In Chinese culture, no one but immediate family sees the baby till baby is 100 days old and we’ll throw a little party. We also get a month of “confinement” where there is a stay in nanny/mom to help take care of food and help with baby. Something I’d REALLY be missing out being away from Asia 😫 Send me a prayer please if you are reading this (baby comes in Sep) 💛
Best of luck hun! I just had my baby in May. No family has held him yet. We are being strict on quarentine. Immediate family has seen him only from a distance from the door. I honestly like the 100 day idea. A baby doesnt have much of an immune system until 3 months old. Maybe you can do freezer meal prep so dinner is taken care of every day. Theres some great youtube videos for freezer meal planning
Good luck! I've read before about that month of "confinement" after birth (in china), but I didn't know about the party at 100days, how fun! Are you in switzerland now? Here we have "wochenbett" where you should rest and stay in, around, and close to the bed for 4 weeks. In those weeks a "hebamme" midwife comes to check on you and baby daily, then bi weekly, usually (you can request it, your Krankenkasse covers it). As for cooking..enroll friends and aquaintances for food drop off or ccok in, tell your partner to learn to cook a handful of nutritious dishes, and have dried fruit and water on hand at any time. In wich language area are you? De it fr? All the best for your birth.
What also surprised me is how easy breastfeeding came. I did a lot of research and watched a lot of videos on how to get your baby to latch properly and how to hand express and it honestly made such a difference!
What surprised me most is I found out my baby was breech at my 36 week sonogram and I was crushed knowing my natural birthplan was no longer an option. The c section was scary but once I held my baby honestly NONE OF IT MATTERED! So if anyone is in my boat...just know your birth plan does not matter! Do not stress over it for your last weeks of pregnancy.. just enjoy every last second of feeling that baby inside of you!
No they did and I tried everything. But the last four weeks of pregnancy I was obsessed with trying to get him to flip and I wish I had just enjoyed the last weeks of my pregnancy rather than stressing all day everyday on trying to get him to flip
Ashley S yeah i understand you. Ive spent this last week trying to go into labor because i dont want to get an induction but it’s looking like i might have to get one.
Thank you for sharing! I'm 33 weeks and my baby is breech. Dr said she could still flip on her own and I've been trying to do more inversions and all the crazy stuff out there to help keep my birth plan on track haha.
I was surprised that i didn't feel super in love with my baby right away. She was just a complete stranger and i was so busy and overwhelmed with myself, i could hardly enjoy having her with me. But then i started to get to know her and i fell in love a little bit more every day.
I felt that way with my first too! NOT an instant bond. I was too overwhelmed! I felt the instant bond with my second and third, but didn't feel overwhelmed with them either.
For mamas who feel like having nonstop visitors will be overwhelming. We had 1 "meet the baby afternoon" we invited friends and family and we opened our house up for 5 hours to anyone who wanted to come and meet the baby. It was nice because we had one slightly overwhelming afternoon, but we didn't have a whole bunch of people coming in and out constantly
I couldn’t stand up straight for about a week after my baby was born. I wasn’t ready for that, because all the moms I have seen walk around and stand up. For any mamas reading these comments, you can’t control what your outcome will be, but you can control your mindset! Just remember your hard work is for your baby :)
The most surprising thing for me in the first 48 hours was how quiet my baby was. He was never fussy or crying. Always so happy and content. I was expecting crying and fussiness. But not a peep
@@misspowers3857 nah. His pediatrician said it's normal for some babies. All babies are different. He's got nothing wrong with him. He's almost 2 months now and he fusses and cries now if he feels the need. But it's still very rare. We just know how to keep our baby happy. 💙
From the perspective of someone who’s had multiple C-sections, a planned C-section versus an emergency C-section is vastly different. The healing process doesn’t seem to be as intense and you can kind of prepare your home for when you get back from the hospital. One big thing I would recommend is stay on top of your pain meds. If you don’t take them on time you can be in really bad pain and it takes a long time to get it back under control. Anything that causes strain to your abdominal muscles is super super painful so it’s really helpful to have something to support your stomach (like a pillow) for anything like coughing, sneezing, laughing, crying, or pooping. Some sort of belly band or corset type of thing can be really helpful to support your abdomen. And with breast-feeding, it’s really nice to have a nursing pillow or regular pillow to lay your baby on so they’re not putting pressure on your incision. Sorry for the long comment, but I know there are some mamas out there that need advice for what to do if they have a C-section. 💗
I had the same experience with nurses taking away my baby's pacifier... I was so tired and she took away the one thing that was helping me stay sane. Next time I want to stand up for myself and my baby more.
What surprised me was how much I cried 😂 the sound of my little ones cries broke my heart, the insane postpartun hormones, how little sleep I was getting, how I had no idea what I was doing all contributed to feeling like a failure and THAT I did NOT expect. I thought my instincts would just kick in! I had no idea you had to learn everything from ground 0. Now 3 weeks later I have much more grace for myself ( the Lord was instrumental in that )
Of course Delilah has a beautiful and honest heart, but can we all take a second to appreciate how gorgeous she is and how she owns her bod, especially after her two adorable bb’s?! 💕🤩
Very excited to hear you're making a video about postpartum, I've suffered my whole life with depression and my pregnancy hormones arent helping in that department but as much as I am just trying to have a positive mind set and attitude it does help hearing other women talk about it especially geting closer to my due date. It makes me feel not so alone and it really calms my anxiety
I'm only just finding your channel now and I love how honest you are. Moms need to hear the less glamorous parts so they know they are not alone. I wish I had a channel like this when I had my babies x
A few of things I didn’t expect: It felt like I had a bowling ball sitting in my pelvis and like it was going to fall out the first couple of weeks after birth And how uncomfortable it was going to be wearing clothes, my skin was just so sensitive, I couldn’t wear a band across my stomach, and my nipples and breasts were so uncomfortable Also I was so gassy during labor at first I tried to stop it but as the contraction got worse, I gave up 😂😂
As a first time mum I expected more help from the nurses and midwives towards breastfeeding, however they don’t really specialise in lactating, so I did reach out to other breastfeeding mums which I’m grateful for as I’m breastfeeding for 2 years now! If I could go back in time I would educate myself more about lactation... I recommend new mums to not be discouraged to breastfeed just because they can’t get help from the midwifes and nurses at the hospital, do some research about lactating consultants around your area/city before the baby arrives, do some research about latching!🤱🏻❤️
Thanks for making this video. We are about a month out from welcoming our second baby and your video has really helped to remind me of everything coming our way!
I actually did have both a c-section and a vaginal birth. I would say that the bleeding was pretty similar for both. The cramping after was much more painful with the c-section birth however.
Your videos are always so helpful and informative!! It's so great to get such in depth information about birth and children and all that comes with it. I think a video on breasfeeding 101 would also be helpful :) I know it would help me for sure. Love you and praying for you and all those who watch!
Our son was born at 4.11 lbs so he was a teeeeeny baby. Babies who are born at 37 weeks are notoriously sleepy, so feedings were very difficult because his little body just couldn’t stay awake to eat. He ended up losing 11% of his already tiny body weight within the first 24 hours, so we immediately had to switch to supplementing and were visiting his pediatrician and midwives every day for the first week (our midwives released us home four hours after his birth because birth centers don’t have units for women to stay overnight, but did a home check the following morning and discovered all of his issues). Because he was so tiny, his lungs couldn’t carry a crying sound, so his cries were really just whispers 🥺 so waking up to hear him was hard. He was also starving every 45 minutes and I didn’t sleep at all, so my mental health was immediately in a dangerous place. Be prepared for things to go wrong! I had a natural birth in a birthing center and totally thought that everything would just come naturally because women have been doing this for forever, so I wasn’t emotionally prepared for things to go wrong and was so devastated when he couldn’t breastfeed and that we couldn’t bond in that way. He’s three now and totally fine, but his newborn days were really, reaaaally dark days for both of us. We’re expecting our daughter in September and we’re being more proactive with potential issues that we can have again-I’d definitely encourage expecting mamas to be mindful about what to do when things like breastfeeding or bonding don’t happen and to have a support system in place so you don’t go into a dark place ❤️
The most surprising thing for me was that my daughter cluster fed for almost the entire 48 hours after her birth, and how painful that was for me! She only stopped when my milk came in fully. Now she’s almost 2 months old and about 14lb, she’s been a hungry baby her whole life 😂
About looking “down there” PP- I looked about 2 weeks PP when I finally had the courage to see how things were healing and it was traumatic. I had a 2nd degree tear that zigzagged aaaall around due to coaches pushing when I had a full spinal block in. I clearly rushed my body and it was like an explosion down there. When I looked I saw a prolapse that was very obvious and it terrified me. I was even more terrified of being checked out down there though because of sexual abuse in childhood, so I googled everything and tried to exercise but totally failed with consistency, and contrary to MANY stories online where prolapse lasted forever without therapy or surgery, mine sloooowly went away. I was traumatized and felt broken and sore for months and months but now I feel normal! It’s a slightly different, new normal, but I’m totally fine with everything now and wish so badly I could have known my body would heal itself it just needed TONS of time.
Sooo true about the people offering to hold the baby while you do your stuff. I don't want to clean dishes and hoover - I rather cuddle with my new tiny little angelito while they help around the house 😄
Yeah that shocked me...in my culture everyone does everything for you. Ideally it used to be the girl's but times have changed. Usually it's women who have been there. If a woman has never had a child they are only allowed to hold the baby if they are family. Otherwise they like the men can drop their gifts and go. The baby is yours mostly it's only the mother in laws who can hold the baby beyond the mother for like three months.
In regards to jaundice...it's actually way more common than I realized. My experience was they will check baby's levels for whats called "bilirubin" and if it's too elevated they will wait a little and check again, if it's still too high they will have to be put under lights (I think called photo therapy?) and monitored for several hours to see if the levels come down and stay down. If babe has jaundice it makes their skin and eyes look yellowish. A moderate level of bilirubin is not a huge concern, they will just recommend lots of breastfeeding and some sunlight but if it's too high it could be harmful to baby's brain development.
Ive had a C-section and a natural birth, with tearing . Same amount of blood for both. Intense pain for both, just different pain for sure. If i could choose to have one or the other its honestly a toss up. As for trying to get sleep in the hospital take advantage of the nursery. Once baby falls asleep you can ask nurse to take them to the nursery and bring them back when they need to eat. This helped me to get 2 hours of sleep. I had been up all day then went into labor the early AM, so I had no rest at all. My mom very generously took 2 weeks off of work to watch my 3 year old so we could focus on baby. While we still love her of course its hard to juggle when you have a toddler and newborn. I have depressed and when she was born my post pardom depression was really bad so my mom thought it would help out a lot. And it really did, because my depression was really intense the second time around. My mom also planned dinner for us for the first 2 week from different family members and friends, each night someone brought us dinner. I Wish we could have stayed in the hospital longer with the natural birth because of the pain, I would have liked the extra help. But because of the pandemic we felt a rush to go home. My husband wanted out fast.
I had an a traumatic labor that ended in an emergency c-section. The first 48h where not fun at all. I didn’t feel much for my baby and I had invasive thoughts about harming him and myself. I was in pain and was stuck in bed. I couldn’t sleep well and couldn’t have any more pain killers because I was already on maximum dose. The meds made me feel so strange. Thankfully, breastfeeding went relatively well. It took at least 6 weeks for me to start to feel a bit better mentally. Now, 7 months later, I am still struggling but I can see that I am slowly getting better. All this to say that sometimes things don’t go well and you don’t get the experience that you wished for, but throughout it all God will be with you. If you are struggling like I was, know that you are not alone and that it will get better. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Jaundice is actually pretty common in babies, 6 out of 10 babies will be born with jaundice but the baby would be kept in a bed with blue lights in the hospital (looks like a tanning bed lol) and they’ll be fine in a couple of days depending on their bilirubin levels :D. I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby wish me luck lmao I’m kinda terrified of the postpartum part.
What I didn't expect: how slow time passes. How the days just seem like month, the midwife visits every day but every time I was like "so much happened since you were here last time!" even tho all you did was stare at your newborn all day
So much surprised me I could write a book. The sleep deprivation was the absolute hardest. My son wouldn’t sleep without me and he NEVER took to a bottle. Ever. So I had to exclusively breast feed and no one could help me. He nursed constantly! I could never describe how tired I was and I’m so grateful and can’t believe I made it through the first year. I was also surprised with how much anxiety I would have to keep him safe. That hasn’t gone away and he’s 3. I’m not the easy going care free mama I’d thought I’d be lol We are seriously SUPERWOMEN especially those who do it without any support at all
I think I was also surprised with how able I was to mother 😂 I thought it would be really really difficult to tell what my baby wants but I actually always knew what she wanted and I was so proud of myself for having that intuition. That's just me though! It depends on the baby, and my little girl is definitely an easy baby!
I’m so happy for you that the first 48 hours were so blissful and joyful! Personally, I felt very overwhelmed and emotional and felt like my baby didn’t like me because every time I held him he cried (really I just didn’t know how to hold him but when you’re freshly postpartum everything feels like the end of the world). I also failed to get him to latch and couldn’t breastfeed properly so I felt like a failure every time I had to feed him because he would end up just being given a bottle of formula after 2 hours of attempting to nurse. I cried when we were leaving because I didn’t know how I would care for him without the help of the nurses. He is 6 months now and we’re doing great but postpartum was very dark for me and I know this is common for many women as well. ❤️
The bleeding after C-sections is a bit less because the Uterus is getting slightly „abraded“ while removing the Placenta. Therefore the bleeding is usually a bit less and lasts shorter.
I’m currently 1 week postpartum, and I was not expecting all of the emotions! I knew I would feel so many, but I didn’t realize they would come on suddenly for no reason. I was most surprised by the random crying! Haha. ❤️
OMG I love Canada! Free healthcare and all that attention after birth! Down here in Mexico they take the baby out and you are out the next morning, you have an appointment with the pediatrician the first month and that’s it, no attention to the mom unless you hire a Doula or take breastfeeding classes
One thing I was surprised about was that I had zero after pains with birth! I had no cramping at all. I also took my ibuprofen right on time for the first few days though. Another thing that surprised me was engorgement pain and how much laundry we went through because my milk got everywhere!!
@@kellyhorvatin SAME!! Slept on a towel a lot 😂 also when I was so tired in the middle of the night I would shove whatever was closest to me in my bra (burp cloth, onesie, socks whatever lol) to soak up the milk and pass back out 😂
My baby was slightly jaundice, but it showed up when he was a few days old. We were told to manage it with fluids, so we had to feed him every two hours and then "top him up" with an ounce in a bottle ( the haaka was super helpful for this because we would just bottle feed him the let down from my other side). Within two weeks it was flushed out of his system.
What surprised me was the LACK of after birth pains. I was expecting horror and...that was not what I got. I had little to no pain with all 3 of mine...and I was SO thankful! I never took a pain pill or even really noticed the pain. Mild cramping at worst. I also 100% agree with limiting visitors. We had a free for all with our 1st, cut back with out 2nd, the only allowed my parents and our daughters with the 3rd. It was SO much more relaxing with less guests!! I was skin to skin with my 3rd for days and it was heaven
Jaundice. My baby had it the first 2-3 months luckily it was just "breast milk jaundice" and had nothing to do with how my sons body processed. Bilirubin is the substance that causes jaundice. Breast milk jaundice just meant my milk was missing something to help my son flush the bilirubin out of his system. My son was prescribed vitamin d drops and be supplemented with plenty of walks in the sunshine where his skin could soak in the vitamin d. At least two times during those first few months we had to get his bilirubin levels tested with a heel prick. Those tests were the worst when they squeeze the blood out of his heel to fill the vile and he would just scream his little head off. It went away with treatment, but if I better remembered to give him his vitamin drops it could have gone away sooner. (He didn't like the taste so I usually snuck it into a bottle of milk.)
About jaundice, my little sister had it when she was born. She just was under a blue light(maybe UVs but not sure) for a big part of the first days(like two or three days). It wasn't such a big deal according to what I remember. She just looked like a roasted chicken lol.
Our baby was jaundice but they just kept an eye on it and it passed after the first week. I think it’s only the more serious cases that have to be put in the light machine. Jaundice is very common and complications, though serious, are very rare.
What surprised me the most is that I didn’t die and I was ok and not in pain just got up got dressed and was like before just with a baby. Also it surprised me that no one came and said ‘you are an impostor! You don’t know what you are doing! You can’t keep the baby’ 😂😂😂 I really felt serious imposter syndrome. Third think the blood dots around my eyes from pushing just lots of red dots. They have gone in few days.
I was admittedly a little intimidated by the postpartum period, and did lots of research about my own body and healing in addition to the usual pregnancy and birth reading. I was prepared for the worst case scenario, but thankfully did not experience any pain, tearing, uterus contractions, 'baby blues,' or pelvic floor dysfunction. Honestly the worst part of healing was how weird & wobbly my core felt for the first couple months as my abdomen stitched back together!
You raised a lot of important matters and gave good information about life in the first hours after birth. Many women are speaking up since the pandemic hit about hoping that when it's over they do not have to go back to having everybody and their uncle at the hospital. They have horror stories of family members, friends, in-laws showing up at the hospital while they are still exposed in stirrups and they stare at their private parts and start passing the infant around when the parents have not even held the baby or done skin to skin bonding with it yet. This is not necessary. This is not yet another place for people with too few commitments to decide to hold another party to keep their minds and hands occupied. People can wait a day or two until everyone is home from the hospital and call the home to see when would be a good time to visit. And never just show up at the hospital or at home. Apparently, way more women than you would think feel traumatized and in shock by not having time to talk privately with their husband or the baby nurse or their OB/GYN before the hordes arrive to party hearty. It's a problem that the mothers must discuss with their husbands and doctors ahead of time and have a No Visitors sign posted or have their husband's support in no one coming to see the baby until all are home safely with no problems still being resolved or meds to be bought, etc. I would not want to feel in the way if there were a crisis with the mother or baby's health and those crop up fairly frequently in the first hour or so after the birth and while passing placenta.
aww, i really wish i would have filmed everything from my labor and delivery, at least for myself, i wish i could go back to see it like this at the moment i was like "ahh im in pain!" 😂❤️
We had jaundice with our girl. She was born at 36 weeks and it is apparently common if the baby comes early. They checked her bilirubin every day, don't remember if even twice a day. The nurses made me feed her every 3 hours even if she didn't wake up herself, do feeding weighing and also supplement with doner milk. On the third day of her life she got on the blue light, which was like a panel that they stuck into her bassinet and had a zipper swaddle on top. We were not allowed to take her out for anything else than feeding and a diaper change. All in all we were at the hospital for 6 days and on the 8 day mark we had to go for a checkup blood test to make sure the bilirubin went down.
First 48 hours was sleepless , tired , sore the thoughts how am I supposed to take care of myself AND this new little life ? I was so tired ! But yet I couldn’t find my way to sleep cause right then an there I knew that the only thing that mattered was my baby and no matter how exhausted I was I found myself not sleeping an able to stay awake and I didn’t know I was capable to stay awake even 48 hours without sleep and I knew right then an there “ ur a mother ur officially super mom ” and my instinct of motherhood naturally took over and it wasn’t just me it was mom me and i loved that feeling , I also didn’t expect such Breast pain an doing daily normal things turned into being so hard the first few weeks !
My son had jaundice when he was born. He had to spend a couple of days under the purple lights with an eye mask on. Ended up with pretty impressive tan! Even after his treatment it took a few weeks for the whites of his eyes to lose the yellow colour.
By the way I used Evening Primrose oil because of your suggestion on your video to naturally induce labor. At 41 weeks I gave birth so fast and hard. But the recovery was much faster too!
I had pancreatitis and was hospitalized as a result of being pregnant and giving birth and having those pains were ten times more painful than birth, after birth recovery, etc. When I had my first pancreatitis attack that pain left me paralyzed and I had my 6 week old baby with me and I couldn’t get to him and my husband was in the middle of seeing a movie (not his fault as I had no signs of anything before he left). All our friends and family live three hours away so I had to call an ambulance and try to soothe my baby from another room till they arrived while I was in excruciating pain and trying not to cry to not make him scared. Birth was so hard but that was ten times more painful and after two attacks got my gallbladder removed and that was that! Pregnant with my second currently and looking forward to birth and baby number two!
Hey I love the video! But I do wish that within the title or on the thumbnail it was said that this video was a Q&A, or even if it said it was part of your series. That way it is easy to notice.
In my experience bleeding is a little bit worse after a c section because for the first day or so you are in bed until someone helps you up. So clotting can sometimes occur during that time.
goodness gracious i’m glad i didn’t get those after pains 😅 i never really had cramps or anything post pardum. i was just sore occasionally but it didn’t last long at all
I've had a natural birth with shoulder dystocia and a c section with my second and I found the bleeding to be worse with a natural but would choose natural over a c section if I hadn't had complications the first time. Recovery is just so much faster with a natural birth xxx
**RESPONSE TO THE JAUNDICE QUESTION: Both of my babies had jaundice after birth. Jaundice is very common and some babies get sent home and you don't have to do anything but get it rechecked a day or two later, as long as their bilirubin levels stay low, and continue to get lower each day. (bilirubin is a substance that is created when your babies red blood cells break down after birth. The liver and kidneys typically break it down on their own and it is expelled through baby's pees and poops). My first had "breastfeeding jaundice" a form of jaundice where baby has a hard time latching or is too tired to eat. They don't eat as often and the jaundice makes them more sleepy, making it harder for them to eat and because they arent eating they aren't peeing and pooping the bilirubin out of their body. They check for jaundice based on color of baby (mine were a yellowish/red), blood test, and they can use a machine placed baby's baby's head that looks like a thermometer and it reads the levels too. When we went home, her levels were pretty high. Borderline on being able to go home or not. 2 days later we came in for a check and her levels jumped up very high. She still had issues eating and I had to pump and bottle feed her as well as supplement formula to get her to eat. We had to take home a phototherapy light bed and keep her in the bed 24/7 except to eat or change a diaper. It was so sad.. she would cry and fuss and want to be held but I couldn't. For 5 days we did this. Every day going to hospital to be checked again until her levels were normal and going down. With my 2nd, she was jaundice for a different reason, she was COOMBS positive. Meaning our blood types weren't compatible. Mine is 0+ hers is A+. Her body had to work extra hard to rid my blood cells from her body, making her produce more bilirubin than normal. She was put under lights in the hospital in our room and was on them for about 5 days after at home untim her levels were going down regularly. Some people only need baby on lights for 1 day or 2 days. It varies with each baby. It is hard, but don't be too fearful of it because before you know it, it will be over and you wi get endless snuggles again. It is hard though going through it. Knowing you can't do anything to comfort your baby when they just want snuggles. But, my 2nd daughter loved it. She just looked cozy comfy in that bed and it made that week so much easier knowing she wasn't upset and wanting mommy. Hope that helps!
I will add, the reason they make you do lights as needed is because if bilirubin builds up and the levels are too high too long, it can cause brain damage. Our pediatrician was actually upset that our older daughter wasn't hospitalized and placed under lights in the hospital because of how high her numbers were when we were sent home. But typically jaundice isn't a serious thing. The nurses can explain it to you if you are faced with it 😁
Hi I had a csection with my first son and a vbac with my second son and my daughter( she was born almost 6 weeks ago). I didn’t bleed as much or as long as I did with my vaginal births. But the recovery was so much worse, coughing and sneezing made me feel like my scar was going to rip open! It was horrible!
If you don't mind my asking, how was your vbac experience? I had a c section with my first but would love nothing more than a natural pregnancy with future babies
Ashley S I prefer a vbac way over a csection. I did hemorrhage with my 1st vbac and had to have a blood transfusion, also they had to use forceps which was not fun but the recovery was so much better! My 2nd vbac was amazing! My baby’s tend to be posterior so that’s why the doctor had to use forceps with my 1st vbac, but I had a doula with my 2nd vbac and she had me do different positions during labor to get our little girl in the right position. With my daughter we were only at the hospital for two hours before she was born! Lol it was amazing, I had a natural delivery with no interventions.
Yes, our baby had bad jaundice! We had a horrible hospital that wasn't very baby friendly and didn't communicate well with us or take good care of our baby, and I was very sick after a hard delivery. Our baby was so malnourished when we left the hospital that we had to turn around and take her back to the hospital the next day. As new parents, we didn't know when to speak up or what wasn't normal, but we knew something was wrong with our daughter when we couldn't wake her up to feed. She was sent home with a billi blanket so that we didn't have to hospitalize her. She had to wear a lil mask and looked like an X-Men character. After a week she was much improved.
In Chinese culture, no one but immediate family sees the baby till baby is 100 days old and we’ll throw a little party. We also get a month of “confinement” where there is a stay in nanny/mom to help take care of food and help with baby. Something I’d REALLY be missing out being away from Asia 😫
Send me a prayer please if you are reading this (baby comes in Sep) 💛
We do the same in South Africa. Good luck mommy ❤️❤️❤️
The same in Iran! 100 days! Praying for a safe delivery 🙏
Best of luck hun! I just had my baby in May. No family has held him yet. We are being strict on quarentine. Immediate family has seen him only from a distance from the door. I honestly like the 100 day idea. A baby doesnt have much of an immune system until 3 months old. Maybe you can do freezer meal prep so dinner is taken care of every day. Theres some great youtube videos for freezer meal planning
Wish you good luck. I’m down to november, first time ever. A 21 year old dream finally comming true🥰❤️❤️❤️
Good luck! I've read before about that month of "confinement" after birth (in china), but I didn't know about the party at 100days, how fun! Are you in switzerland now? Here we have "wochenbett" where you should rest and stay in, around, and close to the bed for 4 weeks. In those weeks a "hebamme" midwife comes to check on you and baby daily, then bi weekly, usually (you can request it, your Krankenkasse covers it). As for cooking..enroll friends and aquaintances for food drop off or ccok in, tell your partner to learn to cook a handful of nutritious dishes, and have dried fruit and water on hand at any time. In wich language area are you? De it fr? All the best for your birth.
What also surprised me is how easy breastfeeding came. I did a lot of research and watched a lot of videos on how to get your baby to latch properly and how to hand express and it honestly made such a difference!
Ugh I wish. We struggle with latching and I had clogged milk ducts which hurts
What surprised me most is I found out my baby was breech at my 36 week sonogram and I was crushed knowing my natural birthplan was no longer an option. The c section was scary but once I held my baby honestly NONE OF IT MATTERED! So if anyone is in my boat...just know your birth plan does not matter! Do not stress over it for your last weeks of pregnancy.. just enjoy every last second of feeling that baby inside of you!
Babies can also unbreach. Im surprised they didn’t tell you ways to try and get the baby to face right
No they did and I tried everything. But the last four weeks of pregnancy I was obsessed with trying to get him to flip and I wish I had just enjoyed the last weeks of my pregnancy rather than stressing all day everyday on trying to get him to flip
Ashley S yeah i understand you. Ive spent this last week trying to go into labor because i dont want to get an induction but it’s looking like i might have to get one.
Zamia Ramirez I’m 39wks2D and due Sunday and I’ve been praying he comes this week 😅
Thank you for sharing! I'm 33 weeks and my baby is breech. Dr said she could still flip on her own and I've been trying to do more inversions and all the crazy stuff out there to help keep my birth plan on track haha.
I thought you had another baby and some how his the entire pregnancy. 😂
Same!!!! Lol!!
Me too🤣🤣🤣 I was like “when did all of this happen😳😳
me too!
Lol me too
Same
I was surprised that i didn't feel super in love with my baby right away. She was just a complete stranger and i was so busy and overwhelmed with myself, i could hardly enjoy having her with me. But then i started to get to know her and i fell in love a little bit more every day.
I felt this way too!!
I felt the same way!! Did not expect that but I am incredibly in love with her now 🥰
I felt that way with my first too! NOT an instant bond. I was too overwhelmed! I felt the instant bond with my second and third, but didn't feel overwhelmed with them either.
Yes this! I saw in another video, this girl didn’t actually start bonding with her newborn son until week 2 or 3 post partum.
I was due with our first baby yesterday but we’re still waiting on him so this is a great distraction!
Everything all good lol?
For mamas who feel like having nonstop visitors will be overwhelming. We had 1 "meet the baby afternoon" we invited friends and family and we opened our house up for 5 hours to anyone who wanted to come and meet the baby. It was nice because we had one slightly overwhelming afternoon, but we didn't have a whole bunch of people coming in and out constantly
Love this!
My family does this and calls it a sip and see :^) u sip drinks n see the baby
@@ninarae3368 love it
I couldn’t stand up straight for about a week after my baby was born. I wasn’t ready for that, because all the moms I have seen walk around and stand up. For any mamas reading these comments, you can’t control what your outcome will be, but you can control your mindset! Just remember your hard work is for your baby :)
The most surprising thing for me in the first 48 hours was how quiet my baby was. He was never fussy or crying. Always so happy and content. I was expecting crying and fussiness. But not a peep
That’s odd...
Both of mine were the same. My son didnt even open his eyes until day 3.
Both my babies were like that too they didn’t really start fussing till around a month old
Cecily 95 so crazy !!! They didn’t cluster feed all night ??
@@misspowers3857 nah. His pediatrician said it's normal for some babies. All babies are different. He's got nothing wrong with him. He's almost 2 months now and he fusses and cries now if he feels the need. But it's still very rare. We just know how to keep our baby happy. 💙
From the perspective of someone who’s had multiple C-sections, a planned C-section versus an emergency C-section is vastly different. The healing process doesn’t seem to be as intense and you can kind of prepare your home for when you get back from the hospital. One big thing I would recommend is stay on top of your pain meds. If you don’t take them on time you can be in really bad pain and it takes a long time to get it back under control. Anything that causes strain to your abdominal muscles is super super painful so it’s really helpful to have something to support your stomach (like a pillow) for anything like coughing, sneezing, laughing, crying, or pooping. Some sort of belly band or corset type of thing can be really helpful to support your abdomen. And with breast-feeding, it’s really nice to have a nursing pillow or regular pillow to lay your baby on so they’re not putting pressure on your incision. Sorry for the long comment, but I know there are some mamas out there that need advice for what to do if they have a C-section. 💗
Oh wow, thanks so much for this info!!
I had the same experience with nurses taking away my baby's pacifier... I was so tired and she took away the one thing that was helping me stay sane. Next time I want to stand up for myself and my baby more.
What surprised me was how much I cried 😂 the sound of my little ones cries broke my heart, the insane postpartun hormones, how little sleep I was getting, how I had no idea what I was doing all contributed to feeling like a failure and THAT I did NOT expect. I thought my instincts would just kick in! I had no idea you had to learn everything from ground 0. Now 3 weeks later I have much more grace for myself ( the Lord was instrumental in that )
Of course Delilah has a beautiful and honest heart, but can we all take a second to appreciate how gorgeous she is and how she owns her bod, especially after her two adorable bb’s?! 💕🤩
Very excited to hear you're making a video about postpartum, I've suffered my whole life with depression and my pregnancy hormones arent helping in that department but as much as I am just trying to have a positive mind set and attitude it does help hearing other women talk about it especially geting closer to my due date. It makes me feel not so alone and it really calms my anxiety
Your editing style is so impressive. I loved the start of the video.
You need to make a girls talk about puberty
This is a great idea!
Victoria Faust thank you 🙏
My husband and I are trying for a baby soon, so this whole series is incredibly helpful! Thank you! 😊
YES to " please don't take my baby for the first couple weeks. " my baby helps me to cope with the afterbirth pain and the emotional rollercoaster.
I'm only just finding your channel now and I love how honest you are. Moms need to hear the less glamorous parts so they know they are not alone. I wish I had a channel like this when I had my babies x
First time mom due in September! Thankyou for sharing your experience and being open and honest
Love watching these videos ❤️ getting married in August and can’t wait to start my family !
I’m always excited when I get your notification!
A few of things I didn’t expect:
It felt like I had a bowling ball sitting in my pelvis and like it was going to fall out the first couple of weeks after birth
And how uncomfortable it was going to be wearing clothes, my skin was just so sensitive, I couldn’t wear a band across my stomach, and my nipples and breasts were so uncomfortable
Also I was so gassy during labor at first I tried to stop it but as the contraction got worse, I gave up 😂😂
Oh wow, this was helpful in knowing. Thanks!
I think: Why she load the Video on 9pm up??
Also me: Oh she lives in Canada an I'm in Germany🤦♀️
Same here :)
Same in France 😂
Same in Poland 😀
Thank you for your answers. I had a normal birth then a c-section the 2nd, and I found it the same blood flow. Both my children were born early.
As a first time mum I expected more help from the nurses and midwives towards breastfeeding, however they don’t really specialise in lactating, so I did reach out to other breastfeeding mums which I’m grateful for as I’m breastfeeding for 2 years now! If I could go back in time I would educate myself more about lactation... I recommend new mums to not be discouraged to breastfeed just because they can’t get help from the midwifes and nurses at the hospital, do some research about lactating consultants around your area/city before the baby arrives, do some research about latching!🤱🏻❤️
Thanks for making this video. We are about a month out from welcoming our second baby and your video has really helped to remind me of everything coming our way!
Happy Friday! Have never clicked so fast haha
What's better thn a Friday with Sarah and Delila 🥰🥰🥰🥳🥳🥳
Love this girl talk series!
I actually did have both a c-section and a vaginal birth. I would say that the bleeding was pretty similar for both. The cramping after was much more painful with the c-section birth however.
Coconut milk helps with constipation too. And pineapple juice.
Your videos are always so helpful and informative!! It's so great to get such in depth information about birth and children and all that comes with it. I think a video on breasfeeding 101 would also be helpful :) I know it would help me for sure. Love you and praying for you and all those who watch!
Our son was born at 4.11 lbs so he was a teeeeeny baby. Babies who are born at 37 weeks are notoriously sleepy, so feedings were very difficult because his little body just couldn’t stay awake to eat. He ended up losing 11% of his already tiny body weight within the first 24 hours, so we immediately had to switch to supplementing and were visiting his pediatrician and midwives every day for the first week (our midwives released us home four hours after his birth because birth centers don’t have units for women to stay overnight, but did a home check the following morning and discovered all of his issues). Because he was so tiny, his lungs couldn’t carry a crying sound, so his cries were really just whispers 🥺 so waking up to hear him was hard. He was also starving every 45 minutes and I didn’t sleep at all, so my mental health was immediately in a dangerous place.
Be prepared for things to go wrong! I had a natural birth in a birthing center and totally thought that everything would just come naturally because women have been doing this for forever, so I wasn’t emotionally prepared for things to go wrong and was so devastated when he couldn’t breastfeed and that we couldn’t bond in that way. He’s three now and totally fine, but his newborn days were really, reaaaally dark days for both of us. We’re expecting our daughter in September and we’re being more proactive with potential issues that we can have again-I’d definitely encourage expecting mamas to be mindful about what to do when things like breastfeeding or bonding don’t happen and to have a support system in place so you don’t go into a dark place ❤️
The most surprising thing for me was that my daughter cluster fed for almost the entire 48 hours after her birth, and how painful that was for me!
She only stopped when my milk came in fully.
Now she’s almost 2 months old and about 14lb, she’s been a hungry baby her whole life 😂
Oh gosh I’d love to see the chunckyness on a 14 pound 2 month old 🥰😍
I was so confused and thought I seriously missed something at first 😂
About looking “down there” PP- I looked about 2 weeks PP when I finally had the courage to see how things were healing and it was traumatic. I had a 2nd degree tear that zigzagged aaaall around due to coaches pushing when I had a full spinal block in. I clearly rushed my body and it was like an explosion down there. When I looked I saw a prolapse that was very obvious and it terrified me. I was even more terrified of being checked out down there though because of sexual abuse in childhood, so I googled everything and tried to exercise but totally failed with consistency, and contrary to MANY stories online where prolapse lasted forever without therapy or surgery, mine sloooowly went away. I was traumatized and felt broken and sore for months and months but now I feel normal! It’s a slightly different, new normal, but I’m totally fine with everything now and wish so badly I could have known my body would heal itself it just needed TONS of time.
I'm 11 weeks now and these vids give me everything 💖💖💖
I’m pregnant with my first and so thankful for these videos!! As you said, everyone is different but it’s nice to have an idea of what to expect ❤️
Sooo true about the people offering to hold the baby while you do your stuff. I don't want to clean dishes and hoover - I rather cuddle with my new tiny little angelito while they help around the house 😄
Yeah that shocked me...in my culture everyone does everything for you. Ideally it used to be the girl's but times have changed. Usually it's women who have been there. If a woman has never had a child they are only allowed to hold the baby if they are family. Otherwise they like the men can drop their gifts and go.
The baby is yours mostly it's only the mother in laws who can hold the baby beyond the mother for like three months.
In regards to jaundice...it's actually way more common than I realized. My experience was they will check baby's levels for whats called "bilirubin" and if it's too elevated they will wait a little and check again, if it's still too high they will have to be put under lights (I think called photo therapy?) and monitored for several hours to see if the levels come down and stay down. If babe has jaundice it makes their skin and eyes look yellowish. A moderate level of bilirubin is not a huge concern, they will just recommend lots of breastfeeding and some sunlight but if it's too high it could be harmful to baby's brain development.
Ive had a C-section and a natural birth, with tearing . Same amount of blood for both. Intense pain for both, just different pain for sure. If i could choose to have one or the other its honestly a toss up. As for trying to get sleep in the hospital take advantage of the nursery. Once baby falls asleep you can ask nurse to take them to the nursery and bring them back when they need to eat. This helped me to get 2 hours of sleep. I had been up all day then went into labor the early AM, so I had no rest at all. My mom very generously took 2 weeks off of work to watch my 3 year old so we could focus on baby. While we still love her of course its hard to juggle when you have a toddler and newborn. I have depressed and when she was born my post pardom depression was really bad so my mom thought it would help out a lot. And it really did, because my depression was really intense the second time around. My mom also planned dinner for us for the first 2 week from different family members and friends, each night someone brought us dinner.
I Wish we could have stayed in the hospital longer with the natural birth because of the pain, I would have liked the extra help. But because of the pandemic we felt a rush to go home. My husband wanted out fast.
I always had stiches. Didn't hurt too much but I think it's because I didn't tear much. I think this is where a good doctor helps a lot.
And taking a shower was ABSOLUTE FREAKING BLISS!!
Not pregnant but I am devouring this series 😂
I had an a traumatic labor that ended in an emergency c-section. The first 48h where not fun at all. I didn’t feel much for my baby and I had invasive thoughts about harming him and myself. I was in pain and was stuck in bed. I couldn’t sleep well and couldn’t have any more pain killers because I was already on maximum dose. The meds made me feel so strange. Thankfully, breastfeeding went relatively well. It took at least 6 weeks for me to start to feel a bit better mentally. Now, 7 months later, I am still struggling but I can see that I am slowly getting better. All this to say that sometimes things don’t go well and you don’t get the experience that you wished for, but throughout it all God will be with you. If you are struggling like I was, know that you are not alone and that it will get better. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Jaundice is actually pretty common in babies, 6 out of 10 babies will be born with jaundice but the baby would be kept in a bed with blue lights in the hospital (looks like a tanning bed lol) and they’ll be fine in a couple of days depending on their bilirubin levels :D. I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby wish me luck lmao I’m kinda terrified of the postpartum part.
My nurses after my second birth would only come into the room if they could hear that my son was awake 😍 best nurses ahah
What I didn't expect: how slow time passes. How the days just seem like month, the midwife visits every day but every time I was like "so much happened since you were here last time!" even tho all you did was stare at your newborn all day
the intro to this video was one of the most precious things i’ve ever seen :’)
So much surprised me I could write a book. The sleep deprivation was the absolute hardest. My son wouldn’t sleep without me and he NEVER took to a bottle. Ever. So I had to exclusively breast feed and no one could help me. He nursed constantly! I could never describe how tired I was and I’m so grateful and can’t believe I made it through the first year. I was also surprised with how much anxiety I would have to keep him safe. That hasn’t gone away and he’s 3. I’m not the easy going care free mama I’d thought I’d be lol We are seriously SUPERWOMEN especially those who do it without any support at all
I think I was also surprised with how able I was to mother 😂 I thought it would be really really difficult to tell what my baby wants but I actually always knew what she wanted and I was so proud of myself for having that intuition. That's just me though! It depends on the baby, and my little girl is definitely an easy baby!
I was always worried about not knowing what to do immediately. Thanks for your comment!
I was due yesterday and still waiting for our first baby. This is nice to pass time waiting for her to join us!
I’m so happy for you that the first 48 hours were so blissful and joyful! Personally, I felt very overwhelmed and emotional and felt like my baby didn’t like me because every time I held him he cried (really I just didn’t know how to hold him but when you’re freshly postpartum everything feels like the end of the world). I also failed to get him to latch and couldn’t breastfeed properly so I felt like a failure every time I had to feed him because he would end up just being given a bottle of formula after 2 hours of attempting to nurse. I cried when we were leaving because I didn’t know how I would care for him without the help of the nurses. He is 6 months now and we’re doing great but postpartum was very dark for me and I know this is common for many women as well. ❤️
The bleeding after C-sections is a bit less because the Uterus is getting slightly „abraded“ while removing the Placenta. Therefore the bleeding is usually a bit less and lasts shorter.
I was surprised at how many pads I went through - I knew about the bleeding but was not prepared for how much actually came out constantly 😂
I’m currently 1 week postpartum, and I was not expecting all of the emotions! I knew I would feel so many, but I didn’t realize they would come on suddenly for no reason. I was most surprised by the random crying! Haha. ❤️
Such good timing on this video! I'm due July 13th with my first! Thank you for your informative video:)
I'm obcessed with your channel!
>Love from a young mom from Portugal 💖
due in 3 weeks with my first baby....i am l o v i n g this series!!! thank you for sharing 🤍
Haven't had a bub yet but these videos are so helpful to have realistic expectations of birth and all that comes with it!
OMG I love Canada! Free healthcare and all that attention after birth! Down here in Mexico they take the baby out and you are out the next morning, you have an appointment with the pediatrician the first month and that’s it, no attention to the mom unless you hire a Doula or take breastfeeding classes
In Brazil too 😞
Enjoyed this! Very educational
One thing I was surprised about was that I had zero after pains with birth! I had no cramping at all. I also took my ibuprofen right on time for the first few days though. Another thing that surprised me was engorgement pain and how much laundry we went through because my milk got everywhere!!
Yes! I kept soaking our sheets I ended up sleeping on a towel for the first month 😂
@@kellyhorvatin SAME!! Slept on a towel a lot 😂 also when I was so tired in the middle of the night I would shove whatever was closest to me in my bra (burp cloth, onesie, socks whatever lol) to soak up the milk and pass back out 😂
Omg zero sleep for 48 hrs! 😫 My first coming in Sep! Hopefully a homebirth gives me some sleep! 😄
My baby was slightly jaundice, but it showed up when he was a few days old. We were told to manage it with fluids, so we had to feed him every two hours and then "top him up" with an ounce in a bottle ( the haaka was super helpful for this because we would just bottle feed him the let down from my other side). Within two weeks it was flushed out of his system.
What surprised me was the LACK of after birth pains. I was expecting horror and...that was not what I got. I had little to no pain with all 3 of mine...and I was SO thankful! I never took a pain pill or even really noticed the pain. Mild cramping at worst.
I also 100% agree with limiting visitors. We had a free for all with our 1st, cut back with out 2nd, the only allowed my parents and our daughters with the 3rd. It was SO much more relaxing with less guests!! I was skin to skin with my 3rd for days and it was heaven
Jaundice. My baby had it the first 2-3 months luckily it was just "breast milk jaundice" and had nothing to do with how my sons body processed. Bilirubin is the substance that causes jaundice. Breast milk jaundice just meant my milk was missing something to help my son flush the bilirubin out of his system. My son was prescribed vitamin d drops and be supplemented with plenty of walks in the sunshine where his skin could soak in the vitamin d. At least two times during those first few months we had to get his bilirubin levels tested with a heel prick. Those tests were the worst when they squeeze the blood out of his heel to fill the vile and he would just scream his little head off. It went away with treatment, but if I better remembered to give him his vitamin drops it could have gone away sooner. (He didn't like the taste so I usually snuck it into a bottle of milk.)
About jaundice, my little sister had it when she was born. She just was under a blue light(maybe UVs but not sure) for a big part of the first days(like two or three days). It wasn't such a big deal according to what I remember. She just looked like a roasted chicken lol.
I was like, did I somehow go back in time😂
Our baby was jaundice but they just kept an eye on it and it passed after the first week. I think it’s only the more serious cases that have to be put in the light machine. Jaundice is very common and complications, though serious, are very rare.
Wow. Elosie has become so grown up so quickly this year.
What surprised me the most is that I didn’t die and I was ok and not in pain just got up got dressed and was like before just with a baby. Also it surprised me that no one came and said ‘you are an impostor! You don’t know what you are doing! You can’t keep the baby’ 😂😂😂 I really felt serious imposter syndrome. Third think the blood dots around my eyes from pushing just lots of red dots. They have gone in few days.
I was admittedly a little intimidated by the postpartum period, and did lots of research about my own body and healing in addition to the usual pregnancy and birth reading. I was prepared for the worst case scenario, but thankfully did not experience any pain, tearing, uterus contractions, 'baby blues,' or pelvic floor dysfunction. Honestly the worst part of healing was how weird & wobbly my core felt for the first couple months as my abdomen stitched back together!
Love this and saving for later!
You raised a lot of important matters and gave good information about life in the first hours after birth. Many women are speaking up since the pandemic hit about hoping that when it's over they do not have to go back to having everybody and their uncle at the hospital. They have horror stories of family members, friends, in-laws showing up at the hospital while they are still exposed in stirrups and they stare at their private parts and start passing the infant around when the parents have not even held the baby or done skin to skin bonding with it yet. This is not necessary. This is not yet another place for people with too few commitments to decide to hold another party to keep their minds and hands occupied. People can wait a day or two until everyone is home from the hospital and call the home to see when would be a good time to visit. And never just show up at the hospital or at home. Apparently, way more women than you would think feel traumatized and in shock by not having time to talk privately with their husband or the baby nurse or their OB/GYN before the hordes arrive to party hearty. It's a problem that the mothers must discuss with their husbands and doctors ahead of time and have a No Visitors sign posted or have their husband's support in no one coming to see the baby until all are home safely with no problems still being resolved or meds to be bought, etc. I would not want to feel in the way if there were a crisis with the mother or baby's health and those crop up fairly frequently in the first hour or so after the birth and while passing placenta.
Very helpful thank you!
aww, i really wish i would have filmed everything from my labor and delivery, at least for myself, i wish i could go back to see it like this at the moment i was like "ahh im in pain!" 😂❤️
Always wait for ur videos..love u eloise so much
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us! 🥰
We had jaundice with our girl. She was born at 36 weeks and it is apparently common if the baby comes early. They checked her bilirubin every day, don't remember if even twice a day. The nurses made me feed her every 3 hours even if she didn't wake up herself, do feeding weighing and also supplement with doner milk. On the third day of her life she got on the blue light, which was like a panel that they stuck into her bassinet and had a zipper swaddle on top. We were not allowed to take her out for anything else than feeding and a diaper change. All in all we were at the hospital for 6 days and on the 8 day mark we had to go for a checkup blood test to make sure the bilirubin went down.
First 48 hours was sleepless , tired , sore the thoughts how am I supposed to take care of myself AND this new little life ? I was so tired ! But yet I couldn’t find my way to sleep cause right then an there I knew that the only thing that mattered was my baby and no matter how exhausted I was I found myself not sleeping an able to stay awake and I didn’t know I was capable to stay awake even 48 hours without sleep and I knew right then an there “ ur a mother ur officially super mom ” and my instinct of motherhood naturally took over and it wasn’t just me it was mom me and i loved that feeling , I also didn’t expect such Breast pain an doing daily normal things turned into being so hard the first few weeks !
Love the video! It's so heart warming!!!❤
My son had jaundice when he was born. He had to spend a couple of days under the purple lights with an eye mask on. Ended up with pretty impressive tan! Even after his treatment it took a few weeks for the whites of his eyes to lose the yellow colour.
By the way I used Evening Primrose oil because of your suggestion on your video to naturally induce labor. At 41 weeks I gave birth so fast and hard. But the recovery was much faster too!
I never got a handle of the haakaa. I sprayed so much during my let down. All my focus went towards not choking and spraying my baby in the face lol.
I had pancreatitis and was hospitalized as a result of being pregnant and giving birth and having those pains were ten times more painful than birth, after birth recovery, etc. When I had my first pancreatitis attack that pain left me paralyzed and I had my 6 week old baby with me and I couldn’t get to him and my husband was in the middle of seeing a movie (not his fault as I had no signs of anything before he left). All our friends and family live three hours away so I had to call an ambulance and try to soothe my baby from another room till they arrived while I was in excruciating pain and trying not to cry to not make him scared. Birth was so hard but that was ten times more painful and after two attacks got my gallbladder removed and that was that! Pregnant with my second currently and looking forward to birth and baby number two!
Hey I love the video! But I do wish that within the title or on the thumbnail it was said that this video was a Q&A, or even if it said it was part of your series. That way it is easy to notice.
You look amazing today 🙂
I don’t even want to be a mum but these kinds of videos are so interesting!
In my experience bleeding is a little bit worse after a c section because for the first day or so you are in bed until someone helps you up. So clotting can sometimes occur during that time.
I remember sitting was so painful it felt very sore. So the icy pads were ahhhhhmazing 😍❄️
goodness gracious i’m glad i didn’t get those after pains 😅 i never really had cramps or anything post pardum. i was just sore occasionally but it didn’t last long at all
I've had a natural birth with shoulder dystocia and a c section with my second and I found the bleeding to be worse with a natural but would choose natural over a c section if I hadn't had complications the first time. Recovery is just so much faster with a natural birth xxx
I recently found out I'm pregnant so watching this for research into what to expect, thanks
soooo informative!
**RESPONSE TO THE JAUNDICE QUESTION:
Both of my babies had jaundice after birth. Jaundice is very common and some babies get sent home and you don't have to do anything but get it rechecked a day or two later, as long as their bilirubin levels stay low, and continue to get lower each day. (bilirubin is a substance that is created when your babies red blood cells break down after birth. The liver and kidneys typically break it down on their own and it is expelled through baby's pees and poops).
My first had "breastfeeding jaundice" a form of jaundice where baby has a hard time latching or is too tired to eat. They don't eat as often and the jaundice makes them more sleepy, making it harder for them to eat and because they arent eating they aren't peeing and pooping the bilirubin out of their body. They check for jaundice based on color of baby (mine were a yellowish/red), blood test, and they can use a machine placed baby's baby's head that looks like a thermometer and it reads the levels too.
When we went home, her levels were pretty high. Borderline on being able to go home or not. 2 days later we came in for a check and her levels jumped up very high. She still had issues eating and I had to pump and bottle feed her as well as supplement formula to get her to eat. We had to take home a phototherapy light bed and keep her in the bed 24/7 except to eat or change a diaper. It was so sad.. she would cry and fuss and want to be held but I couldn't. For 5 days we did this. Every day going to hospital to be checked again until her levels were normal and going down.
With my 2nd, she was jaundice for a different reason, she was COOMBS positive. Meaning our blood types weren't compatible. Mine is 0+ hers is A+. Her body had to work extra hard to rid my blood cells from her body, making her produce more bilirubin than normal. She was put under lights in the hospital in our room and was on them for about 5 days after at home untim her levels were going down regularly. Some people only need baby on lights for 1 day or 2 days. It varies with each baby. It is hard, but don't be too fearful of it because before you know it, it will be over and you wi get endless snuggles again. It is hard though going through it. Knowing you can't do anything to comfort your baby when they just want snuggles. But, my 2nd daughter loved it. She just looked cozy comfy in that bed and it made that week so much easier knowing she wasn't upset and wanting mommy. Hope that helps!
I will add, the reason they make you do lights as needed is because if bilirubin builds up and the levels are too high too long, it can cause brain damage. Our pediatrician was actually upset that our older daughter wasn't hospitalized and placed under lights in the hospital because of how high her numbers were when we were sent home. But typically jaundice isn't a serious thing. The nurses can explain it to you if you are faced with it 😁
Hi I had a csection with my first son and a vbac with my second son and my daughter( she was born almost 6 weeks ago). I didn’t bleed as much or as long as I did with my vaginal births. But the recovery was so much worse, coughing and sneezing made me feel like my scar was going to rip open! It was horrible!
If you don't mind my asking, how was your vbac experience? I had a c section with my first but would love nothing more than a natural pregnancy with future babies
Ashley S I prefer a vbac way over a csection. I did hemorrhage with my 1st vbac and had to have a blood transfusion, also they had to use forceps which was not fun but the recovery was so much better! My 2nd vbac was amazing! My baby’s tend to be posterior so that’s why the doctor had to use forceps with my 1st vbac, but I had a doula with my 2nd vbac and she had me do different positions during labor to get our little girl in the right position. With my daughter we were only at the hospital for two hours before she was born! Lol it was amazing, I had a natural delivery with no interventions.
Wow so early. Love you videos. I have a 8 month old boy. We're from Mexico. Best wishes and God bless your beautiful family ❤️
Hope you are doing wellll! Mine first comes in Sep! 🙃
Yes, our baby had bad jaundice! We had a horrible hospital that wasn't very baby friendly and didn't communicate well with us or take good care of our baby, and I was very sick after a hard delivery. Our baby was so malnourished when we left the hospital that we had to turn around and take her back to the hospital the next day. As new parents, we didn't know when to speak up or what wasn't normal, but we knew something was wrong with our daughter when we couldn't wake her up to feed. She was sent home with a billi blanket so that we didn't have to hospitalize her. She had to wear a lil mask and looked like an X-Men character. After a week she was much improved.