DATING A TRANS PERSON WHEN YOU'RE CIS | Q&A
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 มิ.ย. 2024
- Would you ever date a trans person? I hope this video shed some light on the fact that we're not so different from cis people!
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I'm a cis girl and I never hesitated dating a trans person regardless of where they are in their process. Not to sound like the open minded special snowflake but....it really is the personality for me.....
doesn’t make you a snowflake - just makes you a normal person. anyone who disagrees with you and wouldn’t date a trans person simply bc they’re trans is straight up transphobic lmao
@@aktdoa this is my first time seeing this channel. I've always had my curiosities on how that would go but I've only had a crush on one trans person from my school and we never dated because they thought I didn't like them cuz they were trans T^T. I found out after I graduated lol. I really love seeing MaryV and Chella Man, one of my fav couples. Trans people are very beautiful and easy to love in my eyes
@@aktdoa Okay I am trans but I disagree. Everyone has their preferences. Some trans people don't want to date other trans as well....
Same bro
@@aktdoa no they are not it just means they like normal women
Really nice to see you both in this video :D For the bi-/pansexual matter, to my mind, to be bi is to be attractive to two or more genders and to be pan is to be attracted to someone regardless of their gender. So, in that case, of course, you don't "need" to be pan to date a trans person. For a pan, it shouldn't matter and for a bi, a trans guy is still a guy (and vice versa with trans girl) so I don't see where the problem is ^^'
that's an interesting way of explaining it, thanks! Personally I would describe my bisexuality as how you described pansexuality - I don't take people's gender identities into account when it comes to whether or not I'm attracted to them. But that's how I've always perceived bisexuality, it was never a "one or the other" type thing for me; I think the sayings "attracted to two or more genders" and "attracted to people regardless of gender" are equivalent.
@@aktdoa Indeed, I think many definitions are valid. The difference between Bi and Pan is kind of blurred in a way. The most important thing is to be in alignment with yourself and to be able to communicate about it :)
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It's not transphobic for someone not to want to date someone because they're trans if the reason is that they're not attracted to people of a certain sex or gender. If it's based on negative views about trans people specifically, then it's transphobic.
Also trans guys are definitely better. :P
Yeah, like we stated in the video, neither of us think that saying you don't want to date someone is transphobic unless your specific reasoning has something to do with the fact that they are trans. Like, if you tell me you don't date redheads, that's weird, but not transphobic. But if you tell me you won't date me because I'm trans, THAT is just transphobia.
@@aktdoa what if you only date people you want to have children with? Is that transphobic?
? trans people can have children lmao what are you talking about
@@aktdoa I’m a girl, how am I having a child with a trans man ffs? Are you thick?
ur both so pretty
thank u! :)
Gaia is beautiful and comes off as really kind and down to earth. You make such an adorable couple and I'd love more of these couple videos!
It's normal to be camera shy I think, I know that whenever I see a video of someone it might not be the same as how they'd be face to face so don't worry too much Gaia :) Very interesting video!
tysm for watching! 🤠
She definitely should start her own TH-cam channel. That’s been the best decision I’ve ever made like going back and looking at all the memories. Pictures are great but videos are way more fun to look back at. Great video by the way🤩🤩
this was a very fun and informative video :) it's also nice to see Gaia in your videos
she needs to be in more!!
@@aktdoa i’d love that!
Bro u look like a solid mixture of harry styles Niall horan and ed Sheeran 👌🏾
I am in between being a pansexual and bisexual, it's hard to find the difference. But what matters is a personality and a soul
First off: this is really sweet, y'all are lovely etc.
Second off: I don't know how this myth got started that being pan means being attracted to trans people. As someone who is both very trans & very pan, I want to be super clear:
Being pan *does* mean being attracted to people irrespective of sex & gender: women (trans or otherwise), men (trans or otherwise) & all the colours of the nonbinary rainbow from agender to pangender).
That *does* specifically include nonbinary people. If someone's attracted to masculine men & feminine women but not enbies, that's fine & all, and it's another perfectly valid type of bisexual experience, but it's not pansexuality - not even if some of those masculine men & feminine women happen to be trans.
Being pan does *not* mean being attracted to women/men who are trans rather than cis. Men are men & women are women; trans-vs-cis status has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with it. If a straight woman dates a trans dude, that doesn't make her any less straight - dating dudes is a very straight-girl thing to do. If a lesbian is attracted to a trans woman, that does not make her pan.
It's really frustrating because this myth makes it sound like pansexuals are transphobic & think of binary trans men as not really men - & ditto trans women - when in reality a lot of us (like a lot a lot) are nonbinary trans ourselves.
This is a great comment, you really broke pansexuality down into something easily understandable - thank you so much for that. I'll admit that I haven't really ever had a clear picture of pansexuality in my head, mainly because my own bisexuality crosses off a lot of the same points your pansexuality does (Like, in my head, I describe me being bisexual as me not being attracted to one or two specific genders, but rather my attraction to someone has nothing to do with their gender at all - like it doesn't even cross my mind, if you're hot you're hot, etc)..
Not sure if that's the "best" way to go about defining it, but that's just what bisexuality means to me, and I'd only ever heard people equate pansexuality to trans people specifically, so again I really appreciate your comment/explanation!
@@aktdoa yeah the people that equate pansexuality to trans people are panphobic, biphobic, and transphobic
- a trans macs bi/pan person
You Guys helped me Alot! Thank You
you guys are gorgeous 💗
This video is great, you and your partner seem like lovely people!
tysm :') she's the best
Dakota, I think (when appropriate) it is better to have Gaia in your videos. She doesn't need to run her own channel if she prefers her other platforms. But I think it helps you to make better videos sometimes to have a conversation format with someone you agree with.. I appreciated this video very much, and look forward to more of your videos with you and your girlfriend together.
If somebody doesn't want to date a trans person and they don't tell anybody the reason why (given that there's no obligation to do so), does it actually matter what that reason is?
If a trans person doesn't want to date another trans person (this actually happens), is that transphobic?
Did Gaia have a trans boyfriend before? I thought she said she did but then she said she had never kissed anyone even though she was bi and had a trans boyfriend. Maybe I did not understand.
So cute that you were her first 😭💯
My dear brother where do we find ladies like her ? It’s not going well for me in Maryland at all
You just Xin à follow from France ! You guys are so adorable
whoa thanks!! hello from Italy 👋
i know this video is a year old but i can’t get myself to give myself the shot. the thought of stabbing the needle in freaks me out so i’ve been going to the doctors every week and they do it. but it would be so much easier if i could do it myself. any tips on how to get over it and just do it?
where do you do your shots? changing the location might help! otherwise, i usually put on music or a good show/youtube video to watch that distracts me. i take a hot shower before too, it helps me feel loose and less tense about everything. my girlfriend used to also sit with me in the bathroom for moral support :)
You guys are a very sweet couple.
thanks!
They are drop dead gorgeous and this is random but he has the cutest little nose 😅.
cool video! i have a question fro you, is it hard to get another form of t besides shots i don't like needles. and do you have to start t with needles i would like to use the patches because i don't have to worry about getting it on anyone or needles.
I'm not 100% sure, because I've never used any method OTHER than shots..If you'd like to start on another method I'd recommend talking to your doctor about that first.
I've heard that the gel and patches can be pretty pricey if your insurance doesn't cover them, though, and the people I've spoken to about gel say it's a nuisance trying to keep up with the rules for application. I think Sam Collins has experience with both gel and patches (here's his video about using patches: th-cam.com/video/RNXAggw84jM/w-d-xo.html) so I'd check him out!
@@aktdoa Ok i will check it out. thanks for your help
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"Good Evening everybody🤨" LOL
I have a question. Is there still any concern for STDs? and how do you approach staying safe?
There are always concerns for STDs in any relationship, cisgendered or trans, heterosexual or queer, monogamous or poly, etc., so I'm not sure what you're asking
@@aktdoa I think I typed before I thought about it.
My question is what is Gaia ethnicity ? I love her accent
Where'd you get your G necklace? I love it
it was a gift that my girlfriend got me for our first christmas together! G for Gaia :) so im not sure where she got it 😅
@@aktdoa cool that’s very nice of her I’m glad you two are together you make an adorable couple
I have been starting to talk to a Trans Female to Male, I really kind of like and he seems to like me, it will be a while new experience, because I did like a Trans guy, same as above before and they got judgemental toward me because I was 15 years older I'm 41, he is 26, this one is closer to my age at 38 and much more my speed, very open book as I am too, I used to be strait, but now I think I might be Bi, but I don't know I like the more masculine Women as opposed to the soft, honestly I don't know what I am anymore, I just know I like this Guy I'm talking with now and hopes it becomes more.
I think the difference between a trans guy and a cis guy is that we are more in tune with our feminine side and we understand what women go through such as periods etc. And we know what to do to treat periods we also know about female anatomy more and what women like we also know where the clitoris is unlike cis men who wouldn't even know the first thing about how it works cis men also know nothing about periods so its hard for cis girls to tell a cis guys that she's on her peroid and need help because they find it gross when trans men actually understand that having a period is a normal thing for women to have so they're more comforting and we understand women problems in general such as insecurity and the way women are treated in society
I'd like to date and fall in love somebody who has changed into a woman like Gaia however there are so many bloody new words to learn etc, I'd may as well stay single
bisexual women for the win😅
It almost sounds like she has a New York accent
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You guys cute 💙
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Nice :)
she *cornered you in the kitchen* and was like 👁👄👁
😊 such a cute couple😊
How does a trans man embraces his feminine side? Someone reply 👍
hey! i made a video talking about this recently, give it a watch, and let me know if you have any more questions after!
HOW TESTOSTERONE CHANGED MY SENSE OF MASCULINITY: th-cam.com/video/IrvrSgtUO9U/w-d-xo.html
Did anyone else recognise that transmen are so kind and emotional like women and they are hot looking more then actual men ..iam new to all those trans people and i didn't know that transman also exists bc we always saw transwoman in media but not transman ...me myself I hate to marry and having children with a actual man and want all my life to be single then being in a relationship with toxic men of these days and iam straight not a lesbian but i don't hate the idea to be with a transman if i ever changed my mind...its something new i lately discovered...I think if you don't want to be single and want those big strong masculine shoulder to cry and you Don't trust actual men anymore then a transman is the best option to go for it they have those masculine vibes but they are more emotional creatures like women and understand women more then actual men
Uhh, the VAST majority of trans dudes are NOT VISIBLE TO YOU. Like most real trans people, NO ONE in my life knows my medical history. And no, i dont date. Sucks but i would rather go about life and forget im not bio male, than ever be reminded, in ANY form.
We dont want to have pRiDe...
That is just being outed. I am a dude, not a trans dude.
Uhhh Broski, that’s nice and all but like, a lot of trans men are hyper masculine and emotionally shut off. Yes, many are more understanding of women’s issues but exclusively dating them seems kinda.. Weird. Also pointing out the teensy fact that you said you don’t want to date “real men” implying that you don’t think of trans men as real men which makes it even more weird that you exclusively want to date them only
Your girlfriend is very beautiful, it’s crazy I would never know you were FTM, it’s strange but you were pretty as a women,and as a an man handsome, if l met you now and you would show me family pictures before you started T and had top surgery and you told me your old self was your sister I would believe it without a second thought.
The best thing of dating a trans person is no accidently getting pregnant. Coming from a trans guy.
Some people might think that's a drawback though🤔
This is so true❤❤❤ and i love and support trans men
Yall are a great couple and all but if I dont wanna date someone because their trans thats my prefrence, sorry but it is what it is, and many trans people would heavily disagree with this weird idea thats never had a good arguement for it, but for specifically lets go with the most people disagree with not wanting to dat a trans female because they've had nothing removed from below. Is that transphobic? And even if we dont go with that specifically people have prefences, some black people dont like dating white people is that racist, same the othet way and it keeps going again it is what it is
having a genital preference and not wanting to date someone specifically bc they’re trans are two different things
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Why 'cis' In fact, why all the labels? Why can't you just say man/woman as it is? If you don't put 'trans' in front of man/woman you can just assume you're talking about a biological regular normal man/woman. All these labels nowdays get so tiresome.
the use of “cis” and “trans” in this video is just to clarify my girlfriend and i’s individual gender identities, and to make it easier for viewers to understand our relationship dynamic. i don’t refer to myself as a trans man in everyday life unless i feel it’s necessary:)
Wtf is cis?
“cisgender” (or just “cis”) is used when referring to someone who’s gender identity aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth :) so the opposite of “transgender” (someone who’s gender identity does not align with the sex they were assigned at birth). hope that helps!
@@aktdoa Ok, when was this term invented? Never heard of it before, l live in Europe.
well it’s a latin word, so it’s been around for a while. but i think people started using it when talking about transgender topics in the 1990s
@@aktdoa interesting, im learning something here.
@@owarnert87 She forgot to mention it's a word coined by a pedo. We can just forget about that word and stick to men and women. If there's no 'trans' in front of it we can just assume we're talking about regular biological normal men and women. We don't need all these labels.
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she shouldnt
If you’re dating a ‘trans man’ you’re not ‘cis’. Ijs
the term “cis” relates to someone whose gender identity is the same as the sex they were assigned at birth, and it has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
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