Hello everyone! Have you ever heard of the term love language? What are your thoughts on it and what is your love language? If you can relate to this video comment below and tell us your love language 🥰
Love languages are very important for everyone to know about because there are people who always show their affection in another way. My top two love languages which were the strongest in the quiz are: 1. Quality Time 2. Physical Touch While I'm still single, I hope to find the right one for me. Kind words are always nice, but I kinda lack on physical affection.
Physical touch is my type. Daamn, I understand my actions now. Why I don’t like distant relationships, and the reason for hugging people tight. Though I’ve been single for like my whole life? 😂
Hoi I temmie Nobody wants to get cheated on. But people don’t love themselves, so they settle for toxic relationships instead of raising their standards.
Victim blaming is not it. Pretty disappointed that Psych2Go would heart this. Where do you think that how much love that you think that you deserve comes from? You are not born with that sense. You get it from the people who do or do not love you. Saying that it is the fault of a person that another person does not love them for having no self worth is the reverse of reality and an opinion born from privilege. To feel like you are unlovable is abnormal. Nurture is the reason for this, not nature. People who are not as intelligent as they wishfully think that they are often associate logic with the idea of most of the contents of the brain of any given individual being present before birth rather than afterwards. This idea is massively flawed and lacks nuance. Existence lies upon a spectrum. To ignore this is irrational. Denial is not intellectual. It is emotional.
it's like you come more you, which is normally like BOOM, but now it's okay because the person chose to take all that on, and it's all right; you don't feel like suck a freak anymore
Like you'll do just about anything for them to be happy. Like you're willing to deal with pain and hardship as many times as it takes if it means seeing them smile. Even if it means willingly letting them go because you know they're happy with someone else. Never once regretting nor resent them because all you care about is their well-being. I've felt that way before towards a straight boy, who was my best friend. He's now with my best girl-friend and I am happy that two of the best people I've ever met on this planet are happy together. Just one downside is loving that way for the wrong person. You'll end up damaged, feeling used, and have a harder time believing in love.
It is very useful to know this because sometimes each person of a couple may have different love languages. This can lead to sadness if one doesn't understand that the other one is showing love in his own way!
@@Psych2go Wow, thanks for the answer! I actually haven't thought about applying those concepts to relationships other than romantic ones. That actually inspired me to make a practical video about it!! Thanks a lot :D
Yes. Expression is everything. Otherwise... it doesn’t matter how much you love someone, if you can’t communicate it to them in a way that they can really appreciate. You might as well not love them at all, if you can’t show it to them.
If anyone's confused what their love language is here's a guide - Imagine u are on a FIRST DATE with 5 people seperately. - 1st person compliments u n says what are ur good qualities; calls u beautiful/handsome. - 2nd person gets u popcorn and drinks even in middle of the movie and helps others as well. - 3rd person gives u a gift; can be a chocolate or teddy bear or anything u want it to be. - 4th person hangs out with u even after ur date n all time u have converstaion. - 5th person catches ur hand during the date and gives u a big hug after the date is over. Which one do u like the most out of 5 ? If u picked 1st, urs is words of affirmation If u picked 2nd, urs is act of service If u picked 3rd, urs is receiving gifts If u picked 4th, urs is quality time If u picked 5th, urs is physical touch.
Physical touch for me is incredibly important. So much so, that I won’t let anyone that isn’t very very close to me emotionally come physically near me. This has helped a lot with social distancing 😂😂😂
Felt! I think you can feel other people’s energy more when you physically touch them so I just don’t wanna be touched at all unless it’s a loving energy from someone I’m very close and comfortable with
I genuinely detest being touched "casually"... I'm generally not a very touchy-feely or "huggy" kind of person until I really trust someone. I have to be close before I can be comfortable (or comforted) with physical touching... Ordinarily, "quality time" doing stuff together is my preference. It doesn't even much matter what we do... so long as we do it together. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I don't like touching when the terms are ambiguous. I don't get so uncomfortable by the touching _per se_ but because I'm unsure of how to react and it gives me a vague sense of obligation to reciprocate. However, when it's a clearly defined "cuddle time" or "horse play" I'm all-in!
@@hangukhiphop Just a matter of formative growing up, I guess. Most of the people who "got close" (at least) tried to do horrible shit... some succeeded. So I just can't get close as easily. Intellectually, I can understand you only want a hug. My instinct is you're trying to hold me down or pacify me to get some advantage. Unless I can trust you "like that", I just can't allow it. I know I come off as abrasive and distant to a bunch of people, but we are only the sum and total of our experiences. ;o)
I got highest score on Receiving Gifts but idk how I could explain to someone that I don't mind how luxurious the gift is. It's not about the money. But also, I wouldn't appreciate a half-assed gift. I just want to feel like they gave it to me because they wanted to, and because they thought of me and what I really like. I don't want to sound materialistic or ungrateful. I really am not!
You like gifts, but expense isn't the main thing: it's how much you feel they put the thought into it. A poster of your favorite band(t.v. show, movie etc) can be more important than a random pair of diamond earrings. Does this sound right?
Yes! Hearing someone say "I saw this in the store and it made me think of you." or someone getting me something I mentioned wanting weeks ago makes me happy everytime!
I'm Gifts too. I tell people it's not the amount they spend on it, but the thought. Like if the gift is for no reason, in my favorite color and has to do with my favorite hobby, then I know they really see me and pay attention. Then I have a visual representation of their care for me that I can see everyday.
I am "acts of service". When my husband cooks dinner, washes the kids, or helps me do something I've been wanting to do, I just love him boundlessly and want to make him the happiest person alive.
"For some, actions don't always speak louder than works" Exactly. For those whose love language is words of affirmation , sometimes saying: "I'm proud of you or I appreciate you" is enough
Love languages aren't just for romantic relationships; they work in all relationships. My brother and I are both high physical touch as a love language, but since our family doesn't really hug, we always end up play punching or hip-and-shouldering each other. This also counts.
I read this book years ago, and when I read Dr. Chapman's process, it made so much sense. He is a marriage counselor, and went back through 30 years worth of notes and highlighted phrases like, 'I wish he would hug me more', or 'she doesn't talk to me as much as I want,' or 'we never spend much time together, just us', etc. etc. He distilled those phrases down in these 5 love languages, but tye amazing thing is it isn't just romantic love. Its familial love and friendship as well. Once I read this book and realized my top Love language, and how they all rank in my life, how I viewed my relationships in my life changed completely for the better. Because learning love languages not only helps you realize how you express and process love, but how other people do, and you can then 'learn their language.' And since all 5 of these love languages exist in us already (some are just more prevalent), it is absolutely possible to learn for someone else. I would suggest this book to anyone. Its a very simple read, and if nothing else, it may open your eyes to people's different behaviours. And lets face it, in this VERY confused world, a bit more clarity goes a long way 👍 Good luck!
Exactly! I've never had a romantic partner but I feel closer to friends and family when they hug me (physical touch is my love language lol). I read one of Chapman's books recently and not only did I learn a lot about myself, but also how to communicate love to others as well
I’m a bonder. My primary love language is spending time with someone, my second love language is affection, third is words of affirmation, fourth is gifts, and last is service. I have a lot of emotional intimacy with friends and family. I’m still working on myself for that special someone.
Physical touch and words of affirmation 🥰 Long distance was really hard for me! But my boyfriend and I are in the same place again now. We made it through long distance and it made us stronger ☺️ so, it is possible even if your love language is physical touch!💕
1. Quality time 37% 2. Physical touch 30% So true I need to know u're listening and u're there for me. Physical touch comes after that, I'm a very touchy person so knowing that I can at least get a hug from u means the world to me. I'm a giver not really a reciver of gifts. I receive appreciation and love from giving gifts.😊
Lol second to comment here 😂. My love language is acts of service, then quality time and so on XD. Lol mine are all pretty well rounded too except for my 3% words of affirmation 🤣.
26% Quality time 13% receive gifts 16% words of affirmation 23% physical touch 23% act of service This pretty sum up me I have some time with my love ones but receive gifts I felt like I didn't earn it Words of affirmation I will died if someone said something nice to me from love I like but from a random girl I kinda feel panicked Physical touch I can do I away give hugs to people I know who felt down but someone do it for me like a family member or a friend It will only make me even sadder Act of service I love to help people with things they don't understand and it makes me feel good about it
Hmm. I’m like 60% touch 0% gifts (i don’t need anything ever) 5% affirmation (guys don’t get compliments anyway) 5% act of service (im pretty independent) And 30% quality time.
It is so helpful to know someone else’s love language so you can express your affection in a way that they most appreciate :-) I resisted reading the book for so long, but when I finally did it made total sense. Excellent video! ♥️
Mine is physical touch and quality time. When I red the book about the 5 love languages it really helped me appreciate the love that others had for me. We express love in many different ways ❤️🙂
Sadly, nowadays people have started trading on the name of love. Their love ends when their needs don't meet anymore. You may end up just giving and giving, ultimately feeling empty and hating yourself for not being enough😔
The way I feel about this is that if you love someone, there should be a presence of a balanced fusion of all these love languages in you. Balanced in the sense that you don't smother that special someone nor leave him/her with a sense of want as a result of the absence of any one of these love languages. To me, these (love languages) are all essential ingredients of expressing love.
this made me realize i like to be loved with quality time, but i love others with physical touch. i just want to protect and be near my partners but i typically don’t like being touched, i like to be the one to do the touching and it makes me feel like i’m protecting my partners and that makes me happy
As per the quiz, my top ranking is physical touch, and pretty close below that, quality time. Which makes perfect sense because the most romantic date I can think of is going out to a quiet, remote hill on a summer night, throwing out a blanket, and just laying together, looking up at the stars with no distractions. Not even a word needed.
I already had an idea of what my love language is, but when I took the quiz I was surprised by how right I was. My primary love language is touch, which makes sense since I’m a very physically affectionate person and always have been. My score for physical affection was twice as my next highest scoring category, which was quality time. I remember when I broke up with my long term boyfriend, I couldn’t sleep at night because I was so alone
Psych2Go: What your love language says about you? Me: It's bold for you to assume that I even have a love life nor language Also me:*cries after realizing I'm not gonna get a relationship because I hate socializing
My love language is actually Physical Touch, but I’m also in a long distance relationship. It really helps to have a partner who communicates, and is thinking about you when they aren’t able to see you or talk to you for the time being. She also likes to give me verbal reassurance of how much she wants to cuddle me, pet my head and such. It really helps to have this sort of verbal assurance for me, because when I see her, she follows through with her words, and I feel the physical assurance then.
i just took the love language test and i VERH MUCH agree on my answer, Words of affirmation. My culture here is very much action driven. and hence when i distance myself from people they feel like i'm not "Respecting everything they did for me." To me SAYING means that it's true, and actions could be just for the sake of it. it's just how i think. I dont want you to do something for me and then later use it as a "But i did that for you because i love you!" i'd rather the person just say they love me. I would love to hear from other people who got my answer!! i wanna know how other people think!! great video. as always :))
My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. Both of our love languages are physical touch and we haven’t met before, but we’re growing stronger every day. We’ve been dating for months now. I haven’t told him yet but I love him very much.
i already knew i was going to be words of affirmation before i took the test because of just the way i am. i love pet names and compliments. i enjoy it when people actually listen to me talk instead of just letting me ramble in their presence. i like telling the people i care about that i love them and thanking them for just existing when im feeling particularly fond and nostalgic.
Words of affirmation is what I value the most, whether I'm on the giving or receiving end for any type of interaction with people, and then to follow up those words of affirmation with acts of service whenever possible. When I do receive gifts, the most meaningful and memorable ones to me are ones that help me to have less stress by getting some practical needs met, for example a friend filling up my gas tank on my birthday
im so glad to hear my love language be explained!! my top love language is actually receiving gifts and i feel like if i ever tell people my love language i'd be told i'm materialistic. but its not that! we're not asking to be showered with gifts luxurious gifts 24/7. getting a gift is a show of love that someone's thinking of us, and even the smallest thing can be so heartwarming, especially when it has so much thought put into it. if it's half-assed though.... imagine getting a "gift" but it was just because they didn't want it... ouch.
My love language is acts of service! I hate broken commitments/promises more than anything. It always makes me feel unappreciated and like my partners or friends or family don’t value my time. After a broken commitment I struggle with trying to understand why it hurt so much and then I took the quiz months ago and found that AOS is my main love language.
I do like distance but I'm also big on physical touch but only from ppl I care for like family, friends or a partner. I despise when strangers touch me like my teachers will touch my shoulder and I'll get upset but a single touch from a friend makes me feel light and happy
Quality time won by just 30%! Then acts of service 23% Reviving gifts & Words of affirmation both 17% and lastly, Physical touch 13% (which I dislike xD) But other than that the graphics look pretty equal, I'm quite impressed by it!
When they advertise the BT21 Mang "My love language is. Understand I'll never cheat on you. But I will give googly eyes to BTS everyday. Deal. With. It" -My daughter
Our love language is physical touch. It was really hard since pandemic happened. Both of us struggle since we always crave for touch. However, since we trust and always assure each other then it wont be a problem for us. Haha im just sharing my experience, always assure ur partner and please trust each other and communicate with them to avoid conficts.
How do you cope? Touch is my love language too and I've never been the slightest bit interested in a long distance relationship. I just think what's the point?
@@bernicerogers2383 I convey it through text or say it to him while we're on call on what I wish I could do. Like "cuddles you tightly", something like that 😃 And he'll respond back 🤭❤️ Since we're already committed to each other, all we can do is hope and wait 🤞❤️ (I'm a college student so... Yeah)
My primary language is Acts of Service. My secondary is Gifts. Quality Time for me is at the very bottom. Because usually that "time" is spent with me entertaining the woman, or catering to her in some type of way and I'm not getting anything out of it.
I found this very fun and interesting because I am the Touching Type, and I actually have a long distance relationship. We see each other once or twice a year only. But when I'm with him, I try to be near him as much as possible. When we're not together I miss him a lot, but as my second type is Quality Time, I enjoy our conversations and everything else.
I went and did the quiz but then I realized that I'm not really sure if I know what love feels like, or if I've ever been in contact with people who have shown me these different forms of love. My results were 29% physical touch, 26% words of affirmation, 19% acts of service, 16% quality time, and 10% receiving gifts.
I know I am a big mix between quality time and physical touch. If I take even one of those out, I don't see that person being me. Heavy second along with those earlier languages are acts of service. I try to not show my gratitude and weakness when someone offers to help me. I , also, try to push people away from trying to help me, but I, myself, tend to even insist to help someone. Not every task of course, but one of the many things in myself I have to balance out.
My two top love languages are gifts and words of affirmation. The thing about this video that you should have mentioned though, is that these are also the ways we like to give love. There is little I enjoy more than putting thoughtful gifts together for people-whether for people close to me, or strangers (I once made a girl I didn’t know happy cry from a college dorm “secret Santa” thing). And I absolutely love being able to counsel and encourage others, as well.
I am definitely a quality time and words of affirmation guy. Service is also good, but not as import as the other too. I just wanna be around the people I love the most. As for the words of affirmation, it isn't so much as people telling me how great I am (really, I'd prefer if people don't do that) but rather hearing people tell me what it is that they actually love in me. The little things that I do that catch their attention. The things that they notice in my personality and the way I talk. Those kind of things. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I am not a gifts person at all. That isn't to say that I don't appreciate gifts, it's just that I don't value materialistic things as much as I do the relationship itself. Beautiful video, as always.
33% Quality time 27% Physical touch 23% words of affirmation 17% Acts of Service 0% Receiving gifts. I know why this is the case. My mom is always really cheap with my gifts, so I’ve usually expected a cheap knock off version of what I wanted that breaks, I appreciate the thought, but I’m also really awkward when I open gifts because it’s difficult for me to get excited by them. I’m also not that materialistic. I don’t get a lot of attention and love at home because we’re a busy family so it explains everything else.
one thing I noticed about being in a long distance relationship and still in it right now, my love language is physical touch but while commiting to my relationship I realized iv been giving my partner gifts, spending time with him, telling him how much he means to me, and even though we cant cuddle or anything like that we both tell eachother how much we wish we could and because of that we want to meet eachother more and more because our love language is physical touch. yes its hard because we cant show eachother that kind of affection but we still show we love eachother through different love languages, but because our language is physical touch the more we fight to be together.
I always thought my love language was physical touch. Then I took the test and most of my answers aligned with receiving gifts. I’m glad the website and this video specify that it’s not related to materialism bc I think that’s why I was reluctant to express how much I love receiving a thoughtful gift lol
Quality time is my love language and I knew it before I even took the test. The most important thing for me is paying attention and spending time with my loved ones
Mine is fooood. Way to my heart: food. Ways I express love: cooking for others, offering them a snack or a bubble tea to take their mind of of all the shit they have to deal with that we call life. Way I worm myself into the hearts of others (or try): taking them out to dinner, sending chocolates.
Apparently I'm primarily physical touch, but I'm in a long distance relationship, & we are doing fine. Its supposedly not ideal to be in one when you're this kind of person, but I haven't quit ♡
The test said I‘m the quality time kind of person, but I can best relate to the touch kind because when I truly love someone I can allow myself to be vulnerable and lowering my defense in front of them and I absolutely love it when someone caresses my hair
Mine is physical touch and words of affirmation and I'm in a long distance relationship right now. The physical touch is a bit tricky but messages that describe the action helps relieve the feeling quite a bit
Mine is physical touch and I’ve been scared about going to college cause my relationship might be really difficult, but for those who are in the same boat, if you’re lasting through quarantine, it might not be as mad as you imagine ☺️
I'm a type of person who could care less if I receive words of affirmation, get expensive gifts, physical touch, or acts of service. *As long as he is present and spends quality time with me, I'm happy. 🤗*
according to the test mines was 30% quality time and 20% words,physical and acts or service and 10% I am def a quality time cause when you are here I need you hereeeee
Physical touch is the most important- unless you’re one of the few people i hate being touched be- like a hug does wonders for me...it’s probably more helpful when i’m not doing my best mentally than talking to me about my emotions (quality time is 2nd)
Great work whoever illustrated this one Psych2go team! Loved the head rubbing in the physical touch love language part. Thank you for making people aware of the 5 different kinds. I highly suggest people take the quiz together with their partner. Not only to learn how you can love, but also be loved. Rank them in order from the most important to the least one you need. It can really help improve relations between couples!
I will like to say I did confess to these friends of mine (they are a couple) this Sunday and honestly I’ve felt the best I ever have since middle school. I’ve learned to love myself wholeheartedly. All the negative thoughts don’t hurt as much, feels weird saying they hurt at all. I fell for them and in the end I finally learned how to love myself as I do others. 😸
I’m in the middle of quality time and space. My philosophy on relationships are being able to spend time with each other, giving gifts without it being a requirement, and being able to live separate lives while remaining together.
Acts of service is how I show my love. I willingly do whatever I can to help out those I care about. I’m a mixed bag when it comes to receiving. I don’t really have a top love language, all of the above works for me .
as someone who freaks out even when close friends try to hold hold my hand or put a hand on my shoulder, i can confidently say that quality time and words are heaven for me
Oh the animation for this one is SOOOO CUTE!!! I also like that you’re touching back to love. The world needs positive and love to cure their blindness to the harmony of good and bad events.
In my opinion, all these languages makes the person happy but for me which me makes most happy is touching as first then quality time as second most important.
I've been binging Psyche2Go for a few days. Vids on attachment styles, trauma, HSPs. When I first found Psyche2Go it was too revelatory and uncomfortable so I subbed and then avoided it. I can handle it now, its nice to be back.
Hello everyone! Have you ever heard of the term love language? What are your thoughts on it and what is your love language? If you can relate to this video comment below and tell us your love language 🥰
I don’t have one. I never dated. I will edit this when I do.
@Selina Kao same
I haven’t heard of it yet, but I’m exited to watch the video. ;-; this is how I figure out my life. Thank you!!!
Love languages are very important for everyone to know about because there are people who always show their affection in another way.
My top two love languages which were the strongest in the quiz are:
1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
While I'm still single, I hope to find the right one for me.
Kind words are always nice, but I kinda lack on physical affection.
Physical touch is my type. Daamn, I understand my actions now. Why I don’t like distant relationships, and the reason for hugging people tight. Though I’ve been single for like my whole life? 😂
0:40 Words of affirmation
1:06 Acts of service
1:32 Receiving gifts
2:03 Quality time
2:25 Physical touch
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Don’t you mean a blessing and a curse?
@@RatKingJim a blurse
If love language exists then I'm speechless.
Fucking genius! 😂
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Haha true!
Your love language is not speechless...It's between a rock and a hardplace
Me too speechless. 🤐
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Yes cause I wanted to get cheated on so thats what I deserve
Hoi I temmie
Nobody wants to get cheated on. But people don’t love themselves, so they settle for toxic relationships instead of raising their standards.
We were infinite
Victim blaming is not it. Pretty disappointed that Psych2Go would heart this. Where do you think that how much love that you think that you deserve comes from? You are not born with that sense. You get it from the people who do or do not love you. Saying that it is the fault of a person that another person does not love them for having no self worth is the reverse of reality and an opinion born from privilege. To feel like you are unlovable is abnormal. Nurture is the reason for this, not nature. People who are not as intelligent as they wishfully think that they are often associate logic with the idea of most of the contents of the brain of any given individual being present before birth rather than afterwards. This idea is massively flawed and lacks nuance. Existence lies upon a spectrum. To ignore this is irrational. Denial is not intellectual. It is emotional.
Jdabomb93 Yes because I came out of the womb hating myself lol It is my fault that my parents hate me 😂 Centrism is 1 wild card of an ideology...
Am I the only one who wants to know how real love feels like?
Nope I’m sure we all do
I do
You are not alone
it's like you come more you, which is normally like BOOM, but now it's okay because the person chose to take all that on, and it's all right; you don't feel like suck a freak anymore
Like you'll do just about anything for them to be happy.
Like you're willing to deal with pain and hardship as many times as it takes if it means seeing them smile.
Even if it means willingly letting them go because you know they're happy with someone else. Never once regretting nor resent them because all you care about is their well-being.
I've felt that way before towards a straight boy, who was my best friend. He's now with my best girl-friend and I am happy that two of the best people I've ever met on this planet are happy together.
Just one downside is loving that way for the wrong person. You'll end up damaged, feeling used, and have a harder time believing in love.
It is very useful to know this because sometimes each person of a couple may have different love languages. This can lead to sadness if one doesn't understand that the other one is showing love in his own way!
Yes you have to learn your parents love language!
@@Psych2go Wow, thanks for the answer! I actually haven't thought about applying those concepts to relationships other than romantic ones. That actually inspired me to make a practical video about it!! Thanks a lot :D
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Yes. Expression is everything. Otherwise... it doesn’t matter how much you love someone, if you can’t communicate it to them in a way that they can really appreciate. You might as well not love them at all, if you can’t show it to them.
@@Jdabomb93 Great thought! Knowledge can lead to adaptation and improvement, I like it. Thanks!
“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss
Reality is just as bad as my nightmares regardless of a relationship
@@darklycan4583 Relationships dont always equate to being in love.
Mixxiniitiy meh not like I have ether
Ahh sleep deprivation
Wooooowww.
If anyone's confused what their love language is here's a guide -
Imagine u are on a FIRST DATE with 5 people seperately.
- 1st person compliments u n says what are ur good qualities; calls u beautiful/handsome.
- 2nd person gets u popcorn and drinks even in middle of the movie and helps others as well.
- 3rd person gives u a gift; can be a chocolate or teddy bear or anything u want it to be.
- 4th person hangs out with u even after ur date n all time u have converstaion.
- 5th person catches ur hand during the date and gives u a big hug after the date is over.
Which one do u like the most out of 5 ?
If u picked 1st, urs is words of affirmation
If u picked 2nd, urs is act of service
If u picked 3rd, urs is receiving gifts
If u picked 4th, urs is quality time
If u picked 5th, urs is physical touch.
I love the first one :D
TH-cam is good for words of affirmation, because people will comment good things :D and it raises your self.esteem
Mine is 2nd 😁
This comment was kinda helpful. Guess mine is 4th and 1st.
That 5th one made my heart flutter lol physical tough is definitely mine
Physical touch for me is incredibly important. So much so, that I won’t let anyone that isn’t very very close to me emotionally come physically near me. This has helped a lot with social distancing 😂😂😂
Felt! I think you can feel other people’s energy more when you physically touch them so I just don’t wanna be touched at all unless it’s a loving energy from someone I’m very close and comfortable with
I genuinely detest being touched "casually"... I'm generally not a very touchy-feely or "huggy" kind of person until I really trust someone. I have to be close before I can be comfortable (or comforted) with physical touching...
Ordinarily, "quality time" doing stuff together is my preference. It doesn't even much matter what we do... so long as we do it together. ;o)
That's interesting. My love language is physical touch and I'd hug everyone in sight if I could lol.
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I don't like touching when the terms are ambiguous. I don't get so uncomfortable by the touching _per se_ but because I'm unsure of how to react and it gives me a vague sense of obligation to reciprocate.
However, when it's a clearly defined "cuddle time" or "horse play" I'm all-in!
@@hangukhiphop Just a matter of formative growing up, I guess. Most of the people who "got close" (at least) tried to do horrible shit... some succeeded.
So I just can't get close as easily. Intellectually, I can understand you only want a hug. My instinct is you're trying to hold me down or pacify me to get some advantage. Unless I can trust you "like that", I just can't allow it.
I know I come off as abrasive and distant to a bunch of people, but we are only the sum and total of our experiences. ;o)
I got highest score on Receiving Gifts but idk how I could explain to someone that I don't mind how luxurious the gift is. It's not about the money. But also, I wouldn't appreciate a half-assed gift. I just want to feel like they gave it to me because they wanted to, and because they thought of me and what I really like. I don't want to sound materialistic or ungrateful. I really am not!
You like gifts, but expense isn't the main thing: it's how much you feel they put the thought into it.
A poster of your favorite band(t.v. show, movie etc) can be more important than a random pair of diamond earrings.
Does this sound right?
@@zidaryn Exactly
Yes! Hearing someone say "I saw this in the store and it made me think of you." or someone getting me something I mentioned wanting weeks ago makes me happy everytime!
I'm Gifts too. I tell people it's not the amount they spend on it, but the thought. Like if the gift is for no reason, in my favorite color and has to do with my favorite hobby, then I know they really see me and pay attention.
Then I have a visual representation of their care for me that I can see everyday.
Just say exactly just what you commented here. You rather be truthful than a liar.
For me, my love language is quality time. I also need hugs and hand holding
Me too
Same, and cuddles and attention :D
Me too!
I am "acts of service". When my husband cooks dinner, washes the kids, or helps me do something I've been wanting to do, I just love him boundlessly and want to make him the happiest person alive.
"For some, actions don't always speak louder than works"
Exactly. For those whose love language is words of affirmation , sometimes saying: "I'm proud of you or I appreciate you" is enough
A good relationship is where both partners help each other heal.
Yeah true....without demanding anything or forcefully trying to levy upon their nonsensical wishes. Just fully accepting and supporting each other.
Maybe I should be in a relationship I really like this comment.
not be each other's rehabilitation centers, but validation and understanding is heart-warming
@@anjalimane4711 Yes. Absolutely
@@EbonySerpent999 I am sure you will soon
This TH-cam channel teach me about myself more than my family and school does
Thanks a lot psych2go I love you alot
Actually me too this channel did the same thing to me 😁
Thanks for your support! -MT
@@Psych2go You"re welcome💓💓💓
Imagine having a relationship
Ikr
lmao your pfp matches very well with your comment
imagine imagining 😳
Im having one. You guys are missing something important.
Imagine inhaling air
“As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.”
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
“She took the kids” -me to my friends in 2018
I read that book, it's good. I remember that sentence.
yeah john green also love used except Mongolian...
My fave book 💕
I read that yesterday
Love languages aren't just for romantic relationships; they work in all relationships. My brother and I are both high physical touch as a love language, but since our family doesn't really hug, we always end up play punching or hip-and-shouldering each other. This also counts.
ah, quality time and physical touch
the two things my parents never gave me lol
EXACTLY!! Do you also get that SUPER awkward feeling when being touched but you still want hugs and to hold hands regardless??
Ubey Elliott
Yes, but by nobody.
same lmao
mood if there ever was one lol.
Oh you're so right. I didn't realize that until now.
I love quality time just talking and knowing the other person cares and listens and just sitting next to each other
I read this book years ago, and when I read Dr. Chapman's process, it made so much sense.
He is a marriage counselor, and went back through 30 years worth of notes and highlighted phrases like, 'I wish he would hug me more', or 'she doesn't talk to me as much as I want,' or 'we never spend much time together, just us', etc. etc.
He distilled those phrases down in these 5 love languages, but tye amazing thing is it isn't just romantic love. Its familial love and friendship as well.
Once I read this book and realized my top Love language, and how they all rank in my life, how I viewed my relationships in my life changed completely for the better. Because learning love languages not only helps you realize how you express and process love, but how other people do, and you can then 'learn their language.' And since all 5 of these love languages exist in us already (some are just more prevalent), it is absolutely possible to learn for someone else.
I would suggest this book to anyone. Its a very simple read, and if nothing else, it may open your eyes to people's different behaviours. And lets face it, in this VERY confused world, a bit more clarity goes a long way 👍 Good luck!
Exactly! I've never had a romantic partner but I feel closer to friends and family when they hug me (physical touch is my love language lol). I read one of Chapman's books recently and not only did I learn a lot about myself, but also how to communicate love to others as well
I’m a bonder. My primary love language is spending time with someone, my second love language is affection, third is words of affirmation, fourth is gifts, and last is service. I have a lot of emotional intimacy with friends and family. I’m still working on myself for that special someone.
Physical touch and words of affirmation 🥰 Long distance was really hard for me! But my boyfriend and I are in the same place again now. We made it through long distance and it made us stronger ☺️ so, it is possible even if your love language is physical touch!💕
1. Quality time 37%
2. Physical touch 30%
So true I need to know u're listening and u're there for me. Physical touch comes after that, I'm a very touchy person so knowing that I can at least get a hug from u means the world to me. I'm a giver not really a reciver of gifts. I receive appreciation and love from giving gifts.😊
Ay I'm the first to comment (:
My love language is acts of service, although I was pretty well rounded between each of the other love languages.
Lol second to comment here 😂.
My love language is acts of service, then quality time and so on XD.
Lol mine are all pretty well rounded too except for my 3% words of affirmation 🤣.
Earlttt
Dwight Marvin EARRLLTTT
Wait. How did you comment before the video even got uploaded?👁👄👁
Michelle Rimba we will never tell.
26% Quality time
13% receive gifts
16% words of affirmation
23% physical touch
23% act of service
This pretty sum up me
I have some time with my love ones but receive gifts I felt like I didn't earn it
Words of affirmation I will died if someone said something nice to me from love I like but from a random girl I kinda feel panicked
Physical touch I can do I away give hugs to people I know who felt down but someone do it for me like a family member or a friend It will only make me even sadder
Act of service I love to help people with things they don't understand and it makes me feel good about it
Hmm. I’m like
60% touch
0% gifts (i don’t need anything ever)
5% affirmation (guys don’t get compliments anyway)
5% act of service (im pretty independent)
And 30% quality time.
It is so helpful to know someone else’s love language so you can express your affection in a way that they most appreciate :-) I resisted reading the book for so long, but when I finally did it made total sense. Excellent video! ♥️
Nena Lavonne
Is it still worth reading or is a summary enough?
Fetch Quest I enjoyed reading the book, but a summary could work also. I made one on my channel :-)
Mine is physical touch and quality time. When I red the book about the 5 love languages it really helped me appreciate the love that others had for me. We express love in many different ways ❤️🙂
Sadly, nowadays people have started trading on the name of love. Their love ends when their needs don't meet anymore. You may end up just giving and giving, ultimately feeling empty and hating yourself for not being enough😔
I agree love is now an empty emotion
The way I feel about this is that if you love someone, there should be a presence of a balanced fusion of all these love languages in you. Balanced in the sense that you don't smother that special someone nor leave him/her with a sense of want as a result of the absence of any one of these love languages. To me, these (love languages) are all essential ingredients of expressing love.
Quality time was the answer I got on the quiz, but I think that my love language is a mix of that & physical touch.
It's very possible! Most people have a primary and secondary(s)
this made me realize i like to be loved with quality time, but i love others with physical touch. i just want to protect and be near my partners but i typically don’t like being touched, i like to be the one to do the touching and it makes me feel like i’m protecting my partners and that makes me happy
Love language is a language I doubt I’ll ever be fluent in 😂
Fluent? Boiii I'll be mute
fucking is not that hard man....
As per the quiz, my top ranking is physical touch, and pretty close below that, quality time. Which makes perfect sense because the most romantic date I can think of is going out to a quiet, remote hill on a summer night, throwing out a blanket, and just laying together, looking up at the stars with no distractions. Not even a word needed.
Me: is clingy
Also me: *its love langauge*
😂 👌 💯
My giving language is acts of service but my receiving is words of affirmation. Its just nice to be seen and appreciated loud and clear 😢
I think 'Quality Time' fits me the most... lol
Not exactly sure if Im completely based on quality time, but it Suits the most
Take the quizz. You'll have more than one but one or two may be more dominant.
Mine seems to be quality time and physical touch.
I already had an idea of what my love language is, but when I took the quiz I was surprised by how right I was. My primary love language is touch, which makes sense since I’m a very physically affectionate person and always have been. My score for physical affection was twice as my next highest scoring category, which was quality time. I remember when I broke up with my long term boyfriend, I couldn’t sleep at night because I was so alone
They should really teach us this is school-
Exactly
Wait they didn't? My school did. (Granted they didn't teach sex ed but you win some you loose some)
When I had sex ed, in addition to STDs, puberty, baby development & contraception, we talked about healthy relationships.
😂
This is not something which can be teached. I mean, it can be teached but not the entire thing, this is something really more complicated than a book
"laziness and broken commitments are major deal breakers for you". That's so true!! I thought it was just me.
Psych2Go: What your love language says about you?
Me: It's bold for you to assume that I even have a love life nor language
Also me:*cries after realizing I'm not gonna get a relationship because I hate socializing
*crying* I’m on the same train
HOW DARE YOU ASSUME I HAVE A LANGUAGE?!!!
Same buster
Love languages work across all relationships (familial, friendship) not just romantic ones, so you still have a preferred style. :)
My love language is actually Physical Touch, but I’m also in a long distance relationship. It really helps to have a partner who communicates, and is thinking about you when they aren’t able to see you or talk to you for the time being. She also likes to give me verbal reassurance of how much she wants to cuddle me, pet my head and such. It really helps to have this sort of verbal assurance for me, because when I see her, she follows through with her words, and I feel the physical assurance then.
Me when someone just says hello to me at school : ❤👄❤
Me: What?
Leave the students alone!
i just took the love language test and i VERH MUCH agree on my answer, Words of affirmation. My culture here is very much action driven. and hence when i distance myself from people they feel like i'm not "Respecting everything they did for me." To me SAYING means that it's true, and actions could be just for the sake of it. it's just how i think. I dont want you to do something for me and then later use it as a "But i did that for you because i love you!" i'd rather the person just say they love me. I would love to hear from other people who got my answer!! i wanna know how other people think!! great video. as always :))
And I'm not even in a relationship!
To relate to this video, you must be in a relationship 😭
Not necessarily. I'm a toucher and this applies even to my relationship with parents. I'd rather hug them than say 'I love you'.
natka zagadka lol I got 3% physical touch.
My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. Both of our love languages are physical touch and we haven’t met before, but we’re growing stronger every day. We’ve been dating for months now. I haven’t told him yet but I love him very much.
me sat here eating doritos with no one i “love” watching this because psych2go has great videos
Thank you for your support
@@Psych2go lmao
i already knew i was going to be words of affirmation before i took the test because of just the way i am. i love pet names and compliments. i enjoy it when people actually listen to me talk instead of just letting me ramble in their presence. i like telling the people i care about that i love them and thanking them for just existing when im feeling particularly fond and nostalgic.
2:01 taht plush looks so much like Mang 🥺🤩
Words of affirmation is what I value the most, whether I'm on the giving or receiving end for any type of interaction with people, and then to follow up those words of affirmation with acts of service whenever possible. When I do receive gifts, the most meaningful and memorable ones to me are ones that help me to have less stress by getting some practical needs met, for example a friend filling up my gas tank on my birthday
"long distance relationships arent the best for you"
also me: has been in love with my friend for two years who lives pretty far away
im so glad to hear my love language be explained!!
my top love language is actually receiving gifts and i feel like if i ever tell people my love language i'd be told i'm materialistic. but its not that! we're not asking to be showered with gifts luxurious gifts 24/7. getting a gift is a show of love that someone's thinking of us, and even the smallest thing can be so heartwarming, especially when it has so much thought put into it. if it's half-assed though.... imagine getting a "gift" but it was just because they didn't want it... ouch.
How do you feel about gift cards? I give those because I know it's useful. Could it be offending anyone?
2:42 made me laugh and I’m a physical touch kinda person
My love language is acts of service! I hate broken commitments/promises more than anything. It always makes me feel unappreciated and like my partners or friends or family don’t value my time. After a broken commitment I struggle with trying to understand why it hurt so much and then I took the quiz months ago and found that AOS is my main love language.
yay i am early!
Me2 jeeejj
Thanks! -MT
I do like distance but I'm also big on physical touch but only from ppl I care for like family, friends or a partner. I despise when strangers touch me like my teachers will touch my shoulder and I'll get upset but a single touch from a friend makes me feel light and happy
Why do my ARMY eyes are seeing the horse as MANG
You know I have too many army friends when I, a non-army, completely understood this comment.
OMG, I thought only I felt that..
Even I thought that
EXACTLY, II THOUGHTT I AMM THEE ONLYY ONEE THINKK SOO
ARMYYYYYYYs
Quality time won by just 30%! Then acts of service 23% Reviving gifts & Words of affirmation both 17% and lastly, Physical touch 13% (which I dislike xD) But other than that the graphics look pretty equal, I'm quite impressed by it!
that moment when your love language is making jokes to get over the fact that you love them...
I love having late night conversations with a girl I’ve been crushing on for a year and hugging them just feels so right
shot ur shot bruh
How do I do that when I know she’ll never see me that way
When they advertise the BT21 Mang
"My love language is. Understand I'll never cheat on you. But I will give googly eyes to BTS everyday. Deal. With. It"
-My daughter
Our love language is physical touch. It was really hard since pandemic happened. Both of us struggle since we always crave for touch. However, since we trust and always assure each other then it wont be a problem for us. Haha im just sharing my experience, always assure ur partner and please trust each other and communicate with them to avoid conficts.
Me: love language is physical touch
Psych2Go: “....long distance relationship isn’t for you”
Me: *is in a long distance relationship, 7hrs apart* 😐😐
How do you cope? Touch is my love language too and I've never been the slightest bit interested in a long distance relationship. I just think what's the point?
Same situation here :/
@@bernicerogers2383 I convey it through text or say it to him while we're on call on what I wish I could do. Like "cuddles you tightly", something like that 😃 And he'll respond back 🤭❤️
Since we're already committed to each other, all we can do is hope and wait 🤞❤️ (I'm a college student so... Yeah)
@@arisakookies.-. I hope it turns out well for you 💪❤️ Love conquers anything, they say 💖
Try 30 hours
My primary language is Acts of Service. My secondary is Gifts.
Quality Time for me is at the very bottom. Because usually that "time" is spent with me entertaining the woman, or catering to her in some type of way and I'm not getting anything out of it.
It’s like you can read my brain when I need certain info
I found this very fun and interesting because I am the Touching Type, and I actually have a long distance relationship. We see each other once or twice a year only. But when I'm with him, I try to be near him as much as possible. When we're not together I miss him a lot, but as my second type is Quality Time, I enjoy our conversations and everything else.
To the 1% reading this: Your amazing and unique have a great day
Don’t read my channel name
I went and did the quiz but then I realized that I'm not really sure if I know what love feels like, or if I've ever been in contact with people who have shown me these different forms of love. My results were 29% physical touch, 26% words of affirmation, 19% acts of service, 16% quality time, and 10% receiving gifts.
So brave of you to think I actually “love” humans
It's in your name.
COR•BIN well HTTYD isn’t a human 😂
I know I am a big mix between quality time and physical touch. If I take even one of those out, I don't see that person being me.
Heavy second along with those earlier languages are acts of service. I try to not show my gratitude and weakness when someone offers to help me. I , also, try to push people away from trying to help me, but I, myself, tend to even insist to help someone. Not every task of course, but one of the many things in myself I have to balance out.
I value communication, quality one on one time, little gifts, hugs, and constant confirmation. Both sides.
My two top love languages are gifts and words of affirmation. The thing about this video that you should have mentioned though, is that these are also the ways we like to give love. There is little I enjoy more than putting thoughtful gifts together for people-whether for people close to me, or strangers (I once made a girl I didn’t know happy cry from a college dorm “secret Santa” thing). And I absolutely love being able to counsel and encourage others, as well.
I am definitely a quality time and words of affirmation guy. Service is also good, but not as import as the other too. I just wanna be around the people I love the most. As for the words of affirmation, it isn't so much as people telling me how great I am (really, I'd prefer if people don't do that) but rather hearing people tell me what it is that they actually love in me. The little things that I do that catch their attention. The things that they notice in my personality and the way I talk. Those kind of things.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I am not a gifts person at all. That isn't to say that I don't appreciate gifts, it's just that I don't value materialistic things as much as I do the relationship itself.
Beautiful video, as always.
33% Quality time
27% Physical touch
23% words of affirmation
17% Acts of Service
0% Receiving gifts.
I know why this is the case. My mom is always really cheap with my gifts, so I’ve usually expected a cheap knock off version of what I wanted that breaks, I appreciate the thought, but I’m also really awkward when I open gifts because it’s difficult for me to get excited by them. I’m also not that materialistic. I don’t get a lot of attention and love at home because we’re a busy family so it explains everything else.
one thing I noticed about being in a long distance relationship and still in it right now, my love language is physical touch but while commiting to my relationship I realized iv been giving my partner gifts, spending time with him, telling him how much he means to me, and even though we cant cuddle or anything like that we both tell eachother how much we wish we could and because of that we want to meet eachother more and more because our love language is physical touch. yes its hard because we cant show eachother that kind of affection but we still show we love eachother through different love languages, but because our language is physical touch the more we fight to be together.
I always thought my love language was physical touch. Then I took the test and most of my answers aligned with receiving gifts. I’m glad the website and this video specify that it’s not related to materialism bc I think that’s why I was reluctant to express how much I love receiving a thoughtful gift lol
Quality time is my love language and I knew it before I even took the test. The most important thing for me is paying attention and spending time with my loved ones
Mine is fooood. Way to my heart: food. Ways I express love: cooking for others, offering them a snack or a bubble tea to take their mind of of all the shit they have to deal with that we call life. Way I worm myself into the hearts of others (or try): taking them out to dinner, sending chocolates.
Apparently I'm primarily physical touch, but I'm in a long distance relationship, & we are doing fine. Its supposedly not ideal to be in one when you're this kind of person, but I haven't quit ♡
The test said I‘m the quality time kind of person, but I can best relate to the touch kind because when I truly love someone I can allow myself to be vulnerable and lowering my defense in front of them and I absolutely love it when someone caresses my hair
Lmao, this was adorably funny. New favorite, thank you for the videos!
Mine is physical touch and words of affirmation and I'm in a long distance relationship right now. The physical touch is a bit tricky but messages that describe the action helps relieve the feeling quite a bit
Mine is physical touch and I’ve been scared about going to college cause my relationship might be really difficult, but for those who are in the same boat, if you’re lasting through quarantine, it might not be as mad as you imagine ☺️
I'm a type of person who could care less if I receive words of affirmation, get expensive gifts, physical touch, or acts of service. *As long as he is present and spends quality time with me, I'm happy. 🤗*
according to the test mines was 30% quality time and 20% words,physical and acts or service and 10% I am def a quality time cause when you are here I need you hereeeee
I don't know why but I just love her voice...it's so soothing
Physical touch is the most important- unless you’re one of the few people i hate being touched be- like a hug does wonders for me...it’s probably more helpful when i’m not doing my best mentally than talking to me about my emotions
(quality time is 2nd)
Great work whoever illustrated this one Psych2go team! Loved the head rubbing in the physical touch love language part. Thank you for making people aware of the 5 different kinds. I highly suggest people take the quiz together with their partner. Not only to learn how you can love, but also be loved. Rank them in order from the most important to the least one you need. It can really help improve relations between couples!
I appreciate acts of service and i show people that i like them back with phisical touch
1. physical touch, 2. Quality time, 3. Words of affirmation, 4. Acts of service, 5. Reaciving gifts.
I don't necessarily want to receive gifts but I love giving them to my friends and family and seeing their reactions
Yeeeeeeeeees! Gift-giving is awesome!
Gift-receiving... meh...
I will like to say I did confess to these friends of mine (they are a couple) this Sunday and honestly I’ve felt the best I ever have since middle school. I’ve learned to love myself wholeheartedly. All the negative thoughts don’t hurt as much, feels weird saying they hurt at all. I fell for them and in the end I finally learned how to love myself as I do others. 😸
Quality time + Physical touch is my Love Language
My top love language is quality time. 2nd words of affirmation and 3rd physical touch.
I’m in the middle of quality time and space. My philosophy on relationships are being able to spend time with each other, giving gifts without it being a requirement, and being able to live separate lives while remaining together.
Acts of service is how I show my love. I willingly do whatever I can to help out those I care about. I’m a mixed bag when it comes to receiving. I don’t really have a top love language, all of the above works for me .
Thanks for sharing! Did you take the quiz? :)
as someone who freaks out even when close friends try to hold hold my hand or put a hand on my shoulder, i can confidently say that quality time and words are heaven for me
Oh the animation for this one is SOOOO CUTE!!! I also like that you’re touching back to love. The world needs positive and love to cure their blindness to the harmony of good and bad events.
In my opinion, all these languages makes the person happy but for me which me makes most happy is touching as first then quality time as second most important.
I've been binging Psyche2Go for a few days. Vids on attachment styles, trauma, HSPs. When I first found Psyche2Go it was too revelatory and uncomfortable so I subbed and then avoided it. I can handle it now, its nice to be back.