Warning Signs She's Emotionally Damaged (Signs She's High Maintenance) WAKUP2LUV - GET A GIRLFRIEND! members.wingmam.com/get-women/ Is she a narcissist or simply rude? Is she emotionally damaged or just insecure? We all have insecurities and don't always act kindly, but when her bad behaviours are chronic or out of control...run away! xo AJ
WingmamTV Is it a red flag my girlfriend lock me in her apartment for nine hours because she couldn’t get her way. Number two when I go to restaurants I am not allowed to talk to female waitresses To suggest moving seats because so many flies of annoying us in the place we are sitting outside the cafe.She gets upset when people walk up to me and talk to me and she gets really angry verbally to the person and to me. She says she can’t trust me to go out anywhere because she doesn’t know who I’m speaking to what I’m saying she cannot monitor what I am saying is this a red flag
WingmamTV what else my girlfriend doesn’t like is that I spent too much time with my mum or my brother she will stop me going camping with my brother and say that I’m stealing time from her and I shouldn’t be going with my brother out camping is this a red flag
WingmamTV when I am sitting in a cafe having a coffee with my girlfriend she accuses me that I’ve been watching women walking past outside which I do not do that she’s always accusing me of Purvin on women and to stop it is this a red flag
WingmamTV is it a red flag when my girlfriend gets upset when one of my work colleague sees me in the shopping centre and comes up and talks to me and his partner standard beside him .my girlfriend she gets upset that I’m wasting time on strangers talking to these people I work with I shouldn’t be doing time with them in a shopping centre because you spend enough time with them at work is this a red flag
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Hey Anna. Just want to say, I enjoy your stuff and watch your videos. Very good advise. It has helped me get over a relationship I really screwed up. Working on the better advise now.
Glad the videos are helpful and I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
so so true..my god..and the sister..they forensically analyze everything to death and th girl youre with even starts parroting what the others say as though its her own views..run!!
Any girl who does that is a loser and doesn't deserve a boyfriend or husband. It shows right away she's against you, she's your enemy that asks others how to navigate/manipulate a relationship in the best way that will benefit her.
Numbers 13, 12, 9, 7, 6(somewhat), 3(she has 1 friend, but always let me know she could get any guy), 1(sees herself as superior to all men and women). Learning these after the fact, but thanks for the list of flags. Thanks Anna!
Unfortunately you carried that poison in you.Just by calling her a B word,you forget you came under her and you are going to want to enter between the same place in another woman unless you gay.Respect her that makes you a better person
Trevor S. I know how you feel 👌. My entire family are narcissists. I respect ALL of them by staying away. It's killing their conscience cause I'm not their punching bag and my business is my secret. Stay blessed and safe 🙏.
@@bestrong1854 Psalm 27:10 - Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me. You're not her gatekeeper, and no one gets into Heaven by obeying some law.
Really appreciate the women out here giving men insight to so many women. I honestly believe that social media and dating apps have lowered the value of most men due to the fact that women have never had so much access to so many options at their fingertips. The fact that roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce speaks volumes about the minefield of dangerous women out there
@@YourWingmam Yep 🎯. I'm 43 and recovering from a very emotionally draining relationship of 5yrs. Now I'm on Tinder to test my value in that realm and it's been brutal. Although I guess I'm doing ok with 20+ matches in a few days, but only 1 has been genuinely making an effort.
I have to admit - this is pretty much all women these days. I think I have a good wife and I love her to bits, but she does at least half of these things.
Best thing, puppy may s*** on yer floor, nothing not fixable with paper towels & lysol. Not enough lysol to fix what a screwed up woman would do to your life.
..... I go to Pattaya , Thailand and enjoy " occasional highlights " ..... no strings attached , no prison bars holding back from the wonderful world -- the way God created for his flock to enjoy ....
Yeah, that right. Each boss my ex worked for started out as the best thing since sliced bread, then 6 months to a year later, they were all dumb as rocks! And these people held the job she wanted and were the ones who elevated her! Go figure!
This one goes with openly soliciting the attention of other guys just to make you jealous. I recall calmly dumping a woman that attempted this tactic, at which point then I became the bad guy. Who needs that buII$hlt?
Through my experience, women who did not have a good father figure while growing up usually exhibit these qualities. Daddy issues destroy women. Men treat your daughters right!
I think it's possible any bloke that is naturally empathetic to help wind back the clock for them . Might take a lifetime but that's what relationships are all about
IF I had seen this in 1995 I would have run for my life. My 2nd wife was 13 of the 15 "Red Flags", and I am dead serious. Very informative,and very true, every word of it hits home....
@halacris I put up with the shit for 13 years, left the idiot (expensive but worth every penny) and have been perfectly happy living alone , tending to my personal needs with "friends". We don't live forever and being happy is the most important thing in life , IMHO.
Meditation and metacognition help them to be a smart, loving, and humble person because the part of practicing meditation, metacognition, and breath techniques is also practicing self-love, empathy, and gratitude and analyzing less, practicing nonjudgment, and learning brain-heart coherence. Analyzing can be ok. But if you analyze too often what you will eat during day, or when you should exercise, it lowers the energy of your body and you feel unnecessary stress. The less you analyze the more energy you feel and the more happy you feel. As some say self-love isnt the same as self-pleasure. Self-love is a long-term feeling and self-pleasure is a short-term feeling. Self-pleasure is more about materialism. Self-love is more about energy, and peaceful mind, getting the nutrients for the body, or learning useful skills, feeling happy and healthy, not analyzing, because analyzis is never 100 percent accurate. You may analyze you calories, you may analyze your friends behavior, yet you never know 100 percent everything but your heart knows because heart isnt based on logical thinking. Therefore heart and love makes you much more easiely start new adventures.
Not necessarily. Those who fix the problem (themselves) and heal said damage don't exhibit these behaviors. Furthermore, you shouldn't (and likely won't) accept anyone that hasn't bothered, once you have done so.
@@jeriredman6762 lol, even if there's a really reasonable opinion on why this isn't a good idea? I mean I had been in therapy for 5 years x'D And I know he's right. Cs my therapist is trying really hard to help me to stop being this "I wanna to fix myself while being in a relationship cs it would be super cute (and faster) growing together!"
My crazy involves more mechanical driven devices like cars and bikes. Not trying to create drama, destroy people via the court system or use children as relationship pawns. 2 different levels of crazy. And most would say one side of that isnt crazy at all.
Same here brother, 16 years of single bliss. I bought a home after my divorce, paid it off in 15 years. Ex made sure I was broke the whole time we were married. NOW EVERYTHING IS PAID FOR.
I have been emotionally damaged (10yr abusive marriage, been free for 4yrs now), so I listened. So thankful this describes more of a narcissistic/abusive woman, than someone healing from past wounds! Thank you for your words of wisdom!
I've seen it time and time again. Men consistently choose emotionally unstable women to get involved with. A crowning signal is having been in and out of therapy, starting at around 12 years of age. Another sure fire signal is suffering from depression. They are likely, at some point, going to try to commit suicide, and they more than likely, will take you with them. These are women who pursue, manipulate situations by lying on other women. They tend to be so insecure that they are catty, and take cheap shots at other women they deem to be their competitions, , and will, by and large, do whatever it takes to get your attention, up to and including thirst photos. By that I mean sexually revealing pics. They are a dangerous, pathetic group of women. Be careful.
@Douglas Farshtey there's nothing wrong with social media... it's the sickos that use it that are scary. It makes it easy for deranged people to constantly others.
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I was chatting with a girl recently that said she was acting differently with me because of things that happened in her past. This always triggers me. 🤣 So I told her straight out that I wasn't going to be held accountable for what other men did and that I wasn't settling for less than what other men got. Now obviously no one is completely free of baggage. We've all made bad choices. But you can choose to treat each person individually. Too many modern women try to project past issues onto you. 👎
Especially since most men can't get away with such behavior unless they have enough money, power, charisma or good looks. Most men still know they can get punched in the face if their behavior is bad enough.
@@MK_ULTRA420 men/boys most certainly do exhibit the same behaviors all the time. I can see a lot of them in varying degrees with kids my daughters have brought home. Subtle little clues I recognize as a 46 year old man that sail straight over the girls head.
My ex checked almost every box. this woman used me left and right and then played the victim when I called out her mask and her entitlement, she didnt like that all and hasn't spoken to me since or taken responsibility and has smeared my name into the ground to save face. Im glad you made this video, it validated lots of things.
@@Jman149 - " You have power over your mind - not outside events - realize this and you will find strength. Nothing can harm you as much as your own thoughts unguarded. The universe is change. Our lives are what our thoughts make of it." - Marcus Aurelius.
Except guys can be narcissists, too. Someone has emotionally abused that woman. This should be called, "How To Not Get Your Bitch Ass Slapped Around," or "Modifying Yourself To His Psychopathy," and possibly, "It's Your Fault If He Rapes You."
@@christinabryant1899 Did you just dismiss that man's suffering, make excuses for the abusive woman, and then reframe the whole thing to be about women's suffering? DARVO much?
@@christinabryant1899 women abuse men as well. not all...remember those last two words....(not all) you can take the woman out of the thread you posted and replace it with men, and it would be true all the same...
I think you might have forgotten what I consider the biggest red flag in the book. She is hyper-aware of people's behaviors and constantly accuses them as being a narcissist, but has absolutely zero insight into her own narcissistic tendencies.
Hmm my only complaint was that he would answer a week after I texted or called him. I was cool with him not having much money. But I think being bitter about that was part of his game. I look at all these women who manage to ‘get’ things from men. Not just material things, but a commit7that almost looks like enslavement lol. I wouldn’t know where to begin with that! But some men don’t respect you unless you are a demanding witch. We have done serious harm to each other.
@Top Noodle I said "some". Where did you read "most? I'm sure you know some perfectly nice guys who are for some reason in relationships with women who ask too much. Isn't that what this video is about, more or less? Jeesh.
My wife was mad at me once. I left for 4 hours came back trash can was smoldering, went inside all pictures on walls were gone, everything sitting on counter was gone, an end table was gone. Went back out found table leg smoldering in can. She left for few days. Doing great now, gotta love redheads.
@@Peterbilt359 My ex-wife destroyed two doors in the house (because I had to lock myself into the room, to avoid her rage) and my grand piano. Then I divorced her.
An eye roll is not unique to humans. It's an evolutionary instinct that says, "If I were afraid of you (if I respected you as a potential foe), then I would need to keep my eyes on you. I'm diverting my ability to sense any putative attacks against me by looking away. Thusly, I'm insulting you by demonstrating that you're beneath my notice." When one rolls one's eyes one's potential foes are beneath one's notice. It's just evopsych. Because an eye-roll, in any species that does so, is a sign of aggression, it's a prompt to the being at which the eyeroll is directed to either attack, or accept the insult unchallenged. The correct response for people with high testosterone (males have 20 times as much as women do) is to respond to an eyeroll from a person of lower threat-worthiness status (a woman or a weak man or child) with greater-than-commensurate responsive aggression, so as to ensure game theoretic compliance to the normative status hierarchy. In other words, the only rational response by males of senior status (and the only rational response by females to lowlier females and children) is deterrent aggression. Just evopsych.
To be quite fair, I am currently trying to work up the guts to walk away from a man who has that exact same switch. I've researched it, and it's called flipping or narcissistic rage. People like that cannot see their partners in a nuanced way, but only as either perfect or broken. They can't accept you as just a flawed but still lovable human being. And this goes for either gender, it's not gender specific. It can be excruciatingly hurtful to be on the receiving end of it.
@@trevkam How on earth does one flip it back again? Female here wanting to know about a male who flips. The only thing that seems to work for me is walking away. Trying to hug him or being nice to him, confronting all the horridness with calmness - that doesn't seem to work, it's like he's on a roll, on a rollercoaster that just can't stop.
All us healthy ladies wish you would have too, because all we see is good guys going for mean girls and breaks my heart to see my guy friends be miserable.
Becos its fake-up and another form of manipulating a man. A form of deception. She might look ok with the clown paint on tonite and you wake up in the morning and she looks like raul or rupaul.😂😁
@@lur3950 thank you for your very helpful story. I am divorced from my highschool sweetheart. Very bitter divorce. Many red flags I overlooked. The divorce agreement was signed 12 years ago, bad agreement. Still in financial straits.
Thank you for this one, Anna! Several years ago, I had the unique opportunity to date my "Wow-girl" from high school. She was 2 grades ahead of me, stunningly beautiful and very popular. We happened to be living in the same city at the time, and a mutual friend set us up. At first, I was feeling like it was a dream come true, but I started to notice her high maintenance rather quickly. She was very possessive... which at first felt like being very loved, but was also bothersome. I soon realized the extent of her High Maintenance attributes. First, all she ever wanted to talk about was "The Relationship". She would corner me and ask questions like "What would you say.. are the biggest things that I bring to this relationship?" or "What is it about me that makes me so much better for you than other women?". Didn't matter that I had answered these same questions before, she liked to keep bringing them up and alwasy wanted new answers. Sometimes I would try to change the topic to one of my interests. She would quickly wave it off and return the topic to "The Relationship". Second, she had unrealistic expectations of me, sometimes completely insignificant things were held to unrealistic standards. Example: One night I got off work and called her as I was walking to my truck. (as she expected me to do) She asked if I wanted to come over. I said that I would like that, but needed to stop by my house and change clothes. She said "When can I expect you?" I said "Well, it's 7:15 now... 10 minutes to home, 10 to clean up and change, then 10 to you place... how about 7:45?" She said that sounded great and we hung up. I got home and one of my pets had gotten into the trash, making a big mess. I cleaned it up and then changed clothes. Noticing it was 7:40, I thought I should call and let her know what happened and why I was going to be a few minutes later than I had anticipated. She sounded a little disappointed and said "Well, when do you think you'll be here then?" I said it would be about 7:50 or so. Well, I got there at 7:48 according to my watch. (I caught all green lights!). When she opened the door I greeted her and went to give her a hug. She stiffened, so I asked what was wrong. She replied "Come in, we need to talk." That is never good in my experience, so once again I asked what the problem was. Rather than answering, she told me that we should go sit in the dining room. Once we walked in I, again asked what was going on. My mind was racing. Is she breaking up with me? Does she have cancer?.. what?!? She said "Why don't you have a seat first. I sat and said "Just tell me! You're kinda freaking me out!" There was a LONG pause as she gathered her thoughts, then "Wheeennn you tell me you are going to arrive at my place at a certain time.... and then you don't show up at that time...... it makes me feel like you don't value me.. that you don't take my feelings into consideration... that you don't love me.." I quickly said "THAT is exactly why I called... to let you know I would be a few minutes later than I had said,.. so you didn't wonder where I was. I was only 4 minutes later than I had originally expected!" She countered with "Oh, don't get me wrong. I appreciate that you called, but the fact still remains... you were late." And that was just an off-the-top-of-my-head example. There were SO many others. She had once told me that I needed to "police myself" so that I could think ahead as to how anything I said or did would affect her. It was exhausting! OK, I've rambled on too long. I'll stop there, but just know there were other High Maintenance issues with her that included her gambling, drinking, and her demon spawn whom she did NOT discipline or control at all, to the point that I avoided going into public with them. I ended up breaking up with her, and she tried to get me back/seduce me on several occasions. I remained firm in my decision though.
Wow, what a ride. She said the “right words” in terms of *how* to ask for her needs to be met, but she was completely unreasonable in those needs. Good you got out when you did!
Yeah, dumb me.... Hitting on her and she complains and when i asked why not block them, ..... Cause that's rude. No bitch, cause you like the attention
@@JD-dv9kc same thing happened to me bro, she is friends with all her exes and after we broke up a week later saw she went on a date with an ex that she wouldn't cut out after contacting her all the time.. I even said he was toxic, but she said it's an inconvenience to change her number..
couldn't agree more. Mine used to consider herself as an Alpha tomboy. She always said I'm a guy but I don't have a penis lmao. And always wanted to be around guys instead of girls
I don't know man, I have a few girl friends that I meet every now and then. Most of my friends are man, also friends of my husband. Just less drama with men, they mean what they say, can take a joke, don't unload every little problem on you and don't act like a bitch if you haven't texted in a week. It's not about sex or attention, it's just about getting together, having fun and everyone gets on with their life. I also don't have to analyse if every conversation they ever had with someone in their life had a double meaning.
Literally so fucking true man, every single girl ive met with a naturally pretty face and good smile and a big ass have ALWAYS been trash or fucks with your head haha you need a 8 out of 10 girl whose down to earth and is mentally stable
Isn't this what most women say about men? That they're all the same and not worth it? Ever consider that you sound just as ridiculous as they do making that statement? As we know women often don't know how to pick decent men (always go for the jerks while complaining they're jerks). Maybe us men could learn how to stop chasing bitchy women and being desperate fools for such types. Also, if you're only chasing 9's and 10's you're dealing mostly with women who spend ALL of their time getting pretty and may have zero personality or respectability. The 9's and 10's you do want exhibit specific personality traits that are easy to pick up on but they are harder to find. Consider the fact that you can't control what women do. But you can control what YOU do. That works for just about everything in life. I'd suggest either learning how your taste in women sucks, or just disengage from them altogether and not complain about it (choose to actually be free).
@Donald Piniach you are very correct. So should we roll aound in each others feces & Sylvia? Probably cure us & make us a healthier species. True sir, we are animals that refuse to think so. lol, If germaphobes only knew what they hosted in their bodies would drive them mad. Truth in sciemce is always stranger than fiction.
Used to know a girl almost exactly this. She wanted my attention, but not me. And was always surrounded by her exes, hoping to get back with her. But when I turned off the attention, suddenly, she badmouthed me, and basically tried to ruin my life. In fact, I'm still dealing with the hatred and jealousy to this day. She badmouthed me with everyone @ work, and I have to deal with it every day. But I'm going to leave soon, so her and all of her friends can go to hell.
Same, I was at a lonely point in life and turned to this girl unfortunately (she's a bartender so I know those are only in it for money so they'll flirt to get it), it seems like just because I've got cerebral palsy women think it's ok to treat people like me like crap, oh and she also lied and said she's my friend after I thanked her for being my friend
Same here 8 weeks FREE, I feel I on the repair, no more Drama no more Abusive no more Tears. I still confused & of course upset. I lucky I got out early, couldn't imagine years with a monster no way! I would be in jail.
Meanwhile, the reason for the no female friends is that she can't handle the criticism women give her. And they have criticism to give her because she's a horrible person.
Your Wingmam. You just described perfectly (I mean exactly on every point you made), my wife of 30 years. I never could understand why she was doing these things: to me, my family, my friends, the food servers, etc.. On everyone of your points I could give you a hundred examples! She left me 10 years ago to live by "herself" ( next to her brother). After 7 years I gave up. Turning point was when I finally said to myself: "this is crazy", I am not the guilty one. Finally, I should be allowed to start smiling at other girls again. I guess, at that moment, I had finally broken free from the chains and this burden of guilt she had always left me with. I ended up seeing an old girlfriend. Couldn't take the loneliness, and the constant threats to Divorce me whenever I tried to reason with her. When I told her I was seeing someone else (and I think she saw it in my demeanor immediately prior), I naively reasoned, that, since she no longer cared about me, anyway, she wouldn't mind. I would just keep paying all her bills like I always had, etc. BOY WAS I WRONG! We have been in a divorce for 3 years and nowhere does there seem to be an end to it. She proceeded to empty all the bank accounts, steal all the cash, lie to all of my friends about EVERYTHING. She even tried to use a 10 year old Power of Attorney, from when I had a heart operation, to transfer all the brokerage assets into her name and then to make her brother the beneficiary. Fortunately the brokerage called to verify the paperwork). My lawyer in his 25 years of Family Law practice has never seen anything like it. Her Attorneys, of course, are happy to oblige her. Incredible amounts of money have been spent on legal fees in a No Fault state. I could go on and on, like the endless depositions of all my friends and business partners! The non-stop diatribes her Lawyers present to the Court. All her efforts to avoid Mediation over and over again. I'm sorry, it's hard to be brief on my experience Just wanted you to know how incredibly accurate you were on every point in your blog. I'm older. and I get this feeling that (even though SHE filed for the Divorce), that's not what she's looking for. She doesn't want it to end! It's crazy! She just seems to want revenge, to Punish Me, and to "scorch the earth around me". She will spend every last cent to prevent me having any future, or being able to partner again with someone and move on with my life, or what's left of it. Unfortunately for me it's working. The good girls eventually stay away because I'm "Still Married". Thank You! Eric
I hope you break the last chains soon. Celebrate it in a positive spirit and go on with your life. Why she did what she did? Some people just makes what they can. She is obvious a master of manipulation, a bad person with low empathy. The hard part can be, why did I stay so long and why didnt I notice this psycho entrapment? If you were the same you had noticed this in a heartbeat. So your a good trustworthy person that are not manipulative and want other person around you to feel good. These people use your good qualities against you. Best way out of this is to distance your emotions from this woman, see her for what she is and accept it. Never let her in under your skin again and forgive to be able to forget. Focus on your needs and happiness.
I'm reading a lot of male perspectives on here and it seems there is a lot of negative attitudes towards today's western female. You need to understand something. It is not just a female thing. It is a 2020 world thing. The world we live in has stopped suiting what nourishes the human spirit a long time ago. I wont go into specifics of what caused that because its just too long but we are all severely emotionally damaged at different levels. Damaged people breed damaged people and only a few seek help and heal. We are all, male or female, just drudging through life trying to survive while being painfully insecure and self destructive. We forgot how to be. No more manners, no more values, no more morals, greed, selfishness...dating is going to get ten times harder because people are just too messed up now. I am a single 35 year old woman because I can't connect with anyone decent and get judged for it. I dont want to settle for a miserable existence and better off alone but that doesn't meant I dont want to meet a gem one day.
HI Sarah, I agree with you, these apply to both genders. I was in a relationship like this. While I don't hate or judge her nor generalize female gender, I do not understand why even our generation (myself almost 40) also lack the values we grew up with. So sad. And like you, I prefer to be alone, although I don't like it, than settle for less and loose myself.
Sarah Asdfg Totally agree. Apparently I heard on the radio the stats here in the U.K. for ‘unplanned’ pregnancies is 45%, that’s massive! Couple that with how many marriages today end in divorce & you’ve got a lot of children being raised in single parent households, which isn’t conducive to a good upbringing for said child. There’s so many messed up women (and men) out there these days. It’s a massive problem now.
Another element is the modern tendency to confuse commitment with some sort of bondage. Young men are so terrified of it that they won't even use the word "dating" anymore - rather, they'll say they're "hanging out" with a woman... Guys - stop hanging out with women and start DATING them. Be clear right off the bat - none of this half-arsed "hanging out" stuff. Women appreciate a level of self-confidence, and that includes a willingness to take risks - in this case, the risk of rejection. Grow some balls and ask her out on a date. A proper date. "Would you care to join me for dinner on Friday night?" goes a lot farther than, "So, you wanna, uh, hang out some time?" Step to her like a MAN. It's harder to do, but the payoff is much greater. Hanging out is what you do with your friends...so if you want to stay out of the dreaded friend zone, date her. Save the hanging out for your guy buddies.
when gals ask whatcha thinking about, and we answer nothing.....ya, that's actually true.... on a serious note...the most successful relationships I've witnessed are ones that have put GOD first in their lives...a Jesus centered marriage or relationship with one person and that's just from what I've witnessed. I've been with my wife for ten years. and because of this we have an awesome marriage, not without challenges but it stays mostly drama free... so from what I've witnessed keep Jesus in your marriage and you'll be a lot happier.
I dated a woman for 2yrs, she was one of those drama people, it was exhausting, i ended the relationship. It was like removing a 300 pounds weight from my chest.
@@mikeswede031 I can't take this bullshit stop calling everything a "disorder" holy hell. Society going to hell in a hand basket trying to destroy accountability. Gossiping is a normal bad habit.
@@garretgodfrey168 agree. I dated a girl for about 2 years. I've never heard of the words Drama Queen and bipolar. Until I met her. She would use those words against me. Made me second guess myself. Then I got some help and was told im fine it was the relationship I was in.
K S Wrong. we know you women judge all men based on your experiences with a very small subset of 'universally desirable' men. Also, it's very typical of a female to deflect away any criticism and try to turn it around. You all do it. It's one of the red flags, and men are getting sick of it
#16 - You wake at night and find her watching you from across the room with a hammer in her hand with dead shark like eyes, is another one to watch out for.
KeepItSimpleStupid : A lot of pop psychology trends emphasize the importance of all individuals accepting responsibility for “their part” in a conflict. In fact, people refusing to accept (at least partial) blame or responsibility are frequently labeled as immature, narcissistic, in denial about themselves, etc. What I see happening is a lot of dysfunctional people do bad things to others and then rationalize the victim’s “partial responsibility” to excuse themselves. A classic example is the stereotypical “party girl” getting very drunk or high and being subsequently raped by one or more men who “don’t really consider themselves rapists” and blame the woman’s irresponsible conduct (provocative clothing or flirting) for their actions. The “party girl” is responsible for not being more security conscious, putting herself in a vulnerable position and high risk situation. But she doesn’t owe her rapists an apology, nor does her behavior and responsibility for her behavior excuse her rapists for raping her. It’s an extreme example, but the same dynamics are being applied to everyday interactions. People believe they’re at least partially justified in wronging or harming others because the others did (or didn’t) do A, B, or C. Another thing I’ve noticed is that very disturbed people tend to magnify ANYTHING done to them, demanding formal apologies or acknowledgement for “offenses” most would consider minor, while minimizing their own much more serious offenses towards others. It can be very intense, especially if the disturbed person is a popular “favorite” in a family, social, or workplace situation.
She wants you to own every aspect of any mistakes you make, while reluctantly, bitterly and through much argument even faintly acknowledge the failings of her character and what she has done, or failed to do...
KeepItSimpleStupid : It’s a human issue, not a gender specific one. A lot of people honestly believe you owe them an apology or accountability for being in front of your fist when you hit them. This should not be confused with people wanting to rationally discuss an incident and explain themselves (motivations and perceptions behind their actions).
@@amasion2882 That's if in fact, a rape actually occurred. Oh wait I almost forgot, they're now given the power to withdraw their consent after the fact...
@Beep Boop - oh, yeah that’s it, just this year... Welcome to a new word son, the concept will open your eyes. Clearly you don’t live in a big west coast city. We see this sh*t all the time, and it ain’t nothing new.
@@Rationalist101 - agreed. Selfishness is only one of a few characteristics needed for a person to be a narcissist. But selfishness (and gaslighting, as the previous commenter showed) is ‘narcissistic’
@Steve Miller Like trying to FORCE 1 to be equal to 3. I completely agree. There are natural differences in humanity that most people are brainwashed to believe are blasphemous to even consider, nevertheless they are real as anything. I've been on both sides of that brainwashing so I see it as clearly as one can. Spent forty years as a pseudo liberal fvcktard (deep down not really, but the brainwashing is strong in high school and college), now I'll spend at least another 40 making up for my ignorance by fighting as effectively as I can to protect Gen Z'ers from the tidal wave of estrogen drowning us all. I'm a red pill dispensing machine till the day I die...and even then I'll leave a continued operation of destroying the crapload of disinfo pumped out of everything official and authoritative.
There's a difference between gender equality, a political distinction meaning that women have equal right to literacy, to vote, to work, as men, and gender specialization, a biological distinction that means some women can see the red color spectrum better, and have to go to the bathroom more often, than most men.
@Steve Miller honestly I was waiting for you to get to the Rockefellers, who funded feminist propaganda to destroy the American family, or the Rothschilds, who wanted to collect more taxes by having more people working. Meh, if you look at the numbers, women are more employable because they command smaller wages on average, like immigrants who speak English as a second language, though not as much. By right to work, that means right to a job, not be indentured barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. The problem you describe is political doublespeak, and nothing to with suffrage or ability to type 60 words a minute, lift 50 lbs or drive a truck.
I dated a woman who abused a waitress when we were out for dinner. She sent food back to the kitchen and said it wasn’t what she ordered. Once the waitress stepped away I asked her what she was doing.. her reply was “they are here to serve us those minions” I was stunned and replied “Minions indeed, that girl who waited on you is holding down two jobs while trying to put herself through law school. That minion as you put it has more self respect, self esteem than you will have in two lifetimes. I politely ask of you to apologise to her as this is not behaviour I can condone” her reply was .. “are you seriously taking the side of a common waitress over me” I called the waitress over and apologised for my now ex girlfriend’s abominable behaviour. I’d like to pay the bill plus the bill the food wrongly returned to the kitchen by my guest. My girlfriend through her wine in my face and with that the relationship was over. The moral of the story is “pay attention to the red flags 🚩
Majority of women are like this. Running through the list of females I've known most if not all have these behaviors in some degree or another even my mother.
Watch out, pal. Don’t hold a mirror up to some of these insecure morons. I made a similar comment and boy-howdy, there were beat up bachelor Cheeto crumbs and crusty socks flying all over the responses.
@@rgs6236 Exactly! People need to learn to stay on topic. Men have so much accountability but people can hardly spend a few minutes focusing on a womans shortcomings.
4 🇦🇱s this Lady forgot 1. When a Girl nags or brings up the good times about her ex boyfriend 2 she never has🕓 2 see You n person 3 She only has $ to pay her cell phone Bill & wears Dirty white Shoex 4 She ddnt even apologise about the Mistakes or Flaking out on plans u gave her 1or 2 week advanced about/// Now Run. Or call Block Her.
solice8844 I agree my ex-wife has all the traits. Yes, a lot of males friends. She told me all these years one of her male friends was gay. He wasn't found out years later.
It makes for a very lonely time. Because complaining about it, to others, doesn’t fix anything, it makes you look weak. Complaining To her, givers her power. I feel for you brother. Remember there is always hope. My second marriage is a tiny bit better. Haha. Like a moth, to the flame.
I dated a woman for a whole year and never met one single one of her friends. This is because she did not really have any. Also, there is a lot more going on here than being a "nice person." She can be damaged or even evil and still appear to be a "nice person."
I have been through that as well, I had no idea what a narcissistic person was. Lived with her for 10 years and found out at the end when she moved out and started living with her cousins husband that she was telling everyone that I was abusive and controlling and on and on it went. Not one person in her family or our friends ever said anything to me about this until after she left. Now she's married to this other guy and doing the same to him and I just sit back and laugh now. It truly is the most bizarre thing I have ever seen.
Most people "fake" who they really are until you have been involved with them for a few months then it all comes out. Most people act how they think you want them to.
External red flags: Tattoo Piercing Black manicure Any kind of silicone modification Not normal hair color(green blue etc) Not normal hair style “That” “attractive” “G” “look”..
Jack Luminous There are only 2 types on earth: 1. Wife material 2. Junk All that typos and descriptions are just excuses.. and they r not smart and they r not submissive (can be temporary when in love).
@@Lennakanci999 .. hmm.. idk. seems like you should get out more often. Maybe thats true in your part of the world tho. Iguess it all would depend on what your interpretation of "wife material" and "junk" are. Right?
Jack Luminous Wife material - submissive, obedient, humble, loyal, feminine character, home type of girl. Junk - the rest.. (club girls, girls with attitude, modern type ones, feminists, “strong and independent” ones, etc)
My girlfriend has purple hair, piercings, tats lol. And she is the sweetest person I know, she works with animals for a living and is extremely emotionally intelligent. She is the best one I have dated by far. Great team player, open minded, smart and persistent in all things she does, and very good at communicating. We have had disagreements and argued once or twice (which is my fault, I am fiery as fuck) but we have not FOUGHT or had a hostile word in the 2 years we have been together. She always has my back and never tries to make me feel anything but capable. I think I will marry her
I have a female friend that has mostly male friends. She is very kind and polite. I help her In many ways even financially. I noticed that the time she gives me is limited. And I can rarely even get a hug from her. I guess I'am wasting my time hoping this is going somewhere? Or I'am just being used?
On the other hand Bill our mothers just happen / happened to be women as well and since you have mentioned G*d he gave us a brain to use on our own without the aid a mother who is a woman although these days you could get some grief for stating it as simplistic as that . My birth mother died when i was a few months old ( so there goes that logic ), and my stepmother ( another woman believe it or not ), was of no help at all with anything that i needed i can tell you that . Also , my dad turned out to be a mushy coward around her who i vowed since childhood never to be like and thankfully i stuck with that promise to myself since i was a kid . However, i have a brain and common sense so i hardly need another women bitching at me anyway . Guys should be able to figure this out on their own and Anna is simply reinforcing what most of us already know which is nice of her i suppose .
Once dated a woman, who always wanted to cause a argument, ( about anything) between, her an my self so that she can have a reason to cry, so that I would have to apologize. ( Which, I never would). So happy single
Girl at the pet shop would come running up to me every time I walked in. She was always super chatty and nice. She was cute but I shut her down because I don't want a relationship. So I go into the pet shop and there's a new girl and she say's "hey what about him?" The other girl goes "I tried he's gay". LOL I chuckled to myself thinking whatever to make your self feel better. The next time I came into the store she was down right viscous when she realized her insults didn't work. I'm glad I stayed clear of that one.
I overheard a girl talking trash about me at the gym when I had my headphones on and she thought I couldn't hear. Just a minute before she was smiling all over me and trying to get my attention. I guarantee she didn't want anything to do with me, and she was just mad that she didn't get the attention she thought she deserved from me as a male. So strange. They value our attention so highly yet they honestly don't care about us at all. It's like they just expect us to serve them validation on a silver platter and worship them just for having two X chromosomes and get nothing in return. Puh leaze.
Hey! Men can be worse to us, An ex was supposed to come over with his truck, help me move to a new place - he just didn't turn up, no ph call, no nothing. His new girlfriend may have demanded he not see me again but letting me down like this, with no place to live apart from the street? I ended up being glad we broke up. And if we girls/women don't go out when some of you ask, well you can be downright vicious and cruel. Ho humm.
lost my well-paid job After hurting my back in an accident then out of the blue she said she needed space to find herself it was only then did I realise she was with me only for what she could get.
“She’s a taker but not a giver” did it for me, my ex-gf earned a lot more than me as a public servant and would never reciprocate even symbolically. When I met her brother, I felt the same petty vibe, some people have a scarcity mentality and are not raised to have any kind of generosity. A lifetime of that would be miserable.
I am going through the same thing. Unfortunately, is yet another time we have to move on because is not about that she’s not interested in you, but she’s also not a good one either. Someone who likes you will mean it and show it - that is if love even exist anywhere
As an older guy, the wise bonus at the end is to my mind the overriding principle. Your personality and values are most often set in stone and too many of us find that when the infatuation cools off, resentment of opposing values will become insufferable.
Man this is too true. This happened with my liberal ex girlfriend. Once the infatuation wore off after 2 months, it was constant tension on morals and values. Making us resent each other.
I’m a women with no friends.... and just like the men watching on here, you just named 15 reasons why I don’t have girl- friends. This absolutely does not mean I have “issues”. I just feel more at peace when it’s quiet and I don’t have to hear the gossip all the time. I’ve gotten rid of friends because some of these traits you listed about toxic women. Not ALL women are like this. Like me for example.
As a married woman over 50... I agree, this one needs to be taken into context and is not necessarily an automatic red flag. Some of us are introverted have only 1-3 friends at a time... If any, and if we happened to have a friend that we had a falling out with because we realized they did not truly respect us, or some other issue, we may not find another close friend for years. Not every lady is the extroverted "girls night out" or " lunch with the ladies" person.
I had not many Female friends growing up as they were all too girly (ie afraid of breaking a nail and all about gossip), but I chose/made my own tribe of women as an adult. None of us girls are into gossip, all are empath and despite being féminin and totally aware of our sexuality, my female friends and I are equally happy being covered in mud singing around a campfire. I have pretty much an equal number of male and female friends, which I find give me the right balance of inputs.
Princess Love.... yeah it's not that I hate women. I don't blame all women for the things that happen to me. I'm not a barfly or somebody that has to have my guys around all the time... not a flirt Etc blah blah blah. I'm just old school and that don't fit today. Today's ladies like to run around with their Pals and have these nights out BS excetera. Hey if you have to be out running around all the time, especially at night away from family or your loved ones, you're not settled. If you need those things more then your husband and family or boyfriend excetera... Then you're not settled. Because I have never seen one relationship work where each one was out running around. And when somebody gets a little freedom they always take it to the extreme eventually. Remember that word eventually. Does this mean it's everyone of course not. I just don't have time for those games. Two marriages in which both of them were running around with their friends and making excuses to do it, ended up with cheaters. They can go hang as far as I'm concerned. I'm not that young anymore so I got no time for games. Games are for people that like to live their lives in extreme and in drama. It's pitiful but I've seen it a lot. So I do my own thing. Pretty attractive guy for my age, people are always asking damn why are you not with someone. I told them I have the most beautiful in my life already... My kids and young granddaughters. There's nothing higher than that for me. You wouldn't believe how many married ladies talk to me. Especially when people find out you're single lol. That tells me they are not that happy in their relationships. The difference is I never step over the line. And I mean never. I'm friend and that's it just like I was during my married years I'm a friend and that's it. Peace to you. It's a shame our world has ended up with all of these Progressive people that actually cannot see they are being regressive. Wishing you the best :-)
TRUTH: Virtuous Women are extremely rare, though we do exist. :) TRUTH: The Jezebel that is being described in this video conducts herself in the same manner with other females as well. Evil is, as evil does. TRUTH: Virtuous Women and Men of Valor recognize and avoid that timewasting, triflin', evil b*tch. NO TISSUES. NUFF SAID.
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Warning Signs She's Emotionally Damaged (Signs She's High Maintenance) WAKUP2LUV - GET A GIRLFRIEND! members.wingmam.com/get-women/ Is she a narcissist or simply rude? Is she emotionally damaged or just insecure?
We all have insecurities and don't always act kindly, but when her bad behaviours are chronic or out of control...run away! xo AJ
Learning about women will help in many areas of life :)
WingmamTV Is it a red flag my girlfriend lock me in her apartment for nine hours because she couldn’t get her way. Number two when I go to restaurants I am not allowed to talk to female waitresses To suggest moving seats because so many flies of annoying us in the place we are sitting outside the cafe.She gets upset when people walk up to me and talk to me and she gets really angry verbally to the person and to me. She says she can’t trust me to go out anywhere because she doesn’t know who I’m speaking to what I’m saying she cannot monitor what I am saying is this a red flag
WingmamTV what else my girlfriend doesn’t like is that I spent too much time with my mum or my brother she will stop me going camping with my brother and say that I’m stealing time from her and I shouldn’t be going with my brother out camping is this a red flag
WingmamTV when I am sitting in a cafe having a coffee with my girlfriend she accuses me that I’ve been watching women walking past outside which I do not do that she’s always accusing me of Purvin on women and to stop it is this a red flag
WingmamTV is it a red flag when my girlfriend gets upset when one of my work colleague sees me in the shopping centre and comes up and talks to me and his partner standard beside him .my girlfriend she gets upset that I’m wasting time on strangers talking to these people I work with I shouldn’t be doing time with them in a shopping centre because you spend enough time with them at work is this a red flag
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I had two dating coaches all my life. Two older sisters. They could ferret out Damaged women inside 5 mins...Saved me all the trouble...
Lucky man!
You had 2 wingmen.
Or wingettes.😎
Would you like to share some of the things they ferreted out from the damaged women?
Lol!! Good for you.
That's awesome. Wish I had that.
All women have at least one male friend who is trying to low key get with her.
You're right!!
Absolutely!
I think its not good if a woman keeps in contact with here ex.
Hey Anna. Just want to say, I enjoy your stuff and watch your videos. Very good advise. It has helped me get over a relationship I really screwed up. Working on the better advise now.
Glad the videos are helpful and I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam Thank you. God bless.
If I may add another: If she's constantly calling her mom for "advice".
Yea I hate that getting outsiders involved
I used to have it,
not only advice but tell everything with small details
Or "friends"
so so true..my god..and the sister..they forensically analyze everything to death and th girl youre with even starts parroting what the others say as though its her own views..run!!
Any girl who does that is a loser and doesn't deserve a boyfriend or husband. It shows right away she's against you, she's your enemy that asks others how to navigate/manipulate a relationship in the best way that will benefit her.
No joke or sarcasm intended...but....I feel like a minimum of 50% of these characteristics are common in all women every day of the week.
Numbers 13, 12, 9, 7, 6(somewhat), 3(she has 1 friend, but always let me know she could get any guy), 1(sees herself as superior to all men and women).
Learning these after the fact, but thanks for the list of flags. Thanks Anna!
My pleasure ❤️
Wow, you just described my mom, I figured she was a narcissistic...b.. I have to escape her so I can live my life.
5th commandement honour your parents. You should still respect and care for her from.....far.
Unfortunately you carried that poison in you.Just by calling her a B word,you forget you came under her and you are going to want to enter between the same place in another woman unless you gay.Respect her that makes you a better person
Trevor S. I know how you feel 👌. My entire family are narcissists. I respect ALL of them by staying away. It's killing their conscience cause I'm not their punching bag and my business is my secret. Stay blessed and safe 🙏.
Trevor, it's heartless people like her that sets off others. That's why I'm going easy on you. We all have our faults.
@@bestrong1854 Psalm 27:10 - Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.
You're not her gatekeeper, and no one gets into Heaven by obeying some law.
Really appreciate the women out here giving men insight to so many women. I honestly believe that social media and dating apps have lowered the value of most men due to the fact that women have never had so much access to so many options at their fingertips. The fact that roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce speaks volumes about the minefield of dangerous women out there
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@YourWingmam Yep 🎯. I'm 43 and recovering from a very emotionally draining relationship of 5yrs. Now I'm on Tinder to test my value in that realm and it's been brutal. Although I guess I'm doing ok with 20+ matches in a few days, but only 1 has been genuinely making an effort.
She literally just google searched “red flags for women”
16. If her phone is more important than your conversation.
Ding Ding Ding!!! Checking her phone is an insult to you.
THAT SHOULD BE #1
Agreed
That's more my thing
Absolutely without a doubt my friend...
You've described every woman I've ever met. I think I'll go adopt a puppy.
Good idea! Metoo.
Lmbao!
I have to admit - this is pretty much all women these days. I think I have a good wife and I love her to bits, but she does at least half of these things.
exactly
Best thing, puppy may s*** on yer floor, nothing not fixable with paper towels & lysol. Not enough lysol to fix what a screwed up woman would do to your life.
Or she only wants to be with you when she knows you're doing well financially.
Most definitely!
GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST NOW AND THANKS
Don't I know it.,💯
@@haroldgreen1336 GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD 🙏 JESUS CHRIST TODAY 🙏
@@freddiestranger9783 He's my Lord and Savior brother. My best friend. Hopefully he's yours too. God bless you ❤️
I'd rather spend the rest of my life single, then spend time in a wrong relationship period, life's too short
Same here I got tired of jumping through hoops for them and being stressed out I have a low tolerance for their bullshit
Amen 🙏
..... I go to Pattaya , Thailand and enjoy " occasional highlights " ..... no strings attached , no prison bars holding back from the wonderful world -- the way God created for his flock to enjoy ....
Yup!
I’m a girl. Same. Don’t have time or energy for BS.
The biggest one that got missed... She's always the victim or acts "victimized".
That's the "others are always to blame" point.
my fucking wife is same
*cough cough narcissist alert*
exactly
@@michaels8597 Yeah, narcissist is latest label for high maintenance.
A woman that has never said 'sorry' or 'apologised' for anything, ever!
🙏 ❤️
Yep
Another red flag is the excessive need of validation and admiration.
Yeah, that right. Each boss my ex worked for started out as the best thing since sliced bread, then 6 months to a year later, they were all dumb as rocks! And these people held the job she wanted and were the ones who elevated her! Go figure!
This one goes with openly soliciting the attention of other guys just to make you jealous. I recall calmly dumping a woman that attempted this tactic, at which point then I became the bad guy. Who needs that buII$hlt?
That's literally all Women.
MrParkerman6 yes, they are all possessed by the same evil spirits from the deepest pits of hell
I was married to one like that. She craved attention from all men.
Through my experience, women who did not have a good father figure while growing up usually exhibit these qualities. Daddy issues destroy women. Men treat your daughters right!
Agreed. 💯 Percent Correct..
No, women need to choose a decent father for their children, especially for their daughters.
Exactly
Exactly 3 times and all hated their dads
I think it's possible any bloke that is naturally empathetic to help wind back the clock for them . Might take a lifetime but that's what relationships are all about
IF I had seen this in 1995 I would have run for my life.
My 2nd wife was 13 of the 15 "Red Flags", and I am dead serious.
Very informative,and very true, every word of it hits home....
I'm happy this is helpful, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
@halacris I put up with the shit for 13 years, left the idiot (expensive but worth every penny) and have been perfectly happy living alone , tending to my personal needs with "friends". We don't live forever and being happy is the most important thing in life , IMHO.
@halacris There is an answer.....RUN ! Save yourself ! God loves you but he can't figure that woman you married out either, trust me.
Meditation and metacognition help them to be a smart, loving, and humble person because the part of practicing meditation, metacognition, and breath techniques is also practicing self-love, empathy, and gratitude and analyzing less, practicing nonjudgment, and learning brain-heart coherence.
Analyzing can be ok.
But if you analyze too often what you will eat during day, or when you should exercise, it lowers the energy of your body and you feel unnecessary stress.
The less you analyze the more energy you feel and the more happy you feel.
As some say self-love isnt the same as self-pleasure.
Self-love is a long-term feeling and self-pleasure is a short-term feeling.
Self-pleasure is more about materialism.
Self-love is more about energy, and peaceful mind, getting the nutrients for the body, or learning useful skills, feeling happy and healthy, not analyzing, because analyzis is never 100 percent accurate. You may analyze you calories, you may analyze your friends behavior, yet you never know 100 percent everything but your heart knows because heart isnt based on logical thinking.
Therefore heart and love makes you much more easiely start new adventures.
At least you’re not dead. 😸
Being mean to people with less power and status is certainly revealing of character.
Yessir. I immediately lose all respect for anyone who does it.
True refinement is to treat all people equally.
True.
@@malcolmnicholls2893 That isn't true. And that's an unrefined statement.
We're all emotionally damaged. The trick is finding the right amount of crazy you can work with.
Not necessarily. Those who fix the problem (themselves) and heal said damage don't exhibit these behaviors. Furthermore, you shouldn't (and likely won't) accept anyone that hasn't bothered, once you have done so.
Roger, I love this! May I quote you?
@@jeriredman6762 lol, even if there's a really reasonable opinion on why this isn't a good idea? I mean I had been in therapy for 5 years x'D And I know he's right. Cs my therapist is trying really hard to help me to stop being this "I wanna to fix myself while being in a relationship cs it would be super cute (and faster) growing together!"
Good answer! I might need to wait a while to find to find someone who is able to handle my crazy.
My crazy involves more mechanical driven devices like cars and bikes. Not trying to create drama, destroy people via the court system or use children as relationship pawns. 2 different levels of crazy. And most would say one side of that isnt crazy at all.
I'm 60, when you get to my age, you won't give a damn about any of this crap anymore. True freedom.
True
Same here brother, 16 years of single bliss. I bought a home after my divorce, paid it off in 15 years. Ex made sure I was broke the whole time we were married. NOW EVERYTHING IS PAID FOR.
Why did it take you that long not to care about this stuff? 60?? My goodness! Any woman behaving like this is a “teenager.”
True, our society is so lacking in any real wisdom we're at the point of over-grown children trying to raise children.@@vaquera9368
@@helenhighwater5313 Nah, I doubt it.
I have been emotionally damaged (10yr abusive marriage, been free for 4yrs now), so I listened. So thankful this describes more of a narcissistic/abusive woman, than someone healing from past wounds! Thank you for your words of wisdom!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Number 2, you just described a whole generation on social media
I noticed that too!🤙
Misanthropist > misogynist
I've seen it time and time again. Men consistently choose emotionally unstable women to get involved with. A crowning signal is having been in and out of therapy, starting at around 12 years of age. Another sure fire signal is suffering from depression. They are likely, at some point, going to try to commit suicide, and they more than likely, will take you with them. These are women who pursue, manipulate situations by lying on other women. They tend to be so insecure that they are catty, and take cheap shots at other women they deem to be their competitions, , and will, by and large, do whatever it takes to get your attention, up to and including thirst photos. By that I mean sexually revealing pics. They are a dangerous, pathetic group of women. Be careful.
@Douglas Farshtey there's nothing wrong with social media... it's the sickos that use it that are scary. It makes it easy for deranged people to constantly others.
Yep!
Oh, I never date people. I'm only watching this as research to find out how the rest of humanity works.
Yeah...pretty much given up on making personal relationships of any kind.
yup! just researching hoomans.
😂 😂 😂
Greetalutations fellow human species members. I also am certified a fully DNA proven human species. Will can we share a dosage of Chillaxitives as those socializing are want to do fully?
I feel comfortable :):):) Highfoves tout the mode
Looks like im not the only one.
If only I'd watched this 30 years ago.
Omg 🥺
Exactly!
you and me both. A life wasted and ruined because of a woman
Me too
@@kindredspiritzz66 there are good and bad women. Some shitty guys out there too.
I just used to go for the shit ones lol.... gurls not guys
I was chatting with a girl recently that said she was acting differently with me because of things that happened in her past. This always triggers me. 🤣
So I told her straight out that I wasn't going to be held accountable for what other men did and that I wasn't settling for less than what other men got.
Now obviously no one is completely free of baggage. We've all made bad choices. But you can choose to treat each person individually. Too many modern women try to project past issues onto you. 👎
Healing from past hurt and trauma is the best way to have a healthy and happy relationship 🙏
@@YourWingmam - Yep I agree about 100%. The problem though is people tend to horde trauma and project it versus dealing with it and letting it go.
Bravo! My ex-wife's frequent dig: "You know how men are."
To be fair, (as a dad of teenage girls), women should watch for the exact same signs in men.
Thankyou, I love your comment. ❤️
Especially since most men can't get away with such behavior unless they have enough money, power, charisma or good looks. Most men still know they can get punched in the face if their behavior is bad enough.
@@MK_ULTRA420 men/boys most certainly do exhibit the same behaviors all the time. I can see a lot of them in varying degrees with kids my daughters have brought home. Subtle little clues I recognize as a 46 year old man that sail straight over the girls head.
@@jimmyglea I'm sorry about your daughters' dating preferences 😂
@@MK_ULTRA420 you and me both, brother
Been married to one 23 years. Wish I had know this 25 years ago. 😑
I bet she does too.
Now you know.
I'm sorry but I found this comment way too funny
@@KevWitt3455 me too😂😂
Amen
I love how u got straight into it, what a breathe of fresh air. No unnecessary waste of time. Thank you 🥰😍😍
Mathe, yes! Just love that too!
Agree.
Yeah that was really surprising.
Yes. A big plus for that!!
It was unreal actually
My ex checked almost every box. this woman used me left and right and then played the victim when I called out her mask and her entitlement, she didnt like that all and hasn't spoken to me since or taken responsibility and has smeared my name into the ground to save face. Im glad you made this video, it validated lots of things.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
Major red flag: she sees predominantly the negatives, in people, situations, ideas, and possibilities.
You wouldn't believe the destruction that van be caused by a negative mindset.
Like this woman that does all these videos?
@@Jman149 - " You have power over your mind - not outside events - realize this and you will find strength. Nothing can harm you as much as your own thoughts unguarded. The universe is change. Our lives are what our thoughts make of it." - Marcus Aurelius.
@@Jman149
but i only fear nuclear destruction. And weapons that can harm me.
@@noorazmi2329 that makes sense. Hopefully that doesn't happen to you.
The sad part is I fell in love with this woman and she showed most of these signs. It was a rough 2 years.
Yep
Never let it go on for two years again.
Been there, done that. Be thankful that you're learning. I am. Choose wisely who you hang around with from now on. Women and men. Life tip: Stoicism
Glad you made it out young skywalker...
Live and learn
Looks like I've got a pretty awesome wife then, but I guess I already knew that.
That's why you are here?
Yes she is awesome!!
Good for you, man! I know they exist (just not for me!) LOL.
What you watching this video for then?
@@matthewsharkey5685 DUDE. Checking your knowledge is never a wasted task.
If she breaks your guitar over the clothesline pole that's a red flag.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
You know it’s a red frag when we have to listen to this quietly. Haha
Lol fr
Best comment!! lmao
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😆 yes sir
Lol all scared and shit 🤣😂😅💀😭
You just described my divorce from a narcissist. Bravo. Take note guys, she's right on the money.
Except guys can be narcissists, too. Someone has emotionally abused that woman. This should be called, "How To Not Get Your Bitch Ass Slapped Around," or "Modifying Yourself To His Psychopathy," and possibly, "It's Your Fault If He Rapes You."
@@christinabryant1899 Did you just dismiss that man's suffering, make excuses for the abusive woman, and then reframe the whole thing to be about women's suffering?
DARVO much?
FREEDOM!!!
@@christinabryant1899 women abuse men as well. not all...remember those last two words....(not all)
you can take the woman out of the thread you posted and replace it with men, and it would be true all the same...
@@asktheetruscans9857 she sure as shit did.....
I'm thinking did she just create an excuse for shitty behavior?
I just realized I'm addicted to red flags
RUN!
Ya dont this cover all of them.?
Me too. Thats how people get damaged. The circle of life
Red flags are probably your normal.
Damn...you might be like damaged in some way...
I think you might have forgotten what I consider the biggest red flag in the book. She is hyper-aware of people's behaviors and constantly accuses them as being a narcissist, but has absolutely zero insight into her own narcissistic tendencies.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Talks about her past, always the victim, poor communication, emotionally reacts when she doesn’t get what she wants, complains all the time
Hmm my only complaint was that he would answer a week after I texted or called him. I was cool with him not having much money. But I think being bitter about that was part of his game. I look at all these women who manage to ‘get’ things from men. Not just material things, but a commit7that almost looks like enslavement lol. I wouldn’t know where to begin with that! But some men don’t respect you unless you are a demanding witch. We have done serious harm to each other.
@Top Noodle I said "some". Where did you read "most? I'm sure you know some perfectly nice guys who are for some reason in relationships with women who ask too much. Isn't that what this video is about, more or less? Jeesh.
Sounds like my first three wives!
Have you been dating my wife ?
Hey, that sounds like the #2 ex wife!😆
Here's another: She sets fire to your car
My wife was mad at me once. I left for 4 hours came back trash can was smoldering, went inside all pictures on walls were gone, everything sitting on counter was gone, an end table was gone. Went back out found table leg smoldering in can. She left for few days. Doing great now, gotta love redheads.
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Yup had that done to me. Totally get that one.
Hahaha :))
@@Peterbilt359 My ex-wife destroyed two doors in the house (because I had to lock myself into the room, to avoid her rage) and my grand piano. Then I divorced her.
Another sign that it's time to bail: Eye rolling (means she has ZERO respect)
I love when she does eye rolling bro.
An eye roll is not unique to humans. It's an evolutionary instinct that says, "If I were afraid of you (if I respected you as a potential foe), then I would need to keep my eyes on you. I'm diverting my ability to sense any putative attacks against me by looking away. Thusly, I'm insulting you by demonstrating that you're beneath my notice." When one rolls one's eyes one's potential foes are beneath one's notice. It's just evopsych. Because an eye-roll, in any species that does so, is a sign of aggression, it's a prompt to the being at which the eyeroll is directed to either attack, or accept the insult unchallenged.
The correct response for people with high testosterone (males have 20 times as much as women do) is to respond to an eyeroll from a person of lower threat-worthiness status (a woman or a weak man or child) with greater-than-commensurate responsive aggression, so as to ensure game theoretic compliance to the normative status hierarchy. In other words, the only rational response by males of senior status (and the only rational response by females to lowlier females and children) is deterrent aggression. Just evopsych.
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@@shaughnessyneal9426 your book knowledge, ehe?!!!
@@shaughnessyneal9426 I feel bad for you, man.
The most important Red Flag is still missing tho; She tells you she has no Friends.
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Just experienced number 11. From warm, sweet and loving to cold, bitter and heartless with the flip of a switch.
I've experienced that my entire life...
That flip of a switch thing is haunting. I’ve learned to flip it back on with enough grace and patience but is it worth it? Usually no!
To be quite fair, I am currently trying to work up the guts to walk away from a man who has that exact same switch. I've researched it, and it's called flipping or narcissistic rage. People like that cannot see their partners in a nuanced way, but only as either perfect or broken. They can't accept you as just a flawed but still lovable human being. And this goes for either gender, it's not gender specific. It can be excruciatingly hurtful to be on the receiving end of it.
@@trevkam How on earth does one flip it back again? Female here wanting to know about a male who flips. The only thing that seems to work for me is walking away. Trying to hug him or being nice to him, confronting all the horridness with calmness - that doesn't seem to work, it's like he's on a roll, on a rollercoaster that just can't stop.
Could sometimes be bi polar disorder? Nearly started dating someone as you described and someone said she maybe bi-polar. Either way kept out the way.
I wish i had seen this lady 15 years ago........thank you!!!
All us healthy ladies wish you would have too, because all we see is good guys going for mean girls and breaks my heart to see my guy friends be miserable.
@@maryannebryce5210 rescuing down trotten girls was my down fall....and blind trust....never giving time to work it out
I wish I've seen this video in 1991. Sadly, there was no internet then.
Son: Dad, why do women wear make up and perfume?
Dad: Because they're ugly and they smell!
Becos its fake-up and another form of manipulating a man. A form of deception. She might look ok with the clown paint on tonite and you wake up in the morning and she looks like raul or rupaul.😂😁
Maybe it's time to join the other team, hey I'm talking football!
@@lur3950 thank you for your very helpful story. I am divorced from my highschool sweetheart. Very bitter divorce. Many red flags I overlooked. The divorce agreement was signed 12 years ago, bad agreement. Still in financial straits.
yess
Guys, it was a joke. Come on.
Thank you for this one, Anna! Several years ago, I had the unique opportunity to date my "Wow-girl" from high school. She was 2 grades ahead of me, stunningly beautiful and very popular. We happened to be living in the same city at the time, and a mutual friend set us up. At first, I was feeling like it was a dream come true, but I started to notice her high maintenance rather quickly. She was very possessive... which at first felt like being very loved, but was also bothersome. I soon realized the extent of her High Maintenance attributes. First, all she ever wanted to talk about was "The Relationship". She would corner me and ask questions like "What would you say.. are the biggest things that I bring to this relationship?" or "What is it about me that makes me so much better for you than other women?". Didn't matter that I had answered these same questions before, she liked to keep bringing them up and alwasy wanted new answers. Sometimes I would try to change the topic to one of my interests. She would quickly wave it off and return the topic to "The Relationship". Second, she had unrealistic expectations of me, sometimes completely insignificant things were held to unrealistic standards. Example: One night I got off work and called her as I was walking to my truck. (as she expected me to do) She asked if I wanted to come over. I said that I would like that, but needed to stop by my house and change clothes. She said "When can I expect you?" I said "Well, it's 7:15 now... 10 minutes to home, 10 to clean up and change, then 10 to you place... how about 7:45?" She said that sounded great and we hung up. I got home and one of my pets had gotten into the trash, making a big mess. I cleaned it up and then changed clothes. Noticing it was 7:40, I thought I should call and let her know what happened and why I was going to be a few minutes later than I had anticipated. She sounded a little disappointed and said "Well, when do you think you'll be here then?" I said it would be about 7:50 or so. Well, I got there at 7:48 according to my watch. (I caught all green lights!). When she opened the door I greeted her and went to give her a hug. She stiffened, so I asked what was wrong. She replied "Come in, we need to talk." That is never good in my experience, so once again I asked what the problem was. Rather than answering, she told me that we should go sit in the dining room. Once we walked in I, again asked what was going on. My mind was racing. Is she breaking up with me? Does she have cancer?.. what?!? She said "Why don't you have a seat first. I sat and said "Just tell me! You're kinda freaking me out!" There was a LONG pause as she gathered her thoughts, then "Wheeennn you tell me you are going to arrive at my place at a certain time.... and then you don't show up at that time...... it makes me feel like you don't value me.. that you don't take my feelings into consideration... that you don't love me.." I quickly said "THAT is exactly why I called... to let you know I would be a few minutes later than I had said,.. so you didn't wonder where I was. I was only 4 minutes later than I had originally expected!" She countered with "Oh, don't get me wrong. I appreciate that you called, but the fact still remains... you were late." And that was just an off-the-top-of-my-head example. There were SO many others. She had once told me that I needed to "police myself" so that I could think ahead as to how anything I said or did would affect her. It was exhausting! OK, I've rambled on too long. I'll stop there, but just know there were other High Maintenance issues with her that included her gambling, drinking, and her demon spawn whom she did NOT discipline or control at all, to the point that I avoided going into public with them. I ended up breaking up with her, and she tried to get me back/seduce me on several occasions. I remained firm in my decision though.
Wow, what a ride. She said the “right words” in terms of *how* to ask for her needs to be met, but she was completely unreasonable in those needs. Good you got out when you did!
I appreciate your comment
Wow, she was a very troubled girl.
#3 has always been a HUGE red flag for me. "All my friends are guys, cause I just get along with them better" = RUN!
Yeah, dumb me.... Hitting on her and she complains and when i asked why not block them, ..... Cause that's rude. No bitch, cause you like the attention
@@JD-dv9kc same thing happened to me bro, she is friends with all her exes and after we broke up a week later saw she went on a date with an ex that she wouldn't cut out after contacting her all the time.. I even said he was toxic, but she said it's an inconvenience to change her number..
couldn't agree more. Mine used to consider herself as an Alpha tomboy. She always said I'm a guy but I don't have a penis lmao. And always wanted to be around guys instead of girls
I don't know man, I have a few girl friends that I meet every now and then. Most of my friends are man, also friends of my husband. Just less drama with men, they mean what they say, can take a joke, don't unload every little problem on you and don't act like a bitch if you haven't texted in a week. It's not about sex or attention, it's just about getting together, having fun and everyone gets on with their life. I also don't have to analyse if every conversation they ever had with someone in their life had a double meaning.
Amen brother
"never trust a big butt and smile"
-Bel Biv Divo
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Actually it was KRS One, aka BDP, BBD borrowed from "Jimmy"
"Jimmy hats are now in style, Cuz you can't trust a big butt and a smile!"
Yea it earned me child support 😂🤣😂🤣
Literally so fucking true man, every single girl ive met with a naturally pretty face and good smile and a big ass have ALWAYS been trash or fucks with your head haha you need a 8 out of 10 girl whose down to earth and is mentally stable
@Sincerely Respectfully all of them bad even the 3's😂very very rare to find a genuine girl whose goodlooking
Sign #16 she emotionally damaged.
She's attracted to me.
She emotionally damaged? Are you don't the English good?
When a girl is so confused that she genuinely start to like you lol
Aren't you just the be-all-end-all. I hope you end up alone as you want to be babe
13/15 describe my ex. Wow, I wish I knew that sooner, so I wouldn't waste 4, years for nothing. Thanks, ex.
Glad I could help 🙏
ADD one more : SHE HITS YOU! I had that one and canceled the wedding 2 days before. But I was stupid to stay in that relationship.
Good man, move on and don’t look back!
Hitting is definitely a red flag 😞
Oh no she didn't.Prosecute her.If a man goes to jail for abuse,a woman should too!
You've canceled the wedding, so you are not stupid.
most women are taught that its OK to hit men for no reason at all. that's just the demented world we live in.
Anna....I needed this video 15 years ago.....my ex hit 10 out of 16! LOOK FOR THE RED FLAGS GUYS....DON’T IGNORE THEM.
And then run like you have diarrhea and you have to find the nearest toilet.
Mine showed 18 out of 16, shit....
This sounds like every woman I've ever met. I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't exhibit these behaviors. This is why I've stopped dating.
BOOM!! #truthbomb
MGTOW, BROTHER!!
Isn't this what most women say about men? That they're all the same and not worth it? Ever consider that you sound just as ridiculous as they do making that statement? As we know women often don't know how to pick decent men (always go for the jerks while complaining they're jerks). Maybe us men could learn how to stop chasing bitchy women and being desperate fools for such types. Also, if you're only chasing 9's and 10's you're dealing mostly with women who spend ALL of their time getting pretty and may have zero personality or respectability. The 9's and 10's you do want exhibit specific personality traits that are easy to pick up on but they are harder to find.
Consider the fact that you can't control what women do. But you can control what YOU do. That works for just about everything in life. I'd suggest either learning how your taste in women sucks, or just disengage from them altogether and not complain about it (choose to actually be free).
@@origamianalytics6174 - Well, he did say: "This is why I've stopped dating". Seems to me he HAS actually chosen to be free>
There are good women out there. Unfortunately some of them are with the wrong men...
If she's rude to servers....I'm out. Dont like spit in my food. Must say this very good information. Thanks
Thanks for watching! :)
Went out with a woman who was rude to the servers, I saw it as a red flag right away. She will eventually treat you this way too im sure.
Why don't people u derstand that?
They are handling your food.
Dummies goes for drive throughs too
@@jesseseonza2929 I never give attitude to people handling my food or paying me for something LOL
@Donald Piniach you are very correct.
So should we roll aound in each others feces & Sylvia?
Probably cure us & make us a healthier species. True sir, we are animals that refuse to think so.
lol,
If germaphobes only knew what they hosted in their bodies would drive them mad.
Truth in sciemce is always stranger than fiction.
Haven't met a woman who doesn't have atleast a couple if these...pretty much comes down to what brand of crazy do you like or can tolerate
The woman isn't built who knows how to apologize.
All true! Crazy, born that way, in the chromosomes!
I can't take any one thing any woman can say,,, they are just so annoying
😂 omg nice 🤣
True 👍😂 no kidding
Used to know a girl almost exactly this. She wanted my attention, but not me. And was always surrounded by her exes, hoping to get back with her. But when I turned off the attention, suddenly, she badmouthed me, and basically tried to ruin my life. In fact, I'm still dealing with the hatred and jealousy to this day. She badmouthed me with everyone @ work, and I have to deal with it every day. But I'm going to leave soon, so her and all of her friends can go to hell.
Same, I was at a lonely point in life and turned to this girl unfortunately (she's a bartender so I know those are only in it for money so they'll flirt to get it), it seems like just because I've got cerebral palsy women think it's ok to treat people like me like crap, oh and she also lied and said she's my friend after I thanked her for being my friend
Should leave her asap. And work somewhere else
I came here expecting to here mundane nonsense but its actually great advice and the techniques I use to filter out the bad ones. Excellent video.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Just got out of a relationship like this. I feel emotionally destroyed but I'm also glad it's over. Just have to heal now n move on
One day at a time!!
Move on bro , so many women out there more then fish in the sea. ✌
Same here 8 weeks FREE, I feel I on the repair, no more Drama no more Abusive no more Tears. I still confused & of course upset. I lucky I got out early, couldn't imagine years with a monster no way! I would be in jail.
We are all emotionally damaged in some way or another.
Most indobailibitly concur.
Who's perfect? Certainly not I.
Please take care 🌹.
Yet some seek to project their fuckuppedness onto others...That is the difference.
I used to be conceited, but now I’m absolutely perfect
Yes...True...So set a theshold level of damage that is similar to your own level of damage. There is a vast spectrum of damage to choose from. 🤪
Damaged by birth or by society but we are all except for narcissists
The all male friends is so true. I experienced it myself. She would justify it by claiming that women are too gossipy and mean.
Meanwhile, the reason for the no female friends is that she can't handle the criticism women give her. And they have criticism to give her because she's a horrible person.
Your Wingmam.
You just described perfectly (I mean exactly on every point you made), my wife of 30 years. I never could understand why she was doing these things: to me, my family, my friends, the food servers, etc.. On everyone of your points I could give you a hundred examples!
She left me 10 years ago to live by "herself" ( next to her brother). After 7 years I gave up. Turning point was when I finally said to myself: "this is crazy", I am not the guilty one. Finally, I should be allowed to start smiling at other girls again. I guess, at that moment, I had finally broken free from the chains and this burden of guilt she had always left me with.
I ended up seeing an old girlfriend. Couldn't take the loneliness, and the constant threats to Divorce me whenever I tried to reason with her. When I told her I was seeing someone else (and I think she saw it in my demeanor immediately prior), I naively reasoned, that, since she no longer cared about me, anyway, she wouldn't mind. I would just keep paying all her bills like I always had, etc. BOY WAS I WRONG!
We have been in a divorce for 3 years and nowhere does there seem to be an end to it. She proceeded to empty all the bank accounts, steal all the cash, lie to all of my friends about EVERYTHING. She even tried to use a 10 year old Power of Attorney, from when I had a heart operation, to transfer all the brokerage assets into her name and then to make her brother the beneficiary. Fortunately the brokerage called to verify the paperwork). My lawyer in his 25 years of Family Law practice has never seen anything like it. Her Attorneys, of course, are happy to oblige her. Incredible amounts of money have been spent on legal fees in a No Fault state.
I could go on and on, like the endless depositions of all my friends and business partners! The non-stop diatribes her Lawyers present to the Court. All her efforts to avoid Mediation over and over again.
I'm sorry, it's hard to be brief on my experience Just wanted you to know how incredibly accurate you were on every point in your blog. I'm older. and I get this feeling that (even though SHE filed for the Divorce), that's not what she's looking for. She doesn't want it to end! It's crazy! She just seems to want revenge, to Punish Me, and to "scorch the earth around me". She will spend every last cent to prevent me having any future, or being able to partner again with someone and move on with my life, or what's left of it. Unfortunately for me it's working. The good girls eventually stay away because I'm "Still Married".
Thank You!
Eric
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I hope you break the last chains soon. Celebrate it in a positive spirit and go on with your life.
Why she did what she did? Some people just makes what they can. She is obvious a master of manipulation, a bad person with low empathy. The hard part can be, why did I stay so long and why didnt I notice this psycho entrapment?
If you were the same you had noticed this in a heartbeat. So your a good trustworthy person that are not manipulative and want other person around you to feel good. These people use your good qualities against you.
Best way out of this is to distance your emotions from this woman, see her for what she is and accept it. Never let her in under your skin again and forgive to be able to forget. Focus on your needs and happiness.
This describes a large majority of todays western women.
100% correct.
Western, eastern doesn't matter the make or model.
Ya
Yes! Finally! Some said Western women.
@@DoReMi123acb A bitch is a bitch no matter the make or model female nature is there western or otherwise.
I'm reading a lot of male perspectives on here and it seems there is a lot of negative attitudes towards today's western female. You need to understand something. It is not just a female thing. It is a 2020 world thing. The world we live in has stopped suiting what nourishes the human spirit a long time ago. I wont go into specifics of what caused that because its just too long but we are all severely emotionally damaged at different levels. Damaged people breed damaged people and only a few seek help and heal. We are all, male or female, just drudging through life trying to survive while being painfully insecure and self destructive. We forgot how to be. No more manners, no more values, no more morals, greed, selfishness...dating is going to get ten times harder because people are just too messed up now. I am a single 35 year old woman because I can't connect with anyone decent and get judged for it. I dont want to settle for a miserable existence and better off alone but that doesn't meant I dont want to meet a gem one day.
HI Sarah, I agree with you, these apply to both genders. I was in a relationship like this. While I don't hate or judge her nor generalize female gender, I do not understand why even our generation (myself almost 40) also lack the values we grew up with. So sad. And like you, I prefer to be alone, although I don't like it, than settle for less and loose myself.
Well said
I agree with your views, and I'm 64, this world is very toxic on many levels esp. emotionally--so sad,
Sarah Asdfg
Totally agree. Apparently I heard on the radio the stats here in the U.K. for ‘unplanned’ pregnancies is 45%, that’s massive! Couple that with how many marriages today end in divorce & you’ve got a lot of children being raised in single parent households, which isn’t conducive to a good upbringing for said child. There’s so many messed up women (and men) out there these days. It’s a massive problem now.
Another element is the modern tendency to confuse commitment with some sort of bondage. Young men are so terrified of it that they won't even use the word "dating" anymore - rather, they'll say they're "hanging out" with a woman...
Guys - stop hanging out with women and start DATING them. Be clear right off the bat - none of this half-arsed "hanging out" stuff. Women appreciate a level of self-confidence, and that includes a willingness to take risks - in this case, the risk of rejection. Grow some balls and ask her out on a date. A proper date.
"Would you care to join me for dinner on Friday night?" goes a lot farther than, "So, you wanna, uh, hang out some time?"
Step to her like a MAN. It's harder to do, but the payoff is much greater. Hanging out is what you do with your friends...so if you want to stay out of the dreaded friend zone, date her. Save the hanging out for your guy buddies.
There isnt a woman breathing who doesnt display at least three of theses traits.
Fortunately, that's not true
Not true at all. You are attracting the wrong people.
Honestly I don't have any these at all
Be the kind of person you want to attract. People congregate with what’s familiar. If you’re a negative Nathan, you’ll attract negative Nelly’s.
My girlfriend doesn't have any of these traits it's pretty great
when gals ask whatcha thinking about, and we answer nothing.....ya, that's actually true....
on a serious note...the most successful relationships I've witnessed are ones that have put GOD first in their lives...a Jesus centered marriage
or relationship with one person and that's just from what I've witnessed.
I've been with my wife for ten years. and because of this we have an awesome marriage, not without challenges but it stays mostly drama free...
so from what I've witnessed keep Jesus in your marriage and you'll be a lot happier.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I dated a woman for 2yrs, she was one of those drama people, it was exhausting, i ended the relationship. It was like removing a 300 pounds weight from my chest.
Drama people is also called Histrionic Personality Disorder and from the psychiatric bibel DSM is a Cluster B disorder.
Next time pick a skinnier one.
@@mikeswede031 I can't take this bullshit stop calling everything a "disorder" holy hell. Society going to hell in a hand basket trying to destroy accountability. Gossiping is a normal bad habit.
@@garretgodfrey168 agree. I dated a girl for about 2 years. I've never heard of the words Drama Queen and bipolar. Until I met her. She would use those words against me. Made me second guess myself. Then I got some help and was told im fine it was the relationship I was in.
@@mikeswede031 She doesn't have a disorder she likes drama!
warning sign she's emotionally damaged: she's a female.
so, are you saying all females are emotionally damaged ? sadly I don't think i can agree with that
Nah, not all women are cray cray, but maybe you've had more than your share of dealing with those who are ;)
Everyone is traumatically damaged you're in denial.
The Sixth House Dagoth Ok, 99.99% of single women. close enough
K S Wrong. we know you women judge all men based on your experiences with a very small subset of 'universally desirable' men.
Also, it's very typical of a female to deflect away any criticism and try to turn it around.
You all do it. It's one of the red flags, and men are getting sick of it
#16 - You wake at night and find her watching you from across the room with a hammer in her hand with dead shark like eyes, is another one to watch out for.
And then you blink a couple of times and each time your eyes open, she's closer!
Whoo! YOU should be the one doing the list! :D
bro run😂😂
Kinda picky wouldn’t you say.
@@yepiratesworkshop7997 🤣🤣🤣
I have never known any women to make a genuine apology, without caveats, or without expecting a reciprocal apology in return.
KeepItSimpleStupid : A lot of pop psychology trends emphasize the importance of all individuals accepting responsibility for “their part” in a conflict. In fact, people refusing to accept (at least partial) blame or responsibility are frequently labeled as immature, narcissistic, in denial about themselves, etc.
What I see happening is a lot of dysfunctional people do bad things to others and then rationalize the victim’s “partial responsibility” to excuse themselves.
A classic example is the stereotypical “party girl” getting very drunk or high and being subsequently raped by one or more men who “don’t really consider themselves rapists” and blame the woman’s irresponsible conduct (provocative clothing or flirting) for their actions.
The “party girl” is responsible for not being more security conscious, putting herself in a vulnerable position and high risk situation. But she doesn’t owe her rapists an apology, nor does her behavior and responsibility for her behavior excuse her rapists for raping her.
It’s an extreme example, but the same dynamics are being applied to everyday interactions. People believe they’re at least partially justified in wronging or harming others because the others did (or didn’t) do A, B, or C.
Another thing I’ve noticed is that very disturbed people tend to magnify ANYTHING done to them, demanding formal apologies or acknowledgement for “offenses” most would consider minor, while minimizing their own much more serious offenses towards others. It can be very intense, especially if the disturbed person is a popular “favorite” in a family, social, or workplace situation.
@@amasion2882 well done turning a men's issue into a woman's issue. Textbook.
She wants you to own every aspect of any mistakes you make, while reluctantly, bitterly and through much argument even faintly acknowledge the failings of her character and what she has done, or failed to do...
KeepItSimpleStupid : It’s a human issue, not a gender specific one. A lot of people honestly believe you owe them an apology or accountability for being in front of your fist when you hit them. This should not be confused with people wanting to rationally discuss an incident and explain themselves (motivations and perceptions behind their actions).
@@amasion2882 That's if in fact, a rape actually occurred. Oh wait I almost forgot, they're now given the power to withdraw their consent after the fact...
Your whole list can literally be boiled down to one overarching characteristic: Narcissism.
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@Beep Boop - oh, yeah that’s it, just this year...
Welcome to a new word son, the concept will open your eyes.
Clearly you don’t live in a big west coast city.
We see this sh*t all the time, and it ain’t nothing new.
@@TheWorld_2099 I'm saying! Selfishness is everywhere.
@@Rationalist101 - agreed.
Selfishness is only one of a few characteristics needed for a person to be a narcissist.
But selfishness (and gaslighting, as the previous commenter showed) is ‘narcissistic’
@@TheWorld_2099 Absolutely correct.
Didn't see the feminism one coming, hilarious!
It sounded like feminism is loosely termed, more at meaning reverse gender inequality...
@Steve Miller Like trying to FORCE 1 to be equal to 3. I completely agree. There are natural differences in humanity that most people are brainwashed to believe are blasphemous to even consider, nevertheless they are real as anything. I've been on both sides of that brainwashing so I see it as clearly as one can. Spent forty years as a pseudo liberal fvcktard (deep down not really, but the brainwashing is strong in high school and college), now I'll spend at least another 40 making up for my ignorance by fighting as effectively as I can to protect Gen Z'ers from the tidal wave of estrogen drowning us all. I'm a red pill dispensing machine till the day I die...and even then I'll leave a continued operation of destroying the crapload of disinfo pumped out of everything official and authoritative.
There's a difference between gender equality, a political distinction meaning that women have equal right to literacy, to vote, to work, as men, and gender specialization, a biological distinction that means some women can see the red color spectrum better, and have to go to the bathroom more often, than most men.
@Steve Miller honestly I was waiting for you to get to the Rockefellers, who funded feminist propaganda to destroy the American family, or the Rothschilds, who wanted to collect more taxes by having more people working.
Meh, if you look at the numbers, women are more employable because they command smaller wages on average, like immigrants who speak English as a second language, though not as much.
By right to work, that means right to a job, not be indentured barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. The problem you describe is political doublespeak, and nothing to with suffrage or ability to type 60 words a minute, lift 50 lbs or drive a truck.
@Steve Miller "I came here for an argument."
"No this is abuse. Arguments are two doors to the right."*
-Monty Python
*or something like that
I dated a woman who abused a waitress when we were out for dinner. She sent food back to the kitchen and said it wasn’t what she ordered. Once the waitress stepped away I asked her what she was doing.. her reply was “they are here to serve us those minions”
I was stunned and replied “Minions indeed, that girl who waited on you is holding down two jobs while trying to put herself through law school. That minion as you put it has more self respect, self esteem than you will have in two lifetimes. I politely ask of you to apologise to her as this is not behaviour I can condone” her reply was .. “are you seriously taking the side of a common waitress over me”
I called the waitress over and apologised for my now ex girlfriend’s abominable behaviour. I’d like to pay the bill plus the bill the food wrongly returned to the kitchen by my guest. My girlfriend through her wine in my face and with that the relationship was over. The moral of the story is “pay attention to the red flags 🚩
Majority of women are like this. Running through the list of females I've known most if not all have these behaviors in some degree or another even my mother.
Majority, the exceptions are married
Nobody loves you but your mama and she might be jiving too.
mahaffey levi attracting the wrong women.. women of God are the only wife material
I think this list would apply to both men and women.
Yep but today we are talking about women....
@@rgs6236 She just proved a point and too stupid to know it.
Watch out, pal. Don’t hold a mirror up to some of these insecure morons. I made a similar comment and boy-howdy, there were beat up bachelor Cheeto crumbs and crusty socks flying all over the responses.
@@rgs6236 Exactly! People need to learn to stay on topic. Men have so much accountability but people can hardly spend a few minutes focusing on a womans shortcomings.
And that's why we already have tons of videos that talks about women and these topics :D let's talk about men in this one!
It's scary for me to see how many of these red flags apply to my ex-wife. :(
You and me both bud.
4 🇦🇱s this Lady forgot
1. When a Girl nags or brings up the good times about her ex boyfriend
2 she never has🕓 2 see You n person
3 She only has $ to pay her cell phone Bill & wears Dirty white Shoex
4 She ddnt even apologise about the Mistakes or Flaking out on plans u gave her 1or 2 week advanced about/// Now Run. Or call Block Her.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
My narcissist ex-wife had all 15 of these traits.
Hell, my current wife has about 8 at least.
Run forest, RUN!!!
Onni K-K
I did and never looked back.
Yeppp. Here too. Both my ex-wives.
solice8844 I agree my ex-wife has all the traits. Yes, a lot of males friends. She told me all these years one of her male friends was gay. He wasn't found out years later.
Well, that explains why I feel like I flushed 25 years of my life down the toilet, I'm with someone that checks 90% of these boxes.
Sorry to hear that dude, that truly sucks.
Try to find some good hobbies, bro.
Be happy you moved on
My wife checks all of the items, even the bonus one!!!!!!!!!!!
It makes for a very lonely time. Because complaining about it, to others, doesn’t fix anything, it makes you look weak. Complaining To her, givers her power. I feel for you brother. Remember there is always hope. My second marriage is a tiny bit better. Haha. Like a moth, to the flame.
I dated a woman for a whole year and never met one single one of her friends. This is because she did not really have any. Also, there is a lot more going on here than being a "nice person." She can be damaged or even evil and still appear to be a "nice person."
3000+ facebook friends dont count as friends either.
What about those real friends she doesn't introduce to you?
I have been through that as well, I had no idea what a narcissistic person was. Lived with her for 10 years and found out at the end when she moved out and started living with her cousins husband that she was telling everyone that I was abusive and controlling and on and on it went. Not one person in her family or our friends ever said anything to me about this until after she left. Now she's married to this other guy and doing the same to him and I just sit back and laugh now. It truly is the most bizarre thing I have ever seen.
Most people "fake" who they really are until you have been involved with them for a few months then it all comes out. Most people act how they think you want them to.
that's because she has no friends,she has funs[admirers]=items
I love how this presenter cuts straight to the bone, that's the only way with this topic, no fluff
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Only problem is she is able to mask all of these things until you’re married Then you have to give up half of everything you have to reset.
If it comes down to that have 2 work around her ass, and set up a plan b c d and e ,,
If you're lucky! I would've loved to have kept half...
Ace Brockton Ug :-(
Never ever get married
Learned that one the hard way.
External red flags:
Tattoo
Piercing
Black manicure
Any kind of silicone modification
Not normal hair color(green blue etc)
Not normal hair style
“That” “attractive” “G” “look”..
There are 2 distinctive types youre describing.
The hot punk style girl, cute, smart and submissive...
And the fat, out of shape, entitled feminazis.
Jack Luminous
There are only 2 types on earth:
1. Wife material
2. Junk
All that typos and descriptions are just excuses.. and they r not smart and they r not submissive (can be temporary when in love).
@@Lennakanci999 ..
hmm.. idk. seems like you should get out more often. Maybe thats true in your part of the world tho. Iguess it all would depend on what your interpretation of "wife material" and "junk" are.
Right?
Jack Luminous
Wife material - submissive, obedient, humble, loyal, feminine character, home type of girl.
Junk - the rest.. (club girls, girls with attitude, modern type ones, feminists, “strong and independent” ones, etc)
My girlfriend has purple hair, piercings, tats lol. And she is the sweetest person I know, she works with animals for a living and is extremely emotionally intelligent. She is the best one I have dated by far. Great team player, open minded, smart and persistent in all things she does, and very good at communicating. We have had disagreements and argued once or twice (which is my fault, I am fiery as fuck) but we have not FOUGHT or had a hostile word in the 2 years we have been together. She always has my back and never tries to make me feel anything but capable. I think I will marry her
I have a female friend that has mostly male friends. She is very kind and polite. I help her In many ways even financially.
I noticed that the time she gives me is limited. And I can rarely even get a hug from her.
I guess I'am wasting my time hoping this is going somewhere? Or I'am just being used?
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This is 100% my ex wife, especially the insults and never taking ownership of being wrong or late.
No woman can admit to being wrong, its just not in their DNA.
Ditto.
Yes, you are correct!
yes the same here ..and i am
sure she did not pay u any alimony when the marriage ended
You just didn't understand her. You just didn't get it.
The most important "red flag" is that in her past relationships, she has called the cops on three of her ex- boyfriends.......😏
Only three? Or pretty much any other man in her life for that matter. And for any petty ass reason.
Not a red flag, a black flag...
Really? Gimmie a break
That means either she's a drama queen or she attracted abusive men who deserved to have the cops called on them.
@@cozettem8226 Probably a mix of both...
You're the Mom a lot of us guys needed growing up.
You save us, and help us save
ourselves.
May God strengthen you.
Thank you so much, wonderful compliment! :)) God bless!
I love you Bill Murray 💟
I can't say more ... I agree with u
AWESOME!!!!
On the other hand Bill our mothers just happen / happened to be women as well and since you have mentioned G*d he gave us a brain to use on our own without the aid a mother who is a woman although these days you could get some grief for stating it as simplistic as that . My birth mother died when i was a few months old ( so there goes that logic ), and my stepmother ( another woman believe it or not ), was of no help at all with anything that i needed i can tell you that . Also , my dad turned out to be a mushy coward around her who i vowed since childhood never to be like and thankfully i stuck with that promise to myself since i was a kid . However, i have a brain and common sense so i hardly need another women bitching at me anyway . Guys should be able to figure this out on their own and Anna is simply reinforcing what most of us already know which is nice of her i suppose .
Selfish - it all boils down to Selfishness.
Steven Salemi Yes the number one sign It's always about her
@@alonzomosley7 ... and what she wants/can GET from you, all with no mention of breaking up with her boyfriend.
And no respect
Always playing the victim card
Narcissistic
Once dated a woman, who always wanted to cause a argument, ( about anything) between, her an my self so that she can have a reason to cry, so that I would have to apologize. ( Which, I never would). So happy single
My sister inlaw would argue with her boy friend the guy would leave and she would say , I love to argue for the sake of arguing.
@@whitecrane3714 sounds like she needs a punching bag so she stays off her own back .
He deserves better
Girl at the pet shop would come running up to me every time I walked in. She was always super chatty and nice. She was cute but I shut her down because I don't want a relationship. So I go into the pet shop and there's a new girl and she say's "hey what about him?" The other girl goes "I tried he's gay". LOL I chuckled to myself thinking whatever to make your self feel better. The next time I came into the store she was down right viscous when she realized her insults didn't work. I'm glad I stayed clear of that one.
I overheard a girl talking trash about me at the gym when I had my headphones on and she thought I couldn't hear. Just a minute before she was smiling all over me and trying to get my attention. I guarantee she didn't want anything to do with me, and she was just mad that she didn't get the attention she thought she deserved from me as a male. So strange. They value our attention so highly yet they honestly don't care about us at all. It's like they just expect us to serve them validation on a silver platter and worship them just for having two X chromosomes and get nothing in return. Puh leaze.
Hey! Men can be worse to us, An ex was supposed to come over with his truck, help me move to a new place - he just didn't turn up, no ph call, no nothing. His new girlfriend may have demanded he not see me again but letting me down like this, with no place to live apart from the street? I ended up being glad we broke up. And if we girls/women don't go out when some of you ask, well you can be downright vicious and cruel. Ho humm.
@@LoveFaithLive you’re surprised that a man’s current gf was uncomfortable with him helping you move? Really? What planet do you live on?
Just people behaving like people. Everybody wants change for the better. But it's not gunna happen, people are people and they behave that way.
@@LoveFaithLive he's your ex. He's not your friend or your family. Hire a mover. He owes you nothing.
lost my well-paid job After hurting my back in an accident then out of the blue she said she needed space to find herself it was only then did I realise she was with me only for what she could get.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
“She’s a taker but not a giver” did it for me, my ex-gf earned a lot more than me as a public servant and would never reciprocate even symbolically. When I met her brother, I felt the same petty vibe, some people have a scarcity mentality and are not raised to have any kind of generosity. A lifetime of that would be miserable.
I am going through the same thing. Unfortunately, is yet another time we have to move on because is not about that she’s not interested in you, but she’s also not a good one either. Someone who likes you will mean it and show it - that is if love even exist anywhere
It looks like you dodged a bullet there, @dan fg
Same thing happens with my cousins, male and female, brother and sister... what a pair of a... holes
Being way too much of a giver way too early is also a red flag. Means they’re trying to suck you in because they know they’ll be crazy. It’s a trap.
That’s the extreme narcissist alarm going off. And if you don’t hear it and ignore the flashing lights. Bam you’re in for trouble!
As an older guy, the wise bonus at the end is to my mind the overriding principle. Your personality and values are most often set in stone and too many of us find that when the infatuation cools off, resentment of opposing values will become insufferable.
Man this is too true. This happened with my liberal ex girlfriend. Once the infatuation wore off after 2 months, it was constant tension on morals and values. Making us resent each other.
#1: "When she's too good to be true" ....yup, it's a trap.
These are 15 sings that someone is emotionally damaged. No matter which sex.
Many are ridiculous and are too generalized.
So true
@@1Skorpia Nah, that's not too general. Its classic narc behavior. See the DSM5 for further insight on NPD.
i'm suffering all these signs from my boyfriend, so i agree :')
Number one she meant "misandrist" though. Misandrists hate men
Misogynists hate women
My ex shows all the sign. Just broke up recently. I kinda feel relief after watching the video. 😄
So far how are you
Same here brother!
I’m a women with no friends.... and just like the men watching on here, you just named 15 reasons why I don’t have girl- friends. This absolutely does not mean I have “issues”. I just feel more at peace when it’s quiet and I don’t have to hear the gossip all the time. I’ve gotten rid of friends because some of these traits you listed about toxic women. Not ALL women are like this. Like me for example.
As a married woman over 50... I agree, this one needs to be taken into context and is not necessarily an automatic red flag. Some of us are introverted have only 1-3 friends at a time... If any, and if we happened to have a friend that we had a falling out with because we realized they did not truly respect us, or some other issue, we may not find another close friend for years. Not every lady is the extroverted "girls night out" or " lunch with the ladies" person.
Thank you
I had not many Female friends growing up as they were all too girly (ie afraid of breaking a nail and all about gossip), but I chose/made my own tribe of women as an adult. None of us girls are into gossip, all are empath and despite being féminin and totally aware of our sexuality, my female friends and I are equally happy being covered in mud singing around a campfire. I have pretty much an equal number of male and female friends, which I find give me the right balance of inputs.
I truly hope for your sake that you don't have "issues".
Princess Love.... yeah it's not that I hate women. I don't blame all women for the things that happen to me. I'm not a barfly or somebody that has to have my guys around all the time... not a flirt Etc blah blah blah. I'm just old school and that don't fit today. Today's ladies like to run around with their Pals and have these nights out BS excetera. Hey if you have to be out running around all the time, especially at night away from family or your loved ones, you're not settled. If you need those things more then your husband and family or boyfriend excetera... Then you're not settled. Because I have never seen one relationship work where each one was out running around. And when somebody gets a little freedom they always take it to the extreme eventually. Remember that word eventually. Does this mean it's everyone of course not. I just don't have time for those games. Two marriages in which both of them were running around with their friends and making excuses to do it, ended up with cheaters. They can go hang as far as I'm concerned. I'm not that young anymore so I got no time for games. Games are for people that like to live their lives in extreme and in drama. It's pitiful but I've seen it a lot. So I do my own thing. Pretty attractive guy for my age, people are always asking damn why are you not with someone. I told them I have the most beautiful in my life already... My kids and young granddaughters. There's nothing higher than that for me. You wouldn't believe how many married ladies talk to me. Especially when people find out you're single lol. That tells me they are not that happy in their relationships. The difference is I never step over the line. And I mean never. I'm friend and that's it just like I was during my married years I'm a friend and that's it. Peace to you. It's a shame our world has ended up with all of these Progressive people that actually cannot see they are being regressive. Wishing you the best :-)
Not taking accountability?
Thats all Gen Z women
Lol
lol, 🙂 thank you for your feedback!
Well adjusted/healthy women are RARE.
Dean Frank that’s not going to happen
@maggie o'brien I do
TRUTH: Virtuous Women are extremely rare, though we do exist. :)
TRUTH: The Jezebel that is being described in this video conducts herself in the same manner with other females as well. Evil is, as evil does.
TRUTH: Virtuous Women and Men of Valor recognize and avoid that timewasting, triflin', evil b*tch.
NO TISSUES.
NUFF SAID.
so are men... just sayin'
Where are they?