the dads still wrong but at least he called someone the kid trusts, other then that, the dad should have started to get it somewhat together when learning the kid was gonna be in his care. dad gets a 6/10.
@@cadaverific3774 invalidating and invalid are two different things, but anyways the problem is that by saying "I'm sure she loves you" you are making the child feel guilty for their own feelings and gaslight them into "maybe I'm the problem and it's actually not that bad" which could be true sometimes, but it isn't worth the pain of the children who are really abused. Getting the feelings invalidated only helps the abuse continue
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the dads still wrong but at least he called someone the kid trusts, other then that, the dad should have started to get it somewhat together when learning the kid was gonna be in his care. dad gets a 6/10.
Yeah, i said this to one of our family friends when i was a kid. She looked sad about it, then i felt bad for telling her i wished she were my mum.
Even if OP meant well, being said "I'm sure your mum loves you very much" is extremely invalidating, at least for me
Not really a problem imo, since pretty much 80% of shit teens and children say is invalid as well
@@cadaverific3774 invalidating and invalid are two different things, but anyways the problem is that by saying "I'm sure she loves you" you are making the child feel guilty for their own feelings and gaslight them into "maybe I'm the problem and it's actually not that bad" which could be true sometimes, but it isn't worth the pain of the children who are really abused. Getting the feelings invalidated only helps the abuse continue