Is marriage 50|50? || STEVE HARVEY
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- Steve presents the “Happy Wife, Happy Life” Hour with the question of “should marriage be 50|50?"
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I just keep hearing reasons not to get married on this show
SDPRZ me too
same here....lord 😑smh
so hope u didn't
@@yasmineyasmine4644 why be rude
@@mohamedalikhlifi9772 does it seem rude ?! Idk i didn't mean it like that 😭
Marriage is 100/100 and divorce is 50/50 😂😂😂
I’m going to have to start saying this. 😂💖💯
Divorce is more like 85/15
Yes
Right
I’m baffled that she is proud as she talks to Steve. Some people should not get married or be in any relationship if they have this mentality, period. It is and always will be 100/100.
It's for a show. Both of them wanted to have their 15 minutes on TV.
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How do you split the grocery bill 100/100?
@@isabelmarguerite5560😂😂😂😂same my question
And who said that woman should pay bills? 🙂 answer:- MEN said hahah
Where is the rest of this video? Wanted to hear Steve complete response to this subject matter.
In my marriage, there is no 50/50. We're in it 100/100. If you want your marriage to work, you're going to have to figure that out.
preach it .preach
yes! Amen!
pfft real husbands and wives go over9000/over9000
That’s bad math though. There is no 200%. It only goes to 100%
50/50 = 100/100 = 1 married unit splitting the responsibilities
They look like brother and sister.
Being cheap and struggling are two different things. If you want your man to be financially free, support him and sacrifice a dinner or two. Both of you should be investing that money.
Exactly! He just said he is working 2 part time jobs and going to school. Sounds like she isn't very patient with the way things are or she has never worked and gone to school at the same time. Hopefully they work it out, they both seem to have a lot to learn
Your wrong lol but ok
When you’re married, you become ONE. Is this how you want to be treated? Is this how you love yourself? Its not about how you afford to have a spouse. It’s about love. Loving means treating eachother lovingly and respectfully. You both have to consider eachothers.
She needs to respect him he doing all the work while she is lazy
@@danilogarcia4867 respect both ways.
@narsnhel8446 yet she doesn't respect HIM!
@@UKRglory you watched it? She cooked and he only eats. What does it say?
If she has money for him to be saying let's split costs 50/50 I'm guessing she has a job and makes her own money so I doubt she's being lazy. Not to mention she's obviously the one that cooks oh and "she makes him do chores" so she probably does most of the house work like wtf is that. It's his house too so it's not a chore it's a responsibility. They're hispanic so I understand he's probably got that machismo which tells me she's right on 90% of this issue.
It's so weird to me to see people splitting money in a relationship. When you're married you should consider the two of you to be one person. Everything they own is yours and vice versa, which includes all money made by both of you. So there's no "oh you pay for this and I'll pay for that," there's just "let's pay this and pay that." It's super childish to me to imagine a woman who expects the man to pay for everything and she gets to keep all the money she earns. You're not a couple at that point imo.
Right!!! At the end of the day we combine our paycheck and put it all on one. And people criticize me doing that, cause what if we get a divorce, what if I need to run away. I mean personally me, I feel very confident in my marriage, if I felt like he would ever hit me then I would save money on the side. But I mean we got married and didn’t have anything. We both started building our future together. We don’t know what the future holds so if we do ever get divorced then we would split everything in half cause we both worked hard. That’s why since the beginning we signed that all money property will be slit in half if that ever does happen. It’s a marriage it’s a relationship, it’s one unit, and like another person said in the comments, it’s 100/100
Respect
Because people have different tastes and hobbies
i partly agree, me and my wife have a joint account we both put money in which is a percentage of our income. since i make almost 4 times as much as her i also put in 4 times as much in the joint account. from this joint account we pay our bills, food, water, electricity etc. amd both have some 'own' money left which we can use without approval of the partner since all bills are already accounted for. she even had enough left to put some money aside every month (I am horrible at saving money) which we can use in emergencies. for us it's a perfect system. at the end of the day we each know our spending limits and even if we spend a bit too much we don't have to worry about the bills since they are covered by our joint account.
Truth
She calls her husband a "cheapskate" on national TV and still wants him to take care of her.
I'd divorce her on national TV.
on tv too
People have such thin skin these days
He’s a cheapskate. Shut up
@@bealltho1 people are really entitled these days
Amen. Who ridicules their own soulmate like that? I hope he divorced her
The only mistake he did is not discussing this before marriage 😅😂
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God being single sure feels good right now!!
😂😂😂😂
God IS eternal, but not you. So u might end up old and alone. And believe me thats fkdup
It's 50/50 but everything you give isn't financial. Maybe the husband buys the groceries but the wife cooks the food. Maybe the husband pays the bills and the woman carries the children, or one pays the bills one does the upkeep of the house. It's not all about finances it's about both giving to the marriage to complete it
How about that:both go to work!!!!!
@@nibor1224 lol
You wrote just said that everything you give isn’t financial but at the same time- husband pays… husband pays…
@@gintsss10 well yeah he can’t carry a child but he can give it a bottle. Some things men can’t do. But in some households the woman may pay majority of the bills and the man might cook. Or the man may do outside yard work and the woman does the inside house work. Men don’t always make more in a relationship/marriage
@@gintsss10 see things like is what you men don’t see and value. Because it’s not physical, and that needs to change. Raising a future adult cleaning the house clean making sure food is there the husband and kids have everything they need. Is PHYSICALLY as well as mentally draining. But not as appreciated bec women are just EXPECTED to do it. Men want to complain they don’t want at least do the financial aspect, ok help around the house when the kids need attention things for school doctor appointments are crying or even if she just gave birth do those things. Also the house hold chores.
Marriage is 50/50 if my husband cooks then I wash dishes, if I wash clothes then he folds them, if he pays for the light I pay the gas. I'm not going to let him do everything even tho he offers.. I'm not his child so he doesn't need to pay everything just like he's not mine and I don't have to do all the chores... That's just how my relationship works ..
That’s so beautiful every woman needs to think like that 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 he’s a very lucky man
That clip was NOT long enough! It cut off right when Steve was about to PREACH!
Yeah... we need more!
Where do I find that video?
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My husband told me he wants to share renting an apartment after 2 years of marriage. I didn’t have my word in it, he lived there before me, I always buy food and cook, clean, do laundry, pay bills (water, electricity, gas) and I worked. I felt overwhelmed and took a break from work when he said how hard his life is. Not to mention he makes 3 times more than I do and never shared how he spends his income. He tells me that he provides for me, but I spent my savings when I left work to buy food.
I didn’t know who I was marrying and I deeply regret that I thought he was a man.
Did you leave him?
A husband does not equal to your personal bank, women disrespect men calling them NOT a man when they dont pay everything but we dont live our lives to be paying for womens bills
The 50% of 1k is not equal to 50% of 6 or 8k, you did your best but please dont run out of money for this selfish sh1t that doesn't even understand math and run away
@@JR.2024 until you can give birth and take care of a child and work 50/50 too around the house then it will not be 50/50 with the finances.
@Spying on this woman until you can conceive a baby without the men's sperm on your ovaries than 50/50 we are the miracle of life lady NOT you females
I agree.. spilt the bill 50/50 all the time married or not! Unless you are taking your partner out for a special occasion. I accept 50/50 comes in different capacities
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Split everythong else make sure everything is split across board. Dont just split the bills but when it comes to chores, groceries and cooking u want a woman to go 100% what type of sense does that make?
That isn't marriage that is two singles live together. Marriage means to become one.
@@JPcommunicates ok! Tell me how that works in divorce
Thats why there a lot of broken marriages. They forget that when you are married, the husband and wife will become one flesh. You take care of your wife or husband like how you take care of your body. You do not hurt your body but nourish it. Its not 50/50 but SHARED. You both share the burden. Sometimes its 60/40 or 70/30 but both are satisfied. You both complete the 100. Find what makes your spouse happy not yourself only.
I’ve been married almost 10 years and marriage is 100/100 if one person is struggling the the other person has to help out. You split bills together. Not one person pays for everything all the time. When you get married you become one unit. There is no longer you and I. It’s us once you say I do!
So 200 percent effort? 100/100 is an illogical statement. 50/50 means each person puts in 100 percent effort on their halve which adds up to 100 percent total.
@@JW-ku7nn lol don't even try to explain they won't get it 🤣
@@JW-ku7nn my comment was saying both side are giving 100% so yes that would equal 200%
@@Pzvpatnik they fact you don’t understand my comment is what’s funny. My wife’s father is a top psychologist and he agreed with me and so did his Colleagues
@@Kenny-jj9ih Again, 50/50 relationship doesn't mean 50 percent effort. 50/50 means exactly what you are saying. We all know what you mean but that's not a logical math statement.
Steve was like I ain’t giving a straight answer here cuz we both gonna die 😅
this chick is the reason why MGTOW exists like why is splitting the Bill such a problem?
Daniel Ragogna he’s not splitting the bills. He makes her buy the groceries then makes her cook it. All He’s doing is eating her out of house and home. Any bastard thinking that’s OK is just that, a bastard.
It's a problem because she has to cook for him and be a traditional wife, yet he won't be a traditional husband. You can't tell a woman to go 50/50 on bills, and then tell her she has to cook, clean,etc because she's a woman. That's not fair. If you wanna go 50/50 so bad then that means you gotta do housework 50/50 too and raise kids 50/50 as well.
@@q.t.gamingfamily if i would bet whose doing the eating it WOULDNT BE THE GUY
@@mimia.4810 he said he shares the chores 50/50 too, fat lady just wants to eat more it seems
@@mimia.4810 no. the guy already has 2 jobs. he don’t have to do anything else
When I met my girl I had my own spot paying ($$800 a month ) she had hers paying( $840 a month ) so we moved in together n found a spot for $1300 a a month and she pay $600 and I pay the remaining , she clean up the house and I wash the cars, if she has to work overtime and gonna get home late I already washed the dishes and cleaned the house cleaning up
Is something she do and don’t have to tell her so I help
Her sometimes . If I take her out most times I pay everything and somethings she leaves the tip or
I’ll be like I’m broke this week and she be like ok I’m taking up out to eat. It’s all about helping each other.
Sounds like a healthy relationship with effort on both ends to me Hope the best for y’all 👌🏽👌🏽
Well we can see where all the groceries go 🤣🤣
She is getting a deal at 50/50.
She should be more supportive of the fact that he's in school and working trying to make life better for them. She's kinda making him seem like less of a man, that's how she's gonna lose him. She just wants wants wants and don't wanna help with anything. I mean I understand she wants him to be a provider but she has to bend a little for the benefit of their future.
Amen sister... Once he completes his education he's going to foot the whole bill. It takes a little sacrifices for now
Leah yes
@@rebeccawhitton4408 Amen? Even if he does not have lots of money, he can assist with food. He is her husband, not her child. Are you married. If so, do you pay for everything.
How is she the one who is not supportive if she is paying for everything? If she loses him because she wants him to help , there was no love there anyway. She is attractive and intelligent. I am sure that she has gone to school or is going to school. She is probably working too. She also leave him if she was that type of person. This woman is not desperate! She did not say that she need $200 shoes. She is talking about buying groceries and eating dinner at restaurants. How dare she expect her husband to help with the money for groceries! Right?
Alexandria how do you know she doesn’t make more? 😂
He's a fool
why
Sorry to say this but I agree with him.Marriage is all about being a team.Everything should be split 50-50!
Sandland113 I agree
Women have to carry children for 9 months and go through the pain of childbirth! So no. It’s not 50/50!
Dollie
That’s just a biological function of a woman when she decides to get pregnant.
You forget that men have to sacrifice their lives working in very dangerous jobs (fuelling the economy) and also, in divorce the woman gets paid a great amount of money.
If you can't afford having a wife, don't get married. Two part time jobs and in school, bet that wasn't an issue when he they planned the wedding. It's amazing of people's priorities. I know someone who had no problem finding thousands to pay for the child's sweet sixteen party but when it came to college tuition, they didn't have it.
Yes, but they didn't mention he is a Military Verteran either. Marriages are not always PERFECT! But when you say "I do" sometimes it takes sacrifices.
Rebecca Whitton...what does being in the military have to do with fiscal responsibility? For starters, they should have decided the type of relationship they wanted to be in before they got married. If he wanted her to pay everything, he should communicated that before they got married. I stand by beliefs that if he cannot afford it, don't have a wife. The idea of marriage is one thing but the marriage itself is a complete different ballgame. Wish them all the best and hope they can work this out by communicating.
why does anyone need to afford a wife? No wife happy life. women think there entitled to everything.
"If you can'T afford having a wife, don't get married" So you assumed that the man have to care of her financially in all aspects, it's ok. But the questions are does she agree to be the one who cook ? Does she agree to be the one who clean ? Does she agree to be the one who go to the supermarket ? Would she be agree to stay at home and take care of the kids instead of going to work and let the nursery raise them ??
So you're saying that man must be wealthy enough to afford wife? What if 20 years later man wealthy enough to afford new wife? You know, throw away the old and get new one, younger and upgraded version?
D.I.V.O.R.C.E....
Bro what was Steve’s response ? That’s what I came here for lol
wtf she called him a cheapskate on national tv? that's so disrespectful lol
but it's true
Jasmin Mostafa it is what it is. Cheapskate isn’t the word I’d use but it’s sufficient.
id divorce on the spot
@@reenie562 f u renee
But if she’s working she should help out some where.
Putting financial burden on your wife to split rent will put her into a masculine energy and she will overtime grow to resent you and not respect you. So many marriages where couples aren't having sex and children being raised by daycares instead of being at home with their mother. What is more important to you? Material things or having a proper loving balance in your home. This economy is difficult but expecting your wife to cook, clean, laundry, take care of kids and split the bills is a recipe for disaster. Food for thought is all I'm saying.
If you say marriage is 50-50 you are only 50% interested in being married.
bro what 💀
Consistency is the concern. He pursued her giving her the image that he is capable of providing. Usually women gives more in a marriage, we guys think what they do has the same value as what we do. When you started a relationship treating a woman as a queen, keep treating her as a queen consistently, as she consistently treats you as a king. It only shows in the way she touches him, the way they look together.
How is that answer helpful in any way… good job Steve 😟
It’s as simple as getting shared credit card. My wife and I have a shared CC and anything we purchase for the both of us goes on that card. Groceries, utilities, trips, casual meals out, etc. Any women who think they should only have to spend their own money on clothes, makeup and mimosas with their friends is a giant red flag of entitlement.
Smart 👏👏👏
Shouldn't be using a credit card other than that beautiful
Yea idk how you can be married without a joint account. I make the money and hire the contractors/service men, she takes care of groceries and the kids, including doctors appointments. I buy her jewelry and organize vacations so we always know where the money goes. Any financial decision over 1k gets run by both of us. If you can’t trust her to have a joint account, she ain’t the one.
Can you share 5 months of pregnancy with your wife too? The difficulty and suffering during pregnancy, the pain of delivery, the damage to her body after delivery, are you able to share that? If you are unable to share that, why not treat her better by supporting her financially and let her spend her money on what she likes?
@@jol822Why you always play the "giving birth" card when you don't have anything smarter to say ?
What did you tell him?!?!? That dude should've checked that out before marriage.
Bruh I agree with him. If he pay the bills n you pay nothing?? First of all I wouldn't get myself in that situation. Yes I would like to love a woman, but if the woman brings nothing to the table she is dead weight! If she makes money and expect you to take care of her along with yourself, without helping with the bills or anything financially she basically just living with you for free while she doing whatever with her money. A marriage is about 2 ppl coming together as one, and that involves teamwork especially financially
I'm a woman myself. I honestly agree with him
marraige is supposed to be 100/100.....whybarent people putting their all into it?
She's just egoistic. He's working his ass off to pay his part of the bills and she wants him to spend all his extra money he could use for some nice things for himself for her. Meanwhile, she obviously spends her money for herself. So his money is "our money" and her money is her money. If she would take him out as well or get him something else, everything would even out again. But from her wording I highly doubt that.
Why not do a big pot where you pay everything both do (like dining, groceries) and everyone gets some money only for themselves. That's the fairest way to do it in my opinion. And if one partner earns more than the other one, he pays more in the pot.
So that means her food is her hers so why is he eating her food. Food he didnt contribute towards. That sounds like a very selfish man to me
I don't think it's selfish asking ehy he thinks he shouldn't pay grocery because he is not the one who cooks
I didn't get it. What was steve harveys reply to her problem?
“He’s dead” This cracked me up😂😂😂
He's working two jobs and completing studies.. And she has the nerve to call him a cheapskate?? How about you find a job to help him pay the bills
She clearly has a job if she's been buying groceries
@@arianamartinez2436 still doesnt make her any less stupid
There is an Afghan saying that I once came across that translates to " fill the bank with dollars then think of a wife". In marriage two becomes one, there is no my money and your money anymore.
Then it should be no problem for him to reach in her pocketbook, as well, since it's his money anyway.
*fine, I will stay home and wife has to work!*
salaciousBastard Yep, you did say your a salacious bastard lol
Apple Watch I tried that. I would never marry a man who tells me your sentence even less than a man who wants so called 5050. Now you want to live off of my paycheck and do nothing else. Kiss ass.
Terri Quinn
But women (SAH) mothers live off their husband’s paycheck most of them.
So why are you being hypocritical?
Don’t you remember feminism said men and women are equal?
Men should be SAD and the wife should I go to work.
She needs to be a bit more understanding, and they should've discussed this whole thing out ahead of time. being called a cheap on national tv :l damn. I hope they work it all out, they are adorable together
MEN WANT A PARTNER NOT A KID
until he has to cook, clean, do laundry and take care of the kids then he wants to be the kid
This is regular world living.... they need to do it together.... Steve gave a Rich person response.
Marriage is not 50/50. Marriage 120/120. You go all the way for the pleasing of your spouse. 50/50 means I only go so far.
the ratio is still the same.
some women want to contribute less apparently
My now wife and I were together 6 years before getting married and now being married almost 1 year and we always split things as well as work together and support one another. I'll buy groceries she buys household supplies and vice-versa, I cook, she cooks, I clean do housework, she cleans does housework, bills we both pay but split them right down the middle, I'll buy breakfast, lunch or dinner, she'll buy breakfast, lunch or dinner, we spoil ourselves and each other at times. We do everything together as a team which is what marriage is. Not just the other living off of the others dime and hard work and being babied.
Now that is a wonderful marriage well said. Reading this gives me hope that marriage is still an option worth taking
@@corneliusjackson2673 it's out there man keep the faith!
Do you carry the pregnancy 50% too?
@@dianaa3336 hahahahahaha💀💀
@@dianaa3336 sure. He carried the pain of giving birth too, that's why he can say that
I wish i was a woman. Why? "I said YES! Now pay my bills!"
Hope you changed that mindset after 4 years..
And u say that in 2022..
@@SweetDreamsLB wdym
@@bilge8485 don't get married bro don't do it f all that bs
Ain't even about 50/50 it's about a 100%
if he wasn't ready to be married yet he should wait until he was. On her part if he is trying to make the family better she should understand. But first they should had went to marriage Counseling and when they were dating . Even tho people can change but the understanding was there. this is going to funny there no 50/50 when it come to sex.
Woman 🍵
if he wants 50/50 he should be cooking half of the meals
@@sleuwe3878 her fat az don't want 50/50 did you not hear her
Wow... I never thought I'd say this, but I'm really disappointed on Steve for his reply. Steve's marriage is definitely not the same as this poor dude's. My man is studying and working 2 part time jobs and that is hard enough without some spoiled entitled person leeching you dry. My guy, run away. Find yourself someone you can call a PARTNER. Someone who can go through life WITH you and not OFF you.
Well, first of all he shouldn't paid for everything before wedding and then stop. Why he did that? Just for impressed her. If you can afford a marriage don't have it. You can't paid for dates before marriage and after marriage you can't say you won't pay your 50 for groceries, come on! Both of them eat. If you can't afford things before marriage you can't in the future either and you have to say it before. Simply that!
@@carseg8135 I'm truly sorry you feel that way 😥
But I will agree on one thing, it's best to be transparent from the start. If that's what you meant.
@@viniciuspego94 I don't feel anything. And Yes, that' s What I meant.
My woman stays at home with the kids I work and provide for all of us. I gave her enough to take care of everything and gives her money to put in her account, and I also save something., now if I wasn't working enough so I could save something she'll have to find a Job.
NEED FULL VIDEO
She could use a less eating, does she have wings or arms!?😂
She is an abusive wife. To call him a cheap skate on national TV.. throwing him under the bus gives you an indication of the way she probably speaks to and about him. Ie She disrespects him. By the sounds of things he can’t afford to support her financially at this time but rather than working as a team together and congratulating him for getting an education and working 2 jobs in order to have a better future she criticises him. If we assume she is working full time then it is reasonable she should also contribute financially to shared household expenses. King - She ain’t all that, there’s a lot of better women out there run now while you still can and it won’t cost you much financially.
A relationship should be 100 percent from both side
17 50:50 men disliked the video.😂
Moon Light of course they did. Those “stay at homes and do nothing” men probably shot their television.
Marriage is 100\100,if you're only giving 50%,then expect 50%.Give it your all. If you do half the work,then you get half the results.
@@unkhowncow6446 50/50 isn’t a fraction… it’s a ratio. Just means you’re putting in the same amount on both sides.
The comments here are more mature than in the Instagram reel. Over there everyone talking about how she’s doing the eating 😂
Steve sometimes looks at things from a rich man's perspective. He can afford it. The average couple have to work equally.
Tbh groceries shouldnt be 50/50 because she is clearly the one eating the most out of the two hahaha
Women think men should pay for everything, do all the work outside the house.. Women want to sleep til noon.. do a load of laundry, then they say "I have been cleaning the house all day!"..then after work they want you to mow the lawn, take out the trash and vacuum. Women are hell bent on contributing as little as possible nowadays.
marriage is 100/100 divorce is 50/50
Fity-Fity
Made my day! hahaha
Maybe it's me, but splitting the bill don't make sense. Once you get married, isn't your money "our" money now, so the 50/50 ting is a myth....
They obviously don't have a joint bank account yet. That's the problem in my eyes
No it should be splitting the money.
Husband and wife should have a plan on how they can pay house bills at the same time keep each of their own money.
The confusion comes to the idea that marriage must oblitarate individuality. Each can still have their personal bank account besides the main one. Even Steve said that... marriages last longer when two real people (not in wonderland) understand each other
*My question* is..
Why do we have to mix finances??
Can't he spend his own money and the wife spend her money?
(Please don't judge me like you're a regular (ordinary) soul.)
I'm not married.. and I'm just asking..
Men who think marriage is 50/50 are losers. If they gave birth and had the same emotional responsibility to children maybe. As Steve says marriage is 85/15 and men get the 15.
She shouldn't be so selfish. Notice she said support your wife. If I support my wife that means I'm the boss the ruler the dictator! No marriage is 50/50. Someone always does more in certain areas but in the end it works itself out. If he's going through a hard time that means you both are going through a hard time. Now it's her time to support him. You can't have equality if you're passing out blame. He couldn't even talk without her shaking her head or making noises. She's the worst kind of woman to be with. Combative. Be a wife and put him on your back when he needs it. I didn't have a car and my wife gave me hers without question. If I was able to id pull down the moon and give it to her. Her smile is the start of a good day and the end as well. GOD doesn't place a woman in your life like that to mistreat. So when I was able I put sun in her pocket
Marriage is not 50/50. It’s 100/100. Both people have to give it their all. Financially each should have 2 accounts and one joint. Joint for the house bills and any shared expenses. If both work full time then we are equal in this team. I got you 💯 you got me 💯. I was married and she worked part time so I spoiled her and she did most of the house chores but I still helped a little. There’s no me anymore there’s only “US” in a functional marriage. My man missed the 🚩 before getting married.
This girl is a liability to this man’s life
Is he gonna keep baby in his tummy for 4.5 months
She's eating 80/20
You go 50/50 with your lady because if you don't look what happened to Steve Harvey he gave it his full and his wife cheating on him with a security guard 😂
WHAT !!! NAH , This is genuinely the end of man not even Steve stood up for another man who is clearly hustling to get by
they clearly skipped some conversations before running to the altar
He can even pronounce well 50 (fity fity) Girl get out of there. And in your next future dates, you should ask: if this going to change after marriage? / He only paid the dates just for impressed her. If you feel you are taken yourself on a date, leave him, just go at the bar with friends so nobody can hurts your feelings, you don't own and nobody own you anything, you eat and drink wherever you want by yourself, you pay your part and you go home plenty of loughs, good times, happyness. Sharing time with Friends is the best.
It still bothers me how people go to this man for advice. He doesn't even have one for himself
Marriage is 100/100 not 50/50
Don't get married if you're not willing to give in. Marriage is sacrifice.
Learning how to cook while the other one teaches you is 50/50. Paying for groceries should be something you individually do for each other. Bills again are more or less half and half, but belong to the one who pays most and most often; nothing sexist or marginalized about it. I can see his point of view but it is a conflict of interest more for his wife than it is for himself.
Women wants equality but some are too afraid to do That. I guess equality should be 50-50.
Where is the rest of the clip?!
Plot twist. She’s the freeloader/cheapskate
I don’t understand the concept, in the past all incomes has been put into the pot. Now it’s his and hers, why should he have to pay more than 50%. What is she spending her extra money on. So he lives pay check to pay check and she can open up a savings account and stash that money away. My ex wanted to split our accounts because she wanted her own money, well we did this. The problem is her money is not enough and she didn’t realize how much of my income she was spending prior to the accounts being divided, crazy to think one side should have an upper hand or more benefits.
I wanna see the rest of Steve’s response lol
Can’t find it either
I am so proud of my husband when I read responses of men's comments. My husband is the best ❤❤❤
The point here is that, the woman had an expectation because during their bf/gf thing, the guy was all out, but when they got married, everything changed. Shoud've done that before getting married so each party had tghe proper expectation.
They should both have discussed expectations before they got married.
Why not have an joint account? That way, all the common bills get paid. Then a separate account for your own personal expenses. Maybe talking to a professional to get the marriage headed in the right direction.
Why you marry him at first place?
Also when I was coming up in the game and as I continue to come up in the game of live, I have noticed, that whenever men buy the lines about he wants to pay the bills, they end up in homeless shelters with children tagging along. In the end you end up working and paying your own way and getting your own house and car any way weater you are like me and have the good since to know people treat you bad and bring you problems when they have to do for you or weather the guys leave and don't want to stay with you, whatever the reason the result is always the same. You really don't need the guy cuz in the end you will end up doing it yourself anyway
My heart breaks for you. You've been in and seen disappointing relationships throughout your life. Perhaps this can help. I love Dr. Pat Allen. She is phenomenal. I suggest going to her website at www.drpatallen.com, listening to her weekly show on empowered communication or ITunes. For starters, it's important to find if the Guy is trustworthy. Meaning, pay attention to what he does and says by listening and decide what you don't want and have three non-negotiables. When you know what you don't want, you know what you DO want. We females bond through a chemical hormone called oxytocin during sex. If we're looking for long term such as marriage, it's important to keep our legs closed when dating someone because we can bond to the wrong Guy if we aren't careful (i.e. end up homeless like you mentioned). Then we need to decide the type of relationship we to be in. Co-Dependent where you take care of the other, like parent and child or sugar-daddy and sugar-momma. Convenient, where everything is split 50/50 (no romance) it's like siblings or business partners in a marriage without intimate, romantic love. Or Covenant where there is one designated leader, the respected bread winner and the other is the the cherished homemaker. Again, dating without sex is important to know someone's trustworthiness Please know that you have options not just for the type of relationship to be in but the kind of man to be with. Explore all your options. Date outside your race, meet and visit those in other countries, the world is your oyster. Hope this helps.
Ms. Rae I’m doing it now. Bringing in a husband would actually screw everything up imho.
Run girl!
If you've got a husband helping you with the household chores and who can cook, you've hit jackpot, lady. That's a way to show you respect as a woman because he doesn't regard you as his cleaning lady but loves you for who you are. Think of all the time you have together because he doesn't sit in front of the TV while you clean the house.
There's nothing wrong with him taking you out from time to time and foot the bill. But all the money in the world won't make you feel respected if you are the guy's serving girl. Besides, money doesn't grow on trees. He has what he has for now and don't ask him to be a wizard dealing out dollar notes.
Not a jackpot he lives there too and he eats too i don’t understand why we’re okay with thinking a man doing something he would do without a wife is remarkable
You must be protected, because sometimes it is hard and I believe if we both have incomes, and both do stuff around the house then it shouldn’t be an issue to either treaty eachother or paying 50/50 or have the waiter/waitress pick a random card. Makes it more interesting and as a team.
If thats the jackpot to you…
"hit the jackpot" 💀💀 the bar is so low
The husband looks like a woman in drag. He is her roommate, not husband. I only go 50/50 with a roommate or girlfriends.
I thought you share everything in marriage.If he is paying for the meals you are paying for the meals too.When you get married you become one flesh in God's eyes.
Baub I agree but I dread the term "half/half" or "50/50". Makes it sound like a roommate situation. It should be done without keeping tabs.
Accune oh here we go. Only using one part of Gods word. He also said that a man is supposed to live his wife like he loves himself and that he feeds and nourishes himself like hes supposed to do his wife. What Bible you reading?
Oh the irony is not paying meals 😂
it's no 50/50... in marriage....
😂 Geez, great advice Harvey. Millionaire saying “damn if I could do that” when dude is literally saying he’s busting ass and just can’t pay for everything lol
No Steve , stop normalizing this . You coulda helped that lady get her head right and do better . If a man want to do something like pay for everything that’s out of love , not obligation . If we are living in old times then like captain Falcon said “ then go make me a sandwich “ but we are not in those times so do ur part . Choose your character!
I totally disagree with Steve. No way in hell its 85% woman and 15% man!