@@BenjaminSpicy I've got some songs on spotify already. open.spotify.com/artist/1fxR7LrykAQSVqhyJJgcr1 But an anonymous account for random unrelated creations in various mediums could be fun!
this is exactly how i went about writing my first children's book last summer. I just started. Wrote something down and followed up on it edited and refined it. Now I am on my 3rd children's book!
I'm an INFP gardener. I put so much energy into trying to create a magical space in my own garden. It's a constant project and I do hope to one day open my garden to the public, like some of the people I work for do. I never really thought about that being a source of self-expression, but of course it is! I like to think of it as painting with plants, plus I'm outside, immersed in nature, trying to make the world more beautiful.
I reeeeally like how you talk to us. Cause often we get half barked at to do things and get some consistency and make it business levels and I'm growing sadder by the minute, cause all it keeps saying is "There's no survival nor thriving for the likes of you. Either you bend into shape or do something so grand and world changing that people no longer question your being you and throw means of survival and thriving at you for your mere existence. But of course only, as long as you feed their expectations.". Know what I mean? It's kind of mean healers need community the most, yet the least. It takes safe and secure room to thrive in. We're very plant like, often (and that can be a lot. I mean some plants basically hunt XD). You don't mess with plants. Know what happens if you do? Apples, for example! Modern apple varieties actually cause more allergic reactions than old varieties. Cause ppl went and messed with apples for more productivity and efficiency and now they get sick of that product of more efficiency. It's meddling with things half blind while not understanding even a portion of the complexity of why apple trees naturally came to the conclusion to grow a certain way and make apples a certain way. You know that forests replanted by ppl post fires can't hold a candle at anything to forest parts that have been left to regrow at their pace and own order? INFPs have no problem being, growing or creating. Our problems are products of there rarely being truly safe spaces held for us till we grow to a productive stage. And to then still be handled with care and not like money cows, hardworking dedicated faithful working dogs in inattentive hands, emotion garbage bins or convenient libraries that are used but otherwise left to rot. It's odd, sometimes. To get told to expose ourselves while knowing chances are rather high we'll pay a too high price for it, is strange. Not getting things done and getting things out is equally dooming (since what gets out is often of some fascination cause it's 'out of the box'). So, getting told how this is first and foremost about self-care and expression and stepping out of guilt cycles and not impose guilt upon ourselves for being open and deep but private, is really helpful. P.S.: Internet exposure is good but indeed, just well chosen places with limited audience. Scale (of reactions) getting out of hand is a very realistic risk.
Wow, once you got into the Apple analogy, no doubt you're and infp. Thanks for that. I got everything you said and it's comforting to see someone else express themselves like I do.
Agreed! The power is in consistent small steps. Like 10 minutes a day. I think this concept is greatly underrated and it’s power not fully understood by most people.
I love the way you talk to us.. like seriously !! I barely like listening to people’s advice cause they appear judgemental or overbearing but you’re like a friend talking to us instead of talking down on us. Thank you ❤️
When something overwhelms me I write it in a personal diary, slowly I started to post my beliefs on law of attraction on social media and people like it, they find it helpful, it really improved my ability to express my feelings in a way people can understand 😇
I recently finished Inktober for the first time in my life. My strategy was to post them in batches of six every 6 days. What happened was I often ended up drawing all 6 prompts on one day or less before my self-determined deadline after 5 days or more of imagining them. Even though my drawings are more vague and ugly than stick figures, I'm already super pleased that I managed to put them into reality at all and not having them rotting inside aging brain :")
When I do express myself in public speaking, it is very compelling to the audience because I can convey so much feeling. It is a struggle to perform in public, however.
So get this.. I just realized I have about 5 paintings where I haven't finished people's heads, because everything already came together and I lost interest. The paintings are lovely and full of symbolism and emotion.. just none of them quite finished. I refuse to finish them - it would feel like a meaningless chore. Which also gives me an excuse not to show anyone 🤫
I'm currently writing a fantasy novel, several songs, and I started a craft business. These videos are so helpful and true for me. I hope you start making them again!
This feels so good just to see it’s not just me going through these things! It’s helps me lay down a bit the shame and self judgement. Just do a little thing.. Thanks 🙏
This is something I struggled with all my life, and I am so grateful for this video. Whether or not it was intentional on your part to choose very specific phrases, it made me feel like I still had a choice. I'm willing to try out your advice. Thank you again. 😊
So IMPRESSIVE.....I have NEVER heard .....And I AM a 40+ man.... .SUCH a precise DESCRIPTION of an INFP and All of his functions and struggles in LIFE. It is almost scary in a wsy....Very IMPRESSIVE....hope to hear/see more from You. Thanx for all your work. Greetings from Hans
I’ve always had multiple hobbies that I never finish for exactly the reasons you outline here. I’ve just retired and started a new activity-weaving. I started designing based on my paintings, spinning the yarn, doing the whole process and as if by magic I have started finishing things. If I don’t feel like spinning maybe I do painting and I f I don’t feel like painting I may do some of the mathematical bits of weaving design or journaling. There is always part of the process that I actually want to do and they all combine to take me in the direction of the finished work. All I can suggest is keep doing the random things you want to do. Move on when you feel the urge to and at some point in the future all these things will magically come together. Some geniuses do their best work when they are young and often fail to ever create anything so good again but other geniuses suddenly appear in their sixties or seventies because they kept on playing their whole lives.
My dear friend, after reading countless of self help books and thousands of TH-cam videos, only this 11 minute video has helped me truly understand myself . May God bless you.
Thank you! This is very good because I use to think I HAD to do something very big and the same all the time like have a “niche” or whatever but maybe my niche is just creating AND sharing whatever it is i make/create that I’m happy about and I feel good about it and along the way make others feel good as well. 💚
Thank you so much for this video As an INFP myself, i learned some key areas on where i should improve in my life. The research carried out on this personality type is spot on as i found myself relating to each and every word you said.
crying, thank you for being so gentle in your explaining what can be helpful... its easy to assimilate when you express it like this and it realllllllllllly means a lot to me... thank u
You are so right, I try to express myself with my photography. I like to capture candid intimacy in crowds. I would never show it to people or my family, but i damn well do post it on instagram hoping people will see what I see ahahhaha
When I heard you suggest sharing via the INFP subreddit, I raced to do it because it’s just perfect! A safe haven of people that would understand and appreciate it!
1:16 I'm not shy, I'm quiet and I'm tired of people confusing those 2 things. Besides that this video is good advice. I was aware of most of the topics mentioned, but it was helpful to see them listed
I literally made a 1 minute drawing here at work - I drew me thinking about food, appreciating my coworker for providing some happiness in my day (he's a fun dude) and how I'm confused about my feelings on life in general. When you said "now share it" I nearly spit out my food and had a mini anxiety attack. Some thing about sharing my feelings with others is just terrifying to me, because I"d be vulnerable. And that's scary. I did look up the INFP subreddit, and I'll think about joining. It might be nice to connect with other INFPs.
i really like listen to you! i am also infp and i feel so misunderstood and often i am not sure what to do with my life bc i feel so hopeless, but then i open one of your videos and listen to you. i suddenly start smiling and giggling and become happy. before i watched this video, i was drawing something but i did not like it and was feeling really empty, i did not wanted to do anything and just wanted to go sleep. now i have watched your video and i feel definitely better than before, i am motivated, i guess i want to take a note book and write something inside it! thank you so much for your ideas
I’ve listened to this four times now. The lesson still hasn’t sunken in, but I know it’s valuable. So I subscribed and keep on listening hoping it breaks through my thick INFP skull.
Hi Benjamin, I have watched and listened to a good number of individuals talking on the INFP type and I should tell you that your depth of insight is most remarkable, as if you have lived the life of an INFP for 40 or 50 years iot speak from personal experience; as an INFP(who hAs lived this life for 50+ years) I can confirm that you have your detailed understanding of this personality type down to a T, well done👏
I did this about 2 years ago, I ignored my 15 unfinished fics and decided to focus on just one. Just complete one and when I'd done that I felt so good about having completed something that I went on to write 20 more fics. One by one. Even if I got an idea for a new fic (that comes to me ALL the time) I'd quickly write the idea down but then I would return to the one I was currently writing and focus only on that one and keep finishing them. Greatest sense of accomplishment I've ever had!☺
Thanks Benjamin! I really appreciate videos you made, so on point and helpful. I used to write journal or casually made up a very short song(that wouldn’t recorded anywhere and let it gone with the wind) when I’m overwhelmed with strong emotion… it’s SUPER HARD for me to only focus on one thing….
This is so wise, thank you sooo much. I have KNOWN for a long time that I have to start simple but I keep avoiding it because of course: My vision is *anything* but simple. And so, I just don't do it, which in my case I've known as young as I can remember that it's songwriting and singing. I'm a singer decent enough to make a living from my singing (Thank you, God), but I lack some skills to put music together, I can write lyrics and create melodies, but since I was overly shy about singing up until I graduated high school and enrolled in a voice bachelor's, I don't have practice actually putting every element together. I have gotten compliments on both my singing and my writing (Writing way before, I remember being in elementary school and my classmates and/or friends would occasionally read my essays and they would so honestly tell me that I was really good at it.). So the thing for me also is that I KNOW that I can do it, and that is both blessing and curse... For years I have felt this *false* sense of accomplishment over things that I haven't done, and so I haven't gotten to actually starting (I get overwhelmed by perfectionism, seeing the whole picture and imagining how hard the process will be) and finishing songs (I fear that upon completion or some months after, I will hear my song and feel like it's not good enough)... Bottom line is I have to focus on the first step and keep it simple, know that I don't have to make a 4-5 minute song that will satisfy me completely on my first try... Know that my music won't necessarily be immediately magical and helpful and healing to others but that I will eventually get there, IF and once I start working towards it. So please wish me luck with getting things done and to my fellow INFPs: I feel and understand you, you are not lazy or delusional: YOU know if you can do something successfully, don't let anyone else tell you your dreams could never become your reality. But we have to start somewhere and discipline ourselves to achieve our goals. I believe in you.
i agree for the most part. Personally I do not like opening up. To the right people maybe, but even so they also never really can understand. It feels like every time I try to explain my thoughts or express myself, most people just cannot understand or handle it. Specifically when it comes to the negative or sad thoughts. Having to be the optimistic one always gets draining hence why we spend a lot of time alone recharging and gathering new information to help ourselves and others. It's almost impossible to describe all thoughts or the process of coming to a conclusion to just anyone. They look at you like your insane or that the idealism comes from a naïve rainbow filled place. I don't know about anyone else but I think the optimism comes from overcoming obstacles from a very dark place. Therefore we have to internalize everything and then figure out a 'nice' or simple way to express it so others can understand and maybe help themselves through tough times. So its either let the darkness rule your thoughts and everything is terrible, live in self pity or think positively, work hard and hope for the best. Best way to explain it is Bruce Banner having that inner Hulk. The best version of Bruce is Avengers Endgame when Bruce and Hulk are one. This takes a lot of time and practice so I'll be in my head day dreaming for a little bit, while also overthinking if this comes across well.
I feel like you did a great job explaining this. I don't like to be open because directly expressing my emotions seems to chase people off. People typically love my shiny outer shell, but when it cracks and they see inside they get confused and freak out and then we aren't friends. Usually I have a LOT of feelings and conflicting emotions about things that make sense to me, but aren't easy to explain to others. Honestly it's easier to just hone your artistic skills for a decade or two, funnel your ideas and emotions into that and hope it attracts some kindred spirits.
What I started with was watercolor. Buy some watercolor paper, then you can put on a music which best fits your mood, choose colours that you feel like using, and start making shapes. That is all. The outcome does not have to be anything at all, you dont have to create any masterpieces, but this type of painting helped me a lot, and you really dont need any skill, because you play with colours and shapes while listening to your chosen music.
@@melodiouscloud3378 But keep going.. What I tell myself is time doesn't matter.. Take The time that you need just finish The goal.. Just keep your focus on The goal.. Watch your small challenges being conquered.. good things take time
I'm an IMFP-T & I would say you can actually express yourself through sports just by having your unique twist of things & it expresses the type of person I am in the way I fight & my passion for it shows in sparring
I'm an INFP, I write songs, sing them. Actually i released 2 of them, but my main problem is that i have like 20 songs wriiten half way and i just leave them like that...it's time to take action :D
Thank you. I felt like i was listening to my being and it helped me figure out how to cherish own feelings and thoughts more effectively and constructively
You understand me, you understand AND articulate, how my inner world works. (And I always thought, that it does not work at all! It does work!) You give so much hope. I never felt so understand in my hole life. Thank you.
It took me 20 years, but I transferred the entire Hanna-Barbera library from VHS & Cable TV and editing & converting to DVD. To completion. That was 20 years ago. 1985-2005. That is my legacy, but nobody has seen it but me. Nobody cares, ....just ME.
"when you they see your garden" kinda funny but it's actually true lmao. sometimes I share some songs to express my emotions. I even planned to collect some good songs or movie, fmso I can tell people that I'm like this and that. 😭
This is so interesting to me. I just feel so frustrated with my creative side. Because society tells me to focus on results and that I should pick one thing, stick to it and keep working on it in a routine. But this doesn’t work for my INFP ass. Because I indeed have such BIG ideas which I never finish because 1) there so big and 2) I just have so many other ideas along the way. I just give up. While in principle I just want to express myself, at the very moment I feel something… and making it indeed very simple without rules HELPS. I basically do what I want to do. Which is to Express myself, no matter the results.
HOW DO YOU KNOW ME SO WELL I FEEL ATTACKED😳 (I’m an INFP you can guess on your own) But anyway i write songs and poetry to express myself and maybe going to put it out but I’m too afraid, so for now i just post covers. Let’s see how long will it take me to finally put my original music out there😬 Oh no
I'm pretty sure that this world is only a very convincing dream. Hopefully I will wake up soon because no one speaks my language. If life is only practice, what kind of world will I wake up in? I'm lost here, can anyone show me the way?
Youre just 18 I didnt have a lot at 18 And we are late bloomers All of my small skills I never fully developed - turned to be a great treasure in my current work. It all fits if you just dont give up ( woke up half a year ago, at 31. You got time ! And you’ll find the skills you want to work on )
Thank you bro for real support and solution for my 3 years procrastination in IT field. I will take your advice because my previous experience shown me the same as you mentioned in this video. It would be great if you will make a video about the top 5 occupations chosen by INFP.
Thank you, i saw this right when I was asking the empty room for someone who knows how to finish this project. Im trying to smelt gold and electrum. I take forever Washing all the dirt and get decision fatigue choosing the pieces. And They all look like beautiful priceless precious metal and gems to me,. Then ill do that for three days until i have enough. And when its dry it looks like nothing i would have picked out.. or maybe dimensions change and i see colors different, or pantone is messing with me. But i grind and add flux and cook it for an hour and i every time manage to make an element completely disappear. Theres supposed to be metal within the slag. I been doing this every day for a year. Not one successful finish
I actually wrote a simple 15 second song earlier today. I'm crying right now. Tears of joy.
Are you going to share it somewhere?
@@BenjaminSpicy maybe I’ll start an anonymous Instagram account.
Do it! Or anonymous TH-cam channel works as well! Nothing to lose I say 😊
@@BenjaminSpicy I've got some songs on spotify already. open.spotify.com/artist/1fxR7LrykAQSVqhyJJgcr1
But an anonymous account for random unrelated creations in various mediums could be fun!
Wow these are cool!!! What do you use to put music on Spotify? I need to put some too 😃
"you struggle with actually doing everything you want" 🤣🤣🤣 This is it ! I don't know if another profile has such a problem.
Intp says hellow 👋
As intp who has an infp friend, I can say that Intp procrastinate more then infp
I think ISFP struggle too because they have the same Te at the bottom of functions
I’m an INFP athlete and find it very expressive. And the dopamine is basically free happiness, which is where I mostly get motivation
I get that :) it's like whatever the infp person is passionate about, they put emotion into that and use it for self expression
Same here, for me it is very expressive
I agree I'm an athletic INFP it helps me sort out all of the emotions bottled up in my head. It is also where I get most of my creative ideas.
Waw !..with our Se blind spot !..
How can you do it ?..it's amazing ❤
I love skateboarding im not to good at it but I done it since I was 17 im 24 now
this is exactly how i went about writing my first children's book last summer. I just started. Wrote something down and followed up on it edited and refined it. Now I am on my 3rd children's book!
Congrats!!
Wow! Congrats!!!
Congrats!🎉That is wonderful.
"Jst go and take a picture and edit it so it's sadder" - hahahahaha
I'm an INFP gardener. I put so much energy into trying to create a magical space in my own garden. It's a constant project and I do hope to one day open my garden to the public, like some of the people I work for do. I never really thought about that being a source of self-expression, but of course it is! I like to think of it as painting with plants, plus I'm outside, immersed in nature, trying to make the world more beautiful.
Gold content for INFPs. Thank you. I'll probably listen to this video again. You are amazing for understanding INFPs on such a deeper level.
It makes me really happy that you found the video helpful! 😊
@@BenjaminSpicy 😇🌟
HOW DID YOU KNOW? this is one of the best channels (in my opinion) for infps
I reeeeally like how you talk to us. Cause often we get half barked at to do things and get some consistency and make it business levels and I'm growing sadder by the minute, cause all it keeps saying is "There's no survival nor thriving for the likes of you. Either you bend into shape or do something so grand and world changing that people no longer question your being you and throw means of survival and thriving at you for your mere existence. But of course only, as long as you feed their expectations.". Know what I mean?
It's kind of mean healers need community the most, yet the least. It takes safe and secure room to thrive in. We're very plant like, often (and that can be a lot. I mean some plants basically hunt XD). You don't mess with plants. Know what happens if you do? Apples, for example! Modern apple varieties actually cause more allergic reactions than old varieties. Cause ppl went and messed with apples for more productivity and efficiency and now they get sick of that product of more efficiency. It's meddling with things half blind while not understanding even a portion of the complexity of why apple trees naturally came to the conclusion to grow a certain way and make apples a certain way.
You know that forests replanted by ppl post fires can't hold a candle at anything to forest parts that have been left to regrow at their pace and own order?
INFPs have no problem being, growing or creating. Our problems are products of there rarely being truly safe spaces held for us till we grow to a productive stage. And to then still be handled with care and not like money cows, hardworking dedicated faithful working dogs in inattentive hands, emotion garbage bins or convenient libraries that are used but otherwise left to rot.
It's odd, sometimes. To get told to expose ourselves while knowing chances are rather high we'll pay a too high price for it, is strange. Not getting things done and getting things out is equally dooming (since what gets out is often of some fascination cause it's 'out of the box').
So, getting told how this is first and foremost about self-care and expression and stepping out of guilt cycles and not impose guilt upon ourselves for being open and deep but private, is really helpful.
P.S.: Internet exposure is good but indeed, just well chosen places with limited audience. Scale (of reactions) getting out of hand is a very realistic risk.
Great comment, thank you!
@Kat. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
wow! One of the best comments i've read on youtube, i'm speechless
Felt that. 😮💨🥂♥️♥️
Wow, once you got into the Apple analogy, no doubt you're and infp. Thanks for that. I got everything you said and it's comforting to see someone else express themselves like I do.
Agreed!
The power is in consistent small steps. Like 10 minutes a day.
I think this concept is greatly underrated and it’s power not fully understood by most people.
I love the way you talk to us.. like seriously !! I barely like listening to people’s advice cause they appear judgemental or overbearing but you’re like a friend talking to us instead of talking down on us. Thank you ❤️
When something overwhelms me I write it in a personal diary, slowly I started to post my beliefs on law of attraction on social media and people like it, they find it helpful, it really improved my ability to express my feelings in a way people can understand 😇
@@ddyyanee I used to write, btw I am not an INFP. I got mistyped. Took a really long time , at the end got typed as INTP.
@@ddyyanee I used Whatsapp
@@ddyyanee I have one of those writings writings right now , if you want I can send you that on your number.
I recently finished Inktober for the first time in my life. My strategy was to post them in batches of six every 6 days. What happened was I often ended up drawing all 6 prompts on one day or less before my self-determined deadline after 5 days or more of imagining them.
Even though my drawings are more vague and ugly than stick figures, I'm already super pleased that I managed to put them into reality at all and not having them rotting inside aging brain :")
When I do express myself in public speaking, it is very compelling to the audience because I can convey so much feeling. It is a struggle to perform in public, however.
So get this.. I just realized I have about 5 paintings where I haven't finished people's heads, because everything already came together and I lost interest. The paintings are lovely and full of symbolism and emotion.. just none of them quite finished. I refuse to finish them - it would feel like a meaningless chore. Which also gives me an excuse not to show anyone 🤫
same here 👁👄👁
I'm currently writing a fantasy novel, several songs, and I started a craft business. These videos are so helpful and true for me. I hope you start making them again!
Amazing! Good for you! 💕
@@atanamorell2 Tysm!!! 💕💕💕 Have a great day!
This feels so good just to see it’s not just me going through these things! It’s helps me lay down a bit the shame and self judgement. Just do a little thing.. Thanks 🙏
This is something I struggled with all my life, and I am so grateful for this video. Whether or not it was intentional on your part to choose very specific phrases, it made me feel like I still had a choice. I'm willing to try out your advice. Thank you again. 😊
So IMPRESSIVE.....I have NEVER heard .....And I AM a 40+ man.... .SUCH a precise DESCRIPTION of an INFP and All of his functions and struggles in LIFE. It is almost scary in a wsy....Very IMPRESSIVE....hope to hear/see more from You. Thanx for all your work. Greetings from Hans
Glad you liked it! 😊
same lol. i never realised i was painting just because i struggle so much to say outloud anything about how i feel or what i think
Going to keep watching this content, it is good for my INFP soul.
The way you described the cycle of not finishing things is so accurate.
I’ve always had multiple hobbies that I never finish for exactly the reasons you outline here. I’ve just retired and started a new activity-weaving. I started designing based on my paintings, spinning the yarn, doing the whole process and as if by magic I have started finishing things. If I don’t feel like spinning maybe I do painting and I f I don’t feel like painting I may do some of the mathematical bits of weaving design or journaling. There is always part of the process that I actually want to do and they all combine to take me in the direction of the finished work.
All I can suggest is keep doing the random things you want to do. Move on when you feel the urge to and at some point in the future all these things will magically come together.
Some geniuses do their best work when they are young and often fail to ever create anything so good again but other geniuses suddenly appear in their sixties or seventies because they kept on playing their whole lives.
My dear friend, after reading countless of self help books and thousands of TH-cam videos, only this 11 minute video has helped me truly understand myself . May God bless you.
Ditto on that
Thank you! This is very good because I use to think I HAD to do something very big and the same all the time like have a “niche” or whatever but maybe my niche is just creating AND sharing whatever it is i make/create that I’m happy about and I feel good about it and along the way make others feel good as well. 💚
Thank you so much for this video
As an INFP myself, i learned some key areas on where i should improve in my life.
The research carried out on this personality type is spot on as i found myself relating to each and every word you said.
I love the way you make your videos mixing humor and information. It makes things lighter. Thanks bro.
So true I have an Idea for a story in my head talk about it then when I actually get started and try to bring it to life I'm like maybe another time.
Same
Benjamin, I am an INFP and your videos are so spot on, but also incredibly hysterical. I absolutely love them!
I hear the humor too
crying, thank you for being so gentle in your explaining what can be helpful... its easy to assimilate when you express it like this and it realllllllllllly means a lot to me... thank u
You are so right, I try to express myself with my photography. I like to capture candid intimacy in crowds. I would never show it to people or my family, but i damn well do post it on instagram hoping people will see what I see ahahhaha
When I heard you suggest sharing via the INFP subreddit, I raced to do it because it’s just perfect! A safe haven of people that would understand and appreciate it!
So adorable how you talk about us. Thank you. So nice, and ever nicer 😂
1:16 I'm not shy, I'm quiet and I'm tired of people confusing those 2 things. Besides that this video is good advice. I was aware of most of the topics mentioned, but it was helpful to see them listed
I got emotional listening to this. So ridiculously spot on. Thank you so much ❤️🙏
thank you! i was struggling with finishing two big paintings and this video motivated me to finally finish them😌
I literally made a 1 minute drawing here at work - I drew me thinking about food, appreciating my coworker for providing some happiness in my day (he's a fun dude) and how I'm confused about my feelings on life in general. When you said "now share it" I nearly spit out my food and had a mini anxiety attack. Some thing about sharing my feelings with others is just terrifying to me, because I"d be vulnerable. And that's scary. I did look up the INFP subreddit, and I'll think about joining. It might be nice to connect with other INFPs.
i really like listen to you! i am also infp and i feel so misunderstood and often i am not sure what to do with my life bc i feel so hopeless, but then i open one of your videos and listen to you. i suddenly start smiling and giggling and become happy. before i watched this video, i was drawing something but i did not like it and was feeling really empty, i did not wanted to do anything and just wanted to go sleep. now i have watched your video and i feel definitely better than before, i am motivated, i guess i want to take a note book and write something inside it! thank you so much for your ideas
My creative hobby is renovating furniture!
You really make amazing videos.
Everything you said was so true. 😁😁 This advice was much needed.
I'm very glad you found it helpful 😊
Thank you Ben! This is a helpful video. Keep being great, doing your thing, and inspiring others. Salute and much love!
Thanks, appreciate it!
I’ve listened to this four times now. The lesson still hasn’t sunken in, but I know it’s valuable. So I subscribed and keep on listening hoping it breaks through my thick INFP skull.
Hi Benjamin, I have watched and listened to a good number of individuals talking on the INFP type and I should tell you that your depth of insight is most remarkable, as if you have lived the life of an INFP for 40 or 50 years iot speak from personal experience; as an INFP(who hAs lived this life for 50+ years) I can confirm that you have your detailed understanding of this personality type down to a T, well done👏
I did this about 2 years ago, I ignored my 15 unfinished fics and decided to focus on just one. Just complete one and when I'd done that I felt so good about having completed something that I went on to write 20 more fics. One by one. Even if I got an idea for a new fic (that comes to me ALL the time) I'd quickly write the idea down but then I would return to the one I was currently writing and focus only on that one and keep finishing them. Greatest sense of accomplishment I've ever had!☺
I cried several times through this thank you so much it was so helpful I drew something! God bless
Thanks Benjamin! I really appreciate videos you made, so on point and helpful.
I used to write journal or casually made up a very short song(that wouldn’t recorded anywhere and let it gone with the wind) when I’m overwhelmed with strong emotion…
it’s SUPER HARD for me to only focus on one thing….
This is so wise, thank you sooo much. I have KNOWN for a long time that I have to start simple but I keep avoiding it because of course: My vision is *anything* but simple. And so, I just don't do it, which in my case I've known as young as I can remember that it's songwriting and singing. I'm a singer decent enough to make a living from my singing (Thank you, God), but I lack some skills to put music together, I can write lyrics and create melodies, but since I was overly shy about singing up until I graduated high school and enrolled in a voice bachelor's, I don't have practice actually putting every element together. I have gotten compliments on both my singing and my writing (Writing way before, I remember being in elementary school and my classmates and/or friends would occasionally read my essays and they would so honestly tell me that I was really good at it.). So the thing for me also is that I KNOW that I can do it, and that is both blessing and curse... For years I have felt this *false* sense of accomplishment over things that I haven't done, and so I haven't gotten to actually starting (I get overwhelmed by perfectionism, seeing the whole picture and imagining how hard the process will be) and finishing songs (I fear that upon completion or some months after, I will hear my song and feel like it's not good enough)...
Bottom line is I have to focus on the first step and keep it simple, know that I don't have to make a 4-5 minute song that will satisfy me completely on my first try... Know that my music won't necessarily be immediately magical and helpful and healing to others but that I will eventually get there, IF and once I start working towards it. So please wish me luck with getting things done and to my fellow INFPs: I feel and understand you, you are not lazy or delusional: YOU know if you can do something successfully, don't let anyone else tell you your dreams could never become your reality. But we have to start somewhere and discipline ourselves to achieve our goals. I believe in you.
This is the most useful video for INFP's that I have come across so far. Thank you. 🙏
i agree for the most part. Personally I do not like opening up. To the right people maybe, but even so they also never really can understand. It feels like every time I try to explain my thoughts or express myself, most people just cannot understand or handle it. Specifically when it comes to the negative or sad thoughts. Having to be the optimistic one always gets draining hence why we spend a lot of time alone recharging and gathering new information to help ourselves and others. It's almost impossible to describe all thoughts or the process of coming to a conclusion to just anyone. They look at you like your insane or that the idealism comes from a naïve rainbow filled place. I don't know about anyone else but I think the optimism comes from overcoming obstacles from a very dark place. Therefore we have to internalize everything and then figure out a 'nice' or simple way to express it so others can understand and maybe help themselves through tough times. So its either let the darkness rule your thoughts and everything is terrible, live in self pity or think positively, work hard and hope for the best. Best way to explain it is Bruce Banner having that inner Hulk. The best version of Bruce is Avengers Endgame when Bruce and Hulk are one. This takes a lot of time and practice so I'll be in my head day dreaming for a little bit, while also overthinking if this comes across well.
I feel like you did a great job explaining this. I don't like to be open because directly expressing my emotions seems to chase people off. People typically love my shiny outer shell, but when it cracks and they see inside they get confused and freak out and then we aren't friends. Usually I have a LOT of feelings and conflicting emotions about things that make sense to me, but aren't easy to explain to others. Honestly it's easier to just hone your artistic skills for a decade or two, funnel your ideas and emotions into that and hope it attracts some kindred spirits.
This is extremely accurate. Wow
You really understand :D You create great content!
Thanks so much! I'll keep making it 😊
Skill is the biggest obsticle for me..
It is just so draining.. to have to learn a lot just so to express ourselves..
It takes sooo much time
What I started with was watercolor. Buy some watercolor paper, then you can put on a music which best fits your mood, choose colours that you feel like using, and start making shapes. That is all. The outcome does not have to be anything at all, you dont have to create any masterpieces, but this type of painting helped me a lot, and you really dont need any skill, because you play with colours and shapes while listening to your chosen music.
@@bekablank .that is a wonderful.idea! Thank you so.much!
I rely heavily on my imagination and gut instincts rather than learnt skills/techniques/experience.
I feel you!!! I’m thinking of learning Animation and oof the amount of time it takes to create even a short animation is insane😭
@@melodiouscloud3378 But keep going.. What I tell myself is time doesn't matter.. Take The time that you need just finish The goal.. Just keep your focus on The goal.. Watch your small challenges being conquered.. good things take time
This is soooo me and so accurate, thank you ! I feel less bad now and happy for the next project I'm gonna post :D
Thanks for posting this and kudos to your effort for helping others.
May I say that I found you absolutely adorable and that I watch every one of your videos with a permanent smile on my face?
Such a lovely voice ✨ on top of a great message :)
So refreshing to hear someone that nice speaking :) thanks to you!
I'm an IMFP-T & I would say you can actually express yourself through sports just by having your unique twist of things & it expresses the type of person I am in the way I fight & my passion for it shows in sparring
I'm an INFP, I write songs, sing them. Actually i released 2 of them, but my main problem is that i have like 20 songs wriiten half way and i just leave them like that...it's time to take action :D
Same brother
This is so helpful. I'm glad I found it, because I struggle with a lot of the shit mentioned. Thank you very much for posting this!!
Thank you. I felt like i was listening to my being and it helped me figure out how to cherish own feelings and thoughts more effectively and constructively
I want to do it.
No, I need to do it.
Fuck, I can't do it.
Pick something else, repeat cycle.
You understand me, you understand AND articulate, how my inner world works. (And I always thought, that it does not work at all! It does work!) You give so much hope. I never felt so understand in my hole life. Thank you.
This video is very accurate 🙌 we live magical lives in our heads....now just to live it out in the real world
Wow, everything you said just brought me hope and joy ! Thank you 🥹
It took me 20 years, but I transferred the entire Hanna-Barbera library from VHS & Cable TV and editing & converting to DVD. To completion. That was 20 years ago. 1985-2005. That is my legacy, but nobody has seen it but me. Nobody cares, ....just ME.
COOL THING YOU DID THERE!!! Great job on it🥳
Thanks for the love ❤️
"when you they see your garden" kinda funny but it's actually true lmao. sometimes I share some songs to express my emotions. I even planned to collect some good songs or movie, fmso I can tell people that I'm like this and that. 😭
This is so interesting to me. I just feel so frustrated with my creative side. Because society tells me to focus on results and that I should pick one thing, stick to it and keep working on it in a routine. But this doesn’t work for my INFP ass. Because I indeed have such BIG ideas which I never finish because 1) there so big and 2) I just have so many other ideas along the way. I just give up. While in principle I just want to express myself, at the very moment I feel something… and making it indeed very simple without rules HELPS. I basically do what I want to do. Which is to Express myself, no matter the results.
I will definitely try this advice! Now I fee like I am on top of the world
I feel very understood 😊 thank you for your insight and expressing how it feels so clearly. Thank you
I already did that in wattpad im really happy😭
I love your voice and your style. 🥰
Expression through tulips bc sometimes it’s hard to express ourselves through our two lips 😅
Thanks A LOR for your video, it's so simple and yet so helpful :D
As an INFP....spot on!
thank you soooo much for this video!! really was in need for this advice! 💜
That's the best advice I ever got.
This is soooooo helpful thanks for taking the time.
Thank you, very insightful and very practical!
Aaand I've read all the comments.
Do I feel accomplished? Yes.
Spot on! Thanks for this video.
HOW DO YOU KNOW ME SO WELL I FEEL ATTACKED😳 (I’m an INFP you can guess on your own)
But anyway i write songs and poetry to express myself and maybe going to put it out but I’m too afraid, so for now i just post covers. Let’s see how long will it take me to finally put my original music out there😬
Oh no
It's scary but it's well worth it! Wish you all the best 😊
@@BenjaminSpicy thank you☺️ I’ll try my best!
I really want to listen to me but you sound better 😂❤
I'm an INFP teenager and I have future plans to express myself through landscape photography
Aaawww. Thank youu. You're so cute 😊 I really like the way you speak
Thank you so much! I feel better
I really recommend a book called The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron to any INFP! It’s changing my life :D
I love this so much
3:00 this makes so much sense!
I'm pretty sure that this world is only a very convincing dream. Hopefully I will wake up soon because no one speaks my language. If life is only practice, what kind of world will I wake up in? I'm lost here, can anyone show me the way?
I am sick of being infp
Felt
How come? INFP male here.
Love & hate for me 🥲
Wanted to write a comment about what it’s like to be an INFP but I decided to keep it to myself
That process about sums it up better than anything else you could have said, tbh. So I guess in the end you got what you wanted c:
This is helpful~ Thank you!
Thank you, This is very helpful!
Thank you for the advice 💕✨
An infp was your 1000th sub 😊 (aka me)
Thank you😊😊😊
Thank you so much! so helpful
Thanks so much for advices🌻Really helpful.
For me i am 18 and i have no skills seriously. I am just nobody.
Youre just 18
I didnt have a lot at 18
And we are late bloomers
All of my small skills I never fully developed - turned to be a great treasure in my current work.
It all fits if you just dont give up ( woke up half a year ago, at 31. You got time ! And you’ll find the skills you want to work on )
Thank you bro for real support and solution for my 3 years procrastination in IT field. I will take your advice because my previous experience shown me the same as you mentioned in this video. It would be great if you will make a video about the top 5 occupations chosen by INFP.
Thank you, i saw this right when I was asking the empty room for someone who knows how to finish this project. Im trying to smelt gold and electrum. I take forever Washing all the dirt and get decision fatigue choosing the pieces. And They all look like beautiful priceless precious metal and gems to me,. Then ill do that for three days until i have enough. And when its dry it looks like nothing i would have picked out.. or maybe dimensions change and i see colors different, or pantone is messing with me. But i grind and add flux and cook it for an hour and i every time manage to make an element completely disappear. Theres supposed to be metal within the slag. I been doing this every day for a year. Not one successful finish