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Marriage is tough. Does everyone live like this? [Hello Counselor/ENG,THA/2018.12.24]

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    Hello Counselor EP.393
    - Seo Inyoung, Luna, Yun Seongho, Shorry, Dong Hyunbae
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  • @harundaniel7705
    @harundaniel7705 5 ปีที่แล้ว +516

    it's only been 2 months since her giving birth, obviously she's gonna be sensitive. She's got post partum depression which is a severe type of depression, there's been cases when mothers hurt their child (abuse / murder). For those people who say she's being over sensitive, you need to understand that's its not so simple to 'grow up'. I hope the couple all the best.

    • @chuupichuu
      @chuupichuu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I think the reason they say that is bc she was sensitive beforehand. I'm the same way, i cry easily if i find something hurtful. But it did intensify after she had her baby so i do think ppl should just help her out and be there for her.

    • @koalastwin372
      @koalastwin372 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      your comment is the only comment that matters. others keep saying that she's being too much and only cares about herself but it's hard not to be oversensitive after having a baby

    • @ricaivory6571
      @ricaivory6571 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@koalastwin372 It's only hard if you were sensitive beforehand, which she was. What mother gets jealous of their own kid?

  • @mahdianajem4851
    @mahdianajem4851 5 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    i understand that postpartum depression is a serious issue and should not be taken lightly, but it seems she was sensitive before and now that they got out of the newly wed phase and things died down a little, she feels a bit neglected. she’s very sensitive without taking into account the depression. also that stuff at the beginning that girls communicate like that is not true in most cases, and it can cause some huge misunderstandings. there are plenty of girls i know who are straight up and honest wit what they want, including me, and it bothers me when people assume i’m trying to say something else or beating around the bush when i literally mean what i say.

    • @cherahsBroll
      @cherahsBroll 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mahdia Najem YESSS about the people thinking you don’t mean what you say.

  • @Jana_7
    @Jana_7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    A bad combination of lack of communication, post partum depression, and having to deal with growing up and being a young married couple with a new baby. Lack of money and sleep can also add to this because he is still looking for full time work and babies that age don't sleep thru the night. I wish this couple well on their life journey together. I think in time they will be fine.

  • @ArcticFalcon
    @ArcticFalcon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    The word "communicate" sounds easy, yet many relationships lack it.

  • @csoniah4432
    @csoniah4432 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    She just seems to be a very sensitive soul and postpartum depression is not something to be taken lightly. They are very much in love with each other you can feel that they just need to talk and mature together , they are rly cute when she called him teddy I died lol .

  • @Goldievoi
    @Goldievoi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    I feel like she needs to communicate more and he has to be willing to listen more. She needs to be more direct too because the husband seems like a teeny bit of an airhead. From what I see, they need to improve themselves to meet in the middle. I really hope the best for them

    • @sunflowersongs9403
      @sunflowersongs9403 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Agreed. I laughed so hard when you called him an airhead 😂😂😂 but you summarised my thoughts perfectly

  • @yunatina4542
    @yunatina4542 5 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    25 is young? In my country 25 is the perfect time to married😂

    • @n_1913
      @n_1913 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      that's international age is around 23-24.

    • @yunatina4542
      @yunatina4542 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      naiomy _ i know

    • @valenciasahanaya6103
      @valenciasahanaya6103 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      in my country.. even a teen have a child and getting married.. its so heartbreaking but ppl in my country doesnt care about it.

    • @KateLove21
      @KateLove21 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      In Korea the average age for marriage and children for women is 28 and for men 30. Your brain doesn't even fully mature until around age 25, and economically most people are still in college(a must in Korean society for a decent job)/he has to do his military duty, etc. so 23/24 by maturity and societal status they are young.

    • @TheAlizwa
      @TheAlizwa 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also isn't 20 years the legal age in South Korea ? So if that's the case than 25 years old is young

  • @elbowhair
    @elbowhair 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    If you calculate the fact that they only met in sept.11 of last year and their child is already 2 months old, that would mean that they were probably forced into marrying one another so early cause she got pregnant. I think if they had a chance to have a better understanding of one another before marriage then things wouldn't be this tough.

  • @e.a.1548
    @e.a.1548 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I hope she can overcome her depression, it must be hard, but her husband is trying his best. She's very lucky, I hope they have a bright future ~

  • @icyflamer
    @icyflamer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ladies stop expecting a guy to read your mind. Just like you can’t read his. Be honest and straight forward and that way you won’t be disappointed 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @adachyuta493
    @adachyuta493 5 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    why did it always man that have to understand women first? I actually dont get it even though me myself is a girl. I dont understand about girls silent language/sign, i would get frustrated too, same case as the man, when they only married for a year.
    I think the best way for them is to talk to each other often, I understand that the girl have a problem to start a conversation first, but i believe she have to change that, at least to her family and hushband.
    it is not that the relationship will be better if only the man who changes, but this is a relation that includes 2 person.
    both of them did actually suit each other so i think the relation will get better~~ cheer for both of you! and im waiting for the good news of your new babies 👶🏻

    • @annacopeland2641
      @annacopeland2641 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      my sister is like you! as i was reading i felt like i ways talking to her! lol

    • @aiaa677
      @aiaa677 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Same...Double standards much???I just don’t get how guys are always the wrong ones....The wife obviously sees that he has a hard time understanding her silent language, she could try to have an actual conversation and not just cry without explaining the problem.(I do get that she has depression but I think she uses it as an excuse)Because it is never one persons fault.She is not willing to try to change herself to get to un understanding with him and frankly i think he is a little dumb and to naive to get her(Naive meaning he probably didn’t date enough to get how girls act)ps I am a girl

    • @adachyuta493
      @adachyuta493 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Anna Copeland alot of people are like me and your sister lol. We just don’t understand why is it so hard for women to “ express “ their feeling, and for me, i think the reason why im like this cause im still a teenager who never in love before 🤣🤣🤣

    • @annacopeland2641
      @annacopeland2641 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@aiaa677 i totally agree but, to be honest i'm more like the wife. so me and my sister fight some times kinda like they do but.... sibling version!

    • @aiyisss-2914
      @aiyisss-2914 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! I couldn't understand this double standard. It's like me myself is a girl and need to talk first to my friend when she gave me silent treatment. I don't even know what I do but just to make sure our friendship better, I just shove it off and talk to her. Sigh.. I somehow pity the guys as they need to understand girls but girls never want to understand them...

  • @martine440
    @martine440 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Postpartum depression is very serious. So, until the wife gets some kind of therapy or care for it until it dissipates, the husband will always seem like he's lacking in some manner to her. She's trying to rely completely on the husband but there's only so much he can do while she's in this state. I understand that she's looking for him to give her more attention and the same level of affection he once did before. However, she needs to learn how to communicate and stop running to his parents to complain. She keeps pinpointing his flaws. I'm sorry but if that's what he's dealing with on a daily basis... he's going to end up not being as attentive or affectionate before.

    • @darrasmith7196
      @darrasmith7196 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      What is Postpartum depression?

    • @martine440
      @martine440 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@darrasmith7196 - Depression that takes place after childbirth. In some cases, it's so serious that a mother ends up harming herself and/or the baby as well.

  • @ayeshathefairy8333
    @ayeshathefairy8333 5 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    i'm a female as well but i don't understand her mindset at all. of course she has depression but she needs to grow up and understand him too.

    • @Lina-cl7zt
      @Lina-cl7zt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Growing up doesn't cure depression that's for sure. Its not about the matter of growing up or not. She already have post mortem depression and that itself is not a light issue if she doesn't overcome it. What she needs is assurance and someone to understand her that makes her feel like her presence is important. People die from depression and there's no way that growing up solves the problem.

    • @light-bv8kw
      @light-bv8kw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Being a female or grown up is not going to help you understand her "mindset"... if you really wish to understand then, you'll need to understand "postpartum depression"...

  • @RhubarbPlantz
    @RhubarbPlantz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This show always gets me anxious about these marriage concerns, but I was pleasantly surprised that this problem was...fairly normal. Or at the very least, relatable. Flexibility and productive communication does wonders in a relationship!!

  • @mansibhandari3257
    @mansibhandari3257 5 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I really dont like people who get mad easily and start crying
    This feels like emotional blackmail to get others

    • @dumbeldore1678
      @dumbeldore1678 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I'm one of those people that cry easily and I wish I could control it but its really not simple.
      I even got helped from a therapist.
      Also, I'm not trying to blackmail anyone or make them feel bad i just can't control it
      , don't judge people.

    • @ddanka0474
      @ddanka0474 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dumbeldore1678 I do not think the person tried to judge, just voiced an opinion that it feels like that to him/her. I cry easily too but I do understand the point. Some people who do not cry easily get very guilty and it may feel that way to them. Not everyone feels the same about anything as such things as perception are personal

  • @choohah5604
    @choohah5604 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    *they.need.to.grow.up*
    But its okay. They got long way to go. Good luck to both of them 👏
    Luna is sweetheart 😚❤

  • @madeinbusanjkjm
    @madeinbusanjkjm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I was just cracking up at Dongyup's face throught this video!
    I want to know what he's really thinking haha

  • @Bee-zx2yk
    @Bee-zx2yk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Why is Luna overreacting to everything, it's hard to focus whenever they show her.
    The wife should really consider seeing a psychiatrist to help her control and work through how emotional she is.

    • @ayunamaweru7089
      @ayunamaweru7089 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ah, so its really luna? I doubt at first, im barely recognized her 😥

    • @csoniah4432
      @csoniah4432 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I found her reactions cute

    • @thefxfestival
      @thefxfestival 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She always overreacts in variety shows. As an idol/celebrity, I think it's second nature to overreact in a comical manner.

    • @lavinder11
      @lavinder11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She doesn't want to be edited out

    • @virginintanyestiana2367
      @virginintanyestiana2367 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Honey, believe me. She is exactly like that. It's her personality. She is always acting that way even behind camera. Amber even ever told she likes being around luna because she naturally reacts to everything

  • @hirumayoichi21
    @hirumayoichi21 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    why it is expected for a guy to be able to understand and cater for the women? why is it unacceptable if the guys do not understand the lady's language? In any relationship, both should have participated in give and take, have the same level of respect, effort and love if they want to make it works. I know the wife is a bit more sensitive after giving birth, but they should have tried to understand and communicate more to solve the issue

    • @light-bv8kw
      @light-bv8kw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's because in a marriage there are times when one person has to be more considerate to other and help them... postpartum depression is definitely one of them where the wife needs his emotional support...

  • @mahadoomar6510
    @mahadoomar6510 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I like the episode so far it was chessy lovely romance 😍😭😂 these three emotions were mix

  • @theashmaster1000
    @theashmaster1000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    they're actually very cute together. i hope she can work through her depression and learn to treat him better through communication so they can live happily together :(

  • @panizhaghighi2944
    @panizhaghighi2944 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    "You didn't choose to be a mother?" Seriously? Did they force you then? I bet not...so grow up and act like an adult and a mother.

    • @potatoqueen779
      @potatoqueen779 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It could be the case honestly. Abortion is illegal so she had no say whether she wanted to be a mother or not. Additionally, she has post partum depression, which in certain times causes mothers to sometimes resent motherhood, resent their child, resent their husband or resent their life. Even a baby's crying can trigger them in certain cases. This is not them being immature or anything but it's a condition beyond their control that requires professional help. Maybe in another case of maybe a neglectful mother I would agree with you, but in this case it's not as simple as that. But that's just my opinion.

    • @ddanka0474
      @ddanka0474 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@potatoqueen779 sex is an option, not a necessity and sex without protection is a BIG choice. Abortion may be illegal but condoms are certainly not. I do agree with Paniz, she needs to take responsibility as they created another human being and she needs to take care of it not be jealous. She needs to realize that once the baby is born it will become a center of the household and tbh comes first. That is why so many couples wait a few years after marriage to have a child so they can enjoy the married time together. If this is care of she got pregnant first and then married, then she needs to accept the consequences of their actions and move on. Husband can be more caring and sweet but as seen he tries to make her happy, helps with laundry and even makes events for her. She needs professional help for the postpartum depression and to toughen up. The world is not a sweet place to live but tough.

    • @light-bv8kw
      @light-bv8kw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you know? Based on what are you making this bet?😂 ignorant and judgemental when you don't know their whole story..

    • @light-bv8kw
      @light-bv8kw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@potatoqueen779 yes!! 🙏👏We'll said

  • @Whimsicaltalesx
    @Whimsicaltalesx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This woman is so lucky

  • @srta_beca
    @srta_beca 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I'm so sorry but to me this is the most ridiculous concern. I mean, yeah the wife must be suffering a lot from postpartum depression and it must be really bad, but she was already sensitive before and she claims he needs to change but she doesn't talk first as well and wants him to guess what she wants and thinks. That's just wrong. I'm a girl and I don't understand this at all. Also the MCs and guests disappointed me agreeing that the husband should "read" her signs and force himself to understand her while she could also do the same. A marriage takes two to work out, he needs to change but also her.

  • @txfannyleong9042
    @txfannyleong9042 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    They should have used condoms if they are so tempted to have sex. Of course after you give birth,the baby should be top priority, you should know that before giving birth.

    • @BlueMeaney49
      @BlueMeaney49 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yup. Obviously her first priority is herself, not her baby or her husband.

  • @keemarina1527
    @keemarina1527 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    They are the best couple 😍😍❤❤❤

  • @yasminkhan4319
    @yasminkhan4319 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Every time the reaction of the husband make me laugh

  • @chiru97
    @chiru97 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i really want to feel for the woman but things won't work out if u dont communicate- i learned that the hard way and regardless of ur personality, u should still make an effort to say what you want to say and express what u need to express especially because it's ur husband anyway. it's gonna be hard and it's gonna take some time but ure married and married couples are supposed to go through things together :(

  • @sakura20ify
    @sakura20ify 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They're both young and already have to raise a child and deal with marriage, I think she needs professional help so she can get better, I hope they can last forever

  • @amor4dior169
    @amor4dior169 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is what happens when you marry someone after just one year of dating.

  • @denali2412
    @denali2412 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Or... she could just say what she wants without being difficult and expecting her partner to be a mind reader. Lmao the women guest are seriously overreacting in the beginning of the concern. She’s acting like it’s all her husbands fault. She needs to grow up and communicate with him properly. They just basically told him to be her pet and do what she says. None of the responsibilities were given to her at all. He’s literally the sweetest thing but she’s like “He does greet me with all three steps or ask about me first it’s always about our 2 month old baby” yeah girl lol of course he’s going to ask about his child first and if you want to do all these steps to you you could have just asked. You know how to talk.

    • @light-bv8kw
      @light-bv8kw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Having a child is not doing nothing... Postpartum depression is real.. it's natural for her to rely more on her husband for emotional support..
      It's not easy for everyone to understand.. even though her personality and mine are completely different, maybe because I'm pregnant now and close to her age, I can relate to what she's feeling...

    • @light-bv8kw
      @light-bv8kw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @miri tomoe, I'm sorry for what you went through but don't let your past experience cloud your judgement about another human being..

  • @salmaa7205
    @salmaa7205 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love hello counselor and I'm from Canada Ottawa

    • @anjaekiunkorean
      @anjaekiunkorean 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm a viewer from Ottawa too! XD
      Hello fellow Ottawan! :P

    • @salmaa7205
      @salmaa7205 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@anjaekiunkorean hi, you are the first person that I have seen that watches hello counselor and is from Ottawa.

    • @anjaekiunkorean
      @anjaekiunkorean 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Korean living in Ottawa. I watched it back when I was in Korea :P

  • @MissEileenL
    @MissEileenL 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Do they not have condoms in Korea? Im so confused. There are so many couples that marry super quick just because of a baby

    • @KateLove21
      @KateLove21 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      No. It's because of cultural differences. Statistically there are a lot more out of wedlock pregnancies in the U.S. but in the U.S. many women will get abortions or they become single parents. 1. Abortion is illegal in Korea and 2. when a man gets a girl pregnant the typical response is to get married as a sense of responsibility. The marriage typically happens before the baby is born and before the mother is showing as to "safe face". So that leads to quick marriages. Babies outside of marriage is heavily stigmatized. Korea is more like the U.S. was in the 1950s.

    • @lulu_Lm
      @lulu_Lm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@KateLove21 they question was "do they not have condoms in Korea?" cultural difference has nothing to do with it. If they wanna have sex the responsible thing to do is use contraception.

    • @yume2626
      @yume2626 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@lulu_Lm Cultural differences is the answer. Koreans do not have enough conversations about sex and the responsibility that comes with it. That's because are more socially "conservative". As a result, a lot of people there do not think to practice safe sex. And to answer your question, Yes they do have condoms in Korea.

    • @KateLove21
      @KateLove21 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lulu_Lm It is very much about cultural differences. See my and Serendipity's comments again. And the answer is YES they do have condoms LOL. I thought that was implied in my answer.

    • @lulu_Lm
      @lulu_Lm 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@KateLove21 not sure if you could read or literate but someone already replied.

  • @alanietakaitani8090
    @alanietakaitani8090 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Expecting the other person to know what they did wrong without you telling them is kind of strange to me. I like people to be straightforward and that applies to me as well. The *anything to eat part* which doesn't really mean anything would annoy the hell out of me if anyone I know did it lol

  • @ranabhola
    @ranabhola 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    In time they will be fine. Beginning of married life, beginning of parenting always hard. But as times pass you get matured, you understand.

  • @andrewk2658
    @andrewk2658 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    he got mad they had their first date on 9-11...

  • @basma1244
    @basma1244 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m Here for luna , she’s so beautiful 💓💓💓

    • @NoName-ym6sb
      @NoName-ym6sb 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I missed her too, our vitamin 😊

  • @alwayz12
    @alwayz12 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    COmbo of the fact that they don't seem to know each other (it's been a year since they've together which is when most relationships end); the fact that she prob has ppd and that she's probably tired from taking care of the child all day alone in secret; and they are both immature.

  • @hhddppyy
    @hhddppyy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Shorry's reaction on 9:17 is so funny!!!

  • @anushkachakrabarty3952
    @anushkachakrabarty3952 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    1. They are so young, they need time to understand relationship
    2. She got pregnant as soon as she got married and didn't get to enjoy the newly wed moments
    3. She is definetly going through post partum depression that why she is more sensitive.
    4. As she is so young, she naturally seeks attention from her husband but their child is also similarly important. So she is feeling down.
    These things conclude that she needs psychological therapy as soon as possible. It will prove very effective for her.

  • @kurola4511
    @kurola4511 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That guy looks so confused😂

  • @hannahtriz
    @hannahtriz 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    16:50 Really like how they included the previous concern. low key wondering if the husband and the boss of the bar discussed possible employment

  • @wwlilycom
    @wwlilycom 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    girl, if u dont want him. give it to me. he's a damn perfect husband. he even do the laundry by himself and still trying his best to spend his time with u on weekend. what more would u ask? he's also looking good.

  • @luvletter93
    @luvletter93 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    they are essentially such a cute couple! The wife prolly has it hard emotionally and physically post-giving birth, which is completely understandable! Us women typically need more love and care during that period of time, and given her more sensitive nature, she definitely needs way more than normal people do. The husband makes the effort, and at the same time i hope the wife would see that he does too. Communication is the key, i hope the best for them :)

  • @gladitsnotme
    @gladitsnotme 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    They never think serious issues are concerns on this show. She needs counseling, REAL counseling to help her through her depression. There are physical hormonal imbalances at play here, not her blood being type A. It's easy to say "oh they're okay" but when the baby winds up being drowned in a bathtub by mom who lost her mind during a mental episode, who will take the blame? Not saying she would do that, I'm just using that as an extreme worst-case scenario. I wish Korea would stop brushing aside mental issues and take them seriously.

  • @sally3969
    @sally3969 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The guy seems pretty innocent and sincere. Too bad his wife overthinks things and is a tad demanding.

  • @winneristrueartists5357
    @winneristrueartists5357 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    in my opinion he should really just bear with her. she's sensitive because of childbirth, this is still hard for her. no need to complain, just say nice loving thing & apologize while try to slow talk about the problems they have. husbands out there, stay strong!! 💪

  • @martindavis205
    @martindavis205 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    that moment he said "Do you have any hobbies?" I started laughing and i startedknowing he listens to girly kpop and Orange Caramel

  • @vothaithituyetngan3179
    @vothaithituyetngan3179 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think that they have had a baby accidentally then quickly got married. Many women in Asia have this mindset in the beginning of a relationship, but after getting to know each other very well, this mindset would be no longer exist, and they would be more comfortable to share their thoughts instead. So its all about they haven't had much time to know about each other before getting married.

  • @tishaher7
    @tishaher7 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Okay, THIS was good advice. When it comes to serious stuff like abuse, mental health issues and danger, then they should leave it to the professionals (ie, doctors, police, etc.).

  • @lavinder11
    @lavinder11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is ridiculous. This lady needs to learn how to communicate with words instead of demanding people know what she's feeling.
    Even Luna and that other lady were being ridiculous as he explained his concerned.
    Being a woman and acting cute isn't license for throwing temper tantrums.

  • @iriskoh4868
    @iriskoh4868 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I understand that she has postpartum depression, but she’s not the only woman who have frustratingly indirect communication. If your gonna say “do whatever u want”, then don’t get pissed off at the fact they didn’t do wat u wanted, u should’ve just said so. Everyone’s talking like the husband should already understand this “girl language”, but this is his first time his wife is having mood swings from pregnancy, and he seems to be on the straightforward, simple side. Also, it’s only been 2 months so he’s probably getting used to her way of communicating too. I’m not saying everything is the wife’s fault, but I think the communication problem is mostly her fault.

  • @isaymamamoo9469
    @isaymamamoo9469 5 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    I'm a female but I cannot understand the wife and the so called female mindset. I'm not like that at all. The wife is childish and petty. I don't know why the husband got married to her.

    • @angelakalangfay77
      @angelakalangfay77 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes i don't understand why i

    • @panizhaghighi2944
      @panizhaghighi2944 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I don't know if it's because of korean culture or not, cause they like aegyo stuff....but this kind of acting is childish not girlish.

    • @StandedInUtah
      @StandedInUtah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm with you. I've been married 25 years and my husband would think I went insane if I acted like she does.

    • @StandedInUtah
      @StandedInUtah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Luna Mae I think we all agree she needs large doses of antidepressants, asap.
      Hormones, impact feelings a great deal and because of the simple fact that men and women have different hormones we see sex specific emotional traits. Men and women evolved differently, as well. This results in different parts of our brains being more active in similar situations. These differences impact emotions, drives and skills like communication (women do it better). It doesn't mean we are all exactly the same but it does mean in general women respond to emotional cues differently from men. The degree and way we respond varies woman to woman and man to man.

    • @isaymamamoo9469
      @isaymamamoo9469 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Luna Mae I'm not that's why I'm writing this post 😂 I said this because the female guests in the show all agreed with Dongyup saying that he had to guess what women wanted to eat

  • @sharonjuma3369
    @sharonjuma3369 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    English Subtitle please.. kindly consider us too,much love from Kenya

  • @inluvwithjiminiemousebutst9111
    @inluvwithjiminiemousebutst9111 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's the cutest problem ever.

  • @yixuancraze
    @yixuancraze 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i think both parties have not been doing their best in communicating with each other. it's true that the girl will have to learn to change her mindset and manage expectations, but at the current moment she is having post-partum depression. she also mentioned that she has a closed personality, so that probably puts even more stress on the husband to treat her right and with care.
    a very important thing i would like to point out to those who said she is "immature" or needs to "grow up", consider the stress in her position and be more empathising please. you can't just tell someone who has depression to "not be so sensitive". you are not in the place to be critical because you, who aren't plagued by depression, are privileged. you cannot fathom the mental and emotional demons and pessimism others fight against everyday, so if you can't help, at the very least be considerate and not condescending.

  • @tadikata
    @tadikata 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    keep loyal stay love to your wife and son, bro. get a grip make happy family forever

  • @keemarina1527
    @keemarina1527 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That woman beautiful😊❤

  • @elris452
    @elris452 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    oh noo. she is way too sensitive, it’s out of hand. they just got married so imagine how she’ll be in the long run. i know she has depression, and she should really consider seeing a psychiatrist, but she needs to stop being like this. she needs to start talking and listening more. she says she’s shy around a lot of people and doesn’t necessarily talk to them SHE NEEDS TO TALK TO HIM that’s your husband. also why if the wife disapproves of something he needs to take that into account. she’s so blunt with the things she says no wonder he doesn’t know.

    • @annacopeland2641
      @annacopeland2641 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      there is a reply to the post above written by sara-ism and you should read it

  • @geraldinelim46
    @geraldinelim46 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel they need to communicate with each other more on things in their mind so that there less misunderstanding.

  • @foolstudent8669
    @foolstudent8669 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can imagine myself as a wife like her 😂

  • @Whimsicaltalesx
    @Whimsicaltalesx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am a girl but I really can’t stand this woman. Yeonja was right. She cannot be a little girl anymore whether she had it planned out or not

  • @melanibear9703
    @melanibear9703 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wanna marry someone like him awww

  • @mirafuentesj.3042
    @mirafuentesj.3042 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    The girl kinda looks a bit of Park Shin Hye sheeee sooo cute•••♡

  • @justicefixer
    @justicefixer 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i dont agree with how only men should understand women, women also should understand men, that is the only way of how it gonna works

  • @user-pe2zg4uv6c
    @user-pe2zg4uv6c 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I understand that what she’s going through is a lot. Though I don’t understand fully because I’m 14 and I haven’t experienced the whole thing situation after birth. But I don’t see why he’s supposed to constantly comfort her every second. It almost seems like he shouldn’t get upset or mad at her. Like she’s the only one who can and he should do and say as what she says and wants. I feel like that’s how their relationship is. Especially with the example of “eat whatever you want.” I’m a girl and I don’t know what else he was supposed to do. She said whatever so he did that. He shouldn’t have to figure out what she is thinking. How is he supposed to know that she had something in mind. Maybe she should try communicating more. I get she has difficulty doing that but I don’t think the relationship will work out as it takes 2 people to try and keep it together not just 1 person communicating. But then of course, again, I haven’t experienced that so I’m just chiming in my opinion without any experience. So I’m sorry if this seemed wrong or like an unfair opinion.

  • @txfannyleong9042
    @txfannyleong9042 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Be a mature mother and stop thinking you are a young girl who can play hard to get when married.

  • @yoniandreani2735
    @yoniandreani2735 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    They're so cute.. He is a nice husband

  • @heystobit228
    @heystobit228 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    The most irritating thing on earth is someone doing something and not noticing that they done wrong because it infuriates the person more that there is no consideration (i havent watched the video yet im like 1 minute in )

  • @ayunamaweru7089
    @ayunamaweru7089 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Its a bit out of context but is she luna? Im barely recognize her 😥

  • @vahalla3438
    @vahalla3438 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    it's around the world similar concern.fighting

  • @justyou5017
    @justyou5017 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    The best episode

  • @MsJackson1330
    @MsJackson1330 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Post party depression combined with her manipulative behavior has to be frustrating. Y'all should see her action for what it is it's not normal to throw your emotions around to get what you want out of your partner. It's coercion and manipulation. What ticked me off the most was him mentioning her jealousy and her immediately crying for sympathy. I really wish therapy was as popular in Korea as all those weird fad diets and foods. So many people could benefit from it. Their marriage will continue to be affected if she keep behaving the way she does.

  • @joanolgakeine6971
    @joanolgakeine6971 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is a mad woman and her problem is put up on depression SMH WTF

  • @meredithhaydel8370
    @meredithhaydel8370 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think the reason why she has postpartum depression is because she's way too young to get married and have all of these responsibilities, I don't think she was ready.

  • @oceanstaiga5928
    @oceanstaiga5928 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hyunbae 😍

  • @xTenshiAi
    @xTenshiAi 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wife needs to grow up. She isnt a teen anymore to be acting like this. She's a mother yet gets jealous of her own child???? Bloody ridiculous

  • @tanjaschiemenz3878
    @tanjaschiemenz3878 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm from germany why do i have no sound at all ? :((

  • @emaneman2906
    @emaneman2906 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    By the way it's not about her age she is really acting like child l know about depression but there are alot of people give them self excuses and believe these excuses

  • @dooseobmey
    @dooseobmey 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is it baby blues?

  • @jiyajoseph1121
    @jiyajoseph1121 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think ill face this same situation im really really really sensitive😂😂😂i have complicated thinking but my husband to be has a simple thinking and i often feel that he doesnt love me anymore when he doesnt do the things the used to do so i feel the lady there 😢

  • @eunmichoi1061
    @eunmichoi1061 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Kamukha talaga nung babae si donita nose hahahaha

  • @user-lg8om2cg3q
    @user-lg8om2cg3q 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a female as well but I reallyyyy dont understand this concern. Why always have to be a man who understand a girl sign. Now they are husband and wife, if she choose to not talk with her husband and keep on being angry over a small things I think the wife also have a problem.

  • @artemisrain
    @artemisrain 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    That teddy bear husband is so dazed!

  • @titanauroraanjini2223
    @titanauroraanjini2223 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    aku punya 5 0rang di keluargaku, dan 11 anggota lainnya yang merupakan kucing2ku, ada 1 anggota yang tidak aku sukai di adalah anak dari istri pertama ayahku, aku tidak suka karena di kasar dan menang sendiri. Saat ada masalah, ibuku selalu membela dia tak peduli salah atau benar perbuatannya dengan alasan kita harus memahami sikapnya. Alu punya satu kakak yang sangat kusayangi seperti aku menyayangi kucing2ku. Dia sikapnya lembut dan sering bermain denganku. Saat di berargumen dengan anggota yang tidak kusukai, yang kena marah oleh ibu tetap saja kakakku walaupun yang salah itu dia yang tak kusukai. Ayahku bekerja jauh dari rumah dia tidak mengetahui permasalahanku. Aku lelah karena selalu salah dan dimarahi, rasanya aku sudah tidak pernah mendapat kasih sayang yang kudapatkan dulu. Setiap hari aku selalu berpikir untuk mati, tapi tidak ada yang menjamin hidupku akan lebih baik setelah aku mati.
    Kucingku sakit saat ini, aku tidak mempunyai uang untuk membawanya ke rumah sakit. Aku sangat sedih karena hal itu.
    Aku mengambil banyak eskul di sekolah, karena aku sangat malas melihat wajah anggota itu. Kata2 ibu yang menyuruhku untuk memahami sikap anggota itu terus terngiang setiap aku pulang kerumah. Jadi, aku melelahkan tubuhku di sekolah agar setelah pulang aku langsung tidur. Aku juga ingin dipahami dan ingin mendapatkan ketenangan. Aku tidak ingin masuk ke acara Hello Counselor. Tapi aku lelah hidupku tak kunjung membaik. Aku juga tidak punya tempat untuk curhat ke siapapun.

  • @cheroijosephonjosephon2395
    @cheroijosephonjosephon2395 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    dude, luna i don’t get u. she is freakin annoying. why is she mad at her husband checking on the baby? if he didn’t care about the baby, she would be angry too anyway.

  • @nelichairi4678
    @nelichairi4678 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Life soooo hard!! 😁

  • @Bianca-tt3sv
    @Bianca-tt3sv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yayayy I'm early

  • @sweetrevenge5568
    @sweetrevenge5568 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    THIS GUY didnt feel glad that girl want marry with u hahaha

  • @dominicsimonacfan541
    @dominicsimonacfan541 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry but, who is the guest in red sweater...

  • @nadinadia3056
    @nadinadia3056 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I kinda understand her but in general women are so dramatic, I am a woman myself but I don't understand women 80%of the times ,I mean it's an obvious situation for a parent to consider the baby before anything else plus the more time you spend together with your partner, the less you misses each other and missing each other is the reason people speaks and sees each other with love.
    I have been married for 5years,my husband never wished me a happy BIRTHDAY and I am always okay with it,in fact I never consider it because afterall I never celebrated it for my past 18yrs and it's just not considerable in my place(country)anyways, nobody think of it as a big of a deal not I until one my husband got angry and asked me why I don't celebrate his BIRTHDAY, he isn't even sure of his BIRTHDAY, he is sure of mine and I am very sure of mine but he never for once says a wish to me and this was the time I realized God has switched us,he has a woman's kind of nature and I have a man's nature,the bad thing is that he isn't a good teacher, he should be doing all these to me for me to know that birthdays celebrations are important but he can't do them to me and he want me to be the one.i wasn't work even if I consider celebrating his claimed date of birth, I can't afford to buy him a gift, the reason I wasn't working is he didn't want me to step out of the house.
    Anyways he looks perfectly a gentleman but with feminine thoughts and acts, it frustrates me so much.
    He surprises almost everyday with women thoughts 😑I am not into makeup is and he very knew about it because I was and am always myself but he nags me with it as if it's new and moreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee😂

  • @kathytan2736
    @kathytan2736 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    But you are a mother how can you get jealous on your own daughter ? Oh my ...She is too sensitive ... hmmm thats why too young to get married..

    • @potatoqueen779
      @potatoqueen779 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She has post partum depression and sometimes it causes them to resent their child. It's sad and difficult to understand a mother being jealous of her child but until she receives help she may remain like that, or maybe get even worse. Already it's being triggered by the husband's slightly insensitive behavior towards her...

    • @kathytan2736
      @kathytan2736 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      💝Sarefina Sindhu💟 yes....she needs help

  • @sokmaiazz6428
    @sokmaiazz6428 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Leave him I’ll take care of you =.=

  • @AG_92
    @AG_92 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This episode becomes really annoying because of the over-the-top reactions of the two female guests. So distracting.

  • @nguyenthiphuongthao6365
    @nguyenthiphuongthao6365 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I want to get married someone like him ㅋㅋㅋㅋ

  • @anime_goddess_1119
    @anime_goddess_1119 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This isn’t right, everyone makes this stereotype for wives that’s not true, my mother NEVER acts this way. This lady is so sensitive and possessive of what her husband says and does. I also don’t like how the guests aren’t letting the guy talk. Stop assuming it’s his job to “understand women”, when my mom says I’ll make anything you want, she actually makes us anything me want. Poor guy was being misunderstood smh

  • @tsegitsegine5882
    @tsegitsegine5882 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    wow there are a lot of english comments here

  • @halimahrizkia5699
    @halimahrizkia5699 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    where's nakjoon?!😅

  • @hlnjhr2foine
    @hlnjhr2foine 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lol what a difficult pairing. A woman who is bad at expressing her feelings and concerns in a productive way + a low-empathy man who can't read between the lines or read other people's emotions.

  • @tashkj4830
    @tashkj4830 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Who is the guy that is wearing a light red name