, for a risk manager. Sure, for regular people it is just as the quote says, but that is a central reason why most people are bad at engineering and bad at risk management. Because there is a large, sometimes huge gap between what is and what they see.
Sending this to kiddo so she can reframe how she reacts to mean girls at school
📝 I am poor not as a consequence of capitalism and the accumulation of wealth among the wealthy, I am poor because I don't think I have enough money. Wow thanks a lot Anna! Without changing my mindset I would have never been able to afford a house. Thinking about the amount of money I have in a different way magically changed my circumstances and I am no longer poor!
You say everything I usually say. It is amazing your growth and intelligence and I appreciate you for it 🌹🌹😁❤
Money is an excellent example.
So true. Great speech
Welcome to a cornerstone of ancient Greek Stoic philosophy. The important thing isn't what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you. Check out Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus if you want some old school thoughts in that vein.
i dont know why but i listen to you
That is a fundamental technique of stoicism as well.
“We all think that at first…we are all wrong.”