The Romantic Introvert's Dilemma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.ย. 2024
- An original short film by Chauncey Crail.
Starring Holly Pretsky (@hollypret), Alec Sarché (@asarche), Kaley Wheless (@wheless_kaley) and Wake Smith.
Music by Wes Brandt (@wesbraver).
Producers Corrina Leatherwood and Caitlin Taber.
Brought to you by Green Speaker Media, LLC.
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People meet by chance, miss each other by chance. That's what scares me in life, missing someone by a hair.
its destiny
every philosophy has its own name for it
So do you think that we're all destined to meet someone eventually? Everything else is just a distraction? If it's predestined, then is everything we do to get there also preprogrammed, so to speak?
Yup. the theory of chaos explain it very well.
Watt z Oh I see. That's both comforting and fucking terrifying, fuck
FACT: This all happened inside an extrovert's head.
Reality: Those two never made eye contact for more than 2 seconds and avoided each other for as long as they could until one of them tried making small talk, failed, and switched libraries to avoid the humiliation.
Dora Winafred Lol this is true.
Don't make this more sadder by blankly putting out the truth.😢
So sad it's true, it's even more sad because that's me with my crush ;'''v
Space Unicorn same
Sadly true.
The real romantic introvert's dilemma: You read books at home, by yourself. Alone, there is no one to meet.
Basically
Someone I'd meet at a club would most certainly be a person I can't associate with because I don't like crowded or loud spaces or to be around a bunch of people I don't know. I spend my free time mostly at home and don’t flirt at work because of the massive drawbacks and embarrassments a drama can cause (besides, that few girls my age already have someone). So it isn't very likely that some random introverted girl will suddenly ring my door bell.
true 😪
Yep yep do true
sooooo true
The moment you meet/saw someone you liked...you automatically imagined how your life with each other will work and how your babies will look...then you wake up in reality that you dont have even the guts to talk to her/him....
in a way you could look at it like whenever we do that we get to live a lifetime, so we live through loads ofhappy lifetimes throughout our lives, but you could also look at it and be very depressed i suppose since they all stay fantasies.
I agree with you, :,( I have a crush on someone at uni right now. worst? I don't even know his name. I'm just in the position where, all I can do is to just look at him everyday. :,( painful.
Kay Lee go talk to him!!
I guess we all sink into a stream of melancholy when we don't make that move.
I am an introvert but since I saw her I just knew I would do whatever it takes... I just know her name and where she lives... but there is no a connection of any kind between us so it gets pretty damn hard to get to know her... 😞😔 I just cannot think of anything to get to talk to her... it would be just really weird ...imagine a stranger coming to your home when you arrive or when you are leaving and saying like hey what's your name, wanna give me your number so we hang out some time?... I don't know what to do 😧😔... it's killing me being so close and at the same time so far... 😧
Dude, she works there; just come back tomorrow.
Bioguy5 hahahaha omg yes
Sounds like a simple solution. Lol
Bioguy5 DEAD😂😂😂
thing is... he's been doing that for years
Me: *comes back everyday* still doesn’t have enough confidence
A true introvert would probably not even be reading at the library, but rather at home....
Really depends on the home, or living environment. I lived in a pretty hectic household, so studying or reading elsewhere became desirable. Or in college when my roommates didn't really care for me, I felt more comfortable in the library than I did in the dorm.
EpicHysteria that’s like they would never go out to eat at a restaurant alone or anything.. you have to get out of the house sometimes
He’s in college lol.
Not all of them, they prefer places that quite and comfy
No no no... I would really like to read over there but in a corner... away from everyone else... lost in my own world...
I'm an introvert and I find this too real. It's like I had to make myself into someone I'm not into having any chance of dating, which is partly why I'm single right now. Until recently, I always thought I was weird and a freak because everyone else was social and outgoing while I only appreciated close company if not solitude.
Same here.
GearzMoney totally true
i feel you
feels
"The person who you think you might want to like you, probably day 2, you would pray that they stop liking you. Let it happen organically. Be who you are. That's the only thing you have that nobody else has, and somebody loves that. I was single for a while, and I was trying to figure out who I was, not trying to be fake or be something I wasn't, but I wasn't really comfortable with who I was. And so the relationships that I had...were fun and fine and great but they weren't lasting. And finally, I came to terms with who I am. And then I found somebody who dug it, and I dug her back."
The real dilemma of introverts is that they also enjoy being alone. :))
"I'm absolutely fine reading this book on my own but that girl seems interesting, maybe I should talk to her... but at the same time that can be exhausting and I'm really enjoying this isolation right now... I'm also too awkward anyway.. but it would nice to hang, she seems like a cool person... ksjhgoslkhfg"
Your smiley has a double chin. :)) But mine does too, so you don't have to feel weird about it.
that's me
"ksjhgoslkhfg" pretty much summs it up
Excuse to make one feel better about himself? Whether you're an extrovert or an introvert, isn't that the case with everyone?
The issue here is that solitude energizes us and socializing exhausts us, both are enjoyable-- hence the dilemma.
Your point is what, exactly?
matthiu LION one of the most uneducated comments i read in a while. props
Unrealistic, she actually likes him back.
my life is depressing
Anton Chua MEEEEE
666
Anton Chua unrealistic, he actually likes her
😂😂😂😂
Sorry bro but some girls actually like me back,but im just too scared to really open up about my feelings
This was hard to watch. Not because it's bad, but because it's too real.
Wanderer Mount except the ending
SuperJuvent That depends on each person, I believe
***** i agree
SuperJuvent :) I wish you a lovely rest of the week!
***** too gentle, thanks :)
it was accurate up till the end.. but then they said "hi" lol xD tbh, if it was in real life.. i'd probably end up being the same old hopeless turtle
True
Yep, you got it right on the money. It can be a curse at times.
Alright. So, can something be learned from this? Maybe something useful in your real-life? xD
yeah, it's painful how relatable it is
Just go for it!(: What is the harm in saying, "Hi"? Why put yourself through the agony?
Me & my crush have been doing this for a year now & it's the most depressing thing ever.
Peachy Liv you are not alone. me too. 😥
Peachy Liv Revel in the uncertainty
Peachy Liv Mamihlapinatapai
Peachy Liv omg olive 😱 i'm you subscriber 😍
I resent that many girls think I'm not gonna touch her when I know she wants affection. I resent the fact many think I'm gay or shy that I won't show I have guts and masculinity from my silence and complex character. I had enough of people being afraid of me when I'm not gonna hurt them. My energy just feel so intense for them when I show anger being called the devil I rage because I had enough of society as though I belong no where being consumed by darkness when I seek light and love I give up on the idea of romance.
I think the worst part of this all is when you become so fixated on a person that just happens to catch your attention, so you start to fantasize about them, to then you realize they are nothing like they way you made them out to be in your mind. You learn that you didn't actually like this person at all, just your idea of them.
Rainbows help us Smile So fuckin true
Rainbows help us Smile Thought I was the only one.
Diana Oh god this hits so hard. That’s definitely the worst part about it.
Ouch. Very relatable.
TRUTH
Oh god I'm so lonely
nikoincroatia
so am I.
12345a Where are you from?
nikoincroatia
croatia
JK, Australia
12345a I'm living in New Zealand lol
So close yet so far
nikoincroatia haha yeah
though i feel for you , there arent enough people on that island :p
In high school I sat next to this beautiful princess all year. I told myself everyday that I was gong to get the courage to talk to her, but never did; was just to self-conscious and afraid. 20 years later at our high school reunion I saw her and talked to her. She said she always liked me and wanted me to talk to her and couldn't understand why I never did. She then told me she was married and had two children. Introverts! your head is lying to you. The secret is to now it lies and don't listen to it. It doesn't really help the anxiety, but you will occasionally get results.
Eric Standefer wow 😮 that’s kind of sad for her.
F
she could've spoke up too. these women need to stop thinking they're entitled NOT to speak
I mean... that they had the courage to even look each other in the eye! I would've awkwardly pretended I wasn't staring!
PugThug09 exactly...my eyes would start tearing up...
AND they smiled at each other.
Gabriel Kingbird Right? This has to be fantasy
This comment was more relatable than the short. 😄
Pug thug I feel you, i am also the one 😭
But this happens all the time. I get really vivid Day dreams about finding someone I really like and all the dates we would go on and everything we would do together. Then I wake up back into reality and remember that guy doesn't actually exist and none of the guys at my school that I know care about things that I do.
Yes I could go out and meet people but I always overthink it. 'Just go over there and say hi. Okay what about after? I don't know. Just do it. Be spontaneous. Hmm no thanks. I'll just go back to my hole of solitude.'
Don't Ask same
Don't Ask the same happens for me as well. less thinking more doing.. if it would be that easy..
Don't Ask I understand you
A dangerously comfortable hole of solitude, isn't it?
Don't Ask I feel you. I always think that the person won't be interested in myself. I also start thinking "What is interesting about me?" and every time I'm not able to find a satisfying answer. So I just immediately scratch my plan of talking to that person. I usually think that random people could think that I'm creepy or sth, idk. But I don't consider myself introverted. It don't find it hard to talk to random people, I just find it hard to talk to people about myself (especially people I like or I'm attracted to).
lol that's me, except for the last part I never found her back when I went searching
Same I want to cry
I am single
Don't worry... if you haven't find her now, you will find her or even someone someday.
Aww
lol.. go for it, don't wait..
I feel like I'll never get to that "hi".
Mandasaurus same...
Same here. You're not alone.
Add me
Same
Why didn't you say hi first?
Coming from prior experience and getting older...I think the true introvert's dilemma (really delusion) is that once we fixate on a "muse" and romanticize being with them, the very real possibility of it not working out turns into this world-crushing ordeal. I wish I could go back to myself or my friends when I was younger and just scream "Dude, just go for it! If she says no, it doesn't matter, it really doesn't! It's okay! She's really not the ONLY one for you and vice versa. You can have that happily ever after with any of over a million compatible ones, just freaking try!"
true.
Donovan Deans This inspires me to talk to my crush. But alot of things have inspired me to but when i have the oppritunity i always chicken out 😂
Exoniex Just don't overthink it. Best case scenario you interest her and the rest is possible from there. Worst case scenario it doesn't work out she's just another name and number in an endless line of attractive girls you will cross paths with in your lifetime. No matter how hard you think you're crushing on her you have to trust yourself that you are capable of and will feel just as strongly for another later on. In that light, you really have nothing to lose. Girls generally like guys with balls who know what they want and just come out and say it with a smile. Just also understand no means no. Good luck!
Donovan Deans Thanks man! Go out and be an inspirational speaker cause youd be great at it
+Exoniex Same. I only talk to him when we are stuck together in the same group for a project.
There's nothing worse than being an introvert AND a shy person
Actually being an extrovert and shy seems worse.
@@pickles147 it's bad, but being introvert and shy is two times worst
Not really, when you're an introvert you don't really want to associate with people that often so you don't find yourself in many situations where you want to talk to people but you can't because you're too shy. As a shy extrovert, you really want to go out and hang out with people but feeling too nervous to the point of not being able to sucks ass.
No, there's nothing worse than being an introvert and a socially anxious person.
@@bananapy7278 true dat bro.
In real life, that ending would never happen.
this guy gets it
I think that's where reality stops and they introduce the "what if". I think the end was just to get us to do something. Otherwise, this film would be pointless.
moonrockers1962 In real life how about you do what the guy was trying to do and go up to her? the difference between this video and your life is he got up to talk to her than another guy came and when he finally got up again she was gone, but in a lot of people's lives, they don't even get up the first time.
You guys, I'm a girl. I try not to chase after boys because that always ends badly. I much rather have a guy come up to me. If he can do that and make an effort then I'll give him a chance no doubt.
moonrockers1962
here i am then..
The painful truth... I don't understand how ppl can just go up to other ppl
Years of practice! And I'm an extrovert. I also have ADHD, though, and the impulsiveness and excessive talkativeness doesn't really give a crap about whether or not I'm feeling shy; I'll suddenly be talking to someone before I've even had a chance to think about it, which certainly helps.
Ayla Markkula wow good for you. Why are you watching this
Adrian Sanchez im an introvert n have anxiety but i talk when i wanted to talk to strangers like on a bus even tho their not attractive cuz i felt like i need to say something like talk about anything cuz i wont see them again
Why, they aren't going to hurt you. All they can say is they are not interested- big deal.
L Lance its a huge deal, especially if it takes a lot of effort to ask. Then once you're rejected, you feel like an idiot and frustrated that all that work came to nothing. you replay that moment of embarrassment for years afterward, and it makes it even harder to do it again. at least, that's how it works for me.
The worst part is that in real life the looks and gestures the two made to indicate they were interested in each other are carried out covertly to avoid any chance of the other person actually picking up on what you're feeling. For example, the look at 0:21 would take less than a quarter of a second--their eyes might meet, but would instantly part once contact was made. The result of this is that we all walk around pretending we're not interested when a lot of us deep down inside are yearning for a connection.
Well said.
Damnnnn
:(
Damn...this is so true
as an introvert ... i can say that everything is accurate in this film except the ending . that doesn't happen !
an introvert doesn't simply go ahead and say "Hi" , they have to think it through to find a reason to approach the person and usually they screw it up with extreme awkwardness .
sometimes it does it happened to me it took courage.
Satoshi Saito true that
Satoshi Saito bullshit. You can be an introverted person but still talk to people. The ending in the park was realistic because there was nobody else around so approaching them is a lot easier and let's you not get overshadowed by anyone else.
I thought that's shyness?
***** it doesn't mean you are shy. . all I'm saying is that introverts should have a clear reason to start a conversation with a stranger !
The way they are holding their wine glases bothers me more than it should.
Great film btw
I know! Right? WHY???
Same! Loved the film though
I was thinking the same jajaja
Bokai Hacabanohc Omg I don't even drink wine and it bothered me 😂
i was thinking the same way!! great film though
I wish people knew this is how we feel and how we think. It takes a lot of courage for us introverts to make a move. Especially us male introverts. We tend to miss out on a lot of friendships and relationships because we're socially anxious or fine with being alone.
I yearn to be more social, and I'm slowly getting better at it. But I still struggle to find the confidence to talk to people. Confrontation is one of my biggest fears. It's really hard to get over it after having had been this way for years.
FreeRealEstate especially male introverts? who told you that ?
Everyone keeps saying that the ending wouldn't happen in reality and that's true but only because nobody actually does what those two did. Most people would just leave it and go home. I think the point of the video is to show what could possibly happen if people took more risks more often.
you're right. your only real enemy that can break your heart is not your target, but rather You.
+Lloyd Mcleod well said
+Georgie_Leigh True. It also does say "Romantic" Introvert's Dilemma, so it is set up as a romanticized event.
they forgot to show the rest. where they find they have nothing in common and it just ends up being awkward
'I think the point of the video is to show what could possibly happen if people took more risks more often.'
do you mean all the people who live miserable lives everafter after taking the risk you are talking about?
have you heard of the saying, 'the grass is always greener on the other side'?
sometimes it is, sometimes not. and not everyone gets to come back.
That dude finished three books in one sitting. That's impressive!
I've been watching this video every once in a while over the past few years. Whenever I think about what true love is, I don't think of a poem or Hollywood movie, I think of this video.
Ohh the scenarios we weave in our mind that span over weeks and months within a matter of seconds....that is a skill we hopeless lovers excel at
ugh. story of my life (Apart from the happy ending). Why is it so though?
i mean. When i often see someone that might be interested or interesting etc... i can't manage to go talk because it is not... normal. It's weird to go there... and then say what? "oh, hi, i might be interested in you, wanna hang out?" that's so dumb. That's why i get stuck and never do anything.
I know what you mean. I just end uo avoiding most people I actually find interesting.
Gotta get creative. It'll still be weird and risky but fuck it. "Hey, who are you voting for?" Is sure to rile up a conversation. Whether it's good or bad depends on how you handle it from there haha. Making lighthearted jokes about the opposing candidate, telling them the crazy rumors you've heard. Just small talk on any current events or things in your immediate vicinity. Philosophical questions are always an option. I wouldn't mind if someone came up to me, introduced themselves, and started talking about the meaning of life with me lol.
The stereotypical American way of approaching a girl with maximum confidence and immediately starting an interesting conversation isn't for everyone. I recommend instead to join clubs, charities, organizations where you will naturally be in close contact with both guys and girls. The introduction will run itself, and you'll get to know the people there and always have something to talk about, just make sure it's an organization you actually care about not just for the sake of the girls there. You don't even need to flirt, just climb the hierarchy ladder within the group, become the boss, grab them by the pussy and win the election!
We're often afraid that reality will fall short to the fantasies that we live out in our heads, so the best thing is to stay present and see reality like it is or else you'll always be disappointed
yes, but still. it is dumb to go to strangers and say things. Or at least, i find it very weird and dumb to go to a stranger and ask about something (whatever it is). Except for indication, In that case, in fact, i would prefer to fake asking directions, that's a good point then haha
I'm a really big introvert, and I have a crush at my job. Well, I'm finally going to ask her on a date next time I see her at work... I'm super nervous...
jose hernandez how was the date??
Bilazzord not as bad as I thought it'd be, We're going on our second date tomorrow!
@@josehernandez-xx2mi how did it go? :)
Eyyy dude I want updates too lol
Yes! Good luck!!
My life except when I get caught staring at an attractive person they look back much less romantically 😜
Chris Noble me too 😂💀
Chris Noble I know how you feel. I usually get a disgusted look like they found an insect in their food.
Chris Noble Same, except I can't keep looking at the person when we make eye contact. lol
Chris Noble - - Ten years ago in my college Spanish class, the teacher gave us an assignment. Because there were more guys than girls, we had to split into teams of two guys and one girl. Each guy had to convince the girl to go on a date with him and not the other guy. As soon as i started talking to the beautiful brunette wearing a cute sundress and sandals, she gave me a disgusted look and immediately said "Um. I'd rather go with the other guy." The other guy didn't even have to say a word. It got really quiet and our "assignment" was done. Case closed. .... It was a stupid assignment and a horrible experience. I can't help but wonder where she is now, what she is doing, and what kind of person she is now. I wonder if she remembers saying that to me. I hope she has become a better person since then.
@spqa2004 Dude ... that was sad.
I had this weird feeling they were british.. idk why
SimplySahar hahaha same
They're Americans, you dope. The clue is in their accents.
Grow up kids
Loool same. Idk y
Lol suddenly a fight in the comments
I hope I'm not the only one who hopelessly smiled throughout this video. As an introvert (mbti INxx), this film explicates the quality of classy relationship in introverts. Maybe, being distant actually makes the love worthy.
I'm an INFJ and this video made me smile so hard my cheeks hurt.
Chicken Lurkin' Yung Chihuahua . Good observation, but I think it was the time.
I’m an INFP having a crush on an INTJ Idk what do to haha
Almost. it's always an almost. that's been my life, never getting something certain. always an almost.
1xXxIceGirlxXx1 next time you're in an almost situation just do it. Think about all those missed opportunities and think when i look back at this moment do i want it be with regret or thankfullness you had to courage to do it? everyones life will end and everyone will have a time in their life for reflection - so make it a positive experience for your future self. :)
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Everything you said is true!!!
Controlled Chaos its not that easy, I've tried, I've even tried what you are saying but my life is connected to this persistent spring which always pulls me back to the start. Now I've seen such traumatic events so many times that I've given all of my hopes and I'm just waiting for A Miracle (if that could happen). In the end i would only ask you to pray for people like me, surely that would be a very great help.
Thank you and take care.
Literally
"Hi."
*looking in mirror*
Rez underrated comment
I laughed too hard at this 😂
LMAO 😂😂😂
" what's cooking good looking "
*reflection walks away*
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
It's kind complex for me. I can be social, be in a group, know sarcasm and get a joke in public. Yet I'm drawn to those shy or introvert like people and like it when it's just us two and I feel I can be vulnerable, let my awkward and weird side of personality be expressed and be accepted for that.
My life is this entire video.. except for the ending
So it's not really the entire video...
Crystal Ortiz yeah, we got that 😂
chocolatelover7000 yeah, I just didn't want to feel stupid so I commented that just to clarify it... now I probably look even more stupid.
You don't look stupid. It's all good :)
The first comment seemed witty. The second didn't. So, "more stupid" than not stupid, yup.
This is so hard to watch, because this is completely and totally me.
Brigit Gabrielle Saaaaame.
Brigit Gabrielle Now imagine being ugly as fuck as well. Story of my life..
Brigit Gabrielle at least know that your not alone
I can feel you
So sad, but its simple to fix
I feel personally attacked after watching this
Ok so I get why this was on my recommandations, thanks TH-cam
Emma Biret lol.. i thought the same
And when you're completely alone and depressed for years, you start falling in love with and having day dreams and delusions about anyone who is somewhat attractive and doesn't treat you like shit or just ignore you, without having the confidence or motivation to actually do anything.
I mean... Haha, quit talking about your feelings, nerds.
spiderpig230 You should go see someone about that.
Same exact shit here
Mr. banana I don’t think you understand the comment. They were saying something deep and meaningful, but at the end was imitating how we fear being open. They opened up about loneliness and mimicked instant regression with the “nerd” comment.
spiderpig230 i love this comment so damn true i feel this all the time and it sucks
Ikr
I come back to watching this short film from time to time, simply because it's so relatable but also because there is no unnecessary dialoge. In my opinion they know how to express the emotions and thoughts one is going through; also both of them seem to be very nice people! :)
It keeps my sentimental level up and makes me cringe in a good way
Great work, greetings from Germany!
I loved this video. She actually ended up making the first move. I wish more women would take initiatives like this and not always wait for us. It's not easy being a man and I think lines should be more blurred to facilitate equality. It's a beautiful thing. Congrats and thank you! 😊😊
Mind Mischief i have taken initiatives with the boys i’ve crushed on, being an introvert and knowing i kind of feel attracted to introverts... they never like me back :/
Gaby Hernandez its their loss, you deserve better
Women making the first move tends to make the guy passive entirely in the relationship, which WILL kill all passion fast. Further, women making the first movie appeals to passive guys. Reclaim your strength and start making that first move. Women LIKE strength. Don't be afraid. The first few times you'll be very nervous, but you'll get super good super quick. I promise.
thank you :) i will keep that in mind always
I couldn't agree more. Women should make the first move when dealing with an introvert
story of my life...... but with a mustard stain on my shirt
Ultimat3N3wb I don't think if you meant mustard
Ya think he meant ketchup?
probably soy sauce
Nah I think that was a euphemism for being a person sitting in front of his computer all day and eats doritos and pizza all day.
jizz stain
No introversion was shown there. That's shyness.
Introversion = not a big friends circle, not liking to be around crowds, but always able to talk to stranger people, making friends and having social skills.
Shyness = not having social skills at all or at least having a really poor ability to talk to stranger people, getting nervous with only the thought of talking in front of people.
I'm both I guess. Just not on the internet. I hate being in front of people. I feel like they are judging me somehow.
U r so true...
But most introverted people become what you call "just a shy person" because of factors affecting them...
Most of the "introverted" people in the internet are actually introverts... Coupled with a heck ton of anxiety... So yes this video does not show introversion in the real introverted sense... But rather what most introverted people on the internet are... Introversion in the sense that, the introverts are anxious of what might happen(eg be rejected) and prepares a plan
But then when the plan fails... They feel like a total idiot and just gets embarrassed like a lot
What is shown here is normal introverts hitting a barrier constructed from their worries. They may talk normally with all kinds of strangers, but the fact that the other person interests them more than others in their life incapacitates them. They can't make any move, they pass on every chance they get leaving with regrets and can't make up the courage to create the chance themselves and then use it. It has nothing to do with shyness. It's more of a psychosis/obsession created by surpressing the feeling of attraction to someone because of your comfort zone.
I am both shy and introvert 😅
Gosh this is so true!! Except for the part were they actually talk to each other lol
The overwhelming message: Fellow introverts, find a nice bench. Your time will come 🙃😌🙈
hahah
It's gotten cold on that bench but sometimes people look down and throw money in my cap
In one of those high school days, I found courage and talked to my crush, and... we had a nice conversation. And nothing else. I don't know why everyone thinks that talking to her equals getting in a relationship with her or something.
I think this might be more of shyness than introversion, but either way, this is my damn life.
Well as an introvert, I know I have these inner fights with myself. Cause part of me thinks it would just be easier if I stayed by myself but I still fantasize but usually my introvertedness wins cause I decide being alone is better. So ya idk
It is shyness. Wikipedia sais: "Some popular psychologists have characterized introverts as people whose energy tends to expand through reflection and dwindle during interaction...". This means: There are introverts who also like to get in contact. They just need time alone or with a few good friends, to get their energy back. But keep in mind. Most people are somewhere between introversion and extraversion.
+chips7 Yeah exactly, but can't introverts still long for a romantic relationship? And yes, that's true that most people aren't strictly introverts or strictly extroverts
Hi!......(nailed it)
CafeNightster Pretty much xD
I am pretty much sure there is lots of 'shyness' aggregated in this video. Introverts can be shy but this 'block' into talking is shyness - has nothing to do with being analytical.
CafeNightster Hi can I talk to you - oh shoot I messed up I messed up AGAIN.
What I got from this video is how small acts could create much change to a person's life.
This video is one of the truest things I've watched on TH-cam. Ever. It's so painfully relatable. I've been clever and introverted like this my entire life, but I can never get the courage to talk to girls like that. I just lack the confidence. I don't like my body, and I don't like my personality, and I don't like my face, and I don't like my voice, I don't like anything. And I don't think anyone could ever like me in a romantic sense. I'm scared it'll never happen. Even though, I know subconsciously, that I'm really not *that* ugly. I'm not hideous. I'm really not. But I can't get the forefront of my mind to recognize that, and so I am just too afraid and ashamed. I don't even know why I'm typing this. It's not like it'll help. I suppose it just feels good to be able to "talk" about it, in a sense. It's nice to be able to voice my fears and my doubts. If you actually took the time to read this, thank you. Really, thank you.
you are good :)
Jonah Safern Wow, I am blown away by your comment! I know exactly how you feel! Being an introvert really makes someone lonely - I wish I could change it but my stupid brain and anxiety would never let that happen!
Jonah Safern I'm the same exact way. I think of a millions different reasons a guy wouldn't like me and don't even try to talk to him. I always feel like I too subconsciously know I'm not actually ugly but those thoughts get in the way of everything. I think people like us or if you're reading this and relate, need to just stop holding ourselves back and just do it sometimes..whatever it is just do it.
Jenna Mullett You're right, people like us should.
i like the idea of "forefront of your mind" bc that's what i struggle with . i thought I'm the only one
That's the kind of love I dream of... dancing in the kitchen, long walks, kissing in libraries (or just going to one in general:)... a connected love. Not through technology. Not gung-ho on touchy touchy feely-stuff... just the little things, which are actually the big ones.
"There are no small things"
totally but i cant take you seriously with that profile pic lol
I just feel like I would be happier alone. Like I would regret finding someone.
My moms words, man 💀lmff
For all those who are saying that the ending ruined the reality of the setting.
You are completely correct, and so are the filmmakers.
This never happens, well, and if that was shown, it'd have been just another relatable, and heartbreaking story
The only reason it ends the way it ends because it wants all those who never said "Hi", to atleast try.
But I know no one will.
Aditya Khanna Oh they can, but will they?
Titan Till Find out in the next episode of Dragon Ball Z
exactly!
So true.......... I know I'd never have the courage to say hi.
OMG so true 😂
I hope they found something to talk about after "Hi." !
sag2007ama bye
_is that a book your reading?_
Yikes the awkwardness warning signal 😂
yup that awkwardness starts there. and the journey begins
And there comes the impossible challenge haha
If you have time, read my boring story: Wow, this reminds me about a story of me it is different than this story. I went to the cinema 3 days a week and most of the times there was a really cute guy. I always looked forward to see him. Days passed by and I smiled at him and he smiled back. Days and days more we smiled at eachother. I started to get a crush on him. Then I saw him on a sunday on his freetime in the cinema wirh a girl and I assumed that she was his girlfriend.. I wanted to get him out of my head and it worked (kinda). But then on a Saturday he came to me and my friend and started a smalltalk. I still did not know his name etc. But since that talk everything started all over again. I liked him again. I needed to know if he had a girlfriend. So I started my talking session on Social Media and I found him (lucky me). On Facebook I found something about his relationship status: single. But I thought it was not recent enough. Everytime I saw him I fell in love with his smile. Then I thought yes I want to talk to him, but I knew that I was too afraid and scared for that. I told my friend and she was trying to push me, but it did not help. Then there was a light I thought: why not contact him on social media? I still did not dare to follow him or sent him a message. My friend did follow him for me and she followed him too (so that it was less awkward for me). After a few days I thought I want to sent him a message and I did it (it was the scared thing ever... I wrote my message 10000 times over and over again,. But I did it. But he did respond to me! He asked why I did not approached him at work and I told him because he was working. Then he asked me if I wanted to go to do something sometimes. I was so happy! Now we are going on a date on Saturday:). If you made it this far: thank you for reading my story to the end. You are amazing
Great story! How did the date go?
It went really well! Thanks for asking. We have been on 2 dates more since then. We are still dating:) he is such a lovely person@@NeyoSteel
Great to hear that! ^^
I wish you luck!
@@NeyoSteel thanks!
there are literally 2 words in this entire video how is it so relatable.
pipina carathanasis you're probably not like the characters in the film then. :-)
pipina carathanasis ikr!!
It's relatable because there are only 2 words in the video
You will never get an introvert introverts can't be understood
This is crazy relatable. I've done this far too many times. Just waiting, assuming they're not interested or they have someone else, thinking of what could be, and what may be if I can muster up the courage. All it takes is "hello"
...which I apparently say in a British accent, despite being American.
Zechariah Barrett seems charming
Owl Who The British accent? Haha, thanks. It's probably more inconspicuous than going full Scottish like I did that one time...
I used to be like this (even worse actually)...
Let me tell you what I learned:
You ARE NOT an introvert.
It’s a story that you’re telling yourself (or that others told you growing up).
Realize that you are simply scared of people and that other people are just as scared of you (no matter how high status, attractive, tough, or whatever they may be)..
Become present to that reality and allow yourself to experience the feeling of the fear (and accept it & let it be - don’t try to change it) and still step into the action of talking to others anyways..
Get in the habit of saying hi and starting conversations with people on a regular and eventually it’ll become second nature.
I used to be considered “introvert” my whole life until 20 and now I’m considered more “extrovert” than most of my “extrovert” friends were.
Introversion is a state of mind and to break it you need to get out of your fuckin head and start living your life. Now.
Bro u spoke to my heart..
I agree man. Im halfway there
Allan Costa Now change the word "introvert" with "shyness", now that makes sense.
Introversion isn't needed to get broken.
it's nice to see other people like me in the comments.
Austin Maksin wtf i just read your comment and instantly clicked like:))))))))are you a mentalist?
LoL, you're alone dude 😀
Lol I'm even reading more comments than i should
@@reginald8947 I can relate and I also can see your replies to other comments
I relate to this on a spiritual level. This is literally my life, doesn't matter if I'm interested in someone, they'll never know because I'm too scared to say anything. UGH!!
same here!
Leah-Lela * same!!!
Leah-Lela * Mamihlapinatapai
Fantastic job to the filmmakers who made this. No dialogue - the whole story told through action. People don’t realise how rare and difficult that is. And the music fitted perfectly. To everyone involved, especially the director, keep doing what you’re doing because you have talent and this didn’t go unnoticed. This is real filmmaking!
And I'm sitting here, thinking if I should go to this party or not...
Steven Blue same dilemma
Yeah, I decided not going, I donot drink alcohol and it's hard to push myself through in a conversation with more than 4 people, loud shitty music doesn't make it better...
Same situation same decision. I don't drink alcohol either and although I would like to go dancing and be out with friends... I'm not feeling a party. With the cold weather I love to be at home cozy...
All these people saying you can have fun without alcohol, that's bullshit, of cause you can but not on party. And I don't like to dance, I'm more likely to play the music
just go to the party and drink alcohol you pussy
im very awkward around people but if theres alcohol involved i wouldnt care even if its a baby shower party
I love how they needed 3 script supervisors just for "hi"
Great little short. Had me watching to the end :)
Who hired the library for two people to be staring at each other the whole freaking video!
JK: this short film is really well made! GJ
yea, every bit of it was relatable.
Why the f does everyone think introverts always hang out and meet in libraries/book shops?! We do do other things!
xD
😂
Its not like we are depressed being alone but when we like someone and can't do anything that makes us depressed
And accept it that we are bad with words and we just want to talk with eyes only not speaking anything
This is so me only I suck at even making friends so nevermind
care to make a new one?
me too i only have one friend and maybe once within 3 months we talk about serious things. and maybe once a month we meet. and he is my best friend and im his. is anybody so lonely too? or is this really rare?
same rip
Gery A same here man .
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man, i started crying the minute his imagined world started. i can't even begin to explain how much i related to this. I am shy and introverted and a romantic asexual (possibly demisexual...still examining) and it is so hard to just be human sometimes.
You sound like me.
you are me
Plot twist: the ending was his imagination too
They left out the part where he wakes up
Wouldn't be surprised
I'm kind of a antrovert and i'm stuck between "i'm shy, I can't blur out a single word" and "Imma own this place like it's my bitch" way too often. as a child I used to be super shy, but in the past few years I kind of grew over (even tho I still get those little shy moments)
Same here, kinda weirding myself out how extraverted I seem now, when only last year I wouldnt be able to start conversations without being awkward
I don't understand how this can happen
I've actually thought that as an introvert, you should date an extravert, so you would get more out of your life. Thinking about this again, I actually think that dating an introvert (being an introvert yourself) might be better. You understand how you feel and you feel the same + you can try to motivate each other to get certain things done and can be open about why it is some sort of victory to do things you didn't dare to do before.
Daniel W Could also be because you just have more extraverts in your direct surroundings (which has a big chance of happening since 30% of the population is introverted, or so some other video's say). Also you can just end up with people like that because your friends and you like the same things but might have a different point of view of how actively you participate (idk, sports or something).
But yeah, for example, I like to be with my friends but I really need time alone once in a while because it's really energy draining.
Do you think that not liking to go out (I mean like how some people party all night and drink a lot) has anything to do with being introverted? Or does that have to do with another part of your personality?
Daniel W Well at least the idea of helping each other is nice.
But how did you get so far in your life? I don't think you could stay in your comfort zone all the time.
I think it is good to have a balance in your life but then you date who ever you want, introvert or extravert!
I don't have a romantic example but one with friendship. My best friend is an introvert and I am an extravert, we get along perfectly and it is good to be quite different because we can offer different points of view and we make each other get out of our zone of comfort (ie: I tell her to go speak to her crush and tell him her feelings and she usually suggests me to calm down and be more serious with life in general) It is great and we bring the best out of each other :) I have extravert friends, and together we just are always thinking the same way etc and it doesn't bring much to us personnally!
I am an introvert who always feels attracted to extroverts and that screws everything
Francisco "Zocan" Nunes What do you mean with that?
-Hi
-Hi! .....
*awkward silence* *regrets*
this is so relatable I can't even talk to my crush about it
Bee M Saaaaaame.
Bee M There is no love without fear.
You've got it reversed. There is no fear without love. And there is no fear with love.
crazy808ish That makes no sense.
Yonas Campbell Without explanation, neither of our comments make sense. By no fear without love I mean you can't fear something happening without loving something else first. By no fear with love, I mean love can easily eliminate fear if strong enough.
Is anyone getting anxiety from this video, or is it just me?
Late... But I'm here fella
@@vensfacuen5240
Don't forget about me
Just have a life. Then you don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend. And ironically, it makes you more attractive and interesting. Also, try not to fantasize about relationships that unless you nail that 1 in a million chance, you won’t exactly have. Just try to be present in your surroundings and see the world as it actually is and know what you can do. You can talk to someone, even if someone else walks up but you don’t care if they do. And if you don’t hold onto an idealized version of someone else in your head, it makes you see the reality of them and instead focus on what you CAN do. You can’t just assign your own personal value to a relationship that you fantasize about that just won’t happen because when something comes along the way, even if you do get in a relationship, you will have on blinders that make you ignore things like abandonment, the other person isn’t as serious about the relationship as you are, feeling rejected but not feeling like you can let the relationship go, fantasizing even more that you will somehow magically or heroically become soul mates when it won’t happen. That will mess you up, waste your time, and your energy. Talking from experience
okay but can we appreciate how gorgeous the guy's voice is
She's the reason I get up early to go to this lecture class just to see her, but never had the balls to say "hi!" Just kill me now pls lol!
Zix JUST DO IT
Zix I cant... but do it 2nd to last day... if she doesn't say hi last day you can run and never deal with it again...well hmm not best advice but it's what I got. sorry. lol
I will try, I'm really awkward though. Like she dropped her pencil and I picked it up for her, then she said "thank you" and I couldn't say a word lol!!
Will Putz wow, very encouraging im proud of you!
I'm just saying how old are you zix? Confidence comes from experience and if you don't experience the discomfort you will not grow. Simple as that, there are no shortcuts.
A simple ‘Hello’ can lead to a million things.
Oh thanks GOD this ended up well!! my heart was suffering
heckk...I am going to die single....
sanjay pallur i am single too P S thats a hint
sanjay pallur ahahahha
sanjay pallur SAMEEE
Me too I guess
So am I!
this lifted my confidence and will to talk to anyone I might want to feel like talking to.
but too bad it's 1:31am and I know as soon as I go to sleep and wake up tomorrow everything will go back to what it was :'(
Introverts don't like to dance let alone in a public location 😆
In my mind, I've dated so many hot strangers. If only I had the courage to talk to them. My resting bitch face doesn't make me look very approachable, and I look like a maniac when I try to smile casually :(
same with the simile here 😢
In real life, the girl would be instantly turned off by the fact that you don't have the balls to go say 'hi' to her. THE END.
Luckily she's better than that.
Surely she's an introvert also, which works well after they both get past that first move, the initiation is the hardest part.
Well said
So true it hurts
Actually its not always right.. A lot of girls find shy guys,, cute and hot
Amazing! I appreciate you featuring an introvert's romance. The entire video reflects my life..well, except for the last cute "Hi".
enigmatic trash it could
There's this girl I've had a crush on for 3 years and all I ever said to her so far was 'hi'... and I never saw her ever again...
The most introverted guy in our class had a thing for me and i never knew. After almost 4 years, he found me and now we're kinda dating. I mean look im here trying to understand him better. The moral of the story, YOU NEED TO REACH OUT. 😊❤
For awhile I thought maybe they aren't going to get together, but of course they are because in real life they always do. As adorable as I thought this was, I think for me this would have been more impactful had they ended up not together and I could've sat here thinking of what could have been.
yeah I dont think this is realistic enough of an ending for me to feel ultra impacted, the happy ending kind of ruined it. I can relate to the whole thing EXCEPT the happy ending. like psh! they never would have spoken, that happy ending doesnt ever happen like that.lol
FerretsCantGame Right? Thank you, someone gets it.
totally agree.
exactly, in real life (my life) is how it happens.Would be better sad ending
I can also not relate to the happy ending, but I think the point is to not give up hope and maybe inspire people to change that. It is plausible, even if I tend to believe that it won't ever happen.
This feels so familiar, but I have yet to find my happy ending with her :(
suraj 24 i’m sorry. I too am an introvert, but I’m a girl. It’s a little different, but I feel for you. I know it’s been a year since you posted, so I’m curious as to know if you’ve gotten the girl? If you don’t mind me asking😁
eyyyy, make that three of us
Same here man, but don't lose hope. Who knows, it could happen today. Every day is a new chance to experience life.
suraj 24 same here m goin bak to my college aftr my project and giving a shot ..... wish for me luck ...let u know its a yes or no
no reply, so no
The girl would've been fine, she's cute, any guy would've approached her eventually. The guy on the other hand would've spent the rest of his life alone...
So harsh😂
...except that he is kinda attractive too. But yes, you are partially right
He's so adorable, and he's definitely attractive so I don't know if whay you're saying is right. I'd go on a date with him.
@Jason
Yeah and he never will and girls very rarely initiate
I have never seen something more relatable in my entire life
Same... I liked someone at my work she liked me too. But unfortunately I left the job before getting her contact details (I did talk with her from time to time). I worked there only for a month 😑
Oh gosh, this is soooo accurate. Except its more one sided. I literally imagine my whole life with someone when I so much as catch their eyes for a second. And I imagine that they are thinking the same, like in films, I watch too many films. But then they walk away. Its all in my head, but its comforting to think that there might be someone someday thinking the same about me, but mostly I think they wont notice me if I don't talk to them, and if I talk to them, I'll be wasting their time, even if they are not doing anything else. I'm currently in the process of building a pick 'n' mix advent calendar for my crush because of something he said in a conversation. I'm 99% sure he'll never like me... so I'm gonna tell him in the form of a extravagant romantic gesture, as a self esteem boost for him if anything (not that he needs it), and because I never tell anyone how I feel and I need somewhere to put all the thoughts and care and time I've spent trying to get to know him, instead of it never reaching the surface and just fizzling away. I'm such a sad looser! 😂 😔
I watch too many films also... and SAME
Esther Ninsiima
Nah, you're a romantic dreamer. Just don't get caught up on what's in your head, that's what'll trip you up EVERY time.
You gotta reverse the psychology and get yourself to believe that you are worth their time. You are a unique individual and you deserve love in your life!
I had crush for nine whole years on a single guy of my school life and you are talking about yourself being a loser,really?
Saumya Verma well you're a lady just be pretty then you're good.
Bravo!! Well done!!! As an INFP I can relate to this all too well... It's like you captured my life in 7 minutes of film. I clapped out loud at the end. And for those who are still searching... THe rare types ARE out there and we ARE looking for you too!! Do not despair. I found an INFJ online 26 hours and 1800 Miles away but It was worth the wait. I promise. It can and will eventually happen. DO NOT GIVE UP!!! DO NOT GIVE IN!!! DO NOT SETTLE!!!!!
THIS IS SO ME
I'm not even an introvert, but I like all skills related to flirting and getting a romantic partner
try reading the tao of badass. its for guys but girls can learn some stuff from it too. gives you a general idea of being in control of social situations.
i used to have this problems but i spent so much time studying other people and human psychology that i can safely say i'm a confident romantic introvert who won't miss his opportunities.
+MilesCrlsn Thanks for proving that this can be changed.