how to master your emotions | emotional intelligence
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In this video, I talk about mastering the emotions and emotional intelligence (for lack of a better term).
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Whom so ever watching this video, I wish you health, wealth and lot of happiness to you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you
I hope the same to you.
Get out of here with that bs. It makes the channel look bad.
I love you
Right back at you
Fuck you!
Mastering one's emotions is like being calm in the eye of the storm.
had a dream.. i was born.. i was naked in the eye of the storm..
thanks for reminding me of that song.
Pfft. I’d rather teeter on the eye wall of the storm. A risky life, but you can see the hell that there is out in the world, but also see the good the there can also be in that hell. It’s quite exciting. =3=
My favorite role is the spectator. The amount of things: perspectives, beliefs, views, and the like, is just fascinating. It’s much more exciting when you can see it all. =P
Deniel kai Labine im normally calm like when my brother destroys one of my things purposely outa anger i stop myself from fighting or attacking but sometimes i cant help but cry
Yes💜💜💜💜
Left eye ?? or Right eye ??
😂😂
The thing is, you won't ever think of these tips when you get mad
Because emotions take over you
Yes sir. Though if u actively practice 10 min mediation and / or journalling say everyday for half a year. It will give a good 3 seconds of space to where the impulse usually takes over.
Reactively Trusting that awareness will take care of you when the time comes compared to actively practicing the strengthening of it. Is the difference between hobbyists and professionals
I did
This is why you process and accept what you're feeling even when the feelings are not intense. So you will be better prepared when they are
The goal is not to control our emotions, but to become so in touch with our emotions that we don't let them control our lives and instead influence our lives. to feel and still make logical, unbias, decisions about the world(s) around us.
Agree!
It’s the same thing
Golden !!!
Objectivity is an illusion. We have so many innate biases, that even professors who study them for decades can't change themselves. It's important to understand that we can't make unbiased decisions.
Still difficult. This can take a lifetime to master, which means you may never master it
My advice to people trying to master emotions:
1. Don’t ignore unpleasant or exciting emotions.
2. Understand their cause and source.
3. Decide if you want it to overtake you.
I agree. What I personally do is look at something as neutral like yes, it exists. Am I going to let that ruin my mood? Nope.
Simple yet powerful, thanks for this
Letter Fake this is better than any information im finding
This made way MORE sense than the video 🙏Much appreciated 👌💗
@ that happens too me to .I can be filling good and the minute I start thinking about him my energy changes and normally its because I'm saying I'm thinking of him yet he isn't thinking about me.
Technically this isn’t mastering your emotions at all. It’s broadening your horizons. It’s not the same. Emotional mastery is acting in spite of what you feel. Like feeling fear but not being ruled by it.
Yeah, check the training Marins go through for that, like by-passing Fight/Flight response. But he does have a point in the sense that if you look at things differently, you then process them differently and thus act differently. Thats how I understand it anyway.
You can master your emotions by viewing something from another's perspective. This is an exercise I did once in a small interactive emotional intelligence seminar I attended. They had you think back to a time when you were the most angry at someone. Then you picked a partner and you pretended that partner was the person you were angry at and you yell at him for a good minute and explain why he did you wrong. Then you switch turns, and your partner pretends he's the person who made you angry and he tries to explain his reason for acting the way he did in that situation. What that does is help you to bring up the anger you've been holding for a long time within you and then see the situation from the other person's perspective, so that maybe by reflecting on how the other person viewed it, even if you don't agree, but then maybe you can understand at least and forgive or let go of the anger.
Thanks you. I'm horizons are already pretty broad. I just need to learn to thrive under it
@@cyclonemt super interesting, thanks for sharing!
I thought the same way at first but actually it is mastering your emotions. To look at things from a higher perspective without letting your emotions change and twist what you see. With objectivity. For most ppl its really hard to look at sth without letting their emotions interfere.
Something I learnt in CBT therapy really helped me in this.
It is not events that trigger emotional responses in me, but my interpretations of these events that cause these emotions.
One cannot change ones emotions because we are our emotions. But with that being said we do not have to act on everything and we can let it flow through us like water...
dafuq u talkin abt, even if we r our emotions "according to u" we can change ourselves therefor we can change our emotions
@AD I believe we can change our perspective or choose not to act on our emotions. But ultimately not change emotions. It's just my guess. There is no fact.
@@YAMII1010 man you're right like tf .. if we are out emotions we would act compulsively
Wrong. We are NOT our emotions, we are the ones who experience them.
@@YAMII1010😭🤣
Emotional intelligence has changed my life. For those who want to master their emotions:
1. Observe your emotions
2. Analyse what causes them
3. Take 10 deep breaths before you react to something that makes you angry
Thank you 🙏
exactly!
Thank you so much!!!
@JaedenG Boucher Let's not turn a positive into a negative little fella
Useless.
I'm overly sensitive on every single little thing people said to me and thus I get hurt so easily and also angry easily. I wish to toughen up my emotion to at least feels nothing at all.
I can definitely relate! I am very similar and am learning that if you look at your life from like a 3rd person point of view you have the option to choose whether to hold on you your emotions or let them go. It’s basically what the video said “change your perspective, change your emotions.”You should never not want to feel anything at all that’s the point of being alive!
It’s ok to be a sensitive person, I was once there too. While you might need to learn some self control, and understand why you feeling the way you are, I don’t think you want to emotionally numb yourself, it makes life feel bland
You dont want to feel nothing at all, emotions dont make you weak they make you strong. I dont feel much anymore and it isnt good, be careful what you wish for.
Even I am like you but I grew stronger, until I was again crying.
And the worse thing is, Even I insulted the person. I helped him alot and he did aswell.
But he is the very person that made me cry
Andy Fate same
Different people have different ways. For me it’s best to follow based on this quote “Don’t try to control your emotion but don’t let your emotion control you”
This video has nothing to do with mastering your emotions! It’s about perspective!
That is what I thought.
The master of it, if you wanna be the conquerer, the lazy way out is the easy way out, if it's your attitude in life, if you live to serve,if you are abandoned by society, could you change a life, how would you do it, what the meaning of life should be about 🆘🚩💲✅
Your emotions are a product of your thoughts. If you change your perspective you change your thoughts and thus your emotions.
Me: comes here to learn how to not cry everytime i get angry in public
Me: leaves with *NOTHING*
j v literally have been looking for a video just for that
I m not expert but i think i should answer u becoz a year ago i was very very much aggressive, always fighting with everyone for small things or matters which was even not much important to me( i was that bad that manytimes i quarrelled with my mom and bro also). During long heated arguments many times i was speaking with bitterness (unintentionally due to anger)which hurt others and obviously in return i was get same bitterness and then at that time i was crying for hours.
Directly coming to Solution: i started doing yoga on daily basis. I want to make clear that yoga is not doing some asana and meditation but it is related to everything in our life starts with how we think.
For u : try to think wht make u cry , (in my case it was my anger and then i find out what makes me angry ) along with this try anom vilom prayananam
Think +ve & Be patience change will be slow but yog makes permanent change in behaviour & attitude
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j v exactly this video has nothing related to how to master your emotions!
Yemima Hutapea NO I sadly still have not
I also have that problem
"Your highly emotional reaction is most illogical" - Dr. Spock
hm a lack of coherence would be illogical Mr. Spock. If a person is emotional but expresses coherence, that person is not illogical, just unreasonable.
And purely subjective therefor if set claim is not proven, you look whack if you act on that assumption.
I as a highly intuitive and sensitive person had especially my problems with learning that.
Now I feel stupid....
Yall a bunch of nerds
- arica senclare
You cannot be logical all the time, we are humans afterall, not machines.
This really opened my mind, in a humiliating way. I realized that as much as i claim to see everyone as equals, the same being. I judge them, not intentionally... but i do. I need to stop cringing away from things i dont want to hear. Just to realize that everyone has a story, and i wasnt around for most of it... Thank you for the teaching. I will make use of this, and try to just be there for others, and listen. Understand. and feel grateful for doing so in my own heart.
Love this video! 1. acceptance of own feelings, 2. acknowledge own perception, 3. experience new perceptions
As someone who overcame anger and short temper, I'd say the key to master emotions is to identify them first. Identifying what you're feeling gives you the time to decide before you take action. I developed this by meditating and being conscious and concentrating on the present, most of the time. Hope this helps someone :)
During the journey of mastering emotions how did u keep urself motivated for longer , because i find it so boring to absorbing the thought and if I am not achieving calmness I get easily frustrated
By the way congrats u ve achieved
@@26jagriti21 The improved quality of life which I gained by being mindful kept me motivated most of the time. My ability to observe and analyse things improved greatly. Quality of my sleep also got better overtime. All these things kept me motivated. I know it's frustrating to keep focused all the time, don't be too harsh to yourself. Be forgiving. Forgive yourself if you act out of your emotions and hurt someone. If you find yourself losing focus, just get back to it whenever you can. Eventually the time in between gets lesser. It takes time and practice but trust me, it gets easier. I hope you overcome your negative emotions and lead a quality life 🙂
@@MdShahidShaik tnq
@@MdShahidShaik Thank you so much for sharing your insights and tools that have worked for you. I struggle with being honest about my emotions and then later on building resentment or feeling overwhelmed. Journaling has been a big help and reading comments such as yours and educating myself on emotional intelligence.
For me it's
1.Accepting what is the cost
2.Accepting what will happen
3.Then react
Number 3 is wrong. You should not react into anything you just have to stay objective at the end.
I’m a new sub, and I’m from the Philippines. All I can say is that your videos are adding value to my everyday life, you have are now a part of my daily routine. I just hoped that I have known your channel way way before.
Please don’t be tired of making these kinds of videos, you are helping a lot of people!! More power!!
I just want to say..
This video saved my day today, I was driftiing off emotionally and for the first time in a while I felt stuck in my emotions but this allowed me to flow freely again. I am forever thankful 🙏🏻
*"It is important to draw wisdom from different places, if you only take it from one place it becomes rigid and stale"*
- Uncle Iroh (Character from the well known show Avatar: The Last Airbender)
Very underrated series
I read that in my mind in Irohs voice lol
quality cartoon
As Zuko also quoted him, "You have to look within yourself to save yourself from your other self. Only then, would your true self reveal itself"
Iroh was definitely a great character
3 SIMPLE steps to MASTER your emotions :
1) Be observant of your thoughts
2) Be observant of how you feel
3) Know that both are interconnected
4) You're in control :)
this good, but I think feel first then thoughts second. Our thoughts are made from what we are feeling.
+Ally Prasad I find them seperate things totally? I can think and feel differently
Of course I agree but I think that's why the point is to align them both, for them to work together Have you ever had that experience where you think one thing and feel another and then it just feels like you are fighting with yourself? Certain thoughts arise from certain feelings. Getting clear about what you truly are feeling allows your thoughts to be clear as well and they end up aligning perfectly together, in harmony.
+Ally Prasad depends what you define as feeling really whether you mean more inner type feeling or if you mean reaction to physical stimulus or emotion (or maybe all of them?). I guess when I think about it, I usually feel intuition first of an idea and thoughts come afterwards. I don't feel in the sensory way so for me (that type of feeling) is very much secondary.
+Ally Prasad and yup i've had that feeling and thought mismatch
When he asked what do you see in this picture. Everybody be like a circle or a square but i literally saw 4 packman.😂
I saw four tulips
I finally am immune to bullying thank you so much this helped me to not do suicide
Let this tough time or emotion pass,nd One day u will realise u r so strong,sending u love,god bless u💌❤️
All the best!
@@SiddharthaKahali hang 💀
@@ragingkooky1039damn somehow didn't see that. Edited
So glad you didn't do it 🙏 ....Stay strong!
*If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change*
Wayne dyer ~
Wow
Is this supposed to be... Not obvious?
ClashCodes ahahahahhahaah
Neo: Wow
I agree. Thanks.
EXTRA TIP: 10 steps for emotional intelligence
1.Meditate
2.meditate
3.meditate
4.meditate
5.meditate
6.meditate
7.meditate
8.meditate
9.meditate
10.create distance between thoughts and emotion by observing
I really like number 10, that is really important
Sorry to burst your bubble but meditating is as productive as sleeping , there's no influx of information that will change your perception of whatever during meditation.
@@kao9698 www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2015/05/26/harvard-neuroscientist-meditation-not-only-reduces-stress-it-literally-changes-your-brain/?.ee452ea528b4
There is little good in just punching people in the face with “OMG YOU TOTALLY SHOULD MEDITATE IT’S A LIFECHANGER”. If a person doesn’t understand well what a meditation is from the beginning, they’re going to try it a couple of times, completely out of context, and give up confused and disappointed. Meditation is a tool which you begin to use once you understand well what you want to achieve, not a goal in itself. One should first show the person the importance of understanding their emotions and only then advice meditating as ONE of the possible ways of coming to this understanding.
We can even go to the moon just by meditation
I feel like we need more teachers as such as yourself. As someone who had no one to teach me about life I wish we had more of this in the open world. May peace be with you.
I don't know if I learned anything about mastering emotions from this video, but it sure helped me put in words the things I've been experiencing that have been altering my perspective of the world lately. I was like "hey! I'm experiencing that right now! So that's what it is!"
How to master your emotions:
Simply know things just go, and know to forget about it.
How?
@@jeevansingh-sg7cj think lightly. If you want, you can watch some of my videos.
Sorry if they are low quality by the way
Meditate, and be aware of the breath effortlessly within the now or presence. When you think about the past, you’re living it, when you are aware of the present; you are it ❤️
tBut that can be dangerous for your mental health. I really think mastering emotion is actually dangerous. I'm starting a channel on this very topic and how to welcome emotions to become stronger.
@@webazelabs1878 Sure, there are 7 billion individuals on this planet, we have different perspectives. One can hope to make one happy, so long as people are happy, it's good.
Ok but are we just gonna ignore that they both stared at that homeless guy for like a minute straight
Homeless man: Can I have some money, please
Joseph: stands there for like ten minutes staring at the man with tears filled up in his eyes
@@leannakar293 Homeless man: Okay, find, keep your precious dollar. Sorry I asked.
@@leannakar293 i will buy you food not giving you money that's it
gieyy
Love your picture btw
I felt like this video was for me. I've mastered my emotions because I had to. The side effect of mastering your emotions is that you'll feel a lot more pain when someone hurts your feelings. I've always never been able to face my biggest fear of opening up my heart fully to anyone even my own family. I may look tough and unbreakable on the outside because I have to build a wall around my heart to protect it from being broken ever again. I've recently made the biggest mistake of my life by breaking my own rule and opened up fully to someone whom I thought was the right one. I broke down in tears immediately after I saw Campbell's quote at the end of the video.
From the tone of the voice to the video content, everything is just perfect. Great content men
My keyboard was watching this with me.. now he is optimus prime.
😂😋👍
So I assume ur keyboard became the conquerer and u are now the homeless man in the video
@Batman Of Konoha lets decide.. grunting
omg😂😂😂😂😂😂
Am I the only one who didn't get the joke ?
I love your pragmatic approach to philosophy. It’s sooo beautiful! Philosophy is my background. And I think something youwere touching on was in the realm of epistemology. How we come to know what we know, and being aware of the fact that our invisible constructs are arbitrary really allows us to accept the possibility that we and all may be wrong about any given thing and that it is therefore important to listen, learn and be patient.
One can listen, learn, and potentially alter natural reactions. However, the extent that emotional actions are altered through such an understanding is, in my opinion, optimistic. Emotional reactions draw from our very nature, and by definition rely on impulses, impulses that are controlled by our innate Being. An example that is commonly understandable is the way that music manages to alter ones mood, in a way that is somewhat self-evidently uncontrollable. Consequently, I am skeptical of the extent to which one can react to emotional situations in a manner distinguishable from our innate natural Being.
You might say I have narrowed the question at hand to reactionary emotional scenarios, and you'd be right. In less emotionally sensitive situations a rational and logical approach is key in changing the ways we see the world.
I replied pwedeng Philosophy mismo. Depende sa school mo. Sa university ko May Philosophy kami. Mayroon ba kayong Philosophy course??
Anthony Taylor I believe that the paradigm shifts that we experience will also account for influencing our emotional responses as well. Though, you’re right, but yeah, I do think that what you narrowed it to is a little off from the topic we were discussing.
M Muss this is gonna sound a little weird, but one of my favorite philosophy books is “Hogwarts for Muggles: Harry Potter and Philosophy.” I also enjoy the Tao of Pooh. You can also do the 50 Great Philosohpies.
🔹 "So what you're saying is..." ~ Paborito mo rin si Jordan Peterson? 😆
How about major in Clinical Psychology to possibly help people lacking in emotional intelligence?
Control yourself, control your performance! Strong mind + strong body = ultimate confidence! Very helpful video
This was one of the most important lessons I’ve learnt. I’ll remember it.
after watching this I realise my emotional intelligence is actually one of the things about myself I do like. My resilience. I’ve been pushed down but I’ve always gotten back up, trauma, abuse or heartbreak I’ve somehow lifted myself out of the depths and thought “how am I going to learn from this?”. I always knew dwelling on something or restricting yourself to one thinking pattern is dangerous, you must look at all directions you could take. Which has also led me to become a very empathetic human. I know I haven’t perfected it yet but I’m still working on it, and it is something I will work on for the rest of my life.
•Bellie Jelli• same
All that for 1 like
Parker Schemm I didn’t write it to get likes I wrote it to express what I thought of this video and my personal experience :)
I think it's interesting that the person from the impoverished family is portrayed as un-giving, un-empathetic, and cut throat, while the person who grew up in the wealthy family is portrayed in as altruistic, giving, and empathetic. Statistics and general observation of reality says otherwise. People who grow up in less privileged families are more likely to give to others and much more likely to give to strangers. One of the reasons for this is because people that grow up in low income neighborhoods are surrounded by examples of what happens when a family has financial problems. They see why people have financial problems and they might even see the financial down fall and homelessness of a family. When a child grows up watching their friends, neighbors, and family financially struggling, they are naturally more likely to be empathetic when they are approached by a stranger that is experiencing a financial crisis.
mina mii19 it’s just a cartoon bro
I doubt they put that much thought into it
I personally know the video's assumption to be true
Indeed. I'm someone who suffers from mental illnesses a lot. I have a lot of help too. According to the video I should be unempathetic to others with mental illness. But I used to want to be a Teaching Assistant, for, you guessed it, people with mental illness. (But others wanted me to 'actually use your intelligence because you could get further in life in that' to quote.)
I don't think that helping others really comes from privilege. A rich person may help because of, say, religion. But they might also not due to lack of understanding of the poor. Believing that hard work always gets you places but privilege also plays a huge role. A poor person may help because they understand the person's situation. But they may also not because of the survival of the fittest mentality. They want to get rich as soon as possible because they long for that life and see it as complete heaven and all of their problems will be solved. There's too many possibilities.
@@cantin8697 I agree. It doesnt follow a rule.
Thank you, great illustration.
Balance our logic and our emotion.
Never judge other person before you listen to them (reminder for my self)
I've also learned to not be in resistance and just see what's in front of me just as it is and let go. People have different personalities, behaviors and actions and we cannot change anyone but only ourselves
The very cave you are afraid of enter, turns out to be the source of what you are looking for.
- Joseph Campbell
oh yeah? tell that to the bear who resides there.
Paradoxical intention - Viktor Frankl
Had that happen in life a many a time.. definitely true in my life.
Or how about the cave with an actual bull in it?
@@jerrrrbear agree...the one we fear..is like fighting against a bear
me: trying to learn how to control my emotions
me after watching the whole video: *leaves with nothing*
Hang in there, i hope youll find a way to master your emotions.
it's hard to explain that, as one who struggled with understanding his emotions, and i still do in times, i would say, realign yourself with the present moment, it's simply done through 'cleaning' your thoughts and focusing on your breath/consciousness.
@@ZenfulHaze meditation helps with that, meditate and focus on mindfulness which will help you control your emotions
@@xshine132 meditation is basically breathing in and out, getting to the state of mind that I spoke of, yeah :x
@@ZenfulHaze yeah also doing wim hof breathing methods
Great stuff bro! This is what it’s about, and it grands you freedom once you understand it. Thank you for putting in the work and sharing this with the world ❤️
Blows my mind when I watch videos like this & it’s like my thoughts repeating themselves .
*First step is to become AWARE of them then making good HABITS out of bad ones.*
Thank you for sharing this with us!
Winny out... _for now_ 😉
Could you give us an examaple?
Random Saidkik sure! Tell me a bad habit of yours or an emotion that you would like to become aware of and turn your actions according to that emotion into a good one
The concept of good and bad is so subjective though
Wave breaker yes, there’s no right and wrong, there’s only more right and less wrong :)
Random Saidkik contact me via Instagram brotherhood and I’ll try my best to give you my perspective on things :) it’s instagram.com/mind_now
Am I the only one who saw 4 pacmans trying to eat each other?
No you're not
Nope XD
Nope!
Oh, great. I thought I was crazy or something because of this. LOL
@water tastes so good lol
It means we grew up in an epic gamer environment
I think in order to master emotions we have to learn not to take them personally.
If they’re negative emotions try to distant ourselves emotionally to think rationally and if it’s a positive emotion try to take it for what it is and not let it go to our ego.
Of course, it’s easier said than done specially in the heat of the moment, but overtime it becomes a useful habit and eventually bring peace of mind.
Emotions usually govern our life, especially the strong ones. But it is important to keep in mind that emotions are not really ours. They come and go, so hinder negative emotions and let go of the positive emotions, for trying to hold on to a specific emotion will only cause you to want more. This can often lead to misery. Hard as it is, you can still gain some control over your emotions. Practicing stoicism can also help. Very well put lines tho.
your voice is so calming. Thanks for this lesson badly needed it. I agree emotions are too powerful.
It's incredibly hard to pull yourself out of homelessness. You can't get a job if you can't shower or afford proper clothes.
Effective planning is a key to everything that being said nobody can be the same if everyone develops the same merits the opportunities for everyone will be endangered so we must try and fix the government.
Im messed up i hope someone kills me this just made me feel so bad about my life I hope i see oliver in hell because i can't do anything.....
@@fr_w0lv3s38 im sorry for whatever you're going through but please hang on, things will get better💞
Live in a car. Planet fitness has showers n cheap memberships. Get a job serving tables. Its instant money. Just care about the way u look on the outside. Look happy and not desperate.. Youll get out in a few weeks just save money. Hang out at mcdonalds on you downtime. Free wifi to look for a new home.
how about the DESIRE to not want to continue to be homeless pushing the individual to take action to be less homeless....
*I am neither Goku nor Vegeta, I am Gogeta!*
Vegito is better. 😂
(Im not a weeb i just remember some old episodes)
@@goldeneggthatneverhatched4252 hehehe
😂😂😂😂😂
But sorry Im the best
Haha. now THATS having ur cake and eating it too #SUPREME
Man... this is so deep, but fun to absorb.
So... thank you for the video and the hardwork.
This helped so much and although im only just now starting to see my problem im happy that im beginning to find a solution. Thank you!
So Alexander is a capitalist and Joseph is a socialist?
that's what i was thinking of
Yes exactly!
Lol. Yup!
YES
When you put it like that..,,😂
I remember finding this channel probably more than a year ago. I liked the videos, but they gave too much information in too little time. I remember writing this feedback in appreciation of what you have already created and what you could possibly create in the future. Then, I forgot about this channel for a long time. Now youtube recommended me this video. You have come a LONG way. That story was incredibly well structured and inspiring. You have inspired me with your great improvement, and the great video. Thank you for that!
Is clickbait tho, don't know the old videos but can't be an improvement
I've been thinking like this for a long time and thought that something's wrong inside. This video cleared it up. Thanks a lot 😁.
What a beautiful and meaningful video this is… I am so glad I discovered this channel.
I have a master degree in psychology yet I'm awed by how well you explained these ideas so vividly and precisely.
I'm looking for materials for my students and found this, you definitely educated me here on how to present these concepts. Well done.
My understanding is from emotional maturity: Being able to feel your emotions, without passively, aggressively, obsessively reacting to them.
It has nothing to do with concepts.
Being open minded is good for allowing new thoughts. Being open hearted is great for allowing new emotions. Being in the present moment is about accepting all of this for what it is, in awareness, and not needing to act on it.
Regardless of whether you know people's stories, you can connect through understanding, through experience and presence.
@@abstract271 Empathy is the end result. You can't just be present and open-minded and expect to understand someone, but it's a beginning.
@@abstract271 It seems that way. You have to start by looking at yourself and being with what you think and feel.
You can't expect to understand anyone else or yourself, if you never listen.
New thoughts and ideas are less important, but observation-without doubt and assumption-is critical to learning.
@@abstract271 Thoughts necessarily assume the nature of reality, unless they are used merely as pointers, for observation.
There's a fundamental uncertainty when it comes to thinking, which uses belief and faith and doubt and suspicion, to uphold itself.
In other words: You can't know what you don't know.
The only thing that's absolutely certain is the apparent, immediate moment of awareness-but to take anything for granted or assume beyond it-is still dabbling in mental games, pretend, and fantasy.
Sure, it's fun to use words, and it works to feel less lonely-but I'm not going to say or claim-that I know a damn thing.
@@abstract271 The mind attempts to know through descriptions with words that assume its very nature to begin with.
"You can't know what you don't know" means for everything you think you know, there is always something-inevitably-that can make it uncertain and doubtful, if you're being truly genuine and honest with integrity to the methodological formula of absolute rationality, which is: observation, deduction, and inference, over and over, forever and ever.
Remember that: forever and ever.
It's cyclical mind, ego jerk games.
Try fantasy football instead.
@@abstract271 Give me an example of something you think you know with minimal or no doubt, beyond the original example I gave you earlier, and I will show you how it can be deconstructed-to the best of my ability-just so you can see, that with honesty and 100% adherence to the formula, the answers will always turn out the same, which is: uncertain.
I can’t afford therapy. These videos really help alot. Thank you
As a child I was unable to recognise other people's emotions including my own due to a genetic disability but my parents recognised this early on and got the help i needed know I can see other people's triggers as well as mine. The best advice I can give is review the moments leading to the outburst this will allow you to deal with your emotions using more controlled methods
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
My personal view is somewhere inbetween of those 2 men. I believe that luck plays a lot of role in someone success and failure. So I won't compliment successful people before I knew the story, especially if they get there because of their rich parents. And I won't be so hard on poor people, as they're just not in the correct environment and time.
But, I also believe that luck can be raised by effort. Never to a 100%, but raised to an extend that you have a high probability of being successful. So if people are successful by hard work, they earn the respect because what they do actually changes the outcome of their life. And poor people is not always free of blame. I believe they have at least some fault of their own that they ends up in that position. Like maybe they don't learn enough, didn't see small opportunities, wrong life decisions, or other stuff.
Exactly
But can you blame the poor person for those character flaws? Is it their fault that they're not as business savvy, motivated or intelligent as the average man?
Everything we are is a combination of our genetics and the way we were brought up. Some people were born motivated, or were raised to value it. Others were not. I'm not sure you can ever really hold a person accountable for their bad life decisions, which makes it all the sadder that the emotional pain they experience as a result of those decisions is so very real.
dont we all?
TheRABIDdude Hmm.. when I think about it over again, while not all people is free of blame, it's unproductive to blame others. It just strokes your ego.
I got a better proposal. Whatever the cause of that person becoming poor, we should help them. No one wants to be poor no matter if it's because of fate or their own mistake. As long as they don't keep repeating mistakes that make then poor again.
While true independence doesn't exist, (for example, our existence relied on a long sequence of ancestors), the notion of personal responsibility is a social tool used to make people feel guilty about themselves for failing to meet society's expectations. Given that humans are averse to pain, they naturally try to avoid the guilt and shame involved with feeling personally responsible for their perceived failures. Additionally, when they do attain success, the myth of it being the product of personal decision causes them to feel proud and confident; which is motivating, because it's pleasurable.
In reality, humans are deterministic animals thinking, feeling and behaving due to a collection of cellular interactions that have evolved over the course of billions of years. The sense of free will, or personal agency, is just a sense. Free will itself doesn't exist, because it'd defy the laws of physics. (Energy doesn't come from nothing, it has to be transferred from one system to another. Therefore, perpetual motion devices are impossible and free will is essentially a perpetual motion device.) So, no one is really responsible for anything, because no one can control or modify the fundamental laws, or immutable workings, of nature. We are the symptoms of nature; not the conductors of it.
But, the notion of free will and personal responsibility are effective social devices for motivating people to behave the way that other humans want. And so we have a society built on the false premise of individualism despite the survival and flourishing of the human race being built and sustained solely because of collectivist efforts derived from a sequence of deterministic and indeterminately quantum events.
If you're thinking to yourself, "this guy must be a totally dependent, lazy and unscrupulous drain on society", then you're really only proving my point. These messages are meant to make me feel guilty and ashamed, just as they make you feel guilty and ashamed, so as to motivate us to fulfill the expectations of the more influential members of our species. I heed the call, to varying degrees, because I cannot help being a human evolved to fulfill the expectations of others for the sake of my own survival.
day two on training myself to be a sociopath
edit: this comment is not accurate to me anymore. ive grown and changed as a person, and no longer wish to be a sociopath. instead, i wish to help others and maybe change the world for the better. i hope you have a good day :)
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AdminAnimates haha! That's so easy doesn't need any training! Just be selfish of your own needs and disregard every other human on this Earth!
u are joking aight? i mean doesn't have to be a sociopath to determine what is right and wrong ........
Sociopathy and psychopathy can each be useful, if directed properly. Like a very well trained attack dog, but for more that literal violence. Unmatched combination of zeal and pragmatic analytics.
Now unfortunately people tend to learn brutality before temperance so....
the picture of a square and 3 quarter rounds blows me away. It's such a meaningful image that sparks my deep thinking.
BEST VIDEO EVER. I BADLY NEED THIS RN
whenever a bum ask's me for money for a train ticket, i usually offer to buy them the ticket, to which they either respond "nooo, it's okay, i just need the money for the ticket" or quite gratefully for the offer. unfortunately, it's usually the first one... and if i have spare water bottles, i always give one to them. surprisingly, some don't even want water, just money..
Tim V Well, with a water bottle or food, you can survive the day, whereas money can be invested for lots of things, alcohol as well as a house or clothes.
I think this is probably the best way of giving to the homeless and needy if you can't give your time/money to charities that help them. Often they're asking for money to buy cigarettes or something
Yup that's the fucking world we living on . People don't wanna work hard even if they can . They are not hungry,they are kinda there job to earn money even if they can earn by doing hardwork but they want easy money . That's why i agree with the first person because second person is giving because he is rich . If he had to struggle and know how difficult to earn money . He also wouldn't give the homeless person because most of them are pretend to be homeless but they aren't . They is whole new bussiness to them
@@damien2627 i know it looks harsh to say like that but belive me it's truth . Just go outside and you will eventually see someone . That's how much fucked up thia world is . I live in india and there is whole bussiness in my country of this children asked this shit because they were forced by the people who are pretending to be beggars but in thia whole bussiness . That's why even our govt. Said to not give money to them
Vaibhav sethi some people cannot , because their brain has been chemically altered and the effects of withdrawal to some drugs are just unbearable .
to be aware and understanding of your own emotions is one of the best skills to know
Best video i’ve seen in a while , thanks brother for the wise content❤
Going through the Hell that is 2020-2021 everything I learned to build myself up from Self Help advice to more Personal ones like Therapy was completely abolished by the Events my Family and I went through. With another broken mental state I now find myself at the beginning once again with this video right here, that I used to watch all the time back then.
For me personally, regularly maintaining a diary has been a very useful way of stabilizing my emotions. It might seem like a small thing, but it is very useful in the long run.
Alexander is basically my grandma and Joseph is me. Really, you described us perfectly. We always fight with each other. I'm always trying my best to listen to her and not say she's wrong, but she always seems to flip a nerve inside me. It's hard, but this video inspired me to try harder. I always knew that once I understood her point of view on the world, my whole perspective will change. I'll try to ask her about herself and her experiences and then, maybe, I'll be able to control my emotions with her. I read that love is understanding. So I believe with understanding, LOVE, we can control our emotions and fix our relationships. And yes, that means that we should not assume what the other person is thinking.
Thank you for making this video, it really helps me alot to control and show my emotions :)
Being able to control your emotions is extremely important for being successful in life 🔥
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS totally agree!
You legit comment any bs based on the title to gain subs lmao
Aarush Agarwal it’s also called being smart :) it’s the $1,80. Reciprocity and mere exposure.
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Everyone knows that.
We need 'how to' .
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this really opened my mind, in a humiliating way. i realized that as much as i claim to see everyone as equals, the same being. i judge them, not inte :))
I love this series of videos. Excellent work. Keep it up.
I really appreciate how this video isn’t just like “oh Alex’s view on life is awful and you should always strive to be like Joseph” and focuses on how both perspectives can be improved
I’ve mastered my emotions so well I have become a robot.
Goals. 🤖🤖
How? 😭🤧
Give advice
Teach me
Same here I reached a level that when I saw my friend cries in his mother's funeral I didn't feel any kind of thing at all I never knew I didn't need emotions to live better . In other words emotions cause nothing but trouble .
The one who watching this video please don't cry even though no one here understand you but you are strong you have yourself with you and that's what you need so please smile 😊😊😊😊😊
Life is how u see it. Ur Eyes are The windows too ur Soul. Ur soul is part of ur character and thru both ur eyes and ur Soul can show ur Intellect and makeup of whom u truly are. Continue too learn cause the Greatest Teachers are still Students ..
Interesting video, but it's mistitled. This has so very little to do with emotions. It's much more about managing world views and treatment of others. If you want to know how to handle emotions, look into CBT and you'll see what I mean.
My man. This explains what someone who understands their emotion does, not the emotions they're experiencing.
Since you mentioned CBT you should know that it works by being aware of how your perceptions lead to emotions/behaviours.
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Watching the video back more closely, it does have CBT themes in it, but they're not obvious to see. I think it's because he picked such a convoluted example. In particular, I don't think the link to anger at 1:56 is very intuitive. I'd expect that man to feel impartial neglect for the homeless man, not a strong emotional response. That's my subjective opinion, BUT the fact that the rest of his actions (and the rest of the video) would still make sense if you omitted his anger goes to show that emotion is not the key part of the video. Also, I really disagree with 4:22. The man never uses anger to make himself stronger in this video. Perhaps the other man does use compassion to make kind acts, but to say he intentionally uses compassion as a tool conflicts with the video's previous explanation of an event and world view preceding and invoking an emotional response. The only concept comparable to tool usage in this video is a person intentionally switching between world views to suit a situation in front of them, sort of like described at 4:54, to experience a desired emotion.
CBT breaks life down into:
Event
Reactive thought (based on world views)
Emotional response
Behavioral response
E.g.
Event: A woman pushes in front of you in a queue
Reactive thought: "This *&%! thinks I'm too weak to stand up for myself"
Emotional response: Unflinching rage
Behavioral response: You dribble in her handbag when she's not looking
with CBT...
Event: A woman pushes in front of you in a queue
Reactive thought: "This *&%! thinks I'm too weak to stand up for myself"
Emotional response: Anger
Reflective thought: "I'm only angry because I feel insulted, yet this woman probably isn't doing this to spite me. She might be ill-mannered, or she might just be in a rush. Either way, I should feel sympathy for her and not make this about me."
Behavioral response: You smile, then dribble in her handbag when she's not looking
Practicing positive reflective thoughts regularly will reduce the intensity of your emotional responses and, with time, some reactive thoughts can be outright replaced with more positive ones.
TheRABIDdude I agree this video isn’t very clear unless you already have some previous knowledge about CBT and are able to make the links which aren’t really as strong like you said
Cbt? Cock and ball torture?
I cried watching this video. Hope everyone is doing okay. Many blessings and goodness upon anyone reading this comment.
Right back at you NJ!
Throughout the video, I agreed with both sides of thinking about a homeless man, and started to remember my mindset, that I always think in many other ways, whether it’s society problem, or a man’s consequences. I thought that it is bad that I always want to think in different ways. But when narrator said, that the master of emotions was a man that can think differently, I started to think better about me. Thank you, author of this video, for making me fell better)
This video taught me a new way of thinking. To understand things clearly and correctly, we should listen from others' perspectives which aren't familiar to us. In a nutshell, we need to be open for the new and perhaps opposite opinions to get a full picture of the world.
Your videos are always so unique. It was something like a life changer to me for this year. What a way to start a year. Thanks.
This video blew my mind when you brought up how you'd never think it was a square if you never learned what one was. Everything following that seriously blew my mind. I feel as if I've overlooked something that's been in front me for so long.
Thank you for making this.
Oh my goodness, thank you this video is so powerful and meaningful for me. Thank you!
Nostalgia. I didnt even realised it but This, this video has been going around my recommendations for about three times, and i've clicked it three times. Something has to change.
One of things that we should do in order to control our emotion, always ready to appreciate.
I love how your book videos and your emotion videos converged to bring us to this conclusion. New concepts from books can change your worldview, which can change your emotions.
I love philosophy bc I see other points of view and it is helping me learn to master my emotions. Thank you
Your voice is so soothing its helping my headache
Your videos always have the best time for me to move forward in life. I am writing a novel inspired by your series in order to give my struggling loved ones a clearer picture of their minds. Because our minds really consume us bro.
Thanks for the kind words! Good luck on the novel
"There is a layer of meaning hidden in the negative space (unknown) "
That resonates with me so much.
Same here 😓
Thank you, this was very helpful for me, I have bpd(borderline personality disorder) and this helped with it alot!
Thanks a lot 😀❤️ and congratulations for 1 million subscribers 😉
As a Gestalt therapist myself I approve this message wholeheartedly.
Can you give me your opinion on why did you choose Gestalt therapy?
Thank you for the wisdom that you´ve shared in this video. I am old but I am humbled. Truly, at any point in our life, we can never say we know something fully.
Excellent video-- especially when it comes to helping people discussing social or political issues.
this just opened my eyes!
I like how you took a different spin on mastering your emotions. Choosing to see things from a different respective with allowing your emotions to change your perception. good video