Obey the 1,050 commands of the new testament by the power of the Holy Spirit and learn from the old testament while living life and you will if you have the gift of marriage.
I like your take on the word "love" Mark! If you have a good relationship with someone you can have that conversation where you define your words, so that you both are on the same page. You may not always agree on certain word definitions, but you will both know where you stand with each other. It's all about honest, clear & direct communication rather than the "guessing game"!
While I agree that these words are indeed good & wholesome to say to a woman, still I would rather live out by example what these words embody, than just mouth words that my heart and conduct aren't in full agreement with. Words are cheap nowadays, so make your words count by speaking them only when your heart is in 100% alignment with them! Just my 2cents from a guy that was married for 20 years.
Your JRR tolkein quote describing my situation is true. Over our time apart and in grief, I have grown to learn from my mistakes from before. My desire to love her selflessly and reunite had grown through my grief. I am yearning to be a husband and father and love the way Ephesians 5 commands me to do, and I pray that we will reunite one day according to God’s will. The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
@@Justyouraverageguy172 I know not God's will for you & yours, but the quote I gave was to let you know that you have grown quite a lot through your relationship, & this will keep you in God's grace no matter what the future holds for you & your love! PS I removed the quote because I thought it might seem too preachy or too personal to give on this platform! But since you like it I put it back...my bad!!
@@johnmckenna1776 I thank you my friend. i feel like God sent you to me today as a prophet using your gifts with a message specifically for me answering my prayers earlier and as a reminder to not be hard on myself like I was earlier today. God does want me to be aware of the progress I have made, and I do have the heart and desire to keep growing closer to Him even though I may not see His Will clearly in my life and future. I prayed earlier to God to make me and my ex ready for a godly marriage in our lives and reunite us together according to His Will. I heard God call my name recently the same way he did with Samuel’s name twice in His still quiet small voice in his sleep. Something is going to happen soon and I don’t know what it could be. However the sudden strong desire to reach out and reconnect with my ex from 9 years ago now is not a coincidence each time I pray and want to ignore it to desiring instead to get financially stable and wait for perfect conditions before trying again.
Well… my ex and I from 9 years ago knew that points 1-4 were unspoken but known and felt between us. They were said at the end though. Our relationship would have progressed with us getting married had life Circumstances and distance not separated us. She was undecided with what she wanted to study in college until she met me. She eventually figured out that she wanted to study bioengineering and be happy knowing that she had to transfer out to do so. We both really loved each other and bonded, and she didn’t make the final decision to go until only after she talked with me first. We didn’t want to leave each other, but I loved her so much that I wanted her to be happy and grow when I sacrificed the relationship for her to be happy and grow. I encouraged her to go through our Sorrow and tears knowing that she would be happy studying that major and benefiting her in the long run. We never reconnected but there is always a possibility one day despite the recent stirring in my heart to go seek her out.
“The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
If you are still thinking about her 9 years later and she is still single then I think you owe it to yourself to see it through with her and see if she is the one God has for you. Pray before of course too but it sounds to me like you need the closure even if she isn’t the one God has for you before you can move on to the one God does intend for you with no regrets.
@@texasnewb2942 As far as I know she is single but i wouldn’t have a clue unless I reached out Even then it’s hard to reach out since we lost touch. Ecclesiastes 11:1-6 is calling out to me since I am not a risk taker at all by my nature, and life won’t necessarily offer me perfect conditions to wait around and see like I have been desiring when I ask God about it. But I feel God telling me to take the risk since I won’t know what will happen until I try. He did bring us together the first time around to each other with it being biblically approved, so it’s probably why He wants me to grow more with Him before doing it. I have to get over my severe risk aversion and just learn to control my fear and worry of the unknown first so I can accept whatever happens to get closure.
I feel that a lot of women have really high standards of expectations of what a man has to meet while myself as a man I would find it impossible and miserable to meet
I had a thought about Queen Vashti, I realized that she was a trophy wife. Ahasuerus didn't really love her. Esther became the respected wife that he needed.
90% the case in the West. In the East it's much more possible to find what used to exist here. I have met and went out with a bunch of what my grandparents era called "Sunday Christian" and met a very slim few who were and are pretty serious. Unfortunately the really serious ones (I met) have low interest in men and marriage. The Sunday Christian types I've met and known prefer to stick with date and marry non believers (thinking or letting on that "eventually he will come around to seeing things my way" (spoiler alert - it *never happened or hasn't yet). Just be prepared to wait a long time and sift through a # of ladies and make 100% sure she's serious before getting married.
Thank you Mark. Yes, we don’t want to feel like you checked a box. Beautiful brunette with long hair hazel eyes, check. As if a woman is an item. It’s very sad that men like to try out women like as if we’re all different flavors. We’re human beings too. God made me just how he wanted to make me, so why do I have to conform to this world of excessive makeup and filters just to get men’s’ attention? 😣
@@georgeelder8415You know that it's subconscious and that we can't shut it off right? Most of the time we're doing it we don't even know we're doing it.
Most men don't like the excessive filters and makeup. If you think you need that stuff to get attention then you're seeking attention from the wrong kinds of men in the first place.
can someone be honest with me, is 18 too young to have found your wife? i haven’t even been to university yet, neither am i fully mature spiritually yet, she brought me back to god and was my initial drive to develop as a better man. she’s done so much for me and the feelings are mutual, but could she be my wife???
Ancient Jewish poetry? 🤷🏻♀️maybe in principle it might work. Xtians can get with the program. I married a Muslim cause I thought all 3 Abrahamic religions had the same God but hmm not sure now. If my husband can master the compliment phase anyone can. ❤
Now, if I can only find a feminine and loving woman to say these things to.
I agree and I have found that one. ❤❤❤
My sentiments exactly! Already at 18 I wanna find that one.
Obey the 1,050 commands of the new testament by the power of the Holy Spirit and learn from the old testament while living life and you will if you have the gift of marriage.
😂😂
You will find your Eve one day. Just be authentic and seek first the kingdom of God. Rely on His word to empower you
Thank you
"There is really no biblical evidence love being devoid of commitment" . Two hearts need to commit each other that's called Love. ❤
"I choo choo choose you."
Haha! where's that in the Bible?
I tried this on the pastor's daughter and she ran away!
HAHA XD
Awesome video, Mark. God bless you and your family.
I am saving this.
I have.
I like your take on the word "love" Mark! If you have a good relationship with someone you can have that conversation where you define your words, so that you both are on the same page. You may not always agree on certain word definitions, but you will both know where you stand with each other. It's all about honest, clear & direct communication rather than the "guessing game"!
Thanks for this lession.
While I agree that these words are indeed good & wholesome to say to a woman, still I would rather live out by example what these words embody, than just mouth words that my heart and conduct aren't in full agreement with. Words are cheap nowadays, so make your words count by speaking them only when your heart is in 100% alignment with them! Just my 2cents from a guy that was married for 20 years.
Your JRR tolkein quote describing my situation is true. Over our time apart and in grief, I have grown to learn from my mistakes from before. My desire to love her selflessly and reunite had grown through my grief. I am yearning to be a husband and father and love the way Ephesians 5 commands me to do, and I pray that we will reunite one day according to God’s will.
The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
@@Justyouraverageguy172 I know not God's will for you & yours, but the quote I gave was to let you know that you have grown quite a lot through your relationship, & this will keep you in God's grace no matter what the future holds for you & your love! PS I removed the quote because I thought it might seem too preachy or too personal to give on this platform! But since you like it I put it back...my bad!!
@@johnmckenna1776 I thank you my friend. i feel like God sent you to me today as a prophet using your gifts with a message specifically for me answering my prayers earlier and as a reminder to not be hard on myself like I was earlier today. God does want me to be aware of the progress I have made, and I do have the heart and desire to keep growing closer to Him even though I may not see His Will clearly in my life and future. I prayed earlier to God to make me and my ex ready for a godly marriage in our lives and reunite us together according to His Will. I heard God call my name recently the same way he did with Samuel’s name twice in His still quiet small voice in his sleep. Something is going to happen soon and I don’t know what it could be. However the sudden strong desire to reach out and reconnect with my ex from 9 years ago now is not a coincidence each time I pray and want to ignore it to desiring instead to get financially stable and wait for perfect conditions before trying again.
Well… my ex and I from 9 years ago knew that points 1-4 were unspoken but known and felt between us. They were said at the end though. Our relationship would have progressed with us getting married had life Circumstances and distance not separated us. She was undecided with what she wanted to study in college until she met me. She eventually figured out that she wanted to study bioengineering and be happy knowing that she had to transfer out to do so. We both really loved each other and bonded, and she didn’t make the final decision to go until only after she talked with me first. We didn’t want to leave each other, but I loved her so much that I wanted her to be happy and grow when I sacrificed the relationship for her to be happy and grow. I encouraged her to go through our Sorrow and tears knowing that she would be happy studying that major and benefiting her in the long run. We never reconnected but there is always a possibility one day despite the recent stirring in my heart to go seek her out.
“The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
If you are still thinking about her 9 years later and she is still single then I think you owe it to yourself to see it through with her and see if she is the one God has for you. Pray before of course too but it sounds to me like you need the closure even if she isn’t the one God has for you before you can move on to the one God does intend for you with no regrets.
@@texasnewb2942 As far as I know she is single but i wouldn’t have a clue unless I reached out Even then it’s hard to reach out since we lost touch. Ecclesiastes 11:1-6 is calling out to me since I am not a risk taker at all by my nature, and life won’t necessarily offer me perfect conditions to wait around and see like I have been desiring when I ask God about it. But I feel God telling me to take the risk since I won’t know what will happen until I try. He did bring us together the first time around to each other with it being biblically approved, so it’s probably why He wants me to grow more with Him before doing it. I have to get over my severe risk aversion and just learn to control my fear and worry of the unknown first so I can accept whatever happens to get closure.
Go and find her. Life is short. Your going to Always wonder. Just meet or talk to her. Social Media a good start
I feel that a lot of women have really high standards of expectations of what a man has to meet while myself as a man I would find it impossible and miserable to meet
Yup
BEWARE of the wolf that says those words while dating, and turn a switch when he wins the price in marriage. BEWARE.
I had a thought about Queen Vashti, I realized that she was a trophy wife. Ahasuerus didn't really love her. Esther became the respected wife that he needed.
Sadly, feminism is alive and well in the church. No longer is there a difference between an unbeliever woman and a Christian woman!
90% the case in the West.
In the East it's much more possible to find what used to exist here.
I have met and went out with a bunch of what my grandparents era called "Sunday Christian" and met a very slim few who were and are pretty serious.
Unfortunately the really serious ones (I met) have low interest in men and marriage. The Sunday Christian types I've met and known prefer to stick with date and marry non believers (thinking or letting on that "eventually he will come around to seeing things my way" (spoiler alert - it *never happened or hasn't yet).
Just be prepared to wait a long time and sift through a # of ladies and make 100% sure she's serious before getting married.
Gonna try that on my friend
Thank you Mark. Yes, we don’t want to feel like you checked a box. Beautiful brunette with long hair hazel eyes, check. As if a woman is an item. It’s very sad that men like to try out women like as if we’re all different flavors. We’re human beings too. God made me just how he wanted to make me, so why do I have to conform to this world of excessive makeup and filters just to get men’s’ attention? 😣
Agreed, whenever a guy I work with is ogling a girl, I'll say, "she's a person." It's a big problem with men, and many seem to never grow out of it...
@@georgeelder8415You know that it's subconscious and that we can't shut it off right? Most of the time we're doing it we don't even know we're doing it.
Most men don't like the excessive filters and makeup. If you think you need that stuff to get attention then you're seeking attention from the wrong kinds of men in the first place.
If your a good person and your nice girls will be attractive to you.
can someone be honest with me, is 18 too young to have found your wife? i haven’t even been to university yet, neither am i fully mature spiritually yet, she brought me back to god and was my initial drive to develop as a better man. she’s done so much for me and the feelings are mutual, but could she be my wife???
Ancient Jewish poetry? 🤷🏻♀️maybe in principle it might work. Xtians can get with the program. I married a Muslim cause I thought all 3 Abrahamic religions had the same God but hmm not sure now. If my husband can master the compliment phase anyone can. ❤
Hahah not this one