I'll bow down to you if you live a single life. Usually most people are glorifying single life and desperately trying to find a mate. If you one of them then there's no point
If u not happy with ur life. Don't be stressed. Just think that it's a night mare. And divert your mind to something else which you like. That s only a good option. 😀😀😀😊😊😊
@@sourabh5764 Nope.... There are many people who enjoys their single life.... Marraige is not everyones cup of tea.... Just decide what u want in your life
@Ten Minutes For Gaming that means don't marry a person if he/she has some habits which you don't like.. and you are hoping that you will be able to change him or her
My ex is getting married whom I loved blindly on this planet ..I was crying from yesterday,haven't eaten food properly,making my room light dim and laying on the bed whole day and night.. I was scrolling through TH-cam, saw this motivational video and asked myself, "had he changed any habits for me??" It was a clear no,even asked myself that will I allow my daughter marry the person whose behaviour is similar to my ex,it was a clear no again!! May be god is trying to direct me that he isn't a person with whom I can settle 30-40 years of my life!!
People shouldn't be scared of being alone .There's nothing wrong or bad about being alone. Being alone is 100 times better than being in relationship with a wrong person
I have an absolute great husband..we broke up for 6months over a misunderstanding and when were honest with one another and got back together it's been the best..better than before..I thank God for him
We don't want to change any adult because no adult can be changed. We change ourselves in a way to accommodate the other person. This should go both ways. Life will be tolerable that way 💘
Recently I decided to walk away from relationship and I did. Bt I have been in confusion till bt after watched this video I am feeling that I saved my life ....... Thank you sir.
Once you get married you can't change anything you have to bear that relationship till you die so better not to marry till you are sure about the person. That is what I think but my parents don't understand this.
It's great that you have this clarity, not many people do, it's important. So now when you do, Do what you have to, but never compromise on this front. I know it sounds stupid but it's not your parents' call.
@@TaniaDey1326 there is a saying in our society "insaan apne bacchon se hi harta hai" but that is also true for the Indian kids ki "bacche bhi sirf maa baap se hi harte hain".hope i'll find someone soon with whom I can relate my thoughts.
and the answer is a big "YES" ♥ Six years' of our long distance relationship is now entering into the next stage. We are totally belong from different culture and society. I'm a bengali girl from Kolkata and he is from Varanasi. Even our mother tongue are different as well. It was a long distance relationship from the beginning and pandemic situation has made it toooo long waiting. The question asked in this video, we asked ourselves for several times and every time we felt into love again and again with each other. If ur love is true (which is very rare nowadays, it can be long lasting without touch). Please bless us for our forthcoming married life... 💘 It is an amazing feeling to being love securely and permanently ♥ 😊 Thank you God.!
@@priyankajamadar193 don't do that , ur sis baby can grow in ur parents surrounding or ur sister in law's surrounding . U take ur decision later on regret . My sis friend sister death due to electric shock left behind 2 babies . That girl jiju family force to marry with him . Bt her parents clearly denied ,they said they dnt want to spoil life of one child for another
I have been married for 13 years. I always remember my mother's words "when you really love someone, you accept him or her as it is." I think when we expect we don't love that person neither we love ourselves also.
My ex: I am able to live independently now! I am listed in Forbes! Me: I said ok ! And I died with in me for months together My ex later : I love you Me : I love me too , and I value myself much more than those who are listed in Forbes& Their money. Lesson : You don't become rich , marrying a rich man! You become richest when you reject one before he crushes you totally.
listing in forbes is one hell of an achievement. it takes lot of dedication and commitment to achieve something of that sort. what a person. hope the person moved on and found someone suitable for themselves. hope you too are doing well.
Do what you feel best for you. I married a guy who never broke his promises. That's rare. But mum wouldn't accept him for 11 years. Then only coz I had his baby. I proved her wrong. As she thought it wouldn't last. But it did. Sadly he passed away 5 years ago. I have a new partner similar to him, but mor laid back.
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Many elders will suggest us " 1st have kids , everything will be fine later " Its pure lie, have kids only when u really want to but not when u both are dysfunctioning... having kids during fights increase the tenure of your troubled life and u even end up disturbing ur kid's peace
@@juzardhoraji5402 one cannot sync with anyone. You have to find the right cable to sync with your mobile socket. But what if that cable is unavailable in your market. You have to search for it everywhere. What if the cable is outdated or the company has updated with better quality cable which is incompatible to your Mobile's socket? 😂 you have so many good memories with that phone but you have to compromise with the new generation and change your phone to a new one with a new cable which is synchronized. So compromise will lead to synchronize will lead to true love❤😘
Absolutely right....people married with their parents choice it's not bad..but u already having in love relationship with someone..and suddenly u realised for ur parents and society..and leave the person whom u love..it's not a humanity...just think before doing this bullshit....... it's not easy to move on.. its really very painful.....💔💔
@@NehaNeha-mg6lu it's really painfull ... no one can understand this pain .. if u are not able to marry with ur love partner then don't make relationship and...these type of people should marry with their parents choice ... on one has right to destroy someone life ...
I asked this question to my mind when my husband's proposal to me . And I took a decision . And later I understood like my decision was awesome 🥰. Now my only wish is to live with him forever ❤️.
I don't know how I got this video but I genuinely needed this. I think universe helped me to reach.. thanks alot.. ur thoughts r really clear nd strong.. ur guidance will surely help me to make a decision on time...
I couldn't change his behaviour of using rough language...I gave him chance over chance...but he remained the same ...so I left him...today I found him happy...n I m double happy😁..I have taken the best decision ever..thank u ..
The way you explained the whole concept is just mind blowing...I've no idea about psychology but if this helped me then take my word, you'll reach great heights...all the best and thank you so much!
I was once a naive man I Went in to relationship I showed my true behavior I was criticized each and every day. Now after 5 years she broke up with me due to caste real reson she got some one better in arrange marriage. Well I am at peace now. 😌 I am thinking to marry village girl in arrange marriage they are simple minded don't play games don't manipulate
Absolutely true... So also if the mistake is beyond the barriers of acceptability...its better to avoid...THANKYOU..SO SO TRUE...THERE IS NO CHOICE OF A HOPE IN THE BOOK OF MARRIAGE...
I really was in need of something like this.. m going through a breakup and m completely shattered but this video literally literally slaped answers over my face.. can say "i made a wise decision"
Just popped on my feed and I saw it.. been married 9 months and fights going on almost every day.. this advice will be very helpful.. Thank you and God bless
@@manuchawla7489 @Manu Chawla SORRY FOR LATE REPLY...thank u for ur message...every day routine for a couple is different , before a child and after a child.... after we had a son....my partner's routine did not change....so since last 12 years I raised my son alone....
If the person really truly love you from his heart so he will accept all the behaviour of yours and never think to leave you this is called the true love...
@@rajshetty4820 lol , why blaming the girls. Guys have more issues than girls. Also Village and City girls are same. Its just maybe village girls have not interacted with more people, once they start meeting more people they change
This was so good. I always asked myself deep questions to avoid the people I shouldn’t marry. It worked! I married my soulmate last year and we get along great. Very compatible.
Thank you for the question. At first i got confused about the relationship as i had an bad past but now i am confident that i will be there with him. When the question reached my ears i just screamed out yes and i didn't had to think again which made me confident about my relationship. Thank you for this.
Absolutely loved your advice in this video....I would want to hear more suggestions on "how to be sure is you should marry the person in *an arranged marriage*?" And how long should I take to explore the person before jumping up in conclusions? People usually don't show their True colors in early years so how do we actually decide if this is his/her genuine behavior? It would really be helpful if you covered some topics that should be talked about in early conversation with the possible candidates for marriage.
I think relationship/marriage is all about finding strength in oneself first then letting the other person into that space once you are comfortable. And letting a emotionally healthy person in who knows the idea of space, respect, love,care, boundaries, honest and open conversations etc.
I applaud you and your wisdom. YES!! Golden advice. Don’t think marriage will bring magic. Be careful and choose wisely before you marry so you don’t cry after. Be mindful of the qualities and values of your partner before you marry so you won’t be surprised after.
U just summerized 6yrs of my life ,I wish I watched this video earlier,and took the decision to leave that relationship,I waited 6 long years based on only hope that never came to light ,I went on the circle again and again yes now the decision of leaving makes me sad but am not wasting the valuable time of my life anymore ,thanks
@@624697 no man ,u don't know the entire story,I gave him every chance,he gave me more and more hope which he shouldn't have given like that again and again. I tried to fix him until the last minute.but he always thought I will compromise and never can leave him ,I used to blv that he will sacrifice for me like the same I did but he nevee ever left his comfort zone ever after 6yrs now am really pissed off and can't take this anymore ,u never can understand bcz u r not in our place
@@ilvpeanutbutter ok i do understand its ok to move on. Theres nothing wrong in that. all i was saying is usually if someone blames the entire thing on someone else then you need some introspection yourself as well. For example in my case along with her mistakes i do realise there were my own which i could have prevented and possibly avoid in a future one.
@@624697 yeah obviously am not also perfect ,but my love and sacrifice to this relationship was more than anyone can ask ,I tried to the last moment now am ready to move on 😊
Guys too get attracted to fair, gud looking slim, rich, wrk oriented women who can also take care of his parents and the list goes on.. So stop saying girls are after oly rich guys..
@@madhurigowda5782 In India boys won't give much value for looks, we will only see her character pa, if we will give values for looks, then we have to go for foreign girl
@@levolevo5369 wrong. 😂 Every other guy I met used to tell me "you're so beautiful, why you still single?" And I'm an indian. So guys do go for looks. And if you actually consider foreign girls better looking then you're so wrong. Most of them are obese and chubby fr fast foods. Only their skin is fair. My sister keeps posting pictures with her white friends and they all look so average except 1 or two. Only Hollywood actresses are stunning. 😂🤣
I truly believe in what you say. People say me marriage means adjustment and I ask them the same question giving them the same normative two options. Thanks for sharing ❤️
Thank you for sharing. I agree that “hope” could be disastrous. Because of hope, I dragged three toxic relationships that shouldn’t have lasted. Only recently I realised it was because I was always hoping. It always seemed like a positive word, but I guess everything should be in moderation.
What a coincidence, I was really into this dilemma of whether to get married or not and now this video pops up in my feeds out of nowhere.it’s like a guiding angels sends me for help. This is a content that got me into thinking. I’ll really think about it and would make a mature decision. Thanks !
@@simransaini9468 Wow, I didn`t see that coming. I am glad you asked that out. Maybe my response can give a certain direction. Amidst all this, I understood two things. First, It`s your life and only you get to decide whom to marry and who not to. Sometimes, people get married just because of their parents or some circumstances but marriage is a huge responsibility that you have to abide by for the rest of your life, your parents are not gonna share the burden of this responsibility with you. So ,if you are feeling like you are not getting that kind connection with someone then please don't force yourself. We are all educated and smart enough to know the difference between right and wrong and If it does not feel right to you at the moment, It will never be. Second thing I understood was , never to settle for anything less than you deserve. You are hardworking and smart and right one will come to you naturally once you start focusing on how you can work yourself and grow from it. You don't have to wait for things to get better, instead take baby steps to work on yourself. Please don't give in to marriage just because you are getting elder or your parents are Forcing. I myself was about to do that mistake but then didn't go for marriage and it turned out good in some ways for me.
I think no one is perfect in this world we have to adjust everywhere. I think questions should be "are you able to adjust with that person"?. Because where there is love there will be fight. And if we both of the know how to manage fight. There life will run smoothly 😇
Who needs love family affection of kids which is heaven after marriage will never ever think this much accept everything positive don't wants to change anything it will happen good ...just stay cool yar marriage is not this much complicated as our ancester were easily gone through and enjoyed be relax all will come it's way.....until u think too much and complicated everything will works food go with your heart no calculation and expectations in love and marriage
Thank you so much!!!!! This advice reached me in very correct time!! I don't know how to thank you I was exactly thinking the way you told not to I couldn't have any of his toxic habits( not even 1%), but tried to continue thinking things change! Finally had to end things and was always blaming me for not having patience till he change until I saw this video It really have me the confirmation that I was right!! I will move on and stay strong ✌️
This video gave me a right path to walk on.. My mind said a clear no to that question.. We broke up 1 month ago n today m feeling happy, free like never before, trying to exploring new people, today after coming out of that relationship I am clearly able to see how toxic it was !thanks a lot shridharlifeschool😇😇😇
This video got me in time... Iam in a very bad situation right now as i have a toxic boyfriend... I am thinking to let go of him... Your advice has strengthened my decision... thankyou
So true and heartfelt. Also love the fact that even after being famous u did not hide the name of your college/univ on linkedin like most people do coz they arent prestigious enough.. amity will be really proud of you. Every line is so true..each and every line
marriage , love ,human relationships are always too complicated...i guess good friends and parents help us move forward in life during hard times than anything
Amazing question!!! It makes me think... In family life we stay with them even when we cannot change them, so apart from knowing the answer to this question, maybe contemplating "what is that one reason that keeps me with my family even when I cannot change them?"
May be Because you didn't choose Them. You'll always belong to your family. I mean it's your Blood and no one chose. Instead your partner is supposed to be ''an extra'' someone you choose for ''the best'' love, experience, life, happiness. So you only jumping into it to feel great not to battle or be sad... May be that's way When it gets hard, we automatically think why should I stay When i'm not happy?! I think people are in relationship for their own happiness.
Two individuals together make a family (couple), two born n brought up from different environments, every taste of individual will be different, hence it's clear no point of excepting a rapid change in each other, we still attach to our families though we r pretty sure they cannot change it's because a bond created in between two,( if relation is abusive as speaker said" leave")but if relation is not abusive verbally or physically,just try to maintain .two sons of single mothers mindset will be different ,then how can we except our partner from different mother matches n reaches out expectations???? So be happy with what u've got, if u turn as practitioner in leaving everyone that doesn't match u or reach ur expectations then at last v end up alone
One of hindi version of this same counselling would be better, so we can share with our paresnts, because it is more important to our parents to listen it who force their childrens to marry without knowing the person even for 2 or 3 months
I did the same thing recently.. Backed out of a relationship on the same grounds as mentioned by you. Now that I have watched this video, I feel like getting reassurance that I took the right decision. 😊
Thanks alot sir ❤️ this video reached me late .....but not much .....I am reconstructing my self again because I was lost in the process and this video really gives me the hope that I needed . I will wait for the right person rather than keep running to next unconsciously
Yayyy...decided to break up when I asked that question to myself 2yrs back ! Absolutely NO REGRETS ! I figured this out on my own But everyone who is watching this video now and in such a relationship, please consider his advice.
I'm just thinking about talking to my parents about my marriage with the right person... And I opened TH-cam and your video just saved me... This TH-cam algorithm was reading my mind...
im a single lady who recently crossed 30 too!! n ive been still contemplating with the idea of marriage coz ive been answering so many questions to myself as i prefer being single rather than take decisions out of desperation n pressures of society..ill ask this question too when the choice making moment arrives.tq..
Pls choose carefully ..i married under my parents pressure ..never liked d guy ..n still nt in luv vth him ..every day i regret nt taking a stand back den.
"Its actually better to be single than to live with a behaviour which is just extremely dysfunctional". Well said..!
I'll bow down to you if you live a single life. Usually most people are glorifying single life and desperately trying to find a mate. If you one of them then there's no point
Why leave single please?? I will search for you
If u not happy with ur life. Don't be stressed. Just think that it's a night mare. And divert your mind to something else which you like. That s only a good option. 😀😀😀😊😊😊
@@sourabh5764 Nope.... There are many people who enjoys their single life.... Marraige is not everyones cup of tea.... Just decide what u want in your life
If you are married to someone whose behaviour is extremely dysfunctional then what to do
Do you know who give best advice on relationship? That one friend who’s never in a relationship... 😇🤣
Reni Shira 👍👏 true. To be in relationship life is hell 😣
That’s true because single person is not emotional like people in love so they can provide a better perspective.
Yeah... That would be me😉👍
Hahahahahaha just like mee
Ha ha ha
" Do not marry a person you hope to CREATE after your surgery on their personality . " 😂 What a line . 👏🏽
True
Wow.. Beautiful word... Surgery on their personality
Agree
@Ten Minutes For Gaming that means don't marry a person if he/she has some habits which you don't like.. and you are hoping that you will be able to change him or her
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My most of the focus was in his English speaking skill ...Great
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Yes not only his words iam also amazed by his communication skills
My ex is getting married whom I loved blindly on this planet ..I was crying from yesterday,haven't eaten food properly,making my room light dim and laying on the bed whole day and night..
I was scrolling through TH-cam, saw this motivational video and asked myself, "had he changed any habits for me??"
It was a clear no,even asked myself that will I allow my daughter marry the person whose behaviour is similar to my ex,it was a clear no again!!
May be god is trying to direct me that he isn't a person with whom I can settle 30-40 years of my life!!
That devil is gone Enjoy think like that
You did a great job by asking that question that will you allow your daughter to marry your ex? I did the same.
Some people have their most dark side kept very secret.. it is only revealed post marriage..
Sadly true... god help us beforehand..🙏
Covert people, They never shows their real face. Fake partners are highly toxic.......
Horrible 😱😱
Very true.. i am facing this.. but its too late now..
@@UpashnaChettri it's never too late
2 years from now I asked the same question to myself and I made the right decision by leaving that person. It's the best decision I ever made!
I'm happy for you 😌
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I'm doing same
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People shouldn't be scared of being alone .There's nothing wrong or bad about being alone. Being alone is 100 times better than being in relationship with a wrong person
Agree. So true.
I have an absolute great husband..we broke up for 6months over a misunderstanding and when were honest with one another and got back together it's been the best..better than before..I thank God for him
Had to ask this question and ended up leaving my marriage of 16 years.. it was painful but times heals & I’m happier now than I’ve ever been.
Question: if you knew you could not change a single thing about your lover, would you be able to live 50 years with them?
Thank me later ...😉
Thanks 😌
Ty
You will never know , just that you gave up.
You the real MVP
We don't want to change any adult because no adult can be changed. We change ourselves in a way to accommodate the other person. This should go both ways.
Life will be tolerable that way 💘
*It is actually better to be single, than to live with a behaviour which is extremely dysfunctional.*
Virendra Gawali true 👏
Women lower their standards all the time. Then bash the guy. It's stupid. He never changed and she wanted him too. They are the bigger idiot's.
@@1Skorpia Stay away from feminist on social media and life will be wonderful and pleasant.
God bless you.
True
U can't be single all your life
Recently I decided to walk away from relationship and I did. Bt I have been in confusion till bt after watched this video I am feeling that I saved my life ....... Thank you sir.
Totally agree.i ws also in a toxic relasnshp. bt aftr brkup..i ws confuse.today i m happy dt i ws right
Same here ... this was a god send ...
Once you get married you can't change anything you have to bear that relationship till you die so better not to marry till you are sure about the person. That is what I think but my parents don't understand this.
It's great that you have this clarity, not many people do, it's important. So now when you do, Do what you have to, but never compromise on this front. I know it sounds stupid but it's not your parents' call.
Very true
@@TaniaDey1326 there is a saying in our society "insaan apne bacchon se hi harta hai" but that is also true for the Indian kids ki "bacche bhi sirf maa baap se hi harte hain".hope i'll find someone soon with whom I can relate my thoughts.
@@dikshasingh5350 might be true. it is just my perception on marriages.
True
and the answer is a big "YES" ♥
Six years' of our long distance relationship is now entering into the next stage. We are totally belong from different culture and society. I'm a bengali girl from Kolkata and he is from Varanasi. Even our mother tongue are different as well. It was a long distance relationship from the beginning and pandemic situation has made it toooo long waiting. The question asked in this video, we asked ourselves for several times and every time we felt into love again and again with each other. If ur love is true (which is very rare nowadays, it can be long lasting without touch).
Please bless us for our forthcoming married life... 💘 It is an amazing feeling to being love securely and permanently ♥ 😊
Thank you God.!
God bless you ❤️ both
May God Bless You both😇❤
@@priyankajamadar193 please don't do that for your sister's sake. 🙏 Baby can be adopted. Or he could be a strong single father. God bless.
@@priyankajamadar193 don't do that , ur sis baby can grow in ur parents surrounding or ur sister in law's surrounding . U take ur decision later on regret . My sis friend sister death due to electric shock left behind 2 babies . That girl jiju family force to marry with him . Bt her parents clearly denied ,they said they dnt want to spoil life of one child for another
@@snehalwaghmare959 ji my parents are also telling the same thing
I have been married for 13 years. I always remember my mother's words "when you really love someone, you accept him or her as it is." I think when we expect we don't love that person neither we love ourselves also.
truth dear true love can't need any change.
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अगदी बरोबर आहे तुमच्या आईचं म्हणणं
Anushka do u beleives in intercast marriages ?
@@poonammatth8097 yes. Why not?
@@anushkajoshi3600 that's good if u beleive ... But I have some of my Joshi friends in their family it's strictly prohibited.
My ex: I am able to live independently now! I am listed in Forbes!
Me: I said ok ! And I died with in me for months together
My ex later : I love you
Me : I love me too , and I value myself much more than those who are listed in Forbes& Their money.
Lesson : You don't become rich , marrying a rich man! You become richest when you reject one before he crushes you totally.
listing in forbes is one hell of an achievement. it takes lot of dedication and commitment to achieve something of that sort. what a person. hope the person moved on and found someone suitable for themselves. hope you too are doing well.
Im like, "oh my god i had all these thoughts questions etc..at one point"... Love every word u spoke, Truth!
I feel like..i will stay single for the rest of my life...cz its better to be alone than in toxic relasionship.
Do what you feel best for you. I married a guy who never broke his promises. That's rare. But mum wouldn't accept him for 11 years. Then only coz I had his baby. I proved her wrong. As she thought it wouldn't last. But it did. Sadly he passed away 5 years ago. I have a new partner similar to him, but mor laid back.
Yes
@@christinekleinschmidt4676 i was shocked by your statement"he passed away 5years ago"....how did u move on from that critical moment?
@@NFS691 its easier for womens to move on. And catch their new prey.
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i am a normal girl
i see a handsome dude talking out of world,i click.
Haahha..feel u sister..
haha.
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Yes
A guy with white skin and beard is always called as handsome guy by innocent girls.
I wouldn't change a single thing in my partner. I love him for who he is.
Many elders will suggest us " 1st have kids , everything will be fine later "
Its pure lie, have kids only when u really want to but not when u both are dysfunctioning... having kids during fights increase the tenure of your troubled life and u even end up disturbing ur kid's peace
But the kid in the end will definitely suffer bcoz of the toxic relationship of her parents.
Makes it much harder to leave when u have a kid lol
"Do not marry the person you hope to create after surgery on their personality"..This line touched me
i thought he's going to shave the beard from that trimmer .....
edit - thanks guys I guess bcoz of my silly mind m still single
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hahahhah hilarious 🤣🤣🤣 Good one though.
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I seriously got this video recommend at the right time!!! Thanks a lot..
Relationships means compromise. There's no perfect partner
Very true
Under certain circumstances, not in every circumstance
truth man. actully relationship goes long when you understand each other
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COMPROMISE ❎
SYNCHRONISE ☑️... THIS IS MORE APPROPRIATE 😀👍
@@juzardhoraji5402 one cannot sync with anyone. You have to find the right cable to sync with your mobile socket. But what if that cable is unavailable in your market. You have to search for it everywhere. What if the cable is outdated or the company has updated with better quality cable which is incompatible to your Mobile's socket? 😂 you have so many good memories with that phone but you have to compromise with the new generation and change your phone to a new one with a new cable which is synchronized. So compromise will lead to synchronize will lead to true love❤😘
but most of the people married for their parents & society
live whole life without love just for bloody society
correct dear. you have to rise your voice the last option.
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True.. going through.. Society suck
Absolutely right....people married with their parents choice it's not bad..but u already having in love relationship with someone..and suddenly u realised for ur parents and society..and leave the person whom u love..it's not a humanity...just think before doing this bullshit....... it's not easy to move on.. its really very painful.....💔💔
So true
@@NehaNeha-mg6lu it's really painfull ... no one can understand this pain .. if u are not able to marry with ur love partner then don't make relationship and...these type of people should marry with their parents choice ... on one has right to destroy someone life ...
Well spot on!! Wow. Do NOT fall in love with potential. And do not stick/ continue with a mistake just because you took a long time making it.
I asked this question to my mind when my husband's proposal to me . And I took a decision . And later I understood like my decision was awesome 🥰. Now my only wish is to live with him forever ❤️.
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You are so lucky. 😔
I don't know how I got this video but I genuinely needed this. I think universe helped me to reach.. thanks alot.. ur thoughts r really clear nd strong.. ur guidance will surely help me to make a decision on time...
Satish Rathore same here
TH-cam algo. SKYNET is alive
Agreed
I truly agree with this...
Same! I'm already married but needed this
I couldn't change his behaviour of using rough language...I gave him chance over chance...but he remained the same ...so I left him...today I found him happy...n I m double happy😁..I have taken the best decision ever..thank u ..
wow...
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Being in a relationship is just more stress. I already have enough stress to deal with I dont need more.
Me tooo.....✌️🙌
Brilliant 👍
True
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So true .. being single is the happiest thing ever
The way you explained the whole concept is just mind blowing...I've no idea about psychology but if this helped me then take my word, you'll reach great heights...all the best and thank you so much!
Even in love marriage, people shows only their good side
Ur right 👍
Once you see someone and then decide to marry is not love. adjustment is something that need to be searched
I was once a naive man I Went in to relationship I showed my true behavior I was criticized each and every day. Now after 5 years she broke up with me due to caste real reson she got some one better in arrange marriage. Well I am at peace now. 😌 I am thinking to marry village girl in arrange marriage they are simple minded don't play games don't manipulate
@Purva not guys girls I am talking about
@Serendipity I will prefer some one from relation they are more reliable
Absolutely true... So also if the mistake is beyond the barriers of acceptability...its better to avoid...THANKYOU..SO SO TRUE...THERE IS NO CHOICE OF A HOPE IN THE BOOK OF MARRIAGE...
I really was in need of something like this.. m going through a breakup and m completely shattered but this video literally literally slaped answers over my face.. can say "i made a wise decision"
Howd u know......u r going through brkup
Just popped on my feed and I saw it.. been married 9 months and fights going on almost every day.. this advice will be very helpful.. Thank you and God bless
brilliant and to the point .. when thinking of marriage one should not compromise and "Hope" that things will get better
Being a single is like heaven
This advice can actually be applied to all the relationships- friends and family
I dated for 7 years....I was married for 15 years....I am seperated since 11 years....I AGREE FULLY WITH THIS VIDEO....100%
So what ?is lonelyness a better choice ?
What was the thing you could not live the rest of your life with your partner ?
Why did u get Seperate
Can I know
Which life you feel better now, marriage life or separated life ???
@@manuchawla7489 @Manu Chawla SORRY FOR LATE REPLY...thank u for ur message...every day routine for a couple is different , before a child and after a child.... after we had a son....my partner's routine did not change....so since last 12 years I raised my son alone....
I don't have a girlfriend but knowledge is important for the future because marriage either makes you or breaks you.
don't worry dear may hope soon you get gf.
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Or dont marry at all..
@@1Skorpia running from problems isn't solution
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If the person really truly love you from his heart so he will accept all the behaviour of yours and never think to leave you this is called the true love...
Ye nhi hota hai khas kar city girl me village girl me it can be possible
@@rajshetty4820 lol , why blaming the girls. Guys have more issues than girls. Also Village and City girls are same. Its just maybe village girls have not interacted with more people, once they start meeting more people they change
@@k-8511 you can keep village girls in limit.
@@rajshetty4820 ok first of all a girl is not a robot u can control.If u think so u are delusional
@@k-8511 well you will know once you marry city girl
This was so good. I always asked myself deep questions to avoid the people I shouldn’t marry. It worked! I married my soulmate last year and we get along great. Very compatible.
Great to know that!! How's it going now?just asking coz i wanna know do people change after marriage?
What kind of questions you would ask yourself to avoid wrong ppl. Please tell so that others can be benefited
I ignored this suggestion for 3 times... but, this is really what I want in right time. Inshort.. this video is Wonderful
“It’s better to leave, than live in delusional hope.”
Very true
Trur
Thank you for the question.
At first i got confused about the relationship as i had an bad past but now i am confident that i will be there with him. When the question reached my ears i just screamed out yes and i didn't had to think again which made me confident about my relationship. Thank you for this.
Absolutely loved your advice in this video....I would want to hear more suggestions on "how to be sure is you should marry the person in *an arranged marriage*?" And how long should I take to explore the person before jumping up in conclusions? People usually don't show their True colors in early years so how do we actually decide if this is his/her genuine behavior? It would really be helpful if you covered some topics that should be talked about in early conversation with the possible candidates for marriage.
An exceptional psychologist . His command and prose of the English language is so eloquent .
I think i will just stay single for a moment til i find that one guy who will match my personality and attitude and accept me as me.
Congrats sis.. I'm to pray for God..as your choice
I have found one recently 😃
@@Shushi_007 oh. Congratulations☺️
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I think relationship/marriage is all about finding strength in oneself first then letting the other person into that space once you are comfortable. And letting a emotionally healthy person in who knows the idea of space, respect, love,care, boundaries, honest and open conversations etc.
M thankful to universe that i found ur video when i was thinking about dis topic....today.....wonderful words sir ...keep growing
I feel like I will stay single for the rest of my life😭
Well... After all I guess it's not just me feeling this way.
👇
Same here
Feelings mutual,....but that's ok....let it be what's supposed to be 😊
Why u feel in that way?? Dont worry...!!!
Me too
Yes same here
Why I am seeing this now. I should have seen this 3 years ago. Wonderful message 👍
I applaud you and your wisdom. YES!! Golden advice. Don’t think marriage will bring magic. Be careful and choose wisely before you marry so you don’t cry after. Be mindful of the qualities and values of your partner before you marry so you won’t be surprised after.
U just summerized 6yrs of my life ,I wish I watched this video earlier,and took the decision to leave that relationship,I waited 6 long years based on only hope that never came to light ,I went on the circle again and again yes now the decision of leaving makes me sad but am not wasting the valuable time of my life anymore ,thanks
The same happened with me. I can understand how you must be feeling. 🙁
Since u are blaming the entire thing on him its more likely that you were the actual problem
@@624697 no man ,u don't know the entire story,I gave him every chance,he gave me more and more hope which he shouldn't have given like that again and again. I tried to fix him until the last minute.but he always thought I will compromise and never can leave him ,I used to blv that he will sacrifice for me like the same I did but he nevee ever left his comfort zone ever after 6yrs now am really pissed off and can't take this anymore ,u never can understand bcz u r not in our place
@@ilvpeanutbutter ok i do understand its ok to move on. Theres nothing wrong in that. all i was saying is usually if someone blames the entire thing on someone else then you need some introspection yourself as well. For example in my case along with her mistakes i do realise there were my own which i could have prevented and possibly avoid in a future one.
@@624697 yeah obviously am not also perfect ,but my love and sacrifice to this relationship was more than anyone can ask ,I tried to the last moment now am ready to move on 😊
Girl's generally attracted to macho,rich or childish...
But an avg easy going guy gives u best in many aspects than above all...
Well WOMEN make their own money and want chemistry/compatibility. Girls are still wanting rich men because they are lazy.
Guys too get attracted to fair, gud looking slim, rich, wrk oriented women who can also take care of his parents and the list goes on.. So stop saying girls are after oly rich guys..
@@madhurigowda5782 Good one!
@@madhurigowda5782 In India boys won't give much value for looks, we will only see her character pa, if we will give values for looks, then we have to go for foreign girl
@@levolevo5369 wrong. 😂 Every other guy I met used to tell me "you're so beautiful, why you still single?" And I'm an indian. So guys do go for looks. And if you actually consider foreign girls better looking then you're so wrong. Most of them are obese and chubby fr fast foods. Only their skin is fair. My sister keeps posting pictures with her white friends and they all look so average except 1 or two. Only Hollywood actresses are stunning. 😂🤣
I truly believe in what you say. People say me marriage means adjustment and I ask them the same question giving them the same normative two options. Thanks for sharing ❤️
Thank you for sharing. I agree that “hope” could be disastrous. Because of hope, I dragged three toxic relationships that shouldn’t have lasted. Only recently I realised it was because I was always hoping. It always seemed like a positive word, but I guess everything should be in moderation.
Vibes attract vibes. Two souls when are compliment and complete each other, then everything is absolutely fine. Being loved is a gift .
Just got this video right on time... Don't know how this video popped up... Thank you... Great help
This guy nailed it exactly, i appreciate the thoughts
On verge of divorce!! If someone ever told me this or if I just didn't walk into the hell of two years with my eyes open. Appreciate your work. :)
End of something is beginning of something else better.
I needed this I don’t want to end up with someone who won’t treat me right and act single, but a husband
What a coincidence, I was really into this dilemma of whether to get married or not and now this video pops up in my feeds out of nowhere.it’s like a guiding angels sends me for help. This is a content that got me into thinking. I’ll really think about it and would make a mature decision.
Thanks !
hey! so..wht did you decide?
@@simransaini9468 Wow, I didn`t see that coming. I am glad you asked that out. Maybe my response can give a certain direction. Amidst all this, I understood two things. First, It`s your life and only you get to decide whom to marry and who not to. Sometimes, people get married just because of their parents or some circumstances but marriage is a huge responsibility that you have to abide by for the rest of your life, your parents are not gonna share the burden of this responsibility with you. So ,if you are feeling like you are not getting that kind connection with someone then please don't force yourself. We are all educated and smart enough to know the difference between right and wrong and If it does not feel right to you at the moment, It will never be. Second thing I understood was , never to settle for anything less than you deserve. You are hardworking and smart and right one will come to you naturally once you start focusing on how you can work yourself and grow from it. You don't have to wait for things to get better, instead take baby steps to work on yourself. Please don't give in to marriage just because you are getting elder or your parents are Forcing. I myself was about to do that mistake but then didn't go for marriage and it turned out good in some ways for me.
@@poonambhaliyan7152 That's great. Hope you are happy : )
Simran Saini I am happy because I stood up for myself being too shy a person, best is yet to come
I think no one will ever speak like you on such a sensitive issue(relationship). U did great job. May Allah bless you its reward
Yes! Marriages in India are done just like that!
I wish you could've posted this video 4 years ago, It would've saved my life. 😔
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I think no one is perfect in this world we have to adjust everywhere. I think questions should be "are you able to adjust with that person"?. Because where there is love there will be fight. And if we both of the know how to manage fight. There life will run smoothly 😇
We can't change the person but we can adjust .. i commented on this point 😇
truth dear. you have to understand each other in a good relationship.
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What he meant is if u found someone that u wouldn’t like to change anything in him or her than go ahead enjoy with ur soulmate
This comment better than whole video
Who needs love family affection of kids which is heaven after marriage will never ever think this much accept everything positive don't wants to change anything it will happen good ...just stay cool yar marriage is not this much complicated as our ancester were easily gone through and enjoyed be relax all will come it's way.....until u think too much and complicated everything will works food go with your heart no calculation and expectations in love and marriage
Thank you so much!!!!!
This advice reached me in very correct time!!
I don't know how to thank you
I was exactly thinking the way you told not to
I couldn't have any of his toxic habits( not even 1%), but tried to continue thinking things change!
Finally had to end things and was always blaming me for not having patience till he change until I saw this video
It really have me the confirmation that I was right!! I will move on and stay strong ✌️
This video gave me a right path to walk on.. My mind said a clear no to that question.. We broke up 1 month ago n today m feeling happy, free like never before, trying to exploring new people, today after coming out of that relationship I am clearly able to see how toxic it was !thanks a lot shridharlifeschool😇😇😇
Really useful for my marriage proposal. Thanks a lot for ur valuable time 😀😀😀
Are you married if yes she is lucky I never saw a guy who is this well sorted . I mean i never thought a boy can think like this also
He is committed (to marry)
I I dont ew
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qabr ka hal murda janta
He can advice people but the question is ..does he really follow the same?
This video got me in time... Iam in a very bad situation right now as i have a toxic boyfriend... I am thinking to let go of him... Your advice has strengthened my decision... thankyou
I was confused. This gives me strength to stand strong in my decisions. Yes i was right
Thank u for getting me out of this 6 month post break up regrets. Now I can have a sound sleep.
He is like reformed ARJUN REDDY.. 😂😂😂😂 He is a smart hero but opposite to KABIR SINGH..
Saket Tembhurnekar hahahaha now that you have mentioned 😀
No no no... U just saved me from lifelong guilt trap . ❤️
You reached me on time!!!!
Two years after you made the video!!!!!
There are no coincidences in life
So true and heartfelt. Also love the fact that even after being famous u did not hide the name of your college/univ on linkedin like most people do coz they arent prestigious enough.. amity will be really proud of you.
Every line is so true..each and every line
Awesome Shridhar👌, it's better to be single🤩
haha.
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Scientifically, mentally, physically impossible ..
marriage , love ,human relationships are always too complicated...i guess good friends and parents help us move forward in life during hard times than anything
ur explaination is quite good , bt it's really tough n confusing when it comes to choose our life partner in a matter of arrange marriages.
You have saved me from a toxic relationship. Thank you 🙏
I don't know how I found this video. This really helps me to get through my current situation.
truly needed this right now. Thank god. Thankyou speaker. Loved this video too much ♥
Within first 1 min I subscribed..it's wonderful and knowledgeable..
Amazing question!!!
It makes me think... In family life we stay with them even when we cannot change them, so apart from knowing the answer to this question, maybe contemplating "what is that one reason that keeps me with my family even when I cannot change them?"
May be Because you didn't choose Them. You'll always belong to your family. I mean it's your Blood and no one chose. Instead your partner is supposed to be ''an extra'' someone you choose for ''the best'' love, experience, life, happiness. So you only jumping into it to feel great not to battle or be sad... May be that's way When it gets hard, we automatically think why should I stay When i'm not happy?! I think people are in relationship for their own happiness.
Two individuals together make a family (couple), two born n brought up from different environments, every taste of individual will be different, hence it's clear no point of excepting a rapid change in each other, we still attach to our families though we r pretty sure they cannot change it's because a bond created in between two,( if relation is abusive as speaker said" leave")but if relation is not abusive verbally or physically,just try to maintain .two sons of single mothers mindset will be different ,then how can we except our partner from different mother matches n reaches out expectations???? So be happy with what u've got, if u turn as practitioner in leaving everyone that doesn't match u or reach ur expectations then at last v end up alone
I am emotional 🥺 right now. This is exactly what I needed. I need someone like u to guide me. Thankyou thankyou very much
One of hindi version of this same counselling would be better, so we can share with our paresnts, because it is more important to our parents to listen it who force their childrens to marry without knowing the person even for 2 or 3 months
I did the same thing recently.. Backed out of a relationship on the same grounds as mentioned by you. Now that I have watched this video, I feel like getting reassurance that I took the right decision. 😊
Ekta, I'm happy for you.. I want you to know ur not alone😊
Hats off for this explanation, really opened up my mind!! Thank you for this :)
Me: light years away from marriage or even finding a partner
Also me: okay I NEED to watch this video right now or it might be too late.
Lol
Me also
Same here 🤣🤣
Same 🤣🤣
Thanks alot sir ❤️ this video reached me late .....but not much .....I am reconstructing my self again because I was lost in the process and this video really gives me the hope that I needed . I will wait for the right person rather than keep running to next unconsciously
I was in a confusion regarding the same before seeing this. Thanks brother. I have taken the decision
Yayyy...decided to break up when I asked that question to myself 2yrs back ! Absolutely NO REGRETS !
I figured this out on my own But everyone who is watching this video now and in such a relationship, please consider his advice.
Awesome..... I don't HV words how I'm feeling now..... Thank you very much..... So clear and easy suggestion.... Loved it....
i am btech discontinued but i made a right choice in my marriage i have taken the right decision and today i am happy
I'm just thinking about talking to my parents about my marriage with the right person... And I opened TH-cam and your video just saved me... This TH-cam algorithm was reading my mind...
Thank God I have seen this video as I was really confused. It's quite helping me to clear my thoughts.
im a single lady who recently crossed 30 too!! n ive been still contemplating with the idea of marriage coz ive been answering so many questions to myself as i prefer being single rather than take decisions out of desperation n pressures of society..ill ask this question too when the choice making moment arrives.tq..
Pls choose carefully ..i married under my parents pressure ..never liked d guy ..n still nt in luv vth him ..every day i regret nt taking a stand back den.
@@shraddhanikhil Whoa! Sorry to hear that! Hope you find some peace.
@@shraddhanikhil you still dont love him??
@@shraddhanikhil i feel sad for your husband.... Hope he will never see this comment.
@@Ayushk752 ya its a sad reality