Zac is such a great husband he really supports Tori and builds her up. I noticed whenever Tori is self deprecating Zack is always telling her not to think that way but he never discounts her feelings. When he said if Lilah grew up to be like Tori. It was so cute.
Women on social media need to be more real. I am 60 and I can’t imagine being a young mom and see them curling their hair and putting on make up during or after birth. I just did good to survive. It blows my mind watching these new moms looking like models and perfection. You are so naturally beautiful and I love to see real moms. Thankful for being so real and honest. You are amazing and normal women see you❤❤❤
I think Tori is using her podcast as a bitch session. Maybe she is not mature enough to deal with having stair step pregnancies & all being dwarfs. She said she did not eat a good diet while pregnant & is now struggling with losing weight. I don't think she is a happy person & is moody & is not mature enough to deal with these issues. I think she compares herself to other women. She talked about putting in the work & everything to her is "terrifying". How would she handle working full time? She whines, complains & uses this platform to air her grievances. Sometimes life isn't fair, but we deal with our problems as best we can. She needs to let Zack talk more & stop constantly interrupting! He seems to be the voice of reason. Take baby steps to get where you want to go & be appreciative of what you have. 😅
Wow Sharon/Karen, you must know her well. Oh, that’s right, you’ve never actually had a conversation with her. Don’t presume you know what is in a stranger’s head and also…..ever heard the saying, those in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks? Looking at you.
I totally agree with this! I am so much happier with myself now at 46 as a grandmother than I ever was in my 20s! Lord I was hard on myself as a young adult! I am constantly telling my daughters that they are beautiful at all their stages of life because of what they accomplished not what they necessarily look like.
Me too. I work out because I love it not for weight loss. I was going to get a tummy tuck and arm flaps off and he said then would you be happy with yourself then. He loved me the way I was. And he was short like zach. ( 5 feet ) and so I thought I have to be happy so each am I look in the mirror and say for a 70 year old you r looking good
Being happy with yourself is what counts. You have a wonderful husband who loves you and accepts you for who you are . Do not get surgery… just work out and enjoy your life and family. Love you guys ❤
I disagree about surgery. I think if you can afford it and that’s will make you feel better, then do it! Do it while you are young. Do want you want. You don’t need anyone opinion but Zack's.
It was nice to hear Zack uplift and compliment Tori ❤️. There’s so many times when all we need is just a kind or loving remark from our hubbies to make our day. I think as long as your spouse finds you beautiful to them, nobody else matters
The way you two communicate is remarkable. Zach, you're a wonderful, supportive, loving husband. Tori, don't ever forget when Zach said he wants your Daughter to turn out just like you. Wow. What a statement to treasure! Bless both of you and your family, always.
Thank you for doing this video. I have a 13 year old granddaughter who is struggling with body images. She refuses to wear shorts because she feels she doesn't look good in them. It's extremely hot out and she wants to wear sweat pants. Love the idea of telling her she's beautiful at anytime instead of when she dresses up.
13 is such a hard age because of body changes. Encourage her to try other styles. I have more hips (I’m 26 now) but I love high waisted jeans and they flatter me more. Help her find a style that she feels good about and likes herself in. Love on her and maybe spend time out doing something she loves or go shopping. My gma used to take me shopping to try on clothes and hype her up! If something looks good on her “ girl look at you, do a spin “ just encourage her and help her see she is beautiful no matter her size
I hurt hearing this...I have been there my whole life...I wish I knew before what I know now....My daughters teach there children about making good food choices and how they can eat treats...it's a life long journey
My boy/girl twins are going to be 13, and the both just had their first away from home sleepover....Mom practiced by having each of those kids at her house first....
I finally okay with my post childbirth body at 61. I gave birth to 3 very large babies. Last one 11 1/2 pounds. Now I realize this body is strong and beautiful just the way it is. Zac you’re so supportive and you both are great together.
I have given birth to 4 and every pregnancy was different. Weight gain, how I carried, how I felt...how quickly I did (or didn't) bounce back. Be patient with yourself and ignore negative, critical people.
Thank you Zach for complete understanding of Tori. Not all the mother’s out there take care of their kids with complete hands on like Tori does. It’s ebb and flow. You’re both awesome.
Tori I really relate. I have 5 kids and I lost myself. The last two years has been about finding myself and taking care of myself. I have lost 160lbs. Im not at goal...but getting there. I wish I didn't wait so long. I'm so proud of you with having such young kids!
I just wanted to say , I know we don't know each other , but I'm proud of you! Keep your head up ! Sending positive vibes your way. HELLO from Wichita Falls, TX! Keep smiling you're doing great ! 😊
Jackie, I am so happy to hear of your hard work and dedication to finding and caring for yourself paying off! You are an amazing example to people you may never even know about for sharing your story! Have a blessed day!
CONGRATULATIONS on completing the 1/2 marathon. What an accomplishment! Be kind and gentle on yourself. You talk about "this is the season of life we are in" so just know things will change. I am almost 64 and have never been very confident in my looks. U til I got breast cancer at 40. I have learned God made me how I am supposed to be. My husband loves me. I am a good person. That's what matters. Hope you all feel better. 💖
Thanks for this conversation. I've never been pregnant but I appreciated your honesty about body image and the dangers of social media. I also loved to hear you and Zach talk about this. The support in Zach's voice is obvious and your acceptance of it was beautiful to hear. What a great example of healthy conversation between two people who love and respect each other well!
Hey Tori I’ve had 6 kiddos 2 miscarriages and it took me so long to figure out that I had diastasis recti and that is why I wasn’t bouncing back with my last couple pregnancies like I did with the others and I was actually doing exercises that were making it worse instead of better, it’s been three years since my last baby. I’m still working on it, doing diastasis recti specific has been so helpful and my core is getting stronger and my back as well. I feel like as women we have to really embrace all our post pregnancy bodies and aging and just focus on physical and mental health. Comparison is such a thief of joy. I think we all can find ourselves in that trap so easily. We wouldn’t want our kids to compare themselves to others because it’s all our differences that make us beautiful individuals in our own right. Amen to showing is the most powerful part of teaching!! I see it with all my kids and I always remind myself of . Love you guys ❤
Listening to them speak to eachother u see so many verbal and nonverbal cues from eachother that show the love they have that u never really got a chance to see on LPBW
I like how down to earth you both are and Zach is so sweet and respectful to you and all women. Tori you look great at what ever size you might be because of the person you are on the inside! You’re a beautiful person.
As a 60 + year old woman, embrace your beauty as you age. Your are beautiful, Tori! It is a privilege our bodies birthed our children and doing our best to stay healthy is enough. Zach is so proud of you just as you are here and now. Our bodies continue to change into our later years into post menopause and it will change again but I am so honoured and grateful to grow old and enjoy family and friends and all the love surrounding me
Tori, I saw an article today that stated each pregnancy adds months to your biological age. You’re a bad B, period. Also, I agree with Zach wholeheartedly. Your attitude has always been something that people should look up to. ❤
Tori, I feel you. The post partum body is wild. Not only the physical change but also the physiological change. You're doing so great, though! I love you two, y'all are so down to earth!
I am 80 and was a fan of LPBW. Now the two of you and your conversations are looked forward to so eagerly for me. It is like talking to my children or at least listening to them.. your children are so dear. That little girl is such a spitfire. I can imagine Tori that she has a personality combined of you and Amy. The boys will grow up strong and confident through the amount of time both of you spend with them sharing your life experiences. Honestly, not scripted like a reality show. Thank you.
Tori, my youngest is 31 this year, my abs did the separation thing, and it has required alot of leaning into God and the loving support of my husband. He tells me I am beautiful, and as long as he thinks I am, then that is all I need. Zach loves you, and accepts you, adores you, and supports you. You ARE a beautiful woman, wife, and mother.
Thank you so much for sharing, Tori. It’s reassuring to find someone else who appreciates what pregnancy gave them, but also hates being pregnant, I thought I was the only one. I’m only three months post-partum but it’s so helpful to know that what I’m feeling is not unique to myself. From one c-section momma to another, so much love.
I'm so happy you two are doing this Podcast. You both speak so real and honest. Thank you for keeping the fans updated with how you both and the kids are.
Loved this episode! We like to tell our daughters, “you look so fancy!” when playing with makeup vs “beautiful!” Just to reinforce the fact they don’t need makeup to be pretty 🩷
Hey Tori I’ve had 6 kiddos 2 miscarriages and it took me so long to figure out that I had diastasis recti and that is why I wasn’t bouncing back with my last couple pregnancies like I did with the others and I was actually doing exercises that were making it worse instead of better it’s been three years since my last baby. I’m still working on it doing diastasis recti specific has been so helpful and my core is getting stronger and my back as well. I feel like as women we have to really embrace all our post pregnancy bodies and aging and just focus on physical and mental health. Comparison is such a thief of joy. I think we all can find ourselves in that trap so easily. We wouldn’t want our kids to compare themselves to others because it’s all our differences that make us beautiful individuals in our own right.
I love this podcast! So many people can benefit from having these open conversations about body image. It definitely made me feel less alone on those difficult days. Everyone have a blessed day!
Zach is such a sweet husband in really hearing Tori with her struggles with pregnancies, and our post natal bodies and healing. When he said he was really proud of her for going through 4 pregnancies on reality tv I thought it was really touching. I can’t imagine having to do that with the five pregnancies I went through with my five sons. I think the comments and pressure is emotionally scarring and there’s a lot of pain and insecurity there for Tori. Our society can be very cruel to women for experiencing normal changes in our body because of pregnancy and the demands of raising children and not having time and energy to look like super models.
You both are so sweet , considerate and respectful of each other. Absolutely love how you two lift each other up! Such a great example to young marriages. Blessings to you both and kids.
Just want to say that boys also run the same risk at sleep overs! Not trying to be a party pooper but I’ve met a few who have had terrible experiences as boys at sleepovers. Don’t discredit the fact that they are also small and vulnerable and predators are old and young (even little kids can cause damage). As a mama, please go with those protective gut feelings you have with Lila and make sure all your babies are safe!
I agree. When my son was young he was invited to a sleep over and I didn’t let him because the parents were sketchy. Sure enough we caught the mom driving by our house the day the sleep over was supposed to happen. It was creepy and I am so glad I went with my instinct.
Great podcast. Food for thought: when an elderly lady was asked what she would do differently if she could go back in time, and she said “I would spend less time focusing on my weight/looks, and spend more time focusing on helping others”. I am 74 years old and still trying to lose 20 pounds. Why in the world are we so obsessed with how we look? Of course we want to be healthy…but my extra 20 pounds isn’t going to make or break me. I wonder if our grandmothers were ever obsessed with how they looked. I think it’s social media and TV that drives us these days. We must remember that beauty comes from within. 🙏❤️🙏
I so love your podcasts..It was great to see your half marathon Tori and Zac your a good husband n father..Tori is the greatest moment and 3 beautiful children who have good values and manners
11 years after kids I finally had muscle repair surgery and it was the best decision I ever made. Not only physically but I am pain free now. No back pain, period cramps are gone, no feeling like I can’t not hold it if I have to pee. It’s amazing. My outlook was I’m not even 40 yet I don’t want to hate my body forever.
I’ve had seven children. The pregnancies were awful. The labor and deliveries were abnormal for five of the seven. You are right. Cesareans definitely make it a lot more difficult to ‘bounce back’. But, you never bounce back. Your breasts are changed, your abdomen is changed, your bladder is changed. I had children during a time when people didn’t understand postpartum depression as well. I felt ashamed, guilty, stupid…. It is ridiculous how we punish ourselves and others with unspoken expectations. You are doing an incredible job!! ❤
That little sidenote at the end about anxiety with your kids' health could be an episode! A lot of parents struggle with it and you guys have more complex medical considerations. Would be a great topic to explore!
I wanna just say I have been following Zach from the little people big world show and have been following the journey you guys have been through from the show and I have enjoyed watching your podcasts from the beginning, I enjoy how open and honest you guys try to be and how cute your adorable family is, thanks for bringing awareness to dwarfism, If that is even the correct terminology. Thanks for opening up about real life stuff and for being 100% real and open with us about life, marriage, having kids and blessing the internet with a breath of fresh air with you two and your lovely family. I can relate to you guys as I have 3 kids ranging from 8yr old, 4yr old and 2yr old. I’m a daycare teacher so I can totally relate to you Tori in the loving to teach kids as a job. I Quit my job of 10 years and now homeschool my oldest and I absolutely enjoy it.
I think our bodies go through phases. We have phases where we hold onto weight, and phases where we shed weight. You are definitely not alone in feeling the way you do. I think we're all walking around self-conscious about something. Thanks for your honest and vulnerable discussion. I think it will help many people. Because there is so much that is fake on social media, it's a relief to see someone real.
Tori you are so real. Love watching you and Zack. Keep it up and listen to the positive reviews. Ps. You do not talk that much. When Zack talks it is enlightening and you are the one who has the major role in the house hold. I know Zack does plenty around the home but there is definitely roles for mom’s and dad’s. So keep going and continue to be real. Go bless your family.
I appreciate this - I’ve struggled with my own body as I’ve entered my 30s and I’m so glad I’m not alone here and working towards not putting myself down based on a comparison from a woman who had work done. Like absolutely I’ll never have those results. Thanks Tori
Tori I am watching your episode right now and I feel what you are going through. I too had 3 c-sections and 2 miscarriages. I’ve had a hysterectomy and 25 surgeries, many of them abdominal. I didn’t bounce back with the first one as I gained 80+ lbs and my son was almost 10 lbs. The other 2 daughters I did bounce back better. But I was always thin like you before you had children too. So after my first one it was a horrible feeling. Even after the other 2 I just always felt like I didn’t look good enough. I think we put way too much pressure on ourselves. Everyone’s metabolism is different. I didn’t want to put on a swimsuit to go in the pool with the kids or didn’t want to be on pictures, things like that. I now have 4 grandchildren, soon to be 56 in 2 weeks and wish I could go back to what I looked like when I felt I didn’t look good enough. Our children don’t care if we’ve put on a few pounds, put on the swimsuit. Easier said than done, I know. Every day we age and lose our youth so appreciate the beauty you have now. Your face is beautiful, your skin so beautiful and smooth, your smile is amazing, gorgeous hair, you have so many wonderful features but as women we only focus on the things we don’t like. Believe me the people you are comparing yourself to have insecurities too and maybe they had something that you have that they don’t. Also my 2 daughters that were also thin like I was, are now moms themselves and both struggled for several years with extra weight after their children. It’s only been maybe the last year that they are both coming back down to normal but their youngest kids are 4 and almost 6. Your youngest is only a year old. Your body will go back to closer to what you want. Sometimes I think hormones just get stuck and take awhile to normalize themselves. My daughters too had a hard time with the way they looked. I tried to tell them what I’m sharing with you and it didn’t make them feel better so not sure it will help you either. Lol. But just know Tori you are not alone, and YES, most of us women compare ourselves to others, which we need to stop. The thing is now at almost 55, I don’t care much now if I don’t look good enough. I will put on the suit now with my grandchildren and want the pictures with them. It’s so freeing to not care what other people think. We just have to stop being so hard on ourselves for not being perfect. But like I said, your little one is only a year, it took my daughters a couple years to get back to where they just now are feeling back to themselves physically. P.S I just had Botox last week for the first time just for myself as the wrinkles were creeping in and I didn’t like it. I don’t know that anyone else will notice but it makes me feel better when I look in the mirror. Do what you need to do to feel good about yourself.
Thank you for being open about these topics! I’m a twin mom who had a c section and they will be 2 in a few months, and I’ve struggled with my body image since they were born. Now I’m starting to work out again and feeling more my self again after so long.
I was 5'10" and 125 solid muscle until I had my 1st baby...I thought I was fat...man after 4 births in 4.5 yrs my body changed dramatically...my self image went out the window...I hear ya sweetheart ❤
I have so many comments, but I love you Tori! You’re the best, and I feel so much the same as you. The one thing when you said that “all that matters of your kids look good, then it doesn’t matter what you look like,” which I have dealt so many times. The film interview days, when you just can’t even, and it’s blown and Zach had to take the lead & send everyone home after…..I relate so much. I’m not on tv, but do have important events scheduled at the house (family gathering or whatever), and have literally can’t even do…my husband will handle the ranks and supported me. It still sucks, but solidarity is key. Solidarity sister!
I never watched LPBW and came across your podcast by accident but I am happy because I discovered two beautiful humans. Tori : IMO numbers , size or shape don’t count as long as you are healthy mentally and physically. You said it right. As long as you can keep up with your kids, that is what matters. ❤ Zach : thumbs up 👍🏼 “I just want our daughter to be like you”. The way you compliment Tori is awesome 🤩.
Tori you look beautiful. Yes after having babies it can be hard to bounce back with our bodies. I have been an ice hockey player from 25 yr old until 50yr old and still didn’t get back down to my ideal weight. Then I had at neck surgery like your father n law Matt . After that the weight creeped up on me cuz I wasn’t active for 2 yrs. So I started weight watchers in Nov and stay under 1000 calories a day . I built a home gym .I work out 2 hrs a day I journal my food and workout everyday helps me stay on track. So far down 50lbs. I have 30 lb more to go . Yes I thought of surgery ,but let me tell you this journey of my has been so more rewarding for me. Girl you got this. I have a 25 yr old daughter from day one I called her pretty girl no matter if she had her hockey helmet on ,or if she came home from playing in the dirt ,or when she went to prom. She is my pretty girl.❤ I’ve always built her up . I know you will do that too with your daughter. Don’t get so frustrated with yourself a half marathon omg that was amazing 🎉. And Zach he is so supportive and sweet with you. That’s because he has a great mom that raised him right. Anyway love your podcast ❤thank you for being humble
I am not totally at peace with my image, but saying that I have stopped comparing myself with others. When I work out I compete with my last best push-up, my last longest plank. If I compare with others I am chasing an elusive goal. Just do you, and be at peace with who you are
Tori you look amazing. You have had 3 babies. Our bodies change and we need to give ourselves more grace. Today is my 70th birthday and I have worried about my weight most of my adult life. Now I know at my age that I am grateful for my good health. Weight isn’t as important.
1st. Boys get messed with or have bad things happen at sleepovers to. Always listen to that momma gut, even if it doesn't make sense. 2nd. People are suppose to age. Your not going to look exactly like you did when you got married or were a teen. Its hard for sure (I'm in late 40s and wish we could) but try to be as healthy as you can. That should be everyone's goal. HEALTH. not looking like someone else, not keeping up with the latest whomever. Most of the people that are chasing looks or a certain body are not the healthiest in their minds & hearts. You both seem very grounded in The Lord and family, keep your focus there. That is what brings true joy. And honestly your beautiful Tori. Because you seem to have a honest heart and love truth and your family. Not because your body is X amount smaller, or your tummy is flatter. Great podcast guys!
I had a few fav. Episodes but this one is my my FAVORITE now. I laughed so much and felt like I was there hanging with you both it felt so comfortable and just a normal conversation. I agreed with so much of what you were talking about. If anyone hates on you for this conversation they need to take a look at themselves! Thank you for this conversation I very much appreciated it Tori.
Zach and Tori, please continue to be the REAL you! What is beautiful about you both is that you are real and unpretentious! This is your gift to offer the world. This is how you make a difference. Please don't fall prey to social media phony images. Just be healthy and real.Tori, I applaud you for considering Lilah in your decision to not alter yourself or try for a perfect body. Just be beautiful you! Zach you are wonderfully supportive and real! And such good advice from Amy about raising daughters!
As a mom to many, I have had multiple ways of birth. I have done epidural x2, natural breech, emergency c-section, vbac, and a repeat emergency c-section. After all my "regular" births, I bounced back to almost my pre-pregnancy weight. After both of my c-sections, I have not lost anything without significant struggle. My last one was my second emergency c-section, and I still struggle with my weight, and he is 14. So, I totally believe that for at least some women, it is entirely hormone based, as to how your body responds to weight loss.
I had my first migraine headache at 61 yeas old I couldn’t imagine Zach’s pain when he needed a new shunt. I totally understand his head banging . Never again.
Let me first say, I've always thought you were beautiful. I've never looked to a persons physical beauty, I look for the inner beauty that shines outward. ✨️ Women can be cruel, mean, and catty. And I don't understand why they think putting another woman down is ever ok. That is why I totally understand why you would have second thoughts on letting Lilah go to a sleepover. I'm a 60 year old woman who is struggling with being overweight and wanting to get fit and healthy. There is absolutely no way I would ever fat shame anyone. I would absolutely never shame anyone for their physical appearance. ❤ you Tori don't listen to people who get pleasure out of being cruel. They are totally not worth it.❤
Tori you look absolutely gorgeous ❤ With that being said I know how difficult it is when you don’t feel gorgeous but people tell you that you are. As a mom of 2 who are 18 and 20, I still struggle with body image. Watching you be so open and candid about your struggles makes me want to be more accepting of my body. I wish our society wasn’t so body conscious.
Tori your looking lovely, I’m 61 and when I was 50 I had a tummy tuck which I actually regret , it made me look at the rest of myself to see what else I didn’t like about me instead of appreciating myself for who I am, I now am loving myself more and more so if you can avoid surgery and just keep doing what your doing you will probably love and appreciate were your at with how you look ❤️
Tori, you’re absolutely GORGEOUS❣️ You are Devine perfection!!! I think opportunities are presented in life to teach us to take our power back. Please enjoy your youth & beauty!!! You are so very loved.
You were definitely right about most women comparing themselves to other women!!!! Especially after giving birth because we’re always self conscious about how much weight we’ve gained and how fast we can get it off. Everything you have said was so validating because it was all the truth……your truth!!!!!! Please don’t be discouraged by not being the same weight you were before having kids, because you aren’t the person you were before having kids!!!!!!! I’m 42 and I’ve had a kid at 27 and I gained a ton of weight and was so upset with myself how long it took to lose the weight but now I have 4 step children and I’m raising my step-grandchild and I’m probably back at my high school weight…. So never say never about getting back long after your kids grow up!!!!! Love your podcast, family and relationship!!!!!!
Very relatable! In one of my facebook groups, I’m always shocked by the number of women that have had weight loss surgery and/or mommy makeovers. Nothing against doing that, but I just had no idea how common it is.
Also I really appreciate this conversation. Especially the things about Amy not saying molly is beautiful when she had make up. Also think it's adorable that Zach said he wanted to do what Tori's mom did because he wants Lilah to be like Tori because she's perfect. So adorable
Important for you to feel good in your own skin! Whether it is making yourself up before you go out or wear sweatpants, leggings, etc! Be Tori - you are awesomely and wonderfully made! Keep up the great work!
Tori, ignore the ding-a-lings that say you do all the talking. In a marriage, it can happen that one spouse is either outgoing or introverted. If you work out any situations that might come up, personally I think you’ll find that, as a couple, you complement each other ❤❤. Life would be rather dull if a married couple’s personalities were the same…you’d drive each other crazy 🤪🥰. My husband is definitely outgoing and super friendly, I’m shy, but his being that way helps me come out of my shell. 😊 You and Zach make a wonderful couple🕊️…. May the Bless and Keep You All 🕊️🥰
So proud of you Tori ..you are right be proud of the women who you are..I have never been crazy about makeup. I am 67 years old the day I retired I quit wearing makeup. I not sure why I wore it while I was working...I'm just how GOD made me. It was so nice when Zach said he wants your daughter to be just like you!! Way to go Zach! I love how you look like Tori she is absolutely beautiful!
Tori, you're still young and just off having three babies. I would leave it a bit. Don't rush into surgery if you don't have to. Your body will change in the next 5 years. Just my thoughts because you look good right now.
I totally understand Tori. I had 2 Csections and then 6 other abdominal surgeries after kids. Including 2 different feeding tubes and some other major stomach ones. I am 45 and feel my body has changed so much. My last baby was almost 16 yrs ago now. I am definitely not where I want to be, but am trying with the energy I have. Even if you didn't have kids or Csections your body would have changed. My bff hasn't had kids and at 37 her body has changed from when I met her at 27. I am thankful for my husband who loves me for me. Zach loves you for you. I am also thankful to a loving God who made me in His image and loves me! I stopped weighing myself a long time ago , cause it messed with my brain so much. Playing the numbers game can be horrible. So now I just try to eat clean and exercise. I started eating gluten free too. I go now by how I feel in clothes vs a number on a scale or tag size. God bless you as you do the half marathon!!
Tori you are so relatable and women do struggle with these issues. Just remember it takes time. Love yourself girl! You are so beautiful and Zach you are so supportive of your wife. You guys are a inspiration to watch ❤ from Kansas City ❤❤
Tori, please read! You are a Beautiful, Amazing Mom!!!!❤❤The surgery to fix the abs is a "patch" done laproscopically. I had surgery in Germany in 2005, when my husband was stationed there with the military. With the patch, I asked for a tummy tuck as well. I regret it to this day!! It is the #1 thing I wish I could change in my past. I have had so many complications from it!! Stemming from the internal scar tissue from the tummy tuck. Just the last Friday, 6/7, I had major surgery to repair the problems. 4 hr surgery, 5 laproscopic incisions, and many stitches "down below." Please don't get the tummy tuck! Maybe techniques have changed since 2005, but just patching the rectus abdominal muscles is much easier.❤❤ I'm a Mom of 4 kids. One c- section and 3 VBACs. They are all grown now. 😢....but now I have 5 grands😊 Iam also a medical professional, but not a doctor.
Tori I’m so PROUD of you. I too have struggled with my weight. My hubby lost ton weight looks fit and I’m still struggling. Thanks for talking bout it. I had emergency c section. Scar from belly button to top of vagina. Thanks for letting others know it’s normal. Debi
You two are so interesting to listen to. You have incredible chemistry together and your parenting skills are very helpful,especially with topics that so many parents face Thanks for just being yourselves,it truly shows ❤
Thanks for sharing this! We just had our third baby, and we've also decided we are done having children. I feel like I can finally have my body back and am actually trying to do the work.
I love that you two can talk about anything together. The negative people should just move on and keep the comments to themselves. By the way, your kiddos are sooooo cute.
You are so correct about the comments on social media. People can be so harsh. Everyones pregnancy is different, but I also can relate to your situation. I had 4 cesareans. It's true your abdomen muscles separate and my doctor told me the only true way to correct is surgery because they have to lace those muscles back together. I chose not to for financial and scar reasons. It's a long journey but you can be fit like walking or just living a fitness life. Its been 10 years now. Sometimes, I'm still not comfortable but like you say we are perfect regardless. Surgery doesn't have to be the answer. And you are just fine the way you are.🎉🎉🎉
Body image is overrated! Social Media has done terrible things to young women. I’ve come to the fact that at the age of now 54 with 3 beautiful children agaes, 35, 27 and 12 (yes way far apart🤦🏼♀️) that I have worked so hard and spent so much money on this body! I call myself a fatass and I rock it!! I’ve learned to love myself even at a size 12/14! Having my 3rd child at 41 did wonders to my body! I use to wonder….WHY!? Now I look at it like, “Thank you God for entrusting me to be a Momma!” I took a bad situation and looked for a good situation. That takes the ability to love ourselves and accept ourselves for all the things we put our bodies through! We didn’t have to spend $1000’s to get the KK body! We did it by loving ourselves! Rolls, Cellulite, wrinkles and all!!
I definitely didn't bounce back after a c section. I gained almost 90lbs each pregnancy..but you look amazing. You are a wonderful and beautiful wife and mother. Love watching yalls show!
I had my baby at 30 years old. I got huge. People thought k was having twins. I didn’t have a c-section and didn’t lose weight very quick. When she was around 5 people were asking me when I was due. I feel ya. She is now 17 and I will never get back into my high school size jeans. My and never came back together. About 10 years ago I had a tummy tuck because I felt so uncomfortable. I did great for a while but have gained allThe weight back. I totally understand how you are feeling. Zach, awesome job supporting Tori. Y’all are such an awesome couple.
My son had the same surgery at about 9 years old during the summer and he was a CHAMP. He refused to use the numbing suckers, and was only allowed to take IB Profen and Tylenol. They told us they'd give him something for pain at the first appt and then the day before they changed their minds and we still have no idea why... Anyway, he made it, he surprised me, and he didn't have any complications at all! I'm praying for her and you guys as well❤❤❤ please update us in the community tab!
Zachary so well said!! Tori just be healthy. I thought I was always big and in my late 40’s my tiny nieces tried on my wedding gown. It fit them like a glove. I was shocked because I always felt fat. You are perfect just the way you are!❤
I have seen all your shows and love them. You guys are a blessing. I don't understand why anyone would leave negative comments. But we do live in a crazy world sometimes. Zach you are so sweet with a great head on your shoulders. Have watched since you was a small child. Proud of you.
Thank you both for bringing up this topic. I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I am one of those that eats one bad thing and gain. I am also a chocoholic lol. For 20 yrs I have been disabled and not able to walk and that is a big issue when trying to maintain a good weight. But I love the fact that you brought out how surgeries and filters and things can make us think we aren’t good enough because we can’t get to where others are. So proud of you Tori you rock. It is so hard to find confidence in yourself when you have lost it. I’m struggling. You inspire me
I would 100% get a tummy tuck if I could. Tori I respect you so much for your honesty and your opinion on this. You have to do what works for you!! Elective surgery can be a very controversial topic. That’s the beauty of living in a country that we can do what’s best for us. Thank you for these amazing podcasts! 😊
you guys are so encouraging. I loved hearing your perspective on body image, I love what Zack said about, have you put in the work. that was a light bulb moment.
You guys are So Great! Every relationship should be as open as yours. Watched LPBW w/my daughter for every episode and I loved when I asked her which ones in the fam were Little, and she said she didn’t know or care. Big smile! She just loved your family!
I heard a quote this week and I wrote it down for myself to ponder: "The best weight you'll ever lose is the weight of other people's opinions."
Love it....❤🎉😊
Amen to this
Great quote !
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I LOVE this!!! Thank you for sharing❣️
aww Zach saying ‘I want her to be like you’ such a compliment to his wife 💓
Tori, having 3 babies under 10 yrs and you DID a half marathon!!! Girl!!!! you rock!!! That’s absolutely amazing!! congratulations Tori!!!
I hate that you guys are receiving negative comments. Tori I think you are lovely to listen to! ❤
Zac is such a great husband he really supports Tori and builds her up. I noticed whenever Tori is self deprecating Zack is always telling her not to think that way but he never discounts her feelings. When he said if Lilah grew up to be like Tori. It was so cute.
Women on social media need to be more real. I am 60 and I can’t imagine being a young mom and see them curling their hair and putting on make up during or after birth. I just did good to survive. It blows my mind watching these new moms looking like models and perfection. You are so naturally beautiful and I love to see real moms. Thankful for being so real and honest. You are amazing and normal women see you❤❤❤
AMEN TO THAT! I'm 60 too! She's out done me when I had children.
Amen💝 I couldn't agree more💝
Most of the time people do it during birth to keep their minds off the pain. Also many people wanna look nice for their newborn pictures
I think Tori is using her podcast as a bitch session. Maybe she is not mature enough to deal with having stair step pregnancies & all being dwarfs. She said she did not eat a good diet while pregnant & is now struggling with losing weight. I don't think she is a happy person & is moody & is not mature enough to deal with these issues. I think she compares herself to other women. She talked about putting in the work & everything to her is "terrifying". How would she handle working full time? She whines, complains & uses this platform to air her grievances. Sometimes life isn't fair, but we deal with our problems as best we can. She needs to let Zack talk more & stop constantly interrupting! He seems to be the voice of reason. Take baby steps to get where you want to go & be appreciative of what you have. 😅
Wow Sharon/Karen, you must know her well. Oh, that’s right, you’ve never actually had a conversation with her. Don’t presume you know what is in a stranger’s head and also…..ever heard the saying, those in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks? Looking at you.
Coming from a 51 yr old woman, embrace your beauty as you age. I feel better about myself now, than I did 30 years ago. Another Great podcast today!
Me too. I’m 47 and I’m growing comfortable in my skin!!
I totally agree with this! I am so much happier with myself now at 46 as a grandmother than I ever was in my 20s! Lord I was hard on myself as a young adult! I am constantly telling my daughters that they are beautiful at all their stages of life because of what they accomplished not what they necessarily look like.
Me too. I work out because I love it not for weight loss. I was going to get a tummy tuck and arm flaps off and he said then would you be happy with yourself then. He loved me the way I was. And he was short like zach. ( 5 feet ) and so I thought I have to be happy so each am I look in the mirror and say for a 70 year old you r looking good
Don’t listen to jealous haters. Haters have self esteem issues and sadness in their life. Pray for them to do better and be better.
TORI, YOUR KIDS ARE SO BLESSED TO HAVE YOU AS THEIR MOM
Being happy with yourself is what counts. You have a wonderful husband who loves you and accepts you for who you are . Do not get surgery… just work out and enjoy your life and family. Love you guys ❤
I disagree about surgery. I think if you can afford it and that’s will make you feel better, then do it! Do it while you are young. Do want you want. You don’t need anyone opinion but Zack's.
It was nice to hear Zack uplift and compliment Tori ❤️. There’s so many times when all we need is just a kind or loving remark from our hubbies to make our day. I think as long as your spouse finds you beautiful to them, nobody else matters
You are a sweet couple ❤
The way you two communicate is remarkable. Zach, you're a wonderful, supportive, loving husband. Tori, don't ever forget when Zach said he wants your Daughter to turn out just like you. Wow. What a statement to treasure! Bless both of you and your family, always.
Thank you for doing this video. I have a 13 year old granddaughter who is struggling with body images. She refuses to wear shorts because she feels she doesn't look good in them. It's extremely hot out and she wants to wear sweat pants. Love the idea of telling her she's beautiful at anytime instead of when she dresses up.
13 is such a hard age because of body changes. Encourage her to try other styles. I have more hips (I’m 26 now) but I love high waisted jeans and they flatter me more. Help her find a style that she feels good about and likes herself in. Love on her and maybe spend time out doing something she loves or go shopping. My gma used to take me shopping to try on clothes and hype her up! If something looks good on her “ girl look at you, do a spin “ just encourage her and help her see she is beautiful no matter her size
I hurt hearing this...I have been there my whole life...I wish I knew before what I know now....My daughters teach there children about making good food choices and how they can eat treats...it's a life long journey
My grandson just had tonsil...adenoids and ear draining...he also had his severe tongue tie fix...he is 8....praying for Y'all ❤
My boy/girl twins are going to be 13, and the both just had their first away from home sleepover....Mom practiced by having each of those kids at her house first....
I finally okay with my post childbirth body at 61. I gave birth to 3 very large babies. Last one 11 1/2 pounds. Now I realize this body is strong and beautiful just the way it is. Zac you’re so supportive and you both are great together.
I have given birth to 4 and every pregnancy was different. Weight gain, how I carried, how I felt...how quickly I did (or didn't) bounce back. Be patient with yourself and ignore negative, critical people.
Who ever gave you babies is so blessed❤
Tori's aura is so postive, your laugh is contagious, you are the blessing to the family 💚💙💜🩷🧡
Thank you Zach for complete understanding of Tori. Not all the mother’s out there take care of their kids with complete hands on like Tori does. It’s ebb and flow. You’re both awesome.
Tori I really relate. I have 5 kids and I lost myself. The last two years has been about finding myself and taking care of myself. I have lost 160lbs. Im not at goal...but getting there. I wish I didn't wait so long. I'm so proud of you with having such young kids!
I just wanted to say , I know we don't know each other , but I'm proud of you! Keep your head up ! Sending positive vibes your way. HELLO from Wichita Falls, TX! Keep smiling you're doing great ! 😊
Right on keep it up you're doing amazing😊
@@angelscraftycrap ty so much!
Jackie, I am so happy to hear of your hard work and dedication to finding and caring for yourself paying off! You are an amazing example to people you may never even know about for sharing your story! Have a blessed day!
CONGRATULATIONS on completing the 1/2 marathon. What an accomplishment! Be kind and gentle on yourself. You talk about "this is the season of life we are in" so just know things will change. I am almost 64 and have never been very confident in my looks. U til I got breast cancer at 40. I have learned God made me how I am supposed to be. My husband loves me. I am a good person. That's what matters. Hope you all feel better. 💖
For real I hate running so kudos
I love running. I do half marathons. I slow down as I age, but I concentrate on finishing.
Thanks for this conversation. I've never been pregnant but I appreciated your honesty about body image and the dangers of social media. I also loved to hear you and Zach talk about this. The support in Zach's voice is obvious and your acceptance of it was beautiful to hear. What a great example of healthy conversation between two people who love and respect each other well!
Hey Tori I’ve had 6 kiddos 2 miscarriages and it took me so long to figure out that I had diastasis recti and that is why I wasn’t bouncing back with my last couple pregnancies like I did with the others and I was actually doing exercises that were making it worse instead of better, it’s been three years since my last baby. I’m still working on it, doing diastasis recti specific has been so helpful and my core is getting stronger and my back as well. I feel like as women we have to really embrace all our post pregnancy bodies and aging and just focus on physical and mental health. Comparison is such a thief of joy. I think we all can find ourselves in that trap so easily. We wouldn’t want our kids to compare themselves to others because it’s all our differences that make us beautiful individuals in our own right. Amen to showing is the most powerful part of teaching!! I see it with all my kids and I always remind myself of . Love you guys ❤
Also 2nd comment it's great to see zack so supportive towards tori when she said how she feels about her body after children and being understanding
Listening to them speak to eachother u see so many verbal and nonverbal cues from eachother that show the love they have that u never really got a chance to see on LPBW
I like how down to earth you both are and Zach is so sweet and respectful to you and all women. Tori you look great at what ever size you might be because of the person you are on the inside! You’re a beautiful person.
Tori you might be 30, I’m 62 but hearing you say it’s okay to be who you are. Yours and Zack’s support to each other is so beautiful
I love how Zach is so encouraging. You are blessed. ❤
As a 60 + year old woman, embrace your beauty as you age. Your are beautiful, Tori! It is a privilege our bodies birthed our children and doing our best to stay healthy is enough. Zach is so proud of you just as you are here and now. Our bodies continue to change into our later years into post menopause and it will change again but I am so honoured and grateful to grow old and enjoy family and friends and all the love surrounding me
Zach’s sweet comment at the end… Ahhh!! hahaha. LOVE IT. Where do we all find a love like yours?! Love you two! ❤
Tori, I saw an article today that stated each pregnancy adds months to your biological age. You’re a bad B, period. Also, I agree with Zach wholeheartedly. Your attitude has always been something that people should look up to. ❤
Tori, I feel you. The post partum body is wild. Not only the physical change but also the physiological change. You're doing so great, though! I love you two, y'all are so down to earth!
Thank you for always being REAL! The world needs more social media influencers like you two!
I am 80 and was a fan of LPBW. Now the two of you and your conversations are looked forward to so eagerly for me. It is like talking to my children or at least listening to them.. your children are so dear. That little girl is such a spitfire. I can imagine Tori that she has a personality combined of you and Amy. The boys will grow up strong and confident through the amount of time both of you spend with them sharing your life experiences. Honestly, not scripted like a reality show. Thank you.
Tori, my youngest is 31 this year, my abs did the separation thing, and it has required alot of leaning into God and the loving support of my husband. He tells me I am beautiful, and as long as he thinks I am, then that is all I need. Zach loves you, and accepts you, adores you, and supports you. You ARE a beautiful woman, wife, and mother.
Thank you so much for sharing, Tori. It’s reassuring to find someone else who appreciates what pregnancy gave them, but also hates being pregnant, I thought I was the only one. I’m only three months post-partum but it’s so helpful to know that what I’m feeling is not unique to myself. From one c-section momma to another, so much love.
I'm so happy you two are doing this Podcast. You both speak so real and honest. Thank you for keeping the fans updated with how you both and the kids are.
Loved this episode! We like to tell our daughters, “you look so fancy!” when playing with makeup vs “beautiful!” Just to reinforce the fact they don’t need makeup to be pretty 🩷
Hey Tori I’ve had 6 kiddos 2 miscarriages and it took me so long to figure out that I had diastasis recti and that is why I wasn’t bouncing back with my last couple pregnancies like I did with the others and I was actually doing exercises that were making it worse instead of better it’s been three years since my last baby. I’m still working on it doing diastasis recti specific has been so helpful and my core is getting stronger and my back as well. I feel like as women we have to really embrace all our post pregnancy bodies and aging and just focus on physical and mental health. Comparison is such a thief of joy. I think we all can find ourselves in that trap so easily. We wouldn’t want our kids to compare themselves to others because it’s all our differences that make us beautiful individuals in our own right.
I’ve struggled with my weight most of my life. I’m lucky enough to have a husband like yours who loves me no matter what. Another great episode. 👏
I love this podcast! So many people can benefit from having these open conversations about body image. It definitely made me feel less alone on those difficult days. Everyone have a blessed day!
Zach is such a sweet husband in really hearing Tori with her struggles with pregnancies, and our post natal bodies and healing. When he said he was really proud of her for going through 4 pregnancies on reality tv I thought it was really touching. I can’t imagine having to do that with the five pregnancies I went through with my five sons. I think the comments and pressure is emotionally scarring and there’s a lot of pain and insecurity there for Tori. Our society can be very cruel to women for experiencing normal changes in our body because of pregnancy and the demands of raising children and not having time and energy to look like super models.
You both are so sweet , considerate and respectful of each other. Absolutely love how you two lift each other up! Such a great example to young marriages. Blessings to you both and kids.
Just want to say that boys also run the same risk at sleep overs! Not trying to be a party pooper but I’ve met a few who have had terrible experiences as boys at sleepovers. Don’t discredit the fact that they are also small and vulnerable and predators are old and young (even little kids can cause damage). As a mama, please go with those protective gut feelings you have with Lila and make sure all your babies are safe!
I agree. When my son was young he was invited to a sleep over and I didn’t let him because the parents were sketchy. Sure enough we caught the mom driving by our house the day the sleep over was supposed to happen. It was creepy and I am so glad I went with my instinct.
Great podcast. Food for thought: when an elderly lady was asked what she would do differently if she could go back in time, and she said “I would spend less time focusing on my weight/looks, and spend more time focusing on helping others”. I am 74 years old and still trying to lose 20 pounds. Why in the world are we so obsessed with how we look? Of course we want to be healthy…but my extra 20 pounds isn’t going to make or break me. I wonder if our grandmothers were ever obsessed with how they looked. I think it’s social media and TV that drives us these days. We must remember that beauty comes from within. 🙏❤️🙏
Thank y’all for being so candid in this video. I’m sure it will speak to the heart of many women who struggle with self image. LOVE IT!
I so love your podcasts..It was great to see your half marathon Tori and Zac your a good husband n father..Tori is the greatest moment and 3 beautiful children who have good values and manners
11 years after kids I finally had muscle repair surgery and it was the best decision I ever made. Not only physically but I am pain free now. No back pain, period cramps are gone, no feeling like I can’t not hold it if I have to pee. It’s amazing. My outlook was I’m not even 40 yet I don’t want to hate my body forever.
I’ve had seven children. The pregnancies were awful. The labor and deliveries were abnormal for five of the seven. You are right. Cesareans definitely make it a lot more difficult to ‘bounce back’. But, you never bounce back. Your breasts are changed, your abdomen is changed, your bladder is changed.
I had children during a time when people didn’t understand postpartum depression as well. I felt ashamed, guilty, stupid…. It is ridiculous how we punish ourselves and others with unspoken expectations.
You are doing an incredible job!! ❤
That little sidenote at the end about anxiety with your kids' health could be an episode! A lot of parents struggle with it and you guys have more complex medical considerations. Would be a great topic to explore!
So happy you guys are posting on TH-cam! I’ve been loving all your videos 💕🙏🏻
I wanna just say I have been following Zach from the little people big world show and have been following the journey you guys have been through from the show and I have enjoyed watching your podcasts from the beginning, I enjoy how open and honest you guys try to be and how cute your adorable family is, thanks for bringing awareness to dwarfism, If that is even the correct terminology. Thanks for opening up about real life stuff and for being 100% real and open with us about life, marriage, having kids and blessing the internet with a breath of fresh air with you two and your lovely family. I can relate to you guys as I have 3 kids ranging from 8yr old, 4yr old and 2yr old. I’m a daycare teacher so I can totally relate to you Tori in the loving to teach kids as a job. I Quit my job of 10 years and now homeschool my oldest and I absolutely enjoy it.
I think our bodies go through phases. We have phases where we hold onto weight, and phases where we shed weight. You are definitely not alone in feeling the way you do. I think we're all walking around self-conscious about something. Thanks for your honest and vulnerable discussion. I think it will help many people. Because there is so much that is fake on social media, it's a relief to see someone real.
Tori you are so real. Love watching you and Zack. Keep it up and listen to the positive reviews. Ps. You do not talk that much. When Zack talks it is enlightening and you are the one who has the major role in the house hold. I know Zack does plenty around the home but there is definitely roles for mom’s and dad’s. So keep going and continue to be real. Go bless your family.
I appreciate this - I’ve struggled with my own body as I’ve entered my 30s and I’m so glad I’m not alone here and working towards not putting myself down based on a comparison from a woman who had work done. Like absolutely I’ll never have those results. Thanks Tori
Tori I am watching your episode right now and I feel what you are going through. I too had 3 c-sections and 2 miscarriages. I’ve had a hysterectomy and 25 surgeries, many of them abdominal. I didn’t bounce back with the first one as I gained 80+ lbs and my son was almost 10 lbs. The other 2 daughters I did bounce back better. But I was always thin like you before you had children too. So after my first one it was a horrible feeling. Even after the other 2 I just always felt like I didn’t look good enough. I think we put way too much pressure on ourselves. Everyone’s metabolism is different. I didn’t want to put on a swimsuit to go in the pool with the kids or didn’t want to be on pictures, things like that. I now have 4 grandchildren, soon to be 56 in 2 weeks and wish I could go back to what I looked like when I felt I didn’t look good enough. Our children don’t care if we’ve put on a few pounds, put on the swimsuit. Easier said than done, I know. Every day we age and lose our youth so appreciate the beauty you have now. Your face is beautiful, your skin so beautiful and smooth, your smile is amazing, gorgeous hair, you have so many wonderful features but as women we only focus on the things we don’t like. Believe me the people you are comparing yourself to have insecurities too and maybe they had something that you have that they don’t.
Also my 2 daughters that were also thin like I was, are now moms themselves and both struggled for several years with extra weight after their children. It’s only been maybe the last year that they are both coming back down to normal but their youngest kids are 4 and almost 6. Your youngest is only a year old. Your body will go back to closer to what you want. Sometimes I think hormones just get stuck and take awhile to normalize themselves. My daughters too had a hard time with the way they looked. I tried to tell them what I’m sharing with you and it didn’t make them feel better so not sure it will help you either. Lol.
But just know Tori you are not alone, and YES, most of us women compare ourselves to others, which we need to stop. The thing is now at almost 55, I don’t care much now if I don’t look good enough. I will put on the suit now with my grandchildren and want the pictures with them. It’s so freeing to not care what other people think. We just have to stop being so hard on ourselves for not being perfect. But like I said, your little one is only a year, it took my daughters a couple years to get back to where they just now are feeling back to themselves physically.
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I just had Botox last week for the first time just for myself as the wrinkles were creeping in and I didn’t like it. I don’t know that anyone else will notice but it makes me feel better when I look in the mirror. Do what you need to do to feel good about yourself.
Thank you for being open about these topics! I’m a twin mom who had a c section and they will be 2 in a few months, and I’ve struggled with my body image since they were born. Now I’m starting to work out again and feeling more my self again after so long.
I was 5'10" and 125 solid muscle until I had my 1st baby...I thought I was fat...man after 4 births in 4.5 yrs my body changed dramatically...my self image went out the window...I hear ya sweetheart ❤
I have so many comments, but I love you Tori! You’re the best, and I feel so much the same as you. The one thing when you said that “all that matters of your kids look good, then it doesn’t matter what you look like,” which I have dealt so many times. The film interview days, when you just can’t even, and it’s blown and Zach had to take the lead & send everyone home after…..I relate so much. I’m not on tv, but do have important events scheduled at the house (family gathering or whatever), and have literally can’t even do…my husband will handle the ranks and supported me. It still sucks, but solidarity is key. Solidarity sister!
I never watched LPBW and came across your podcast by accident but I am happy because I discovered two beautiful humans.
Tori : IMO numbers , size or shape don’t count as long as you are healthy mentally and physically. You said it right. As long as you can keep up with your kids, that is what matters. ❤
Zach : thumbs up 👍🏼 “I just want our daughter to be like you”. The way you compliment Tori is awesome 🤩.
Tori you look beautiful. Yes after having babies it can be hard to bounce back with our bodies. I have been an ice hockey player from 25 yr old until 50yr old and still didn’t get back down to my ideal weight. Then I had at neck surgery like your father n law Matt . After that the weight creeped up on me cuz I wasn’t active for 2 yrs. So I started weight watchers in Nov and stay under 1000 calories a day . I built a home gym .I work out 2 hrs a day I journal my food and workout everyday helps me stay on track. So far down 50lbs. I have 30 lb more to go . Yes I thought of surgery ,but let me tell you this journey of my has been so more rewarding for me. Girl you got this. I have a 25 yr old daughter from day one I called her pretty girl no matter if she had her hockey helmet on ,or if she came home from playing in the dirt ,or when she went to prom. She is my pretty girl.❤ I’ve always built her up . I know you will do that too with your daughter. Don’t get so frustrated with yourself a half marathon omg that was amazing 🎉. And Zach he is so supportive and sweet with you. That’s because he has a great mom that raised him right. Anyway love your podcast ❤thank you for being humble
I am not totally at peace with my image, but saying that I have stopped comparing myself with others. When I work out I compete with my last best push-up, my last longest plank. If I compare with others I am chasing an elusive goal. Just do you, and be at peace with who you are
Tori you look amazing. You have had 3 babies. Our bodies change and we need to give ourselves more grace. Today is my 70th birthday and I have worried about my weight most of my adult life. Now I know at my age that I am grateful for my good health. Weight isn’t as important.
AMAZING TORI!!! You surprise me everyday with your honesty and thank you for sharing.
1st. Boys get messed with or have bad things happen at sleepovers to. Always listen to that momma gut, even if it doesn't make sense. 2nd. People are suppose to age. Your not going to look exactly like you did when you got married or were a teen. Its hard for sure (I'm in late 40s and wish we could) but try to be as healthy as you can. That should be everyone's goal. HEALTH. not looking like someone else, not keeping up with the latest whomever. Most of the people that are chasing looks or a certain body are not the healthiest in their minds & hearts. You both seem very grounded in The Lord and family, keep your focus there. That is what brings true joy. And honestly your beautiful Tori. Because you seem to have a honest heart and love truth and your family. Not because your body is X amount smaller, or your tummy is flatter. Great podcast guys!
I had a few fav. Episodes but this one is my my FAVORITE now. I laughed so much and felt like I was there hanging with you both it felt so comfortable and just a normal conversation. I agreed with so much of what you were talking about. If anyone hates on you for this conversation they need to take a look at themselves! Thank you for this conversation I very much appreciated it Tori.
Zach and Tori, please continue to be the REAL you! What is beautiful about you both is that you are real and unpretentious! This is your gift to offer the world. This is how you make a difference. Please don't fall prey to social media phony images. Just be healthy and real.Tori, I applaud you for considering Lilah in your decision to not alter yourself or try for a perfect body. Just be beautiful you! Zach you are wonderfully supportive and real! And such good advice from Amy about raising daughters!
As a mom to many, I have had multiple ways of birth. I have done epidural x2, natural breech, emergency c-section, vbac, and a repeat emergency c-section. After all my "regular" births, I bounced back to almost my pre-pregnancy weight. After both of my c-sections, I have not lost anything without significant struggle. My last one was my second emergency c-section, and I still struggle with my weight, and he is 14. So, I totally believe that for at least some women, it is entirely hormone based, as to how your body responds to weight loss.
I had my first migraine headache at 61 yeas old I couldn’t imagine Zach’s pain when he needed a new shunt. I totally understand his head banging . Never again.
Let me first say, I've always thought you were beautiful. I've never looked to a persons physical beauty, I look for the inner beauty that shines outward. ✨️ Women can be cruel, mean, and catty. And I don't understand why they think putting another woman down is ever ok. That is why I totally understand why you would have second thoughts on letting Lilah go to a sleepover. I'm a 60 year old woman who is struggling with being overweight and wanting to get fit and healthy. There is absolutely no way I would ever fat shame anyone. I would absolutely never shame anyone for their physical appearance. ❤ you Tori don't listen to people who get pleasure out of being cruel. They are totally not worth it.❤
Tori you look absolutely gorgeous ❤ With that being said I know how difficult it is when you don’t feel gorgeous but people tell you that you are. As a mom of 2 who are 18 and 20, I still struggle with body image. Watching you be so open and candid about your struggles makes me want to be more accepting of my body. I wish our society wasn’t so body conscious.
Tori your looking lovely, I’m 61 and when I was 50 I had a tummy tuck which I actually regret , it made me look at the rest of myself to see what else I didn’t like about me instead of appreciating myself for who I am, I now am loving myself more and more so if you can avoid surgery and just keep doing what your doing you will probably love and appreciate were your at with how you look ❤️
Tori, you’re absolutely GORGEOUS❣️ You are Devine perfection!!! I think opportunities are presented in life to teach us to take our power back. Please enjoy your youth & beauty!!! You are so very loved.
You were definitely right about most women comparing themselves to other women!!!! Especially after giving birth because we’re always self conscious about how much weight we’ve gained and how fast we can get it off. Everything you have said was so validating because it was all the truth……your truth!!!!!! Please don’t be discouraged by not being the same weight you were before having kids, because you aren’t the person you were before having kids!!!!!!! I’m 42 and I’ve had a kid at 27 and I gained a ton of weight and was so upset with myself how long it took to lose the weight but now I have 4 step children and I’m raising my step-grandchild and I’m probably back at my high school weight…. So never say never about getting back long after your kids grow up!!!!! Love your podcast, family and relationship!!!!!!
Another great episode, don't listen to the haters.
We all go through struggles in life thanks for your honesty.
Very relatable! In one of my facebook groups, I’m always shocked by the number of women that have had weight loss surgery and/or mommy makeovers. Nothing against doing that, but I just had no idea how common it is.
Also I really appreciate this conversation. Especially the things about Amy not saying molly is beautiful when she had make up. Also think it's adorable that Zach said he wanted to do what Tori's mom did because he wants Lilah to be like Tori because she's perfect. So adorable
Important for you to feel good in your own skin! Whether it is making yourself up before you go out or wear sweatpants, leggings, etc! Be Tori - you are awesomely and wonderfully made! Keep up the great work!
Tori, ignore the ding-a-lings that say you do all the talking. In a marriage, it can happen that one spouse is either outgoing or introverted. If you work out any situations that might come up, personally I think you’ll find that, as a couple, you complement each other ❤❤. Life would be rather dull if a married couple’s personalities were the same…you’d drive each other crazy 🤪🥰. My husband is definitely outgoing and super friendly, I’m shy, but his being that way helps me come out of my shell. 😊 You and Zach make a wonderful couple🕊️…. May the Bless and Keep You All 🕊️🥰
So proud of you Tori ..you are right be proud of the women who you are..I have never been crazy about makeup. I am 67 years old the day I retired I quit wearing makeup. I not sure why I wore it while I was working...I'm just how GOD made me. It was so nice when Zach said he wants your daughter to be just like you!! Way to go Zach! I love how you look like Tori she is absolutely beautiful!
Congratulations on surpassing 100k subscribers 🥳 ❤ I loved the marathon short. Congrats Tory 🏅
Tori, you're still young and just off having three babies. I would leave it a bit. Don't rush into surgery if you don't have to. Your body will change in the next 5 years. Just my thoughts because you look good right now.
I totally understand Tori. I had 2 Csections and then 6 other abdominal surgeries after kids. Including 2 different feeding tubes and some other major stomach ones. I am 45 and feel my body has changed so much. My last baby was almost 16 yrs ago now. I am definitely not where I want to be, but am trying with the energy I have. Even if you didn't have kids or Csections your body would have changed. My bff hasn't had kids and at 37 her body has changed from when I met her at 27. I am thankful for my husband who loves me for me. Zach loves you for you. I am also thankful to a loving God who made me in His image and loves me! I stopped weighing myself a long time ago , cause it messed with my brain so much. Playing the numbers game can be horrible. So now I just try to eat clean and exercise. I started eating gluten free too. I go now by how I feel in clothes vs a number on a scale or tag size. God bless you as you do the half marathon!!
Diastis recti, it is fixable, there are workouts to do. There are some videos on what to do.
Tori you are so relatable and women do struggle with these issues. Just remember it takes time. Love yourself girl! You are so beautiful and Zach you are so supportive of your wife. You guys are a inspiration to watch ❤ from Kansas City ❤❤
Tori, please read! You are a Beautiful, Amazing Mom!!!!❤❤The surgery to fix the abs is a "patch" done laproscopically. I had surgery in Germany in 2005, when my husband was stationed there with the military. With the patch, I asked for a tummy tuck as well. I regret it to this day!! It is the #1 thing I wish I could change in my past. I have had so many complications from it!! Stemming from the internal scar tissue from the tummy tuck. Just the last Friday, 6/7, I had major surgery to repair the problems. 4 hr surgery, 5 laproscopic incisions, and many stitches "down below." Please don't get the tummy tuck! Maybe techniques have changed since 2005, but just patching the rectus abdominal muscles is much easier.❤❤ I'm a Mom of 4 kids. One c- section and 3 VBACs. They are all grown now. 😢....but now I have 5 grands😊 Iam also a medical professional, but not a doctor.
Tori I’m so PROUD of you. I too have struggled with my weight. My hubby lost ton weight looks fit and I’m still struggling. Thanks for talking bout it. I had emergency c section. Scar from belly button to top of vagina. Thanks for letting others know it’s normal. Debi
You two are so interesting to listen to. You have incredible chemistry together and your parenting skills are very helpful,especially with topics that so many parents face
Thanks for just being yourselves,it truly shows ❤
Thanks for sharing this! We just had our third baby, and we've also decided we are done having children. I feel like I can finally have my body back and am actually trying to do the work.
I love that you two can talk about anything together. The negative people should just move on and keep the comments to themselves. By the way, your kiddos are sooooo cute.
You are so correct about the comments on social media. People can be so harsh. Everyones pregnancy is different, but I also can relate to your situation. I had 4 cesareans. It's true your abdomen muscles separate and my doctor told me the only true way to correct is surgery because they have to lace those muscles back together. I chose not to for financial and scar reasons. It's a long journey but you can be fit like walking or just living a fitness life. Its been 10 years now. Sometimes, I'm still not comfortable but like you say we are perfect regardless. Surgery doesn't have to be the answer. And you are just fine the way you are.🎉🎉🎉
Body image is overrated! Social Media has done terrible things to young women. I’ve come to the fact that at the age of now 54 with 3 beautiful children agaes, 35, 27 and 12 (yes way far apart🤦🏼♀️) that I have worked so hard and spent so much money on this body! I call myself a fatass and I rock it!! I’ve learned to love myself even at a size 12/14! Having my 3rd child at 41 did wonders to my body! I use to wonder….WHY!? Now I look at it like, “Thank you God for entrusting me to be a Momma!” I took a bad situation and looked for a good situation. That takes the ability to love ourselves and accept ourselves for all the things we put our bodies through! We didn’t have to spend $1000’s to get the KK body! We did it by loving ourselves! Rolls, Cellulite, wrinkles and all!!
I definitely didn't bounce back after a c section. I gained almost 90lbs each pregnancy..but you look amazing. You are a wonderful and beautiful wife and mother.
Love watching yalls show!
Have the same abs thing too!
I had my baby at 30 years old. I got huge. People thought k was having twins. I didn’t have a c-section and didn’t lose weight very quick. When she was around 5 people were asking me when I was due. I feel ya. She is now 17 and I will never get back into my high school size jeans. My and never came back together. About 10 years ago I had a tummy tuck because I felt so uncomfortable. I did great for a while but have gained allThe weight back. I totally understand how you are feeling. Zach, awesome job supporting Tori. Y’all are such an awesome couple.
My son had the same surgery at about 9 years old during the summer and he was a CHAMP. He refused to use the numbing suckers, and was only allowed to take IB Profen and Tylenol. They told us they'd give him something for pain at the first appt and then the day before they changed their minds and we still have no idea why... Anyway, he made it, he surprised me, and he didn't have any complications at all! I'm praying for her and you guys as well❤❤❤ please update us in the community tab!
Zachary so well said!! Tori just be healthy. I thought I was always big and in my late 40’s my tiny nieces tried on my wedding gown. It fit them like a glove. I was shocked because I always felt fat. You are perfect just the way you are!❤
You are so wise in seeing that inner qualities outweigh physical appearance. Your kids will pick up on that and carry that philosophy into adulthood.
I agree with you 100% Tori, I’ve had surgeries before not by choice it does take a lot to recover and get back to normalcy. Beautiful couple. ❤
I have seen all your shows and love them. You guys are a blessing. I don't understand why anyone would leave negative comments. But we do live in a crazy world sometimes. Zach you are so sweet with a great head on your shoulders. Have watched since you was a small child. Proud of you.
Thank you both for bringing up this topic. I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I am one of those that eats one bad thing and gain. I am also a chocoholic lol. For 20 yrs I have been disabled and not able to walk and that is a big issue when trying to maintain a good weight. But I love the fact that you brought out how surgeries and filters and things can make us think we aren’t good enough because we can’t get to where others are. So proud of you Tori you rock. It is so hard to find confidence in yourself when you have lost it. I’m struggling. You inspire me
I would 100% get a tummy tuck if I could.
Tori I respect you so much for your honesty and your opinion on this. You have to do what works for you!!
Elective surgery can be a very controversial topic.
That’s the beauty of living in a country that we can do what’s best for us.
Thank you for these amazing podcasts! 😊
you guys are so encouraging. I loved hearing your perspective on body image, I love what Zack said about, have you put in the work. that was a light bulb moment.
You guys are So Great! Every relationship should be as open as yours. Watched LPBW w/my daughter for every episode and I loved when I asked her which ones in the fam were Little, and she said she didn’t know or care. Big smile! She just loved your family!