I've been no contact and every single video I've watched has told me to stay there until she contacts me. However I decided to listen to a woman (you) this time and I sent her exactly what you said. "I understand how I messed up, I apologize. I agree we need time apart." We both played a big role in what lead to us breaking up which she pushed for. However I sent that and 5 minutes later she called back and we talked. I am not saying we will get back together, but we were mature and very soft with one another about it all. Owned our roles and she and I both are in a better spot. No pressure or anything to hang out but it certainly was a relief to be where we are now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart on this one. I appreciate you.
@@YourWingmam hi Anna, I am in no contact at the moment. But when we first was breaking up I begged and pleaded for her not to go. I did this for a couple of weeks. I know now that is a big mistake. But is it too late for me now? Did I completely mess it up for begging?
@@antonjelenic8014 - It wasn't long. Maybe 3 weeks but I felt the need to apologize for things I said. We still are not together and won't be and I'm 100% ok with it and allow me to explain. After stepping back and really looking at the relationship for what it was, I was believing in something that didn't exist, just in my own head. She is simply not the right woman for me. It's a very hard part to contend with but once you pull your emotions out and look at things objectively, you see things much clearer. Good luck to you!!
@@antonjelenic8014 The biggest, and don't get me wrong the hardest as well, reason I stepped away was because she never apologized for her actions in any capacity. I did elude in my original post she "owned" them but there was no "I'm sorry." More mirroring what I was doing. Any human being that cannot admit fault is not someone I would surround myself with. I feel I was lucky to get out of this with only 9 months invested. Imagine spending years with someone who doesn't know the words "I'm sorry I hurt you." That's one sinister and entitled b**** if you ask me. My advice is this. If they broke up with you, they will do it again. Take the time to heal, cry like hell, and forge a path in life that makes you unstoppable. One person is not essential in your life. Trust me on this. Good luck to you!!
@@afmcben listen to me bro she is not special and doesnt deserve you forget that bitch and focus on yourself she will come back but you wont give a f about her anymore
Bro so right, I took care of her when she was having crazy bleeding issues from her period and thought she was dying. She was so grateful to me. We’ll see if the dude she monkey branched to does that
I don't understand why people think they NEED to be coupled? Make your own life & create your Own Happiness. Anyone you invite to join you for any part of your journey should express Gratitude 😁
Shut up bro u dont get it i have a great life i do all these things u said but being single suck excpecally when you are almost 29... there isnt anything better for a man than having a good women in his side who will love him and respect him. And for a women aswell that is the proupose of life to have a partner and create family... not hanging around partying and traveling the world alone to try and be happy there is always that empty space the older u get when u do these things.
I don't understand, why ppl would choose a freak show OVER peace of mind ?! It's crazy. Peace of mind needs being maintained at all cost. Be emotional, physically stable. I've just had that kind of freak show, for 7 months. Absolutely *not* being worth it. Toxic, narcisstic drama queens should become cat sitters, and left alone with their box wine, period.
you're right.. in fact it's encouraged in Scripture... to prevent all these problems... but that also means no sex...u want sex, get married...or live that other life.
@@Atonement- Sex is being (very) overrated, nowadays. Nice to have, but the right woman is 95% not being there. You can have cheap 304s at every corner - not my taste. Same goes for narcisstic, superficial, not-looking-over-the-plate, limited, toxic, attitude & entitled drama queens. Been there - have had it accidently - no-go, no way! Never, ever again. And because nowadays like >=90% of all women are like that - i just quit, MGTOW. Peace of mind is price-less. I'd like to keep my emotional & mental health - and not to deal with a freak show, or brat, these silly, stupid grrrls - whereas you've see plenty of them, into every train, for instance. Too superficial.
No contact… in that time she will get on dating apps and “live her life”. Fellas, I know she was special and beautiful but if she left you then it’s time to move on. You shouldn’t take her back after she gets ran through and realizes no one else is willing to commit to her like you were. You deserve better. Edit: Perhaps you don’t deserve better. Perhaps you didn’t meet her standards. Regardless, if she leaves take that as a reason to self improve and meet someone else.
@@unknownuser6757, women never change. Go to the gym, go to a job, but NEVER return to the woman who broke up with you. Never talk to your exes, and never receive them back.
@@unknownuser6757 He's right. If she didn't like you the first time she won't like you the second time too. The second time she's just testing if she can get you back to fill her ego, but it's nothing more than that. People just don't get it. You cannot get any chick you want by "changing". I say find yourself another chick and leave all the ex-es as ex-es, you won't gain any kind of experience if you keep coming back.
@@unknownuser6757 Not very often sadly, and also that would require the other person to admits faults and actually change, witch no offense, is not really a woman trait.
Men.. If she wants to take a break or broken up with you just go no contact and do not reach out to her ever again unless she reaches back out to you. Work on yourself to be a better man so if she does come back you will already be in position to handle the situation.
Right. I feel like even sending the text message saying you missed up still makes it to where she doesn’t have to be a accountable at all especially if she broke up with you. Yes she has to reach out first 100%.
Lmao, you even preparted to take her back after she got ran trough? You think the modern woman breaks up without a backup? Unless you really screwed up, otherwise you can be sure its another option.
@@53Strat going thru the exact thing myself. she lied hard about it too. then came clean. said i broke up with you i did nothing wrong lol, i miss her but i know eventually ill hate her. the problem is ive had a wife for the year ive been seeing her, only ever went there to run thru her, now shes gone im feeling it tho.
This video helped give a good perspective, i watched it awhile ago and finally was brave enough to put a comment. When my ex dumped me i walked around for weeks thinking i had made mistakes and more, was depressed for awhile, but the time i finally felt i could move on then i was told my a mutual friend that she had started dating a new guy same day as she broke my heart. The pain from hearing that kind of news is the worst pain. The reason im saying all of this is that you might think you did something or something bad, but the truth is if they can move on that fast then they were the issue and not you in the relationship. It might feel like the end of the worls, but it truly isnt. Stay strong, everyone, and remember we all have friends and family that love us. I hope this can help someone who is going through something similar.
What most of these videos get wrong is exactly what you said. No one likes to humiliate themselves texting again and again. They do it coz they fear this person is going to find someone else.
@@Oceanstaand it's going to happen. Why they return late you think? They look for other and date others and then they realize that you were the best and then come back. You were always their last option. And you gonna accept them back? Lol no. They lost the chance, now move on bro
If they broke up with you and you did nothing wrong, it is up to THEM to contact you. No 30 days. It is forever days that you don’t contact them. They broke it off , and it’s up to them to come back and contact you my friends. Now go and live your Best life ! You only have so much time in this cool life! Make it great!
The best advice I ever received about my divorce was: “ the best revenge is a happy life.” Being happy is being grateful for the blessings that you have; and this is true for most of us fortunate enough to live in the United States.
Great comment. We in the US take too much for granted. Such a big chunk of the world's population is starving or living in filth and we take what we have for granted. A thankful heart is a happy heart. Count your blessings.
The best thing to do is keep busy. Family will always be there! Women come and go, just like the seasons, and their phases are just like the moon, always changing 🤑🤣
Truth must be told ..when she leaves..for no real reason other than she was unwilling to meet you half way in the relationship. During no contact shes out there getting new sexual thrills..hooking up ..getting off.. When she gets dumped then she comes back around to you. If months pass and you have no reach out from her..shes not sitting home watching tv. .she on her knees somewere..why get back with that?...shes now got another guys memories in her head and DNA up in her body..when a woman leaves never ever let that alley cat back in your door..
same i was with a single mother and idk what im thinking....i feel disrespected and she doesnt meet me half way anymore after a yr 1/2. She has her son who is priority and she lives with her in-laws until she finds an apt with her son. her ex hus and her been separated for 3 years..living separately and he makes a problem about giving her money for their son when she asks him. its sad.
This video is right. The “mature” way to deal with a breakup is to agree “Ok. I agree, we should break up. Take care.” Stand up and leave - don’t try to resist/convince her - just accept the loss in this battle. And walk away. Then No Contact, leave some days/weeks to analyze the relationship, acknowledge your mistakes and briefly apologize (after some No Contact 1-3 weeks). Then forget her and focus on your life: more muscle, more money, more travels, more friends, more hobbies, more girls... Then I would never get her back. Rule #1: if you leave me once, it’s bye forever. Love yourself. But if you want her back, it’s up to you. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Good luck
Exactly. If it was a long, loving, serious relationship, or marriage and they leave you, specifically if its for petty reasons other than: Cheating, Abuse or something serious like that, then it was basically a betrayal. They ran as soon as thing got a little rough. Complete lack of loyalty and a sign of Narcissistic traits. Why would you take back someone like that? What will happen the next time there are rough times? What happens if you go through a family tragedy and lose someone and become depressed, lose your job etc.? Will she just abandon you again while you're at your lowest? What's even the point of a relationship, if this is what they are to Women?
When she discarded me I went back to her and being needy only to find out the abuse started getting worse I decided to get out for good to keep my sanity
Good for you! When a man goes back to a toxic woman, it usually gets worse because she holds all the power and knows it. See my narcissist/red flags playlist.
I had been with someone for 6 months and the way she discarded me and what she did traumatised me ever since. The level of cruelty, cheating and total disregard sent me over the edge. I have not entered another relationship since. That was 10 years ago.
@@taylorcain3271 Every single one is the same. You think you got a special one, until she does it to you. It's simply how their brains are wired. Their entire reality is simply how they feel in the moment, NOTHING else matters. There's zero logic, zero deeper thoughts or introspection, it's all based on what their emotions are IN THE MOMENT. No matter how in love you were, no matter if you lived with her for DECADES and created thousands of amazing memories together, no matter how many times you were there for her in the past. The moment she FEELS wronged by you, ALL of that love, ALL of those memories will be flushed down the toilet by her, as if they didn't even exist. It's wild "Hell hath no fury like a Woman scorned" is true. The problem is it doesn't matter if they ACTUALLY were scorned, it only matters if they FEEL like they were scorned
There are 7.8 billion people on this planet. Do not lose your mind over one. When she says she needs time, space, etc. Just say ok and walk away. You don't need an explanation. You don't need her to understand anything. Just saying okay is enough. Do not take her back! If you do, you'll be in this same boat again. The pain you feel is like someone died. Your subconscious mind has built a dream life with your S.O. and now dream has died You have to go through the stages of death like when dealing with an actual death. Once you go through the stages of grief you'll be fine. Do not be mad. Do not seek revenge. Do not be mean. If someone brings her up. Tell them you wish her the best! If you hear she's looking for someone better or has found someone better. Be happy for her. Why? We want the best for YOU. We want YOU to be happy. YOU'RE going to find someone better too, right?! The person who broke up with you did you a favor! NOW go out and become a better person! The Best Form of Revenge is Success.
It’s true someone else always comes along but that’s why no one ever commits these days. Relationships these days are disposable and replaceable. We are taught to move on always looking for better. But life just becomes serial relationships. I’m sick of that personally. Not everyone finds their perfect partner. We are no longer encouraged to work it out but to just move on.
@@kling8460 This is the reality of the world that we are living in. Frankly, I'm sick of it too. It's really not the way it should be. But it is what it is, we have to play the hand that we are dealt.
😂 it's really true 😂my ex girlfriend told me she doesn't think i have changed enough for her to come back to me. Immediately, i have walked away and it's a blessing ❤
You know you have a point, but when my ex left me I didn't feel sad I felt relieved. She, and I we're just wrong for each other, and I do wish her all the love, and happiness in the world, but what's done is done, and my heart, and conscious is comfortable saying I'm gladly moving on, and I'm loving myself for having standards, and not going back for a 6th time. I'm so glad I saw this video thank you so much.
After reading this I don't know if this made me happy or sad. Because it's good that you're already over the person but at the same time I'm sad because I always wanted this family and I messed up and I was hoping to fix it I think I'm starting to realize that I have to fix myself so I don't mess up my next true love
Going towards 4 months of no contact. I started mourning the relationship, and moving on the minute she discarded me. It's hard but feasible. That's what I think of getting her back. Yep!I I got the avoidant discard! She won't be doing it to me a second time.
If she comes back, acknowledged her as an ex, appreciate she did but never get back in a relationship. You will get dumped again. Men, we had enough and its high time we stopped being in an emotional hostage😂😂😂 Run run 😂
Loved this video! Ages ago a woman had broke up with me , and after a month or so of no contact she started calling me, showing up at my work, etc. It only resulted in casual get togethers, which wasn't really what I wanted, so I moved on. During the breakup period I hung out with friends and just did things I enjoyed. I think if I had initially pleaded with her to stay, I'd have lost her respect. If I had continued to get together with her for casual hook ups I would have lost my own self respect. All in all it worked out since she simply wasn't right for me.
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DANG ! There goes the Moonlight dinner with you next to the Ocean ...guess I'll cancel the flight to the Philippines where you moved to recently from Canada...do I get my 5 thou back ?
Anna, I regret not telling you this earlier but I very much appreciate your wisdom and advice. The last 4 years since my separation have been rough but you've taught me a few things along the way which have helped me navigate post-relationship waters. And I also appreciate your pleasantly positive, non-judgmental/encouraging... and humorous delivery.
First off, thanks for the advice. I did what you said about talking to her. It kinda worked because she confessed why she broke up with me. She is still in love with her ex who cheated on her. I was shocked a little, but I realized she can do whatever she wants, shes out of my life now.
I have been having difficulties with my marriage for sometimes now but with the help of this Sorceress, I have been able to put my marriage back together.
I just recently broke up with my ex and... BEST THING EVER! i've quit smoking, got back into my fitness training, already lost 20lb in a few weeks, started doing the things I love again. Honestly, it was a toxic relationship but I don't care. I am happy, I feel better than I have done in the last two years. Fellas, women don't make us happy, we make our own happiness.
I broke up with my gf, the relationship was 3 months. She couldn't make time to see me for over a month prior to this she told me something that made me question "why am I with her" and I balled my eyes out on the drive back home. She never gave me the time of day to tell her what was on my mind she even guessed what it was I wanted to talk about. The final straw for me was when she lied to me about where she would be on the 4th and with who she would be with. Not with her parents for her moms B-Day but out with a bunch of friends. She also let some random guy hug her from behind at a pool, his arm was fully wrapped around her. When I messaged her with the picture basically saying "why is he hugging all over you" she gaslit me and said he was standing being me. I had enough of her putting me aside and her lying so I broke up
Yes you are correct . God pulled me out of this relationship. She had all red flags. Opioid addict for 30 years. I do not want her back. I must move on.
Just had my gf of 6 months recently ghost me. We had our very first small dispute in the relationship (she was in the wrong) and she immediately ran. She never said we were breaking up, didn't say she wanted out, never even hinted that she was unhappy; last text I got from her was "I need time talk when I can" and she blocked me on everything. That was 3 weeks ago. I'm trying to move on and even got a couple dates lined up, but I just can't wrap my head around why she'd discard me after everything we had. Thankfully I kept my dignity intact I never begged, pleaded, or tried getting around the block once. I've given her radio silence, no clue if she'll ever realize what she's lost.
Hi Anna, I believe in the no contact, however it's complete torture. Without it we won't grow, It's the only way to get back to reality, and get your feet back on the ground. For me it's been 6 months and Everday I realize something else that was an issue. My breakup was not a girlfriend it was a female friend (BFF) that some boundaries were crossed.
I wasn't asking too much I was just giving her what I was expecting in return, but she wasn't emotionally available for so many reasons out my control.
Thank you for a inspirational video. The most important thing I got out of it was to acknowledge my role in the relationship and work on being the best i can be. I was abit surprized reading thru some of the comments. Clearly lots of resentment being shown by others toward there partners.
The thing is you already know what kind of person she is. If she's a liar and a cheater then why thinking of even getting her back. People don't change easily, for that to happen they need a hard push and trust me you can't make her change. So just let her go and find different one. It's gonna be hard but that's the best option you got there. Talking about it from experience, all the best guys 😊
Funny how women can spend years building love, trust and connection with you, then leave you out of the blue because they met another guy who gave them butterflies, and expect you not to get upset and emotional. After the most recent one, I don't think I'll be able to trust another woman for the rest of my life.
So let me get this right... If you're to much in love you're wrong? If you too reserved you're wrong? And you expect men to know the sweet spot how? This is why ancient cultures suppressed women and made them objects to own by men. They are too cunning and untrustworthy.
Anna, I appreciate your logic,and yes, I agree that she’ll probably contact you at some point by using your method, but I’ve got to say this at 55 and having been around the tracks and in the process broken hearts and had mine broken: if she dumps you, suck it up, accept it’s over, if you haven’t learned to be happy and content being alone, then do so. Once you’ve achieved this,decide on what’s important to you in a woman knowing that perfection doesn’t exist, and start looking again. And if I may add this,speaking of what’s important, in my experience, looks,charm,money,social status,etc.is not what’s really important in the final analysis for a long term relationship with someone,character and sticktuitiveness are. Put another way, with these two traits, she’ll be a good woman and stick by your side when things get tough.
I really appreciate this comment. Woman who's been in my life for years decided ti get involved with a married man with kids at her workplace. I didnt even do anything wrong but wait for years for her to get her shit together with nothing to show for it. Im defeated and heart broken and feel I wasted time. But your comment really put a new perspective on things. I appreciate you, thanks.
Hi I am a well aged experienced man . The love of my life is a know it all kind of lady. I listened to your video and is spot on to my girlfriend and I situation. While I am very easy going,open minded,loyal and Loving . My lovely lady is the opposite. Very controlling,closed minded, gossipy, bad temper, and always complaining. We have been together for 3 years. We had a Hugh argument. I just couldn’t take it anymore. I walked out on her and we have not seen or spoken to each other in 3 weeks . I am doing fine as always and wish her all the same . Thank you for your insight.
I can't help but recognize that, #1 the ways you might get her back are also the ways you should act if, #2 you don't want her back. Most of the time IMO, unless you are married with children, door #2 is the better choice. If you don't follow Anna's advice about the "No Contact" policy's, and continue to "pursue" her love, you are Simping and making everything worse. Ghost her, don't talk to anyone about her, don't bring her up in conversation. Don't let her continue to live in your mind rent free. I know it's a heavy haul when you really love her but you must. If you do ghost her, the ball will be in her court. Let her make her choice, if she has a change of heart and that's what you still want fine, don't chase her.
Great of saying it 10 year relationship n she left to find herself. I know right....I have all the negative thoughts trust I do. Positive thoughts I believe her. ...I just need to look the other way and be strong when returns because I don't think it's fair to walk out myself then possibly come back n thinks that's okay
@@AmethystKing Many of us have been there. Hang tough for yourself. No contact. You'll get a little better everyday. Focus on you moving forward, not her coming back.
"No Contact" gave me the impression that this was about breaking the trauma bond within an abusive Narcissistic Relationship, not trying to keep a Keeper.
Thank you. She replied immediately after sending her that text. Kept true to no contact for a week and we are slowly and constructively rekindling on mutually beneficial terms
"she left you once, she'll leave you twice." is spot on. That's why I've NEVER ran it back. And why I never will. Ironically, women in my past knowing that I'm like this and I stick to it has had many of them fiending for my attention, some of them YEARS later. Sorry woman, it didn't work the first time, so I'm not even remotely interested in running it back again just to SEE if it MIGHT work this time, when it likely won't and I just wasted even more valuable time
The no contact rule is almost like a reset button for you to level up in your life. It's actually to help you grow and keep your mind off the breakup. If someone really loves you, they wouldn't have done you dirty. Keep that in mind fellas. She ain't the only fish in the sea.
Didn't do any of these things.... Re-evaluated "our relationship, and ALL her relationships with "others" during our 2 1/2 years... "discovered" in my untrained mind that she was BPD ! Now I am "No Contact" and recovering my sanity, and looking for better.
In my experience women always wait to find someone else before breaking it off. But still tell you they love you and want your babies. My gf waited til we broke up to talk about things that bothered her.
Anna, that's all true. I call it "the power to walk away." If she breaks up, you just say nothing and walk away. Go, no contact, and block her. You need to have that mindset and realize that from the beginning, she's her own person, and if she wants out, you let her go. "Being not afraid to lose her." A real strong man leads and set up his boundaries from the start. Giving each other space in the relationship. I will never take a girlfriend back when she breaks up. Moreover, if she crosses any of my boundaries, I am gone. I even got stalked by my ex. It's crazy!!! All of a sudden, they want to talk, and they will try to track you down. "Tears, you are the only one. How sorry they are... So I 100% agree, but this is very powerful stuff you are teaching the guys... The ladies will not be happy.😂😂😂
@Zias121 mine was an affair. but she met another and dude im dying. everything is wrong and i know it must end but its killing me. for me it was only sex. but now i wish i gave her everything. im lower than low atm. all i can think of is this other guy and her.
@Zias121 i just want to know if these feelings will eventually stop and I can be normal. she is the kind of person who gets with guys to live off them. i promised her the world so she stayed around. i never delivered. i never intended too. but now im devastated and wish I had. I know if this guy has a house etc she will be in with him and the sad part is I know its finally over. how do i rekindle my relationship with my current partner? she is a really good woman who i love dearly but im just not into her s sexually as i was my affair.
For the first time in TH-cam history, a dating advice video actually contains good advices. This video hits like a truck in the best possible way. Thank you Anna.
Love this channel! You show how stuff like this can be done without being toxic and negative which I feel a lot of young guys in my generation do because it's the easier than being mature and proper. Thank you miss
I appreciate your tips Anna. In my case I cannot use these methods for 2 reasons. 1. I don't want to get back with her. 2. The only possible reason I see where I messed up is I never asked for commitment and we both just drifted away. Two months zero contact. I used to get many heart palpitations thinking of her. I still have her on social media as unfollowed to prevent from seeing her updates. After analyzing the signs I am ok with it now. She dosent want me anymore and I will not beg for any woman. Im happy alone.
Hi Anna. Yes neediness is simpiness, if that's a word. If she doesn't show interest, it's time to leave. Communication is a two way street, one way streets are miserable. So for me it's two-way or No way.
Great insight, it gives me hoope. I know I messed up big time, not by cheating on her, but doing something that drove her away. I did it during a time she wasn't talking to me and felt desperate and anxious, so when we got back together, thhat one action (not cheating) came back and bit me in the ass, so now she isn't talking to me again. I really do hope we get back together, we've been through a lot and she knows I've always been there for her. Taking notes of these tips.
Guy's if a chic breaks up with you just move on. If she reaches out to you just ignore her. She's most likely playing games. Just focus on yourself and let her go. She probably isn't worth your time and heartache anymore anyway. Ive been in no contact with this chic for almost a year now. Trust me i don't care about her anymore. She'll have to prove herself to me and i can assure ya it won't be easy and will take a while for her to prove herself. I dont care if she proves her or doesn't. She proved she didn't care about me now she's gonna bust her ass proving that she does when and if she contacts me again. I actually hope she dont contact me because ill probably just make her prove herself then tell her to piss off. Because i just dont care anymore.
The fact that you still remember her and mention her after year of silence imagining what will you do if she reaches out to you proves that you still care about her and you haven't moved on. 😉
Well I didn’t do any of the list that you mentioned. I just can’t deal with people at my age everybody comes with baggage and I don’t need somebody codependent on her children.
Guys, grow a pair and find a new girl. If she leaves or irritates you then its time to look for something better. Playing no contact games is ridiculous in this short life. Trust me you will find something better.
you are awesome, this works, my gf is begging me to talk to her, it was getting really annoying, she always used to threaten to leave me if i dont agree with her for something, and now i have had enough of it, i said the same thing you told me , i need so time to think, and she is going crazy with all the msg and calls, i actually now want to talk to her, but i know i have to stay strong, if she wont stay she was never mine to begin with
The agreeing to time apart is pivotal. I did all the wrong steps in the beginning by being desperate and it only pushed my wife away further. As soon as I sat down with her, really listened to why she wanted to separate and agreed to a separation, our interactions have gotten a lot better, she’s been kinder. But in my stage am I in no way out of the woods in my situation I can attest that agreeing to a separation from the beginning will get you ahead faster instead of fighting it and give you a better chance, and if you follow no contact and really work on yourself, you’re on the right track.
No contact is powerful and has worked for me in the past. But some relationships never get back together, so make sure you are working towards moving on during no contact. It will help rebuild yourself to eventually meet someone better if they never come back. It temporarily sucks but in the long run…life is very good!
I’m haven’t been exposed to nearly as many situations as a dating coach, but I’m not sure I agree with the idea of getting back together with an ex, no matter how compatible. A breakup is a sort of cathartic and traumatic event, unless one or both individuals is just flighty and break up willy-nilly. Dealing with a person’s trauma from their past is one thing, but when you’re the source of the trauma, that’s an extremely difficult road to navigate and there is probably no recovery of that relationship for most couples. Yes, these points could bring the couple back together, but is it really worth the monumental task of maintaining that damaged relationship?
I agree! This is my philosophy! But some men are bound & determined to do it anyways! No amount of reasoning will persuade. Videos like this are for them, to help them 'protect themselves at all times'! ( MHD quote)
Yes, exploring and finding a new modus vivendi is a formidable task, but investing in a new relationship is just as formidable a task, even though we might be as yet unaware of the oncoming efforts. In some cases repairing a failing relationship might be a better opportunity for growth than jumping from crisis to crisis in a series of disposable relationships.
The whole idea of a “dating coach” implies assistance to individuals who are in the process of seeking the right partner. This implies that once they have found the magical partner, they are supposed to move out of the dating process and live happily ever after. This is what has been promised to us in fairytales. It so happens that people can become established in this “process of seeking the right partner” without becoming established in a new process of building a happy couple and a thriving family and social nucleus. Perhaps we can compare the dating process with the real estate agencies that are not a purpose in themselves but a process leading to an appropriate home. Before going back to the real estate agent, we consider how to repair the house.
Really like your energy and vibe , very honest and open got a new subscriber!! I’m 6 weeks into no contact , starting a new career path and getting my driving licence back after health issues . Growing each day and my mission is to be better and better day after day
I've been broken up with my ex for a year, and ive been in no contact for 10 months. I reached out a month after saying that I was sorry for part of what i caused on the night that had a bad blowout. Ive been just working on myself, became a Christian back in June. After my final text message to my ex i havent reached out, i forgave her almost a year later, and I have been really happy knowing that ive been doing everything that I can to become a better person then what i was. One of those steps was becoming a Christian and that was one of the best choices that I made for myself
@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 normally I would agree with you on that statement, however, because of how my life is I've had ex's show back up into my life after years wanting to get back together
for everyone here's the tl;dr - 30 days no contact at all, don't even talk about her with friends, no stalking/cyberstalking - send one message "I'm sorry, I admit what I did wrong, I agree we need time apart" then ACTUALLY get over her and move on so you don't feel sad or that you miss her, and THEN AFTER 30 days you can try going back to her
@@Shivs.adv. according to this video, no. Weirdly your message brought this video back to my attention just as I am now in this situation and the girl I've been dating pulled this on me two days ago. So now I have to do this. But I don't know if I'll do it this way or not yet.
Coming back is like writing a bullet with your name on it and giving it to her, so this time she has the chance to OBLITERATE you. No retreat , no surrender KINGS!
Really like your energy and vibe , very honest and open got a new subscriber!! I’m 6 weeks into no contact , starting a new career path and getting my driving licence back after health issues . Growing each day and my mission is to be better and better day after day . Unfortunately she blocked me as soon as she sent the message about breaking up so I can communicate in any way . Helps me focus on myself but I wish I could sent that apology message you said about
this is sort of interesting but it just seems if she breaks up with you: hell with her. You don't need her and you can find some one else. get a grip and get busy with all those projects that got backed up cause you were busy with the relationship. Conserve your energy
Wrong! My ex is god fearing woman and I am non believer but enjoyed our talks, we loved each other so much. The pastor was having non of her dating a non believer and deconstructed me over months and then threatened that it she stays with me she will live in sin and god will come and kill me or her or one of her kids in the future as a lesson. He put her through the excommunication process until he broke her then gave her 3 months discipliary. She has messaged me 3 times now telling me how she is deeply in love with me and misses me, but she has sinned and must stick with god as her first love.
@@LlamaOates right she still wants you but you won’t change your sinful ways because you don’t know God is true yet. Yes the bible says to be evenly yoked meaning don’t marry antichrist because 2 become one in marriage. God won’t kill you I’ve never hear a Christian or catholic say that unless you are lying about that but going to hell fire will you have free will to choose. Well it’s not to late for you to repent for your sins turn from your ways call out the Lords name to be saved and get your girl back. Yes God first in all relationship or they don’t last. God bless
He said, "I'll love you till I die" She told him, "You'll forget in time" As the years went slowly by She still preyed upon his mind He kept her picture on his wall Went half crazy now and then But he still loved her through it all Hoping she'd come back again Kept some letters by his bed Dated 1962 He had underlined in red Every single, I love you I went to see him just today Oh, but I didn't see no tears All dressed up to go away First time I'd seen him smile in years He stopped loving her today They placed a wreath upon his door And soon they'll carry him away He stopped loving her today You know, she came to see him one last time (ooh) Ah, and we all wondered if she would (ooh) And it kept runnin' through my mind (ooh) "This time he's over her for good" He stopped loving her today They placed a wreath upon his door And soon they'll carry him away He stopped loving her today He Stopped Loving Her Today by George Jones
@@inconnu4961 Sure, you bet. Anna's video reminded me of this song. It was voted the greatest country song of all time. It's a great example of the polished Nashville sound. 👍👍👍
Thank you for this video Anna. My long term partner broke up with me 15 months ago and I really am in so much pain still. I stopped all contact around 2.5 / 3 months ago to the point I deleted her number. I think about her all the time and I’ve tried to move on with someone else which I know isn’t working for me. I know I need to work on my inner self now and hopefully the universe will guide us back together or to my chosen path in life 💫 I’ve subscribed to the channel and will continue to watch your videos to support me on my journey. Thank you again!
@@YourWingmam Thank you, I will check it out. Though, I do not think I want to go back; been working on myself. I have found your videos insightful and informational. I appreciate it!
i walked out on that air bnb breaking up with her a few hours ago. thank you. i know that this is may not be a video something i should look into i dunno it is still fresh 4 hours ago i am on my lowest point right now but thank you. i will strive for growth and focus on my goals moving forward. she has been my world but i have to move on and maybe some day get treated better
NOW THIS is great information. Thank you for the insights. It's wild how so few dating couches are able to articulate a viable strategy in this situation. I think this one of the few that has a chance at working.
Might be a good idea to make a bonus video on "she s gone, ok, let s move on !" Or how to focus on things that can be changed and things that you must not compromise (setting your bounderies)
@@YourWingmam thank you madame, and if you got some time left, May i ask why masculinity nowadays is toxic on men and praised on modern women ? So it s not masculinity perse which is perceived toxic by those modern women but men being men ? Is it not a real problem to date now ? "Modern women" around me are just source of conflit, and i need a support etc, not a mum huh, even if unconsciously we are may be searching for this unconditionnal love somehow. Losing hope a little as i don t trust anymore this type of dominant women. And don t want neither a submissive woman... does an equilibrium exist ?
I've been no contact and every single video I've watched has told me to stay there until she contacts me. However I decided to listen to a woman (you) this time and I sent her exactly what you said. "I understand how I messed up, I apologize. I agree we need time apart." We both played a big role in what lead to us breaking up which she pushed for. However I sent that and 5 minutes later she called back and we talked. I am not saying we will get back together, but we were mature and very soft with one another about it all. Owned our roles and she and I both are in a better spot. No pressure or anything to hang out but it certainly was a relief to be where we are now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart on this one. I appreciate you.
You’re welcome! Be sure to watch my follow up video tomorrow! 🙏
@@YourWingmam hi Anna, I am in no contact at the moment. But when we first was breaking up I begged and pleaded for her not to go. I did this for a couple of weeks. I know now that is a big mistake. But is it too late for me now? Did I completely mess it up for begging?
For how long are u been using the no contact method?
@@antonjelenic8014 - It wasn't long. Maybe 3 weeks but I felt the need to apologize for things I said. We still are not together and won't be and I'm 100% ok with it and allow me to explain. After stepping back and really looking at the relationship for what it was, I was believing in something that didn't exist, just in my own head. She is simply not the right woman for me. It's a very hard part to contend with but once you pull your emotions out and look at things objectively, you see things much clearer. Good luck to you!!
@@antonjelenic8014 The biggest, and don't get me wrong the hardest as well, reason I stepped away was because she never apologized for her actions in any capacity. I did elude in my original post she "owned" them but there was no "I'm sorry." More mirroring what I was doing. Any human being that cannot admit fault is not someone I would surround myself with. I feel I was lucky to get out of this with only 9 months invested. Imagine spending years with someone who doesn't know the words "I'm sorry I hurt you." That's one sinister and entitled b**** if you ask me. My advice is this. If they broke up with you, they will do it again. Take the time to heal, cry like hell, and forge a path in life that makes you unstoppable. One person is not essential in your life. Trust me on this. Good luck to you!!
If she comes back, doesn't mean she gives af About you. It just means nobody gave af about her like you did king.
Yep, exactly, the demon just exposed themselves.
who cares about she leaving , go find another bitch hahaha
Yeah. 😞 Probably right. She's not gonna come back anyway
@@afmcben listen to me bro she is not special and doesnt deserve you forget that bitch and focus on yourself she will come back but you wont give a f about her anymore
Bro so right, I took care of her when she was having crazy bleeding issues from her period and thought she was dying. She was so grateful to me. We’ll see if the dude she monkey branched to does that
Well said, "You can't lose someone or something that is truly meant for you."
bingo!
My wife and I separated a week ago and haven’t spoken in a week. It’s the best sleep and most peaceful week I’ve had in years.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@YourWingmam thank you!.. it felt nice hearing something “nice and caring” from a female… keep up the good work.
@@freethinkman7678😂 bro i glad you slept well 😂
@@freethinkman7678 🙏🏿
😂😂 bro. This tastes like lemon😂😂
“You can’t lose someone who is truly meant for you “ I love this!!!
Bullshit woman logic lol.
Women use this coping excuse to break up with Men all the time(They then end up with someone 20x worse)
I don't understand why people think they NEED to be coupled? Make your own life & create your Own Happiness. Anyone you invite to join you for any part of your journey should express Gratitude 😁
Shut up bro u dont get it i have a great life i do all these things u said but being single suck excpecally when you are almost 29... there isnt anything better for a man than having a good women in his side who will love him and respect him. And for a women aswell that is the proupose of life to have a partner and create family... not hanging around partying and traveling the world alone to try and be happy there is always that empty space the older u get when u do these things.
I don't understand, why ppl would choose a freak show OVER peace of mind ?! It's crazy. Peace of mind needs being maintained at all cost. Be emotional, physically stable. I've just had that kind of freak show, for 7 months. Absolutely *not* being worth it. Toxic, narcisstic drama queens should become cat sitters, and left alone with their box wine, period.
you're right.. in fact it's encouraged in Scripture... to prevent all these problems... but that also means no sex...u want sex, get married...or live that other life.
@@Atonement- Sex is being (very) overrated, nowadays. Nice to have, but the right woman is 95% not being there. You can have cheap 304s at every corner - not my taste. Same goes for narcisstic, superficial, not-looking-over-the-plate, limited, toxic, attitude & entitled drama queens. Been there - have had it accidently - no-go, no way! Never, ever again. And because nowadays like >=90% of all women are like that - i just quit, MGTOW. Peace of mind is price-less. I'd like to keep my emotional & mental health - and not to deal with a freak show, or brat, these silly, stupid grrrls - whereas you've see plenty of them, into every train, for instance. Too superficial.
@@ArjanTV Purpose of life isn't having a partner. It's about creating your own happiness
No contact… in that time she will get on dating apps and “live her life”. Fellas, I know she was special and beautiful but if she left you then it’s time to move on. You shouldn’t take her back after she gets ran through and realizes no one else is willing to commit to her like you were. You deserve better.
Edit: Perhaps you don’t deserve better. Perhaps you didn’t meet her standards. Regardless, if she leaves take that as a reason to self improve and meet someone else.
"Live her life" sounds very familiar...
😂 yeah they all hit the dating apps after 12 hours.. 😅😂😂😂😂
Yep delete her grieve if you need to but delete and move on
I think it evens out, considering I am on dating apps aswell then
No contact time, and she was already talking with her work colleague for over 3 weeks.
If she left you once, she'll leave you twice.
False. People change
@@unknownuser6757, women never change. Go to the gym, go to a job, but NEVER return to the woman who broke up with you. Never talk to your exes, and never receive them back.
@@unknownuser6757 He's right. If she didn't like you the first time she won't like you the second time too. The second time she's just testing if she can get you back to fill her ego, but it's nothing more than that. People just don't get it. You cannot get any chick you want by "changing". I say find yourself another chick and leave all the ex-es as ex-es, you won't gain any kind of experience if you keep coming back.
@@Legenda20SLO Bro! Well said! 👏🏆
@@unknownuser6757 Not very often sadly, and also that would require the other person to admits faults and actually change, witch no offense, is not really a woman trait.
Men.. If she wants to take a break or broken up with you just go no contact and do not reach out to her ever again unless she reaches back out to you. Work on yourself to be a better man so if she does come back you will already be in position to handle the situation.
Right. I feel like even sending the text message saying you missed up still makes it to where she doesn’t have to be a accountable at all especially if she broke up with you. Yes she has to reach out first 100%.
@@Lonwolf. Because that is exactly what it is!!!!! Simping to someone who made the decision to stay away from you.
brad browning videos are better
Lmao, you even preparted to take her back after she got ran trough? You think the modern woman breaks up without a backup? Unless you really screwed up, otherwise you can be sure its another option.
@@53Strat going thru the exact thing myself. she lied hard about it too. then came clean. said i broke up with you i did nothing wrong lol, i miss her but i know eventually ill hate her. the problem is ive had a wife for the year ive been seeing her, only ever went there to run thru her, now shes gone im feeling it tho.
This video helped give a good perspective, i watched it awhile ago and finally was brave enough to put a comment. When my ex dumped me i walked around for weeks thinking i had made mistakes and more, was depressed for awhile, but the time i finally felt i could move on then i was told my a mutual friend that she had started dating a new guy same day as she broke my heart. The pain from hearing that kind of news is the worst pain. The reason im saying all of this is that you might think you did something or something bad, but the truth is if they can move on that fast then they were the issue and not you in the relationship. It might feel like the end of the worls, but it truly isnt. Stay strong, everyone, and remember we all have friends and family that love us.
I hope this can help someone who is going through something similar.
Amen! I applaud you for sharing your experience! It will help others going through the same pain. 🙏💕
i feel many people fear "no contact" because they deep down want that person back and afraid she moves on with her life to someone else
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
What most of these videos get wrong is exactly what you said. No one likes to humiliate themselves texting again and again. They do it coz they fear this person is going to find someone else.
True
@@Oceanstaand it's going to happen. Why they return late you think? They look for other and date others and then they realize that you were the best and then come back. You were always their last option. And you gonna accept them back? Lol no. They lost the chance, now move on bro
If they broke up with you and you did nothing wrong, it is up to THEM to contact you.
No 30 days.
It is forever days that you don’t contact them.
They broke it off , and it’s up to them to come back and contact you my friends.
Now go and live your Best life !
You only have so much time in this cool life! Make it great!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
If she cheated with your friend why would you want to have either one in your life?
what if she leaves u after 22 y of marriage after u cheated her.
The best advice I ever received about my divorce was: “ the best revenge is a happy life.” Being happy is being grateful for the blessings that you have; and this is true for most of us fortunate enough to live in the United States.
Great comment. We in the US take too much for granted. Such a big chunk of the world's population is starving or living in filth and we take what we have for granted. A thankful heart is a happy heart. Count your blessings.
The best thing to do is keep busy. Family will always be there! Women come and go, just like the seasons, and their phases are just like the moon, always changing 🤑🤣
Truth must be told ..when she leaves..for no real reason other than she was unwilling to meet you half way in the relationship.
During no contact shes out there getting new sexual thrills..hooking up ..getting off..
When she gets dumped then she comes back around to you.
If months pass and you have no reach out from her..shes not sitting home watching tv. .she on her knees somewere..why get back with that?...shes now got another guys memories in her head and DNA up in her body..when a woman leaves never ever let that alley cat back in your door..
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Nice illusion. Texting an allusion.
same i was with a single mother and idk what im thinking....i feel disrespected and she doesnt meet me half way anymore after a yr 1/2. She has her son who is priority and she lives with her in-laws until she finds an apt with her son. her ex hus and her been separated for 3 years..living separately and he makes a problem about giving her money for their son when she asks him. its sad.
Yeah if a guy or girl leaves and leaves you hurt n broken. Never go back. Unless it's for A levels
Well not every woman us an Alley Cat as you call them. Each woman is an individual.
This video is right. The “mature” way to deal with a breakup is to agree “Ok. I agree, we should break up. Take care.” Stand up and leave - don’t try to resist/convince her - just accept the loss in this battle. And walk away. Then No Contact, leave some days/weeks to analyze the relationship, acknowledge your mistakes and briefly apologize (after some No Contact 1-3 weeks). Then forget her and focus on your life: more muscle, more money, more travels, more friends, more hobbies, more girls...
Then I would never get her back.
Rule #1: if you leave me once, it’s bye forever.
Love yourself. But if you want her back, it’s up to you. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Good luck
Exactly. If it was a long, loving, serious relationship, or marriage and they leave you, specifically if its for petty reasons other than: Cheating, Abuse or something serious like that, then it was basically a betrayal. They ran as soon as thing got a little rough. Complete lack of loyalty and a sign of Narcissistic traits. Why would you take back someone like that? What will happen the next time there are rough times? What happens if you go through a family tragedy and lose someone and become depressed, lose your job etc.?
Will she just abandon you again while you're at your lowest? What's even the point of a relationship, if this is what they are to Women?
I wish I had known this many years ago.
Maybe sometimes the right lady and man find each other even after one of them messes the first chance.
When she discarded me I went back to her and being needy only to find out the abuse started getting worse I decided to get out for good to keep my sanity
How long were you together?
Good for you! When a man goes back to a toxic woman, it usually gets worse because she holds all the power and knows it. See my narcissist/red flags playlist.
@@YourWingmam - Is that true? Because I know a guy who had a kid with a woman who dumped him like right after he lost his sister and needed help.
Good for u. 🤟
Preserve yourself and don't settle but ya know, sanity is overrated.
I had been with someone for 6 months and the way she discarded me and what she did traumatised me ever since. The level of cruelty, cheating and total disregard sent me over the edge. I have not entered another relationship since. That was 10 years ago.
Sorry to hear that
Shit dude... they're not all the same... or are they
@@taylorcain3271 Every single one is the same. You think you got a special one, until she does it to you. It's simply how their brains are wired. Their entire reality is simply how they feel in the moment, NOTHING else matters. There's zero logic, zero deeper thoughts or introspection, it's all based on what their emotions are IN THE MOMENT. No matter how in love you were, no matter if you lived with her for DECADES and created thousands of amazing memories together, no matter how many times you were there for her in the past. The moment she FEELS wronged by you, ALL of that love, ALL of those memories will be flushed down the toilet by her, as if they didn't even exist. It's wild
"Hell hath no fury like a Woman scorned" is true. The problem is it doesn't matter if they ACTUALLY were scorned, it only matters if they FEEL like they were scorned
What a great woman you are for men.
You are like a big sister giving men advice..
Bruh understand that (a fish can't teach you how to catch fish) 😂😂
There are 7.8 billion people on this planet.
Do not lose your mind over one.
When she says she needs time, space, etc. Just say ok and walk away.
You don't need an explanation.
You don't need her to understand anything.
Just saying okay is enough.
Do not take her back!
If you do, you'll be in this same boat again.
The pain you feel is like someone died.
Your subconscious mind has built a dream life with your S.O. and now dream has died
You have to go through the stages of death like when dealing with an actual death.
Once you go through the stages of grief you'll be fine.
Do not be mad.
Do not seek revenge.
Do not be mean.
If someone brings her up. Tell them you wish her the best!
If you hear she's looking for someone better or has found someone better.
Be happy for her. Why?
We want the best for YOU.
We want YOU to be happy.
YOU'RE going to find someone better too, right?!
The person who broke up with you did you a favor! NOW go out and become a better person!
The Best Form of Revenge is Success.
Very well said👍
@@kitokachumi1627, thank you. 😊
Guess u r still single
@@HRPufnStuf-tk8mm excellent
Why, tho? If someone breaks up with you, move on and, when you're ready, find another woman...believe it or not, someone else ALWAYS comes along...
It’s true someone else always comes along but that’s why no one ever commits these days. Relationships these days are disposable and replaceable. We are taught to move on always looking for better. But life just becomes serial relationships. I’m sick of that personally. Not everyone finds their perfect partner. We are no longer encouraged to work it out but to just move on.
Society is so fucked now days. @@kling8460
Easier said than done
Unless youre a completely unemotional individual who doesn't really feel anything
@@G-Man01 I understand what you're saying, but with time & experience it gets easier. Moving on is an essential survival skill. I wish you the best.
@@kling8460 This is the reality of the world that we are living in. Frankly, I'm sick of it too. It's really not the way it should be. But it is what it is, we have to play the hand that we are dealt.
Don’t worry about her, YOU move on. I promise. You’re worth it. You will get past whatever you’re feeling. Stay out of the moment
Better idea. Maintain no contact forever. If she wants out, that’s that. Bye!
THIS!!!
😂 it's really true 😂my ex girlfriend told me she doesn't think i have changed enough for her to come back to me. Immediately, i have walked away and it's a blessing ❤
Bingo
Well you did change can you change your life without her😅
Thank You, Anna, Divorced for 10 years with dad duties, Nothing has or will change, 14 sessions of marriage counseling.
What helped you move on. I’m 2.5 years out. One year fully divorced. Feel really low sometimes but then really positive other times.
You know you have a point, but when my ex left me I didn't feel sad I felt relieved. She, and I we're just wrong for each other, and I do wish her all the love, and happiness in the world, but what's done is done, and my heart, and conscious is comfortable saying I'm gladly moving on, and I'm loving myself for having standards, and not going back for a 6th time. I'm so glad I saw this video thank you so much.
I've been going strong with no contact with my ex for 3 years now! It's awesome! :p
🙏
U are a real man 👍🏻
You still haven’t forgotten?
After reading this I don't know if this made me happy or sad. Because it's good that you're already over the person but at the same time I'm sad because I always wanted this family and I messed up and I was hoping to fix it I think I'm starting to realize that I have to fix myself so I don't mess up my next true love
@@77dris Lmao that’s not no Contact.. She simply moved on… Yet you’re still writing under a no contact video 😂
Going towards 4 months of no contact. I started mourning the relationship, and moving on the minute she discarded me. It's hard but feasible. That's what I think of getting her back. Yep!I I got the avoidant discard! She won't be doing it to me a second time.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
If she comes back, acknowledged her as an ex, appreciate she did but never get back in a relationship. You will get dumped again. Men, we had enough and its high time we stopped being in an emotional hostage😂😂😂 Run run 😂
I'm ctfu 😂😂
Loved this video! Ages ago a woman had broke up with me , and after a month or so of no contact she started calling me, showing up at my work, etc. It only resulted in casual get togethers, which wasn't really what I wanted, so I moved on. During the breakup period I hung out with friends and just did things I enjoyed. I think if I had initially pleaded with her to stay, I'd have lost her respect. If I had continued to get together with her for casual hook ups I would have lost my own self respect. All in all it worked out since she simply wasn't right for me.
Words of wisdom right here!
Couldn't have said it better myself. If she leaves, move on. Treat it as a learning experience.
If you had continued to pursue her, it would keep you from finding the right woman you should be with. You'd have been her hostage.
So many TH-cam videos are about the man stuffing up 🙄
I love your comment bro.
I'll never ask you in the comments to contact me, those are impersonators. ⚠️
I hope you enjoyed my video, "How to Rekindle Love with Your Ex Girlfriend After a Breakup | No Contact"
Watch this dating advice video next, "How To Ask For A Woman's Phone Number | A Gentleman’s Guide" 👉 th-cam.com/video/nRvjjmvgnxc/w-d-xo.html
Love is the answer, people! Don’t give up. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. HOPE. God loves you and so do I! You got this.
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Excellent points! I practiced a lotnof the things you said.
DANG ! There goes the Moonlight dinner with you next to the Ocean ...guess I'll cancel the flight to the Philippines where you moved to recently from Canada...do I get my 5 thou back ?
Love, whether it's between people or between people and God, is the beautiful music that never ends. ❤✝
Anna, I regret not telling you this earlier but I very much appreciate your wisdom and advice. The last 4 years since my separation have been rough but you've taught me a few things along the way which have helped me navigate post-relationship waters. And I also appreciate your pleasantly positive, non-judgmental/encouraging... and humorous delivery.
Thank you so much for your comment! Makes me happy to know my videos have helped you along the way. Onward and upward, you got this!
omfg the amount of beta males in these comments... no wonder these girls are breaking up with you you're like little teenage girls
First off, thanks for the advice. I did what you said about talking to her. It kinda worked because she confessed why she broke up with me. She is still in love with her ex who cheated on her. I was shocked a little, but I realized she can do whatever she wants, shes out of my life now.
This is great advice; makes sense. I will follow this. “You can’t lose someone who is truly meant for you “ Thank you!
I have been having difficulties with my marriage for sometimes now but with the help of this Sorceress, I have been able to put my marriage back together.
@caseymuller3480 Her name is Luana Kae Branigan.
You didn't lose them. They lost you
Went no contact and when I reached out she told me she was seeing someone else
I just recently broke up with my ex and... BEST THING EVER! i've quit smoking, got back into my fitness training, already lost 20lb in a few weeks, started doing the things I love again. Honestly, it was a toxic relationship but I don't care. I am happy, I feel better than I have done in the last two years. Fellas, women don't make us happy, we make our own happiness.
I broke up with my gf, the relationship was 3 months. She couldn't make time to see me for over a month prior to this she told me something that made me question "why am I with her" and I balled my eyes out on the drive back home. She never gave me the time of day to tell her what was on my mind she even guessed what it was I wanted to talk about. The final straw for me was when she lied to me about where she would be on the 4th and with who she would be with. Not with her parents for her moms B-Day but out with a bunch of friends. She also let some random guy hug her from behind at a pool, his arm was fully wrapped around her. When I messaged her with the picture basically saying "why is he hugging all over you" she gaslit me and said he was standing being me. I had enough of her putting me aside and her lying so I broke up
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Drop the hoe most are awful liars disgusting so many are sadly,men are idiots put them on a pedestal but they want none of that only one thing.
Yes you are correct . God pulled me out of this relationship. She had all red flags. Opioid addict for 30 years. I do not want her back.
I must move on.
Sometimes a breakup can be a blessing in disguise. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
Just had my gf of 6 months recently ghost me. We had our very first small dispute in the relationship (she was in the wrong) and she immediately ran. She never said we were breaking up, didn't say she wanted out, never even hinted that she was unhappy; last text I got from her was "I need time talk when I can" and she blocked me on everything. That was 3 weeks ago.
I'm trying to move on and even got a couple dates lined up, but I just can't wrap my head around why she'd discard me after everything we had. Thankfully I kept my dignity intact I never begged, pleaded, or tried getting around the block once. I've given her radio silence, no clue if she'll ever realize what she's lost.
Look up dismissive and fearful avoidant attachment style, it will explain. It's a response to childhood trauma
Hi Anna, I believe in the no contact, however it's complete torture. Without it we won't grow, It's the only way to get back to reality, and get your feet back on the ground. For me it's been 6 months and Everday I realize something else that was an issue. My breakup was not a girlfriend it was a female friend (BFF) that some boundaries were crossed.
I wasn't asking too much I was just giving her what I was expecting in return, but she wasn't emotionally available for so many reasons out my control.
Thank you for a inspirational video. The most important thing I got out of it was to acknowledge my role in the relationship and work on being the best i can be.
I was abit surprized reading thru some of the comments. Clearly lots of resentment being shown by others toward there partners.
The thing is you already know what kind of person she is. If she's a liar and a cheater then why thinking of even getting her back. People don't change easily, for that to happen they need a hard push and trust me you can't make her change. So just let her go and find different one. It's gonna be hard but that's the best option you got there. Talking about it from experience, all the best guys 😊
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Funny how women can spend years building love, trust and connection with you, then leave you out of the blue because they met another guy who gave them butterflies, and expect you not to get upset and emotional. After the most recent one, I don't think I'll be able to trust another woman for the rest of my life.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
So let me get this right... If you're to much in love you're wrong? If you too reserved you're wrong? And you expect men to know the sweet spot how? This is why ancient cultures suppressed women and made them objects to own by men. They are too cunning and untrustworthy.
@@fuzzypanda1684 mmhm same here man
Anna, I appreciate your logic,and yes, I agree that she’ll probably contact you at some point by using your method, but I’ve got to say this at 55 and having been around the tracks and in the process broken hearts and had mine broken: if she dumps you, suck it up, accept it’s over, if you haven’t learned to be happy and content being alone, then do so. Once you’ve achieved this,decide on what’s important to you in a woman knowing that perfection doesn’t exist, and start looking again. And if I may add this,speaking of what’s important, in my experience, looks,charm,money,social status,etc.is not what’s really important in the final analysis for a long term relationship with someone,character and sticktuitiveness are. Put another way, with these two traits, she’ll be a good woman and stick by your side when things get tough.
I really appreciate this comment. Woman who's been in my life for years decided ti get involved with a married man with kids at her workplace. I didnt even do anything wrong but wait for years for her to get her shit together with nothing to show for it. Im defeated and heart broken and feel I wasted time. But your comment really put a new perspective on things. I appreciate you, thanks.
For all the people wanting them to regret it, if you treated them well you don’t need to do anything.
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Hi I am a well aged experienced man . The love of my life is a know it all kind of lady. I listened to your video and is spot on to my girlfriend and I situation. While I am very easy going,open minded,loyal and Loving . My lovely lady is the opposite. Very controlling,closed minded, gossipy, bad temper, and always complaining. We have been together for 3 years. We had a Hugh argument. I just couldn’t take it anymore. I walked out on her and we have not seen or spoken to each other in 3 weeks . I am doing fine as always and wish her all the same . Thank you for your insight.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam thank you 🙏🏼
I can't help but recognize that, #1 the ways you might get her back are also the ways you should act if, #2 you don't want her back. Most of the time IMO, unless you are married with children, door #2 is the better choice. If you don't follow Anna's advice about the "No Contact" policy's, and continue to "pursue" her love, you are Simping and making everything worse.
Ghost her, don't talk to anyone about her, don't bring her up in conversation. Don't let her continue to live in your mind rent free. I know it's a heavy haul when you really love her but you must. If you do ghost her, the ball will be in her court. Let her make her choice, if she has a change of heart and that's what you still want fine, don't chase her.
Great of saying it 10 year relationship n she left to find herself. I know right....I have all the negative thoughts trust I do. Positive thoughts I believe her. ...I just need to look the other way and be strong when returns because I don't think it's fair to walk out myself then possibly come back n thinks that's okay
@@AmethystKing Many of us have been there. Hang tough for yourself. No contact. You'll get a little better everyday. Focus on you moving forward, not her coming back.
The ending is a very important point.
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"No Contact" gave me the impression that this was about breaking the trauma bond within an abusive Narcissistic Relationship, not trying to keep a Keeper.
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If someone has left you then it doesn't matter what they think about you. When someone leaves you they have been planning this for weeks or months.
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Thank you. She replied immediately after sending her that text. Kept true to no contact for a week and we are slowly and constructively rekindling on mutually beneficial terms
and now?
"she left you once, she'll leave you twice." is spot on. That's why I've NEVER ran it back. And why I never will. Ironically, women in my past knowing that I'm like this and I stick to it has had many of them fiending for my attention, some of them YEARS later. Sorry woman, it didn't work the first time, so I'm not even remotely interested in running it back again just to SEE if it MIGHT work this time, when it likely won't and I just wasted even more valuable time
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AMEN
The no contact rule is almost like a reset button for you to level up in your life. It's actually to help you grow and keep your mind off the breakup. If someone really loves you, they wouldn't have done you dirty. Keep that in mind fellas. She ain't the only fish in the sea.
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One of the best, if not the best and most important channels is yours.
Didn't do any of these things.... Re-evaluated "our relationship, and ALL her relationships with "others" during our 2 1/2 years... "discovered" in my untrained mind that she was BPD !
Now I am "No Contact" and recovering my sanity, and looking for better.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I'd never thought I'd be getting such good advice by someone soo attractive,,, I'm thankful for these videos ❤
In my experience women always wait to find someone else before breaking it off. But still tell you they love you and want your babies. My gf waited til we broke up to talk about things that bothered her.
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Are you still together?
Anna, that's all true. I call it "the power to walk away." If she breaks up, you just say nothing and walk away. Go, no contact, and block her. You need to have that mindset and realize that from the beginning, she's her own person, and if she wants out, you let her go. "Being not afraid to lose her." A real strong man leads and set up his boundaries from the start. Giving each other space in the relationship. I will never take a girlfriend back when she breaks up. Moreover, if she crosses any of my boundaries, I am gone. I even got stalked by my ex. It's crazy!!! All of a sudden, they want to talk, and they will try to track you down. "Tears, you are the only one. How sorry they are... So I 100% agree, but this is very powerful stuff you are teaching the guys... The ladies will not be happy.😂😂😂
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you!
@Zias121 same
@Zias121 mine was an affair. but she met another and dude im dying. everything is wrong and i know it must end but its killing me. for me it was only sex. but now i wish i gave her everything. im lower than low atm. all i can think of is this other guy and her.
@Zias121 i just want to know if these feelings will eventually stop and I can be normal. she is the kind of person who gets with guys to live off them. i promised her the world so she stayed around. i never delivered. i never intended too. but now im devastated and wish I had. I know if this guy has a house etc she will be in with him and the sad part is I know its finally over. how do i rekindle my relationship with my current partner? she is a really good woman who i love dearly but im just not into her s sexually as i was my affair.
Indirectly you are telling her that "don't underestimate me".
I like your "Straight to the point" approach. Thank you.
For the first time in TH-cam history, a dating advice video actually contains good advices.
This video hits like a truck in the best possible way. Thank you Anna.
Glad it was helpful! 🫂
Love this channel! You show how stuff like this can be done without being toxic and negative which I feel a lot of young guys in my generation do because it's the easier than being mature and proper. Thank you miss
I appreciate that!
I appreciate your tips Anna. In my case I cannot use these methods for 2 reasons. 1. I don't want to get back with her. 2. The only possible reason I see where I messed up is I never asked for commitment and we both just drifted away.
Two months zero contact. I used to get many heart palpitations thinking of her. I still have her on social media as unfollowed to prevent from seeing her updates.
After analyzing the signs I am ok with it now. She dosent want me anymore and I will not beg for any woman. Im happy alone.
I'm confused. You don't want her back, so why are you watching this video?
Hi Anna. Yes neediness is simpiness, if that's a word. If she doesn't show interest, it's time to leave. Communication is a two way street, one way streets are miserable. So for me it's two-way or No way.
Exactly! P.s. simpiness ✔️
Right on Red. ❤🙏💯👍🙌. Dudes she is the only one I really watch and listen to. She's down to Earth and amazing. Seriously 😊😊. 👍💯
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Great insight, it gives me hoope. I know I messed up big time, not by cheating on her, but doing something that drove her away. I did it during a time she wasn't talking to me and felt desperate and anxious, so when we got back together, thhat one action (not cheating) came back and bit me in the ass, so now she isn't talking to me again. I really do hope we get back together, we've been through a lot and she knows I've always been there for her. Taking notes of these tips.
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Being always with positive attitude the life will never be ruined 😊
Most definitely!
Guy's if a chic breaks up with you just move on. If she reaches out to you just ignore her. She's most likely playing games. Just focus on yourself and let her go. She probably isn't worth your time and heartache anymore anyway. Ive been in no contact with this chic for almost a year now. Trust me i don't care about her anymore. She'll have to prove herself to me and i can assure ya it won't be easy and will take a while for her to prove herself. I dont care if she proves her or doesn't. She proved she didn't care about me now she's gonna bust her ass proving that she does when and if she contacts me again. I actually hope she dont contact me because ill probably just make her prove herself then tell her to piss off. Because i just dont care anymore.
The fact that you still remember her and mention her after year of silence imagining what will you do if she reaches out to you proves that you still care about her and you haven't moved on. 😉
Did she ever reach out
Bro if you dont care then what are you doing watching this video?
Well I didn’t do any of the list that you mentioned. I just can’t deal with people at my age everybody comes with baggage and I don’t need somebody codependent on her children.
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Guys, grow a pair and find a new girl. If she leaves or irritates you then its time to look for something better. Playing no contact games is ridiculous in this short life. Trust me you will find something better.
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you are awesome, this works, my gf is begging me to talk to her, it was getting really annoying, she always used to threaten to leave me if i dont agree with her for something, and now i have had enough of it, i said the same thing you told me , i need so time to think, and she is going crazy with all the msg and calls, i actually now want to talk to her, but i know i have to stay strong, if she wont stay she was never mine to begin with
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The agreeing to time apart is pivotal. I did all the wrong steps in the beginning by being desperate and it only pushed my wife away further. As soon as I sat down with her, really listened to why she wanted to separate and agreed to a separation, our interactions have gotten a lot better, she’s been kinder. But in my stage am I in no way out of the woods in my situation I can attest that agreeing to a separation from the beginning will get you ahead faster instead of fighting it and give you a better chance, and if you follow no contact and really work on yourself, you’re on the right track.
Thank you so much !
You made me feel better , good video ❤️
I really love her i wish she stays with me I really love her so deeply…..
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
No contact is powerful and has worked for me in the past. But some relationships never get back together, so make sure you are working towards moving on during no contact. It will help rebuild yourself to eventually meet someone better if they never come back. It temporarily sucks but in the long run…life is very good!
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I’m haven’t been exposed to nearly as many situations as a dating coach, but I’m not sure I agree with the idea of getting back together with an ex, no matter how compatible. A breakup is a sort of cathartic and traumatic event, unless one or both individuals is just flighty and break up willy-nilly. Dealing with a person’s trauma from their past is one thing, but when you’re the source of the trauma, that’s an extremely difficult road to navigate and there is probably no recovery of that relationship for most couples. Yes, these points could bring the couple back together, but is it really worth the monumental task of maintaining that damaged relationship?
I agree! This is my philosophy! But some men are bound & determined to do it anyways! No amount of reasoning will persuade. Videos like this are for them, to help them 'protect themselves at all times'! ( MHD quote)
Yes, exploring and finding a new modus vivendi is a formidable task, but investing in a new relationship is just as formidable a task, even though we might be as yet unaware of the oncoming efforts.
In some cases repairing a failing relationship might be a better opportunity for growth than jumping from crisis to crisis in a series of disposable relationships.
The whole idea of a “dating coach” implies assistance to individuals who are in the process of seeking the right partner. This implies that once they have found the magical partner, they are supposed to move out of the dating process and live happily ever after. This is what has been promised to us in fairytales.
It so happens that people can become established in this “process of seeking the right partner” without becoming established in a new process of building a happy couple and a thriving family and social nucleus.
Perhaps we can compare the dating process with the real estate agencies that are not a purpose in themselves but a process leading to an appropriate home. Before going back to the real estate agent, we consider how to repair the house.
Almost 4 billion females out there.
@@lancelotxavier9084 whole lot of HIV fellas & gals, practice your safety unisex. 😅😇
Really like your energy and vibe , very honest and open got a new subscriber!! I’m 6 weeks into no contact , starting a new career path and getting my driving licence back after health issues . Growing each day and my mission is to be better and better day after day
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Do not change for any woman, this what she forgot in her advice. You say goodbye forever.
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I've been broken up with my ex for a year, and ive been in no contact for 10 months. I reached out a month after saying that I was sorry for part of what i caused on the night that had a bad blowout.
Ive been just working on myself, became a Christian back in June.
After my final text message to my ex i havent reached out, i forgave her almost a year later, and I have been really happy knowing that ive been doing everything that I can to become a better person then what i was.
One of those steps was becoming a Christian and that was one of the best choices that I made for myself
Anything after 3-6 months is a done deal
@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 normally I would agree with you on that statement, however, because of how my life is I've had ex's show back up into my life after years wanting to get back together
Ex is an ex. Don't go back just go forward.
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for everyone here's the tl;dr - 30 days no contact at all, don't even talk about her with friends, no stalking/cyberstalking - send one message "I'm sorry, I admit what I did wrong, I agree we need time apart" then ACTUALLY get over her and move on so you don't feel sad or that you miss her, and THEN AFTER 30 days you can try going back to her
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Can I send such message before 30 days?
@@Shivs.adv. according to this video, no. Weirdly your message brought this video back to my attention just as I am now in this situation and the girl I've been dating pulled this on me two days ago. So now I have to do this. But I don't know if I'll do it this way or not yet.
@@johnny07652which way did you choose ??
Coming back is like writing a bullet with your name on it and giving it to her, so this time she has the chance to OBLITERATE you. No retreat , no surrender KINGS!
Really like your energy and vibe , very honest and open got a new subscriber!! I’m 6 weeks into no contact , starting a new career path and getting my driving licence back after health issues . Growing each day and my mission is to be better and better day after day . Unfortunately she blocked me as soon as she sent the message about breaking up so I can communicate in any way . Helps me focus on myself but I wish I could sent that apology message you said about
Don’t worry about the apology message, keep focusing on you and your progress. You got this!
this is sort of interesting but it just seems if she breaks up with you: hell with her. You don't need her and you can find some one else. get a grip and get busy with all those projects that got backed up cause you were busy with the relationship. Conserve your energy
If she leaves you, she's already with someone.
Yup
👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽That’s definitely not true.. you’re just talking from a place of hurt.
@@BrittanyHeart31 It's true for 99% of girls out there.
The moral to the story is don't play games with each other if you like each other let that be what it is stop playing mind games
If she is a God fearing women she wouldn’t break it up with you! Pray that God brings you one next and move on. God bless
Wrong! My ex is god fearing woman and I am non believer but enjoyed our talks, we loved each other so much. The pastor was having non of her dating a non believer and deconstructed me over months and then threatened that it she stays with me she will live in sin and god will come and kill me or her or one of her kids in the future as a lesson. He put her through the excommunication process until he broke her then gave her 3 months discipliary. She has messaged me 3 times now telling me how she is deeply in love with me and misses me, but she has sinned and must stick with god as her first love.
@@LlamaOates right she still wants you but you won’t change your sinful ways because you don’t know God is true yet. Yes the bible says to be evenly yoked meaning don’t marry antichrist because 2 become one in marriage. God won’t kill you I’ve never hear a Christian or catholic say that unless you are lying about that but going to hell fire will you have free will to choose. Well it’s not to late for you to repent for your sins turn from your ways call out the Lords name to be saved and get your girl back. Yes God first in all relationship or they don’t last. God bless
I wrote to her that I understand that I messed up and I apologise and said we need time apart.she said alright
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even if something is meant to you sometimes is better to let go and heal yourself
Healing is definitely key and sometimes a breakup can be a blessing in disguise. Thank you for sharing ❤
that 10:49 wrap-up key point is on-point! i’m applying this on getting over a recent unrequited love.
Glad you found that helpful! And good for you for taking action. Big hug!
The truth hurts, but i needed to hear it
He said, "I'll love you till I die"
She told him, "You'll forget in time"
As the years went slowly by
She still preyed upon his mind
He kept her picture on his wall
Went half crazy now and then
But he still loved her through it all
Hoping she'd come back again
Kept some letters by his bed
Dated 1962
He had underlined in red
Every single, I love you
I went to see him just today
Oh, but I didn't see no tears
All dressed up to go away
First time I'd seen him smile in years
He stopped loving her today
They placed a wreath upon his door
And soon they'll carry him away
He stopped loving her today
You know, she came to see him one last time (ooh)
Ah, and we all wondered if she would (ooh)
And it kept runnin' through my mind (ooh)
"This time he's over her for good"
He stopped loving her today
They placed a wreath upon his door
And soon they'll carry him away
He stopped loving her today
He Stopped Loving Her Today by George Jones
An absolute classic! Thank you for typing out the lyrics.
@@inconnu4961 Sure, you bet. Anna's video reminded me of this song. It was voted the greatest country song of all time. It's a great example of the polished Nashville sound. 👍👍👍
Thank you for this video Anna. My long term partner broke up with me 15 months ago and I really am in so much pain still. I stopped all contact around 2.5 / 3 months ago to the point I deleted her number. I think about her all the time and I’ve tried to move on with someone else which I know isn’t working for me. I know I need to work on my inner self now and hopefully the universe will guide us back together or to my chosen path in life 💫 I’ve subscribed to the channel and will continue to watch your videos to support me on my journey. Thank you again!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate you being here!
Watching these videos at 42 is wonderful. Think i've become a good counselor
Glad I could help 🙏
It ended for a reason, 99 times out a hundred better to move on.
This is great! Wish I learned this 30 years ago! Oh well. Live and learn.
The blessing is that you learned your lesson, and you’ll be better off at it 😊
What happens if she blocks you? 🤔
You'll find my video on how to get her back if she blocks you interesting. Check it out here 👉 th-cam.com/video/zgVXwGXjMpM/w-d-xo.html
@@YourWingmam Thank you, I will check it out. Though, I do not think I want to go back; been working on myself. I have found your videos insightful and informational. I appreciate it!
i walked out on that air bnb breaking up with her a few hours ago. thank you. i know that this is may not be a video something i should look into i dunno it is still fresh 4 hours ago i am on my lowest point right now but thank you. i will strive for growth and focus on my goals moving forward. she has been my world but i have to move on and maybe some day get treated better
NOW THIS is great information. Thank you for the insights. It's wild how so few dating couches are able to articulate a viable strategy in this situation. I think this one of the few that has a chance at working.
Might be a good idea to make a bonus video on "she s gone, ok, let s move on !" Or how to focus on things that can be changed and things that you must not compromise (setting your bounderies)
That’s next weeks video! :-)
@@YourWingmam thank you madame, and if you got some time left, May i ask why masculinity nowadays is toxic on men and praised on modern women ? So it s not masculinity perse which is perceived toxic by those modern women but men being men ? Is it not a real problem to date now ? "Modern women" around me are just source of conflit, and i need a support etc, not a mum huh, even if unconsciously we are may be searching for this unconditionnal love somehow. Losing hope a little as i don t trust anymore this type of dominant women. And don t want neither a submissive woman... does an equilibrium exist ?