i want to be positive but i also want to be sad
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ก.ค. 2024
- hi sweet friends! 🦋 i was feeling very low and anxious this week.... 🫠 which inspired this very rambly spontaneous lil video!! today i'm talking podcast-style about the idea of positivity; how to embrace the difficulties of life's suffering (no matter what form it takes), how to be kind to ourselves as we navigate all the wonders of the human experience, and how to consciously foster optimism in our daily lives. I also discuss toxic positivity and how it helps no one to ignore your true emotions. I hope this inspires you to embrace your beautiful self and find a heart-rooted positivity to guide you in this life 💛
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: The Myth that Some People are Positive and Others Aren't
2:04 I felt very negative the last few days
4:42 Why We Feel We "Should" Be Happy (but expectations are the killer of joy lol)
6:30 All Suffering is Valid!!! Suffering is Part of the Human Experience
8:03 Why It's Hard to Stay Positive: Self-Comparison
9:20 Hormonal Fluctuations
10:46 Positivity is Effort
11:58 How Can You Train Your Brain to be more Positive? (LTP)
15:54 Casual Magic and Finding Joy in the Mundane ✨
17:47 Toxic Positivity !!
19:55 Positivity is so much work lol
21:25 ily guys so much 💌 pls remember that you're always enough.
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hiiii friends!! welcome to this cosy, spontaneous lil video 🦋 let me know if you like the casual chatty style! lots of love
Hi Jade your channel helps me out a lot thanks.❤
Hi Jade, yes, I like it :)
Yesss❤❤ spontaneous is my vibe :)
Thank you so much for posting this! And I would love to hear more of those rambles in a podcast :)
Something like this on a long commute to school would definitely add some casual magic to my day
You're literally THE PERSON I would want a podcast from.
Same. I wonder if she has a podcast
Yeeaaaaasss sameee❤❤❤❤
Frrr
omg stop this is so cute
YES TO THIS!!!!
YES JADE, WE NEED TO HAVE A PODCAST DONE BY YOU🥺… I think I could listen to your voice and your way to see the world for hours and hours without never getting tired, I love you jade😭❤️
Casual chatty style is awesome. Feels like sitting together with bestie and talking. All vibes.
Trueee
yesss
I was surprised when you called this video a bit rambley, because I was so engaged and felt so seen though it all. I started taking notes!
It gave me a real life example of how we can be unnecessarily critical of ourselves when others are seeing only beauty and perfection.. immensely grateful for your content. ❤️
I LOVE the casual chatty videos!!🫶 ABSOLUTELY YES to the podcast✨
I’m going through similar emotions right now, and this video is exactly the reminder I needed 😭 thank you Jade!! 🩷
oh my god i just started crying. that video touched me so deeply. i've been pushing down some intense self worth struggles lately and hearing you talk about how you've been feeling validated my experience soo much. i think i didn't really dare to sit with the feelings and i kinda turned to toxic positivity. watching that video rn inspired me to take a step back and be more honest with myself. i got this. you got this. we all got this. 🦋✨
wait woahhhh this is so incredible to hear 🥹 i feel you DEEPLY with pushing down self-worth struggles, but sitting with them is the first step to embracing your full self!! all my love
Awwn Jade doing podcasts is a dream come true to me. I love you Jade and thank you for the inspiration 🫶
Yess same!
aaaaah thank you so much!!! noted 🤝🥹
Really needed this jade! I decided to take a gap year while my friends are all getting ready for uni, so i was starting to feel behind in life but this is already making me feel better!
oh wow, i'm so proud of you for following your gut and choosing the less trodden path 🦋 remember that everyone's on their own journey and you're never behind!! I'm sure you'll learn SO many skills in your gap year
Just watching the first 30seconds of this has made me happy!
gahhh this made ME smile !!
love how this video felt so spontaneous and not heavily edited, simple and genuine for this kind of topic!
awhh thank you so much!! 🦋
Same it feels very raw and real, like it's something genuine and authentic!
I can't even say how often I have thought to myself 'I wish Jade had a podcast', so YES, PLEASE MAKE A PODCAST. We all need it
You can just tell Jade's such a genuinely kind person and cares for us all 💗💗
This video is so important for the older generation to see, I think all the stuff about trying to rewire your brain to think positively and be grateful is something I wish my parents could understand so that they can be happy and stop taking out their frustrations on my younger siblings. There is nothing anyone can do to help them be happy, they need to better understand their own minds to be happy with themselves.
It’s all great and at the same time I think it’s important to not confuse finding positivity in things with devaluing your experience when it’s negative
Thank you for being a friend out there somewhere. You are a really wonderful presence in my life, even if its virtually. I really appreciate your perspective, advice, and work. ❤
PLEASE pour your heart in rambly thoughts to your mic more often!! It’s calming and relatable - much needed. Thanks for that!
The video being all over the place and randomly is perfect. It shows just how our mind is and how it jumps from one thought to the other. I really liked this video and the format of it because it felt like talking to a good old friend. I really appreciate the fact that you can talk not just about the positive things that happen in your life, but also talk about the negative aspects of life. Thank you Jade for a new perspective about positivity and life in general!
And for all watching this video, don't forget you are not alone and all the bad things that you're going through right now will pass❤❤❤
I love this perspective, thank you so much for sharing!! 💐
So well put! 🌟
Something very special about this energy. Your ramblings are appreciated.
this means a lot, thank you friend!
Thank you for this video Jade!!!! It's helped me lotsss. I love this styleof video and feel like we 're friends too!😘
absolutely love this chatty style from you! we've found it so helpful and healing to reframe positivity as "loving presence", which touches on the acceptance you mention. like we can be completely sobbing our guts out, and start hugging and rocking ourselves, simultaneously feeling grief and love towards ourselves.
oh wow, 'loving presence' is such a gorgeous way to frame it 🦋 thank you for sharing
Staying positive and motivated all the time comes with its own challenges. We appreciate your insights on this. Keep working hard.
jade!! Thanks to you encouraging me to revise i got my gcse results a few days ago and i never expected to score as highly as i did
AAAAAAH I'M SO PROUD OF YOU CONGRATS!!!!!! 👏 well done for all the hard work you put in, you absolutely deserve your high grades!! good luck with all your endeavours beyond
same ! :D i found jade's videos this year in march and I really think it gave me confidence to get good grades and change my attitude towards them!
@@oliviamae8807 That's amazing! You deserve so much goodness in your life including having an ambition and excitement! It's ok to feel insignificant and have self esteem issues but know that you are definitely significant and worthy and that you're more great than you might know! Best wishes :)
A podcast made by you would be the best podcast 🥹
BIG BIG YES to a poadcast. It is wonderful to hear you. It helps me to organize my thoughts! Thank you Jade 🥰
This video was like im talking to a friend! Thanks jade, stay safe n happy
hi friend, big love
@@UnJadedJade oh and i am really willing to listen a podcast from you!!
I really needed this before the beginning of my semester! I tend to speak negatively about myself and current times I also often felt guilty about my behaviour towards my friends as I started building up boundaries. I haven’t met my mentioned uni friends this summer but I really tried to change my mindset. You seem to have so many deep friendships, I’d enjoy you making a video about how you communicate your needs towards people close to you. I’m such a people pleaser so the conflicts mostly come from there. I want to please everyone at the same time but the only thing I gained is disappointment.
I feel you so much with negative self-talk and how it affects your relationships!! I really recommend finding a few people you feel safe enough to be vulnerable with and daring yourself to show them your full self. It's SO scary as a people pleaser to let people see less desirable sides of yourself, but I believe it's part of the path to deep friendship. You've got this
This is totally a format of videos I'm into! You just don't see many of these vulnerable honest rambly even sort of videos anywhere else :)
Heyyy! This is my first ever comment on youtube, but I really wanted to say, that your little absolute cute video has comforted me so much right now!!
omg jade this is what i needed. in the last 2 years i always felt a little down and pressured to be grateful at family vacations and i was so mad at myself for some reason
so thank u so much for this video it helps a lot!
My casual magic: RAIN. I love the rain, I love just laying in a blanket and watching the waterdrops fall down.
jade your videos always make me feel so seen!
Your voice gives me positivity ❤️
So we need podcast ❤
JADE THAT WAS AMAZINGG, PLEASE DO A PODCAST!!!!!!! so down for it/ literally a therapeutic talk!
Regarding feeling negative/toxic positivity, I think we are taught to dismiss our negative emotions because "other people have it worse" and we feel like we're not allowed to be upset. But only letting ourselves to experience our feelings without judgement and knowing they will pass, allows us to feel spontaneously. Blocking "bad" emotions will block the "good" ones too. About positive affirmations, they do work. It feels strange at first, but once I started, after a few weeks and months I could see the change in how I view myself and set my boundaries 😊 Love listening to you Jade 🦋
i needed this
Needed this right now. Thank you!❤
And please do a podcast! I will definitely listen to it!!!
Eeeeep noted, thank you!! 🤝🌟
PLEASE do more of these Jade. This video really truly helped me gain perspective on my behaviours recently. Thank u so much I really appreciate it
oh wow, i'm so glad to hear!! thank you
I love tou Jade❤️! You have inspired me so much
it's the first time I ever hear somebody talk about the pressure of being grateful and I could not relate more to your words. I have been angry at myself for years for not being happy enough given all the opportunities I have and hearing your words just made me feel seen. so thank you
Jade this video is perfect ! one of the best videos you ever made I believe, you sound so authentic and real, and everything you said made sense! plz, make a podcast!
Hi Jade, I'm going to spend 4 years in university. I have about one week to prepare for my uni life. Hope you always beside me ❤❤
Just what I needed now! I’m at the beach with my family and I was truly struggling to focusing on the moment. Instead I was focusing on how I should feel and I should behave. Maybe that’s because I’m going to leave home in about one month for University, and I kinda feel like I should be grateful for every moment that I now spend with my family. I think I’m going to try to meditate these weeks 💕
Thank you for sharing!! Good luck heading to university 🦋 soak up all the beautiful moments in between
You are one of the most positive people I've come across. So, hearing you say that you are not positive all the time but you put in the effort to be just comforts me in a way and makes me believe I can learn that too. Thank you so much 😌✨
awhhh YESS we're all just messy and human and wonderfully trying to figure out this life
It's completely okay to feel a mix of emotions, including both positivity and sadness. Emotions are a natural and essential part of being human. Sometimes, allowing yourself to acknowledge and process sadness can actually help you move towards a more positive state in the long run.
Exactly, you can only hold out so long until you might break. Plus you don't have to bottle lots of things up inside. When you feel different emotions, you can end up being more understanding and aware of the situation and what you can do moving forward. It's worth being vulnerable, honest and open with yourself!
A podcast by you would be a dream !!!! Please do it!
I'd love an unjaded jade podcast! your video about your experience at the silence retreat I listened to 2 times because I loved your voice and loved listening to the experience.
Just when I needed while drowning in my exams, feels like a miracle tbh thank you so much Jade
Best of luck! 🎉🎉
@@hucklebucklin aww thank you so much! you have luck in whatever u set your mind to
I love the casual nature of this video. I love your room too so minimalist
Thank you so much for this video ❤ things have been tough lately. This was perfect timing :)
It’s funny I felt the same on family holiday a few days ago. As an adult, it’s not quite the same as when you’re growing up, especially when you feel burnt out after university.
Hello beautiful Jade!! Loved the theme of the video ( so important )as well as its casual chatty style!!🍇🌺🐝 I WOULD ABSOLUTELLY LOVE A PODCAST AHHHHHHHHH
GAHH THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! 💌🤝 okie okie noted
JADE WE NEED A PODCAST! ur literally my idol and my inspiration and u really need to join us on our soft girl walks
We all need podcast from you jade 💗 ! This kind of videos are just the best ✨
I can’t explain to you what a hug it feels to watch your videos ❤️. Your content is a gift for this world Queen ✨
🥹 brb just crying in the corner at your lovely words, thank youuu!! ✨
Please make podcasts. I love your voice so much, it's really calming.
Jade, this is exactly what I need right now. Thank you so much. Thank you
I love you for talking about “a man’s search for meaning”. That book is life changing.
I’m watching this the first night in a new city I’m moving into for the next 12 months so your remark about the chill, rambly vibe of this video and that it feels like chatting with friends really touched me. I hope I will continuously find back the energy to put myself out there to make new friends, but I’m honestly suspecting that I’ll struggle with a bit of weird self consciousness and social anxiety.
thank you for this video jade it was just what i needed to hear atm
Thank you for posting it!! :) I’m so grateful to find your videos and get so much help from them ❤️
I'm so glad you decided to post this! I really needed this today. Thank you :)))
You have no idea how much ive been struggling and you posted this video😢 i thank you for this podcast-like video❤
I'm so so sorry to hear you've been struggling. Sending you the biggest virtual hug and the strength to get through whatever is causing you difficulty. All the love 🦋
I needed this, thank you so much for putting this out Jade. You're awesome ❤
omg PERFECT timing i needed this so much today!!
The podcast is something we all want. Please please please i'd love a podcast ❤
Thank you so much Jade! This video really made so many points more clearer for me. I love how you naturally and precisely speak about this topic.
Dear Jade,
Thank you very much for all these beautiful and interesting thoughts. Sometimes I feel bad and seek the reason for it. And when I think that I found it, I try everything to eliminate the reason. But it doesn't help to feel better, I only focus on the negative experience. It is difficult to know when you actually have to get active an do something against your pain, and when you better accept it.
Youre literally the most perfect person to create this kind of podcast, absolutely do this!!❤️❤️
Love these videos, so heartfelt ❤ thank you Jade
Omg, yes! A podcast would be AMAZING!! 🦋
this video was so cathartic and healing for me , thank you jade 😭💟
sooo in the right time, grateful for this
Thank you Jade for this video, I feel this so much. It's my birthday and watching this feels like a gift to me. The idea of you having a podcast seems amazing, keep going ❤
Yess podcast please 🌻🌻💜
I just got moved from my job because a coworker didn't like my personality and my sister just left for college so I am currently spiraling a bit and this video literally made me cry so hard. I found myself getting tired of being sad so I just pushed the feelings down and distracted myself. I feel like I am more equipped to actually face the feeling head on after this video. Also thank you so much for just validating my feelings. I really needed that. My sister was one of my only supports and so it is sooo hard dealing with life without her.
I'm so sorry to hear about how hard it's been with your sister leaving!! I really relate to that as someone whose friends (and support systems!) are now all around the world 💌 I dare you to sit in and accept all these wonderful feelings. They're so so valid
Just thank you. What you say is always so inspiring, and really really helps me fell better 💛
loved this as ever jade, your videos always give me things to think about in my day and practices to use going forward, so thank you for your vulnerability and honesty in sharing how you feel! you're not alone in the shoulding!!
oh my, Jade, your videos always come just in time ;-; thanks for everything you say and do!!! absolutely love this spontaneous (and genuin) vid, and yeah id love a podcast from you too
I also very much like the casual chatty style and would love to listen to your podcast!!
Thank you Jade! This video is such a gift for me today. I had a really horrible day and couldn't be positive at all. This video really helped me to embrace my self a little more and just how the day went and what I am feeling. You really made me feel loved and accepted so thank you so much! ❤
Thank you! I really needed a reminder of this today. ❤
Thank you Jade for being so honest and open. I could relate so much with feeling pressure to feel good and grateful and not being able to accept a negative state of mind and fighting ist so much. And thank you for all the inspirational thoughts that you have given us! Btw I would love to listen to a podcast by you! 🦋
I would 100% listen to your podcast! You bring so much light to my life with your videos, the podcast would be such an incredible addition!
YES YES YES JADE WE NEED A PODCAST 🦋✨
i wish i could show this video to everyone, you resume it so well
Im so happy you posted this in the end, and a podcast would be wow YES🦋❤
I really appreciate this video thanks man
Bless the structural chaos of this video! Needed to hear this! Thanks for new insights and beautiful quotes x love alwayssss
I don't usually comment but had to because this is just such a beautiful video; it made my day so much better by putting things in perspective! It really felt like speaking to a friend and it is so kind of you to speak so openly from the heart. Thank you Jade and enjoy your holiday! (Also, a podcast would be amazing)!
This video is exactly what I needed! ❤
this kind of spontaneous chatty video is so comforting and inspiring!! I love listening to you talk and would absolutely looove it if you did a podcast!
Jade, thank You so so much for this video! SO useful for me today, you remembered me about the things once I practiced in my life but as You've said: positivity requires constant practice. I'd love to listen to the podcast and watch more of Your videos just like this one. Spontaneous ideas are usually once that can change the world ;)
We NEED a podcast from you, I could listen to you talk for hours, you inspire me so much ❤
Rambly videos are the best! And absolutely yes to the podcast 😍
I enjoyed the casual chat, it’s good to have different types of video and this one is special too. I was not feeling well in the morning after a very hectic and exhausting weekend, so I took the day off and this video felt just right for this rainy day in Prague. Thank you ❤
Also, podcast is a great idea 🦋
YES YES YES. We want this. Speaking from the heart, not structured and scripted 🦋🥰
hi! i just found your account a few days ago and this is the first video of yours i’ve watched! your voice and presence is so comforting and calm. i already know that if you were to create a podcast, i would TOTALLY listen!
Omg, we NEED your podcast! ❤🦋
i just needed this sooo much, lots of love