During my 4year marriage lived like a baby-producing machine[Hello Counselor Sub:ENG,THA/2018.06.11]
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Hello Counselor EP.368
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The fact that he is laughing while his wife is sitting there crying just makes me want to give him a good slap
And some kicks.
That's what I was thinking! If I were there, I would've gotten up to slap him
Castration
hes not laughing hes just smiling to give a good impression but still hes disgusting
Me too 🙄😒
The husband is exactly the type of guy I absolutely hate.
He's disgusting
he's just a fuckin selfish trash
Koreans are taught like that, that the woman are to look after the kids and the men go and work, it’s also said that men are more superior if I’m correct, these are literally engraved in their minds 😭
@@thegloriousmorious9755 i don't think that women are taught to be baby machines tho 😅
Exactly he’s acting like women are the exact same thing as men, thinking they don’t go as much pain as being hit in the nuts.
Man i'm so glad Yeonja started yelling, this dude deserves people getting angry at him bc nothing will go through that thick skull
She went off and rightly so.
I cannot englishy- yes!
Bruh, englishy sounds so cute X)
Your name😭😂 FIX ON😎
Imagine if the strong personality bearing women are there like Jessi or Lee Hyori. That guy would not hear the end of it!
I swear everytime i watch a marriage concern im like DIVORCE
I'm like appreciative of my singlehood and fearful for when I will get married one day
Yeah me too but for this concern I think it can be resolved without divorce
I think one isn't as bad as the episode which the husband spends all the money drinking with friends, he just wants to spend time with his friends and another episode where the husband doesn't help at all in the household. The other 2 I was like "divorce him" this one still can be save.
Maryam TAEx2
Same
SAME IM WAITING FOR ONE TO DIVORCE ON SCREEN😂😂
why don't we cast him in " The return of superman"? Let the husband learn to take care of his baby,while the mother go and have a holiday for 48 hours a week
Even if they did, he doesn't deserve the title "superman" in any way shape or fashion.
@@oragewoods5606 Time for a new show concept, "Shitty Dads"
Sang Eun yeah I was thinking that too
Sang Eun that's what I thought when I watched the other episode of this show. It's about the father who doesn't take care of his son's (they were triplets) and just letting the mother took all the chores.
Good idea!
Throw the entire husband away
Raven Jenkins She can't now. They have three kids. He knows she is trapped. I feel sorry for her..especially since she knows what her life was like before she met him.
Ain't that the truth...phew
Agree
I seriously want to slap some sense into the husband.
@@severussnape8040 burnable
Mother: Says 40 months, 27 months and 7 months
Me: starts calculating
Also me: gives up
Same 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 i think i belong here
3years 4months, 2years 3months and the last one doesn't need calculating id say xD
Shivani Narendran, lol, they got pregnant with the second child 4 months after the first and got pregnant with the third 11 months after the second child
@@coolcucumbers7601 you are the best person in the world
She already has a 4th child and that child is unfortunately her husband. 😡
@@ezxatinajhxh3741 I think you didn't understand what the person wrote....(no offense k?)
hahahaha ooofff
타니야 sorry,but what she wrote,because she she deleted her comment
@@namjesus6889 im sorry I don't remember but it was something she COMPLETELY misunderstood and off subject
타니야 she was talking about the husband being a child as well.That means he is acting like a child.She really doesn’t have a 4th Child but the husband was acting like a child that’s why she said that the husband is the 4th child
this is why this show needs to have professionals, like therapists and such, because these issues are too heavy for just idols, actors, and comedians to try and convince someone. at least, they should have pros behind the scenes, or at least i hope they do.
Ruth Vincent I think even a pro in these deep heavy subjects should be on stage too. Like sometimes it’s not needed but ones like this there should be one
Mah I think they doing well. They can have counsellors and therapists offered for free after the show, but its them that make this show lively and interactive and J don't think they are doing so bad at knocking some sense into these people
They used to have one, but now if the count of voted concerns is high enough they'll get sent to a counselor (idk how many is needed) but when it is felt that it is needed, a professional will be brought in after the show is done. But during this, they treat this seriously at points, even to the point of one of the hosts yelling at the husband, but this is still a comedy show, they cant just dig into deep subjects and leave folks feeling depressed
Or maybe people shouldn’t go on this show to talk about their private issues on national television at all? They know what they’re getting into, isn’t the whole purpose of this show to have the saddest story to get a prize?
They meet real certified counselors after the show
He doesn't look apologetic at all, throughout the whole thing he smiled. I wish her happiness in the future with or without that excuse of a man.
Yes, I felt so frustrated. He was smiling and grinning and pretending, trying to charm everyone while his wife is breaking apart.
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YES! seeing the way he reacted to his wife's concerns and very scarcely taking them seriously just proves that he doesn't view the sacrifices shes made for their family worth anything. my blood is boiling,,,
13:43 "i want her to be more responsible." excuse me?
Rebecca Ramos fuck this guy.
@@ad-deen772 Nah,I want him to stop fucking and be more understanding and responsible ( ﾟ,_ゝﾟ)
Honestly they need to take her on a trip and leave the children with him for at least a month let me see what he will say after that
Hahaha he is so irresponsible...
She already is, it’s him like he doesn’t realize he’s the problem. She came her for a concern like what…
Im scared after the interview when they get home imagine what will he say or do to her : (
same I hope she's fine
Yeah she looks scared
Right, this goes to like all these concerns like these are concerning concerning.
@@gaurim151 don’t worry they have backstage mental health teams
@@kaitlindawson4433 really?!
I’m also concerned about the 47 people that didn’t vote...
ikr
I feel like some of those people have the opinion that she is at fault for letting all this happen. And she should have just left him or something you know.
this is literally me every time I see a hair-raising concern. I'm always side-eyeing the people who don't think it's a big deal. I don't think the show has every had an episode where every single audience member agreed that something should be considered a concern.
@@Ravenkeyana yeah I saw a similar episode and there the amount of ppl who voted taht it was a problem was also in the 160
Some of them don't bother press the button or some of the buttons are not working guys lol so it's unlikely for them to get all the votes
The husband should be hooked up to that machine so he knows how childbirth feels.
Deadass tho like tf
Even if you hooked him up to that machine it won’t hurt as much as if you give birth in real life situation
Max power for more than 20 hours
just for those women that go through hours if not days of labour
Yesssss they should've done that
I was actually thinking of that until I saw your post. I agree, they should hook him up in his most sensitive part then put it in maximum. I saw it in youtube lately and it should be a requirement when going into family life. sighs.. I'm freaking irritated with this guy lol So sadistic.
"treat her as a woman in society, not as the mother of your children" I loved it when the guy told that to the husband.
The husband was despicable. He doesn't see his wife as a human being with her own wishes, judging her for going out with friends despite being the same. That's why she told her cousin she wants to go on a trip alone. He doesn't think about how she gave up her career and how his fourth child wish would stall her from returning even longer.
He's selfish. No empathy for his wife, including even her pain from childbirth. He just wants to live his own life and look at his children with a smile when it's convenient for home - coming and going, taking care of them or ignoring them whenever he feels like it. Her being a great wife and being good at taking care of him is not an excuse to make her carry all the burden and then ask for another child
25:14 His reaction to the other man's comment about treating her like a woman and not just the mother of his children. I'm not sorry 🤦👊
Ikr, i hate his reaction tho.
He was laughing at her complaints but not at that comment
He's so annoying and rude
I feel so bad for the wife. Her husband does not understand what "role of a father" and "role of a man" means...He's acting like a child.
True. He acts like he isn't married.
He basically wants to eat his cake and have it. Go out do what he did before he got married while being married and having is wife take care of them kids. :(
Yes he is very childish
True. For married people, although it's not necessarily wrong to still do the things you've been doing while you were still single, having children is a completely different matter. Sacrifices for both parents needs to be made if they want to build a healthy family together.
That husband is just a horny immature child!!! Saying lets make a baby so easily! He said it so easily because he doesnt have to carry for 9 months and going through labor!😡😡
Men like this never seem to realize that after they come home from work, they are free? She says he doesn't even want to play with their children...meanwhile the mom has a 24/7 job and never gets time to rest. I hate it when they try to come up with that "but I bring food on the table" bs argument...you can leave your job in the evening. This mother can't.
Their reasoning is "it can't be that tiring you are home all day! But will shirk any responsibility by saying it's a mother's job.
It's just lazy. They shouldn't be getting married and having kids with anyone if they don't want to actively participate in being a husband and father.
No better than a sperm donor.
@@callmewaves1160 😭👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 I swear your comment made me cry because it's so tragically true and real. It's a problem but nobody (because it's a female's concern, it's related to us) seems to care nor even have the most minimal notion of what THIS mere act causes to us and they still push it all on us like it was a punishment for being attractive to our partner, or for being able to breed... for just being a woman 💔🥺
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏💐
This is why I’m actually grateful that KBS also has the return of superman. The dads who raise these kids begin to understand the amount of effort it takes to take care of children. Of course a 9-5 job is tiring, but that’s probably just mentally exhausting. Compared to raising a child, not only is it mentally exhausting, but it’s definitely also physically exhausting
@@callmewaves1160 She’s practically a single mom but in her own marriage
Yes, its true, the housewives jobs its just called as responsibilities, but housewives jobs literally 24/7 jobs without rest ( they have to be cleaner, cooks, nurse, teacher, management for the house and children bills, etc ) but the wives will never get payment or complement of their jobs because its their duties of responsibilities. He says that his wife delivery its easy not like the others women, while during the pregnancy its just already hard for his wife. Thats because he never experience it at least once in a lifetime. Lets bet when He is the one who pregnan and delivery the children the if he still strict to have four pr more ??
Lmao that man beside the husband aint no good either, throw the whole man out
he looks like a tubby fuck without a brain. god damn bruv, he is so damn ugly and has no right to speak to a woman like that. throw the garbage away
@@dominic2123 hes so childish, why he get married anyway wtf
Agree and did you see how the friend acted after he agreed not to go out often too? lol
i know, i just don't know hwy 25k people liked this video even
Yeonja is seriously one of the nicest people ever she always gives her best to help the ones with worries
The horrified looks on all the women's faces says everything LOL! They all look like they want to cry, throw up, then repeat!
DigiQTpi That kind of guy, women want to avoid, I rather live by myself😭
DigiQTpi I feel like he is the fourth child...
This pissed me off in so many ways. He does not care about his wife’s feeling at all.
1. It is 2018. This whole “women must take care of the kids” needs to stop. The kids are both their responsibilities, if he wants a kid he needs to help in the process of raising the kid.
2. She probably suffered from postpartum which really sucks. Some women just really hate their kids and having to take care of them, even though they know rationally that it is their child and they should care for them. He needs to take her condition into consideration and think about what having so many kids does to her. And again he needs to help her when she is struggling like that.
3. Does he have any idea what she goes through all while she is pregnant?? It’s easy for a man to say they want another kid, because they don’t have to carry it to term, give birth, or nurse it. That is really unfair. He is treating her like an object that is only there to make babies and that is disgusting
j n. Preach 👏👏👏🙌
Treating her like Commanders treat their Handmaids in The Handmaid's Tale :'(
j n yesss thankkk you !!!
Couldn’t have said it better myself
j n well said.
when I heard the husband say "I don't think it's a concern" I started hearing divorce papers
What makes him think having a fourth child is easy and a good idea? He doesn’t even give his wife enough money to get by and he tells her to be more frugal smh. He’s so inconsiderate and doesn’t think of his wife
*wanna smack his face bcs he keeps smiling the whole time*
I hate him omg
In Eastern countries, smiling is just a coping mechanism for embarrassment and discomfort.
@@JM-kl7zv Fair point.
Min Sung Seul yes omfg he was smiling the whole fucking time I wanna punch his teeth out tbh
1.5 k people including me agree with you.
I was so hurt and mad at how indifferent he was to her situation. When you marry someone, you are meant to care for one another and divide your responsibility. The kids are not her responsibility alone, he has to contribute as much as well. I truly hope he respects her wishes from now on and understands her, I hope he keeps his promises.
Thats why women need careers and lives of their own so they dont need to go barefoot to their husband and ask for diaper money. Pitiful.
She was a teacher though....but she couldn't do it bcuz if the kids... bcuz in Asian countries you don't raise kids by separating them in other room..you co sleep with them...
Minori ruba Even in Africa, it's like that
This is why women are moving to the city in Korea, getting educated and putting higher standards for men. Then men like this asshole from the villages get mail order brides from Vietnam, get frauded by them, and then form "Men's rights groups" and complain about feminism. Lol put in the work for a family if you want one. Even women can work outside the home. Nothing great in bringing money home anymore, so they want to destroy any women's empowerment because they want to be slave drivers like this piece of shit.
Florida D.Hyuga that's true my mom told me as a little kid I never sleep by myself
So his wife can't see her own friends but he gets to go to all his clubs, gets drunk and give orders to his her whilst she is busy with the kids.
This man need a large slap into reality
Everytime I watch one of these episodes concerning marriage with children and the father being indifferent or unhelpful, I'm just like, divorce is cheaper than the years of stress that you're gonna handle being in this toxic relationship with a person that claims to love you yet can't see that what you're experiencing or Expressing is having a negative effect on you and by extension the family/children
I totally agree however the harsh reality is that its still not that easy to go for divorce in most Asian cultures. Our societies are so majorly patriarchal that most of the times its nearly impossible for women to escape toxic marriages/relationships. If you're a woman and a divorcee, literally every one looks down upon you and the word divorcee becomes an identification label for that woman. Also, the elders are so involved in every decision making and they rarely ever agree for their kids getting divorce. They won't be there when their kids are suffering but will always be upfront when its a matter of their so called family's dignity. And concerns like these that women have are never really considered that important to get a divorce over.
Although things are improving as our gemerations progress, but we Asians still have a long way to go through to have a more accepting mindset with such issues.
She doesn't even have time for a job, how is she gonna live without his money? She's basically trapped in this situation.
@@abcde_ghijklmnopqrstuvwyxz2188yep, she had no choice, and yet, people in korean doesn't like divorce. it's not normal for them, so she's scared of it probably.
Well it is very easy to say.. Rather than we should focus that these kind of cheap ppl shouldn't come in marriage , to ruin good people and children
these kinds of men are the worst, wanting to have sex and more kids but don't want to help his wife by taking care of the kids because "you're the mother, you're the one who should take care the kid" smh
True. I had an ex who thought like that. I dodged a bullet for sure.
Somehow in a weird way I thought the husband is a serial rapist instead of a husband. Want unprotected sex and left the woman and kid to fend themselves
종이비행기 It’s not the Middle Ages. A decent father should have a relationship with his children at home instead of throwing money at them.
Exactly
True.. Smh😪
Yeonja is the best she’s saying what everyone is thinking
ryan
Yeaah
Yoongi's legs are better than yours Ryan?
yngi agree others people is afraid to said something🙃
The husband is so stupid and selfish it makes me speechless
Not me, I'd have a lot of things to say to him. I'm a bit old-fashioned, too, being 53 now ... but this is absolutely ridiculous. This fool can thank God his wife is not my daughter.
“People can get by with $20 a day” THATS FOR ONE PERSON, NOT A WHOLE FAMILY, HOMIE
is it me or Koreans are calmer than us ? I would be in the public I would scream to him so bad he will start to cry :')
Most of the world has less anger issues than the US.
@yulyu You mean stereotyping...?
Ikr?!! I was literally screaming at my screen the whole time..aahh😂
There is a general culture of calmness. Though, that doesn't mean everyone is the same way.
@- MinSugaa lotta guys from other countries fetishize asian girls for being quiet and submissive little girls lol
This guy reminds me of my dad. Always pestering my mum to conceive another one. I was 4 months old when she got pregnant with my brother. Now there's 5 of us and its been 11 years since he left the picture. These kinda men are trash bye
tae is bae army!! Really your dad left?
tae is bae true. They should be considerate of their wives, not treating them like child producing machine or sth 😯
tae is bae wtf why’d he live. He pressured your mom to have more children and just leaves. I’m so sorry I hope your family is doing well.
Pankaja Raju yes he left can u believe it!!
tae is bae sorry if I was harsh..😞 I was just in a big shock! I will always support u GOD bless you..😊😊
I'm always thankful when Lee Young Ja speaks up. So often, she will become frank when others don't seem to be taking things as seriously. I LOVE her.
OMG he never apologized, not even once!
I have 7 siblings, but the difference Is that my father always helped to my mom, And he always played with us and that's the difference
Maryoyeth Park woah good for you 😊☺️
Wow u hv a good father
Lucky you 😊👍
I have 8 older brothers and they are so annoying. I wish I had a sister but my mum and dad gave up a long time ago 😔
I have 2 little brother but my dad never cared about us. My mom does all the works and my dad watch TV, I hate him and its been 2 years that I have speak to him. You have a really good father 😊😊😊 !
They're only been married for 4 years and they have 3 children already and expects the wife to do all the household chores and take care of their children tf??!! I feel so sad for his wife for real
imgaine her kids growing up and watching this video...
They're gonna hate him - and for good reason, too.
It is doctor recommended that there should a gap between children of at least 3 years , it gives proper rest to the mother !
I’m pregnant with my first and I cried so much for her. It’s really really not easy man. The pregnancy is hard, birth is hell and the post natal care mom and baby needs is crucial. The fact that she doesn’t even eat properly is dangerous and heart breaking. What kind of man is he? And as for her, she needs to consider some method of birth control they can both agree on. At some point as a woman you need to come to terms with the reality of your situation and make better choices for your health and the wellbeing of your children because he’s not going through it.
I hope you can give birth to your child safely!
Best of luck with your pregnancy ❤
good luck with your baby 😊😊
Good luck with your pregnancy❤️ you can do this honey
i hope you will always be healthy and giving birth safely! please always be happy💙
Y’all don’t understand how much I wanted to say to him plus when he talked about childbirth I was like not so much pain oh I’ll show u pain I wanted to connect him in the machine that make u feel how childbirth feels and also make him put a baby bump so he can feel how heavy and tiring it can be and etc he got my so annoyed and also the dude beside him I can’t
Leslie Malagon that’s what I was thinking let him see how much pain she was going though (3X)!!! Then I think he will understand how to respect his wife.
same
I WAS SO READY TO KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO HIS BRAIN IDC IF HE DOES TAEKWONDO IM GONNA WHOOP HIS ASS SO HARD HE BE FLYING ALL THE WAY TO BRAZIL
Better idea! 2 day process! From 7AM-7AM next day, he carries around a pregnant belly, while doing all motherly chores. Cooking, cleaning, driving kids to school, extra stuff (lessons, practice, etc.), interact with child, etc. At 7AM next day, takes off the belly and puts on the child labor contraction machine, make him feel realistic pain, and the wife will let him know that the belly is 9 months, not 1 day, and the pain is something she has to get used to. Boom! He would empathize with his wife!
he wants a fourth child cuz he is confident she will give "quick birth" and not feel much pain?I am not even sure if we can teach him , its common sense that two pregnancies are not the same
싸지르기만 하면 끝이냐는 말이 생기게 된 시초 같네
wHY HE SMILED WHEN HIS WIFE WAS CRYING like he didn't regert for making her wife cried
He Justifies her pain by comparing her to others, he cancels out her pain because all he thinks about is how others see him and his family. He pays too much attention on others i stead of his wife and kids.
When they said he had a warm heart and wasn't a bad person... They were so wrong.
I can so see my father in that guy.
He was like that. He liked to brag about his children. Liked to show them off. Wanted to have a lot. And played with us when other people were around, pretending to be a good father, so everyone in the social cirlce saw him as a good guy.
But at home he never helped my mother. He went out for badminton and play cards with his friends and left her alone with 3 children and without the car in a house a 30 minute walk to literally ANYwhere.
As a child you don't know that. Like the little girl was so happy to see her dad and waved.
But it was a burden on my mom and I am glad she divorced him.
He always wanted children so bad.
Now he has three grown up ones and none of them loves him.
Because he's not a good, not even a decent father if he is not being forced to spend time with them once in a while.
Oh by the way. She doesn't earn money so she can't ask for it???? That's what had women suppressed for ages. Like, seriously. Dude needs a punch in the face to finally arrive in the 21st century.
J. Fee EXACTLY ITS LIKE HES TREATING HER LIKE SOME CONCUBINE?? also I can relate on the whole father thing it’s honestly sad. But I’m glad my mom was strong enough to raise me & my brother :)
My biological father is the same. In everyone's eyes he's the best dad. But behind closed doors he's a party animal who cheats on his lover's and abandons his kids. One he even had the audacity to hug me and say . You know I don't call or hang out or say I love you cuz I know your can take care of yourself...excuse me you fuck?...yup that's dad ...
Naturally our non existent relationship has blossomed to zero contact for 6 years and counting.
not warm hearted they said "warm hearted patriarchal husband" which is an oxymoron. It's a smart and subtile way to tell him he treats his wife like a servant and thinks he's doing the right thing ...
He said that because he wants the father to understand that being warm and loving father is the standard.
I understand your pain and have grown up with a similar father. However, I don't believe this father deserves a "punch in the face." By the end of the show, he seemed willing to change, and I think that's what matters the most. We are all assholes in our own ways, but if we are willing to change, then things can get better.
if marriage is like this
GOODBYE 😤a wife is not a slave SMH you're meant to be EQUALS
i can relate to this, well my mother can.
my mother is married to my awful, persuading, forceful and stubborn father, its not a fun experience.
i already have 2 siblings, im the eldest, and after my mother had my sister, the youngest, my father constantly asked for another baby and he would walk up to her kissing her and being all nice, but she refuses and says no, which is the right thing to do.
they are now getting a divorce soon, which may not seem like a good thing to many people, but to our family it is a good thing.
my father is also very very pushy and comes off as 'abusive' sometimes.
dont be sad
It is good to be in pain always .. Because not only one person but whole family live in pain
I've never seen Youngja so mad before. YOU TEACH THEM GIRL
Namjoon's pupPEE which one is youngja?
pyruvate acid the older woman next to the guest, with glasses and a bun.
pyruvate acid the queen 👸
What the guy said at 25:00 was so important. Props to you sir 👏🏼👏🏼
karla garcia the look on his face afterwards was so like “idgaf” he should treat her like a woman in society more
I was really happy that he said that. I wish the husband would have thought more about it, it seemed more like he brushed it off without truly thinking about how he could incorporate it into his life.
What he said is so right! Give him a cookie!
This guy should NEVER marry. Just exist for your soccer and off you go.
The living expenses one pissed me off. I myself do not come from the richest family, my parents are divorced, they official divorced in 2017, but they broke up(?) in 2012 Feb. I have a 2 brothers, one half and one biological. Recently we moved into this 4 room apartment (2 bedrooms, bathroom, the kitchen & the dining room & the living room are connected) and, because of finance problems my moms brother moved it. Now there is five of us living in this 2 bedroom apartment. My step-dad doesn't have that stable job, my moms brother also does not have a stable job (he does part time jobs from time to time) mostly just lays at home and watches tv, my mom works as a school chef and since my dad and mom are divorced my dad has to pay some kinda amount of money every month (Its around 300€ per child and has to be paid before 15th),but since my dad moved in with another woman who has two children, he mostly pays for their needs and not ours, so my mom would get around 50€ per child. I also see my dad rarely, maybe once in two months, even though we live like a hour from each other. My brother (biological, he turned 12 this september) has been almost 8 years without our father and it has been hard for him, he started going to therapy and psychologist at the age of 8, to this day he goes there. I myself turned 14 this year, I try not to show the pain, because I do not want my mom to have to worry about three children at the same time (the youngest is three), I know it is hard for her. So I always have tried to be mature. I even started doing part time jobs after school when I turned 12. My parents used to fight a lot so from an early age (around 4) I would think fighting (my dad never used violence nor did my mom, but it was more of fighting with words), drinking, smoking and screaming was okay. Obviously they did not fight near us, but i would hear it constantly. My mom would cry and say stuff "I am going to kill myself" etc and my dad would say "I will leave you" etc, which actually happened. When I was around 5 my dad moved to Finland to find better jobs, he was there for about two years, he would not send us money and we would literally have to sleep in the cold. Also recently my left lung, stomach and my heart started acting up and I started taking medicine, but the medicine is expensive ( around 20€ per one bottle which has 10 of them inside), I have to take them for at least 6 months. I sometimes skip my medicine, because I do not want my mom to worry about me, I always have tried buy the medicine myself, but sometimes I would just say "oh yeah I already bought it with my leftover money" even if I did not and give the money back to my mom that she gave me to buy the medicine. It is fucking hard. I try everything, but we are still in this fucking shit. I am so sorry that I commented this shit, I just needed to let it all out somewhere.. and to anyone who is going through this same shit, I feel you and good luck, because this is really fucking hard.. like really fucking damn hard.
You dont have to apologise for letting it all out. I know this is what everyone says but trust me it will get better. Tough times won't always stay. Its okay that you're away from your dad, atleast you're not in a toxic household. Dont stress much as stressing can contribute to your health problems. I know times are tough financially and emotionally but you need to hold on and not lose hope. You're a really good child for caring so much about your mother and not letting her worry.
Always remember, after darkness there will be a light. Things will get better
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If anyone reading this needs to vent out, go ahead and dm me. I'll be there to listen.
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When the dad’s friend said the dad is so popular it just make my blood boil. It’s 2018 ok real men are not defined by how many babies he can produce or how the wives bows to their commands. I’m married with 2 kids for almost 10 years and not once my husband said I’m useless to him for not having more babies cos it doesnt define him as ‘real man’. A real man is a good husband and a great father to his children and raised them to be good people, if having more children and you can’t even raised them well than that man is a waste of space in this earth
Jazs Izaam also it‘s not a big deal to jizz after a 2 minute fuck. Everyone can do that. It‘s so ridiculous
This is not easy. With my husband being away for work leaving me home to care for a new born is tuff, but when he’s home he lets me sleep for hours, cooks, cleans and only wakes me up when she needs milk. Whenever my baby cries I can’t help but cry myself . Sometimes I don’t know what to do. Having a baby is a blessing but draining. I live far away from family so i have no help. Having one kid is not easy. 3? I wouldn’t be able to do it. Child birth was the hardest thing I went through. No pain medicine was available so I felt every last bit of the pain. This man is selfish and not thinking of his wife. It is not just her responsibility . He needs to help her
In my country women give birth to at least three children and none consider it hard.
It is not easy, but unbearable.
They also tend to the land and livestock while husbands work.
It seems like Koreans have grown quite soft, all in total.
Likely because they lived in peace for such a long time.
Mystery Man You have issues.
@@fisebilillah4406 ....... maybe you just can only see it from a man's perspective and don't have enough female friends that confide in you? ever think of that?
Mystery Man
You’re also a man. So I doubt you even listen to women your country for a second.
you are exactly like the husband of this hello councellor episodes......men like him are the worse husband that doesnt deserve even a single bit of family life n love
God: make one wish & I will make it true.
Me: God can you give him all labour pain & monthly period cramp instead of his wife, please. Thank you!!
Youngja knows when to get serious and she can change the entire mood!!
He's basically using her as a baby machine wth.
29BWA She should leave him, maybe even leave him with the kids, because he apparently wants so many kids so much...
Gu Cho yeah or take the kids with her and get with someone who doesn't want kids but love kids or already has a kid but he doesn't want more. So its a win win cause someone could help her out with the kids too, but what you said actually isn't bad but as the kids get older they might not like their mom cause she left them.
Dezi Lever Either way if the situation stays the same, the kids will end up resenting one parent. On one side, the mom will be exhausted having three kids so close in age and will probably become distant. Then the father is never present so the kids will likely end up resenting him for never being there.
Gu Cho Good point I see what your saying.
You guys I think there's still a gigantic stigma against leaving your husband after you have kids and becoming a single parent in Asia. I'm pretty sure that's only acceptable when your husband dies. So she isn't leaving any time soon.
"Honey..I never knew you were this concerned. I will do my best for the next 3 years." WTF DUDE. He is still hooked into the fact of having 4th child. Well i HOPE he atleast helps her starting now.
Nâmî you have the same profile pic as my one on WhatsApp. That was off topic but he was smiling throughout the whole show. I almost doubted he’ll help her for the next three years.
This is so frustrating. He should cancel those “meetings” and help with the kids
한국인들을 위한 외국인들 반응 정리
1) 나 저 사람들 잘 모르는데 만약 저놈이 내 남편이었으면 나 1초만에 던져버렸음
2) 인터뷰 끝나고 집에 갈때 남편이 아내에게 어떤 말을 하고 어떻게 행동할지 상상하니 무서워 ..
3) 와 저 남편 내가 진짜 명백히 개싫어하는 타입의 녀석이네.
4) 저 남편, 아내가 앉아서 울고있을 때 웃는거 진심 내가 찰지게 싸대기 때리고 싶어지네
5) 와 이런 정신으로 사는 남자 최악이야
6) 나 투표안한 47명도 좀 걱정이 되네..
7) 이런 놈은 '절대'결혼하면 안돼. 축구하는 데나 남아서 축구나 하지.
Is his mind stuck in the 1960's? Men go to work and make money while women stay home and tend to kids. Cause if so, hes got a real problem on his hands. He'll soon regret it when the kids get older and have a better relationship with the mom than with the dad. That's exactly how I am with my parents today. It's sad but a reality🤐
Exactly! Me too! And after kids start to understand how unhelpful their father is to their mother, some even start to dislike their father...
Not to mention he wants more kids then his finances allow for ...
Rojan Ah
Yep, story of my life. None of my siblings and I have a good relationship with our father cuz he treats our mother like a maidservant 😠
I think it's fine if families want to live like this but then the dudes gotta be making enough to give her more that 600$/month spending money. If his role is making the money he's doing a shitty job. on top of that he could get a third job if he gave up all the activities he's in! or he could just come home and help out.
This is .e with my dad, he only worked and worked and never played with us (when we have like 6-15) and still doesn't like him that much as my mom. I love him but i can say i love my mom the most. Money is important but not the most 🤷
Words can't explain how satisfying it was to hear youngja explode
He seems like the type of man to not realize what he has until he's lost them and I they need marriage counseling
i love it when Yeonju becomes so furious..
I think this is the first time I've seen Lee Young-ja get so mad that she wasn't able to keep it in. (Or I just haven't watched enough Hello Counselor episodes.) Well, if I were her, I won't be able to stay calm as well. I'd've flipped way earlier.
kuroonna 16 She does get mad every now and then but this is definitely one of her more intense moments!
I think if I was her, I'd also scream like that. At least she said what everyone including the guests and other hosts were afraid of saying for the reason of being polite.
Honestly, I want someone to bring out the machine that gives the treatment of how childbirth contractions feel like to see what hell of a pain his wife and other pregnant women go through honestly
I laughed so hard when the host said "I use rubber gloves every day to wash dishes." Seriously. If this woman doesn't want more kids she MUST protect herself - mark my words she'll end up with a brood if she doesn't.
istg if this is the only man exists in the world, i will stay single forever.
Wow. My blood was boiling! I feel so bad for the mom and for the kids 😭
I hate how he keeps saying "we" there Is no "we" cause she's doing all the work
I just realized my mom is a super woman for raising 10 kids with less than 2 years apart for almost all of us, sadly 2 died and am the second born and the second daughter.
20:40 *GOOD ONE!*
That's exactly what I was thinking even I was exploding out of anger because of that stupid man!
"Why is it [using contraception] bad for your health, I do dishes everyday with rubber gloves on" 😂😂
To add to this, slang for have you done *it* yet (e.g. for the first time - not sure if the slang is used after that) is: have you washed your hands yet.
Gotta throw the entire husband away
The husband is broken, gotta just throw the whole damn husband away
Throw him in a burning dumpster because he's trash
I love it lol
I wanna throw him to the blackhole
My parents had a total of 7 kids. Seeing this I know it was very hard on my mom. He was never there growing up and my mom juggled so many things at the same time. She did the accounting, the meals, hw help, school (dropping off and picking up), and so many other things. My main goal in life is to he able to give back to her. She spent her life being a mom and now that we're mostly all adults, she doesn't know what to do with herself.
tbh it seems like he is just trying to get some excuses for blaming his wife since she is blaming him, she deserves to go with friends she deserves a lot since she is fricken crying ur children and the business, she has been helping he is soo ungrateful, ugh i hate men
like these
1. It is not solely the woman's responsibility to do child rearing. It is already 2018 smh.
2. She is not his baby machine and he needs her consent for everything decided in their marriage.
3. Raising three kids are all the same?!! Try it yourself for a year and see if he has the same opinion.
4. Can they ensure each child's development if they had such a close gap? This man is terribly wrong in so many aspects and I pity the wife. Hope she finds the courage to say a firm no despite his husband acts or persuasion.
Nabilah Novel I a was she did say no but he is hardheaded and pressure and fircing comes into play.
Yes she did, but I hope she did the unwavered, firm no just once.
Nabilah Novel but it still women that should take care of children more
maribel arboleda I know, that's why it is the responsibility of both mother and father 😊
maribel arboleda well yeah in the first year because of breatfeeding but after that both sides have the same responsibilities. Don‘t come at me with anything different because it‘s a fact. If your dad never really cared for you, you might develope daddy issues or other issues so fuck outta here with that bullshit. i hope your dad was never around so you knlw that it‘s important to have both around and both caring for you the same
The only solution to this is the good old snip snip for him and he'll be all set. Good for the wife finally telling him three was enough
I can't imagine when their children grow up and accidentally see this video..it would be so heartbreaking..i would hate my own father for doing that to my mother..but he would still be my dad..this is so sad..
The mother is so beautiful and sweet but what is that husband I-
I feel so bad for the wife that everytime she talk about her concerns, my heart hurts too much. How can you treat your wife so badly? 😢
And i just realized how incredible my mom raising 8 childrens..
My grandmother raised 16 children. I have SOOOOO MUCH RESPECT for all these amazing and inspirational women out there that do so much for their children.
Wow!
@@Yussirah_ my mom looking over with an only child (me) : 👁️ 👄 👁️
IKR !! My mom raises 4 kids (I'm the oldest ) . And my grandma (my mom's mother ) raised 12 kids , and one of my mom's sister also raises 12-13 kids , I've got many cousins too and I'm very close to them
...he's not gonna change tho.. he's wanted this from the start..
Drama aside, don’t you just love the way they use exploding yams to express their feelings 🍠
Who else is mad about the votes number?
A human body can bear only up to 45 del (unit) of pain. Yet at time of giving birth, a mother feels up to 57 del (unit) of pain. This is similar to 20 bones getting fractured at a time.
Giving birth is never easy! whether it's in short amount of labor time, or long labor time or C-session it's never easy 😞 The life of the mother is always and highly at risk.
Army-L's Blinking Carat that doesn’t make sense, then no woman would survive if she couldn’t deal with more than 57 del of pain. Not saying it isn’t difficult, but it’s natural and is better than C-Section and with painkillers today it’s a lot more doable. Never easy, but not impossible and safe when necessary precautions are taken.
Osita Art But you forget that us women were made to be able to handle childbirth. That is a huge part of it. Our bodies were made to be able to handle pain over a long period of time. I read a study on that actually. Guys were shown to be able to handle sharp immediate pains better than women while women were able to handle more consistent pain long term than guys. It's pretty interesting actually.
Snowbugsilk so true also learned about that, makes me wonder that's probably why we women can endure the pain while being on ou period much more like we always have to go through that, I bet If a man had to, he would almost die lol😂😂😂
Snowbugsilk
Pain handling varies in women as well. My friend's aunt ate like 10 after giving birth.
I know that better bcoz I gave birth to my elder son through a long painful labour of 10 hrs and the younger through a C section due to complications and trust me even a C section is painful, it takes a troll on your body and takes time to heal completely.
this is literally the story of every desi household in the villages istg
i always love yeongja, and she made me love her even more in this episode!!! i like how she screamed because of frustration.
I can’t stand this man. When he laughed at the fact that he threw up after coming home in the morning while she was close to giving birth to their son, I wanted to punch him in the face!!
i think he should have gotten 200/200 votes for it being a concern smh
I got so happy when she started smiling and laughing at the end because she had a frown on her face literally the whole time.
I am from Malaysia...I have 13 sibling including me ... and I have 9 niece and 2 nephew....my father take care of us well
So use her to make many babies... then not dote on them? Get your act together dude.
Natalie Fouché he probably has a fetish for getting her pregnant or something cause that's the only logical thing I can see
fetish for sex
The guy probably just using her to get many babies to boost his ego as the Alpha male around his friends group. They’re probably set him as the golden standard for having super hardcore sperm or something. Just plain stupid competition, those idiots are not men just overgrown boys who like to spread sperms everywhere and not care of their families.
Rhiannon omg that‘s what i thought as well. There are creeps who fetishize pregnant woman and it‘s so disgusting
Oh well it's 2018 but weak males still think they automatically own and can control their wives. First thing first, she's an individual of her own. Have her own idea of everything. Instead of forcing or pushing what you think is right for both, sit down with paper and pen with a cup of you guys favorite drinks and talk it all out together. You took her POV, she took yours. Be considerate to each other. Being a husband is a big responsibility to lead and help your family. Do your best so you won't regret it in your old days. As a wife, tell him your opinion too, don't just sit there and nod and let yourself suffer.
R No Actually I do feel sorry for her, but I don't know if it's just her character or what it is, like if if were me, I would definitely teach that poor excuse of a husband the ins and outs. I'm not someone who would let the husband have more saying in that particular subject especially. You have to meet at some point to be a happy familiy. Dont let yourself be treated like that. Also goes the other way around of course. (English is Not my native tongue btw don't know if everything I said makes sense)
Aww don't worry, I get your point. If the two people can't compromise, a happy family won't be born. So both husband and wife need to understand each other's roles and help when needed, right? Wife is having hard time, husband help ease her. And vice versa.
And oh, females tend to get timid after having babies. All they did was way more important for the babies instead of themselves. So a husband could help with uplifting her value again. Only then she'll feel better and be way more better than before.
I absolutely love Yeonja she says exactly what we are all thinking about and isn't afraid to say it.
I feel for her, postpartum depression is very real. I had horrible depression after my second baby. I’m so glad my husband is so understanding and I opted to get sterilized when we had our second child. Raising children isn’t easy, and if he’s not gonna help her then they shouldn’t have more.
Hearing this guy's misconceptions was insightful. I'm realizing that there are so many conversations you need to have before you marry someone. This is kind of terrifying.
COME ON, YOUNGJA, TELL EM!!!
How are they staying so calm i would've lost my shit and went OFF at the husband, she deserves better , throw the whole boy away , i say boy and not man or husband because he's acting like a lite boy .
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