Too Much and Never Enough: Why Women are Expected to Dim Their Light to Make Others Comfortable
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ต.ค. 2024
- Margo and Tashira @PoliticsFashion discuss the paradox of being "too much" in a number of ways seemingly exclusive to women & femmes. Society tells us that we need to be pretty (but we can't be too focused on our appearance), we need to be smart (but not too smart), we need to be good parents, but if we put "too much" effort into them then we're "too involved."
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"I will just say you dont wanna peak in highschool" okay PREACH Margo!
THANK YOU. When i came to that realization, i was so happy!
Too educated and too qualified is quite common. They don’t know what my situation is. I don’t know what they are afraid of either. Love you ladies. At 52 I learn so much from you which helps me with my daughters.
Thank you so much!
It's intereting how there is such a difference in the qualities that a man looks for in a grirlfriend/wife and what qualities they want to instill in their daughters. If you ask any man with a daughter, I'm sure they will say, they want their daughter to be educated, have her own money, and not have to depend on a man. The same things they look down on when it comes to what THEY would want in a girlfriend/wife. Do they not realize that they are raising their daughters to be single.
Thank you so much for listening and sharing your thoughts!
Based upon those myopic and sexist standards yes that's EXACTLY what they're doing! It's mind blowing 🤯
Exactly!
On a similar, but slightly unrelated note, that’s why it bothers me so much when I see them act like women just make up stories about how they treat us.
The men in my life literally TOLD me to avoid other men lol!
What they tell their daughters is way different than what they tell women they want to sleep with.
@@enamill8426 It's called Cognitive Dissonance. Some men reek of it.
Best comment over read all day!!
Love Margo! 🤣 Speaking of trad thot if you watch any episode of MadMen ....Betty Draper was so completely bored out of her mind. There is no married Eutopia
Not prison cookies 😂😂. Enjoyed this episode. Thanks for sharing 😊
When I tell you, this is my favorite podcast! You all just say what needs to be said.
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For sure! It’s my favorite too. 🤗
thank you thank you!
Oooooooh Come On🤷🏾♀️ We HAVE to hang out with Margo🌹🌹🌹
People does the 50 most beautiful; Time does the 100 most influential. Both are subjective and I certainly haven’t figured out the algorithm for either list.
This is officially my favorite podcast! 💜 You ladies speak on so many topics that I'm currently experiencing and processing at my big age.
As a Black woman professional in the arts, I experience two extremes: being told that I'm "too much" (in appearance) or too quiet(in regards to the boundaries that I've created).
I've come to realize that I will never satisfy any checkmarks that society has placed on me, so I've decided to focus on my own checkmarks ✔️ and show up as my full self every day without explanation or permission from anyone.
"..my full self everyday without explanation or permission from anyone." BOOM. A whole word thank you!
@Tashira, this outfit!! #loveit!!! These accessories!!
Has anyone ever told you that you were "too much" of one thing or another?
Most definitely!!!! I can remember as a teenager my Aunt’s husband said “You think to much of yourself”. I guess he preferred teen girls that were seen & not heard in addition to those that walk with their heads down and not up. His intentions were crystal clear; he wanted to check me & put me in my place. I learned quickly people perceiving you as having too much confidence irritates certain people.
Let’s see: black woman, Ivy League graduate with a masters degree, extrovert, quick witted. Yeah, I may have heard it a time or two.
I literally wrote this phrase in my notes 😂 this podcast was meant to reach me 🙏🏾
Thank you Tashira...Handmaid's Tale...our future is extremely scary.
Tashira I love this blueeeeee
Thank you so much!
I want add: it also has to be effortless. So the pretty cannot be intentional. The presentation cannot be labored. The work you do cannot be obvious. It has to be “natural “ and society gets to decide what that is. So losing weight by being sick or starved is okay, but being fit and using medication or intervention to be Healthy is gross.
My GAWD... I LOVE this pocast!!! Hit the nail on the HEAD.... LITERALY🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you so much!
Officially My New Favorite Podcast!!! Tribe over here Tashira! 🙂
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This was very very good thanks again for your chennal
Glad you enjoyed it
25:07 🤣 That needs to be on a shirt!
we are working on our first shirt!
Love the switch of seating and another hitter re topic! Love listening to the intellectualism of it all!
Another great episode! So much to think about.
I love ya’ll!!
Thank you! Thank you! I was waiting for someone to create a podcast about this topic. This is something that I struggle with greatly
Glad it was helpful!
Love your podcast
Love this podcast
Thank you!
I'd rather peak in high school, just bc all your peers witnessed the glow up. As an adult, most of your cohorts won't be able to see your beauty evolution ❤
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I think it's women holding other women to too high standards.That’s why i dont keep too many women as friends because a lot of them are too negative.
You really don't want to peak at 16, I know several that did.