thanks for this! I feel what you said and pretty much agree to all the things you talked about, as a pansexual cis woman I definitely agree on the main difference you spot between being with a man or being with a woman
I pretty much agree with evrything you said, even though I gotta say I am not as well into my transition as you are so obviously the dysphoria aspect of it all is gonna be much bigger. While I personally am very much attracted to men I feel so much dysphoria with them it's crazy, I totally relate to the thing of worryng wether or not they see me as a real man, hell that even happens with my cis guy friends, let alone partners. With trans guys while better I still feel dysphoric and if they are further into their transition than I am I almost feel jealous and dysphoric in away because it makes me feel like they are more of a man than i am and i'm afraid they'll see me as a woman or a ''transtrender'' (Yeah watching conservative trans content as a young teenager really messed me up) or something idk how to explain it. With women I feel more comfortable overall because since they aren't men I don't feel the need to keep up with them in any way to be seen as man enough. I am currently dating a trans woman and it is actually awesome, not only is she the sweetest ever but she can also understand some of the things that cis women don't like my fear of intimacy (wich has been a major problem with the cis women I've dated) or why I feel so upset about transphobia ( wich a lot of cis women don't understand they just tell me to ignore it) with women I never feel jealousy of their gender stuff so even if my gf is further in her transition than I am I don't feel the amount of jealousy and power imbalance as I do with trans men. What I do gotta say is that women breaking your heart feels so much worse and upsetting than men. Carla why you gotta do me like that 😥
I think that many times trans boys come to have a greater appreciation for masculinity, in addition to the fact that they can be less. toxic about it than many straight guys, that in my opinion is a plus in terms of attractiveness. Many gays like me tend to be a little more feminine and sensitive, but the quality of male mental health has such a low bar that you still end up with a lot of psychological problems due to lack of understanding lol 😅
Thanks for this vid bro, I think I'd prefer a T4T relationship if I ever have one but I'm bi, ace (or 'graysexual' but I say ace cos it's easier for most people to understand lol) and also autistic so I feel like I'll be lucky to meet anyone who wants me lmao
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I think you summarised it really well and I agree with you! I can mainly talk about my experiences with men and women as friends, and this totally applies. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed when I'm around women because they kind of overthink everything and feel the need to explain everything and so on, whereas with men everything is much more chill generally. Also, I've been with nb people, and in that case I think everyone is different, but also, it feels great to be with someone who also has an open sense of gender and who will get you and won't judge you for your gender expression or anything like that. (I'm a transmasc nb person, and I currently only really see myself in T4T relationships, my last crushes have all been nb tbh)
Idk if this is just me, but I just watched a video of you from 6 months ago (how you found out you were trans) before this one and your voice seems deeper 😄
i see the moustache growing in.. - i agree on majority of things that were said. to be honest, its the whole other way around for me. where a cis woman wouldnt see me as a real guy but i just feel more comfortable with a cis male
I am a cis gay male and do not see transmen as men. Sorry, just being honest. If you are attracted to men and not women then whatever but didn’t expect gay men to want to date someone who is female.
@@dolliifieddit's a fair comment and useful not everyone will accept you as a sexual partner......and it's not "well not everybody is attracted to everybody" it's a biological thing....
People have natural orientations, and we should not assume that dysphoria or power dynamics are the reason for preferring some gender over another. You're naturally attracted to women or prefer them over men, which is good.
kinda seems like you’re trying to mansplain my own sexuality to me?? i’m not “assuming”, i know that my underlying dysphoria and gender envy towards cis men is reason why i prefer being with women (or at least hesitate to be with men), otherwise i wouldn’t have said that in the video.
thanks for this! I feel what you said and pretty much agree to all the things you talked about, as a pansexual cis woman I definitely agree on the main difference you spot between being with a man or being with a woman
so glad you liked the video and were able to relate :)
I pretty much agree with evrything you said, even though I gotta say I am not as well into my transition as you are so obviously the dysphoria aspect of it all is gonna be much bigger. While I personally am very much attracted to men I feel so much dysphoria with them it's crazy, I totally relate to the thing of worryng wether or not they see me as a real man, hell that even happens with my cis guy friends, let alone partners. With trans guys while better I still feel dysphoric and if they are further into their transition than I am I almost feel jealous and dysphoric in away because it makes me feel like they are more of a man than i am and i'm afraid they'll see me as a woman or a ''transtrender'' (Yeah watching conservative trans content as a young teenager really messed me up) or something idk how to explain it. With women I feel more comfortable overall because since they aren't men I don't feel the need to keep up with them in any way to be seen as man enough. I am currently dating a trans woman and it is actually awesome, not only is she the sweetest ever but she can also understand some of the things that cis women don't like my fear of intimacy (wich has been a major problem with the cis women I've dated) or why I feel so upset about transphobia ( wich a lot of cis women don't understand they just tell me to ignore it) with women I never feel jealousy of their gender stuff so even if my gf is further in her transition than I am I don't feel the amount of jealousy and power imbalance as I do with trans men. What I do gotta say is that women breaking your heart feels so much worse and upsetting than men. Carla why you gotta do me like that 😥
I think that many times trans boys come to have a greater appreciation for masculinity, in addition to the fact that they can be less. toxic about it than many straight guys, that in my opinion is a plus in terms of attractiveness.
Many gays like me tend to be a little more feminine and sensitive, but the quality of male mental health has such a low bar that you still end up with a lot of psychological problems due to lack of understanding lol 😅
That's very validating to hear as a transmasculine person.
Thanks for this vid bro, I think I'd prefer a T4T relationship if I ever have one but I'm bi, ace (or 'graysexual' but I say ace cos it's easier for most people to understand lol) and also autistic so I feel like I'll be lucky to meet anyone who wants me lmao
You are a delight. Period. The more people you meet/contact, the more likely you are to find a compatible person.
Dakota, today is September 17, 2023. Let me wish you a VERY HAPPY birthday, even though it is a day late. You are incredible. I wish I had the privilege of knowing you personally.
I think you summarised it really well and I agree with you! I can mainly talk about my experiences with men and women as friends, and this totally applies. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed when I'm around women because they kind of overthink everything and feel the need to explain everything and so on, whereas with men everything is much more chill generally. Also, I've been with nb people, and in that case I think everyone is different, but also, it feels great to be with someone who also has an open sense of gender and who will get you and won't judge you for your gender expression or anything like that. (I'm a transmasc nb person, and I currently only really see myself in T4T relationships, my last crushes have all been nb tbh)
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Thanks for an honest and insightful video. I learned a lot. Very valuable.
thanks for watching and taking the time to comment!
Idk if this is just me, but I just watched a video of you from 6 months ago (how you found out you were trans) before this one and your voice seems deeper 😄
i see the moustache growing in.. - i agree on majority of things that were said. to be honest, its the whole other way around for me. where a cis woman wouldnt see me as a real guy but i just feel more comfortable with a cis male
I am a cis gay male and do not see transmen as men. Sorry, just being honest. If you are attracted to men and not women then whatever but didn’t expect gay men to want to date someone who is female.
People are so bold nowadays, announcing their transphobia like it’s no big deal to invalidate someone’s identity.
@@xeganxerxes4319 i dont understand why you needed to comment this quite blankly.
@@xeganxerxes4319thoes men who date and heavly prefer trans men are bisexual men .
@@dolliifieddit's a fair comment and useful not everyone will accept you as a sexual partner......and it's not "well not everybody is attracted to everybody" it's a biological thing....
People have natural orientations, and we should not assume that dysphoria or power dynamics are the reason for preferring some gender over another. You're naturally attracted to women or prefer them over men, which is good.
kinda seems like you’re trying to mansplain my own sexuality to me?? i’m not “assuming”, i know that my underlying dysphoria and gender envy towards cis men is reason why i prefer being with women (or at least hesitate to be with men), otherwise i wouldn’t have said that in the video.
So a pointless discussion if he's never had a realtionship with a man.
Comparing a relationship with women to hook ups with men, not the same thing, so not really comparable
Shut up
Is he telling us anything we haven't heard a thousand times before?
Clearly viewing this topic as a woman
And your point being?