A man in costco once asked me if I was pregnant. Since I was 6 months post-menopausal and had never been pregnant, and traumatized by it, I decided to try to make him almost as uncomfortable as he had made me: “no, just fat,” I said. “Didn’t your wife ever tell you to never ask a woman that question?” I didn’t stick around for his answer.
My mother in law said this to me once. It really annoyed me because she knew I was self conscious about it. Yet she still went there. Why she decide to say it I’ll never know.
I agree. Pregnancy or the discussion of having children shouldn't be discussed. My husband and I tried for three years and have three babies in heaven. We eventually naturally conceived on our own unexpectedly; however it was so painful every time someone would mention that we should hurry to have children, or ask why we didn't have any yet. I felt inadequate, and it was absolutely soul crushing for me.
Agree!!!! People mean well but that’s a very private matter and can be a painful story. We miscarried our first child and I was only five weeks but I had someone who called themselves trying to cheer me and said oh it’s no big deal. You weren’t far along and you will get pregnant again. It made me so mad. I believe I have a child in Heaven that I will meet one day. We named that child Sam and my grandmother who never knew I miscarried was on her death bed and had dementia. She was talking out and looked right at my hubby and said Sam is ok. He lost it and then went to tell me. I was so stunned because she didn’t know that we had even got pregnant.
I actually gasped when you said strangers frequently ask you if you're pregnant. The only reason I can think of would be that you have that glow from wearing colors that suit you. That's crazy.
Very nice Nikki. You are so classic and elegant. I do have a question if you don't mind me asking. I have a hard time find a bra that fits me right. Where do you buy yours from? Liking thezes helpful video's.
I also want to say cotton slips are WONDERFUL! We wear SO many synthetic materials these days it’s no wonder some materials make our skin itchy. Wearing cotton based undergarments and slips when we can is physically better for our health or linen.
What a lovely video. I feel all girly again. Now I will google "Vanity Fair", and see what I can come up with. In the 1970s my unmentionables were all Vanity Fair, from day wear to night wear. I wish I could walk into a mall, find the Vanity Fair store, and find that variety of style and color, all made in the USA. But, alas, those are bygone days. Thank you for a very feminine video.
So glad to hear this being discussed. Society now seems to share too much , too often and to too many people. Discretion used to be a virtue. We need more of it. Thank you!
A beautiful, loving initiative from you Nikki❤ Not all of us have had that motherly care and guidance as young ladies. It is both brave and selfless from you to set the example and encourage us to support each other and especially younger ladies. There are so many ladies that are just yearning to have someone trustworthy and loving mother-figure in their life. Internet can not be a substitute for a relationship based on love, respect, responsibility and care of the other ones wellbeing. Great encouragement, you do it in such a respectful, delicate and pure way, that it does not feel uncomfortable. Thank you Nikki! God bless you❤
Nikki, I think that I have watched all of your videos, which are life-changing, and never once have you looked pregnant. I think that you always look beautiful, well put together, stylish, and captivating. But not pregnant. I think it may be because we wear dresses and that people are not used to seeing a figure cut in a dress. Thank you for mentioning this as I have had this happen in the past as I am short waisted with long legs which can make this look possible. However, I would not trade my physical traits for anything and like you have just learned to embrace it. Thank you for being beautiful you ❤
I also wear high waisted panties that I get from Walmart. They help hold everything in. I loved seeing all of your beautiful slips. Happy Mother's Day!
Depending on your personal shape, yes. My daughter's almost requires them. Mine does not. Same goes for pants, skirts, dresses, shirts...pretty much all clothing, really.
You know what Nikki? I actually feel PRETTY when I watch your videos. I never knew about slips and pettitpants; I am 46 years old. I have always had jobs and a lifestyle where I wore scrubs, uniforms, pants. I probably have worn an actual dress on my 4 times my whole life. Thank you for sharing such classy, feminine ways.
I’m always surprised by how many women don’t hang dry their bras or don’t put them in a laundry bag! Mine last so long just by doing this. I only had to replace my bras because of size change due to pregnany/birth! Seriously this tip works.
Hi Nikki! I just wanted to drop by and say how much I enjoyed today's video. Your discussion about "unmentionables" really resonated with me, and I couldn't help but smile when you shared your list of things never to ask anyone. Your sense of humor really shines through, and I love how organized and engaging your content is. 🌸Seeing all the lovely dresses was a bonus too! Thank you for sharing your insights and humor with us. Have a fantastic weekend!🥰
What a beautiful dress Nikki and such wise words.xWe are a society of oversharing, personal info on social media shocks me! My Grandmother always said we don't talk with friends/acquaintances about fiinaces, our relationships/sex or ask if someone is pregnant etc...she was neither a gossip or an oversharer...yet i could go to her about anything x
Nikki, thanks for this! I’m a younger lady and you always inspire me! I haven’t really ever had a feminine homemaker in my life to look up to and learn from, so this tremendously helps me!! I feel so inspired by this to always make everything of mine beautiful and feminine!!!
My mom told me about Vanity Fair "granny panties" before she passed away. I'm so grateful. They are so comfortable. It's all I wear. There seem to be a severe lack of decorum these days. People just have no clue about much of anything these days. It's truly horrifying to me. Excellent video Nikki💕🌺💐
Nikki! Ive said this for years. I got so tired of people asking if i was pregnant. I always said "no im just fat" and then i would cry in hiding. Thank you.
Had that happen to me a few times, too. My mother told me in my midfifties to be pleased with being asked that because it meant I was young looking! But...in my younger years, I asked a lady that, then felt like a fool afterwards and apologised. Then another time, there was a lady in the Urgent Care waiting room who was groaning and crying, her stomach was huge. I went to the reception desk and told them that the lady was about to give birth now and needed to be sent over to the hospital asap. The groaning woman looked up and said it was a hernia and she was not pregnant. Karma 2x over! Next time I am asked that (if it happens) I am going to say, "Anytime now" and pretend I am in labor (maybe).
@@DebraofSENC that's what I've been tempted to say too 😅 But true story, once when I actually was pregnant and near the end, a young clerk asked when I was due and I said anytime now. The look on her face 😅 I think she thought I was going to give birth right then and there and she was contemplating whether she should call for help!
There was a space of time where I not only was asked if I was pregnant. When I said "no" the people, it was more than one person, told me I was pregnant. 🧐These people were at at least twice the size I was. When people show you who they are believe them.
People can be so rude. I'm so sorry about the questions you've been asked! Thank you for this video. My mom always told us to NEVER asked this question. Because some people can have weight fluctuations (do to hormonal issues some of it can acumulate in our bellys), pregnancys that have a little impact on our bodys, colitis (yep, i always had a little belly because of some gut issues)!! And it hurt hearing this. You are so beautiful, an inspiration Nikki. Don't listen to those others voices. I really admire your content. And i always learn from you. Much love from Portugal
Beautifully informative video. I wish I would have TH-cam to help me while I was growing up. My mom passed when I was 12 and I didn't have another female role model in my life. Still learning things to this day. ❤ Happy mothers day, Nikki!
What a great topic! I've really enjoyed this!! 1st, I'm sorry the comments you get on being pregnant. I was never able to have a baby and I was always shocked and saddened when I was younger at these comments. I'm so glad you shared the article by Modern Retro Woman. I follow her blogs. I, too, wear granny panties..I wish I would've listened to my mother a long time ago😎 they smooth everything down and so comfortable!! Thank you for inspiring me to make the everyday beautiful 😍
Love your ladylike outlook on these topics, it’s very encouraging and makes us think twice on how we hold conversations with each other and reminds us not to be nosey or ask questions that are none of our business. I learned a big lesson years ago when I was young and naive when I heard a rumour and asked the person in question’s friend about it and was quickly put in my place verbally, and rightly so, it made me check myself, and although it was embarrassing, I am grateful for the lesson. I have learned from it and continue to live my life mindful of how I speak to others regarding nosiness and conversations in general. Living as a lady is as internal as it is external ❤
Beautifully done, Nikki! Thanks for sharing! I enjoy storing my “unmentionables” in a beautiful way, and I appreciate getting to see other ladies’ methods. The first time I saw brassieres stored that way was when I was newly married, helping an older lady move house. I took note! Thank you also for sharing about things not to mention to others - always helpful reminders. I’ve been assumed to be pregnant so many times that my husband and I just share secret amusement when it happens. We were recently walking down a steep sidewalk with steps, and a shop proprietor told me warmly, “You be careful on those stairs.” I thought she was just being kind until we passed and my husband nudged me and repeated her warning. I laughed out loud realizing she thought I was pregnant!
This is a wonderful video Nikki! I always enjoy your lady of the house videos. This one especially, because women need to know these things. Perhaps especially, because we might be a generation removed from being taught about slips, etc. I was a child in the 70s and we still wore slips, but by the 80s I don’t remember them being as common and I absolutely adored the segment of all the beautiful women at the front of your video. Just feeling comfortable in their ladyhood!
Thank you Nikki. I never had someone who talked about these things with me, they felt it was too difficult I believe. I am grateful that you are sharing with us in your discrete and friendly way. And I am always so inspired by your beautiful organisation and decorating. ❤🥀
This is one of my favorite videos from you, Nikki💓. You always do thing’s so tastefully. I would love to see content about how you wash your clothes…especially all of the unmentionables. I have my own routine, but I find it fascinating to learn what other classy ladies do and love to learn new tips! Also…you do not look pregnant!
Happy Mothers Day Nikki 🌷 Such a beautiful video and so much wonderful tips on how to use and care for our items. Wow!!! Thank you 😊 I’m shocked 😳 I can’t wait to receive. 🎁
Thank you for sharing! I never had conversations like these with my mom so I really appreciate the insight, instruction, and sensitivity to the topic that you have shared. Thank you for thinking of others and providing a sisterly voice.
Hi Nikki, Thank you for sharing your wonderful collection of beautiful undergarments. I too would love a comeback of an only slip/ntimatewear Boutique. As a childless woman, I 100% understand the matters discussed in this video, but I will stop there. Congratulations to all the beautiful Ladies that shared their Dresses. I am so grateful for this community of Ladies. Thank you for sparing our eyes from seeing rude or unsolicited inappropiate comments in your channel Nikki. God bless
@@Petra_T_JThank you. You are so kind Petra. I enjoy your comments here and on Patreon. You are an amazing, strong and inspiring Woman. God bless you always.
@@cambiumlayer1318 Oh thank so much! This really made my day :) Praise the Lord for His goodness and kindness that is shaping us in to His image day by day. I think you are yourself a true example of elegance and integrity. The way you wrote here about Nikkis video really shows that. God bless you too!
Love the high waisted lace band ones. Bonus if they're hicut to bend imo. It is one of the better cuts for hourglass or pear shapes despite the trends. That little lace detail makes a big difference if you have sensitive skin too. I favor them enough that I stick to skintone or a color for a season so I can match them with different brand bras.
❤Thank you so much for all of your lovely advice. I am 50 years old and am learning how to be a lady bit by bit through your channel and "Woman of Elegance." 😊
This was an very important video, thank you so much for being open and sharing with us ladies peices of wisdom that we can apply and share with other ladies 🥰.
I was once asked by an elderly gentleman about my pregnancy, but I was not pregnant, just very newly post-partum. He was mortified the poor man. I reassured him as much as I could that it was ok (I DID look pregnant!), but I knew he felt terrible.
What a beautiful feminine and intimate video. Thank you Nikki .Ive been wearing high waisted panties from Walmart for years .I love slips and beautiful nightgowns even though nowadays are very hard to find and expensive. Happy Mother’s Day may you have a wonderful day .❤
Oh Nikki your such a blessing. I thank God for you and the way and gifts He has given you to bless other specially, us, ladies. And you also have a special way of being or saying things in a funny way😊
Nikki -terrific video thanks so much. Not only good reminders /helps for me but for my 20 something daughter who likes to look feminine and is curating her style and wardrobe
Hi Nikki❤I am a long time subscriber who found her way back. I have been watching several videos a week to catch up on what I’ve missed. I really enjoyed this video and how delicately you spoke about what needs to be spoken about. I will be reorganizing my lingerie drawer this weekend using some of your tips. Thank you! ~Krislynner
Such a lovely inspiring video Nikki! I had the pregnancy question asked to me by a man at a conference for our business licensing. I was so humiliated and couldn’t help crying and being upset the rest of the event. It really ruined the whole thing. And my husband was so upset he went and had words with the man. He apologized and I know he meant nothing by it. Every since having my second child 21 years ago I have had a protruding stomach, no matter how thin I am. 🤷🏻♀️ in the man’s defense I was wearing a dress with no shape. That cured me of wanting any of that type of dresses in my wardrobe. To the consignment's shop they went immediately after getting home. Thank you for talking about this subject, it has helped me more than you know 🩷
Loved this video. So many important and fun information. I always like to see other people’s ways of organizing their closets and drawers. More videos like this are really appreciated.
Good morning Nikki ☀️I’m so sorry that some people have told you that you are pregnant,that is just very rude .you are a very beautiful ,attractive woman and you do not look pregnant at all. Sometimes I feel some people just trying be very mean or God knows who have raised them that allow themselves to talk that way..we should pray for these kinda people…
Congratulations, Monique! This was a needed video. I wished you had gone into detail in the beginning but understand. Certain topics are not appropriate for conversation among friends.
Great video. I love how you were having an honest conversation about things we women all deal with in a classy respectful way. I believe many of the younger women have not been taught these things.
I had a cashier at the grocery store compliment me by saying that I was the most beautiful pregnant woman that she had ever seen. The problem was... I wasn’t pregnant. I was wearing a dress that can give off the illusion + I have adenomyosis + I’ve had 3 babies over 9lbs & I am 5’2 & very petite. I get very bloated when I am getting close to my cycle & I do look pregnant, so I can’t be angry. She gasped & just went on and on at how beautiful I was pregnant. I froze & was definitely humiliated, but I played along because I didn’t want it to be more awkward. She asked me when I was due (and my mind actually froze on the current month that we were in for a moment 😂) & I gave her a date 3 months from the date. It’s a store that I rarely visit & I have never been back to it. I cried all the way home.
Thanks for sharing this. I love how you have a color theme, and everything is so beautifully organized. Good tip at the end. My mom has been open about menopause and I am so happy to see it is becoming more recognized & taken seriously/mainstream. I am in the process of overhauling my intimate wear, so thanks! And... I must be one of the unicorns...
I love your videos, Nikki and recently became a Patron member because I enjoy your videos so much!! I have even bought some slips you recommended on Amazon. I just wish they would offer more colors like the blue, green and red ones you show in this video! Thanks for your lady like insight. I always learn so much from you.
Hi Nikki, Thank you for sharing your wisdom on intimate wear and practices. I did not think that high waisted panties would make a difference earlier as they would come up higher than the waist of skirt or pants. But now that I usually wear dresses (Thanks to your advice), I will opt for granny panties. My relative had once asked me how many months along I was in pregnancy. That was when I had a slightly protruding belly after 2 kids. She did not stop when I told her I was not pregnant & began to give me advice on my belly. The most important thing here is that she had mommy belly herself.
Maybe she's speaking to her past self. A lot of people wish they'd done things differently and just want to help. It doesn't excuse it or make it right, not at all, but it might explain it.
I also wear high waisted underwear. I'm very active, and things need to stay put! I can't imagine bicycling, for example, in tiny little undies! 😁 Happy mothers day!
Bra strap tip ~ for a pretty off the shoulder top, replace bra straps ( the interchangeable type ) with rhinestone straps! I didn't know they made those till a couple of years ago. It will look like part of the top. Especially a pretty soft plush sweater that is off one shoulder! Support AND fashionable.
Hi Nikki what a great video and yes we really don't talk about the things you discussed. Thanks Nikki. I have cleaned out my drawers and only good and lovely garments remain. Feels so much better. Thanks for all your videos. ❤❤
I think I often feel bad about the need to purchase new garments. Seeing how beautiful yours are and how they are displayed and cared for helps me immensely. It very much helps to know that they just need to be replaced and updated as needed… no guilt!
I am 55 and l found out l couldn’t have children when l was in my late teens … in my late 20’s and 30’s if l was asked if l have children and l said no ( women ) mostly told me l was selfish or l was going to regret it ! … you never know what people are going through so don’t ask 😔
At work in my fifties, a woman I didn't know said she wanted to be the first to congratulate me on my pregnancy! That was something of a compliment because of my age. No, I was not pregnant. At another job, a woman I barely knew asked me if my son was circumcised..totally out of line.
The pregnant comments....ive just learned to not be hurt by them. I just say... children are such a blessing i certainly hope you're right and that i might be pregnant. I feel like that shows honor to children while also showing that person that they perhaps shouldn't have made that comment to begin with. Joy at all times surrounded the posdibility of childbearing while we still know the sorrows that can come along with it.
Boundaries need to be restored. People have become too free in their “friendliness” and ask questions that are frankly, none of their business. That is a particular lesson that I am practicing. There is so much that is none of my business! It’s actually soul lifting. Focus on ourselves and the present. My husband and I have no children. We’ve actually been asked, “why not?” I have never answered. I just look at them , then turn away or change the subject. Occasionally I have smiled sweetly and gently asked, “Why do you need to know?” As ladies and mothers, we need to teach children manners. It begins in the home. Parents teach or don’t teach how to behave within the family unit. This behavior then gets carried into society. I am amazed at the rudeness of people. I believe that it’s gotten worse because of implied entitlement and “everyone is special.” Yes, we are each special. But that does not allow us to be rude and inconsiderate. I am known for my privacy. It bothers some. That’s fine. If the person can’t accept and respect my boundaries, we may not be a good match. I have been teased about my manners. I’d rather be known for having them than for not having them. We are children of the King. I am a child of God and thus a princess. My behavior is a reflection of who I am. I am a Christian and I hold myself to high standards. Sometimes too high perhaps, but I remain steadfast to practicing the Fruits of the Spirit. My goal is to remain polite and gracious to others , regardless of their behavior toward me. It isn’t always easy. But perhaps my “light “ will lead someone to Jesus. Wouldn’t that be wonderful? People can be unintentionally mean. Forgive them. They may not realize they are being rude. In a society where our personal lives are supposedly everyone’s business, it is not. Our bodies change as we get older. Unless it truly bothers a woman, accept that our bodies have “stomachs.” It is natural. Look at the majority of women. Socrates said: “Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.” This is a great video, Nikki. Being a lady is more than just wearing dresses and makeup. Being a lady includes behavior. Thanks for expanding the definition. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. Best wishes! ❤
Lingerie bags are also FANTASTIC for washing baby socks! That's actually why I originally bought a few. Also, special undies you don't want getting caught on the agitator or otherwise ruined.
Happy Mother’s Day ! I am in the mindset of wearing dresses, I love them but I have such a hard time finding modest mom dresses that look pretty. I have searched at TJ Max and Ross and come up empty handed. I would really appreciated some help, thank you !!!!
Ivy City Co, April Cornell and select brands at Dillards, such as Vince Camuto, Tommy Hilfiger and Calvin Klein can have nice styles. Once you can find a few brands and dress cuts that you like it is easier to start shopping second hand on eBay and Poshmark. I find the prices to be so expensive these days that the majority of my dresses are coming from these resale websites, although I try to only purchase new with tags so that my pieces last longer. I hope this helps! Don’t be afraid to go to a store and try on items even if you don’t end up purchasing, it has been helpful for me to feel and see different styles on the body to be able to discover my favorite!
One other thing to mention … couple nights ago, me and my husband had to go to emergency room … One of the questions that they asked that I found it odd was that ,what kind of religious you are, and we said we’re Christian and I found it very strange that they would ask about our religion
I was a nurse in a large hospital for 20+ years. They should have worded it a way that asked, not what religion you are, but instead, “ Are there any religious practices we should be aware of while under our care?” This covers, not wanting blood transfusions, being touched/examined by the opposite sex, dietary restrictions such as pork or non-Kosher items, etc. Our wish is to treat patients respectfully and note preferences accordingly. Asking openly gives you the opportunity to voice any restrictions when you may not have thought to let us know.
Nikki can you please share about the faux peonies you have....they look amazing and I'm trying to find some. Thank you for your amazing content ❤ Happy Mother's Day!
I know I am making another comment however I love this video so much "unless you are a unicorn" you are hilarious! I can totally relate.😂🤣This video helped me thank you!
I appreciate that you can hurt people by asking whether they're pregnant but I as a very slim women (currently pregnant) dislike when people are awkward asking me-it is obvious and I don't feel like having to tell every person I talk it. I find it flattering that people can tell that I wouldn't just look like this. But again, it's only obvious on very petite ladies I know
There are some things that are no one's business. The American society has become so rude and self entitled to information that is none of their business.
My most-heard "unmentionable" in my Christian-lady circles is mothers oversharing about their teen and adult children. I understand that our older kids can cause us distress, but that is truly no excuse to tell our child's personal business. Pray instead.
Hi Nikki, Thanks for sharing where you buy your panties because I have struggled to find something with lace like this so I will stock up. I watched this video quickly because I was happy to see it and loved seeing the pictures of the ladies and their dresses. Now I will watch the video again without rushing.
Thank you for sharing your underwear, they are just the sort I am looking for here in the UK, a lot here are high leg but they don't fit me properly and are uncomfortable to wear everyday
A man in costco once asked me if I was pregnant. Since I was 6 months post-menopausal and had never been pregnant, and traumatized by it, I decided to try to make him almost as uncomfortable as he had made me: “no, just fat,” I said. “Didn’t your wife ever tell you to never ask a woman that question?” I didn’t stick around for his answer.
My mother in law said this to me once. It really annoyed me because she knew I was self conscious about it. Yet she still went there. Why she decide to say it I’ll never know.
I agree. Pregnancy or the discussion of having children shouldn't be discussed. My husband and I tried for three years and have three babies in heaven. We eventually naturally conceived on our own unexpectedly; however it was so painful every time someone would mention that we should hurry to have children, or ask why we didn't have any yet. I felt inadequate, and it was absolutely soul crushing for me.
Agree!!!! People mean well but that’s a very private matter and can be a painful story. We miscarried our first child and I was only five weeks but I had someone who called themselves trying to cheer me and said oh it’s no big deal. You weren’t far along and you will get pregnant again. It made me so mad. I believe I have a child in Heaven that I will meet one day. We named that child Sam and my grandmother who never knew I miscarried was on her death bed and had dementia. She was talking out and looked right at my hubby and said Sam is ok. He lost it and then went to tell me. I was so stunned because she didn’t know that we had even got pregnant.
I am happy for you two for finally having your child. I do think people can be very insensitive.
Tiffany, I am sorry you went through this, but God is so, so good.
I actually gasped when you said strangers frequently ask you if you're pregnant. The only reason I can think of would be that you have that glow from wearing colors that suit you. That's crazy.
Thank you Nikki for being trustworthy and honorable. Very classy
Thank you for this. At 63 years of age, nobody has talked to me about these things and felt they were for others. Now I know, this benefits me too.
Very nice Nikki. You are so classic and elegant. I do have a question if you don't mind me asking. I have a hard time find a bra that fits me right. Where do you buy yours from? Liking thezes helpful video's.
You dear are from a classy generation. 💐
I also want to say cotton slips are WONDERFUL! We wear SO many synthetic materials these days it’s no wonder some materials make our skin itchy. Wearing cotton based undergarments and slips when we can is physically better for our health or linen.
What a lovely video. I feel all girly again. Now I will google "Vanity Fair", and see what I can come up with. In the 1970s my unmentionables were all Vanity Fair, from day wear to night wear. I wish I could walk into a mall, find the Vanity Fair store, and find that variety of style and color, all made in the USA. But, alas, those are bygone days. Thank you for a very feminine video.
So glad to hear this being discussed. Society now seems to share too much , too often and to too many people. Discretion used to be a virtue. We need more of it. Thank you!
A beautiful, loving initiative from you Nikki❤ Not all of us have had that motherly care and guidance as young ladies. It is both brave and selfless from you to set the example and encourage us to support each other and especially younger ladies. There are so many ladies that are just yearning to have someone trustworthy and loving mother-figure in their life. Internet can not be a substitute for a relationship based on love, respect, responsibility and care of the other ones wellbeing. Great encouragement, you do it in such a respectful, delicate and pure way, that it does not feel uncomfortable. Thank you Nikki! God bless you❤
Nikki, I think that I have watched all of your videos, which are life-changing, and never once have you looked pregnant. I think that you always look beautiful, well put together, stylish, and captivating. But not pregnant. I think it may be because we wear dresses and that people are not used to seeing a figure cut in a dress. Thank you for mentioning this as I have had this happen in the past as I am short waisted with long legs which can make this look possible. However, I would not trade my physical traits for anything and like you have just learned to embrace it. Thank you for being beautiful you ❤
Nicki you are so elegant and lady-like. You are such a role model for ladies
I also wear high waisted panties that I get from Walmart. They help hold everything in. I loved seeing all of your beautiful slips. Happy Mother's Day!
Depending on your personal shape, yes. My daughter's almost requires them. Mine does not. Same goes for pants, skirts, dresses, shirts...pretty much all clothing, really.
You know what Nikki?
I actually feel PRETTY when I watch your videos.
I never knew about slips and pettitpants; I am 46 years old.
I have always had jobs and a lifestyle where I wore scrubs, uniforms, pants.
I probably have worn an actual dress on my 4 times my whole life.
Thank you for sharing such classy, feminine ways.
I’m always surprised by how many women don’t hang dry their bras or don’t put them in a laundry bag! Mine last so long just by doing this. I only had to replace my bras because of size change due to pregnany/birth! Seriously this tip works.
Hi Nikki! I just wanted to drop by and say how much I enjoyed today's video. Your discussion about "unmentionables" really resonated with me, and I couldn't help but smile when you shared your list of things never to ask anyone. Your sense of humor really shines through, and I love how organized and engaging your content is. 🌸Seeing all the lovely dresses was a bonus too! Thank you for sharing your insights and humor with us. Have a fantastic weekend!🥰
Thank you! I am 29 and some of these things I never knew.
What a beautiful dress Nikki and such wise words.xWe are a society of oversharing, personal info on social media shocks me! My Grandmother always said we don't talk with friends/acquaintances about fiinaces, our relationships/sex or ask if someone is pregnant etc...she was neither a gossip or an oversharer...yet i could go to her about anything x
Nikki, thanks for this! I’m a younger lady and you always inspire me! I haven’t really ever had a feminine homemaker in my life to look up to and learn from, so this tremendously helps me!! I feel so inspired by this to always make everything of mine beautiful and feminine!!!
My mom told me about Vanity Fair "granny panties" before she passed away. I'm so grateful. They are so comfortable. It's all I wear. There seem to be a severe lack of decorum these days. People just have no clue about much of anything these days. It's truly horrifying to me. Excellent video Nikki💕🌺💐
Nikki! Ive said this for years. I got so tired of people asking if i was pregnant. I always said "no im just fat" and then i would cry in hiding. Thank you.
Yeah, and I would get asked when I was due! And I wasn't pregnant at all.
Had that happen to me a few times, too. My mother told me in my midfifties to be pleased with being asked that because it meant I was young looking! But...in my younger years, I asked a lady that, then felt like a fool afterwards and apologised. Then another time, there was a lady in the Urgent Care waiting room who was groaning and crying, her stomach was huge. I went to the reception desk and told them that the lady was about to give birth now and needed to be sent over to the hospital asap. The groaning woman looked up and said it was a hernia and she was not pregnant. Karma 2x over! Next time I am asked that (if it happens) I am going to say, "Anytime now" and pretend I am in labor (maybe).
@@DebraofSENC that's what I've been tempted to say too 😅
But true story, once when I actually was pregnant and near the end, a young clerk asked when I was due and I said anytime now. The look on her face 😅 I think she thought I was going to give birth right then and there and she was contemplating whether she should call for help!
There was a space of time where I not only was asked if I was pregnant. When I said "no" the people, it was more than one person, told me I was pregnant. 🧐These people were at at least twice the size I was. When people show you who they are believe them.
People can be so rude. I'm so sorry about the questions you've been asked! Thank you for this video. My mom always told us to NEVER asked this question. Because some people can have weight fluctuations (do to hormonal issues some of it can acumulate in our bellys), pregnancys that have a little impact on our bodys, colitis (yep, i always had a little belly because of some gut issues)!! And it hurt hearing this. You are so beautiful, an inspiration Nikki. Don't listen to those others voices. I really admire your content. And i always learn from you. Much love from Portugal
Beautifully informative video. I wish I would have TH-cam to help me while I was growing up. My mom passed when I was 12 and I didn't have another female role model in my life. Still learning things to this day. ❤ Happy mothers day, Nikki!
The advice you got from your stepmother was really good advice. I am 69. And no one ever told me that!
What a great topic! I've really enjoyed this!!
1st, I'm sorry the comments you get on being pregnant. I was never able to have a baby and I was always shocked and saddened when I was younger at these comments.
I'm so glad you shared the article by Modern Retro Woman. I follow her blogs.
I, too, wear granny panties..I wish I would've listened to my mother a long time ago😎 they smooth everything down and so comfortable!! Thank you for inspiring me to make the everyday beautiful 😍
You are such a delight. A lady, knowledgeable and funny. Happy Mother's Day.
Thank you sharing how to organize our Intimates draw. It's always nice to know how to wear undergarment.
You've inspired me to freshen up my lingerie drawer and get rid of anything that looks worn, etc. Thank you for a beautiful video as usual, Nikki!
Love your ladylike outlook on these topics, it’s very encouraging and makes us think twice on how we hold conversations with each other and reminds us not to be nosey or ask questions that are none of our business. I learned a big lesson years ago when I was young and naive when I heard a rumour and asked the person in question’s friend about it and was quickly put in my place verbally, and rightly so, it made me check myself, and although it was embarrassing, I am grateful for the lesson. I have learned from it and continue to live my life mindful of how I speak to others regarding nosiness and conversations in general. Living as a lady is as internal as it is external ❤
Nikki, thank you for being a Voice that we've needed for so long.
Great discussion as always ❤. I have also joined the high waisted club haha. Especially after my second c-section.
Beautifully done, Nikki! Thanks for sharing! I enjoy storing my “unmentionables” in a beautiful way, and I appreciate getting to see other ladies’ methods. The first time I saw brassieres stored that way was when I was newly married, helping an older lady move house. I took note! Thank you also for sharing about things not to mention to others - always helpful reminders. I’ve been assumed to be pregnant so many times that my husband and I just share secret amusement when it happens. We were recently walking down a steep sidewalk with steps, and a shop proprietor told me warmly, “You be careful on those stairs.” I thought she was just being kind until we passed and my husband nudged me and repeated her warning. I laughed out loud realizing she thought I was pregnant!
This is a wonderful video Nikki! I always enjoy your lady of the house videos. This one especially, because women need to know these things. Perhaps especially, because we might be a generation removed from being taught about slips, etc. I was a child in the 70s and we still wore slips, but by the 80s I don’t remember them being as common and I absolutely adored the segment of all the beautiful women at the front of your video. Just feeling comfortable in their ladyhood!
So tastefully done as always. You are a blessing to your viewers. ❤
Thank you Nikki. I never had someone who talked about these things with me, they felt it was too difficult I believe. I am grateful that you are sharing with us in your discrete and friendly way. And I am always so inspired by your beautiful organisation and decorating. ❤🥀
This is one of my favorite videos from you, Nikki💓. You always do thing’s so tastefully. I would love to see content about how you wash your clothes…especially all of the unmentionables. I have my own routine, but I find it fascinating to learn what other classy ladies do and love to learn new tips! Also…you do not look pregnant!
Happy Mothers Day Nikki 🌷 Such a beautiful video and so much wonderful tips on how to use and care for our items.
Wow!!! Thank you 😊 I’m shocked 😳 I can’t wait to receive. 🎁
Thank you for sharing! I never had conversations like these with my mom so I really appreciate the insight, instruction, and sensitivity to the topic that you have shared. Thank you for thinking of others and providing a sisterly voice.
You are refreshing! And I absolutely love dresses…every season is dress season!
Your picture should top the list of any Google search of "essence of femininity!"
Hi Nikki,
Thank you for sharing your wonderful collection of beautiful undergarments. I too would love a comeback of an only slip/ntimatewear Boutique. As a childless woman, I 100% understand the matters discussed in this video, but I will stop there. Congratulations to all the beautiful Ladies that shared their Dresses. I am so grateful for this community of Ladies. Thank you for sparing our eyes from seeing rude or unsolicited inappropiate comments in your channel Nikki. God bless
This was a beautiful comment. Thank you for inspiring me!
@@Petra_T_JThank you. You are so kind Petra. I enjoy your comments here and on Patreon. You are an amazing, strong and inspiring Woman. God bless you always.
@@cambiumlayer1318 Oh thank so much! This really made my day :) Praise the Lord for His goodness and kindness that is shaping us in to His image day by day. I think you are yourself a true example of elegance and integrity. The way you wrote here about Nikkis video really shows that. God bless you too!
Love the high waisted lace band ones. Bonus if they're hicut to bend imo. It is one of the better cuts for hourglass or pear shapes despite the trends. That little lace detail makes a big difference if you have sensitive skin too. I favor them enough that I stick to skintone or a color for a season so I can match them with different brand bras.
❤Thank you so much for all of your lovely advice. I am 50 years old and am learning how to be a lady bit by bit through your channel and "Woman of Elegance." 😊
This was an very important video, thank you so much for being open and sharing with us ladies peices of wisdom that we can apply and share with other ladies 🥰.
Don't forget silk! A silk slip helps clothes glide, and breathes like cotton. They are my favorites!
Mine too!
Mine too :)
I was once asked by an elderly gentleman about my pregnancy, but I was not pregnant, just very newly post-partum. He was mortified the poor man. I reassured him as much as I could that it was ok (I DID look pregnant!), but I knew he felt terrible.
This was very helpful! Thank you for addressing all of these topics!
What a beautiful feminine and intimate video. Thank you Nikki .Ive been wearing high waisted panties from Walmart for years .I love slips and beautiful nightgowns even though nowadays are very hard to find and expensive. Happy Mother’s Day may you have a wonderful day .❤
Oh Nikki your such a blessing. I thank God for you and the way and gifts He has given you to bless other specially, us, ladies. And you also have a special way of being or saying things in a funny way😊
I loved how you handled this topic with class and just a touch of humour. I really enjoyed this video.
Nikki -terrific video thanks so much. Not only good reminders /helps for me but for my 20 something daughter who likes to look feminine and is curating her style and wardrobe
Hi Nikki❤I am a long time subscriber who found her way back. I have been watching several videos a week to catch up on what I’ve missed. I really enjoyed this video and how delicately you spoke about what needs to be spoken about. I will be reorganizing my lingerie drawer this weekend using some of your tips. Thank you! ~Krislynner
Such a lovely inspiring video Nikki! I had the pregnancy question asked to me by a man at a conference for our business licensing. I was so humiliated and couldn’t help crying and being upset the rest of the event. It really ruined the whole thing. And my husband was so upset he went and had words with the man. He apologized and I know he meant nothing by it. Every since having my second child 21 years ago I have had a protruding stomach, no matter how thin I am. 🤷🏻♀️ in the man’s defense I was wearing a dress with no shape. That cured me of wanting any of that type of dresses in my wardrobe. To the consignment's shop they went immediately after getting home. Thank you for talking about this subject, it has helped me more than you know 🩷
Thank you so much for sharing with all the ladies your pieces of invaluable wisdom, always a true inspiration 🩷
Loved this video. So many important and fun information. I always like to see other people’s ways of organizing their closets and drawers. More videos like this are really appreciated.
Nikki I appreciate you sharing!!
Soo lovely ❤❤❤...... watching from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪
Good morning Nikki ☀️I’m so sorry that some people have told you that you are pregnant,that is just very rude .you are a very beautiful ,attractive woman and you do not look pregnant at all. Sometimes I feel some people just trying be very mean or God knows who have raised them that allow themselves to talk that way..we should pray for these kinda people…
Congratulations, Monique! This was a needed video. I wished you had gone into detail in the beginning but understand. Certain topics are not appropriate for conversation among friends.
Lovely video, as usual. I love to focus on being a "lady".
Great video. I love how you were having an honest conversation about things we women all deal with in a classy respectful way. I believe many of the younger women have not been taught these things.
Our mothers and grandmothers failed us. I am not making the same mistake with my children. I might make different ones, but I won't make that one LOL
I had a cashier at the grocery store compliment me by saying that I was the most beautiful pregnant woman that she had ever seen. The problem was... I wasn’t pregnant. I was wearing a dress that can give off the illusion + I have adenomyosis + I’ve had 3 babies over 9lbs & I am 5’2 & very petite. I get very bloated when I am getting close to my cycle & I do look pregnant, so I can’t be angry. She gasped & just went on and on at how beautiful I was pregnant. I froze & was definitely humiliated, but I played along because I didn’t want it to be more awkward. She asked me when I was due (and my mind actually froze on the current month that we were in for a moment 😂) & I gave her a date 3 months from the date. It’s a store that I rarely visit & I have never been back to it. I cried all the way home.
Thanks for sharing this. I love how you have a color theme, and everything is so beautifully organized. Good tip at the end. My mom has been open about menopause and I am so happy to see it is becoming more recognized & taken seriously/mainstream. I am in the process of overhauling my intimate wear, so thanks! And... I must be one of the unicorns...
I love your videos, Nikki and recently became a Patron member because I enjoy your videos so much!! I have even bought some slips you recommended on Amazon. I just wish they would offer more colors like the blue, green and red ones you show in this video! Thanks for your lady like insight. I always learn so much from you.
I do love my undershorts by Thigh Society. My thighs rub so it helps prevent while still giving coverage and helping with movement.
Hi Nikki,
Thank you for sharing your wisdom on intimate wear and practices. I did not think that high waisted panties would make a difference earlier as they would come up higher than the waist of skirt or pants. But now that I usually wear dresses (Thanks to your advice), I will opt for granny panties.
My relative had once asked me how many months along I was in pregnancy. That was when I had a slightly protruding belly after 2 kids. She did not stop when I told her I was not pregnant & began to give me advice on my belly. The most important thing here is that she had mommy belly herself.
Maybe she's speaking to her past self. A lot of people wish they'd done things differently and just want to help. It doesn't excuse it or make it right, not at all, but it might explain it.
@@katie7748 Thanks, That is a good perspective
I appreciate the information. The tips, ideas, and suggestions are things that can make life easier and should be shared!
Another lovely video! I just received my Inspirations book today. So lovely. Thank you
I loved this video, I thought it was very classy, well said, and I admire you for doing it. 🌹
I also wear high waisted underwear. I'm very active, and things need to stay put! I can't imagine bicycling, for example, in tiny little undies! 😁 Happy mothers day!
Bra strap tip ~ for a pretty off the shoulder top, replace bra straps ( the interchangeable type ) with rhinestone straps! I didn't know they made those till a couple of years ago. It will look like part of the top. Especially a pretty soft plush sweater that is off one shoulder! Support AND fashionable.
Congratulations Monique.
Hi Nikki what a great video and yes we really don't talk about the things you discussed. Thanks Nikki. I have cleaned out my drawers and only good and lovely garments remain. Feels so much better. Thanks for all your videos. ❤❤
I think I often feel bad about the need to purchase new garments. Seeing how beautiful yours are and how they are displayed and cared for helps me immensely. It very much helps to know that they just need to be replaced and updated as needed… no guilt!
I am 55 and l found out l couldn’t have children when l was in my late teens … in my late 20’s and 30’s if l was asked if l have children and l said no ( women ) mostly told me l was selfish or l was going to regret it ! … you never know what people are going through so don’t ask 😔
At work in my fifties, a woman I didn't know said she wanted to be the first to congratulate me on my pregnancy! That was something of a compliment because of my age. No, I was not pregnant. At another job, a woman I barely knew asked me if my son was circumcised..totally out of line.
Wow 😲
Holy moly! It is NO ONE'S business what your son's body parts look like! Or any child's for that matter!! Yikes!
I was almost speechless.
Nikki, you handled these topics so well, with grace and discretion. I love your videos!
Thank you kindly 🌹
Great advice Nikki. Happy Mothers Day! 💐
The pregnant comments....ive just learned to not be hurt by them. I just say... children are such a blessing i certainly hope you're right and that i might be pregnant. I feel like that shows honor to children while also showing that person that they perhaps shouldn't have made that comment to begin with. Joy at all times surrounded the posdibility of childbearing while we still know the sorrows that can come along with it.
Boundaries need to be restored. People have become too free in their “friendliness” and ask questions that are frankly, none of their business. That is a particular lesson that I am practicing. There is so much that is none of my business!
It’s actually soul lifting. Focus on ourselves and the present.
My husband and I have no children. We’ve actually been asked, “why not?” I have never answered.
I just look at them , then turn away or change the subject.
Occasionally I have smiled sweetly and gently asked, “Why do you need to know?”
As ladies and mothers, we need to teach children manners.
It begins in the home.
Parents teach or don’t teach how to behave within the family unit. This behavior then gets carried into society.
I am amazed at the rudeness of people. I believe that it’s gotten worse because of implied entitlement and “everyone is special.” Yes, we are each special. But that does not allow us to be rude and inconsiderate. I am known for my privacy. It bothers some. That’s fine. If the person can’t accept and respect my boundaries, we may not be a good match.
I have been teased about my manners.
I’d rather be known for having them than for not having them.
We are children of the King. I am a child of God and thus a princess. My behavior is a reflection of who I am. I am a Christian and I hold myself to high standards. Sometimes too high perhaps, but I remain steadfast to practicing the Fruits of the Spirit.
My goal is to remain polite and gracious to others , regardless of their behavior toward me. It isn’t always easy.
But perhaps my “light “ will lead someone to Jesus. Wouldn’t that be wonderful?
People can be unintentionally mean. Forgive them. They may not realize they are being rude.
In a society where our personal lives are supposedly everyone’s business, it is not.
Our bodies change as we get older. Unless it truly bothers a woman, accept that our
bodies have “stomachs.” It is natural. Look at the majority of women.
Socrates said: “Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.”
This is a great video, Nikki. Being a lady is more than just wearing dresses and makeup.
Being a lady includes behavior.
Thanks for expanding the definition. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts.
Best wishes! ❤
So helpful.......thank you!!!!!!
Lingerie bags are also FANTASTIC for washing baby socks! That's actually why I originally bought a few. Also, special undies you don't want getting caught on the agitator or otherwise ruined.
Happy mothers day Nicki xo❤ from the jerseyshore 😊
Happy Mother’s Day !
I am in the mindset of wearing dresses, I love them but I have such a hard time finding modest mom dresses that look pretty. I have searched at TJ Max and Ross and come up empty handed.
I would really appreciated some help, thank you !!!!
Ivy City Co, April Cornell and select brands at Dillards, such as Vince Camuto, Tommy Hilfiger and Calvin Klein can have nice styles. Once you can find a few brands and dress cuts that you like it is easier to start shopping second hand on eBay and Poshmark. I find the prices to be so expensive these days that the majority of my dresses are coming from these resale websites, although I try to only purchase new with tags so that my pieces last longer. I hope this helps! Don’t be afraid to go to a store and try on items even if you don’t end up purchasing, it has been helpful for me to feel and see different styles on the body to be able to discover my favorite!
I love April Cornell. They are expensive for me but i wait for sales and usually only shop in their “attic”.
One other thing to mention … couple nights ago, me and my husband had to go to emergency room … One of the questions that they asked that I found it odd was that ,what kind of religious you are, and we said we’re Christian and I found it very strange that they would ask about our religion
I didn’t know that ,thank you now I know …I thought something else about blood transfer that they will not accept from the people they got the jab
Please feel free to delete the one conversation between us if u don’t want it here
They could ask if you oppose blood transfusions instead. It does feel like a census of sorts.
When I talked to my mother-in-law, she thought maybe they’re just targeting some religion(who knows)
I was a nurse in a large hospital for 20+ years. They should have worded it a way that asked, not what religion you are, but instead, “ Are there any religious practices we should be aware of while under our care?” This covers, not wanting blood transfusions, being touched/examined by the opposite sex, dietary restrictions such as pork or non-Kosher items, etc. Our wish is to treat patients respectfully and note preferences accordingly. Asking openly gives you the opportunity to voice any restrictions when you may not have thought to let us know.
Nikki can you please share about the faux peonies you have....they look amazing and I'm trying to find some. Thank you for your amazing content ❤
Happy Mother's Day!
I know I am making another comment however I love this video so much "unless you are a unicorn" you are hilarious! I can totally relate.😂🤣This video helped me thank you!
Happy Mothers Day ❤❤ you are so beautiful!
I appreciate that you can hurt people by asking whether they're pregnant but I as a very slim women (currently pregnant) dislike when people are awkward asking me-it is obvious and I don't feel like having to tell every person I talk it. I find it flattering that people can tell that I wouldn't just look like this. But again, it's only obvious on very petite ladies I know
And as such, I would never comment otherwise
This list makes up 99% of what people discuss nowadays 😅
There are some things that are no one's business. The American society has become so rude and self entitled to information that is none of their business.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY NIKKI! STTB
My most-heard "unmentionable" in my Christian-lady circles is mothers oversharing about their teen and adult children. I understand that our older kids can cause us distress, but that is truly no excuse to tell our child's personal business. Pray instead.
Hi Nikki, Thanks for sharing where you buy your panties because I have struggled to find something with lace like this so I will stock up. I watched this video quickly because I was happy to see it and loved seeing the pictures of the ladies and their dresses. Now I will watch the video again without rushing.
Thank you!❤
Lovely video! Thank you Nikki
Thank you for sharing your underwear, they are just the sort I am looking for here in the UK, a lot here are high leg but they don't fit me properly and are uncomfortable to wear everyday
You are so inspiring!!! I love your channel!!!! Dot
Great video.❤
Where do you get your lacy slips ? Yours are beautiful.
A great video ❤