Easy Recipes For The Burned Out Autistic Housewife Ep1: Chickpeas & Rice
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- So if someone feels like typing out the recipe in the comments section that would be totally awesome! (but no pressure)
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What society expects and what other people think is irrelevant and you are right in choosing not to beat yourself up or feel pressured by, or determine your value by their standards and opinions. You often mention those things and validate your choices and behavior by declaring your unwillingness to conform in that respect, but don't forget that they are not the main judge here or the one that really counts. At the end of the day, your strictest and most passionate judge, and the one on whom your self-worth and self-confidence actually depend upon, is yourself. To feel better about yourself, you have to prove yourself to yourself, and keep on doing it; and the work needed to accomplish that looks very similar to proving yourself to the world, so maybe that's what makes you even more reluctant to do it, because in staying the way you are you are trying to prove to the world that you don't care about its standards and opinions - see the irony?
Being kind to yourself and your body is important of course, but speaking for myself, what with an idiot mind that doesn't work in my favor and sabotages me all the time in various ways plus flooding me with negative emotions constantly - I realised I was my own worst enemy, and I had to treat myself like that, i.e. practice discipline, tough love and strictness on myself like you would with a wayward child, otherwise I would never get anything of myself and I would still be in that darkened room I mentioned, anxious, depressed and alienated from everybody. What I'm trying to say is, yes be kind to yourself and your body, but in our conditions that can't be the main let alone the only approach, not if you want any real chance to improve your self-image or feel better about yourself and life in general. Accept yourself yes, but as someone here remarked, you have to actively challenge yourself also. Regular people's minds/egoes are automatically self-protective. We don't have that, our mind is our enemy. You can keep reassuring yourself with affirmations and mantras 24/7, but it won't make any signifficant difference in how you feel about yourself, not if you don't back those affirmations with actions. You have to start putting yourself in situations which give you a chance to prove yourself to yourself, and consequently those little victories over yourself will do more for your self-image than a thousand hours spent reassuring yourself verbally would, or a thousand validating comments from your subscribers could.
Giving a name (diagnosis) to your challenges and feelings can be liberating and very helpful in understanding and accepting yourself and learning to love yourself. But don't use it as an excuse. Don't surrender yourself to it as if it's a done deal. And lastly, don't make it your whole persona. You are not your disorder, you are so much more than that. Accept it, profess it, but fight it i.e. learn to manage it rather than dwell in it. Those are my rules at least.
If I were in your place, first challenge would be obvious to me (and my whole being would adamantly protest to it, mind you) - to enroll in an Italian language learning course. I think that would be a great start and a great foundation for future steps, since you do live in Italy. As I said, if it were me, my whole being would protest to it, but it's all about choosing to act inspite of your feelings, especially since you know they come from a disorder and as such are detrimental to your growth. Someone here said it seems you rather want to wallow in darkness, but no one wants to wallow in darkness and self-pity I think, it's just that it's easier in the sense that it's familiar and safe. It takes courage and strenght to change and grow, to step out of your comfort zone, to challenge yourself. And if you ask Lao Tze you have both, because loving someone gives us courage, and being loved by someone gives us strenght... and my god do I envy you on having that in P.! I think I would be able to conquer the world if I had a woman like that by my side, that accepts me and chooses me and loves me, not in spite of myself but because I am all that I am (and I'm a lot😅)... Everything would surely seem a little easier... Anyway! Draw from those wells and take the next step, "the obstacle is the way" as Marcus Aurelius said; "life begins at the end of your comfort zone" (Neale Donald Walsch).
I watched this yesterday...while eating the same kind of sandwich I've been eating for lunch and dinner the past couple of weeks. Today I decided to cook for the first time in god knows how long. I didn't have chickpeas at home so I used a can of butter beans. For vegetables I put red onion and green bell pepper. I would've liked more vegetables but I wasn't mentally prepared to make a trip to the grocery store today. It still tasted good though. I didn't have the energy to make the rice all fancy, I just did my usual lazy rice, i.e. dumping a tablespoon of Vegeta seasoning along with the rice and water in the rice cooker and hoping for the best. I would like more food related videos. I don't need detailed recipes or anything I just enjoy the inspiration. 🌸
I’m so glad it inspired you!! Literally my motto is “anything is better than nothing”. Rice and beans always tastes amazing after eating nothing but sandwiches 🥰 (i relate so much btw)
Hi Sadie, thanks for sharing your accomplishment! I'm currently in some kind of state of autistic burnout as well. Saying that you cooked a meal and that's all you can do in a day resonates totally with my experience at the moment. Unfortunately, I'm trying to force myself to do a lot more than my energy level allows me to, so I'm constantly exhausted. Watching your videos makes me feel better about myself because the way that you appreciate those accomplishments makes me feel like I can be kinder towards myself too.
This comment made my day 🥰
@@SadieP So happy to hear that! Your videos make my day!🥰
Hi sadie! Thanks for this recipe, i have actually used your cabbage and rice recipe to lose weight. I usually make a large batch, refrigerate in smaller containers. I make my with alot of vegetables and bone marrow..very good, nice video. Keep going 😊💪🏾
That sounds soo yummy! I’ll try adding broth to that recipe but I haven’t made it in so long I’m gonna need to watch my own video to remember how I did it! 😂
Sadie, what your body wants and what your body needs might be different. Especially when we are talking about psychological disorders. I really hope you see a specialist that can help you create some plans and structure to your life. Starting to cook is amazing and I agree it can feel like the hardest chore, especially when it's not something you are interested in to begin with. Try getting an instant pot or something like it. It will help with so many meals and make the cooking process less daunting. Same with an air fryer.
That was me, I suggested the name Cleo cause she reminded me of Cleopatra with the eyeliner. I'm honoured. Thank you for the mention.
Thanks again for the name! ☺️✨💛
@@SadieP You're welcome. 🙂
Thank you for this video! For the recipe, is it 1.25 cups of water per cup of rice that is measured before or after it is stir fried?
Yes! That’s correct, and it’s measured/added after you stir fry. ☺️
Thank you!! Will be trying your recipe this week!
I love this recipe! And I do think it took you a looot of effort. Because that was a two-part meal, and not an easy one. And that is coming from a non-autistic person (well, probably). There were a lot of steps in this recipe. Honestly the most annoying part for me is chopping and waiting for the meal to be cooked. That’s why I mostly don’t use dry beans and lentils but canned. Then it is done in like 15 minutes, the flavours may not be top notch but whatever, it is healthy and nutritious, so yeah 😅 I like the most one pot meals, preferably even without the need of chopping. tbh I hate nowadays “instagram worthy” recipes because they are advertised as easy and quick but they really are not. Again, well done with this meal, it must have been exhausting for you (no sarcasm here!!) ❤
Also, I watched your “hate comments” video first… and I really, really don’t get the hate at all. This was such a pleasant, comforting video for me. Ugh, why are people so ignorant…
Hi Sadie. I think that you have fought the hard process of growing up every step of the way but to your detriment. You have to push yourself outside your comfort to grow else you find yourself a perpetual complainer. You deserve better. Challenge yourself to the hard stuff and do better. Don't compare your progress with others. Just make sure you're not letting your own self down. Whatever goals you have on your vision-board or in your mind, stay committed to them even when results are slow to show. There's no magically good life, you have to work for it. You've been somewhat consistent posting over the years, just pivot and choose positivity in your outlook. Yes Sadie, you have to choose positivity and happiness and actively maintain them before it then becomes your lifestyle. Complaining will get you nowhere. I doubt you want to post the same type of videos as a 40 year old. Start positivity within yourself and I know your subscribers will never let you feel discouraged. We're rooting for you. I wish you the very best
I didn’t realize I was being negative? i think I’m just being honest most of the time. But I’m not a fan of forced positivity and maybe that’s why a lot of people don’t find me very palatable. 😆
@@SadieP I feel you. But delulu might really be the solulu
Did u name ur Tiger
"You cannot find peace by avoiding life" is a quote that comes to my mind most of the time I listen to you. And I'm saying this as someone who suffers from major depression, social anxiety and a personality disorder. You are indulging your disorders thinking you are doing what's best for you by listening to your body when - though it may seem good in the moment - that can't be good for you in the long run because it leaves you in permanent status quo, with no possibility of any fullfilment. You should commit to training yourself so that you take the reins and not let yourself be governed by your disorders. The self-absorbtion that comes from spending too much time with yourself also isn't helpful. You are smart, compassionate and loving, so why not try and go volunteer somewhere only a couple of hours a week, just so you focus away from yourself a little and on to someone/something else, and maybe find a purpose and gratification in helping others, and consequently feel a little better about yourself. You have to give your life purpose, to stop feeling that your existence is meaningless. Stop enabling yourself, step out of your comfort zone and start fighting your demons, you'll forge your weapons as you go, and soon you'll have an arsenal of tools that work for you, and it will be easier. "Where your fear is, there is your task." C. G. Jung
I know you'll dismiss my comment as judging and not comprehending your challenges and that's fine, but know that I see so much of my former self in you, and what I said to you I was saying to myself also. Let me add that after highschool I've spent three years of my life depressed in a darkened room alienated from everybody, so that is where I'm coming from.
You are a special, rare and beautiful person, and I wish you all the best, but it makes me sad to watch you like this, wasting your potential and a chance to find contentment, if not happiness.
My life has purpose. Listening to my body and healing from my experiences is a part of that purpose. I don’t know if this comment was well meaning but I don’t need someone else telling me how to live my life. Just know that everyone is doing the best they can, from where they’re at. This whole thing sounds very ableist..
I understand that you took my comment the way you did. It's hard to put those kind of thoughts into commentary without the risk of the receiver taking it as offensive or invalidating and getting defensive (all the more when English is not my first language, so that doesn't help). I shared those things about myself in the hope it would take the edge off my comment, because you'd know that the comment comes from someone who like you also faces daily challenges that regular people don't, but again, I would probably react the same way you did. Since I already annoyed you, I'll squeeze in just one more unsolicited advice and then I'll shut up: whatever you do, for your own sake, don't fall into the victim mentality. You're incredibly insightful and have learned your demons well, so now fight them, don't pamper them!
…the ancient text of the Gospel of Thomas said it way back when …
“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”
I know this is true.
Just my unsolicited two cents - as someone who’s had similar experiences to both of you, I feel strongly that @bumblebee1914’s comment was made only in the spirit of empathy, compassion and respect ❤
This is good advice but as you can see always defensive. I think she wants to live in self pity and wallow in darkness. At least you tried
Yikes. I read then read each comment which drew a defensive response from Sadie. I sensed good intentions and comments that could have led to meaningful exchanges but you were all immediately shut down. You all steered far from language that sounded caustic or toxic….carry on with that spirit.
If you listen to your own videos (I don't think you do because you'd see a pattern) you will notice you always talk about how much you don't care what people think, that's a definiton of caring. You always talk about your body and food or toys. Never in a good way always negative and you become defensive when anyone tries to help you redirect your energy. P is a very patient woman because it can't be easy living with someone who is always complaining like this. We only see a glimpse and we can see how negative you are. Its so sad
I edit all my own videos so I listen to my own words a lot actually! 😂 let’s just be grateful that I’m with P and not you then. Good thing I’m with someone who actually likes me and enjoys being with me. And good thing I’m patient and kind with myself.