Every bar girl needs money badly. Their goal is finding foreigner who can take care of them and also their families. That's why they can sleep with you very easily after meeting at bar once you paid. So my recommendation as a Thai man is enjoy your life with the bar girls just paid her and done. Don't continue any relationship just move on. Once you know Thailand more then you will meet many normal working Thai girls in the city by friends or friends of friends. Believe me you will get a good one and don't have only to pay for everything.
Seems like the best advice. I get that it would be very easy to fall in love with them but to try and remember the hard truth of it all. Which is what you said really.
I'm a woman who has no idea why the algorithm sent me this channel, but I'm finding your videos to be fascinating. You're a great narrator and the stories themselves are more than interesting! The only red flag that counts is the first request for money. Turn down the request and immediately cut all contact with the person. Once there's one request for money, they won't ever stop. Thanks very much for the video!
That's true everywhere. You start spreading cash, and you will get fake friends, lovers and so forth. Cut off the cash, and you will find out who her real friends are.
yea but we have all been there done that i remember my first trip i felt like a rock star young girls' model material. throwing them self at my feet n I'm far from model material. Shit there could have been a naked girl jumping up n down in the street waving a RED flag like a mattoir about to fight a bull n i would have walked straight past her n not seen a thing!
You need to look at it as a business transaction. Do NOT get all loved up with a bar girl 🤦🏼♂️ I’m so glad I’m a butterfly and don’t get suckered by these girls!
Exactly. That's why we go to Bangkok. It's not to find a stray human to feed and support and worry about for months after flying back home. @@cameronrussell9362
At 56... i am just now experianced enough to not fall for this scam. Take it easy on these guys! I am just glad that i never visited in my youth.. or i would be telling MY sad story also.
No you wouldn't have. When I first visited Pattaya, I was 18 and learned their ways. I've visited Bangkok a few times, but armed with the knowledge I gained in Pattaya and Subic Bay (Olongapo was the same scene).
Man you fell in love . Had fun. She probably got to understand how lovely she is and how much money she could make. Sad story but I have heard much worse. I am English and live in Thailand
I met a girl at work. Tall( for a Thai girl - 180cm), college educated and can do anything. I married her 6 years later. Now we have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. She has only ask me for two things in our lives together, a Shaw while we’re in a cold airport in Taipei, and a phone for her mom when hers broke and mom watches the kids while we are at work. My wife is a fine partner and now mother. She is conservative and hard working. I love her more each day during the last 13 years. Thai people are very loyal and family orientated. If you meet someone in a bar, it’s a crapshoot no matter what country you are in.
One way to have an upper hand is not to give a 💩. The person who cares less have the upper hand, although you can get out bidded out by a higher bidder. With that said, you need to be able to fold your hand. This also goes with not responding if you get the silent treatment and other stupid games they will play.
Ohh you are one of them. I bet you never had 😺 in your home country... Now you are looking for love in Thailand... You will get there mate, I believe in you 🤞🏻
Hot bar girls have many foreign boyfriends that send them money overseas. My Thai gal initially told me up front she did not want my money and 7 years later she has been true to her word to this day
No use me saying more fool you, at least you still have most of your money. Been there done that, bought my bag to Australia from Pattaya, did not go well, wanted me to give parents a heap of money, when I said no, she fell out of love, just told her to FO and left her in Issan. Best decisionof my life, they (and parents) have all the excuses to screw you. Remember, you can tell a Thai is lying, their lips move
I have been going to Thailand, since 2020, and thought i understood Thai women, Thai culture, and married a twenty eight year old, doing all necessary visas at the time to bring her to Australia. After working hard together, in a successful business, sharing the profits for about five years, our relationship started to deteriorate around the time she attained Australian citizenship. I did not want the expensive inevitable divorce, so i walked on egg shells, but she finally traded up. Money and supporting family, i always new were important to a Thai woman, and i nurtured this but from the outset, of our relationship, but the reason i am writing this is because, this carried absolutely no credence, in the end. i did not thoroughly get to know her family and their intrinsic values before committing. Divorce in Australia, can be very expensive if you are trying to find a mutual settlement figure, so my advice is check out the family and especially the mother, before hand.
It's always the mother! My second ex wives' mother left her salt of the earth father for his best friend who was a cardiac surgeon! Needless to say, the divorce did not go well for me. It took me more than a decade to bounce back from the financial ruin she caused in the end.
Most bar girls arrived from far away villages and have families at home looking after their kids,so dont be surprised that the bar girl needs to send money home and expects you to pay.
Yeah Slim you got played big time. My Thai Wife and I got married first and while i was away she did everything she said she would. After 32 years of hard work we are both well off. You cant be Naive in Thailand. Other girls I met treated me with long letters of the worst disasters and asking for money with ridiculous stories of kidnapping and wanted ransom money. i didn't pay them and no one should...
All standard stuff - When you live in Thailand experiencing contact with isaan girls expats meet in Sukhumvit or Phukhet or Pattaya - Know one girl who has expat boyfriend but married to a Thai in isaan and he is introduced as her brother when the expat is in the village and when he he leaves husband and wife go back together. Also know girls who have 5 different customers at the same time one leaves from the airport and the next arrives. its a commercial business and the girl doesnt love you or like you its all about the cash. But the key is to find a family that is not too greedy.We have all been through this story and there are 100,000s with same story. Unless you are in Thailand and with her everyday you have no idea what she is doing and who she is with. If you are able to compartmentalize and this ia a two-week holiday sex with your young 45kg hotness, then thats good. Some cant and think relationship has a chance remotely thats when the challenges really start
OMG what a setup, I've heard everything and anything goes on in Thailand- "Know one girl who has expat boyfriend but married to a Thai in isaan and he is introduced as her brother when the expat is in the village and when he he leaves husband and wife go back together"
Totally agree with Peter,unless you stay here & live with them,you have no idea what they are doing. It is all about the money, there are a lot of poor people here,they see foreigners as an ATM,that's what it's all about
He sounds like a good man with a good loving heart. He should realize that he can't make a bar girl his girlfriend and wife. She only cared about money and herself.
I barfined a gogo dancer 24 years ago. We are still together today. We live together in the USA and her teenage children have moved to the states as well. It is my third marriage and is a great one. Neither of us are going anywhere away from each other. All is good.
I would say this fellow took a crash course in Thai bar girl culture, and it cost him around 200K Thai baht. That would be around $6K USD. I would say he got off easy compared to some of the fellows who sponsor or marry these girls or throw money at them through Only Fans or whatever the current fashionable internet site may be. He had fun, was disappointed, and hopefully learned something for $6K.
Probably the cheapest $9k AUD lesson he ever learnt. I have known young Aussie guys to visit Thailand and spend up to 10k AUD on a 3 week crazed fun holiday. So he got off pretty lightly.
Being a Lone wolf sigma kind of guy its easy for me to enjoy 'relationships' with bar girl types. I've been in Asia a few times, spent 3 years in NW Sumatra with a girl. One must always remember these kind of girls are with you for the money. No money , no honey. No matter how hard they try to convince you they love you. So to me they are an employee. It's that simple. I dont bring deep feelings into it. One day I may fire them and they will be replaced by another girl who does the same job. Don't get me wrong I'm friendly, generous, thoughtful and kind. But I have a hard streak in me that keeps me safe.
Don't trust even the girls from the province. Try to have a relationship without money involve. If the lady will stick to your relationship without giving her money she must be the one!
I married two different Asian girls, at different times, both far younger than me, and brought them legally into America, only to have both leave soon after getting their "Green Cards"! But OMG they were hot little Rabbits!
I’m planning my first trip this year. After watching countless videos I think I’ll stick to massage parlors. Walk-in, get serviced, walk out. Rinse and repeat.
First, thank you man, to be honest to yourself and for share your story - I really hope more men learn from it 😢 I still really don’t know, why people, men and women who fall down for romance scammers, pay so much money, before they really know each other for at least some month. 😮 I say months and month for every day, 24/7!! 😮 My wife from Mexico I met online, she asked her sister for money to visit had live with me for 90 days in Europe❤ That’s how it supposed to be - if there really something like „I fall in Love“❤. To say „I love you“ after few days ore weeks, this can NOT be real and true love. 😢 Love grows, love needs much more than few funny days and nights. 😢 Take care boys and girl, I’m sure there some here as well. 😊 Live now and today ❤ PS: I’m a 65 years young man😊 With a “little bit” experience about life and love❤
Well, I just ended a 12 month distant relationship with a bar girl who I got to see over 4 trips last year. Things started out ok as she always stayed at my hotel without the need to pay her money or bar fines. However, after an initial few weeks of being with her she decided to finish work at 10.00pm instead of the usual 2.00am... ok fair enough but then she began to take days off work so as to spend more time together..... Guys, it just gets tiring after a while and I was beginning to miss my alone time to a point where it was simply suffocating to be with her....However, it did cost me in other ways eg: breast implants and gold totalling about 100,000TBH...yep, I’m an idiot and consider myself lucky to have escaped from a Thai love affair once again..... Happy hunting!
I can understand about the need for alone time. Has happened to me many times while in Asia. These girls want to cling onto you. It’s their escape. Their chance for money too. I had to cut it off many times. I knew where this was going. Couldn’t do it. No way. Better to be free and single.
Did she ever take you to a temple to pray together? I believe you were charmed and then you have to part with your money. Beware of this as its very common in Thailand
I had a girl from Bali who was a massage 💆♀️ girl same thing she went to work in a bar to get extra money 💰 always wanted money from me when I met her we had an arrangement that was the best thing that happened because I'd have lost all my money 😮
Ahh, the video brings back so many memories of walking from Soi 4 to see my Taylor at Soi 11, oh well, be back to Thailand in 1 month. Ahh, the left turn at 5:43, yep, that's Soi 4, walk down a bit and the Hooter restaurant on the right and the infamous Nana Plaza on the left. The Dynasty Inn, at 7:26 is a decent cheap hotel, but I stay at the Novotel/Ibis hotel seen on the left at 9:42. Great Hotel, a bit expensive, but have a rooftop pool.
follow up comment after finishing the video. The last couple stories have had somewhat decent endings where the guy kind of comes out with a win by avoiding a toxic snake. But man there is always an expense to pay for said win financially.
Sounds like he really dodged a great financial bullet. Count your lucky stars. And she'll get him blacklisted from Thailand for not giving her 600,000 baht? 😅
You had a a lucky escape - others have lost THB millions. I got booted out after ten years legal married lost THB zillions. So whether you treat it having a wife like a long-term GFE the mindset has to be like a long-term lease as rights favour the locals. If goes wrong, no refunds policy is in place. Once its over unless you really smart using companies to protect thai assets in a world of financial pain. I wasnt smart enough even then she tried to destroy evidence of bank payments and bank statements over ten years to demonstrate actual family funding She then claimed never paid family maintenance paid her nothing for our kids etc. Really nasty. All you can do is lick your wounds and try to make up the money lost again work again and dont make same mistake.
You f'ing said kids right? Then it's about being a father to your children now. You need to be there for them and show them that you care - if you hurt them because she's a goof you are kicking EVERY one of us that has had our kid/s kidnapped by abusive (FAR FAR WORSE AMERICAN WOMEN) You barely even mention them.. They will NEED you the second that they don't have you./ trust me I never had a father. I went to court 8 times and fina;l day was Sept 12th 2001. I paid her $10,000 of my student loan and she threw out my mail I never got course credit. Disapeared with my daugher across the countryu. Had her at asge 16
I found a girl in China who wanted nothing but walks together. I paid for some small things for her, she loved flowers, I paid for meals in very simple side street restaurants, she only drank the cheapest Chinese white liquor which was 40 cents for a hip flask, and gee we had great fun in those early days. Anyway, eventually we became engaged over a year later, then I started to realise she was playing me ... she was in fact quite wealthy! She had been testing me all that time, to make sure I was kind, generous, hard working, loyal etc and once she was satisfied, she started showing me her wealth little bit at a time. 18 years later still together, very happy, and I still am happy to get around with $20 in my pocket and no need for more, always been a simple person of simple needs, I have never taken advantage of her wealth, not once.
200000 for a bar girls dowry + 400000 for the home lol, geez this guy must have come off like a total mark for them to propose that or they must have been a terrible family...but then I heard this all got hooked up in less than 3 months, and I was like yeah this guy was a mark. Under 3 months and you fall in love and are crying over a bar girl and were buying her back her gold from the pawnbrokers? fffff
I have similar failed love story with a Kasem Bundit University student in Bangkok. I met her on Facebook. I visited her twice and her Facebook was my eye opener. You can take out a bargirl from bar but you can\t take bar out of her.
What a story ^^ Hehe. Not bad. I really love the stories here. Nice Sois choosen for video too ^^ THe problem is, until very far into the video, everything could have been true too. I know, the chance is high that it will be a lies but i had various experiences where i thought it was a lie and turned out to be true. Its not that easy imo. I just know ive started enough "fights" because i didnt trust her, for no reason. But of course, way too much money involved.... One simply shouldnt offer so much help if one expects something in return
Great story. There all the same these bar girls money moment and cannot be trusted lie after lie lots of red flags in the story I hope the story is read by someone else and saves them from a similar situation as this guy . He seemed besotted in love . A fool and his money are easily parted comes to mind . he's lucky he didn't send the 400000 Bhatt for the so called house .. Keep these stories coming.. 👌😊
A fool and his money are soon parted. Nobody on the planet is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes. I hope during this sordid saga that there are lessons learnt for a lifetime.
Had exactly the same thing happen to a friend quite a few years ago. What she didn't take into account is his friend (me) happens to deal with scammers and crooks. One keylogged PC and we have all the information required to have her deported. Name, Passport, Family - everything was fake.
Go over there to have a good time. Don't go over there to find a girlfriend or a wife. You can have a great time with the Thai girls just understand that it's about the money for most of them and know how to say NO! Also, don't go there with a scarcity mindset. There are tons of girls that will spend time with you. If they overstay their welcome by becoming too demanding, just finish up with them and move on to the next one.
Unfortunately this happens all the time. I lived in Asok area Bangkok with husband and kids for years until we left January 2023. My husband and I had relationship problems and to make a long story short; he had a lover like you and I found out he pays her salary every month for a year and on top of that a big lump some. Altogether more than 300,000 baht. At the same time our daughters suffered and me as well, depending on his income. I knew this lady and confronted her saying her salary is finished. She got crazy screaming and telling me what a slut I am and how bad I am as a mother etc. She was acting nuts… I got scared and decided to move back to my home country with my daughters since she knew where we lived. I was afraid of the mafia behind this industry which it is. Take good care. Lesson learned and many men like you end up there. Talked to a western lawyer about this story and worked in Bangkok for 30-40 years
when a guy isn't getting a long the temptation is too much in Thailand, Thai women actively go after westerners. It's a good thing I don't live there, although I sure wouldn't be paying someone a lot of money at the expense of the family.
Very sorry to hear about your cheating husband. Any man who suggests to their family to move to an area with huge red light district is a red flag, im sure u know that lol. Best of luck and stay strong! Some places are good for vacas only for single men.. glad u moved.
@@paulynz5631: Yeah ok but this guy said in his story that this was a bargirl and bargirls charge mostly 1000 THB per day. GoGo girls asking probably and this is Pattaya or things must have change the last few years
Sorry to hear that but remember they're not only women in Thailand they're also women in Vietnam Cambodia and other surrounding areas plenty to choose from
my ex ph girl is in court now and I hope to get my money back. at least I made a agreement for the money that I send after I found out that she was lying, stealing and cheating.. no winder the love scamms are so massive in this countries.. its so easy to get away with it.
You are not the only person to fall for that ploy. It is a standard track, and few are available that did not get a similar scenario. I was set to send a Bt500k Sin Sod (Dowry) for a divorcee Thai lady, but I came to my senses. Could gave gone wrong but thankfully didn't. Good story mate.
I've heard so many stories from Thailand on this channel and others . I always take the guy's side, and i really do love the happy ending, but this time it's all on you, buddy ....
5000 bath was kinda much, but maybe that is normal these days. Its quite normal to send money to take care of family, especially for poor family. As far as i know, there is now way any girl can get you blacklisted, its just not happening, unless she is from upper high society, but then again if she was just that, she would not ask for money in this way, and of course you wouldn't likely have met her in a bar ether. A bar girl by all means can make a mess for you at a local place, say in a smaller village or something, but if it was on say Phuket, she could maybe make som fuss on a local street or so, but, if you just to be sure, went to another beach, you'd be safe. Bar girls often let there mouth run wild, when they get upset or angry. Most easy way is to keep your stuff straight, pay your debts, then no one can get to you, and if a girl still talk bad to you, just tell her to F of , and then you leave, there is tons of girls around, no reason to take any crap from em.
Every bar girl needs money badly. Their goal is finding foreigner who can take care of them and also their families. That's why they can sleep with you very easily after meeting at bar once you paid. So my recommendation as a Thai man is enjoy your life with the bar girls just paid her and done. Don't continue any relationship just move on. Once you know Thailand more then you will meet many normal working Thai girls in the city by friends or friends of friends. Believe me you will get a good one and don't have only to pay for everything.
Seems like the best advice. I get that it would be very easy to fall in love with them but to try and remember the hard truth of it all. Which is what you said really.
Drug habits are expensive
I'm a woman who has no idea why the algorithm sent me this channel, but I'm finding your videos to be fascinating. You're a great narrator and the stories themselves are more than interesting!
The only red flag that counts is the first request for money. Turn down the request and immediately cut all contact with the person. Once there's one request for money, they won't ever stop.
Thanks very much for the video!
Yes, same thing with "friends" that you know. Once you offer to help once, they keep hounding you until you stop.
Big head goes to philippenes little.head takes over.
Big head we were algood before you took over our holiday.😅😅
Great story.... thanks.
First mistake..... splashing the cash... that's like shit attracting the flies😅😅
ewery woman need pay, have thailand or home country, newer not have FREE.
That's true everywhere. You start spreading cash, and you will get fake friends, lovers and so forth.
Cut off the cash, and you will find out who her real friends are.
So many people will watch this video, know the red flags and it will still happen to them.
It's because people won't believe a story thinking it wont't happen to them until it does! people have to make their own mistakes to learn from them.
Yes this topic just keeps giving lol.
@@octane8267 Bullshit! I don't!
no you are wrong...
yea but we have all been there done that i remember my first trip i felt like a rock star young girls' model material. throwing them self at my feet n I'm far from model material.
Shit there could have been a naked girl jumping up n down in the street waving a RED flag like a mattoir about to fight a bull n i would have walked straight past her n not seen a thing!
You need to look at it as a business transaction. Do NOT get all loved up with a bar girl 🤦🏼♂️ I’m so glad I’m a butterfly and don’t get suckered by these girls!
I love being a butterfly in Bangkok. 🦋
@@cameronrussell9362 best way to be. Don’t allow yourself to be fleeced by these greedy women.
You can love a bar girl and marry her, but under the normal situation you would marry anyone. Just don't get strung along.
Exactly. That's why we go to Bangkok. It's not to find a stray human to feed and support and worry about for months after flying back home. @@cameronrussell9362
That makes two of us... 5000 THB for one day is way too much for a bar beer girl
At 56... i am just now experianced enough to not fall for this scam. Take it easy on these guys! I am just glad that i never visited in my youth.. or i would be telling MY sad story also.
No you wouldn't have. When I first visited Pattaya, I was 18 and learned their ways. I've visited Bangkok a few times, but armed with the knowledge I gained in Pattaya and Subic Bay (Olongapo was the same scene).
Listening to these stories I realized the best experience in Thailand is alone , just enjoying life without any strings attached.
Man you fell in love . Had fun. She probably got to understand how lovely she is and how much money she could make. Sad story but I have heard much worse. I am English and live in Thailand
I met a girl at work. Tall( for a Thai girl - 180cm), college educated and can do anything. I married her 6 years later. Now we have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. She has only ask me for two things in our lives together, a Shaw while we’re in a cold airport in Taipei, and a phone for her mom when hers broke and mom watches the kids while we are at work. My wife is a fine partner and now mother. She is conservative and hard working. I love her more each day during the last 13 years.
Thai people are very loyal and family orientated.
If you meet someone in a bar, it’s a crapshoot no matter what country you are in.
So true.... and I'm glad you both found love and happiness! :)
She wasn't a bar girl though was she
@@Thingymajigsno no no no
I married a Thai nurse in 1986 and we are still married.
A nurse not a bar girl…glad you are together still
excellent 🙏
You Play You Pay / You Can Take Bar Girl Out of the Bar But you can Not take Bar Out of the Bar Girl (:
Last time a heard that a fell off my dinosaur
True
That's not true... it's up to you and her how a relationship develops
You can take the bar girl out of the bar, but you can't change the fact the whole bar been inside her.
One way to have an upper hand is not to give a 💩.
The person who cares less have the upper hand, although you can get out bidded out by a higher bidder. With that said, you need to be able to fold your hand.
This also goes with not responding if you get the silent treatment and other stupid games they will play.
You saw the movie Ghost of my ex-girlfriends past. That’s Michael Douglas line 😊
Never chase them or write/call first. If they ignore you, ignore them. They will always cave in and contact you because they want your money.
At least you didn't get her pregnant. That would have been a true disaster.
This guy is every bar girl's dream. Dume and full of money 😂🎉
Imagine calling someone dumb and spelling "dumb" wrong.
Ohh you are one of them. I bet you never had 😺 in your home country... Now you are looking for love in Thailand... You will get there mate, I believe in you 🤞🏻
Ah dume comment, sorry, I mean “dumb”.
Hot bar girls have many foreign boyfriends that send them money overseas. My Thai gal initially told me up front she did not want my money and 7 years later she has been true to her word to this day
Was she a bargirl tho?
No use me saying more fool you, at least you still have most of your money. Been there done that, bought my bag to Australia from Pattaya, did not go well, wanted me to give parents a heap of money, when I said no, she fell out of love, just told her to FO and left her in Issan. Best decisionof my life, they (and parents) have all the excuses to screw you. Remember, you can tell a Thai is lying, their lips move
Last sentence sums it up. You can not have a meaningful relationship with a bar girl, you just can't.
Not true. You can. But you can't be shallow and stupid and expect something out of nothing.
Yes you can I'm living proof.. both met in our 20s, now been married for 8 years, two kids and both live in UK.. she's never asked me for anything
rubbish
@@lukestar590you are the EXCEPTION to the rule …
You are extremely fortunate
@@rickstalentedtongue910Let me get this straight, the girl is the one after money and you think the man should counter with real love?
Moral of the story, don't get drunk.
I have been going to Thailand, since 2020, and thought i understood Thai women, Thai culture, and married a twenty eight year old, doing all necessary visas at the time to bring her to Australia. After working hard together, in a successful business, sharing the profits for about five years, our relationship started to deteriorate around the time she attained Australian citizenship. I did not want the expensive inevitable divorce, so i walked on egg shells, but she finally traded up. Money and supporting family, i always new were important to a Thai woman, and i nurtured this but from the outset, of our relationship, but the reason i am writing this is because, this carried absolutely no credence, in the end. i did not thoroughly get to know her family and their intrinsic values before committing. Divorce in Australia, can be very expensive if you are trying to find a mutual settlement figure, so my advice is check out the family and especially the mother, before hand.
It's always the mother! My second ex wives' mother left her salt of the earth father for his best friend who was a cardiac surgeon! Needless to say, the divorce did not go well for me. It took me more than a decade to bounce back from the financial ruin she caused in the end.
Poor guys 😢😢😢 some people are desperate for love and there are always people to take advantage!
Happened to millions before him and millions after him.
That's too bad. Gold giggers are everywhere. Love isn't worth this type of shit. Its fake anyway.
Absolutely Would Never Give The Lady Money.
Sad it happened to the guy... However he still won at the end for not marrying the girl. He is still got a "Happy Ending"...
Most bar girls arrived from far away villages and have families at home looking after their kids,so dont be surprised that the bar girl needs to send money home and expects you to pay.
I am here for 25 years.
Have seen so many stories.
Amazong Thailand.
Yeah Slim you got played big time. My Thai Wife and I got married first and while i was away she did everything she said she would. After 32 years of hard work we are both well off. You cant be Naive in Thailand. Other girls I met treated me with long letters of the worst disasters and asking for money with ridiculous stories of kidnapping and wanted ransom money. i didn't pay them and no one should...
I never fell for a bar girl but I once fell off a bar girl. Hurt less. 555.
Best comment.
All standard stuff - When you live in Thailand experiencing contact with isaan girls expats meet in Sukhumvit or Phukhet or Pattaya - Know one girl who has expat boyfriend but married to a Thai in isaan and he is introduced as her brother when the expat is in the village and when he he leaves husband and wife go back together. Also know girls who have 5 different customers at the same time one leaves from the airport and the next arrives. its a commercial business and the girl doesnt love you or like you its all about the cash. But the key is to find a family that is not too greedy.We have all been through this story and there are 100,000s with same story. Unless you are in Thailand and with her everyday you have no idea what she is doing and who she is with. If you are able to compartmentalize and this ia a two-week holiday sex with your young 45kg hotness, then thats good. Some cant and think relationship has a chance remotely thats when the challenges really start
No such thing as an expat ,that’s just what pretentious immigrants call themselves .
OMG what a setup, I've heard everything and anything goes on in Thailand- "Know one girl who has expat boyfriend but married to a Thai in isaan and he is introduced as her brother when the expat is in the village and when he he leaves husband and wife go back together"
Totally agree with Peter,unless you stay here & live with them,you have no idea what they are doing. It is all about the money, there are a lot of poor people here,they see foreigners as an ATM,that's what it's all about
I love Thailand amazing country but here we don’t call it the land of smiles it’s known as the land of liars 😂😂
He sounds like a good man with a good loving heart. He should realize that he can't make a bar girl his girlfriend and wife. She only cared about money and herself.
Don't go looking for love as you will never see it, it will happen when you least expect it mate
After she went with that guy from Singapore she would’ve been blocked
Plus he gave her everything too fast didn’t make her earn it
I barfined a gogo dancer 24 years ago. We are still together today. We live together in the USA and her teenage children have moved to the states as well. It is my third marriage and is a great one. Neither of us are going anywhere away from each other. All is good.
Those are rare exceptions but glad you're happy
BAHAHAHA
I guess if you cant find love... you can always buy it !
So you want a cookie?
That is the story worth telling.
Bro, your story is the same as mine, i fell into the same trap in the Philippines.
Feel free to send in the full story if you'd like me to read it out Talesbeyondhorizons@gmail.com
I would say this fellow took a crash course in Thai bar girl culture, and it cost him around 200K Thai baht. That would be around $6K USD. I would say he got off easy compared to some of the fellows who sponsor or marry these girls or throw money at them through Only Fans or whatever the current fashionable internet site may be.
He had fun, was disappointed, and hopefully learned something for $6K.
Probably the cheapest $9k AUD lesson he ever learnt. I have known young Aussie guys to visit Thailand and spend up to 10k AUD on a 3 week crazed fun holiday. So he got off pretty lightly.
These women must be living in beach front homes and driving Ferraris stealing that kind of money
Good luck bro
Being a Lone wolf sigma kind of guy its easy for me to enjoy 'relationships' with bar girl types. I've been in Asia a few times, spent 3 years in NW Sumatra with a girl. One must always remember these kind of girls are with you for the money. No money , no honey. No matter how hard they try to convince you they love you. So to me they are an employee. It's that simple. I dont bring deep feelings into it. One day I may fire them and they will be replaced by another girl who does the same job. Don't get me wrong I'm friendly, generous, thoughtful and kind. But I have a hard streak in me that keeps me safe.
Don't trust even the girls from the province. Try to have a relationship without money involve. If the lady will stick to your relationship without giving her money she must be the one!
I married two different Asian girls, at different times, both far younger than me, and brought them legally into America, only to have both leave soon after getting their "Green Cards"! But OMG they were hot little Rabbits!
That's the problem, they are Hot Little Rabbits
Yes, my ex Thai girfriend came over at 18 with an Airline Pilot, married him got green card and left at 21.
wtf
NEVER EVER lead with your wallet with a woman !
I’m planning my first trip this year. After watching countless videos I think I’ll stick to massage parlors. Walk-in, get serviced, walk out. Rinse and repeat.
@bigbrother8495 with the stuff you comment, I’m starting to think you’ve been fleeced. Feel free to send in your story
@@bigbrother4ever😂😂😂😂😂
Precisely!
Yeah, walk out with somebody elses herpes mate. Good luck with that ! lol
First, thank you man, to be honest to yourself and for share your story - I really hope more men learn from it 😢
I still really don’t know, why people, men and women who fall down for romance scammers, pay so much money, before they really know each other for at least some month. 😮 I say months and month for every day, 24/7!! 😮
My wife from Mexico I met online, she asked her sister for money to visit had live with me for 90 days in Europe❤ That’s how it supposed to be - if there really something like „I fall in Love“❤. To say „I love you“ after few days ore weeks, this can NOT be real and true love. 😢 Love grows, love needs much more than few funny days and nights. 😢
Take care boys and girl, I’m sure there some here as well. 😊
Live now and today ❤
PS: I’m a 65 years young man😊 With a “little bit” experience about life and love❤
Well, I just ended a 12 month distant relationship with a bar girl who I got to see over 4 trips last year. Things started out ok as she always stayed at my hotel without the need to pay her money or bar fines. However, after an initial few weeks of being with her she decided to finish work at 10.00pm instead of the usual 2.00am... ok fair enough but then she began to take days off work so as to spend more time together..... Guys, it just gets tiring after a while and I was beginning to miss my alone time to a point where it was simply suffocating to be with her....However, it did cost me in other ways eg: breast implants and gold totalling about 100,000TBH...yep, I’m an idiot and consider myself lucky to have escaped from a Thai love affair once again..... Happy hunting!
You are not an idiot. You just fell in love. It is easy to do with these girls. If only girls in our own countries knew how to take care of us.
I can understand about the need for alone time. Has happened to me many times while in Asia. These girls want to cling onto you. It’s their escape. Their chance for money too. I had to cut it off many times. I knew where this was going. Couldn’t do it. No way. Better to be free and single.
@@thomaspick4123 amen to that
eventually when you get older, you're going to need someone to take care of you, being single in old age isn't a good thing.
Did she ever take you to a temple to pray together? I believe you were charmed and then you have to part with your money. Beware of this as its very common in Thailand
Ah yes my most anticipated upload of the week. Thank you sir
My pleasure!
Don't hate the player, hate the game.
These stories are fascinating! Amazing how this man was so under her spell despite the fact that she and her family were obviously using him 😔
You always have great stories and I like your reading style, keep them coming!
I had a girl from Bali who was a massage 💆♀️ girl same thing she went to work in a bar to get extra money 💰 always wanted money from me when I met her we had an arrangement that was the best thing that happened because I'd have lost all my money 😮
Great story...I followed you all the way ...twice....now broke but still dreaming....Good luck to you..Sir
Ahh, the video brings back so many memories of walking from Soi 4 to see my Taylor at Soi 11, oh well, be back to Thailand in 1 month. Ahh, the left turn at 5:43, yep, that's Soi 4, walk down a bit and the Hooter restaurant on the right and the infamous Nana Plaza on the left. The Dynasty Inn, at 7:26 is a decent cheap hotel, but I stay at the Novotel/Ibis hotel seen on the left at 9:42. Great Hotel, a bit expensive, but have a rooftop pool.
Lucky you didn't marry
Ever been had? Same old, same old. None will leave to come to wet, windy UK. They got the lot over there, we got nothing here.
-You can take out the girl from a bar, but not the bar from the girl...
I always say screw it like you paid your life savings for the night then everything else that happens after is icing on the cake 😂
follow up comment after finishing the video. The last couple stories have had somewhat decent endings where the guy kind of comes out with a win by avoiding a toxic snake. But man there is always an expense to pay for said win financially.
These men that get scammed are the lonely and desperate ones. Sad to say but true
Great story lesson learned 👍
Sounds like he really dodged a great financial bullet. Count your lucky stars. And she'll get him blacklisted from Thailand for not giving her 600,000 baht? 😅
Your honesty is very admirable!
Great narrator and amazing history to keep man aware of this situation
You had a a lucky escape - others have lost THB millions. I got booted out after ten years legal married lost THB zillions. So whether you treat it having a wife like a long-term GFE the mindset has to be like a long-term lease as rights favour the locals. If goes wrong, no refunds policy is in place. Once its over unless you really smart using companies to protect thai assets in a world of financial pain. I wasnt smart enough even then she tried to destroy evidence of bank payments and bank statements over ten years to demonstrate actual family funding She then claimed never paid family maintenance paid her nothing for our kids etc. Really nasty. All you can do is lick your wounds and try to make up the money lost again work again and dont make same mistake.
You f'ing said kids right? Then it's about being a father to your children now. You need to be there for them and show them that you care - if you hurt them because she's a goof you are kicking EVERY one of us that has had our kid/s kidnapped by abusive (FAR FAR WORSE AMERICAN WOMEN) You barely even mention them.. They will NEED you the second that they don't have you./ trust me I never had a father. I went to court 8 times and fina;l day was Sept 12th 2001. I paid her $10,000 of my student loan and she threw out my mail I never got course credit. Disapeared with my daugher across the countryu. Had her at asge 16
I found a girl in China who wanted nothing but walks together. I paid for some small things for her, she loved flowers, I paid for meals in very simple side street restaurants, she only drank the cheapest Chinese white liquor which was 40 cents for a hip flask, and gee we had great fun in those early days.
Anyway, eventually we became engaged over a year later, then I started to realise she was playing me ... she was in fact quite wealthy!
She had been testing me all that time, to make sure I was kind, generous, hard working, loyal etc and once she was satisfied, she started showing me her wealth little bit at a time.
18 years later still together, very happy, and I still am happy to get around with $20 in my pocket and no need for more, always been a simple person of simple needs, I have never taken advantage of her wealth, not once.
200000 for a bar girls dowry + 400000 for the home lol, geez this guy must have come off like a total mark for them to propose that or they must have been a terrible family...but then I heard this all got hooked up in less than 3 months, and I was like yeah this guy was a mark. Under 3 months and you fall in love and are crying over a bar girl and were buying her back her gold from the pawnbrokers? fffff
its sad to say but he would have to be a dumb ass, to fall for this shit wow
Just stay away from bar girls.
Amsterdam Window Girl Stole All My Money. When I Said Give It Back,She Replied F.Off
wow really ? they lease the windows form the city or the government for a fee - you could definitely complain and possibly get your money back
Ha ha ha ha
A fool an his money are easily parted
Your lucky you woke up in time bloke could of been a lot worse
I have similar failed love story with a Kasem Bundit University student in Bangkok. I met her on Facebook. I visited her twice and her Facebook was my eye opener. You can take out a bargirl from bar but you can\t take bar out of her.
Just put it this Way,you paid in all 4000 £for the time of your life and an experience you will never forget
Good stories 😊
What a story ^^ Hehe. Not bad. I really love the stories here. Nice Sois choosen for video too ^^
THe problem is, until very far into the video, everything could have been true too.
I know, the chance is high that it will be a lies but i had various experiences where i thought it was a lie and turned out to be true. Its not that easy imo.
I just know ive started enough "fights" because i didnt trust her, for no reason.
But of course, way too much money involved.... One simply shouldnt offer so much help if one expects something in return
Girls know you are a big spender and jealousy and greed easily sets in
Great story. There all the same these bar girls money moment and cannot be trusted lie after lie lots of red flags in the story I hope the story is read by someone else and saves them from a similar situation as this guy . He seemed besotted in love . A fool and his money are easily parted comes to mind . he's lucky he didn't send the 400000 Bhatt for the so called house .. Keep these stories coming.. 👌😊
your a good man never let this happen again to you again never trust those girls
A fool and his money are soon parted. Nobody on the planet is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes. I hope during this sordid saga that there are lessons learnt for a lifetime.
Don't flash the cash overseas, guys. Act like a blue collar guy even if you're a millionaire.
Had exactly the same thing happen to a friend quite a few years ago. What she didn't take into account is his friend (me) happens to deal with scammers and crooks. One keylogged PC and we have all the information required to have her deported. Name, Passport, Family - everything was fake.
It's a shame that Thailand seems to have a large majority of gorgeous women, but, it's strictly about the money.
Go over there to have a good time. Don't go over there to find a girlfriend or a wife. You can have a great time with the Thai girls just understand that it's about the money for most of them and know how to say NO! Also, don't go there with a scarcity mindset. There are tons of girls that will spend time with you. If they overstay their welcome by becoming too demanding, just finish up with them and move on to the next one.
Not true, in thailand most of the women including gorgeous women, work regular jobs and are very family oriented.
Unfortunately this happens all the time. I lived in Asok area Bangkok with husband and kids for years until we left January 2023. My husband and I had relationship problems and to make a long story short; he had a lover like you and I found out he pays her salary every month for a year and on top of that a big lump some. Altogether more than 300,000 baht. At the same time our daughters suffered and me as well, depending on his income.
I knew this lady and confronted her saying her salary is finished. She got crazy screaming and telling me what a slut I am and how bad I am as a mother etc. She was acting nuts… I got scared and decided to move back to my home country with my daughters since she knew where we lived. I was afraid of the mafia behind this industry which it is. Take good care. Lesson learned and many men like you end up there. Talked to a western lawyer about this story and worked in Bangkok for 30-40 years
when a guy isn't getting a long the temptation is too much in Thailand, Thai women actively go after westerners. It's a good thing I don't live there, although I sure wouldn't be paying someone a lot of money at the expense of the family.
Very sorry to hear about your cheating husband. Any man who suggests to their family to move to an area with huge red light district is a red flag, im sure u know that lol. Best of luck and stay strong! Some places are good for vacas only for single men.. glad u moved.
next girl, please! 😂
5000 THB next morning?? I thought it was 1000 per day...
Lt should be around 3000 THB.
@@paulynz5631 that was in Bangkok, a bit more pricey than Pattaya
@@paulynz5631: Yeah ok but this guy said in his story that this was a bargirl and bargirls charge mostly 1000 THB per day. GoGo girls asking probably and this is Pattaya or things must have change the last few years
@@Crypto_Jefe Ah ok so 3000 - 5000 per day is the average amount which a bargirl in bkk charges?
Thanks for sharing your story
Sorry to hear that but remember they're not only women in Thailand they're also women in Vietnam Cambodia and other surrounding areas plenty to choose from
thailand tourist have one important rule, same bar girl not ewer meet twice, alltime take new not same ewer again.
Great Story My Man🔥
great narrative, well done
wow...seems there are a lot of people out there with more money than sense, glad you got out when ya did, best of luck, expensive lesson
Wanting and getting are two different things.
Never get involved with a bar girl.
my ex ph girl is in court now and I hope to get my money back. at least I made a agreement for the money that I send after I found out that she was lying, stealing and cheating..
no winder the love scamms are so massive in this countries.. its so easy to get away with it.
You are not the only person to fall for that ploy. It is a standard track, and few are available that did not get a similar scenario. I was set to send a Bt500k Sin Sod (Dowry) for a divorcee Thai lady, but I came to my senses. Could gave gone wrong but thankfully didn't.
Good story mate.
As long they are in the environment, is all a show. No money no honey the old saying. Happy you got out in just 3 months. Counting your blessing.
I've heard so many stories from Thailand on this channel and others .
I always take the guy's side, and i really do love the happy ending, but this time it's all on you, buddy ....
My Thai wife has lived with me in UK 20 years!!! Never once asked me for money!!! Apart from visa stuff!!!
yeah you gotto keep you heart gaurded here! poor bloke i feel for him
I hope she was good
5000 bath was kinda much, but maybe that is normal these days.
Its quite normal to send money to take care of family, especially for poor family.
As far as i know, there is now way any girl can get you blacklisted, its just not happening, unless she is from upper high society, but then again if she was just that, she would not ask for money in this way, and of course you wouldn't likely have met her in a bar ether.
A bar girl by all means can make a mess for you at a local place, say in a smaller village or something, but if it was on say Phuket, she could maybe make som fuss on a local street or so, but, if you just to be sure, went to another beach, you'd be safe. Bar girls often let there mouth run wild, when they get upset or angry. Most easy way is to keep your stuff straight, pay your debts, then no one can get to you, and if a girl still talk bad to you, just tell her to F of , and then you leave, there is tons of girls around, no reason to take any crap from em.
He opened his heart and wallet ASAP... and all she saw was a sucker with money. Rough lesson.
thank you for your honesty, cheers bro stay strong
Sounds like the case of starstruck. It happens to us all sometimes.
Please make a follow-up video of how you were able to afford all this! 😅
Bar girls are great as long as you dont fall in love
You dodged a bullet!! Glad you came to your senses.