I danced to this at my wedding My Husband picked me up and danced me round the room well everyone took pictures of us .I have lost him now but we were together for 42 lovely years.
So sorry for loss. He sounds like a man i would have enjoyed a beer with.. A real man.... Loved his girl and life... Yep!.. A man's man.. here's to him..
This song saved my life. I was in an abusive relationship. Beaten every day. I played this song all the time and listened to the words. It gave me the strength to walk away from the relationship and seek out the life that this lady had lived. It is a song that is very dear to my heart.
+Robin g Good on you for taking control of your life, now your life is what you want it to be, do what you want, go where you want, never fear anyone again.you're a stronger person now. good luck x
+Minute Man Always someone like you there to shit on a positive comment... Why don't you lie down on your back and listen, so, when you do puke- well, I'm sure you can figure it out.
This was my mother's favourite song. A young girl with 4 children by 29 who she loved dearly.... She sacrificed a lot, yet just as she had began her journey to 'me' she was sadly taken.... I used to hear her sing this song in the house, but being a child it was insignificant, and she appeared old and ancient back then. I'm now the age my mother was when she passed, and I listen back to this song and it's lyrics with a truly different mind. It is nostalgic and sadly tragic at the same time, but I promised my mother that I would embrace my life and remain humble and honest, grateful and live life to the fullest..... I wish she was hear to enjoy that place that she sang about all those years ago, and one day got to get to go to 'me' ❤
Wow, I teared up for your mother's sake; I know exactly how she felt. What a beautiful acknowledgment of her dreams from your side. I'm sure she's proud of you.
In the Philippines radio stations still play this music everyday not many times a day but at least there are still radio stations that play it at least once or twice each day or night . It was simply because many Filipinos love this kind of melodies. Just sharing thanks...
This was me in my 20's, doing whatever I wanted to do, living by my own rules. Queen of the ball, life of the party. There is a very heavy price to pay when you live in such a shallow place. Praise God for His mercy, grace, love, compassion. I am so blessed with a loving husband, three children, and six grandchildren. Is my life "glamorous"? Probably not but I wouldn't trade the budgeting for tournaments for soccer, baseball, cheerleading, basketball for all the European trips and cruises in the world. Paradise is being at peace with the Lord and all of His riches including our families. 🙏
@@BillDerBergno. Religion is a man made concept in the traditional sense of being given a set of rules. I believe in spirituality that coincides with general principles but for me, finding peace within myself, experiencing the joy of motherhood, attaining satisfaction in a job I loved, striving for a balance in life provided more satisfaction than living life that was just never enough. This was my personal journey. We're all different and I see nothing wrong with going out to have a good time and meet people. You mention religion and for me, fanaticism in anything can leave you feeling drained. 🤷🏻♀️
My mother sings like how she sings, almost the same. I remember when I was a child, she always sing songs like these and I always clung to her and will look at me and to my father every time she would sing the line "I've been to paradise". I always thought until now that the next line is "and I wil never mean to leave." But now she only sings it for me and my 2 sister. My father died when I was only 8 years old and my sister had just turned 1 and my mother was also 4 months pregnant that time. Now she is a overseas Filipino worker in Syria. Bravely raising me and my siblings alone. I've never been sweet to her now unlike when I was young but, I am really blessed to have a mother like her. I really really am. Now that father's day is coming near. I wish my father in heaven to be happy and also to my mother who also has been a father to us since 2008. I love you ma. I'll make sure that in the near future, I will be a successful man that will carry-on Papa's dream for us. Just wait a little longer, I always hold onto that one thing.
The singer of this song was my boyfriend for 4 and a 1/2 yes do you have the purpose for this song which I can't reveal. Use your imagination I said boyfriend after 30 years of marriage my husband passed away his wife passed away we both had 2 children we both had grandchildperiod but things aren't always the way they seemed. Whatever the reason was we were the best companion to the whole wide world and the love we shared together he said he never experienced before period again oil is not what it seems to be but he said listen to the words of this song it's my life. So different people have different reasons for loving this song but it's the song on my cell phone it's beautiful, It's wonderful. One of poor language best Written songs. Frank Sinatra executed it beautifully. And my boyfriend saying it great just take a look at him and figure it out. Hes one of the best unfortunately he passed away it'll before years March 15th
My Mom had a hard life - Seen some things and been through some things no one should ever have to. I’m 52 today and it still makes me uncomfortable. Maybe because I remember my mom crying everytime this was on. Now she’s in poor health as am I hopefully one day we will all be in paradise.
52 and still feeling uncomfortable? Come on! I am going on 55 in this 2024! (This photo didn't show but this is true, though I am not so comfortable to show you my HK ID card.) 😅
Thank God that I met this song! I’m totally related to the discontent mother and regimented wife....(being a mother of two boys for 10 years) I’ve been thinking of running away. Wanna start my life all over again and pursue my real happiness.... But now I know what true love is! The lyrics are so touching and make me think what real happiness is! I’ve realized actually it’s just because I’ve been taking care of these three men but myself. After I communicated with my hubby and let him know I need some my own time. I’ve also shared my chores with my boys and it went well! Now that I’m listening to this song again, I’m so thankful that I didn’t make some stupid choices 😜!
When I was 28 I thought of running away from home, my husband, and our two daughters. Life seemed so stifling compared to “my plan.” I stayed, we had another daughter, my husband was the love of my life. I had an amazing career while raising my family. One day I realized I was living MY life that I needed, not the fantasy life that I thought I wanted. My husband died from cancer after 35 years of marriage; I was devastated and if it were not for my 3 adult daughters I would be utterly lost. At 67, I am beginning to travel and realize I found ME when I was 22 and married; 25, 27, and 29 when I had daughters. This is just a bonus on the top of my life because I found me so long ago.
@@eileenhavern77 Oh, dear. I just read it. Thanks for your comments. I actually had an another episode. My marriage still didn't go well after all the efforts that I had put in, which didn't really echo to my comments above. So, I decided to have legal separation. I just needed to survive! It's been exactly 1 yr now. I've had myself a wonderful yet exciting journey. Thank God I didn't meet "bad" guys😅 It's funny that after I took a serious decision, he got shocked and started to work on his anxiety issue. Now he's really improving and begging me to give him another chance. I told him I'm not interested in any relationship at this moment. I felt I'm in control after my journey. I'm more aware of setting up boundaries!! Just wanna focus on my 2 sons and enjoy my motherhood. And I think I'm happy again!
Why do I feel that singers in the last few decades before 2000 are so talented n amazing? They seem to be able to sing live so well n effortlessly n most importantly soulfully. Singing with soul is really hard to find these days... I love this song when I heard it in the 90s from a compilation album. Only found this live 2 decades later, I don't think I have heard anything better than this! really very well sung!
America in the 70s, in particular, was a fleeting meritocracy for the arts, when bullshit was hard to swallow following a bad war and superficiality could take a backseat to talent. 80s had its merits but by their end all turned to bad business. Eventually, you lose a sophisticated audience and can sell garbage, hence the 90s and later. In the end, there's no need to invest time and money in fostering when you can sell a low-grade product. I imagine playing today's music to us back then. I suppose they'd ask, "what happened!"
Anthony, don't listen to people who haven't earned the right to be listened to. I, too, love the song and arrangement and I'm pretty sure I'm not gay. So what if I was?? Beutiful music is just that, beautiful.
When this song came out I was dating a beautiful, blonde Irish chick from the Bronx who was a devout Catholic. On our 2nd this song came on WABC and I turned it up. She looked at me askance, "You don't like this crap, do ya?" "Yea," I replied. "I hope you only like the tune and not those ignorant words, otherwise I don't hold much hope for this relationship." I found out later that the lyrics that were nettling her morality were at 2:20: "I been cryin' for unborn children that might have made me complete, but I took the sweet life," hahahahaahah And also, "I spent my life exploring the subtle whoring,"
Beautiful, blonde but catholic and prudish. You two could not have married. There are people who judge people on lyrics like this and people who don't. Your ex-girl-friend was definitely in the first category. I think you have not quite decided,
I first heard this song in 1982 when I was going through one of the hardest times... it got me through and to this day when I hear it, it takes me back and touches me. That's the power of music. I'll slays be grateful for Charlene and this song
I was eight years old when I first heard this song in 1982 and they would play it on the radio everyday. Loved the music and melody and when I was old enough to understand the meaning it became even more powerful. A true classic!
Hey I’m a 70 year old guy now and came of age with this song. I’m tough as nails too but when I hear her do this song I get all weak in the knee’s. Well done Charlene. By the way my name is Charlie wonder if she was ever called that?
Can you explain that? Did you say a proper love of self is necessary in order to 'love' others truly? (did you leave out the second 'love' by accident?)
this song says so much. I miss me but sometimes not sure who ME is. It is my birthday, today thanking god for another year of life, love and support. x
I’m so glad this song came up on my feed because I haven’t heard it in so long. What a treasure it was and still is. Loved it then and still love it today ❤
I hadn’t heard this for decades, then it was played on the Casey Kasum top 40 replay this morning. OVER WHELMED WITH MEMORIES!! good & bad. Music is truly magical🙏🙏
Listened to this during my college days (70s - 80s). Still listening to this now 06 February '23. One of my favorite singers, Charlene Duncan . . . - from Lanao del Norte, Mindanao, Philippines.
Old song that never dies. Every time I listen to it, I always having a flashback of my childhood as it is always played before back in the late 90s to early 2000s. Great song with a story on it, that future generation may look up to it.
Who is watching this October 2019? It really describes my current life that I am tried of: a mother with two under two, one of whom has special needs. Each time I want run away of the life i play this song and it saved my life and marriage.
I was so moved the first time I heard this song.All I can think of are those women who are force into selling their body and souls to survive or to be able to buy everything that they want.. I may not be one of them but I always get emotional and cry whenever i sing this song..I feel her pain and regrets..how she enjoy life to the fullest being with the rich and famous ,sex and abortions,then later on she realized everything was a lie,she was not truly happy and regreted all her actions.how she wished someone had talk to her out of it. I applaud whoever wrote this song.Its so relatable especially now that we all are so into material things that we tend to ignore what really matters most__our family and lovedones
sweetie, you are too judgmental to others' life. A lot of peeps cherished their colourful past life too just in case you don't know bec you never been to.
this song always gets me and can make me cry… we rarely come across such a beautiful and deep song full of meaningful things, right? i love it partly because this isn’t just some commonplace love song. besides, she’s an amazingly talented singer!
@@timmattle4730 ive memorized all the lyrics and i know all their meanings. Im not saying that this is a love song. I mean that a commonplace song is often an ordinary love song
WOW! Charlene Marilynn Oliver, better known mononymously as Charlene, is an American easy-listening and R&B singer best known for the song "I've Never Been to Me", which, initially being a commercial flop upon its original release in 1977, became a worldwide hit upon a re-release in 1982 and has remained an enduring adult contemporary music staple. Charlene is also a songwriter, record producer and author.
Wow. What a difference. About a year ago, I was on here to listen to this song and everyone was ripping it, completely insulting the words, the message and the singer. I remember it coming out and it was so beautiful, both the message and the tune. Glad there are some others who enjoy it also.
I came here two years ago and saw the same thing. The lesson I learned was....you really can brainwash the next generation if you hold your breath long enough. It's a selfish shit-bucket song. Alway was, always will be and time don't change nothing. Why do more people say good things about it today- because people are more selfish than ever. Me, me, me.
@@BIG_AL_ONE to me, this song will always be a cautionary tale. Read the lyrics again and you'll see that she alludes to the whole "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" at the beginning but then changes tune when she gets a dose of reality.
It’s so amazing how much time music composers spend to complete a song in the 70’s and 80’$. They wrote stories ❤. Songs today are composed of two lines sung repeatedly for three to four minutes to complete an album. 😮
Im crying right now this song is for me and my mother... I can relate to this song... When I live our of the country far away from my mom everytime I hear this song I remember her... My mom is still alive. I love her so much she may not be perfect but she's great in so many ways. Still listening May 10, 2020 @9:56pm . Thank You for this song 😥🙏🏽🧡
I sang this song at a competition. I was barely out of my teens, the judge asked if I knew what the song meant. I didn’t quite understand the questioning, all I knew I loved the music, I nailed it. Yes I did win the competition however, Years later I had a good laugh…. “ I’ve been to paradise……😂😂… still listen and love it.
Carefull listening to this music ,you will unlock something that takes you back the memory lane, while we lost some, seperated. wondering how they are now, reminising old stories and glad we experience it. Hoping kids today will experince those goldendays
Never give up on your dream. In 1977 Charlene released an album on Motown's imprint Prodigal Records that went nowhere as well as the 3 singles that all peaked in the 90's including this song that peaked at 97. The album was re-released that same year with different artwork & new tracks & still nothing. The albums were abundantly found in cut out bins for 99 cents. In 1982 a Florida DJ started playing it & it took off locally. He contacted Motown & Motown President found Charlene (who had retired from music) living in England & working at a candy store. She was again signed by Motown & I've Never Been To Me went on to be an International hit peaking at #3 in the U.S. She also had a regional duet hit with Stevie Wonder called "Use To Be"
We will have nothing to regret, because every phase of our life teaches us how important these experiences are for human and personal growth. This will be the story of each person's life trajectory.
This song never gets the just due it deserves. No one plays it, if you request it, they are like, what?, it has been on top ten worst songs ever lists and more. But you know what? It's a good song.
When this song came out I was dating a beautiful, blonde Irish chick from the Bronx who was a devout Catholic. On our 2nd date this song came on WABC and I turned it up. She looked at me askance, "You don't like this crap, do ya?" "Yea," I replied. Then she said: "I hope you only like the tune and not those ignorant words, otherwise I don't hold much hope for this relationship." I found out later that the lyrics that were vexing her morality were at 2:20: "I been cryin' for unborn children that might have made me complete, but I took the sweet life," hahahahaahah And also, "I spent my life exploring the subtle whoring," This chick was so good looking that I gladly pretended to dislike this song henceforth.
this song bring tears to my eyes as the lyrics perfectly fit to my situation, been around the world, see the different paradise, but i never been to me😔😔
The message is pretty clear, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence and when men and women get a clue, it might be too late for them. a relationship takes work and sometimes neither party want to work at it. My grandparents were married over 80 years and my grand mother was hit and she hit back and she was a true inspiration to me in my life and my parents were married 57 years another inspiration.
It's only now I understand this song and the meaning of it. I married a great guy when I was 23. But I wanted more than the day to day, work, and weekends out in the pub. I left, and as this song says I've seen things and experienced things a woman isn't supposed to see. If I could go back I would in a heartbeat.
if you don't understand this song i envy you, i did spend my life that way (no i didn't sleep with any kings or even anyone with the last name of king) but for those that lived that way it has a deep meaning and the ones that never left their home town, yes we envy them that peaceful life where they have had the same best friend since grade 2 and not since last tuesday, knowing who they trust and don't trust. those are things we never had and never will and would give up all we did have for.
gothicmunchkin This is such a beautiful explanation for this song. It explains it far better then I ever could. For those of you that want to know what this song is about - she says it here.
i was like 2 when this was on the radio, but "i've been to paradise (but i've never been to me)" has been my tag line on all social media for probably 20 years.
well I grew up biking hay and milking cows in those days back in west water ford transitor radio we didnt know what they were simging about well uni medicine sugery etc etcetera ended up turning men into woman and woman into.men in london how life changes little did we no that these artists were changing everything
I was 16 years old when I first heard this song. And as I approached 58 years old, with tears running down my cheeks. I realize now I’ve never been to me…. I lived a life full of frolicking and superficiality, and those days are now far gone and only live in mind’s memories…..
I love this song. The first time i saw the singer now in april 2023. I heard this song when i was in my 6th grade back in 1980. My first kid love😄. Now i am 56 years 😅.. Thanks for posting this. 🙏
This song never ages, always been one of my favourites since it first release , then as a song from Prisicilla Queen of the Desert great choice for the film. Beautiful voice from a beautiful singer
Become obsessed with this track lately. Mid-life crisis maybe? Making me think about all the time I’ve bent myself out of shape to please others. What a waste of time.
Frances Rich what a fuckin dick we are on here coz we like this tune , I've loved it for 30 odd years , and think it's as relevant now as it must've been then when I didn't understand it , grow a pair and mature
*****, oh, you're right. It's easier to spend our time enjoying the songs. People do waste their time "grasping at straws" when they argue about something so petty.
I had the good fortune to meet Charlene and her terrific husband, Geoff, in L.A. back in 1985, through a mutual friend who grew up with her in AL. Terrific lady, very talented, yet not full of herself. There are great messages in this song, i.e. pro life and avoiding bad choices people make when trying to be cool or fit in.
@@cuddles6938 it's up to you whether you use it for good or for bad, the knife has a purpose in our lives we have to use it in a proper way for the kitchen only, if you use it to kill somebody its up to you, the same for internet
I'm almost 40 now and I wish we as a people would grow up and progress. We keep getting hit by waves of people trying to drag us back with conservative values that we've already learned are harmful.
Theres a hurting world out there and not too many people can share their personal issues with anyone else, but if a simple song or an experience can change some one for a better life the so be it .Thank you for sharing.
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I danced to this at my wedding
My Husband picked me up and danced me round the room well everyone took pictures of us .I have lost him now but we were together for 42 lovely years.
It's so nice that you have such special memories of your wedding night. In 42 years I'm sure you made many more xx
He's still with you. Just talk to him....and he'll hear.
Ha ha wedding song we have a winner lol
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So sorry for loss. He sounds like a man i would have enjoyed a beer with.. A real man.... Loved his girl and life... Yep!.. A man's man.. here's to him..
This song saved my life. I was in an abusive relationship. Beaten every day. I played this song all the time and listened to the words. It gave me the strength to walk away from the relationship and seek out the life that this lady had lived. It is a song that is very dear to my heart.
Dear robin am retired po god bless you
good 4 U everyone deserves to be with the right one
+Robin g Good on you for taking control of your life, now your life is what you want it to be, do what you want, go where you want, never fear anyone again.you're a stronger person now. good luck x
+Robin g I am pleased it worked for you, but it's making me want to puke!
+Minute Man Always someone like you there to shit on a positive comment... Why don't you lie down on your back and listen, so, when you do puke- well, I'm sure you can figure it out.
At 13, I was mesmerized by this song and her voice. Now as a 60-year-old grandfather, it still touches my soul.
I'm listening in 2024 and still stunned with the message 😉
It real as rain and sun peace friend
She screwed Kings 👑
I was a 10 year old singing this song 😮 but a great song nonetheless
What is the message in the song? I can't figure it out.
This song brings back some beautiful memories for me. I just had to listen one more time.
Back in the day when the lyrics of the songs like this linger in our hearts forever.
This was my mother's favourite song. A young girl with 4 children by 29 who she loved dearly.... She sacrificed a lot, yet just as she had began her journey to 'me' she was sadly taken.... I used to hear her sing this song in the house, but being a child it was insignificant, and she appeared old and ancient back then. I'm now the age my mother was when she passed, and I listen back to this song and it's lyrics with a truly different mind. It is nostalgic and sadly tragic at the same time, but I promised my mother that I would embrace my life and remain humble and honest, grateful and live life to the fullest..... I wish she was hear to enjoy that place that she sang about all those years ago, and one day got to get to go to 'me' ❤
Wow ❤❤❤❤xxxx😢.
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I'm so so sorry. Thank you do much for sharing this beautiful song about your mum. God Bless 🙏🕊
Me too😢
Wow, I teared up for your mother's sake; I know exactly how she felt. What a beautiful acknowledgment of her dreams from your side. I'm sure she's proud of you.
❤🙏❤
In the Philippines radio stations still play this music everyday not many times a day but at least there are still radio stations that play it at least once or twice each day or night . It was simply because many Filipinos love this kind of melodies. Just sharing thanks...
Sweetnotes from the Philippines does a wonderful version. 3:38
tagos na tagos.nakaka iyak.
I live in the Philippines too and yes I hear it on the radio ❤❤
I remember - they have great taste in music there.
Great singers coming from the Philippines.
Guys, this is music. Live singing, clear n beautiful voices, 0% scantily clad, just pure music with an angelic voice.
And we’ll done UK for taking it to number one where it belonged.
Um, Top of the Pops was never live.
This was me in my 20's, doing whatever I wanted to do, living by my own rules. Queen of the ball, life of the party. There is a very heavy price to pay when you live in such a shallow place. Praise God for His mercy, grace, love, compassion. I am so blessed with a loving husband, three children, and six grandchildren. Is my life "glamorous"? Probably not but I wouldn't trade the budgeting for tournaments for soccer, baseball, cheerleading, basketball for all the European trips and cruises in the world. Paradise is being at peace with the Lord and all of His riches including our families. 🙏
YOLO
Praise God for bounce back to the more clearer and peaceful
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so you replaced all the partying with religion
@@BillDerBergno. Religion is a man made concept in the traditional sense of being given a set of rules. I believe in spirituality that coincides with general principles but for me, finding peace within myself, experiencing the joy of motherhood, attaining satisfaction in a job I loved, striving for a balance in life provided more satisfaction than living life that was just never enough. This was my personal journey. We're all different and I see nothing wrong with going out to have a good time and meet people. You mention religion and for me, fanaticism in anything can leave you feeling drained. 🤷🏻♀️
It’s 2024, who’s still with me listening to this song? ❤
I can't have enough of this. Thanks Charlene ❤
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Beautiful
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My mother sings like how she sings, almost the same.
I remember when I was a child, she always sing songs like these and I always clung to her and will look at me and to my father every time she would sing the line "I've been to paradise". I always thought until now that the next line is "and I wil never mean to leave."
But now she only sings it for me and my 2 sister. My father died when I was only 8 years old and my sister had just turned 1 and my mother was also 4 months pregnant that time.
Now she is a overseas Filipino worker in Syria. Bravely raising me and my siblings alone.
I've never been sweet to her now unlike when I was young but, I am really blessed to have a mother like her. I really really am.
Now that father's day is coming near. I wish my father in heaven to be happy and also to my mother who also has been a father to us since 2008. I love you ma.
I'll make sure that in the near future, I will be a successful man that will carry-on Papa's dream for us. Just wait a little longer, I always hold onto that one thing.
My mam used to sing this too
Woa man, that's dope
Yeap you will do it !!!!💪💪💪💪👍👍👍
Thank you guuuuys! I don't know who you are but, I'll remember this for my entire life.
Your mom must have a very difficult life. 💗💗
I remember hearing this as a kid, really got to me and I've never forgotten it.
Beautifully sung
Haunting !! I my listen to it 20+ times a day!
Yeah...it was my paternal aunt's favourite song back when I was 12/13 :'-)
Same here love it ever since
The singer of this song was my boyfriend for 4 and a 1/2 yes do you have the purpose for this song which I can't reveal. Use your imagination I said boyfriend after 30 years of marriage my husband passed away his wife passed away we both had 2 children we both had grandchildperiod but things aren't always the way they seemed. Whatever the reason was we were the best companion to the whole wide world and the love we shared together he said he never experienced before period again oil is not what it seems to be but he said listen to the words of this song it's my life. So different people have different reasons for loving this song but it's the song on my cell phone it's beautiful, It's wonderful. One of poor language best Written songs. Frank Sinatra executed it beautifully. And my boyfriend saying it great just take a look at him and figure it out. Hes one of the best unfortunately he passed away it'll before years March 15th
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Wow! I hadn't heard this song in years. Glad I found it this evening. Will listen to it many more times...
Same! I left the same comment.
I forgot about this song, just came upon it tonight
@@poorthing- Same! It's so refreshing to hear genuine music 😊
The lyrics, the tune, the voice... I swear, this song is perfect.
Brilliant I remember it just couldn't say who sung it.🥰
The song was written specifically for her.
Agreed
This song was a great gift from the god. The voice, the lyric was awsome.
Hmmm.......
Called my daughter Charlene after this song .. sadly she died at 11 days old... Today Is an anniversary.. 9th June ... Miss my angel ❤️
My sympathy on your loss.
@@jamesfersch9469 thankyou 🙏
My heart aches for you
So Very Sorry For Your Loss! 🙏
She sings a song of all of her regrets in life. We can all learn from her words.
I remember when this song was released. Melancholic, lyrics beautifully sung with excellent arrangements. Evokes many memories of life.
The Captain's regrets
yes darlinks
It doesn't seem that she has regrets just a realization for her next step.
This song is not just a song, with it's lyrics and how majestically it's sung it's a work of ART!
One of the most beautiful and unforgettable songs I have heard. It brought back so many sweet and bitter memories throughout my life's journey so far.
The lyrics are so profound. I love this song.
She should have had many more hits she has a beautiful voice
Amen
Her voice is AWFUL and has been since 2000.
It aint easy coming down .Another beautiful song by Charlene Duncan
She has a duet with Stevie Wonder, Used to Be. I wonder why this song was voted one of the worst songs of all time in a poll conducted by CNN.
This was her message from Souce.
I suddenly remembered this Exquisite song today January 12, 2024. It is Eternal❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉 Thank you Charlene ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
The same thing just happened to me February 3, 2024....so strange how our brains work! 😀
Dia 12,meu aniversário,eu ouvindo agora eterna
I just meet Charlene today. She is absolutely amazing and humble.
Definitely was a honor!!😊
Wow-Thats Awesome-What A Beautiful Voice She Has
James Allen Anything for a like, huh.
What the hell do you know Joe Smoe?
@@joesmoe8983 You're such a hateful troll. You must be a miserable person to bash someone who experienced something nice.
This is the worst most poxy song of all time ^spew*
My Mom had a hard life -
Seen some things and been through some things no one should ever have to. I’m 52 today and it still makes me uncomfortable. Maybe because I remember my mom crying everytime this was on. Now she’s in poor health as am I hopefully one day we will all be in paradise.
Stay strong and keep making memories together… best wishes from Ireland 🇮🇪
52 and still feeling uncomfortable? Come on! I am going on 55 in this 2024! (This photo didn't show but this is true, though I am not so comfortable to show you my HK ID card.) 😅
I've forgotten about this song until just now. Thank you for this sweet little gem from the past.
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Thank God that I met this song! I’m totally related to the discontent mother and regimented wife....(being a mother of two boys for 10 years)
I’ve been thinking of running away. Wanna start my life all over again and pursue my real happiness.... But now I know what true love is! The lyrics are so touching and make me think what real happiness is! I’ve realized actually it’s just because I’ve been taking care of these three men but myself. After I communicated with my hubby and let him know I need some my own time. I’ve also shared my chores with my boys and it went well! Now that I’m listening to this song again, I’m so thankful that I didn’t make some stupid choices 😜!
Thank God!! I'm on the other side of the story! I've been to Paradise but am alone at 44!! You missed nothing!
When I was 28 I thought of running away from home, my husband, and our two daughters. Life seemed so stifling compared to “my plan.” I stayed, we had another daughter, my husband was the love of my life. I had an amazing career while raising my family. One day I realized I was living MY life that I needed, not the fantasy life that I thought I wanted. My husband died from cancer after 35 years of marriage; I was devastated and if it were not for my 3 adult daughters I would be utterly lost.
At 67, I am beginning to travel and realize I found ME when I was 22 and married; 25, 27, and 29 when I had daughters. This is just a bonus on the top of my life because I found me so long ago.
❤️🤗
Faye honey, I love you. God bless you.
@@eileenhavern77 Oh, dear. I just read it.
Thanks for your comments.
I actually had an another episode.
My marriage still didn't go well after all the efforts that I had put in, which didn't really echo to my comments above.
So, I decided to have legal separation. I just needed to survive!
It's been exactly 1 yr now.
I've had myself a wonderful yet exciting journey. Thank God I didn't meet "bad" guys😅
It's funny that after I took a serious decision, he got shocked and started to work on his anxiety issue.
Now he's really improving and begging me to give him another chance.
I told him I'm not interested in any relationship at this moment. I felt I'm in control after my journey. I'm more aware of setting up boundaries!!
Just wanna focus on my 2 sons and enjoy my motherhood.
And I think I'm happy again!
She is so graceful. Her movements, her voice, everything! Not everyone could sing this song
Im thinking Olivia Newton-John would come close
Why do I feel that singers in the last few decades before 2000 are so talented n amazing? They seem to be able to sing live so well n effortlessly n most importantly soulfully. Singing with soul is really hard to find these days...
I love this song when I heard it in the 90s from a compilation album. Only found this live 2 decades later, I don't think I have heard anything better than this! really very well sung!
You are so right....
80s was the decade....
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America in the 70s, in particular, was a fleeting meritocracy for the arts, when bullshit was hard to swallow following a bad war and superficiality could take a backseat to talent. 80s had its merits but by their end all turned to bad business. Eventually, you lose a sophisticated audience and can sell garbage, hence the 90s and later. In the end, there's no need to invest time and money in fostering when you can sell a low-grade product. I imagine playing today's music to us back then. I suppose they'd ask, "what happened!"
@@pretzelbucket Very profound my Friend, I just love the music.
I love the depth of honesty and authenticity of this song. We are always being everything else but our true selves
Ask me how I know you're gay
Anthony, don't listen to people who haven't earned the right to be listened to. I, too, love the song and arrangement and I'm pretty sure I'm not gay. So what if I was?? Beutiful music is just that, beautiful.
Nope Eli May, I'm just being my true self. I'm sure Anthony would approve.
When this song came out I was dating a beautiful, blonde Irish chick from the Bronx who was a devout Catholic. On our 2nd this song came on WABC and I turned it up. She looked at me askance, "You don't like this crap, do ya?" "Yea," I replied. "I hope you only like the tune and not those ignorant words, otherwise I don't hold much hope for this relationship." I found out later that the lyrics that were nettling her morality were at 2:20: "I been cryin' for unborn children that might have made me complete, but I took the sweet life," hahahahaahah And also, "I spent my life exploring the subtle whoring,"
Beautiful, blonde but catholic and prudish. You two could not have married. There are people who judge people on lyrics like this and people who don't. Your ex-girl-friend was definitely in the first category. I think you have not quite decided,
I first heard this song in 1982 when I was going through one of the hardest times... it got me through and to this day when I hear it, it takes me back and touches me. That's the power of music. I'll slays be grateful for Charlene and this song
At least she's been to paradise, most of us have not. No regrets
@@andriesliebenberg4734 Such a confusing statement...
Amen Katie honey. I love you.
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I was eight years old when I first heard this song in 1982 and they would play it on the radio everyday. Loved the music and melody and when I was old enough to understand the meaning it became even more powerful. A true classic!
covid-19 pandemic time now..
Who's still listening right now?
May 24,2020"👌
We are 😇
Me
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November 20th. Lockdown again, listening again 😀
It's Jan 18, 2021 MLK day and I'm listening.
Oh gosh, her voice is so soothing. She sings beautifully live.
She’s sings that beautifully live. Better than the normal version! A wonderful song, I love it.
...Linda,linda💗!!...
Music of the 70's always has good messages
The first song I danced to with the man I later went on to marry in 1986. Still together now (2022)! This is a very special song to me!❤️❤️❤️
Hi Patricia
Congratulation keep on going, all the best for you 2!
What is song about
Congratulations. Where are you from?
@@barbaraoconnor8604
SEPTEMBER 06 2023
1:18am Philippine time
Thank you for your music
I loved this song as a child. Now I listen to it and understand so much more. What a beautiful, profound song.
Hey I’m a 70 year old guy now and came of age with this song. I’m tough as nails too but when I hear her do this song I get all weak in the knee’s. Well done Charlene. By the way my name is Charlie wonder if she was ever called that?
interesting darlinks
Sept 2020...
Charlene... omg. You still gives me chills everytime I listen to you singing this...😍😍
My very first song that I could relate to
Beautiful I love that song I can relate to that completly
This is one of the most deeply moving songs I've ever heard.
A timeless song, with a real message that proper love of self is necessity in order to others truly.
Can you explain that? Did you say a proper love of self is necessary in order to 'love' others truly? (did you leave out the second 'love' by accident?)
2020: still listening to this song
me fromJapan.
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Me too. I love this song. It opens my heart.
Indonesia
Im still travelling oout of my country I feel what this song it is
Not ashamed to say I'm 44 and I have always liked this song.
I was in 2nd grade when this came out. About to turn 48 next month and I STILL love this song.
My best friend's favorite song. We're no longer close but I just remembered it. This song is timeless.
8/17/2021 - PST
i cried when i heard it, it was a song i heard almost 30 years ago, what a beautiful memory!❤
this song says so much. I miss me but sometimes not sure who ME is. It is my birthday, today thanking god for another year of life, love and support. x
Easily one the most touching songs I've ever heard.
TRAPPER JOHNSON 😘😘😘
TRAPPER JOHNSON true
YOU ARE FOINE!
I’m so glad this song came up on my feed because I haven’t heard it in so long. What a treasure it was and still is. Loved it then and still love it today ❤
Her voice is like a melting gold...
It is. Many many singers these days couldn't handle an amazing song like that.
I hadn’t heard this for decades, then it was played on the Casey Kasum top 40 replay this morning. OVER WHELMED WITH MEMORIES!! good & bad. Music is truly magical🙏🙏
Same here. I hadn't heard this for at least thirty years. Then it was played on the Casey Kasum top 40 replay this morning. Had to listen again.
It’s been a 3 day ear worm for me. Just popped in my head from out of the blue.
I hardly go a day without listening to this great classic and I’m only 26 years old I guess there is something wrong with me
2021 i have heard my mother singing this, it was the first time ive heard her expressing what she feels. i am so happy
This is one of my all time favorite songs.. she has the voice of an angel. :)
Oh yes
Listened to this during my college days (70s - 80s). Still listening to this now 06 February '23. One of my favorite singers, Charlene Duncan . . . - from Lanao del Norte, Mindanao, Philippines.
Old song that never dies. Every time I listen to it, I always having a flashback of my childhood as it is always played before back in the late 90s to early 2000s. Great song with a story on it, that future generation may look up to it.
Who is watching this October 2019? It really describes my current life that I am tried of: a mother with two under two, one of whom has special needs. Each time I want run away of the life i play this song and it saved my life and marriage.
Ivy Wang Be strong for your kids🙏
Ivy Wang for activity purposes that’s why I’m here hehehe ,
Ivy. You're not on your own sweetheart. Try your best to be strong,. You'll get passed this. Thinking of you.
May you be blessed by strength, passion & love @Ivy Wang.
I was so moved the first time I heard this song.All I can think of are those women who are force into selling their body and souls to survive or to be able to buy everything that they want..
I may not be one of them but I always get emotional and cry whenever i sing this song..I feel her pain and regrets..how she enjoy life to the fullest being with the rich and famous ,sex and abortions,then later on she realized everything was a lie,she was not truly happy and regreted all her actions.how she wished someone had talk to her
out of it.
I applaud whoever wrote this song.Its so relatable especially now that we all are so into material things that we tend to ignore what really matters most__our family and lovedones
Fucking gross.
Tama jud ka bebe👍😊😊😊
sweetie, you are too judgmental to others' life. A lot of peeps cherished their colourful past life too just in case you don't know bec you never been to.
this song always gets me and can make me cry… we rarely come across such a beautiful and deep song full of meaningful things, right? i love it partly because this isn’t just some commonplace love song. besides, she’s an amazingly talented singer!
@@timmattle4730 ive memorized all the lyrics and i know all their meanings. Im not saying that this is a love song. I mean that a commonplace song is often an ordinary love song
The feelings, love and pain in this song is touching! This song is a gift from God. The voice, lyrics and music!
WOW! Charlene Marilynn Oliver, better known mononymously as Charlene, is an American easy-listening and R&B singer best known for the song "I've Never Been to Me", which, initially being a commercial flop upon its original release in 1977, became a worldwide hit upon a re-release in 1982 and has remained an enduring adult contemporary music staple. Charlene is also a songwriter, record producer and author.
Wow. What a difference. About a year ago, I was on here to listen to this song and everyone was ripping it, completely insulting the words, the message and the singer. I remember it coming out and it was so beautiful, both the message and the tune. Glad there are some others who enjoy it also.
I came here two years ago and saw the same thing. The lesson I learned was....you really can brainwash the next generation if you hold your breath long enough. It's a selfish shit-bucket song. Alway was, always will be and time don't change nothing.
Why do more people say good things about it today- because people are more selfish than ever.
Me, me, me.
What did people find wrong with this song?
@@BIG_AL_ONE to me, this song will always be a cautionary tale. Read the lyrics again and you'll see that she alludes to the whole "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" at the beginning but then changes tune when she gets a dose of reality.
@Marcus Vipsanius Agrippa you said that much better than I could have. This is a song about the price of selfishness.
What did you mean by 'everyone'? Your friends? Your colleagues? They must have been having wonderful lives!
😔 😢 ...What a song. Hopefully many young girls, ladies and women will hear this song👍
She had one of the most beautiful voices I've ever heard
One of the most beautiful songs ever recorded in living memory. Thank you, Charlene. 🤓💓🎙🎼🎵🎶
It’s so amazing how much time music composers spend to complete a song in the 70’s and 80’$. They wrote stories ❤. Songs today are composed of two lines sung repeatedly for three to four minutes to complete an album. 😮
❤ the 70’s and 80’s music.
The more this song has been listened,the more feeling of getting love of it becomes.What a magical this song is!
Im crying right now this song is for me and my mother... I can relate to this song... When I live our of the country far away from my mom everytime I hear this song I remember her... My mom is still alive. I love her so much she may not be perfect but she's great in so many ways. Still listening May 10, 2020 @9:56pm . Thank You for this song 😥🙏🏽🧡
Oh holy fuck !
I sang this song at a competition. I was barely out of my teens, the judge asked if I knew what the song meant. I didn’t quite understand the questioning, all I knew I loved the music, I nailed it. Yes I did win the competition however, Years later I had a good laugh…. “ I’ve been to paradise……😂😂… still listen and love it.
Carefull listening to this music ,you will unlock something that takes you back the memory lane, while we lost some, seperated. wondering how they are now, reminising old stories and glad we experience it. Hoping kids today will experince those goldendays
Never give up on your dream. In 1977 Charlene released an album on Motown's imprint Prodigal Records that went nowhere as well as the 3 singles that all peaked in the 90's including this song that peaked at 97. The album was re-released that same year with different artwork & new tracks & still nothing. The albums were abundantly found in cut out bins for 99 cents.
In 1982 a Florida DJ started playing it & it took off locally. He contacted Motown & Motown President found Charlene (who had retired from music) living in England & working at a candy store. She was again signed by Motown & I've Never Been To Me went on to be an International hit peaking at #3 in the U.S. She also had a regional duet hit with Stevie Wonder called "Use To Be"
You have to keep trying!...always!.
We will have nothing to regret, because every phase of our life teaches us how important these experiences are for human and personal growth. This will be the story of each person's life trajectory.
Unique. Brave lyrics. Astonishing
For its time....yeah. I was only a kid when this song came out but I can tell it was probably highly controversial
I think the meaning and honesty is still relevant and counter to the hedonistic USA culture
"But I wish someone had talked to me, like I wanna talk to you"...
❤ 😊 *** Absolutely 💯 👌 ❤ LOVE 💘 ❤ Charlene's 💖 ♥ Lovely 😍 ❤ 💖 most Precious Soothing ❤ 💖 Voice 😊 ❤ it is the very Best!
Im 14 and these are my type of songs ❤️❤️ better than what we have today
Same
Check out "The Carpenters" Bianca and Zeneth. If you love this type of song you'll love Karen Carpenter.
bianca younis Well, your heads and shoulders beyond your peers. Perhaps you have an old soul, Bianca ;-)
im guy but i love to hear this song im finding its tittle for a decade
Your spirit responds. Most of what is produced today is soulless. Reflecting a soulless society...
This song never gets the just due it deserves.
No one plays it, if you request it, they are like, what?, it has been on top ten worst songs ever lists and more.
But you know what?
It's a good song.
I agree. I can hear it now.
Absolutely.
When this song came out I was dating a beautiful, blonde Irish chick from the Bronx who was a devout Catholic. On our 2nd date this song came on WABC and I turned it up. She looked at me askance, "You don't like this crap, do ya?" "Yea," I replied. Then she said: "I hope you only like the tune and not those ignorant words, otherwise I don't hold much hope for this relationship." I found out later that the lyrics that were vexing her morality were at 2:20: "I been cryin' for unborn children that might have made me complete, but I took the sweet life," hahahahaahah And also, "I spent my life exploring the subtle whoring," This chick was so good looking that I gladly pretended to dislike this song henceforth.
it did seem like an anti abortion song even 35 years ago in 1982.
sure did and still is..
THIS SONG NEEDS TO COME BACK so many ladies going through horrible circumstances, get out now and reclaim You❤
this song bring tears to my eyes as the lyrics perfectly fit to my situation, been around the world, see the different paradise, but i never been to me😔😔
A beautiful lady. Hoping she is happy and lived a happy life. Wish I heard this song sooner
Oh dear. Was about 14 when first heard this song but now really know what it is about and appreciate the words
Even when I was a child this song has reminded of my mom. She's 83 now and it still fits her.
Hello Susan
How are you doing today?
This song has a lot to it....seriously.
Hello Deborah
How are you doing today?
The re-release, with the spoken bridge added, pulled this up out of the run-of-the-mill and made it a classic.
The message is pretty clear, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence and when men and women get a clue, it might be too late for them. a relationship takes work and sometimes neither party want to work at it. My grandparents were married over 80 years and my grand mother was hit and she hit back and she was a true inspiration to me in my life and my parents were married 57 years another inspiration.
One of the greatest songs ever written. Great music, lyrics of wisdom.
You are correct
novarich007 m
August 2021 and I still love to listen to this song... guy here from the Philippines!
It's only now I understand this song and the meaning of it. I married a great guy when I was 23. But I wanted more than the day to day, work, and weekends out in the pub. I left, and as this song says I've seen things and experienced things a woman isn't supposed to see. If I could go back I would in a heartbeat.
if you don't understand this song i envy you, i did spend my life that way (no i didn't sleep with any kings or even anyone with the last name of king) but for those that lived that way it has a deep meaning and the ones that never left their home town, yes we envy them that peaceful life where they have had the same best friend since grade 2 and not since last tuesday, knowing who they trust and don't trust. those are things we never had and never will and would give up all we did have for.
gothicmunchkin This is such a beautiful explanation for this song. It explains it far better then I ever could. For those of you that want to know what this song is about - she says it here.
i was like 2 when this was on the radio, but "i've been to paradise (but i've never been to me)" has been my tag line on all social media for probably 20 years.
wow, I haven't heard this song in over 35 years!!! Still know all of the words!
well I grew up biking hay and milking cows in those days back in west water ford transitor radio we didnt know what they were simging about well uni medicine sugery etc etcetera ended up turning men into woman and woman into.men in london
how life changes
little did we no that these artists were changing everything
Beautiful voice and beautiful song
I was 16 years old when I first heard this song. And as I approached 58 years old, with tears running down my cheeks.
I realize now I’ve never been to me….
I lived a life full of frolicking and superficiality, and those days are now far gone and only live in mind’s memories…..
I heard this song when i was 5 years old back in 1985. I've never been after many years one of my favorite song after many years..
Se eu fechar meus olhos ..
Vou pensar que um anjo deve ter a voz assim!....
Charlene cantando!
I love this song. The first time i saw the singer now in april 2023. I heard this song when i was in my 6th grade back in 1980. My first kid love😄. Now i am 56 years 😅.. Thanks for posting this. 🙏
This song never ages, always been one of my favourites since it first release , then as a song from Prisicilla Queen of the Desert great choice for the film. Beautiful voice from a beautiful singer
Become obsessed with this track lately. Mid-life crisis maybe? Making me think about all the time I’ve bent myself out of shape to please others. What a waste of time.
Frances Rich Why don’t you fuck off and find a soul!
Howard Price Just go ahead and be the WOMAN you want to be. It's all good.
Frances Rich what a fuckin dick we are on here coz we like this tune , I've loved it for 30 odd years , and think it's as relevant now as it must've been then when I didn't understand it , grow a pair and mature
*****, no, we all cannot get along. Conflict is a part of life.
*****, oh, you're right. It's easier to spend our time enjoying the songs. People do waste their time "grasping at straws" when they argue about something so petty.
Remember watching this live performance on Top of the Pops. 40 years ago today (June 22nd ) it topped the UK singles chart.
I had the good fortune to meet Charlene and her terrific husband, Geoff, in L.A. back in 1985, through a mutual friend who grew up with her in AL. Terrific lady, very talented, yet not full of herself. There are great messages in this song, i.e. pro life and avoiding bad choices people make when trying to be cool or fit in.
'People who are full of themselves'? I guess you aren't a fan of 'America' s Got Talents'. I quit watching that for ages ago.
How much our culture change since 40 years ago?
Ricardo Arrienda yup sad but true...I'm 40 and I miss d old days😥
Yes some think the Internet is the real Anti Christ. Look at all the crap people put on it.
@@cuddles6938 it's up to you whether you use it for good or for bad,
the knife has a purpose in our lives we have to use it in a proper way for the kitchen only, if you use it to kill somebody its up to you, the same for internet
I'm almost 40 now and I wish we as a people would grow up and progress. We keep getting hit by waves of people trying to drag us back with conservative values that we've already learned are harmful.
Theres a hurting world out there and not too many people can share their personal issues with anyone else, but if a simple song or an experience can change some one for a better life the so be it .Thank you for sharing.
Hello Linda
How are you doing today?
The first time I heard this song is when I was painting my kitchen in 1982. It has been a favorite of mine ever since.