How to Build Student Relationships | High School Teacher VLog
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ย. 2024
- Relationships are KING in my classroom. If you make the effort to know a student they are they are more likely to do better in your class, be less of a behavioral issue, and become a contributing member of your school community.
Here are 4(ish) tips on how I build relationships with my students.
PLEASE leave a comment below with a way you connect with your students. You never know who you might be able to help.
Peace.
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As a student point of view, having a relationship with you're students is soo important! We'll respect you and appreciate you're teaching more. I always worked a lot harder for the teachers who we had a relationship with compared to the ones who we didn't have on with. When you can connect with your students they can connect with your work. We want a teacher we're we can feel comfortable and enjoy the lesson and also feel okay to talk to the teacher out of class about things
A. Ham So true . This teacher is a true mentor for kids and adults. I love ❤️ him. Wish I would have had a teacher like him. Didn’t even have parents like him.
A. Burr 😉
“Be the teacher you always wanted or needed” now that one hit home
It changed everything for me when I looked at it through that lens.
Thank you for noticing the "invisible kids"! I always hated the fact that the kids who acted up, didn't do their work/pay attention or were just awful to everyone got all the attention, while good (but not BRILLIANT) students like me were always ignored. I went through high school feeling like if I dropped dead right there, no one would even notice, much less care. I had a few art teachers who noticed me a bit, and it made all the difference.
Thanks for sharing Yesica, a collegue of mine mentioned the exact same thing, she always tries to shine light on "student #2" , they are easily "forgotten" by teachers because of all the ones vocally or physically craving attention. Thank you Mr a Reynolds for speaking on this.
@ Hans Bes
It's great to know other teachers do the same!
@@supernova7848 thank you and thank your colleague for me I remember thinking as a student why do all the bad get all the attention. A lot of time the good ones do too, and they might feel like their good behavior is kinda useless.
Elementary level...play with them at recess! It's interesting to see how they interact and what they pretend. They loooooove tagging the teacher...even if they aren't it lol.
AWESOME! Every time I play with my kids at the park I end up with an army of little people around me. 😂👍
I love this tip. I keep trying think about how to build relationships with students at an elementary level. As good as I am with young kids, it can be sometimes very foreign to think about how to build a relationship with a 6 year old.
I know this video is super old but it stands the test of time. Just wanted to comment that I was that kid who kept my head down, never got in trouble and totally flew under the radar. Plus I was painfully shy. In fifth grade I had a teacher who would occasionally catch my eye and simply give me a wink. To this day (I'm 60 years old) I still remember how with just a wink she made me feel seen and valued.
As I'm studying to be a teacher, I'm watching Real Rap With Reynolds... and I realize THIS is EXACTLY why I want to be a teacher. This is the teacher I wanted, and now I want to be. Thank you for these awesome videos. YOU ROCK!
I currently work with much younger children (4 year olds) and utilise the words ‘I see you....’ and ‘I hear you.....’.
‘I see you are working hard on your writing, your letters are easier to read now!’
‘I can hear you struggling with your emotions, can I help?’
I find that even if these statements or questions don’t lead to a sustained interaction, the child feels acknowledged, that they are visible, and valued.
@ Nic Utting
Thank you for this. I am not a teacher, but I'm a part time nanny for kids all under the age of 4. They are all blessed with great parents, so they are not lacking in attention. But I'm always looking for ways to improve my interactions with them, and with any other kids I may have the privilege of encountering in my life.
Such good advice. In my first year of teaching I had a kid that would highjack every lesson. He was admittedly, an expert in the subject I taught, but he would interrupt and just be such a attention seeker that I ended up frustrated in tears one day after class because I didn't know how to maintain control of the room. I did exactly what you'd suggested, pulled him aside and asked him (calmly) not to highjack the lesson and that I appreciated his knowledge and invited him to join the (subject-specific) club I'd just started. He did join the club and was a champ at it. And I tell ya, he totally was wayyyy better behaved in my class. He contributed instead of highjacking. Total difference.
Relationships change everything!😊 so glad that worked out for you. Do you still see him?
Not really, he's about 13 years graduated by now I think. High school is a distant memory for him I'm sure.
I think if I’m ever going to become a teacher, I’m going to have a massive sign on the wall or maybe even the door that says something along the lines of: “if there is only one thing you learn this year, I want it to be this: I CARE”. I feel like too often schools get so caught up in grades and performance and blah de blah de blah... and they forget that they are literally influencing the lives of hundreds of people. Students are humans. They need happiness and curiosity and creativity; most of all, they need someone to care. And that’s the one thing I would want my students to be absolutely certain of. (...sorry for the rant lol)
That rant was 100% right. I have a sign in my classroom that a viewer sent to me that says "Come in we're awesome!" I love it. It really makes kids come into my room, which is a safe place for everyone. What would you teach Katia?
Some kids talk more easily when talking is not the focus. For those kids, sometimes a mindless clerical task like stapling papers or straightening the room after the bell makes it easier.
That's a great point. It's making me think of how dong something with someone can be better than just sitting there. It really comes down to knowing the students needs. Thanks for the great reminder. 😊
So I'm gonna tell you a thing right now.
I started college classes at fifteen, I was studying to be a teacher, I was passionate about what I was doing and knew exactly where my life was headed .. and then I didn't. It's been a rough couple of years. I'm 23 now, I need to go back to school, and recently I stumbled on your videos and Michelle from Pocketful of Primary's videos and I realized just how much I had forgotten about why I wanted to study education and work towards being a teacher.
I guess I just wanted to reach out to you and say that you're the type of teacher that made me want to do that with my life, and I appreciate what you're doing and the videos that you're putting up. There's still a fog around my life that hasn't cleared, but it feels like my eyes have been opened a little to what lies beyond that fog. So thanks, for existing and for being a source of guidance to people you may never even meet.
- Kira xx
+Absolute Trainwreck Kira, that’s just about the best kind of compliment I could ever get. Thank you so much for taking a minute to write something so nice. If I can ever help with anything please let me know. You could email me too.
I’m hoping for the best for you. I hope you’re the best teacher ever.
Go for it Kira- from a 53 year-old that still is in a fog sometimes. We need great teachers.
Thank you for pouring your life into these kids! They are so blessed to have a teacher that genuinely cares about them.
And randomly, I love that the boys have to wear jackets. (Although I'm sure they probably hate it.) It makes it a bit "Harry Potter-ish" to be more formally dressed up. Maybe robes next year? ;)
Dude! Robes would be awesome!
I love the fact that your students are in uniform....that really helps the classroom management. If they show up looking prepared and professional...it helps to motivate their intrigue.
It also helps to level the playing field. Guys without the means to have cool swag don’t have to worry so much.
This fucking video should have a million views. Thanks from another teacher who truly cares. ❤️
ETA. Sit in the dirt w them but bring a latter to bring you both up again.
1. That is a GREAT screen name.
2. That was a hell of a nice comment. Thank you. ☺️
To build relationships with kids, I love utilizing my lunch hour with them. Every year I pick a needy kid to mentor over lunch. I might also pull in other kids, sometimes in groups of 2-3, to have lunch with in the library. Finally, on Fridays my entire 5th hour is welcome to come back and have lunch in my classroom. We let our guards down, we get to know one another, and we bond.
That sounds perfect! I love it!!
I just spent three days at a conference about this, there is so much psychology behind this. Doing what you’re doing is literally changing the brain development of these kids and it’s so so so important! You’re an incredible teacher.
It's really funny sometimes to hear stuff like what you are saying. It just seems intuitive to me, so to hear that is so wonderful.
Thanks for the kind words Katie! 😊
Miyazaki is a magician. I love his movies. It's like animated poetry. Concerning building relationships, I wasn't into this until I saw videos of you, American teachers. I'm an introvert and I wasn't even considering "building relationships", it just happened naturally, or not. We are not taught about this in France. At least, I wasn't. Students often perceived me as cold, distant. It makes things easy sometimes, but it's not who I am. Now I really try to connect with my students, each and everyone of my 250 students! I might do a video about this evolution. Thank you again for sharing these ideas!
Bro how is that possible?! You are hilarious in your videos! We are not taught to build relationships in the US either. It can be seen as scary because of all the weird things that come up in the news about teachers and kids taking it too far. At the end of the day, I could have really used someone when I was young to just take the time to say hi or to check in with me. Now I just try to be the teacher I always wanted or needed.
If I ever get to France we have to hang out. I have a feeling it would be a riot! Peace!
The best part about working in my community is that I 100% understand what my students are experiencing. I told them that I may not have experienced it myself, but I witnessed it. Because of that, they were able to come and talk to me about anything - that includes anything that they may be currently experiencing. My students know that they can tell me anything; however, if it is something that is harming them, I am mandated by the provinces to tell another adult.
I tell my kids the same thing. It's a hard thing to pass on what you've learned to an administrator, but I always hope the kids will understand. That being said I've only had to do that a hand full of times in all of the years I've been teaching.
Keep up the great work Michelle!
Congratulations Camron!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
As always, excellent video. Thanks for being a great resource for teachers still perfecting their craft. Since stumbling across your videos one week ago I feel a change in the environment of my art room, students are smiling more and so am I. Thanks!
That's the best kind of compliment I could get. Thanks so much! Teaching is a slow climb, but its wonderful.
Such an important topic that is SO overlooked during the University degree wow
For sure. Thanks for checking it out. 😊
My mentor (former physics teacher) would talk to me about real life during extra help since I went weekly. An example of an extra help session would be half physics and half talking about real life. Or explaining wavelengths using music (a hobby of mine).
I do many of the same things you do. I try to note at least one thing that each student is interested in and ask them about it occasionally, even if I have to google it to get an idea what it even is. I try to touch base with each student to talk about what they did over the weekend or what their plans are outside of school, and I really try to talk to each one about something they did well that I noticed - being a good friend or doing really good on an assignment. Most of all, I try not to sound judgmental when I have to give corrections or prompts for behavior. I always stress that I am there for them and never going to give up, so I will probably continue to be a pain in their butt because I care. It's hard for students to keep thinking that a teacher is being mean to them because they don't like them if the teacher keeps telling them they really do care and won't stop caring, and it's okay if the student doesn't like them for it.
You are doing a great job!! All of this is so important. That last part of your comment got me. "it's okay if the student doesn't like them for it." Keep at it. What I've seen happen time and again is that kids will push back and not want the attention, but the moment something difficult happens in their life (home trouble, a break up, failing grades) they will come running and that will seal the deal. Keep up the fantastic work!!
I LOVE that you talked about the difference between having sympathy, and having empathy for a student. There’s a huge difference, and I am so thankful for the teachers who are willing to put themselves in their students shoes. It’s true that doing little things like saying hello to a student as they walk through the door can go a long, long way. I can speak from experience. Attention, and just acknowledging a student’s presence means a lot to us.
Oh my! I would have loved to have you as a teacher. I wish there were more teachers like you. I am a first year teacher and I am learning a whole lot from your channel!
Thanks so much! Best of luck this year!☺️
I think some shorter content is a good idea. I generally don't click on 15min+ videos (except for maybe Philip Defranco videos). I consume most of my longer format content via podcasts.
That's really good to know. I'm going to work on that. Philly D is my go to for news. 😊
I'm always a kid that had it under control and I could teach myself and I don't think ever reached out for help from teachers when I actually needed it (like about personal issues). But I look back on my schooling experience and it makes me want to make it better for my students. but I"m kinda confused how to do that when it seems like student is good (and they even assure they're good) and nervous that about students going under the radar and not getting the help they need.
btw I'm sophomore education major and I hope to elementary but I love your videos and your teaching style
BeccaThe Blondie, one of the ways that I use for spending time with the "good" kids who might otherwise fly under the radar is to have them help me with something during lunch or recess. I keep track of which students have been helpers and try to make sure that each students gets a chance. If they are shy, I will have them choose a friend to stay in and help us. The tasks they help with are not important, but the time we spend chatting is! Most students like the chance to help out, and lots of them spontaneously ask if they can stay in and help with anything.
I shared this video with a group of new teachers in my area. I hope they get as much out of it as I did. Thanks for all you do!
AWESOME !! Thanks Julie!
Congratulations Cameron!
I do a weekly lunch bunch and I pick the kids who need it. Schoolwide, we have responsive classroom and there's a sharing piece in that. The books give you topics but you can pick whatever fits in your class. Restorative circles are also becoming popular.
Earlier this year I had an 8th grader come into my class visibly upset. I held her back for a minute and asked what was wrong. She told me her story, and as I was trying to console her I made the mistake of saying that bad shit happened to good people. I was mortified, but she couldn’t stop laughing. That was a big deal, and now she and I have a pretty good relationship.
I have tried to watch my language since then!
😂😊😂 Here's is why that worked. You said something that that kid wasn't use to hearing. I use "language" 😏 to cut through the noise that kids hear every day. Great work!!!
Love the advice as always. Tell the not so secret wife hi.
I agree with these points. I do go out of my way to make EVERYONE feel accepted. I'm always at the door, , I go to their games, events, and shout them out in the classroom. Sometimes I do it even while they're doing work. It ticks some off; they tell me to "Shut up, Mr. Williams!" or "Mr. Williams, you're distracting us." They laugh, I laugh...what's more important - the random quiet or left out kid is laughing too.
Mr. Williams, this sounds fantastic! Great work! I hope this year is a great one for you all no matter how it rolls out. ✌🏽
Just as an aside: your classroom is so inspiring!
Thanks! 😊
These are so great! As a sub I’ve started greeting kids at the door and the hall. I’m going to try these suggestions as a substitute.
Great video! I love that "out vulnerable" the students, students like to hear my stories of when I was kid whether I struggled, was funny, and succeeded in different situations, definitely great relationship builders.
For sure! You have to give to get sometimes!
You are the best teacher
@Real Rap With Reynolds: I've watched this video several times over the past couple weeks, and I have to say that I wholeheartedly could not agree more with the content of this video. Relationships are king in the classroom!! You mentioned something in the video about kid number 1, 2, and 3. I couldn't but think about the Columbine shooters or any school shooters who sadly were the kid 2 in their schools. Nobody bothered to talk to them or ask them if everything was going alright.
Thanks for another real piece of info. Is it awful that I am always looking for another new video? Send a big CONGRATS to Cameron on his acceptance!!
It's not awful at all!! Thanks for caring!! I'll let him know!!
I do too.....it’s natural for me as well.
Love the Video! Thanks for remind us what the real focus should be for us teachers... Relationships!
I have the book about the 5 Love Languages for children, and I have given my own child the quiz to find out what motivates him. I plan on using something similar at the beginning of the year next year to find out what motivates each child. If a student's love language is gifts, maybe they like getting prizes from a treasure box. If it is words of affirmation, you may have to just tell them they are awesome...or give them a certificate. Quality time kids may work for the opportunity to eat lunch with you. It will be interesting to see if it helps to know this about each child. They have a book for kids and one for teens. Thank you for your inspiration and all of your wonderful ideas!
I'm going to look that book up now. That sounds like a great idea. How did it work with your child?
It was spot-on with my 9-year old! He scored highest for words of affirmation and lowest for gifts. He really does respond so much better to praise than anything else. He has never been motivated by “things.” (I have tried to bribe him, and it doesn’t work.) It goes the other way, too. There is nothing that hurts him more than unkind words. You can take the quiz or download the pdf here: www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
Great tips CJ. Connecting with students is very important. Thanks for sharing your ideas. That's a great point about your advice is not as important as your attention is. Well done.
Thanks Dan!
Thanks Mr Reynolds for your insightful content, I seem to get on easily with kids also so I could really relate to this video, its not always only about the "academics," being able to an environmemnt where kids will feel safe and listened to is of the utmost importance and does improve their school work and behavior , I like the way you go about.
Have a great weekend.
Thanks so much for the compliment. I really appreciate it. 😊
This is perfect for what I need. Thank you.
I love that movie!
Great video. I really appreciate the advice. Keep it up! ☺
Thanks David!!
Building relationships is my biggest desire but also my biggest struggle because I teach Chinese children who can barely speak English... I have to be much more intentional about learning about their interests and feelings but it’s a struggle..
Another great video how do you do it
Thanks! I use unicorn tears.
I wish u were my teacher
Your wife is officially awesome
Have you ever explained the branches thing near the bookshelf to the right of you?
It's a tree that I made for a play. A few years ago we did a dystopian version of Macbeth.
Awesome!
Do you speak Spanish? Thanks for sharing your wisdom with the world!
😂😂😂😂 I know enough Spanish to count to 10 and find out where the bathroom is.
Hi, do you students call you "Reynolds"? If so have they always done that, do they do that from first lesson?
Most kids just call me Reynolds. Some say Mr. Reynolds. Some just call me Ren. I tell them on the first day that it’s cool.
@@CJReynolds thanks for your reply. I start as a first year teacher in September, your videos are a big help, thank you!
How do I find a job as a teacher in a different state
I don't know. However, my friend Ms. May over at the channel, One Fab Teacher, might know. She was living in the mid west and found a job in Texas. Best of luck!!
Hope Cameron got a new bag...
Nope. I had to fix that one. Having people know that you are handy is like having people find out your a doctor. 😂😂