One thing I didn't expect was how much I would fall MORE in love with my husband. Watching him become a dad was really powerful. I was surprised that my heart changed not only becoming a mom but becoming parents as a team. ALL THE FEELS! ❤
Oh yes! And vice versa :) my husband did not look at me with such love on our wedding day 😂 but during labor, and after, when he was holding our baby boy... My God, the look of love in his eyes was like no other. Not just for the baby but for me, he looked at me like a was the most beautiful female warrior in the whole world and it felt amazing :) our love is so much stronger since that moment
Biggest thing I didn’t expect: death. I didn’t think that during the whole ordeal of an emergency c-section at 32 weeks that myself or my son was in any danger. I just knew I didn’t feel right as they wheeled me in and put me under. My doctor and surgeon both informed me that I had hemorrhaged so badly that I was technically dead for 1:32. All I recall is a peaceful moment being enveloped in black. No bright light, no tunnel, no hand reaching for me or loved ones waiting. Just peace. And then searing pain in my chest and abdomen. The first moments of coming to in recovery after I awoke was my angel of a nurse saying “welcome back mama, don’t move or speak. I’m here right by your side. Your baby is beautiful and he’s doing just fine. He can’t wait to see you so you keep holding on mama.” I didn’t get to see him for almost an entire day except for a picture my husband took. When I did it get to see him it was only for a moment, I didn’t get to hold or touch him for at least 48 hours. Fast forward almost 2.5 years later he is as healthy as can be and the happiest little boy I’ve ever met. We welcome his brother in a few weeks and I’m not as scared this time around, but I have everything in order in the off chance that something happens again and they can’t get me back. Being prepared for the worst is somehow soothing to me. Everything goes according to His plan and I learned you just have to let go and let Him lead you.
That also happened to me. Was able to see him about 8 hrs later thankfully but it was 2 days when he was moved into my room. Couldn't stop the bleeding so put a balloon in there. That was the most painful. Thankfully I dont recall most of my 47 hr active labor.
My heart shattered when I started reading your comment, I thought the outcome would be much darker. I'm so glad your baby boy is healthy and thriving and I'm so glad you pulled through. God is so good. I'm 22 weeks pregnant and struggling with anxious thoughts about all that could go wrong during the rest of my pregnancy or during delivery. Letting go isn't easy, but I'll pray about it. God bless you and your family!
Don’t forget everyone: sometimes you don’t feel that overwhelming love and joy first thing. Doesn’t mean you don’t love your precious baby! Don’t feel bad if you didn’t feel that way at first 🤍
Emma Cochran thanks for saying this. I felt hardly anything for my baby for the first six weeks. I had an urgent c-section after ten hours of strong labour and ended up traumatized from something my midwife did to me that caused so much pain. I cared for him out of duty, but did not feel love for him. I thought something was wrong with me, but now I know that I was just wounded and I needed time to get through things. People talk about the « rush of love » a lot but not enough people talk about the fact that not all women experience this.
I didn't have the rush of love, either! I mean, I would have jumped in front of a bus to save her, and I was SO happy to finally have her in my arms and not stuck in my birth canal. But birth was physically traumatic and so exhausting, and it just took time to settle into myself again and to get to know her. 10 months later? I feel that overwhelming love. OH do I feel it! Give yourself lots of grace and tenderness through pregnancy, birth, and especially postpartum. These are some of the most magnificent moments known to mankind but also the most trying. Good things come at such a great cost. It takes some time to recover.
I just had a miscarriage and for whatever reason these types of videos are so helpful. Almost like I'm mourning my child and the experiences we missed together, so getting to kinda be a part of others experience is a blessing. Thank you so much for sharing ❤
I just gave birth a little over 5 weeks ago, so I am still processing the experience. I had a natural hospital birth and over all loved it! A few things I didn’t expect: 1. The intensity of back labor! I didn’t even experience pain in my abdominal area- I was hardly aware of it. I spent each contraction loudly repeating “Back! Back!” Until my husband, mom, and/or mother in law found the right place for counter pressure. 2. How fast the time went by once we went to the hospital. I labored at home for about 17 hours, so once we got to the hospital and I got checked I was already 5 cm dilated! I still labored for about 6 more hours, but it went by in such a blur! Especially pushing. Apparently I pushed for an hour, but to me I swear it felt like only 15 minutes! Which brings me to my next unexpected... 3. How much I LOVED pushing! After I was fully dilated and my contractions weren’t all in my back, I felt great. My midwife brought a squat bar and I mostly pushed while squatting, and I can’t explain how, but I just loved pushing. I was finally able to actively do something! 4. That I would be having a boy! My husband and I decided to have a surprise birth and I am so glad we did. It was so exciting and was a big motivator for ever step of my labor. 5. How much humor still had a part in this intense event. There was lightheartedness throughout my labor and I am so thankful for that! I know this is a long comment, but I just could talk about my experience forever. Thanks for reading if you made it this far!
I'm not pregnant, I'm not anywhere getting pregnant, I don't even have a boyfriend to begin with 😅 But I enjoyed every single second of this video - definitely one of the most educating ones I've ever seen! Thank you for being so open, honest and transparent 💛
... just gotta say, I hear its a lot easier in your 20s than in your 30s! My last birth MESSED ME UP. But it's so amazing having these little ones in my life, no way would I stop. I just wish I had started at 25 instead of 30.
Love this! I have had two unmedicated vaginal deliveries and they were both completely opposite! My 1st was 42 weeks 3 days at a birthing center( my labor started in the birthing tub and for some reason the water stopped contractions😔)and I was in labor for 34 hours(yikes) dlivered a 8lb 6 oz baby girl thankfully did not tear at all🙏 2nd go around I delivered a 6 pound 4 oz baby girl 36 weeks in only 13 Hours! My water broke as a hurricane was passing through our town and I had to deliver via midwife at a medical university( our birth center was evacuated due to the storm). Both experiences were crazy and unique in their own way and the Lord was guiding me 100%! I'm also a very quiet laborer and also practiced breathing techniques 👌
I wasn't expecting to be that easy, to be honest. My sister, who gave birth two times, "prepared me" and said that the first labor is so painful, like nothing I would ever experience in my life. So trough the whole labor I was dosing my energy and I kept praying to God to give me the strength and the power to resist because the worse has not come yet. And suddenly I felt the urge to push and I found myself giving birth. It was awesome. Painful of course, but not that bad. And absolutely awesome. I felt so powerful and grateful. I kept repeating to myself that God would never give me more than I can handle. And He didn't. He knew exactly how much I can take. What an amazing Father we have, right?
Biggest thing I didn’t expect was the feeling of my lungs going back to their normal position after birth when I sat up for the first time. I got so dizzy and out of breath.
I've been watching you for years, Delilah, and I don't usually comment (introvert over here). But I consistently think to myself, 'I love her. I don't know her, yes, but she has a beautiful, godly spirit.' Keep being yourself, from your sister in Christ x
It took 2 and a half hours of pushing, so when my son came out, all I could think about was how relieved I felt and completely forgot there was a baby 😂
Alexis Simmons yess! I cried so long after cause it was just SO many feelings, SO much love and SO much relief all at once, didn’t quite expect that and when I think back now I hope people didn’t think I was sad hahah cause they were happy tears that just couldn’t stop 😂
@@adamandnoahsadventures621 I was worried because I never felt like I had a connection with him while I was pregnant, but that sure changed when I saw him and held him!
I agree... till they put my son in my arms I was just like whatever! I am going to have no connection to my kid. Than as soon as they put him on my if was the best feeling!
My water broke on a full moon. I got to the hospital right before everyone else did. The hospital was full of pregnant women whose waters broke. That night the hospitals main waterline broke. So, the hospitals water literally broke.
I love how informative, raw and real, and yet also comical this was. Luna was born on October Friday the 13th 2017. I went into labor on her due date and had her two days later. Labor for me was so much like your labor with Theo. I knew what to expect from boredom-researching and watching TONS of vaginal births to know how to go through it properly myself. I wasn't naive to the possibility of complications, but I needed to know so I researched a lot haha. I labored at home for most of it and it wasn't very bad tbh. The part that I didn't expect of it all was the pain. It wasn't unbearable the way everyone says. It was bad, don't get me wrong, but I knew to breathe, I knew aromatherapy and music helped, my stepbrother and I danced through the contractions, I had a double for the tough parts when my mom and stepdad were sleeping and my contractions got closer together and faster and more painful where I wouldn't handle it solo. I also was so excited to meet my first child and knew the pain was the only way there, so it was good. My doula, Sam, and I woke up my family and we all went walking (at 4am) across the street to the little outlet mall there. That's what really kicked the contractions up. I got to the point where I couldn't walk full speed, then to the point of having to almost stop, then to where I couldn't move a muscle and just had to breathe and count 1,2,3,4,5,6 in and 1,2,3,4,5,6 out about 3 times and the pain peaked and I could start walking again as it eased up. We walked back and I labored a little longer at home until I could no longer stay silent during my contractions and had to bite a pillow and groan into it. (I lived at my moms after getting out of a very abusive relationship with Luna's father at 8 months along..only 1 month prior. So I was still feeling like a guest and a burden. That's my only regret.) (Haha as I write this my period cramps are going from 1st hear to 2and haha 😂 A fresh reminder of early labor pains hahaha). I got to the point where I couldn't keep from making this quiet scream into a blanket I had folded up, then my mom asked if I wanted to go to the hospital, I said I want to walk around it. (Mind you, the hospital was literally across the street from her apartment, so it was walking distance and convenient to walk like a shark circling its prey haha). I called my doctor to update them and allow them time to get my room ready, we drove there, walked around a couple times, and I was ready to be done. I hardly slept for 3 days prior to labor, then was up all night the night before, and later remained awake for 2 more days taking care if my baby alone..night feedings haha. So I was tired! And over it!! We checked in, I got checked, I was at 7 and still felt good enough during those 3 or 4 minutes between the mountains of pain to joke around and crack up my nurses. My next check came and I was at a 10 on one side of my cervix and a 9 on the other side. That was also unexpected, all my research and I am the only person I know who's experienced that. But not the doctors. They knew what to do. They flipped me on my side and held my bent leg up like 90° and it went right to a full 10. But being on my hands and knees reversed on the hospital bed hiking my leg up made the pain worse (as if it COULD get worse) and I wanted the laughing gas. It doesn't ease the pain, just the mentality. It kept me calm when I was to the point of doing a constant breathing exercise during and between all the contractions. (Your uterus aches between contractions from the insane workout it's getting, and more peoole need to be aware and prepared for that. I wasn't and losing that precious relieving time drained me mentally and took me to a place where I felt it would never end. They also gave me a lavendar aromatherapy sticker patch for my chest. Then it happened....I needed to poop. Or so I thought! I got up, IV and monitor wires and all, and get to the bathroom door when I was stopped by the hardest contraction I ever had. It was so bad that, to this day that is the only one I remember. It felt like I had to poop an elephant and I fought that elephant knowing it was the baby. I fought that contraction so hard I squeezed and my water broke right there. I was standing next to my nurse when this hot splash fell out of me and all over our feet. All I could think was, Oh no her shoes! We laughed and I said that was AWESOME!!!! She busted up over that, no one has ever said that to her haha. Then I went to the bathroom and peed, passed out between contractions right there, of course my mom got that picture lol. After that it was go time. My body did that push when it's ready thing as I was getting in the bed, let me tell you..that was scary and hurt haha. I laid down and the midwife had the big mirror set up behind her, they were angling it for me to see, my stepdad and step brother were there saying they couldn't see anything in it, my mom was holding my left leg, and a nurse was holding my right leg. I pushed calmly enjoying the relief it gave me. Watching the progress really helped motivate me. I am forever grateful for my midwife holding a cloth over my butthole haha. No one needs to see that when I push and I had that big mirror too. I only pushed during 3 contractions and she came out. It was pretty fast, but felt like an hour. I had hamstring Charlie horses from how I pushed, so I changed from flexing my legs to doing sort of a squat into my nurse's belly and my mom's belly. They supported my feet to change with me, and I'm so grateful they picked up on that need for me. Instantly it helped and hurt less. Luna's head crowned and my midwife asked if I wanted to feel her head, I said yes and instantly thrust my hand down to let her guide it. That was absolutely insane to feel and see simultaneously haha. Then I got a burst of energy and motivation and pushed her whole head and shoulders out fast. You weren't kidding about how relieving that feels haha. No cord around her neck, I was asked if I wanted to pull her out. Heck yes I did, so she guided my hands to under Luna's armpits and helped me pull while I pushed. Everyone helped guide her to my chest. She cried for a moment, lifted her head to see me, the land it down and got calm listening to my heart (my guess is it was familiar and relaxed her). The cord was so short it pulled upwards and it felt like it was in a tear that I didn't actually have. I pushed the placenta out and the midwife showed me and detailed its anatomy, which fascinates me being in the medical field myself. She asked if I wanted to keep the placenta and I said no not knowing why I would want to. But having researched placenta encapsulation I will always say yes. I got an hour of skin to skin, then they clamped her limp white noodle-looking cord (I researched that later too and found out how good delayed clamping is), then she asked me if I wanted to cut the cord myself. It's normally the guy's job, but he wasn't in the picture so I wanted to do it being her mom and dad symbolically. My doula Sam buzzed around from beginning to end taking as many photos as possible, my mom too until it was time her her to help hold my leg, and the hospital said they might rethink their policy on recording births after how well I did. they kept telling me I was a rockstar and wished they could've filmed it for educational purposes. I would've liked to have it recorded too because I have a hard time remembering these little details (typing it all out right now brings it back ❤). But I sort of blacked out everything around me once I got her on my chest. My world suddenly transformed and everything blurred outside of her and I. All I could do freshly having pulled her out (prior to skin to skin and nursing) was keep a hand around her neck and shoulders looking at her face and body bewildered at what I just made while my other hand held onto her whole butt so she didn't fall. I clearly remember squishing her booty with my fingers laughing about how soft and squishy she was. I had an abrasion too from that speedy exit she made. If I could change a thing I would have a loving husband there with me, be able to record, and take the placenta home. Other than that, it was perfect. And yes I would definitely do it again. ❤❤❤
I gave birth 10 months ago, and actually one of the things that helped me most was the breathing exercise that you showed in your birth vlog! My labor was completely awful- induction, 36 hours long, contractions 2 minutes apart for 24 of those hours- BUT I coped with it because of that breathing exercise. The nurses actually didn’t believe me when I said I was in pain because I was able to keep calm and manage pretty well with that breathing exercise. So THANK YOU! I recommend it to all my mama friends. 🧡
Thank you so much for talking about remembering the pain and what that's like after the fact! My husband and I just started trying and truly the thing that terrifies me the most is being able to handle the pain level. So soothing to hear you say that the memories that stick with you are the good, intimate, loving ones. THANK YOU
Even though I’ve never met you. I love and appreciate you so much for being so honest about life, motherhood, marriage, and everything in between. You’re amazing Delilah ❤️
yes please please part 2! I'm so torn about wanting to get pregnant myself because I'm a big wimp when it comes to pain & needles but these vidoes make it a fair bit more tempting. I really appreciate your complete honesty
I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and I’m still not fully convinced there is a person inside of me, even though I feel him move around all the time 😂 I think it will be quite surprising when he comes out!
It's gonna be the most amazing thing you've ever done, birthing and then getting to know that little boy. Congratulations! PREPARE for postpartum as much as you can!
I recently found out I am pregnant With my first. 7 1/2 weeks along! I’ve been watching your channel for a year now, and am thankful for the realistic but positive perspective on birth... I’m a bit terrified of labor, but so excited to meet my little one!
I had my two girls at home. Midwife didn’t make it for either, so my husband delivered both. In our bathroom. There were no complications, and after all that happened, I’m glad it was just me and my husband who got to meet our girls for the first time. And he got to play a huge part in the birth of our babies. I’m almost 18 weeks with baby #3, and we are having another homebirth, and tho we always plan and hope for a midwife to be present, at least my husband knows what he’s doing if it happens so fast again😉 This home of ours isn’t very big, it definitely needs some updating, but it’ll be so hard when we move from it, as it was the home our babies were born in, it was the home we lost and mourned our baby we lost. It is where we met our first baby, and our rainbow baby in. Homebirths are so amazing, there’s no nurses or doctors, running off all that great vernix off the baby (which is so good for there skin, and idk why when I watch birth vlogs in the hospital, nurses are surrounding baby rubbing them with towels, idk be like get your hands off I’m meeting my baby for the first time!) as soon as baby was out, my husband gave the baby to me and we bonded for hours before we were separated.
I got to pull my baby out on my own and it was amazing! I'm like you - in the moment, I just wanted to push so that it could all be over but my midwife remembered that I had wanted to do this from our pre-natal appointments and kind of encouraged me to focus and reach down. She had the head and shoulders out and sort of guided them up a bit so that I could easily see and grab my baby. Definitely the best part of the experience and a rewarding ending to all of the hard work!
Your 2nd birth reminded me of my 4th. I was just so focused on relaxing EVERY part of my body and allowing my body to open up instead of tending up and keeping my body from naturaly doing what its design to do. I also had the feeling of my church family's prayers and the Lord helping me through it all. One thing I didnt except in my 4th was that after giving birth, which went SO smooth, I had a piece of my placenta that stayed behind and I wish I knew about " retained placenta" that it this could happen because that was the worst pain I have every felt in my life. Even worse then labour pain because my Dr had to reach her hands up into my uterus and scoop out whatever was left behind. Thanks so my for sharing your experiences 💜
Please film a part 2. I'm only 17 and I don't want children until I went to Uni/ about 25ish but I have babyfever already. The thought of having a baby is just so beautiful to me. But birth really really terrifies me. Hearing you talk about it really helps. Thank you 💛
Read Ina May Gaskin’s guide to childbirth. I was so terrified of birthing as well until I read her book. The first part of the book is just positive birth stories and the second part of informative on birth. As crazy as I sound, I couldn’t wait to birth after reading it. My first birth 6 days ago turned out to be such a non traumatic, good experience. I strongly believe that a non traumatic birth, regardless of how you birth, can only be achieved when you get rid of fear.☺️♥️
Biggest thing I didn’t expect, having a c section. I was prayerfully hoping for a natural unmedicated birth but God had planned for my first born son to emerge via belly. It’s still hard at times reflecting back, but I praise God my son arrived healthy and continues to remain healthy. Six months of pure joy and lots of growing as I learn how to be a mother. 💙
Here in approx 4-5 weeks I'll be giving birth to our first child and daughter. Thank you, Delilah for taking the time to make this video in what feels like just in the nick of time. I'm nervous, but attempting to negate my fears with positive affirmation and knowing that I can do what God has intended my body to do. Also, on another note, thank you for always taking the time to share your life's journey as a wife, mother and woman of God. I adore you, Delilah and all that you stand for. You may be younger than me, but you have so much wisdom to share and I am here for it.
We are due at the same time - I am also due in 4/5 weeks 😊 This is my second baby (10 years apart). Let me tell you darling - you will be ok. Focus on you, your baby and your beliefs, it will soothe you. You will smash this. You are going to be amazing! Congratulations when the time comes. I can't wait to meet my second daughter ❤
Thank you so much, Jennifer for your words of encouragement and pomposity. Also, congratulations on your newest blessing! I hope your birth journey goes well and smooth and that despite the hard times, that you will be able to enjoy your birth for all that it's worth. I will hold tight to the fact that when and where I go into labor, and how fast it progresses, is just all part of something bigger than myself.
Omg, I'm due in 3 to 4 weeks too. This is my first pregnancy and it's been way too hard on my body since im underweight. I cannot wait to give birth and just have him already.
I'm almost 38 weeks pregnant with my first child and idea of birth has been overwhelming at times.... you have no idea how much I needed this... Thank you Delilah ❤❤❤
I LOVE your authenticity and humility, just such a calm and encouraging presence. Even more so, your love for the Lord without seeming forced or awkward when sharing it. Thank you!
I definitely agree with you when you say the lord was with you the second time. Honestly even watching the birth vlog it’s the most calm birth Iv ever watched and you can just feel peace watching it.
I didn’t expect any of my labor, I desired a natural labor but ended up being induced, epidural due to blood pressure and then an emergency c-section! But in the same way you described, God gave me so much peace and joy, even as we rushed down the hall I had just walked up earlier that morning! It’s a space where you can only trust God and allow His grace to take you to the end! Love this video, love your videos, so thankful!
I had a long 36 hour birth. I was sent home twice during that period of time because the labour and delivery unit was at full capacity. But that wasn’t the most unexpected part. Without any medication, I progressed really slowly (water hadn’t ruptured/no further dilation) which is why I was sent home. But the second time I was sent home I got so emotional and managed to fall asleep from the exhaustion of all the contracting. I took a 1.5-2 hour nap. In that nap I dilated from 3 to 10 centimetres and my water broke. I literally woke up in pain and was RUSHED to the hospital where I gave birth 20 minutes after waking up from my nap. I will never fully understand what my body went through, but I am amazed and so thankful at how resilient it showed to be and have gained an enormous amount of confidence in myself as a woman and my connection to my body. 🌻
Support makes a whole world of difference. With my first daughter the nurses didn't take me seriously and had me wait in the waiting room for over an hour and I had her about 5 hours later. The doctor who delivered my first was definitely abusive she stitched me up and told me to "shut the f up". With my second the doctors and nurses were angels. I even was able to breastfeed my second because the second time around I had so much more support and my husband talked for me so they new exactly what I needed. Choose your hospital wisely it definitely matters.
Something I did not except as a first-time mama was my daughter being born 2 weeks early and staying in the hospital for 5 days. My water broke during week 37, but I didn’t go into labor, ended up getting induced, then hemorrhaged during delivery...leading to a longer hospital stay than planned for. But I wouldn’t trade any of that for the world because my precious daughter is almost 1, and she is the most special gift!
Love this. Literally sobbing right now remembering back to my birth while snuggling my babe who’s sleeping while I watched this ❤️ it truly is the best experience, painful but so so good! My most unexpected thing was when I finally let my husband hold him, probably about an hour after he was born, not on purpose just bc that’s how it ended up going with them getting me all stitched up and what not, giving him to my husband and he probably only had him about 3 minutes and I started crying, sobbing really, bc I had never been away from him that long and it felt so foreign, very very surreal feeling
Girl, i LOVED this video. Please give us a second! I totally agree about two things: first, how important can be your partner speaking for you when you can't. I remember clearly my husband asking for the epidural after three hours of me asking for it screaming to the midwife, and she was always "are you sure? Wait some, give it a try"... girl, i can't! The second thing i totally agree is how fast you forget the pain. I think that while recovering you forget every pain to save just all the beautiful feeling for your newborn. My recovery was so fast that after a week or so i was "ok, i can do this again. I'm not sure i want, but i could"
So I had an unexpected home birth...….yeah....first baby...3.5 hour labor.....caught her myself standing up (leaning over the bed). And soo many things you spoke about were exactly the same for me. I was completely calm. Such an amazing experience! I love these videos of yours
I had an unmedicated birth center birth with my 5-month-old girl. What I didn’t expect was that I was falling asleep between contractions toward the end of pushing because I was tired and so able to relax when I wasn’t actively pushing. I always thought people were lying when they said that happened! I loved giving birth!!
I’ve had 3 babies, all with pretty quick labors, my last labor was so fast I gave birth in the hospital bathroom alone 😬😂 my doctor didn’t arrive till 45 minutes after I had her.
Both of my labors were so different! With my first I went into labor naturally, lasted 12 hours, and had to push for two hours. I got an epidural right when I got to the hospital and what I didn’t expect was the catheter they have to insert into your bladder and it was sooo uncomfortable 😣 I was definitely more nervous about labor the second time knowing what was going to happen like you said! With my second I ended up getting induced at 41w3d and had my son 5 hours later. I waited to get an epidural until the pain was getting too intense and right after I got it I started progressing really quick. My body started pushing on its own and I didn’t even realize it, and only had to push for another 17 minutes. I probably could have done it in less time without the epidural, but it was still such a relief compared to my first time! Thank you so much for making this video. I love hearing others’ experiences and this is great to hear for those who have yet to give birth ❤️
My daughter came at 36 weeks. I finished my last shift at work at 10pm expecting atleast 4 weeks of relaxation and preparation, but nope- got in to bed at 11pm and my waters broke. The contraction pain was indescribable and I had to have an episiotomy but I would do it over and over again for that rush of love when you finally get to hold them in your arms ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about all of this! It definitely helped relieve some of the stress and anxiety I have around birth as a first time mom! I love your channel and seeing your adorable kids/Winston 😋 can’t wait to see you and Zach talk about his feelings and thoughts about birth/fatherhood!
excuse me while I sob over here. Your description of the feeling after giving birth is just so accurate! That moment of seeing your perfect tiny human is just…everything
Truth about birth is it really isnt bad or anything to be scared of. Try to do most of your labor at home though, it makes things go a lot quicker! (And I had an emergency c section)
I love this video. I love talking about birth and pregnancy because it was such a new experience for my body. Can't wait til the next video. You're awesome pray your staying safe!!
I had no idea that being “ready to push” felt like having to poop!! I didn’t want to tell the nurses that I had to poop, but then my body just took over and I pushed. The nurses went “Oh! It’s time!!” I had no idea 😂
I have had 3 beautiful home births. My first labour was 45 minutes and she was born breech! I did not expect to see her legs come out first! My second labour was 3 hours and was probably my hardest. My midwife said I pushed like she was my first baby! Then my third labour was 1 hour and 20 minutes long and I was so unbelievably present throughout it, I really loved bringing my son into the world. My daughters were both with me and my youngest actually took the most perfect photo of her brothers head coming out on her iPad, we couldn’t believe it! Home birth for me was not a scary experience at all. I had complete trust in my midwives but most of all, myself. There was nothing more comforting than hopping into the shower and climbing into my own bed after baby was born💕
I know it's a little naive 😅 but I wasn't expecting it to hurt as bad as it did with contractions. Experiencing them in my back and stomach really surprised me. But most of all I wasn't expecting to have my baby go to the NICU. I'm very blessed it was very very minor, but it's a reminder that no matter how much you plan, God has his own plans and you just have to trust that they are good! 🙌 Love you Delilah and as always I love your videos!! 💛✨
Some things I didn't expect (from a home birth perspective...: First time: not having the privacy I wanted in the sense of it being just my husband and I and my midwife of course. It made me nervous feeling like I had to "perform" I felt so much pressure, i just wanted the whole thing to end. So i feel like i missed out on that first birth experience. Second time: Water birth (definitely recommend if you can have that at your hospital, then go for it its amazing), my labor was a back labor so I didn't expect that. It was a different kind of pain, and I was just soooooo tired and sleepy by the time it was getting closer to push. Also, when it WAS time to push my body just took over, I did not experience that with my first, and this second time it was just my body doing its thing. I was also able to catch my own baby this time😍 So So beautiful!! And it was a private birth😉
I have a 2 years old girl and while pregnant I've been preparing for a vaginal birth. Unfortunately, due to medical reasons I had to give birth through a cesarean section. So I knew exactly what, when and how things will happen, as it was a planned operation. The one thing I was not prepared for was the bursting emotions that I will feel when I hear that first cry! My eyes are getting watery just by typing this down! It was such and overwhelming moment, filled with so much emotions. I knew I will love my baby more than everything, but I never ever expected that one can feel this much love... in like a second! Even before seeing my baby, only by hearing her cry!
I've been watching your videos for the past year and they make me want to be a mom so bad!! Thank you for being so informative and raw and just so sweet :)
With my first child I had a long labor of 15 hours and had an epidural, BUT with my second child! Was the FASTEST, I dilated from .5 cm to 9.5 in less then an hour and the nurses were not taking it serious. They even wanted to send me back home before checking and realizing it was time, they started getting everything ready and in less then a minute while still having to sign documents, she was born, without my OB doctor! So I went through that one without any medication, and I just felt that that was it for me😭 my husband was AMAZING! But in all honesty I’m so thankful God gave me the strength to experience a birth like that!
This was so informative. I haven’t had kids yet but this November will be 3 years of marriage with my husband, and the topic has come up! We’re both indecisive people, so I’m guessing we’ll wait a bit longer but these videos bring me so much joy thinking about our future! Thank you 💕
I haven't actually given birth, but I am looking forward to feel these things you describe with my loved one, so much. The miracle of life... sooo great. Thank you for all the valuable info. With love
39 weeks pregnant as a first time mom and hoping for a natural birth! Thanks for all the great information! Going with a water birth and hypnobirthing tools! Can't wait to hold my little person 🥰
Please, I’d love a part 2! ❤️ This had been very useful to me, I’m almost 27 weeks pregnant with my first child and even though I’m not freaking out yet, some facts are just handy to know.😊
Perfect timing! I'm 33 weeks preggo living in Toronto but with covid19 I'm scared of losing control... This video outs my mind at ease a bit. Also, that video quality thoughhhhhh Delilah I see you with that high quality content 😍😍😍😸❤️
As someone who had a very very different birth, almost polar opposite, this is so interesting to watch. My labour was just over 75 hours long, I had to be monitored constantly because my baby's heart rate kept dropping and ended up having to have an epidural because my contractions were 5 in 10 minutes and I was only 4cm dilated, which is NOT good, and eventually an emergency section and my baby was in an incubator for 8 days following the birth. So very different and it's amazing to see what fun and not-so-fun things I missed out on!!!
To clarify, it wasnt all awful; we were told our son could be in the incubator for upwards of 6 weeks becausehe had two holes in his lungs, but he was out in 8 days. Our little man fought so hard and healed so fast. He is amazing.
Dang it Delilah, you got me sobbing about meeting your baby for the first time... I'm twenty eight weeks and SUPER emotional lol. I dream of that moment nonstop and it's almost all I think about... I'm DYING to meet our little baby.
ive been kinda binging your videos tonight (this morning?) my husband and i are planning on having kids soon and i have soooo many questions and you have answered so many of them you are definitely by far the most informative from a experience perspective and i appreciate that
My son was born early at 30 weeks, so I wasn’t expecting/prepared for the entire thing! But I wasn’t expecting to not to have any pain relief but he came too quickly and there was no time! He’s a very healthy and happy 1 year old now 😊❤️
I really enjoyed your description of both births, I can relate so much to your description of quick labour.. I had to have an emergency c-section with my firstborn at 36 weeks - didn't expect that.. when we arrived at the hospital I was already 8cm dilated and he was a breech baby so I opted for the c-section... With my daughter I had a natural birth 4 weeks early. My water broke during sleep, that was so awkward.. I didn't have any contractions for like 4 hours after that but then it only took about 4 hours until she was born... it was a beautiful experience to have my daughter with me from the beginning on since I didn't have that experience with my son.. so, two completely different birthing experiences but I wouldn't change anything about them. The only thing I'm concerned about is that my pregnancies never lasted till the due date. Apparently my body doesn't like giving birth to big babies :D
Beautifully said about the feeling of holding your babies for the first time 🥰 I'm a first time mom to an 18 month old daughter 💕 I also didn't expect to forget everything around me and burst into tears the first time I held her. Please post a Part 2 because I can also go on for hours about this topic! 😅
Definitely part 2!! I love listening to your insights on anything and everything. I think something I didn’t expect was to have had my waters leak at 35+5 weeks on a Wednesday and be stuck in hospital without being able to go home till I gave birth on a Sunday evening, I was totally expecting to labor at home and be in my most comfortable environment then go to hospital once it was time. Then my son had severe jaundice and we were in hospital from the Sunday evening Phoenix was born till, Thursday evening we got to go home. I stayed with him in the special care unit till I could take him home, I loved my birth and pushing him out, I asked to feel his head because I wanted to know how much hair he had (lots) but the before and after birth was the not to nice part.
I was not expecting my water to break before I was in active labor! No joke it broke as I was talking to my chiropractor about wanting to just have this baby. It was pretty embarrassing as it was a huge amount of fluid. And it NEVER stoped coming out for hours. It was insane. Plus I wasn't aware I was going to pushing for three hours. I thought babies would just come out after a few pushes. Not the case at all! In total it was 23hrs of start to finish the last three hours was pushing. August third 2018 I gave birth to my son Leo. Thanks for sharing this video! I love when ladies can connect and share.
I have had 5 babies all boys. I thought it would be all over once the baby was out. I was surprised that I had to wait and then push the placenta out. Also after my other babies were born I wish I had always squatted and not had to lay on the table like I did with my first. I tore with my 1st but all the others I didnt really tear.
Would you mind telling me what was different and better with giving birth while squatting? I'm 22 weeks pregnant and when I think about delivering my baby lying flat on my back it doesn't appeal to me so I'm researching what other options I have.
@@lillie7847 when you're squatting gravity is helping you. (Sorry for my bad English) I always wanted to give birth on my hands and knees or squatting (well originally in the bath tub, but nothing goes according to your plan :D) But I wasn't able to push hard enough I think. (I was pushing for hours already) So they said I should lie on my back and hold my knees and hold my breath while pushing and do everything I thought was "wrong". But that was what worked for me. Didn't even tear. Greetings from Germany
I have given birth once so far but I follow many moms on here so I was able to get a feel of what to expect for labor but I was suprised at how intense back labor can be.. it was excruciating.. and also how quickly things can change! I went from 6cm to 10 in less then 30 minutes and it really is incredible how the womans body knows what to do because before they knew I was fully dilated I was asking to push I just knew I had to even though I had never done it! And I totally agree with how you described what it feels like to give birth lol towards the end when they realized I was ready to push my body was at the point where it was doing it on it's own and it was so hard to hold it back! Definitely would enjoy a part 2 video! 💕 Hope you had a lovely Easter 🐇
I have given birth! In a hospital with midwives. The one thing I was not expecting was how AWESOME it would be. I loved it! It was the most empowering, amazing experience of my life! And now I have my little Shamus and he is the love of my life! My wife and I are smitten!
I’ve never pooped on the table because my body naturally cleans itself before I start having active labor. I never knew that was a thing until it happened with my first and second baby!
Gid bless all of you mothers . Giving birth is the most painful thing I experienced. My mother gave birth to 10 children which all were born at home. God bless her as well, she was a wonderful , gracious and godly woman of great faith. Love you Irene.
I would LOVE to see a part 2! :D Also can't wait for the videos with Zach and Theo's birthday vlog. I can't believe you're almost at 200K! I remember when you were celebrating 100K
One thing I didn't expect was how much I would fall MORE in love with my husband. Watching him become a dad was really powerful. I was surprised that my heart changed not only becoming a mom but becoming parents as a team. ALL THE FEELS! ❤
Oh yes! And vice versa :) my husband did not look at me with such love on our wedding day 😂 but during labor, and after, when he was holding our baby boy... My God, the look of love in his eyes was like no other. Not just for the baby but for me, he looked at me like a was the most beautiful female warrior in the whole world and it felt amazing :) our love is so much stronger since that moment
Biggest thing I didn’t expect: death. I didn’t think that during the whole ordeal of an emergency c-section at 32 weeks that myself or my son was in any danger. I just knew I didn’t feel right as they wheeled me in and put me under. My doctor and surgeon both informed me that I had hemorrhaged so badly that I was technically dead for 1:32. All I recall is a peaceful moment being enveloped in black. No bright light, no tunnel, no hand reaching for me or loved ones waiting. Just peace. And then searing pain in my chest and abdomen. The first moments of coming to in recovery after I awoke was my angel of a nurse saying “welcome back mama, don’t move or speak. I’m here right by your side. Your baby is beautiful and he’s doing just fine. He can’t wait to see you so you keep holding on mama.” I didn’t get to see him for almost an entire day except for a picture my husband took. When I did it get to see him it was only for a moment, I didn’t get to hold or touch him for at least 48 hours. Fast forward almost 2.5 years later he is as healthy as can be and the happiest little boy I’ve ever met. We welcome his brother in a few weeks and I’m not as scared this time around, but I have everything in order in the off chance that something happens again and they can’t get me back. Being prepared for the worst is somehow soothing to me. Everything goes according to His plan and I learned you just have to let go and let Him lead you.
That also happened to me. Was able to see him about 8 hrs later thankfully but it was 2 days when he was moved into my room. Couldn't stop the bleeding so put a balloon in there. That was the most painful. Thankfully I dont recall most of my 47 hr active labor.
Wow Lindsay, this brought tears to my eyes. Your faith is extremely moving
My heart shattered when I started reading your comment, I thought the outcome would be much darker. I'm so glad your baby boy is healthy and thriving and I'm so glad you pulled through. God is so good. I'm 22 weeks pregnant and struggling with anxious thoughts about all that could go wrong during the rest of my pregnancy or during delivery. Letting go isn't easy, but I'll pray about it. God bless you and your family!
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20 hours later I saw my baby for first time. 4 months later, she is my biggest joy. ❤ love her more than myself. ❤
Haven’t given birth yet, I’m 34 weeks, but one thing I wasn’t expecting was a global pandemic 😂
You can do this :) you'll do great
Thank you Lynette ❤️❤️
29 weeks here, good luck!
Same 😭
Melody G good luck, everything will be great ♥️
Don’t forget everyone: sometimes you don’t feel that overwhelming love and joy first thing. Doesn’t mean you don’t love your precious baby! Don’t feel bad if you didn’t feel that way at first 🤍
Emma Cochran thanks for saying this. I felt hardly anything for my baby for the first six weeks. I had an urgent c-section after ten hours of strong labour and ended up traumatized from something my midwife did to me that caused so much pain. I cared for him out of duty, but did not feel love for him. I thought something was wrong with me, but now I know that I was just wounded and I needed time to get through things. People talk about the « rush of love » a lot but not enough people talk about the fact that not all women experience this.
I didn't have the rush of love, either! I mean, I would have jumped in front of a bus to save her, and I was SO happy to finally have her in my arms and not stuck in my birth canal. But birth was physically traumatic and so exhausting, and it just took time to settle into myself again and to get to know her. 10 months later? I feel that overwhelming love. OH do I feel it!
Give yourself lots of grace and tenderness through pregnancy, birth, and especially postpartum. These are some of the most magnificent moments known to mankind but also the most trying. Good things come at such a great cost. It takes some time to recover.
Just wrote about this in my comment! Yes!
Yeah I thought ew it's so gewy and the skin looks like an oversized tshirt Haha
I just had a miscarriage and for whatever reason these types of videos are so helpful. Almost like I'm mourning my child and the experiences we missed together, so getting to kinda be a part of others experience is a blessing. Thank you so much for sharing ❤
God bless you❤️
Right there with you
Praying ❤️
I just gave birth a little over 5 weeks ago, so I am still processing the experience. I had a natural hospital birth and over all loved it! A few things I didn’t expect:
1. The intensity of back labor! I didn’t even experience pain in my abdominal area- I was hardly aware of it. I spent each contraction loudly repeating “Back! Back!” Until my husband, mom, and/or mother in law found the right place for counter pressure.
2. How fast the time went by once we went to the hospital. I labored at home for about 17 hours, so once we got to the hospital and I got checked I was already 5 cm dilated! I still labored for about 6 more hours, but it went by in such a blur! Especially pushing. Apparently I pushed for an hour, but to me I swear it felt like only 15 minutes! Which brings me to my next unexpected...
3. How much I LOVED pushing! After I was fully dilated and my contractions weren’t all in my back, I felt great. My midwife brought a squat bar and I mostly pushed while squatting, and I can’t explain how, but I just loved pushing. I was finally able to actively do something!
4. That I would be having a boy! My husband and I decided to have a surprise birth and I am so glad we did. It was so exciting and was a big motivator for ever step of my labor.
5. How much humor still had a part in this intense event. There was lightheartedness throughout my labor and I am so thankful for that!
I know this is a long comment, but I just could talk about my experience forever. Thanks for reading if you made it this far!
I'm not pregnant, I'm not anywhere getting pregnant, I don't even have a boyfriend to begin with 😅 But I enjoyed every single second of this video - definitely one of the most educating ones I've ever seen! Thank you for being so open, honest and transparent 💛
me, a 17 year old not planning on having any kids until at least my 30s, reading all these comments like “oh gonna have to remember that”
ikr
me too!!!
Omg same im 16
... just gotta say, I hear its a lot easier in your 20s than in your 30s! My last birth MESSED ME UP. But it's so amazing having these little ones in my life, no way would I stop. I just wish I had started at 25 instead of 30.
Have your 1st born on your late 20s
Love this! I have had two unmedicated vaginal deliveries and they were both completely opposite! My 1st was 42 weeks 3 days at a birthing center( my labor started in the birthing tub and for some reason the water stopped contractions😔)and I was in labor for 34 hours(yikes) dlivered a 8lb 6 oz baby girl thankfully did not tear at all🙏
2nd go around I delivered a 6 pound 4 oz baby girl 36 weeks in only 13 Hours! My water broke as a hurricane was passing through our town and I had to deliver via midwife at a medical university( our birth center was evacuated due to the storm).
Both experiences were crazy and unique in their own way and the Lord was guiding me 100%! I'm also a very quiet laborer and also practiced breathing techniques 👌
I wasn't expecting to be that easy, to be honest. My sister, who gave birth two times, "prepared me" and said that the first labor is so painful, like nothing I would ever experience in my life.
So trough the whole labor I was dosing my energy and I kept praying to God to give me the strength and the power to resist because the worse has not come yet.
And suddenly I felt the urge to push and I found myself giving birth. It was awesome. Painful of course, but not that bad. And absolutely awesome. I felt so powerful and grateful. I kept repeating to myself that God would never give me more than I can handle. And He didn't. He knew exactly how much I can take.
What an amazing Father we have, right?
Wow this helped me so so much you have no idea!!!
Biggest thing I didn’t expect was the feeling of my lungs going back to their normal position after birth when I sat up for the first time. I got so dizzy and out of breath.
I did too! I was so scared when I stood up for the first time. The nurse didn't say anything about it so I wasn't expecting it.
Yes! This was a crazy feeling! I had a hard time breathing too!
Me also!
I've been watching you for years, Delilah, and I don't usually comment (introvert over here). But I consistently think to myself, 'I love her. I don't know her, yes, but she has a beautiful, godly spirit.' Keep being yourself, from your sister in Christ x
im so tired and it’s thundering and pouring rain out and this is exactly what i needed! thank you
It took 2 and a half hours of pushing, so when my son came out, all I could think about was how relieved I felt and completely forgot there was a baby 😂
Biggest thing I didn't expect giving birth: bursting into tears when I saw my son for the first time ❤️ I've never felt love like that
Alexis Simmons yess! I cried so long after cause it was just SO many feelings, SO much love and SO much relief all at once, didn’t quite expect that and when I think back now I hope people didn’t think I was sad hahah cause they were happy tears that just couldn’t stop 😂
@@adamandnoahsadventures621 I was worried because I never felt like I had a connection with him while I was pregnant, but that sure changed when I saw him and held him!
I agree... till they put my son in my arms I was just like whatever! I am going to have no connection to my kid. Than as soon as they put him on my if was the best feeling!
My water broke on a full moon. I got to the hospital right before everyone else did. The hospital was full of pregnant women whose waters broke. That night the hospitals main waterline broke. So, the hospitals water literally broke.
That’s insane!!
Was it on Friday the 13th?
😂😂😂😂
Everyone’s water broke that night 😂
As a soon-to-be-wife and, Lord willing, mother: Thank you! The effort that goes into your videos is truly appreciated - as I'm sure many would agree ♥
I love how informative, raw and real, and yet also comical this was. Luna was born on October Friday the 13th 2017. I went into labor on her due date and had her two days later. Labor for me was so much like your labor with Theo. I knew what to expect from boredom-researching and watching TONS of vaginal births to know how to go through it properly myself. I wasn't naive to the possibility of complications, but I needed to know so I researched a lot haha. I labored at home for most of it and it wasn't very bad tbh. The part that I didn't expect of it all was the pain. It wasn't unbearable the way everyone says. It was bad, don't get me wrong, but I knew to breathe, I knew aromatherapy and music helped, my stepbrother and I danced through the contractions, I had a double for the tough parts when my mom and stepdad were sleeping and my contractions got closer together and faster and more painful where I wouldn't handle it solo. I also was so excited to meet my first child and knew the pain was the only way there, so it was good. My doula, Sam, and I woke up my family and we all went walking (at 4am) across the street to the little outlet mall there. That's what really kicked the contractions up. I got to the point where I couldn't walk full speed, then to the point of having to almost stop, then to where I couldn't move a muscle and just had to breathe and count 1,2,3,4,5,6 in and 1,2,3,4,5,6 out about 3 times and the pain peaked and I could start walking again as it eased up. We walked back and I labored a little longer at home until I could no longer stay silent during my contractions and had to bite a pillow and groan into it. (I lived at my moms after getting out of a very abusive relationship with Luna's father at 8 months along..only 1 month prior. So I was still feeling like a guest and a burden. That's my only regret.) (Haha as I write this my period cramps are going from 1st hear to 2and haha 😂 A fresh reminder of early labor pains hahaha). I got to the point where I couldn't keep from making this quiet scream into a blanket I had folded up, then my mom asked if I wanted to go to the hospital, I said I want to walk around it. (Mind you, the hospital was literally across the street from her apartment, so it was walking distance and convenient to walk like a shark circling its prey haha). I called my doctor to update them and allow them time to get my room ready, we drove there, walked around a couple times, and I was ready to be done. I hardly slept for 3 days prior to labor, then was up all night the night before, and later remained awake for 2 more days taking care if my baby alone..night feedings haha. So I was tired! And over it!! We checked in, I got checked, I was at 7 and still felt good enough during those 3 or 4 minutes between the mountains of pain to joke around and crack up my nurses. My next check came and I was at a 10 on one side of my cervix and a 9 on the other side. That was also unexpected, all my research and I am the only person I know who's experienced that. But not the doctors. They knew what to do. They flipped me on my side and held my bent leg up like 90° and it went right to a full 10. But being on my hands and knees reversed on the hospital bed hiking my leg up made the pain worse (as if it COULD get worse) and I wanted the laughing gas. It doesn't ease the pain, just the mentality. It kept me calm when I was to the point of doing a constant breathing exercise during and between all the contractions. (Your uterus aches between contractions from the insane workout it's getting, and more peoole need to be aware and prepared for that. I wasn't and losing that precious relieving time drained me mentally and took me to a place where I felt it would never end. They also gave me a lavendar aromatherapy sticker patch for my chest. Then it happened....I needed to poop. Or so I thought! I got up, IV and monitor wires and all, and get to the bathroom door when I was stopped by the hardest contraction I ever had. It was so bad that, to this day that is the only one I remember. It felt like I had to poop an elephant and I fought that elephant knowing it was the baby. I fought that contraction so hard I squeezed and my water broke right there. I was standing next to my nurse when this hot splash fell out of me and all over our feet. All I could think was, Oh no her shoes! We laughed and I said that was AWESOME!!!! She busted up over that, no one has ever said that to her haha. Then I went to the bathroom and peed, passed out between contractions right there, of course my mom got that picture lol. After that it was go time. My body did that push when it's ready thing as I was getting in the bed, let me tell you..that was scary and hurt haha. I laid down and the midwife had the big mirror set up behind her, they were angling it for me to see, my stepdad and step brother were there saying they couldn't see anything in it, my mom was holding my left leg, and a nurse was holding my right leg. I pushed calmly enjoying the relief it gave me. Watching the progress really helped motivate me. I am forever grateful for my midwife holding a cloth over my butthole haha. No one needs to see that when I push and I had that big mirror too. I only pushed during 3 contractions and she came out. It was pretty fast, but felt like an hour. I had hamstring Charlie horses from how I pushed, so I changed from flexing my legs to doing sort of a squat into my nurse's belly and my mom's belly. They supported my feet to change with me, and I'm so grateful they picked up on that need for me. Instantly it helped and hurt less. Luna's head crowned and my midwife asked if I wanted to feel her head, I said yes and instantly thrust my hand down to let her guide it. That was absolutely insane to feel and see simultaneously haha. Then I got a burst of energy and motivation and pushed her whole head and shoulders out fast. You weren't kidding about how relieving that feels haha. No cord around her neck, I was asked if I wanted to pull her out. Heck yes I did, so she guided my hands to under Luna's armpits and helped me pull while I pushed. Everyone helped guide her to my chest. She cried for a moment, lifted her head to see me, the land it down and got calm listening to my heart (my guess is it was familiar and relaxed her). The cord was so short it pulled upwards and it felt like it was in a tear that I didn't actually have. I pushed the placenta out and the midwife showed me and detailed its anatomy, which fascinates me being in the medical field myself. She asked if I wanted to keep the placenta and I said no not knowing why I would want to. But having researched placenta encapsulation I will always say yes. I got an hour of skin to skin, then they clamped her limp white noodle-looking cord (I researched that later too and found out how good delayed clamping is), then she asked me if I wanted to cut the cord myself. It's normally the guy's job, but he wasn't in the picture so I wanted to do it being her mom and dad symbolically. My doula Sam buzzed around from beginning to end taking as many photos as possible, my mom too until it was time her her to help hold my leg, and the hospital said they might rethink their policy on recording births after how well I did. they kept telling me I was a rockstar and wished they could've filmed it for educational purposes. I would've liked to have it recorded too because I have a hard time remembering these little details (typing it all out right now brings it back ❤). But I sort of blacked out everything around me once I got her on my chest. My world suddenly transformed and everything blurred outside of her and I. All I could do freshly having pulled her out (prior to skin to skin and nursing) was keep a hand around her neck and shoulders looking at her face and body bewildered at what I just made while my other hand held onto her whole butt so she didn't fall. I clearly remember squishing her booty with my fingers laughing about how soft and squishy she was. I had an abrasion too from that speedy exit she made. If I could change a thing I would have a loving husband there with me, be able to record, and take the placenta home. Other than that, it was perfect. And yes I would definitely do it again. ❤❤❤
I gave birth 10 months ago, and actually one of the things that helped me most was the breathing exercise that you showed in your birth vlog! My labor was completely awful- induction, 36 hours long, contractions 2 minutes apart for 24 of those hours- BUT I coped with it because of that breathing exercise. The nurses actually didn’t believe me when I said I was in pain because I was able to keep calm and manage pretty well with that breathing exercise. So THANK YOU! I recommend it to all my mama friends. 🧡
Thank you so much for talking about remembering the pain and what that's like after the fact! My husband and I just started trying and truly the thing that terrifies me the most is being able to handle the pain level. So soothing to hear you say that the memories that stick with you are the good, intimate, loving ones. THANK YOU
Even though I’ve never met you. I love and appreciate you so much for being so honest about life, motherhood, marriage, and everything in between. You’re amazing Delilah ❤️
yes please please part 2! I'm so torn about wanting to get pregnant myself because I'm a big wimp when it comes to pain & needles but these vidoes make it a fair bit more tempting. I really appreciate your complete honesty
I didn't expect my husband to start weeping watching me give birth - my husband never cries!
Jess Tanton I’m looking forward to this! my husband also never cries and I’m the emotional one so I wonder if he will that day!
I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and I’m still not fully convinced there is a person inside of me, even though I feel him move around all the time 😂 I think it will be quite surprising when he comes out!
It's gonna be the most amazing thing you've ever done, birthing and then getting to know that little boy. Congratulations!
PREPARE for postpartum as much as you can!
Congrats
Same here!
Same
I recently found out I am pregnant With my first. 7 1/2 weeks along! I’ve been watching your channel for a year now, and am thankful for the realistic but positive perspective on birth... I’m a bit terrified of labor, but so excited to meet my little one!
I had my two girls at home. Midwife didn’t make it for either, so my husband delivered both. In our bathroom. There were no complications, and after all that happened, I’m glad it was just me and my husband who got to meet our girls for the first time. And he got to play a huge part in the birth of our babies. I’m almost 18 weeks with baby #3, and we are having another homebirth, and tho we always plan and hope for a midwife to be present, at least my husband knows what he’s doing if it happens so fast again😉 This home of ours isn’t very big, it definitely needs some updating, but it’ll be so hard when we move from it, as it was the home our babies were born in, it was the home we lost and mourned our baby we lost. It is where we met our first baby, and our rainbow baby in. Homebirths are so amazing, there’s no nurses or doctors, running off all that great vernix off the baby (which is so good for there skin, and idk why when I watch birth vlogs in the hospital, nurses are surrounding baby rubbing them with towels, idk be like get your hands off I’m meeting my baby for the first time!) as soon as baby was out, my husband gave the baby to me and we bonded for hours before we were separated.
Also, I didn’t tear with either of my babies either. I did perineal massages (look it up if you don’t know what that is) from 34 weeks til birth.
I got to pull my baby out on my own and it was amazing! I'm like you - in the moment, I just wanted to push so that it could all be over but my midwife remembered that I had wanted to do this from our pre-natal appointments and kind of encouraged me to focus and reach down. She had the head and shoulders out and sort of guided them up a bit so that I could easily see and grab my baby. Definitely the best part of the experience and a rewarding ending to all of the hard work!
Your 2nd birth reminded me of my 4th. I was just so focused on relaxing EVERY part of my body and allowing my body to open up instead of tending up and keeping my body from naturaly doing what its design to do. I also had the feeling of my church family's prayers and the Lord helping me through it all. One thing I didnt except in my 4th was that after giving birth, which went SO smooth, I had a piece of my placenta that stayed behind and I wish I knew about " retained placenta" that it this could happen because that was the worst pain I have every felt in my life. Even worse then labour pain because my Dr had to reach her hands up into my uterus and scoop out whatever was left behind.
Thanks so my for sharing your experiences 💜
Please film a part 2. I'm only 17 and I don't want children until I went to Uni/ about 25ish but I have babyfever already. The thought of having a baby is just so beautiful to me. But birth really really terrifies me. Hearing you talk about it really helps. Thank you 💛
Read Ina May Gaskin’s guide to childbirth. I was so terrified of birthing as well until I read her book. The first part of the book is just positive birth stories and the second part of informative on birth. As crazy as I sound, I couldn’t wait to birth after reading it. My first birth 6 days ago turned out to be such a non traumatic, good experience. I strongly believe that a non traumatic birth, regardless of how you birth, can only be achieved when you get rid of fear.☺️♥️
@@ariannaoleynik6933 Thank you ❤ I'm definitely gonna look into it!
Omg im 16 and i feel the same way 🤍
@@blueberry-ki9ok It's nice to not feel alone 💛
Biggest thing I didn’t expect, having a c section. I was prayerfully hoping for a natural unmedicated birth but God had planned for my first born son to emerge via belly. It’s still hard at times reflecting back, but I praise God my son arrived healthy and continues to remain healthy. Six months of pure joy and lots of growing as I learn how to be a mother. 💙
Here in approx 4-5 weeks I'll be giving birth to our first child and daughter. Thank you, Delilah for taking the time to make this video in what feels like just in the nick of time. I'm nervous, but attempting to negate my fears with positive affirmation and knowing that I can do what God has intended my body to do. Also, on another note, thank you for always taking the time to share your life's journey as a wife, mother and woman of God. I adore you, Delilah and all that you stand for. You may be younger than me, but you have so much wisdom to share and I am here for it.
We are due at the same time - I am also due in 4/5 weeks 😊 This is my second baby (10 years apart). Let me tell you darling - you will be ok. Focus on you, your baby and your beliefs, it will soothe you. You will smash this. You are going to be amazing! Congratulations when the time comes. I can't wait to meet my second daughter ❤
Thank you so much, Jennifer for your words of encouragement and pomposity. Also, congratulations on your newest blessing! I hope your birth journey goes well and smooth and that despite the hard times, that you will be able to enjoy your birth for all that it's worth. I will hold tight to the fact that when and where I go into labor, and how fast it progresses, is just all part of something bigger than myself.
Thank you so much for your kind words! you're going to do great! :)
Thank you, Delilah for taking the time to respond to me!!!
Omg, I'm due in 3 to 4 weeks too. This is my first pregnancy and it's been way too hard on my body since im underweight. I cannot wait to give birth and just have him already.
I’m 31 weeks with my first baby. I really loved this video. You’re so calm it’s really refreshing.
I'm almost 38 weeks pregnant with my first child and idea of birth has been overwhelming at times.... you have no idea how much I needed this... Thank you Delilah ❤❤❤
I LOVE your authenticity and humility, just such a calm and encouraging presence. Even more so, your love for the Lord without seeming forced or awkward when sharing it. Thank you!
I definitely agree with you when you say the lord was with you the second time. Honestly even watching the birth vlog it’s the most calm birth Iv ever watched and you can just feel peace watching it.
I didn’t expect any of my labor, I desired a natural labor but ended up being induced, epidural due to blood pressure and then an emergency c-section! But in the same way you described, God gave me so much peace and joy, even as we rushed down the hall I had just walked up earlier that morning! It’s a space where you can only trust God and allow His grace to take you to the end! Love this video, love your videos, so thankful!
You were so open and honest. Wonderful video for any woman wanting to get pregnant.
I had a long 36 hour birth. I was sent home twice during that period of time because the labour and delivery unit was at full capacity. But that wasn’t the most unexpected part. Without any medication, I progressed really slowly (water hadn’t ruptured/no further dilation) which is why I was sent home. But the second time I was sent home I got so emotional and managed to fall asleep from the exhaustion of all the contracting. I took a 1.5-2 hour nap. In that nap I dilated from 3 to 10 centimetres and my water broke. I literally woke up in pain and was RUSHED to the hospital where I gave birth 20 minutes after waking up from my nap.
I will never fully understand what my body went through, but I am amazed and so thankful at how resilient it showed to be and have gained an enormous amount of confidence in myself as a woman and my connection to my body.
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Support makes a whole world of difference. With my first daughter the nurses didn't take me seriously and had me wait in the waiting room for over an hour and I had her about 5 hours later. The doctor who delivered my first was definitely abusive she stitched me up and told me to "shut the f up". With my second the doctors and nurses were angels. I even was able to breastfeed my second because the second time around I had so much more support and my husband talked for me so they new exactly what I needed.
Choose your hospital wisely it definitely matters.
oh man, I'm only 2.5 minutes in and I've already subscribed to your channel. I really appreciate your delivery, and how you get straight to the point
God will most certainly bless you for giving Him His due credit. He is so good to us❤️
Something I did not except as a first-time mama was my daughter being born 2 weeks early and staying in the hospital for 5 days. My water broke during week 37, but I didn’t go into labor, ended up getting induced, then hemorrhaged during delivery...leading to a longer hospital stay than planned for. But I wouldn’t trade any of that for the world because my precious daughter is almost 1, and she is the most special gift!
This was by far the most informative video on giving birth I have ever seen. THANK YOU!
Love this. Literally sobbing right now remembering back to my birth while snuggling my babe who’s sleeping while I watched this ❤️ it truly is the best experience, painful but so so good!
My most unexpected thing was when I finally let my husband hold him, probably about an hour after he was born, not on purpose just bc that’s how it ended up going with them getting me all stitched up and what not, giving him to my husband and he probably only had him about 3 minutes and I started crying, sobbing really, bc I had never been away from him that long and it felt so foreign, very very surreal feeling
Girl, i LOVED this video. Please give us a second! I totally agree about two things: first, how important can be your partner speaking for you when you can't. I remember clearly my husband asking for the epidural after three hours of me asking for it screaming to the midwife, and she was always "are you sure? Wait some, give it a try"... girl, i can't!
The second thing i totally agree is how fast you forget the pain. I think that while recovering you forget every pain to save just all the beautiful feeling for your newborn.
My recovery was so fast that after a week or so i was "ok, i can do this again. I'm not sure i want, but i could"
So I had an unexpected home birth...….yeah....first baby...3.5 hour labor.....caught her myself standing up (leaning over the bed). And soo many things you spoke about were exactly the same for me. I was completely calm. Such an amazing experience! I love these videos of yours
I had an unmedicated birth center birth with my 5-month-old girl. What I didn’t expect was that I was falling asleep between contractions toward the end of pushing because I was tired and so able to relax when I wasn’t actively pushing. I always thought people were lying when they said that happened! I loved giving birth!!
I’ve had 3 babies, all with pretty quick labors, my last labor was so fast I gave birth in the hospital bathroom alone 😬😂 my doctor didn’t arrive till 45 minutes after I had her.
Both of my labors were so different! With my first I went into labor naturally, lasted 12 hours, and had to push for two hours. I got an epidural right when I got to the hospital and what I didn’t expect was the catheter they have to insert into your bladder and it was sooo uncomfortable 😣 I was definitely more nervous about labor the second time knowing what was going to happen like you said! With my second I ended up getting induced at 41w3d and had my son 5 hours later. I waited to get an epidural until the pain was getting too intense and right after I got it I started progressing really quick. My body started pushing on its own and I didn’t even realize it, and only had to push for another 17 minutes. I probably could have done it in less time without the epidural, but it was still such a relief compared to my first time! Thank you so much for making this video. I love hearing others’ experiences and this is great to hear for those who have yet to give birth ❤️
My daughter came at 36 weeks. I finished my last shift at work at 10pm expecting atleast 4 weeks of relaxation and preparation, but nope- got in to bed at 11pm and my waters broke. The contraction pain was indescribable and I had to have an episiotomy but I would do it over and over again for that rush of love when you finally get to hold them in your arms ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about all of this! It definitely helped relieve some of the stress and anxiety I have around birth as a first time mom! I love your channel and seeing your adorable kids/Winston 😋 can’t wait to see you and Zach talk about his feelings and thoughts about birth/fatherhood!
excuse me while I sob over here. Your description of the feeling after giving birth is just so accurate! That moment of seeing your perfect tiny human is just…everything
Truth about birth is it really isnt bad or anything to be scared of. Try to do most of your labor at home though, it makes things go a lot quicker! (And I had an emergency c section)
Yes, yes, yes please do a part 2 of this. I very much admire how you speak openly, to the point and calmly about these things.😇
yes -- a part 2, please! I love hearing from mamas about what their experiences were like. Im waiting for my little to get here and can't wait!!!
I love this video. I love talking about birth and pregnancy because it was such a new experience for my body. Can't wait til the next video. You're awesome pray your staying safe!!
O wow, You don’t even know how obsessed I am with your videos! Truly the biggest inspiration ❤️ Hope you are doing well🙂
I had no idea that being “ready to push” felt like having to poop!! I didn’t want to tell the nurses that I had to poop, but then my body just took over and I pushed. The nurses went “Oh! It’s time!!” I had no idea 😂
I have had 3 beautiful home births. My first labour was 45 minutes and she was born breech! I did not expect to see her legs come out first! My second labour was 3 hours and was probably my hardest. My midwife said I pushed like she was my first baby! Then my third labour was 1 hour and 20 minutes long and I was so unbelievably present throughout it, I really loved bringing my son into the world. My daughters were both with me and my youngest actually took the most perfect photo of her brothers head coming out on her iPad, we couldn’t believe it! Home birth for me was not a scary experience at all. I had complete trust in my midwives but most of all, myself. There was nothing more comforting than hopping into the shower and climbing into my own bed after baby was born💕
Definitely do a part 2 please. I agree, meeting your little for the first time is magical.
I know it's a little naive 😅 but I wasn't expecting it to hurt as bad as it did with contractions. Experiencing them in my back and stomach really surprised me.
But most of all I wasn't expecting to have my baby go to the NICU. I'm very blessed it was very very minor, but it's a reminder that no matter how much you plan, God has his own plans and you just have to trust that they are good! 🙌
Love you Delilah and as always I love your videos!! 💛✨
Currently 20 weeks pregnant now so I can't wait to see how this labor goes. 😄
Some things I didn't expect (from a home birth perspective...:
First time: not having the privacy I wanted in the sense of it being just my husband and I and my midwife of course. It made me nervous feeling like I had to "perform" I felt so much pressure, i just wanted the whole thing to end. So i feel like i missed out on that first birth experience.
Second time: Water birth (definitely recommend if you can have that at your hospital, then go for it its amazing), my labor was a back labor so I didn't expect that. It was a different kind of pain, and I was just soooooo tired and sleepy by the time it was getting closer to push. Also, when it WAS time to push my body just took over, I did not experience that with my first, and this second time it was just my body doing its thing. I was also able to catch my own baby this time😍 So So beautiful!! And it was a private birth😉
I have a 2 years old girl and while pregnant I've been preparing for a vaginal birth. Unfortunately, due to medical reasons I had to give birth through a cesarean section. So I knew exactly what, when and how things will happen, as it was a planned operation. The one thing I was not prepared for was the bursting emotions that I will feel when I hear that first cry! My eyes are getting watery just by typing this down! It was such and overwhelming moment, filled with so much emotions. I knew I will love my baby more than everything, but I never ever expected that one can feel this much love... in like a second! Even before seeing my baby, only by hearing her cry!
I've been watching your videos for the past year and they make me want to be a mom so bad!! Thank you for being so informative and raw and just so sweet :)
33 +4 and this is one of the most helpful videos I have watched. Really helped me to feel better about having my son. ♥️ First baby. 😊
With my first child I had a long labor of 15 hours and had an epidural, BUT with my second child! Was the FASTEST, I dilated from .5 cm to 9.5 in less then an hour and the nurses were not taking it serious. They even wanted to send me back home before checking and realizing it was time, they started getting everything ready and in less then a minute while still having to sign documents, she was born, without my OB doctor! So I went through that one without any medication, and I just felt that that was it for me😭 my husband was AMAZING! But in all honesty I’m so thankful God gave me the strength to experience a birth like that!
I have been WAITING for this video 🤗. 25 weeks with my first and trying to prepare myself mentally as much as I can. ❤️
This was so informative. I haven’t had kids yet but this November will be 3 years of marriage with my husband, and the topic has come up! We’re both indecisive people, so I’m guessing we’ll wait a bit longer but these videos bring me so much joy thinking about our future! Thank you 💕
I haven't actually given birth, but I am looking forward to feel these things you describe with my loved one, so much. The miracle of life... sooo great. Thank you for all the valuable info. With love
Finally someone from Canada! I am 34 weeks and i have been trying to find Canadian you tubers on pregnancy!
Breathing is everything! Doctors said I had the most successful birth that day because of how calm I stayed and my breathing to deal with the pain. ☺️
39 weeks pregnant as a first time mom and hoping for a natural birth! Thanks for all the great information! Going with a water birth and hypnobirthing tools! Can't wait to hold my little person 🥰
Please, I’d love a part 2! ❤️ This had been very useful to me, I’m almost 27 weeks pregnant with my first child and even though I’m not freaking out yet, some facts are just handy to know.😊
Perfect timing! I'm 33 weeks preggo living in Toronto but with covid19 I'm scared of losing control... This video outs my mind at ease a bit.
Also, that video quality thoughhhhhh Delilah I see you with that high quality content 😍😍😍😸❤️
Write up a birth plan!
Can’t believe we’re about to get another birth vlog. I am so excited ❤️
As someone who had a very very different birth, almost polar opposite, this is so interesting to watch. My labour was just over 75 hours long, I had to be monitored constantly because my baby's heart rate kept dropping and ended up having to have an epidural because my contractions were 5 in 10 minutes and I was only 4cm dilated, which is NOT good, and eventually an emergency section and my baby was in an incubator for 8 days following the birth. So very different and it's amazing to see what fun and not-so-fun things I missed out on!!!
To clarify, it wasnt all awful; we were told our son could be in the incubator for upwards of 6 weeks becausehe had two holes in his lungs, but he was out in 8 days. Our little man fought so hard and healed so fast. He is amazing.
Dang it Delilah, you got me sobbing about meeting your baby for the first time... I'm twenty eight weeks and SUPER emotional lol. I dream of that moment nonstop and it's almost all I think about... I'm DYING to meet our little baby.
Can't wait for the "Zach series", he's become such a natural and you two work so well together on camera.
ive been kinda binging your videos tonight (this morning?) my husband and i are planning on having kids soon and i have soooo many questions and you have answered so many of them you are definitely by far the most informative from a experience perspective and i appreciate that
My son was born early at 30 weeks, so I wasn’t expecting/prepared for the entire thing! But I wasn’t expecting to not to have any pain relief but he came too quickly and there was no time! He’s a very healthy and happy 1 year old now 😊❤️
Part two yes please! I’m having my first baby this August and I watching this was sooo nice to hear all the details!
I really enjoyed your description of both births, I can relate so much to your description of quick labour.. I had to have an emergency c-section with my firstborn at 36 weeks - didn't expect that.. when we arrived at the hospital I was already 8cm dilated and he was a breech baby so I opted for the c-section...
With my daughter I had a natural birth 4 weeks early. My water broke during sleep, that was so awkward.. I didn't have any contractions for like 4 hours after that but then it only took about 4 hours until she was born... it was a beautiful experience to have my daughter with me from the beginning on since I didn't have that experience with my son.. so, two completely different birthing experiences but I wouldn't change anything about them.
The only thing I'm concerned about is that my pregnancies never lasted till the due date. Apparently my body doesn't like giving birth to big babies :D
Beautifully said about the feeling of holding your babies for the first time 🥰
I'm a first time mom to an 18 month old daughter 💕 I also didn't expect to forget everything around me and burst into tears the first time I held her.
Please post a Part 2 because I can also go on for hours about this topic! 😅
Definitely part 2!! I love listening to your insights on anything and everything.
I think something I didn’t expect was to have had my waters leak at 35+5 weeks on a Wednesday and be stuck in hospital without being able to go home till I gave birth on a Sunday evening, I was totally expecting to labor at home and be in my most comfortable environment then go to hospital once it was time. Then my son had severe jaundice and we were in hospital from the Sunday evening Phoenix was born till, Thursday evening we got to go home. I stayed with him in the special care unit till I could take him home, I loved my birth and pushing him out, I asked to feel his head because I wanted to know how much hair he had (lots) but the before and after birth was the not to nice part.
I feel so much more prepared because of videos like these! Thank you!
Do a part two. I'm 34 weeks and I love listening to you talk about it all.
I was not expecting my water to break before I was in active labor! No joke it broke as I was talking to my chiropractor about wanting to just have this baby. It was pretty embarrassing as it was a huge amount of fluid. And it NEVER stoped coming out for hours. It was insane. Plus I wasn't aware I was going to pushing for three hours. I thought babies would just come out after a few pushes. Not the case at all! In total it was 23hrs of start to finish the last three hours was pushing. August third 2018 I gave birth to my son Leo. Thanks for sharing this video! I love when ladies can connect and share.
I have had 5 babies all boys. I thought it would be all over once the baby was out. I was surprised that I had to wait and then push the placenta out. Also after my other babies were born I wish I had always squatted and not had to lay on the table like I did with my first. I tore with my 1st but all the others I didnt really tear.
Would you mind telling me what was different and better with giving birth while squatting? I'm 22 weeks pregnant and when I think about delivering my baby lying flat on my back it doesn't appeal to me so I'm researching what other options I have.
@@lillie7847 when you're squatting gravity is helping you. (Sorry for my bad English)
I always wanted to give birth on my hands and knees or squatting (well originally in the bath tub, but nothing goes according to your plan :D)
But I wasn't able to push hard enough I think. (I was pushing for hours already) So they said I should lie on my back and hold my knees and hold my breath while pushing and do everything I thought was "wrong". But that was what worked for me. Didn't even tear.
Greetings from Germany
I have given birth once so far but I follow many moms on here so I was able to get a feel of what to expect for labor but I was suprised at how intense back labor can be.. it was excruciating.. and also how quickly things can change! I went from 6cm to 10 in less then 30 minutes and it really is incredible how the womans body knows what to do because before they knew I was fully dilated I was asking to push I just knew I had to even though I had never done it! And I totally agree with how you described what it feels like to give birth lol towards the end when they realized I was ready to push my body was at the point where it was doing it on it's own and it was so hard to hold it back! Definitely would enjoy a part 2 video! 💕 Hope you had a lovely Easter 🐇
I have given birth! In a hospital with midwives. The one thing I was not expecting was how AWESOME it would be. I loved it! It was the most empowering, amazing experience of my life! And now I have my little Shamus and he is the love of my life! My wife and I are smitten!
the new lightning looks amazing! i'm not planning on having any babies but your videos are so fun to watch!
:) great video! I’m 17 week pregnant and loving the girl talk videos ^_^ would enjoy a part 2 for sure.
love the sound of this new series!! Thanks for this vid Delilah
I’ve never pooped on the table because my body naturally cleans itself before I start having active labor. I never knew that was a thing until it happened with my first and second baby!
Gid bless all of you mothers . Giving birth is the most painful thing I experienced. My mother gave birth to 10 children which all were born at home. God bless her as well, she was a wonderful , gracious and godly woman of great faith. Love you Irene.
My labor was as calm as yours ... but it was 14 hr labor. A lot of pain!!! My tearing was horrible 3rd degree but it heals thank God
My labors were SO LONG. I honestly wish I had quick labors. I totally agree with how it’s not always calming to know that pain is coming!
YES to a part 2!!! Great video, so perfectly on time...I am 30 weeks pregnant and so eager for birth knowledge and suggestions.
I would LOVE to see a part 2! :D Also can't wait for the videos with Zach and Theo's birthday vlog. I can't believe you're almost at 200K! I remember when you were celebrating 100K
Love your honesty around giving birth